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I’ve done 3 day and 5 day wet fast, a 3 day dry fast, rolling 48s, OMAD, sugar fasting, fruit only diets, carnivore, keto, and anything else you can think of. For a lot of people, all you’re doing is cranking your stress hormones (which ironically make you feel ‘better’ in the short term) and pummeling your thyroid for some short term scale losses, while impairing your long term ability to maintain the losses you get because of metabolic downregulation. For actual health conditions like skin iss…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/26 03:22 PM
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Plenty of people here make no progress because they want the unsustainable hack to get the quick result and never learn the hard skill of being the different person they actually need to become to keep the results for the rest of their lives. Losing weight doesn’t matter if you never learn to live like a lean person.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/26 04:57 AM
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"She didn't want to wait, so she left without me. I got butthurt for her not waiting for me and stayed home" Did you learn nothing from When I say No I Feel Guilty? Newsflash, your wife has the exact same assertive rights you do - the main difference between you and her is that she's got the confidence and self-assurance to tell you to 'go wank yourself' when you bitched at her that she chose not to sit on her thumb and wait for you to do your run when she could be out having fun with a friend. …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/26 09:50 PM
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You're in desperate need of the basics. STFU, Sidebar, OYS in the main sub, and lift
/r/askMRP29/06/26 05:35 PM
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You sound like a loser and like to complain.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/26 05:09 PM
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Go play with the dynamite, see what happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/26 07:19 PM
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There's a lot written here on catch and release - you decide a line that you're comfortable going all the way up to but not past with your moral framework, and then you operate within that to get data points that you can successfully game "in the wild" with women besides your wife. To me that line stopped before things got physical beyond flirty touches in public places, but I also know myself enough to know that if I can get a girl on a date, I can close because when I was single I closed like …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/26 03:16 PM
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It gives you objective measures of progress too so you can’t lie to yourself - you’re either getting stronger and building muscle, or you’re lying to yourself that whatever you’re doing is working.
/r/askMRP01/05/26 02:08 PM
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It teaches you to do hard things, to be consistent, it changes how you look for the better, makes you more capable, and proves to yourself that you can stick to a program and change your reality. The other things you mention may do some of these, but none of them do all of them simultaneously as well as hitting the heavy iron for 5 sets of 5.
/r/askMRP30/04/26 08:40 PM
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Hiding the badness is Nice Guy 101 - maybe go back and read about that… or don’t idc - I was a retard like you so I guess I have the tiniest bit of sympathy for you. It’s a hard spot to be - having giant ego and being super good at lying to yourself, but still with a life you’re unhappy with. When you decide it’s more important to progress than to be right, you’ll actually start to change
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/26 02:50 PM
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What did you accomplish by deleting all of your comments? I'm truly curious how you feel your progression benefited by doing that.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/26 10:07 PM
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DEER away bud - just know the only one you're hurting when you're 'Right On The Internet' (tm) is yourself https://theredarchive.com/r/MarriedRedPill/put-your-ego-in-the-box.1095500
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/26 05:16 PM
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you're literally retarded
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/26 05:14 PM
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If nothing else is working, why not try? I Agee. I’ll look forward to your report on it, I see parallels I can learn a lot from in my own path - I don’t envy this work, and I’m starting ti feel more and more that I may have much of the same to do myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/26 05:26 AM
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I know I’m late to the party here, so just want to share some thoughts. This OYS sounds a lot like your last one in the following senses - you’re organized and directed toward long term and short term goals with action items and goalposts you’re systematically checking off to create the life you want… and she’s sitting on the boat at the other end of the tow rope screaming and pouting and sullenly staring at the deck from the lounge chair and drinking the mojito that you put in her bow before dr…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/26 02:16 PM
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Almost nobody who posts here OYS’s, thus the dunking. Why give anyone any kind of deep advice if they clearly aren’t doing the work? Don’t be mad about other people doing what they want here, they have just as much a right as you do. Nobody owes anyone anything - get over it, or better yet find a way to make it useful for you.
/r/askMRP07/03/26 08:32 PM
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>> can you explain At its core, there is no sexual or romantic relationship without sex or romance - the woman is the one who decides how much sex there's going to be given out and how much of a bitch or a sweetie she's going to be in a given interaction with a given man at any given time. All of that is going to be determined by how she feels toward the man, and how she feels toward the man is a consequence of his frame and actions and whether those are attractive or unattractive. It is your jo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/26 07:59 PM
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Exactly. It’s a huge asset and drive toward self-betterment when we don’t short circuit the system.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/26 09:24 PM
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>>Her period ended so I really do notice the different parts of the woman's cycle that Athol Kay talks about in MMSLP. You're fixing you, not the relationship - why do you give a shit? It doesn't matter if she's leaking this week or not, if she's choosing to be a bitch I'm not around. >> any tiny bit of weak frame she can smell and will test This is because you have DONE NOTHING substantially different for any meaningful length of time that would indicate that you are any kind of a different per…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/26 06:25 PM
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>> leading the date ... creating the vibe ... letting my presence be the date ... I had a blast ... being myself This, all the time. Anyone who wants to be part of this life you are creating will let you know, if their actions say they don't want to be part of it, believe them.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/26 07:29 PM
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>> Meditations by M.Aurelius Skip If you want some more 'out there' content, The Courage to be Disliked is much better IMO and presents another way to conceptualize frame, which might help it 'click' for you, which you need a lot more than Marcus's self-deprecating, neurotic hamstering.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/26 07:19 PM
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Come back in 6 months after you've figured out how not to be ashamed of your sexuality and reconsider this. You aren't anywhere close to where you'll be able to make this determination right now from your own values and best interest.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/26 07:12 PM
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>> It's not my problem but it's not fun. Yeah, it is your problem you retard. You're not a victim of this woman you chose to bring into your life. Complaining about things you can change is what women do.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/26 07:08 PM
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You should also be aware of the psychology that hotwives are well known to come home and have unconsciously especially hot sex with their LTR after cheating so there is plausible deniability that the child his is if she gets pregnant with the bull. Do with that information what you will. >> fiancé There is still time dude. It doesn't get ANY easier once the papers are signed. Right now it's 'I don't want to do this anymore' and you walk. No lawyers, no money, no family court, not negotiations.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/26 07:03 PM
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Learn to evaluate the quality of what is said, not your perception of the quality of the person saying it. Who says truth has nothing to do with if it is true. By the way, put your ego in the box
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/26 04:52 PM
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In my experience, they gave me concepts and ideas to work on before I had the basics down and it became a distraction. Keep your eye on the prize, there is no short cut.
/r/askMRP18/02/26 02:45 AM
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Great, glad it landed. Now go DO the work you know needs to be done.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/26 05:00 AM
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K!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/26 03:04 AM
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Pretty fucking entitled for someone who lists a pathetically slow mile time as their 'lifting', eats kids meals and drinks 2 beers every night. Maybe start with the simple stuff like shutting the fuck up, reading the sidebar, and actually lifting. >> Sex has been great >> I can’t respect myself while being married to her Why are you here?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 07:00 PM
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>> Unannounced all nighters have happened over a dozen times in the last 18 months. I usually slept over when I was fucking somebody too. >> I tried a compliance test to see how it would go, it failed so I noted the failure. I have read here to escalate the "boundary defense" with each violation which is why I noted the letter possibly being Rambo. Maybe leaving for a whole day is better or maybe I'm defending my boundaries incorrectly. If I can escalate the boundary without the letter, I will d…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 06:30 PM
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>>Lifting I want to talk about tradeoffs - To build a muscular frame that will build attraction, your squat and deadlift should both start with at LEAST a 3 and not a 2 (a 4 is even better), and your upper body lifts should be 30-40% higher for your bodyweight. You should also target 12% BF at your height and weight to show that off. At 5'10" 185 with your current lifts, you're probably not bad looking, but you probably haven't 'turned the corner' to build the kind of imposing, impressive physiq…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 06:20 PM
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She's throwing her attitude around because she knows you have no other options. You are still fat, small, weak, and unattractive. Just imagine how much easier her moods would be to brush off if you had two other 8s from yoga class who you could call tonight and weren't a skinnyfat weak bitch who can't even figure out how to eat in a surplus. >>I got lazy The last 6 paragraphs of your OYS don't matter at all once you fix the above.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 06:02 PM
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You're 40. You know you're more than halfway through your life expectancy, right? You are going to die, likely in less time than you've been alive already, and this is what you've have made of yourself. You gonna waste the other half too?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/26 05:48 PM
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>>I’ve implemented this all in my life HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
/r/askMRP11/02/26 04:22 PM
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>> if he has viable women I think he can get to that part, but only if he stops pissing shitty feelings all over himself and crying in the corner about how bad he feelz he is.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/26 03:53 PM
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Yes, in your first paragraph, you get it. To elaborate, the shame is the problem, not the action. Jerking off doesn't inherently make you a worse man. I have my opinions, so does everyone, but they're just fucking opinions - guess what? You get to decide how you feel about things. How you FEEL about jerking off, and what you allow that FEELING to cause you to do or NOT do, DOES make you a better or worse man. If you stop FEELING bad about taking care of your needs in the way you can, and start W…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/26 03:01 AM
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The key is to simply see reality as it is now, accurately and without delusion, and then make a plan for how to move forward toward your goals. I wrote about the mental models that helped me get to this point in my first field report post you can find on my profile - a lot of that concerns 'faking it until I make it' and what that looked like for me in practice. If what is there is useful to you then great, if not, then discard it. I would ask what is being accomplished for you by being self-dep…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/26 10:33 PM
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What is being held up by the need to fool someone? Sounds like what other people think of you is pretty important to you... What was that first rule in WISNIFG again?...
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/26 07:44 PM
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Active dread is always retarded, overt manipulation, and a demonstration of low value. Anything you do to influence your wife's thoughts is dancing monkey behavior and is counter productive. If you're ever thinking of doing something or justifying something with "so she will think/do/feel ____" instantly know that is not the right path of action. You are here to fix the man not the marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/26 04:58 PM
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What would your mindset have to be where you can take care of your own sexual needs in the ways you are able to, on the timeline you decide to, and not feel shame about it? I mean, it is objectively pathetic, and I went through my own phase, but the reality is your alternative right now for a casual fuck is 3s and 4s, which I get it, you don't want to do, but there is a deeper level here. The shame spiral that you impose on yourself over porn does not benefit you in any way. The shame you feel a…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/26 04:44 PM
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Let me save you some time on the diet front - Forget all the hot bullshit around low carb, it does not work. Eat the way every single Mr Olympia for the last 40 years has - avoid fat like the plague, crank your protein to 150-200g/day so you can grow some muscle, and eat a pile of clean carbs so you have energy and can train. And for goodness sake, actually fucking lift. Half effort does not equal half results, it equals no results.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/26 03:42 AM
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>>Physical: I feel pretty tired, and want to sleep a lot Eat more clean carbs and jesus christ start lifting, you're a stringbean with no energy.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/26 04:58 PM
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I have hypermobility and deadlift 573, bench 285, and squat 490. The solution to hypermobility is increasing the strength of the tissues around your bendy joints. Stop being a bitch and quit making excuses. Nobody cares.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/26 05:50 PM
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Sounds like you know the work to do. Remember rule number 1 of WISNIFG... When you become emotional about what others think about what you think, are you being your own judge? This is the 101 stuff - you'll never progress toward anything as long as this persists. NGAF, outcome independence, validation, frame, all of it's downstream of this. Two ways of approaching this - you can hamster about it endlessly and do 'inner work', or you can become a shredded and ripped attractive man with high T and…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/26 06:41 PM
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Why is it so important to you for others to acknowledge that you’re right?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/26 08:13 PM
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“Today was the first time I skipped a workout. I felt a bit sick, wheezing, weak, and had a headache even during the warm-up. Set up the weights for bench press and couldn’t get a single full rep. Decided not to tempt fate and postpone until I feel better.” Gonna try to stretch your brain, maybe you’ll learn something - Who was this written for, and why?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/25 09:22 PM
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Stop externalizing your success to everyone besides yourself. You’re still choosing to be a victim of others’ action’s (in this case MRP users commenting), the only difference is those other’s actions happen to be in a positive direction for you this week. Focus on the actions YOU took in YOUR life to make YOUR life look more the way YOU want it to.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/25 09:20 PM
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The point is that your happiness is unique and only you know what that looks like, but your misery looks identical to everyone else’s. The playbook to get to your goals is identical - do the basic work (lift, stfu, read), so you can achieve mid term goals (higher smv, develop options and capability to gain leverage over your world), and then you can develop a long term vision and mission for yourself. And the entire time you’re going to be enraged at the you that allowed it to get this bad, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/25 10:00 PM
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You’re right, he should ask his wife for her friend’s number so he can go hit on her and look like an absolute retard, while running overt dread like a covert contracted moron. Op, don’t do this, if you wanna get some game practice, get OUTSIDE your wife’s social circle, Jesus this is plating 101 - you must give the woman plausible deniability.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/25 10:35 PM
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Who are you doing this for? If it’s anyone besides yourself, you should just quit until you figure out how to do it for yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/25 07:51 PM
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Hahahaha you cannot be serious - textbook shitting where you eat and failing a shit test at the same time
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/25 07:48 PM
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You use humor as an ego defense and it’s holding you back
/r/askMRP01/12/25 06:36 PM
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Your lifts suck, and no I don't care about your back injuries. You're hooked on validation > Total mindfuck state. I’d wake up and the very first thought was about the ex: either some memory where I fucked up , or the urge to prove to her what she lost But don't allow yourself to receive it, so badly that you even include a body count in your goal section, while saying any compliment from a girl is 'like poison pouring out of their mouths.' And to recap what you actually did this week, you: Lift…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/25 07:39 PM
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And by the way, failure to shut the fuck up is because you're so desperate for her validation that you literally can't help yourself from seeking it - next time you think about saying some dumb shit, put the phrase 'But mom...!' in front of it and see if it makes anything click for you. Then go and shut the fuck up.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/25 02:08 AM
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And you will ALWAYS be better off literally autistically shutting the fuck up and going and doing something away from her when you want to spray some needy/angry bullshit at her that's about you - don't create problems you then have to solve. You already have enough problems, don't stomp on your dick and make more.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/25 02:06 AM
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>>(why the fuck do i have to piecemeal my comments like this?) Because you talk too much
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 08:45 PM
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>seeing the 200-teens felt good. Don't let the self-congratulatory dopamine slow you from reaching your real finish line. Mental - You're (re)acting like an animal in a cage - but you've had the key the whole time... It's ok to be angry, you know that right? And getting it out of you is good, but you gotta recognize you're not angry at your wife, you're angry at your past self for letting all this shit happen - so don't blame other people for problems you created for yourself. This is where you …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/25 08:43 PM
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>You question the value of mental toughness I question the values that supported my mental toughness - the feeling of obligation to expectations or others that I had adopted and assumed, not chosen. Like a hammer, toughness is a tool that can be used to build or to break. >David Goggins would have finished the race And that's why he's had 5 knee surgeries. He's not someone who's models I want to emulate. I'm not in his head, though I have read his book, but it doesn't seem like a happy place. An…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/25 02:34 AM
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I have no advice for Blarg, his entire post was eye opening for me. As for the response to your OYS, you are entirely right in how you characterize them. How easy it was for me to simply hate what I hated within me, but in you too? I wasn’t responding thoughtfully to you in your circumstances, I was unconsciously telling myself what I thought of myself, through the medium of you. I can only give of what I am, and for that I am sorry that what I gave to you was a projection so lacking in value, a…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/25 02:21 AM
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I gained no value from this. “Popular romance movie reflects the reality we already know exists” To echo wolflord, what were your notes? What did you learn, did you try anything different in your life because of this, and what were the results? Otherwise, this isn’t the sub for movie reviews - I recall someone mentioning the Noir detective movie the Maltese Falcon and its depiction of frame, but that was in the context of a larger post on frame to share value, not regurgitate a bunch of 101 trp …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/25 05:39 AM
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Glad it landed, fun to chew on those ideas with you. Now the hard part - living it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/25 02:20 AM
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That’s kind of what I was thinking - burpees and KBs are great for muscular endurance and maybe build out your delts a bit, but if you want to actually put together an imposing physique, getting under heavy weight is the only way
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/25 03:06 PM
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Heard - the purpose of posting your lifts, along with your weight and height, is so people can get an idea of your physique and factor that into advice they give.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/25 05:09 AM
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What are your barbell lifts? This will be a larger question once you answer
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/25 04:01 AM
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I read the Stranger a while ago but to be honest I hated the nihilism of it. I’ll check into that essay and see if I feel differently. I quite identify with the points you mention - a worthy struggle is reward enough for its doing, I completely agree. I’m not stranger to finding meaning in the work and the process, in this case it’s more that I feel a need to continue to work, not for me, not for my goals, but for others and for appearances sake - for fear that my plowhorse credentials be questi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/25 10:02 PM
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OYS 56 I hit my annual sales goal this week, after having a monster October. This is giving me the opportunity to investigate why I’m suddenly procrastinating and slacking off in work, and this is what I’ve come to understand - I feel guilty and become resentfully avoidant and passive when my wants conflict with the promises I have made to others, and my fabricated perceptions of their opinions. This is giving me the chance to re-pattern to learn to listen exclusively to my wants. I’ve been unde…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/25 08:36 PM
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Turns out you don't need a working leg or a working arm to grow a spine.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/25 06:34 PM
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>Indifference isn’t a covert form of manipulation if the “why” is allocating my time elsewhere to something I enjoy. It is manipulation if my goal is to change someone else’s behavior. Exactly. This is why people here preach IDGAF attitude, not active operant conditioning or any other covert contract behavior. "Because you did ___, I will do ___, so you will do ___, which will make you have sex with me more, and then we will have a problem free life." >I want to be in my frame because my woman e…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/25 06:24 PM
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Man, you're so close - >I've read to withdraw my attention and affection [FROM HER] if l determine behavior towards me is unacceptable This is still framed as a reaction - you're not re-allocating your time and energy because that's the kind of guy you are, you're withdrawing them from your woman in reaction to something she is or isn't doing. It's about her, not you. >So after each rejection I turned the down the attention/affection dial a bit (i.e. 100 down to 95) but continued to initiate reg…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/25 06:38 PM
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After all this DEERing about why you’re qualified to speak on the subject, why wouldn’t you just leave if you thought Chad was fucking her? Either he is or he isn’t, and if he is, you leave, not confront him, and if he isn’t he’s not the problem. Plenty of guys are being authentic when they are here when they’re being supplicative pussies, that’s the authentic thing for them to do with their mental models, that doesn’t mean it’s the right praxeological thing to do to get the outcome they want. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/25 04:41 AM
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I didn't say you needed to align them with your mission, I said you have to risk failure to succeed. What is the bar where if you do not achieve it, you have FAILED?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 08:41 PM
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Help me make sense of this - Your mission is - Develop agency and live the life I want. Then you write all these statements - - Not exactly sure what the play is here. I have not said anything yet ... - I do not want this to be a long term solution though ... - This week felt like things kind of just chugged along ... - I find myself looking for or trying to create opportunities ... haven't explicitly done this - Things are still far from ... how I want the household to be run - However, I do ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 08:33 PM
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>I dialed down the attention each day Dancing monkey much? Stop Re-Acting - start just acting. The why is more important than the what of any of your actions here, just like the same words can be used when DEERing or Negatively Asserting - it's the why that makes the difference. >there’s certainly resistance and/or friction building up when it comes to interacting with the fiancée. Maybe a malaise. It’s hard to put a finger on The relationship is her job not yours. If you aren't getting value th…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 07:57 PM
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>I'm going to continue working on my attitude Isn't it funny how everything is a reflection of your own internal state? Do you see how much control you really do have over your world? The second you stopped projecting a pissy, withdrawn, resentful aura, and started projecting confidence, peace, and safety, you received the softness and submission you were creating space for? This is leadership. >But nothing has changed apart from me, which speaks volumes. Exacly And for your work section, you're…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 07:41 PM
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Lot of excuses 'it's harder...', wishlist 'I need.../I might need...' with no plans, ambiguous "I think..." without a judgement, and positive moral evaluations of virtue 'it's good that I can.../some good weight on the bar' in here. You're more focused on managing your self-image and framing yourself in a positive and virtuous light than making progress. You don't set concrete goals so you can't objectively fail, and as long as you do, you'll never get anywhere. This is Ego. >my game/flirting is…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 07:25 PM
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Man, a lot things sure do happen TO you. Must be tough having no agency over yourself or control over your circumstances. By the way, post your fucking reading. You're on OYS 14, in the meat of the work, and if you haven't read the 101 stuff, you deserve to be ignored by everyone here. >Listen to way too much political content. Not good for my mental health. A kind of masturbation in its own regard. You realize how retarded this is - but also, if you cannot control your reactions, that is the bi…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 05:45 PM
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Men with no frame and the things they allow to happen to them... Don't normalize being a frameless pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 05:14 PM
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This reads like a bunch of positive fluff, I'm not sure I understand why you're here if there isn't anything you're struggling with. The hardest thing in here I see is you waffling on whether or not to move in with your girl or not. Either do or don't, know the consequences of both, and don't look for mom/MRP/others to validate your decisions. I can write a long list of wins too, but that doesn't help me address what I'm struggling with.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 05:12 PM
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How?
/r/askMRP08/11/25 02:02 PM
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You need female validation like you need oxygen, and nothing will change until you fix that.
/r/askMRP08/11/25 01:18 PM
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That ego is exactly why your SMV doesn’t matter.
/r/askMRP08/11/25 12:54 PM
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Good. You now have context and handles on your problems. Now do the fucking work.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/25 07:09 AM
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Go read Horns sex for validation post. This will be a vital part of your progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/25 05:42 PM
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100% dude, it’s insidious, and though my brand of high-effort perfectionistic dysfunction is more rewarded by the world than procrastination or avoidance, it was still a dysfunction and still a nice guy covert contract through which I was betraying myself. It’s ok for things to feel easy - I don’t need to be struggling constantly to feel worthwhile. I’m in a much more integrated place now.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/25 05:41 PM
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This bears ruminating on - there’s a lot here. I will say this - I’m deeply interested in, and savor the process of becoming, not fixating on attaining a future state of being, or anymore punishing myself for falling short of standards (set by myself or others), and I have deep gratitude for who I have been and what I’ve done at every stage of my life, while now looking with excitement to my vision for the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/25 01:42 AM
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Have you quit watching porn yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/25 11:32 PM
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You didn’t ask, but story time - it took running 84.5 miles over 27 hours for me to finally hear my own desires and ‘voice’ over the validation programming I’ve been operating with. Pursuing my first 100 mile race finish while undertrained shoved so much stress through my validation seeking and external reward frameworks that they finally just fucking broke. It simply became impossible to keep grinding forward for reasons besides my own, and my own reasons said ‘dude, what the fuck, stop, you’re…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/25 11:27 PM
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Nah, the doing well of what I value is the end now - the goals are just a vehicle, a medium for the creation of the experiences I want.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/25 10:51 PM
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OYS 55 This summer was a season of challenge and yielding for me. Perhaps most importantly, I learned to accept that I cannot put 100% effort into all of my goals at once. Some actions for some goals act in opposition to other goals, no matter how much I want to accomplish them. This was an ego identity for me. For example, running a deficit and trying to cut body fat while training to run an ultramarathon leads to either binging or injury, depending on the week and willpower. I created the resu…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/25 10:37 PM
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“Controlling and manipulative behavior will automatically kill her perception of you as a Lover.” Male mate guarding is definitionally controlling and manipulative.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/25 10:16 PM
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Hickory doesn’t understand that frame isn’t what you do (setting “boundaries”) it’s who you are (a man who has standards, as you say). People either choose to meet your standard, or they don’t. Act accordingly.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/25 10:14 PM
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Try thinking for yourself here - do YOU think this is a good idea? Or are you just repeating Athol Kay? Who, by the way, blew up his profitable coaching business by bringing on his wife and other women as coaches, who started moralizing and browbeating men in the community, and all of his clients left.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/25 12:23 AM
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Saying anything to Kevin is a retarded demonstration of low value and will get back to his woman. If she wants to fuck Kev, she’s going to, he should be thinking about what he wants to de regardless of what his woman does. Tbh, Kev fucking her and him finding out would be doing him a favor - she’s replaceable and AWALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/25 03:58 PM
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Thanks for this writeup Blarg, and the time you put into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/25 01:30 AM
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Indeed that is the difference - what’s your walking around BF these days Horns? Just curious.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/25 03:36 AM
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I took a girl to a brewery where another attractive chick I’d banged and her friend came and spoke to us - the vibe was clearly understood by the girl I’d brought that night. I’d NEVER experienced what a woman will really do when the dread that you have options is shoved in her face. That girl spent thousands of dollars flying to visit me to hook up, and the things she would do boggled the mind. I’ve had this experience, and it’s still been extremely difficult to rebuild, or just build a new min…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/25 01:15 AM
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It actually was a well thought out explanation.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/25 05:59 PM
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The problem is that you're outsourcing being your judge to randos on the internet, no matter how flashy their flair. Why do you give a rip what I say? Why do you let it affect you? That's the problem.
