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Don't think about "does this work," anything can work dude. These are people we're dealing with, it depends on their comfort level/openness/availability/a ton of things. It "works" when the girl is into you. It's not some technique, it's just being straightforward and honest. If you want to take her to your place you just take her to your place. I've done it day and night (bubble tea/drinks). You can sit down and talk for a bit if you want if you don't feel like she's comfortable, and then say l…
/r/seduction11/05/16 06:31 PM
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Invite them straight over to your place, or get coffee/tea/ice cream someplace nearby and start walking immediately to your place while talking. I did this a lot in college.
/r/seduction11/05/16 04:54 PM
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I'll add the qualifier, there's a big difference in a girl saying she has a boyfriend and COMMUNICATING she has a boyfriend. My comment was to the girl communicating the boyfriend, and I imagine newbies will have a hard time telling the difference. I wasn't there so I don't know the context of your situation. Words can only describe so much, I'm sure in your situation you were getting body language/tonality/so many other things telling you she wasn't being serious.
/r/seduction11/05/16 04:06 PM
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Specific example, this girl I met out at a Cinco party mentioned for me to stop "doing what I was doing, I have a boyfriend" when I hadn't even SAID anything to convey my intentions - she was the one writing the script, and even after she said it and I didn't react, she let me pull her in close and we had some seriously Rated R eye contact ("you mean stop doing this?") before she volunteered her number. The point is to screen out people who aren't honest with their intentions, or who play games …
/r/seduction10/05/16 08:35 PM
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Yes, they work. He's one of the few legit people. His style is highly polarizing and focuses on screening. Some people won't like that but it is effective.
/r/seduction10/05/16 02:29 AM
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Listen to yourself dude. You're willing to give up your job to sleep with this girl, but you won't give up your ego to simply ask her out and see if she's into you? To answer your question you don't "get" somebody to be into you, you be an attractive person and when you interact with her she might take interest. Read the sidebar.
/r/seduction09/05/16 02:30 PM
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You don't need to have everything, but you need to offer something. You CANNOT simple take from girls. Can you offer good emotions? Humor? Positivity? If you can then you have a chance. Otherwise be realistic and think about if you would want to hang out with yourself. If not, then start respecting yourself by taking care of the areas you know are lagging.
/r/seduction09/05/16 12:11 AM
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Dude you have your bedroom. Just sit on your bed. Make a joke about how empty your apartment is. If anything this is great cause you have no choice but to be in your bedroom.
/r/seduction07/05/16 05:03 PM
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When you take this girl home does she understand you're sexually interested in her? You've communicated this to her clearly and she knows what she's getting into? It's very easy to hide your intent because you don't want to trigger her "anti slut defense," but really it's just a defense to avoid the possibility she's actually not sexually available.
/r/seduction07/05/16 05:02 PM
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I'm just curious, if you can already get these girls home how have you not kissed them already?
/r/seduction05/05/16 04:41 AM
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You're entire post consists of blanket statements, generalizations, and assumptions. Really ask yourself, is it more likely that ALL, most, or even a large percentage of women don't solve problems, or is it the case that YOU are not capable of being in a relationship with a mature woman? You, a man who has taken to posting on an internet forum looking to absolve himself of responsibility of a problem, just like you are blaming women of doing.
/r/seduction04/05/16 05:56 PM
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Personally I slept around like mad trying to "even the score", and by the end of it I came to realize sex for just the numbers is a fairly empty experience and not something to be jealous of at all. If anything a lot of the time it comes from insecurity and a desperation for connection, as it was in my case. I don't care too much about a girl's past so long as I approve of her current behavior. I won't date a girl who is regularly sleeping with other people while seeing me because that's indicat…
/r/seduction03/05/16 06:29 PM
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You really need to be honest with yourself and determine where this "preference" is coming from. You seem self-aware enough to question if it's insecurity, which is good. Sit down and really ask yourself why you think this way. Is this really a rational judgment you're making or is it emotional? It's likely it's the latter, as you admit to coming from a place of scarcity and lack of experience. Why are you against the "hook-up culture?" Why is sex such a big deal to you? If you were a part of th…
/r/seduction03/05/16 03:34 PM
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First of all, you handle drama by not getting into it. This is a consequence of you sleeping with a girl with a boyfriend in a situation where you have no exit strategy. You're going to have to suck it up to a certain point. If you want to, show somebody the proof in the texts. You're not innocent here so there's not much to be done. Learn from this and take accountability. Second this is high school man. People are insecure and underdeveloped. People probably don't care anyway. Stop worrying ab…
/r/seduction03/05/16 03:19 PM
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It's a slow transformation that occurs when you stop putting yourself down and stop putting others on the pedestal. You internalize that we're all just human and these people aren't better than you for some arbitrary reason. There's no one path to getting there. Take a lot of action and experience a lot of people and relationships. Reflect on your experiences. Be honest but compassionate towards yourself and your flaws. Celebrate your strengths and your progress. It comes with time.
