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Question For MenEmergency_Lead_3931/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 10:28 PM
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It's hard to know if they're serious or not, "yeah, we'll get married eventually" or "I'm not ready yet" or "we've only been dating for a couple of years, it's too early to worry about that," sometimes that's classic stringing alone bs but others Now in their late 20s, they're reaching that point where they're considering giving ultimatums or moving on to find someone who is ready to commit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 02:21 PM
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Well...those women have had partners for years, their bfs just don't want to commit or keep pushing the timeline into the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:46 PM
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By good relationship I mean you're compatible, good communication, have a good sex life, are happy together and you don't have any sort of drama going on. Essentially, a relationship that makes you happier than you just being single. Some men are happy in their relationships and precisely because they're happy as it is they don't see the need to overcomplicate the relationship with moving in together, marriage or kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 01:31 AM
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Thanks for your answer. One more question regarding the first point: assuming one guy knows they can do better, why don't they insta break up with their partner and seek someone who is a better match? That way there's no stringing their gf along and they get a chance to find that someone better.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:42 PM
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How about other types of commitment, like living together or having kids out of wedlock? Where I live, living together makes the relationship automatically common law after a year, less if there are kids in common. And in case of breakup, there's alimony and child support payment concerns, so the only real 'escape' here is either choosing your partner very carefully or being in a relationship without ever marrying, moving together or having children. I imagine a lot of guys would love something …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:41 PM
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Oh, I don't doubt it goes both ways. In my circle we're college-educated women, living in a big city, around 25-30yo who want marriage, kids and the whole white picket fence life. But I do know women who are the opposite too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:38 PM
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How do you gauge body count? Do you just ask..? Or judge by the number of relationships she's had?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:36 PM
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I think that's a good approach to relationships, you're happy by yourself so if you do date and commit to someone, it's because you really like them and they make you happy. I don't think there's anything wrong with being picky, you need to draw the line somewhere. I think some people just date whoever so they're not lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:36 PM
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Yeah, but you're upfront about it and know what you want, so you're good, I actually admire that. Thanks for giving such a detailed answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:33 PM
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I understand the fear of divorce laws, but prenups are a thing. Plus if you live together, in some places you're automatically common law after a while, and if you have ids and separate you still have to pay child support. So the only solution there is to never marry, never have kids and never live together. I guess some guys would love the arrangement, but it's definitely not for me. That's...That's not how it works. I think men who say that get married and proceed to have kids, which can take …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:31 PM
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Yeah, I know people can change their minds and it happens quite often. But idk, wouldn't that come up while discussing future plans? Like "Hey babe, I've been thinking about it and I don't think marriage is for me, are you cool with us staying as we are?" I haven't really asked my friend if she's been pushy about the topic, but I'd think it'd come up. So, my friend might just happen to be going for the top men with lots of options? It makes sense I guess. I've heard a bunch of stories like that,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:27 PM
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Understandable, thank you for taking your time to answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:19 PM
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Do you generally ask them about their body count? I mean, is there a subtle non-offensive way to do so? And, would you consider as tainted a woman that's 30yo and has had let's say, 3 relationships, no casual sex vs a woman that's had casual sex 3 times and no relationships? That's understandable, I think in that case there has to be a lot of introspective work to put yourself in a place where you consider yourself worthy of love. Have you ever gotten past the honeymoon stage? It normally doesn'…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:18 PM
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Okay, in that situation why wouldn't you leave your partner and find someone who is a better fit if you know your current partner isn't what you're looking for? Otherwise you're kind of wasting your time, and hers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 11:13 PM
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1) Do you get suspicious of people who seem to tick all your boxes or feel some strange urge to sabotage it? It depends, has this person been in a LTR and just gone back to the dating market after getting over it? If so, I wouldn't be suspicious. Or if it's a guy that's been focusing on his career with very little room to date. If it's a guy that's been dating for years despite having a lot going on for him, I might be a bit suspicious. If I felt the urge to sabotage a good relationship, I would…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 07:22 PM
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Well, maybe you're a lot wiser than I am, but the person I chose to have a relationship with at 18 wouldn't be the same I'd choose at 28. In your early 20s in particular there's a lot of change going on, not all relationships survive the transition between college and adult life, some people grow together and others grow apart - which is hard to control - because at those ages a lot of people are trying to find themselves. I'd say someone at 28, with a stable career, long-term goals and a better…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:20 PM
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Doesn't the red pill also encourage the grind mindset so when men are in their 30s they're financially sorted out and they can afford to be picky with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 03:08 PM
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I mean yes? But doesn't everyone do that as part of grooming? I could choose not to wash my hair and save on shampoo and conditioner, sure, but there's a bare minimum amount of care that's generally needed to be a functional human. As far as dating goes, I don't think guys should pay more just because women spend more money on cosmetics, especially if they'd spend that money regardless of their dating status.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 03:35 AM
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That doesn't make any sense. Not all women wear make up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 03:27 AM
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I know plenty of people who spent their 20s with a partner and then they break up after +5 years, they're not avoidants, they're relationship people who just had bad luck or chose the wrong partner, which isn't hard to do if you're very young and inexperienced. IME a breakup in the 28-34 age range often has to do with one partner wanting marriage and kids and the other not, so there's a lot of quality potential partners in those age ranges.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 12:58 AM
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I think paternity tests are either something that should be standardized and be done for everyone or not done at all (unless in secret). I know a bunch of stories where parents demand paternity tests, the wife gets offended and breaks up and it turns out the kid was his after all. What a stupid way to destroy a family. I know the dudes here will say "yeah but the woman knows, the father has no way to know 100% without a test." What you have to understand here, is that asking your partner for a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 06:45 PM
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Before having kids, would you talk with your husband about all that's coming down the pipe in terms of parental duty? Or would you assume that he either knows what all is entailed, or if he doesn't, that he's just going to step up and learn to do half of whatever needs to be done? Early on I expect to do most of the parental duty assuming I'm on a leave, and because during the first 6 months babies require very constant care and feeding I know more or less how it is. Once the kids are older, I e…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 06:07 PM
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