EmiIy_Spinach Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	How to look neat and stay patient during spontanous outdoor trip? (camping, first holiday) Brilliant advice!	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/18 12:44 AM
9	Boyfriend doesn't want marriage - how can I approach the subject w him? Having children with a citizen of a another country without being married can lead to huge problems. I work in cross-border trust administration and financial planning. Seriously, the headaches just being a married couple with different citizenships are numerous (and having to deal with inheritances and taxes in other countries, etc., etc.). Tell him it's a deal breaker. You will not have children with someone you are not married to. You will not remain in another country for a man who will not …	/r/RedPillWomen	27/03/18 06:57 PM
8	RP women in relationships, how important is obedience to your bf/husband? Things like job change, vacation plans, savings goals. Even smaller things like plans for the weekend, since his plans affect my plans. Blind obedience just is not realistic in even a traditional marriage. Taking orders without any input or feedback is creepy. He takes the lead but it is a back and forth of ideas, spitballing, alternatives. If a man can't accept feedback from his most trusted advisor, cannot delegate and micromanages what others do, he is a poor leader.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/03/18 11:21 AM
8	RP women in relationships, how important is obedience to your bf/husband? Yes. I think of my husband as the CEO and I am the manager. He seeks my opinion and takes it into account when making decisions. During the decision making process, I can and do critique and question his ideas (in a respectful way, in course of a regular convo) but the final decision is his. Then I need to work with him to make sure the plan comes together.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/03/18 01:09 AM
3	Ladies, I would like to hear the red pill reasoning on taking the last name of your future husband My husband wanted us both to hyphenate our last names. I wasn't a fan but he's the captain: he gets final say on what we named the team. ;)	/r/RedPillWomen	24/03/18 02:15 AM
2	How often does your husband help you with housework? My husband voluntarily helps with some chores (he likes washing dishes for some reason) but I never ask him for help unless it is schleping heavy stuff to the basement, etc.	/r/RedPillWives	20/03/18 11:59 AM
4	How can I help my husband find his alpha side? Same. He even said the same about feeling like he had to walk on eggshells around me. My husband's mom definitely made him feel like he wasn't capable of making decisions. He had a lot of frustration built up because he is a natural leader and she squelched that part of his personality. It takes lots of love and encouragement but I think you'll be able to draw those qualities out in your husband. Good luck.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/03/18 02:56 AM
9	How can I help my husband find his alpha side? I was in your position and I took the same tactic that you did, encouraging the dynamic and ignoring the behaviors that were totally beta. I think you are approaching this the right way. I'm just here to give you encouragement and urge you to be patient. I have been doing this for three years and it's only in the last year my husband has really started making decisions and taking charge. His mother was extremely overbearing and it takes a long time to undo that.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/03/18 11:52 PM
2	What's your base line? I was the opposite; I never had anything to wear because I was useless at buying clothes. A capsule wardrobe was perfect for me because it gave me an outline of what a basic wardrobe should consist of. I have one for each season using my SCA and Kibbe type (also incredibly helpful to not have to throw on unflattering cuts and colors!) and I feel so pulled together and feminine even going to the supermarket.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/03/18 11:42 PM
1	What's your base line? Hair: I wash it every other day so it's always fresh or a style-able second day hair. A top knot is my go to for the most basic look, or a high pony if it has curl left in it. Makeup: brows (always, always, my #1 most important thing), mascara and blush. Clothes: a coordinated capsule wardrobe makes looking put together a snap. I can literally grab anything from my closet and it looks nice with my handbag, every days shoes and coat.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/03/18 04:45 PM
9	Working wives, how do you find time for cooking, cleaning, laundry etc. alongside working full time? It's not just about time management but emotional investment and the allocation of mental real estate. A woman who spreads herself too thin mentally and emotionally will be giving less than 100% in other areas of her life, even if she is able to fit everything into her day. I agree with the others that outsourcing domestic help might be a good solution if you still come out ahead financially. Even with just a household of two, we send laundry out, have a cleaner come in once a month and use a gr…	/r/RedPillWives	14/03/18 11:53 AM
18	Working wives, how do you find time for cooking, cleaning, laundry etc. alongside working full time? You can choose two: homemaker, mother, career woman. A woman of good character and work ethic can excel at two of those things simultaneously. Add in the third and even the most determined wife is going to fall down in at least one area. My mother was a homemaker and stay at home mother. She never worked a day until my youngest brother left for college. She excelled at both. My husband and I do not have or want children (a decision unrelated to my career.) I make it work by being extremely organ…	/r/RedPillWives	14/03/18 01:55 AM
3	Non Stay-at-Home Homemaker? I don't think it is impossible, although it may be next to if you have several small children! I work full time, run a tight ship at home, fuss over my looks and have several hobbies. The hobbies would be mostly gone if I had children, but I think everything else would remain relatively stable unless I had a child with special needs or some other variable like a disabled husband, etc. I work in a high stress field but I have a lovely boss. When I had a terrible boss, it was harder to come home…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/03/18 12:05 AM
4	Happy International Women’s Day! The first time I heard about Women's Day (it hasn't been popular in the States until the last few years), I was going out to a work dinner with a visiting Russian colleague and her husband. He brought all of the women a bouquet of spring flowers. It was very gentlemanly. The other American girls and myself were surprised since we didn't even know it was Women's Day! I can't think of any women I admire more than my mother and my aunts, but I am always impressed with celebrities that have been mar…	/r/RedPillWives	08/03/18 11:20 PM