/r/seduction02/05/16 09:51 PM
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You say you're focusing on kino with these girls, how much are you escalating these interactions? Are these dates strictly platonic coffee dates or are you getting drinks, dancing, having fun, laughing, kissing and fucking these girls? I'm assuming it's the former. Correct me if I'm wrong. Cause it matters. I'm assuming you're not pushing the boundary and you're not being memorable.
/r/seduction01/05/16 10:19 PM
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You don't get her interested if she isn't, the only thing you can do is be an interesting and confident person she can take interest in. This is sidebar stuff. If she's not interested on the date you ask her to put her phone away and if she won't you just go home. Respectful people who want to he around you won't exhibit that kind of behavior.
/r/seduction01/05/16 10:12 PM
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Dude, just ask her to hang out at your place. Watch Netflix. Do nothing. She either likes you and wants to be around you or not. There's nothing saying you can't see her more than once a week just cause that's what you've been doing.
/r/seduction01/05/16 04:45 AM
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There is no how man, you literally just do it. Kissing a girl is not like hugging a tiger, it's more like grabbing free food at some event before anybody else. Everybody is nervous as fuck to be the first one, you just have to trust its there for you and go for it. That's about as much of a "how to" as you're going to get. Stop conversation, square up face to face, caress her sides, run your hands through her hair, use your hand to move her mouth and go for it.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/16 03:19 AM
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How hard have you thought about this? Is this really an issue of you not being assertive enough, or are you not creating enough of a connection to where they even want to sleep with you? At no point have you mentioned how these girls are feeling, which is indicative of your problem.
/r/seduction30/04/16 09:08 PM
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You're looking at this the wrong way. Why is it sad that love isn't this sad and needy component that comes out of desperation and loneliness versus something positive and invigorating that makes two people the best possible people they can be? Thinking of love as a way to cope through life is just a reflection of your own internal state. You're lacking something in life and NEED love to be something that fixes it.
/r/seduction30/04/16 10:22 AM
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Why is this an issue? Why are you talking about your job to women? Just ask her if she's heard of "the cloud" and say you do "that shit." Move on. Change topics. I'm sure you don't talk about a number of mundane things you do in life, focus your conversation on topics that are fun and matter to you.
/r/seduction29/04/16 08:03 AM
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Yeah, I need to fix that shit. Part of me despises the game because it's based on such primordial behavior. What does this even mean? You despise the game because girls lose interest that you aren't showing sexual interest? Would you not be pissed if somebody sold you one thing and gave you something completely different? This is the same thing.
/r/seduction29/04/16 07:56 AM
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Knock yourself out, good luck. I really wanted numbers when I got into this but it's just a validation trap. It means nothing.
/r/seduction29/04/16 07:50 AM
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His point went completely over your head. Sarcastic, but still a point.
/r/seduction29/04/16 07:45 AM
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My focus here is, am I reading too much into the eye contact situation here? Yes, you are. Instead of approaching her you wrote a reddit post detailing ways you could have talked to her, rather than actually do it. Stop thinking about this shit and say hi next time. Yes, context matters, but what matters even more is that you make the connection at all. Or don't approach. Why does it matter so much to you? This isn't an issue of not knowing the right thing to do or not meditating, you're freakin…
/r/seduction29/04/16 07:35 AM
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I don't know how old you are, I would assume college. As a recent college grad who committed to this as a sophomore after hitting what I thought was rock bottom (rock bottom would hit a few times after even harder after). Have faith. Have patience. Take action. I used to think there was no way out from the loneliness and helplessness, attending a huge public University with few friends. I spent so many days and nights alone in my dorm room playing Starcraft 2 for hours, wondering why I was so an…
/r/seduction29/04/16 06:22 AM
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What everyone else has said here. You interact with girls. Honestly not even a lot, you just have to put yourself in a position where girls can show interest and you can act on it. If you've taken care of the fundamentals (looks and communication, general confidence, etc) you're probably passing up a ridiculous amount of opportunities. I'm an introverted guy, I don't party much, I haven't met a girl through a friend since high school. My count was 4 before 19, 9 at 22, and 27 at 23 now. That las…
/r/seduction28/04/16 05:01 PM
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Consciously understand that you should always come first and not to over prioritize women in your life. Have strong boundaries and respect them so when somebody acts wrong like cancels on you it doesn't shake you because you know this person doesn't fit your standards. Live a life that is fulfilling on its own without a woman. Invest first in yourself before anybody else.
