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It sounds like you've had some really one-sided and draining experiences, and that kind of emotional labour, where you're giving more than you're receiving, would wear anyone down. That frustration is completely understandable. Nobody wants to feel like they're only being called on to play therapist or emotional support with nothing coming back. That said, I think what you're describing isn't necessarily a problem with female friends, but with bad friends. People who don’t show up for you in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 10:29 AM
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Lack of understanding is the problem. People recognize emotional harm when women are victims because they’ve been taught to, not because they deeply understand it. That is why they fail to apply the same standard to men...because they do not actually comprehend the harm itself, just the narrative around it. If people truly understood manipulation, coercion, and abuse, they would recognize it regardless of the victim’s gender. The fact that they do not proves the issue is limited mental scope, no…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 04:19 PM
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You frame it as society refusing to acknowledge emotional and social harm, but the reality is that many people simply do not understand it. Recognising this kind of harm requires a deep understanding of others, their emotions, experiences, and inner lives. But for those who lack that perspective, the damage is unimaginable because they do not fully grasp the victim’s experience in the first place. Their limited scope of understanding leaves them without empathy or sympathy for forms of abuse the…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 04:01 PM
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It would be wrong to assume that because they hate it and try to destroy it, it must correct. Thats one of them non sequiturs, or an argument from opposition fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:40 PM
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I don't disagree. While everyone deserves empathy, some people make it very difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 02:36 PM
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People get this wrong because they do not think about timescales. You need to breathe. Without air, you will die in minutes. You need water. Without it, you will die in days. You need food. Without it, you will die in weeks. No one argues with that. But exercise is also a need. If you do not move your body, it starts breaking down in ways you cannot fix. It will kill you, just over decades instead of weeks. Same with social needs. Go without them long enough and your brain changes in ways that c…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:39 AM
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OP is wrong about almost everything, but their example about Thomas James Ball at least was a genuine tragedy. It is not that he preferred self-harm over providing for his children, it is that he felt trapped by a system that left him no way out. His financial struggles were not due to a lack of care but circumstances he could not overcome, and instead of support, the system punished him further. When someone is driven to such despair, it should inspire empathy, not disdain. Child safeguarding i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:54 AM
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Leaving someone just because they get sick is vile. In cases like cancer, that betrayal can literally decrease their chances of survival. This isn’t about a boyfriend deciding this level of commitment isn’t for them. That’s fair enough. But marriage? This is quite literally what you signed up for. So when a man leaves his wife because of cancer, why would anyone ask how their sex life was or how good of a wife she was? What kind of person thinks that’s a question worth asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 10:42 AM
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Sure, there isn't fundamentally a difference. Both are being manipulative pieces of shit, it just works out better for one group than the other. They're still both the type of person you should learn to recognise and avoid like the plague. There is nothing admirable about trying to manipulate people to get what you want, especially when they think they have a genuine connection with you. This behaviour might be quite common, but it's also psychotic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 12:34 PM
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When an emotionally stunted person with attachment issues actually manages to fall in love, that tends to stick with them, and they don't let it go. A well-adjusted person will be able to move on without holding extreme feelings. Your partner doesn't sound well-adjusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:36 AM
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It's just cope, they don't actually believe that they just can't handle knowing they're vastly inferior to these people.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 06:52 AM
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Historically, the most dangerous group is young, single, and directionless/jobless (although actually, zero social standing) men. Their race and sexual orientation do not matter. If they have nothing connecting them to main society, they have very little stopping them from joining violent and dangerous groups and causing disruption. Many destroyed civilisations went to shit at the hands of these groups, and in modern times, they tend to make any area they show up in en mass much worse. They are …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 08:47 AM
