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69

We should go back to lobotomizing these types of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/22 01:14 PM
77

A woman. A Democrat. I'm speechless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/22 07:47 PM
8

Nooooo, I at least wanted to save everything from the handbook while I still could!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/22 05:20 PM
6

Is that where I should go? Is the website where we are most active now? I know about the podcast, and I plan to start listening to it with the time I would have spent on reddit. Edit: Nevermind! I found the Twitter account, and the forum section on the website. See you guys there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/22 05:19 PM
3

Yes, because they say being a woman is living life on "easy mode." They think all we care about is money and Chads, and that all traditional female responsibilities like pregnancy and cleaning house come naturally and are therefore easy. Basically stuff that someone could believe only if they have never gotten to know a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 08:28 PM
6

It sounds to me like she knows she's being undervalued, looked for help, found FDS, and made a post (from an emotional place) as soon as she could before reading the handbook. Or maybe it's a red pill LARP-er. They love making up fantasies where they get to be the girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 06:01 PM
7

If he makes more than you, he should not be wanting to sponge off of you in any way shape or form. That is more than a red flag- it's an objective fact he lacks masculinity and was not raised right. You deserve so much better, OP. This guy has INSULTED you just by suggesting what he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 05:53 PM
22

I just made a similar comment then I saw yours. "Just a piece of paper" is such a cruel gaslight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 05:44 PM
111

He wants to mate guard a forever girlfriend, and would probably call her a gold digger for wanting an actual engagement ring. I could be way off, but we all know I'm probably not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 05:40 PM
39

Definitely an ESFJ. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 05:19 PM
17

He's SUCH a good father, he doesn't completely abandon his children! He only spends free time with randos instead of his family and leaves his wife a shell of her former self. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 04:21 PM
14

That's a good point. Imagine the trauma growing up with a father like this, and seeing your mother secretly broken inside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 12:57 PM
31

Yup. This is exactly how red pilled scrotes and incels see us. I've never met a woman in my life who thinks anything like this. The way some things are worded are huge red pill dog whistles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 12:56 PM
18

This is LITERALLY mens' idea of "safe sex."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 12:54 PM
58

Why do people act like taking tests all the time prevents anything? Porn stars get tested all the time, but still have an STD rate many times the statistical norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 12:48 PM
13

You are a good person for caring about him possibly spiraling. Fiercely protect that sweet, caring side of you. He no longer deserves it. Trying to be the better person for a man who is emotionally neglecting you will cause you to become jaded in no time. Here's the thing: He has purposely said things to you that caused you to similarly spiral, and likely felt NOTHING. Therefore, you now owe him NOTHING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 06:28 PM
21

the "husband snip" lol It would feel better if it were just a bit shorter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 05:52 AM
4

Your username is so adorable!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 03:18 PM
53

I do know that I don't have it in me to be everything to everyone. Girl, same. I know FDS encourages us to put career first, and I think that's awesome, but a lot of women cannot do it all... wish that could be me, I really do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 01:45 PM
109

They think women want an Alpha Chad(tm)- the guys that don't care about women's feelings, sleep around with tons of partners, drive expensive cars, personality = gym bro, workaholic, and has a giant penis. I know some women have height or penis size preferences (similar to men's weight preferences), but that doesn't mean we all agree on what we want in a man. Being a HVM is more about emotional intelligence, values, and attitudes about women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 02:47 AM
19

My partner and I love it when the FDS haters DM me. Their reasons for being triggered are always so bizarre. The best one was a gamer who didn't like me talking disrespectfully about first person shooter video games. LMAO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 02:38 AM
13

You know him WELL! He was constantly angry about his lot in life, despite having a pickme mommy bangmaid (me before FDS) doing everything he asked 24/7. I didn't know at the time, but he was developing an opiate addiction, and his "dealer" was a known sex worker. I was about to dump him for the graduation neg, but within a couple weeks, I found out about what a loser he became behind my back. I wish I had left before I was traumatized, but I learned a valuable lesson- dump men early for any red …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 01:30 PM
11

I don't think he was ambitious enough to be jealous of a college degree. Thanks for the congrats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 01:22 PM
90

I found out I graduated from college and the only thing my bf at the time had to say was, "It's just an undergraduate degree, and you're in your 30s. It's not a big deal anymore. You should have that by now." This dusty did not even have a high school diploma. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 11:40 PM
69

This comment is the kind of STRATEGY I signed up for! Where were these gems when I was dealing with an eXpErT gAmEr who couldn't be bothered to learn anything about me or my life. Oh well, good riddance, dusty, wherever you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 02:52 PM
85

If women are gold diggers, LVM are everything-else diggers. (If someone can tell me the FDS-user who said this, I would gladly give them proper credit, because this line was amazing.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 06:48 AM
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anything positive that my bf did or another male did it’s immediately like “that should be standard, why are we congratulating this??” This way of thinking can be depressing, I could see that. I'm glad you're doing well in a relationship and able to be grateful for the right things- I 100% believe this subreddit works! I'm in the same boat, but I find myself reluctant to share about it, because I'm afraid FDS won't agree he's a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:28 PM
21

I admit I like the drama and the gossip, but the negative posts make me feel so horrible for women that I don't completely recover. They also make me needlessly paranoid about my own partner if I spend too much time reading them. I'm always vetting, I know to never stop vetting! But being paranoid and insecure when doing it is a whole different story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:17 PM
59

That is a very sorry state of affairs if your comments were not against FDS rules. We shouldn't be discouraging each other from sharing positive things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:13 PM
195

Maybe not if she had the sense to block and delete at this particular red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 12:46 PM
6

And she probably did everything he asked for, further cementing his delusions. He is SO. DISGUSTING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 09:36 PM
87

Also porn is cheating if she doesn’t feel okay with it. It is totally cheating if it crosses an already agreed upon boundary- period! Why don't men get this??!!!! LVM lurkers: if your gf is too much, go find less. Don't just do whatever you want and disregard people's hearts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 08:06 PM
33

This was me when I worked in forestry. I had 2 male co-workers who seemed to understand and respect women, including me. They had good hygiene and interesting lives. Absolute gems. The others were people I didn't feel comfortable being alone in the woods with even after knowing them for years. I don't even know if I could go back to such a male dominated career, even though I got an ecology degree for this type of work. I don't want to let LVM dissuade me from my dreams, but they're so.... repul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 06:07 PM
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Speaking from experience, as a 20 year old female struggling with ADHD, she is likely feeling very low about herself. HE KNOWS THAT, TOO. I feel so vulnerable in doctor appointments talking about my disorder, I cry every time. And I'm almost twice this woman's age. I just imagine her feeling as ashamed as I once did, and this doctor preying on that. It makes me FURIOUS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 05:43 PM
43

Right. She gave an ugly man a chance, and now he's all full of himself about it, and is likely going to either rape her or cheat on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 12:52 PM
30

Marriage is impossible without the type of introspection you're talking about. This man's wife clearly has the full-blown "Ick" from his failure to be a decent person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 12:50 PM
47

People were telling him exactly what it takes to have animalistic sex, and he wasn't having it. He needed someone to agree with him that everything is his wife's fault, and how to get away with either infidelity or marital rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 12:49 PM
154

I have never desired nudes from any of my partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 10:44 PM
14

That quote!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/22 12:32 PM
56

Ooh, this. So stupid and shameful. I didn't realize my issue was with liberal feminism, not all of feminism as a whole. A lot of anti-feminsm stuff is just conservatives who hate women and are threatened by feminists. What I've learned is the enemy of my enemy is not my friend!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:34 PM
58

I relate to every word of this comment. I'm finally healing, but I never expected it to take years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 11:32 PM
236

And this is why we don't take LVM to therapy. They start using terms they don't understand to get people to pity them for their low value behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 08:27 PM
29

Men think liberal feminism is literally the only type of feminism. They don't bother learning about the subject on more than a surface level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 11:41 PM
347

They love telling us that if we are not cool with what you just said, we cannot call ourselves a feminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 11:24 AM
32

I don't think it's appropriate for 10 year old girls to have their own smartphone. They're too vulnerable to being groomed. This little girl I mentioned is a very immature for her age, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:14 PM
20

I've been listening to an older video of hers about why men lie by omission, and it's made me cry multiple times. Powerful stuff. This woman really gets it. I would love a good "best of" or "intro" recommendation! Edit: I guess this was the wrong thing to say? I cry when people sound profound things about the sorry state of our society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 05:02 PM
93

It’s more akin to bullying than seduction. 🛎🛎🛎🛎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 04:58 PM
72

Well in that case, proud SWERF here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 04:56 PM
2

I used to love fighting games like Mortal Kombat and Tekken, but it's different now as an adult who has been physically abused by man. I didn't consciously decide to boycott those games, but they are totally unappealing to me now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 04:54 PM
44

Well, that was a good advertisement for Deborah Cooper. I looked her up on YouTube after reading this comment, and her channel looks AMAZING.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 07:50 AM
93

I have a friend with a 10 year old daughter who uses Tik Tok unsupervised. Your comment makes me worry for her. I hope my daughter never wants to use the internet. 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 07:22 AM
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🥇 Take this pretend gold, and also Happy Cake Day! I like video games too, and I wish it wasn't the norm for women in video games to be so sexualized. It made me really uncomfortable as a kid/teenager to the point I wouldn't buy games with sexualized women. It was embarassing even asking my parents to buy me Tomb Raider 1, and I would have really missed out, because it ended up being fun and feminist-friendly aside from her comicly gigantic boobs. I get your point about not participating in cosp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 05:47 PM
71

