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Evervolving/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/25 10:43 PM
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Evervolving/r/askMRP22/01/25 01:00 PM
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This is a shit plan Possibly. I'll make sure to report on this in a few weeks
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 04:32 PM
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a fat, smoking bus driver with minimum wage is her best option? And by being jealous of him, you're elevating his value while lowering yours, congrats Here's a good take on the matter: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5ETG8rgX5sg So why couldn't I laugh it off? What I like to remind myself is that while I can't control my emotions, I can control my actions. Feeling jealous of fat fuck-ups? Kinda sad, but this emotion servers a purpose; it shows you that you have a lot of work ahead of you. You ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 07:52 AM
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Not yet, I'm going with the "just eat more Bro" strategy for now. If I see progress stagnate, I will up my game and start with the calorie counting
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 06:49 AM
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Can confirm. I was the "struggling with PE" guy all my life. After first finding this place, I was able to internalized the "I can just go caveman" mindset (LTR didn't want to have sex anyway so what's the point of trying?) As described in my OYS#6: I went into it to "just do my thing and be done with it, she hates it anyway". Then a funny thing happened: I couldn't cum at all - a concept entirely alien to me up until that point. There was nothing physically different about my dick or the act. M…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 06:25 AM
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Weird. I guess the root of our problems is different :/ The way I see it: being able to move each arm separately allows for a much more natural movement. Barbell 'locks' my wrists into an unergonomic position You're right that more stabilizers need to be activated - I considered that to be a benefit
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 06:13 AM
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Yup wrist supports have helped a lot! Why is lifting greater weights a benefit? Shouldn't tension + damage + stress be enough for muscular hypertrophy? The way I understood it: as long as I train to failure and apply progressive overload, I should trigger muscle growth. Isn't the weight just a number in that case? (if I train for muscle gain, not for strength gain?)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 06:09 AM
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So you’re not using the most objective metric available to you because? It's a considerable time & effort investment. I'm willing to put it in - if deemed necessary. Maybe I'll find out that the simple "just eat more bro" strategy works fine, in which case I can use my resources more optimally This will be very hard to measure. I figured I could just measure my weight and body-fat %. If the first increases and the second doesn't = I'm gaining muscle What is easier to measure is if you getting st…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/25 06:01 AM
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Oh shit I should have mentioned it's Dumbell overhead press, not Barbell My bad! I avoid all Barbell exercises because of past wrist injury (that's why there's no benchpress in my stats either). Apparently there's an analogue to anything so it shouldn't be an issue; but the weights are a bit lower because of that. Lifts are still shit, but hopefully that shines some light on it. Thanks for the vid & for taking the time to reply!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 07:49 PM
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What is not an issue in my case but how much might be I have histamine intolerance and can't touch most of the things under the sun. The bright side is that this forces me to only eat healthy food; there's no fried, carbonated or processed shit in my diet. The flip-side is that preparing fresh food every day is a drag and takes time, so I learned to not bother with it. Started consciously fixing this as of OYS #10 Currently I have a paper sticked to my bedroom wall with around 30 easy recipes th…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 07:44 PM
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How are you working on it? On average I'm doing some physical activity 6 out of 7 days each week. Gym workouts are usually 3-4x I lift until failure (of form) I bring this little notebook with me and I track the total volume of each set. Plan is to increase something each session - so either I strive to do more reps or I up the weight so that there is always some progressive overload. What are the identified problem points? Leading theory is that I don't eat enough What actionable steps have you…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 07:37 PM
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So what happens if you don't take it? Can you have sex without it? Or is your performance fully tied to pharmaceutics?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 07:23 PM
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Thanks Horns, I don't think so either - it sounds like a... Well, a quickfix. An easy way out bypassing the actual solution - and probability with hidden side effects. I'd be wary of becoming dependent on SSRIs; especially now that I saw healthier solutions are within reach
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 07:22 PM
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I usually go 4 sets; but yes, so far it's bad - I'm working on it
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 01:07 PM
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Thanks for sharing the quickfix. Noticed any side-effects yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 01:05 PM
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OYS #12 Stats: 32 years, LTR of 8 years, shared mortgage. 169cm, 62kg, deadlift: 90kg x 10, incline chest press: 18kg x 12, machine leg press: 70kg x 12, pull-up: 13x, overhead press: 18kg x 8 Physical: 2x Krav Maga, 2x Gym and an 8-hour hike Injured myself slightly in one gym session; it didn't appear serious, but I left everything then and there and went home regardless. My health has priority over gains (it was nothing serious and I was fine the next day: I still think I made the right choice…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/25 09:16 AM
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Wife Goggles
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:44 PM
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Your wife got an ego boost and wanted to brag to you (and potentially everyone else) about it "see? I'm desired by high value men!" If she wanted to cheat she would be more stealthy about it. However, your insecure reaction might motivate her to do just that
/r/askMRP11/04/25 05:39 AM
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> that would be easier for me than not talking at all Why do you think that is? Is it because it feels rude to not respond? Who has conditioned you this way, and does it server you? STFU is there at the very top of your bill of assertive rights, use it! I think that I need to find other ways to respond that are attractive Eventually, but for now I'd reconsider focusing on that. Learning to STFU has long been established as step #1; I'd be careful with making yourself an exception to the fundamen…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/25 08:30 AM
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Haha man I'm absorbing it all in! Hopefully I'll be able to add some value of my own later on. I'm trying to be very deliberate in my self-deceptions :)
