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/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/22 08:26 AM
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Yes I do enjoy Emily Ratajkowski tits the same at age 12 and at age 29. Things that I find objectively beautiful like a Caravaggio or Michelangelo are immutabile through time.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 12:46 AM
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Yes and the other way around too, but it’s not the rule..
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 05:53 PM
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You don’t really like your husband’s junk then, you just like that that junk belongs to your chosen provider and partner. It’s just logic…otherwise you would have enjoyed his pix
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 05:52 PM
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There isn’t a 10 for each woman tho…also I am assuming that generally speaking 10s get married with other 10s women. Are you implying all women are 10s 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 05:43 PM
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Fair point…but then I am not sure why the would settle with one of their random 100+ matches. They will probably try to maximise their compatibility in terms of attractiveness and personality, so even if they want to settle more than unattractive men, the probability that they would be satisfied with you is minimal
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:42 PM
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Not expecting to get thirsty for a 5/10, but since 99% of the women in OLD don’t want to get pumped and dumped, what do they realistically expect pursuing the very top percentile? Do they realise how rare those men are and that a lot of women chase them?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 10:26 AM
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What logic or shallowness have anything to do with that? You clearly cannot see beyond your biased concept of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 09:31 PM
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That makes sense, outside of online dating the dynamics are different
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 07:29 AM
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Well it’s not a big deal for you, you can only see your needs and requests, but everything a man wants is not a big deal..for me it’s a big deal to organise dates and spend time for 3 months with a person that I am not even sure I’d enjoy the sex with. It’s a pretty big deal if you ask me and waiting increase the chances of going nowhere after months wasted. You can’t expect random ppl from OLD to make all this effort, relationship should be a mutual interest, not always men trying to win your t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 11:17 PM
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I am not saying it’s a crime, I am saying that this narrative that women keep on telling about the risk of not orgasming is utter nonsense. Some women cannot orgasm with their husband and soulmate , others can reach vaginal orgasm extremely easily with rando, what does exactly knowing a person 1 more month or “tasting water” change in that regard ? Nobody can give you a guarantee that you will enjoy your time in bed, regardless of how a person acts during dates. You might be turned off by how th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 07:08 PM
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How’s exactly the OP question relevant for you then?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 04:18 PM
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Wow not orgasmising is such a big risk, innit? 🙄 Men risk not to get a great performance all times, we don’t actually know in advance if we can be turned off by a girl when never saw naked and in a sexual context. All of this sounds the usual nonsense, pregnancy risk is also abysmal nowadays, stop acting like ppl use goat bowels as a contraceptive like in Middle Ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 04:14 PM
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Part of the problem is driven by dating dynamics: women are passive as fuck, they usually wait to be asked to for a date, and even if the do they never and I mean NEVER choose the place. When I choose a place and I invite someone, I usually pay because they are kind of my “my guest”. That’s the issue at its root: women expect you to initiate everything, so it’s easy to naturally lead by dealing with the bill too. One solution is just to suggest coffee dates: they are usually so cheap that splitt…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 03:16 PM
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This does not address in any way my point…unless you are assuming that only Chad show up in those places (spoiler: false). In low inhibition context, women will still pick up the Chad. Which is fine, I just don’t understand why women like the op above spin this narrative by saying that “sexual attraction” has to do more with them and the moment rather than the male they have sex with…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 01:56 PM
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How do you explain men that constantly get laid with a lot of different women over a short period of type? Just out of luck? Are they just magically meet all of them in their “let’s have some casual fun” phase?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 11:39 AM
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Amazing list 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 08:47 AM
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The point is that you seem to be over sensitive about women exploiting in the porn industry but you are extremely happy living your privileged western life using devices that are made by exploiting a lot of people along the production chain (all the microchips are made with stuff extracted in Africa’s cave where the working conditions are definitely worse than American porn industry’s one). Either you are biased completely in favour of women or you are hypocritical
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:41 PM
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You haven’t answered my question sweetheart, do you have a phone and a laptop? Then it’s extremely likely that someone got exploited in the process to make the stuff you are using. I don’t understand your point on Texas and Taliban, but whatever…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:34 PM
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I bet you are writing this stupid comment from a phone that was manufactured in China by exploring workers there, with a chip that contains precious metals obtained in caves in Africa exploiting workers there. Good to know you give a shit about exploitation only when females are involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:06 PM
