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| 5 | Redpill is a cope for a terrifyingly chaotic worldI will say that areas with more poverty/lower pay tend to have more of these patterns, but I really feel it’s to do with modeling when you’re a kid. There are a LOT of bad parents out there. It hamstrings so many kids when it comes to relationships :( | /r/ExRedPill | 22/08/24 01:06 PM |
| 7 | Redpill is a cope for a terrifyingly chaotic worldHave you SEEN the kinds of men a huge portion of women date and get utterly obsessed with? Dude, we sure ain’t in it for the money with most of them! Not even in it for the looks, either, it often seems like. If women were solely motivated by self interest, my God would most relationships look different. Could honestly say the same for plenty of men dating women who are straight up a**holes to them or bums. We all make totally ridiculous choices when love/romance gets involved! | /r/ExRedPill | 21/08/24 11:53 PM |
| 6 | Redpill is a cope for a terrifyingly chaotic worldBoy wtf? Did you just come on here and confidently type out the belief that women…aren’t horny? Aren’t even capable of BEING horny? Holy crap, how does a person even get to that level of delusion?! 😂 | /r/ExRedPill | 21/08/24 11:50 PM |
| 7 | Redpill is a cope for a terrifyingly chaotic worldTell me, how do men act? What does their behavior say? | /r/ExRedPill | 21/08/24 11:47 PM |
| 7 | Redpill is a cope for a terrifyingly chaotic worldBro, respectfully…why else would we marry them?! 😂 It’s because we want to spend our lives in partnership with that person! That’s what the feeling is, it’s “I want to be united, a team, close to you.” | /r/ExRedPill | 21/08/24 11:47 PM |
| 17 | How do I keep a woman?Her behavior sounds bizarre from this description...but with such a sensitive topic at hand, I'd hesitate to put the full blame on her. I honestly don't know, since you gave no usable context. The only explanations I can think of for her reaction are: You did something without her consent, ie went for the "wrong hole," removed the condom, smacked her (on the ass or wherever), pulled her hair, moved her into a different position, etc without her permission You farted (loudly) or something?? Idk m… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/07/24 05:25 PM |
| 8 | Just unsubbed from purplepilldebate…As with any ideology based on an authoritarian/us vs them paradigm, any time you let redpillers into a space it will be taken over. It’s like letting fascists in to a democratic space; the two are inherently incompatible because the former depends on total control and blocking out any opposing voices. For all their emphasis on being “clearly correct” and “obvious,” all of these types of movements are actually super fragile. If they weren’t, letting in other voices wouldn’t be such an issue for t… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/06/24 03:16 PM |
| 8 | Seeing Beyond the Redpill Narrative: Lessons from My Ethiopian UpbringingThis is uplifting, I’m glad you matured and gained clearer sight. May it bring blessings to you and to your family! | /r/ExRedPill | 16/05/24 12:10 AM |
| 3 | I'm not really wrapping my head around how having a good personality makes someone sexually attractive to another personBreaking down the science of attraction is all well and good, and there are a number of general conclusions one can draw about the way most people experience attraction…but at the end of the day, that experience is intuitive. I’m willing to bet that the majority of us experience attraction as a dynamic, involuntary thing. We can try to break it down after we’ve felt it or in a conceptual way, but it often ends up surprising us/going against those conclusions the next time we experience it. It’s … | /r/ExRedPill | 15/05/24 03:49 PM |
| 3 | I don't get how the "Man vs. Bear" conversation doesn't just make women look kinda stupid?YOU are misrepresenting my analysis, whether intentionally or because of a genuine misunderstanding. I will assume it is the latter option. We do not judge risk based on optimism. It does not matter that a human man is more likely to show empathy toward a fellow human being -- he is also more likely to attack and harm another human being than a bear is (there have been approximately 180 fatal bear attacks in North America since 1784; in 2019 alone, 1,392 people were murdered by strangers, and ov… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/24 08:00 PM |
| 14 | I'm beginning to not care anymoreHumans are a social species, and we are wired to care about others' opinions of us. This is natural -- being generally liked/respected was (and in some ways, arguably still is) a matter of survival. I think you are making wonderful progress toward the life and mindset you want. It isn't a linear process, so of course, you'll struggle to find that balance between accepting that you care and internalizing EVERYTHING people think of or say about you! I don't know of anyone who reaches a healthy men… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/24 07:26 PM |
| 2 | I don't get how the "Man vs. Bear" conversation doesn't just make women look kinda stupid?Bears are predictable compared to men. That's literally it -- that is the core "issue" behind most women's choice in this hypothetical. We are choosing between a comparatively dumb, generally predictable predator in its natural environment and a much more intelligent, completely unpredictable (potential) predator in an isolated place. If I stay away from the bear, if I make noise or play dead in response to the bear, if I do not carry food to attract the bear...the bear is going to behave in a w… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/24 05:31 PM |
| 13 | The claim is not "women have a magical misogyny detector." The claim is "misogynistic men who have trouble getting dates are often bad at hiding their misogyny."This is a way better explanation than my reply to one of these comments, thank you op! Succinct and clear, just the way we like it! | /r/ExRedPill | 26/04/24 07:24 PM |
| 3 | Why is it that the most outwardly sexist guys I know that do the best with women?I think many of us like to believe we can sense it right away, and in some instances we DO spot it…but that’s also way too optimistic. I’m very much a feminist and a diehard egalitarian, I’ve had dating experience with both sexes & read all the literature — but I still can’t say I truly “smell” misogyny like that. It almost always takes me by surprise when some guy I know or work with drops a misogyny deuce right into our interaction, lmao. Can people sense something is “off” about virulent sexi… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/04/24 02:14 PM |
| 5 | Why is it that the most outwardly sexist guys I know that do the best with women?Do men looking for one night stands do a deep dive on the personality of a prospective lay? Same thing is probably happening here. Those men might be partying more, approaching more women, etc, so naturally they’ll encounter others looking for the same thing more often. If they can pull off surface level charm, well, that’s all a casual/one night partner is ever going to see, anyway. There are also women with low self esteem or who are, themselves, misogynistic, so they may know about the sexism… | /r/ExRedPill | 25/04/24 08:49 PM |
| 8 | Why???They meant wealth inequality. People are struggling financially, mentally, etc -- so they look for a group to blame (and usually pick the wrong group). | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/24 06:32 PM |
| 1 | I am pretty sure I just fumbled an easy layIt’s simple: you apparently view sex as something to be gotten from/out of someone (commodity) instead of a relational act between two equals. Viewing personal interactions as transactional is unhealthy and arguably unnatural. Not only does it devalue others you may interact with, but it’s also incredibly isolating for you, OP. It leads to dissatisfaction, loneliness, isolation, and a vicious cycle of resentment/frustration that feeds on itself. There’s nothing wrong with wanting sex, and I hope… | /r/seduction | 14/02/24 04:58 PM |
| 6 | I am pretty sure I just fumbled an easy layThis mindset is not normal, healthy, or attractive. This view of women is ugly and disgusting. We can usually sense when a man is not viewing us as a person. We don't like screwing animals -- we like to be with actual human beings, not glorified amygdala. You need to ask yourself how you got here and why you are this way. Your responses to comments here are all anyone needs to read to understand my own reply right now. I don't know how or why you came to think that this mentality is sane, but yo… | /r/seduction | 06/02/24 06:56 PM |
| 16 | "I'm not that kind of guy"And how has that worked out for you? Has it gotten YOU laid a lot? Because I highly doubt it lmao. Don’t be a pushover, but don’t be a douchebag. There is a LOT of middle ground, here. Removing empathy is. It only unnatural and unhealthy, but it also 100% will not result in sex. Unless you’re a sex offender?? Seriously, guys, use your heads! (No not that one 😂) | /r/seduction | 29/05/22 03:18 PM |
| 23 | Hello to all of you ladies. I want to ask you a question, but I want all women who see this to at least give an answer. And be honest, no one has the right to judge you for your choices.Based on your comments, you seem to want to blame your height alone for why you aren’t having sex or engaging in relationships. When women answer your question honestly you say they’re lying. You lack the ability to be rational and unbiased in this situation. I suggest you work on that before you seek answers - they won’t do you any good as it is. You can develop a safe space and have that right. You deserve to feel safe, respected, and heard. But coming into a space under false pretenses and de… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/22 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Men are just expected to accept that they not only cannot get someone as attractive as them, but that they will have to WORK for someone less attractive. If they question any of this they are called entitled or told they are overrating their own appearance despite confirmation from most.I don’t see why it’s bad to admit that women have it way easier when they want sex or a relationship. Does that mean we have it easier in other areas? Nope. Does that mean we are safer, treated better, etc? Nooope. Does that mean we aren’t abused, degraded, and gaslighted when we bring it up? Nope! WHEN a woman wants to have sex, and WHEN a woman simply wants to get into a relationship, yes - it’s easier by far for us to do so. Once you’re in the relationship or are hooking up with a man, you’re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/22 03:55 PM |
| 5 | I don't think this sub is the place to quit redpill anymore. I see more women here to humiliate redpills than men who want to get off the redpill now. This place no longer looks like a safe space.I think he’s conflating “men aren’t ENTITLED to love or sex” with “you don’t deserve it.” Vastly different statements, so if true he’s engaged in a complete logical fallacy. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/05/22 09:52 PM |
| 4 | Do women have it easier than men?I think your issue is tied to a mindset of men VERSUS women, not your personal beliefs. Ask yourself this: is it possible to have meaningful interactions (as in mentally/emotively fulfilling, not just touchy-feely) with someone you consciously or subconsciously view as a competitor/rival/opposing force? If you view women and men as having generally opposite interests, experiences, and perspectives, are you going to be able to have unbiased and authentic interactions with women? Also, you seem to… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/05/22 01:22 PM |
| 51 | Every man on RedditJust had a flashback to AyLilMamaLemmeWhisperInYaEar playing during a high school dance The reaction from boys was as expected | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 09:33 PM |
| 7 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laidThis guy should publish his fiction novella on Amazon! Really imaginative storytelling, here 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 10:49 PM |
| 16 | This had me howling!! 🎶Leave us alone, please leave us alone 🎶..Omg this shit drives me nuts! It always ends up like clears throat picks up megaphone and leans directly into your face HEY BABE U UP? My fiancé and I make fun of crap like this all the time - I’ve noticed it seems to be more of a white guy thing but all lvm have their methods 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 03:52 PM |
| 18 | This is too funny 🙄Taking “he will SUCCESS” as my own motivational phrase. No, sir, I will SUCCESS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Left my abuser but I want to go back? Please help me make sense of thisI’m so sorry you’re going through this, OP. Are you able to work at all? Businesses are literally desperate for employees right now, so you might be able to arrange something that includes enough pay to get you on your feet and even shelter/some food in the meantime. I suggest going to women-owned small businesses for this sort of arrangement. I’ve seen it done before, which is why I mention it, but I understand if it sounds too out there (or out of touch). If you must go back, please please PLE… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 06:28 PM |
| 4 | Why do Redpill and Mgtow guys care about degeneracy in women/society if they don't want to get married or have long term relationships?RP men think women hate them, but that’s delusional. Indifference is not the same thing as hate. Women are indifferent towards you. Why wouldn’t they be? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/11/21 05:14 AM |
| 2 | The real reason some women hate Porn“Obviously you're free to do whatever you do but they really don't like that the basic lay and pray "she’s just happy I'm penetrating her" routine isn't enough for some girls anymore, that a higher value girl might want to stick a strap on in your ass, slap you and make you lick her feet, give you a golden shower, experiment with some kinky humiliation by making you eat from a dog bowl or crawl and beg for her, and so on and so forth, and it makes the dating market more competitive because there… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/21 04:30 PM |
| 14 | "If England gets beaten, so will she" when england loses a football match, the figure for domestic violence surges by 38%. Even if they win, it goes up by 26%.This is so spot on and eloquently put, you should consider making it a whole post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 03:28 PM |
| 6 | What are your standards (and have you been able to find a partner who met them - esp if people have told you those standards were too high/"unreasonable")?Stick to those standards, girl! My own are as follows, and my partner so far meets all of them: Mature/Responsible: has a job that matches his education level, which needs to match mine (at least a bachelor's degree or equivalent at trade school, certifications, etc). Shows that he can override laziness and handle life's challenges. Disciplined, Ambitious: He has to demonstrate an ability to work for what he wants, and he has to WANT something enough to put in that work. In my partner's case he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 02:30 AM |
| 1 | Women have historically contributed less "direct benefit" to society because, until recently, we were banned from participating in such pursuits, not because we do not need to compete sexually like males do.When my mom was young, women literally could not open a credit card without having their husband approve the act in writing. Women could not independently establish credit. There are still many, many places in the world where women cannot vote, access birth control (even in some parts of the Western world, such as the Deep South USA), cannot seek legal recourse for abuse, etc. Men act like 100 years is a long time. It isn’t. It’s nothing compared to the MILLENNIA women spent barred, blocked, and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/21 02:41 PM |
| 17 | Women would be better people if they had to compete in dating like men doIf we’re talking about EQ and general measures of emotional intelligence, collaborative capabilities, and empathy…women already are better people on average. Usually men’s improvement (as far as them becoming happier, healthier people) happens naturally when they develop these social adaptations. Honestly, if more men focused a bit less on themselves as concepts/objects in the dating arena and tried to be happier people overall, things would improve for everyone 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/21 03:06 PM |
| 3 | The Dichotomy of Effort: What NVM’s Shared Philosophies Are Really AboutOh wow, could he have been any more oblivious and tone-deaf? Astounding that a man is given every advantage and STILL manages to stay so ignorant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 07:12 PM |