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/25 08:08 AM
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I got dressed and told her I was going for a drive to think (way later than I’d normally leave the house). She asked about what, and I now regret saying, “about the terrible situation we were in and about the hard choices I am facing.” I am butthurt When I got home she was giving me shit about being gone for an hour at night, and that I threaten her with divorce. I tried to say as little as possible, but I did say, “this is not a threat, I will not stay in a marriage without love and you shouldn…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/25 04:38 PM
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Year 1 of TRM - just reading that now :D
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 08:02 PM
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Therefore: pay for sex = sex = validation (?)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:02 PM
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If that is the underlying fear, what stings worse being how you are now or being different? I'd say the transition period (which is both fine and expected) Because of the external feedback you received or because of your own evaluation Because of the external feedback. Frankly, even now I think that the joke was hilarious; it's just the delivery that was misplaced Or they are just emotions tied to who you are now. What happens if over time if you act towards those future projections of you want …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 07:01 PM
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Please elaborate
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:49 PM
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That's a good mental practice! I can think of some situations where I truly didn't give a fuck; though it was surprisingly hard to remember them as I didn't even give enough fucks to make a mental mark about them. When I truly DGAF, then I don't even GAF about my IDGAF attitude This situation was different though - here I was in a social group with uncertain standing. If the group ostracizes me, I will not have a tribe to hunt mammoths with or a cave to survive winter in... At least that's how I…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 10:20 AM
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Your entire sense of self-worth is ties to attraction validation. Indeed; you've noticed this last week, now I see it too. I perceive this to be a hurdle; though it's not entire clear to me about how to solve it (yet) Keep it up, and you'll probably want to blow your brains out. Holy shit, you were at the exact same point! Reading u/Cloudy_Pirate's response to your OYS and the similarities are striking! When are you going to start doing shit without the explicit reason to get attention from wome…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 10:12 AM
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Promotion isn't on the table and I am sticking with my discipline and working hard and impressing people. Won't you just become a plow horse then? Why work harder if you aren't getting anything in return? A better reason to work hard could be to develop your own expertise; something you could use outside of your current job if they refuse to value your contributions adequately. The only person you should be aiming to impress is yourself
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 09:24 AM
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I agree A supportive argument is that if sex is all that men want, then they'd just pay for escorts
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 09:03 AM
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OYS #11 Stats: 32 years, LTR of 8 years, shared mortgage. 169cm, 61kg (4 more to goal), deadlift: 90kg x 10, incline chest press: 18kg x 12, machine leg press: 52kg x 12, pull-up: 12x, overhead press: 17,5kg x 7 Physical: 2x Krav Maga, 3x Gym, 1x Climbing Focused on gym and gaining weight while still eating healthy. Bought MCT oil, eating three spoons a day to get some extra calories in. Mission: I've been honest with myself and realized that I don't fucking know what my endgame is. I can't orie…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/25 08:58 AM
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I noticed that I always got drama when I talked about... Time to STFU
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/25 09:31 PM
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Ty sir, I went through the FR and all the deeplinks (bookmarking the cheat codes for later) Honestly this place feels like a fucking Buddhist monastery - but I'm determined to grind through it. Otherwise your analysis seems spot-on; there indeed was a sense of anger accompanying my "revelation". I took that to be a good thing
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/25 09:24 AM
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In a way, that's a progress :)
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/25 04:19 PM
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your lifts still suck Correct you're still deep in the frame of women entirely. Yeah, well... In hindsight, I guess the "me getting an ego boost from the slightest woman validation" was quite telling of that huh It's no coincidence you're having this "it finally fucking clicked" after getting some minor attention from a younger, hotter girl. Correct again. I understand that it was a textbook example and nothing special. Just wanted to affirm that it has worked for me too You're a 5'6 manlet who …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/25 03:14 PM
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Rian thank you so much for finding the time to write this! I appreciate it, truly! you couldn't even be bothered to have a reason for no fap The reason was to test it & see what happens. Isn't the "try stuff out, write down what happened" in the spirit of this place? There are no dogmas, and if there were, Krav Maga wouldn't be it. what are you even talking about? I meant the 'other girls being interested in me' part. I simply wanted to confirm that 'yep, this worked for me too'. you're not supp…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/25 02:55 PM
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Regarding video games: I never vowed to quit them; but my MAP is keeping me so busy that I just don't have time to play anymore. And gaming was my primary hobby before If you'll feel like relapsing then consider adding more activities to your routine. You know, keep yourself busy with other shit that you actually enjoy doing (not more chores; more cool shit)
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/25 10:27 AM
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OYS #10 Stats: 32 years, 169cm, 60kg (5 more to goal), deadlift: 90kg x 8, incline chest press: 18kg x 12, machine leg press: 52kg x 12, pull-up: 11x I'm slacking on the weight-gain and have even regressed since last OSY. Note to self: focus on this aspect more Reading done: Praxeology: Frame, Praxeology: Dread (2x), Rian Stone's YT library, WISNIFG, NMMNG, The Book of Pook, Fucc Files, Praxeology: Field Reports Reading: The Manipulated Man Physical: 2x Krav Maga, 1x Gym. Spent 4 days traveling …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/25 09:08 AM
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I think that letting your wife know you'll be late is a nice thing to do. If you don't let her know because you honestly forgot or couldn't be bothered; that's perfectly fine too. The wrong thing to do is: spending 15 minutes calculating what the best response is, weighting all your options, deciding the loss:benefit ratio of her getting mad vs. you being a sigma alpha manly manlord and then finally deciding not to tell her because that'll show her who the boss is.
