EternallySlumbering Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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85	A quality 1ct diamond can be over 10k, BUT Reddit society agrees that $7500 on an engagement ring is INSANE Omg I saw this post!! It irked me too!! What bugs me about the whole “man cave” thing is that it’s framed as if it’s the onlyyyy place in the house the guy gets some say over the decor/what goes on there, etc. No. The problem is that women are often the ones to put care into/clean/consider every other room that it starts to feel as though the woman has “taken over the whole house” when really it’s just that she’s the only one that takes care of it!!! Ugh.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/01/22 06:58 AM
127	Let’s talk about choosing not to block “Nothing outside of yourself should alter your peace” I mean sure…. But let’s not pretend we aren’t social beings and that our feelings and emotions aren’t based heavily on what’s going on with our social connections. Yea I‘ve seen this hesitancy to block a lot with ppl in my age bracket too. It’s like a power thing, you don’t want to seem like you care too much. Here’s the truly powerful thing tho, blocking and moving on and coming out the other side faster than you would have had you continued…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/01/22 08:27 PM
14	Facts don't care about your feelings 😙💅 Hugs to current you and young you ❤️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/01/22 05:20 PM
17	Facts don't care about your feelings 😙💅 Ooo so happy somebody posted one of her vids! She’s great 👍	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/01/22 03:39 AM
20	Are there red flags in this conversation? Are there signs of a potential LVM here or is this a candidate for HVM? Notice how he’s a director of sales 😉 That’s one ‘field’ of men I tend to be wary of because they’ll use their sales tactics to sell themselves to you 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/12/21 06:35 AM
12	Are there red flags in this conversation? Are there signs of a potential LVM here or is this a candidate for HVM? Can I ask how old you guys are and how old he is?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/12/21 06:17 AM
37	Are there red flags in this conversation? Are there signs of a potential LVM here or is this a candidate for HVM? Good question! I’d say the red flag is not just that he’s practiced at talking to women - because a HVM will have good conversation skills with people in general - but it’s the way he talks. As someone who has been on the apps, it just feels standard in how…. fake and sales-pitch-y it is (as u/Platipus6 outlined).	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/12/21 06:11 AM
64	Are there red flags in this conversation? Are there signs of a potential LVM here or is this a candidate for HVM? There are a lot of these kinds of guys on dating apps and I tend to avoid them. To answer your questions, he’s definitely very practiced at talking to girls and selling himself. He probably uses ‘babe’/‘sexy’ etc to develop a sense of closeness. He’s not alone though, a lot of people on dating apps have conversations that look exactly like this, it’s a very normal dating app convo (I would say).	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/12/21 05:45 AM
20	How do you find out a guy’s dick size without sleeping with them? ❤️😘💃🏻	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/12/21 03:20 AM
458	How do you find out a guy’s dick size without sleeping with them? This is what I’ve done before lol… Use the length of your hand as a measuring tool. Have a make out session and start running your hands all along their thighs and crotch. Sometimes when they get hard it’ll sit like along the length of the inside of their thighs, know what I mean? While you’re doing your little over-the-pants-rub-job, maneuver your hand so that your palm sits where it feels like the base of his dicks is and fingers are straight up along the length - take note of where it feels l…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/12/21 10:37 PM
12	I came across this exercise from FDS recommended book "the power of pusy" and it had me a bit stumped! Would love to hear you ladies' opinions, if you'd wish to share! WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM MEN?* LOL I noticed that too… Looks like the book was published in 2014 though and I think at the time hailing “The Pussy” as a symbol for women’s power was common in pop-culture-feminism. I could see a title like that being used because it would appeal to the everyman (every(wo)man?) at the time. I think we’re only moving way from using those sorts of weird non-equivalents in recent times.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/21 06:58 PM
33	I came across this exercise from FDS recommended book "the power of pusy" and it had me a bit stumped! Would love to hear you ladies' opinions, if you'd wish to share! WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM MEN?* Ooo haven’t read this book but I’m going to put it on my list! Is the author asking what we want from men at large, or specifically from the men we are in romantic/intimate relationships with?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/21 05:20 PM