| 12 | The Dichotomy of Effort: What NVM’s Shared Philosophies Are Really AboutPrecisely, that's exactly how they view it and it's the baseline assumption they act upon...to the annoyance and outright detriment of everyone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 09:47 PM |
| 23 | The Dichotomy of Effort: What NVM’s Shared Philosophies Are Really AboutYep, and as women gain more and more in all areas of social life, these men deepen their cognitive dissonance as a form of denial. Nothing makes me more irate than someone who is in constant denial. Best to avoid them at all costs, but avoiding them is itself a skill to be learned over time, it seems! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 09:45 PM |
| 23 | The Dichotomy of Effort: What NVM’s Shared Philosophies Are Really AboutGod, if only you could turn back time and just respond, "yes, you are still here. How unfortunate." The absolute self-ass-kissing habit some of these guys have is incredible. I decided a while back that a man who wants to live inside his own personal storybook is a man I'm going to close the cover on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 09:44 PM |
| 19 | The Dichotomy of Effort: What NVM’s Shared Philosophies Are Really AboutMen really are out here thinking we live in P.S. I Love You, with the P.S. standing for "Pussy [Home Delivery] System." "Just keep being your lackluster self," he says internally, "and everything you ever want ever will fall into your lap! WAIT, WHY ISN'T IT FALLING INTO MY LAP?" Cue the fury panic! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 09:42 PM |
| 23 | The Dichotomy of Effort: What NVM’s Shared Philosophies Are Really AboutHoly moly that is a PERFECT illustration of how these dudes end up acting as they seek to rationalize their own lack of...well, lack of everything. Character, wit, work ethic, value to society - it's all because OTHER PEOPLE (women) HAVE IT EASIER *cries in NVM* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 09:40 PM |
| 18 | The Dichotomy of Effort: What NVM’s Shared Philosophies Are Really AboutPrecisely, when you're blissfully privileged and unaware enough to REALLY internalize that "I should get everything for jack all" narrative...it begins to show rather quickly to the discerning eye. FDS's goal is to turn all of us into those discerning eyes. Hopefully, that instigates some wider changes through our individual lives and networks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 09:38 PM |
| 22 | The Dichotomy of Effort: What NVM’s Shared Philosophies Are Really AboutThe irony is that it's those men who do fight their flaws, pursue the truth, and work hard but with empathy that truly get what they want and who are valued at the level NVMs believe they should be by default. You really nailed it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 09:37 PM |
| 10 | Sis, run6 years and no ring? Girl…he’s playing you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 05:54 PM |
| 12 | The cock carousel - a red pill fantasy?Holy crap how much free time do these dudes think we HAVE?! The sheer calorie burning and hour commitments of screwing THAT MANY “chads” would surely constitute a second full time job 😂 Seriously, all the other ridiculously dumb arse fallacies aside, this physically could not be true. No one has that kind of leisure, physical stamina, or luck as far as avoiding pregnancy. The absolute madness. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/07/21 11:33 PM |
| 9 | "By age of 35, 66% of men will have experienced some degree of hair loss" B-b-but MeN aGe LiKe FiNe WiNe WoMeN aGe LiKe MiLk"The thing that gets me is how many men complain about losing hair…but won’t do ANYTHING to address it. My partner noticed he was thinning and he didn’t like it, so he booked himself an appointment with a dermatologist and got a prescription for pills and a topical treatment that fixed it! And he actually sought out the advice of a men’s hair stylist so he could either a) style his hair in a more flattering way until the treatment kicked in or b) get some ideas for styles that’ll work if he does … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 03:47 PM |
| 2 | Is the transitioning stage always this hard?This is so inspiring, thank you so much for sharing your journey, OP! The validation of having so many other women share their own matching experiences is VITAL for me (and I’m assuming many, many others) as I continue my own lifelong journey of joy and fulfillment. I hope you keep slamming those boundary doors right into the foundations of users and abusers - you deserve respect and more! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 03:35 PM |
| 2 | They don’t listen, they just deflect, lie and make it all about them 🙄Okay, so if it’s not empowerment, he can call it something else? But we’re going to do things that feel good. It’s just that, you know, decent people have empathy and if we take actions that hurt someone we care about or who deserves consideration…it DOESN’T FEEL GOOD. Men doing what “feels good” so often seems synonymous with “screwing over other people because I can and it feels good to my pp.” To women, “feels good” means it’s a pleasurable hobby or action that doesn’t negatively impact other… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 01:08 AM |
| 1 | "Are you sure you don't want to...." and other things they expect us to respond positively to.This is so f***ing frustrating. It’s part of the larger trend you touched on, which is men’s insistence on denying anything and everything they themselves did not directly experience or “witness.” It is invalidating, it is insulting, and it is inherently sexist because nine times out of ten they do not try to enforce those parameters on other men. My father does this, and I’ve noticed it in just about every other man I’ve had to deal with for any length of time. There’s nothing beneath that atti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 12:50 AM |
| 2 | is it too late for me ?No problem! And one more thing on the topic of women, most of the time we can’t tell whether or not a dude is a virgin during The Deed. Plenty of non-virgins are quick to the draw or clumsy, after all. If he’s making effort to please us before and after using other skills, and if he’s making us feel sexy/beautiful, or he’s up for another round or two after the first? Probably she’ll have a decently favorable impression, and even if the experience wasn’t GREAT she’s likely to give it another try … | /r/seduction | 02/07/21 03:03 PM |
| 11 | is it too late for me ?I’m going to tell you this from experience, as a woman who has had several virgin partners when I myself was not: we don’t care if you’re inexperienced if we are looking for more than sex with you. It’s a bit nerve wracking for US because we want to make it special and not disappoint expectations, but I promise: you don’t need to feel like it’s a problem for you to be a virgin. Just say you’re not experienced if it’s easier! Women are going to weigh two things first off the bat: attraction (both… | /r/seduction | 02/07/21 12:35 AM |
| 32 | "there's a darkness inside me"Half the time they’re just really, REALLY boring/irritating people and use this edgelord crap to try and sound vaguely interesting. Protip for men: It doesn’t work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Women have blown the idea of Men only wanting sex way out of proportionOk so your male friends are boyfriends you don’t have to fuck? And are my female friends girlfriends I don’t have to fuck, or boyfriends with tits I don’t have to fuck? You’re simply not being rational, nor do you have a functional, healthy view of the human social experience. There’s no reason to limit yourself to such rigid dichotomies and it’s going to hamstring your potential for happiness in life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Women have blown the idea of Men only wanting sex way out of proportionDo you understand how absurd that statement is lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 01:39 AM |
| 3 | Women have blown the idea of Men only wanting sex way out of proportionWell, meeting through OLD cancels out friendship potential imo so I feel you there! Not the type of situation I pictured. I may also just have…oddly old fashioned friendships? I met all my male friends in the past by participating in my hobbies. Just happens organically. But yeah never been able to sustain them because eventually the guys want more, and I’ve tried to understand it, but it seems to boil down to a lack of functional platonic intimacy in men’s existences and no roadmap for how to a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 12:09 AM |
| 8 | Women have blown the idea of Men only wanting sex way out of proportionI wouldn’t equate or reduce friendship to specific hobbies or games, my dude. That’s sad if it’s all you gain from your friends…friendship is deeper than that, and often involves comfort. It’s about being around someone who makes you comfortable being yourself, who you enjoy listening to and helping, and who you like to spend time with. That IS friendship but men only get this from romantic relationships apparently. They only get emotional intimacy from sex/romance and that becomes a problem in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/21 12:04 AM |
| 14 | Women have blown the idea of Men only wanting sex way out of proportionAs a woman, it’s pretty much just as frustrating to be “relationship-zoned” as “sex-zoned,” in mind opinion. If you don’t want friendship but instead want something else, but you don’t express it or get upset and resentful when she doesn’t return the sentiment, that’s annoying. I do think we simplify these dynamics too much, because from what I can tell sex and feelings are just much more seamlessly tied together for most men - and we tend to focus on the former at the expense of the latter. But… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/21 06:19 PM |
| 87 | Response to the “used goods GF” post 👻I like that ED can mean “everything digger” and also erectile dysfunction - seems apt 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 03:08 PM |
| -1 | A hypercompetitive society that is based on external value (i.e. the "sexual marketplace") will eventually collapseThose who inherently view society and life as hypercompetitive skew authoritarian in their values and mindsets, and tend to sink further into that trend as they age (The Authoritarian Personality is a wonderful exploration of this phenomenon). So you’re unlikely to find many who support your collaborative view in forums where that lens of perception is more heavily represented…and I find that most of the gender-centric forums on this platform fit that bill. Ultimately this slant toward viewing l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/21 06:27 PM |
| 4 | The reason I am in the red pill is because I am ashamed of my sex driveWell frankly, dick cleavage (whatever that is???) probably wouldn’t stimulate us. Sultry dudes with great bods and sexy accents would probably do it. I’m bi with adhd so I’m pretty much doomed regardless! | /r/ExRedPill | 29/06/21 02:30 PM |
| 4 | The reason I am in the red pill is because I am ashamed of my sex driveI sort of feel like we’ve all gotten hornier on average, or it’s just a symptom of general unease/restless dissatisfaction. So maybe it’s gotten more unpleasant for men - everything seems designed to overstimulate y’all, even more so than women. Do I blame other men for that? Kind of, since a lot of the profit-aligned media and such was and is designed by men. Still sucks for most of you, though, and for women. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/06/21 12:20 AM |
| 11 | The reason I am in the red pill is because I am ashamed of my sex driveIs life not a constant disturbance of equanimity, just to varying degrees? Who on Earth gets to live in a state of equanimity for any length of time? Of course it rarely feels pleasant to want what you can’t have or even pursue, but I see this as part and parcel of the human condition, personally. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/06/21 12:02 AM |
| 22 | The reason I am in the red pill is because I am ashamed of my sex driveWhy does lust equate to women holding power over you? Lust is a sensation, a feeling. A strong one, sometimes VERY strong, but it’s not as if you become some sort of mindless robot the moment a breast shows up. So, ultimately you still retain your essential self, and until someone forces you to act literally against your will…they don’t have power over you, do they? | /r/ExRedPill | 28/06/21 11:49 PM |
| 5 | Being skeptical of the advice you get from older women about datingI look at the unique brand of mediocrity present in the men of past generations, and it’s all the answer I need as to why I should grant the poor advice of older women any real weight :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 12:38 AM |
| 1 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?Because those groups and communities aren’t the only ones on here | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/21 01:02 AM |
| 5 | A Woman Is Going Viral For Sharing How A Man Shamed Her For Not Sleeping With Him, And Her Message Is So ImportantThis is a MOTTO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 12:50 AM |
| 7 | She really needs our helpSo sad 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 10:51 PM |
| 1 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?Idk if I want to enter this conversation since I’m a (very lucky) survivor and women’s self defense instructor who works specifically with abused women/other rape survivors but go off I guess 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 10:01 PM |
| 1 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?I presume it’s intentional that you literally put words into my mouth? Where on earth did I accuse any of the people here of being abusers? I mean, you’re the one who said it, so if you think they are then that’s on you - I’m sure you can make a case for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 09:59 PM |
| 3 | Women aren't "lying" about what they find sexually arousing.It’s kind of depressing...but autism sure as fuck doesn’t excuse misogyny so I guess we should just let them rot? If they can’t be helped, they can’t be helped, and whether autistic or not I figure most misogynists will never confront their faulty beliefs :/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't "lying" about what they find sexually arousing.Also if we demanded perfection, none of us would be in relationships. But we are. Happy ones, in many cases. So your conception of “perfect” and the apparent “failure” of women to call it the same is apparently what’s causing you such distress, from what I can tell. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't "lying" about what they find sexually arousing.Ok well what would NOT “demanding” it look like, then? Just pliantly compromising our standards? Pretending they don’t exist? No thanks! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Women aren't "lying" about what they find sexually arousing.The irony of his comment is just too much 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 09:51 PM |
| 0 | Women aren't "lying" about what they find sexually arousing.That was my initial thought but I know autism isn’t the only cognitive difference that impacts someone’s comfort level with social nuance. Regardless it isn’t women’s or neurotypical men’s jobs to assume everyone they talk to may have autism. That level of explanation and detail would be absolutely exhausting for a non-autistic person if it were expected at all times. That may not be “fair” in a universal sense, but what is? That’s the reality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 09:50 PM |
| 5 | One reason why Women are considered ‘complicated’ is because what attracts them changes constantly.It would seem that the issue is more “who they say they are attracted to does not match up to my INTERPRETATION/ASSUMPTIONS about who they choose to fuck.” People define “nice” differently just as they define things like attractive, “asshole,” successful, etc differently. We are all living within subjective realities when it comes to dating and other social behaviors. Those who have been properly socialized/don’t have developmental issues are naturally able to navigate this nuance due to the inh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 04:20 AM |
| 1 | One reason why Women are considered ‘complicated’ is because what attracts them changes constantly.The term “nice” is subjective and therefore individuals will not agree on what they consider important within that category. I feel that this assumed lack of nuance is what holds many men on this sub back in dating and sex. They assume women, if not a monolith (which many on here DO seem to assume), are at least all somehow in agreement over how subjective standards and preferences ought to play out. That is not realistic from a sociobiological standpoint as all people(s) will vary considerably … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 04:13 AM |