/r/RPChristians26/08/25 09:22 PM
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I think the distinction Horns is making around larping is specific to TWOTSM for people early in the OYS journey. You do not have the requisite mental models to contextualize the concepts in that book in a productive way, and instead it can become a strong enabler of being a dancing monkey. Best thing you could do is forget everything you read in that book for now and start back with the beginning of the sidebar, which is written in order for a reason. NMMNG and WISNIFG.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/25 03:22 PM
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You don't actually want me to tell you what to do, do you?
/r/RPChristians25/08/25 10:47 PM
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You use words to spin a web of bullsh*t to explain why you haven't done anything. It's what women do.
/r/RPChristians25/08/25 04:38 PM
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>> my frame of mind is still fucked and I'm delusional and lying to myself Yes. Do things, then write about them in the way you WANT to think, not the way you think NOW (see the gutting above). This is an ASPIRATIONAL EXERCISE to show yourself you can change how you think and act. But first, you must DO things. Together, this will rewire you, but not one without the other. >> I wasn't aware I was seeking validation in these ways, and providing excuses disguised as effort. Welcome to the realm of…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/25 06:46 PM
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Make a decision, see how it turns out, and then make different decisions if you need to. And quit asking for other people to make/validate your decisions for you, it’s pathetic.
/r/askMRP24/08/25 12:09 AM
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It speaks volumes that this is downvoted.
/r/askMRP23/08/25 04:01 AM
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You talk too much
/r/RPChristians23/08/25 02:41 AM
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Congrats, you just wrote your first real OYS
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/25 08:15 PM
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Practically speaking, writing and thinking are functionally identical. Let's see what your writing says about your thinking. You're right (I agree with horns, and I get validation by agreeing with a perceived authority, plus I'm a people pleaser with no spine). I've been doing a lot of introspection and groundwork (I really have been doing a lot, you just don't understand it like I do). And reading (I've been doing this too! I'm not gonna give any detail on how much, probably because it's no mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/25 08:07 PM
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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA It really is just that simple huh?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/25 07:51 PM
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Start a journaling practice in which you cannot use any indirect objects besides the word ‘I’. Use chat GPT to grade it. Writing is the same as thinking, so this is a chance to literally train your brain to think with internalized frame. That’s the entire point of OYS, and the reason why rule 9 exists to stop people blaming others for their problems.
/r/askMRP05/08/25 11:58 PM
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Your blind spot is that you hold everyone in your life accountable to a standard you set except yourself. You’re an entitled, self-righteous, resentful prick with loads of covert contracts and a transactional mindset, and you hamster your way into justifying that everything is someone else’s fault, since it couldn’t possibly be yours, as you’ve clearly mastered red pill simply by being around it for 10 years and spending some money. You’ve internalized nothing, as evinced by the fact that your q…
/r/askMRP05/08/25 11:55 PM
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“I've been in the RP space for about 10 years and I've studied the sidebar, worked with coaches and helped others too.” Still doesn’t have the frame to make his own fucking decisions. Pathetic.
/r/askMRP05/08/25 11:45 PM
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Both this and Blarg's recommendation are gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/25 06:23 PM
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Have you tried....... owning your shit in the main sub OYS threads and actually DOING something to change your life instead of flailing like a damp paper towel in a tornado?
/r/askMRP01/07/25 12:18 AM
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The reason you get butthurt when people don’t give you a ‘good reply’ is the same reason you don’t want to go down on your wife - you’re an entitled fuck and think you deserve everything given to you without criticism. And if this triggers you, it’s because it’s true. What will you do with that truth?
/r/askMRP29/06/25 02:53 PM
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Thank you, deeply, for taking the time to articulate these finer points so clearly and understandably Blarg, you do us all a great service - thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/25 03:18 PM
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Shutting up is a good thing even at the later stages. It just becomes amused mastery.
/r/askMRP11/06/25 01:35 AM
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Clearly you’d rather naval gaze about the theoretical ramifications and epistemological intricacies of shutting the fuck up than actually shutting the fuck up. So here’s my advice. When in doubt, Shut the fuck up. Saying nothing and being thought a fool is better than opening your mouth and removing all doubt’ - Seneca, probably
/r/askMRP10/06/25 09:39 PM
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‘After 20 years of being married being a beta nice guy, this has been difficult and I have 20 years to unfuck’ Sounds tough, maybe you should just quit
/r/askMRP10/06/25 09:13 PM
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The bitchy part is the OP
/r/askMRP04/06/25 03:42 PM
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You're just getting in MRP's frame then instead of your wife's. Same slave, different master. It doesn't need to be this way dude. Your balls have been between your legs the whole time.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/25 06:19 PM
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Literally have done nothing. Go do something to fix yourself and stop being a sad sack of shit with a sob story
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/25 03:52 PM
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I think it’s already coming in its own way, and this is just another data point encouraging me that the answers will only come from within. Thanks a lot, and I respect your decision to listen to yourself and act from that, even after sinking at least as much time as I did into writing my question. I’ve gotten a lot of value from your writings over time. Thanks again.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/25 10:51 AM
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Sounds like it’s hard for you, maybe you should just give up
/r/askMRP21/05/25 08:06 PM
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So my intention in all of this was to solicit an understanding of what a response in the spirit of ‘being’ would be, and I think I’ve answered my own question through this rich and enlightening dialogue - “There’s a nail in your head, and if you want to whine about it instead of pull it out, then you’re going to have to do that alone, because I'm a person who solves problems, not one who complains about them.” *puts on running shoes, and heads out the door* The answer is ‘Look inside yourself, t…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/25 05:38 AM
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I needed to sit with this for a few days, pardon the delay. >> the slippery slope is that once the object is contextualized subjectively and we forget its original meaning, we start going into this back and forth This metaphor kind of broke something open in me, because any time I have ever let myself get angry, or DEERed, or any other action where I deny my true self, I’m realizing that it’s all because I chose, either consciously, or unconsciously, to accept another person’s subjective context…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/25 05:38 AM
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Good self observation. I'm a runner as well, so I get it. It's just your ego, thinking you're better than the process or special. I've battled with that in this process - mostly it just keeps you mediocre while thinking you're making progress, but at the extreme it manifests as self sabotage because you're either trying to do the 301 before the 101, or you try to buy your way out of problems like 'howdeepdoyoubelieve' who was in OYS 3 or 4 weeks ago. Progress has never come to me so fast as when…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/25 12:05 AM
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Don't jump 10 lbs on lower body stuff on Stronglifts, you're not strong enough for that. Stick with 5 lb jumps, and maybe do 2.5 lb jumps on upper body and run that linear progression for as long as you can - the sooner you run out of options with the lever of increasing weight, the sooner you plateau and have to start pulling other levers, aka making things overly complicated.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/25 06:51 PM
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This is a pretty meta take, and I want to honor the complexity of what you've attempted to communicate here. In an attempt to understand it, I'm going to say back what I think you mean, and I'd appreciate it if you'd critique or confirm that. The higher level of frame that you're discussing here is to step away from the use of actions as a means to attempt to communicate, and to move toward a state of being and abundance wherein the 'doing' is the sole goal of actions for ourselves, and communic…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/25 05:47 PM
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No, it won’t. You gotta lift heavy if you want to get strong. Once you’ve broken yourself like that retard, you can do the functional patterns course.
/r/askMRP06/05/25 02:37 AM
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Oh, I completely misunderstood what was asked here, no offense 223, I thought Irfsdad was referencing that guy who told Horns he felt sorry for him. That post definitely was some solid dynamite though.
/r/askMRP05/05/25 05:53 PM
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Literally any program will work for a beginner. Just do Stronglifts 5x5 and skip the squatting on the back to back day if you feel like a pussy that week. Given that you're supposed to start with the bar, I think you'll be ok for a few months on that program, even squatting back to back days.
/r/askMRP05/05/25 04:05 PM
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It’s because the poster had a massive ego and started back talking the mods about having massive egos and only one of those two parties has mod privileges.
/r/askMRP04/05/25 10:57 PM
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The response and the result [from a certain, particular person] is not important. Remember that you’re trying to become more fuckable, not to fuck your wife. What do I mean by this? You have 2 options according to rule 10 here - stop complaining about your wife not fucking you because you’ve taken ownership that you created these circumstances and acknowledge that it’s your fault and your choice to not go fuck somebody else to get your needs met, and thus not something you can complain about, OR…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/25 03:08 PM
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Spoon-feeding defeats the entire purpose of this space. Read and internalize the sidebar, and maybe make another account and get in the OYS thread. Then you’ll possibly make some real progress.
/r/askMRP04/05/25 01:53 AM
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You’re smart enough to know I was making a joke. Are you smart enough to figure out why?
/r/askMRP04/05/25 01:27 AM
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You just told me in 4 different ways that you don’t have the frame for open and honest conversation, let alone holding your own boundaries and being your own judge, but go ahead and try holding her accountable, but be sure to write another field report. It’ll be a fun read.
/r/askMRP04/05/25 12:05 AM
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Bummer. Shoulda read the rules.
/r/askMRP04/05/25 12:02 AM
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It sounds like you should write in OYS.
/r/askMRP03/05/25 09:33 PM
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It’s not conditional on her behavior, because if you’re reacting to her behavior, you’re reacting in her frame. You simply have to be the bigger man and reset every day. Expecting her to be accountable for her own actions is a fool’s errand.
/r/askMRP03/05/25 09:31 PM
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The mental model is have a goldfish mind - wake up reset every day, don’t keep score day over day and resent her for her past actions. Women react to who you are now and today, if you change, for better or worse, everything in the past means nothing, both the good and bad, and she’ll start reacting to the changed you - with shittier behavior if you start to suck no matter the reason, and with better behavior if you become higher value and inspire more passive dread. Of course nothing is a guaran…
/r/askMRP03/05/25 01:49 AM
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"Fair take, though—a lot of guys show up here bleeding. I’m not. I’ve done years of internal work already." I thought the same thing for my first 30 OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/25 03:33 PM
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"My approach is to make my presence a positive experience for her." Covert contract. Make your presence a positive experience FOR YOU, and she can choose to be a part of it, or not. It is NOT about her. You're here to build your frame and become more fuckable. As a result, more women will want to fuck you. It's possible, though not guaranteed, that one of those women will be your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/25 03:22 PM
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First of all, this is an excuse, but second of all, if there's 'fire and resentment in the eyes', why aren't you running operation scorched earth? You're just hanging around like a dog that keeps getting kicked, hoping for a scratch behind the ears because you're trapped in the house and only the human can feed you and let you outside to pee. What would you do if you had self respect? Everything you wrote in your dynamics section is all about how she reacted to you, and how you're a victim of he…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/25 03:14 PM
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Read this
/r/askMRP02/05/25 02:50 AM
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Well said
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/25 05:48 PM
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>> I have no control over that part of my life You have no control over if 'that part' (sex) of your life happens with any particular person, but you sure as shit have control over if it happens or not. >> I’m finding it hard to act with a sense of abundance when [I'm choosing] that not happening [with the only person I'll consider] at the moment. Yeah, it's definitely hard to feel a sense of abundance when you're choosing to be the victim of circumstances beyond your control and decline to do w…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/25 03:06 PM
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Next time list your lifts
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/25 03:05 PM
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Have you read anything on the sidebar?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/25 02:59 PM
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Progress begins when you stop trying to be smarter than the work that needs to be done.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/25 02:35 PM
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Stronglifts is a 3x a week program for a reason. Stop trying to be smarter than the process. >> I dont want my wife to see me improving because even after 3 kids she has bounced back incredibly and looks great. >> This takes up a lot of my mental real estate Stop being a pussy >> i know there are better guys out there than me until ive spent at least a year at this sorting my shit out. You can't control this, so stop worrying about it. If she cheats, it's because you suck, so get to work on the …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/25 05:23 PM
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How about ‘start building a life I’m excited about, the way I’m interested in building it, and if this particular woman happens to join me along the way, that’s great, if I still want her when that time comes’ Nothing should be framed around your wife. You cannot fix the relationship, you can only fix yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/25 12:00 AM
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"I try to get out of doing the hard work by being smarter than everyone else. Well, rather thinking I’m smarter than everyone else. I wonder how much I missed out on by avoiding the work and relying on talent and intelligence." This was 100% me too when I got here - it's just another way to avoid taking action and doing anything hard - the unconscious goal for me was the avoidance of hardship and difficult while not appearing to the self as lazy, thus also avoiding the creation of anxiety in mys…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/25 07:57 PM
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Yeah, that got me good too
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/25 02:36 AM
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"It wasn’t the most important thing for me to do so." HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/25 02:32 AM
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Hilarious, even here amongst us you're appealing to a woman's validation as defense against criticism. It's so see through it's comical.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/25 04:46 PM
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In the 10 lines you dedicated to your vision/mission, you wrote "I will/need/want/am going to..." x 7 and never mentioned a single thing you actually did. You could have written this entire OYS with your last sentence, minus 2 words - "Nothing else has really changed." And then you wrote a 35 line screed about how you did such a good job sexing your woman and how you're gonna yell at her for being a woman. Do you get it?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/25 04:43 PM
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Rule 9 ban incoming in 3....2....1....
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/25 04:30 PM
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>> The way I’m doing it isn’t sustainable. I don’t know if it’s an addiction to unhealthy foods, a lack of willpower, or just plain old self sabotage. I'm still confused as to why you refuse to try different tools, when you acknowledge you don't even know what's happening. Fortunately, I can tell you exactly what's happening, just like I told you your thyroid was fucked up just from reading your symptoms, and was right. I went through the exact same problem you are now as I was trying to lose 70…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/25 04:06 PM
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>> IF has given me severe migraines and sleep issues You have the metabolic health of a menopausal woman. The 'hacks' you're using to try to shortcut your weight loss are making your problems worse by raising stress hormones, shutting down your metabolism, just like in menopausal women. You have to treat the source problem while you run a deficit, or like you have for the last 3 months, you'll be chasing your tail and yo-yo-ing, going nowhere. Eat 1200 calories of salted watermelon, apple juice,…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 05:38 PM
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>> Not only because of what I've accomplished in my life already, but because I'll never quit working to be the best man I can be (in my own eyes). Women and men don't value the same things. Be sure you're clearly understanding what's important to women that would make you a catch to them, which may or may not align with what makes you a catch in your eyes. >> I fix shit, there isn't anything I can't fix The bigger question here is do you actually want to fix this? What's in it for you to fix th…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/25 07:36 PM
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>> She basically asked me to stop talking to her This is actually a great fucking idea. Every time you're going to say something to her besides logistics, go bang out 20 pushups and 30 squats instead, and then call a guy friend to hang out. >> talk her into being attracted to me Negotiated desire, at best, leads to obligated compliance. There is only one solution to the problem of not receiving the fruits of female attraction - become more attractive, become less unattractive. You will receive m…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/25 07:31 PM
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>> I wanted to create dread Anything you ever think of, that this is the motivation for, don't do. Just STFU instead as everyone else is saying. Active dread is MEGA retarded, full stop. Doing something explicitly to inspire dread goes like this - If I do ___, she'll feel ___, so then she'll ___. It's always a covert contract, and necessarily you're still operating in her frame. Instead, have you considered getting jacked and shredded? That's where your paydirt will be.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/25 07:24 PM
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>> unless you mean that I’m emotionally unattractive for having weak frame Nailed it. This cancels everything else - see Will Smith for an example As for your marriage, the only thing you can control is whether you're in it or not, be super deliberate about not doing things as a covert contract - you'll either disappointed and resentful, or you'll get what you want by pure chance and you'll be reinforced in your retardedness. Why don't you post on MRP anymore? Too much heat over there?
/r/RPChristians12/04/25 07:06 PM
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You're so cute
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/25 06:59 PM
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You're still in her frame. Absolutely nothing will change until that changes. >> firm cutoff of resolving whether marriage is salvageable by OYS #52. You're 32 oys in and still haven't realized this isn't about your marriage? >> I knew right away it was a mistake to DEER, but am still trying to decide whether an apology-for-sex would have also been a wrong choice, and if so, what the correct response would have been in this situation. Thoughts? Ever heard of the gym bag routine? Woulda been a gr…
/r/RPChristians11/04/25 08:06 PM
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I'm glad you're spending some quality time with my mom, maybe she'll tell you to brush your teeth.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/25 06:18 PM
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This was a shit test, your wife was likely testing to see if you'd confirm for her that the other guy is, as she suspects, better than you through your reaction. You Shutting The Fuck Up may have hid the fact that you clearly do give a fuck since you're asking here. Now, does this other guy make you insecure? If so, then that's the problem. If your ego doesn't get in the way, you can even take this chance to learn how you might be able to improve yourself based on what you're insecure about. If …
/r/askMRP10/04/25 08:00 PM
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Honestly - would be saving himself some heartache. Get in over your head with a bad, over-leveraged option and you can watch your net worth evaporate pretty quick.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/25 07:35 PM
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100% dude, one of my biggest realizations/acceptances is that women only hate male emotion when we make our emotions their problem. The captain doesn't get to complain if he's been giving all commands the whole time.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/25 07:33 PM
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Sounds like a lot of work in her frame to set up for a sharp one-liner. Bet if he didn't need her validation, he could have thought of 15 things he'd rather do than caretake her shitty attitude.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/25 07:31 PM
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Dude's only interested in shortcuts and validation, not in actually doing the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 09:19 PM
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> would appreciate help in acknowledging my own shortcomings. You want feedback, but you haven't even read the course prerequisites. I see you've read Frame, and you likely think that's enough, but that, along with a lot of other things, reveals that instead of doing the program, you're always looking for shortcuts. Instead of getting a better job, you're banking on going viral on social media. Instead of saving to pay off your 26% interest credit card debt, you're paying an IFBB coach to give y…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 09:17 PM
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I appreciate the context on your progress with your mother, like you, I'm starting to see that she's just another woman and another human, who like 99% of people happens to have never done any self reflection, and all I can do is decide what I find acceptable in how I'm treated, and then acting according to that. I also appreciate your feedback on the RE side of things - I've been maxing out my 401k, Roth and normal IRAs, and HSAs for as long as I have been able to, and I have significant broker…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 08:44 PM
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>> "For example, she came home from work one day in just a shit mood and the kids immediately descended on her. I told the kids to go do the dishes and that mom and I were going out to get a smoothie. Got to the smoothie place and as we’re looking at the menu, I say “Get the one for cranky bitches” and she laughed. Mood improved. It’s all about attitude." Congrats, you just rewarded shitty behavior with your time, attention, presence, effort, and sugar.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 01:18 AM
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Think about what this means for your frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 01:06 AM
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It's amazing what can happen when you stop bullshitting yourself, still a bit more to do around my middle, but I'm very proud of my work. I appreciate the vote of confidence on the money side - I'll be mindful not to aim small as I move forward. As for my mother, you're so right - I feel bound that 'because she's my family, I should behave x way and value y relationship simply because of societal social convention.' I feel guilty about saying 'no.' But I'm going to get treated as shitty as I let…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 12:57 AM
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Money - I set a goal in June of last year to save $50,000 by May of this year, and made a plan to do it. Between my wife’s growing business income and extra from my commission, I had saved just over $40k going into March, which set me on track to be just shy of the goal. However the fortuitous closing of a massive deal I’d worked for months coincided with a short-term commission accelerator I had negotiated, resulting in over $100k in commission in March alone with $20k more coming at the end of…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 07:49 PM
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OYS 54 - April 8, 2025 Stats - 30yo, 6’1”, 202 lbs Physique - https://imgur.com/a/VoKytlO Mission - To create adventure and beauty. Mindset - My wife is not my adversary, and I never punish her anymore. I truly internalized that everything in my life is my fault, and that I cannot blame her or anyone else for circumstances I am unhappy with in my life. We’re all on this rock together, we’re all confused and alone, and we’re all just doing the best we can with what we know. This has given me much…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 07:49 PM
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All you have to do is drop your ego by accepting that everything you think you know is possibly wrong, and then look at the people who are getting the results you want and then copying them - just like in every other area of MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 12:17 AM
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You reek of entitlement and fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 02:50 PM
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This is where I disagree - sugar is critical for managing your hormones and making your thyroid happy in a deficit - without your thyroid being happy your energy fucking tanks, your hair falls out, your cortisol rises, and you binge eat as a stress response. The end point of this is type 2 diabetes, which he's stated multiple times that he has. Dude has a hormone problem that needs addressing. For most 20 lbs-overweight retards, CICO works like a charm. Honestly, he's so fat and has so many 'bui…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/25 09:36 PM
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Huh, cool, a straight answer. Took me forever to be able to give those myself. Sounds like you know what you need to work on then!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/25 03:08 AM
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Starting with a lot of material and then putting in the cognitive effort to condense it is a great way to get familiar with what that material means to you - whats truly important. Not all of your work is important, and if you're knowingly writing a bunch of stuff that isn't important, your wasting not just your own, but our time. If you want help from people here, don't knowingly waste our time.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 08:01 PM
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A good exercise to help you start understanding who you want to be is to write out what you want your life to look like - how you want to spend your time, where you want to live, what you want your body to look like, how much money you want to have, etc - The only rule is you can't wish for anybody to start doing something they aren't already doing for you. That's a good start. Can always be refine.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 05:18 PM
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Sit down and write out everything you want your life to look like - where you live, what your body looks like, what you do, how you spend your time, etc - the only rule is you can't make anybody start doing something they aren't already doing right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 05:16 PM
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I'm a bit confused - your lifts are kinda lame but not dumpster level, and you're not terribly overweight for you height, just meh, but sex is once a month - what about you really fucking sucks that you didn't mention in your OYS? Do you brush your teeth? Do you shower? What's up?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 04:54 PM
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You wrote about what is important and taking up headspace - and none if it was devoted to your plans for the future that you want. You said yourself you're at 'diminishing returns,' that's because you haven't taken ownership of this yet. You've done everything MRP tells you to do - now you have to do what MRP can't teach you - to become yourself. What does Ambitious Buddy Want Out Of His One And Only Life?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 04:14 PM
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To quote horns - 'go to the gym and sweat cum out your eyeballs'.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 04:11 PM
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Man, I just wrote a big thing to you and it got deleted, damn it. I'll try to reconstruct it. A big focus on NMMNG is toxic shame, especially toxic sexual shame. One of the lynchpins of the work in NMMNG is to get to a place where you no longer feel ashamed of getting your own needs met, including your sexual ones. So I'd ask you this - why do you feel like your sexual desires are something to be ashamed of, to the point of naming it an 'addiction'? What utility is there for you in calling your …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 04:07 PM
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I don't know anything about you or your group, but given what you said, I wanna ask - do you feel like your group is supporting you in growth, or enabling and supporting stagnation?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 03:53 AM
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You have wrist and joint pain because you're weak and your joints take the brunt of the impact and force of your daily life, instead of a strong supporting musculature. He has joint problems because he's an inflamed fatass - very different sets of problems. His joint pain will vanish the second he breaks 250, I'll bet money on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 03:51 AM
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How hard would it be for you to distill your OYS down to 1 full length comment? It's not just that it's a pain in the ass to read a 3 comment long OYS, it shows that you haven't reflected on what's actually been important about the week and what you've done. Condensing your writing is in itself a self-reflective exercise you might get some value from.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 03:45 AM
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> it’s encouraged a lot of emotional instability > evolved into a lot of self-centered navel gazing Sounds unproductive. Have you finished NMMNG yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 03:26 AM
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Nothing in your OYS is focused beyond this week except your work and cash position, which I'm guessing are not your passions. Do you know what you want your life to look like? Do you know what you want to stand for? Do you know what's important to you? You've spent a lot of time unfucking a lot of things you were unhappy with, both in yourself and in your world - It could be time to start constructing a vision to pursue and a mission to strive for.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 03:22 AM
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If you think anything about you makes FF nervous, you completely miss the point of this space.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 03:05 AM
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Pretty comical that you've read the sidebar multiple times and yet you haven't internalized the very first concept, explained in the very first sentence of When I say No I feel Guilty. "You have the right to be your own judge." Your solution to us doubting you is to try harder to prove to us that we're wrong - can you see how you aren't even at square 1 yet? Or is your ego in the way? Does what I say make you angry? Perhaps that's an opportunity to learn.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 03:02 AM
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MRP is about fixing the man, not the marriage. You don't need to be married to use MRP tools fix the problems in your life - I'd suggest reading the sidebar and lifting to any guy who isn't happy with how his life is looking.