/r/askMRP31/03/25 09:31 AM
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Highest form in the "style" category (also it was meant to be tongue-in-cheek) Otherwise: Okay, on it, thanks for the response! I'll keep myself porn-free for a bit longer then; I'm finding it surprisingly easy so far
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/25 03:57 PM
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OYS #9 Focus: Eat more, talk less Stats: 32 years, 169cm, 61kg (4 more to goal), deadlift: 90kg x 8, incline chest press: 18kg x 12, machine leg press: 52kg x 12, pull-up: 11x Reading done: Praxeology: Frame, Praxeology: Dread (2x), Rian Stone's YT library, WISNIFG, NMMNG, The Book of Pook, Fuck Files Reading: Praxeology: Praxeology: Field Reports Physical: I was abroad on a bussiness trip all week but still managed to get 2x bouldering sessions with a colleague and three workout sessions in the…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/25 09:40 AM
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What's too late about it? If you do MAP correctly you do MAP for yourself; a girlfriend is merely a sidenote in that
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/25 12:16 PM
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I don’t want to just quit, I was a quitter for my whole life and am tired of myself running away without a fight. Imagine, for a moment, that you were a superstar millionaire first-class Hollywood actor, and you could have any girl at the snap of your finger. Would you still put up with this shit because you wouldn't want to "run away without a fight"? There's no honour in "not running away without a fight", it's not "the right thing to do". Nobody will give you any credit for this, nobody cares…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/25 10:53 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/25 07:49 PM
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I was reflecting upon this some more It's not that I need permission and the word "indecisive" doesn't quite capture it either. It's that I don't need to decide. I'm in my early 30s, I'm not gonna hit a wall, I don't have kids, I can just take this at my own pace. I'd be pretty much doing the same thing whether she's around or not, so I'm just gonna stay on my MAP and see how I feel in a few months If she decides to fuck someone else in the meantime: good, that's one less decision for me to worr…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/25 05:45 PM
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Thanks for taking the time to answer; I appreciate it, really! Perhaps we can infer a bit but let me ask. I kinda like the strategy of just STFU: it's super easy to execute. :) Primarily I just wanted to make sure she knows what I want (so that we're on the clear in straightforward terms and there are no covert contracts) - and that's done so I can go back to grinding. The rest of the conversation was me trying to 'guide the hamster out of the maze' - apparently I failed at that - but at least I…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/25 05:35 PM
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Not a permission, I'm just indecisive - this would make the decision easy
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/25 09:20 PM
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Okay - great, thanks for the answer, I'm actually happy to hear it! Since me and the LTR talked about it here, she knows exactly what I want, there's no covert contract. No need to negotiate this shit further then Umm I didn't take her hamster seriously at all, how can I when it changes its conclusions in every sentence? I was trying to do the "navigate the hamster out of the maze" thing, though likely I don't know what I'm doing
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/25 06:48 AM
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Goal to gain (muscle) weight Otherwise you're pretty much correct
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 09:12 PM
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Ah, so I might be misunderstanding some fundamentals; but this might also read different in text than how it actually was The thing I found interesting was the rationalizing she went through. Like, jumping from one bullshit reason to another. But I don't think I lost frame: I didn't take the conversation seriously (she came in crying and in panic, I talked back normally and seemingly in a good mood). I didn't take any of her bullshit reasons seriously (I know the reason for my situation, she has…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 03:42 PM
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I was hoping that the answers would be: 0 and that I won't get banned If I'm wrong in any of those then please correct me instead of banning me; I might be retarded but I will learn from the correction - and delete the post and won't break that particular rule again
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 03:14 PM
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The conversation went something like this (should this go into OYS? Should it be its own FR? Or should I just STFU and not spam this space with this?) Her: "*starts crying* I just don't know why I don't get horny anymore; it's not just you - I don't feel like having sex with anyone nowadays" Me: ''It's fine, it's just a hurdle on the way, we'll solve this together" (basically playing it like a no big deal, rejecting her hysterical frame) Then she talks some more and I can literally see the hamst…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 02:35 PM