| 21 | As she should 😩Shit, sis, I had a guy pull the same crap on me! We’re a club | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 03:58 AM |
| 34 | (idk if this was made already!) Shout-out to the mods cause I'm sure they read through a whole lot of bs to shield us from it, so THANK YOU💖Thank you brave Mods, we salute you 😭💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:53 AM |
| 17 | Women aren't "lying" about what they find sexually arousing.Let me try to put this into very linear terms. We desire looks, economic stability (aka employed and functional men), and social skills (status). We ALSO - at the same time, mind you - desire “deeper” qualities. Simultaneously. At once. These things are not exclusive. Wild, I know, but people can actually want a spectrum of qualities in their partners ALL AT ONCE 🤯 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 02:48 AM |
| 8 | Lundy was mentioned in PPD today and funnily enough, all the redpill men in the comments were proving this exact quote.Omg thank you and I’m glad you don’t hate me, I seriously was just being ironic and seeing what scrotes would do when confronted by this...and WOW was it uh, enlightening. Big confirmation of what we try to tell people on here 24/7 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:46 AM |
| 6 | Lundy was mentioned in PPD today and funnily enough, all the redpill men in the comments were proving this exact quote.Idk if you saw my earlier comments but I literally posted this on PPD just to prove a point and blow the cover off of how MANY men have this mentality and, apparently, will openly defend it even when the entire premise is factually illogical. If people don’t see the comments on a post like that or encounter the attitude in another form, they might never understand how pervasive and dangerous it is! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:44 AM |
| 10 | Lundy was mentioned in PPD today and funnily enough, all the redpill men in the comments were proving this exact quote.Oh actually I meant The Victim - it’s what Lundy called that particular form of abusive mentality (the women rule the world but are also weak fallacy). I was daring them to defend that blatant hypocrisy, thinking “they can’t possibly be dumb enough to tell on themselves like that.” Conclusion? They’re ALWAYS dumb enough. Always. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:41 AM |
| 5 | Lundy was mentioned in PPD today and funnily enough, all the redpill men in the comments were proving this exact quote.It sure as hell won’t stop them from trying, though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:40 AM |
| 49 | Women aren't "lying" about what they find sexually arousing.Bro if you need every detail of everything someone says laid out piece by piece, the issue isn’t their communication skills. It’s your ability to pick up on subtext/context and understand the underlying assumptions normally made during conversation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 01:25 AM |
| 2 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?You’re not understanding me: I’m saying that the oppressor and the oppressed can be the same person in different areas. Oppressed at work doesn’t = oppressed at home, hence my example. Men are by virtue of birth physically stronger and even in impoverished, oppressed communities have occupied positions of power over “their” women. Some women oppress some men - often because of race - but the context of my post was that of abusive relationships and overarching gender dynamics, which skew male. If… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/21 12:32 AM |
| 30 | Lundy was mentioned in PPD today and funnily enough, all the redpill men in the comments were proving this exact quote.I had to do it to ‘em 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 06:36 PM |
| 2 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?Because, hold your hat, women do not = pussy. Women HAVE those parts, but guess what? They aren’t 100% contained in them. Or do you think men are 100% their penises? Aren’t men more than that? And if men ARE more than that, as in they’re intelligent beings with the ability to reason, isn’t their “worshipping of pussy” a matter of their own personal accountability? And if women are reduced to a pussy they simply happen to be born with by chance, and men worship that, is it really women who are to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/21 06:34 PM |
| 3 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?It’s not used to support valid debates about black oppression. It’s used to support interventions and elucidate systemic injustice. I would argue that there’s a big difference there. When we argue against racial oppression we aren’t justifying crime or cruelty, we are calling out poverty, harmful social norms, and systemic hurdles. Men have indisputably and for thousands of years occupied the highest rungs of human social hierarchies. Oppression isn’t the issue they are facing. The issues men ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/21 06:31 PM |
| 3 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?It’s obvious that female abusers exist. I have helped a friend (male) of my partner’s escape an abusive relationship by getting him connected with resources and a lawyer. What in my post indicated all men are bad? Can you please point out the part that said that? Bancroft’s work specifically targets the attitudes of men who are confirmed to be abusers, not every man who ever was. Your citation is an example of a horrifying crime - no more no less. It still has nothing to do with my cited quote n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/21 06:25 PM |
| 4 | The myth of male leadership.I currently work with 99.9% women and holy sh** is it different and amazing compared to literally every other career experience I’ve had. I successfully started my own business and primarily write for a living, so I get to decide exactly who I work with and how it goes. Best and hardest choice I ever made. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 06:10 PM |
| 2 | I’m adopting a rescue dog whose been hurt by scrotes on the streets 🥺What a CUTIE! The same phenomenon is common in cats. My boi Norbert is HELLA sketched out by men. He’s a Savannah so he’s enormous and he either hides behind me when a new man arrives or goes into protecc mode and stares them down and gets between me and them ;___; My heart shatters every single time. When my current partner first met Norbert, the sweet baby looked perplexed and instead of going into threat mode just kinda sat down by my side and did his lil head tilt “serval ear” curiosity look… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 06:01 PM |
| 4 | Ah yes, the "good old days" of the 1950s. A time where if a man cheated on his wife, it's HER fault for having an unbleached vagina.I just imagined the sensation of using...actual Lysol (???) in my hoochie and my soul decided to leave my body and enter the abyss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 05:54 PM |
| 44 | Worst date you blocked and deleted afterwards?I’m not sure if this counts as a date because it never HAPPENED with the scrote but... I got stood up once because, and I quote, he “didn’t think I could be real and I must be a catfish who he needed to teach a lesson” (??? He DM’d this the next day on the app?). I ended up inviting this really cute girl from a club we were in to meet me at the restaurant, treated her to a great dinner & cocktails, and ended up with a wonderful night and next morning :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:13 PM |
| 20 | ¯\_(ツ)_/¯Completely random thought but why do so many stripper poses look like the woman is about to take a dump? Is this some subliminal male poo fantasy? So many questions and I don’t want to know the answers to any of them 😐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:05 PM |
| 6 | I am to be punishedAbusers telling on themselves is a powerful thing, and I’m really glad you and others are sharing your experiences when it happens. Knowing how this mentality operates is SO important if we’re going to protect ourselves and others, and I think it’s hard to fully grasp the depth of the entitlement and twisted views these men hold until it’s revealed by experiences such as the one you described. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 04:02 PM |
| 18 | Don't wait for a "Special Day" to do or wear something...The day I started wearing makeup while wearing pajamas was the day I ascended to a new level of daily joy. There are no rules, ladies, it turns out people made them up. Wear the glitter! Adorn yourself in jewels as you lounge majestically upon your velvet (or faux leather) sofa and watch true crime docs! Seriously though I love the “the day is special when I f***ing say it is” mentality and I’m glad we’re all on board with it ✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 03:58 PM |
| 34 | Lundy was mentioned in PPD today and funnily enough, all the redpill men in the comments were proving this exact quote.God bless you and give you the strength not to go ballistic at the scrotes. I salute you brave explorer pls don’t hate me for dragging the misogyny into the blinding light for all to see...I just wanted to prove a point to anyone who lurks on there or doesn’t think the abuser mentality is common ;___; Truly did not think it would get THAT much attention but hey, it’s basically my way of showing everyone that YEP, WE TRIED TO TELL Y’ALL THAT LARGE NUMBERS OF MEN REALLY THINK THIS WAY. Skeptics un… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 03:51 PM |
| 51 | Lundy was mentioned in PPD today and funnily enough, all the redpill men in the comments were proving this exact quote.I understand what you mean about not going there with ppd men, but I actually posted this one as a sort of awareness campaign for a) women who need to understand how these men and their mentalities operate in real time and b) men who might question that kind of mentality and start to think “wait...what the fuck?” when they see it. A few women and men have commented or messaged me with a response of “I had no idea how ridiculously real this kind of crazy distortion was and I’m now so much more aw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 03:49 PM |
| 132 | Lundy was mentioned in PPD today and funnily enough, all the redpill men in the comments were proving this exact quote.I POSTED THIS and holy Jesus did it confirm everything Bancroft was saying...the sheer amount of distortions and victim mentality in the comments gave me a hernia. Amazing. Iconic. 10/10 would poke beehive again because it did what I wanted it to do - gave an outlet to demonstrate how common and absolutely irrational this “women are the ones who make men abuse them but also are making up abuse but also abuse men” mentality is 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 03:46 PM |
| 2 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?Damn this has been my experience too, and the experience of thousands of other women who have shared their stories or, recently, caught that kind of abuse on video...but of course we must be making it up because women are devious and feminists are trying to take over the world /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/21 03:44 PM |
| 2 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?Actually Bancroft addresses this throughout the book - most abusers who end up in jail or rehabilitation programs (not criminally charged in many cases) are not mentally ill when clinically evaluated. It’s not their feelings or impulses that lead them to abuse, it’s their beliefs and value systems. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/21 03:42 PM |
| 1 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?I can see where you’re coming from, but power is very relative and therefore one person can occupy many different places in a multitude of hierarchies. A woman CEO can still be threatened and beaten by her lower earning husband at home. A man CEO can still be threatened with being isolated from his kids by his stay at home wife. Power imbalances happen on so many levels that it’s hard to classify where one social norm - ie gendered power imbalances - ends and another begins, at times. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/21 03:40 PM |
| 1 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?I want to specifically address one comment you made out of interest in the implications: Is “worshipping pussy” the same as worshipping (privileging) WOMEN, or is it in fact a reduction? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/21 03:37 PM |
| 3 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?Because they statistically commit more violent crimes, to answer your question, but I think there’s plenty to be said about how social norms contribute to that situation and push men toward circumstances in which they resort to crime. An argument could be made that men generally have less support socially and when they run into mental illness or bad financial circumstances, they have fewer options to turn toward. Hence, criminal activity is one of the only ways out that they can see. I think Ban… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/21 03:34 PM |
| 2 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?I never mentioned TRP but go off lol. And yes, actually, I’ve literally known a man who would hit his girlfriend and completely unironically say “you just make me feel this way, you do this sh** and what do you expect me to do?” This sh** meant, usually, telling him to stop calling her names and maybe actually respect other people in his life? Abusers ARE preposterous, though - their beliefs are not based on the reality most people are living in. So in my opinion it’s not “all men are abusers” b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/21 03:30 PM |
| 1 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat Knock yourself out bro | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/21 03:25 PM |
| 2 | A Quote by Dr. Lundy Bancroft in “Why Does He Do That?”: Thoughts?Personally - and I mean this as diplomatically as it can be said, as I’m speaking from where I stand here - this perspective seems melodramatic and kind of...insane to me? But I can’t speak for your personal experiences, and if that’s truly how things have seemed for you then it’s certainly unfortunate. Based on my own experiences, and those of my loved ones, abuse is common but not in any of the ways you’ve described. It’s a matter of being controlled, degraded, physically assaulted, and made t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/21 03:24 PM |
| 5 | Tik Tok & Other Video Platforms As A Weapon Against Abusive MenIt’s such a personal decision, and I wish I had a good answer for you as to whether or not posting such a thing would do good for others. Ultimately I think it’s a matter of introspection and picturing how such videos could have helped you or not helped back when you were in an abusive situation. You’re very brave and extremely smart for taking and keeping those videos!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 07:53 PM |
| 3 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseMe too! I did study culture/politics & religion as my core majors in college but I doubt I’ll ever get a PhD or even necessarily go to grad school - but maaaaybe learning about this kind of thing would inspire me to spend that time/money! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 03:56 PM |
| 6 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseThat’s a really rough situation, I can’t speak for anyone and I’m cautious about sharing opinions because I’m rather blindingly white, but the horrible interactions I had were ALWAYS with North Indian guys that had sex complexes. I know all regions of this earth have problems but damn...not gonna secondhand traumatize everyone here with what I dealt with, but suffice it to say I learned a lot about how dangerous men can be when they truly feel immune to consequences. I do find that guys from cer… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 03:54 PM |
| 52 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseAssam! His family did most of the decorating for the Kamakhya temple. My current partner is Arab and is also very much against patriarchal norms, partly due to a unique female-ordered home culture that’s a minority (within a minority?) in his home country. It seems like a lot of the heavily patriarchal countries have these random hidden mini-groups that are just...really feminist. I’m sure there’s a thesis in there somewhere 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 10:52 PM |
| 16 | Question: Sexist friendThis is why I removed male “friends” from my life tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 09:06 PM |