/r/askMRP13/03/25 02:51 AM
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Do you even sidebar?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/25 02:41 AM
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Let me give you a cheat code. Carbs aren't your enemy, fats are. If you ate exclusively fruit all day and lean meat only at dinner (shrimp, chicken breast, no oil), it'd blow your fucking mind the results you'd get. Ever seen a fat fruitarian? Yeah, me neither. Ever see a fat low-carber? All the fucking time. Learn from that.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 08:22 PM
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Sex life improvement is a lagging indicator of no longer being a complete piece of shit, so kinda makes sense. Sounds like the dude had a lot of pre-rec work to get out of the way. Some people have a lot of shit to shovel before they can work on the problems they wanted solved when they got here.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 08:08 PM
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He can find it pinned on my profile.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 07:59 PM
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He means become your own mental point of origin you retard. Jesus, do you need us to write it in smaller words and bigger letters?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 07:50 PM
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Duly noted
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/25 04:51 PM
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Fair calls. You make a good point as to him having bigger issues to worry about.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/25 03:34 PM
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I wonder if that guy at least brushed his teeth...
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/25 03:15 AM
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That's possible. I came here with a 1230 lb PR total and deadlifted 405 for 17 reps in a minute in competition, but I'd been slacking for years and had gotten fat and weak while riding past success - my ego kept me from seeing it. I'm not so keen to just give him a pass for listing any kind of lifts at all and assuming he's got his physique under control because he says 'I'm in shape, I promise', especially when he weighs 230 lbs at 5'9".
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/25 03:13 AM
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Dude's been on roids for 8 years and wants to hire a BB coach but he can't even pay off his debts. Comical.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/25 07:11 PM
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It's cute, he thinks he's special
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/25 03:41 PM
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Lifts? Reading?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/25 05:37 PM
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"... [right now]."
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 07:35 PM
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"I feel pressured [with you]"
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 05:12 PM
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The ego is strong with this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 05:09 PM
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I've turned it down twice, and it's been some of the most powerful messaging I've ever done about what is acceptable to me and what I expect.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 05:06 PM
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You know what's the difference between nerdy hobbies being cool and attractive and being creepy and pathetic?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/25 05:02 PM
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Humor is a nice shield from vulnerability and change. We'll see what he does. His health/weight was ever going to change without fixing his thyroid.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/25 05:56 PM
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Fine, you don't know what you want, that's ok. But I'm 100% sure you know what you DON'T want. So why don't you write out what you (personally, not what MRP denigrates) don't want to be, and then make a plan around not being those things. Since you cannot define a goal by positives, define if by negatives. Either way, you'll start to get a framework that is yours, which if you'll note, includes the word 'frame' and is just the beginning of it. You have to decide how you want to be in this world.…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/25 04:19 AM
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Since you're wondering, the answer is yes, actions alone will change you confidence. Let me be frank - and of course this is hyperbole, but you're not too retarded to get the point - If you know you're stronger and better looking and could win a fight with anybody in a room, you have a different type of relaxed confidence. It's unconscious, and it only comes from having done the work to be physically capable, even if what you're doing has nothing to do with physicality. If you can kill anyone yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/25 04:14 AM
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What a fucking surprise. You can go do the doctor and they'll prescribe you meds and hormone replacement for it, or you can just change what you eat and fix it naturally, which do you want to do?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 06:28 PM
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Lol just look at my story. Same shit, never made a difference until I started changing what was going on in the real world.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 06:13 PM
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Good, and more importantly for you, thyroid dysfunction. Google "thyroid dysfunction symptoms" and see what's on there that resonates. When you want to fix your thyroid, let me know.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 06:05 PM
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> return to MRP after my ban with more humility and less ego > adopting the terms that folks here have used to describe me (lazy betch, weak lifts, retarded, etc.) You are falling into MRP's frame, instead of building your own. You're adopting the terms random people here use to describe you, you are accepting that they are correct about you, instead of perceiving reality for yourself and deciding who you want to be. You are coming in here 'humble and with less ego', because you do not want to b…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 04:46 PM
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> What does the sea salt add? From last week "You want as much sodium and potassium as you can possibly get in while you're cutting, it's what makes your nerves work. These salts facilitate the movement of electrical signals from your brain across the synapses between your nerves. Without them, your heart cramps and you die, and when depleted, your body's communications slow and you become lethargic, followed by cramping and global fatigue." Said in another way, hydration is not about water alon…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 04:32 PM
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As you mentioned, perfectionism will stop you from trying. The only failure is not learning for next time.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 04:04 PM
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"I must make "congruent" choices now in the present and not delegate them to the future self." Great realization
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 04:02 PM
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Extremely fair calls on all fronts. I had a gracious plenty of covert contracts.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 04:01 PM
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You said 10 descriptively negative things about yourself, with punishing, emotionally charged language, and mentioned exactly nothing about what you did to change or work on those things besides mentioning in ambiguous terms that you 'have been back in the gym regularly adding weight again.' Think about what the purpose of this OYS was. Was it to chronicle the work you're doing to improve yourself and the things you changed or tried and how they worked this week? Or was it to publicly announce y…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 03:50 AM
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> Diet hasn’t changed much > weight went all the way up to 352 Seems like something's broken. Try any salt?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 03:43 AM
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The one thing I'll say in response to this is that it's super easy to lie to yourself that you've done this, and that the world should get in line with it without requiring me to do any work. If you've got a lot of entitlement, this mindset can slow your progress more. I'd say that's what happened to me in a lot of ways - it wasn't until I actually started doing the hard work and dispelling ego lies that my mind started changing. It could just be that I started way way way behind where you did, …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 03:41 AM
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Lol, what a bunch of copium holy fuck. Here's a challenge for you. Write only what you actually did, nothing you calculated, nothing theoretical, nothing you think you can do, literally only the things you actually did.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 06:15 PM
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To reiterate what everyone else has said, shut the fuck up. You improve nothing and only increase risk every time you open your mouth. Just shut the fuck up. It's not that hard to do. Be autistic about it, just sit there silent when questioned. It's better than blabbing bullshit and getting pulled into her frame.
/r/askMRP10/02/25 05:15 AM
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This is all extremely well said in a concise format - I'm gonna save these comments, but seems like post material honestly.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 04:58 PM
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You want as much sodium and potassium as you can possibly get in while you're cutting, it's what makes your nerves work. These salts facilitate the movement of electrical signals from your brain across the synapses between your nerves. Without them, your heart cramps and you die, and when depleted, your body's communications slow and you become lethargic, followed by cramping and global fatigue. This is what I'm doing right now - In the morning, I eat dates, or maple syrup in my coffee, or table…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 02:08 AM
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I bet the mods will perma-ban you for this hypocritical bullshit if you're not careful.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 06:09 PM
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Nobody here worth a damn is going to give you advice if you don't list your stats.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 06:08 PM
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And now you're hiding your mistake to make yourself feel better about it, and agreeing with me so you can soothe yourself, instead of just learning from it. Your validation seeking knows not bounds, and it's pathetic.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 06:01 PM
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She doesn't have any sexual energy *with you*. For the right guy, she'd deepthroat to the gills with stitches on he wisdom teeth RIGHT NOW. You're just not that guy. Stop trying to fix ANYONE except yourself. If she wanted to 'fix her sexual energy' with you, she would have done it already. Don't lie to yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 05:27 PM
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You should really shut the fuck up and focus on yourself. You're spending more energy responding to others than you are on actually changing yourself. It's pathetic.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 05:24 PM
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This is pathetic too
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 05:23 PM
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This is pathetic.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 05:23 PM
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I can expand on this if you want, but it sounds like your thyroid is fucking pissed (chronic fatigue, hair loss, water retention, high HR, etc). Likely this is due to salt depletion (sodium chloride (table salt) and potassium chloride) and having too little sugar in your diet, causing high levels of adrenaline and cortisol (stress hormones) to be released. You dump salts like a MF when you're cutting hard, and in the massive deficit you've been running, you have to give your thyroid the energy i…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 05:15 PM
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To echo FF, your lifts SUPER suck, even for someone 60 lbs lighter than you, and your physique looks like a pear. Some nice shoes aren't gonna fix that.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 05:04 PM
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Because you're retarded.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 05:01 PM
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Nobody gives a fuck about your motivations.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 04:55 PM
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Can you say more about your process re-setting that bar? I feel like I'm stepping on my own dick and causing more fights than I used to, but I'm also tolerating a lot less bullshit, so one is a symptom of the other I think. I'd love to hear your experience now that you're on the other side of that, over your anger, and settling into a new normal with your wife that you're happy with.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/25 08:44 PM
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Your last point hits close to home for past me. I used to think everything was a shit test until I got over my ego and realized I was being a piece of shit. They're not always harpy cunts, sometimes they're just right, but that's always filtered through my frame of reference. You just can't be lying to yourself. This makes a ton of sense to me, and it definitely simplifies all of this testing and responses to them through the lens of congruence. It's ok to be angry when a line is crossed, and te…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/25 05:44 PM
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Thanks for reframing this for me, viewing them all as congruence tests makes the right course of action much more obvious. Who do I want to show up as, what do I want to tolerate, and what do I expect (my frame)? Then just act from that - much more simple than 'use some tools like buttons on the controller to get outcome I want'. The outcome will take care of itself, I just have to keep being congruent. Goodness I'm retarded sometimes, thanks for making this so simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/25 02:28 PM
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Your lifts are pathetic, especially for being at it 'for a few months,' but I'm sure you have excuses for that
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 06:07 PM
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Thanks for linking that - it's always been over my head every time I've read that series, I've never been in the position to apply this material, but maybe it'll make sense in my current context. Appreciate it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 05:50 PM
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Agreed. WMP has poked holes all through me this week, and I still have a lot of work to do despite my progress - I'm nowhere near 'done.' You're so right about the 'right now' mindset. I guess I'm projecting my own mindset onto her - treating her the way I would want to be treated, when really she's just gonna have feelings and I can let them blow around me, but not break under them. Tears happen, life moves on, just stay true to me and my values and she'll either get on board or not - up to her…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 05:44 PM
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I like this, I fired off 'It seems like you just want to be angry right now' in the most recent one and that went about how you'd expect. "is this about the here and now, or something in the there and then?" Is a much better tack as you suggest, that's much more congruent and less reactive.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 05:33 PM
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You make a good point. Perhaps I'm falling into the trap of rewarding good behavior with my old behavior, instead of more of the behaviors that got me into this better position in the first place.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 05:03 PM
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Point taken.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 02:35 AM
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I don't really have a response to you, and I've clearly not internalized this concept. You're more hard nosed and have a way lower tolerance for bullshit than I have. That's probably a fault of mine - I tolerate a lot more bullshit than you do. My takeaway from you on this is that I'll continue getting the results I'm getting as long as I tolerate bullshit and accept less than my standard, regardless of how much she may bitch, whine, cry, and manipulate. Stop tolerating bullshit, get better beha…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 12:35 AM
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I wrote a comment and then it got deleted when I clicked 'comment' so let me see if I can put my thoughts back together. I'm getting laid way more, and she's putting in effort, even during her most busy weeks, to cook me meals that align with my meal prepping goals and to make time to support me in some of my goals - I think she is earning it. As for this - the cycle is her anxiety about my past active dread gets triggered when I say something, she tests, I pass the test with WISNIFG tools, she …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 10:14 PM
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Sidebar dude
/r/askMRP28/01/25 07:20 PM
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OYS 53 - January 28, 2025 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 204.2 lbs, -3 lbs since last OYS Lifts - Recent top sets of 5 - Squat - 330, Bench - 240, Row - 210, OHP - 140, Deadlift - 375. Accessories - 3 sets of 10 - pull-ups w/ 15 lbs, dips w/ 60 lbs Mission - To create adventure and beauty. Possibly adding a ‘giving’ component that I’m fleshing out. Physical - I've had to problem solve my weight loss as I get lean. I was feeling ‘off’ and stressed a lot in the last few weeks with strong cravings while runni…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 07:10 PM
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Lol he already did report back - absolute dumpster fire
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/25 04:34 AM
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It's fascinating to hear about early-MRP-process FF and your impressions of him then, compared to now. I didn't have the privilege of watching his transformation - instead I've been getting the benefit of his mentorship as I start to turn the corner in my own journey. What you have to say about his openness and freedom of giving is one of his most striking characteristics to me. He isn't afraid to give freely of his time and energy and experience to the places where he sees fit, regardless if he…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/25 06:55 PM
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>A higher SMV doesn’t just make you more attractive to your wife; it subtly changes her perception of you. Suddenly, the dynamic isn’t about avoiding rejection or tiptoeing around her emotions—it’s about her valuing you more because she sees your worth increasing. This is a big, fat, shitty covert contract - 'if I increase my SMV, she'll value me more' >Show her (and yourself) that you have more to offer than just being her emotional sounding board. Oooh, here's another - textbook dancing monkey…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 07:38 PM
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I don't give a fuck what you do
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 03:55 PM
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You're 33 and you're still into day trading get rich quick scams? What the fuck have you been doing for the last decade? You lifts are fucking trash, yeah yeah, I see you 'hurt your back.' You could have gone and done leg extensions and the curl machine even with a hurt back, but you didn't because that would require creativity and effort. I'm 3 inches taller than you and weigh the same as you, and I still can't see my bottom abs, and I deadlift 225 kgs. You list a bunch of bullshit supplements,…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 05:59 PM
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Moral of the story, eat rice or potatoes instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 05:44 PM
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Fat or not, I agree you need to get your lifts up ASAP.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 04:58 PM
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Hey, you got a shoutout today! https://substack.com/home/post/p-155346501
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 01:29 AM
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Thanks, but I feel the need to clarify - I'm in the process of succeeding, I have not succeeded - it's an ongoing work, not a state I achieved. I'm just further along than I was, but MAN do I feel like I have a lot of work left to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/25 04:36 PM
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I appreciate your thoughts and feedback - thanks for dropping by.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/25 02:24 AM
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Good for noticing that. Be aware that restaurants use about 4x as much oil as you would guess they do. It wouldn't be a bad assumption to add 2 tbsp of butter to your best guess of calories every meal out at a restaurant.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/25 01:55 AM
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Do you weigh and track your food?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/25 02:27 PM
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>What do you have to contribute here? >What are you doing? No wonder you're stuck - what an ego. Keep DEERing, I promise the world will understand and decide to change for you
/r/RPChristians18/01/25 02:20 AM
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Life sounds hard dude
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/25 02:15 AM
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>What do you have to contribute here? >What are you doing? No wonder you're stuck - what an ego. Keep DEERing, I promise the world will understand and decide to change for you
/r/RPChristians18/01/25 02:05 AM
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You hide behind humor as a cope when writing so you can think of your problems as funny, and feel less bad about them.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/25 06:44 PM
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This hits home super hard, and is a big space for work for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/25 06:28 PM
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I love Nsima, he has great stuff, I incorporated skipping rope into my ultramarathon training because of him, and my resilience his really increased due to the lower leg strength I've developed doing that. Most importantly though, he has a decade+ long base of consistency and discipline built, that allow him to live as a seemingly effortless master today. His perpetual chill and confidence and the perception that everything would just flow and be easy around him that he and his content exudes is…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/25 04:58 PM
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Do what makes sense to you, as long as you're honest with yourself. BTW, spamming lateral raises are a great workaround for bad shoulder mobility if you want to grow your shoulders but can't press overhead yet. There's always a way to work within your limitations if your goal is important enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/25 05:38 PM
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Judging from your lifts and stats, you're skinnyfat as fuck. Keep grinding. Also, pertaining to your mental section, this is a great post - https://substack.com/@whinemoreplease/p-145950796 I'll expand on it a little bit - as you said, we as men have an expectation of performance, our value is derived from our work, and we have no value intrinsically. There is absolutely nothing wrong with slacking off and not doing any work to build value for yourself. The problem comes if you expect the things…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/25 05:26 PM
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I think as you keep cutting, and you experience the results of consistently acting in your own best interest, you're going to come to some big realizations about ways you've been coping that will be eye opening. Your mind will follow your body I think.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/25 05:09 PM
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Glad it landed for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/25 05:04 PM
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>Another problem that is solved by acting rather thinking about it. Precisely. And if you want even more guidance on this, watch at least the first 10 minutes of this presentation by Hormozi. Using the concept of Inversion when trying to identify a path of action is brilliant IMO, it's another excellent mental model. In short, ask yourself "What could I do right now to guarantee failure?" and that becomes a clue as to what might make you successful in a particular situation. Edit - A last concep…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/25 03:09 AM
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> It's funny how many times I'll be thinking, "I'm going to die with this rep" or I think something is going to pop or snap and usually end up fine I think you're smart enough to make the connection I drew to the concept in this short clip of Alex Honold. > I just couldn't push through. How many days between sessions of the same muscle groups are you resting? > "You're a dick when you don't eat, and I don't want to be around you when you're being a dick" is something I heard constantly Do you ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/25 03:00 AM
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Can't reply in the thread of the deleted comment below, but will try here - You're absolutely faking OI, and it's totally obvious. As for defaulting to saying 'ok' - My favorite phrase is 'I hear you' or 'I understand that you feel that way/have strong feelings about this.' I'm acknowledging that I'm listening, and hearing what she is saying, but I'm not agreeing, or validating anything that she says or the feelings that she has. You may even recognize this as a very basic application of fogging…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/25 09:24 PM
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The path to better self esteem is consistently acting *as if* you value yourself, even if you don't right now. You know what you would do if you did give a fuck about yourself. Also, I use the app Clearspace to control my screen time - it's unique among the limiting apps I've found because when you access them it asks you how long you want to use the app, and at the end of the time it kicks you out and closes the app. Been useful for me for cutting my screen time by 75%.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/25 09:13 PM
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I don't know anything about you, but it sounds like you're smoking that copium dude. Only person you should be comparing to is you. If you feel better looking at this sad fucker, you're doing it wrong. Feel better by being better.
/r/askMRP15/01/25 06:45 PM
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You sound indian, so I'll make this relatable. Do you think your wife would do any of this shit to this guy? Do you think your wife would do any of this shit to a guy HALF as attractive as that? Be honest with yourself fattie - can you really blame her for not wanting to fuck you when you're such a disgusting, overweight piggie? You're literally probably 40% bodyfat with those pathetic lifts. Would you fuck you? And don't shut down just because what I'm saying makes you mad. This is an opportuni…
/r/askMRP15/01/25 06:38 PM
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List your lifts, height, and weight, and I'll read the rest of this. As Horns would say, 80% of your problems will be solved by not being fat.
/r/askMRP15/01/25 03:30 AM
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I suggest taking up journaling. I have trouble sorting things out inside my head, but in conversation with the page, I can get to some really deep stuff really fast. Glad the post resonated.
/r/askMRP15/01/25 03:21 AM
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Your very first word was 'she'
/r/RPChristians14/01/25 09:49 PM
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Ever heard of 'mission' or 'vision?'
/r/askMRP14/01/25 09:48 PM
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> Wife is very insecure... With you. What's your guess at your bodyfat? Honestly?