/r/seduction25/04/16 02:36 AM
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You don't need to tell her you can't be friends, just stop being friends. Think about it. What is the difference if you tell her or not? Are you telling her to get a reaction out of her? To spare her feelings? You're doing this because you're finally valuing your own feelings over hers. To stay true to this you don't need to tell her.
/r/seduction19/04/16 11:23 PM
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You have to realize that you're going to have to make a leap of faith. It's admittedly not much of a leap if a girl is in your room, on your bed, and you're cuddling. Girls don't do that shit with guys they don't like. You may notice that not all girls make strong eye contact in these situations and break rapport and keep talking making it difficult to find the perfect moment for the kiss. This is because they're nervous too. At some point you need to just grab your balls, stop talking, let the …
/r/seduction18/04/16 10:41 PM
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Do whatever you want, but telling her ultimately is unnecessary. If she contacts you and ask feel free to let her know but out of the blue proclaiming no contact to a girl you're not even involved with comes across as needy and dramatic.
/r/seduction18/04/16 10:37 PM
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Trust your decisions man. Why would you consider staying friends with her if you yourself know you can't be only friends with her? So you don't hurt her feelings? What about your hurt feelings? There's a difference between getting "over somebody", and getting over the idea of dating them. You seem to have done the latter, and it's a strong, mature, respectable move. Be respectful to her but please stick to your guns and respect yourself first. You don't need to tell her but your decision to not …
/r/seduction18/04/16 04:35 AM
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You do get a feel for it. It starts off awkward when you're not used to touching people you're sexually attracted to and being the forward one, but gets very natural. In the end, kino isn't something you "do" like a technique. You naturally touch somebody because you WANT to touch them and you're connecting with them. When I wrap my arm around a girl's waist I'm not doing kino I'm touching her because it feels good for both of us.
/r/seduction18/04/16 04:26 AM
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That's why I stuck around with the last one because I thought my "game" was enough and it seemed like we had a great connection. Nah, she just had committment issues and couldn't handle another rejection after her last ex. Is walking just a matter of discipline then? It's so easy to justify staying and forgiving when you rarely meet girls that interest you and you can rationalize away small annoyances (red flags).
/r/askTRP12/04/16 08:11 PM
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Thanks for the constructive feedback man. It's a lot easier for me to be a better man with your great advice.
/r/askTRP12/04/16 08:08 PM
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You can also circumvent this issue entirely by not hugging them before picking them up. No girl who would have fucked you is going to change her mind cause you didn't hug her at the start. If it feels clunky and awkward you don't have to force it.
/r/seduction09/04/16 05:40 AM
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I have this same issue too. I'm also afraid of people catching me at Subway trying to eat food, or going home to sleep. How do other people hide that they participate in normal, healthy adult human functions? :(
/r/seduction30/03/16 11:59 AM
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Being in college I would suggest involving yourself in as many activities/events as possible. You don't need to be involved in every club but find activities that allow you to be around other people often. In college I committed hard to cold approach and honestly wish I just placed myself around more people as I described. Less pressure for you, and any approach you do will be warm rather than cold. That being said, you will inevitably have to work through your shame and anxiety towards expressi…
/r/seduction16/03/16 11:30 PM
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That line is awful and cringe-worthy. Please no. Girls do not find the suggestion that you're sleazy attractive. I do agree about what you say after and just being honest about it, and that's the answer to your question about a truth that is unattractive. You're honest about it as you work through it. It'll help absolve you of the shame and it shows confidence owning your flaws. Of course it will screen out some who can't handle it, but that's a necessary part of the process.
/r/seduction16/03/16 11:27 PM
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Have you ever considered the problem isn't the system and it's you? The system isn't perfect, but it's far from hopeless. I do fine and I know many others who get along as well. Stop blaming others for your own shortcomings. Consider getting therapy. Game and lifting is NOT going to help you.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/16 03:23 AM
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Sure but you're missing the point. You should aim to be honest, not intentionally trying to show neediness. There's a different between saying something makes you insecure but you're working on it and going on for 30 minutes how you got wronged by an ex girlfriend. Just be honest without burdening the other person and work on getting past the neediness and any other negative emotions. Stop thinking any deeper than this.
/r/seduction12/02/16 11:34 PM
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The point is we're not vulnerable a lot of the time because we're ashamed and afraid of what's inside us (as you so clearly are) so we hide it in hopes nobody will notice and it, but they always do. The goal is to be vulnerable and expose your insecurities and shame so you can FIX it, so eventually being vulnerable exposes how STRONG you are, not how WEAK you are. Along with that, being honest and vulnerable IS an attractive trait, so long as you don't BURDEN the other person with your shame/ins…
/r/seduction11/02/16 10:25 PM
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Read Models dude. Check out the guys blog.