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The people who see someone falter and lose faith in them are the type of people who are delusional about both their partner and everyone else. They are terrible judges of character and it isn't fair to use them as a representation of everyone. It might happen frequently, but that is because there are billions of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 08:04 AM
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For number 1, people are attracted to traits. The more traits you have that the other person is into, the stronger your bond will grow. The physical traits are most important to start and become less important over time as people get to know you overall, which is why a lot of successful relationships start from friendships rather than meeting on a dating site where the only traits you see are physical. People who care mainly about physical traits won't understand this though, because the way the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:52 AM
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This feels so detached from reality its unreal. At best, you seem to be in a toxic work culture where only people that form cliques stay. Whether or not they will ever acknowledge it, women are a hive mind and rely heavily on the influence and approval of other women in their mate selection Lmao wtf is this. Don't get me wrong, it'd be cool to be part of a hive-mind, but that isn't a thing. There are social behaviours, people do talk to each other, and a minority of people do gain attraction to …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 01:35 PM
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Most people have poor self-esteem, and it makes them compromise on their boundaries. You probably see the side that concerns you, but this is a universal issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 09:36 AM
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Good. Permanent alimony makes sense in very specific situations where someone permanently sacrificed their earning potential to make sure their partner was about to maximise theirs, and where the possibility of them earning anything close to what they sacrificed is gone forever. This doesn't happen much anymore, if it ever really did. Outside of that specific situation, there is just no possible reason for it to be perpetual. Assets should be split based on how they were gained during the partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 12:40 PM
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Confidence is just knowing your value accurately (so very different to arrogance which is confidence based on inaccurate measure of value). You could phrase that as being "better" than other people in whatever skill you're confident in, but being good at something isn't necessarily relative to everyone else's ability, it's how complete your understanding or ability is. If you know how to hang a picture from start to finish, you can be confident in your ability. It's completely irrelevant if othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:50 PM
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The most dangerous group of people are young men with no place or purpose in society. This is not a sign that a patriarchy exists, it is just how people work. We do not know exactly why behaviours emerge, but evolution has no intention, only results. A behaviour with lots of false positives won't necessarily be removed if those false positives don't cause a disadvantage, which in this case is true. If awkwardness is a good indication that someone is not well embedded in a community, then it make…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 12:34 PM
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They're meant to be different leagues? They both look pretty much equally unattractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 03:25 PM
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Compensation? They end up with a child together. Unless the partner is a deadbeat they will have picked up any slack so that everything keeps going, but a relationship is a team. Compensation is a nonsense concept in this situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:50 AM
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This scenario is so dumb because never does this ever happen The scenario of someone ignoring you when you ask what time it is? Or something else. If it is that scenario, I see it happen all the time. People often feel entitled to others attention just because they are both in a public space, it is remarkably egotistical.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 11:54 AM
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I suppose that men's negative reactions to someone else's looksmaxing are also a sexual strategy... If you want to read into it more than necessary, it wouldn't be a sexual strategy specifically, just a social one. Changes in value fuck with the hierarchy and could lead to conflict. Much better to shut it down early.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:05 AM
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What do you get from grabbing onto someone? Genuine (autistic) question, I've never had the urge. Is it to like a grounding thing to reassure you because they are there? I had a pretty shitty upbringing so to me people aren't reliable like that, is it different for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 03:24 PM
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Withholding intimacy could be abusive depending on how it is done, but you just can't tell from that little info. Not having sex with someone in almost all cases is not abusive (in fact there is only one kind of behaviour I can think of where it might qualify which is more about controlling behaviour, where someone deliberately turns their partner on repeatedly and deliberately but then forbids them to do anything about that frustration and punishes them if they do, which is a thing that happens…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 11:05 AM
