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I think if I found a dominant but consistent, down to earth woman I'd be super capable taking a backseat. It's just easier to say the majority want a submissive woman because that's got mass market appeal. It's easier to find a guy who wants to drive than be a passenger princess. Letting an emotional, easily influenced person direct a relationship is a recipe for disaster. It's just really rare to find a dominant woman that also has an attractive personality. Yang is hard, unyielding and bright …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 05:01 AM
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No criticism to share. Absolutely well written well cited concise but expansive. I actually learned something! I maybe had some external bias regarding incels and violence but under a microscope wow. Interesting. Thanks for taking the time to write this up. It really helps even the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 05:20 AM
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potentially right - I'm not really an insecure person day to day. I'd just like to not give a shit about my partners history because mine is practically multicolored. I just want someone that levels with me and owns prior behavior and says lets make something real. I find making someone wait/pay for something you gave away for free/immediately is disingenuous, especially if your trying to build something with permanence with them. Thanks for helping clarify!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 01:06 AM
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True Given your above example, you ask her out on Friday after work. You take her to a nice bar nearby that serves counter meals, have a couple of lemon lime & bitters and a schnitty and chat for hours. She begs off coming back to yours claiming it's too soon. She's cheeky with the comment, you kiss and she puts her hand on your chest but then pushes you away. Do you/I have a right to feel like there's a disparity between outcomes taking context into account? I would not be interested in continu…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 12:53 AM
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So in your mind my expectations are fine, just keep dating till the chips fall in my horny favour?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 12:12 AM
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Then we can’t agree on anything. Let’s just agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 12:01 AM
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If you replace bringing two objects together with PIV then yeah, the stronger the attraction the sooner the PIV. It’s on the tin haha. I’d love to know what causes sex to occur quickly or not. it seems to be a fugazi. Nobody can know it’s just in our hearts. Do you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 11:55 PM
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Include all factors that you think don’t fall into “attractiveness” then just include them. Because I’m not talking about how we look when using the words sexual attraction. That term encompasses the whole thing and realistically is irrelevant. I don’t care what the deciding factor is only that I have it right? I’m not looking for a magic bullet that will have women putting out on first dates all the time - I’m looking to challenge a stance and understand how the other half think. Men just agree…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 11:51 PM
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You incorrectly assumed some insecurity stance about bigger dicks and picturing sex with other men instead of understanding that speed to sex is indicative of sexual attraction I’m expected to expend more energy (see dates) for (based on your examples), an older less adventurous woman and just accept it because that means I’m not insecure and I understand they learned from being taken advantage of when younger. The alternative is I find an empathetic promiscuous woman that is a slut for me, lett…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:56 PM
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Attraction is defined as a force bringing two objects together. I mean cmon.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:45 PM
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Appreciate the response. The last paragraph quoted was actually me justifying being in relationships with unsuitable partners. I kinda can’t ask on a first date when they fucked their previous dates (just whip out a calendar). I’m trying to fix this because I’ve had to leave after having started committed relationships and then discovering we are incompatible through various situations; typically discovering information I had no intention of asking about post-commitment offered willingly by the …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:43 PM
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Fair enough. Would you agree with the statement: it’s “a bitter pill to swallow” in the context a partner was made to wait for sex when previously others were not?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:29 PM
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In the example given it’s the same woman. You’re basically reinforcing that at any moment a woman can decide to see you as equally or more attractive as x, but treat you worse purely because ? It makes no sense. Can you make it make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:25 PM
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If you have nothing of value to add, why are you commenting. You give misandrist vibes. “Get over it”. Get over yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:20 PM
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What? You think this only happens with alcohol?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:17 PM
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I’m discussing the emotions relating to a logical stance. I can say hey this is how I feel about x. I’m waiting for someone to say this is how I felt about z. I see logic in saying “you had sex with john after one date, he must be super attractive to you” “you had sex with brad after 3 dates, he must be less attractive than john”. Lots of ad hominem directed at minimising my feelings rather than maybe speaking from experience. I did finally get someone’s lived experience after 10+ comments but i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:15 PM
