Emyncalenadan Archive

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20	There’s Nothing We Can Do to Raise Fertility Rates, Because Low TFRs are Just a Result of Modernity	Debate	Emyncalenadan	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 11:12 PM
4	Women Do Not—I Repeat, Do NOT 🙅‍♂️—Like Assholes or Narcissists. But There's a Reason They Keep Ending Up With Them.	Discussion	Emyncalenadan	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/24 08:48 PM

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15	As a 36 year old virgin, I'm worried about the rise of sexlessness among today's youth I have a really hard time believing this. Even when I was in middle school—before most of the popular social media sites even existed, mind you—dating, while anything but uncommon, wasn’t something that “most” people were doing. But even if it had been, the loneliness crisis narrative developed because polls have shown a shocking rise in loneliness and sexlessness. I can’t speak to your pocket of the world any more than you can speak to mine, but we’re seeing a pretty clear trend when we look at…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/25 05:12 AM
27	Men are shallow as well I have never, not once, in the real world heard someone say that men aren’t shallow. Not once. “Men are shallow” is the “Ohtani is a good baseball player” of relationship takes. Of course, you can find contrarians on the internet, but you can find people that believe anything on the World Wide Web. The reason people try to argue that women are shallow is that it’s actually something (most) women deny.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/10/25 01:58 AM
–	I think a lot of people going forward have to just get over the idea of sex and relationships Yeah, I think that you’re more or less right. Things like disability, obesity, poverty, poor hygiene (especially when caused by medical conditions,) and just being plain old ugly are going to be fatal in the future, if they aren’t already. It’ll be like a college education, where the people who do get it are so thoroughly ensconced in their on communities that they don’t realize they aren’t the “normal” ones, that most people aren’t in the same place that they are.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/25 12:50 PM
1	The obsession with getting women to “admit” they prefer big dicks is hurting men Let me get this straight: You are admitting that you would prefer it if your boyfriend were a bit bigger, and this is supposed to make us feel better?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/25 10:18 PM
–	The difference between men who struggle in dating and men who are successful, is their ability to recover from rejection and their perspective on the same. This is just empirically not true. Lots of guys get rejected 100+ times before they give up. That’s a lot more than the typical person would go through.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/25 07:14 PM
7	Women who claim that size doesn't matter, have you actually experienced a big penis before, or are you just assuming it won't make a difference? Oh, HELL no, you're not just putting this on men lol, not unless you can explain this, this, this, this, this, this, or any of the countless things I've come across over the years from women making fun of exes with small dicks, or people complaining about it on Reddit, or women gossiping to their own friends about a mutual acquaintance's penis	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/25 08:02 AM
1	Q4M: would you date a slob? Going to go against the consensus here and say yeah, probably. I wouldn't like any of this, but I'm something of a slob myself (I think that this question is targeted at us slobs who want-but-can't-get-girlfriends, anyway,) so who am I to judge? I'd probably try to work on some of the really big stuff in a longer term relationship (the smell, stick film, her car, and the bathroom) but it wouldn't be a big deal overall. Honestly, I'd probably just be overjoyed that someone I was actually attracte…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/25 09:42 AM
–	Women are the ones red pilling men, not the manosphere In general, yeah, I'd agree, though I'd add the important caveat that the extremism is fueled by lies young men are told about dating. But the Red Pill just replaces one set of lies with another, and I don't think that women are radicalizing men in the way that OP does.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/25 11:19 PM
–	Women are the ones red pilling men, not the manosphere No, but (I hope that) it changes our perspective. We can condemn extremism while admitting that they aren't just blindly delusional and hateful. We can do the same with the Red Pill and admit that there are certain truths to it that we refuse to address.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/25 11:12 PM
–	Women are the ones red pilling men, not the manosphere We kind of do, though? A lot of the discussion on foreign extremism (rightfully) focuses on how Western foreign policy creates the very conditions in those countries that make extremism so attractive	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/25 11:01 PM
