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There are some narratives on the left that directly put men in a bad place legally. For example, a common narrative of the “me too” movement was that women should always be trusted when they claim something like rape or sexual harassment, meaning that the defendant is automatically guilty.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:03 PM
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It depends on which famous red-piller you focus on. This is the issue with discussing "Red Pill" topics. It's not well defined, and many of the biggest voices who represent the movement(?) fundamentally contradict each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 02:35 PM
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This is the issue with discussing "Red Pill" topics. It's not well defined, and many of the biggest voices who represent the movement(?) fundamentally contradict each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 02:30 PM
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There is no direct connection in which red pill men only want casual sex. Two of the most famous red-pillers that I know of are completely against casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 03:27 AM
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From the perspective of one gender treating the other worse, I view it more like, there are some bad individuals in both genders, and they give everyone else a bad reputation. They also tend to be the loudest in communities like these, so people think their actions are normal, but realistically they likely make up less than 10% of the population.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 01:09 AM
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How much your date cares about these things will likely depend on how much she likes you. Small things like this are typically only an issue if the date is looking for excuses to not be with the other person. Respectfully, you might need to put more effort into some things, like paying attention to where you park, and also into your writing. This was very difficult to decipher.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 05:36 PM
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There are several definitions of love. Love can mean infatuation, and this doesn't last very long. Love can mean lust, but that will likely end after a while, including when we all eventually become less attractive as we age. I tend to think of love like OP. In my opinion, it is hard to say that I love someone, unless I am willing to sacrifice something big for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 02:19 PM
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It isn't biological. People go after what they believe is the best that they can get, and they correct as they go through life and get more attractive or unattractive. Think of it this way, no one would ever remarry in their 50s or 60s if they had unchanging standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 12:05 AM
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The funny thing about having bias, is that few people can see their own bias...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 04:43 PM
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My focus is on 6 years of experience working with a variety of men who mostly stated that they were not prepared. I don't live in a black and white world. I believe that some people do see divorce coming, but that others don't see it. I need to assume that there is some truth to his statement, and that there are people who truly were not expecting their SO to divorce them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 06:00 PM
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It is definitely evidence, although it might not be 100% accurate fact. My issue is that you are only viewing this in black and white terms, unable or unwilling to acknowledge any merit on the other side, even when convincing evidence is offered. Instead, you pick and pull at any way that he could possibly be wrong, completely ignoring what could possibly be correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 05:29 PM
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OP, SillyMushroom gave some pretty convincing evidence. Are you not going to concede some ground?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 05:20 PM
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Part of the issue is technology for many people. The ability to connect with people across the globe puts a lot of people in a state where they can get a lot of their emotional support and fun conversations by texting with their old friends from college, high school, etc. However, they rarely ever see these people, so they still feel alone. And it is difficult to form new friendships, because no new friends can compare to the people that they have decades of history with.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/24 02:41 AM
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Expand your social circle, make yourself more interesting, and meet a girl real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 04:11 AM
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It is good to view valuable subjects through several different lenses, to understand them, so we can be more successful in them. For example, online dating didn't work for me. Barely anyone showed interest in me by messaging me back, liking my photos, or by initiating a conversation with me. This is largely due to the "Markets" being unequal between men and women on dating sites. So, I analyzed that information, and concluded that I should stop online dating, and just focus on meeting girls in r…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 06:58 PM
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AI will have very little impact on the dating paradigm between men and women. You can't eat dinner with AI, hug AI, and AI cannot contribute to the monthly bills. Basically, AI falls very short of being a replacement for a girlfriend. Also, having a relationship with a computer will likely always be rejected by the majority of society. However, if we can manufacturer robots that look, feel, and move, like a real person, then that mixed with AI, might upset the paradigm. But, we are nowhere close…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 02:12 AM
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Men are also typically more attracted to women who have rizz/swag/sexiness/vibe/frame/presence. Arguably, many of those characteristics are still physical. I would say that both sexes have serious blind spots, and don't know what the opposite sex actually finds generally attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 02:31 AM
