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| 3 | If you could choose between the most handsome men, how many of them would you choose for sex?This feels really disingenuous. It’s just such an impossible “fantasy”. An isolated group of cishet men, free of consequences or oversight. Who respect the choices of a woman. C’mon, gtfoh Let’s put them all in their own individual high tech impenetrable chambers, but like nicely outfitted identical hotel rooms. And give them some futuristic drug cocktail that doesn’t effect them physically or cognitively except to make it impossible for them to act aggressively or try to harm me, themselves, ph… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 03:16 PM |
| 1 | What's the reason for why people need a 'hoe phase'?“Hoe phase” is a bit of a misnomer and doesn’t always mean promiscuity. Most women who missed out on this phase are lamenting the lost freedom to belong to and focus on themselves without needing to consider a partner’s needs or feelings and the heightened social aspects being single sometimes offers. I think the phrase “hoe phase” was originally said to denigrate women who preferred to stay single and punish them for rejecting men for relationships. It seems women understand it more as “single … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/23 11:45 AM |
| 1 | Men should be able to get someone at or near their level of attractiveness, and being told “it’s not a points/bartering system,” “you are what you can get” or that “no one is obligated to date you” are simply deflections and gaslighting nonsense.I guess I agree logic tells us men should be able to attract an equally matched woman. But the problem with this is there’s no agreed upon system to determine what qualities will make any particular individual an attractive potential partner for anyone else. Otherwise I suppose this premise could work under some sort of universally agreed upon ranking system where each person is assigned an objective level of desirability. But since I know you’re speaking in generalities here, then let’s just pr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 11:58 PM |
| 1 | Why is it socially acceptable for women to artificially enhance their beauty but not men?Not BBLs though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 02:54 AM |
| 3 | Why is it socially acceptable for women to artificially enhance their beauty but not men?This is a really good point I hadn’t considered but I think this is spot on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 02:53 AM |
| 1 | Why is it socially acceptable for women to artificially enhance their beauty but not men?Insecurity isn’t attractive in anyone. Women using cosmetics and enhancements to improve their appearance are usually doing this to increase their confidence, in hopes they’ll succeed professionally, find a better relationship, etc. Having had the procedure or enhancement or whatever eliminates the insecurity, the woman appears more attractive. There’s no reason to think this doesn’t apply to men in the exact same way. Allowing the insecurity to control one’s behaviors and emotions towards other… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 02:51 AM |
| 2 | Why is it socially acceptable for women to artificially enhance their beauty but not men?Dude. Listen to me. There is absolutely no way this is accurate. If there’s mockery and scorn for artificial cosmetic enhancement, it’s not coming from women. I guess I could believe men who see other men as their competition for female attention might mock them as a form of discouraging male plastic surgery or other costly cosmetic procedures because they fear being priced out. Idk if you had sisters or have cohabitated with a lot of women in your lifetime, but even if you’ve been exposed to it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 02:40 AM |
| 1 | Why is it socially acceptable for women to artificially enhance their beauty but not men?Whatever is profitable is what will become socially acceptable. Ever since I saw the incredible before and afters of “weak chinned” men’s beards and jaw surgery photos, I’ve thought some company would be successful launching a contour product with masculine marketing intended for making the jawline more angled / sharper. And you know I really don’t think society particularly cares if men use products traditionally packaged and sold to a female audience. There’s lots of ways men could incorporate… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/23 02:30 AM |
| 1 | Most men simply want women at or even slightly below their level of attractiveness, or just one who isn’t overweight. Most women feel entitled to men way more attractive than them and meet a whole laundry list of criteria. The whole “neckbeard wants supermodel” narrative is fictional projection.What?? The Quiet Place guy? He is absolutely extremely attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/23 05:36 AM |
| 19 | CMV : Your parents could mostly buy houses easily, you can’t. Your parents found partners and had families, you can’t. It’s normal.I really relate to this post, though I’m not the typical target demographic of these ideas (struggling 20-something lonely men). I’m a 37-yr-old married mom of 2 who got laid off my job of over a decade earlier this year. And yet I feel so seen reading this. My general malaise and intervals of self hatred and despair that compound daily all seem to be symptoms of this exact phenomenon: Comparisons to the lifestyle my parents provided me when they were my age and the expectations vs reality of my… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/23 05:53 PM |
| 3 | Seeing all the benign and insignificant reasons women say they have gotten "The Ick" makes it hard to believe they care about men's mental healthhow can you also reserve the right to make snap permanent judgements of a person's whole value as a person and mate because they didn't seem confident, strong, or masculine in one isolated moment? Literally no one is doing this. I think you’re misinterpreting what’s happening here to mean people are maintaining conscious control and or actively making decisions and judgments. All that’s usually being described by someone who’s “getting the ick” is the common human phenomenon of being somewhat at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 11:10 AM |