–	Women are the ones red pilling men, not the manosphere Yeah, there's some truth to this. Violence and extremism are obviously still worrying issues, but it is true that a lot of men fall into the red pill rabbit hole because they realize that the red pillers are the only ones speaking to their experiences. I think that the red pill is probably half true—they exaggerate the hell out of almost everything, overgeneralize, and mix in a lot of outright falsehoods, but the red/black pill are the only ones that speak to a lot of our experiences. A lot of y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/25 10:59 PM
1	Why do men think its unfair that they have to pay for their kids? Whether or not a dad should have to pay child support is obviously going to depend on the context, but there are a lot of reasons to believe that the current system is outdated and unfair. For starters, divorces/family breakups are usually initiated by the mother, not the father like you implied. They aren't leaving and "launching the family into poverty;" they're getting kicked out of the family. Jettisoning them from the household is obviously justified in some cases, but in the situations w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/25 07:41 AM
–	Men’s sexual desire has been socially castrated To be fair, a lot of those hip hop artists have been vilified	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/25 04:24 AM
–	Women DO lie about their preferences, and research shows it. They may likely go for a guy who is nice to everyone and good looking Yes, they might, especially if they themselves are good looking. The point is that they will go for looks if forced to choose between the two, which is the opposite of what they usually claim. I find guys who like hot women they have nothing in common to be monumentally shallow You are more than entitled to that belief, but I’m not sure what your point is? I don’t mean to be rude, but my entire point was that both sexes can be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/25 01:26 PM
–	Women DO lie about their preferences, and research shows it. 1) There’s pretty broad consensus on what’s considered rude and obnoxious in polite society. There are contentious issues, sure, but most obnoxious behaviors are generally agreed upon. 2) But point 1 is totally unnecessary for this question to be fair. A better question would be whether or not women are willing to turn a blind eye to what they consider poor behavior (or at least to red flags that indicate poor behavior) if it means a more attractive partner. Again, both studies and personal expe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/25 12:18 PM
–	Women DO lie about their preferences, and research shows it. I’m talking about LTR’s, though most of those seem to start as flings or situaionships these days. Maybe things are different in relationships that start as something more serious, but preferring looks to personality seems pretty widespread.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/25 03:17 AM
1	Stating that sex and intimacy for men is a need, isn’t a proposal for sexual slavery. This is a common strawman that women propose because it would be ethically uncomfortable to acknowledge this being true. 100% legal, no official restrictions that I’m personally aware of. There may be some rules about what you can publicly advertise in your store display, and there are definitely limits to what you’re allowed to show on billboards and such, but the stores themselves are everywhere and sell whatever they want, so far as I know. I’ve seen them in secular major cities, and I’ve seen them in rural evangelical hotbeds.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/25 03:01 AM
1	Stating that sex and intimacy for men is a need, isn’t a proposal for sexual slavery. This is a common strawman that women propose because it would be ethically uncomfortable to acknowledge this being true. Yeah, Nevada is kind of famous for it here in the U.S. It’s illegal in all of the tourist hotspots/major metros like Vegas and Reno, but most rural counties/municipalities allow brothels to open and operate legally, albeit with restrictions. There have been attempts to have it banned statewide, but none of those have come very close to succeeding, as I understand it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/25 02:48 AM
1	Stating that sex and intimacy for men is a need, isn’t a proposal for sexual slavery. This is a common strawman that women propose because it would be ethically uncomfortable to acknowledge this being true. Right, but the point I was trying to make is that the vast majority of the world doesn’t live in a place where it’s legal. Right off the top of my head, there are only a few countries where it’s fully legal and regulated. Outside of those countries, it’s risky—and often very unethical, considering how widespread trafficking is—to pay for prostitution.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/25 02:38 AM