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Oh cmon half of Pornhub is verified amateur couples or singles nowadays, it’s not 90s anymore. Wake up. You can enjoy porn without watching a single vid from mainstream production companies.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:03 PM
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Am I missing a joke or what? Does anyone see two girls in the picture? I only see a hot girl on the right and a empty room and a window on the left 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:54 PM
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Right all life. I am a great cook and I love cooking, I don’t mind doing chores since I’ve lived by myself since I was 18. Who cares if I end up being cheated on, it’s life, shit happens
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:51 PM
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Cry in non-Instagram user 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 02:46 PM
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Yes also money are not everything, but I don’t stop wanting them cause Bill Gates tells me they lose their luster after a while…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 07:54 AM
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28M. My social life has always had big ups and downs throughout my life. I am naturally introvert and I moved quite a lot in Europe before settling here in London, so my social life has been quite different depending on the place and the conditions I met. I generally enjoy hanging out and I am very spirited once I am with friends, but I also need my time alone to recharge. For me social life is a pleasant addition to my routine when it’s there, but I don’t get depressed or sick if it gets sporad…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 07:55 AM
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I tend to agree with you, but at the same time I know at least few friends that got engaged and married with men that cold approached them in a bar/event. Clearly this happens mostly in the late 20s (where I am) or 30s, but I can definitely see your reasoning as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 11:54 AM
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I agree on the cold environment. In pubs/bar there is always a queue of guys orbiting around girls and in general they are never alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 11:28 AM
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I didn’t stare as she was seated behind me, that also didn’t help cause I couldn’t catch if she wanted to send some signal..
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 11:18 AM
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Thanks for your reply. No, I have never had any bad experiences about being labelled as a creep, I actually got the opposite problem, i.e. people assuming I was asexual/pissed off (I have some kind of resting bitch face unfortunately), which is compounded by the fact that I am way too much proud. Besides OLD, usually random girls initiated with me or friends escalated to get sexual. That’s why I am asking if this fear of coming across as creep is more a coping mechanism for my little anxiety wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 11:16 AM
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Cause I found her attractive? Yes I feel good about myself, but I don’t mind feeling the novelty of getting to know someone, the thrill of seduction and potentially the intimacy and emotional bond that could follow..
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 11:05 AM
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Actually no, I don’t know how to explain, but I just feel some kind of tension or spark sometimes when I make eye contact with some people. The fact that she was alone was an additional point that initially made me think she wouldn’t mind some conversation. I definitely don’t think to approach any attractive woman I see :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 10:43 AM
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Insecure, religious or traditional. All people I frown upon anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 07:14 AM
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Reddit guys are so insecure lol, I was totally surprised when I read the thread on women watching porn…there are a lot of guys out there who don’t care about n count, porn or OF..
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 11:39 AM
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As a woman, I do find it sad that a lot of men might not be satisfied with their partners because they compare them to the actresses in these films. And as a man, I do find it sad that a lot of women might not be satisfied with their partners because they compare their relationship to the crap romance movies/tv shows/tv series they watch every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 02:25 PM
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You misunderstood, this guy is easily in the top 10%, taking advice from him is like taking advice about living on a tight budget from Bill Gates.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 07:59 PM
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Have you seen this dude? How the hell can he have a clue about average dudes struggles and give advices in that regard?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:56 PM
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I can confirm this. Once I chadfished on dating apps in London as a male model and I noticed that an extremely little number of women were willing to put up with the jerk approach of “Hey babe, I just wanna have fun”. As a male with high sexual drive, it was so difficult to understand why women are so turned off by being “used” for sex: if I were approached by Megan Fox telling me she wants to use me as a disposable dildo, I wouldn’t wait her to finish before jumping on her. But women seem so he…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 09:32 PM
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How do you know that? I know attractive men for which this is the reality…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 09:14 PM
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Chad fishing….
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 09:58 PM
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Wow what a retarded comparison. Also selling drugs to poor junkies is about providing a service, also grooming a little orphan girl and exploiting her needs of food and shelter is about providing that person’s primal needs. You know, there is something called having morals when people have needs and you can exploit them. To me, even twitch streamers are borderline predatory: they prey on people’s social ineptitude and loneliness by providing them with a parasocial interaction that is extremely t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 06:53 PM
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Well this seems pretty obvious to me, why do you need to point that out to me in regard to the comment I made? My apathy is more of a shield for myself, it doesn’t mean I don’t feel anything about members of your gender..
