EmeraldsFaure Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
40	Can Sexual/ Physical Attraction be Developed Over Time?		EmeraldsFaure	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/22 03:19 PM

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3	Why do women hype each other up only to never be friends or talk to each other anymore? I’ve been described as very attractive. We’re not all extreme narcissists or have BPD. BPD is a rare psychiatric diagnosis, we don’t see a lot in the psychiatric milieu. I can count on one hand the number of patients with BPD. There are attractive individuals who never fully learned to develop personalities/ intellect. Unstable sense of self or identity can be a trait of BPD. Also, individuals with BPD are highly reactive to their perceptions. But there’s nothing pathological about being highly …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/22 05:04 AM
1	Women can easily find relationships within online dating Depends on what a woman wants in a relationship. A LTR with a guy with whom you share deep intellectual and emotional bonds, that’s not easily found or attainable on dating apps. Also, you fail to recognize that the difficulties lie beyond apps, when you meet IRL and experience him for not what the best of his profile represents, but the actual person with real life faults/ irritable quirks. You don’t just go shop for relationships online, ticking off traits. You have to develop relationships, a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/12/22 05:19 PM
2	Q4W: What is a low value woman to you? A low value woman is someone who enjoys hive mentality. Someone who antagonizes and bullies other women they deem as either competition or weak. Usually these women lack intellectual and emotional depth, they’re status driven and have superficial personality traits.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/22 02:37 AM
1	Sexless marriage is a form of abuse. Another false equivalence post. Abuse means inflicting injury to someone physically, emotionally, or both. You’re not injured by your spouse not wanting to have sex with you. You’re not owed sex/ sex on demand in any LTR, marriage included. Maybe investigate reasons behind you and your spouse having disconnect in sexual intimacy/ desires, instead of complaining online to strangers. Compatibility issues should’ve been resolved before marriage. Unless you two never had sex or discussed sex/ intima…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 01:55 AM
1	Personality matters. If you think it does not you don't have it Personality isn’t something you do, as in your hobbies and likes/ dislikes. Yet often these are the very things that many conflate with personality. More often than not, these are not interesting individuals, though they like to believe they are special. Sorry, but watching anime, going to Comic-Con, and gaming are not personality traits. Personality to me is Intelligence + Intellectual curiosity + Wit/ sense of humor + Capacity for emotional depth	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/22 06:15 PM
1	Women have a stronger ingroup bias than men. Thus men’s dating woes will never be fixed unless they develop an ingroup bias of their own Women tend to convey sympathy to each other on a superficial level, meaning we take you at your word and will say something nice. That’s our first inclination because most, if not all of us, have experienced crazy shit at the hands of men. From unwanted attention to outright harassment or even stalking online and IRL. Even on Reddit. How many of us have experienced harassment or creepy DMs from men on Reddit? DMs that were innocuous but quickly turn creepy? A lot of this has to do with us identi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/22 01:55 PM
5	Why are so many women in their forties miserable? Women are overprescribed antidepressants to “manage” their perimenopausal/ menopausal symptoms. Antidepressants only potentially address a small component of perimenopausal symptoms. Basically throw antidepressants at women just get them to shut up. I hate to say it as a healthcare provider but it’s a bit of medical gaslighting in this case. Providers are far more willing to work in tandem with male patients, talking about TRT benefits and planning treatment with them. But unfortunately, many pr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/22 01:26 PM
4	Why are so many women in their forties miserable? It has to do with perimenopausal/ menopausal symptoms not being adequately addressed in this age group, unlike men. I’m a healthcare provider and I’m trying to undergo more training with more enlightened providers whose thinking align with recent, well-controlled research. There are unfortunately not as many providers who take this issue seriously, even young, female providers. I’m sick of seeing female patients who get referred for “depression” when what they really need is HRT or at least a pe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/22 01:17 PM
9	Why are so many women in their forties miserable? The OP has none because no such evidence exists.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/22 01:10 PM
11	Why are so many women in their forties miserable? Wow you are SO off-base. I work in mental health currently, also worked in the primary care setting previously so I have a pretty good read on the situation as a provider. You post is off-point and devoid of factual evidence, not to mention you conflate independence or not choosing motherhood with being depressed. As for anti-depressant use amongst women in this age group (perimenopausal women), reasons include medical community overprescribing antidepressants to anyone and everyone, especially …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/22 01:09 PM
1	CMV: Men are often convinced that they want sex, when what they really want is an emotionally vulnerable connection. Agree. Most men I’ve been in LTR with or are friends with, want partners with whom they can share emotional vulnerability. Ability to express emotional vulnerability is at the top of my criteria. However, my experience is that men would initially open up but quickly suppress their vulnerability. Either pretend it didn’t happen or that it was a one-off outlier to their personality. If men only realize how big of a turn-on that vulnerability is, many women myself included, find it extremely desira…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/22 01:08 AM
1	Men are just as terrified of aging as women Men in their 30-40s deciding to get cut, ripped, or jacked. Maybe they’re divorced or are in marriages that are lacking. This is a very real phenomenon. I’m dating someone who’s taking TRT and on the verge of getting too jacked from training. He’s a MD (so not a dumbass), he definitely fits into a type of men that I’m encountering. It cuts across social classes. Hyper-focused on appearance in the form of physical strength, or implied decline of it as they age. So they train in the gym, follow di…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/22 03:04 PM
2	What do women mean when they say they want a "Man written by a woman?" I think you should refrain from over-extrapolating the things that dimwits say on SM into how intelligent people behave/ think in real life. If there are women who say inane shit like “man written by a woman”, I’m confident in guessing that they only read romance novels. I doubt they’re into literature, they’re just using literary trope to try to sound profound. But saying such things only demonstrates superficiality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/22 02:32 PM
2	Women think nice men are least sexually attractive but best for relationships Agreeable and nice are interchangeable meanings-wise. How do you delineate between the two in significant ways? That’s the issue with many psychological studies that are qualitative in nature.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/22 03:47 PM