–	Women DO lie about their preferences, and research shows it. I don’t think that anyone questions whether or not it’s better to be nice than not nice (well, some Red Pillers do, but they’re wrong;) the question is whether or not women would rather be with someone who’s obnoxious to most people but good looking or someone who’s nice to everyone but not good looking. Most women say they prefer the latter, but studies and lived experience say they actually prefer the former. It’s not any different than guys liking hot women they have nothing in common with mo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 10:55 PM
4	Fix for dating and loneliness lies in valuing happy singledom (mostly for men) This has big “just accept being poor!!!” energy lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 10:43 PM
–	Women DO lie about their preferences, and research shows it. I was going to write a post about this very thing, but didn’t know how I wanted to word it. Thank God you beat me to it, since you did a better job than I ever would’ve. It’s strange how we can admit that men, in general, are very superficial and selfish when it comes to dating, but struggle to do the same with women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 09:36 PM
1	Stating that sex and intimacy for men is a need, isn’t a proposal for sexual slavery. This is a common strawman that women propose because it would be ethically uncomfortable to acknowledge this being true. That’s nice, but Australia only has 0.3% of the world’s population. Canada, the UK, and the U.S. are all larger; the U.S. alone has ~12x Australia’s population, if I’m remembering right.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 08:07 AM
1	Stating that sex and intimacy for men is a need, isn’t a proposal for sexual slavery. This is a common strawman that women propose because it would be ethically uncomfortable to acknowledge this being true. Well…I don’t know what to say on point 1, other than that we’re going to have to agree to disagree. But let’s assume it’s not an option, if for no other reason than that our hypothetical celibate is afraid of getting a criminal record and doesn’t have the time and/or money to travel to somewhere where it’s legal: how is it a you problem if you can’t find a romantic partner? I remember reading about the dating lives of people with disabilities once, and one guy mentioned how he had asked out over…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 07:40 AM
2	Stating that sex and intimacy for men is a need, isn’t a proposal for sexual slavery. This is a common strawman that women propose because it would be ethically uncomfortable to acknowledge this being true. 1) What? Are you seriously suggesting that people engage in illegal and exploitative activity if they want to have sex? 2) I’m not engaging in the question of why so called “involuntary celibacy” (and I deliberately avoided that specific term because of how loaded it is) is associated with poor mental health. I can’t say for certain which way the causality goes, and, so far as I know, researchers haven’t settled on an answer yet, beyond agreeing that the correlation between them is more than coi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 07:30 AM
-3	Stating that sex and intimacy for men is a need, isn’t a proposal for sexual slavery. This is a common strawman that women propose because it would be ethically uncomfortable to acknowledge this being true. Monks and other celibate people have favorable mental outcomes I can’t speak for monks, but there are reams of research showing that it doesn’t generally lead to positive outcomes in other people when it’s involuntary. Loneliness in general is terrible for people’s health, but a lack of sex, specifically, does seem to have negative effects on its own.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 06:45 AM
35	Stating that sex and intimacy for men is a need, isn’t a proposal for sexual slavery. This is a common strawman that women propose because it would be ethically uncomfortable to acknowledge this being true. This is a good way of describing it. No one dies directly from not getting laid, just like how they don’t die from not having friends, being low on the social hierarchy, not having anything past the bare necessities, etc., but it does have a colossal impact on their personal wellbeing. There’s pretty ample evidence that it lowers your life expectancy if you can’t get it at all (not that that means we have to take draconian measures to “ensure” its distribution.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 06:36 AM
5	Q4M: Why don't males shoot their shot anymore? My answer is the same as everyone else’s (men have been told not to approach women in virtually every public space), but this is something that I’ve thought about a lot over the last few days, and I want to add my own perspective on why it’s a bad idea for men (or at least non-lookers like me) to approach women in most public places. So, let’s start by considering the social context: cold approaching is less socially acceptable than at any point in the modern era. In the U.S., small things like …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/25 11:18 AM