Trying making a reddit comment in one of the larger subs about sex being a want not a need. 😁 Triggered neckbeards left and right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 07:50 PM
15

I'm not a cosplayer, so take this with a grain of salt. I think hating on female cosplayers as a whole can be falling into the male nerd gatekeeping trap. A lot of the cosplayers are dressed minimally, because video game characters and superheroes wear those types of outfits. It's obvious some of these women love basking in the attention they get from all the neckbeards, but the fact that it ANGERS many of them is hilarious. (They assume it's all for male gaze, and they're angry female nerds are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 12:01 PM
71

"We are pregnant." Oh hell no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 08:56 PM
185

He likes his partners CUT and with NO curves! 💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 01:11 AM
218

He has both E disorders, for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 12:06 AM
48

this is 100% male fantasy and the scrote thinks real life is a movie lmfao This movie in particular is Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. The protagonist finds his manic pixie dream girl by starting a random conversation on a bus, because she has pretty hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 02:41 PM
69

I'm with you on this. Long, long ago, during my libfem days, I had a couple years where I was too busy for a boyfriend, and didn't know a single solitary guy I was attracted to enough to commit to. I didn't hook up with strangers, but I did have multiple friends with benefits (not more than 1 at any given time period.) Being a libfem, I was creeped out by guys who pursued me too much, thinking they were desperate or old fashioned. I never THOUGHT I got played, but now that I'm older looking back…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:43 PM
115

He's been turning the tables and blaming every single thing on her for years. It's not hard to read through the lines when I've been in the same place myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 11:16 PM
59

Your comment makes me want to stand up and clap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/22 11:12 PM
9

I've read that women like those stories, because the violent perpetrator gets caught. It is soothing for abuse victims to immerse themselves in a world where men don't get away with evil. Edit: I'm referring to shows like Law & Order SVU, not so much documentaries about real serial killers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 02:33 PM
61

You're right. Moms are also very capable of molding a boy into a LVM, all while telling him he's better than everyone else. I have most certainly witnessed that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 09:18 AM
2

I know this feeling well. I'm finally growing out of it, but it took waaaaay too long. If it were not for FDS de-programming me, I would have probably gone back to a very LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 09:12 AM
44

I bet their mothers would be so proud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 08:26 AM
34

Lmao I think you just described every single 20 year old guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 04:16 PM
17

Reminds me of racists who make a stink about Black History Month. Some people are so blind to their privilege that they have zero shame demanding everything be about them. It's so childish and obnoxious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 10:24 PM
5

Well, she is a divine goddess, after all. 😀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 12:30 PM
25

Yes! Let them stay single and mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 12:04 PM
176

I experienced this, and so have some of my friends. The LVM cannot be bothered to watch a single video about relationship dynamics or read a single article. Won't go to a single therapy appointment, plan a single romantic getaway, or make a single compromise. Meanwhile, in her effort to fix things, his woman is learning every step of the way exactly how and why the relationship is failing, and exactly how doomed it is without his mutual effort. Edit: This is how I found FDS, in fact. Tried to re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 04:09 PM
160

These type of men hate single mothers more than any other group of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 04:00 PM
179

I don't understand how saying 70% of divorces are initiated by women makes women look bad. It just points how many husbands end up being intolerable, cheating disappointments. There was a post on this subreddit years back that showed the reasons people gave when they got divorced. Women usually leave because they're being abused or cheated on. The men who initiated the divorces mostly said they just lost their spark (meaning they found another woman.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 03:59 PM
18

That's outrageous! A HVM would not be scaring the mother of his children with threats, even if she is his ex. This family is so famous that their kids will discover this chapter of his behavior eventually. They'll also have to learn about the time their dad told a room of far right conservatives that he had wanted Kim to abort their daughter. Kim must be incredibly patient and loving to have put up with his severe, obviously untreated mental health problems for over a decade. But at what cost to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 11:10 AM
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You deserve your flair. I love how after all that good advice, you ended with a message of hope. 10/10. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 09:00 PM
18

This definitely sounds like drugs to me. The apathetic disappearance, rapid deterioration, and poor decision making (showing up at her house) all suggest it's at least a possibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 08:46 AM
258

No wonder birthrates around the world are falling. This!! I can't understand why this otherwise intelligent women is even considering procreating with this complete scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 06:29 PM
447

He sounds like he's red pilled and does not have the capacity to love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 06:26 PM
136

This exact thing happened to me when I broke up with my ex. He was a mean, dishonest, abusive, drug addicted dusty who got a million warnings before I broke up with him. His LVM friends: "She probably found someone else and has been cheating on you. That's why she just up and left so suddenly."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:07 AM
14

Sex is a want, not a need. Try saying that in any other subreddit other than this one, and I guarantee at least one LVM will DM you telling you how every male requires vagina.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:45 AM
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He's out of work for health reasons, she said. Then why does he not have food stamps and/or disability and/or workman's comp? It makes the "health reasons" claim seem suspicious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:06 PM
20

For real. It seems like the jars of urine "quirk" isn't even that uncommon. Imagine being the woman who raises a precious baby into a boy, just for him to turn into a creepy pee hoarder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 03:27 PM
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Now I don't know what is more weird. The guy in the original post, or some guy getting off to fictional reddit posts about excrement... getting ever more excited as he reads people's disgusted comments. Dudes have some wild fetishes. I hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 03:24 PM
4

Cut flowers are not my thing either. I've let every boyfriend I've ever had know they shouldn't even bother with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 03:26 PM
63

if you were looking at massive dongs all day? Lol gross. How embarrassing. Great analogy, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 09:45 PM
49

A perfect gentleman for their first and only date. Impressive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 05:45 PM
114

You'd think they would come together, having been the 3 of the 4 most wronged people in the situation. (The dad/grandfather being the 4th.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 03:30 PM
30

LVM always say that it's too commercialized, and that partners should be treating each other well every day of the year. Which might work, except then they're not romantic or attentive on the other days, either. Men don't want to be expected to do ANYTHING nice anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 08:35 AM
20

A large SCENTED candle. At a dinner table. Probably stunk up the whole McDonalds, and made her food taste weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 08:29 AM
37

I love knowing that our haters are such good advertisers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:48 PM
34

Googling pick-me questions is what lead me here, too. The recommended answers I got from this subreddit were so much more relevant than any of the other search results. (I was trying to figure out why I was so resentful as a forever girlfriend, and WOW, ya'll explained it perfectly!) I dumped my abusive dusty ex within a month of finding FDS. It's been 3 years since then, and my life is so much better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 08:39 PM
258

That is a good point. Those people barely register as female to p*rn sick LVM. MGTOW-types' only concern is if women are fuckable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 06:14 PM
8

Car guys are dangerous. They mean well, but they never know as much as they think they do. They'll ruin your car trying to fix it themselves every damn time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 01:10 PM
81

Travis and Kylie made a video that went viral a few years ago. She was quizzing him about her life, and he didn't know ANYTHING about her. Not even the name of her dog. They had a child together by this time, and he wasn't even pretending he found her interesting. She was just laughing it off, because her bar is in Hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 06:53 PM
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It's the scariest, most vulnerable experience of my life. If anyone did me wrong in the slightest on that day, I could never forgive them. Even suggesting they'd watch a sports game instead would make me get the ick for a man for eternity. I seriously cannot believe women choose to procreate with such LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 01:20 AM
14

That is so disturbing. Everyone knows kids use TikTok Putting a video like that out there that will inevitably be seen by children makes the content creators predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 12:14 PM
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Me too. My mom was really cool about educating me and getting me to see a gyno as soon as I got a boyfriend. She got me birth control pills, and my conservative dad didn't need to be a part of that decision. She knew the top priority was preventing me from getting pregnant, even though she didn't want me being sexually active yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 12:57 AM
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I have seen a lot of FDS-ers say they require their future man to be over 6' on this sub. Some of them disparage men under 5'8". We are all allowed to have preferences, but I don't get the hate for men just for not matching theirs. Having said that, I don't think a majority of us care how tall a guy is, as long as he isn't shorter than us or lying about his height. I absolutely agree that the heart of FDS is women helping each other de-program problematic ways of thinking about dating and themse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 04:36 PM
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I think it's making fun of manosphere types like red pillers, MGTOWs, and incels. They really think and believe what it is in the original post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 04:27 PM
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Lord give me the confidence of a mediocre man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 11:19 AM
195

I'm sure he's just dEpReSsEd. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 06:22 PM
93

70% of divorces are initiated by women Scrotes use that statistic to "prove" that women are not loyal. The lack of self awareness is incredible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 03:40 AM
106

Too many people are unaware of reactive abuse. I wish it were talked about more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 03:38 AM
52

Nah, you have two heads and neither of them function properly. That is priceless.. 🤌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 06:12 PM
24

Most men are the types that the actual protectors want to protect us from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:23 AM
16

I forgot about "Wait-y Katie." How embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:49 PM
52