/r/RPChristians14/01/25 07:46 PM
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There's a difference between being busy and being productive, and one is a lie to make yourself feel the satisfaction of the other. Sometimes progress only happens at the rate of 2 pounds a week. Guess what? You get the opportunity to learn patience and discipline. Or you slack off and fail. Up to you
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 07:21 PM
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> shirking accountability on something I know matters You touched on this at the end, but fucked it up at the beginning. > Starting with very low weigh compared to where I was at years ago. Will post some numbers once I get into PR territory I'm sure your rehab lifts suck ass. All rehab lifts suck ass. Why not post them? Because they're embarrassing, right? Shine the light on all the shittiest parts of yourself. Be ruthless with your honesty. > Perhaps a next step is to upgrade my wardrobe. Here…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 06:23 PM
1

What are your lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 04:11 PM
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If you're going to start off with a bunch of overly wordy, ambiguous, non-specific bullshit and not even list what OYS you're on or your actual lifts, don't expect anyone to read the novel you wrote afterward.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 04:07 PM
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Acne problems in people who aren't teenagers are often nutrition/inflammation issues. Do you notice it is worse after you eat particular types of food?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 04:05 PM
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Glad it resonated. Reactive anger was a big problem for me, but at its root it's just an ego - you're only angry because the identity you cling to relies on positive external validation. When you hear something that contradicts that, you default to defending it, and it's an emotionally charged defense - reactive anger. But tell me - would you be reactively angry if you had already acknowledged that the trigger issue is true? Would you be angry if your wife turned you down and you'd already looke…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 03:19 PM
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I appreciate your notes here. It took me a long time to arrive at a purpose or mission that I felt was aligned with me as a person, but once I put words to it, it really does guide my decision-making. Once I knew my mission, 'does this align with my mission?' makes knowing the right path of action pretty simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/25 01:28 PM
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This morning - she initiated a long talk around - "I want to be a partner who supports you in achieving your goals, I want your success to be our success." Not quite the verbatim question, but I think the sentiment is there.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/25 06:11 PM
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> She's responding slowly, but I'm still really angry. You'll be angry as long as you look to her for 'progress' instead of within as a gauge of your success > I knew she was like this "I made her like this" > I wish I would have realized sooner because my whole life would have been different. Congrats, today is the first day of the rest of your life. > I allow my happiness and peace to be dictated by things outside of my control. As long as I keep doing this, I'll never be happy even if I had a…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/25 08:29 PM
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Come back and ask these questions in a year. You're asking about the Riemann Hypothesis when you don't understand algebra yet. Do the basics first. Nothing will hold you back more than trying to outsmart the work. You're not special.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/25 08:02 PM
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Damn, not just a victim, but retarded too. Bummer.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/25 03:00 PM
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Let the record show that Horns of Apathy did indeed call it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/25 03:50 AM
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I've read it 3 or 4 times as well. I've been so focused on listening to myself these last few months. It probably is a good time for me to revisit it.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/25 03:49 AM
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What a fucking victim. People will start wanting to be around you when you're actually worth a damn.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/25 02:46 AM
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Behold, it was none other than my Morpheus. Thanks again dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/25 02:33 AM
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She's incredibly intelligent, perceptive, and eloquent in expressing those things, part of the reason I married her. I wasn't putting words in her mouth, she really was this clear. Our sidebar about her being an adversary was incredibly helpful - especially that link you shared with me. Congruence is everything, and that congruence isn't something I could ever have faked. It simply had to be built until it was real.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 11:52 PM
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Seconded - In the wrong hands, it makes the dancing monkey beta attraction program last about 3 times as long. Source - me
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 11:49 PM
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Good goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 11:36 PM
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This works marvelously too.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 11:36 PM
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Don't worry about ratios or any of that crap for now - just get in there and put 5 more pounds on the bar every workout and deload when you fail reps. Don't overthink this stuff. How much protein are you getting on average/day?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 09:29 PM
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Hunger is a hormone thing, not a stomach volume thing, having to do with grehlin and leptin and cortisol and your thyroid function and a few other hormones - research that if you want to, I don't feel like writing an essay when others like Ray Peat have explained it far better. It's not like you'll eat to satiety on a high fiber food and then have to eat more the next day to get full, your body just doesn't work that way. And that's perfect for the chili. Still tastes 90% as good for less than h…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 08:40 PM
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Yes, you get it. Now internalize it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 08:29 PM
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Forget everything you read in TWOTSM for like, 7 more OYS minimum. > 23% BF Start cutting - your lifts aren't terrible given your weight (they suck, but for OYS 1). You're too fat to even show off the paltry muscle you have now. You are tracking your calories and weighing every bit of food you eat, aren't you? Cutting doesn't mean you can't lift heavy, it just means you can't be a bitch since your energy isn't gonna be what it would be if you were eating 500g of carbs a day.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 08:03 PM
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The number 1 driver of satiety is food volume. Learning to build food volume at a fixed calorie count is a skill - focus on things like roasted spaghetti squash, butternut squash, or carrots - things you can eat a literal pound of for 150-200 calories all in. It's impossible to overeat on calories when the food you're eating is 150 calories/lb. You just can't do it. Hell, you can sprinkle two tablespoons of brown sugar onto a pound of roasted butternut squash (which you can buy pre-chopped in th…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 07:50 PM
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He may have even written it - https://whinemoreplease.substack.com/p/the-trope-of-the-beta-male-married
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 07:37 PM
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You don't have to suffer to lose weight. You just can't be lazy. This may be too theoretical and woo-woo for a retard like you, but I might as well try - Keep this in mind - you get the results of what you *are* today. You BECOME after you BE - does that make sense? You have to BE a ripped MFer, and live as that person does, before you BECOME a ripped MFer - you have to live as that person for months, maybe even years, without the rewards or validation of that achievement, before you finally BEC…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 07:32 PM
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Just replied to Horns on this, but I think her pulling the tow rope shorter is what's happening. Regardless of the theory names or mental models, the net result is that she wants in on my vision, she's excited to give me what I want, and she respects me enough to follow my lead.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 07:28 PM
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Fair enough. It could be because I stated exactly how a woman (I made sure that ambiguity was communicated) could fit into my life several days ago and there were snot bubbles and inability to speak through sobbing as I went to bed. So she already understood 'how she could fit into my life', and frankly, has been doing a marvelous job stacking up this week. Not sure if they all have to happen together, but each component has been there at different times, and I've been congruent the entire time.…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 07:24 PM
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Go out and Get Some today. Thanks for stopping by to help me. You've been a help to me crystalizing that mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 07:18 PM
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A lot of this is thanks to you and your mentorship. You've been a real help to me FF. I OYS now because it is a time of reflection. I know what I want and how to get there, but this space is a great weekly check-in - am I still on course? Am I still focused on myself? Am I writing in a way WMP is gonna ban me? Because all of these check points are helping me. I may back off in the future, but right now this, or journaling in general, is really helping me reflect and refine my direction. I'm writ…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 06:46 PM
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I really appreciate the pushes you've given me here and the direction you're trying to open my eyes to - I don't talk about my goals because I've been a big talker in the past, and then never followed through, and I guess you could say I'm the opposite now. I have extremely concrete goals and plans that I'm working toward and have achievable milestones set for them, such as training races as I work toward longer distance ultra races, payment plans for intercontinental backcountry ski trips, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 06:41 PM
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It happened this morning. Been brewing for a few days, starting with me turning down shitty sex the other day, her sobbing on my chest on Sunday night 'I'm so tired of feeling so far away from you,' boiling over during a money discussion a few days ago regarding the contribution of her business to our joint account, and finally this morning as the conclusion to that discussion - the overt communication came spilling out. "I feel punished when we're talking and having a disagreement, and you deci…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 06:32 PM
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Glad it landed for you. I think it was Alpha Wolflord who helped me get to this realization last week.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 06:00 PM
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Three pounds of spaghetti squash is 400 calories. Two tablespoons of olive oil to make it taste good is 240 calories. 2.25 lbs of 95% lean ground beef is 1393 calories, and 225g of protein. That's right at 2000 calories, and I bet you'd never be able to finish all of that in a day. Overeating is only a problem if you're a fat fuck and you like eating fatty foods. You suck at building food volume, which is fortunately a skill issue. Fiber and water. Carrots, butternut squash, watermelon, grapes..…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 05:59 PM
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OYS 52 - January 7, 2025 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 207.0 lbs, no new lows Lifts - Recent top sets of 5 - Squat - 330, Bench - 240, Row - 210, OHP - 140, Deadlift - 375. Accessories - 3 sets of 10 - pull-ups w/ 15 lbs, dips w/ 60 lbs Mission - To create adventure and beauty Physical - I averaged a 350 calorie/day deficit this week. No new lows on the scale. I learned to distinguish between actual hunger and when I’m craving salt after heavy exertion, and experimented with that to work high intensity ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/25 12:40 PM
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Sounds hard dude. It'd be a lot easier to just give up you know.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/25 08:40 PM
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She started a petcare company when she left her job at my urging, and that dominates a shit load of her time. It's meaningful to her, and gives her plenty of drama, though it's also beating up her body somewhat - none of which has anything to do with me, but it's to say she's plenty occupied.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/25 03:49 AM
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Thanks for this - I know it's fucking pathetic and basic, but "What would a me who loves himself and values his time do here" sounds like the mental model I need to adopt, because acting according to my own feelings and intuitions clearly isn't getting me to my goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/25 06:34 PM
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Heard and understood.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/25 05:31 PM
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This is super spot on, and I was just replying to another of your messages about self-worth and self respect. As you said, the pattern of my behavior indicates that my time and energy isn't valuable to me, which signals that I take my own time for granted, so everyone else should too. I see the actions forward from here are to keep acting the way I would if I valued my time, and eventually that'll become congruent, since my mindset follows actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/25 05:29 PM
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I define unenthusiastic as the 'every unhappy wife is a rape victim' type of vibe. I'm fine with some playfulness and some shit tests, but I'm just not into somebody who treats having sex with me as labor or a burden. I know what passive is, this isn't it. All the more reason to adopt the 'first shot' mindset Horns and WMP spoke to me a ton about this week. I've been super tough on myself for a few years now, it's time to get back to that fun flirty attitude I used to have and ditch that heavine…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/25 05:25 PM
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We bang weekly, so it's not completely sexless, but it's nowhere near what I would define as 'fucking' in the way Horns means it. I think a lot of this has to do with the fact that I don't feel adequate yet - I don't have the physique I want yet, I don't make the money I want to yet, and I use these things to justify accepting less than I should. Just like always, it comes back around to self worth for me. I do not yet love myself, and I am not yet the prize in my own mind. I haven't earned that…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/25 05:18 PM
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Fair point, and one I hadn't considered. I saw it more as a skill issue, but this certainly is a different indication of what I feel that can be pulled from what I said. I'll think on this, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/25 03:15 AM
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Yep, stripping away all the history, the right choices become really obvious and intuitive.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/25 05:15 PM
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I honestly would love to talk with you about that chat. I used the 'if I'm going to have an affair, you'll be the first to know' a while ago during a shit test after I read it in a (archwinger?) post. I've not yet seen the right opportunity to communicate either of those things in your comment, and they certainly wouldn't be congruent yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/25 01:36 AM
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You and WMP are really hammering this for me. Regardless of the outcome (with wife, with others, doesn't matter), taking my sex life into my own hands is the way toward progress. "If you don't want some of this, that sounds like a you problem. I'm going out now" is where my mindset needs to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/24 09:40 PM
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Understood. Cultivate some options and the mindset will follow. I don't have to tolerate bullshit if I have other, better options, and that's something that has to be internalized so my body language is congruent.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/24 09:37 PM
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"What did you think was going to happen?" As I believe you've said elsewhere. I can't argue with you. I'm the only one stopping myself. I can't help but wonder if I couldn't get to the same mindset without actually fucking someone else. I know it worked for you and is extremely congruent with your frame. Edit - And maybe this is the part of my mindset that needs to die to actually break through - the hope that there's some alternative and that she'll just suddenly decide to start playing the nic…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/24 08:38 PM
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Yep, that's helped re-frame it.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/24 08:31 PM
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From this/your perspective, given that my initiations are constantly rejected and I'm not yet able to stand outside of that and ngaf, should I just forego initiating, which I can't seem to separate from the metaphor of 'looking over my shoulder', and put my face on the grindstone for those 3 months, and just do me? Or is that just a lazy cop out in this case too like you tell everyone who says they're going to go 'monk mode?' And if so, what shift would help me separating initiation from that 'l…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/24 08:29 PM
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In short, I have not completed and edited down the full inventory - it's a work in progress. Behind the anger is entitlement and disappointment, which all has to do with my expectations and ego. I'm enjoying watching the hamster struggle too much - an example is when I choose not to engage with a shitty comfort test (insecure complaining when my wife was trying to soothe some personal anxiety through conversation), which resulted in a runaway hamster, which was unnecessary and I made my own life…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/24 08:22 PM
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I feel responsible because early in our relationship I pushed her to quit her job to rely on me as the breadwinner, and she did. This was motivated by my blue pill fantasy that she'd repay me with gratitude, and now I feel responsible because I pushed her to quit the career she'd worked 14 years for, and just cavalierly blowing up the marriage will have dramatic consequences on her that I am responsible for. What gives me the right to ruin her life as I work through my own problems? I feel like …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/24 06:05 PM
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Agreed here - I don't eat candy anymore, I've traded in fresh fruits for that and now kit kats hold no appeal. I do see food as a reward still, but very differently from how I did in October. I'm still working with that change.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/24 06:01 PM
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I'm angry, so I step on my own dick and push her away a lot of the time. I'm turned off by her behavior, which of course is my fault as a reflection of my unattractive past. I don't enjoy fucking an unenthusiastic partner, and to quote you I'm interested in a mutually enjoyable sex life. And I'm choosing not to get a side piece or get it outside because I have oneitis and still connect my monogamy with my love for her in a shitty covert contract of - I'm giving you a chance to step up while I sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/24 05:58 PM
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The point is very clear, and I appreciate you linking it to the deficiencies in my mindset. My first draft of that section is below - you're quite correct that my editing removed ownership and put me in more of a victim mindset. I decided to be a fat piggy during my European vacation and ate all the brioche and bratwurst and had an amazing time. My weight got up to 215. What I learned from this is that taking ‘time off’ from rigor isn’t an option if I want to hit my goals. Every week I let loose…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/24 04:13 PM
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Your advice to eat some fucking salad is well taken, as is your criticism around the canceled trip. No, I'm not fucking, and yes, apathy is starting to creep into me. My oneitis is dying, and I find myself trying on the 'she gets first shot' mindset for size more often than not. It doesn't fit yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/24 03:59 PM
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OYS 51 - December 31, 2024 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 207.0 lbs, +1 lbs since Dec 10 Lifts - Recent top sets of 5 - Squat - 330, Bench - 240, Row - 210, OHP - 140, Deadlift - 375. Accessories - 3 sets of 10 - pull-ups w/ 15 lbs, dips w/ 60 lbs Mission - To create adventure and beauty Physical - I ate roughly maintenance during my travel, though my tracking was likely off somewhat since I was estimating without a scale during vacation. This experience taught me that proper eating is not yet intuitive aw…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/24 01:54 PM
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It's amazing how simple progress becomes when you embrace the truth of reality. Logging your food grounded your actions to reality. Before, you had no fucking idea, and now that you've done it for a week, I'm sure you see how useless everything you've ever done to lose weight has been - because you never understood (or chose to avoid) the truth of reality. Before you can ever take steps to go somewhere, you have to know where you are first. Congrats on finding 'you are here' on the map. Now star…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/24 02:39 AM
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The point is to put your ego in the box
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/24 09:15 PM
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I’m not sure why you’re listening to anything U/ effective program says, a guy who is 350 lbs and being an absolute sperg in every way. Doesn’t seem like the advice source I’d listen to or credit, but maybe you like lying to yourself and externalizing your failures too. Idk
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/24 09:12 PM
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90% of this is judgements and justifications about what you didn’t do, or could do, or hamstering about bullshit, not what you actually did. That’s an ego shield you try to use to control the feedback you get by establishing the narrative frame around the very little you did and aggrandized it. Considering “overall, not much progress” You’re lying to yourself, and just wasted everybody’s fucking time.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/24 08:21 AM
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This is exactly right - for the longest time I thought ‘I don’t deserve ____, I haven’t earned it yet, I have not finished the work’ and I used that as a cop out to justify not initiating or having expectations and tolerating shitty behavior. The only fix really is to just do the work until this mindset doesn’t fit anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/24 08:03 AM
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Well done
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/24 09:12 PM
1

Do you book her waxing appointments too when her boyfriend is in town?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/24 08:56 PM
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Guilty as charged
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 10:45 PM
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Glad it hit for you
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 02:21 PM
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You must be new here
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/24 12:40 PM
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Agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 10:54 PM
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Good, you’re lucky, you don’t actually have an autoimmune disease, you’re just a fat ass. Try eating only fruit for a week and see what happens. Just try it. As many calories as you want, but just fruit. You’ve got plenty of protein in those fat cells you’ll be burning, don’t even try with the ‘I need protein for muscle growth’ BS.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 10:53 PM
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I can forward him the collections letter my company uses for past due accounts, maybe that’ll help him.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 09:15 PM
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Holy fuck you’re retarded
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 09:14 PM
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If you want help, make it easy for us to help you - nobody’s gonna run those averages on your cals and macros or anything. Now - carbs aren’t your fucking problem, eating 184.6g of fucking fat a day is. The fat you eat is the fat you wear, it’s more than twice as calorie dense as carbs or protein (9 cals/g instead of 4 for the other two macros). You’re averaging eating 1,661 calories of FAT every fucking day. Instead, crank the low calorie density carbs like fruit or squash instead of the fats a…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 09:10 PM
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Oh, but it feels so good to lie to yourself that your failures aren’t that bad because ‘at least I’m doing well baking cakes.’
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 08:56 PM
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Thanks for linking me back to that - it’s always important to know what the end state can look like. I was stunned the first time I read Blarg’s post of what the end state can look like. Gonna keep working.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 08:29 PM
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Thanks for dropping by SM, agree to disagree at this point. Good luck this week too man!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 07:56 PM
1

Type 1 or 2, and for how long?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 07:31 PM
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Thanks for your thoughts here. I responded to 223 above more thoroughly and feel that’s pertinent here too. I’m not really interested in controlling anyone anymore. Even if they complied, it would be hollow, and hollow, empty experiences aren’t part of my vision for myself. If people want to get on board with me and buy in to what I’m doing, then I’ll figure out how to handle/pull them at that time. I’m not at that point yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 07:30 PM
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I understand, and I think you fleshed out in a comment elsewhere today the concept of Purpose too, which I’d say is a fit for what I wrote about adventure and beauty. I’ve been so singularly focused on improving my physique that I haven’t bothered to flesh anything else out. For the first ~30 OYS I hadn’t taken any real action, and used the future and fantasizing about ‘how things would be’ as an ego to soothe myself about my failures today, so I shut that off for several months and focused on ‘…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 07:26 PM
1

Might have to give this a try
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 07:00 PM
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Man, on OYS 1 and already DOING things? Fucking groundbreaking. Action is your salvation, nobody is coming to save you.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 06:51 PM
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Right now there’s no point - active dread is inherently a covert contract - “if I do this, she’ll feel ___, and then I’ll get my needs met.” I’m focusing on maxing out my physique, which’ll crank passive dread. If I have to do retard active dread stuff, I’m working too hard and should look at other options.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 06:41 PM
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I appreciate the push on this - my understanding is that the vision/mission is supposed to be something a bit more abstract, something that isn’t as ‘achievable’ and finish-able. More like a guiding principle or ethos. Do you have a different perspective on this? Like you say, it isn’t enough to make someone else ‘submit’ to my purpose, but that isn’t really the idea - this is about me - others can get on board if they want to.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 06:36 PM
1

How long has it been ‘not budging?’ We’re very different shapes, but the longest I’d go without a drop is a week at most.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 06:33 PM
1

Never
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 03:05 PM
1

Man, it feels so good to move forward every week. This consistency and confidence is becoming who I am the longer I choose to meet my standard - ‘it’s just what I do.’ It was a burden to weigh and track every fucking calorie I put in my mouth at the start. Now it’s just what I do. I honestly surprised myself with that confidence in the moment, there wasn’t any hesitation or overthinking - it was just the thing to do to go tell her to blow me - and it had been several days since we banged so I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 03:02 PM
1

In order, I see shitty lifts that you didn’t work on this week, the excuses for why you didn’t, a big block of complaining about the life you created, a bunch of wishy-washy non-committal future tense with a bunch of ‘she’ statements, then more complaining, followed by - HALLELUJAH - the one thing you actually DID this week to change your circumstances, which is pay off debt. See the problem here?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 02:12 PM
1

What was your tracked calorie deficit this week? Calories burned - calories consumed = ?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 01:52 PM
1

I’m not a doctor, but I do take a lot of interest in nutrition - what’s your opinion around autoimmune disorders and diet? I’m of the belief that most of them are dietary issues.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 01:49 PM
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OYS 50 - December 10, 2024 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 206.0 lbs, -4.4 lbs since last week Lifts - Recent top sets of 5 - Squat - 330, Bench - 240, Row - 210, OHP - 140, Deadlift - 375. Accessories - 3 sets of 10 - pull-ups w/ 15 lbs, dips w/ 60 lbs Mission - To create adventure and beauty Physical - I averaged a 154 calorie deficit this week, due to eating 1000 calories over maintenance two days in a row when I went ski uphilling, a higher intensity cardio. My lowest weight was 206.0 lbs, 4.4 lbs down.…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 01:41 PM
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That’s really hard bro, maybe you should just give up.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/24 04:29 AM
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You make a really excellent point. It was definitely reactive, I need to figure out what I wont tolerate, figure out what I mean to say, and then say it the first time, instead of making a bunch of faint lines in the sand as she gets more and more bold that have no consequences before I finally snap. Like always, it boils down to knowing what I want and not accepting anything that's less than that.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 03:14 PM
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I’m thinking about this now, but I feel like saying either of those things would have immediately intensified her emotions, which I recognize isn’t something I should be afraid of. I think the nuking was kind of a final act when I was done having my buttons pushed - I see the nuance in what you’re saying though. Nuking as I did or nuancing as you suggest would have netted us to the same place emotionally, but I could have done it much sooner in a more controlled way with what you suggested. In t…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 02:57 PM
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This makes a ton of sense, it’s supercharged agree and amplify, turning the ridiculousness up to 11. This is a skill set I need to work on, I can see how well it would work in many cases. And because it’s intentional, it’s all just another form of controlled emoting.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 02:52 PM
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It’s being willing to do what you need to do to have the life you want despite other people’s feelings. It’s a courage problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 01:40 PM
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Yes, perfectly. Thanks a ton for all of this color, I appreciate you taking the time. I’m sure it will take some adjustment in my life, but having a vision of what’s on the ‘other side’ of this process helps me a ton in knowing what I have to do and be to get there. You’re one of the most ‘no BS’ guys here, so having your perspective is awesome. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 03:40 AM
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Oh, well in that case, stay exactly the way you are. Clearly there’s no reason to change.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/24 03:19 AM
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Any time you look outside of yourself for what you want, you’re doing it wrong. But if you really wanna cuck yourself, PUA Tom Torrero (RIP) used to talk about watching Rocco Siffredi films for this purpose.
/r/askMRP03/12/24 10:52 PM
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You really don't like it when your ego gets hurt ...but honesty is the only way to progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 10:33 PM
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> Once you’ve done the internal and external work to calmly but assertively say, “I’m not going to apologize for wanting to have a fulfilling sex life.” This is awesome, thanks for taking the time to share this.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 10:29 PM
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This is the tack that I want to take with this behavior too - I'm not interested in promoting hysterics. I'm curious to hear what WMP has to say about my question because from what I heard in all the old OYS livestreams I watched, nobody here is less likely to tolerate emotional bullshit than him.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 09:38 PM
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It's likely that I am my own biggest critic, and am discounting the signals I'm getting because I feel like I have a long way to go aesthetically, but I think you're right. I'll give it a rip this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 08:16 PM
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Thanks for fleshing this out for me, I hadn't put my finger on those words but it makes perfect sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 07:08 PM
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Can you point out the part where you actually DID something to improve your life this week besides lifting 3 times?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 07:05 PM
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It must be really hard being such a victim. Ever read rule 9 or 10?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 07:00 PM
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Think about what it means for how much you fear the judgement of others and their criticism that you deleted your post.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 06:53 PM
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Unpopular opinion among keto-carnivore types, but more carbs can help with eating your feelings - sugar is massively anti-stress, making sure your brain has enough carbs to run on will level your mood and make you less likely to eat your feelings. YMMV, but switching to higher carb lower fat is when I finally started making progress, since I could eat to satiety, and finally manage my stress hormone levels with sugar and keep my thyroid functioning well, preventing the urge to binge.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 05:40 PM
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I think this is such an underrated point - dominance isn't the actions taken, it's a symptom of congruence. If what's congruent with you is supplication, conflict avoidance, and appeasement, no 'dominant' act is ever going to inspire any kind of submission and will reek of desperation.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 05:33 PM
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Totally agree - that'll be in my toolbox going forward. I've been hesitant to implement that, as to quote WMP in his article he linked - 'Note - this won't work if she doesn't give a fuck about you or the relationship.' A point which is contingent on my value/SMV. I think in most instances at this point manufacturing outrage would be a rambo move, but I clearly see its utility from this experience.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 05:22 PM
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Thanks a ton for this. Out of curiosity, "I have done this exactly once." So you've only ever had to use controlled anger one time and it's never been tested again by your woman? I know my mileage will vary, but I'm curious. You told me much the same as this when I was rule 9 banned a few months ago, thanks for the input.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 05:16 PM
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That exact phrase wouldn't have worked with the situation specifically, but I get your point for sure. She was catty at me prioritizing some gear-prep things I chose to do that were delaying our departure, though we still had plenty of time in the day. I do tease her and am playful, but there are a times where 'easygoing and fun' are the last things you'd use to describe me, often when I'm pensive or working on some personal material which has been a lot lately. I absolutely did admit that she g…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 03:50 PM
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If your family doesn't follow you to be the best versions of themselves, I guess you fail at your mission, huh? Seems to me like a lot of pressure to put on somebody outside of yourself who you have no control over. This is about you dude, not about anybody else. Also, on dominance, Blarg wrote an excellent post that can be found here https://theredarchive.com/r/MarriedRedPill/what-is-dominance.462103
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 03:39 PM
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Old bodybuilder trick is to sprinkle a little sugar on everything, the sweetness stimulates hunger hormones and can help stretch your appetite.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 03:03 PM
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If you feel like you can’t eat more meals, eat more calorie dense food. It’s the same number of spoonfuls to eat a cup of rice as it is to eat a cup of rice with a quarter stick of butter on it. If calories are truly holding back your growth, just be more creative.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 02:32 PM
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This may be the first ever OYS where somebody’s literal balls might be the problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 02:22 PM
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Being not fat will massively increase your chance of successfully rehabbing that ankle. My fat ass mom broke her tibia and fibula in 4 places when she fell skiing last year, and was so fat that her weight re-fractured the set bones after surgery in the boot, and had to have surgery a second time. By doctors orders she was non-weight bearing for 8 weeks because they were scared she’d do it again. If you weighed half what you do (a realistic goal given your lifts), would your ankle hurt as much? I…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 02:07 PM
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Keep working on those lifts, they will pay big dividends for you. Be sure you’re really pushing yourself HARD, like you say with dicking around before meditation, the only person you’re cheating with lower effort is your future self.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 01:58 PM
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OYS 49 - December 3, 2024 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 210.4 lbs, -0 lbs since last week Lifts - Recent top sets of 5 - Squat - 330, Bench - 240, Row - 210, OHP - 140, Deadlift - 375. Accessories - 3 sets of 10 - pull-ups w/ 15 lbs, dips w/ 60 lbs Mission - To create adventure and beauty Physical - I averaged a 540 calorie deficit this week, with no new lows below 210.4lbs. The 4 lbs lost last week seemed high and may have been some water. What I’m doing is working, so I’m sticking to the plan. I walked …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/24 01:34 PM
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And you’re…proud? of that?
/r/askMRP02/12/24 02:39 AM
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Love how he got defensive before the comments even started.