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OYS #8 Stats: 32 years, 169cm, 60kg (5 more to goal), deadlift: 90kg x 8, incline chest press: 18kg x 12, machine leg press: 52kg x 12, pull-up: 11x Reading done: Frame, Dread (Rian Stone), Rian Stone's YT library, WISNIFG, NMMNG, The Book of Pook Reading: Fuck Files Physical: Gym 3x, Krav Maga 2x, 20km hike and two bouldering sessions. Skipped a few of my physio stretches. Started training for one-handed pull-up. No porn: Honestly I'm not really sure what I'm trying to achieve with this, but I …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/25 02:27 PM
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Could be, in my case the problems seems to have alleviated as of recently - though it's hard to tell if this is by exercising alone or if all of the other things contributed, probably both In any case, buying sgloves with wrist support can't really hurt him
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/25 02:33 PM
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So sex was a non-issue for years and suddenly it's an issue now? Is she ever using the SA experience as a reason for refusing your advances?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 10:47 AM
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I've been dealing with wrist pains for most of my adult life. What has helped me greatly is buying fitness gloves with wrist support (search for them like that, "fitness gloves with wrist support"). I don't understand the physics behind it, but if you strap the tape tightly around your wrists the pain seems to alleviate Another thing is to find alternative exercises - don't do anything that results in the "wrong" kind of pain, there's an analogue to anything. For example, my wrists can't do benc…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 10:43 AM
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Ah, I used to make her cum in the past. Hell she used to initiate in the past But none of that is happening presently
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 09:12 AM
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Nice will try!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 09:10 AM
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Good feeback - I'll take it all to heart About the conversation: yes I think I'll skip it unless she brings it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/25 09:10 AM
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Uh, maybe this came out wrong in the text form - I'm honestly not sure if she's in physical pain or mental. Perhaps this is something I should talk to her about, I haven't ruled out medical conditions yet Regarding the bf% and lift stats: uh, not sure. I was kinda hoping it'll become clear once I get there But yeah I do realize that being a retard that lifts still means I'm a retard. Just figured that life is going to get easier the more attractive I get, so that I can just wing it from there
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 04:54 PM
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Yes exactly that's my plan - Will do!
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 04:51 PM
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Oof, reading this again, I might have written it differently than intended. To be clear, I'm not sure if she's actually in physical pain or just mentally in a space of a rape victim. Perhaps I should talk to her about this? was sex ever good? Well, it used to be much better than it is now do you make her cum? Haha. No sgm? Long time ago - it's on my syllabus but it doesn't exist in an audio form so I'm lowering it's priority
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 04:50 PM
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My performance in bed didn’t improve, actually it got worse tbh. I’m on tadalafil every weekend just to make sure there is a chance of getting hard. tadalafil works 3 out of 4 times, without it I’m already feeling pressure to perform ending up with a limp dick. Here's something from my experience: I've been struggling with premature ejaculation all my life. I've found my way here because current LTR doesn't want to have sex anymore; and when she does she just kinda planks there and suffers throu…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 02:09 PM
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Regarding the "I stopped counting sex": what I'm referring to is that I kept track of this in my OYS (mostly because I saw other dudes doing it); but now I'm questioning whether this metric helps in any way, like if I can really use it to track my progress or what
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 01:59 PM
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Why would she need to see a doctor? I figured the whole ordeal is caused by me not being high enough in SMV/not implementing enough dread. Doctor has prescribed some red pills for that Regarding spinning plates: I did consider it, but concluded that I can't pull effortlessly so it might be more effective to spend the effort into increasing my SMV instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 01:55 PM
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There's a lot of present and future tense here. Not very much past tense. That means this is a lot of plans and not a lot of action. "I'm trying to build", "my plan is to focus", "hopefully I'll figure". Ok got it, thanks for the feedback!