1	Women think nice men are least sexually attractive but best for relationships “Nice” and “happy” are terms that cast a wide net with regards to meaning. OTOH, contentment is the healthier default, psychological state. People have unreal expectations of being “happy” in relationships. But the healthiest LTR are between couples who support each other through difficult times along with happy ones. That’s why you shouldn’t commit to a partner unless you’re certain that they’re not just in it for fun times. You need to know they’ve got your back when/ if shit hits the fan. A m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/22 03:37 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread IDK why he would confess now, as we’re at the stage to see whether to be exclusive or not. If he’s playing game, he’s throwing the ball in my court for me to decide in proceeding. Then if he cheats on me he can come back at me and say what did you expect?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 10:37 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Married, both professionals. He felt neglected, then repulsed by her getting breast implants. She suggested trial separation, he refused, prior to him cheating with a woman who meant nothing more than quick fling.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 10:33 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread He cheated with a work acquaintance. Said it was more lust than love. Felt bad and confessed to his ex who promptly dumped him. Turned out his ex was already cheating on him prior to him cheating on her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 10:18 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread That’s sad to think most people have cheated. I don’t think so myself but maybe just naive	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 09:26 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Me too. Except he sounds remorseful but could be an act	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 09:25 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Q4All: Would you date someone who voluntarily confessed to cheating on their last/ past partner? For what reason would they confess this to you? Could they be playing games to test you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 08:35 PM
3	Does a man who gives all the signs of looking for a relationship indicate a scarcity mindset? My experience, I can tell whether a man is looking for sex or if he’s wanting LTR. The former compliments on your looks while not offering much insights about himself even if you gently prompt him to do so. You get a feeling that there’s a time-limiting end goal on his end. Also, the guy who’s after sex only cares about you on a superficial level. For example, he’d offer to treat you to a nice dinner before going to his place AND pay for your uber to go back home; how considerate 🙄. OTOH, the gu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 03:25 PM
0	Are chubby girls more forgiving when it comes to a mans LOOKS? IMO this is the breakdown: overweight women are more forgiving about men’s weight and looks; slim/ average weight women with average/ below average looks are more forgiving about men’s looks but to lesser degree, weight; slim/ average weight women who are attractive are generally not as forgiving of men’s weight but will have some leeway with looks. I have three girlfriends who are un the 170-200+ lbs range, they accept all body types when dating. But funnily enough, they go for fit guys when ho…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/22 07:38 PM
2	aspiration seems very high among women in my area. Is this a new norm in big cities? Totally understand what that was like. One of my best friends back then had flaming red hair, we were both biochem majors pursuing graduate degrees. We would often joke that we’d both (I’m Eurasian) make bank by teaming up to service rich men with sexual kinks. Believe me, there were/ are plenty of those men here in the greater SF Bay Area. We ended up working at a cafe where older or rich men would often flirt with us. NGL, I sometimes played along because many of those guys tipped us well. You…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/22 07:17 PM
3	The dad bod preference is nothing more than virtue signalling I think the term dad bod carries connotations aside from physical attribute. It signals to the potential dating pool that you’re interested in men who do not place particular importance on physical fitness or healthy diet. Women sometimes describe their bodies as mom bod, inferring that their bodies have changed after kids and they’ve accepted it. Dad bod and mom bod are just ways to describe bodies that aren’t physically fit nor obese, but somewhere in the middle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/22 04:11 PM
2	aspiration seems very high among women in my area. Is this a new norm in big cities? Yes. Women can make and justify their own choices, including being sugar baby, which is a sugarcoated term for prostitute. Their body, their life, including using mental gymnastics to justify being sugar babies with feminist empowerment. The idea to actively pursue and fuck gross, rich dudes for $$$ is so repulsive to me, I can’t even fathom it. It takes a certain mentality verging on sociopathy IMO. The type that views money/ status as a means to an end. Those are not the type that any sane, we…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/12/22 03:55 PM
3	aspiration seems very high among women in my area. Is this a new norm in big cities? If a person flies spontaneously elsewhere just to eat a taco, they’re an a-hole especially if they pay lip service to environmental causes. If they brag about it publicly then they’re a bigger a-hole. There’s nothing unusual about single women with doctorates. I got my doctorate early on and was working on a PhD in another healthcare-related field before pausing it. As for active lifestyle, there’s being physically fit/ active, and then there are costly activities. Skydiving, country club sponso…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/12/22 07:42 PM
5	Are women's support network better than men's? Why? I grew up as the only girl in my family; my brother, and 13 other cousins who are all males. My two childhood best friends were also boys; though things got weird between us in high school. I have my own personal and anecdotal/ professional opinions, working with both male and female patients/ their families. Men are more sensitive than society give them credit. As for support network differences between men and women, there’s no glaring difference IMO. Dynamics within female- or male- friendshi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/22 05:59 PM
3	Average women who somehow scored a very attractive man a few years earlier who left them and now they won’t lower their standards If a person who’s had a bit of life experience and is still hung up on dating standards ONLY based upon looks, then that person is messed up beyond just dating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/22 04:54 PM
1	There's Nothing Immoral About Valuing Physical Appearance In A Partner It’s not wrong if physical appearance is of supreme importance to you. I value fitness and attractiveness as well but not over other criteria. For women, beauty is a double-edged sword. We are praised and coveted for our looks starting from a young age. I remember being 14-15 and men making comments about my appearance or hitting on me. At that time, I learned to say “I’m in high school” to get them to leave me alone. Women are told that our looks have an expiration date whereas men age like fin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/22 04:11 PM
1	Nobody is judging you for having standards. We're judging you for being a dick about it. Women tend to judge each other harsher than men judge women. Women also tend to be more competitive with each other than men are with each other. Not to say most women behave this way, but there’s this normalized, acceptable attitude among women more so than among men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/22 09:45 PM
0	Nobody is judging you for having standards. We're judging you for being a dick about it. Yet it’s more acceptable now to drag fat male celebrities for being fat than female celebrities. Overweight/ obese female celebrities and models are on the covers of magazines (even fitness magazines) as paragons of body positivity and health at all sizes. But where are the male celebrity/ model equivalents? Where are the famous women who are public proponents about body positivity when 50 Cent was body shamed for being overweight recently? There IS a double standard with regards to body positiv…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/22 09:27 PM
2	Nobody is judging you for having standards. We're judging you for being a dick about it. Maybe they’re in the middle of a cutting/ bulking cycle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/22 09:14 PM
0	Nobody is judging you for having standards. We're judging you for being a dick about it. He found a way to bypass the rules. One of my best friends (who happens to be obese) gave him props for bending the rules while not directly being an asshole about his preferences.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/22 03:35 PM