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I mean the hope is that when we meet, those plans become less important than exploring our connection. Not 100% of the time. Only if previously they have prioritised sex on a day one occasion. I’m not expecting Jenny who goes to church to cancel plans with mum to suck my dick like, but if Becky was giving them out in senior year then drop the bread basket off another day girl, make me feel special. I know it’s only hurting me but I’m not doing too badly. There’s an excessive amount of women look…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:11 PM
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I’m picturing how I’m getting the same or worse outcome (older etc) with more effort (energy, cost, time) and drawing conclusions about my own sexual value to the other party. I just want to be a priority, sexually to my future partner. It’s something I’m looking for, a healthy sexual dynamic. I don’t want to earn it if others didn’t have to. I want to be treated at least fairly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:05 PM
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If someone has sex with everyone they meet once they fuck millions. If someone has sex with everyone they meet 5 times the number drops exponentially. Bad faith and totally missing the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:03 PM
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You gave an irrelevant analogy. Drawing parallels between wait times at a business and sexual outcomes in dating didn’t even deserve a breakdown. I recently was in a drive through and 4 cars went by through the other lane whilst I was waiting for someone to answer my lane. I got an apology and a comped meal because I’m a regular and I was pissed about it. Nobody said dating is step by step. I’m just going on a limb and saying if you have a connection with someone and are willing to fuck them on …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 02:00 PM
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Yeah I suppose if I look at it objectively at least I have a strong frame, believe in abundance and such. I just mean if I was Chad 3000 I wonder if I would give a shit; If I had unlimited resources would I still want monogamy? Probably. Hmm thanks. More food for thought!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 01:55 PM
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I mean ideally shes not promiscuous and this isn't an issue at all but I'm dating in early 30's. It's not common to find. I'm also hyper aware of peoples body language and reading between the lines so I don't typically need to ask questions directly to know the answer. I agree; there are other measurements you can use. I've only selected this goalkeeper as it's the one I've personally had relationships collapse over & I daresay it's less negotiable than the examples you gave. I don't mind being …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 11:03 AM
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That's a fair position to hold however in my opinion, you treated #1 well and the other #2 well and now are asking for future partners to accept some kind of show ring to access an aged version of you. If I was to date you I'd definitely hope our connection was good enough to end up back at yours/mine or we would be incompatible. Do you feel like the chemistry you had with man #1 and #2 was better than other people you have dated?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:54 AM
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You realize you are referring to promiscuous women as having poor morals here?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:48 AM
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One of my most recent partners was exactly this - however it was a setup via work through a room-mate and she must have warned the girl prior! I was gobsmacked to be led upstairs after a nice date -> unfortunately didn't work out for other reasons. I have read many articles where women think having sex on the first date automatically paints her non-worthy as an LTR. Thing is I’ve read comments from women about first dates where they admit there is a desire to engage in at least some sort of sexu…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:47 AM
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Otherwise, what’s the logical explanations for thinking women shouldn’t sleep around? This is NOT the issue. I cry foul when women who sleep around come dating then role play as holier than thou. I dislike the idea of my future partner giving better sexual outcomes to randoms, then presenting someone who doesn't give it away for free. If you are promiscuous then why can't you be promiscuous for me. I’m not against the people who are honest and say it just makes them insecure, that’s perfectly va…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:09 AM
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Bad faith - this only reflects poorly on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:02 AM
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How many dates has she had net total? How many partners? How many people has she slept with? If her first ever second date ended in a romantic escapade and then she has never dated till me, sure, that's easily overcome. That's a low body count high value woman who has learnt from her experience, and I'd say in that circumstance I'd apply intellect and nuance. If she was unwilling to explore her sexuality with me in other ways however, straight to the bin. I'd want to be feeling very sexually pri…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 10:01 AM
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Nobody has even offered an explanation or rebuttal that amounts to anything other than "your wrong". Calling someone insecure or entitled is just ad hominem bullshit. explain the actions of the person/s involved, dive into the psychology. Give me something with substance. This is why I've been asking the same questions over and over again hoping someone from the blue pill has tenacity.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 09:29 AM
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I mean is it degenerate if you are doing it with a degenerate? I feel like you are misrepresenting my position with this comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 09:26 AM