4	Why do women seem to struggle to honestly admit to preferences which might be considered shallow? I do think that’s a unique one, though, just because there’s so little that can be done about it (unless if you have the money to pay for filler, which even then is only so effective). And it’s something intimate, too, which can make getting rejected over it a lot more hurtful. But yeah, I see your point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/25 11:00 AM
1	The biggest dating issues for men is laziness and unrealistic expectations. Idk, have you ever seen a powerlifter? But in all seriousness, it’s pretty well established that dieting, not exercising is the main thing that triggers weight loss. Exercising can help, but you either have to do a ton of it, or live with modest results. For what it’s worth, I lost 110 pounds at one point (I wasn’t successful long term) and I found dieting to be more effective at inducing weight loss. There had been points in my life when I worked out more than I did when I was dieting, but the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/25 09:21 PM
5	Most crimes are committed by men, by no gangster ever had difficulty finding women to share the spoils with 8 billion people live on this planet just by mere sample size there will be millions of terrible people Sure, OP even acknowledges that most women aren’t like this, but that’s not his point. His point is that the lopsided gender balance in criminal behavior may not be because of the popular folk theory that men are less moral. you are also an idiot for thinking it’s low risk. high chance to be abusive if not outright killed. There is little to no love care or anything really. Devoted? no they ai…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/25 07:21 PM
–	Has anyone gotten past it? Definitely, and it has gotten a bit worse as I’ve gotten older and had to keep hearing it. I think that leads into topics that are maybe a bit more r/PurplePillDebate friendly (so to speak,) like why we treat older virgins so poorly and minimize the genuine pain it can come with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/25 12:11 PM
–	Has anyone gotten past it? …19 is a very normal age to lose your v card. It is a little bit later than average, but not exceptionally so. As for the idea that it’s nothing special…well, I’ll say that being a 30 year old virgin is certainly something special, and not in a good way. You get ostracized for it, which makes it hard not to feel ashamed of it. I guess I can’t speak from experience, but based on how everyone else talks about sex, it sounds pretty special.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/25 12:08 PM
–	Has anyone gotten past it? I’ve never been resentful towards women, because I never felt like they owed me sex or anything. Actually, if I’m being totally honest, I wouldn’t want to date me, either. I’m weird, gross, unattractive, neurotic, and unsuccessful. I don’t mean that in a “woe is me sense”—I just am those things, and I’ve struggled to be much else. And yeah, being seen as those things makes dating harder. I am, at times, resentful of the hand I was dealt, as well as at myself for still managing to find a way to p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/25 12:01 PM
9	"The bar is in hell" and other such sayings... No, but it would be nice if you admitted that you want a lot more than a guy that’s “nice” and stuff. Admit that the bar is way higher than hell, and don’t blame guys who bemoan their singleness as not being entirely their problem (provided they don’t blame women in the same breath.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/25 11:36 AM
2	The true RP position is that male friendships, not romantic relationships, are the answer to the male loneliness epidemic I actually agree 100%…well, maybe only 95% lol. I don’t think that men supporting each other the way that women do is going to totally solve the mental health crisis among males vis a vis relationships, since the esteem issues of not being able to find a partner or have those experiences would still be there.* But the research is pretty clear that men see huge benefits from having positive, platonic friendships with other men. That being said, I think that “positive” is the key word here. Findin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/25 08:29 AM
2	There should be a requirement to flair your sexual orientation when debating on this sub Human behavior isn't the same thing as visiting a landmark. Yes, experience gives you a perspective that an inexperienced person doesn't have, but it also gives you a lot of biases and blindspots. Most people aren't going to openly admit to being superficial or shallow, for example, so that's pretty much something that has to be diagnosed by observers. Edit: I'll also add that the quiet part here is that it's only ever going to be used to dismiss people without any relationship experience, never…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 06:33 AM