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Yeah, that is a major distinction. The red pill theory isn't that all men can't get a girl, its that the top ~1/3rd of men have a really easy time, and the bottom have a relatively difficult to very difficult time getting a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 08:52 PM
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You are correct, that sometimes people discuss this from the perspective of the friend believing the victim. Regardless of the context that you want to see this in, the question that OP asked was specific to a case that went through the legal system. That is the question that I gave an answer to. For the record, during the Me Too movement, I heard or read a lot of people who believed that alleged perpetrators should just be assumed guilty.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 06:31 PM
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The question is "should all victims be believed", which assumes that the perpetrator should be given due process, meaning things like a fair trial, and should be considered innocent until proven guilty. Are you against these things?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 06:05 PM
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The question wasn't "what I want", it was how to fix the issue, and the issue is mostly cultural. Also, the issue, in its extreme has only existed for about 10 to 20 years, since dating apps started to be widely used, and became less about matching people based on a variety of characteristics, and more about first glance "Yes" or "No" decisions based almost purely on physical characteristics.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 01:37 PM
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Long story, but basically, the minor who someone claimed was raped, said in a legal proceeding that it never happened. It was just the mother attempting to get revenge on her ex-husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 02:59 AM
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If men became more selective, then women would likely become less selective. Arguably, they would be mostly even in how selective they are. No one is socially manipulating anyone. I am stating that culturally, people choose to be in monogamous relationships, because they see the negative impacts of short-term relationships. This is how many countries are, including many European countries. There is plenty of benefit for attractive men to be in monogamous relationships. Life is a whole lot easier…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 02:22 PM
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No one is forcing anyone in my scenario. I am stating that if culturally, people choose to be monogamous because they see value in it. This also doesn't mean that everyone gets married or is celibate until marriage, it just means that they are with one person at a time. The issue that most people point out is that men aren't selective enough. This is largely due to things like hookup culture. In a vacuum, if all short relationships, like one-night stands, and non-monogamous relationships, like c…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 01:41 PM
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Agreed. Whenever a girl says that she like "bad boys", the guy tends to be really attractive. She really just likes attractive men, and the bad boy was the only one available. For the record, a lot of men do this too. They say that they are only attracted to "crazy girls", but you often find out that the crazy girl was just the only attractive girl who would date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 03:07 AM
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There have been a lot of situations in my life where I was one of very few men in a group, and yes, my value to women went up in that group simply because of scarcity.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 02:51 AM
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I don't believe that crime rates would change, but I do believe that committing those crimes would become easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 02:48 AM
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We would need a cultural change in our society (US) that rejects hookup culture, and celebrates monogamous long term relationships. If that does not happen, then the issues you stated will continue to exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 02:45 AM
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I know multiple people who have been falsely accused of rape. I also know people who have been raped. The fact is that some bad people are men, and some are women. There is a reason for having due process, but sometimes, the legal system just fails.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 02:40 AM
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I don't believe that monogamy is dying out, but that it is taking longer for people to see the value in having a long term partner. Having a long term (sole) partner becomes very valuable when you have kids, and people are having kids much later. Obviously, there is more to the equation, but children are one of the primary factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 03:58 AM
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Typically a statistic like this will offer a comparison between men and women. Can you post the actual statistic and how it compares to the opposite sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 03:44 AM
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The link came up as insecure, so I didn't run it. Do you have any facts that can be stated that came from your source?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 12:28 AM
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This doesn't totally fit our discussion, but, is a fun watch. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xF7rHsEoS_s&pp=ygVCaG90IHdvbWFuIGZpbmRzIG91dCB3aGF0IGl0J3MgbGlrZSB0byBiZSBhbiBhdmVyYWdlIG1hbiBvbiB0aW5kZXIg
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 06:12 PM
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I don't think either of us will concede :) However it might be fun to try the below: Go on a free dating site, and create a fake dating profile as an average man, 5'9", dad-bod, $45,000 income, doesn't look like Ryan Gosling, and document what it is like to try to get a date with the women that you believe are in your guy's "league". Then compare that with what it is like to online date as a woman. My female roommate and I would compare our experiences, and the differences were extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 06:00 PM