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 08:48 PM
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I am not confused as to why I felt sympathy for a female character, I actually felt pity for the tragic protagonist too, my comment was more about the fact that no matter how tragic it ends and how bad it might fuck up your life, true love and blind passion is the only glimpse of immortality that we might experience in our lives. So it’s though sometimes to realise how much I am missing on it and that I cannot do much about it…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 08:44 PM
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Do you mind to elaborate? Not sure what your take has to do with my comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 08:39 PM
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My best advice would have been to write to him while he was on that trip, but it’s too late now I guess. Even that might not work tho, I had a perfect first date with a Scottish beautiful gal before she went for a week to Italy, she sent me some pics of Italy after few days but she didn’t write me when she returned. I tried to write her and she replied after a day, I immediately felt the situation was cold and gave up.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 08:38 PM
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Well I don’t have the English version with me to quote, but the final sentence perfectly sums up the tragic nature of love and the finitude of our mortal lives. Also I don’t want to spoiler it, but you can find read the ending on Wikipedia
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 08:34 PM
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Just finished reading Lolita and the ending was so heart wrenching that it fucked up my calm phase, I constantly fluctuate between the stoic and apathetic phase where I don’t care about women and the tragic phase where I write poems for them…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 04:25 PM
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Here I am 🙌🏻 getting clean 2800kcal daily is not easy. It takes more effort than just not eating
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 04:18 PM
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Oh I think women can be perfectly happy without a partner. Same for men. I just haven’t seen all these networks in my experience really.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 04:03 PM
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What do you mean with network? Female friends? Family? I am not sure women get a lot of emotional support from female buddies..it is true tho that the perceived social pressure of getting a partner is lower for women: any m random average girl can get a lot of male attention on social networks in a safe environment just posting some random pics..so at least it is easy for them to feel desired and validated. But I don’t think this can really replace the desire of getting a solid emotional bond wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 03:48 PM
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If I can chime in, it happened often (on both sides) that after me or the person I had just a first day with returned to a small trip I/they just have lost interest to meet again. I think it has to do with changing air/ realising you don’t really care about this person (which is understandable because you barely know them at that point.)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 03:43 PM
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Why doesn’t this work on the other way around too? At least that’s what it is for me. It is true that men are more pressured to enter the market cause of the higher sexual drive, but women crave for emotional support in a similar way.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 03:31 PM
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I don’t imagine myself with them lol. Have you ever desired something out of your reach? I don’t need to fantasies about it to desire it. It has nothing to do with delusion, you have this feeling for someone despite knowing they don’t and that’s it. Half of human literature is built upon this feeling, so sorry that your brain is wired in such a way that everything you feel must have some kind of personal utility. Men love women for what they are, not what they can represent in their lives
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 07:22 AM
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The strongest feeling I’ve ever experienced in my life, a true hopeless stream of uncompromising love, it was towards a girl already engaged and that I knew she didn’t feel the same for me (cause I revealed her my feelings at one point). To me it sounds ridiculous that if you have feelings for someone, the moment you come to know that they don’t reciprocate, those feelings mean shit. It’s sounds so degrading and transactional: I have feelings for you just cause I get something back…it doesn’t wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 10:27 PM
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Beard transplant. Some celebs did it too, I think Beckham is one
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 07:17 AM
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Tbh working my ass off to move up, more generally to take the safest path of getting rich or almost rich which is through years hard work in my industry (finance). I am very focused in improving my SMV (gym 4 times a week, strict diet to bulk, spending £10k to fix beard and dark circles soon), but my work life balance and long term plans are more important than my sexual validation. This would never change, even if I am in my late 20 and extremely horny all the time, I always put first in my pri…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 07:43 PM
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I don’t believe it had zero effect, these things act subconsciously, your entire post about this bf being a stoic piece of stone are nonsense, it’s just a convoluted way to brag about this dude which honestly sound pretty pathetic
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 06:08 PM
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He doesn’t need because he’s getting validation already from knowing hotties are chasing him. Sorry to sound rude, but you have no clue about male brain and you are missing the point. You re literally say that your bf is content in a LTR but he had chances to have threesome and sex with hotties (you know, feeling desired can give you some kind of security…) and then you say you hope guys can gain security without ever getting a single confirmation input from women…this sounds utter nonsensical.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 06:35 AM
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The point is not if he wouldn’t or not, the point is that he could. The validation comes from knowing that attractive women want to have sex with you, not from having sex with them. You seem to miss this fundamental point. You are trying to dismiss OP statement by saying your bf doesn’t draw validation from hookups and he is happy with your LTR. Well I tell you that, the fact that he is happy in a LTR is directly correlated to the awareness of being HVM, which comes from knowing that hotties are…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 06:29 AM
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When and how have I insulted you? I am not a freelancer teacher that needs to give you a lecture on this, I suggested you to read some books to challenge your view, if you don’t want or don’t care ok
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 02:28 PM
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Lol..can you read? She said her bf could have sex with hotties but wouldn’t do because she respects her and don’t want to be a Chad..she is not addressing a point of OP original statement, only rambling about how her bf is such a good boi. This reeks insecurity to me..who gives a damn about her bf anyway? With her example she is actually corroborating OP statement that having the chance to have a threesome in life is a bar for your success with women, cause this dude is in a relationship with he…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 01:59 PM
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She keeps saying that her bf could fuck around hotties or have threesomes but she likes men that put a single woman on a pedestal like she thinks her bf is doing with her. It sounds kinda funny that she seems to draw all her validation as a woman by the fact that her bf turns down hotties, but at the same time she is criticising OP argument of drawing validation by having those options as a male….