2	Nobody is judging you for having standards. We're judging you for being a dick about it. Both men and women catch flack for having personal preferences. State them in straightforward terms, and you’re being too direct and impolite. Put it euphemistically, and you’re indirectly putting down others. Certain people will always judge you to be exclusionary and project their own insecurities and pain onto you. But that’s on them not you. According to this article Fatphobia in dating you can’t even list things such as “gym” or “physically active” without assumptions of fat shaming. This i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/22 03:12 PM
1	Relationship with the " Bad boy " is labeled as toxic only cause the woman invest more in the relationship I agree for the most part that emotionally healthy people are able to navigate relationships more judiciously, that applies to women seeking LTR. Women have to consciously disregard red flags to be in LTR with men who are bad boys. More often than not they tend to carry those traits I’d mentioned. Being emotionally secure only plays a minor part. My dad was a bad boy type. He was a charming womanizer who made and lost huge amounts of money, placing our livelihood at risk until my mom had enough.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/22 07:52 PM
3	Relationship with the " Bad boy " is labeled as toxic only cause the woman invest more in the relationship Nice try at being snarky when you don’t have a salient argument. If you read my comment correctly, I said not as many women like bad boys as you’d think. If that’s the case, then I’m unique if it is as you claimed, that nearly all women are attracted to bad boys. But I’m not, because not as many women are into bad boys, as is my contention.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/22 07:19 PM
6	Relationship with the " Bad boy " is labeled as toxic only cause the woman invest more in the relationship Not as many as you think. It’s one of those things that’s accept as factual but is actually more of a popular narrative than anything else. If nearly all women are attracted to bad boys, I must be unique then because I found/ find them to be annoying and try too hard. Give me a sweet, sensitive guy without a chip on his shoulder. Someone who’s confident in himself, over a bad boy who’s persona is just as cliché as his disdain for straight laced society. Bad boys base their persona/ behavior on t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/22 06:29 PM
5	Relationship with the " Bad boy " is labeled as toxic only cause the woman invest more in the relationship People usually gain more self-reflection as they age, unless they’re stupid to begin with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/22 05:23 PM
1	If you could change genders, would you do it? No. Nothing against trans but I’m not trans and I love being a woman. The only thing I’m curious about is how men feel during sex, the physicality of it. But IMO at core, men and women share more similarities than differences. We more or less desire emotional connections, mutual understanding, respect, and profound love. The insights that I’d gain from switching gender wouldn’t be that earthshaking to me. Men are more sensitive than women give them credit. Switching gender wouldn’t allow me to f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/22 03:33 PM
51	Relationship with the " Bad boy " is labeled as toxic only cause the woman invest more in the relationship IMO women who are into bad boys fall into 2 camps. Camp #1: women who are high in extroversion and enjoy partaking in bad boy activities themselves, double the fun with likeminded partners, this is the more prevalent camp. Camp #2: women who are lowkey troubled themselves, codependent, or have a need to play savior to bad boy partners; this is the less common camp. Both camps wind up at the therapist’s office after the initial high/ fun with bad boys turn toxic. Women are not the victims general…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/22 03:12 PM
1	Just a personal observation, I’m noticing more and more above average and good looking guys with chubby and overweight or below average girls Because those who scream the loudest sometimes do not reflect what is right or what is the majority thinking. Just because certain views dominates public discourse it doesn’t mean they coalesce with public opinion. All types of media are very pro- biological men competing in women’s sports, yet most people do not hold such opinions. Same thing with a few, vocal feminists who purport to speak on behalf of all women. IMO feminists pick and choose issues that’ll give them the most attention. Half t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/22 03:22 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread That’s pretty dedicated gym routine. Anything above 4x/ week devoted to fitness is high maintenance but in a good way IMO. It’s 6-7 days a week for me, but that’s because I do pilates at home most days and a long, day hike once a week. Skincare for men is becoming more popular. Of course not on same level as women’s skincare.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/22 07:04 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Good, another skincare fan. I also spend an hour a day on skincare if averaging it out over a week. Great skincare is better than layering on makeup, which I don’t do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/22 06:56 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Q4All: How high maintenance are you? Grooming, self-care, fitness regimen, etc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/22 06:14 PM
2	Just a personal observation, I’m noticing more and more above average and good looking guys with chubby and overweight or below average girls Meeting online is limiting people’s ability to develop social skills. Going out and meeting people organically helps you to experience the intangibles, you can’t get that from 2-dimensional photos of strangers. Meeting people in real life, you get a good impression of how they move/ speak and present themselves. Online you only get a curated version from which to base your judgment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/22 04:24 PM
9	Just a personal observation, I’m noticing more and more above average and good looking guys with chubby and overweight or below average girls Reddit isn’t real life. I would also tend to believe that the women who screech about getting approached, aren’t really getting approached in real life. I get looks and/ or approached regularly and I don’t mind, most women don’t mind if the guys are casual and respectful. What woman doesn’t get an ego boost when a good-looking guy casts his eyes on you and smiles when you look back? I know I do. Don’t listen to Redditors who feel entitled to speak for all women and to feel perpetually aggrieved …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/22 04:18 PM
3	Just a personal observation, I’m noticing more and more above average and good looking guys with chubby and overweight or below average girls Because the body positivity movement has become fat positivity movement. Curvy= fat while thin= undesirable and evil under this movement. Women who are at healthy weight/ slim are lumped together as having privilege because we’re the oppressors. Our bodies conform to beauty standards, therefore we should assume guilt for being naturally slim/ living healthy lifestyle or both. It’s always from other women never men, that this BS is perpetrated. In fact, fat positivity movement targets women, not …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/22 03:55 PM
1	Did “common interests/hobbies” ever work for you? Many single people are convinced that their potential partners should match them in sharing the same interests and hobbies. IMO it’s shortsighted not to mention shallow to think that a set of hobbies/ interests/ material things define you as a person. What happened to intrinsic values or beliefs? What about humility, core kindness, and other traits that are not externally based? Do people want activities partners or life partners? Are you able to place your mind/ body/ soul trust in that person …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/22 03:25 PM