/r/seduction06/02/16 02:27 PM
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Good for what? It's good for revealing yourself to another person and developing a deep and meaningful relationship, it may not be as good at maintaining the attraction of a girl who's immature or not ready for it. My point is it's not just a technique or magic bullet.
/r/seduction06/02/16 02:27 PM
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I'm not really sure what you're asking. You've already said you're not willing to go outside your comfort zone more, so there's not much to really suggest. At the end of the day this is a numbers game and if you're not willing to put in the time and effort your results will be lackluster. You have to meet a lot of people to make this work. I would first suggest really defining what you want. Don't say "be better with girls!" That's not a metric you'll ever be satisfied with and you're going to d…
/r/seduction06/02/16 02:21 PM
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Yes. RSD is especially guilty of promoting the toxic beliefs that you aren't a man if you aren't approaching all, aren't living a rap life style and fucking hundreds of women. Him saying he was an introvert has nothing to do with his methods being productive and healthy for another introvert. This is coming from somebody who started PU with RSDAlexs free tour, has seen Tyler speak, and attended Julien world tour.
/r/seduction28/01/16 11:00 PM
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What are you trying to get out of this? Vulnerability is necessary to have a healthy relationship, it's not necessary to have sex. This girl seems to be immature if she'd think less of you. Decide what you want. Looks like you being vulnerable showed you she's not worth dating seriously if she'd really think less of you after being honest and truthful.
/r/seduction28/01/16 08:57 PM
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I'm currently seeing somebody I approached who ended up being in my circle of friends, but besides that Tinder's kept me more than busy lately.
/r/seduction28/01/16 08:54 PM
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Vulnerability isn't a magic tool to get a girl attracted to you, it's a way to live life as wholesomely as possible. If she started seeing you as an insecure person then she's either screened herself out as an emotionally immature person as we all have insecurities, or you have some work to do to fix that. That being said, I have no idea what you told her so I can't comment if her reaction was warranted and what you said was actually an insecure statement versus honest truth.
/r/seduction28/01/16 07:36 PM
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Being an introvert is a physiological thing. Don't buy into the PUA (especially RSD) hype that it isn't. I did for years and it made me miserable. I used to think being an introvert "held back" my social life, but does it really? Does being an introvert mean you're unable to communicate and express yourself? No, it means you don't have unlimited stores of energy and interacting with a huge amount of strangers is more exhausting than it gives you energy. It doesn't stop you from having meaningful…
/r/seduction28/01/16 07:27 PM
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That's up for you to decide. There are things I won't tell somebody unless I really trust them. It's not that I'm not vulnerable, I just don't think they've earned knowing some things. There's no hard rule. Just think of the motivation behind what you're doing. If it's something you're ashamed about maybe you should work on expressing it.
/r/seduction28/01/16 06:47 PM
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Being vulnerable doesn't have to be disclosing every detail about yourself. Like others have said, you can not open up but don't lie about why, be honest and express why you don't want to.
/r/seduction28/01/16 02:38 PM
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Don't be so quick to dismiss what she says, but at the same time understand she will never understand and relate to your perspective just like you won't hers. At the end of the day is it working for you? Be honest with yourself. This stuff is just a tool and a path. Don't identify with it.
/r/seduction28/01/16 02:36 PM
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Don't worry about it. There's a big difference between being reserved and being unable to communicate. As long as you're congruent, not quiet out of insecurity and move things forward you'll do fine.
/r/seduction28/01/16 02:32 PM
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What does her not initiating texting have anything to do with her not being interested in you? Text her and ask her if she wants to hang out. Work from there.
/r/seduction11/10/15 01:49 AM
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That's good to hear man. I know it's really easy to lose sight of things in this area you just gotta keep grounded. Good luck to you.
/r/seduction06/10/15 05:14 PM
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You're really missing the point dude. We're all just people. Unless you're incredibly outstanding, you're just another guy like the rest of us who's going to have to hustle to get what we want. You're not a unique snowflake, you're just another dude. If you aren't taking action, some guy is going out of his way to make shit happen and you're going to be left in the dust waiting for stuff to fall in your lap, which can happen on occasion. It also seems like you objectify women, but that's besides…
/r/seduction05/10/15 03:51 AM
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You're looking at this the wrong way. It's possible, but why are you trying to achieve this? A very small percentage of college kids ever achieve this kind of lifestyle you're talking about, and they do this because they don't have a job, don't have responsibilities, and are living in close proximity with other people the same age. It's possible if you're 30 as well, but you're going to have to lose responsibilities, probably lose your job, and live close to other people who have this same lifes…
/r/seduction05/10/15 03:46 AM
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Dude, it's never gonna happen if you have this attitude. Why do you think you deserve girls approaching you? Are you super confident? Have you approached A TON and now think you're better than the process? Obviously not if you refer to a single # as if it matters. Are you super rich? Alpha? Have a lot of fun things going on in your life? Really witty? Super jacked? Have tons of people reconfirming how attractive you are everyday like the girls you want to be sleeping with? If not, then stop whin…
/r/seduction20/09/15 06:31 PM
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Try focusing on making the logical next step even when you're not feeling it. In your example, you're sleeping in a girls bed. You've already kissed. She's obviously down or else you wouldn't be there. Go for the kiss. It's about making the high percentage plays.