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A fear of crying, vulnerability, and being seen as weak keeps all of their human relationships at arms’ length. The impression I'm given is that even if all of these things were expressed, most people wouldn't care. The fear isn't that they would be punished so much as finding out that people really do see them as expendable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 11:17 AM
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I'm sorry, are you surprised that some people lie to get what they want? Either way, that has nothing to do with love or intimacy. It's just people using it as a cover. You know why it is convincing? Because to most people, it isn't a lie, so it is hardly unreasonable to believe them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 11:31 PM
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Intimacy is a specific feeling of fulfilment from emotional connection. With gift giving, it can be from knowing the person well enough to have bought something that truly made them happy, or feeling like you are providing for someone the best you can. With gift receiving, it can be from knowing that someone is thinking of you and cares about you. It isn't about the material object, which is why hand-made things are usually preferred. With physical touch as a love language, the feeling of connec…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 08:55 PM
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If you find someone purely attractive, why would you want to ruin it by getting to know them?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 11:55 PM
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Absolutely do not compromise your body for some silly shit-test. If your partner is still happy with the relationship if you stop taking care of yourself ( not always the same thing as gaining a lot of weight, but usually is) and your partner is still happy, that is great, but there are many reasons to not want to be with someone who let's themselves go other than purely superficial. If you have a principle of bodily health being important to you and someone else shows that they do not share tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 08:40 AM
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majority of humans understand that things like hobbies or entertainment inherently come after the people in your life. Yep. The exceptions are usually people at the top of their field, who usually have to make serious sacrifices. It is very hard to maintain both without an unusually understanding partner. Maybe OP doesnt see the difference between someone being your #1 priority in life, vs having your #1 priority be trying to force someone to like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:14 PM
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As with a lot of these, it's just a numbers game again. Intelligence isn't a universally favoured trait, but being aesthetically pleasing is (assuming there are no polarising features). So the pool of potential partners you're pulling from is much smaller, and so the success rate drops. It's really not rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 02:13 PM
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There's probably missing context here, to me this post makes most sense from the perspective of asking people what they bring to the table when that person is complaining about not being able to find a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 01:53 PM
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You say "should" and "shouldn't" a lot, as if this is preordained or something. You seem to misunderstand how life works. Everything is random chance, traits only provide an increased chance of surviving in different conditions. Reproduction is not survival of the fittest either, its mostly luck. Most people reproduce within their social circle, so if you are unlucky enough to not be in a small group with people who have a preference for your traits, you're fucked. It's all random chance, and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 08:19 AM
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Simply speaking, a world where women are structurally barred from meaningfully participating without being married is the only thing that would solve the "problem" of women having sexual agency. That is deranged. There are so many stages between doing nothing and proposing totalitarian government policy. I don't actually agree with TRP but it is a social movement with social solutions. Large amounts of sexual behaviour and attraction seem to be influenced by culture. A simple solution would be t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:15 PM
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There have always been societies that prefer to pork portly partners. If you think them being heavy means lower value competition, you will be sorely mistaken.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 07:30 AM
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No, i disagree with it because it is wrong. It is sexist because it has a clear disdain for men as a group. "blatantly obvious how disgusting men are" "revolting depraved fetishes men have" You clearly have not seen the depths of depravity humans are capable of, nor do you understand that depravity and fetishes are psychological and have nothing to do with being male or female. Not only are they extremely common, they are also much worse than simply sexualising things like faeces or urine. You d…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 11:34 AM
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The betrayal is actually his friend and the lack of loyalty that he showed. She did nothing wrong in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 06:15 PM