| 114 | Just a heads up, this is MENA men and their way of thinking. Theyll string a girl along for 4 years, sleep with her countless times, and then once hes had enough using her as a cum rag he'll bring home a 'virgin' wife to marry, and if he finds out said wife isn't a virgin all hell breaks looseWhile living in India I saw a prevalence of this attitude, and I felt furious for a lot of my female friends who had been conditioned to view it as totally normal. These dudes would go crazy for even the barest chance at sex and then berate their girlfriends for glancing at another man. I am surprised I didn’t resort to murder. My ex was Indian but was from a matriarchal, goddess-worshipping region in the northeast, and he was super grossed out by other guys’ views on women. MENA cultures are ob… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 09:04 PM |
| 91 | Gaslighting, manipulation and mental abuse in 60 seconds. How much do we bet that he also expects his girlfriends to pay for his food and calls her ride or die when she forgives his cheating?I think it was probably the other way around - they hated us for being the life creators so they had to make up a story to justify their scrotacity and blame us for their (many) failings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 10:06 PM |
| 10 | Straight, white, often fat, male woes 😆Literally every man who stormed the Capitol recently 😒😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 08:39 PM |
| 11 | When she has better optionsThe freaking drawn out sound of the car ignition KILLED ME 😂😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 08:36 PM |
| 1 | How would you want society to address “sexlessness”?Sorry, but no matter how I look at this it’s an irrational and frankly bizarre argument. Not to mention illogically vindictive?? This isn’t about some weird imaginary “genetic fairness” scale, it’s about actual people and making their lives better and more fulfilling. We live in the real world, not a strange “if I’m suffering you must suffer too” fantasy dystopia. I’ll also add that the metrics used to measure intelligence in the cited studies you linked to are very limited, and don’t provide a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/21 11:58 PM |
| 8 | How would you want society to address “sexlessness”?This is a far more intelligent and nuanced perspective than most of the replies here, IMO. Why humans must make enemies of completely un-hostile groups when elites f*** them over and the economy is sh** is a mystery to me. Y’all’s problem isn’t WOMEN, it’s rampant corruption, economic collapse, and an entire global political system that treats 99% of you as disposable resources to exploit. If anything it’s women who’ve been most actively protesting these conditions and starting movements to chal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/21 10:06 PM |
| 1 | How would you want society to address “sexlessness”?Or just...make men LESS prone to mutations? Why tf would you drag women down out of some kind of genetic abomination complex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/21 10:01 PM |
| 9 | How would you want society to address “sexlessness”?I mean...statistically women are happier and healthier (https://yaleglobal.yale.edu/content/should-women-stay-single) when they AREN’T married, so I don’t think “a lack of marriageable men” is much of an issue. If you look at places like South Korea and Japan it’s the opposite situation and women are now deliberately avoiding marriage and men in order to pursue careers and higher goals. I think men will have to make it look more attractive for women to marry them, or get left out of the mating g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/21 09:58 PM |
| 32 | I don't even know what to say anymore at this pointsavethedonkeys2021 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 06:15 PM |
| 4 | How can the porn/sex industry be so empowering to women...I deeply appreciate your first point here - if your “empowerment” depends on men, how empowered can you possibly be?! It’s a succinct statement that perfectly encapsulates the issue with porn/sex work arguments that equate exploitation with validation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 11:09 PM |
| 8 | This sad. We have a second invisible global pandemic happening and its called male narcissismThis is serious sh** but it TRULY reminded me of those videos/posts that are like, “what’s the dumbest thing your toddler has cried/had a tantrum about.” Useless. Man. Babies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 09:14 PM |
| 9 | "How are you still single?" is not a complimentI used to just say “I’m busy” as an answer to this, but FDS has been great about instilling the “no answer is the best answer” philosophy. Much more peaceful that way 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 08:58 PM |
| 17 | What’s the worst neg you got?“Yeah well I have the strangest feeling that you’ve got a really small dick for someone that arrogant” Jussayin’ 💅🏻 I don’t recall being directly negged before but I’m sure some idiot has tried. I did have a guy say “you look so classy but you’re so SCRAPPY” to me once. I took it as a compliment but now I wonder if it was meant to be a neg??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 08:53 PM |
| 19 | Vile monster confesses to SHOOTING his wife’s beloved pet cat. Wife makes excuses for her deranged spouse, and basically ends the post with “Gosh, men are so dang silly, aren’t they??” Sigh. R.I.P. to the poor kitty, honestly.There’s so much to unpack here but like...what the fuck? That male scum-creature would be getting a “just barely pumped” round of pellets directly to the ballsack if it were me. Where I come from we call that neutering a Tom the old fashioned way. Also who lets their cat be outside 24/7 if it constantly gets the crap beat out of it? That’s just f’d up in its own way... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 08:50 PM |
| 10 | Why do men pm women of this sub to ask questions about things they could easily google?One thing I’ve found usually stops this cycle (besides blocking, but they sometimes make more accounts to return with) is to just say “okay!” to literally every insult. Not sure why, but they just...can’t seem to respond? It’s like the response shorts out the useless baby man circuits in their brains | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 04:28 AM |
| 3 | The reason most women are indirect with rejections...is that we are afraid of retaliation.But that .00000001% might kill you, and every single one of us knows at least one other woman who has experienced violence at the hands of a man. Frankly the stats you and well-meaning others spout don’t add up to the reality of what it’s like to be a woman. The harassment we experience for being “direct” is in and of itself terrible enough to justify dancing around the rejection - I would tentatively guess you’ve never been threatened, cussed out, or accused of all kinds of character flaws simp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/01/21 10:20 PM |
| 2 | Here is what my hijab (headscarf) taught me about male entitlement, the male gaze, and the conditionality of men's treatment of womenCommenting to follow shamelessly in case of book recs 🤓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:00 PM |
| 0 | Here is what my hijab (headscarf) taught me about male entitlement, the male gaze, and the conditionality of men's treatment of womenI’m really happy to hear more Muslim radfem perspectives on here and elsewhere, because initially I was super defensive and conflicted about people knowing me to be a Muslim convert (you can see in my post and comment history that it’s been a source of conflict in my mind and life). I wear hijab only when going to the mosque - this is for several reasons, most of them my own and personal/cultural/spiritual, but also...twice I was spit at while wearing a headscarf. As a privileged white woman it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Healthy Male Crying Vs Manipulative Displays Of EmotionI definitely can appreciate your perspective and the provider aspect of things is a big part of why I’m able to feel fairly secure with my boyfriend, especially because he knows I don’t have any kind of need for his provision. I’m defensive about the Muslim thing because I’ve been (literally) spit on and attacked for it by those claiming to be “liberal” or progressive. It’s disheartening. I’d have to be totally blind to not see the toxicity of certain Muslim cultures and common beliefs held by p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 02:44 AM |
| -3 | Healthy Male Crying Vs Manipulative Displays Of EmotionAlso, what he’s done for me is a looong list girl. I STRICTLY follow FDS standards in all my relationships and this one is, so far, as much a textbook FDS-friendly relationship as I have seen. I don’t say it lightly, and I’m not a particularly subjective person about romance. Trust me, I have no issues cutting men out and down when I have to. I’m very fulfilled by my relationship and please don’t use group members’ innocent, completely unrelated posts to derail them. It’s not cool, even when you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 02:58 AM |
| 1 | Healthy Male Crying Vs Manipulative Displays Of EmotionI respect that, personally I don’t mind it and it’s not an issue in my current context. If he did it a lot...that would be pretty sketch and honestly irritating. It’s not, so I just wait for him to work through it. But to each their own and you’re justified in being extra careful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 02:54 AM |
| -3 | Healthy Male Crying Vs Manipulative Displays Of EmotionInstead of making baseless assumptions such as that I “converted to HIS faith” (as if I have no personal autonomy), maybe you should take a breath and not jump into another woman like this. I converted on my own BEFORE we started dating - I majored in Cultural Studies and I loved learning about Muslim theology, and as I delved into the basic tenets of intellectualism and personal empowerment celebrated by Islam in the golden age/before the rise of Sunni Wahhabism, I felt drawn to it. My boyfrien… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 02:50 AM |
| 28 | Having fun isn’t hard... when you stalk girls getting a library card.Adding to the confirmation here, this has also happened to me while filing university health paperwork...I guess we can’t even speak freely anymore without creepy motherf***ers considering it an invitation. (Spoiler alert: they’re never looking for an invitation, they’re looking for an opportunity.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 06:39 PM |
| 48 | Sounds like Jane has standards to me! Be like Jane :)Over time I’ve realized that the issues inherent in this dynamic will NOT NEED TO BE EXPLAINED to a hvm. They’ll take it as obvious and it probably wouldn’t occur to them that there’s something odd about a woman feeling disrespected by a man’s willingness to spend intimate 1:1 time with another woman (especially a single one who he frequently FTs and texts). It’s a big “duh” moment and men who play dumb about it are automatically sketchy and LVM in my experience 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Here is a picture of the men who stormed the Capitol building today:Holy moly, someone get the harpoons and call in captain Ahab - we’re seeing some great white whales up in here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 04:22 PM |
| 5 | If you're considering becoming a sex worker, read this.I was a “successful” SB briefly in college - it’s a stupid industry full of miserable or, at best, boring older men. There’s no class or glamour in it for us and it burns you out within a week of going on paid dates. It FEELS wrong on a visceral level and it’s inherently degrading. I luckily never went so far as to get deeply traumatized but I entered the industry FROM trauma. Therapy did wonders for me. I’ll toot my horn a bit and encourage you all - I’m now making a VERY handsome income as a p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 11:35 PM |
| 16 | Wife gets cancer and husband abandons her at the hospitalI have to believe in Hell or I’d be unable to stop myself from hunting men like this down and amputating both their balls and their heads with a dull sword | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:00 AM |
| 52 | Wife gets cancer and husband abandons her at the hospitalI’d walk him into traffic (assuming he has life insurance) :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 12:59 AM |
| 33 | 31yo is upset he can't go to college parties. Weird obsession with "young love" and immature, vulnerable girlsImagine being so boring and unaccomplished at age 31 that “getting with bitchy young hotties” is the pinnacle of your ambition and desire | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?What if marriage isn’t important to women anymore? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 12:09 AM |
| 1 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?Well to be totally honest I’ve never been at the bottom because I’m privileged, so to go to the economic bottom would only happen if I willfully chose to commit to someone far less advantaged than I. On the other hand, my partner and I have faced many challenges together due to circumstance and it’s given us a very happy, thriving relationship. I feel he is my equal and he feels I’m higher up than him on the SMP scale. So I suppose my next question is: how do you define the “bottom” a couple mus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 12:55 AM |
| 2 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?Interesting! But are hoe vs housewife the only roles? Why would one wish to turn a hoe into a housewife or vice versa at all? I feel like it’s such a dichotomized view and limits our collective relationship potential | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?I like to think that the ills can be remedied by a win-win arrangement based on equity, rather than “these ills vs those ills.” Idealistic? Perhaps, but I still see it as possible when social norms favor such collaboration :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 12:49 AM |
| 1 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?Interesting, I hadn’t read that statistic. I’ll try to keep an open mind though! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?Isn’t arguing for artificial mate control (as in men being given a guarantee of sexual opportunity) sexual socialism? After all, if we think of sex as a “marketplace” and people as consumers, the same principles of competition and a free market (hypergamy) vs systemic controls and redistribution, the same economic principles would apply | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 12:44 AM |
| -2 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?So to clarify, is your premise that men only exert effort to the extent that it guarantees access to women? I feel like you’re making a more nuanced point, but this did stand out to me. If so I would respectfully argue that this isn’t the case for a significant number of men but I could also see why it might be a baseline assumption. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?Interesting perspective - and what of the women who don’t actively desire marriage? How does hypergamy play out for that population? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 12:39 AM |
| 1 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?What about the social ills caused by those controls? I’m actually a Muslim woman in a happy, equitable relationship with a Muslim man, so I’m especially intrigued by your response on a personal level! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?Would you say that the issue is more about incentive (why should women date if they don’t care about children & have their own money) or is it more a matter of males and females not adjusting to changing roles at the same speed? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 12:37 AM |
| 0 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?How would you define a rational method of choosing? What are the parameters? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 12:35 AM |
| 0 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?I find that there’s some nuanced missed by many in TRP or similar communities on this point. The main nuance is that, generally speaking, people behave quite differently in the “mate seeking” and “relationship building” arenas. This comes with significant hormonal changes along with the social behaviors, too, such as the increase in vasopressin in males who are in a relationship and the lowering of testosterone for females who are committed to a man. Thanks you your thoughtful response! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?What would your definition of “toiling together” entail? Are we assuming an equal allocation of labor and economic opportunity (which, let’s be honest, just ends up being the allocation of power)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?I personally haven’t encountered any cheating amongst my female peers, but assuming it’s a problem on the scale you’re suggesting I can certainly understand your viewpoint! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 12:30 AM |