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 01:01 PM
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Your user name says it all. If you want to target me as your daily hate agenda against humankind feel free 😁 I don’t consider a shame if people have different opinions
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 12:07 PM
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Read some anthropology books, then you can come back to me with an actual educated opinion on the matter instead of this rambling discourse. We are not born as a white paper, but feel free to cut your balls off and live your happy life without thinking about women at all
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 10:01 AM
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So exactly why he needs your validation? You sound insecure and needy, there must be a reason besides lOvE for him to stick around instead of fucking plenty of hotties as you said he could.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 09:43 AM
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Being at the top of the sexual chain is literally the strongest drive of any male. Now, you can try to fulfil yourself as individual with art, interests, physical activity, career, discovery etc…but all of that subsumes the primal drive. Based on your statement, a person with a successful and fulfilled life shouldn’t be obsessed with sex or women but we know that’s not what happens. So I think this argument that people obsessed with sex or sexual success don’t have a life is silly to say at leas…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 09:39 AM
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Who said I want to take more effort? Am I complaining I haven’t found the person that makes me burn of passion inside? Again, you are trying to force someone to have the same point of view you have: that everyone wants always and at any stage of life a LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 11:31 PM
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Not sure what are you talking about. I never shamed anyone for their N counts, if only I prefer a woman who has explored her sexuality with a lot of guys and she is not an insecure or possessive person…ofc I am generalising, how the hell you can discuss about something without generalising? Your argument about cookies and pieces of shit doesn’t make any sense, please try again without being a frustrated angry troll
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 11:26 PM
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Well in my experience, being upfront in a blunt way works 0% of the time. Even when a woman just wants sex from you, telling her upfront “I just want to have sex” sounds always degrading to them, which is something men really struggle to wrap their heads around. Why do you want me to delude you into thinking I am a little fawn in my love spring when you just want to have a shag yourself? But that’s the difference between men and women: no matter what, a woman will always feel being used as hole …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 11:19 PM
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Never really understood FWB tho, are you exclusive with your FWB? Do you have multiple FWB? Do you actually have a friendship with them (going out with other friends, do activities together, etc..).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 11:04 PM
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Fair point. But that’s a different topic
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 10:58 PM
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Mm yeah if I had to wait for the person that burns me inside with passion to explore my sexuality I can wait long 😂😂 I date women that I find attractive obviously, but I couldn’t care less about their personality as long as they are not extremely obnoxious. If I were looking for a relationship, I had to be way pickier in terms of personality, common interests, life goals etc..
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 10:57 PM
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I actually prefer women with high N count and that are not prude. The main point I was trying to make is that usually for woman is easier to explore sex earlier so they get to the point when they want a serious LTR/marriage earlier than men, and they complain about the attitude of men of same age.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 10:51 PM
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Sorry I am not following you. What babies have to do with anything I said?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 10:20 PM
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That’s the point of the thread, when you are clear about it you get frowned upon or just insulted. They you look around on internet and it’s full of “men are all pigs”, “men don’t want grow up and have a relationship”, etc.. ofc I don’t really care about the general opinion, but it is just annoyed that you are basically portrayed by an immature superficial person..