5	Just a personal observation, I’m noticing more and more above average and good looking guys with chubby and overweight or below average girls Most people are overweight/ obese. Over 71% of Americans are overweight/ obese and that number is climbing. So 29% of population isn’t overweight/ obese, but how many of those are single? People’s perceptions become skewed when overweight/ obesity is normalized. Not just normalized but celebrated unfortunately. I get get called out for being slim/ fit by other women. Because apparently we have thin privilege or something, so it’s okay to rag on us and say things like men only want curvy women, o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/22 12:06 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I had a pixie cut for about a year while in college. Attracted emo guys and hipsters. I liked the cut but not the fact that it made me look like I was 12.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 08:52 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread I personally don’t like hipster beards or any type pf beards. But it’s not a dealbreaker, especially if very short and not untamed. I like well-groomed men without beards. Generally men with beards are a big turn-off for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 08:50 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread What type of Asians are they? There’s definitely skin color preference in a lot of Asian cultures. I’m Eurasian (part Japanese) and have pale skin. When I travel to different parts of Asia, people will invariably compliment me on having pale skin. Within East Asian cultures, there’s an unspoken designation of Southeast Asians as less desirable due to darker skin color. Southeast Asian women waste money on skin bleaching creams. One of my first boyfriends was half white/ half black, he was extrem…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 07:32 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Q4All: Is hair a dealbreaker in attraction? Ladies, do you like long hair/ no hair or unusual styles/ on men? Men, do you like short hair or unusual styles on ladies? I mentioned to a guy I’m seeing casually, that I’m considering cutting my hair short. Right now I have long hair few inches past my shoulders. He strongly advised me against it and gave no reason except “your hair looks good”. I wasn’t asking for his opinion. Do some people have strong hair preferences?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 06:43 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I get along much better with guy friends. In fact, I prefer them most of the time over my women friends. Less drama, more honesty, less petty jealousies/ competitiveness at least in my personal experience. Only thing about having straight guy friends is that all except for one, they either thought I was romantically interested in them initially or we’d actually dated (but not seriously, no sex) before staying friends. I just like hanging out with them especially during basketball and to lesser d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 06:28 PM
6	A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to women Exactly how I feel too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 04:13 PM
1	Do girls usually assume the guy they're dating (or guys in general) can easily get casual sex? Maybe those women were feeling the vibe that you weren’t attracted to them, hence rejected you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/22 08:47 PM
3	How would you react if your partner wanted to try non-monogamy? It shouldn’t be one-sided though. The man has to do the same for the woman, should be mirroring each other in their respective love/ investment in the relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/22 08:41 PM
5	How would you react if your partner wanted to try non-monogamy? This happened to a guy I used to date but have since remained friends. Unbeknownst to him, his ex-wife prior to marrying him was very promiscuous. He was her second marriage, and my friend found out later (after he married her) that she and her first husband were into polyamory lifestyle. She even admitted that she was unsure if one of her casual hookups fathered her daughter. Long story short, my friend’s wife pushed for non-monogamy in the marriage, only a year into being married to him. He re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/22 06:42 PM
8	Men without money hit the wall way harder than the average woman Men hit a wall when they no longer put in the effort to try to maintain/ improve outward appearance. This, along with lack of rich, inner life and life purpose makes for a dull person. Yet this is typical of a large swathe of single men out there. Not saying women aren’t immune to these things, but women are generally more self-aware than men and they tend to be more proactive to self-improvement. The average looking, uninteresting man who’s pushing 40 and makes decent (not great) salary is delu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/11/22 06:24 PM
8	Do girls usually assume the guy they're dating (or guys in general) can easily get casual sex? If you aren’t picky about appearance, you can easily get casual sex. That’s why it’s funny to hear people with history of high n count be described as desirable or sexual demigods/ demigoddesses. Many unattractive, out of shape people get lots of casual sex. It doesn’t mean they’re desirable, it just means they and their hookups prize quantity over quality, at least partially. Nothing wrong with casual sex if that’s what you enjoy. It’s highly dependent upon personality as well as views on intim…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/22 09:01 PM
1	Q4All: What are some traits you're "supposed" to find attractive but don't? We all have personal preferences, no one should have them dismissed as invalid. What I refer to is the false perception of body ratio, that tallness= long legs and shortness= short legs. Length of legs is related to leg-to-trunk/ leg-to-body ratio, where leg length is compared to torso length. It’s why long-waisted individuals of any height have short legs proportionally. OTOH a short-waisted person has long legs in any height. Height is mostly heritable, with lesser environmental influences, li…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/22 05:06 PM
0	Q4All: What are some traits you're "supposed" to find attractive but don't? A big part of that is your perception. Michael Phelps is 6’6” and has short legs in regards to body ratio/ proportions. His short legs were actually advantages in his sport of swimming. But do you think the average person thinks Michael Phelps has short legs/ long torso? No. They see him through a certain lens, this tall dude with awesome physique. If he was 5’6” you’d see him and get confirmation bias of dude with short legs because he’s short.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/22 09:39 AM
1	Q4All: What are some traits you're "supposed" to find attractive but don't? Yeah as in I go out and talk to people at the gym and they tell me about fitness influencers they’re following. Don’t know why you’re to prove a point by conflation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/22 09:14 AM
0	Q4All: What are some traits you're "supposed" to find attractive but don't? You obviously have blinders on if you think petite women rarely have good proportions. You think tall people automatically have long limbs and short people are automatically stubby. Proportions are not dependent on height. There are many tall people I know who have squat proportions. I trained in ballet for years up to pre-professional level. Most of my fellow dancers were ectomorphs between 5’2”-5’6”, at 5’3” I didn’t stick out as there were plenty of us who were 5’3”-5’4”, and we all had long …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/22 08:49 AM
5	Q4All: What are some traits you're "supposed" to find attractive but don't? Typical guy who regularly goes to the gym isn’t what I’m referring to, it’s gym bros with the cut bodies that women salivate over. For celebrities, think Chris Hemsworth. Numerous blogs and bodybuilding YouTubers make $$$ off of guys who aspire to have similar bodies.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/22 08:41 PM
6	Q4All: What are some traits you're "supposed" to find attractive but don't? Think Chris Hemsworth at height of his Thor fame. That type of body is too bulky for my taste but a lot of women are into it. In fact, women who aren’t into that type of muscular body are in the minority.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/22 08:33 PM
6	Q4All: What are some traits you're "supposed" to find attractive but don't? Muscular as in guys who get muscular by cutting/ building. Where do you think that type of lean muscles come from? It’s a big part of gym culture, go to any big, popular gym and you’ll see some aspects of that in display.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/22 08:16 PM
12	Q4All: What are some traits you're "supposed" to find attractive but don't? Not on Reddit but Reddit isn’t representative of what’s out there IRL. If you socialize or interact with a large cross-section of women, more women prefer muscular guys. Not scientifically-based, just my experience from working with people across all segments of society.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/22 08:03 PM