1	There should be a requirement to flair your sexual orientation when debating on this sub For example, if a virgin man says he knows what women want, his experience does play a factor because if he knows what they want how come it’s not worked for him There are a lot of potential reasons why it may not have worked for him, e.g., women want X but he's Y, or he doesn't prioritize relationships ...men in relationships because they’ve actively demonstrated to know at least what their woman wants. They've demonstrated what some specific women in certain specific contexts want. This sub de…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 06:18 AM
5	There should be a requirement to flair your sexual orientation when debating on this sub That’s right—observed and academically studied tend to be more reliable than lived experience	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 05:08 AM
1	Q4Men: how would you feel if your wife made these typically “male” comments/ posts online? Well, women already do 4 and 5 pretty often (albeit within the confines of a friend group,) and 1 and 3 aren’t exactly unheard of, either. So, guys already get a taste of that “typically male behavior.” I will grant that 2 is an almost exclusively male behavior, though. Whether or not I went through the process of getting a divorce would depend on the circumstances, but yes, I’d be very, very hurt. I would never do these things to a wife/gf (I don’t even like talking about women that way with fr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 09:44 PM
–	“Women are wonderful” effect… They imagine the worst case scenarios, replay them in their head over and over and over, and...they end up coming across as a hostile creep, because they anticipate being rejected and humiliated. This is exactly where the WAW theory comes from. No matter how many times I get rejected after "working on myself" and/or trying to be nice and positive, the assumption is that my lack of success must be on me. I'm not positive enough or I come across as a creep; there's no other reason why I might stru…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/25 10:29 AM
–	“Women are wonderful” effect… ...yeah, I'm just going to have to respectfully concur with the rest of the comments that you don't really understand the WAW effect. The WAW effect is just the observation that women are often assumed to be relatively more moral, honest, loving, and less superficial, and how this often accords women the benefit of the doubt in interpersonal situations. Ironically, you kind of show it in your post: you're assuming that if a man is regularly rejected by women, it must be because of his "role in t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/25 10:17 AM
48	Women do actually hate the idea of sex robots despite saying otherwise. The one example of opposition from women that you offered was from a tradcon TikToker who mostly uses her account to advocate against pornography. I have a hunch that she and her followers are not the kind of women that see using vibrators as innocent fun. That being said, I do agree that a lot of the women who say they’re excited for sex robots because they’ll only be used by losers are being a bit hyperbolic, albeit for different reasons. There are already vibrator-equivalent sex toys for men …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/01/25 08:00 AM
1	There’s Nothing We Can Do to Raise Fertility Rates, Because Low TFRs are Just a Result of Modernity Elaborate	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 12:05 PM
2	There’s Nothing We Can Do to Raise Fertility Rates, Because Low TFRs are Just a Result of Modernity Romania did 1. and 3. during the final decades of the communist period, and it didn’t work particularly well. There was a small baby boom during the early years of the campaign, but it reversed pretty quickly and left them in essentially the same spot they had been before the pro-natalist measures, but with more sexual frustration. Despite the bit of hyperbole I used in my OP, I’m not going to go so far as to say it absolutely would not work in a different context (like the 21st century U.S.)—I’…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/25 09:08 AM
2	There’s Nothing We Can Do to Raise Fertility Rates, Because Low TFRs are Just a Result of Modernity That's a very popular theory, and considering that the decline starts with the legalization of contraception, it has to be a part of it. But the question isn't what the original cause was; it's if there's anything we can do to reverse it. Even if contraception was the genesis, the few countries that have tried limiting or banning it haven't found those bans to be very effective. And considering that people are having less sex than ever with widespread access to it, I think that a lot of people w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/25 02:49 AM
6	If you have no kids, there´s honestly no reason not to leave your boring, unappealing husband/boyfriend and seek a better life Something about this post brings a proverb about greener grass and such to mind... But my honest answer is that it really depends on your values. That said, statistically speaking, most people who initiate divorces eventually come to regret it. Life is never going to be an endless series of excitements, and you're going to go through periods where your marriage isn't as fun or romantic as it used to be. If your first response to boredom is to divorce or cheat, or if you can't go through a period…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/25 10:42 AM