35	How does he respond to bids for connection? Death by a thousand paper cuts :(	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/10/21 02:17 AM
8	Passive men are a huge turn off, and actually dangerous. Oooof GREAT term for this!!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/10/21 05:28 PM
13	Passive men are a huge turn off, and actually dangerous. And if they lead poorly it’s so embarrassing for them 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/10/21 05:27 PM
183	New friend invited her boyfriend to hang out I’m the kind of person who prioritizes getting to know someone one-on-one before having bfs/husbands/other friends added to the mix. Even later in the friendship, I hangout with most of my friends one-on-one. I see it this way, if someone doesn’t like to operate in their friendships the same way, then we’re just not a good match. HV friends are really hard to find, and it can definitely take time. The same rules that apply to finding a HV guy apply to friendships; if they aren’t meeting your sta…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/10/21 07:10 PM
12	POS is posting graphic cartoon p@rn on Reddit pages geared towards children. The users are begging their mods to remove the content. This is Reddit's response to my report on the user. What a sick fuck. I went through and reported all his posts but I doubt it’ll do anything 🙄	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/10/21 04:31 PM
22	Mods: Could we have a No Complaining Wednesday or a Strategy Only Saturday? Seconding!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/10/21 04:40 AM
263	No... just no.. we met at a tire shop and "bonded" over coffee loving but I didn't think he would actually commit to asking on a coffee hopping or whatever this is. I hate the 🙃 at the end!!! To me it implies that he either knows it’s a weird date suggestion or is hesitant you’ll reject him. Both are unattractive lol.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/10/21 04:13 AM
65	guys quizzing you on dates Hm that’s tough I’m sorry ❤️ I find this type of behaviour happens with toxic productivity-types so I try to stay clear of those… Gentle reminder though you can leave a date the second it stops being fun :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/08/21 10:48 PM
111	guys quizzing you on dates Some mixture of anti-social behaviour and LVM-ism lol 🤷🏻‍♀️ Are you doing the pre-date phone calls or video calls?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/08/21 10:29 PM
37	Weekly FDS Check-in Another decent date might not be far off! :) But it will be if you keep giving your energy and attention to the non-decent ones!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/21 05:25 AM
51	Weekly FDS Check-in You know the answer - trust your gut! Sending encouragement ❤️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/08/21 05:20 AM
19	Very sad. Another reason to avoid hike dates. “Tramonte had traveled to Arizona from Massachusetts to meet Dizdar in person for the first time after talking to him via Instagram for two month” … so she travelled clear across the country to go on a free hike… R.I.P 🌹😔	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/08/21 04:41 PM
39	Even some men in the comment section were saying that they wouldn't like it if their lady proposed to them but were attacked like anything ! This sums it up perfectly 👏	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/21 04:34 AM
25	His good qualities first Exactlyyy!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/07/21 03:37 AM
118	His good qualities first Yup yup yup! And I find all these “amazing” qualities they list are always the bare minimum! “He’s the most amazing man - he does the dishes sometimes and takes care of the kids too!” … as he should, right? 🙄	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/07/21 03:31 AM
6	18 year old man from Maine looking for a wife in 1865. Better than most OLD profiles. Lolll!!! 😂😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/07/21 09:10 PM
12	If he’s not escalating the romantic relationship, MOVE ON! 💕 YESS!!! ❤️👆	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/07/21 01:41 AM
81	Avoid throuples, open relationships, ENM, etc. These people are not your friends. They are definitely not your partners. And they will throw you to the curb the moment things get sticky. They’re just using your body. Wow. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us ❤️. the endless “boundaries conversations” This made me giggle but it’s what i think of too - the endless “ground rules” that need to be re-hashed overrrr and overrrr and overrrr again.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/07/21 06:12 PM
140	If he’s not escalating the romantic relationship, MOVE ON! 💕 Yup! HVM will be vetting you too… But guys know quickly if they want to lock it down with you. HVM will express and show you that they want to escalate the commitment but they will go at a pace that is comfortable for you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/07/21 05:53 PM
72	She found cp on her husband's computer and is wondering if she should leave him 🤦🏽‍♀️women really are this brainwashed. She has two little girls with him. LMAOOOOO love your thinking 😂😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/07/21 11:42 PM