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 01:39 PM
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OYS #7 Stats: 32 years, 169cm, 59.5kg, deadlift: 90kg x 8, incline chest press: 18kg x 12, machine leg press: 52kg x 12, pull-up: 10x Status: Skipped last two weeks of OYS as I was sick as a dog. Now I'm finally getting back on the grind Reading done: Frame, Dread (Rian Stone), Rian Stone's YT library, WISNIFG, NMMNG Reading: NMMNG Extended Syllabus on Rian Stone's channel, The Book of Pook Physical: Gym 3x, Krav Maga 2x, 20km hike and two bouldering sessions. Still doing all my physio stretches…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/25 09:52 AM
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Nice I'll use this for inspiration, thx
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/25 01:42 PM
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OYS #6 Status: Taking 2 weeks off from gym and all exercise to heal. This sucks balls but it also means I get 5 extra evenings a week and I should use them by focusing on other areas of my MAP (namely style and reading). Reading done: Frame, Dread (Rian Stone), Rian Stone's YT library, WISNIFG, NMMNG Reading: NMMNG Extended Syllabus on Rian Stone's channel, The Book of Pook Sex: 3x, all initiated by me. One time was almost good, other 2 were duty sex. Here's something interesting: I've been stru…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/25 10:03 AM
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This is flawless, thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/25 09:24 AM
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Thanks! Yeah I see the similarities now
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/25 10:45 AM
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No, I'm just a retarded. Thanks for taking the time to go through my bullshit - I truly appreciate it I might be getting it, slowly. I figured that a woman wouldn't be angry at me while still seeking my comfort - but, like, why couldn't she be? It's all just emotions in the end; I shouldn't seek for logic or consistency in them I went by the mantra of "look at what she does, not at what she says". So I figured: she's angry at me = shit test. But being angry is not an action, it's a feeling. That…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 10:25 AM
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Eh, it sounds like it doesn't it? I like to think that I'm beyond anger (or am I?). Though obviously I have problems with calibrating & my own frame is still very much under construction. There was one interaction that evening I forgot to mention in the FR: her: (accusatory) "I was without you the entire weekend!" me: (thinking: wtf? You accusing me of that? You went away for a skiing trip, I stayed home the whole time!): "Well, I was without you the entire weekend too" her: "Yes but you don't c…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/25 10:10 AM
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I will, thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 05:38 PM
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garbage lifts That's... Why I'm at the gym? To improve that (DL, but no squat for bench?) I avoid squats and bench because of past injuries. I replace squats with leg press and bench with incline dumbell press That’s your problem right there. Not the silence part, the “suffer” part. Do you know why that’s your problem? Well, I can see why being all stressed out about something is not good - so I guess I see why that's a problem. Otherwise not sure what you're referring to... Uh, I guess my answe…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 02:43 PM
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I used the Epley formula to calculate my one-rep max, my actual stats were 9 reps of 94kg. (94kg = all plates on both sides + bar (which I assume is 20kg, correct?)). I use deadlift hooks to grip the bar Similarly, with the incline I assume my one-rep max would be 25kg; which I got from my actual stats: 12x18kg
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 02:34 PM
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I mean have you owned this giant covert contract? I look at it like this: what do I want from a LTR/why even have one? And one of my criteria is: I want a girl that's pleasant to be around It's not that she should or shouldn't act this or that way. It's that my internal checkboxes for what I want weren't being checked - and I'm reminding myself of that intentionally and consciously. Helps me keep my mental models on point Will work on the STFU more though, thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 11:40 AM
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OYS #5 Stats: 32 years, 169cm, 61kg, Deadlift: 120kg, Incline Chest Press: 25kg, Leg press: 83kg Reading done: Frame (Rian Stone), WISNIFG, Rian Stone's YT library Reading: Dread (Rian Stone) Physical: Gym 4x a week, Krav Maga 2x a week. Steady progress in all my lifts and my weight Sex: 3 initiations: 2x starfish sex, 1x HJ (LTR on her period) Social: A friend from a shared social circle has got a new girl, we gathered for a few drinks to meet them. I felt on point with my social game Habits: I…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 11:09 AM
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Can't wait haha
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 09:01 AM
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Women fuck on their period if they want to fuck you. At a minimum, they’ll blow you. HJ? GTFO. I know she didn't want to fuck me. Like, she doesn't really like doing that as of recently. That's how I found my way here
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 08:57 AM
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And getting a HJ first? Come on man... you didn't mention how that happened, but I'm gonna bet you had to ask for it. And you'd be correct haha.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 08:52 AM
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Thanks for taking the time to reply! So the words read a bit differently in text than how they felt. Basically, her behavior at the beginning of the interaction was more of a "I'm pissed at you" and less of a "I'm sad and need comfort", if that makes sense. So how she acted isn't really congruent with what she actually said but I understand that's supposed to be normal. In other words there was (or, well, it felt like there was) a hidden accusation in her words, it felt like I'm being scolded/na…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/25 08:50 AM
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/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/25 06:12 PM
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These lines of thought can be tortuous. What weaknesses do you think you open yourself up to with them? I feel like I kinda stopped viewing this as tortuous. Like, it's just another model describing how people are; and currently it seems more fitting than my old model (which got me here in the first place). We're just animals anyway, better to be aware of that. Why are you not doing the core/foundational lifts? Past injuries in my joints. To go around that, I replaced Benchpress with Inclined Ba…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 09:22 PM