2	There’s Nothing We Can Do to Raise Fertility Rates, Because Low TFRs are Just a Result of Modernity That's not entirely true. There has been a rise in childless couples (as well as a decline in the number of kids that parents choose to have,) but there's also been a substantial decline in the number of cohabitating and married couples over the last 20 years. There's some evidence that those trends are stabilizing, but the lack of couples would still be a part of the explanation (though not the only explanation.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/25 02:48 AM
6	There’s Nothing We Can Do to Raise Fertility Rates, Because Low TFRs are Just a Result of Modernity The fact that children have gone from being a necessity for survival to a major personal expense does have to play a role. No one needs to have kids anymore, so people have to find new reasons to want children. But again, I'm a bit skeptical of the economic explanation for why fertility rates are as low as they are. There are a lot of countries that provide parents with almost everything they'll need to raise their kids, but those countries don't seem to have TFRs any higher than the U.S.' Why?	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/25 02:24 AM
8	There’s Nothing We Can Do to Raise Fertility Rates, Because Low TFRs are Just a Result of Modernity I definitely agree with this. I'll also admit that it's probably a part of the reason why fertility rates are so much lower in the upper middle class. There's a lot of pressure to be a very "hands on" parent, which makes an already stressful situation much harder.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/25 02:17 AM
2	There’s Nothing We Can Do to Raise Fertility Rates, Because Low TFRs are Just a Result of Modernity That’s a really interesting point. It doesn’t seem like cost is the main thing when we’re looking at childlessness from a quantitate perspective, but that might change if we used a more qualitative approach. It could be that cost just happens to be an additional (or even the main) inhibitor in the U.S. (assuming that you’re also an American,) but that would only address our fertility rate. Whether or not lower costs would solve the problem internationally would be a different question.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 11:58 PM
3	There’s Nothing We Can Do to Raise Fertility Rates, Because Low TFRs are Just a Result of Modernity Why would we assume that the U.S. would be any different? Poor people have more kids than rich people in virtually every Western country, and poor countries have more kids than rich countries, so I don’t think that we have any reason to suspect that low taxes are why fertility rates are higher at the bottom of the income ladder. And it’s not like America’s rich are drowning under the heavy burden of high taxes, especially compared to the rich in other developed countries. Even without a nice tax…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 11:51 PM
4	There’s Nothing We Can Do to Raise Fertility Rates, Because Low TFRs are Just a Result of Modernity Oh, totally. I’m not disagreeing with any of those policies in principle—if I could just wave my hand and change everything in America, I’d offer the same kind of public parental benefits that are available in the Nordic countries. I just don’t think that they’d raise fertility rates, since cost doesn’t seem to actually be the main obstacle to having kids. Instead, it seems that most people would just rather die single and childless than have kids with someone they don’t want to (and, again, eve…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 11:44 PM
11	There’s Nothing We Can Do to Raise Fertility Rates, Because Low TFRs are Just a Result of Modernity That’s really the only way that might work, but I’m kind of assuming that we all agree this is a bad option. And even if we don’t, it’s not guaranteed to work: Romania tried to use the negative incentives approach during the 70s and 80s, but it didn’t really work. It might be that once people assume they’re entitled to certain rights and a minimum level of dignity, even poverty and oppression isn’t enough to “get them with the program.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 11:34 PM
7	There’s Nothing We Can Do to Raise Fertility Rates, Because Low TFRs are Just a Result of Modernity Hungary has already tried to give parents generous tax exemptions, and it hasn’t worked. Romania tried doing the opposite during the latter years of communism (i.e., they tried to tax non-parents more than parents,) and that didn’t work, either. Poor people do have higher fertility rates and lower taxes, but those low taxes aren’t sufficient to offset the cost of raising a child. Most evidence suggests that poor people aren’t having kids deliberately; they’re the result of unexpected pregnancies…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/25 11:29 PM