9	Q4All: What are some traits you're "supposed" to find attractive but don't? Umm…do you go out much? Gym bros who lift and talk about bulking/ cutting. They’re everywhere and quite popular in the dating scene.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/22 07:56 PM
48	Q4All: What are some traits you're "supposed" to find attractive but don't? Guys with big muscles, bodybuilder types, it’s just too much of a good thing. All positive traits when taken to extremes can and do become negative traits. Plus I’m a petite ectomorph and don’t want to risk being crushed in bed or anywhere else. Super extroverted guys. Again it’s a matter of too much of a good thing. As an extroverted-introvert, I’m not a wallflower per se but I do prefer and have more affinity with fellow introverts. That goes for romantic relationship partner.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/22 04:53 PM
2	Shows like "Love is Blind" confirm that it's men, not women, who won't commit to a LTR unless she's the more attractive one (or they're the same level). Maybe he’s hoping you’re dumb, or dumb enough to be dating a guy who’s a less attractive red piller.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/22 02:15 AM
9	Shows like "Love is Blind" confirm that it's men, not women, who won't commit to a LTR unless she's the more attractive one (or they're the same level). You don’t want to be the dumber one? So you want a woman who’s prettier but dumber than you. Are you intimidated by attractive, smart women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/11/22 12:25 AM
1	Your mother didn’t “lie” to you. Women didn’t lie to you. They genuinely thought they were telling you the truth….and that most girls were not they them The fallacy that married people have great sex lives or are relationship goals is just that, a fallacy. Recently an older, married female colleague in her 50s advised me to abandon dating. You don’t need men she said, just get some good vibrators, and shared that she hadn’t had sex with her husband in years. Your upbringing affects your romantic relationships. My late mother instilled her own negative beliefs about men and marriage. She was jaded from being objectified (former model, Miss Japan …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/22 03:54 PM
1	Most men don't get laid because they don't approach and talk to enough women I’ve never told men who approach me to fuck off. Then again, I don’t get approached by skeevy guys generally. Though last weekend got propositioned by a guest at a ritzy hotel where I had brunch. That negatively affected me more so than being approached by a good looking guy while shopping. Women don’t like it when you approach them as if they’re sex objects for your gratification.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/11/22 02:42 PM
3	Most men don't get laid because they don't approach and talk to enough women You conflate approaching women to get dates with getting laid. A lot of women, myself included, have expert level douchebag radar. If you approach us with intentions of casual sex, that’s a hard no. I agree with the rest, especially men complaining about quality of women on apps. Girlfriends can’t be ordered from apps like menu items. If you put in low effort, expect low quality in return. Yes to meeting and approaching women IRL. Hone your social skills. A guy was trying to catch my eye this mo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/22 10:21 PM
3	Fiction written by women for women proves The Red Pill Yes! Jane was so ahead of her time. An introverted, low key, bad bitch. A heroine to us female introverts	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/22 07:07 PM
9	Fiction written by women for women proves The Red Pill Finally, someone who gets JE, one of my top 5 novels of all time. I’d also add that JE, far from a romance novel, was/ is a revolutionary literary work. Against the backdrop of English social mores/ class structure at the time. The female protagonist is a complex character with a rich inner life and personal moral convictions. She rejected Rochester’s offer of eloping/ living in sin so to speak, not because she’s afraid of going against social conventions. Rather, she did so because of what she …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/22 06:09 PM
4	Fiction written by women for women proves The Red Pill Damn. I’ve only dated 2 out of 5 on that list, now feel very inadequate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/22 05:57 PM
2	Fiction written by women for women proves The Red Pill Only certain types of women read romance fictions and fanfics. They’re likely to fit into stereotypes, therefore these romance novels are written tailored to their taste. I don’t know anyone who reads romance novels, those novels are tacky IMO. Pride and Prejudice, Jane Eyre are not romance novels BTW. Twilight and 50 Shades of Gray are so badly written they’re like parodies. I tried reading Twilight but couldn’t get past 30 pages, it was so awful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/22 04:30 PM
1	Your relationship should not depend on sexual attraction Sex definitely strengthens an already existing emotional intimacy in a committed relationship. That is different from being in a relationship with someone solely due to physical/ sexual attraction, or where sex dominates a relationship. In dating, I’ve had experience being objectified and honestly I would rather be single than be with a shallow man. Professionally, I’ve also witnessed multiple situations where one partner became seriously ill from cancer. Their had illness- and treatment-related…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/11/22 03:19 PM
2	Most women on OLD are low quality. I’m an extroverted-introvert (INFJ), and definitely introversion is in no way a negative trait. I find that loud, extroverted people are often the least interesting, they only get get attention because they dominate the milieu/ conversation. However, a lot of people on apps are extroverts. So it’s not the default that introverts are plenty are apps.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/22 08:32 PM
2	Most women on OLD are low quality. Yes exactly, those were/ are my experience as a woman here in Cali. I don’t understand why people say it’s hard to meet people, hence apps are the only option. I meet so many quality individuals IRL. But people who complain about OLD probably don’t or won’t put in the effort.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/22 07:18 PM
1	Most women on OLD are low quality. Seems like that’s a problem of perception which in turn is rooted in societal standards. Today’s standards are lower overall, but not just in looks. Sure, you have morbidly obese women who insist on being called fit. Then you have men who call themselves intellectual when they’re just nerdy gamers/ sci-fi fans.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/22 07:08 PM
1	CMV: Women should never have casual sex Having casual sex is so foreign to me. But that’s my choice not to engage in it. I’m the agony aunt for friends after their bad hookups and/ or emotional breakdowns after regretful sex. Hookup culture can be psychologically destructive. It stunts people’s views about sex and intimacy. Sex is compartmentalized, separated from intimacy, and reduced to body parts and sex acts. How unsexy is that? Women are brainwashed to believe that they’re desirable if they’re sexually available, when in reality …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/22 03:46 PM
2	Men love to complain about women looking fake but consistently go for the fakest looking women I briefly dated a plastic surgeon doing his fellowship. He planted in my head the idea that a subtle lip lift would give me a more glamorous look. Now a few years later, I still think maybe he’s right.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/22 05:33 AM
6	Men love to complain about women looking fake but consistently go for the fakest looking women Women who emulate Kardashians and the like, they tend to be more susceptible to following trends instead of cultivating own, unique style. They also prefer to do short cuts to get the look rather than invest in healthier, natural ways. For example, diet meds, Spanx, copious amount of makeup, hair extensions, breast/ butt implants, etc… The type of men who are attracted to them are generally not the most intelligent, intellectual, or interesting. They’re quite well matched; the women want to look…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/22 03:42 AM
3	Q4W: Do you think most men are ugly? Do you think most women are attractive? I don’t understand the part about women being bullied, with inference that they’re likely unattractive. Know bullying all too well, not saying I’m beautiful but I’m not unattractive either Imgur Photo. Women are bullied not solely based on looks. Maybe I’m misreading your intent. Also, women can definitely bully other women. So your point about women being only positive towards each other is not the reality. I’m currently on unpaid leave due to being targeted for bullying by a clique of women at…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/22 09:55 PM