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I'm not sure your gender; I think the woman dictates the terms. If she's a degenerate I'm so down. If she's not; happy to wait. The only occasion this is an issue is if she's been down to degenerate previously but holds out on me because I'm "Dating Material". Don't lie to me through action. Do you have a valid argument to refute my stance or justify why someone should accept someone like this? How does someone value a partner who made them jump through hoops before becoming physical but didn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 09:21 AM
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How forward or affectionate he is, how safe and relaxed he can easily make the woman feel, how early logistics are set up to make sex more likely to feel convenient to “just happen”. You don't think that this relates to sexual compatibility? I think the best IOI in early dating is how agreeable and engaged she acts towards you in general. Strongly disagree. Most if not all dates have high levels of agreeableness and they are typically engaged. High earner in sales, so I know how to hold a conver…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 09:14 AM
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Is it indicative of your sexual attraction to them? If I was judging how someone felt towards me sexually would time to fuck be a fair IOI?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:08 AM
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This isn’t about forcing a woman to have sex though; this is about my reaction to it. You can choose to treat one friend like gold and another like dirt. Do you think it’s fair? Those friends have a choice on how to interpret, on how to react. Entitlement has nothing to do with this. I don’t feel entitled to it!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 07:05 AM
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I find it disingenuous to pretend to be not promiscuous when dating but to be a casual sex loving woman when drinking with the girls. Why can’t I get that version of you? You want to spend or build a life together. Kills me. But then how do I communicate this in a first date - the answer is you can’t!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:55 AM
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Thanks. I’m using others words like insecurity to head off arguments or I spose’ because I’ve been told these things before. I’m happy to hear that others agree with me. For me it’s not really about the quality of the sex - moreso just wanting to be treated fairly. If she made everyone wait 3 dates then sign me up! I’m not worried. I’d be happy and have happily waited. It’s just retroactively at least in my experience the couple of women I’ve dated that I’ve then gone on to seperate from because…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:43 AM
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Yeah. I had a date where the lady asked me how much I earned (sales) so I felt justified asking about her sexual history. She took it in stride we had great chemistry but I found out she had obviously had a couple of one nighters. I asked what she was doing after - the old wanna come back to mine but she cited she was busy. I wrote her off. She wrote back to me asking why I didn’t follow up with her for #2 date and I was sad like that it didn’t go anywhere but also justified in my stance.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:22 AM
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Everyone is insecure to a degree. Call it living on a burning rock flying through space being affected by entropy. I just would like to know if it’s invalid - form a justified stance rather than an emotional one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:20 AM
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I think I just want my next relationship to be sexual. Make sex a priority. The ex of 6.5y pulled the asexual card basically, gave hall passes and then built up resentment so I think it’s just a natural reflex to my lived experience. But I also know it’s kinda unfair so I’m trying to hear the other sides arguments. Thanks for sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 06:19 AM
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Does anyone have an argument against expecting to be treated sexually as good or better than "her" previous partners. I don't care how many bodies she has (within reason, I'm not looking for that lass that pumped 1000' in 24 hours) but I do care about being made to jump through hoops if other's had easier access. I've walked out on a 6 month long relationship after learning she made me wait. Friends of hers were over telling stories having a laugh. I don't regret the relationship at all had a gr…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 01:39 AM
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Only a Sith deals in absolutes
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 01:59 AM
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So you fall in love with strangers all the time? Nope. I don't have sex with strangers. I do have love for some of my sexual partners however. Does the length of a relationship dictate if love is justified? Are you against polyamory? can you not love more than one person at a time? Are you aware that’s rarely the case and most women rate hookups as unsatisfactory? Who said that I was experiencing hookups. I've had less one night stands than I could count on one hand but many hands more partners.…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 02:47 PM
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It’s similar to hearing men say “I NEED SEX”. Because it suggests more urgency and gives more of a sense of entitlement than “I WANT SEX”. Guys want sex, but for some reason, we’re pretending it has anything to do with love There are different types of love. I don’t want to fuck my dad but I love him. I don’t want to fuck my coffee machine but I love it. It’s disingenuous to suggest romantic love is seperate to love, or that casual sex can’t be representative of love. I loved a lot of my sexual …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:26 PM
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I’m just being facetious with that prior excerpt haha. Have a nice day
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:53 PM
