Evacipate628 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	Should you leave girls on read if they send a message that doesn't require an answer? Particularly on snapchat Okilly Dokilly	/r/seduction	24/10/22 11:18 AM
4	Should you leave girls on read if they send a message that doesn't require an answer? Particularly on snapchat Fair enough, I'm old and just prefer vanilla texting/RCS and kind of missed the snap, IG, etc train. Plus I refuse to support Zuck	/r/seduction	24/10/22 11:16 AM
3	Should you leave girls on read if they send a message that doesn't require an answer? Particularly on snapchat Some of us are green bubbles though...	/r/seduction	24/10/22 11:12 AM
15	So, when do girls start thinking it is offensive to not make phisical moves? This. My tried and true method of the first kiss when I feel 100% sure that there is a mutual attraction and she's flirting, is to say something like "damn you're really making me want to kiss you right now" or "if you keep looking at me like that, I'm gonna have to kiss you" while making gentle but unbroken eye contact. Something innocent but firm enough to show her where you stand and give her the cue to either dismiss it or say something like "well, what's stopping you?" or "I guess I'll just…	/r/seduction	19/10/22 02:29 PM
5	Do women down South ever date outside their race? White AF guy here, can confirm...	/r/seduction	04/10/22 01:05 AM
0	Do women down South ever date outside their race? Ok but you said there are girls from there that show interest but the only issue seems to be that you don't want to date "brown girls", not girls from outside the area? Am I missing something? It just sounds like you're saying "man I'm so hungry, I haven't eaten in months, maybe ever, but yeah I don't like the food that I can get so I'll just starve because I want the food I think is automatically better". Just seems really self-defeating. If there are girls that show you interest, give it a cha…	/r/seduction	04/10/22 01:05 AM
6	Do women down South ever date outside their race? That you're "not really their preference" because you're "brown"... Honestly, that seems like your whole problem. You want the girls that don't want you but aren't interested in the girls that do. It's the human condition but I can be tamed with a little discipline and personal growth	/r/seduction	04/10/22 12:00 AM
2	Bumble in my hometown (population 300,000) = 1 match in 1 year. Bumble in city on west coast I'm traveling to (population 1.5 million) = 15 matches in 36 hours If you're not merely being fatuous, I presumed based on context that OLD meant "Online Dating"?	/r/seduction	29/09/22 03:58 AM
1	What's the best way to get over a breakup? I often think of the Jay quote "There's one bitch. One bitch with many faces" While crass I think it's very insightful. My buddy always took it to mean like there is tons of women out there and just go and be promiscuous, but I don't. My interpretation is rather that there are indeed special females in this world that you will align with so damn well. However, there isn't just one, but rather many of them. When we get stuck on just one of them, we have to remind ourselves that there are actually…	/r/seduction	17/06/22 08:41 PM
7	What the fuck can I do to be less invisible to women I find attractive??? Look at it another way, switch fear of females or the confidence needed to attract them with fear of learning to become someone like Tony Hawk, for instance. Do you think anyone that masters skateboarding or anything relatively dangerous like that got to the point they are now at without at least looking stupid by failing? Or risking serious injury? Or more likely enduring incredible pain from a broken bone, knocking out teeth, etc? Did these scary outcomes prevent them from doing what was neces…	/r/seduction	02/06/22 08:53 PM
29	a girl/my best freind said im being to clingy and she wants me to leave her alone after i told her how i feel Bingo. I am not a big poetry person but I'm often reminded of the poem "Solitude" by Ella Wheeler Wilcox in these kinds of scenarios: Laugh, and the world laughs with you Weep, and you weep alone For the sad old earth must borrow its myrth But has trouble enough of its own Basically saying don't be a wet blanket. Don't be social when you have nothing of value to add. Be open and even vulnerable to others but don't be dependent or especially seek their validation or approval. It's not to excuse "…	/r/seduction	25/05/22 11:21 PM
9	“Let her do 80% of the talking” …uh why? I've not heard of this really? If it's really a piece of strategic advice, I would imagine it's either for those who get really nervous around females and worry too much about "what to say" or arrogant, narcissistic types who compulsively brag constantly everytime they open their mouths to a female. Honestly, for the majority of us, it should be dynamic. Don't really think about the ratio. Just truly listen and respond honestly while being appropriately reserved. Take time to think of your respo…	/r/seduction	22/05/22 04:44 AM
2	Female friend’s friend told her she thinks I’m cute, next steps? Honestly you just have to gain experience like anything in life. You have to be fearless of rejection, judgment, and criticism while remaining open, warm, and receptive. Sometimes, counterintuitively, strength is about vulnerability, i.e, not being afraid to be vulnerable. You don't want to wear your heart on your sleeve but you do want to let the right people in. You want to make them feel as though they earned it. Don't put females on a pedestal but don't treat them like sub humans you're just…	/r/seduction	13/04/22 08:24 PM