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This reeks of sexism. Men and women have different levels of libido as individuals, and men have an additional mechanism for the horny based on pressure in gonads, but all that does is make their sex-drive more predictable. You base your views on assumption and worst case scenario for one, while being completely ignorant of the other. I have had the misfortune of being sexually assaulted multiple times, but my bad experiences with males can't come close to those with women. Humans can be vile, d…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 10:03 AM
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I think it just depends where you live. A lot of my male friends, when we used to go clubbing as a group, would always have white girls all over them, but it was because of the exciting, forbidden aspect rather than actually liking them. Apparently it's exhausting and really awful for self-esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:52 AM
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Two different biological realities with significant life implications are going to result in drastically different outcomes. It's not like men or women don't experience sexism in different societies and sectors, but the sexism they experience is different depending on region/culture. The differing life choices seem to be universal. It is very hard to catch up with your peers when you leave a profession for a large amount of time, either through lost experience or connections. Being able to grow …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 06:44 AM
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Take it from someone who did wait till marriage. Ignoring personal choice/religious reasons, the only time I'd actually say it's sensible to not have sex before marriage is if you genuinely don't care about it and aren't anticipating it. Given your apparent sex drive, I think you might end up with regrets. It is possible you will get extraordinarily lucky and find someone you're compatible with first try, but the more common result is that you will try and mould yourself around them and it will …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 06:18 AM
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Sure lol, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:07 PM
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It quite literally is, I don't know what you're disagreeing with. Trimming nails is different to wearing coloured varnish, getting a haircut is different to dying your hair, washing your face is different to wearing concealer. One accentuates your actual features, the other hides, conceals or distorts them. If you like makeup, thats great, but be under no illusion as to what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 07:56 PM
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Good grooming is just showing the best of your features, while wearing makeup is lying about them. I don't actually think there's anything wrong with people wearing makeup, but I do think it's wrong to compare it to self-maintenance.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 03:25 PM
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Of course it's still wrong. If you think not personally paying the consequences makes it okay, your brain might be more lizard than most. Worse still if you convince yourself you're doing her a favour. The best outcome of no-body finding our doesn't actually matter, since the immoral act is actually exposing the family to the risk, and is not specifically tied to the outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 11:34 AM
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"Objectively" doesn't exist, since we're all just fleshy meat monkeys. Just because a majority of people like traits doesn't mean they're "objectively" better, it's still subjective, just more popular. The whole idea of attractiveness is extremely misunderstood. Like what you like, because that's all that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/22 05:29 PM
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Love is not a zero sum game. There is absolutely no excusing neglecting your partner when you have kids, because that is the time when you both need support more than ever. Raising kids is hard, and often new parents end up putting too much time into their kids and not enough time into making sure each other are coping. Being neglected in a relationship is a completely valid complaint and you're being ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 12:56 PM
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It might sound strange to someone who sees Penis every time they look down, but it's actually really hard to judge how long dicks are by eye. Most people don't have the time to get out a tape and measure them, so it's usually just going on people's word. Leads to some really warped perceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 01:23 PM
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You've got to be able to trust your partner for it to be okay. If they aren't able to cut themselves off if they get too close, they don't deserve you. Imo emotional affairs are worse than physically cheating in many ways, although they are both awful, and it takes being a decent person to know to avoid them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/22 07:30 AM
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Holy hell that as a bad film. Being unable to lie is not the same as being compelled to answer every single question posed to you. "I don't want to tell you" will almost always be the truth to any question with a negative outcome (mainly my problem is with the "criminal who immediately tells the man he's robbing every single detail about himself with barely any prompting".