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You were not op and you refuted my statement by implying only lesbians have personalities and then stumbled over a number of logical fallacies. I’d enjoy discussing it with you without feelings, because I’m genuinely trying to develop more blue pill sensibilities but it’s useless if your argument is “just because” (heteronormative) (I’m Yang therefore yin =bad) etc. having the market cornered is irrelevant. Who said I’m heterosexual or stereotypical haha. The bias is crazy girl
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:52 PM
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Fair enough. I’m agnostic. Here’s a lovely little excerpt; 1 Timothy 2:11-14 11 A woman[a] should learn in quietness and full submission. 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man;[b] she must be quiet. Silly book but each to their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:47 PM
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Don’t religious women believe in forgiveness hahaha. I mean some are super closeted and hard nuts to crack but seriously the tighter they are wound… freaks. Yum. You are right though. Certain choices rule certain people out from relationships with certain people. I take full responsibility. I just wish some other people in this subreddit were as capable of accepting that as I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:38 PM
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There’s outliers, I’ve observed the increased value of the men (confidence/frame, prowess, motivation causing different objectives) attracts more women net net than restricting body count would. This is not the same with women. The reduction in sexually active members of both genders and the change in public opinion on non-monogamous relationships coupled with enlightened women’s sexuality is changing this even further. I think n count is at a historical low in terms of effecting value. I’ve fou…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:28 PM
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Low n men and women tend to attract eachother. High n men and women tend to attract eachother Strongly disagree. High n count men attract low and high n count women. Low n count men are DOA and must do large amounts of work to gain time in market to again build confidence which increases value reoccurring. Women just need to vet for their personal taste (10 vs 100, height, income etc) Edit: women can gatekeep relationships from low value men, but high value men disproportionately control commitm…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:17 PM
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Preach brother. Agree 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:12 PM
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You are allowed to be a well rounded entire human. If your disposition is similar to a stereotypical man you would be less attractive to the majority. You are allowed to feel however you want about it however if you are debating me try to put your personal feelings aside. I’m not attacking you by stating facts
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 06:06 AM
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I see it as yin and yang. I can’t help if you see Yang as the preferable energy, only point towards yin as an equal but opposite position. Nothing makes one worse or better merely different. Being yin doesn’t mean being less or powerless, or lacking personality. Maybe you have some bias?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 05:10 AM
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you lack imagination if you think personality is mutually exclusive with the descriptors I mentioned. The list isn't exhaustive, it's in response to a bisexual woman who is neurodivergent and aloof.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:53 AM
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It’s probably a combination of coming across as a lesbian - we can sense energy and unless you’re out here trying to convert we are typically attracted to soft, submissive, compliant and nurturing. Make sure you show men in your circle you have the capacity to accept them for who they are and there’s room in your life for them! It’s also post “patriarchy” (/s). Men are not holding doors or approaching women in public. Cameras are everywhere and there’s only a degree of difference between welcome…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 01:02 AM
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Interestingly enough nobody has touched on the true ick - the fact that those in power are respected when exercising that power with restraint & those without are respected when gaining power. This is why a loose women is not respected and a proficient man is applauded. We must slay dragons, or be born into a minuscule subset of men. The vast majority of women understand their loins have inherent value. Your sex is used to generate profit in every market on earth. Those who hold the power are no…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 11:24 PM
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You might have some bias. I’m not a huge fan of Esther Perel but the quote fits; “Affairs are less about the partner and more about the self. They are about desire: the desire to feel alive, to feel important, to feel special.” I think it’s safe to assume there’s a non significant variation above and below attractiveness between genders and cheaters. Basically I’m thinking it’s close enough to 50/50 cheating up or down that it’s negligible. Lots of people cheat for different reasons but the most…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 01:13 PM
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for sure. That whole spectrum of content gives red pill a bad name. Most of the contributors I respect, on discord and trp after quarantine don't subscribe to phyiscality as the main source of attraction. I can't tell you how many tall, fit guys struggle to even break the touch barrier. When I grab a stool so I can actually put my arm around a girl and she giggles or make a joke about climbing tree's when I was younger I'm trying to drag her into my frame. Once you have the attention it's not a …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 12:49 AM
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If you're fat 1/10 with no game you need to do something about that. Red pill isn't a magical pill that makes you a viable partner. It's sexual strategy. I've personally slept with women that had a partner many tiers above me purely because I read erotic fiction and we connected intellectually. It's not a zero sum game and dealing in absolutes won't help. That's why I mention abundance so people who are 1/10 can read, learn there is hope and better themselves to achieve good outcomes. (read: not…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 12:46 AM