| 1 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?You tell me! Why shouldn’t they be? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/12/20 12:29 AM |
| 1 | Why Shouldn’t Women Be Hypergamous?Oh boy, that’s a lot to unpack. I’ll start with the end and we can work backwards. Am I correct in observing that you just said “we stopped doing rape?” As in...rape isn’t a problem anymore, thus proving we have transcended “the wild world of nature?” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/20 11:57 PM |
| 21 | Porn causes mental illness and paraphilia and everyday there is a post like this one asking if it’s ok to be bothered by this apologetically. How to keep shifting the tide?If you have to ASK people (esp people you don’t even know) how YOU feel...that’s usually where your problems begin my girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 11:27 PM |
| 32 | woahOr you could say it’s pretty...DARN awesome! YARN awesome??? Idk but there are puns afoot | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 11:34 PM |
| 7 | Women are constantly made to feel bad over their body count being pass 4 or 5 yet praise men for have 10+. It’s just complete hypocritical bullshit“Tremendously stupid” is the perfect way to convey the mindset of the collective male species at this point | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 06:39 PM |
| 41 | AhahahahahahahaGod I love that so much, he’s out here telling on himself like only a professional nobody could | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Women don’t find the majority of men attractive because we tried to make men and women equal, but women are not attracted to their equal.Ok but have most of y’all ever like, looked out a window at the real, actual world where most men end up married? And most long term couples gasp actually love and respect each other? What does this weird dystopian role-play gain you? Sure, each member of a couple has strengths and weaknesses and in-betweens, but why is that equated with inequality? Good lord, if my boyfriend was better at my extremely niche career than I was, my ego would have an aneurysm. Likewise if I were equal to him in his… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/20 04:59 AM |
| 2 | Why “nice guys finish last”Well, I feel like socially anxious is one thing whereas socially awkward is another. I’m very outgoing and talkative, my boyfriend isn’t - we were friends for years and I was always trying to be his wingwoman to help him get with girls. He wasn’t awkward, though, just anxious and therefore shy. The awkward guys were the ones who made ME personally uncomfortable in some sort of direct way. Like inappropriate comments, staring in a rude way, hovering without contributing to conversations...that ki… | /r/seduction | 23/12/20 04:44 AM |
| 5 | It doesn’t matter what you look like or wear: if you’re identified as a woman, you’re a target for harassmentI’m so sorry you had to go through such a frightening experience, and I’m so grateful that fate and luck were on your side that night. You deserve - MORE than deserve - the freedom to live your life and take a goddamn walk without having to worry about your safety. I wish people were better friends to you, but you sound like a beautiful and intuitive person. I have faith your tribe will find you soon and you’ll be safe and happy. You’ve got a lot of online sisters behind you, my friend, and you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 03:26 AM |
| 2 | A picture is worth a thousand words“HE GAVE HIMSELF A LIL BOOTY” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 09:31 PM |
| 10 | Not funny in any way, shape or form.Because most of them aren’t evolved. They’re just animals with the minimal level of adaptation necessary to exist within a society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 08:52 PM |
| 44 | Thought experimentI love this. In specifically work related situations I literally sit there like “would Cleopatra VII, Queen of Egypt, the adored living goddess of the holy River, the bearer of the harvest, ruler of the dawn and evening star, stand for this BEHAVIOR?” Anyway my income has tripled and I started a business. Shit works, sisters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 08:47 PM |
| 11 | You know who is ok? The women in this subreddit“Useless baby men” should be a flair 😂💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 08:41 PM |
| 10 | Anorexia Fetishists/Pedophiles Deep-dive by Former AnorexicI'm beyond the ability to be surprised at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 06:42 PM |
| 22 | obese entitled scrote thinks he deserves better than his gf despite being a LVMHe hates her for dating his fat ass - RIGHT!!! Men will project self-hatred onto their partners every. single. time. It's completely predictable and I wish more of us were taught to spot this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 05:26 PM |
| 33 | Man deceives GF to gain access to private conversation not meant for his ears, and humiliates her grandparents openly, because the fact that he is fluent in her native language simply "never came up"My only caveat here is that from the post, it sounds like they were talking sh** right in front of him. I was raised to understand that switching languages like that in front of a guest is extremely rude - there's plenty of time to express one's negative opinions after the guest has left the room. This family was being un-classy and downright mean, regardless of how well-founded their views might be. I say this because I wouldn't exactly call this "eavesdropping." But I also think it's sketch as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 05:22 PM |
| 10 | Sex Pozzy Columnist Nadia Bokody defends PornHub and says that our conflicting feelings on porn are because we’ve been “taught women couldn’t be powerful & sexual”(link in pic#5). I took screenshots of all the “EmPoWeRmEnt” from the hottest US videos on PornHub.Has she ever, in her life, perused one single page of porn video titles? Ever? Even once? Because it sounds like she DEFINITELY has not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 05:18 PM |
| 27 | 😂😂Men telling on themselves like this should be an Olympic sport. 10/10 would watch with friends & wine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 05:16 PM |
| 12 | A Quote From Robin Morgan.This is one of the best quotes I've read in a long time - thanks for sharing it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 05:14 PM |
| 2 | This documentary shows exactly why FDS is necessary.I watched the whole thing, it's a very insightful film with a lot of research that went into it. I used some of the sources in an article I published about reforming sex ed in our schools - so thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 03:45 PM |
| 3 | Maturely handling accusations of "not being able to find a man.""Who the hell said I was looking?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/20 03:28 PM |
| 11 | Look at us poor men suffering agugugu why is life so unfair nNnnNn women have it so easy i hate those bitches why wont they let me fuck them aaaaaa"Boo hoo I have no self-awareness and it's all women's fault and also they won't give me pussy and that makes my life so HARD waaaAAAAAAAAAA!!!!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Ladies of exredpill, do you like the strong, sensitive type of man?My partner is the strong and sensitive type, and I feel so safe and cherished with him because of it. I am not as expressive in some ways so he balances me out and makes me find ways to communicate better - in return I try to be a source of strength and support for him as he pursues his goals and dedicates himself to a shared future. I have never done well with stoic types for the simple reason that I AM a stoic type, and someone needs to be the emotion-initiator in a functional relationship. My… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/10/20 06:21 PM |
| 11 | When your ex messages you on Google docsHoly moly I thought I had seen it all, but this is a new one! These dudes really will do anything to stick around! Time to set all my old docs to private... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 05:49 PM |
| 36 | Women here who've said that women are pickier than men: why and how do you think women are picky?Well, if a bad decision could very realistically result in your death, disfigurement, traumatization, or ruination of your entire life plan, you'd be wise to be picky about that decision right? Over time, that pickiness would become an instinct passed on biologically and through socialization, correct? But honestly, I feel like the bigger problem these days is that most men aren't picky ENOUGH - many will have sex with or surface-level date someone who isn't really up to their specific standards… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/10/20 08:57 PM |
| 20 | DICK. SIZE. MATTERS. SAY IT with your CHEST!Frankly, I refuse to be with someone who doesn't make me orgasm every single time. And guess what? I, shockingly, orgasm every time I have sex now. Because I deserve pleasure as much as I know I give it, and I won't drop that standard and never have. Just wait for someone you're compatible with, gals! It's beyond worth it for you both! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Men find new ways to astound and disappointment me every single dayTreat a dog like that, especially a strong and independent breed like a pitty, and what you'll eventually get is your throat torn out or some missing fingers. The way he treats his animals is abuse. Women, we ought to take a lesson from animals who allow nature to guide them when it comes to defending themselves - if you have to bide your time to stay safe, do that, and strike when you can. Also...don't starve your f***ing pets. And don't allow a man to treat you like an abused dog. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 12:33 AM |
| 1 | Men do not understand their women, because women themselves don’t know eho they areWould you be so kind as to link to the study? I love learning about gender differences via social psychology. Also, experientially, most males in a given society/subset tend to find the same women attractive. That is why these women are labeled "attractive" to begin with, in a general sense. Women on most forums I have seen also frequently ask "how to do x" or "get x" - perhaps the differences you are noting are merely language differences, which do exist between genders and are well-studied. It… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 07:51 PM |
| 10 | Men do not understand their women, because women themselves don’t know eho they areHumans are social creatures by nature. It's how we evolved to be, hence why the STS, FFA, and other social regions of our brains - plus various socially vital parts of our anatomy such as the face and vocal chords - are so complex compared to other species. Seeking opinions from others within a social group and peer network is how most PEOPLE, including women, inform, refine, and develop their opinions and identities. People aren't born with ready-made identities or personalities, we develop the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 07:13 PM |
| 5 | Which one of you ladies did this? 😂This woman is what all girls should learn to be from day one. He disrespects you? Done. Bam boom over - you, as a woman, have a billion options and you don't need to feel like this one is the best out there when he obviously isn't. If he didn't want her to react, he shouldn't have made it necessary for her to do so in order to preserve her dignity and self-respect. He should have been protecting that for her. The fact that other dudes take his side is hardly surprising, it's just hilariously con… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 06:20 PM |
| 21 | The Chris Watts case: how our vetting can save livesI really think this point deserves its own post - the connection is so clear yet so ignored. "The ability to value sex over the value of a person" IS a huge sign of a sociopath, and it should be viewed as such by every normal person! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 03:17 PM |
| 4 | Find a healthy obsession, something you never want to stop engaging in. If you have one, what is your obsession?Writing (also my career, which has taken a lot of pride and passion to build), indigenous archeology and Paleolithic anthropology, blogging, and reading (and not as in minor hobby level...I read over 100 books a year). Definitely keeps life in perspective, and these are just the more intense passions I have! Plenty of smaller ones, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 08:29 PM |
| 1 | This is why you should never date a man who does steroids. Juicy meathead sub be like "FDS is MiSrEpRuHsEnTiNg us!!!" Also juicy meathead sub:My partner is a bodybuilder and initially I was very cautious because of that fact. In my eyes, you should do EXTRA vetting on any male who goes out of his way to be more physically capable of doing harm, just as a survival tactic. If he is like my boyfriend who just really values feeling and looking his best, great - but if that changes or isn't the case, it's not worth the risk of staying. I'm a certified self defense instructor who also bow hunts and tracks and all, so I am kind of intimately… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:26 PM |
| 2 | I am so, so sad for this woman 🥺 literally going through textbook cycle of abuse but her culture & family forced her to stay and reproduce with this NVM. It won't get better but she is conditioned to be excited by so little at this pointWhen I let people know that I'm dating a muslim man, they always see THIS kind of male in their mind's eye. Unfortunately it's so pervasive that I really don't blame them, despite my own partner being a categorically HV man. The religion is one thing and I love being a part of it, but good gracious, the cultural issues make me so angry I could honestly take a sword to POS dudes like the one in OPs post without any regret or guilt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 02:56 PM |
| 11 | Roll call! HVWs partnered with HVMs: what does your relationship look like?Oh man, I don't even know where to start. My partner is so generous and thoughtful that I honestly find it hard to even keep up - for example he planned out a whole weekend of apple picking, renting a boat on a lake, and antique-buying (then a nice dinner) simply because these are all things I've expressed adoration for in passing and he wants to make me happy. He is an absolute 10/10 in looks and I feel so turned on by him at the most random times! He's a biomed engineer, bodybuilder, and one o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 02:45 PM |
| 10 | For those almost a year shy of being single- what do you Not miss? 😛Wait this IS relatable....what is up with them not having functional intestines or colons?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 12:53 AM |
| 16 | Has anyone seen Netflix Love on the Spectrum?I was actually wondering about this, as I was uncomfortable with the intensity of the "romance" these men displayed before getting to know a girl. My thought was that it seemed more like they were following the stereotypes of romance out of fear of doing the Wrong Thing and I'm not sure how genuine it is. I wouldn't say they chase anyone who isn't interested but the romance doesn't = healthy approach to dating at all...the women dating women seem healthier to me, as they make a lot of thoughtful… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 03:10 PM |
| 2 | FDS AMTA/ supportSo what if he's hurting? That's life. He'll get over it. You shouldn't have to justify your own life choices to anyone - you did what you wanted to do, what you needed to do to be happy, and that's that. His poor coping skills surely aren't your problem, and he's waaaay overstepping boundaries. I'm a bit concerned that he'd show up at your place like that, it's very stalker-esque. Be safe, girl! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 02:21 PM |
| 3 | The time my ex gaslighted me about having cancerA guy tried this on me once and I deadass said "sorry, that sucks, but I'm not sure why you're bringing that up right now since it's irrelevant" and proceeded with the dumping. I was in high school - guess I was always a savage! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 02:14 PM |
