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Need SupportEmperorAnimus/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 06:21 PM
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Need SupportEmperorAnimus/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 11:13 AM
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I’ll have a couple months to find out as much as I can. I think it’s enough actually, if both parties are honest. What fucked up my previous marriage is that both the girl and her mom were lying bitches. The mother was a harpy who lied to everyone and would interfere when her husband stepped in to talk to me to try and fix the problem, instead they fed him lies, and prevented me from speaking to him. She also insidiously charged her daughter against me and swore she never did, the daughter snitc…
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 03:41 PM
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Arranged is not forced. The way it works is: you tell your family and acquaintances to look for a woman or man with certain qualities, and they search for someone suitable based on what you requested that meets the criteria. You then meet potential partners as they get recommended to you and talk to each other in order to get to know each other and ask about stuff, see if you’re compatible etc. you can meet them multiple times until you finally decide. Next the proposal is publicised and both fa…
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 02:56 PM
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That’s yet to be seen. Honestly the fault is on my part, I won’t know until I do tell her. The reactions I got from my exes whenever I opened up to them shocked me, and everyone around is just telling me that that’s how it is with women/relationships. I stopped talking about what matters to me with most people around. The lady asked me why I don’t confide in my parents, well that’s why— they believed my lying ex and her mother over me, and blamed me for the highly unstable ex before her who left…
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/25 11:07 AM
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If there’s one good thing about me, it’d be that I’m aware that everything comes to an end. That’s why I always try to make the best out of most things I have in my life. I do hope the girl is actually special, I’ll know in the coming months as we start interacting more often. But she does give me hope. I think this one might actually work. Third one is a charm, yeah? Time doesn’t heal all things, many times we have to move on in order to heal. Waiting for years to “heal” isn’t accomplishing any…
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 05:12 AM
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Oh man, I can’t imagine what you must’ve been through. How did manage to cope after her passing? I’d be absolutely devastated if that were to ever happen to me. Especially if I find that one person who actually cares after all these years of feeling alone. What you described is probably my one and only actual fear in life. To be in that state, or lose someone I love to that. Nevertheless, this really gave me hope. I have high hopes towards this girl, and I don’t feel like I’m choosing because of…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 10:57 PM
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Thank you, this helps a bit. I’m sorry your experience didn’t go as well as expected with your later relationship(s). Hopefully, I’ll be able to better get a handle on things. As a man I keep being told to be very careful what I tell my woman, because anything might be used against me later. I keep getting told not to show weakness, and both my last exes really hammered that idea into me. This lady sounds a lot healthier and emotionally stable/available, so I’ll be giving it another shot, and ch…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 10:46 PM
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Thank you brother, I’ll try my best to do so.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 02:15 PM
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I guess I will never find out until we get to know each other better. I do hope this one works out, she sounds amazing, and my coworker knows her and her family coincidentally, said she’s absolutely thrilled for me as that girl and her family are very special, and just all round good human beings. I keep seeing myself in every situation I tried opening up to my exes and they just absolutely wiped the floor with my feelings, that’s what scares me. Every time they find out something they can use a…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 01:48 PM
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Thank you for the good wishes. I can imagine where your insight is coming from. But this is where I live. I did try my hand at dating before this but never found someone I liked enough, so I thought I’d go down the arranged marriage path. Didn’t work out last time because I was worn out from a toxic relationship with a coworker in a toxic work environment. That destroyed me. This time around I know exactly what I want, I’m just left insecure, and scared. Knowing what I know about the lady I’ve p…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 01:41 PM
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Honesty is the best policy, yeah? You’re right I guess. I think the anxiety is caused because the remarrying process it’s bringing up bitter memories. My exes did a very good job of taking everything good in me, everything I care about and just using it against me to make me feel smaller and insignificant. They were great at hitting me where it hurts, and acting like angels in front of everyone else. Of course, since I live in a lovely environment, I was always wrong, and only a handful of frien…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 01:33 PM
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I am certain about wanting to get married, but the past 2-3 years left me distrustful, scarred, and deeply wounded. Lots of therapy and reflection helped, I’m in a much better space now, but most people have been unreceptive whenever I opened up about my previous marriage or parental issues. I don’t think my parents are narcissistic or anything, but they have some behaviours that pushed me away, and affected me greatly. Especially through my divorce, since they believed the previous woman and he…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 01:27 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to comment anyways. I appreciate it. I hope things go well between you. Many problems arise from the start, I’d say a good way to test things out is to be clear about your boundaries, and have space for discussion. If turns against you every time, or if she can’t be accountable, then you have your answer. Other things to notice is how her parents are, her hygiene, how clean her place is, social media use, and money management.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 11:47 AM
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You’re right, I was just thinking the same thing. Not sure how to bring it up though, and in what manner. I’ll have be to honest, but not biased and critical myself. She’s soon to be my fiancé, the official function is planned somewhere between end of august or early September. This month we’ll have a small party of sorts to make it public that I proposed to her and she accepted. After that we’ll have until the engagement party to get to know each other better.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 11:44 AM
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I was just thinking that recently.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/25 08:07 AM
