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Yeah. "Therapy" sounds so dramatic, but yeah, find a counselor you like who can help you with things like social anxiety, assertiveness, or whatever you would call it. A few sessions with someone who can tell you from professional experience that your feelings are pretty normal and offer guidance on how to work through them. It's helped me, and lights of people. It's not like you're fundamentally broken, you could just use some help getting what you want out of life.
/r/seduction14/05/22 09:21 PM
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Decide what you want, and then go after it. Do you want to sleep with her and spend time with her? Then do it. Do you want her to be exclusive to you? Then say so. (How you say it, and how you show it, that's another matter.) If she doesn't want that, and if that's a deal breaker for you, move on and find someone else. There's no rules. There's just you going after what you want and inviting the people you like to come along.
/r/seduction14/05/22 06:49 PM
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OP, the book he mentioned is great and sounds like a good fit for you. I second the recommendation.
/r/seduction14/05/22 06:42 PM
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From experience: telling her might help you get her, if that's what you want. But it won't help you move on. That's something you do inside yourself, without her help.
/r/seduction14/05/22 06:40 PM
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Counseling is a real thing that helps all kinds of people to work through so many different kinds of issues. Lots of athletes get counseling to help with performance anxiety and confidence. Lots of entrepreneurs get counseling to get through stress and insecurity. Lots of men get counseling to deal with whatever limitations they face in their romantic lives. If you had a bad shoulder that kept you from sleeping well, you might not hesitate to ask professional help with that, right? Why not find …
/r/seduction14/05/22 06:38 PM
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Sunk cost fallacy.
/r/askMRP05/05/22 08:03 PM
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Why chase her? Is she the only attractive girl in the world? Do you want to practice the skill of "getting out of the friend zone" and "working really hard to make one girl change her feelings"? Do you want to spend more time being reminded that this attractive girl isn't attracted to you? Instead, spend more time: Going on first dates and learning to create that spark Meeting new girls to find the ones you click with Going after what you want and inviting fun people (and fun girls) to come alon…
/r/seduction05/05/22 07:53 PM
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Try this: You don't have to be a dick. Just don't be a pussy. I go after what I want. Fun people are welcome to come along. Accommodate anyone if you want to, but only because you want to. Start paying attention to what you actually enjoy and don't enjoy. Then start making more time for what you enjoy and less for what you don't. Life is short. No time for clocksuckers.
/r/seduction04/05/22 05:38 PM
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The first step is remembering i don't need anyone's approval to go after what i want. After that, i usually don't need the expensive mental overhead of concocting stories. I see my world my way, I tell that like it is, I don't need to fill in needless details, and I don't worry about getting "caught".
/r/TheRedPill04/05/22 05:30 PM
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Come on, don't be a dick. If you think 7 is not so much then just say so . No need to mock somebody else for being happy with their own situation.
/r/seduction30/04/22 07:51 PM
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60 percent of the days, it happens every god damn day.
/r/seduction29/03/22 02:57 PM
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It's never inappropriate to feel anything. Attraction happens. How you deal with it is something else. But yeah this happens to men. Most men. Most days.
/r/seduction29/03/22 02:28 AM
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Stop reading those forums. Talk to anyone you want to.
/r/seduction23/03/22 12:13 AM
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"Don't you try and go through life worrying about if somebody like you or not. You best be making sure they doing right by you." August Wilson, Fences
/r/askMRP15/06/21 04:55 PM
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Yeah so can we
/r/askMRP17/11/20 03:54 PM
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just manipulation You say that like it's a bad thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 02:57 PM
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There is no answer to this question. Nobody has tried two different approaches to the same woman at the same time in her life. To many variables beyond your control. Focus on the variables you can control: Are you the prize? Are you getting what you want from this woman, and if not, are you willing to look elsewhere to get what you want? If somehow you're religiously or otherwise unconditionally constrained to this one woman, you'll still get the best she has to offer by being what every man and…
/r/askMRP17/11/20 02:52 PM
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Before your frame is big enough for two, it has to be big enough for one. Is your frame strong enough to support you? Are you doing what you want because you want it? If not, if your frame won't even support you, then it's a waste of time trying to pull anyone else into it.