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 10:16 PM
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With financial security I mean the possibility to share assets and provide for children. If a partner dies, if they were your husband/wife you have legal rights on part of the legacy etc..it has nothing to do with the fear of getting cheated on. Yes, prenups are an American thing, they are nearly non existent in Europe and I wouldn’t make one anyway if I’d get married
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 06:33 PM
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Indeed, that’s why for me marriage has nothing to do with love or the relationship, it’s just a contract to settle legal status and financial security
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 06:23 PM
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Open phone policy lol, do you make your partner sign a contract too? I advocate trust, transparency is for the capital markets and the businesses…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 05:16 PM
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Not really, at least in Europe. I don’t get the alleged obsession American girls have about height, but I can say a very attractive face is way more important than height here. It is also true that in many social occasions (clubs, bars, concerts), you are going to get noticed much more if you are tall. The good thing about face is that can be fixed while height cannot: skin care routine, beard transplant, nose job, hair transplant, hair styling, jaw surgery, etc.. it is quite costly but can be d…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 12:47 PM
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It’s all about settling, which, ironically, is much easier to do with people you meet outside OLD. Settling on Tinder feels awful and miserable because you literally swipe on beautiful, outstanding women the second before and the second after you match with an average gal with average pics and average profile. So your immediate reaction is: there are levels to this shit, that’s what I deserve, mediocrity. Which is an awful way of thinking, but the apps are designed to make you fall into this vic…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 08:18 PM
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Yet another 50yrs old happily married woman lurking in this sub, really don’t get why so many middle aged married women are so active in a sub clearly focused on issues they are not part of
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:33 PM
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Oh I got you… you think he values you more than the other 300 pussies he pounded cause he payed a dinner for you on first date. Such a sweet summer child you are 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:22 PM
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His payed dinner count is also in the triple digits so his brain development must haven’t worked out as good
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:12 PM
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You’ve got yourself a beta
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:06 PM
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I wouldn’t condone the same coming from a woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 12:32 PM
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Talking about women like choosing premium, cheap or good deal products in a supermarket.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 12:12 PM
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Mind to elaborate? Always feel like these incompatibilities are more of an excuse to keep the fragile balance of the FWB relationship without risking to go further
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 06:54 AM
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You’re are getting defensive, projecting maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 06:55 PM
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Nah..I think genuine attraction..fame and past sex symbol glory can do wonders I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 04:30 PM
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It doesn’t matter if he is average or not, he’s just one of the many examples that invalide the comment above…it is clear that ceteris paribus a girl is more attracted to a man of similar age compared to one with a big age gap, but don’t pretend all women are disgusted or put off by a large age gap or that only creeps are targeting girls 20/30 years old younger…it is just false. Of course the man needs to compensate with wealth (see Kristina Romanova for example) or clout, but still it’s totally…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 02:04 PM
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A 24 years old girl at almost 50…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:31 PM
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Leo DiCaprio? 🧐
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 07:39 AM
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So where does Leo DiCaprio fall into this?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 07:36 AM
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I moved to London 2 years ago..I second the impression that people seem extremely hostile here. Really impossible to approach girls casually, you really get the impression of coming off as a creep harasser. Only time I got an hookup without using OLD was because we got approached by a group in a pub and basically been told that one of the girl wanted to have fun with me…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:58 PM
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On a side note, what are all these 40s married women doing on this subreddit? I thought PPD was mostly for young people trying to understand the modern dating and mating dynamics. I am not saying you shouldn’t be active on here, just genuinely curious on why you are interested in debating these topics
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 11:23 AM
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Well I lived in Milan during my uni years, but I never used apps in Italy both because it was easy to get to know girls at uni anyway and also because in Italy OLD are a little bit more stigmatised (not sure if this has changed in the last 5 years or so). Dating scene in Italy relies a lot on friend circles and clubs, and generally speaking everyone is way more friendly, it is just easier to casually start talking with people in bars or in a club’s queue. Now, I don’t expect the same here, cultu…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 10:54 AM
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Moved to London few months before the pandemic…the dating market is an absolute nightmare: OLD are hyper competitive and even if you luck out someone, the attractive girls on there are usually super low value besides their looks (no educated, entitled, wanna-be model/musicians airheads, borderline mental/relationship issues, etc..). Never been to meet-ups due to the lockdown but just looking at the participants they all seem sausage-fests. Also, based on my experience in other cities, meet-ups t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 09:13 PM