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 07:26 AM
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Thank you for so perfectly demonstrating my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 08:07 PM
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The arguments used against men are the same arguments racists use to justify their racism. They are also wrong for the same reasons. It doesn't matter if you've spotted a trend within a population, it still is not fair to judge individuals because of it. It's fucked up that people don't realise why it's wrong. In the same way that racists think they're just being pragmatic, so do misandrists and misogynists.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 04:09 PM
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I'm glad you could understand that mess. Honestly I think it's fucked up that anyone should have a problem with other people's preferences. So long as others aren't being forced to comply with them, there's nothing wrong with caring about N count either. I just dislike when people are convinced other people are stupid for discounting it, or insecure for believing in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 10:17 PM
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You've probably picked your nose hundreds of times, but that thought wouldn't even occur to most people. They're not willfully ignorant of that fact, it's just not something they would think about. If you can understand why it doesn't matter to then, you can understand why some people don't give a shit about N count. To some people, the N count truly doesn't matter, and it never will. They're not right or wrong, it's just a different way of living.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 10:11 PM
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I don't think wider society should have any opinion at all, but close friends should probably let them know that they're shitbags.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 10:59 PM
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Why is it surprising that if men do activities that girls also do, you'll: 1. Meet more girls, and 2. Have more in common with the girls you meet. It's not rocket science. Why wouldn't you be more interested in someone you have things in common and get along with?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 05:20 PM
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They often get happy when the children leave the home. Look, it's called Unconditional Love, not Unconditional Like. You can love someone no matter what they do, always be there to support them when they need you, and generally care for them, but that doesn't mean you don't want to punt those little shits out a window sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 04:53 PM
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Most dudes I know just swipe up to everyone they see, then pick through afterwards once they get matches, and it's pretty much expected for them to do so. So it's not a surprise that the amount of matches for most women is ridiculously high, but it also doesn't directly lead to anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 12:53 PM
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Why would you complain so much about someone you're not into? If you didn't want anything from them, you wouldn't be upset when you don't get it. Apathy is much further from love than hate is. I'm not sure why this doesn't make sense to some people, it's quite simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 10:26 AM
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There's nothing wrong with going for free food IF beforehand you specifically state that you are not interested in anything more than friendship, that nothing will come from the meal other than friendly conversation, and finally that you have offered to pay your half but they declined. If you don't do any of that, you're just trying to exploit someone which is always wrong no matter the circumstance.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 01:53 PM
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The commenter you replied to was absolutely right, and there was nothing radical or even feminist about it, it's a basic egalitarian principle. If you've never heard of coercion then that would explain your views. Imagine a guy really wants to have sex with you, and you don't want to have sex with them. Now imagine that they have some form of leverage on you or someone close to you, and if you don't say yes they will irreparably ruin your/their life in some way. You are now having sex with this …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 09:39 AM
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I agree, but the issue is usually in the implementation. Part of the reason FDS is so unbelievably toxic is that they ban anyone and everyone who disagrees. It's the same with all the toxic subreddits. So yes, they absolutely shouldn't be banned, but in that case they also shouldn't be able to ban other people. As the system currently stands, it's the worst of both worlds.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 03:26 PM
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Anyone who pays for it, or simps after a "real" girl while in a relationship is being extremely irresponsible and fucked up, and most people would have an issue. Just watching it is fine for most now though. The twitter "liking" is gross, but I don't know how it works so maybe it's like bookmarking. Would still sketch me out though, personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 08:25 AM
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Heard it's a Myth? As in porn addiction is a Myth? It absolutely isn't a Myth, it can be devastating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:25 PM
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Have you never worked in a kitchen? Attractive foh end up with gremlins all the time, because the gremlins feed them. There's many different ways to hold value. Money and looks are unlikely to be the majority of people's highest values.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 01:32 PM
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It's not impossible, but almost everything in life happens much more easily via social circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:47 AM
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High N count could be indicative of poor impulse control, or poor judgement, or it could be just a different set if moral values to yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 07:02 PM