/r/askMRP02/12/24 01:11 AM
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I’m really good at that, it’s a well developed skill set
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/24 02:51 PM
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There’s absolutely something to be said for that being the case. I don’t have to step into the unpredictable and unfamiliar if I stay within my current reality and patterns. It’s possible I’m more scared of that than I’m giving it credit for. This is reminding me of The Courage to be disliked, which I’m going to finish this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/24 08:57 PM
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You’re just recounting events. Do something, decide what it means, figure out what you learned, and then tell us that. Or don’t. The essence of this process is reflecting on things yourself and making the adjustments that fit what you want using the tools this place provides.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 11:23 PM
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> Be an inspiring and wholesome father and partner who will lead my pack through discoveries & great adventures. Your 'mission' is contingent on a lot of things outside of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 08:56 PM
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> I didn't really do shit Found your problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 08:45 PM
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But TWOTSM made me SO much better at being a dancing monkey because I read it too early, who wouldn't want that?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 08:42 PM
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Lacking personal honesty has held me back more than everything else combined. I do realize that this isn't the core, this CC is one layer of the onion, an excuse to keep me from grasping that next layer that I'm not able to put precise words to yet. It's something to do with needing that struggle - creating that deficiency is clearly serving me somehow that I can't put my finger on. Edit - To piggy back on something you said to somebody else here that felt pertinent, "The good news is your wife …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 05:02 PM
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> When we got home I was not interested in having sex, I turned down her initiation but ended up DEERing. You don't have the frame to be turning down sex. Always fuck your wife when she asks you to. Also, learn to write about what matters. I don't know what the point is of 70% of your OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 03:30 PM
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OYS 48 - November 26, 2024 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 210.4 lbs, -4.2 lbs since last week Lifts - Recent top sets of 5 - Squat - 330, Bench - 240, Row - 210, OHP - 140, Deadlift - 375. Accessories - 3 sets of 10 - pull-ups w/ 15 lbs, dips w/ 60 lbs Mission - To create adventure and beauty Physical - I averaged an 806 calorie daily deficit this week, averaging 199g of protein a day, and dropping 4.2 lbs based on my lowest weigh-in. I walked 43 miles as cardio, and slept just over 8 hours on average. I a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/24 02:12 PM
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Try cooking orzo in beef or bone broth and watch your mind explode. You know what’s up with all this. Get after it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/24 11:16 PM
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Hey, see my comment on NikeHedonist's OYS about cutting.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/24 04:45 AM
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Hey Nike, I've been cutting hard for 4 weeks, and I want to write some things I've found work somewhere where it might be useful for others - good luck on your cut. Build food volume for satiety - water content and fiber help a lot for filling you up while keeping calories down. A pound of watermelon is 138 calories. Carrots are 186 calories a pound, add a tablespoon of oil while you roast them, and you're full as heck for 305 calories. Fat is the enemy - being more than twice as calorie dense a…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/24 04:40 AM
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Thanks for the suggestions about the anxiety, haven’t heard of those modalities besides Breathwork, and I haven’t tried that in this context - I’ll look at those tools, but honestly just realizing what was happening was enough to make me come back to center. I’m guilty of having used ‘calibration’ in the context you alluded to, your wariness is warranted. And copy all for setting helping or hurting the mission of playfulness or escalation - when I was single I’d always bounce sets to somewhere d…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/24 12:18 AM
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I wrote a reply that vanished for some reason - You make a good point about sex only having the meaning we assign to it - since it isn’t anything inherently, I can make it mean whatever I want now. You’ve mentioned right-sized responses to or understandings of things - emotions, behavior, values, sex, etc. It’s just saying ‘calibrate’ in a different way, but it makes sense to me. I like those game ideas you mentioned, I’ll try them on next time I create that situation. Massage would 100% be the …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 10:38 PM
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Yeah, weird shift for sure. I was taught all these years that it was some magical thing people did out of love or something, and that it was special, but it's really just two animals fucking. Can still be a lot of fun though.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 07:38 PM
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Limiting drinking?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 07:35 PM
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Is this important to you or are you doing this for somebody else?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 06:50 PM
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Your first sentence made me not want to read anything you posted, fyi.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 06:47 PM
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OYS 47 - November 19, 2024 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 214.6 lbs, -2.2 lbs since last week Lifts - Recent top sets of 5 - Squat - 330, Bench - 240, Row - 210, OHP - 140, Deadlift - 375. Accessories - 3 sets of 10 - pull-ups w/ 15 lbs, dips w/ 60 lbs Mission - To create adventure and experience beauty Physical - This week, I averaged a 799 calorie deficit, with 202g of protein per day. My lowest weight was 214.6, down 2.2 lbs from last week. My energy is still reasonably good. I’ll continue this aggressi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/24 02:07 PM
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Cool. If you gain more than 4 lbs a month, then you’re getting fat. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/24 03:05 PM
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What's your actual goal?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/24 04:38 AM
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If she wants to pay for a bigger place, she’s free to do that. You’re don’t have to be her slave, you’re just choosing to be.
/r/askMRP16/11/24 12:39 AM
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Heavy squats are always going to FEEL like a battle you’re just barely winning, that’s just how they are. You need another measure to get a clear view of the reality that you’re nowhere near your edge.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 10:16 PM
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315 for 100 reps is diabolical. I did a set of 315x30 back when I was a strong fat fuck and then tore my hamstring the next day sitting down on the toilet.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 07:55 PM
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To piggyback on what FF said, look into breathing squats. There are techniques for getting the reps in regardless of what your lungs are doing - hold the weight and breathe until you can go again. Also, take video of yourself to get an objective view of what's happening. I squatted 330 for 5 today high bar and felt like my eyeballs were going to explode, but the video didn't even look like I was grinding, so I'm gonna add 5 lbs next workout like normal.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 07:51 PM
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I was an absolute perfectionist all the way through highschool and college - I played carnegie hall before I was 18, I was no. 12 in the world in my sport as a junior, I was featured as one of 10 'high achiever' students in our city magazine, I attended an ivy league university, I became no. 19 in the world in the fitness component of my sport there, and I got a high-flying finance job when I got out. Only after getting fired from that and two more jobs like it over the next 2 years, was my bubb…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 07:37 PM
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You make a really interesting point that there's this middle path of acceptance after this is grieved, where I'm not searching for that love I feel I lack, and instead simply build a track record of worth that I am proud of - a whole new set of experiences to build confidence on top of, to have the chance to define myself by my wins and the things that satisfy me. At really all does just come down to 'what do I want.' I don't really want to feel coddled and loved and to feel like a childhood wou…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 07:04 PM
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There is no reason for you to be on a bulking diet. Eat clean high-protein maintenance and lift hard and you'll recomp. You're certainly not underweight, and as you said, your waist is getting bigger. That's the opposite of what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 04:39 AM
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> people think I'm hard to approach Sure, it's their fault > I DEER myself into a corner defending that, failing shit tests left right and center Try listening to what is actually said and fogging instead of blurting out some defense or rationalization to mitigate the badness to salve your little hurt ego. Speaking of which... > I know need to focus on myself but impending divorce after only 1 year is bruising the ego. There's a difference between doing/thinking something to solve a problem and …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 04:30 AM
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I'm curious, why do you always ask how much sex people had this week? What are you trying to get at with that question?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 04:09 AM
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What expectations regarding discipline at home are you falling short of?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/24 04:08 AM
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It’s a lot more taxing to do 12 reps than 5, even with a much heavier weight. Most important thing is just track your workouts - weights and reps, and make sure you’re actually progressing over time. If you don’t write it down, you literally will never know.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 06:52 PM
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You’re letting your someone else’s disinterest dictate how much you enjoy or don’t enjoy something.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 02:54 PM
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God it's fucking cathartic isn't it? poor bastards.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 05:35 AM
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Dude's gonna go read SGM tonight and come up with an 'immersion' experience he can dancing monkey to his woman with next.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 05:34 AM
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Why did you feel a need to write a 166 word non-answer to a 7 word question that could be answered with a single word? Because it made you feel better to explain and rationalize around the answer instead of just seeing and saying the truth, a truth you clearly find painful. All these 'I'm trying... how to flip... I'm guessing... imply... convincing... convincing... unclear... frame initiations... You're spinning word-webs around yourself to soothe your ego. The sooner you see things for what the…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 05:31 AM
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I'd challenge you to halve your word count on your next OYS, and not mention anything anybody else did. It'll help you focus on what matters. Your entire last paragraph could be written as - "This week I tried gaming my wife in a new way, that turned out not to be congruent, so I failed the shit tests that followed by deering. I did a not terrible job for a retard at not rewarding bad behavior afterward, but I could have handled this better." You need to watch out for dumb covert contracts like …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 05:22 AM
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Man Nike, generosity must be part of your mission or something. If Superbly Ugly sticks around, this is gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 05:06 AM
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Guy's not gonna get anywhere until he gets attractive. Your point about his ego getting in the way should be well taken, I've done a REMARKABLE amount of bullshitting and rationalization to make me feel better about myself sucking, and used those excuses to rationalize not making changes that needed to be made. Held me back probably a literal year.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 04:57 AM
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Thanks for the suggestions on the LISS, I've been cruising laps of my neighborhood with podcasts and sometimes a 35 lb ruck to help pump my active numbers up as you said. I've dived into my anger a lot this week already, but always a good reminder that it's all my responsibility. I think the strongest aspects of my anger come from a really negative personal perception that frames the way I see everything. I think a deep narrative shift is really what I need to work towards, one of love and compa…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/24 04:10 AM
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I read that post a few months ago and it didn't resonate or tie out, I'll go read it again with this in mind. Thanks Horns.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 08:07 PM
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I've got bad news for you as a natural - there's no such thing as training for 'aesthetics.' Your muscles only respond and grow when you increase the demand on them. If you want increased muscle size for 'aesthetics,' you have no choice but to lift fucking heavy.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 06:41 PM
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Until now, never for any of those. I'm my biggest enemy, I'm not proud until the job is done, and I'm my most ruthless critic for my failures. I'll go re-read that forward. An intermediate step for me has been recognizing that I'm loved by the world - the fucking trees make oxygen for me so I can breathe - that's pretty loving. But this isn't internal, this isn't acceptance, it's still external. I'm really resonating with what I said to FutileFighter above - I have to come to accept myself as I …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 06:35 PM
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I've put the clamp on any emotions for a long time, so it's kind of unsurprising/expected that I'd be boring to a feelz-oriented person. I feel flat, so she feels flat, and we're all flat together instead of feelzing and fucking. I don't put stock in what she says, but she did literally say "I feel like I don't even know you, you're never vulnerable with me" - read 'you never share any feelz with me, so I feel disconnected from you.' I know it's all my responsibility, and the root is my own refu…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 06:25 PM
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Thanks Horns. Glad I'm able to give some back after I've gotten so much from this place. Edit, I see you directed this to FF, and I agree. He's been a huge help.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 06:16 PM
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I could blame it on my mother or something, but that doesn't seem useful or actionable, so I'm going to focus on the second part of your question - For me to feel worthy of love, everything I'm thinking of is an achievement, a thing I could do to achieve a state of pride about having completed something. I'll be worthy when... That doesn't feel right either. I think it might just be as simple as 'to be ok with myself as I am, and to see my flaws not as lacking, but as opportunity. To know that I…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 05:52 PM
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I'm planning on doubling down on my work so that money does not hold me back from the adventures I want to do. I am continuing to cut my calories to create a beautiful body I am proud of, and sharing that with people who want to receive and appreciate the love I exude. I am planning on re-starting my running training after my cut once I am at a suitable body composition so I have the endurance to do any objective I decide to focus on. I am planning on increasing my lifts so my body's durability …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 05:42 PM
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Bro's shoulding all over himself so bad he needs to take a shower. Lying to myself with shoulds is the thing that held me back the most in this journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 05:26 PM
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I'll shit on you for whatever topic I like and there's nothing you can fucking do about it. Get over it, stop choosing to be a butthurt bitch about the mean things a bunch of randoms on the internet said about you. You choose how you react, and you're reacting with indignation because it makes you feel better about yourself, that "even though I suck, at least I know it, which is better than not knowing it, and I need all of you to know that I know that, so you'll stop being mean to me because I …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 05:21 PM
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Cool your jets champ or nobody's gonna help you with a shitty attitude like that. You suck, that's why you're here, and you're not entitled to anybody's help. Everything you get is freely given out of the pure generosity or selfishness of someone else's heart. Put your ego in the box.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 05:15 PM
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I kept finding myself wanting to define this by negatives, like "I don't want to be ___" or "I want to be __, not ___." And I knew that wasn't how I wanted to define my life, by what I didn't want to be, so I went and meditated on it for 20' and about half way through this felt like it fit like my favorite sweater. My mission is to create adventure and beauty through love.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 05:06 PM
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It was from a scarcity mindset of 'I've found a good one, I better not let her go.' I did not think I was worthy of love, so the first person who had common interests who I saw 'compatibility' with and no obvious red flags, who showed me 'love' as I understood it then (validation), I didn't want to let her go. And that's why I acted to marry her, not because I was excited about living the rest of my life with her, but because I was scared to let her go, that I might not be able to find a better …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 04:26 PM
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I've had low libido for the last two weeks, I initiated once a few days ago and was rejected. Last night we had some hot makeup sex after a fight I caused with my anger. I don't think any of this is about sex though. I just don't think I love myself. I almost cried reading a post about letting go of anger - it said "Let yourself remember being loved, even if it was for a short moment or just by one person." I couldn't think of a single time when I was loved, or felt love for myself, that wasn't …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 03:59 PM
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Do you mean this as having a clearly defined mission will make my anger useful in service of a goal, or do you mean that the mission will help me suppress that anger and stay focused on action?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 03:09 PM
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I'll be using my meditations and journaling to dive into that. I've been suppressing my emotions for a long time, everything I've done in competitive settings has been done with a chip on my shoulder. I'll keep peeling.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 03:06 PM
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OYS 46 - November 12, 2024 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 216.8 lbs, -4.2 lbs since last week Lifts - SL5x5 lifts (top/back off sets) - Squat - 325, Bench - 230, Row - 205, OHP - 135, Deadlift - 370 Accessories - 3 sets of 10 - pull-ups w/ 15 lbs, dips w/ 50 lbs Reading - Sidebar, Frame and Dread by RS, WMP’s substack archive Physical - I averaged a 968 calorie daily deficit this week, and I’m down 4 lbs from last week. I expect 2 of those pounds to be fat. I’m weighing everything, and I’m eating high prot…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/24 02:45 PM
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Need the pizza field report or OP’s a bitch who got psyched out by a pizza
/r/askMRP09/11/24 04:05 AM
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Get a coworking membership and get the fuck out of the house
/r/askMRP09/11/24 12:43 AM
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It’s annoying that it keeps coming back around to the very first thing I read, but here we are. I do have a MAP I wrote a few months ago, but it reads like a wishlist. I should refresh that with my recent awareness, and make the achievements defined and progress measurable.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 02:51 PM
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Replying for the pizza field report
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 03:59 AM
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Keep it to a 3-400 calorie a day surplus (you are tracking your calories, aren't you?) and lift hard and your fat won't outpace the muscle gains substantially. You do have to actually lift hard though.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 03:51 AM
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You make some really thought provoking points. I hampstered back and forth on this response for a while, and I can share the longer version if you're curious, but I distilled it to this. It sounds like I just need to do the things I want to and the ones that need to be done to maintain my desired lifestyle, and the rest can all pound sand. Also, my standard doesn't need to be higher than everyone else's to prove how awesome I am, it just needs to be mine. Thanks for the jog here.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 03:36 AM
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Hope it helps
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/24 02:32 AM
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Not much
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 09:11 PM
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Hey Nike, your IT band is just fascia, not muscle, so it's never what's tight, tight IT band is always a symptom of something else. It's connected to the TFL, and your gluteus maximus at the top, and your anterior tibia at the bottom - see this link for some visuals. If your IT band is tight, it's because of one of those muscles being tight is instead. Often times muscles that are tight are because they're compensating because they're weak in relation to other parts of your body - think having b…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 07:26 PM
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Thanks for the color and context here, that's helpful. The old 'give that bitch nothing to do but fuck you' adage Horns wrote about. I'm seeing the path you're laying out very clearly here FF. I've got work to do to get to those points of total sufficiency and abundance, and that's where I'm throwing myself right now, to get to that place where I am truly OI about nuking. Thanks for the cautionary note about reverting to old habits. If I'm getting the behavior I want, she's already getting the r…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 05:22 PM
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Good morning FF, In an LTR, it all just boils down to attractiveness - body, charisma, risk, aloofness, strength, frame. So the key to increasing attraction is to just be more attractive. You're right that I'm carrying around 20 lbs of extra, and I'm 100% with you on a hard cut being the right course of action. Over the weekend I switched to a 2000 calorie static intake regardless of intake, and I've been burning 3200 calories on average, so that will speed things along a lot as you suggest. I'm…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 03:57 PM
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OYS 45 - November 5, 2024 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 221 lbs, 1.25 lbs down since last week Lifts - SL5x5 lifts (top/back off sets) - Squat - 310, Bench - 220, Row - 195, OHP - 130, Deadlift - 345 Accessories - 3 sets of 10 - pull-ups w/ 15 lbs, dips w/ 50 lbs Reading - Sidebar, Frame and Dread by RS, WMP’s substack archive Mental - I shed a piece of ego this week. In my past I had women do all sorts of validating things for me in bed. I look the same as I did then (big and strong, but very soft), and …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/24 02:17 PM
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Good takeaways. Now, if you actually want to make progress, not just jerk off about self improvement, start OYSing. Or don't. Nobody here fucking cares either way.
/r/askMRP31/10/24 08:36 PM
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"Hey babe, something isn't working for me right now, we can try again later."
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/24 05:22 PM
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Guys, how do I stop her stepping on my balls with her high heels after she pegs me? Things have been harmonious since I started using Horns of Apathy’s ‘tricks to blow up your sex life’ in the bedroom, I particularly love it when she spoons me and rubs my asshole and tells me ‘I know you need this to sleep.’ A few months ago she trained me to comply because I could see it made her happy, but also sometimes afterward she’d edge me and ruin my orgasm the way I like. But recently, it feels like she…
/r/askMRP31/10/24 02:49 PM
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Depends on what you want. Only you can decide that.
/r/askMRP29/10/24 06:11 PM
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Lots of great advice has been said here, but carbs are your energy source and salt governs the strength of neural drive across synapses in the nerves. Simple carbs are also pro-thyroid and anti stress, so kind of a win win to eat more clean carbs generally. When I want to feel like superman in the gym, I eat 200 grams of white rice, soaked in maple syrup with a tsp of salt on it an hour before I go.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 03:42 PM
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Your metaphors are always so… visual
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 03:21 PM
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u/mrpmyself I'm new to this mindset, so I may not articulate it exactly, but here's trying. The problem wasn't that you used porn, the problem was feeling guilty about jerking off because you're horny and not getting laid, and that contradicts the ego identity you've created for yourself that you are a guy who should be getting laid and who doesn't use porn. By all means, continue to try to quit, it rots your dopamine centers and kills ambition, it benefited me immensely when I did, but the porn…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 03:20 PM
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I always knew intellectually that I was the problem, but MAN I didn't know how much of a problem I really was.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 02:56 PM
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I agree, and can see the effects of that.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 01:49 PM
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OYS 44 - October 28 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 222.5 lbs, ~18% BF (top 2 abs visible, 1.5” love handles and 1.5” fat over belt) - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - SL5x5 lifts - Squat - 310, Bench - 215, row - 195, OHP - 130, Deadlift - 330 Accessories - 3 sets of 10 - pull-ups w/ 15 lbs, dips w/ 45 lbs Reading - Sidebar except SGM, Frame and Dread by RS, WMP’s substack archive Mental After my ban, this post by u/Bobbyperu helped me adjust how I approach this process regarding my ego. https://www.redd…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/24 01:28 PM
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Can you elaborate further on how this ties into DNGAF? I’m curious what you mean by that - here’s my take - Is it that by paying more attention to my new discontent/anger, I am getting more in tune with my authentic desires, so I can act with more certainty and give fewer fucks about anything that contradicts what I know to be my actual desires in a situation?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 02:41 AM
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Yeah, that’s it - it feels like a tang of discontent I can decipher and act on, not a state I’m carried by/influenced by/stuck in that’s a product of entitlement, or unmet CCs. ‘I’m not getting what I want/I’m not enjoying this, so what do I need to change/do in order to get that right now?’ Vs ‘Why would you do this to me?’/‘Why won’t you just…’ Literally a completely different emotion I see. Thanks for the pointers this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 02:35 AM
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Anger really looks different on this side I’m realizing.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/24 02:26 AM
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Extremely high, and point taken.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 01:30 PM
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OYS 43 - October 8 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, ? lbs (haven’t weighed in weeks) - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - SL5x5 lifts - Squat - 260, Bench - 190, row - 170, OHP - 120, Deadlift - 305 Read - Sidebar except SGM, Reading - SGM This week - I feel like conversations with my wife lack life, they’re boring and led by her for topics, content, etc. I’ve been learning to STFU and not to put my foot in my mouth or seek validation from her through conversation, but now talking with her feels empty and bo…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/24 10:24 AM
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I see - I tend to be really hard on myself in the present, but dwelling on past mistakes isn’t something I do so I’ll be less helpful to you in that regard. Or perhaps because I don’t I might be helpful. Let’s give it a try - I tend to view time spent beating myself up about the past as a waste of time - if I cannot do anything about it to change the outcome, I tend not to worry about it or give it any time. The old serenity prayer type shit. And to an extent, I feel like it’s important to have …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/24 02:31 AM
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Recently we had to unexpectedly move, and I was dreading the process and it had me down in a lot of ways, but I noticed I handled this one a lot better than past trials with the attitude of ‘it’s all going to happen, and it’s going to be over on x date. The time will pass, things will happen, and eventually it will be finished,’ and that helped me have a lot less reactive and more stoic view of it. I just need to handle my part and this process will happen. To riff on what WMP has said, I’ve not…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/24 01:21 AM
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That makes all the sense in the world. The more proactive and intentional and deliberate I am, the less things ‘just happen.’ I make them all happen. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/24 06:58 PM
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It seems to always come back to reactivity for me. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/24 04:55 PM
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I’m running SL 5x5 until I fail and plateau and then moving to Madcow or SL5x5 intermediate. I’m keeping it simple and heavy and trying not to overthink it. If next month or next year she stops adding the value I need from a partner, then there will be a reevaluation of if I want to be married to her still or not. But honestly, I’m trying not to live in the future too much, it’s been an ego fantasy world I’ve used to justify slacking or ‘one day’ thinking that lets me avoid action. Today is what…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/24 02:33 AM
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I’ve been really angry as my ego’s been hurt from unfulfilled entitlement for a lot of this process, a lot of the things I’ve written about her were ranting and bitching born out of not getting what I felt I deserved or had earned. A lot of my work has been overcoming that in myself, and I definitely see her and her actions in a different light after doing a lot of this work. How I respond (or don’t) to her obviously heavily dictates how our interactions go, which I’ve been becoming much more pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 02:00 AM
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Thanks man, I’m really enjoying seeing the results of this process of self-change finally manifesting. As for the conflict dynamic vs today, the change is especially poignant to me right now as we’re vacationing in the same place we did a year ago where we had by far the largest knock-down-drag-out argument of our whole relationship back when I was retarded and argued with women. Life is fun man, I’m starting to see how this just becomes a new reality instead of something that requires conscious…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 01:39 AM
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OYS 42 - October 1 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 212.0 lbs - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - SL5x5 lifts - Squat - 255, Bench - 185, row - 165, OHP - 120, Deadlift - 305 Read - Sidebar except SGM, Reading - SGM This week - To u/Teh1whosees - I want to apologize for not responding to your comment a few weeks ago. I was not (and still am not) in a place to understand or integrate the higher vision you were detailing, a vision for a way of being and moving into a new conception of how I live my life. I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 01:06 PM
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Here’s my tip for you. In every interaction, think to yourself - ‘what would I do right now if my only goal was to enjoy myself,’ and then do that. Because that’s gonna filter for the people who like being around you when you’re having fun. Fuck the rest, 10s or not. Anything else is an act for someone besides yourself, seeking their validation, used to try to manipulate them to do something for you, which is the exact opposite of outcome independence.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/24 02:59 AM
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Did you enjoy any of this? Like, take a second and think. Who am I doing this for?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/24 04:01 PM
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My wife said the same countless times, and very recently, but nothing ever changed until I quit porn and finished (mostly) destroying my need for female validation, which gave me enough OI to be able to truly pass the shit tests and just have fun, and include her in my cool life without a covert contract that we'd bang in exchange. Nothing I did or tried before killing that validation and CC and building that OI worked, it was always tainted and anyone could have seen it was coming from needines…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 08:48 PM
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100% be playful for attraction and comfort, just beware that, like overfeeding wild hogs at a bait station - they can get full and move on instead of coming back when you want to hunt them the next day.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 07:06 PM
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I definitely have an urge to build my own business and all that eventually, but I’m definitely not mired and zapped by my job. Right now I’m in sales at a tiny company with a ton of latitude and freedom and I get a good amount of joy from my job when things are going well (read: when I’m making them go well, not fucking them up to create struggle). I blew up my old soul sucking career, did some soul searching and then took a sales training and started a new career that after a few hops has been …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 10:24 PM
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Holy “she” Batman!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 09:30 PM
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Can confirm it’s retarded, yes. “It’s just who you want to be” hits hard - why would I want to be a less able, disadvantaged, struggler, who only succeeds by working harder than everyone else? Doesn’t sound fun. And that was me, when I was the shortest guy on the rowing team. Doesn’t matter at all in my sales job or broader life. Creating lows is just ego masturbation as you said.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 09:10 PM
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When it comes to text game - your only goal is to get the chick on a date, as fast as possible, with as few words as possible to provide emotional catharsis and relieve pressure/emotions. More is not better, more just gives you more opportunities to convince them their judgement was incorrect and you actually are a loser. As everyone else has said, you talk too much. Text is not for flirting, it's for logistics. Also, You're not that funny
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 07:29 PM
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There is literally nothing that will give you as much return on your investment as losing 180 more pounds. Just be fucking autistically militant about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 07:19 PM
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Honestly, thanks so much for pointing me to your OYS 54 (I think) where you discuss that realization for yourself a few weeks ago, relating to that really jogged the start of unraveling this for me, and my hunting trip was the perfect container to work with it. It’s super insidious, I’m seeing it everywhere now - I’d never known the source of my procrastination or unconscious fear of success, inability to relax, need for things to be hard, or need to be constantly struggling, it’s all just rotti…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 06:41 PM
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OYS 41 - Sept 24 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 212.0 lbs - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - SL5x5 lifts - Squat - 250, Bench - 185, row - 165, OHP - 115, Deadlift - 300. Reading - Sex God Method Read - Sidebar except SGM I just got back from a 10 day hunting trip with one of my best guy friends who’s an ultra-runner and through-hiker and very much a natural at red pill thinking. Had a lot of good campfire time with him and many real and honest conversations that helped me look inside myself in a new way…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/24 01:59 PM
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OYS 40 - Sept 10 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 212.0 lbs - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - SL5x5 lifts - Squat - 245, Bench - 185, row - 160, OHP - 115, Dead - 2300. Reading - Sex God Method Read - Sidebar except SGM My landlord unexpectedly gave us the heave-ho two weeks ago for unknown reasons and the move had to be yesterday - we're settling in to the new place quickly. I owned/led the process of finding a new home and organizing the move, and the process went as smoothly as it could, with nothing s…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/24 06:12 PM
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You could be entirely correct. I really don’t know what I want, and for some reason I am afraid of truly knowing the answer to that, for fear that I might have to make some really big changes. I don’t know why I would be afraid of my own success. I think this is fucking with my career too now that I think about it this way, I’m right on the cusp of huge success, and then start slacking off and procrastinating. Like, what would I do if I was just successful and didn’t have to scrap for it anymore…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/24 05:53 PM
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I totally agree. I could definitely use more male friends locally who I can go do things with, though I love the friends I’ve kept from other places I’ve lived. I’m going camping/hunting for a week with one of my best friends next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/24 04:17 AM
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We’re not here to tell you what to do, none of us know what is best for you, and none of us give a fuck what you do. Don’t outsource all of your decision making to a bunch of randos on the internet - we’re here to tell you how you’re fucking up, not how to live. Take some ownership - it’s your only life.