Trustworthy people don’t care if their spouse goes through their phone one time to ease their anxiety. They don’t care if their spouse knows where they’re at while they’re working. This woman was suspicious of a dishonest person, therefore her intuition was correct. How does that make her a bad person for “breaking his trust?” I HATE the advice these people gave this horribly betrayed woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 01:07 AM
18

Most places in the United States do not have subways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 06:03 PM
25

These are the dating strategies I signed up for!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 07:38 PM
94

Do these idiots not have the slightest clue what DV looks like? If by "these idiots" you mean cops, then no, because they are statistically likely to be domestic abusers themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 04:57 PM
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the smudged makeup All the comments like, "you might want to invest in a blending brush." 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:35 PM
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I've tried that before. They like to answer with stuff like, "I'm just treating you like one of the men. Isn't that what feminists were fighting for? To be treated just like men?" Or, "It's a joke, not a dick. You don't have to take it so hard." They think they're so clever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:41 PM
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This is a very enlightening, thought provoking comment. I used to work with some men like this in my forestry career. They quite clearly loved making me tense, mildly irritated, and confused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:35 PM
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Good, I hope she's doing better now.. I remember her crying in the interview I saw, and saying she felt she could never be a mother because of her infamy. It was really sad, she wasn't OK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 11:20 PM
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Bree Olsen is an ex of Charlie Sheen and used to work in this industry. She says she regrets it, as she is unable to find a decent career now. She wanted to work as a nanny, but cannot, as parents assume she is basically a ped* because of her past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 07:50 PM
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Thank you, OP. I've been reading FDS for over 2 years, and I think this post may be the most valuable I've ever read. I have experienced this phenomenon my entire life- from my dad, boyfriends, bosses, police officers, male therapists. I can't recall a woman ever discounting me as being simply hysterical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 12:03 PM
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Totally something a quality, caring father would say. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 06:06 PM
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I have found that experiencing intense emotions once per month is an amazing experience worth embracing. It forces us to process what’s happening in our world, and to feel life to a fuller extent. It prevents us from escapism, but in a short, manageable time frame. I feel so much better afterwards. The part that made it unbearable in the past was dating a LVM who shamed me for it, and having other symptoms like needing extra sleep. (I swear some men really want to date a dude and can’t admit it.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:49 PM
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I agree with this 100%, except Olivia is older than him and his ex-wife. She does look younger than him, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 09:56 PM
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My dad used to get so angry about having to make his own food, too. Even as a little kid, it made me see him as low value. I'm sorry your kids had to witness this same kind of stressful crap. Thankfully, they're able to see you be a person that doesn't stand for it. I love the last sentence of your comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 08:11 PM
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If I hadn't snooped, I would have never known my ex was doing fentanyl (basically heroin), and having his dealer (who was a prostitute) to our home when I traveled for work. I already knew he was on pills, and had stopped sleeping with him, but I was still in pickme builder mode. I broke up with him immediately. (This was years ago, but I still believe in snooping on any man if there's ever a hunch something is off.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 01:27 PM
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I also made this comment to someone else on this thread, but research has shown women are more likely to avoid emergency medical treatment for heart attacks due to the fact they feel so similar to PMS cramps. We are desensitized to pain for our entire reproductive years to the point we don't notice alarm bells when we get older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 10:07 PM
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Research has shown women are more likely to brush off heart attack pain and avoid the ER, because it's so similar to PMS inflammation. We are desensitized to physical pain to the point that some have heart attacks and just go on about our day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 10:04 PM
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What is your motive with this discussion? Honestly ask yourself why you want to send a 7 months pregnant woman multiple articles about how her vagina won't be as tight for men anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:28 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/owgglg/if_you_are_childfree_vet_your_partners_reasons/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share You should check out this post. And don't even act like you're coming from the same place of concern as that post you shared with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:14 PM
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You're fine! I totally get you and where you were coming from. Pregnancy is huge, and women don't get enough credit for the struggle. I was exactly like you my entire adult life until I recently got pregnant at 37. I always told myself I didn't want a kid, when in reality, I just didn't to marry or procreate with the LVM I was dating at the time. Anyway, I currently have another FDS user telling me I'm going to be permanently loose and disfigured from my current pregnancy, and that I'm some sort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:14 PM
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If you think women trying to be body positive about an event such as childbirth is wrong, you need to read the rules of this subreddit and consider if you're really a feminist or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:05 PM
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Is it really a fact though? What exactly gets permanently damaged/mangled? The vagina is an elastic organ. What you're saying is similar to scrotes saying stuff like "it's like throwing a hotdog down a hallway." I'm pregnant for my first time, and you're making me feel like shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:58 PM
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Suggesting that motherhood makes a woman a mangled up version of a norm. Pregnancy and childbirth are normal human functions, and unless something goes wrong, they don't leave a woman permanently damaged or mangled. Different maybe, but still beautiful and worthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:49 PM
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I see what you mean, except for the part about the brain getting smaller. I’ve only ever heard that women’s brains expand after being a mom, so I looked it up to see what you meant... figured I’d cite one of the sources that popped up. https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2010/10/mommy-brain I didn’t downvote your reply, by the way. I appreciate you clarifying what you meant. Your original comment was pretty harsh, as mothers shouldn’t be seen as mangled versions of a norm. But yeah, pregnanc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 09:13 PM
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in her now mangled up body This is misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:38 PM
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Plus, she was right to have doubts about trusting him, because HE ROOFIES WOMEN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:30 PM
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Me too. Nothing from “male feminists” angers me more than that nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 05:33 PM
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Pregnancy and all the changes it causes to the body and number on the scale REALLY exacerbated my body image issues. If I was married to this guy while pregnant, I would probably cry on a daily basis. (Actually, I wouldn't, because there's no way in hell I could stay with someone like this.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 03:51 PM
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My ex would do this too. Absolutely terrifying, I've never been so afraid for my life. I jumped out of a moving car when he slowed down. I was injured, but at least I didn't die in a crash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 04:42 PM
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Before our first date, I asked my now-boyfriend who was saying he really wanted to meet me: "You're going to treat me like a lady, right? Like take me on a real date and pay for both of us?" He replied, "Of course!" It was pretty simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 04:36 PM
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All I have to say is, please don't ever beat yourself up for being a pickme. You're a trauma victim, and you deserve to look at your behavior through a loving, forgiving lens. I'm so happy you found FDS. Thanks for sharing your story, that was a hard read, so I'm sure it wasn't easy to write it. Please update us someday if you feel up to it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 07:34 PM
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Well, 3.4K women upvoted the video, implying they supported his woman talking to her ex instead of just blocking him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 08:49 AM
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At the risk of being downvoted, I have to agree that some amount of closure is important for reducing possible psychological trauma. This woman clearly felt triumphant after this confrontation. I do believe that throwing this man’s shit out and changing the locks is the most dignified way to handle this particular individual, because all he did was act like a child... but if I had done that with my ex, all the things left unsaid, and all the questions I wanted answered would likely have haunted …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 02:40 PM
10

What is PPD in this context?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 06:17 PM
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🛎🛎🛎 My ex wanted me to be his therapist for daily meetings after work, and I always obliged. When I would open up to him about my struggles, he would later use what I said to bully me for being flawed. I got him a therapist once, and he came back from it and called me a bitch for making him talk about things he doesn’t want to have to think about. He was a better friend to everyone than he was to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 06:14 PM
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I think we just don’t see poor mental health as the be all, end all excuse that some people try to make it. We expect FDS users and men to be self aware and focused on improvement when it comes to mental health, not the type of people who use it as a crutch when given constructive criticism. Pickmes who want sympathy for staying in a relationship that’s destroying them from the inside out do not need coddling. Men who game 20 hours a day, don’t work, and never put sheets on their bed are a lot m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 05:00 PM
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wave his chode around LMAO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 06:35 PM
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Omg your profile picture! ❤😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 06:32 PM
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It's the broken trust and the disrespect. If he were honest about occasionally touching bases and missing her, both would be tough pills to swallow, but it could have saved you so much emotional damage and trauma. He's handled it like a coward. Of course he shouldn't be talking to his ex in the first place, but that's not a marriage deal breaker necessarily, as long as he tells you about it and never makes it flirtatious. But no one wants to married to someone who lies and excludes them in such …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:28 AM
7