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Very valid point; I was making my argument to counter the following statements: If you cannot but want to, you should be willing to do whatever it takes to get it, even selling your soul for it. That is how it is. Most women say they would not have hooked up with their husbands or boyfriends, or that their husbands are not as hot as their hookups, and that looks are not as important in relationships. They will never desire you the way they desired those men most of the time. I think casual sex m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 12:21 AM
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Yep. And statistics show they cheat down as much as they cheat up! Thinking your desirability protects you from infidelity is redonkulous. I’m all for self improvement but let’s do it for ourselves, not to jump through some arbitrary insecurity hoop.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 11:12 PM
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bruh no one would consider the frame "working" then if it doesn't stop her from jumping on another dude's dick, what's the use? If she cheats on you but you have frame she will regret and will try to stay. So it's a sign the frame worked but she's the one who fcked up. If you really have frame you don't take her back.. Why would I care if a plate jumps off the rack and breaks itself. Stop being insecure and accept reality. She’s not yours bro it’s just your turn. Stop trying to impress women. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 11:10 PM
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Frame won't save you, once she gets hit on by a dude who mogs the shit out of you Briffaults law bro. I don’t work out and earn fat stacks to become desirable. I might be desirable because I hold frame and stay consistent kicking goals, there’s a difference. Read up on abundance theory and stop sweating being “mogged”. It’s insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 11:07 PM
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Who cares if you are desirable. Most of the posts here attack women’s selection criteria as inhumane and wrong. Why base anything on something you know is wrong haha I like to measure myself on outcomes. I’m really undesirable but thank god women sleep with men that make them FEEL things. A strong frame can overcome a shit face or height limitation for sure. There’s heaps of finer points but you get the drift
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 12:47 PM
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Sexual strategy doesn’t rely on demographics to function
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 12:10 AM
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I don't agree with the examples given. Red pill doesn't claim women's standards are bullshit. It just observes their standards and gives men ways of achieving their goals via either exceeding or denegating passively. I don't think looks matter either. Look into abundance theory and don't over-exaggerate AWALT. not all red pill content is fear mongering looksmaxxing bs. Read older content. Spinning plates was always a possibility, but men are free to choose to prioritize monogamy. Some of my favo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 01:19 AM
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I'm not just speaking to you brother. Other people read these posts!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/26 01:04 AM
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I can't speak on women's views but I can speak on male role models A lot of it is based on the algorithm. There are locations where good information is available but only the top %'s of men in self development will find the discord or reach out to the real RP content. I've done a lot of READING. Most men these days want to flick on Youtube and watch something - BRRRRT. Those channels appear in your search or suggested because they used marketing; stuff that gets eyes or clicks. That stuff detrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 11:25 PM
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I was agreeing with your premise, just not the way you framed it. You ever get sick of the his vs her? I personally don’t date women with high body counts or children for a totally different reason than you referenced above. Crazy how on one post you say we should not know the bodies or history of the women we date but then get angry on this post in an example that we don’t vet the TYPE of people she may have slept with or been attracted to. I don’t think either gender should be judging people b…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 12:44 AM
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I don't understand why people even vet for this stuff. She's not yours, it's just your turn. You could have the most sexually repressed virgin and after 12 months she teleports to fucking her PT. You can't predict this stuff and I'm kinda sick of seeing statistics and whatever thrown around stating X would never or Y is definitely going to do Z. All you can do, as a male OR female - have boundaries. Have expectations. When they are not met - leave. Be a big boy and have some pride in your cognit…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 11:57 PM
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It's totally fine to delay sex as much as you want. You get to have bodily autonomy. If I then find out (I don't go searching, trust me) at any point in the future that I was made to wait longer than some other guy in your past, My boundaries kick in and I would leave the relationship. Given the above example, I would not continue dating that person if they had a FWB situation. If they wanted to engage in a FWB situation with me; probably not. I've been on my best behavior looking for a long ter…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 10:19 PM
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I’m starting to feel better about over valuing sex if this is what people who don’t spend their time cooking. I wish we could pull data on the amount of asexuals here. It feels crazy high.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 07:54 AM