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I haven’t had time to read the study, so sorry if I miss that, but this study seems to only take into account education? Does it mean that a woman with a bachelor degree marrying a multi millionaire that didn’t finish college would be considered homogamy? How do you measure looks and class percentiles? In my opinion hypergamy is a narrow concept and education is a very poor indication of wealth/power or classism. In my personal experience I’ve seen few women marrying up with a person of a superi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 11:03 AM
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The difference is that men don’t expect women to pay for 3 dinners out and wait a month to have sex with some hookup material. I am not talking about double standards between casual and relationship material, of course both men and women treat those differently. I am talking about double standards for hookup materials. It seems that somehow men that are not model level lookingwise need to make up with other stuff (paying dinners, waiting with patience, etc) even when both are just considering it…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 10:42 AM
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Yeah I prefer fucking models too, this doesn’t mean I write “only models” on tinder, cause I am not delusional. Expecting men to de-select themselves and turn away cause they don’t know if they want to stick around after having sex is a bit delusional, even more considering you did the same in the past. Did you sign a contract saying it was just casual on vacation before having your fling or you just went with the flow?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 07:45 AM
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I never cared about that honestly. I totally agree that this sub is full of people shaming women for having lot of casual sex with different people, this is just crazy! I despise this jealous/insecure attitude, women should be free to have as much casuals sex as they want without the fear of being judged. At the same time tho, I don’t like when women use the implicit promise of sex as a leverage to make someone stick around and use sex as some sort of trophy a man need to win after several trial…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 07:12 AM
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Yeah I can tell you from my experience that you are the exception, you can get away with being very aggressive if you are extremely hot (works for both women and men)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 06:55 AM
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Yeah I can get matches, most of them don’t go anywhere tho…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 11:15 PM
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Yeah personally this kind of attitude put me off, but everyone is free to do what they want, happy if that works for you
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 11:11 PM
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Thanks! I am very self-conscious about my writing when I just put my thoughts down without having a second reading :) your words are much appreciated
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 11:05 PM
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We are taking about a specific example here..which is women denying that are into casual sex no matter what, while in reality they are just not into casual sex with a specific subset of people. So if an enough hot guy comes in their way, they are 100% sure they want to have sex straight away with him. But this statement is blatantly denied. I would never write “no hookups” on tinder even if I wanted to have hookups with only the top 1% of girls. It is just false.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 10:47 PM
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Ofc, in this specific case I was talking about the same people tho, as I wrote, I often matched with the same people I matched with my real account and their behaviour was totally different. Preferences are often shaped by circumstances…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 10:40 PM
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Nice arguments, sorry for my writing but I am not a native speaker :) happy to review my conclusions if you provide me with some arguments
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 10:34 PM
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What is that supposed to mean lol? I am not going around saying I am not into casual sex whatsoever just because I got bad experiences with some girls. Nobody is asking to promise anything, just to be sincere with yourself and stop telling yourself that you are not into casual sex. You are into casual sex with the 1% top male? Fine, that’s legitimate, but don’t frown upon males by considering them brainless sex obsessed monkeys just cause most of them enjoy causal sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 10:30 PM
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What the first part of your reply has to do with my response?? How can somebody disagree with that part? I never said anything about that…You didn’t address my point, which was what the physical threat has to do with online harassing on OLD? If someone opens with an offensive sexual message on Tinder, how’s blocking him more dangerous for a girl than for a male? And yeah I know women are not monolith, this is the usual catch-all phrase someone uses when they have no arguments. Ofc some girls don…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 10:24 PM
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Yet you seem to condone this behaviour…men are constantly bombarded with despising comments by women that frown upon their “animal behaviours” and obsession with sex, a lot of men with high sexual drives end up questioning themselves, thinking they might be assholes or that there’s something wrong with wanting to have casual sex besides relationships, but at the end women are the same. Women are humans does not mean shit sorry, you cannot just get away with mystifying all of this without creatin…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 10:13 PM
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Never really understood this point tbh…firstly we are talking about OLD, not sure what is the physical danger here since you are interacting through a device at distance. Secondly, all women seem so afraid of getting stalkers, dangerous people finding out where they live or men in general, yet they literally gave up their privacy posting every single shit they do on Instagram. How’s that not concerning for a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 10:03 PM
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Yeah maybe cause 90% of women keep telling themselves and to the world that they are not into casual sex and need deep connection to get aroused. This is just just bullshit they tell themselves, they just don’t like that they crave hot people as much as men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 09:55 PM
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Why are you being so dense? It’s not about the fact that it is easier for attractive people, it’s the fact that all the bullshit they say about “no-hookups”, “how can men have sex with people before getting a deep connection”, “not into casual sex” are just lies. And no, we are not talking about different people, I got the same people I matched with my normal account acting completely differently when the catfish popped up in their lives. Women (and a lot of men also) should really stop telling …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 09:52 PM