Nerds without many friends are still cool, I don't care what anyone says! It's all the other things that make this guy damaging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:21 AM
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It takes a partner who can last for more than 15 minutes and knows where the g-spot is. That’s asking a lot from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:53 PM
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I’m able to urinate right before and right afterwards. The fluid has no color, odor, or taste. It feels absolutely nothing like peeing. That’s all I’m going to say on this topic, because that’s 100% my experience and it’s valid to me. There have been studies that confirm it’s not urine. I’ve had this argument on the internet with misogynists intent on shaming women for their sexuality, and I’m not suggesting that’s your motive, but because of that negative experience of being shamed in the past,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:26 PM
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It’s happened to me before, and it’s definitely not urine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:40 PM
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I’ve been told that, too. I’ve never had them give me advice or try to tell me how I’m supposed to feel about things, besides that one garbage therapist. It was such a waste of my time. I may have been using the word advice loosely, because she was trying to use Cognitive Behavior Therapy with me, but to me it just felt like shitty advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 12:08 PM
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Thank you. I do have a better therapist now. I find it impossible to change my thinking and behavior without discussing how I've let others affect me, so I totally get what you're saying. Many years ago, with a different therapist, I was getting nowhere with her until one day I finally opened up about the abuse I was dealing with. I literally did not know I was being abused until she told me. I was working with an inaccurate borderline personality diagnosis. I didn't have BPD, I was a pickme, ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 08:55 PM
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This therapist was not a competent professional. I have so many instances where she gave the most bullshit advice, but the one thing she would do that really hit me deep was when I would try to bring up past relationship trauma, which makes me start sobbing every single time to the point I can barely talk. Her advice was always, "You gotta just leave that in the past. It's over with now, it was so long ago. You have a new relationship now. Never compare them, or you'll lose the one you have now.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 07:52 PM
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He's objectively not a great dad. Why would she even say that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:53 PM
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I cut off a pickme therapist who tried to say it was perfectly acceptable a boyfriend was talking to another woman online as long as he wasn't hanging out with her in person or sleeping with her. She even snickered at me, and suggested I arrange more date nights with him so we would feel closer aka he would be less likely to cheat. I straight up told her that was dumb and found a different therapist. Edit: Someone asked a tactless question, and I thank the mods for deleting it. But I will clarif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:39 PM
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He's probably just another narcissist who is charming his therapist into believing he is the victim and using what she tells him to be able to manipulate people better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:35 PM
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He was only 18 years old when he wrote this. The average age of marriage for men and women during this time was early 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:39 PM
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"Still single" makes sense since he said he was only 18 years old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:38 PM
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As someone currently in their third trimester, I have no doubt in my mind I would leave the father of my child for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:48 PM
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That’s the kind of boy that will do everything to make you crazy, then mock you for being dysregulated. All the ones I’ve known like this are incels by the time they reach their mid-30s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 03:28 PM
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Three for three said (some) tech guys are nice. But I noticed virtually every good paying career path for roasted! 😂 My takeaway is to be cautious of every man until he proves he is HV. And even then, trust but verify. But we already knew that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:06 AM
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My best friend recently got a proposal. Her ring is around 2-3k, but she just graduated college, and her fiancé makes around $20 an hour. Meanwhile, the couple in the OP is definitely upper middle class. I can see why she’s bitter. (Long ago, my ex-dusty balked at a $30 marriage certificate. So glad we never married or procreated. I would have ended up with a ring from Wish.com)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 10:52 PM
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She’s supposed to wear this ring and look at it every day for the rest of her life. 3k is a lot for young people, or lower income earners, but they’re clearly well established in their careers. I would be happy with a 3k ring (only because I want a conflict-free moissanite solitaire), but she doesn’t have to be if she works that hard. It’s not going to break him to get the kind of ring she wants. He buys the top tier items for himself, so why not for her too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 10:37 PM
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I used to work with a war veteran, who made a genuinely great work friend. He wasn't at all misogynistic, but the more I got to know him, the more I realized why he was divorced. (Past alcoholism that had been extreme, unpredictable bouts of anger, reluctance to express weakness, ect.) Poor guy had PTSD, but I wouldn't have known how to handle it properly, so I'm glad we never dated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 10:45 AM
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My boyfriend is a tech guy, and I think he's a sweetie. He makes good money and is super smart. (I've gotten the impression lower tier engineers are often incel troll types, though.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 10:37 AM
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It started out sounding like he was too shy to ask her out, and didn't understand women (we don't like strangers in our homes when we are otherwise alone.) Then mid-way through it's like he just doesn't want to take no for an answer, and is trying to trick her into giving him her number. I think he wants a woman at his kid's party to make his ex jealous. If he honestly liked her, he would lead with an invite for a date or to hang out as friends in public- not inviting himself into her home befor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 03:42 AM
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Right? If he just has a crush on her, he should just ask her out to a public place to get to know each other. Why the need go go straight into her home? Why involve the kid's bday party? (The bday party invite is possibly to make his ex wife jealous.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 03:33 AM
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Oh my God, you’re so right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 10:27 PM
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Them screaming and freaking out in order to express themselves might as well be sobbing. Men like this that don’t understand that anger is an emotion, they don’t even see how unstable they appear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 10:12 PM
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Men’s idea of an “alpha” is actually what most women see as “douchebag.” Basically, a gym bro with giant muscles and jawline. Lacks career/life balance and sees his income as his main personality trait. Expensive car, as if most women give a flying fuck about what car a man drives. A cheating, emotionally stunted, negligent man-whore. Dates more than one woman at a time. They even view other men through the male gaze, and it’s so different than what most women find impressive. I find a high EQ s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 10:09 PM
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You didn't say "low income," you said "broke." I don't think that's unreasonable or even rude. They don't want a woman in a desperate financial situation either, most likely. I've been broke, and I couldn't afford to look presentable for a real date. I was busy going to community college, and leveling up. I didn't expect men in a further stage of life to want to date me back then. Men on OLD sound delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 04:52 PM
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I agree with the possibility this was a PUA script. She’s gorgeous, so he probably felt it was a good idea to try and take her down a notch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 03:19 AM
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I displayed a few of these when I got into my current relationship too quickly after the last one. Some of these might indicate some unresolved trauma or that someone isn’t ready to start over yet- coming from personal experience. I’m considering mentioning this to my therapist, big yikes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 05:56 PM
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This. Examples include punching holes in walls. Speeding way above the speed limit if he gets angry with you while he’s driving. Cussing and yelling at his video games in a way that makes you anxious. Making everyone on edge just because he is in a bad mood, with zero remorse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 05:48 PM
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This explains so much about the last two years of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 01:20 AM
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Second family? Drugs? Prostitutes? None of this is a concern for her????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 01:00 AM
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I wish I had this comeback years ago. That is so perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 04:20 AM
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Came here to comment this. This is so true. I can’t think of a single exception in her entire career. Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy, Elf, Yes Man, Your Highness, New Girl...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 04:09 AM
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😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:57 AM
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OP started out with "my landlord...," which implies she isn't authorized to do the repairs on her own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 05:09 PM
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Landlords don’t allow that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:30 PM
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❤ Thank you for this. She's my third therapist I've talked to about this, and the first two were complete and total garbage. Their advice was basically, "You just have to let that go, that's so far in the past." That's what everyone tells me. And that's the end of it. Which of course reduces me to hysterical sobbing, because I've TRIED. I need to find a professional who specializes in trauma healing, and one who understands me as well as FDS does. I honestly don't know what I would do without th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:42 AM
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They only express those things when they realize it's really over, and they have to live with a guilty conscience and actual consequences. Otherwise, it's like it never even happened, and god forbid it ever get brought up ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 11:09 PM
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She suggested the reason I still experience trauma flashbacks and nightmares is because I still haven't forgiven him. I told her that learning NOT to forgive unforgivable things he does was a revolutionary experience, and I have no interest in exploring it in therapy. We kind of just dropped it, but she's on thin ice now. It definitely damaged my trust that she's going to know how to make me better if her first inclination was to suggest such a thing. I wish I knew the answer to my problems, but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 10:11 PM
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The problem was me forgiving him for so long so I will never do that again. I feel you. When I finally felt this way about my ex, it was one of my proudest moments. Nothing anyone will ever say to me can convince me that it's wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:15 PM
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My therapist suggested I need to forgive my ex during our last session, and I felt so betrayed and confused ever since that I've been considering getting a different therapist. I couldn't quite piece together why it triggered me so much, so I'm very grateful to find this post and read all of these articulate comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 09:11 PM
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I don’t think so. I was never contacted about it, and never saw him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 12:21 PM
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I dated a LVM for 14 years and EVERY SINGLE place we lived at had a hole punched in the wall by the time we left. So many lost rent deposits. When I dumped him, he called the landlord and had him take pictures of the holes, and told him they were caused by me. I’m not even physically or mentally capable of punching a hole in a wall...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 04:12 PM
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The female fish pic equivalent would be the mani display pic I tried telling my former coworker this about his dead deer pictures. He said he was trying to attract fellow deer hunters, and that I didn't know what I was talking about. He hadn't had a single match on Bumble in over a year of using the app at that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:16 PM
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Right, because women love death and redneck animal torture. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 04:10 PM
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The cats seem very accustomed to this routine. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:06 AM
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It's disturbing when the older one in the couple has kids as old or older than the younger one in the couple. That has to make their kids uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 08:57 AM
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I can smell this comment. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:30 AM
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Why can't more of them just do cute shit like teach younger women ball room dancing? So much better than an aging fuck boi with a harem of casual girlfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:49 AM
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They cite that men get raped in high numbers too, not realizing that approximately 90% of the perpetrators are other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:44 AM
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The accuracy of your comment. I have seen this agreed upon (with a disturbing amount of glee) countless times in subreddits. Pussypassdenied is almost nothing but discussions like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 01:42 AM
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Barbaric.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:08 PM
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It's the peeing in things that aren't toilets that really grinds my gears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:06 PM
12