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Some women are happy to put out on a similar timeline to prior escapades. I recently had a date where we made a nutella cheesecake and watched 90 Day Fiancee' and she dragged me to her room.... They exist. Why would I hate women ahaha. I hate how difficult it makes finding a good one!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 01:16 AM
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If this is the case then power to her! b1. She has a general mindset that makes her not be that worried about sex (but it would make a man think she's promiscious therefore it's not her you're gonna want to deal with, so again we take her out of the question); b2. She's still immature and being manipulated into giving sex by a "Chad" (aka dark triad man who just sees women as playthings). She will regret not having been able to see through his tricks in a few months/years. It's the equivalent of…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 01:04 AM
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Unfortunately, whilst you can access the majority of men you know for dates, it’s the opposite for men. Women hold the power and have inherent value. I’m reminded of Briffault’s law. Thanks for the riveting discourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:29 PM
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Going on a date is gambling. Gambling that the photos were not edited by ai or angles. That the person isn’t going to rely on me to hold a conversation. That they won’t randomly spit out a red flag at minute 20 and I’m not black pilled enough to get up and walk away. In a place where I have to wear constrictive clothes and can’t recline in my favourite bean bag or bring my projector to slam some anime against the closest white wall if we get bored. Where we have no rapport, sometimes with no pri…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 03:09 PM
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Of course not. If the people I was going on dates with were at my place or in a nicer environment I’d be having a much better time. That comes later however and I’m not sure how it’s relevant to be frank. How is wanting or not wanting sex with a friend relevant either, obviously I’m not allowing it to change how I act or influence the level of enjoyment I get from that time. It’s almost like I’m “dating with intent”.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:46 PM
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Reversing your shallow lens, I can get all the benefits excluding sex from a friend. I have female friends who scratch my head or brush my hair, provide close physical intimacy and actually put in effort to make me feel valued. They don’t want to have sex with me and I don’t want to have sex with them. I enjoy their company. If I’m taking someone out on a date I want them to want sex with me and I want to want to have sex with them. This isn’t rocket science. That doesn’t mean I’d not rather be …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:29 PM
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Arguing in bad faith. You keep telling me what my goal is. You keep telling us we only want sex. Why are you blatantly ignoring what I post and responding with misandrist generalisations If I want sex without a relationship I would just look for hookups. I am not interested in having casual sex. I want a relationship without sex I would look for someone asexual. I have friends and even male friends that would fit this tomorrow. Not interested. I want a relationship with sex, with sex not being a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 05:08 AM
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Neither; we just want consistency. If you pump and dumped (ons or dating) men before, don’t expect me to respect your decision to make me wait. It’s a dealbreaker for me. If you made everyone wait - I’d wait however long.. I do wait however long it takes for them to be reciprocal however if your girl-friend starts joking about you going home with some random on a night out don’t expect me to hang around. I don’t understand why you are so obsessed with justifying being sexually promiscuous and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 01:34 AM
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I mean I'm meeting women on hinge/tinder/local coffee haunt I'm not against pursing a hook up - I don't go into a date with preconceptions about the outcome - but I think we can both agree having a coffee together or going for a hike prior to hooking up and bouncing our personalities off each other leads to more fulfilling sex. I think the problem here is the disingenuous nature of women in dating; why present as a holier than thou nun when I ask what's happening after our coffee and invite them…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:23 AM
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I don't ask ever - however it's bound to happen. I work in high performance sales, so my friends and the wider social group are known to ask invasive questions or enjoy deep diving and analyzing people! Edit: On two occasions it's been friends of the partner - I can't stop her girlfriends from outing her via funny stories or shared experience either.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 03:16 AM
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This comes off as seeing relationships as work and sex is the payment. And it’s funny seeing guys saying “I’d be fine if she made other guys wait” because it doesn’t make them look better. They look insecure as hell trying to find validation in vaginas. Men, are you benchmarking your self-worth against other men’s "access" to her body? If you’re fine with waiting, who cares if she had hookups in the past and changed her mind now? Sounds like you weren’t actually dating her because you wanted a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 01:33 AM
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Facts may not care about your feelings - however you are a human with a veritable smorgasbord of adjectives to describe something. If you use an adjective that puts down a group of people it's your choice of language - not that it's factually correct - that I am claiming is bias. Just pick something that doesn't make a group of people feel targeted for literally no reason. Why am I the voice of reason here - you guys are all trying to justify using Autistic to describe someone who struggles with…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 09:05 PM