| 17 | Lesbian Finds Out What It's Like Being in a Relationship With an Average ManADHD is tricky, and it requires a LOT of structure and support. At age 30, however, you should have learned coping strategies! I'm 23 and I have been embarrassed by my own forgetfulness, messiness, etc, so I learned to work on it. Even before my diagnosis, I read up on organization skills, time management, etc. so I could be better and not piss off anyone who lives with me. Therapy and medication have helped immensely but honestly, for the day to day stuff, reading a billion self-help books was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 08:22 PM |
| 5 | ExactlyWait - related but unrelated - do I have to actually go in and DELETE my account or is deleting the app enough? I thought if I removed the app from my phone my profile would be gone but now that I'm thinking about it, that's pretty stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 11:03 PM |
| 1 | ‘I broke up with her, she’s moved on with her life, now I want her back’- NEGATIVE VALUE MALEI love this happy ending for her, love to see it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 04:57 PM |
| 9 | Aparna from Indian MatchmakingThe Queen vibes are great with her, but what I don't understand is WHY she is on the show - she really, REALLY doesn't seem to actually want to be married! I wonder if she is just doing this because she has internalized the message that she has to check marriage off her list to be truly successful. I also wonder if her selfish attitude and lack of self-awareness is actually a symptom of resenting this inner expectation and feeling like she has to sacrifice her ideal life for the one that she's b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 04:54 PM |
| 2 | Had a first date that a friend arranged for me and this guy not only was very nice and put together but he changed a stranger’s tire who got a flat on their way into the parking lot!This is so sweet and a nice little green flag! Funny story, my boyfriend was driving me back to my house a while back, and we saw this girl whose bumper had fallen off her car. He jumped out and in 5 seconds he was under her car with me supporting him with visuals, him in a tight black T and me in just a sports bra, fixing it up for her lmao - she was fanning herself like "wow." I think my bi energy + his manliness really did her in, poor thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 04:39 PM |
| 2 | Dumped LVMCongratulations on doing the right thing for yourself! And hey, almost everything miraculous and amazing in life involves pain, right up to birth and transformation. Caterpillars have to dissolve themselves to come out as butterflies, soon you'll be spreading your wings <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 05:04 PM |
| 7 | REMINDER: Set High Standards to Filter Out LVM: Popular Gaming Youtuber Blasts Woman Over Text MessagesHoly crap, this is spectacularly cringey and embarassing for him, so glad people saved the video when he tried to delete it lmao! He is getting absolutely DECIMATED in these comments - thanks for giving me a huge laugh today, because this is the kind of crap that is finally being exposed and roasted properly, and man is it hilarious how pathetic these guys are. Absolutely amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 04:55 PM |
| 5 | Thank you FDS members for your support. Here is my update.I'm glad you found this sub, but if you stay with him - you are firmly in the LVW Pickmeisha territory. If you really want to be happy and live a life worthy of you as a woman, you're going to have to leave him. Sorry for being harsh, but we don't pull punches on this sub; men certainly don't, and I can 100% promise you that this man will (continue to) make your life miserable as long as you have any contact with him. Why don't you love yourself or want a great life enough to have already packed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 04:50 PM |
| 79 | Men battering women for rejecting them must come from more than just a sense of entitlement.Over the past 14 years (I’m 23) I’ve taken tae Kwon do, MMA, and general women’s self defense classes. Eventually I became certified to teach other women in groups of up to 10. So basically I learned from anywhere I could! And I continue to practice regularly on my own :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 04:24 PM |
| 160 | Men battering women for rejecting them must come from more than just a sense of entitlement.My friends called me “3 for 3” in college because I got into 3 fights at bars within a short period of time - each time a man was either touching me after I told him to f off, threatening a friend, or being a racist piece of entitled shit toward someone. They ALWAYS cry like little b*tches when you punch them in the face, despite them being all too willing to touch YOU without permission 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:49 PM |
| 2 | Are men really biologically hardwired to want to look at other women?Girl considering you post on RPW and obviously haven’t read the handbook, this may not be the place for you. I hope I’m wrong and you embrace our philosophy, but pleeeaase read the provided material and absorb it so you don’t waste your time with LVM like this guy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 03:19 AM |
| 41 | Queen from the startI believe this is covered in the handbook, but our view is generally that if he hasn’t pursued you by now, he isn’t actually interested. He may string you along or “go with it” if you bring up romance, but it’ll usually be half-assed at best. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 03:01 AM |
| 9 | Pursuing the guy????I read that book too and was confused because A lot of it was antithetical to FDS principles; I echo your sentiment that we ought to remove it from the list, personally! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 11:18 PM |
| 8 | Why do some women get disinterested in the men they find intellectual and smart, whom they like previously ?In my experience many “intellectual” men are/become arrogant and pretentious, or have a superiority complex. They may not mean to come off that way and it’s not a statement about men in general - but I’ve met a few like that. I’ve also met very intelligent men who are respectful and fun, so it’s just about being respected. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/07/20 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Besides confidence, what qualities attract women?Sadly, no...they’re not 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/seduction | 19/07/20 12:22 AM |
| 13 | Even when men have nothing they continue to have one thing. The Audacity.Why is he calling himself out like that though?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 02:51 PM |
| 160 | Besides confidence, what qualities attract women?Hygiene & self discipline. As in, smelling good & making effort with appearance, and not being overtly sexual or impulsive during courtship. | /r/seduction | 18/07/20 02:05 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Women don't really want "good men"That may be the case. I think if a woman has her druthers, she will be with a mostly-good AND strong man. Strength is also seen as synonymous with good: women are taught and conditioned to view it thus from a young age. Strong = leader, protector, etc - all good things, but the equivalency is false to begin with. Un-conditioning oneself is, as I said, a complicated matter. Weakness = cannot support you emotionally & will be a drain, will not control urges and so will be insecure & cheat, will en… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/20 12:32 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Women don't really want "good men"If there were completely good and completely bad men (or just people, for that matter) then yes, that would be the case. It would be a bold statement to say that there are such people, however. We do not base our feelings and judgments on the assumption that it could ever be possible to find a 100% “good” partner - how could we even define that? - but rather based on a sliding scale of “this person has many good qualities, and also they have flaws; I am able to focus on x y z good qualities and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 08:38 PM |
| 1 | What do you when a cold approach takes a picture of you?She felt threatened, which is reasonable, and took a picture in case she needed evidence in the event of an assault. Your lack of empathy for the female experience is why you failed. Same reason most men fail. | /r/seduction | 16/07/20 08:18 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone considered that treating humans like individuals might be the solution?That’s precisely the point TRP and many others fail to grasp - pain and bad experiences suck, but you’re still personally responsible for being reasonable and moral 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 08:11 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Women don't really want "good men"Your second response is what stands out to me - you essentially agreed with me, but it sounds as though you don’t empathize enough with women to view the back-and-forth as clinging to the “good” IMAGE and hope rather than seeing the situation objectively as unhealthy. But all of us as human beings find objectivity extremely challenging, or arguably impossible. So, I stand by my question as to whether it’s really emotional turmoil that “hooks” women, or if it’s the stubborn perception that their … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 07:46 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Women don't really want "good men"You keep saying you’ve “heard” about women saying these things, etc, which to me seems suspect. Are you really “observing” objectively or are you “observing” through a very specific lens? Have you been invested enough in your observations to speak to a decent sample of women and gain insight via their experiences, or are you primarily forming opinions based on a purely male perspective? Personally, if I must choose just one part of this view to address, I would ask you this: is it that women “do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/20 02:48 PM |
| 1 | I always thrived from starting off in the friend zoneMy current relationship grew naturally from a strong, long term friendship. He and I both dated other people from time to time and bonded through shared experiences, and now we’ve been happily together for a good while. The intimacy and attraction is much more powerful than it would have been with someone I didn’t trust on that level. | /r/seduction | 15/07/20 07:03 PM |
| 1 | A speculation about the alpha male.I can understand why you would see it that way, however the data (and personal experience, though that’s less relevant to this conversation) would seem to indicate that women are actually happier, not less happy. So, perhaps it is more a matter of change occurring rapidly without the kinds of checks and balances that would make such social and economic transitions less destabilizing for certain groups of people? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/20 01:15 PM |
| 2 | A speculation about the alpha male.Thank you for sharing your perspective, definitely something to ponder. I hope that our societies will evolve to find compromises that fulfill needs on both ends of the gender and socioeconomic spectrums without losing touch with our democratic freedoms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/20 01:12 PM |
| 2 | A speculation about the alpha male.Wouldn’t the sheer number of marriages, LTRs, and partnerships (which still statistically outweigh the number of chronically single individuals by a wide margin) refute that concept? Having lived a very stable and privileged life, I’m not sure my own experiences would be particularly useful regarding this perception | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/20 05:53 AM |
| 1 | A speculation about the alpha male.Weren’t we referring specifically to historic examples (which of course have repercussions in today’s western world, not arguing against that point) or to examples that occur in strictly traditional societies? I’m not sure the ML example fits into the parameters I was considering, but I would point out that she received monetary compensation before and after the incident through increased pay and career advancement, settlements, and financial opportunities she wouldn’t have otherwise had, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/20 05:50 AM |
| 13 | Opinion: FDS works because, although it gives women tools, it isn’t a rigid worldview - it is dynamic.I appreciate you sharing your honest views and experiences, and I’m glad you have a way to continue to benefit from FDS in spite of some negative incidents. I hope that the positivity outweighs the pitfalls for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:47 AM |
| 1 | A speculation about the alpha male.In response to the historic sharing of a male, I have generally seen the “other” women outside of marriage categorized as mistresses, concubines, or prostitutes. All of these require some investment of material resources to acquire and maintain. Even enslaved women were generally housed, fed, and groomed to a greater extent when they fulfilled a sexual role. Courtesans and mistresses received everything from pensions to estates in return for their sexual and romantic services. Therefore I strugg… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/20 05:44 AM |
| 1 | A speculation about the alpha male.My personal experiences do not align with this paradigm, but I cannot pass accurate judgment on yours either. It isn’t so much a matter of disagreement as it is of differing realities, I suppose. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/20 05:39 AM |
| 3 | A speculation about the alpha male.Interesting. Historically speaking, and in more “traditional” societies today, would you say that the prevalence of political (rather than attraction-based) marriage had a portion in the willingness of women to share one resource-heavy male? I would also be interested to know your thoughts on the part that increased sexual agency paired with decreased collectivism (ie the move towards a heavily individualistic society) has played in the experiences of both sexes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/20 05:11 AM |
| 20 | Opinion: FDS works because, although it gives women tools, it isn’t a rigid worldview - it is dynamic.That is a valid concern and certainly worthy of discussion. I do genuinely feel that the founders and mods here have every intention of holding culturally-relevant and nuanced views, but even the most battle hardened FDSer is only human. I am sorry if you have had your experiences or feelings invalidated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:06 AM |
| 2 | A speculation about the alpha male.My relationship, by what I believe to be most people’s standards, would validate what I have expressed here. I cannot speak for my friends’ relationships as I would find it too difficult to analyze them from a truly objective standpoint. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/20 04:41 AM |
| 3 | A speculation about the alpha male.You are entitled to your view - but as expressed here, it contains no substance. May I ask to hear the reasons behind your perspectives? I won’t debate them, I’m simply intrigued | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/20 04:39 AM |
| 28 | Opinion: FDS works because, although it gives women tools, it isn’t a rigid worldview - it is dynamic.“Poisoning the same pool they’re fishing in” is a great way to put it, and the tendency they have of illogical stubbornness is maladaptive at best. I’m assuming most of them have very little real life experience outside of a few select incidents which they decide to build their entire identities around. FDS encourages women to be well rounded, and not to limit our lives even to the most traumatic or uprooting experiences - that’s the resilience both of us are talking about, which the manosphere … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 04:28 AM |
| 3 | A speculation about the alpha male.To be perfectly honest, I and every woman in my immediate friend group seem to agree on one “alpha” characteristic across the board - an alpha male is a self-disciplined male. As this tends to be antithetical to promiscuity, I find the premise of an “alpha” persona being related to sexual conquest very one dimensional and largely inaccurate. Self-control, whether of urges, words, behaviors, or views, is inherently extremely attractive in a male. This is because he is not only MORE likely to have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/20 02:10 AM |
| 48 | Aherm...what was that about women being too emotional & erratic to be effective leaders? Females are needed to steer us out of the chaos greedy & incompetent men created. Turns out our ability to think of others needs benefits everyone, including men. Female empowerment is much needed!This is one of the best things I have ever read | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 01:15 AM |