9	Q4W: Do you think most men are ugly? Do you think most women are attractive? Wow. What a horrible thing to say by that tiktok account on men’s mental health month. It’s one thing to say most men could try harder to look good, but it’s another to say most men are ugly. Women care more about own appearance and spend more time and energy to support it than men do. I adhere to healthy diet, exercise, skincare, and curated style just to look like I’m low maintenance. I don’t slather on makeup or wear Spanx because I do all the aforementioned things. Each day there’s something…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/22 09:29 PM
3	Can Sexual/ Physical Attraction be Developed Over Time? Another good point about how deeply our nascent sexual experiences shape our future expectations pertaining to sex/ relationship. Differences between teenage boys and girls/ young adult men and women also weigh heavily in cultivating our respective ideas of what the desired relationship entails. In my case, I avoided sex/ dating until about age 20. It was easy as I was focused on ballet training, not boys. Looking back, this was partly due to being uncomfortable with male attention, particularly…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/22 08:04 PM
1	Can Sexual/ Physical Attraction be Developed Over Time? Hmmm…medium ugly, is that the male version of the French term jolie laide to describe a certain type of women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/22 07:42 PM
2	Can Sexual/ Physical Attraction be Developed Over Time? A no rarely becomes yes, but not never.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/22 06:06 PM
3	Can Sexual/ Physical Attraction be Developed Over Time? Well thought out reply, I enjoyed reading your interesting take. Agree about aspects of attraction where fantasized or imagined ideals cross over into bits and pieces of reality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/22 06:04 PM
1	Can Sexual/ Physical Attraction be Developed Over Time? What’s beta bucks treatment? They don’t want to be with women who date down to be with them?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/22 05:52 PM
-1	Can Sexual/ Physical Attraction be Developed Over Time? Look no further than the fairy tale Beauty and the Beast. He was a trollish beast but he won her over with kindness. I know, it’s fairy tale. But women were indoctrinated into that stuff early on, more so than men	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/22 05:51 PM
1	Can Sexual/ Physical Attraction be Developed Over Time? So potentially if a person can get plastic surgery to become more attractive in their partner’s eyes, then technically that would work? I know many women in my circle who are always talking about plastic surgery, pros/ cons and when/ if to get them. About half the time they’re considering it to become more sexually attractive to their partners.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/22 05:48 PM
1	Can Sexual/ Physical Attraction be Developed Over Time? Not all. It depends on the intangibles besides looks that may potentially become more apparent with time spent knowing the guy. But generally yes, looks get your attention, but looks alone can’t hold your attention.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/22 05:42 PM
1	Can Sexual/ Physical Attraction be Developed Over Time? Everyone should go to the gym regardless. There are no upsides to being overweight, and I can’t even imagine how much of an effort it’d be to have great sex let alone sex, if one is overweight.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/22 05:38 PM
7	Can Sexual/ Physical Attraction be Developed Over Time? Well said. I appreciate aesthetics of all aspects of life, and that goes for human beauty. You’re exactly right about seeing an attractive person and not be attracted to that person in the hormonal/ physiological sense. I’ve had one LTR that was mainly based upon physical attraction, and that fizzled out after a year. That’s why OLD is too two-dimensional; you only see photos not the way that potential date moves or carry themselves, how well they speak and converse, etc….	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/22 04:35 PM
1	According to you, what does the "average guy"'s dating life look like, as well as the "average woman"'s? Define average looks for both men and women, things aside from weight and education.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/11/22 05:24 AM
2	Online dating for women is just f*cking ridiculous Judging dating experience based upon apps can skew reality. People who utilize dating apps chronically tend to not be great relationship material. I know female acquaintances who are on apps in perpetuity. All are overweight/ obese and/ or single moms who have unrealistic criteria. I was only on 2 apps for less than 4 months, and meeting people IRL > OLD. Men who creep on your looks alone, no thanks. I’d only met 2 quality men there who met my standards and who’d also wanted LTR. OLD isn’t desig…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/22 07:15 PM
0	Do you think attraction is mostly looks? Women give more leeway than men when it comes to looks. I’d choose a man who’s a 7 in looks IF he’s intellectual, witty, and nice, over a hot 9 or 10 Chad. From experience, I was in a relationship with a hot, athletic BF who although very sweet, was decidedly not intellectual. We’d pass by a bookstore (I’m a voracious reader) and he’d recoil like he was allergic to books or something. Forget about stimulating conversations, I couldn’t interest him in news/ current issues let alone topics of inte…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/22 02:08 AM
1	Why are so many women unashamed of being overweight in OLD? If you are not overweight, you’re in the minority as than 1 in 3 Americans are that. 71% of Americans are overweight or obese. People’s idea of thinness that s skewed too. If you’re slim then you’re now told you’re anorexic and should go eat a sandwich. We now glorify obesity and tag people as fat phobic when they dare to point out unhealthy aspects of overweight/ obesity. Fat acceptance has spiraled out of control. Your fatness is not your identity. It went from not making fun of fat people to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/22 10:08 PM
3	If a woman has to lower her standards for you to have a shot with her, the relationship you’ll have with her will be shaky at best General standards for both men and women are abysmal today. People are devoid of authenticity and innate creativity. Instead, they base their personalities on things they buy/ use/ like, as if these things are personality traits. Worse, they rely on social media to define who they are as individuals. Women can be very competitive with each other in regards to weight, looks, and perceived competition for male attention. I’ve been bullied by women in the higher educational and workplace settings, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/22 06:12 PM
3	How do attractive women pick a man to commit to? Depends on the traits that are absolute criteria. For me, I’m extremely attracted to intellectual men. Besides that, other qualities are: wit, ability to carry conversations in broad range of subjects, fit/ healthy lifestyle, and not dogmatic or judgmental politically. The latter is problematic, because I live in a very liberal area. I’m an independent; liberal on some issues while classic liberal/ conservative in others. Not into political dogmas, I research issues before forming educated views…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/22 12:09 AM
1	Her education and income matter, and will matter even more in the future. I used to work with a NP whose first BS degree was in biology. Depends on what one does with biology degree, if they go on to attain master’s and postgraduate degrees. I have a BS in biochemistry with intentions of medical school but decided against it. Didn’t want to be saddled with huge debt and spend my 20s and 30s in fellowships, personally I valued time to travel. Got fast tracked BS-master’s program in nursing after I traveled abroad for a year, then doctorate in psych/ mental health nursi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/22 09:00 PM