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Any source to back up this statement or your are just pulling it out of your head? What is different exactly for your brain at neurotransmitters level if you cum from a video or from sticking your dick into a partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 09:54 PM
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What about people that have sex every day or so with a partner (or different ones). Are they overloading their dopamine circuits as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 08:37 AM
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That’s a very naive way of looking at it... Just because humans cooperate in tribes, it doesn’t mean that roles and winner/loser inside that tribe don’t form naturally. Modern society can be considered a global, loose tribe. The fact the people cooperate and live under the same rules and rely on other people work for the resources and benefits that each one of us collectively has access to doesn’t exclude the fact that in modern society you have losers/outcasts and winner/billioners/famous/power…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 05:42 PM
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Elaborate please. I see capitalism as the mirror reflection of human nature…I don’t see how society can work if the same survival of the fittest approach that human beings have hard wired in their genes is not translated somehow in society. Capitalism has not won because it is the most efficient or because it is the system that creates the highest average happiness, it won because it reflects human nature. Society can find some ways to limit that, but pure socialism or communism are utopic becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 11:21 AM
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What does the “never see each other again” even mean lmao, is that because they feel ashamed of themselves afterwards?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 05:55 PM
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You realise that you ended up wanting a woman you could connect with only because you satisfied your sexual curiosity first with bimbos and hotties? This is what people like you don’t understand. Ofc after years of hookups and validation you want a meaningful connection…thanks Sherlock..the issue is that for some people this part is forever beyond their reach, so their remain frustrated…and even if they met a partner they could connect with, they lack the experience at that point. If you never g…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 05:19 PM
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The fact that you have a zodiac sign on your nickname does not bode really well with being looked as intelligent…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 05:12 PM
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Yet you are here paying for the bills and crying if she leaves you. Who has more value? She draws her value from being woman and attractive. She doesn’t need to create value like an average dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/21 09:48 AM
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It was not debunked…only the study on the wolves packs..male hierarchies exits in thousands of species, now you can call it beta/alpha or whatever else you want, but that’s not the point..as I said, there is only one more time wasting thing to do in life than complaining about not getting sex on Reddit, and it is discussing with you
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 01:14 PM
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Whatever you say Lilith..it is honestly pointless discussing with you
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 01:04 PM
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Why you never quote a paper? Who is having black and white thinking here? Ofc also men believe in astrology, but you cannot deny that it is way more common for women. Alpha beta etc..are not scientific terms per se, those are just simplified concepts to categorise complex behaviours. The terms originated from studies on other mammals and animals, nobody believes that those categories are as strict as your zodiac sign, it’s just a quick way to indicate a more submissive/independent/self confident…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 07:31 AM
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Pseudo science lmao, women believe in fucking astrology, but dismiss any evolutionary related argument cause it’s PsEUdO ScIEncE or WE ArE nOt MonKEYs AnyMOre. No honey, this is actually science, not that bullshit with “bonus point if you are libra”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 10:04 PM
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This. If you’ve got used to be alone, it takes more to give up your independence and freedom. On the opposite side, there are a lot of people unable to stay single for more than a month, they are relationship dependent, so basically these people can have low to no standards if they end up single
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 05:03 PM
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Beautifully written. Thanks for your words
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 08:25 AM
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No, it’s because women need social validation, men need sexual validation. Nowadays every single girl can get attention from a good number of males. Yes, they despise most of them, but it is better than nothing, even if the guys following her on socials are not exactly top leve guys. On the other side, men don’t care about social clout, they care only if a woman let them have sex with them. So a sexless single guy will never be truly happy unless he is asexual or he can sublimate his validation …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 05:27 PM
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There was a study someone posted on this sub once, on the fact that the hotter is the male the more likely is the girl to let him fuck her raw dog…not to mention that chads are the most dangerous guys for diseases since they are the most promiscuous
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 04:58 PM
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Never understood why they need time to develop sexual attraction and to get to know someone, but at the same time they concede this time only to Greek gods 🧐🧐🧐 crazy how women would like to convey that they are less superficial but start from the same identical premises
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 04:55 PM
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I actually prefer being single. Maybe I am naive, but unless I really fall in love with someone - and I mean that total irrational love at first sight that a man experiences two-three times in his lifetime if he’s lucky - I prefer to keep my independence, my autonomy in terms of life plan, time, priorities etc.. what I really struggle with is the instinctual need of sexual validation. You cannot tame the lizard part of your brain that still thinks procreation and spreading of your seed is the on…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:16 AM