It's the Joshes for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:13 PM
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I will never be able to be attracted to a man that can't handle his liquor ever again. Not knowing their limit is the most repulsive trait imaginable to me after learning the hard way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:11 PM
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I saw a quote from a radical feminist once that said it's like wanting a piece of the pie- but it's still a pie baked with poison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:03 PM
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A bunch of men commenting that he wasn't being creepy. She's 18, and said the man looked 30. They're expecting a teenager to know exactly how to dominate this interaction, otherwise she "deserves" their ridicule? They literally don't understand/believe that this thoroughly repulses teenagers to be hit on by adults that much older than them- even when she's flat out telling us it upset her. They get this from porn, and the obsession with the age of consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 03:35 PM
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For real, how can they all shower in 3 minutes? It takes me almost 10 times that long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 04:35 PM
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"Loose shorts that go down to the knees" is the answer? 🤡 What combination of gay, fundamentalist, MGTOW elderly man would declare that the solution to society's problems?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 03:27 PM
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women are more likely to bounce /cheat /upgrade the more you mistreat them. MGTOW, red pillers, and incels are missing this key bit of information. If they had that level of awareness, they wouldn't need any of their man-o-sphere nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:57 PM
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I've never experienced one that is too small to do the trick. I prefer average, because the guys with big ones have an ego about it and don't even try to get the correct angles for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 05:41 PM
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I agree. There's no going back from this level of apathy and disrespect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:35 AM
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I was there too! The games all take place years apart, so for instance, the classic games for original Nintendo and Super Nintendo put her in her late 20s. I have not played any of the newer "prequel" games where she's younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:31 PM
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I love this so much!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 01:32 PM
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OMFG that's terrible! I'm sorry you went through that and had to quit and everything. The same thing happened to me recently, too. My boss wouldn't stop making jokes about how I should be a prostitute, and it was really triggering because of how nightmarish I find the idea. I told him how much it bothers me, and he gaslighted me. He said he was just trying to treat me like the men, because he knows that's what feminists want. (He didn't know a single one of my thoughts on feminism. Also, no femi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:50 AM
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I bet he makes as much money as her, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:44 AM
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It’s hard to see him as an abuser but that’s what he was/is. If you are like me, you will process this only after you are divorced and living apart. And it will likely hit you like a tsunami. Journaling might help if you find your mind racing with all those valid arguments that should make him understand you. Either use your notes to better express yourself, or even better, get it all out then never give it to him. At least you will understand yourself better, which is way more important and pow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:29 AM
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This is an important distinction. I'm saving this comment for help in vetting my current boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:21 AM
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This is so true. He admitted it only after I packed my things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 02:18 AM
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I have witnessed many a clown crack this JOKE to their girlfriend with a straight face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:41 PM
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Role Playing Games and the Sims are more popular with female gamers than all the dumb shooting games, and I'm proud of us for that. I also like watching Youtubers play the Sims. My two favorite are Plumbella and Juno Birch. Edit: 🤦 Some scrote DM'd me over this comment, trying to say my choice in video games is inferior. He said shooter games teach an important skill, but didn't say what that skill was. Blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 06:26 AM
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Ah, yes, the same men who sleep in a room with a bare mattress and a transparent sheet as their window covering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 05:31 AM
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My ex's thought process: Once a month, every month she needs a nap. There can't possibly be a reason for this. She must be self-centered, clearly. So when she needs a nap, I will remind her of her weaknesses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 12:34 AM
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The dating subreddit got so mad at me yesterday when I said I want someone who makes equal to me. They would be extra mad if they heard what I want. Some people get triggered by the idea of men genuinely enjoying being a provider and spoiling the woman in their life. I wonder why... LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:36 PM
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Trigger warning: I discovered r/forcedbreeding this evening when some guy made a comment so ignorant I just had to click on his profile. It's up there with deadeyes and r/pussypassdenied, they're all completely unacceptable. Nightmare fuel. Edit: LMAO check out this post by r/forcedbreeding 's only Mod. https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/90f6cb/what_should_i_do_about_my_unhealthy_sexual/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 08:42 AM
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Thank you for saying all of that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 04:51 AM
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Thank you, that is helpful. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:26 AM
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I’ve yet to meet one woman who listens to what I have to say and doesn’t agree with at least some of it. This has been my experience, too. Yet another reason for me to believe the hate I get from other "women" and liberal "feminists" on reddit is actually from men pretending to be women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:46 AM
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Believing I'm LV/NV due to having ADHD and depressive disorder (therefore being messy at times) is the kind of negative self-talk that trapped me in pickme hell for years. I have to think otherwise good people are more than just their worst trait, otherwise I would never be able to get out of bed in the morning. Before anyone says anything, I'm working on the ADHD and negative self-talk in therapy. But getting to a place where I'm literally never overwhelmed and leave messes is beyond my wildest…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:14 AM
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Either time will tell, or I am a LVW according to you all you guys. 😢 A single complaint shouldn't make someone automatically low value. I was confused when I wrote this comment. Thank you FDS ladies for providing nuance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:46 AM
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Not a green flag, but more than bare minimum. My issue is she made a whole ass post, because she was that impressed after like ONE day of considerate behavior. The bar is in Hell. On the other hand, no one enters a relationship exactly compatible to their partner. She said he respectfully handled the criticism, and was trying to change. Therefore, this wouldn't be LVM territory for me. She's stated it's important to her, so it's up to him to keep up with it.. for more than one freaking day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:26 AM
6

Men of yore realized they had to keep creating excuses for us ladies to want them around. Things only HVM understand. Imagine being the more attractive sex that births children and still thinking we need to constantly create excuses to want us around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 10:54 PM
7

Man bun = 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:24 PM
2

There was a similar AITA crosspost in FDS about 6 months ago, and the woman put her puppy's training wee wee pads around the toilet to save herself time when cleaning their bathroom. He was angry at her "cleaning hack", but he was literally more filthy than her infant dog. I hope they've broken up by now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:20 PM
8

That dorky guy is Joe Francis, who is living in hiding in Mexico to escape jail time. He was convicted of falsely imprisoning women and causing them severe bodily harm. I can only imagine what went down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 09:10 PM
7

First of all, he probably wouldn't even remember about the day of X, unless she repeatedly reminds him of it up to the night before. If I were in a relationship, and we made plans but never mentioned them again, I would assume they're cancelled. Second, ghosting and blocking without warning is for the dating stage. She's been with this guy for years and says he (they?) has a stable family. That would be unrealistic and psychologically unhealthy for both of them, and possibly any children involve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:07 PM
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It’s ridiculous the point where we’re being brainwashed and taken advantage of. This is why so many men are beyond angry that FDS exists. Because we are undoing the exact brainwashing you mentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:35 PM
10

The brown boots were probably on clearance, and a crossbody Michael Kors bag is like $200 less than a satchel. I see right through him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 10:51 PM
25

Yes, please dump him. Grown men that sub to any model's social media to look at photoshopped bodies when they are in a relationship- LVM. I would never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:06 PM
37

Incels and MGTOWs are up to 6 mass murders, and 44 deaths attributed to their philosophy. FDS = 0.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:40 PM
8

I think the implication from the "women" who say they enjoy it is that they like it to be pounded. I use the word penetration, because they mentioned it's a trope in anime porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 08:22 PM
14

Thank you! I love the people on this sub. They meant hitting against it, but cervixes tear easily, so I said it like that. (Also, someone mentioned it's probably from an anime trope where they show cervix penetration.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:34 PM
36

I want to shame women who promote dangerous things as normal. In an effort to virtue signal to men and libfems and brag over their "not like other girls" status, they will promote obviously problematic ideas. For example, on reddit today: Because dudes penetrating/banging into a cervix brings 0.001% of women pleasure, then pointing out the possible repercussions (infections, pain) means I was "silencing women" by saying it's a fucked up idea. Manipulative gotcha BS. Edit: Now they're talking abo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:53 PM
73

Some of these guys are probably closeted gays. 100% of the time in my experience, the butt guys are clearly at least a little bit into dudes. And super in the closet about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 05:45 PM
46

You must be reading my post history from today. I really need to stop engaging with Libfems online. They're mostly men pretending to be women, anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 04:27 PM
56

I would bet money he and his mother, would judge her as much or more for saying yes to avoid embarrassment, then going back on it later. At least this way, someone in the crowd gave him a pat on the back or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 05:15 PM
10

My vagina hurt reading that. What the fuck did he do to her?!! Guys finger women with their dirty uncut talons all the time, and it doesn't cut them! And is he insinuating that her flirting with him over text before the incident means he shouldn't feel remorseful about "blunt force trauma" that's left her in pain for months?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:15 PM
23

Poor sweet summer child...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:04 PM
18

her husband refused to ask her dad if he could marry her The fact that it was never expected of him, but he felt the need to declare all this is a red flag. What if that was the norm in her family? I would bet money his real thought process had fuck all to do with feminism. Wow, what a prince!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:03 PM
30

HiS pOoR wAlLeT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:54 PM
23

That was the only point I was trying to make to them, too. I thought it was common knowledge, but apparently not if someone never spent a single moment of their life learning about female oppression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:28 PM
16

Evidenced by how much of the internet thinks Johnny Depp is a victim of Amber Heard. Men worship his celebrity persona, and LOVE the idea of Amber deserving physical retaliation. (Nevermind Depp is an admitted alcoholic, and she's half his age and half his size.) A judge ruled that Depp was the main abuser in two different court cases! His co-workers didn't want to work with him. Why does Reddit get off on trashing Amber?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:40 PM
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Almost every woman has a story about being harassed or assaulted, but I've never met a man who admits to doing that to anyone in their past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:30 PM
22