/r/seduction20/09/15 06:27 PM
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tap her on arm and gesture for her to take out out her earbuds You: Hey, I don't think we've met before. How's it going? I'm MrTomberry. There you go.
/r/seduction18/09/15 04:20 AM
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You literally just grab her hand. Or if you want to do it faster you can say something like "let me see how big your hands are" and put your hand out fingers spread so she'll put her hand against yours, but other than that you really just need to learn it's normal to be physical with a girl if you're both interested in eachother. If you want to make it easier on yourself get her sitting down next to you with your thighs touching and go for her hand then.
/r/seduction11/09/15 02:44 AM
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Find a wing. There are tons of online resources to find wings. Also what guy doesn't want to meet girls. I guarantee you you can easily find friends who will hang out with you while you try to talk to girls. It's an exciting thing. As for your approach anxiety, give a friend $20 and tell him not to give it back unless you do one. Create leverage.
/r/seduction09/09/15 02:55 AM
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I feel like the drugs aren't turning me into something else necessarily, but rather breaking down an anxiety barrier that is present when sober. Pretty much. It's not like it adds to your social skills, but it removes your inhibitions and draws your attention away from the normal things that usually hold you back.
/r/seduction07/09/15 04:56 PM
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Remember to be physical and touch her in an overt way, like holding her hand or caressing her thigh. As an introvert I know it's very easy to get wrapped up focusing on conversation and forgetting about this which is even more important.
/r/seduction04/09/15 08:39 PM
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Just don't reply and afterwards reply back and say you were busy hanging out with an old friend. Or working. If you're seeing multiple girls you don't owe them an log of everything you do.
/r/seduction30/08/15 06:07 AM
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Very true. You're right about it being too sudden, but if a girl likes you and would meet up with you anyway you can lose her waiting, and if she's hesitant about meeting up it doesn't hurt to casually try, sometimes it will work. My first text will always be to get my name and # in her phone. After I'll generally lightly probe and ask her what she's up to that night but never more than that if it seems unlikely she'll be able to meet. Nothing worse than being needy and pushing for a date that's…
/r/seduction28/08/15 03:39 AM
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Scheduling days in advance is a common mistake I used to make. It may not seem like that big of a deal but I find that scheduling dates out in advance greatly increases the chances of a flake. If a girl isn't able to meet up the day I text her (I'll usually reach out in the morning and gauge her availability), I'll make plans for the future but then the day of that date text her as if we didn't have plans and schedule a new date for that day. Waiting a few days makes it too easy for her to chang…
/r/seduction26/08/15 11:12 PM
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Are you getting confirmation from these girls? Then do you text them in between the confirmation and the meet?
/r/seduction26/08/15 08:11 PM
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Good luck man. You have to remind yourself the girl is there because she likes you. It might feel weird to just casually reach out and start caressing her leg/hand, but you gotta give yourself permission.
/r/seduction25/08/15 09:29 PM
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Does anyone else here experience this? When a date is set up I spend a couple days kinda worrying about it, wondering what I'll do, how I'll escalate etc - but when I end up on the date they're all the same. We have a few drinks, have a bit of chat, joke a bit, then head home. Nothing feels sexual or exciting about it - and I thought that doing more of these dates would build my confidence and rapport with women but I'm starting to feel like it has the opposite effect. There's just something rea…
/r/seduction25/08/15 05:28 AM
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Good idea. I was in the car when I posted the comment so I'll write this out now. Quick questions for OP. What kind of city did you move to? Population? Vibe of the city? How close are you to bars, university, etc. What hobbies do you have? How confident are you in your game? Location First off, I made the choice to spend a little more to get an apartment in the downtown area 2-3 blocks away from the main strip of bars in town. It's also within walking distance of the local public university. Th…
/r/seduction25/08/15 05:10 AM
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Same. And why just try to laugh it off? It was a funny miscommunication. Laugh at it and move on. No harm no foul. It's only awkward cause you're overthinking it.