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BLUF: Focus on your rehab, lifts and PE for best RoI next post. 80% of MRP newbs' problems are solved by lifting, reading, and STFU'ing. Got it! How can you fuck her mind before getting your dick wet? If you're not having fun together, what's the point? Well, my plan for now was on increasing my own SVM, making myself more fuckable. I purposefully don't want to think about what's going on in her head as it feels dangerously close to a "dancing monkey" territory. I realize I'd have to improve on …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 09:07 PM
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The way I understand them: mate guarding is preventative, while hysterical bonding is a trauma response to you already cheating/leaving A girl that mate-guards will try to limit/control your behavior in some form, while a hysterically-bonding girl will try to make herself more available So it's about who's behavior she tries to adjust: hers or yours
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 06:59 AM
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Thanks, I'll make sure to read and reflect on both of them tomorrow But what I was hinting at is: can a girl feel genuine desire for someone without fearing that this someone has options and could easily leave if she misbehaves (too much)? Like, some form of at least passive dread must always exists in order for a genuine desire to form, no?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 09:53 PM
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Ok
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 06:14 PM
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You're correct
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 05:51 PM
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It's a good thing that you practice AA but we're not your wife; we're only pointing stuff to you that might be helpful to you You can take it or you can leave it. (Also too many words in your AA response: just that last sentence would have been more effective)
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 04:23 PM
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Good post Still, is there really a difference between a dread-induced desire and a "genuine" desire (whatever that is?). The way I understand it, these two are really the same thing. Why am I wrong?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 02:44 PM
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I will reflect on this, thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 02:32 PM
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we discussed how and why she has been closed sexually to me. We came up with a plan for her to build her sexual energy (through self pleasure) and work on opening herself up. and I shared that with her as well. Oh that's nice, you're going to rationally talk your girl into wanting to have sex with you - you guys have even devised a program with action steps to take! Will you also set-up a spreadsheet with shared access where both of you can track progress? Perhaps also a weekly meeting where you…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 10:25 AM
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Good job on hitting the bars, putting yourself out there. You've mentioned what (you think) your problems are, but not how are you going to address them. Your next OSY better have more mentions about the things that you actually did and less mentions about the things that you should do. Do you even lift?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 10:15 AM
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I fully think her pursuits are based on "dread" and not desire. Is there really a difference?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 10:08 AM
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I guess it might seem that way Lemme DEER a bit about it: it's possible that I'm just not focusing too much on things that are clear to me in my OYS; so the things I post here are something I'm still processing/hoping that somebody will help me parse Like, the hardcore exercising routine, the internalization of what I've read, the journaling of things & actively creating some structure in my life; these feel like a meaningful progress to me in a single week. Or, at least, these feel like a meani…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 09:55 AM
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Why not post your metrics? Lifting is a core basic element of MRP, and every vet will hold you accountable for lagging or weak lifts, and maybe share their hard earned knowledge. I'll keep posting them from now on. I didn't post them because my sole gym goal is muscular hypertrophy, not making numbers go up (it's just a wrong thing to focus on - but I want you to help me so I'll comply) What are these exercises? How was your experience implementing them? Lots of guys here have insight in rehabil…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 09:51 AM
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But let’s talk about this anyway. How come you want to be rejected? My guess is this less about your displaying abundance to yourself, and more about making a display to mommy. No... At least, I don't think so. It's more like when you fall off that mechanical rodeo bull or lose at a game; you want to try again, do better. Of course, I'm curious about whether I'd actually feel butthurt again or nah. I feel like I can handle it better next time Post your lift leads and stop hiding behind this nons…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 09:51 AM
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Thanks for this! Still, you got me hamstering a bit here. When developing my OWN worldview, the worldview needs to reflect objective reality at least somewhat to be useful, right? If I choose to believe that people are nothing but pure love and rainbows and nobody will ever want to hurt me (and I choose to operate from this worldview) then I could get reality-checked pretty hard. The someone else's worldview which I'm adopting right now seems to make sense to me. Like, as far as I can tell, the …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/25 09:51 AM
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What meaningful details do you feel are lacking in my OYS? I don't believe you think you need to be here. I guess you do feel that way. I don't. Most responses I've gotten so far were of great value to me, often answering the questions I didn't ask (and should have). Your response is a notable exception. If you're trying to actually say something meaningful then I don't see it. If what I'm writing here really is bullshit, as you say, then yeah it's probably because I'm still figuring things out.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 11:51 AM