96	Why we don't do "girlfriend" title This is the truth. Just looking back with a neutral expression will make them feel they need to over-explain themselves the way women have been made to feel. All the “logical thinking” and “argumentation” that spews forth will tell you all you need to know lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/06/21 06:53 PM
2	Lol. I don't know him but I like him in this video. 😂 The first guy looks like he jackhammers the second guy looks like he really knows how to give a girl that good-good 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/06/21 06:38 PM
31	HOW TO TEXT LIKE A QUEEN 📱👑 Yup yup yup. Women need to stop over-apologizing and self-doubting in general. As part of my level-up strategy I’ve really been trying to watch my words in terms of this. No more “Sorry for-“, “I apologize if this question/request is silly!!!” etc.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/06/21 10:43 PM
13	I came across this on Tumblr and had to share it. THIS is what love looks like, day to day. ❤️ - Text is from "Your Faithful Servant" by S. Bear Bergman) Thank you ❤️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/06/21 05:47 AM
96	A HVM knows how to take care of sh*t Doesn’t sound like he did the classic “Babe, how do i-“ either! It’s HV to admit when you don’t know how to do something and to ask for help or direction… But many things - like cleaning up some poop - are self-explanatory if you’ve managed yourself, others and/or a home. A HVM/HVW knows how to take care of basics. Thank you for sharing!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/06/21 11:02 PM
43	Scrote's GF can't meet the same standards as his anime sex doll Diagnostic and Statistic Manual of Mental Disorders! Its the manual that lists criteria for presence/diagnosis of mental disorders. Its currently on the 5th edition (DSM-5) which came out in 2013	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/05/21 02:48 AM
3	Podcast interviews with sex therapists ain't it. Uh oh I think i know who you’re talking about hahaha there was a post about her here some time ago revealing her lack of credentials	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/05/21 02:33 AM
19	Why women hate porn: it harms and objectifies women. 🤡 Why men hate porn: 🤡 Nah its the edit that got me 🤣🤣	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/04/21 06:24 AM
15	Bringing up marriage upfront? This! A HVM wants to build something. He should naturally be curious about where you see yourself in X years/at X time because he prioritizes planning for his future and building it. He’ll want a woman who has a similar mindset so he’ll probably bring it up in conversation himself. This is a great response when it does come up. Don’t reveal too much about yourself but make it known that you take your life seriously and won’t be sticking around for nothing (be that romantically, career-wise, w fr…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/04/21 11:42 PM
31	How is ass guy and boob guy a thing but a height/ abs/ beard gal is not? Mmm thick thighs... dreamy 🥰	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	06/04/21 11:13 PM
7	How many of you “developed” issues while in a relationship? I’ll go first: depression and anxiety. Cured as soon as we broke up. AUTISTIC!? Oh wow lol... Not that there is anything wrong with being autistic but being accused of having autism all because, in hindsight, the man you were with made your body recoil is definitely funny. (funny-sad? Who knows) I used to go on deadbedrooms constantlyyyy and labelled myself a low-libido all because i had such a hard time admitting that i wasnt sexually attracted to my ex. Admittedly he was very close to being a HVM and I think i felt like i was being selfish for desiring a differ…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/03/21 02:01 PM
24	How many of you “developed” issues while in a relationship? I’ll go first: depression and anxiety. Cured as soon as we broke up. I honestly thought i was asexual... Turns out im very much NOT lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/03/21 06:36 AM
25	It’s called grooming :) I’m glad to see this on my For You page I think i found it! Its the last verse of ‘Sexy’ by Kate Rockwell	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/03/21 01:06 AM
2	Imagine how pissed men would be if we brought up female homelessness/suicides as often as they brought up how "mUh dOuBle StAndArds!!! MaLe rApE ViCtiMs aRe iGnOrEd!!!" Seconding this!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/03/21 01:01 AM
12	Men are surprised that I have hobbies Oh god i remember this. The radio hosts kept negging her after she said she can go a full day without looking at her phone too. Like they couldn’t just take her at her word and move on to a more interesting conversation topic (not that they had any...)!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/02/21 01:36 AM
166	Why I left my Fiancé. - Woman shares inspiring story of how she trusted her intuition, decided to she deserved better, and left her fiance (a man she had dated for nine years). I HATE how she spoke about herself in this video: “Im the most annoying person on the planet” and the “I’m not like most people” ... really sis thats how you perceive yourself? No wonder you thought knock-off peter griffin was enough...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/02/21 06:43 PM