/r/askMRP05/09/24 02:01 AM
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Yes, but none of them are local. I can put more effort into this.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/24 09:42 PM
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Thanks for chiming in here Horns. I’ve read that post probably 15 times, your whole series on sex for validation has been a roadmap for me finding lots and lots to work on. I’ve already noticed my sexual imagination working a lot more vividly in the last few weeks. Acting on that imagination without fear of how it is received (being fully OI) is definitely a worthy challenge - that’s a chance for a lot of growth for me. I haven’t felt the push to act yet, I still feel numb/indifferent toward sex…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 09:51 PM
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Yeah, I definitely have built a block. Initiating has felt like doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. I haven't learned/realized/felt how to initiate from desire instead of from validation yet, and I feel weirdly numb about this. I finally quit porn in early July, maybe I just need more time to re-equalize. I welcome your thoughts.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 09:15 PM
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OYS 39 - Sept 3 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 212.0 lbs - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - SL5x5 lifts - Squat - 230, Bench - 175, row - 155, OHP - 110, Dead - 290. Reading - Sex God Method - 25% - started again NMMNG x2, WISNIFG x1.5, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeology Dread x2, Rian Stones' substack, Rational Male 1, 2, & 3, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM 2x, Fuccfiles, Book of Pook, countle…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/24 04:30 PM
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Thanks for a practical angle on this, I really appreciate your notes here. Funny how it always comes back to STFU for me. It’s not exactly self deprecation, but the numbers really do only matter to me, nobody else cares and they only ‘ooh and ash’ because they’re expected to, which is a covert contract. Thanks your your perspective
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 02:29 PM
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And perhaps for this guy, since he’s small, you’re right that that is too much. When I was 267 lbs and competing in strongman, that is what I did and it worked extremely well for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 02:26 PM
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100% heard. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 05:41 AM
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Horns has already covered this ground. This is a big blind spot for me, thanks for helping point this out. That’s exactly the point, it only serves to help me lie to myself that something about me or that I’ve done besides what I am today gives me value above what today’s reality supports. You’re entirely correct, and I was blind to it. What I’ve done in the past doesn’t matter. What I can do today matters, and any fantasizing about ‘the good ol’ days’ or harkening to the past as if it’s somethi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 05:39 AM
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Your mileage may vary, but it worked for me. Products like LMNT work great too. Sodium facilitates the movement of signals across nerve synapses, and having a bolus of it means no deterioration in the strength of the signal sent from your brain, thus more neural drive to the muscle and stronger lifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 05:34 AM
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I am wrong, and I’m so worried I might be wrong that I build defenses in the form of far-too-firmly held convictions that I can stand behind to guard me from having to face the discomfort of having no fucking idea what I’m doing. So… Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/24 09:35 PM
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We don't agree this time, and that's fine. I have been guilty of this in the past, like on like OYS 3 where I put my lifetime lay count and got called out for it because that was 100% for validation and I was trying to manage anonymous people's perceptions of me.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/24 07:34 PM
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Mindset comes from action - I quit lying to myself that I could do it any other way. If I'm wrong here, I'd love to know.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/24 07:22 PM
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You are, but thanks for trying.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/24 01:49 PM
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Whatever you say bud
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/24 03:26 AM
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Because I used to lie to myself about those being my current maxes in OYS and to me they stand as a counterpoint to my current SL5x5 lifts which are well below, and are reality. For myself, I’m being honest about how far I’ve let myself go from my best.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/24 02:11 AM
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I don’t understand your point from your wording.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 01:30 PM
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You missed the point
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 03:20 AM
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Salt is a performance enhancing drug; super underrated. I feel like superman in the gym off salt and OJ.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/24 03:18 AM
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On light-headedness on squats - - Stop holding your breath when you squat, or at least breathe a few times between reps. - Eat significantly more salt before you go to the gym, it sounds nasty, but a tablespoon of salt slammed with a glass of OJ will probably help a lot with the light headedness Good work on practicing failing, it’s a fundamental skill to know what your worst case scenario is. As you saw, it’s a loud noise and the judgement of others, not death or dismemberment. Now get in a lin…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 06:53 PM
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OYS 38 - August 27 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 212.0 lbs - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - Lifetime maxes - deadlift - 550, bench - 250, squat - 530 Started Stronglifts 5x5, having re-started lifting after several years, to follow the linear progression to quickly re-establish my standards and gain strength back quickly. Current SL5x5 lifts - Squat - 220, Bench - 170, row - 150, OHP - 110, Dead - 290. Reading - Sex God Method - 25% - on pause NMMNG x2, WISNIFG x1.5, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 01:39 PM
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WOW that post should be on the sidebar, I’ve never heard of it nor seen it referenced and it’s one of the best I’ve ever seen. Thank you for linking that, definitely an eye opener about frame in so many ways. Favorite quotes/points - Women don't want to feel like wives; they want to feel like the hot girl who's dating the bachelor who has it all together. That's why fitness is key: she has to believe you're a consistent winner, not a fluke-winner. Ever wonder why people think marriage commitment…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/24 09:10 PM
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This has been incredibly enlightening, thanks a ton for sharing this with me. My body is my biggest priority right now, and as you said, I cannot tolerate weeks where I am not losing any weight. I cannot compromise in that area, and as WMP pointed out this week, I have no firm standards for myself yet - so this is the first one I’ll set and enforce. I appreciate you sharing your experience on tingles increasing well beyond 6-pack abs, I’ve never heard anyone mention it quite that clearly, Blarg …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/24 01:44 PM
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Alternatively, gett on StrongLifts 5x5 (a completely idiot proof beginner program), increase the squat weight by 5 lbs every workout where you complete all reps of all sets, until you fail a rep or more in 3 workouts in a row, then decrease the weight by 10% and start the progression over again. The only way you’ll ever get stronger is by progressively overloading and doing more each week than you did last week - the linear progression in this program inevitably takes you to your limit, so you w…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/24 02:15 PM
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This is a new angle on validation seeking I haven’t heard - I’ve hammered that in every way that I could so far, and have even tried to teach it too https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/1elchoy/comment/lh64wc3/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button But it sounds like you have some different metaphors for it that also make a lot of sense? When did it finally click for you? Were you even interacting with your wife when it happened? Di…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/24 01:58 PM
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You’re going to own any failure, so you may as well own the process. Much better.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 10:49 PM
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Very well said, and point taken
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 07:10 PM
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I'll keep a log this week and try to be as clear as I can, it wouldn't do anybody any favors for me to try to remember something and write it down inaccurately now. Thanks for the other suggestions here. Something is undoubtedly broken in how I'm responding. I honestly cannot remember the last time she was receptive to me being aggressive and dominant, 'taking' her. Big type 3 captain vibes I'm seeing it more and more. Every shit test is 'get back in your box' energy, and I'm just not interested…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 06:37 PM
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I turned my wife's vagina into the sahara desert with infantile rage outbursts from covert contracts, and emotional sharing of weaknesses, which is epic failure to STFU, and tried to fix all of it with comfort and beta behaviors, which has created a nearly dead bedroom. When single, I had a narccisistic fantasy I projected so strongly onto the world that girls thought it was frame, and I had great sexual success, but it did not stand up to the scrutiny and testing of a relationship and was revea…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 05:58 PM
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Freeing myself completely from fear of judgement, becoming aware of the ways I still seek validation from my woman, since I discover a new one about every week, practicing how to operate in a relationship without drowning it in comfort, habituating myself to not accepting scraps and having standards and expectations for those around me, and building the value that affords me that position, and changing my frame so I can’t be manipulated or taken for granted, and start expecting more for myself o…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 04:51 PM
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I’m here because I caused the problems in my life, I didn’t know how to fix them, and I’m learning to unwind my unattractiveness every week with the help of people like you pointing out my blind spots.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 04:37 PM
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Copy that
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 03:42 PM
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You ask a lot of good questions. This chick was as sexually receptive and submissive as any I'd ever had, which was one of the reasons I married. Realistically, I'm not gonna fuck anybody else unless I'm divorced, and I'm not going to divorce and relieve the pressure on myself until I've learned these skills. I'm not going to alpha as wolf - I'd be a fucking moron to do that and end up back here in 4 years. I'm having a lot of fun gaming other chicks at coffee shops, hostels, and on the street. …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 03:40 PM
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Then quit
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 02:42 PM
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Keep leaning into your strengths. You're doing a good job leading a fun, interesting, and engaging life, people around you recognize that and want to play along. Double down and don't get distracted. Returning to the old you of making yourself too available and creating too much comfort is no way to reward your wife - the 10/10 sessions is the indicator that she's getting what she wants.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 02:41 PM
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The only line in your entire OYS of what you actually DID this week is "I've gotten back in the gym, meal prepped several meals and stored them in the freezer, and have stopped smoking weed." Everything else is a wishlist. Also, your mission is inherently externally focused for the signals of success (others looking up to you).
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 02:23 PM
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When stress or anxiety come up in your life, a) what are your coping strategies to deal with it, and b) what are the common themes that cause it? Wondering if there are some structural changes or further mindset shifts you could make to keep you at your best more often. I see some common themes in your OYS, but I'm curious what your interpretation is.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 02:04 PM
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Sex and Game I am not happy with my sex life. I am tired of jumping through hoops to get a poor copy of what I could be getting on the open market. I am initiating the way I want to now (new in last few weeks instead of ‘trying to turn her on’ or something else in her frame) - fucking her with my eyes and saying ‘I want you’ and gaming through the day. I am often not successful, as I discuss next. I fear divorce less as a failure, and also decreasing is the fear of condemnation from my peers, fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 01:34 PM
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OYS 37 - August 20 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 213.0 lbs - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - deadlift - 485, bench - 100s db flat for 5, squat - haven’t, been running focused Reading - Sex God Method - 25% NMMNG x2, WISNIFG x1.5, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeology Dread x2, Rian Stones' substack, Rational Male 1, 2, & 3, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM 2x, Fuccfiles, Book of Pook, countless po…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/24 01:34 PM
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Cope
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/24 05:03 PM
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STFU, Sidebar and lift
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/24 12:44 AM
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Gotcha, so what would your life look like if you sought truth, self reflected, were honest with yourself, aligned yourself with good, and didn’t deceive yourself? What do you actually want your life to look like?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 09:35 PM
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You're DEERing AND outsourcing your agency to a hackneyed maxim. I only started making progress when I stopped lying to myself and making excuses for why everything wasn't my fault.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 03:17 AM
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It's pretty simple. Get busy on things that contribute to your vision, prioritize everything according to the realization of your vision, and tell her to pound sand if she's not giving you the kind of value you value. The key to this is actually doing the fucking work, not just deciding that you're a different person, creating a new 'red pilled' narccisistic fantasy, and acting from that with nothing in reality to back you up. Credibility comes from action.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 03:05 AM
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"She will hamster the shit out of every little detail whereas I would typically plan way too late, and then maybe it happens maybe it doesn’t." Sounds like you suck "Lately though, I am actively delegating tasks to her, am generous in my praise when she crushes it, and show honest appreciation." And you're coping and lying to yourself that you're 'leading' instead of doing something hard like fix the part of you that sucks. "I don’t know whether I am deluding myself or not, but I think she is re…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 10:02 PM
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Can you re-write your Purpose only in terms of things that are within your control and are actionable? Also, your goals can literally be summed up as 'I want to get away from this harpy who won't leave me the fuck alone, and I am too chickenshit and frameless to tell her 'I'm relaxing right now, I will do it later.'
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 09:48 PM
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How would you re-write your Overall Objective if you weren't allowed to use the word 'God' and had to frame it purely in terms of what you can control/choose?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 09:42 PM
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Man, since everything is someone or something else's fault, and all you can do is self-flaggelate for us, you should just quit. Hold onto that covert contract about finding a new job and new au pair giving you a problem free life. It's the only hope you have.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 09:36 PM
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Your identity is derived from your repeated actions. Your repeated actions do not proceed from an identity you think up, they proceed from a vision of what you want to accomplish, and the repeated choosing of actions to accomplish that. Stop hampstering/thinking and get it straight. Thinking up an identity doesn't build anything. You have to become before you be. Does that make sense?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 09:27 PM
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You should just quit before you self-sabotage yourself into a wheelchair. You don't even want to change.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 09:18 PM
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Man, way to fumble the fucking bag. "Told her my actual situation and left." Stop fucking doing this. Chicks vaginas turn into sandpaper when you emote to them. She doesn't give a fuck, she gave a fuck about fucking you and then you declined to make out, which from the sound of it was the fucking easiest close ever from there. All you had to do was go with it at that time, but you overthought it like a moron. Also, like 50% of this OYS is about all the flirtation and attention you recieved from …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 09:14 PM
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You're 30 years old, in the prime of your physical life, you've done 23 OYS, which is a minimum of 6 months of time, your lifts are still absolutely pathetic and you cannot run 3 miles without passing out. If you want to start doing uncomfortable things, you can start by stopping lying to yourself. Edit - you're also DEERing your retartedness to us in your second fucking sentence. Have you even read NMMNG?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 08:58 PM
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I'll fix your OYS so you can see it, I had this same problem to solve. I'm unsure how to evaluate this but as 3kl pointed out to me several weeks ago, the writing can help me process what I'm doing. I also notice, because I previously wrote a version of this that was more "whiney", that I can tell myself a better story related to what I do. That's a double edged sword. With my wife: I'm pressing on boundaries to make sex more fun for me (anal stuff/you get on top) but I have a worry that [I will…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/24 08:47 PM
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It’s easy to tell. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/l23n9p/timeline_escaping_sex_for_validation_and_quitting/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 10:25 PM
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Do you watch porn?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 06:18 PM
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OYS 36 - August 6 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 213.0 lbs - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - DB incline bench 85s for 9, deadlift 2 sets of 4 at 405 Reading - Sex God Method - 25% NMMNG x2, WISNIFG x1.5, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeology Dread x2, Rian Stones' substack Dread, Rational Male 1, 2, & 3, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM 2x, Fuccfiles, Book of Pook, countless posts, WMP’s substack a…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 01:19 PM
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Guilty as charged
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/24 04:51 PM
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I read this post this morning about shitty comfort testing, as well as a few others, to try to get some skill and guidance around how to handle them, and will be working on moving away from the STFU 2.0 skills of AA and AM etc, to a more perceptive and authentic expression. When it comes to other facets of game, I made progress in understanding what I was being given by her in the form of tests, though I made a complete hash of responding to them. Knowing what I am dealing with is new to me - an…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/24 04:48 PM
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Fuck me that's a shift in perception. Thanks Horns. Her emotions are not mine to fix, her choices are hers, I can only control what I do, and I'll focus on the things that add value to my life instead of 'restoring the peace (so I can have a problems free life)'. I don't need to save her from her spiral.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/24 04:15 PM
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OYS 35 - July 23 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 216.0 lbs - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - DB incline bench 85s for 7, deadlift 2 sets of 4 at 405 Reading - Sex God Method - 25% NMMNG x2, WISNIFG x1.5, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeology Dread x2, Rian Stones' substack Dread, Rational Male 1, 2, & 3, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM 2x, Fuccfiles, Book of Pook, countless posts My mission - To st…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/24 03:18 PM
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Very brave (fucking stupid) putting a photo on MRP.
/r/askMRP20/07/24 02:54 AM
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You can’t fix your wife. You can’t fix your relationship. You can only fix yourself.
/r/askMRP20/07/24 02:53 AM
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If all she wants to be is a warm hole for you, then treat her like it. This woman isn’t interested in your leadership because you act like an unattractive bitch, and she has less tingles than ever since all the passive dread dried up when you married and moved in (which was why you never had this problem before). If you want women to fuck you with more enthusiasm, become somebody more women want to enthusiastically fuck. There’s a chance your wife will be one of them. Lots of guys in the comment…
/r/askMRP19/07/24 05:21 PM
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I do like my wife. I have some resentment still and see my own failures in my current state reflected back at me, but overall yes I like my wife. Last week's OYS comment string dives into this for some more elaboration. It seems the theme for me this week is I have zero game and provide zero leadership due to a lack of personal honesty. Even if somebody wanted to follow my charisma-less ass and get in my frame, there's no direction to it, no clear desires or wants to be met, and there's no way t…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/24 04:18 PM
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Copy that, thanks for your notes. I guess I’d built this difficult process up as a drama in my head to an extent, and that’s getting in my way since I put so much weight in everything - but at the end of the day I’m just doing things that are in my best interest, and I’ll keep doing that. Really appreciate your guidance and reframing. It’s helping me.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/24 01:15 PM
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Duly noted. You have a knack for simplicity. Thanks for pointing that out.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/24 04:17 AM
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This is a good reminder to me. Rewarding good behavior can be as simple as spending another hour inside the house instead of out of it, and me being present all the time since I have the option to work from home is giving too much of my presence away for free. Gotta find something better to do, and always be prepared to go do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/24 04:12 AM
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You’re completely right that I have no fortitude. I just stopped stepping on my own dick a few weeks ago. So the goal is to make an intentional decision about how I want to spend my time given current conditions, and then go do it, instead of reacting and running away from a problem and praying it isn’t as bad when I get back. One is a decisive, abundant choice, the other is retreating and running away. Did I understand you correctly?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/24 04:11 AM
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This is good advice. My presence is a gift, I should treat it as such.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/24 04:05 AM
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Of course I want one Horns. I’m not dumb enough to think I’m the one chump whose situation is special and different. I have to keep moving my own direction until I can congruently say ‘fuck it’ and be willing to blow it all up and move on, and deal with my options then. I can’t fake that work. Correct me if I’m mistaken here. Thanks for calling me out, I’m trying to stop lying to myself. It’s held me back for too long.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/24 02:44 AM
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Cast Iron pointed that out as well. Definitely an opportunity for controlled anger, but the path I used worked as a boundary enforcement. I agree, no downside to enforcing my boundaries with this tool. It feels so refreshing to be able to metaphorically say 'fuck this shit' and leave instead of staying and DEERing toward the oncoming train like I used to. So much to learn still.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 07:42 PM
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Thanks for this - I've read that Jack10 comment, and I believe Rian covers it in Frame or Dread as well. Good reference, I'll go find it. I'll continue to work on my frame and keep touching the hot stove to work on that inner game, thanks for the time. Off to go fix what I can this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 07:39 PM
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I'm not worrying about a main event - I'll be ready if it happens anyway, so why bother with caring about it. Thanks for reframing it for me - I hadn't thought of it that way yet. I wouldn't be surprised if you're right. Hey father was a progressively less functional alcoholic her entire lift until an intervention a year ago. Her mom is a hardass testy boss bitch partner of a benefits firm. I'm not sure I believe in 'generational' trauma but generational patterns makes a ton of sense to me, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 07:35 PM
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First of all, THANK YOU. It never ceases to amaze me the generosity of some of the people here. Thank you for your time and notes. I'm glad to hear that, though ham-fisted, there were some bright points in this episode alongside things for my learning. The 'nuclear shit test' of last post is the blowup over traveling for the 4th that's discussed in this field report. Can you share some of your thoughts on the 'memory of a goldfish' mental model and reconciling that with calling her out on her sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 06:33 PM
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My job is remote, but my employer pays for a nearby coworking space which I use 3-4 days a week when I need to focus and really get things done. Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 04:02 PM
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My game sucks and I'm working on it. I got honest with myself about the notches I had before marriage and 90% of them were epiphany phase chicks looking for somebody comfortable. I'll start gaming 20-25 year olds and cut my chops there. Regardless, I'm not worrying about whether my wife fucks me or not - all I can control is myself. I figured so on the lack of substance. Bunch of feels and BS. Alright, first big field report here. My grandfather died a few weeks ago and we flew home for the fune…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 04:00 PM
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I mean, you can still come check if you want, I showered yesterday so they don’t smell too bad
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 03:10 PM
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Yes, she runs a pet care business and manages 9 employees. Yes, I’ve invited her the 2-3 times a week I’ve gone, she has taken me up on it once and was lovely the whole time. Copy that, I’m working on that presently, I know they all go together. Copy that, the problem has been home dinner parties with friends we haven’t seen in a while actually. ‘I know you love steaks, so I got you this 2 lb ribeye!’ ‘I baked you your favorite pie!’ I’ve had two glasses of wine in the last month, thanks for the…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 03:10 PM
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OYS 34 - July 16 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 215.4 lbs - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - DB incline bench 85s for 7, deadlift 2 sets of 4 at 405 Reading - Sex God Method - 25% NMMNG x2, WISNIFG x1.5, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeology Dread x2, Rian Stones’ substack Dread, Rational Male 1, 2, & 3, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM 2x, Fuccfiles, Book of Pook, countless posts My mission - To st…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/24 01:31 PM
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Thanks for this. I’m really angry at my past self for all these failures. I did an hour cold plunge today and a buddy asked me “what are you trying to prove?” That hit a lot deeper than he intended. I’ll see if this week I can be more here, today, and looking forward, instead of looking back and beating up my past self. Probably will help me have more confidence, swagger etc anyway to not resent my past. Appreciate the quote. I’ll marinate on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/24 02:11 AM
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Oddly enough, sex first started dropping off when she came off of BC 2 years ago. Honestly I haven’t devoted much mental energy to it since then since I didn’t want to have kids with her if celibacy was the life I was signing up for. It’s a new thing to think over with my new point of view. You’re right about shark week. Thanks for the correction.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 02:33 PM
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No, I’m not bringing my 100% yet, I’ve still got visible fat and my frame is about 2 or 3 weeks old and I’m still learning to act according to it, and my game is trash. Would I fuck myself? Not yet, and I’m doing the work to fix that. u/Anotherblooper2 because Reddit
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 01:42 PM
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We have discussed it many times, I’m reevaluating my position as my own for the first time, instead of just inheriting ‘of course you have kids’ from my parents. Just another of the million and a half ways I wasn’t leading or acting on what I want before this process. Asking and using words and jokes and thinking I’m clever, instead of acting like a man. The pick her up or start taking her clothes off or manhandling her is what I did last week and it worked WAY better. Shark week this week but I…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 01:37 PM
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Perhaps I’m just a gigantic people pleasing pussy in my initiations? I’m looking back and seeing that pretty clearly this week. As for kids, I’d adopted the idea of ‘of course I want kids, it’s what you do’ and am now consciously reconsidering - whatever choice I make, I want it to be a thought through one and to be what I want, not what I ‘should’ do by others’ standards. Wife is not pressuring me about kids. Though she’s also not begging me to creampie her every time she ovulates, so actions w…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 04:04 AM