2	Female friend’s friend told her she thinks I’m cute, next steps? Females, while they swoon over universally attractive men as a fantasy, are far less superficial about looks when it comes to who they are actually with in reality and care infinitely more about how you make them feel, how secure and confident you are with yourself, the experience you possess and can utilize to make spending time together an adventure, how you can find the humor in everyday situations that others miss, etc. If she thinks you're cute that's great, but focus less on your appearanc…	/r/seduction	13/04/22 04:14 AM
1	How do you love yourself Start looking at yourself like you're another person, because you essentially are. You're not really "you", rather you're an amalgamation of your experiences, brain chemistry, genetic disposition, etc. The way you see other people's flaws and quirks as both annoying and endearing, you need to apply that to your own. Do this with your strengths too but stay humble. Also, start viewing other people as yourself, really pretend that guy on the YouTube video or the woman walking her dog down the stre…	/r/seduction	09/04/22 02:06 AM
9	Does he want me to kiss him? The simplest solution? Ask him. For some people (in my experience, those usually less emotionally stable) it's apparently a turn off if you "have to ask". For others, and myself included, it's the best and most mature way. No one likes to be kissed by someone they see as a close friend or the awkwardness that follows. And you don't have to ask like a machine or in a cold manner, you can smile seductively and say something like "you know, when you look at me like that it makes me want to kiss you…	/r/seduction	04/04/22 10:12 PM
49	How to approach women ? This is the biggest bit of advice I can give you: don't be afraid of rejection. Embrace it... Any man you see with a woman you desire got there by failing miserably more times than you'd believe. The difference is that such men don't let their ego get in the way and use the experience to learn what works and what doesn't. There are billions of women in this world and in the end it's a numbers game but the odds are vastly in your favor. So long as you can get over your pride when 1, 5, even 100 f…	/r/seduction	04/04/22 09:24 PM
11	Hit it raw, condom sex is overrated No one prefers condoms but STDs are no fun, especially the biggest and most costly STD of all, creating life... That said, I typically wait until I find someone with which I'm physically and emotional compatible, get tested together, and then figure out our birth control options so we can avoid condoms and abortions/kids	/r/seduction	29/03/22 12:19 AM
4	28 M, never had the patience or I guess the skillset for online dating. Gave up on that and haven't used it for like 2 years. I am looking to start approaching IRL as I know I will get better results in person I feel quite worried... That's your only hurdle. Overcome that and you'll have no issues with females. Focus on them and their potential insecurities, think externally not internally, ask yourself how they're worthy of you and not vice versa, etc. Females are genetically programmed to seek a mate that will protect them from mammoths, bears, and other men. While they no longer have to worry much about the former two threats, you can't exude the strength they desire if you're afraid of their poten…	/r/seduction	20/03/22 06:23 AM
3	Validation, compliments, and sex I've never had that experience that good communication or saying what feels natural puts females "on a pedestal" during sexual activity. It's one thing to say overly complimentary things to females in the wild compared to just being real when you have one in your bed. Just don't say "I love you" of course. In fact, I'd go do far as to say it would be weird and counterproductive not to say "oh my god" or "that feels so good" during sex as you should be communicating to your partner whatever you f…	/r/seduction	07/03/22 11:25 PM
1	Is a nervous guy attractive? Nervous is the end of two equally unattractive extremes. You can either be nervous/unconfident at one end or arrogant/overconfident at the other. The trick is finding the middle ground	/r/seduction	23/02/22 02:16 AM
1	Are most conventionally extremely attractive women conceited and empty in your experience? While I don't like to generalize either, in my experience with the females I've dated that were way "out of my league", they were easily the most insecure. Still, there are exceptions to every rule and it's best to not treat individuals as anything other than individuals.	/r/seduction	16/01/22 03:02 AM
2	[deleted by user] Realize your ego is just trying to protect you but never let it control you. It wants so badly to protect you from pain and fear that it will prevent you from living and experiencing all that life has to offer. Never take anything personally. When someone rejects you, it's narcissistic to make it about you. Make it about them and move on. There are over 3 billion females on this planet and you're not going to meet most of them let alone get rejected by them. If you let your ego call the shots, t…	/r/seduction	06/11/21 06:57 AM
24	How to make her want my validation or approval? It's fetish- it's fetish shit! I-I-I like to bind, I like to be bound!	/r/seduction	02/11/21 07:23 AM
3	[deleted by user] This sounds like an ego issue? Your ego is supposed to help protect you but it can also prevent you from actually living and having profoundly important experiences if you let it take control. You have to hold the reins and confront your fears instead of trying to run away from them. Your fear of being laughed at or perceived as inadequate is crippling you. You need to have a "momento mori" epiphany and remind yourself it doesn't matter if you're well endowed or not, beautiful or not, etc. Espec…	/r/seduction	25/10/21 02:03 AM
1	[deleted by user] This reads like the precursor to an incel's pre-rampage manifesto	/r/seduction	20/09/21 09:08 AM
1	[deleted by user] I rest my case. Have a great day	/r/seduction	16/09/21 09:11 PM