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1) Depends where you live. In America, no. 2) Depends on if I kept my personality. I don't like other people and am already solitary. I can't imagine that changing. 3) No, I think everyone has inherent value. Being able to produce children might be useful for a species, but in everyday life it means fuckall. We all have spare organs that could save others lives though, and we all make blood and bone marrow, so yeah we all have some inherent value. 4) Depends on where you live, and what class you…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 11:45 AM
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Probably not no. Out of almost 8 billion people, there will be many millions of dipshits. Plenty of people would be repugnant enough to legitimately be into serial killers. Doesn't mean it's sensible to assume that most people are, just like the existence of serial killers themselves doesn't mean most people will commit mass murder.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 05:28 PM
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People have a multitude of reasons for being kind, and it is entirely possible to do nice things for the sake of helping out. It would be paranoid to automatically assume there's an ulterior motive, but naive to not even consider the possibility. This particular circumstance should have been disappointing but not surprising.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 11:47 AM
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So long as the ethical side is handled to make sure people aren't trafficked into it, there's nothing wrong with sex-work. For men who don't want a relationship, or would only be in a relationship for sex, it's a preferable alternative for them and also their potential partners. Kind of a win win to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:27 PM
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Sex is one of the less important factors in a relationship, so it isn't the first thing that comes up when genuinely interested in someone. It's still important, so you get to it eventually, but there's other more important things you want to learn about a person. If you're not romantically attracted to someone, only sexually attracted, that's when you jump straight to sex, because it's the only dimension that you see of that person. To be fair, a lot of people don't know how to build healthy re…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:26 PM
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But that's exactly what I don't understand about your mindset. They're not making them wait deliberately, they're interested in them and taking time to get to know them. That does mean that waiting is involved, sure, but it's a byproduct rather than the intention. I do, for the record, agree that deliberately making someone wait for no reason is insane, but I really don't think that is what they meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 10:55 PM
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But most men aren't shitty? Being attracted to someone doesn't mean you want to date them, it's way more shallow than that. If you don't want to date someone but you're still attracted to them, what's wrong with having sex with them? Like I said before, casual sex and intimate sex are two very different things. There's nothing inherently insulting or emasculating about your partner having had casual sex in the past, reading into it the way you have just seems extremely insecure. Sure, you could …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 10:39 PM
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I feel like this sub has moved further and further away from reality, like Holy shit. It's really not complicated, if you find someone attractive but don't think you're going to date them, you have sex and it's done. No intimacy, very little meaning, it's just for fun. However, if you're serious about them, you take longer to get to know them, you take your time and build intimacy, so that when you do have sex it's that much better, it has more meaning, and you can form a proper bond. Casual sex…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:57 PM
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Polarising traits are better than decent average traits. No-one is going to think you're special for being average, but having polarising features means people either think you're fuck-ugly or amazing, depending on their preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 08:29 PM
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Are you a robot? Noticing aesthetic beauty is a conscious examination of features, arousal is a subconscious response to attractive features. There may or may not be intersections between but the two are entirely separate concepts.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 02:16 PM
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I mean, people seem to care waaaay less than they do about MGTOW to be honest, but of course you get assholes who will shit on you for anything you do. Relationship status is like diet though, people don't care unless you try to make it part of your personality
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 09:52 AM
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That's probably because people are terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/21 03:02 PM
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There's a difference between not being able to dress yourself, and not having cloths to suit a specific style they want from you. It's very rarely ever the former. I really don't know why, but its a common way people think, that if someone doesn't match their own aesthetic taste, that their style is dogshit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 08:34 AM
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Simp isn't a gendered term. Women tend to simp like crazy when they're in their early teens, and a fair amount never grow out of the habbit. Just look at videos of the crowd composition at Justin Beiber concerts, for instance. Creepy shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/21 08:39 AM
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Anti-choice I.e stay at home mom's are playing into the patriarchy, similarly with anti-sexwork. Many differences of opinion in what is 'empowering'.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 10:50 AM
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Member of one of the movements, not a subscriber of egalitarianism. Some forms of Feminism are really misogynistic. It's like how some groups of Christians have waged crusades and burned witches in the past despite love being a core tenant, and many sects being strictly anti-violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:07 AM
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Yep, been in love. It's good shit. Also, I like this sub because the conversations are usually pretty fun. No matter who you're talking to, no matter how bonkers the opinion, people here will at least always engage with you and explain their reasoning, and are sometimes open to being reasoned with. It's much less toxic than you'd expect most of the time, even though it's always spicy as hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:03 AM