1	What redpill “truth” do you think gives men the most rage? Men don’t even go to Japan to look for anime girl. When I was on OLD app briefly, I got messaged by guys who were in obviously into anime/ Asian women (I’m Eurasian). A lot of them work in tech (I’m in SF Bay Area). It made for socially awkward conversations. Though most of the guys are unaware of their social awkwardness, mainly harmless and I didn’t admonish them for it or anything to that effect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/22 06:29 PM
0	Many women fight for equality but only when it suits them This tunnel vision to focus on equality in all aspects of a relationship is shortsighted. It engenders overthinking and inadvertently cause more problems as well as resentment for both parties. Americans are too focused on this. When I spent time abroad living in Europe and East Asia, people there were more relaxed and pragmatic about such issues. There will never be 100% equality between an income-divergent couple who cohabitate yet do not share joint finances. Furthermore, if there is such a w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/22 02:36 PM
2	QW: For those women who didn't engage in casual sex do you think you are unicorn or more common than the manosphere believes? To engage in casual sex or not, it really depends upon factors pertaining to personality and to lesser degree, cultural/ religious influences. Casual sex was/ is a no-go for me, never had it. An emotional connection/ monogamy before sex is my jam, plus I definitely lean sapiosexual. The latter makes it difficult more than the former. I was in a previous relationship with a nice, sweet guy who was athletic/ hot…if only he was remotely intellectual he’d be perfect in most women’s eyes. And if I wa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/22 03:26 PM
4	"Women are more attractive than men" is just socially acceptable misandry Many women don’t wear makeup or wear minimal makeup. For example, the only makeup I wear is lipgloss or lipstick, instead I focus on skincare/ fitness because those are more important in the long run. There are many women who, like me, have no problem getting male interest ever despite wearing minimal makeup. I think your point about makeup is wrong in that regard. Most men (at least ones I’d dated/ date) find overly made up women to be tacky hence a turn-off.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/22 12:14 AM
18	Just Realized that the reason why women on here dismissed so much "loneliness" of men is because women know that no matter what If they truly want, they will be in a relationship It’s because a lot of men on this sub focus inordinately on sex. Sex is just a part of a romantic relationship. It is important but not more so than compatibility, for instance. In my very brief time on two apps, I got messages from married men who wanted side action. All with similar caveat of not wanting to change their situations. They even persisted after I told them no, not interested in married men. The ability to compartmentalize was astounding. They love their wives but they also desired…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/11/22 03:35 AM
2	Sure women want the top 20% of men but is it really that hard to be in that 20 percent of men? ~70% are obese/ overweight People choose LTR partners with whom they are most compatible, it’s a more deliberate process than casual dating. People still tend to date similar to their own level in terms of looks, education, class, and professional status (give or take). As for specifics of weight/ being fit and dating prospects, this is a complex topic. All women, even fat/ obese women, want guys who are fit. I’ve always been selective in dating life/ relationships, but have also witnessed my friends be less than selectiv…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/22 12:12 AM
1	CMV Its ridiculous to have a body count requirement but not an education level requirement Romance is part of intangibles	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/22 03:03 PM
4	Why are rates of depression so high in modern day Women? Too much self-diagnoses (aided by social media) of anxiety/ depression along with more uncommon types of mental illness such as dissociative identity disorder. A push by society to medicalize all negative experiences or feelings as part of the constellation of psychiatric symptoms. People are not encouraged to effectively cope with life stressors or even milestone life events. On the contrary, people are taught that negative emotions/ feelings/ thoughts are unhealthy signs of underlying disorder…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/22 04:59 AM
3	CMV Its ridiculous to have a body count requirement but not an education level requirement There’s a difference between being intelligent and intellectual. The former is more prevalent while the latter is rarer. Intellectually inclined means being well-rounded as well as having curiosity for variety of interests. Having graduate degrees doesn’t automatically equate with intelligence. I know people who are intellectual but not well-educated on paper. I also know people who are intelligent but not intellectual. I was engaged twice but both times backed out for multiple reasons. I was wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/22 09:38 PM
0	CMV: Height matters A LOT to women Women can be very competitive with those whom they perceive to be threats in the dating pool. During my early 20s I had experienced this with roommates and acquaintances. One particular roommate who was IIRC around 5’8”, she actually directed her wrath towards me whenever tall guys would hit on me. It angered her that I (5’3”) was taking tall guys away from tall women (mainly herself). Women who list height as criteria for potential partners are usually more interested in physical aspects in a r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/22 11:38 PM
7	Ned Fulmer cheated on his wife- Final nail in the coffin for the 'Pick Better' narrative You’re overreaching and drawing conclusions based upon false assumptions. Has it ever occurred to you to not trust what other people say or how they directly present themselves to you? Celebrities who proclaim or present themselves to be loving, selfless “just one of us” people, are in reality assholes, who are saying/ doing things outwardly to cover up the fact that they’re horrible individuals. Usually these people (celebrities or not) have a pattern of bullying/ misbehavior/ ill-conduct withi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/22 02:56 PM
1	I believe a lot of women tell each other not to make moves on guys because of internalized misogyny You’re misstating my point. You said people should be direct in what they want, and by extension if they’re not, then they’re playing games. My point is that we’re all individual, dynamic beings, not static inanimate objects. Our thoughts/ feelings and lives are in flux, and this in turn affects how we communicate to others/ outside world, including dating relationships. Having your date tell you what they want is fine. But do you believe everything people tell you at face value, especially in d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/10/22 05:13 PM
5	I believe a lot of women tell each other not to make moves on guys because of internalized misogyny Since you equate “chase” with playing games then that’s also your preference. To me, part of the exploratory stage of dating (not in a relationship) is figuring out the other person. There are complexities involved that aren’t always so cut and dry. We’re dealing with human nature/ individual lives with own lived experiences, sometimes it takes effort and time to unveil the person underneath. Being direct and “know what they want” sometimes isn’t all it’s purported to be. I don’t like superficia…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/22 06:16 PM
9	I believe a lot of women tell each other not to make moves on guys because of internalized misogyny I always let men make the first move, and it’s always worked out for me. I get to pick and choose, not going to lie but also I enjoy being “chased” after a little bit. Personal preference no internal misogyny involved. “Playing hard to get” is not easily defined. Not having sex with someone until you’re in a monogamous relationship with him is not playing hard to get IMO. Having the guy earn your interest and trust, I don’t consider those things as playing hard to get either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/22 03:22 PM
-2	Older men (30+) who specifically want young, inexperienced women (18-23) under the pretense of them having "less baggage", actually just want women with the specific TYPE of baggage (daddy issues / parental trauma) that would make them easier targets for predatory men in the first place. Look no further than the comment right before yours. SMH	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/22 05:09 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Q4All: Do you attract people from certain professions? Or on the flip side, do you seek out people with particular types of profession? Could be consciously or subconsciously. I seem to attract lawyers, followed by guys working in high tech. I don’t work in those professions, I’m in healthcare.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/22 09:39 PM