| 2 | How to let go of the yearning for marriage/ children?Honestly, I feel that yearning is simply a part of the human experience and isn’t inherently bad. Why not just get accustomed to the feeling, while cultivating awareness and reminding yourself that it can’t be fuel for your actions? After all, there’s no one in this life who doesn’t yearn for SOMETHING. Feelings don’t have to mean actions or behaviors, they’re just feelings :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 07:40 PM |
| 3 | The Power of “So What?”I’m a professional content writer and editor, so yes 100% 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 02:16 PM |
| 21 | Do any of you gals ever go to r/deadbedrooms and just feel so glad you're single?What a good way to put it, that’s so true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 04:19 PM |
| 68 | LVM can’t dress himself for his own wedding 🤦🏽♀️This hurts my eyes (and soul) to look at 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 04:17 PM |
| 5 | Holy Crap...not sure what else to say about this 🤦🏻♀️I feel so freaking bad for this woman, and the fact that she’s even REMOTELY questioning herself is so depressing. He SEXUALLY ASSAULTED HER and she’s doubting her own experience; so many of us know exactly how horrible that feels :( Full text: Guy I am seeing [35M] peed on me [29F] last night as a joke??? Trying to figure out how to resolve this. TL;DR: Last night, the guy I have been dating since the beginning of the pandemic (no label on the relationship yet, but more or less operating as my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 10:49 PM |
| 3 | Do women really have high standards or is it just that most men don’t put effort into their looks?Well, if it makes you feel any better...in many human populations it can be up to 40%??? 😐 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/20 01:51 PM |
| 22 | Do women really have high standards or is it just that most men don’t put effort into their looks?In most mammal species, only 20% of males pass on their genetic material. Aka, only 20% are considered viable mates and are able to attract, defend, and mate with females. Humans are no exception to this biological fact. Therefore I personally see this differential as an inherent part of being a mammal as much as anything else; in fact human males have more of a chance than most other species. There are various studies which have looked into this, so the angle depends on who you read. Sources: h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/20 01:51 AM |
| 13 | I’m a bi woman, and a pickme just violated meAs a bi woman, I empathize with you so deeply on this. We are preyed upon and stereotyped from a lot of different directions and it’s easy to just give up on dating altogether. I strongly suggest you report this woman if she was on an app, and potentially make a post online in a group such as the anti unicorn hunting ones on fb to warn other bi women! I’m fully prepared to make a huge public scene if this ever happens again, these predators are criminals at worst and at best are just horrid peop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 03:14 PM |
| 10 | High Value Women threadI actually write for a publication centered on HVW (though we don’t use that specific term, lol) that some of y’all might be into - DM me if you want a link | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 01:39 PM |
| 16 | Male Coworker Calling me Crazy in Group Setting. How to Respond"No, Joe, I don't talk to myself - but it sure is a better option than talking to you." Give a big smile, and then turn your attention away from him. Every time he tries to talk to you after that, smile or laugh, then immediately end the conversation and do something else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/20 07:37 PM |
| 32 | Using Female Dating StrategyYou need to dump him 🙅🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 08:33 PM |
| 8 | I Have A Problem With GuiltI think what’s helped me with this is to “frame” the situation - instead of just feeling the emotion, I stop, observe it, and verbally make a statement about it in a logical way. So for example, if I’m feeling guilty, I’ll stop whatever I’m doing for a few minutes. I sit with that feeling, then say to myself “I am feeling guilty due to x situation. This is an emotion, but it does not define the reality of what is happening/happened.” It feels silly at first but over time it works. This “reframin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 01:50 PM |
| 14 | A lesson learnedGood lord woman, you aren’t overreacting - I’m horrified and saddened you’d even consider that a possibility (not in a judgmental way, it just makes me wish you hadn’t been treated so poorly that you’d feel that way). Expecting him to pick you up and fully care for you for a few days would be the absolute BARE MINIMUM. Please internalize that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 02:06 AM |
| -6 | 13 year old girl beheaded by father in Iranian honor killing.Actually that’s a mistranslation - it says that there must be 4 witnesses to PROVE she’s/he’s an adulterer. It’s gender neutral, too. Without those witnesses she walks free, and even if proven in a woman’s case the punishment was essentially house arrest for a few months in case she’s pregnant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 02:22 PM |
| 21 | Clown man demands his women need to know how to cook without a recipe....“I’m not offended. I just think you’re kind of stupid.” HE IS CANCELLED. DECEASED. That’s the energy we need in 2020 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 03:07 PM |
| 34 | On today’s episode of a man acting insane, and his girlfriend thinking she needs to apologize to him for itSo glad to see she dumped his ass! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Respecting religions that degrade women.I found that Islam empowered me, personally, and after reading accurate translations of the Quran - admittedly they’re hard to find - I firmly believe that the foundation and underpinnings of the scripture were about improving the status of women in the Arabian peninsula at the time, and were meant to adapt to continue to do so throughout history. Did men 1000% take over as usual and turn it into a fuckall misogyny penis-fest? Absolutely. Does that mean women can’t go deep into their personal Is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 04:13 AM |
| 3 | Is this a red flag if the guy doesn’t have a lot of relationship experience ?It’s a pink flag imo because I’m wondering if he could have commitment issues - but it could also just be a matter of him not feeling right in those relationships! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 12:51 AM |
| 23 | Hey Ladies, just a reminder to not post personal pics to your FDS username. The Scrotes are extra mad and are sending around “compilation” pictures of FDS members. 🙄Literally all of those women are objectively attractive, as a bisexual woman I’d count myself lucky to land a date with any of them...so confused as to what the guy’s point is. Was he saying we look good?? Was it a neutral statement???? Wtf lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 08:45 PM |
| 5 | Attracting/attracted to type of guys who get hit on by gays constantly?This has a homophobic vibe but maybe I’m reading into it too much...? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 11:16 PM |
| 6 | FDS, please give me the strength to leave my boyfriend of 6 yearsOne thing I have learned - and I’m still young - is that to escape these situations you have to go back in time. Way back. Back to before you started dating this asshole. Sit down with a pen and some paper or a voice to text app and write a snapshot of what you looked like, what your life was like, and how you felt or thought at that time. Do it as objectively as you can, as if you’re a neutral party looking on from the outside. You can even give yourself a different name, just basically write t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 08:01 PM |
| 76 | My boyfriend won’t throw away ex girlfriends stuffGirl run, this man is a walking trash fire of red flags. Wtf are you doing with him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 06:09 PM |
| 8 | What do you think about guys that say that women are more beautiful without makeup and that they prefer "natural" women?My boyfriend’s mom was a well known MUA in their home country, so in his case I do believe him when he says he loves how I look without any makeup (dark circles and all lmao). But he’s never really stated it as a “preference” or when he does he makes a point to qualify that I look amazing WITH makeup, he just likes the intimacy of me being with him barefaced. That being said a lot of guys are morons and really think a full face without any obvious colors of lipstick or eyeshadow is “natural.” So… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 04:48 PM |
| 20 | Found the old post "men only stay interested in emotionally unavailable women"Please read the handbook, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 12:24 AM |
| 57 | How do we keep a HVMIt’s a mindset change - start asking what HE has to offer. Aim to be your happiest and healthiest outside of a relationship, and HVM will be attracted to you and want to earn you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 02:24 PM |
| 4 | 30F just broke up with a good guy that wasnt for me. Friends have all moved away. How to start over?This is really beautiful, thank you for sharing such a lovely mindset :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 02:45 PM |
| 42 | Single Mom in the pandemicGod I’m seething for you, the last thing you should be is shamed...people have no f-ing compassion for women. Where’s the outcry for publicly funded childcare, if they’re so concerned? For fathers’ accountability to pay for someone to watch the kids, at the very least? I’m sorry you’re going through this - but know that at least I and the ladies of FDS support you wholeheartedly ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 02:26 PM |
| 7 | Covid-19 will not be over until there's a vaccine. I don't want to be single for the next 2 yearsI think that sanitary practices will change, life will change, but courtship and dating will return. It’s easy to let your mind start spinning but take a deep breath and have faith - we’ll make it :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 02:19 AM |
| 2 | Stupid girl for some reason hung up in this guy stillYou are as strong...as soon as you decide to be. Tell him it’s over if you want a clear ending, and block. Do it no matter how much it hurts. That kind of pain is temporary and turns into self respect after a few days go by. Trust me, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 04:00 PM |
| 2 | Giving her...... "SPACE"If you haven’t asked her to be in a committed relationship, I don’t see how you can take issue with any of this tbh. But space usually shows two people how they really feel about each other. | /r/seduction | 31/03/20 04:50 PM |
| 20 | What's your relationship with your HVM like?This is beautiful, and very uplifting :) Thanks for sharing with us all, not just with OP! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 02:18 PM |
| 5 | What does it mean when a m*n saves all your selfies?Stuff like this is said to be “flattering” but it’s generally not. If it’s your long term boyfriend saving a selfie now and then, that’s one thing, but this situation definitely crosses a line into “very not normal” territory. Stay safe, OP! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 02:16 PM |
| 3 | Ladies! It's rough out there, that's for sure. But I know y'all got this. So, what projects/hobbies are you working on?Ooh could you dm me a link to that course? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 03:52 PM |
| 4 | Small PP energy is alive, well & adapting during this global pandemicYour username confirms that intuition. But yes the best was when they’d catcalled out the window and THEN we’d yell that at them lmao, sweet sweet role reversal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 03:49 PM |
| 8 | How do you cope with loneliness if you don’t have a lot of friends and you’re not dating ?You’re a hero! Cats are some of the purest, most loving companions on this Earth. Definitely chases the sadness away, and if you can’t have one at home OP maybe see if local shelters need volunteers? My friend does this and it helped her immensely with the same feelings you’re experiencing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 03:39 PM |
| 7 | Small PP energy is alive, well & adapting during this global pandemicWhen I was a youth in the south during my college days, truly in the beating redneck heart of Dixie, my friends and I would call “sorry about your diiiiick!” as these dudes went by in their no-muffler TinyPeen-mobiles. Immature? Absolutely. Cathartic? 100%. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 03:35 PM |
| 12 | Don't forget to level up sisters! 👑👑👑 Let's use this time of social distance and isolation to improve ourselves, recharge and detox from negative people!Something my mentor has really emphasized for me is “don’t sell yourself short.” She has been an amazing influence on my life, and has successfully pursued her life’s goals and purpose because she internalized this creed. If you want something, MAKE yourself the best person to get it. It’s all about attitude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 03:28 PM |
| 1 | How dare you deprive men of wives because you're in love with each other ?!My apologies, sister! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 03:00 PM |
| 5 | Some dude keeps making these snapchat accounts and harassing meI wish I could find him and kick his ass for you, sis. Definitely blast him on your Facebook if it’s safe/you want to, people should see what women like us have to deal with regularly! Do you know who the dude is irl? I guess if you stop responding he’ll eventually lose interest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 02:50 PM |
| -1 | How dare you deprive men of wives because you're in love with each other ?!Oh it sounded as though you were criticizing Islam in a general sense, that’s why people are mad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 12:13 AM |
| 4 | Porn addicted dude refused to meet me because I[22] am not a virginUsed car salesman!! 😂 That’s the PERFECT term for this! 🚙 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/20 02:11 PM |
| 13 | Any Bisexual ladies here on FDS?I love being bi, but I’ve had trouble meeting women lately! I’m very femme and like more femme women, but that can kinda make it confusing because of heteronormative assumptions. I’ve embraced my chivalrous, HVW side and love to treat a lady for a nice dinner, fancy dates, etc...but then I don’t always like being the pursuer so it can become a rut. Does anyone else have that issue? I’m probably overthinking it 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/20 01:34 PM |
| 1 | This Hoover attempt can’t be sincere, right? Word jumble has me all kinds of confused...You’ve already made a lot of progress, then! One victory at a time :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 12:44 PM |
| 2 | Why I Keep a Social/Relationship Journal - and How it Might Help You!Great question! It varies, but my rule is to begin from a place of acceptance, because my goal certainly isn’t to produce guilt or shame in myself. Then I think of how I would advise a loved one in that situation, and that’s the advice I give myself. The VAST majority of my friendships are a decade old or older. My day-to-day social circle is 99% people (women) I’ve been close to for >5 years. So by now if I need to set boundaries or standards, I can pretty much just be blunt and say it. That’s … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Why I Keep a Social/Relationship Journal - and How it Might Help You!Same here! Just knowing it’s there as a resource makes me more conscious and aware of my interactions with other people and myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 05:14 PM |
| 4 | This Hoover attempt can’t be sincere, right? Word jumble has me all kinds of confused...I think so too, but as much as I’m all in for the FDS brutal self-honesty and no-nonsense approach to relationships, I think we all know that there are phases and emotions and steps to these things that genuinely have to be worked through. If you really can’t do something, or truly FEEL you can’t...you shouldn’t just give up and start talking to a toxic person again. You should do what you CAN do, baby steps, to get that influence out of your life a little more. It’s kind of like executive dysfu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 03:48 PM |