They're literally all suspect for the sheer number of them that think "18 makes it ok." And for mass rapes during war. Society is keeping them in line, that's all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:24 PM
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I am ashamed for how many times I have argued with idiots on Reddit about prostitution. They honestly believe: it's a safe job for women, and that they are supporting feminism by purchasing consent to a woman's body. They tell me ANY choice a woman makes should be encouraged and normalized, and if I suggest otherwise, I must want to police female sexuality. They won't even hear any discussion of pimps, trafficking, or assault rates. 🤡 Edit: They always use the phrase "important work," referring …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:18 PM
2

I want you to know I really appreciate civil discussions like this one, especially in an open forum. You brought up some thought provoking points, followed by us politely exchanging perspectives. Why do other people so rarely do this on the internet? Anyway, thank you for sharing your lived experiences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:51 PM
1

I'm white, and I see younger people doing that to POC. I can't speak for anyone I don't know, but please try to give your friends the benefit of the doubt. There are worse things than trying hard to prove you're not racist in 2020.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 02:24 PM
75

"How do you manage having such a busy career and still be able to spend time with your kids?" So many possible implications in that question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 06:33 PM
9

I've noticed this. Especially old men, they can't not do it. I was made aware of this like 20 years ago and stopped doing it, because I agree, it's irrelevant and distasteful. I also agree it's usually not meant to be nefarious, but c'mon, it's 2020. They know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:39 PM
12

You upset a magical fragile male ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:30 PM
8

That's outrageous. Probably better for your blood pressure to be banned. F*ck em.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:27 PM
9

This comment is epic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 04:25 PM
9

LMFAO!! Touche!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 02:33 PM
5

What's a Lacey? I thought FDS was against names like Karen, Becky, and names for black women I don't even want to type.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 02:21 PM
11

Your comment is giving my old self so much validation. I worked at a hotel when I was younger, and the staff was all women. We hired a male HVAC technician, and he walked by all of us every single day telling us all to smile while we are just making beds and stuff. I was LIVID, and they were all like, "He's just being friendly!" Nooooooo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:54 PM
6

That's why one good way to reply is to be blunt: "I was thinking about the Holocaust." "I'm not doing anything with my body for you." "Me? Now?! Oh, that would feel odd, nothing is happening! Here, why don't you try?" laugh in his face for being awkward and put on the spot if he smiles Shake your head as you walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 01:51 PM
25

I hate #6. You basically wrote every single point I planned to make, couldn't have said it better. Thanks for saving me time, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 04:36 PM
8

You totally get it. I love FDS. I went to a strip club when I was 21. I don't know WHAT I was expecting, but it wasn't a room full of disgusting drunk dudes who were waaaaay too thirsty. That's what I got, and I've never been able to picture a strip club since without this one exact dude I saw in like, 2004. Dollar bills in his mouth at the edge of the stage, about 60 years old and acting like a cartoon wolf with his eyes bulging out at these teenage girls. No woman on Earth likes that. PS. (Str…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 03:58 PM
51

I got into a argument on reddit yesterday with some guy saying he super respects women, and knows they love being prostitutes, and they're safe because they're "badasses." When he discovered I'm active in this sub, it stopped the whole conversation. He got strangely triggered, which I took to mean we are doing something right if a LVM got that bent out of shape over us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:28 AM
37

That subreddit you mentioned is some of the most disturbing shit I've ever seen on the internet. It really takes the cake for the comments alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:24 AM
7

That makes a lot of sense. Jokes on them, though. Most of the people that love their games don't want to do shit else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:37 PM
44

Why are weapons, war, and death the only thing happening in those games, yet they are amused for hours? How is pretending to be stuck in a war "fun"? The fuck is wrong with them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:42 AM
51

My ex absolutely hated that I liked games like the Sims instead of online first person shooter games like Call of Duty. I've heard how players treat women gamers in chat, and seen them get booted for next to nothing. Guess I'll just have to live my life never learning to play first person shooters, because I wasn't opening myself up to abuse from losers for "fun."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:31 AM
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True. The symptoms are all over the place for the diagnosis for BPD. Counselors diagnose people just for having super sensitive emotions or poor coping mechanisms, which is not like the official diagnosis guidelines that you're likely referring to. I got diagnosed with it once about 6 years back, while I was having some sort of nervous breakdown. My counselor changed my diagnosis to depression, which makes more sense. Had I been born 120 years earlier, I would have "hysteria."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 03:11 AM
25

So then it's basically Borderline Personality Disorder in the modern era.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 02:05 AM
94

I used to go to what was essentially couple's counseling by myself because my ex would never do such a thing. This was my goal- learn how to make him care that he hurts me. Obviously I never did. He was very sad when I dumped him, and I still cared about making him sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 01:16 PM
3

Thank you, I was so hoping my comment wouldn't annoy you. I went through a similar bitter stage after first discovering FDS and realizing how deeply wronged I was by my ex. I imagine some of them have LVM for fathers, which makes it extra hard to believe in the existence of HVM. (Been there too.) I hope our fellow sisters are able to grow from uncomfortable emotions like that, and IF they are interested, find a partner that treats them like a queen. Including you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 02:30 AM
12

Disclaimer: I'm not bragging, I sincerely want to give you hope and answer your question honestly. My (post FDS!) boyfriend pays all of our bills without me ever asking. He does about 60% of the cooking, and never complains if I don't feel like making anything. I injured myself at my forestry job, and can't work. He doesn't mind fully supporting me, or the fact the house is messier since I can't do my share of any cleaning due to the injury. He's always telling me I'm too hard on myself, and to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 02:14 AM
16

Oh, I know. I was in one for 14 years. 😠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 11:53 PM
72

Isn't it mind blowing? Realizing that without a doubt, none of them were ever the prize? 🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:31 PM
52

I give this relationship another 6 months, max. Sis sounded done as hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:21 PM
4

Liberal feminists are pickmes who have drank the scrote-cult Kool-aid. (Sorry for "scrote" and "Kool-aid" being in the same sentence.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:18 PM
7

I always felt misunderstood and had to change my ways to please scrotes. Reddit is an especially awful place, aside from FDS and cute animal subs. It's so nice to feel understood by so many fellow women here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 10:15 PM
20

Maslow was just a depraved monkey-torturer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 09:09 AM
2

Let's not tear other women down on FDS. I'm 100% with you that online dating is beneath us and we shouldn't be doing it, but wanting a partner is normal. This is a dating strategy sub, after all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 04:12 PM
34

Thank you for sharing this, it's amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:53 PM
31

When I was a pickme, my ex would dump me and/or tell me I was stupid for wanting to marry him almost every single time I would cry or get upset. I dumped him over a year ago, and it's still a struggle to believe I deserve to have emotions. I keep expecting my current boyfriend to suddenly not love me with no reason or warning, and I know it's related to this trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 02:03 PM
8

r/pussypassdenied and r/fightporn in a nutshell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:16 AM
12

Are there even 111k female incels in the entire world? The word means involuntarily celibate, not antisocial. Dick is abundant and therefore low value, so not many women are being denied sex involuntarily for any reason besides keeping decent standards. And even when women do go through a dry spell, it doesn't make us psychotic and violent like it tends to with male incels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 11:13 AM
24

I could have written your entire comment about myself and it would have been just as true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 07:35 PM
77

They feel salty as hell when they get dumped, too. "I thought she could never do this!" No man deserves to feel totally invincible in his relationship. The audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:03 PM
7

If you were with a LVM dusty, you deserve to have a therapist! I have only had about 4 sessions, so we haven't made much progress yet. The therapist just said time will heal this wound, but I don't know. I would be happy to talk to you about this, as I sometimes feel like no one understands. Hit me up in the chat window any time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 09:55 AM
72

When I was in highschool (late 90s), I had a friend who was a year younger. She was always bragging that some police officers would flirt with them. They would ask the girls to flash them, and eventually one started sleeping with one of them regularly. Sometimes in his patrol car. She thought it was her "boyfriend." I remember my best friend and I (15 or 16) thought this was absolutely disgusting and scandalous, but I don't remember understanding it was criminal. I was never told to tell an adul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:32 PM
27

Just come out and say you're gay homie Facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:43 PM
27

He is not good about respecting boundaries whatsoever. Why would she defend that part of his personality of all things? That's something an emotional abuse victim does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:42 PM
24

I'm memorizing this in case I ever have a friend try OLD. This is the most profound and well-worded argument I've ever seen against it. I was already against it, but this comment hits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:29 PM
58

I'm in therapy for this. I dumped this LVM dusty so long ago, yet I still find myself worrying about him from time to time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:20 PM
8

I relate with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:19 PM
19

😂 Definitely a red flag. Like The Mountain had a baby with the Boltons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:17 PM
31

I could write a book about how much it sucks when a dude has a big dick and sucks at sex at the same time. Better have good health insurance if that describes your man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 06:14 PM
5

He didn't apologize profusely? Barbarians...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:50 PM
19

My boyfriend does all the stuff on the OP list, pays all my bills, and has spent the last hour making dinner with groceries he shopped for. I've seen negative comments saying FDS expectations are unattainable or unreasonable, but the rules seem to be working fairly well for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:38 AM
52