1	[deleted by user] Every living animal is not insecure and superficial but I've run out of ways to convey to you that is what your problem is. I suspect you just have some real growing up to do so good luck in your endeavors	/r/seduction	16/09/21 09:06 PM
1	[deleted by user] Sorry you feel that way, bruh, but that's living in a fantasy world. Overcompensating isn't a sustainable solution, it's just running away from reality and asking for doomed relationships.	/r/seduction	16/09/21 08:54 PM
1	[deleted by user] Then you're only going to be dooming yourself to the same loneliness and rejection as those you yourself are rejecting due to your superficiality. It's like the saying, "you're not stuck in traffic, you are traffic". How you treat and value others as a whole is how they will treat and value you in return, your part of the whole ecosystem. So it's not that you're skinny, it's that you have immature and unrealistic views and expectations and your unconscious is reflecting that back upon you and yo…	/r/seduction	16/09/21 08:50 PM
1	[deleted by user] The point is you're too focused on a superficial and vain agenda so you are only seeking out those with the same mindset. You reject others for the same reasons you yourself don't want to be rejected. If you want to be in an adult relationship, it should be about finding someone you're most compatible with, not about how "hot" they are, that's highschool bullshit. Being in an adult relationship is completely different. Also, looks fade. There are countless females I knew growing up that were rid…	/r/seduction	16/09/21 08:36 PM
2	[deleted by user] It sounds like your standards are too high and your outlook is immature and superficial. Plenty of females like skinny males so you don't have to date anyone that has your build, you just have to find a female that you finds your build attractive. Otherwise you're seeking narcissism, i.e. loving yourself vicariously through others. Opposites attract, as they say. I see plenty of heavier females with skinny males. But if all you're after is "perfect 10s" then you're either going to be very lonely…	/r/seduction	16/09/21 08:22 PM
2	[deleted by user] It sounds like you're only seeing what you want to or are only attracted to vain woman, maybe mirroring your own vanity? Do you really want a female in your life that only values you because you're "muscular"? Flip it around the other way, would you be attracted to a female if she was so unconfident in her own physical appearance? Or if the only reason she sought to improve herself, physically or otherwise, was solely to attract you? And not because she loved and valued herself? Females are pret…	/r/seduction	16/09/21 08:05 PM
6	[deleted by user] This is likely body dysmorphia. Look around, I see plenty of skinny guys with girlfriends all the time. The reason they have them is because they're likely more focused on adding value to the lives of others instead of fixating on their falsely perceived sense of inadequacy due to superficial physical attributes. Females that are worth having relationships with don't care about how skinny you are, the size of your genitals, how much money you have, etc. They only care about how you approach life…	/r/seduction	16/09/21 07:38 PM
17	American Women are Wack !!! This sounds a little incel-y, NGL. You have to always remember that your personal and subjective experience as a human is a relatively tiny fraction of what is really out there. Ask yourself what's more likely, every American woman is a "bitch" or just the relatively tiny amount of the ones you've personally interacted with? And then even if all the ones you interacted with are "bitches", is it more likely that they are all the same and just hate men or that it's possibly you and how your action…	/r/seduction	14/09/21 08:01 AM
3	Bro. If you want to "chat her up" because you think she's interesting and a cool person then you wouldn't build things up and choke. If your motivation lies in her validation of you because of what you perceive she represents, you likely will and she will likely sense it from a mile away. Lower the stakes, there's millions of females out there, find one that makes you feel at ease when you approach them.	/r/seduction	31/08/21 01:54 AM
9	How to stop obsessing about my past interactions and what I perceive to be failures? I think the easiest way is to constantly flip things around. Imagine if the paradigm was reversed and it was females that were always "hitting on" men. They certainly can and do at times with the way things are but just imagine the standard is completely the other way around. Would you want the female that's a good or even perfect match for you spending her time and mental resources "obsessing" about such things? Trying to trick you? Trying to be something she's not? Or would you want her to be …	/r/seduction	30/08/21 02:18 AM
2	[deleted by user] You've got to look at it as a "nothing to lose, everything to gain" kind of situation. Don't ask for permission but don't just grab her like she's a sex object either. There's a good chance the "awkwardness" you perceive is due to her trying to read you while you're reading her so you're both making things a like catch-22. Don't be so concerned if she's into you, just show her that you're into her and leave the rest up to the universe. If she rejects you, just look at it as experiential informat…	/r/seduction	21/08/21 08:16 AM
33	Social generosity: the concept that changed my life Well put and very relatable! I used to obtain very similar mindsets from profound psychedelic experiences in the past. The last one I had was in 2012 with DMT and it changed me completely! I became extremely creative, interested in so many things, and self-fulfilled- yet ironically ended up with many friends and drawing the most beautiful females I'd ever known right to me without even trying, being seduced by them. I actually have priceless memories of one of them, a female I previously never w…	/r/seduction	19/08/21 08:05 AM