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While what you say may be true, I’m happy with my mission for where I am in this process right now. I appreciate your sharing notes.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/24 12:29 AM
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Yep, you were right. I’m a classic boring technique-focused lovemaker, time to go to a clean slate in yet another area of my life. Thanks for the prompt.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 11:11 PM
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In 30 words or less, what did you DO this week that made your life better? As for oneitis, it dies with time, increased attractiveness, confidence in your own mission and direction, and a realistic view of the value she brings you, AFTER you've stripped away the last entitlement, validation seeking impulse, and covert contract. Speaking of which, you're stuffed full of covert contracts. You're trying to do things your woman likes, so that she'll fuck you. Spoiler, she won't. Focus on becoming mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 09:10 PM
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Copy that.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 08:54 PM
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Look at that! A fucking action and something’s different now. Now go do it again. What makes us different from women is that we DO things about our problems, we don’t just bitch and whine and wait to be heard and validated. The goal of OYS is to DO things to MAKE your life different. That requires action, not words. Talk less, DO more.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 08:51 PM
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They definitely are different, and I'm just now getting to the point where it makes a shred of sense to start looking outside of myself for indicators, when the entirety of my work to now has been to turn my compass inward. I'll be looking for signs in the next few weeks. Is my job a big driver of life satisfaction? Yes and no - there are times when I just can't be fucked to work, and other times when I'm checking my email box like a gambling addict looking for dopamine from a won deal. All part…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 07:18 PM
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Pardon me, HGH increases by 300%, autophagy in dry fasting appears to be 50% greater. link Do your own research, YouTube is often a better place to learn about esoteric shit than Google fyi. I’ve done a 3 day dry fast just to prove I could and when I wasn’t even close to dying at the end it opened my mind to what else I’d been lied to about. A 24 hour dry fast should be a cake walk for you with all the fat you still have. Your body destroys fat cells to make metabolic water to meet your hydratio…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 06:36 PM
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I've not read it yet, no. It's on the list, it didn't seem to be a priority before when I wasn't fucking. Alternative third option is that we can't keep our fucking stupid mouths shut and fuck up any shred of attraction with validation seeking, covert contracts, and infantile entitlement rage. You underestimate how much I sucked and was unattractive through behavior at the beginning of this process, and how recently I actually developed frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 06:23 PM
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To clarify, she was the sales operations manager for the $2 bn business, not an exec - think support through salesforce modifications initiatives, compensation discussions, setting sales targets, helping with the implementation strategic goals, etc. not being the decision maker or strategic driver. I'm building my pipeline of accounts in a completely different field and business that I entered a year ago, completely new to sales. I've done $867k in gross margin in my first 12 months, which I mak…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 06:15 PM
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My wife matches up in a lot of ways, she cooks fabulously, is tidy and organized and creates a pleasant living space in a way that exceeds what I could do. When I'm passing shit tests, she's very pleasant and sweet. She had a 17 year ski racing career and likes ice climbing and backcountry skiing, which matches up with my desired leisure activities and vacations perfectly. Fitness is a top priority for her, and her body shows it - she's definitely been a point or two in SMV over me since our rel…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 04:43 PM
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I don't spreadsheet my sex life anymore, but maybe 10 days? Not really important, sex from the wife isn't a success metric, just something nice to have. My long term goals are discussed at length in prior OYS, and for the most part they haven't changed - financial independence, work congruent with passions and lifestyle, athletic achievements that are important to me, physique goals, etc, but I haven't sat down and re-hashed these in a bit since shedding loads of CC in the last month or two, so …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 03:52 PM
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Based on your height and lift numbers, your most attractive weight is gonna be under 210 lbs, and more likly under 200 - I'm sure you know this already. Keep with the system. As for the skin, look into dry fasting - it ramps up the 'self-eating' autophagy process that you're looking for 300% above normal fasting. YMMV but autophagy is going to be your friend if you want to try everything besides going under the knife. With how much you and lost and still have to lose, you may not have a choice. …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 02:36 PM
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Awesome write up here. I'm learning a lot of nuance from your comments, thanks for sharing notes.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 02:21 PM
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In the amount of time it took to write this huge, stinking pile of a victim puke bullshit, you could have actually taken the action of finding your closest divorce lawyer's phone number on google maps and calling it. Oh, and shut the fuck up. Like, actually, stop fucking saying anything at all that isn't logistics.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 01:58 PM
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OYS 33 - July 9 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 218 lbs - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - DB incline bench 85s for 7, Sq - haven’t in forever, doesn’t align with my goals, stiff leg 8 inch deficit deadlift 4x12 reps at 225, 1’ rest. Reading - The Courage to be Disliked - 20% NMMNG x2, WISNIFG x1.5, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeology Dread x2, Rian Stones' substack Dread, Rational Male 1, 2, & 3, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art o…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 01:43 PM
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Sounds like somebody needs a hug
/r/TheRedPill05/07/24 02:31 PM
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Come check
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/24 12:43 PM
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+1 awesome write up here. Shitty comfort tests are a great opp to practice your fogging, negative assertion, and negative inquiry until you figure out what the fuck is going on. Never thought of the test you mentioned, tossing a compliance test in the middle would be very elucidating, coulda used that last night.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 10:16 PM
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As always, thank you for the guidance. I am entitled to nothing, but increasing my options increases my agency. Things are finally getting simpler.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 05:13 PM
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OYS 32 - July 2 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 222 lbs - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - DB incline bench 85s for 7, Sq - haven’t in forever, doesn’t align with my goals, stiff leg 8 inch deficit deadlift 4x12 reps @225, 1’ rest. Reading - The Courage to be Disliked - 20% NMMNG x2, WISNIFG x1.5, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeology Dread x2, Rian Stones' substack Dread, Rational Male 1, 2, & 3, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 03:47 PM
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This is really valuable context, and you make a good point about the sex as a coping mechanism for stress - I’ve definitely considered that some, but I’ll put some thought into it this week. I’ve been able to identify pretty clearly the times that I seek it out of validation, I’ll try to become aware of when I do it for stress relief. eliminating the ‘unattractive’ portion of that equation has been about 90% of my work, so that’s perfectly in line with my path of improvement. I’ve been reframing…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/24 04:37 PM
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Boston Brake Job pulled some really good stuff out of me on this, I totally agree with you here. In the end, the only person it matters to make happy is me, and the only way I’m gonna do that is to start acting in my self interest. People can either get on board, or get out of the way. I am my own judge.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/24 03:30 PM
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This checks out with my general thoughts on the subject - just gotta choose to do the hard thing. That seems to be the theme of this week from everybody. Thanks for your input here.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/24 01:35 PM
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There’s definitely a fear of failure, there’s a fear that it won’t work out how I want it to (OI), there’s a fear that my marriage will fall apart, there’s fear of the judgement of my peers that something is wrong with me, that I’ll be 29 and divorced, that I wasted the money my parents gifted towards my wedding and honeymoon, etc. etc. It’s all fear of judgement from others. I know this, I understand what it is. This is the deepest layer of the onion, and now is the time where I finally get a c…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/24 05:44 PM
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Thanks for this. It feels scary to face that next step. It’s not something I can ask advice for - I just have to decide what I want, understand the consequences, and then ask for it, and it’s up to nobody but me. There’s never a perfect time, I’m always going to be a work in progress, but that doesn’t mean I can’t ask for what I want here, now, today. I guess this is where I decide to have frame. There’s an inscription on a rock at my college left by a class 60 or 70 years ago, and it’s always s…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/24 03:58 AM
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This is all super useful - as always, I appreciate the notes. I think the general trend I’m hearing is ‘take things less seriously, nothing is important enough to get mad over.’ This of course has its limitations, but when it comes to sex and rejection, stop making it so important and have some fun with it. Tease, and joke, and then move on. I’ll go check out that sub, my (our?) biggest problem is I’m actually longer than she is deep so I end up punching her cervix for about half her cycle in a …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/24 02:01 PM
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And thanks a ton for the link, it’s always so helpful when people link me to pertinent stuff, really appreciate the roadmap here.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/24 01:33 PM
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Huh, so kinda like doing exposure therapy to get used to getting ‘no’s to stop caring.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/24 01:29 PM
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You’re speaking nothing but truth right now. As always, thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/24 02:03 AM
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Hey, can you tell me how you handle hard no’s and moving on to going and doing something else you want to do with your time?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 08:27 PM
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And you’re right, she is just a girl. Zero reason to be afraid of her just because she’s my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 08:22 PM
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This is awesome and scary at the same time. I’m ready for some more shit tests, I’ll give this a try, or something else similar. Thanks a ton.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 08:22 PM
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I’m too much of a frameless bitch sometimes that I let it get to me, but I see sometimes what you mean.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 06:59 PM
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I’m gonna take this to heart this week
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 05:39 PM
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Fair challenge sir. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 05:08 PM
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Depends, but sometimes for sure
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 05:07 PM
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I appreciate your perspective and notes here - I've definitely NOT been inviting her into the exciting parts of my life for the last few months, there very much so is a gap between the enjoyment I derive from the life I'm building and her (or anyone's) place in it, there is tension there and I feel it for sure. It feels incongruent, and I think this tees up really well with what Alpha Wolflord said this week which is fundamentally about leadership too. But fortunately (or maybe I'm deluding myse…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 04:07 PM
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I've almost been in a depressive state around her honestly, feeling like any effort I've put in (to her) has been wasted, which makes total sense now - anything I do to 'get her turned on' of course is going to have the opposite effect, which I realized 2-3 OYS ago, and so I've been passively avoiding the issue, and her - more on this in my reply to Alpha Wolflord. I'm honestly not sure if I even care enough right now to try - I'm honestly angry inside, and hate seeing years of my own failures r…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 03:11 PM
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I'm glad you commented this, because in your words I can see that I'm not leading the relationship, I'm just complaining about it. Not something a good captain would do. Dominance was so easy for me when natural dread was present in my relationships (no commitment), or I guess when the woman let me (looking back I see that a lot, I was just playing a part on the sexual side of the relationship, though I believed the illusion). It was just a dollar store assertiveness all along. To be honest I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 03:02 PM
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OYS 31 - June 18 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 232 after dinner - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550. Reading - Just finished the Book of Pook - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG x1.5, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeology Dread x2, Rian Stones' substack Dread, Rational Male 1, 2, & 3, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM 2x, Fuccfiles, Book of Pook, countless posts I was laying in bed a few d…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 01:42 PM
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Own Your Shit dude. You’ll get picked apart every week there. Tomorrow is a new day, don’t be a bitch. Make a throwaway if you have to - just don’t waste the only thing you can’t get back - time.
/r/askMRP18/06/24 03:51 AM
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Rather damning
/r/askMRP18/06/24 02:28 AM
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Book of Pook is where I’d go next in the sidebar, just my two cents. You’ll need to re-read it later too, but might be helpful now.
/r/askMRP13/06/24 02:22 AM
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Thanks much for linking this - I appreciate your perspective a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/24 02:11 AM
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This is all awesome nuance. It’s definitely NOT fun yet. It’s amazing how good a woman can get at putting a knife exactly in the right place. The ability to shrug that off, I’m now starting to see, is one of the reasons why people here eventually get to the place where they realize that it’s never been about women at all, it’s just about being a man, and the relationship with the woman is simply a symptom of that. If I can shrug off the vicious invective of the person who knows ALL of my shit an…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 07:44 PM
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Thanks a ton for your perspective - one thing I was thinking about a lot this week is how owning and acknowledging your own mistakes (and even apologizing for that error when appropriate gasp) can be one of the stronger self-ownership types of things you can do. Owning your fuckups like a man isn’t Deering, though the words used may be the same. Correct me if I’m wrong. And thanks for the framework here - I’d kinda pigeonholed nuking into ‘fuck you’ and then leaving a-la that old rp article with…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 06:57 PM
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Thanks for the link - I’ll go hit that this afternoon. He obviously has been ‘gone’ for a long time, but now it’s ‘real’, does that make sense? I guess I deferred a lot of the feelings of loss since he wasn’t dead yet, but now he is, and I’ve got all this anger about how shitty the last few years of his life were after everything he accomplished, ambiguous loss that he was gone but still breathing, and now finally, this weird mix of anger, relief, sadness, and grief no that he’s finally moved on…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 05:35 PM
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OYS 30 - June 9 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 226 - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550. Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeology Dread x2, Rian Stones' substack Dread, Rational Male 1, 2, & 3, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM 2x, Fuccfiles, Book of Pook 50% I’ve been reading the Book of Pook this week and it is fantastic, it’s got some great advice…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 01:26 PM
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I made the plan a lot more complex in my head, but yeah that sums up what I’m looking for.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/24 02:08 PM
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Thanks for the prompt here. I’m angry right now and that’s no shape to make life altering decisions in. There are many things I do really like about her - cooking, looks, general temperament, she runs her own business. But I wouldn’t be here if everything was going well and I was getting the affection and soft landing I want out of a woman I give my commitment to, especially right now when she just gave me my first nuclear shit test yesterday over how I’ve been acting since my grandfather died l…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/24 01:26 PM
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Most applicable quote for reframing I’ve pulled out of these so far is from one of the commenters - “as you progress in your work, you’ll have the opportunity to fuck more women. It’s possible your wife will be one of them.” It’s a possibility she’ll come around, but that’s not a goal. My goal is to build a life I’m proud of, full stop. On the recommendation of one of the aforementioned commenters, I’m now a few chapters into The Book of Pook, which I hadn’t read yet, and that is hitting SO hard…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/24 02:07 PM
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I’m not done reading it all yet, but holy moly there’s some solid gold here, Blarg’s post and the J10 comment linked in the top comments hit really hard, and helped me relate a lot more to the me I want to be in the future - it’s made that man feel much more attainable and the end result of a process, not some enlightened state where I float 6 inches off the ground where I walk. I’m going to re-read that a few times - it’s helping me visualize and relate to where I want to go. Thank you so much …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/24 03:20 PM
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What a champ. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/24 07:06 PM
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Thanks a ton - the reading you gave me last week really jogged some new stuff loose - always appreciate your insights, and if you have some posts in mind on these, I’d love ‘em. Absent that, I’m gonna go re-read Frame again and go back through NMMNG and WISNIFG to try to capture that stuff even more deeply. Gonna put dread on the shelf right now because this is all about me right now - everything outside of me can wait.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/24 04:08 PM
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What makes me great at difficult stuff like ultra running is the fact that I embrace and enjoy the pain and the process - I’m going to try to turn that attitude toward this process too. Thanks for the words dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/24 04:04 PM
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I’m here for that process. It’s hilarious in a kind of sad way that after all this internal work, it’s time for more internal work. But no, fuck that. I don’t want to give up my agency. You’re so right. Thanks for the guiding here man, it’s truly appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 03:13 PM
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OYS 29 - June 4 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 226 - wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550. Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeology Dread x2, Rian Stones' substack Dread, Rational Male 1, 2, & 3, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM 2x, Fuccfiles Summary - Last week’s thrashing from Futile Fighter and re-reading Rian Stone’s substack article on Operation …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 01:40 PM
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Yeah, reframing them from inconvenience/pain point to avoid to viewing them as an opportunity is a next step for me. Again, thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/24 03:05 PM
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And further, your commentary on ‘calibration’ hits very close to home. Duly noted
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/24 08:24 PM
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Also, thanks for linking that TRP forum article, I had never considered it that way before, very insightful
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/24 08:22 PM
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Copy all, thanks a ton for the feedback. The dancing monkey really is the hardest one for me to kill - I’m keeping it in the front of my mind. I really am putting way too much stock in her perceptions, thanks for pointing that out.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/24 08:08 PM
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Sex We had sex twice this week, first after that shit test I mentioned earlier, and the second time was the night after I got back from a Friday-Saturday backcountry skiing trip which included an overnight in a town in the mountains. I have a really strong social circle in that town and she knows there is at least one woman who openly hits on me every time I’m there, I didn’t respond to texts from about 6pm Friday until I called her the next day to let her know we were out of the mountains. This…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 01:37 PM
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Achievements - I did my first burly back to back long runs for my mountain ultramarathon training, accomplishing 30 miles and more than 6000 feet of elevation gain during two runs in 24 hours. My body feels beaten up, but nowhere near done today which is a great sign for both my endurance and durability. I have a lift planned today to supplement this and maintain the muscle I have. This is my largest sales month ever and I still have this week left - I'll have made more than $20k this month, and…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 01:37 PM
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OYS 28 - May 28 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 223 - Wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550. Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeology Dread x2, Rian Stones' substack Dread, Rational Male 1, 2, & 3, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM 2x, Fuccfiles First, a field report - We were on a day long road trip recently - after a while, she started to act like a bi…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 01:36 PM
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I know I for sure did, and I only started making progress when I went back to square 1.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/24 11:29 PM
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OYS 27 - May 14 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 226 last week, haven’t weighed since. Wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550. I ran my third fastest half marathon ever during a ‘low effort’ long mountain run on Sunday - 2 hours and 29 minutes. Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeology Dread x1.3, Rian Stones' substack Dread, Rational Male 1, 2, & 3, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of mot…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 05:35 PM
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What's worked well for me is to periodize my meals - eat a massive amount of protein and fat in the meal after a hard lift to maximize recovery and muscle growth, and the rest of the time eat low fat, high carb so that your insulin stays low to prevent fat gain and to ensure good energy if you want to toss some cardio or conditioning in too.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/24 09:42 PM
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Thanks man. Foot has firmly been pressed to the floor. I was banned for 4 months and it was exactly what I needed - had to be fully self sufficient and responsible for this journey with only the sidebar to ask questions of and it's paid massive dividends.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/24 09:27 PM
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OYS 26 - May 7 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 226 as of today. Wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550. Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeology Dread x1.3, Rian Stones' substack Dread, Rational Male 1, 2, & 3, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM 2x, Fuccfiles I'm starting a new training block for a 50 mile mountain ultramarathon in two months, and I'm hone…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/24 02:39 AM
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That's the plan. Had to get all that other shit out of the way first. Appreciate you highlighting this.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/24 01:40 AM
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Wins - read ‘em, or don’t. Realized that porn is addictive because it’s all about fantasizing that the women are doing the action for/to you, which feeds validation seeking, not arousal. Porn makes you temporarily feel wanted, which is why you feel empty after when you unconsciously realize it’s a lie, and you’re not wanted by a black screen, so you go back looking again to trick your brain into feeling wanted again to assuage abandonment anxiety and validation need. Competed in my first two ult…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 08:26 PM
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My income is growing rapidly in a comission role and is more than enough to sustain us and our lifestyle. Her business she started at my recommendation is taking off too, and just broke 5 figures in revenue for the first time with nearly 40% margins. Looking at the total situation as objectively as I can, many things are good, I just don’t give her all the tingles and competition anxiety she needs to decide to give me a pornstar sex life. The sex is very good when it happens, it’s never phoned i…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 08:26 PM
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Next steps - Continue the process of holding myself to a standard I’m satisfied with, so I have more options, and thus authority. Learn to make the jump from conflict mitigation tools like fogging, negative inquiry and negative assertion and STFU to appropriately using shit test passing tools like AA, AM, pressure flipping, ignoring, and nuking - time to stop ‘surviving’ shit tests, and to start building attraction. Continuing to chase my hobbies and passions to make myself happy (running, mount…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 08:26 PM
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OYS 25 - April 29 Stats - 29yo, 6’1”, 235. Wife 36, together 3 years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550. Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Praxeology Frame x3, Praxeology Dread x1.3, Rian Stones's substack Dread, Rational Male 1, 2, & 3, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM 2x, Fuccfiles I’ve been doing work over the last 4 months, systematically dropping my unattractive behaviors. I’ve been …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/24 08:25 PM
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Let me add this, I put it below but I think it’s important - For me and bad breath, Hyperbiotics pro-dental probiotic breath mints have been life changing, and I still have my tonsils. One a day and my bad breath has literally never come back. Something something repairing the biodiversity of the mouth micro biome or something, but I’ll be damned it works.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/23 10:43 PM
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For me and bad breath, Hyperbiotics pro-dental probiotic breath mints have been life changing, and I still have my tonsils. One a day and my bad breath has literally never come back.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/23 10:42 PM
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OYS 24 Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 222. Wife is 35, married 3/4 year, together for two and a half years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550. Focusing on progressively overloading my upper body, while my lower body is running focused. Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Praxeology x2.5, Dread, Rian Stones's substack Dread, Rational Male, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency 25%, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM x1.5, Secrets of a Passion…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/23 10:57 PM
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I’m game.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 07:09 PM
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Damn, that hits super super hard. Yeah, I don’t have a clue what love is…. I’m going to break this pattern or die trying
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 02:45 PM
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When others give to me I feel guilty. By making this decision for them you are robbing them of their autonomy to make this decision for themselves. Can you say more about this please? I think I get what you mean, but I want to be sure I understand because it seems like some very important things are starting to shake out in my head.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 10:03 PM
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$10 says he doesn't show.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 05:37 PM
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OYS #23 Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 222 lbs. Wife is 35, married 3/4 year, together for two and a half years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550. Focusing on progressively overloading my upper body, while my lower body is running focused. Read - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Praxeology x2.5, Dread, Rian Stones's substack Dread, Rational Male, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency 25%, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM x1.5 Goals: Sub 15% BF, …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 04:50 PM
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Many things clicked here - thanks for the knowledge bombs
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/23 05:26 PM
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OYS 22 Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 222. Wife is 35, married 3/4 year, together for two and a half years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550. Focusing on progressively overloading my upper body, while my lower body is running focused. Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Praxeology x2.5, Dread, Rian Stones's substack Dread, Rational Male, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency 25%, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM x1.5 Frame - Acted a lot m…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 07:52 PM
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Get your T levels checked and take appropriate action.