/r/seduction25/08/15 04:17 AM
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It's important to establish a healthy social life before delving too deep into the pickup. PM me, I'm making a similar transition right now and I've got a solid game plan I'm planning on following. Maybe we could bounce some ideas off eachother.
/r/seduction23/08/15 06:12 AM
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Dude, what the fuck was the point of this post? You're not asking for advice or anything, you're literally just complaining about your life then telling us you're not even willing to take action. Life is long. You won't be dead til 70 or more if you're lucky. What's a few years to get this handled. You can be 25 and up to pace with everyone else or better. If you're not willing to change, then don't dump your negativity on everyone else and get out of here.
/r/seduction10/08/15 09:03 AM
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Have you noticed that a lot of guys who focus on sports seem less like to have a REAL group of friends, and just SPORTS friends? Or... Guys who focus on any activity and make it a priority have a lot of friends in that activity... Strange.
/r/seduction10/08/15 08:57 AM
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Why would normal rules not apply.
/r/seduction27/07/15 12:28 AM
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First off stop calling it a kiss close. It's just a kiss. You're making it seem like some huge step when it's really not. And it's not fine man! Three dates is way too long. She's either going to wonder why you're not into her and stop wanting to see you, or realize you're a pussy and move on. Both are not good. It should really come about more as a natural next step in your physical intimacy. Are you touching her? Holding her hand? Can you hug her? Are you close to her? Have you set your hand d…
/r/seduction25/07/15 06:05 PM
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Sidebar.
/r/seduction18/07/15 10:15 PM
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I've honestly found there to be no real step in between asking for directions. I've tried multiple AA programs and I've found that anything more felt weird enough to the point where approaching just made more sense. I'd just approach.
/r/seduction18/07/15 10:15 PM
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I don't mean to be harsh man but we all know what it feels like. What matters is that you don't dwell on it and move forward every day until you're where you want to be. You can do this. It's just I see a lot of people on this sub talking about how women check them out and I'm pretty sure the MAJORITY of them aren't male model material.... Even if they are, don't complain. Figure out what they're doing that you're not. Get great style. Get a great body. Do everything in your power. Only then whe…
/r/seduction11/07/15 11:33 PM
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At the end of the day man you just gotta move forward. It might not be as easy or convenient, but people in worse off positions than you have made it happen so keep that in mind. So what if you don't have campus, find a place with a high volume of women and practice approaching there. Most other people aren't practicing this stuff when they're in college and they'll be screwed when they graduate. Don't be one of those people.
/r/seduction11/07/15 11:32 PM
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Dude. No. Have you read anything on here? You're not a special snowflake. We all have anxiety. Your anxiety is no worse than any of ours. Also, why the fuck should girls give you IOIs? Are you incredibly attractive? Do you have an incredibly chiseled body? Do you model? What makes you feel entitled to get IOIs? By the way, you probably won't even notice IOIs until you get good. They're subtle if they're even there at all. Lastly, you didn't approach or take any action. So shut the fuck up. You'r…
/r/seduction11/07/15 03:34 AM
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I wouldnt say three months is a crazy amount of time for the first approach. I think when Tyler makes statement like has almost had aspergers/autism it's a bit extreme, but when others say they could barely say hi to a stranger and took forever to approach, it's not too far off base. I'm pretty intermediate now and all the guys I know who also do this started off the same. It took me forever just to work up the courage to ask for directions. We all struggle with different things.
/r/seduction09/07/15 11:55 PM
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Lot of the local guys go to Cap Hill. Some basic spots are Cha Chas, Unicorn, Reinhaus, Barca. There's a pretty noticeable crew out here if you come out enough.
/r/seduction09/07/15 09:12 AM
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The only benefit alcohol has is that it lets you do things that you ordinarily wouldn't because you're afraid or anxious. Practice doing those same bold things sober and there will be no difference.
/r/seduction09/07/15 12:50 AM
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This. Do the money game with anyone. Do it with small tasks you can do like time, directions, etc. Make them harder and harder as you get better. Eventually though you just have to throw yourself off the climb and approach. No amount of drills will fully prepare you for it. You have to go through the painful and terrifying early approaches before it gets easier.
/r/seduction09/07/15 12:18 AM
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Something you need to realize is that most of the guys you see with girls aren't cold approaching these girls in the streets and dating multiple women. It's most likely a relationship they fell into. That being said, a lot of seduction is simply having your fundamentals down (looks+confidence+basic social skills) and taking your shot when it arises. It's pretty simple. You don't need to study all this to get girls, this material serves mostly to correct dysfunctional learned behavior.
/r/seduction07/07/15 10:27 PM
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You need to start somewhere. Stop looking okay. Dress with great style and look like somebody cool. Hit the gym, get an attractive body. Handle your AA. Ask for directions. Ask for the time. Baby step it. Approach girls. You already know what you have to do, if you're not willing to take the baby steps to get to your destination then nothing we say can help you.
