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This exactly. The only thing I’d add is get all your financial info and your cell phone records together while at work. I only got 50% of everything because I could prove her affair during meditation. Otherwise, I’d lose the house and kids.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 12:55 AM
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I work from home too. It sucks waiting around and being constantly reminded of the betrayal. All good advice above. Get out and stay busy. Physical activity helps. Make a plan to ween yourself off antidepressants. The gym will do wonders
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 01:51 PM
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This. Exactly.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 01:36 PM
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If she won’t do mediation and file together, you’ll need a lawyer. Don’t go to actual court w/o a lawyer if she’s represented herself. If she has a lawyer, she’s already signed a retainer with them, so she’s already on the hook. If you see a settlement proposal, pay a lawyer to review it with you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 01:46 AM
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Of course
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 07:03 PM
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We did almost the same thing too. I agree with earlier comments, don’t move out. Divorce as fast as you can (try to settle out of court), talk to the kids when it’s final and the custody is ironed out.
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/26 05:39 AM
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We had a similar moment too. She’d been seeing guys on the DL for a while. She just wanted to cut all ties. We actually decided in mediation how we’d split the tax deductions in mediation. Don’t get caught up in the drama during mediation. Try to be focused on the future with your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 01:30 PM
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You should file before discussing divorce. At least talk to a family law center in your area to understand the steps
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 04:58 PM
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Oh man, I’m sorry. You need to keep your cool for lots of reasons. What you’re going through isn’t unique. The wives find another guy early before we’re even aware. Get into counseling. Try to get her to go to couples therapy, but at the least - you need to go yourself. Don’t drink, don’t threaten anyone, start getting your finances in order. You may not have been married long enough for everything to be community property- depending on which state you live in. Try to not dwell on the affair, if…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 04:54 PM
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Bummer. I hope she doesn’t force her way into your space! For us, she’s a little more secure than I am. I can pay my own mortgage, but I’ll also retire around 65. We like the extra space too, we both have 3 adult kids that are often around. We can escape most of the time to each other’s houses
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 04:09 PM
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This is exactly the situation I (57m) have now. Dating, but living apart- with separate finances. She’s (52f) well off financially, but we enjoy the extra space to be ourselves. We probably sleep over 4-5 times I week- which works for us.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 03:24 PM
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Be sure not to move out. Let her find another place to crash.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 02:00 PM
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Same here. Mine met this whole tribe of divorced bitches that act like Sex and the City. I can already see she’s regretting divorce. Too late, as much as I miss her ( or what I thought was her ), I don’t miss the drama and financial stress.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 04:02 PM
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If you find yourself in hell keep moving
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 01:47 PM
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Exactly
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 06:03 AM
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Amicable usually means a no-fault, non-contested divorce. The divorce is happening, they just chose to be civil.
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/26 12:31 AM
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Depending on your state of residence, you’ll be on the hook for alimony, especially if she’s not working. I would guard your credit accounts now, and up until you file. If there’s some way she can work before you split, it’ll make her transition easier
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/26 07:44 PM
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I would say to start documenting first. Make sure you understand your assets and debts. You’ll need that to file. Even your lawyer will want to see this immediately. Plus, think through (and research custody of the 14 year old. Don’t move out of your home. Present something fair to her.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/26 05:00 PM
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Tell the kids right after the school year ends. Give them the summer to adjust before school starts again in the Fall. If you guys coparent well over the summer, model adult behavior and they’ll have the best adjustment you can pull off
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/26 09:24 PM
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My ex often lamented taking my name when we married. She always used a hyphenated version while we were married (20 years). She filed for name change almost immediately
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/26 09:21 PM
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If your child is young, you can rebound. A financial hole is just temporary. Protect yourself in the divorce and start over. If your child is young enough, you’ll be able to send them to college. But focus on yourself and forgive the ex as other posters have said
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/26 06:10 PM
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This is my situation exactly. When she brought it up, I was ready financially and legally. She asked for a separation and I upped the ante by filing. I know she was stunned by how much I knew about her real motives and was especially stunned when she found I’d already separated our finances.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/26 03:41 PM
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That sucks. If it’s too late for marriage counseling, be sure to get help for yourself. Try to stay busy and just do the things now that you regret not doing. If you can’t turn things around with her, be more ready for the next one.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/26 08:46 PM
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It gets better. Don’t dwell on her and focus on yourself. Lean into your new life and shut the doors behind you.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/26 04:10 PM
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I’m a few months in and it’s a rollercoaster for sure. I try to lean into the pain when it hits. I can feel it getting better. Own it, don’t ignore it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/26 03:34 PM
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In my case, I got great advice early-I pretty much all our credit accounts are in my name, but she has a card for each with her name on them. I reported our cards lost and got new ones - I just shredded the ones in her name. I paid off the balances and she couldn’t rack up anything on me in separation. When she went into her whore phase, she was limited to the one account in her own name. I lost half our home equity and savings, but without any real debt it made rebounding much easier. We split …
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/26 04:34 PM
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This is tough. Early menopause may be hitting her hard. I’d watch this closely, the IUD implies she may be moving on. Just ask her.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/26 05:10 PM
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Probably not. If we ever get back together, we’ll live separately and keep separate finances
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/26 12:42 PM
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No. Bad idea. Do something for yourself on V Day
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 11:59 PM
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As some have suggested, consistent action helps. For me, we’re just separated now but divorce is coming by years end. I’m about six months into separation and started making simple changes thinking she’d notice-but I realized these changes are for me. I work out more, study for my career and still devote time to my kids. I also miss her family too, but she’s really poisoned them for me. I’ve also found Stoicism helps frame my thoughts. I can feel myself getting better.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 07:27 PM
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