That, and they take a woman’s preferences too personally. LVM always get legit angry and annoyed when I tell them I don't eat meat. In 20 years, never had a girl or woman be weird about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:55 PM
6

My current (post-FDS) boyfriend is incredibly kind and understanding, so I already dropped the ball on keeping that stuff secret. Almost every other man I've known before uses that stuff against their woman with zero shame, so your advice is seriously spot on. I wish you could have been around to tell me that when I was younger and experiencing mental health issues with lesser men as partners. And in toxic workplaces, the same advice applies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:54 PM
90

Yes!! The sperm chases the egg, let us not forget. I think a PS5 is a fine courting gift FROM a man TO a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:23 PM
84

The root issue of this madness!! This is "equality" when you appreciate absolutely nothing women normally offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:21 PM
6

I love how respectfully we are able to bring up counter arguments in this sub, it gives me life. Thank you. Anyway, I think that might be something in the handbook I will choose not to follow given my experiences and level of trauma. I feel unsure challenging any of the strategists, because I see them as practically gurus. Therefore, I don't want to go into my line of thinking here, and put any bad ideas and habits into someone else's head. To answer your question, if I do something difficult (l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 10:12 PM
10

I'm glad you addressed this. (I'm going to play devil's advocate for the very first time on this sub, but only for a second.) It's kind of a trap, because reality is not so black and white. I can see any and all LVM playing this game. But there are some HVM with legitimately bad experiences with relationships, and explaining that to a new serious girlfriend is not an immediate red flag. Not 100% of women are the type of queens found on this sub, a small percentage of them are shitty people. I su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 09:53 PM
2

"The vagina always knows sooner than the heart. ❤"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 08:02 PM
20

That would explain why r/teenagers is more wholesome and childlike than any teenager I've ever met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 10:01 AM
15

My vagina moved on from my ex years before my brain did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 09:33 AM
14

I related to every single word of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 06:01 PM
5

I like you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 09:03 PM
5

I was making a Mel Brooks reference. (They were making fun of the Kevin Coster for being unable to do the accent for his role in Robin Hood.) But anyway, I love medieval history, and I always forget they didn't speak anything like us. I remember reading Maid Marianne would have spoken a form of French unrecognizable to someone of Robin Hood's social class. I wonder if Robin Hood was an HVM... 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 08:59 PM
19

But Men in Tights Robin Hood, unlike other Robin Hoods, can speak with an English accent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 08:45 PM
51

this sense that women are naturally more attractive and beautiful than men are That is an objective fact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 07:07 PM
2

My friend had to serenade his girlfriend from the Philippines in order for her family to even consider letting him propose. He was a nerdy American, but he took it very seriously. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:20 AM
6

Oh my god. Your comment has me in tears before my morning coffee! 😂 (Love your username, too.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 11:17 AM
24

LVM don't care if their partner is happy while they're with them. They just want to know they will stick around. That's their standard for how well they think their girlfriend deserves to be treated, and they don't go above it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:46 PM
3

Girl, you too?!! I thought the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 05:43 PM
19

"being gay" and not mascuiline And there's nothing worse than that is there? 🙄 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 08:48 PM
6

Thank you, that is useful information! I had no idea opals were that fragile. What are your opinions on moissanite stones? Real diamonds just aren't my thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 06:45 PM
111

This woman is the epitome of stupid I am usually the last person to pick on the woman, but this pickme is something else, so here goes: He gives her such a giant obvious fuck you, and she's so unsure if she has a right to verbally acknowledge it that she'll need 100+ strangers to tell her to first. And why did she think the $149 ring was going to be durable and lasting? It would have needed constant repairs too, being worn every day. Both of these people literally cannot comprehend basic jeweler…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 09:13 AM
39

It's sad that this dude is her only experience of sex and orgasms, and the two can't even figure out to keep a few towels preemptively on the nightstand. They'll never figure out what her love languages or turn ons are at this rate. Her husband is a jerk, and sucks in bed way more than she does from the sound of it, and is trying to gaslight her into taking full blame. He wouldn't sexually satisfy any women with his shit personality though, it's not just her. But who did her REALLY wrong was her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 08:52 AM
3

I've been guilty of similar jealousy, and was able to be reassured with a little communication. I would never like or dislike posts though, that is taking it way too far. Dude is definitely red flag city.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:18 PM
3

It's mildly weird he is looking at their instagram, but still relatable. It's super weird he is choosing to dislike the ex's stuff. It shows he is insecure, and it might be helped by reassuring him how much those ex's are in the past. If his weird behavior doesn't stop after you reassuring him, he has serious issues that would lead to a stressful relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 12:30 PM
139

France didn't ban the film "Mignonnes" ("Cuties"), but a book about a woman NOT looking for love is indecent? Ok, France, I'm judging.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 12:24 PM
5

WOW! You just made me move on from my ex a little more. Your comment is shockingly accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 01:25 PM
25

Yup- already know he's going to be a total dick. Every time. Hope she stays away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 12:14 AM
30

SSRI = antidepressant medication. Sometimes the side effect is a low sex drive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:10 PM
47

You're making some seriously solid points. I hope someone says these to the dude, because it wrecks his whole argument.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:50 AM
29

I've had multiple grown men try to accuse me of racism and xenophobia for saying some places in the world are objectively worse for women than the United States. Women's issues are human issues, though. How can they know so little about what's happening in the rest of the world?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:25 AM
4

r/pussypassdenied (trigger warning)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:15 AM
14

You know my ex better than he does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 04:52 PM
37

That's sad, to lose one's looks by that age. Caucasian men's belief that sunscreen is feminine and gay is their undoing. And so many beautiful men get bad teeth and muscle loss years like 40 years early, purely out of laziness and The Mountain Dew Diet. I wouldn't be so harsh, but it's like damn near all of them are like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 12:50 PM
2

He has drank the incel/redpill Kool-aid. He's hopelessly brainwashed by other dudes mansplaining what women think. This guy does NOT have an original thought in his body, and is just going with what ideas make him feel better (not what makes sense based on his life experience- like she pointed out.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:56 PM
30

This. In hindsight, it's so obvious. I was clearly into that stuff because I wanted to reenact the physical abuse I was receiving in a more controlled ritual. I wanted to be rewarded for absorbing abuse instead of treated coldly. It didn't really help, and just made me more aware how undeserving he was of any form of submission from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 07:10 PM
18

Aladdin was a lyin' ass dusty for most of that film
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 11:14 AM
15

Not violence blood? WOMEN'S blood!! NoooOooOO the horror!! -child man with no life experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:16 AM
26

An eye for an eye. That would have been hilarious. I'm so glad I've never dated a man like that, it would give me mental issues even after he got dumped. Dudes think women are like Sims. Especially boomer aged men, they talk like we can just cinch and stretch and expand any parts we don't like. Like I have a gut, because I'm too stupid to know a tiny waist looks better. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:13 PM
34

Lemme guess, the hot chicks were the type with BBL's, size 2, sucking their gut in for every picture. "jUsT wOrKoUt AnD yOu CaN lOoK liKe a MoDeL."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:53 PM
8

We've all been there, but it's important to eventually forgive your old self. The good thing is you are actively re-programming your mind by engaging in this subreddit. You'll do better next time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 11:54 AM
21

She was probably refusing to answer because he got annoying as fuck. Not gonna lie, I would be horrified if I found out someone I was dating didn't know basic multiplication. But it's also shameful that he can't teach it to someone without having a meltdown and being a dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 11:47 AM
43

This is so good it deserves to be its own post, not a measly little comment reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:38 PM
21

Meanwhile, I just want someone to have a genuine bond with that doesn't involve me developing trust issues. What a diva. 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 05:52 PM
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always go through the phone! EVERY. MAN. No exceptions! Open phones (or shared passwords) is such a strict boundary for me. You would be amazed at what they're hiding, and how ignorant they are about keeping it a secret. (The worst time for me was discovering my boyfriend of 14 years had "befriended" a prostitute/heroin dealer and had been using for months.) Current one liked to have online women buddies and occasionally getting flirted with on the side, and convinced himself he's not cheating b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 09:17 AM
5

This dude has zero game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:36 PM
116

🤔 Got me second guessing my relationship, girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:28 PM
19

He did, she wrote a whole ass song about it. It just wasn't the reason for the divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 07:52 PM
17

Yes we do. OP frequently makes FDS posts, so this progress is kind of a big deal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 07:48 PM
12

👍 My hair is thicker than ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:23 PM
29

I found FDS because I googled to try to find a better argument for marriage against my boyfriend that didn't want to marry me. We were broken up within a week of me finding FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:10 PM
6

That part sounded more like incel erotic-fiction than real humans. Even if it's just edgelord one-upping, it's no more or less psychotic than thinking this crap up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:32 PM
29

I found hundreds of degrading posts like this my ex husband made on a forum about the prostitutes he was using. This is a nightmare worse than I ever could have imagined. Combines practically all of my triggers. My god, my heart goes out to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:29 PM
11

Welcome sis! Hearing other women come out of the same kind of pain I went through, are here reprogramming their mind, finally giving up on their dead-end dusty LVM... It makes my day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 02:31 PM
3