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It's lying by omission, so it is a grade of wrong. If you think wrong is wrong then fair enough, in your opinion she shouldn't hide it, but on the other hand, it may well affect his self-esteem, and he's not going to grow a bigger dick is he now?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 07:56 AM
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This does come across as purely a personal experience pitched as a universal truth. Loving someone is not equal to being clingy, at all. Being clingy is an inability to respect boundaries, where as loving someone (as opposed to obsession/possessive feelings) involves respecting boundaries. People don't find love off-putting, but no-one is truly happy with lopsided relationships. If someone likes me a lot more than I like them, it makes it much harder for the both of us to find a middle-ground wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 12:05 PM
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No no, this genuinely isn't normally a thing. If you have experience with men's locker rooms outside of film/tv, no-one has any interest in anyone else except that one old guy who is abnormally proud of his wang, who walks around without his towl. Men really don't give a shit about each other's dick size unless they have a vested interest in them...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 10:21 AM
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It's not toxic masculinity, he's just a moron. Obviously it entirely depends on the needs of the couple and how they have structured their lives that determines who takes time off and for how long. But I suppose a guy who thinks he's hot shit because he stumbled upon the infinite money exploit that is venture capital in a sector that employs growth-at-all-cost, probably isn't worth listening to when it comes to real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 01:40 PM
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Be yourself is extremely toxic when interpreted as not needing to try. I'm pretty sure the actual phrase is intended as "strive to be the best version of yourself", something that requires effort and polish.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 01:20 PM
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Having no extreme features might make you look more visually appealing to the majority of people, but you will end up losing out. Having polarising features means that, while the average opinion of you is much lower, some people will hate how you look and some will LOVE it. Human taste varies wildly, but you're much better off playing into your strengths than ignoring them in favour of making yourself have wider general appeal, because then it's a numbers game that you are guaranteed to lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 01:17 PM
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Nagging is, in my mind, just repeatedly asking for something that you have already been given an answer to. It usually represents a lack of trust/faith in the partner to get a job done, despite it not being your job to remind them. Nagging can be extremely annoying, patronising and often insulting. What is more unfortunate is that, despite it being universally a bad thing, the person nagging may well think they have good intentions, because they are arrogant enough to think they are in a positio…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 09:40 AM
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Lol, calling Spitting and choking grotesque is great. Yeah, those acts are not classy, but they're about as vanilla as it comes. Do you really think porn caused deviance? People have always been filth, their limit is usually their imaginations. Sex isn't all about love you know, there's a whole range of reasons to enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 02:26 PM
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Lots of different reasons, but I think in this case it's probably the extremes of emotion that then make healthy relationships feel like they're dull or missing something. That doesn't mean people are happy in abusive relationships, it means that abusive relationships are so toxic that they will ruin any further chances of happiness unless they get help, which they often don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 12:46 PM
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I mean, no it won't get in the way of most relationships, relationships are often more about companionship than sex, but it might hurt prostitutes bottom line. For anyone who purely uses relationships for sex, though, I hope they do stick to vr.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 09:39 AM
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It is implied from you assuming everyone who dates a man likes them less and less as time goes on i.e men are actually inherently unlikeable once you get to know them. Presumably not what you meant?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 02:25 PM
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I have yet to meet someone who wasn't secretly a degenerate. I'm certain we all into weird shit, its just how truthful we are about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:31 PM
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"Sex is for making babies so you don't have a right to complain" is an argument that is just as retarded when you use it as when people use it as an argument against abortion. Regardless of what you think is fair, for practical reasons women need to be the ones who have ultimate say in what happens with their bodies. In a just society, you should not be able to legally compel someone to make changes to their body against their will. This has nothing to do with who's fault pregnancy is. To try an…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/20 11:05 AM
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I think most people would agree that during pandemics, these measures are very necessary. The issue some people have is that governments have a poor track record of relinquishing power once they have gained it. It is obviously a polarising issue, because depending on your view it could be that you priorotise the people's welfare now, where as others worry about the potential danger to democracy that the precedent sets. What is important to remember is that, regardless of what answer seems obviou…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/20 11:48 AM
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Right? It feels like it could end up ingraining 'treating their partner like mom figure' even worse. Definitely bluring lines that could lead to confusion.
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