| 2 | Sexual liberation for women is a good thing and is empowering, but it's abused due to social pressures.🙋🏽♀️ Almost 38-yr-old married mom of 2 here. I think I’m someone who could possibly fit the criteria of regretting missing out on the single girl lifestyle in my 20’s. Though I’m almost positive I’m idealizing it and playing out a fantasy in my head vs what the reality would look like. It’s not exactly the sexual freedom I regret, but the social aspects. I did have a few very shortlived phases of my life when I wasn’t in a serious long term relationship (as in, a few weeks of my total adult lif… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/23 03:27 AM |
| 2 | CMV: The take-away shouldn't be that "women think 80% of men are below average"; it should be that "women suck at rating men systematically".Desirable to whom? It’s true that, ideally, the people I’m sexually attracted to would be predisposed to being sexually attracted to my particular features. But I think we tend to gravitate towards people who already find us and our “types” attractive. That’s part of the draw isn’t it? That you find them attractive, and can tell they’re also into you? We’ve all learned to maximize our ability to be attractive to the highest number of people in influential or powerful positions as possible. We kn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/23 07:09 PM |
| 4 | CMV: The take-away shouldn't be that "women think 80% of men are below average"; it should be that "women suck at rating men systematically".I don’t think it’s possible that’s it’s not. Because we can’t see the world out of each other’s eyes or exist in someone else’s consciousness. I don’t know how you’re perceiving the world around you or how your past experiences influence your brain’s interpretation of what you’re seeing. We know there are some biological aspects of what humans tend to find beautiful or desirable (for example, facial symmetry) but we also know a great deal of our perceptions are due to cultural norms, marketing, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/23 04:21 PM |
| 8 | CMV: The take-away shouldn't be that "women think 80% of men are below average"; it should be that "women suck at rating men systematically".The traffic light system is completely subjective and individual. For procreation, it’s not necessary for the brain to rate and categorize people by their objective attractiveness, in fact it would be counterproductive for the purpose of pairing people off if men with genetically desirable traits had some superficial flaw that made them red lights for every single woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/23 03:01 PM |
| 1 | In what ways could both sexes come to a better understanding?Right, because most people have never heard anyone of their opposite gender in their real lives (in the west, anyway) imply that “all women are manipulative” or “all men are misogynistic sex freaks”. A while back there was a brief but scary, paranoid time in my social life when I believed the extreme stereotypes and rampant sexism were so prevalent online that it must mean people are just censoring themselves IRL. Since I rarely hung around any women-only social gatherings IRL, I didn’t have an … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/23 11:24 PM |
| 1 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.No, no I definitely didn’t mean to imply that women’s relatively poor sex lives are the faults of the men they sleep with. The parenthetical at the end was to acknowledge that the quality of women’s sexual experiences can sometimes increase with a more experienced, mature, patient partner. I guess I was thinking of the stereotypical virgins who marry each other’s high school sweet hearts. As the years go on and the new relationship energy and novelty of sex fade, along with the woman’s libido, s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/23 11:00 PM |
| 1 | I'm incredibly skeptical that personality or other characteristics can "override" lack of physical attraction - please change my mind.Your experience doesn’t differ at all though? The traffic light analogy is saying most people everyone meets are in the subconscious, instantaneous and immovable “no go” category either because that person is unavailable as a potential partner or because the brain has otherwise designated them “red lights”. No attraction can be developed. Otherwise known as the friend zone. The yellow light category is more open ended and the brain will hold off on releasing sexual arousal chemicals thinking “le… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/23 07:57 PM |
| 7 | I'm incredibly skeptical that personality or other characteristics can "override" lack of physical attraction - please change my mind.Perfect explanation. The stop light analogy makes this very easy to understand. The only thing I would elaborate on is that this is in no way a conscious decision-making process, and this is a mechanism the human brain uses for mate selection, not specifically women’s brains. Potential partners are categorized immediately by our lizard brains, and the chemicals that trigger sexual arousal are released immediately for the super rare “green lights”, while the brain will stick around and see what e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/23 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.Is that what you got from my comment? I think you’d agree there are plenty of sexual outliers… men who don’t like sex at all or under very particular conditions, insatiable promiscuous women with low inhibitions, people who masturbate but are disgusted by partnered sex, etc etc. I need to watch more modern media if they’re portraying female sexual enjoyment. The last time I remember is the (often cringe, but refreshing for the time) narratives like Sex and the City. But I haven’t gotten the idea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/23 05:34 PM |