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I hope you’ll find it soon 😊 I guess it is easier for women to fall in love, for me 1 year is not that much at all
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:23 PM
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I don’t think so, casually all people that say the same have never been alone for more than a year or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:43 PM
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Four entire months?! Damn must be terrible
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 05:24 PM
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Are you a man or a woman? I think you have a very skewed perspective of how things work for men. Not to mention that it’s all relative: I can get the attention of 50 girls that cook me stuff and simp for me but if those 60 girls are all broke uneducated overweighted jobless people, what exactly would be your score? Your categories are flawed simply because they are totally dependent on circumstances. Megan Fox might not have tons of males around her, simply cause she might not even be easily app…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 10:54 PM
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The 1-10 scale covers the entire spectrum of people. It might an oversimplification, but it’s easy to understand and can be applied to anyone. Your definition is totally useless, it’s almost a binary categorisation and maybe makes sense only for the very top % of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 10:36 PM
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That’s a fair point. In fairness to men, we often try to match as quickly as possible because the algorithm is against us: as you said, the ratio is extremely skewed, so if you don’t take advantage of the initial boost and visibility of your profile your profile might never show up again basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:57 PM
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It’s difficult to say, definitely no success with the gals I find attractive. Unfortunately I’ve always been kinda insecure so I ended up craving validation from stupid hotties with 0 hobbies in common with me…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:37 PM
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Thx mate, I would happily sacrifice a couple of inches for better beard genetics or a stronger jawline, but it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:34 PM
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Fellow 6’2.8” dry spells wizard here
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:54 PM
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Words to live by
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 05:52 PM
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I said the entire build up that culminates with sex is what matters, not the sex itself. I am happy for you if you live perfectly happy without feeling the need of pursuing women, but I think on a general basis, men need this kind of validation to feel to be a functioning part of society in the long run. I am not sure how old you are but I am pretty sure you are going to feel the same soon or later.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 05:48 PM
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Technically speaking yes, the mere act itself is quite overrated and even with a very hot partner it can become quite dull quickly. What it is not overrated it is the built up that leads to sex: the all package that includes (at least from my male perspective) validation, novelty, empowering and personal gratification. What most women fail to understand is that having access to sex is so fundamentally entwined with masculinity and men identity that the act itself is just part of what really keep…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 04:42 PM
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Currently in a dry spell of 1.5 years. COVID hasn’t helped, but I have had even longer ones in the past. It’s interesting to see girls replying in this post tho, it seems incredibly easy to find FWB at command for them. But I prefer this way, I’d rather spend my time without a partner to improve myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 08:51 PM
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Oh I don’t really care about being downvoted :) everyone has his or her own opinion and mine is often unpopular. I wouldn’t say I am in a content spot, sometimes I feel I lack intimacy or company or just human touch, other times I feel empowered by being responsible for myself and myself only, so overall I think I am in a neutral spot. I wouldn’t say I am waiting for the “one” too, I just feel I couldn’t bring to the table as much as I wanted my parter to do at the moment. I have a good job that…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 04:51 PM
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Besides the fact that being tall is not the magic wand everyone on PPD thinks it is, why would I want to pull insecure short girls if I am attracted to girls with my similar body type, tall and slim? Also you totally missed my point, watching porn and Chadfishing around on tinder made me more motivated to improve myself rather than to pull the bored average girl who puts zero effort on herself and zero effort on conversations and she feels entitled of everything. Before covid fucked up the apps …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 08:04 PM
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That’s not true, I am a white male, 6’3 fit and with average face, I have long dry spells because porn has set unrealistic standards for me. In these times of hyper competitiveness, I would never be able to pull a girl I feel worth of working my ass for. Also porn keeps in check my high sexual drive. The question is: do a prefer to improve myself, even deluding myself into believing I could pull that type of girl one day, or just stop fapping for a week and start finding every girl attractive? T…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 07:20 PM
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No, 6 figures, ie 100,000+
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 09:14 AM
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Sending unsolicited dick pics gives pleasure to the guy, no matter if the woman is disgusted. It’s not different from catcalling, the guy is just violently expressing his sexual rush with little regard to the woman feelings/reaction. I think the guys sending dick pics knows much better by experience that almost nobody reacts well to that. Very few girls in my experience are turned on by dick pics and are into sexting, they would rather have you write down all the kinky stuff you’d do to them and…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:37 PM
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No, it just means you don’t really care about that particular match. I really don’t get how people struggle to understand that low effort openers are just that, low effort. It doesn’t mean men are weirdo that cannot talk properly with women if they wanted. Also if you try with a catfish account, you would see that any kind of “hey hottie”/“hi beauty” works perfectly fine as long as you are very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 08:35 AM
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