/r/seduction07/07/15 03:30 AM
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Dude, it honestly just sounds like you need therapy. Second, assuming you're just being over dramatic, how many girls are you approaching a week? If you can't escalate what steps are you taking to fix that? This just seems like a big mental circle jerk with very little action taking.
/r/seduction07/07/15 03:26 AM
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I only say stop reading stuff on here because you're over analyzing. The material is fine. And nothing is wrong with your writing, it's just a lot of writing over what is a very simple situation. You don't need to be less selective, you just need to approach more. If you see a girl on the street you have no idea if your personalities will gel. By engaging girls and getting into more scenarios you won't have to come to the forums to ask about these trivial interactions because you'll just know be…
/r/seduction06/07/15 09:37 AM
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Just depends. I've seen everything from a 10-month relationship, ONS, and virgins on Tinder. It's pretty random, just like anything else. Vibe it out.
/r/seduction06/07/15 09:29 AM
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This wasn't even an approach, you said four lines to her. Stop reading stuff on here. There wasn't a shit test, there wasn't anything to analyze. Approach more girls. And you didn't lose it by asking her how tall she is. If anything you lost points by creepily knowing her name without ever having met her and then over analyzing this non interaction.
/r/seduction05/07/15 09:25 PM
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Would you think it's creepy if a hot girl jogged over to say hi to you?
/r/seduction04/07/15 10:43 AM
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You're not doing this from the front charging straight at them, they're not even going to see you until you get close. Just slow down when you're within 15 feet and casually stroll up next to her. They won't even know you ran.
/r/seduction04/07/15 10:42 AM
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It's not about doing anything, it's about being high quality yourself and having strong boundaries so that she knows if she slips it's over. Wherever your boundaries are, let them be known. You need to find that balance for yourself. At the end of the day it doesn't matter how you play the relationship if you yourself aren't better than the random guys she's meeting. She'll stray eventually.
/r/seduction21/06/15 04:51 AM
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I have few friends but none of them are girls. So my question is what is best possible way to get one girl ? Just one. That's it. You've gotta build yourself up. No such thing as get one girl and be done. You could, but you'll be settling and you won't be able to manage the relationship properly. Dude if you've managed to make 100k a year, you can get decent enough to have a satisfying sex life. Seriously. You just have to take consistent forward action. Approach a few times a week. It'll sort i…
/r/seduction20/06/15 04:52 AM
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At the end of the day you can either choose to give yourself a chance to meet somebody who will change your life... Or you can reject yourself and be alone, reputation perfectly intact. You decide.
/r/seduction09/06/15 07:14 AM
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How often do you go out? How often do you approach? Do you do any self reflection and really think out what you can offer somebody? What your flaws are and what you're trying to do to address them? Are you being assertive? Do you journal? Do you try new things? Are you polarizing? What are you doing for other people? Why would somebody want to associate with you.
/r/seduction07/06/15 06:23 PM
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As for why you're not getting laid ..you probably have a fundamental flaw in how you're "seducing" these girls. You need to find that flaw and get rid of it. Piggybacking off what southpole said, this is most likely the case. Is your style down. Do you have correct (non crazy) eye contact. Are you looking your best. Do you smell good. Are you communicating your intent. Do you actually # close, then follow through, then grab her hand, then kiss her, etc. Are you even moving things forward. These …
/r/seduction02/06/15 07:32 AM
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It's just a word man. However you describe it your intentions and your actions are misaligned.
/r/seduction10/05/15 11:25 PM
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Okay. I missed that detail. That doesn't change anything I said. You don't represent the entire female gender.
/r/seduction10/05/15 11:23 PM
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I was on tinder for months and never fucked anyone. Never even kissed anyone. There was also a time long ago when I approached 20+ girls a week and still couldn't get a kiss. That says more about you if girls actually came out to meet you. I know tons of girls who fuck around on tinder for fun, but they'll never meet up. If she goes out of her way to meet you I assure you she's interested.
/r/seduction10/05/15 09:54 PM
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Okay man, I'm going to be critical on you here. I don't want her to view me as boyfriend material-- I want her to want me so I figure a slow game of push and pull will be the best bet for this type of girl. Before she left, we hugged closely and I kissed her on her cheek and she headed to her car. I went to bed and she sent me some hearts via text. I brushed it off by texting back, "my shirt smells like you. It's nice." You don't want her to view you as a boyfriend, yet you don't make any moves …
/r/seduction10/05/15 05:38 PM
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You're not omnipotent, you have to let things play out. You don't know where she's at. There are virgins down for fast sex and party girls who will make you wait. Just communicate things properly, and don't lead her on like you're looking for something more. Also you're meeting this girl off of Tinder. Unless this is a one off thing I'm sure she's fucked a few already off the app. That video on her facebook doesn't mean anything. Girls say they don't like those guys but still fall for them all t…
/r/seduction10/05/15 05:33 PM
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How long do you wait to escalate? I used to have this problem until I started escalating aggressively from the very start. Touchy from the get go. By the time it comes to closing it's already assumed. She knew from the start you wanted to fuck, so when you escalate to the close it makes sense and there's no state break like if you were to wait too long.