19	Valentine's Day Postmortem Discussion Thread: Did your man disappoint you on Valentine's Day? Comment your story below! Omg lol. ME !!!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/02/21 06:19 AM
39	DM from a friend of a friend set alarm bells ringing... A lot to unpack here. This!! To me it reads as the equivalent of “I rarely approach girls because they rarely interest me (bc I don’t see women as interesting/valuable)”	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/02/21 05:20 PM
19	Here are awesome RED flags to watch out for when vetting men. Found them in a Kristen Leo video. Link is in the caption. I think its worded strangely; my understanding is its a red flag if “he who ONLY sees you as a means to have children and/or only sees you as a potential child carer” (ie a walking womb or walking full-time nanny)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/21 09:44 PM
131	If size doesn't matter, why don't they make 3-inch dildos? This! Technically withdrawing consent can be done at any time... but it DOES feel really hard to do because we haven’t normalized doing it. When I was younger I totally had sex with guys because I felt like after a certain point in the interaction I couldn’t withdraw... To answer your question though you totally can say “I don’t want to go any further” and then if they pressure just “No” “I’m no longer interested”, “I already said I don’t want to”. Keep in mind if he hits you back with questions…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/02/21 06:46 PM
40	I made a terrible decision of checking my ex's instagram and now I feel awfil Sit in the pain, but know it’ll pass. You have never been disposable and you are always worth fighting for - but you need to fight for yourself. Focus on YOU and whats best for you because you deserve it!! But for now... sending lots of internet hugs ❤️❤️🌼	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/02/21 05:03 AM
276	Men don’t degrade women they love #BringBackKinkShaming2021 “I feel like my NEW purpose in life is to protect her and my daughter and make sure they are both happy and safe” Jesus what was his purpose before? To secure only his OWN happiness and safety???	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/02/21 02:29 AM
125	Men are stressful Im surprised he didnt start with “why do females...” 🙄	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/02/21 11:57 PM
8	This group kicked my ass into shape Love it!! ❤️❤️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/02/21 07:03 PM
7	Held off on sex, it was horrible Are we the same person? 3 long term relationships, 2 “hookups” and not 1 orgasm lol Sure i got off from head twice maybe?? But the microscopic “orgasms” i got from that compared to what i can give myself (and what i now expect) makes those two completely null and void	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/02/21 01:29 AM
18	Held off on sex, it was horrible Same lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/02/21 01:11 AM
13	Marriage has not only NOT been a boon for women's sexual needs, it mostly runs against our interests, even in terms of sexual stability. I would love to hear more about women co-parenting together... are there actual examples of this happening?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/02/21 04:07 PM
37	How many of you have found a HVM husband that really doesnt watch porn? Careful! If you even get the thought of “maybe i need to snoop”, dump him. Personal opinion maybe - but I strongly believe that if you think you need to snoop, its because somewhere along the line he’s made you feel (even very subtly) that theres something to be snooped for. Its one thing to be observant and its another to not trust your gut. Keep vetting and being cautious, but if he makes you feel like you cant trust him (personal “trust issues” aside) thats on him	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/01/21 09:09 PM
27	Due to Tiktok being taken over by semi naked pickmeishas, I also won't be dating men that have a tiktok account Agreed!! I don’t have an account yet still see all the more popular tiktoks simply through other social media/just by virtue of being on the internet. Absolutely no part of me feels like im missing out... A guy has the same opportunity as me, so why would HE need an account? To sit and browse through all the poor > mediocre > okay skits?? I best hope he’d have better things to do with his day lol I feel the same way about snapchat frankly (but for other reasons as well)... instagram is fine but …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/01/21 06:38 PM
20	OLD Safety: photos you use Omg... awesome tip - Thank you!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/01/21 10:25 PM
3	For the people that say 50/50 is feminist please see the difference between inequity vs inequality Omg YES!! And this applies to so many other societal inequalities (inequities?) as well - thank you for writing on this ❤️🌼	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/01/21 11:43 PM