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There is both individual attraction, and general attractiveness. They both objectively exist. This is the case for nearly everything that we measure; there are always outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 05:16 PM
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You are correct that people have different preferences. Frankly, if we were to deconstruct attractiveness according to each individual person, then the conversation would never end. However, if we were to talk about general attractiveness, and did a statistical analysis by polling 100 online daters, then we would find that some people were desired far more than others, and that those at the bottom are largely ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 04:58 PM
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Most people make a decision about the attractiveness of the opposite sex in less than ten seconds, but often at first glance. Two average people can absolutely fall in love with each other. The point that many are making is that hookup culture gives average looking women the perspective that they are too good for an average looking man. Once again, I wouldn't be saying this, if I hadn't witnessed it in many ways, from both the guy's and the girl's perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 04:25 PM
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I get your point about knowing their thoughts before approaching them, but, it is pretty easy to determine if someone is attracted to you just by talking to them. Either they engage with you, or they don't. It is usually that easy. Then there are other subtle hints, like their feet point at you, they make decent eye contact, or they fix their hair. But, in the end, someone who is attracted to you, or just generally interested in you, will attempt to keep the conversation going. Of course this ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 06:12 AM
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Typically, people are stating that many women on online dating sites have unrealistic standards about who they can get to commit to a long term relationship. For example, if an average looking girl has a one-night stand with a much more attractive guy, then does that mean that the girl should raise her standards, and only ever go for men of that (relative) level of attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 05:08 AM
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This is brutally honest, and I wouldn't say this if I hadn't seen dramatic examples of it myself, and have seen women complaining about the situation in several Reddit communities. A lot of people believe that online dating has skewed many women's views of the (mostly) physical quality of men that they can get in a long term relationship. This is due to a small, but, active group of attractive men, who will date way below their standards, just to keep a roster of girls to sleep with throughout t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 04:21 AM
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Once again, not saying don't do it. However, you have plenty of time to meet someone. I am not very attractive myself, and didn't get married until I turned 33.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 02:59 AM
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That is a pretty sweet deal. How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 02:51 AM
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I am not saying don't do it, but, being a single parent is brutally difficult. I am not just saying a parent who is divorced, and shares custody. But, being the sole parent, with no other assistance. You would likely need another family member to take care of your child, so you could continue to work full time for years straight, until they started school.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 02:42 AM
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I joined a local non-competitive recreational sports league, and met a bunch of people that way. They placed me on a team as an individual. Then we would go out for beers afterward. I stuck to sports that wouldn't be dominated by people who played in high school or college. Kickball and volleyball were the best for making friends for me. Cornhole and bowling are also options, but you don't meet as many people because the teams aren't as large.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 01:41 PM
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One of the issues with this debate is definitions. Some people define "settling" as not getting a 10/10 attractiveness, six figure income, great character significant other. While others define settling as marrying the only person whose shown interest in them in the last five years.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 01:32 AM
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Nearly everyone "settles" in some way. Nearly everyone is attracted to the top 5% of most attractive people. Then the other 95% of us (or so) realized that they didn't want us, so we recalibrated (settled), and started going for girls or guys who were less attractive. Some of us don't remember this, because it happened in junior high or high school, but, nearly everyone does it, including the top 5%, because they eventually get less attractive as they age. I know that people are going to say tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 01:26 AM
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To avoid bitterness and desperation, I would try to have at least one social activity planned on a weeknight, per week. One of my favorite things was playing volleyball. It was coed, and most people were playing just to have fun. Then I started getting invited to pickup games as I got better, and met more people. This definitely isn't a replacement for a girlfriend, but it is social interaction. Also, I did meet one of my girlfriends by playing volleyball.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 03:47 AM
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Every plan comes with risk, and nothing is guaranteed to work. However, throughout this entire process people should be working on improving their own social skills, which will help in making friends or a significant other. I personally maintained a variation of this plan for about ten years, and I met at least 8 solid girls by doing it, four of which became my girlfriend. Also, I turned down about another 8. I am not saying that to toot my own horn, but to state that the goal is to find a solid…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 06:54 AM