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OYS #4 Status: Dronning diligently Reading done: Frame (Rian Stone), also listened to most of Rian Stone's YT library Reading: WISNIFG (almost done) Hygiene: Keeping-up good habits regarding shaving/dental Hygiene. Read some guides on r/wetshaving , bought a few components and testing results, will probably buy some more later on Physical: Gym 3x a week, Krav Maga 2x a week. Tracking the volume for all my lifts, making sure there's some kind of progressive overload each session. Social: Went to …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 09:24 AM
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Do you know what caused all this/was it triggered by the testosterone supplements? Sounds like you've changed the difficulty from easy mode to ultra hard. I don't have any advice to give but I'd like to ask you to documment your next months/write a FR from time to time. You know, for the "men swapping note's" sake and stuff
/r/askMRP03/02/25 05:56 PM
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Thanks - what I'm doing now seems to be working for me; but that doesn't mean I disregard your advice. I will keep it in mind and, at the least, will not feel bad if I don't push to failure from time to time. Good to have many viewpoints on the matter 100% agree with what you said otherwise, the paid program was nothing revolutionary and, as far as I know, the simple approach of "lift weights up and put them back down" (and don't be stupid and don't injure yourself) will work for 95% of all peop…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/25 12:24 PM
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Hmm that goes pretty much against my knowledge: why would it slow down the progress? I mean, what's the theory behind it, when would it be detrimental? https://youtu.be/71op1DQ2gyo?t=241 I stop short of failure in a few excercises where I'm afraid of injuring myself, like Deadlifts or Pull-ups, but mostly I push all the way Can't pull-out the program on the spot (am on my phone) but it's a standard full-body routine. Only thing special about it is that I avoid certain excercises due to past inju…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/25 11:24 AM
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Well my current analysis is that she sees me as a dutiful beta bux. She'd probably like to marry me and get impregnated with a child that I'm about 90% sure would actually be mine, but it stops there.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/25 03:34 PM
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The question you're asking is incredibly stupid because the premise is stupid. You shouldn't "manipulate" anyone besides your own self, at least not in your meaning of the word You claim to be capable of reading; I invite you to put those skills in practice and read the sidebar before making a fool of yourself
/r/askMRP30/01/25 12:04 PM
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Thanks for checking! I'm doing the Jeff Nippard full-body program, always pushing to failure (of form) and tracking my volume (so that there's progressive overload). I've been lifting for years prior to OYS, but now it's with a much higher intensity and focus As for the weights: Not lifting big numbers, feel free to assume I'm doing the weakest lifts you've seen on this sub
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/25 08:35 AM
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Sounds like you don't really want to get married - you're being pressured into it. Try to stop the rationalizing hamster for a while and ask yourself honestly: what's pressuring you? If you manage to put your ego aside and get an honest answer, you won't need to go her and ask for our permission
/r/askMRP29/01/25 11:56 AM
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How do you gain respect from your wife/partner, It's the goal of this subreddit. No, it's not - you misunderstand the very basics. I'm new so I don't speak from experience, but here's how I (conceptually) understand it: You build your value not to 'lead' (please) other people, but to please your own internal judge. When you become a man of high value, other people will start looking-up to you naturally. But you can't become a man of high value by wanting other people to look-up to you; because i…
/r/askMRP29/01/25 11:46 AM
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Good to know; I'll make sure not to expect such change then, thanks. Thinking about it more: my vision is that I won't have to renegotiate shit, as my LTR(s)should be happy to please me by doing things on my terms (since that means they'll get to keep me). Will just continue on increasing my SMV until I can pull that off
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 10:05 AM
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You didn't wonder why she gave up? Dare to ask yourself maybe you suck at sex? Maybe I do. I can bump the priority of certain books in my syllabus: would you recommend the Sex God Method or Married Sex Life Primer? ask yourself why you're with someone you don't trust... Great insight. I've been through this internally (maybe even way too much). This state must be temporary; I'm with her either until the trust is rebuilt or until my internal judge allows me to ditch the training wheels. But yes u…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 07:52 AM
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I will! Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 04:38 PM
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My issues with DEERing extend to conflicts at work Good thing you're aware of that. What are you going to do about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 11:49 AM
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smiling like an idiot while unable to form a reply, taking the candy wrappings to trash Why pick-up trash after your wife? Wouldn't it be better to just leave it there and let her clean her own shit? 0 children so you're not setting-up a wrong example with this
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 10:51 AM
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OYS #3 Status: Extremely motivated I'm soaking this all in with passion. Haven't felt this motivated about something in a long time. I realize that motivation is as fickle as a wind and will pass eventually - if I'm to do this long-term, it's discipline that I need to cultivate. Trying to keep that in mind while using my current motivation-boost to develop a good routine and habits. At the same time, I need to remind myself that if I water my plants twice as much, they won't grow twice as fast. …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 10:36 AM
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You are correct and rationally I'm aware of that. It's just that I haven't fully killed that pair-bondingy, one-itisi monkey part of my brain (yet). Haven't fully integrated the RP mindset - but I'm working on it
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 09:24 AM
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Oh... Ooooh... For fucks sake that hurts to read
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/25 09:11 AM