That all sounds really terrible, and I'm sorry you went through that, but I'm happy to year you're out now. I hope everyone who reads your comment is reminded we should NOT take an amateur's diagnosis seriously. It might be something worth exploring, but if the diagnosis turns out to be wrong, then it says a lot about the accusing partner and their opinion of your struggles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 05:11 PM
58

This is the quality content I signed up for! This should be required teaching for all girls along with sex ed. 1. This is what puberty is. 2. This is how you do and don't get pregnant. 3. Boys and men ARE going to gaslight you, but you are in fact not crazy. Also, the part about men saying their ex's are crazy. 🚩! Especially watch out for "borderline personality disorder" and "bipolar disorder" labels. Women genuinely suffer from these, but it's a red flag when a man says his ex did. People will…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:02 PM
5

Aw, I love my HV nerd. 🤓 He happens to be confident and beautiful, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:22 AM
87

Yes, even fights and disagreements are chances to learn and become closer with the right person. With a LVM, fights are all tears and high blood pressure and zero resolution. If I need to go to therapy to get along with him, bye. (I don't have a ring or a child, I'm not trying to knock marriage therapy.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:58 PM
3

LMAO 😂🤦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 09:56 PM
17

Mohawks are a no after 30. My god, were they hot when I was a kid, but as a grown woman... LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 07:56 PM
7

Your post history is almost 100% you arguing with other women on this subreddit. How was that supposed to make me think you're not a man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:16 PM
7

I'm salty, because you're rude, combative, and most likely an uneducated dude. But mostly because you're on this sub, and disregarding all of its rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:09 PM
8

There is no way you are a doctor. You have the wit of a club bouncer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:07 PM
9

u/Three-ohVicryl is a male troll, you guys. He is referring to women as "females" and all kinds of other red flags. Ignore and/or report.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:04 PM
5

That was really low, quoting her pain from SEVEN months ago and blaming her for it. Did that feel like sisterhood to you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:59 PM
10

The cat would have clearly been happier being neutered, they didn't allow him to be a "real man" in the first place. Just turned him into a violent incel. Poor boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 11:12 PM
18

You can tell if a man will be good at sex by how he pets a cat. Cats only like it a certain way, and will give you lots of non-verbal signals to let you know what they are and are not enjoying. A lot of men will just pet them their own way, ignore all the cat's signals, then berate the cat when it gets annoyed with them. These men will not give you an orgasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 10:59 PM
10

Ow!!!!!!!!!! No!! No. cringe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 10:42 PM
12

I report those comments. Sometimes they get taken down. They're EVERYWHERE on reddit, every single day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 10:36 PM
48

That's the minimum amount of time it takes to vet a man and decide if he is HV or not. So that sounds like a good goal point, although it is all about when you feel genuinely comfortable and ready. Too many women get into bed because the feel obligated or guilty, and that's when it's too soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 06:28 PM
30

She has probably dealt with exactly the type of thing you're talking about, and has been given a complex about it after one too many times. This guy just wants her to have a special night free of that kind of BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:53 PM
19

😀🤚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 12:00 AM
10

I agree that middle class women of that era such as my grandma were not expected to work after having kids, but the reality for women born into poverty or to a race other than white, they often had to work. He made sure she was set up after his death with life insurance and a nice pension, so she never had to work another day in her life if she didn't want to. And she didn't want to. I know this is likely the norm for the middle class of that time, but it's still worth mentioning how nice it was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 08:25 PM
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Thank you. Their experience is worlds apart from modern LVM demanding nudes from women they barely know, and I'm glad someone else can see that. Their relationship was fairly FDS-friendly for their time. She was one year older than him. They used condoms for birth control, and delayed having children for years until they were financially set in their mid-20s. She had a job as a secretary in her teens and 20s, but he did not pressure her to go back to having an income when she wanted to stay at h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:35 PM
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My mother and aunt were HORRIFIED to find them! Their letters to each other were supposedly pretty racy, too. I haven't seen them, but I'm glad that box wasn't thrown away. They were a successful couple, very respectful and had fun together. It's nice their descendents can know that. (I don't have to ever read the letters or see the pictures to know this. Took their word for it.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 04:00 PM
21

Not to defend 50s culture, but I thought this would be a good chance to remind fellow women that 2020 marks the 100th year of us winning the right to vote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 03:42 PM
144

My grandmother sent nudes to her husband, my grandpa, during WW2. They still exist in a box of their love letters in my aunt's basement. Seriously, nudes make the rounds more than you'd ever expect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 03:34 PM
3

Thank you! I added that book to my Amazon cart. Good luck to you as well! 😊❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:53 PM
3

❤❤❤!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 10:10 PM
5

Thank you for that. I can't seem to stop beating myself for not getting to therapy immediately, but it was too raw in the beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 09:23 PM
25

I think I needed to see this kind of message on FDS for it to really sink in. I've been an emotional rollercoaster after discovering FDS and leaving my LVM boyfriend of 14 years. It was a co-dependent relationship (he was an addict), which means there is a lot for me to unpack. I was so incredibly brainwashed to accept numerous forms of abuse and less than the bare minimum. The longer I've gone without seeing him, the more it sinks in that I was done wrong and it hurts. I found a therapist, but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:35 PM
25

Meat or seafood, onions, cilantro, sometimes their version of sour cream. Always a soft shell. And now I'm hungry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:43 PM
6

I work in forestry, and I'm always the only woman. This is mostly true in my experience. I had to have a talk with them a few times about how I don't need to be hearing that crap at work. The two HVM I had the pleasure of working talked about their partners constantly, but never in a sexual or disrespectful manner. LVM and HVM are like night and day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:40 PM
7

All of his examples are gross and would almost certainly give me a bacterial infection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:24 PM
77

Authentic Mexican tacos almost never have cheese. Just one reason among many this dude is a moron.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:16 PM
8

I have a boyfriend. I don't want legal hookers to be popular. I think it would be better for prostitutes if we tried to give them a second chance at something more fulfilling than being a cum rag for LVM. Rather than turning our backs on her as a society pretending like it's ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:38 AM
7

You say that as if it wasn't completely preposterous to most people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:16 AM
11

Do the ends justify the means in this case? With your experience and wisdom, is this a risk you would recommend to younger girls? What about to a niece or a daughter? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 11:20 PM
8

My dad did this to my mom once when she made a dish we liked, but he did not. He got irrationally angry, and even as an elementary school student I knew it was wrong. My mom just said sorry. I still remember being disgusted by his audacity 30 years later, and have never eaten that dish since that day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:24 PM
17

Many men become violently resentful when being financially provided for. Glad you're doing better now. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 04:36 PM
13

I thought I was the only one. I can orgasm 99% of the time with an average one, and with no excruciatingly painful vaginal/bladder infections!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:33 PM
16

That last paragraph you wrote was nothing short of incredible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:28 PM
35

Imagine having the level of confidence of an ugly man who believes women want to be his free prostitute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:51 PM
3

Ridiculous that people over 30 believe grown men in committed relationships need to have friendships with other women that their girlfriend can't know anything about. Not on my watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:19 PM
4

r/dataisbeautiful would love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:12 AM
8

This is one of the most shocking things I've read on FDS so far. After 20 years! And he is already into violent BDSM, I would be genuinely afraid he would act on his fantasy regarding you. I hope you stay safe. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:11 AM
18

Oh, the shame of accepting an invitation to build trust. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 10:36 AM
2

I was with you until that last part. I honestly lack control around carbs every single month, and I've never in my life given any thought to what men say/think about periods or PMS. It is because carbs help regulate serotonin. Your username is adorable, by the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:07 AM
6

The ones where they simulated a loud intense orgasm because of their shampoo fragrance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 01:28 PM
15

neurotically trying to be kind in the most weird ways, which means they really aren't at all kind to the people that actually need her. Reading that made me feel like I suddenly needed months less therapy than I did before. I used to give all my kind energy to my ex-dusty, and was a mentally ill monster to the world around me. I'm such a happier person without him, I don't even cry in public anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:36 PM
7

In the States, they exaggerate by like an inch. 🙄 There is such a small window I find desirable, it seems I honestly prefer average. The 3 bigger guys I've been with had such an ego about it that they put little effort into their performance, they just kind of sat and waited for the sex to happen to them. yawn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:35 PM
5

You know that's average, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:19 PM
9

That would make anyone insecure. Plus, jokes are supposed to be funny. He knew exactly what he was doing. I'm sorry you went through all that, what a jerk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 02:56 PM
1

"Love and Capital: Karl and Jenny Marx and the birth of a revolution" by Mary Gabriel. I can separate the genius from his personal life, but I figured mentioning his LVM behavior was relevant in this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:42 PM
1

You should read about how Marx treated his wife and children. He's a NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:34 PM
1

Jeff and Chevy Chase's characters are supposed to be seen as douchebags by the audience. Their male audacity is written as the joke it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 09:47 AM
1

That's definitely cheating. And pathetic. Sorry you went through that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 09:52 AM
1

The YouTube comments are all from guys wanting to know both the "porn" actors' names so they can watch their videos. One just says "Can we PLEASE have one that paints a little girl in a bad light?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 05:58 AM
1

Telling these LVM to clean their rooms and get a real job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 07:03 AM
1

Dan Schneider and Brian Peck are two examples of this from the Nickelodeon channel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 07:50 AM
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