/r/askMRP29/09/23 08:54 PM
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Many thanks. Iron sharpens iron
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 07:11 PM
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Appreciate the callout on my reason for the physical endurance stuff - I’m doing it anyway every day and week because I enjoy the heck out of it, and I guess I don’t need any bigger reasons than that. That’s reason enough. A lot of the sidebar books and canon posts say some of the same stuff in different ways - I guess this one just says things in a way I resonate with and get value from. Different strokes. I definitely want to have kids, but that’s going to be pushed off until the spring at the…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 03:01 PM
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Machines are dope when they provide better resistance curves than free weights (pec dec is better than flies, bicep machines are better than curls, converging chest press machines are better than barbell presses, etc.). Use the best tool for the job, to get the best results. Your hangups about machines being for women and posers only is a solid tell that you give way too much of a fuck about how others perceive you in the gym. I once was a 267 lb strongman and deadlifted 405 17 times in a minute…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 02:02 PM
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OYS 21 Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 222. Wife is 35, married 3/4 year, together for two and a half years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550. Focusing on progressively overloading my upper body, while lower body is running focused. Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Praxeology x2.5, Dread, Rian Stones's substack Dread, Rational Male, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency 25%, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance, TWOTSM x1.25 Frame - Things aren’t a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 10:58 AM
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Ok, you obviously missed everything of substance in WISNIFG about the dynamics of deer in formal vs informal communication. Re-read and call us in the morning. As for training, you want to use exercises where you can maximally load a PARTICULAR muscle group, while eliminating stability as a concern as much as you can. So if you’re training shoulders, why wouldn’t you sit your butt down and press off as stable a platform as you can? I do this even when using dumbbells - I clean them and then I SI…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 11:40 AM
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That’s a great point Wolf - the passion and goal do determine the merit or lack thereof for any particular activity. I’m currently forming new patterns to serve my goals, and being lax, undisciplined, and hedonistic has been counterproductive to these goals, though there’s nothing intrinsically wrong with them. In my context, they’re a negative. Thanks for your perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/23 12:56 AM
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Thanks a lot Ragnar, appreciate your perspective. I honestly thought I was in control when I started this process - I see now I had control over almost nothing. It’s time to make it simple, control what I can, and just live my gift and mission. Speaking of which, I’m getting inklings of what that may be…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/23 11:03 PM
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Jesus Christ, that book is so dense I feel like I need to read it another 5 times to get everything from it and I'm not a dumb dude. It deserves so much more than a speed read.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 04:49 AM
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bad bot
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 04:48 AM
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Fear is the mind killer dude. ​ Also, just use a fucking machine for the shit you feel weird about. They make machines for shoulders. ​ Also, all of this is DEERing, in case you wanted some great examples for your own development.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 04:47 AM
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Yeah, honestly that's the biggest thing that clicked this week. Acting and thinking from me, not acting in response to what happens to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 04:44 AM
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This is a bunch of rambling bullshit. ​ Also, your lifting program probably sucks. Pick a program of progressive overload with rep ranges between 3-6 training to failure with long rest times between sets and between workouts to focus more on strength unless you're planning on getting on gear. Strength and size just doesn't happen above 8 reps the way 99% of naturals train. Remember that the gym is a stimulus, and growth actually happens during your recovery. If you don't support your muscles in …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 04:36 AM
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I don't see any of your reading in your OYS, so I'll just suggest taking 5 hours some time soon and listen to The Way of the Superior Man on Audible. Should be able to do that in short order and it might jog a few things for you. It sure did for me this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 04:24 AM
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If your lifting has been 'consistent' but you've never put 185 on a barbell for any lift in 36 weeks of work, you're either training like a pussy, unbelievably uncreative in finding work-arounds for setbacks (ever heard of leg extensions or bicep curls?), or do not understand the actual definition of 'consistent.' Food is not the problem on a timeline this long, it's effort. As for your hernia, that has nothing to do with how you train chest, back, or shoulders. ​ I was an amateur strongman for …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 04:16 AM
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OYS 20 - posting late due to Rule 9 ban 2 weeks ago Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 222. Wife is 35, married 3/4 year, together for two and a half years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550. Focusing on progressively overloading my upper body, while lower body is running focused. Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Praxeology x2.5, Dread, Rian Stones's substack Dread, Rational Male, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency 25%, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle main…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/23 03:40 AM
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Horns, what behaviors in you did you notice before a main event? (I legitimately want to learn)
/r/askMRP11/09/23 12:46 AM
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I figured so but wasn’t sure. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/23 12:36 AM
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I’m not sure whether to be thankful or feel offended, but thanks either way!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 08:59 PM
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That’s when she hung up, so I think it’s safe to say it worked.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 07:35 PM
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Is “I don’t care what you think” when she’s feelzing me nuked enough for you, or did you have something even more drastic in mind?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 07:00 PM
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Love this perspective. That's great direction for me, coming from being controlled by codependent tendencies, fear, porn, and booze, and heading toward being fully in charge and happening to the world. Thanks man.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 05:21 PM
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OYS 19 Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 222.75 (top 4 abs visible now). Wife is 35, married 1/2 year, together for two years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550. Focusing on progressively overloading my upper body, while lower body is running focused. Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Praxeology x2, Dread, Rian Stones's substack Dread, Rational Male, 16CoP, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency 25%, The Easy Peasy Method, Zen and art of motorcycle maintenance 40% Relationship - Got …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/23 03:21 PM
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I’ve progressed from 115 per arm for 4 sets of 4-6 reps to 125 per arm for the same reps on the hammer strength chest press in the last month and a half, so continuing that is the plan. 130 is on the docket for this week. I’ll update WISNIFG next time, I’m at 80% done as of now. I had not heard of 123 magic, but that’s an interesting recommendation - I’ll pick that up on audible tonight. Thanks for the link to that post - for some reason I cannot open it, I’ve messaged you. Seems like I need to …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/23 03:18 AM
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Thanks dude, appreciate the perspective. Back to work again this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/23 03:17 PM
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My bench has been poverty for a long time, I did a pulling-centric sport in college so I can bent over row 315 for reps, but my bench has always lagged. I was a single red-piller doing pickup for several years having fun with a lot of women and thought I had my stuff on lock because I was never in any kind of committed LTR to highlight my unattractive behaviors before nexting. So I already knew about the MRP space before I met the girl I promoted to be my wife and got married. Sex started to pul…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/23 03:15 PM
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Ok, so am I understanding correctly that I just passed my first shit test? Thanks a TON for all this, that is such valuable perspective to have. Edit - I just want to reiterate how unbelievably valuable that post you linked is - that made something click for me. Thank you so much.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 10:43 PM
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Huh. That makes a lot more sense than the dumb hamstering I’m doing, thanks for pointing that out. I guess it’s good to see some results from my work. I replied to Ragnar with a short FR if you want to see more detail.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 09:42 PM
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Thanks for the input here - I replied to Ragnar’s comment with a short FR - I’d welcome your input there.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 09:40 PM
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Instead of passing judgement on it, since it still feels like I know didly-shit 6 months into my map, I guess I should rephrase this to ‘she brought up a cocky, selfish thing I’d done days prior, accosted me about it, I talked WAY too much though didn’t deer, got into an impasse, and finally just shut the fuck up, validated her feels and was prepared to move on with the day and do my own thing when she came onto me super hard in the shower afterward.’ I guess in reflecting on it now it sounds mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 09:39 PM
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OYS 18 Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 226 lbs this morning (8/29). Wife is 35, married 1/2 year, together for two years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550 Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, Praxeology x2, Dread, MMSLP, Rational Male, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency 25%, The Easy Peasy Method Relationship - Been shutting the fuck up. I have so many urges to say stuff and when I stop to think about it it's always negotiating desire, or bitching, or something resentful, or something e…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/23 08:10 PM
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Thanks for reinforcing this, I always need to hear this more
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 12:38 PM
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Fair calls here, will not let that happen. I’m working to up my alpha all the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/23 12:31 PM
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OYS 17 Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 223.75 lbs this morning (8/23). Wife is 35, married 1/2 year, together for two years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550 Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG 50%, Praxeology x1.5, Dread, MMSLP 54%, Rational Male, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency 25%, The Easy Peasy Method Relationship - There was a shift this week - much less resentment from the wife and much warmer behavior including more sex as my owning my shit around my career sank into her awar…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/23 10:21 PM
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Appreciate the help reframing this, that makes a lot of sense
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/23 03:12 AM
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All of my reading is in my OYS at the very top. NMMNGx2, and I’m 80% through WISNIFG as of my audiobook walk this morning. Probably 60% of the sidebar articles, and working through those weekly. I didn’t mention that I want to have a family in the above statement of what I wanted, but that is what I want to do some time in the next 5 years or so. I want kids, and the best way to raise them is in a nuclear family, so that’s what I’d ultimately like. I have a prenup protecting 80% of my initial as…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/23 04:46 PM
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I’ve read the articles on avoiding DV charges a few years ago, as well as the tactics to minimize alimony. I’ll be reading the red curious divorce prep guide and the other sidebar stuff tonight and tomorrow. I want fulfillment through multiple outlets - sports both casual and competitive (I do one or the other daily), to have a body I’m really proud of (in progress), a career that balances my earnings desires with enough free time to pursue my athletic interests (currently the case), to live in …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/23 08:40 PM
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I say this with the utmost love... Lift, STFU, and Sidebar. Yes it's a lot of work. All your answers are there. Nothing worth doing in life is easy.
/r/askMRP17/08/23 02:59 PM
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Ohhhh, this is good. Thanks dude, that just clicked again. Edit - I just made a list of like 20 things I get to do expanding this to my relationships, work, friend making process, all sorts of stuff and I realized this attitude will make it SO much easier to be cocky-funny because it is just a game now. Thank you for helping me realize that, really.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/23 12:20 PM
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Thanks Wolf, this is a thoughtful perspective. I appreciate it and agree with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/23 01:56 AM
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I was so mad thinking about this and my map and everything today that my chest physically hurt, so I’m pretty well on this same page now. Zero percent chance of having a kid with her unless there’s serious, consistent behavior change BEFORE a conversation happens. Otherwise this is dead in the water and it’s just a matter of time.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/23 01:51 AM
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Ok, I get that - our finances are separate and we’re renting, so separation wouldn’t be difficult, I’ll read up on the sidebar stuff on this too, but I don’t know when to ‘pull this card’ if you get what I mean. There’s a ton more I can do on the attractiveness side of things before I get anywhere close to a FMFU situation, but I’ll prep for it anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/23 06:16 PM
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Well I initiated just before I read your comment and got shot down. So here's to trying.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 11:32 PM
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She was an absolute nymphomaniac when we met, bondage, choking, etc, and I've bedded plenty of women, so it's not like I don't have some context. But that said, it doesn't make any sense to duck out of this without giving it a chance given the work I'm doing. The stay plan is the same as the go plan, and I don't need to blow up my life yet. I'd be plenty happy with her if she acted the way she did at the beginning of our relationship - I'm just owning the fact that I've been unattractive as heck…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 09:56 PM
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When I can clearly see that my main desire is for her to be receptive instead of getting my rocks off, it's hard to see past that. Of course I want to fuck her, but that isn't where that initiation would have come from. It would have come from neediness. I haven't wanted to get myself off either, just mega low libido these last few weeks as I understand the 'why' behind what's been my 'what' for so long.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 09:46 PM
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Condoms all the time. Been that way for a while since I got her off the pill a few years ago. That shit is absolute poison for women. The frequency of sex changed a lot around that time, makes me wonder how much it was fucking with her hormones. Hard to know.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 09:38 PM
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Thanks for your perspective here dude. Definitely not getting her pregnant at this time. Zero chance. Action over all as you said, and the goal is sub-200 ASAP. What actual actions would constitute putting divorce first in this context?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 09:00 PM
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OYS 16 Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 231.25 lbs (didn't get to a scale at a light time, was traveling all week). Wife is 35, married 1/2 year, together for two years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550, trail half marathon 2:10:31 Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG 50%, Praxeology x1.5, Dread, MMSLP 54%, Rational Male, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency 25%, New - The Easy Peasy Method - campy book about quitting porn, but I'll be damned if it didn't change how I viewed it. Relationshi…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 04:40 PM
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I finished easy peasy and really liked it, great perspective and mindset to adopt to be a non-user, not an ex-user. Very powerful shift in view. Thanks a ton *digital fistbump*
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 03:36 PM
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Appreciate the rec dude. I’ll check it out!
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/23 10:52 PM
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This is a valuable perspective on top of what Tines said, thanks man. Even as I sit here replying to this and agreeing with you, I’m feeling some kind of tug away from going sober that I can’t explain. I’m not really clear on how it serves me but I feel an attachment to it. It shouldn’t take convincing for me to do the right thing for myself. That said… If you want a different result than what you’ve gotten, you gotta do something you’ve never done. And instead of saying what I’m gonna do and ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/23 01:12 PM
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Thanks a lot Tines, I appreciate your insight here. Never heard of psycho cybernetics but I’ll give it a rip, visualization has always helped in my sports career and in sales.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/23 01:02 PM
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Appreciate it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/23 03:32 AM
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I know theoretically it’s not a competition, I’ve read plenty of the advanced stuff about ‘throwing out the scoreboard’ and all, but that isn’t where I am. I’m just glad to not be representing like a piece of shit in front of the home crowd. The goal’s to be where you described. Re:validation - conscious exposure therapy and noticing the motivations behind any initiations of sex, conversation, or any engagement. Basically querying anything I do around her and asking myself the question ‘am I doi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/23 03:28 AM
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Appreciate the rec, I’ll give them a try, I already floss at night, may start twice a day or more.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 10:03 PM
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OYS 15 Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, EDIT - 224.25 lbs. Wife is 35, married 1/2 year, together for two years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550 Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG 50%, Praxeology x1.5, Dread, MMSLP 54%, Rational Male, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency 25% - Learned Negative Inquiry from WISNIFG and applied it this week - super useful. Relationship - I've been pouring on the STFU this week and it's amazing how often conversation happens without me starting it (aka seek…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 07:23 PM
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Great thing to internalize this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/23 11:08 PM
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https://postimg.cc/gallery/qMjHDCD 252 on March 11, 225 a few days ago. Lots more to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/23 08:58 PM
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OYS 14 Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 225.6 lbs. Wife is 35, married 1/2 year, together for two years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550, can do 1 armed pushups. Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG 45%, Praxeology x1.5, Dread, MMSLP 54%, Rational Male, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency 25% - Moved forward with WISNIFG and got the download on Broken Record, will continue to churn through that book. Dense, but good. Relationship - Just got home from a 3 week sports team travel, and the d…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/23 08:55 PM
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And all sorts of unattractive behaviors I’m unwinding that drag it down. I have no trouble getting laid on the open market, so the unattractiveness over a long term is likely the larger issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/23 06:41 PM
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I’ve got love handles and my bottom 4 abs aren’t visible under a bit of a gut. I’m very muscular, but I could be a LOT leaner, kind of a buff dad bod type shape right now. Probably 20%+ BF with 180 lbs of lean mass.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/23 06:40 PM
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Thanks a lot for this. Back to the grindstone for now.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/23 01:41 AM
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I really appreciate this perspective. I know I’m not in a position to truly make that call yet for the reasons you mentioned. The worst thing would be to dump her, get in another relationship, and end up in exactly the same situation three years from now. My foot and the pedal are firmly planted on the floor.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/23 12:44 AM
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We got married after a year and a half to clarify, but yeah, I had some pretty solid reasons that continue to be true - I can walk through them if you want. I want to start a family sooner than later, so her age wasn’t that big a factor for me at the time, and frankly still isn’t. What I’ve realized through this process though, is that I picked someone who was a good fit for enabling the nice guy tendencies I learned as a child, and that my need for validation and current lack of objective SMV a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/23 02:10 PM
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Better yet, you’re totally right. I let some literal nobody bruise my ego on the internet and got snarky. Need to shelve that shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/23 08:33 PM
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To clarify, 90% of the amount of commission earned is going to savings, and that’s currently less than the salary as of now. Grinding to increase that. Will definitely be hiring a maid when it’s feasible. I appreciate your perspective on value and its various sources, as well as my reply choices.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/23 08:15 PM
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OYS 13 Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 225.2 lbs. Wife is 35, married 1/2 year, together for two years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550 Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG 40%, Praxeology x1.5, Dread, MMSLP 54%, Rational Male, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency 25% - Haven't progressed reading much in the past few weeks, I've been focused on action instead of learning. I 'know' so much already, application needs to happen before I keep getting dopamine with 'new knowledge' and not appl…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/23 06:29 PM
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Appreciate the advice - I’d not thought of tracking it as a 7 day running average on a spreadsheet - that’s a good idea and I’ll put that together when I get back from this competition trip. I started at 254 in March, so progress has been good so far. I’m almost done with these comps, so more consistency will be simple when I’m spending more time in my home location.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/23 08:20 PM
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Roger that.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/23 04:08 PM
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Yeah, sex twice a month is my complaint. So effectively a DB. MRP has opened my eyes to that likely being entirely my fault. Diet is whole food animal based as much as possible - low carb and very clean and consistent when I'm home and can meal prep for a proper deficit, but catch-as-catch-can when I'm traveling and having free meals provided to me by my sports team.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/23 01:43 PM
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OYS 12 Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 228? lbs. Wife is 35, married 1/2 year, together for two years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550 Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG 40%, Praxeology x1.5, Dread, MMSLP 54%, RationalMale, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency 25% Relationship - left for a trip on Thursday last week, and have hardly spoken with the wife - 2/3 rule with texting and talking. I’ll probably call her first tomorrow - she’s been initiating a lot of contact. Generally I’ve jus…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/23 03:56 AM
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For fun, I’ll check back in 4 weeks to see if you’ve deleted your account.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/23 03:37 AM
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Lol I’ll let you know when I’m desperate
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/23 06:34 PM
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You joined Reddit on July 6 and haven’t posted a single OYS, but you seem happy to comment sophomoric, inactionable, and useless bullshit on others’ work. Reconsider.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/23 05:22 PM
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Thanks reply guy, you really added a lot of value here.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/23 05:14 PM
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Your weight can fluctuate a lot with water and salt intake. I can go down and up 10 lbs in a day losing water on a long trail run followed by a big meal. Weigh yourself at the same time in the same conditions to get the best trend, like in the morning when you wake up.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/23 06:36 PM
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OYS 11 The more I learn, the farther behind I feel. Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 229.5 lbs. Wife is 35, married 1/2 year, together for two years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550 Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG 40%, Praxeology x1.5, Dread, MMSLP 54%, RationalMale, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, The New Codependency 25% Relationship - Got laid once this month, which gave me an excellent opportunity to practice STFU and stay the course on improving myself. It pisses me off that she gives more physi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/23 03:47 AM
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Nope, just me hamstering
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 04:09 AM
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OYS 10 Recognizing the motivation behind behaviors Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 226 lbs. Wife is 35, married 1/2 year, together for two years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550 Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG 40%, Praxeology x1.5, Dread, MMSLP 54%, Rational Male, Mystery Method, Models, Alpha Moves 33%, starting WOTSM Relationship - STFU-ing a lot more, not speaking when I don't feel like I have something to add, not speaking to fill the silence. Not initiating sex out of need for validation, initiating bec…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 12:16 AM
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I’m getting the trend - STFU more. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/23 01:25 PM
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You’re probably right.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 05:27 PM
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I had touched 229 on 4/8, just before my first OYS after a 4 day salt water fast and walking for 7 hours (not an effective weight loss method long term), but quickly rebounded back to 235 a few days later. I’ve logged my weight 22 times since march, when I weighed 252 on 3/11. What has worked for me in this process is the mental model of being vs becoming from Think and grow rich - you’ve gotta be the person who is lean (behave like that person) before you get the results of those behaviors (bei…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 04:29 PM
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My typical workout is to walk from my house to the top of a nearby mountain 3 miles and 2250 vertical feet away, usually in about an hour, heart rate 150-175, and then take the gondola down. Then I’ll go do a maintenance lift later in the day or a mtn bike ride or a peloton ride for an hour, and then another 4-5 mile run. It’s a similar volume of work to when I was an elite rower, and I used to track cals much more closely so I know this to be fairly accurate. I also have a standing desk so not …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 04:22 PM
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Reddit glitching - replying with the rest of mine Relationship - recognized two shit tests this week and thought another one was which was actually just a valid criticism. Failed the first one by taking all the screaming and insanity personally and letting it make me ‘feel mistreated.’ Should have fogged and used negative inquiry, it would have diffused the issue completely. Attempted to use AA on the second one, it came out kind of awkward and weird, but it stopped the build so call it a net ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 02:07 PM
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OYS 9 Starting to see things for what they are Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 229 lbs. Wife is 35, married 1/2 year, together for two years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550 Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG 40%, Praxeology, Dread, MMSLP 60%, Rational Male, Mystery Method, Models, starting Sex God Method (I like to read a few books at a time, works best for me) Rest of OYS is replied, Reddit glitching for some reason, won’t let me reply as a single comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 02:06 PM
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Roger, STFUing more seems like the call. That’s exactly the conclusion I’ve come to, and I’ve got a lot of growing to do to get there, but I’m in it for the long haul because that’s the kind of man I want to be anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/23 11:39 PM
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Don’t really feel like DEERing to this, so I’ll take it as an opportunity to discuss my current mindset - thanks for the prompt. The failings of the relationship are my responsibility and her behavior holds a mirror to how lazy I’ve been in making myself into a full package attractive man. It’s useful to be here right now and keep the sparring partner I married before I discovered MRP and use this relationship to develop frame. I’m resolved that the marriage as it was before getting into this pa…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/23 11:36 PM
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Yeah, you’re right, there is a lot of ‘she’ in here, will correct that on the next OYS. Becoming a lot more conscious of DEERing and using fogging and negative inquiry a lot, only taking responsibility for things that are actually my responsibility. I’m at the beginning stages of using AA and AM effectively for the precious few shit tests I get. Pretty decent in the STFU department, texting is 90% for logistics whereas I used to send memes and all sorts of shit to her at all hours of the day. St…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/23 09:08 PM
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OYS 8 Big focus this week - career Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 235. Wife is 35, married 1/2 year, together for two years. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550 Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG 40%, Praxeology, Dread, MMSLP 50%, Rational Male, Mystery Method, Models, starting Sex God Method (I like to read a few books at a time, works best for me) Relationship - been working on being the oak this week, just trying to be unaffected by emotions, both mine and hers, and staying focused on what I want. Haven’t reall…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/23 09:46 PM
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Good question, validation seeking behavior I see now. Thanks for the catch.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/23 08:10 PM
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OYS 7 Progress Stats - 28yo, 6’1”, 234 (down 4 lbs since I got home from travel 10 days ago). Wife is 35, married 1/2 year, together for two years. My pre-marriage body count 20+. Lifts - BN 285, Sq - 450, DL - 550 Reading - NMMNG x2, WISNIFG 40%, Praxeology, Dread, MMSLP 50%, Rational Male (all three), Mystery Method, Models Relationship - unlike the prior 14+ days, I got laid twice this past week, both times where my initiation, and were not in ovulation week - this hasn’t happened in a long t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/23 03:10 AM
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OYS 6 New pursuits! Stats - 28, 6’1, 235 20-25% BF, married <1 yr, wife is 35, been together 2.5 years Lifts - Bench 285, Squat 450, DL 550 Reading - MMSLP 38%, NMMNG x2, WISNIFG 40%, Praxeology/frame, Dread, Fuccfiles, Rational Male (all three), Mystery Method, Models Career - Job is going great, starting to take leads this week, and that should really start to accelerate for me. Social - Met up with two new guys on the mountain bike trails this week and got their info - they seem cool, so this…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 05:06 AM
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I think a constantly revised list of short term goals that are stepping stones to these larger aspirations is more actionable, but by the time you define all that it’s a lot longer than a ‘mission statement’. So it would look something like - to spend more time gym climbing and building grip strength and endurance to make myself a better ice climber So - I can climb a very difficult ice climbing route As - Part of a life of adventure I’ll probably just drop ‘mission statement’ from my next OYS a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/23 06:10 PM
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I’m inclined to agree with this take, but the most I’d tighten up my mission to would be something like ‘To live a life of adventure, shared with people who make it better, pursuing new experiences, and increasing my competence as I work toward my goals.’ But that just doesn’t seem that actionable if that makes sense? It just seems too ‘macro’ but maybe that’s a faulty viewpoint. Open to criticism here
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/23 11:48 AM
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OYS 5 Out on vacation, limited service - shorter than usual Reading - MMSLP 50%, NMMNG x 2, WISNIFG - 30%, Frame, Dread, ass loads of articles. Stats - 28, W35 and probably an SMV point above me, married 8 months, been together 2.5 years. Cohabitating <1 year. Physical - 6’1, 235 very muscular, but overweight for what I should be, lifts are 285 bench, 475 squat, 550 deadlift. Lost 20 lbs over two months before going on vacation - getting back on program when I get back. Relationship - she only w…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/23 02:13 AM
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OYS 4 Stats - 6’1”, 28M, 234 lbs, Lifts - bench 285, squat 515, deadlift 550 Reading - WISNIFG -40%, NMMNG x2, MMSLP 50%, Rian Stones books, Dread by BPP, Rational Male (all three) Career - impressed the hell out of my boss during onboarding when I finished what he thought would be a multi-day project in a few concentrated work hours. My goal was to set the tone high and now keep it there. Relationship - much the same as last week, but I’m using fogging fairly effectively now and am learning to …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/23 02:51 PM
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You make a good point about it not being a question. I resonated a lot with the chapter on ‘smart guys’ in rain’s new book - I’ve been entitled a lot of my life. Thanks for the input on timing, that’s worth paying attention to. For my interests, I’m joining a local amateur rugby team and spending more time in Jiu jitsu. For the dad jokes, I’ll need to think on if that’s ‘my’ thing or if it’s just a ‘dancing monkey’ behavior to get attention. I’ll think on that. Appreciate the feedback to get me …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/23 02:36 PM
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OYS 3 Reading - NMMNG, WISNIFG 50%, MMSLP 40%, Frame by Rian, Dread by BluePillProf, Rational Male all three of them Lifts - squat - 500, bench 285, deadlift 550 (former strongman) Stats - 6’1” 235, about 22% BF, down from 255 about a month and a half ago. Still trending down. Age 28, wife 35, married 5 months. Career - still starting the new role, but killing onboarding. Just need to stay consistent, show up every day, and do what I say I’m going to do. Relationship - same as last time - sex is…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 02:26 PM
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Thanks for your honest feedback and pointing these things out.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 01:30 AM
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Thanks you for your input. I’ll implement this immediately.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/23 12:31 AM
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OYS 2 Building a frame Reading - NMMNG, WISNIFG 50%, MMSLP 40%, Frame by Rian, Dread by BluePillProf Lifts - Squat 225 x 20 today, Bench 285 x1, Deadlift 550 Stats - age 28, 6’1” 238, wife 35, married 5 months, met - year and a half ago, whirlwind airport erotica romance, loads of sex, got married, now in the doldrums (my fault) with sex weekly at most. Career - I’d been a nomad doing ‘fun jobs’ since the start of Covid - was in finance before this. I’ve started a sales position with a good sala…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/23 08:24 PM
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Honestly, great question and the answer is that I thought I had it all figured out for how to keep attraction and I thought I was better than I was, and I’m learning quickly that I’m not. Secondly, I want to start a family soon. I know that can be done outside of marriage, but I’m young, stupid and idealistic and I didn’t want my kids to be bastards. I know all the downsides of marriage, and I did it anyway after getting a solid prenup. I think partially I did it because I knew it would force me…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/23 05:56 AM
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OYS #1: Starting Early STATS Me: 28yo, 6’ 1”, 229lb, Squat (haven’t maxed in a while due to a hip issue) 450, Bench - 285, Deadlift - 550, bodycount pre-wife 20+ Relationship: wife is 35, married 4 months, no kids, no plan to try for another 6-7 months Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG (currently reading), using Rian Stone’s sidebar series on youtube as audiobooks to help comprehension SUMMARY: I’m a drunk captain who talks a big game and hasn’t brought home the bacon, constantly talking about what I’m go…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/23 11:15 PM
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OYS #1: Starting Early STATS Me: 28yo, 6’ 1”, Ivy league degree, 229lb, Squat (haven’t maxed in a while due to a hip issue) 450, Bench - 285, Deadlift - 550, bodycount pre-wife 20+, most after college when I started to learn game Relationship: wife is 35 and very smart, married 4 months, no kids, no plan to try for at least another 6-7 months Reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG (currently reading), Saving a Low Sex Marriage: guide to dread by BluePillProfessor, using Rian Stone’s sidebar series on youtube a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/23 03:21 AM
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