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I don't care if you can stand up for yourself or if you found it offensive. I'm just doing what I think is right and calling out a weak justification. I don't know why you guys enable this behaviour but each to their own. I know it would upset my friend if he read that original comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 08:53 PM
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Something that is factual can still be bigoted. You had the choice to use another descriptor. I'm trying to help you, I'm ADHD not autistic 😇 I do like to stand up to bullies though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 12:31 PM
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If you think including it in a sentence with perma-alone virgin doesn't show a negative bias i don't know what to tell you. Value judgement =/= bigotry anyway. Weird hill to die on bro. Learn to accept mistakes and move on
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 12:15 PM
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You could use a different descriptor. Don't make excuses for bigotry
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/25 11:13 AM
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Did you even check the pretty picture on my second comment. It's evidence that refutes your point directly. I'm not going to bother explaining how the antlers are relevant because you are arguing in bad faith. You making your argument with derogatory name calling is the obvious bias. It might be the fact that you are in an open relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 03:46 PM
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This is female nature and female sexuality that you have issues with. Sex for women is high-risk, low-reward. It is logical for our selective nature\ to align with the cost-benefit analysis* I don't have an issue with female sexuality. I have not said anything in any text about ! how dare thee! - you are projecting and obviously emotional about something herewith. It's why the incessant whining about our standards has resulted in zero change on behalf of women. You want women to act against our …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:06 AM
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"I can't make a coherent argument without resorting to extremes, and here's a paragraph of text while I deride you for yours" Deride you? Where did I deride you for your opinion? I've really appreciated your input but maybe we are not both arguing in good faith. The 10 cocks comment had no bearing on my argument and as I've already stated - You and I agree that women have lots of options. No, this isn't "just implying" that at all, because you - like so many other men before you - insist on usin…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 08:06 AM
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Value on the sexual market. Value is subjective but can be measured; Men's sexuality is very cheap.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 07:05 AM
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I use extreme examples because they are more fun than your paragraph of text which amounts to the same statement. Briffault's Law. Females get to choose when and where sex occurs. 52 a year or 10 a night - My statement was just implying that sex is easy for women to get. You can't make that make sense. If women have damn near infinite opportunities to get dick, the number of men we actually choose to have sex with is still being extremely picky and selective And yet if a woman's count is barely …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 05:46 AM
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to add; show results of Clark and Hatfield of 1989 (brought in the other answer), summarised as; In their study, four male and five female psychology students approached a total of 96 opposite-sex subjects at Florida State University. After a standard introduction, ‘‘I have been noticing you around campus. I find you to be very attractive,’’ the experimenter’s confederates asked one of three questions randomly: ‘‘Would you go out with me tonight?’’,‘‘Would you come over to my apartment tonight?’…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 01:26 AM
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Your bias is showing! I've found something you might be interested in. Search - Evolution and “Short-Term” Sexual Behavior - in https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3613286/#S8 And read the 2nd 3rd paragraphs. It's difficult to find studies covering the difference in availability of casual sex because scientists already assume people are smart enough to know. According to evolutionary theorists, this discrepancy in reproductive rate between the sexes sets up general predictions about sex-spe…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 01:19 AM
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I agree with you totally. I should have said I respect a man who has lots of sex available to them. It means they typically are a man of value. Do I agree wholeheartedly with the criteria we must meet? No. Unfortunately women get to define what's valued. I'm short, 5'8, and I've never struggled to find willing partners so I'm not biased. It is very difficult to find a good partner (relationship not causal) I personally apply the same view to women and men. Build yourself up so you have abundance…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 12:38 AM
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In comparison to women having sex, yes it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 12:18 AM
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How is a preference for low body counts considered controversial. You ever consider you might be part of the loud minority? What have I said that's a red pill delusion?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 11:55 PM
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If you want casual sex you want more whores. If you want a partner that validates you; we want more women of value. It's simple - women have inherent value. They are the beautiful sex. If everyone could have sex with some girl - how would having sex with or dating her validate you? Something that is easy is typically not worth doing. Hard = value = fulfilling. On a core mature level. I respect women with low body counts because it's hard to do. I respect men with high body counts (within reason)…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 11:30 PM
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