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The intention is not to get laid. In fact, having sex with your friends might ruin the entire plan, because it could ruin your reputation in the group. However, a solid girlfriend would likely happen 6 months to 2 years, but after your social circle is in place, you will continuously meet new people after that. Also, you get other friends, which is pretty cool to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 11:48 PM
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In my opinion, the best way to meet people is to improve your social pool by doing the below: Join a recreational coed sports league, like volleyball If you are religious, then get involved in your church, synagogue, etc. Volunteer at various organizations Find a group of people who you can do a coed hobby with Be the "planner", and put together some kind of gathering at least once every two weeks. Mix it up, like eating out at a restaurant, then two weeks later, meetup at someone's house, and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 05:45 PM
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Here is a scenario that I have seen frequently: There is a relatively small, but extremely active community of men in online dating sites who are just looking for sex These men will have sex with anyone, even those considered way below their standards They might keep these women on their "roster", but they rarely ever commit to them To put it another way: A woman starts online dating, and men who are way more attractive than anyone they ever dated, are suddenly interested. When this is the case,…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 02:43 AM
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Back in my single years I discovered that there was a large percentage of single women, who were nearly impossible to meet, because they rarely went out, and when they did, they only went out with their girlfriends. In my opinion, the best way to meet people is to improve your social pool by doing the below: Join a coed sports league, like volleyball If you are religious, then get involved in your church, synagogue, etc. Volunteer at various organizations Find a group of people who you can do a …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 07:46 PM
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One reason is that the pendulum has swung too far left with the general feeling towards marriage, and the traditional roles of men and women in marriage. For example, a lot of people are looking at the last 30 years, and are wondering if non-traditional roles are really worth it. Particularly when a couple has children, they learn very quickly that it is extraordinarily difficult for each to work a full-time job without a severe blow to their mental and physical health.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 06:01 AM
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Like you said, I would consider this a red flag, as opposed to a hard rule. If someone doesn't have any friends at all, then it is an indicator that they might have a difficult time socializing in a relationship, or that they won't stick around when things get difficult. There is the rare person who just doesn't want to be around people, but that leads me to question why they would want to be in a relationship, so I don't know if they apply to the scenario. For the record, I am not trying to bas…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 02:16 PM
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OP, regardless of gender, there are some people who just don't see a marriage through. Unfortunately, there is a huge difference between our vows (til death due us part, through sickness and in health, etc.), and the law, which allows divorce in any circumstance. This does raise a ton of questions about the purpose and value of marriage outside of religious beliefs. After seeing a lot of people get burned financially, I think that many unmarried people need to know their state laws, and also, co…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 01:38 PM
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Javier Milei is fiscally conservative, and it seems that the red pill philosophy is also (generally) fiscally conservative. They both believe that pay is at least somewhat based on merit, and that governments can't be trusted to provide for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 04:39 AM
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Can you add some statistics? For example, what percentage of men do this, and what is your definition of a long term relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 11:08 PM
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Everyone should have an in-depth discussion before their dates, to determine who has invested more into the date. They should go through an itemized list, and then compare them, in order to determine the proportion that each pays. The list should include, but is not limited to: Makeup, gym membership, supplements, skincare, car payment (if it is a nice car). Also, whoever plans the date should include a labor cost based on the amount that they make hourly at their current job.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 04:15 AM
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There isn't an age, but how you meet women is important. If you are trying to meet women online, then stop doing so. Instead, make friends in real life by playing co-ed sports, doing hobbies with others (in mixed-groups), and joining community organizations, like your church or soup kitchen. Aggressively make friends with everyone, and have something planned at least three nights a week. By doing this, you will expand your pool of contacts, and make yourself more interesting. At some point, you …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 03:32 AM
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It depends on the girl. This is a vast generalization, but most women don't want to get their hands greasy, bruised, and torn bloody fixing their lawn mower, trailer, car, etc. I think that fixing things as a male is one of the things that women put a relatively high value on. I wouldn't worry too much about not knowing how to perform these tasks. You just need the guts to do them when they come up. Research things on YouTube, and buy tools as you go. Also, play it safe, and don't mess with thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 02:27 AM
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