| 3 | Women insist that their “taste” or standards are instinctual and without any outside influence, and that they can’t be changed when the opposite has been proven when it comes to physical attraction. Their inflated standards are quite clearly the direct result of their abundance of options.Of course a million different factors - which I’m sure include the current availability of one’s options - influence individual human sexual attraction / lack thereof, and their sexual repulsion towards other humans. There’s really no such thing as free will in the way we usually think about it. Our brains make what seems to us as an instantaneous calculus of whether or not to send arousal chemical signals. From our perspective since we think we “made a decision”, we incorrectly attribute our be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 08:25 PM |
| 6 | Most women haven't experienced loneliness, touchlessness and sexlessnes. That's the reason why they downplay this conditions.Wow this is a spot on analogy. I’m genuinely speechless at how closely you just absolutely nailed the emotional equivalency here. Bravo! ⭐️ 👏🏆 To me, unwanted but reluctantly consensual sex feels like I’m not an active participant and don’t really belong there in the experience. I’m filling a role or a placeholder as the designated sex person. Sex I’ve felt obligated to participate in (and other contrived or coerced touch-centric “events” that I’m expected to act like I’m enjoying) have felt thi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/23 02:55 AM |
| 5 | Women should not get mad at their guy friends for ghosting them after they reject themI’m sorry you went through this and you make a fair point that women who willingly accept favors and emotional labor from men under the guise of “friendship” are deliberately hurting men they claim to love platonically. This is true of any one-sided relationship where people feel taken advantage of, but hold on way past the point they should have left a relationship they know no longer serves them. Boundaries like you said are the solution here for the victim. We should prioritize giving people … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 02:19 PM |
| 8 | Women should not get mad at their guy friends for ghosting them after they reject themHonestly I think this happens less because women tend to read the signals over time enough to understand her newly developed attraction won’t ever be reciprocated. Truly platonic, deeply intimate friendships often function much like family relationships. You just wouldn’t expect the person to return romantic feelings for you because you yourself never expected to feel this way about them. Unrequited romantic love for a truly close, always in the past, mutually platonic friend happens in spite of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 06:44 AM |
| 12 | Women should not get mad at their guy friends for ghosting them after they reject themAre you sure you mean angry? I think any anger is based on a feeling of betrayal or disrespect, especially when we’re talking about shorter term more casual female/male friendships. I think the annoyance can look like anger. Women tend to learn early that there can be massive, even violent or life threatening consequences to leading men on. So most women intuitively avoid this and will feel their platonic signals were deliberately loud and clear (even if she’s wrong about his perception of this)… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/23 06:09 AM |
| 5 | How do you explain successful men that end up marrying sluts?so there is something wrong with us for not wanting to marry habitual cheaters and sex workers? men should have no standard when it comes to women; they should accept them if they are habitual cheaters, sex workers, single moms, etc. No one said this. You are under no obligation to seek out or force attraction (which is impossible) to people you aren’t interested in. There’s nothing wrong with preferring chaste women if that’s your thing (you owe women - like all the other fellow humans - your r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 05:51 PM |
| 6 | How do you explain successful men that end up marrying sluts?Bingo! I’m sure there are outliers. Extremely conservative areas, puritanical communities, etc. But honestly, almost no functioning adults irl discuss concepts like “body count” with any degree of seriousness. The manosphere can be entertaining as an analytical sandbox to hypothesize and discuss anthropological theory. But it would seem all these hypothetical and generalizing discussions are starting to mislead the inexperienced and younger crowd into some weird ideas - like the concept of vetti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 05:45 PM |
| 9 | How do you explain successful men that end up marrying sluts?What makes you qualified to speak for top-tier men and the women they seek out? Do you actually have any idea why you want what you say you want? Do you ever think about the fact that you’ve been fed a steady diet of carefully tailored propaganda since before you were born? Not everyone will live and die letting their goals and decision-making be dictated to them by tired tropes, illogical narratives, and arbitrary puritanical standards. Believe it or not, many people have in fact already freed … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/03/23 05:35 PM |
| 14 | What is one night stand guy(criteria)The ONS is almost by definition circumstantial and opportunistic. I’ve literally never known a woman to leave her house with the goal of finding a man she wants to have mediocre sex with that night and then never see again. Since I know youre trying to find something you can quantify and analyze here to increase your odds, I can tell you one night stands usually happen in spite of any prior intentions a woman has for herself and her life. When the chemistry clicks, obstacles are nonexistent, and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 07:43 AM |
| 5 | What is one night stand guy(criteria)I don’t think the obsession has anything to do with women actually finding beards sexually attractive. But they really do have a shockingly effective ability to successfully camouflage the notorious recessed jawline (aka weak chin). It’s amazing to me just how much bone structure matters to a man’s objective attractiveness. Men (esp among the manosphere) aren’t usually advised to learn to contour a more angular jawline to mitigate the effects of the unfair genetic lottery. But shouldn’t they be,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/23 07:19 AM |