5	Do you actually think life would be easier if you were a man in this age ? What time would you have that you don't have now? You don't have to date anyone, if you don't want to. That's the one thing that actually eats up lots of time; everything else can be fitted into the schedule pretty easily. As for the peace while you're getting mocked and trying to deal with the constant dejection and low self-worth...yeah, I have lots of "peace" in that sense, and trust me, I'd trade it for the confusing chaos of a relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/25 09:36 PM
4	Do you actually think life would be easier if you were a man in this age ? A lot of these sound like painful health issues, which men also deal with (although I'll grant you that healthy men don't have anything equivalent to periods.) As for the lusting and getting laid...I think that you'd be stunned at how much it hurts to have no one. No one thinks you're attractive. No one wants to be with you. If you do get someone, it's not a person you find attractive, and you don't have much leverage because you know it's the only shot you're getting for a long time. "Normal" e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/25 09:09 PM
–	Paternity fraud is DV and women who oppose paternity tests are abusers. This only deals with problem number one (and does so by setting up a potentially lengthy legal battle.) Men who were cheated on and didn't know would still be forced to raise a kid that wasn't theirs. What's the downside to universal testing? It doesn't hurt anyone, doesn't carry any obvious accusation of disloyalty (it's universal, after all,) and can solve a lot of headaches.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/24 03:12 AM
–	Paternity fraud is DV and women who oppose paternity tests are abusers. Hence why it makes sense to do these tests at birth. It has zero impact in cases where they really are the father, and life-changing impacts in cases where they aren't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/24 03:08 AM
–	Paternity fraud is DV and women who oppose paternity tests are abusers. They can speak with a lawyer if they want to, but their case isn't that unique (it isn't in any way common, but it happens often enough that courts have been able establish a judicial precedent,) so the ruling is going to be pretty predictable. As of right now, the accepted legal procedure in these cases is that the man has to continue providing child support; to my knowledge, nothing is asked of the biological father. If any judge issues a ruling that in any way differs from this precedent,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/24 03:05 AM
–	Paternity fraud is DV and women who oppose paternity tests are abusers. You can, technically, ask for a test, but your partner is a co-guardian of your child, so they can fight the paternity test and make it hard to get one. As for the accusing your partner of cheating, I think that the argument is that a lot of people are cheating without their partner knowing about it. This ensures that you aren't obligated to take care of child you didn't know wasn't yours.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/24 02:50 AM
1	Paternity fraud is DV and women who oppose paternity tests are abusers. I really don't understand the argument against this, or at least the argument against it as a matter of practical policy. You could argue that you shouldn't be in a relationship with someone you don't trust, but plenty of people (men and women) are stabbed in the back by partners they 100% trust. You could also say that men should only get the tests once they suspect something, but it's usually too late by that point. People aren't obligated to give up their DNA, and even if they're willing to v…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/12/24 02:40 AM
1	Investment in Dating: Men Should Copy Mid/Ugly Women’s Approach Would be a plausible theory if I hadn’t had the opportunity to try as someone who’s 100 pounds lighter than I am now. I wasn’t exactly cleaning up with the ladies, but there was a substantial improvement in my dating market value (fudging my height on dating apps by 1.25-1.5 inches helped, too.)	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/24 08:01 PM
1	Investment in Dating: Men Should Copy Mid/Ugly Women’s Approach Because they don't like me back lol. Getting to date people you actually find attractive is a privilege that a lot of guys don't enjoy. With personality, they have to be "ugly" enough for you and have personal interest in you. That's not always easy to find, especially in our atomized world.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/24 08:43 AM
2	Investment in Dating: Men Should Copy Mid/Ugly Women’s Approach Why are you going after women you consider ugly anyways? I'm not very good at it (and, if I'm being honest, I've largely stopped trying,) but there are three reasons. The first reason is that I hate how superficial people (including me) are, and going after women I'm not immediately attracted to is sort of a protest against that superficiality. Building off of that, I want to live in a world where people are judged off of who they are and not what they look like; going after people I'm not attra…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/24 07:55 AM