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I don’t know the answer, but super curious what some of the flaired guys say about this An observation though: you claim to be “the hot shit” - yet you come here asking what you should feel. Peculiar
/r/askMRP26/01/25 03:11 PM
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I'm both I tried to avoid boring you with my batman origin story, just trying to understand the basics atm
/r/askMRP24/01/25 10:17 AM
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I'm soaking this all in Thanks
/r/askMRP23/01/25 05:16 PM
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This is hella interesting. Will wait for an update on this: please write it in a different thread so that we don't miss it. You're living in separate homes, I sure do hope you're bringing new pussy in there too. She's very likely doing the same
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 10:36 AM
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> However, there’s been times when she’s made an argument about nothing Sounds like she just needs some drama. You could help her get this out of her system by implementing controlled anger.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/25 09:20 AM
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Aren't most human interactions manipulative in some way? Girls wearing make-up, guys doing the STFU/refusing to DEER, etc? For fucks sake these methods are so inconsistent sometimes, I feel like being in a Buddhist monastery
/r/askMRP23/01/25 09:09 AM
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I'm funny, I look good, I make a good company & I keep the place running smoothly If I take a fuck doll to an exotic vacation to have someone to share my experience with then people will look at me weird
/r/askMRP23/01/25 09:06 AM
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Thank you
/r/askMRP22/01/25 06:06 PM
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One of the fundamental essays in the rational male was about how when a girl is really attracted to you, she will crawl under a barbed fence, let you fuck her on a dirty mattress and then hide in the closet until your wife leaves the house Meanwhile your LTR isn't willing to take a longer route to work for you. Doesn't mean she isn't into you at all (otherwise she wouldn't sleep with you ever); only that you're not the alpha chad you roleplay as I can't fathom how "having a talk" about this fixe…
/r/askMRP22/01/25 04:08 PM
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Gotcha! So just fog/deflect/etc
/r/askMRP22/01/25 03:02 PM
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Not happy right now, used to be quite happy a few years back - so I know she's capable of the behavior I want, I'm just not getting it from her right now. However, I like your answer, will drop that one if it comes to it & report on how it went Thanks
/r/askMRP22/01/25 03:01 PM
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You're spot on - still figuring that out, since the white-picket fence and a Disney fantasy are no longer on the table. Here's how I'd put it currently: I want to become a man that's fuckable, has that aura of 'authority' wherever he goes. I want to build an epic life where I'm not a slave to a dead-end job - but have the freedom (financially and time-wise speaking) to pursue my travel and creative goals. I want to have a girlfriend in my life; one that is pleasant to be around and drains my bal…
/r/askMRP22/01/25 02:58 PM
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Thank you for finding the time to reply, though I've read your response 3 times and I still don't get what you're trying to say I'll try to ask differently: while on her last period, she's asked me what my plans with her and our future are, whether I'd ever marry her, when are we going to have kids etc. Abbout 3 years ago (when our relationship was at its peak) I honestly wanted all of those things. I certainly don't plan on either of them now tho; not until I fix my frame and she fixes her beha…
/r/askMRP22/01/25 01:55 PM
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> She calls and I listen to her a bit blabbering about her day etc.. Shouldn't phone be for logistics only?
/r/askMRP22/01/25 09:29 AM
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Kinda sounds like the algorithm for your emotional state is: My wife treats me bad: sad My wife treats me good: happy Does this ring true in any way? Because if yes then it kinda sucks to have your emotional stability tied to something so unstable and out of your control eh?
/r/askMRP22/01/25 08:44 AM
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Nah
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/25 08:26 AM
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You're right, I've been doing a lot of that lately Thanks, that single sentence you left here did wonders to me today, really
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/25 08:12 PM
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> I agreed to talk after a couple days Talks like these have a hidden sub-context behind them. In this sub-context, you and your LTR have a contest over who's frame is the relationship operating under. If you "agree to talk after a couple of days" - you've agreed to enter her frame. What are you going to talk about? Are you planning to DEER your way out of this? Do you plan this conversation in your head while you shower and go about your day? You're hoping to "talk this through", like reasonabl…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/25 02:51 PM
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Lifts: 4x a week, on a program, keeping track of my volume and pushing to progress each session. Always lifting to failure. Seeing a physiotherapist monthly; learning how to fix my lifelong-broken posture. Goal: to gain 5kg of pure muscle Focusing on: diet - not eating enough calories for a sufficient caloric surplus. This week I will focus on buying ingredients in bulk & getting on a well-planned cooking program. Reading: Frame: On Self Actualization for the Modern Man (Rian Stone). Also listen…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/25 02:36 PM
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cringe
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/25 02:05 PM
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Yes, you're correct. Thank you
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/25 02:05 PM
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A few months back, a callous hand of reality came and bitch-slapped my drunken, lazy face with a cruel and insensitive force. Ever since then, my mental state kept fluctuating between denial, depression and anger. At this point, I'm very much in my woman's frame. I try to convince myself that if I'm forced to end this relationship, eventually it will be a good decision. Sill, I'm scared of the following: - The work/cost associated with moving houses/selling the mortgage. - The pain associated wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/25 11:32 AM
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