| 1 | If A GF Can Post Bikini/Half Naked Pics, Can Her BF Like Other Women's Pics as well?This discussion sometimes gets sidetracked with defining bikini/half naked pics, so for the purpose of the reply, I just want to clarify I’m referring to selfie/professional shots that showcase the body - not necessarily sexually suggestive, but clearly intended to entice. So Instagram model type shots vs candid family shots. Like it’s expected that someone active on social media will eventually want to post photos that include themself in a bathing suit at some point (family pool shots, vacatio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 09:08 PM |
| 5 | Is “I want a smart man” the socially acceptable way of simply saying “I want a rich man”?Sure, but I think we can just call that sexual intelligence (which is actually a combination of emotional intelligence and sexual experience) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 04:36 AM |
| 8 | Is “I want a smart man” the socially acceptable way of simply saying “I want a rich man”?Ikr. “Smart” really isn’t an objective quality you can measure with wealth, status, or power, especially in the west. The veil is crashing down though, thanks to social media. Never before did we have access to just how uninformed, out-of-touch, and lacking in basic critical thinking skills our political leaders truly are. Not to mention the sad state of the people running corporate America. Still a mystery to most of us though are the true puppet masters of this country. I don’t think it’s a co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 04:28 AM |
| 8 | Is “I want a smart man” the socially acceptable way of simply saying “I want a rich man”?Definitely not. In my experience, by intelligence or “I want a smart man”, women usually mean by her own assessment of whether or not the man is her intellectual equal. Education level and career prospects might factor into her screening process for a life partner, but are poor indicators of whether the man’s intelligence will be sexually attractive. Imagine a guy who works at the Apple store and drives an old beat up car going toe to toe with her in conversation, he’s obviously well-read, shows… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/23 03:55 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Do you believe/know/think that your grandmothers have never loved your grandfathers?My paternal East Indian grandparents had an arranged marriage. I was raised by my American mom and by then westernized dad, so growing up, I was fascinated by the concept of an arranged marriage. I asked my grandma lots of questions growing up, but the one I really remember best is “Did you love grandpa, or just like him?” She said “Of course I love grandpa, I love you, I love your daddy, and I love my family”. She had a third grade education, was threatened out of her home in Uganda, lived in a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/23 12:29 PM |
| 2 | How are short man supposed to date?I’m 5’ and married my 5’3” husband who was working at JC Penney when we met. I mean, I was a secretary at a real estate office, so… 🤷♀️ We both wanted a family, he had opinions and interests that made him fun to be around, he had his own life going, and he treated me with respect and kindness. This isn’t to say I’m above my own hang ups. I didnt want to date a man any shorter or younger than I was (this was over a decade ago though so I might not have cared these days anyway). Most men are at l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/23 03:32 PM |
| 0 | What do you do when 'Chad' starts flirting with you and you are in a relationship? How do you feel?Ah okay. I think you’re advocating for people to take ownership of their behaviors and communicate clearly and directly, and I think we’d all agree that’d be ideal. I’m personally not a fan of “passive voice” either. In fact I think I even read something about a recent study that proved the way language shapes our emotions, which then influence our behaviors. Maybe people in general would have become less codependent (eventually leading to unresolved resentment) in their relationships had they b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 02:52 AM |
| 7 | What do you do when 'Chad' starts flirting with you and you are in a relationship? How do you feel?The relationship being over and you not accepting it doesn't make sense as a statement. Might want to read it again. You really haven’t experienced this before? Every relationship break up in life has gone like this for me. It’s rare in adult relationships for one person to blindsight someone they once loved and just “dump” their partner. Sometimes once good situations in life become irreparably toxic until they’re no longer serving the participants. Change is difficult, so people often live in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 07:15 PM |
| 6 | What do you do when 'Chad' starts flirting with you and you are in a relationship? How do you feel?.Here is a model that came up when I tried doing a reverse image search on GigaChad’s public profile photo. I think something we can take away from the story is that many women are not going to automatically find an objectively attractive man especially desirable (traits like ideal facial structure, sharp jawline, above average fitness levels, etc) until they’re given more context. The model in the photo I linked is maybe a 6 let’s say, 7 if he’s wearing the suit whenever we see him. Now if we p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 05:35 PM |
| 10 | What do you do when 'Chad' starts flirting with you and you are in a relationship? How do you feel?Married with 2 kids here, but I still feel qualified to answer, and I really relate to the premise of the question. Before I was laid off 2 months ago, I worked for 10 years in a corporate real estate job, rotating between the offices in my region. One particular office became known for its profitability skyrocketing after replacing the broker with an exceptionally attractive, high earning managing broker who came from a very wealthy family. The office’s geographic area is a popular retirement/s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 02:52 PM |
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