0	Investment in Dating: Men Should Copy Mid/Ugly Women’s Approach Because they won't go for us? I thought that was obvious	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/24 07:35 AM
–	Women Do Not—I Repeat, Do NOT 🙅‍♂️—Like Assholes or Narcissists. But There's a Reason They Keep Ending Up With Them. They correlate strongly enough that they’re considered traits to look out for when determining whether or not someone is a narcissist. The point is that a lot of guys are dismissed as misogynistic and crazy for saying for saying that women hate assholes. Women aren’t evil and don’t just like assholes because they’re assholes, but they do like traits that are a good proxy for finding assholes. The guys saying that women like assholes are wrong, but they shouldn’t be dismissed as misogynistic pric…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/24 12:34 AM
–	Women Do Not—I Repeat, Do NOT 🙅‍♂️—Like Assholes or Narcissists. But There's a Reason They Keep Ending Up With Them. I never said that average men never get girlfriends? I’m saying that super model good looks help. If you disagree that looks aren’t important to women, that women don’t want confidence, charm, and excitement, or that confidence, charm, and excitement aren’t heavily correlated with NPD, I’m happy to debate that. Edit: To give an example, most men do not end up with supermodels, but are you seriously going to claim that good looks don’t help women in the dating market?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/24 11:17 PM
–	Women Do Not—I Repeat, Do NOT 🙅‍♂️—Like Assholes or Narcissists. But There's a Reason They Keep Ending Up With Them. There are other examples, but he was just who popped into my head. I'd add that a lot of women in their 20s are shockingly invested in 2000s TV shows. But I guess I could say Timothée Chalamet?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/24 10:39 PM
–	Women Do Not—I Repeat, Do NOT 🙅‍♂️—Like Assholes or Narcissists. But There's a Reason They Keep Ending Up With Them. I would counter that there are still two reasons not to be an asshole. Firstly, like I said, women really don't like it. They love traits that are widely found in assholes, but they don't like the obnoxiousness itself, per se. So if you can have the confidence and charm of an asshole without being an asshole, that will probably even help you more than actually being an asshole. The second is that I would slightly modify the claim that women want a bully: I do think that, more often than they'd c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/24 10:34 PM
1	You're wasting your time chasing party girls I'm 30, and no, I totally get why people go for party girls. My biggest regret was not partying through my 20s like all of the fun people. Party girls are exciting and hot, and the upper-class ones tend to also be pretty bright. I do agree that they can go too far into the party category (in my experience, most party girls desperately want a steady relationship and a quieter life, but they're going out every night because it's the only way to socialize), but as a general rule, they're the pretti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/24 08:19 AM
7	If you are a late bloomer / socially stunted, you may never fully catch up Dude, screw your manager for doing that. I’m such a loser that I don’t have an office job right now, but I’d like to get one sometime in the next five years, so…this is something I’m really not looking forward to. I hope against hope that there’s a way out of this life, but, looking at it objectively, I’m inclined to say that there isn’t. I don’t think im ever going to be more than a cautionary tale. I don’t know what I’m going to do when I get older; it really worries me, to be honest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/24 12:57 AM
9	If you are a late bloomer / socially stunted, you may never fully catch up "Oh, don't worry, basketball is actually a really easy game to be good at. Just work at it a bit and you'll be fine." - LeBron James	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/24 02:11 AM
32	If you are a late bloomer / socially stunted, you may never fully catch up older generation just grew out of it or moved on I don't think that's entirely true. More often than not, they just locked themselves in their basements and died quietly. I do think that there are more socially isolated weirdos (like myself) than in the past, but I think that has less to do with an echo chamber that encourages stagnancy than it does with the fact that it was hard to lock yourself into the house back in the day.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/24 02:10 AM
36	If you are a late bloomer / socially stunted, you may never fully catch up As someone who isolated himself throughout his teens and 20s, yeah, I think this is pretty much right. Reading your post actually just aggravated my already pretty bad depression lol. I really don't know if I have anything to add, other than maybe an additional point about how low social capital makes you an unappealing friend, no matter how socially able you are. People see it as an obvious red flag if no one seems to like you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/24 02:06 AM