/r/seduction03/04/15 03:12 AM
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"Nice to meet you." Then I move the fuck on and find a girl who's actually available.
/r/seduction03/04/15 03:08 AM
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Why is this even an FR? You were persistent and got a flaky date meet up from a girl off tinder you've never even met. She doesn't show. Why did you bother to write a post about it? Break contact after being treated badly? Dude you never had ANYTHING with this girl. There is no right move after this, no punishing anything, no real learning lesson. She's not into you, move on. No big deal.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/15 09:47 PM
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On top of what this guy says, it's all in the mindset. You have to assume she already likes you and everything you do she wants you to do. It's not going to work and it's not going to be fun either if you think youre trying to sneak in escalation. Escalation should happen because you want to do it and it feels good.
/r/seduction19/03/15 12:01 AM
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Why can't you escalate? Details.
/r/seduction17/03/15 11:32 PM
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I had a quarter my sophomore year when I approached almost 200 in two months. This was when I started and I was still awful. I've only had my "reputation" bite me in the ass twice over three years. Not too concerning. I just got out of a relationship so I'll be approaching again, here's what I plan on doing, I think it applies to you as well. Approach, but don't do any crazy running PUA like approaches. Go direct, but screen for interest. Don't plow or be too persistent. Close when it feels righ…
/r/seduction17/03/15 10:22 PM
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What exactly is your question? This is a very broad post. You've described the difficulties you think you have, but not what you're trying to figure out. This is something I struggled with for awhile, so I get where you're coming from. You're struggling to find the context to escalate? You want to fuck them, right? What more context do you need? RSD Jeffy has a line that goes like "boners not kino." Kino is not something you do to elicit a response, it's something you do because you want to do i…
/r/seduction16/03/15 06:51 AM
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Haha very true. I can't even deny I wasn't one of those guys for a period of time. Im looking at your reply to ActualRaptor and it seems like my current open seems a lot like yours so I'm definitely in agreement with you.
/r/TheRedPill09/03/15 05:23 PM
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I agree with you, but going direct doesn't mean you have to be socially inept. Going direct then being able to follow up with normal, socially aware interaction sets you apart from the guys who just go direct and stay there, or the guys that simply cat call, if you'd even call that direct. When I began I felt learning to go direct helped me learn it's okay to convey intent, and indirect was just a crutch that allowed me to avoid my anxieties. No matter what approach you recommend, you'll still f…
/r/TheRedPill09/03/15 05:06 PM
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Bigger question, why are you dating somebody who doesn't want to have sex with you? Somebody who feels like a ho for having sex with the person they're dating has issues they need to work out.
/r/seduction09/03/15 01:38 AM
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When you write it down you realize you already know the answer, like you've said. When it's stuck in your head it feels more important and difficult than it really is.
/r/seduction17/12/14 12:39 AM
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OP needs to go to a therapist. Agree with everything said. OP lacks accountability.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/14 06:43 AM
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Thinking you can stop a girl from cheating by telling her not to go out is pointless and insecure. In my opinion best thing is to let her do whatever and do whatever you want. If she cheats, walk. If you're being a man she won't cheat. Sometimes even if you are she'll cheat anyway. Shit happens. Just live your life the best you can.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/14 05:57 AM
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If you can have a relationship, make it happen. If not, meet other people until you find someone you connect with. You're going to feel this way until you prove to yourself you can recreate this with somebody else.
/r/seduction10/06/14 02:41 AM
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I really don't see this being an issue at all. Even if it did bother you, who cares? Were you touching this girl? Leading? Moving the interaction forward? Who gives a fuck if somebody makes a small dick joke when you've got your hand on her hip holding her close and moving her away from people. If you're just aimlessly talking to a girl she can lose interest at any point, the small dick joke just happens to be what killed it. I'd focus on the fundamentals rather than figuring out and stressing a…
/r/seduction07/06/14 03:04 AM
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I used to relate with this until I started getting some success and realized the girls who I did have success with didn't play games and I didn't have to try and do every little trick to meet up with. I realized if a girl is not having it, she's just not having it. Save your time and find someone who is. If she's into you she'll let you know.
/r/seduction06/06/14 12:40 AM
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