| 15 | This Hoover attempt can’t be sincere, right? Word jumble has me all kinds of confused...I know it’s so hard to step away and look at something SO emotionally charged and personal, objectively. But that’s quite simply what you HAVE. TO. DO. He is trying to manipulate you in so many ways here that I can’t even list them all. It may be next to impossible for you to realize that because you’re healing and still deeply connected to this person, but sweetheart, he’s toxic, he’s abusive, and he doesn’t actually love you. That’s the objective truth coming from a community of sisters who ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 03:26 PM |
| 3 | How to make people respect your boundaries and how to uphold those boundariesI keep a relationship/social journal and one of the things I do in it is to write down “scenes” or scenarios - I write a situation or write out something the other person would say, then my response. It helps shift your mindset and attitude without so much pressure! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 02:19 PM |
| 17 | This came through on r/AskFDS and was just TOO good not to repost. He thinks he’s in the “top 20% of males” and wonders what “we have to offer him” that he can’t get from younger women. 😐 Yes he’s serious. 😐 Check the comments for the OP.This man straight up looks like Nosferatu. The top 20% of what? The Transylvanian undead? The Top 20% of Crypt Keepers? I have a pulse, so unfortunately my standards are a bit higher. He can hit my DMs when I’m 6 feet under and try his luck, but even as a corpse I’m pretty sure I’ll have more attractive options. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 10:28 PM |
| 29 | I have beenSpread those beautiful wings, girl! Congrats on embracing yourself ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 06:57 PM |
| 34 | Women Are Bearing the Brunt of Coronavirus Disruption. While the illness hits men harder, women are on the front lines at work and at home.Mother Nature is making a point 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 03:20 PM |
| 16 | An update to the emotional cheating thread from yesterday, most commenters: tHeY'rE jUsT fRiEnDsThis is a classic lesson: don’t date “sad bois.” They’re 1000% trash who will use their supposed fee fees to justify their ego inflating, disloyal bullshit behavior until they, and you, are blue in the face. Look at the actions, don’t justify, and YEET that man! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 01:10 AM |
| 1 | Former pushovers, how did you stop being a pushover?For me, what’s helped has been working on my mindset. Learning to set boundaries doesn’t have to be this all-or-nothing, all-at-once thing. You can make baby steps! Just learn to spot OPPORTUNITIES to be assertive, first, and when you do spot one try a small step toward setting that boundary :) You don’t have to pressure yourself to change years of conditioning all in one day! Reading books about becoming assertive, setting boundaries, etc helps too. And obviously the FDS sidebar is an amazing p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 01:44 PM |
| 76 | I want everything, I offer absolutely nothing.“Jabba the Hut looking for his Princess Leia.” There, fixed it for him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 01:19 PM |
| 16 | What do you think about have a secret bank account? Husband finds wife’s secret savings account (in case the marriage goes south) and feels betrayed. I’m leaning towards thinking this is fine but I want your takes on this!“It’s like we’re separate people!” Umm...because you are? What the fuck? This guy has to be an abuser/narc if he can’t even wrap his tiny shitlord brain around the fact that his wife is a separate human being with her own rights, needs, and life. God, this whole article - especially the smug dipshit responding to the question - makes me so furious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 10:41 PM |
| 29 | My ex is my coworker and my boss’s friendI think that in situations such as this, the greatest elegance lies in the simplest advice: you must smile and bear it. Whatever you’re feeling on the inside, put forward an image of as much grace as you can muster. Always look your best at work, always be organized and work steadily, and show by your actions and attitude that YOU are a strong, beautiful, and out-of-reach Queen. In time I promise you’ll feel like one, and these fools will look and feel like scum whenever you breeze by with a spa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 02:21 AM |
| 41 | When he’s in your DMs and you don’t realize, because you don’t check requests... nah, sis, you can keep him.😂👏🏻 This is the energy we need | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 06:06 PM |
| 6 | How Pornography Impacts Violence Against Women and Child Sex AbuseThank you both, queens gotta inform each other and stay safe 👸🏿👸🏾👸🏽👸🏼👸🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 04:23 PM |
| 19 | How Pornography Impacts Violence Against Women and Child Sex AbuseIs there anything in the handbook about learning to spot porn addicts or even just general regular porn users? I know it could never be an exact science, but I’m sure some of the mods or more experienced members have valuable perspective on this and can help us stay safe! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 01:53 AM |
| 21 | Apparently it is perfectly plausible to men to be so black out drunk that the entire memory of their girlfriend is wiped which prompts them to cheat (but constantly deny women’s stories of rape because she doesn’t remember one specific detail due to be intoxicated while raped)“Instantly let me know” “Last week” .... girl. Also why would she even want to date a man who gets blackout like that? Totally immature imo. Another case of standards that ought to be about 25,000ft higher than they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 09:17 PM |
| 54 | Female sexual desire and Long-Term RelationshipsI always saw this as totally behavioral - on the man’s part. If he’s lazy, isn’t filling your needs, and does stupid shit for years, your desire for him will erode. But in my long term relationships with communicative, empathetic, and well matched partners I’ve seen the exact opposite. With my current lover, we’ve known each other for 6 years and have a vibrant and healthy friendship - I get turned on by the smallest things he does more than I did at the start of knowing him! But that’s just my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 06:30 PM |
| 17 | I learned a huge lesson about dropping your standards for a manThis is so inspiring - you’ve got this! I’m so glad you escaped that terrible situation, and honestly screw that person for their shitty, snarky comment. You’re amazing and are obviously a devoted and wonderful mom in addition to that, so don’t let the naysayers get to you 💛 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 06:26 PM |
| 7 | I got a dog and it’s cured my Pickme-itisI accidentally adopted a Savannah cat mutt and he has REALLY kept me grounded, partly because if I look away for 2 seconds he’s climbed, broken into, or stolen something to hide in his stash 😂 I love him so much and his derpy face and big ears always remind me that my life is whole and perfect without a romantic partner! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Is shoving your girlfriend physical abuse?If he even poked you while arguing or gets up in your face, that is both physically abusive and psychologically abusive - not only in a personal sense, but also LEGALLY. Highly recommend the book “Why Does He Do That?” Clears a lot up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 07:22 PM |
| 16 | "Why does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men" by Lundy Bancroft is ESSENTIAL reading for FDS.Reading this right now - it’s AMAZING. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 10:30 PM |
| 10 | Hey ladies, looking to love ME. Any advice? What was the turning point for you?Hey Queen! First off congrats on being free and recognizing that you deserve better treatment than what you’ve experienced. As a writer, many of my self care and self love rituals center around writing. I have a goal book - I started it with an affirmation confirming my inherent worth WHETHER OR NOT I accomplish the goals I listed. It is simply a book meant to validate, celebrate, and affirm who I am and what I want in life. I wrote several pages of goals categorized by the area of life they per… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 12:31 AM |
| 3 | Girl got mad that i said she was little/petiteI literally am little/petite so I don’t get offended when people notice...it’s like saying “you have auburn hair” or “you have brown eyes.” Maybe if someone was so small it was a defect or something you shouldn’t say anything, such as if they were born premature and are under 5 ft? Or if they’re SO short/small they’d reasonably be insecure? Otherwise most girls wouldn’t mind. | /r/seduction | 02/01/20 03:41 PM |
| 7 | I vaguely act like pickmeisha. I sleep with friend of 6 years. He treats me well, aims for relationship, but pulls back because extremely conservative Saudi family would essentially disown him for being with western woman. I end things because I don’t want a FWB...I receive $400 gift in the mail.I actually am a Muslim convert! But he’s Shia (I actually did take the Shia version of the shahada, not because of him but for theological reasons), so perhaps it’s more of an ethnic thing. Either that or he’s convinced himself his mom will care way more than she actually would haha, who knows. But I don’t accept less than full commitment no matter the reasons - and that’s that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 02:26 PM |
| 2 | I vaguely act like pickmeisha. I sleep with friend of 6 years. He treats me well, aims for relationship, but pulls back because extremely conservative Saudi family would essentially disown him for being with western woman. I end things because I don’t want a FWB...I receive $400 gift in the mail.He’s always heavily respected my boundaries, especially physically. But at the end of the day we want different things and I’m not sure friendship is possible once that line is crossed. I have to accept responsibility for that and deal with it, and that means sticking to boundaries. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 02:58 AM |
| 36 | I vaguely act like pickmeisha. I sleep with friend of 6 years. He treats me well, aims for relationship, but pulls back because extremely conservative Saudi family would essentially disown him for being with western woman. I end things because I don’t want a FWB...I receive $400 gift in the mail.KeepTheBagDitchTheMan That’s the 2020 vibe I’m looking for! Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 01:52 AM |
| 8 | I vaguely act like pickmeisha. I sleep with friend of 6 years. He treats me well, aims for relationship, but pulls back because extremely conservative Saudi family would essentially disown him for being with western woman. I end things because I don’t want a FWB...I receive $400 gift in the mail.Thank you for this sincere advice - it’s much needed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 01:05 AM |
| 3 | How often do you think about sex?23 years old, female and bisexual. Off birth control, my sex drive is extremely in tune with my cycle. When I’m either ovulating or sometimes when I’m on my period, my sex drive can get so high it’s legitimately almost painful. I’ll fantasize and think about it throughout the day and will often have erotic dreams. At other times it’s more based on circumstance - if I see an attractive person or someone is checking boxes as to what attracts me in conversation/interaction, I’ll go into sensual mod… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/12/19 03:51 PM |
| 1 | [Q4W] Think of the least conventionally attractive guy that youve actually DONE A SEX WITH, describe him, and what qualities did he have that made up for his looks that made you want to bang?He had a quiet and thoughtful demeanor, was protective in a genuine and not controlling way, remembered details, and naturally balanced out my ADHD/weird personality with his grounded, mature one. I was experienced and he was inexperienced which wasn’t ideal at first, but his earnest way of listening to me and very thoughtful compliments put me at ease and led to explosive sexual chemistry. I think it was mostly a matter of patience and the “long game” without expectations on his part - I’m flig… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/12/19 02:58 AM |
| 16 | UPDATE: Im the girl beating myself up for breaking NC with bf whom I dumped after going refusing to either stop following randoms on IG/post about us!Just block him now, save yourself future trouble. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 08:36 PM |
| 15 | I now know better thanks to FDS, I owe it to myself to do better #dumphisass2019You’re kicking ass! So proud of you and I hope this year brings you nothing but happiness, growth, and healing ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/19 02:38 AM |
| 6 | Approached a Girl at the Gym TodayLmao get a load of this incel, y’all! | /r/seduction | 13/12/19 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Test out the main PUA methods to see which is the bet for you with the following lines/examplesWell, my first piece of advice is to pick a “niche” target audience. Yes you can still go for quantity within that, but by picking a place aligned with your interests or aesthetic or comfort zones, you’ll naturally find yourself more confident AND find women who enjoy those same places and are thus more likely to be attracted to you. For example, frequenting a bar that has a game room theme or going to specific parks and outdoor spaces that resonate with you. Second, always give a girl an “out” … | /r/seduction | 12/12/19 05:04 PM |
| 7 | Approached a Girl at the Gym TodayI’ve never seen anyone dolled up at the gym lmao, not sure where you’re working out! But also...sometimes, amazingly, women just like to look nice. No ulterior motives. It just feels good yo | /r/seduction | 12/12/19 04:52 PM |
| 4 | Approached a Girl at the Gym TodayThen you’ve discovered something very valuable when looking to date - empathy 😂 This is a great example of putting yourself in their shoes and therefore greatly increasing your chances out there. You should teach other guys to do the same! | /r/seduction | 12/12/19 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Actions after getting a numberI can’t speak for everyone but many girls and women like to text for a few days before meeting in person - it’s a “vetting” process primarily for safety and perhaps to gauge compatibility through conversation. So maybe just practice more and wait a little longer before moving towards an in person date! Hope that helps. | /r/seduction | 12/12/19 03:27 PM |
| 6 | Approached a Girl at the Gym TodayI guess it proves your point then, because she seems to have genuinely wanted to talk despite the general rules I’d follow in that situation! But yeah it sounds like you were respectful and gave her an out which HUGELY tips the potential in your favor - I wish more men realized that “giving an out” to a woman in these interactions makes it a good 50% more likely she’ll take interest. | /r/seduction | 12/12/19 03:18 PM |
| 5 | Approached a Girl at the Gym TodayI suppose that’s true, it’s definitely different than if you’d interrupted her with her headphones in or something which would just be generally irritating. I’ve flirted/been approached by people in the sauna or in lines at the gym and it doesn’t really bother me. | /r/seduction | 12/12/19 03:12 PM |
| 19 | Approached a Girl at the Gym TodayYou might be right, this is merely my perspective as a woman with many female friends who categorically hate being hit on at the gym. Maybe it’s just my social circle for whatever reason | /r/seduction | 12/12/19 03:09 PM |
| 51 | Approached a Girl at the Gym TodaySounds like she wasn’t into it and you pushed the issue, tbh. Girls don’t generally like being hit on at the gym...we’re there to work out lol and it’s distracting 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/seduction | 12/12/19 02:52 PM |
| 0 | Test out the main PUA methods to see which is the bet for you with the following lines/examplesAs a woman I can categorically tell you that none of these approaches are effective and you’ll just be annoying to the women you go up to. There are way better ways to approach, y’all...don’t overthink it so much. | /r/seduction | 12/12/19 02:25 AM |
| 2 | Any pickup tips for lesbians?Bi girl here! I think the best advice is this: know your “type,” aka what you’re really naturally attracted to. This kind of attraction shows through and someone who knows what they’re into right off the bat is more likely to attract that “type.” be selective about where you go to meet women. Don’t just go to any old gay bar, plan your night based on where you think you’ll truly have fun! A woman having fun is just naturally sexy and will attract attention. For example I’m not a huge fan of loud… | /r/seduction | 10/12/19 10:44 PM |
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