7	For the people that say 50/50 is feminist please see the difference between inequity vs inequality Omg did i write this? Ive been meaning to make an equity vs equality post! As a metaphor; If two scales are unbalanced, it makes no sense to add the same amount of weight to both scales... that just perpetuates the imbalance!!! You have to either take from one and give to the other, or add to one but not add to the other, thats the only way to get them to level out...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/01/21 11:38 PM
19	Sad how a lot of young girls in the comments are missing the point though... Im curious too!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/01/21 02:43 PM
12	FDS Art Therapy - I drew my ex from a 5 year situationship I stopped reading at “mouth breather”... i bet his breath stank too lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/01/21 07:31 PM
4	I got inspired by a drawing here so I just had to share with you this ex ... He seemed normal for years that I knew him, but all it took was 2,3 months to actually see who he really is. Wow. The bar really is in hell... Sorry, “was” b/c you’re never going there anymore ❤️Good for you for drawing it out!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/01/21 06:16 PM
15	I got inspired by a drawing here so I just had to share with you this ex ... He seemed normal for years that I knew him, but all it took was 2,3 months to actually see who he really is. Just out of curiosity, what is “coffee in a bag” ? Is that like when you get fruit punch and such in a plastic pouch abroad? (North American here)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/01/21 03:07 PM
46	Scammed, bamboozled and hoodwinked Welcome sis! 😘🥳Hope you blocked and deleted that guy lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/01/21 01:03 AM
35	Scrolling through tik tok and all the top comments are saying to leave him and that this isn’t healthy or good for her. I am LOVING that we are telling the younger generations that they don’t have to deal with their porn obsessed boyfriends. 🥰 Love that it’s open ended so that the porn sicks can weed themselves out... Thanks for sharing! :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/01/21 05:36 PM
30	Scrolling through tik tok and all the top comments are saying to leave him and that this isn’t healthy or good for her. I am LOVING that we are telling the younger generations that they don’t have to deal with their porn obsessed boyfriends. 🥰 Do you have a go-to question you ask them that they usually open up to?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/01/21 05:23 PM
199	Just typical OLD LVM - when you have a pleasant conversation and then they show you their true colours 🤡 Thanks to this sub I know now how to handle these clowns instead entertaining them as I would in my old pickmeisha days This seems like the kind of guy who loves the sound of his own voice lol - good for you for leveling up! 💪🥰	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/01/21 04:25 PM
18	They use women to wank off and blame women for having feelings. Sorry... “Got into reading and self-reflection everyday for 10 mins.” Whats 10 mins!??? So when you take your dump every morning you’ve started thinking about the consequences of your actions for the first time in your life?? I can’t lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/01/21 03:50 PM
1	I am speechless I don’t know what i was expecting going into this story but i will never be same again LOL thank you for sharing ❤️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/12/20 10:10 PM
22	Holy crap. "For years." HOW IS SHE THE BAD GUY??? Okay im SO glad im not the only one who was thinking that 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/12/20 08:02 PM
12	Straight from a man’s mouth about excessive masturbation and penis size Thank you for commenting this - Im saving for future reference LOL! Im planning on doing some heavy sexual compatibility vetting before I get into my next relationship, penis inspection included 🔍👀	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/20 01:31 AM
20	I didn't see this posted here yet. This felt powerful! Thank you for posting - I had no idea about this! Ugh, gave me chills	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/20 12:53 AM
9	I woke up today So well put - Congratulations on waking up and taking the reigns! The relationship you want is out there, just keep levelling yourself up in the meantime! 👏❤️✨	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/12/20 06:02 PM
22	I feel like this easily could have been me if not for FDS omg, just why!! “I might be dramatic but i want someone who wants to be with me “ i mean... if THAT’s dramatic then... 🤨🤔	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/12/20 08:33 PM
4	Don't bother "communicating", actually. Just go. Hahahah too true 😭😭	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/12/20 02:10 AM
2	You don't even have to try to weed them out on OLD, you just breathe at them and they melt into incels mid-conversation Was he negging her?? 🤢	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/20 02:39 PM
2	"I'll throw you out the way you came in, 'cause solitude don't faze me!" 'Ladylike' has a great attitude. Thank you for sharing this!! Ive been blasting it all morning while decluttering (ie creating space to focus on the high value life i want) 💪	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/11/20 07:06 PM