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Thank you. And yeah, that is exactly what happened, she did the bare minimum to convince others that she put in the effort, but low-key treated me like shit, so I just decided to leave, I already was going through a grief and my mental health spiralling (another thing they used against me to gaslight me later). When I finally informed them of the divorce, the daughter got what she wanted so she just disappeared, and the mother made sure to orchestrate a big drama to isolate me, gaslight everyone…
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 01:02 PM
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Daaaaaamn, that’s insane! No kids I hope, this would make for a difficult situation, and one a liar…. She’d probably turn them against you. It’s crazy how easy lying and maliciously gaslighting comes to some folks. They know what they’re doing, they know the social privilege they enjoy, they know that in the end you’ll still be the one losing more. I’m sorry you had to go through this, and I’m glad you managed to leave.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 02:06 PM
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Thanks, man. You’re right. There hasn’t been any contact between us since the start of March. With my ex since last year (over a month before the divorce). You’re all right, I don’t need evidence to know and follow my intuition, it told me something was off, and it was right. I don’t need to know any more. I’ll do my best to look forward, I’m optimistic for what’s coming, I just need to put in the effort.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 09:23 AM
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Thank you, this comment section has already helped me. Days like this are becoming less and less frequent, I was just tired yesterday I suppose, I also had free time for the first time in a few weeks. I do think that soon I won’t care, especially since I’m actively working on addressing those thoughts. Also, just the general passage of time helps. The whole situation is still not even half a year ago. I was ready to leave in peace, but their actions and words by the end really upset me. They bla…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 07:00 AM
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I’ve already dealt with those questions you mentioned— I’m sure with time I’ll find out more about myself. I guess I’ll just have to choose to trust myself moving forward, I’ve already made progress in that department. Most people around are still telling me to compromise, to get any girl, to abandon my values, which is exactly what got me into this situation last time. But this time I’m willing to fight the entire world before I do that. I’m gonna take my time, and I’m not muting myself not to …
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 06:33 AM
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I suppose you’re right. It’s still fresh, I can only hope that with time these episodes will cease. I’ll choose to trust myself going forth, and just put it to rest— try to do so at least. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/25 06:28 AM
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I’ve long since come to terms with the divorce. I’m already at a much better place. But some days like today, I just can’t stop wondering if my intuition was true or not.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 11:11 PM
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Thank you for your words, you’re right, most days I do think that it doesn’t matter, and it doesn’t. I think what I’m trying to determine here is my own gut feeling, whether it’s right or wrong, whether I can trust myself. I’ve gone over everything I did wrong already, big part was breaking under the pressure from those around to compromise on my values and just settle, not rock the boat, just take whatever, well, no more of that. I’m ready to fight an army this time, and I now know what I want,…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 11:10 PM
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How do you think you’d be feeling right now if you never found out? How do you deal with the way you’re currently feeling?
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 11:04 PM
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Nice! Edit: not the divorce and getting accused part, but poor behaviour brought to justice is always satisfying.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 06:58 PM
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I know it’s in the past now, but the not knowing, not being sure is upsetting. I’m sure there’s something wrong, and I’m 100% sure they’ll deny and gaslight even if faced with evidence. It’s both lack of empathy, and lack of accountability. But until I find out the truth, I’ll still doubt, it’ll remain just a feeling, and it’ll keep bothering me. Perhaps this will be gone later as I find a new partner and move on with my life.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 06:56 PM
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Thank you brother. And I’m sorry you have to go through this, I know how painful it is to have the truth warped to make you seem as the bad guy. Hurts more when people you thought cared about you believe it. That being said, it does reveal to you the ones who actually care. All the best my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 06:53 PM
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Something my therapist told me [of course I’m the one in therapy], after the divorce is: you didn’t lose your savings, you bought your Self. I thought I made progress, but 6 months later I’m still wondering what the frig happened. Today I’m back to feeling the anger, the doubt, the questioning my own self and sanity. I was miserable around the divorce period— always on edge, anxious, chest hurt all the time, tired, no appetite, lost even more weight, poor sleep and the list goes on. There a lot …
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 06:51 PM
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That’s amazing, brother. Wishing you all the best. That’s amazing to hear. I’m in my sixth month post divorce as well, thankfully no kids. My friends and family all tell me that I look much better, I started working out again, eating better, I get told often that I’m back to my old bright self. I’m very busy all the time, and happy. I cut out so many circles from my social life that didn’t make me feel welcome, or that felt like a chore to keep up with, and the ones remaining are mostly dudes. I…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 05:59 PM
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It’s similar in my case, begged me to divorce her, when I did she lied to everyone saying how she loved me, accused me of a litany of lies, and her mother assisted her. They made a whole drama, didn’t even attend a funeral we had in the family just so my mom would call and ask what’s going on. They lied to my family, and did all that’s in their power to keep me from speaking alone to her father. Then when I snapped they took it against me. There was just no winning.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 05:54 PM
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I can relate to what you’re going through. We had a tragedy in the family last year as well, and having her around was a blessing. Despite her shortcomings, during the first couple days having her with my family and I was good. I can’t imagine how horrible it would feel for me to sleep alone that day. I’m sorry for your loss, I hope things getter for you. We all need comfort from others, and as men, often we never get the permission to do so.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/25 05:48 PM
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