1	Q4W: What would you change to improve things for men? Have mindset of constantly trying to improve yourself. Be curious about things/ wanting to learn new things in life. Don’t be after to show sensitivity, that means being emotionally vulnerable, it’s not only healthy to do so but it’s a big turn-on for many women. Communicate, don’t make assumptions about what your SO or date wants, ask them, don’t play mind games.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/10/22 05:34 PM
2	Why are you trying to shame "women" into lowering their standards? That’s a good point, I never see overweight/ obese male mannequins or models.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/10/22 03:18 PM
2	How does dating survive if more women are so picky? Those women are also the type who deliberately gets pregnant for $$$ because cha-ching, 18 years of child support. Then your stuck with having a relationship for the next 18 years with a shallow, dumb woman who’ll likely raise the kid to be just as dumb/ shallow as herself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/22 11:13 PM
8	How does dating survive if more women are so picky? Those women who swarm the lambo are certain type only e.g. shallow, unintelligent, and status-obsessed. But I guess if that’s the type one is looking for, that is what flashy material trappings will attract.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/22 10:15 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Game standards are now lower because of apps. I’ve always let men make first move, and it works IRL too. I was on apps briefly and hated being bombarded by insane number of men. A couple of acquaintances still use apps for hookups. Both very overweight with average looks. Yet they consider casual hookups as dating, while I disregard it as having sex with random guys. If dating is defined as meeting/ having sex with randos then they have more success than people such as myself. There are people w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/22 03:15 PM
4	Unlimited sex partners prior to marriage Your presumption is that it is natural and accepted for people to want/ have unlimited partners. The supposition is that this urge is untempered by monogamous expectations of marriage. There’s a transactional component for some, yet most enter marriage with more than sex in mind. Sex is great but sex with the person you’re in love with is even more amazing. In love/ loving relationship defined as having deep, emotional attachment that’s reciprocated. If you don’t have this, then it would be easi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/22 03:58 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread How do you make time to spend with each other? I’m debating whether to go on second date with a rather sedate guy whose main hobbies are gardening and cooking.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/22 07:40 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Q4All: Would you be with a partner who has opposite level of energy/ activities as yours?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/22 07:31 PM
3	What are some reasons someone would be attracted to you, that you would be offended by? Being fetishized as a petite Eurasian. Some tall guys are into only dating petite women. I had one date (over 6 feet) who told me I was just a tad too tall (5’3”) for his preference. Creepiest would be to have men telI me my racial background was a turn on. It was creepier to have men wanting to live out hentai fantasies and other ethnic role play. Another offense would be when I reveal my years of ballet training, some men would perk up and ask me how flexible I was, could I do the splits, etc……	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/22 03:38 AM
2	ONLINE DATING STATS: The figures are in for OkCupid and Hinge, and what a surprise it's more dude fests. OkCupid is now 74% male and just 26% female in terms of users, while Hinge, despite being the most gender equal out of all the major apps, is still almost 2-to-1 men to women That’s how people used to get dates, while out doing errands and activities. Meeting likeminded or interesting people takes time and energy. Most of all investing effort into just putting yourself out there. A willingness to experience all the pitfalls of dating without filters. Getting approached or doing the approach, that’s situational and highly dependent upon person/ place/ time/ mood. Do I mind if a guy chats me up at a cafe? Usually not, unless I really don’t want to be, In which case it’…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/22 07:57 PM
8	ONLINE DATING STATS: The figures are in for OkCupid and Hinge, and what a surprise it's more dude fests. OkCupid is now 74% male and just 26% female in terms of users, while Hinge, despite being the most gender equal out of all the major apps, is still almost 2-to-1 men to women Why don’t people meet IRL? I’ve met more men IRL than when I was (briefly) on a dating app. Apps skew towards superficiality and hookup culture. 80-90% of messagesI got focused solely on looks, some of them quite sexualized right off the bat. I’m sure my experience wasn’t uncommon for many women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/22 04:59 PM
4	Women are far crueler to men than vice versa, especially regarding looks This is my own experience as a woman. In private, women can be very cruel towards men relating to physicality, income, and sexual prowess. However, women judge other women more harshly than they do with men. Women tend to see other women as competition. Jealousy among women is the norm in some instances such as dating and workplace. Women tend to hold steadfast yet contradictory beliefs with regards to men. Women prefer selective equality, and often take no issues with traditional gender roles/ …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/22 03:14 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread Yes to being mutually attracted to each other. It’s just a bit weird that men default to looks as if it was the only or most important thing. I actually ended up only responding to guys whose messages were witty and didn’t mention looks at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/22 10:43 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread No. I didn’t post anything close to bikini photos or posing suggestively. Not my style. Yet most messages basically told me they weren’t interested in my personality, just looks. The most skin I’d shown in photos was me in a long dress like this one. imgur	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/22 10:37 PM
7	Daily Community Chat Megathread Q4M: why do men emphasize looks when paying compliments to women they’re interested in pursuing? Is this a reflexive behavior since all you have is the physicality of the woman to go by? It made me quit dating apps after a brief use. Majority of messages ran the gamut from “you’re very pretty, hope we meet ASAP” to long messages about wanting to wake up next to me then making me smoothies. Don’t men know that they come across as cringey doing this? Or does it work on a lot of women? Doesn’t work…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/22 09:59 PM
1	Do you women go through similar struggles like men go through? I’ve always been good at “reading” people and situations. People seem to gravitate to me for advice, this is aside from patients. They volunteer personal concerns to me for some reason. I think it’s because I come across as calm and having empathy. I try to put myself in their unique circumstances instead of basing off of my own experiences. But I also don’t shy away from giving honest assessment. Mostly, people just desire a confidante to unload concerns. If they can get a suggestion or two out…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/22 10:09 PM
1	Do you women go through similar struggles like men go through? My struggle is having attraction for a certain niche of guys. I have a paradoxical personality, it’s difficult to find a man who shares similar personality traits. As a result, I tend to go for men whose personality traits are only partially compatible with my own. My last relationship was with a highly intelligent, witty guy. We matched and connected on an intellectual level, but not on other qualities. I function on almost equal parts logic/ rationality and sensitivity/ feelings. Being in love…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/22 08:23 PM