/r/askMRP14/11/20 07:12 PM
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BF numbers are overrated, but: a BF% like "19.5" sounds like a BS% , meaning it's from one of those bullshit BF scanners in a GNC store. For me the question is: how do i look, and how do i want to look? Brad pitt in Fight Club? Just look in the mirror to know if your BF is where you want it to be.
/r/askMRP30/10/20 02:42 PM
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This is the very reason you should go to a gym. Try this: what is the absolute worst case scenario? You go to a gym, and you bench press the bar with no plates for 5 reps; fagittty gym bros all stand around pointing at you and laughing; they all stop their workouts mid-set, just to make you pick up your shit and leave; overwhelmed by their numbers and physical strength, you exit the building. Will you be okay after that? Answer: yes. You can find another gym and try again; if all the gyms in you…
/r/askMRP29/10/20 02:58 PM
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Why are you in an LTR with this person? Did you think you were ready to settle down? You are not. Be glad there are no kids. Remind yourself you are not ready to live with a woman, and end this mess. This is not about her qualifications as a long term partner; it's about your willingness to get what you want in life. And you're not going to learn that by staying in this relationship. Life is short. Move on.
/r/askMRP22/10/20 03:24 PM
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don't think it bothered her that much Her frame, try again. You're 23 man. You have to stop evaluating yourself based on what you think other people think about you. You have to view your life from your own perspective man. Doesn't matter if it bothers her, until you know whether it bothers you. You're not ready to be married. Admit it. Take the L. Run like hell.
/r/askMRP25/08/20 02:50 PM
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Why married couples smile in their wedding photos: He thinks, "This is great, free blowjobs for life!" She thinks, "This is great, I'll never have to give a blowjob again!"
/r/askMRP25/08/20 02:39 PM
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That should always be an option.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/20 02:30 PM
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... How to get frame back? Assuming the girls worth the investment Careful here. A girl being worth it is not a reason to keep your own frame. I keep my frame because doing so benefits me, for reasons that have nothing to do with her or anyone else. A girl, or anyone who's worth my time, can feel free to join me in my frame, if she wishes.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/20 01:51 PM
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I'm curious whether you do cold approaches while carrying.
/r/seduction20/08/20 01:36 PM
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This right here, OP. You had no game, then you started trying to meet people, then you met the girl of your dreams. What's wrong with saying you didn't even know how wonderful she was until you really got to know her? As for marriage, that's your choice. I would never recommend it myself, but whatever. But get this straight right now: Married, LTR, FWB, plate, or ONS, doesn't matter -- don't go dumping your confessions on her. Own your own shit: if you think you did wrong, don't do that again. T…
/r/seduction14/08/20 01:59 PM
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Doesn't matter HB-whatever. Did you enjoy the fuck? Did you level up and put some new skills into action? Then take the win. End of story. Then go out and do it again. When you're liftng and you hit a PR, does it even matter who says "my grandma can lift more" and who says "damn bro, that's amazing"? Take the win.
/r/TheRedPill12/08/20 02:42 PM
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I'm trying to find a balance ... a.k.a. "I don't know what I want. Probably because I don't have enough practice listening to my own desires and going after what i want." It's been a long time, but i used to waste a lot of energy "trying to find a balance" -- mostly it was the balance of pleasing as many other people as possible, completely without regard for pleasing myself. Why would anybody choose to live like that?
/r/askMRP11/08/20 02:48 PM
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So you're daygaming in SA, as in cold approaching women on the street? How's that going, say in the past week or two?
/r/seduction10/08/20 08:59 PM
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5'10, currently 156 lb. Squat 280x6, DL 325x6, BP 210x6 (shoulder problem recently though, so doing weighted dips instead, 100x6). Cut was lyle mcdonald rapid fat loss aka PSMF, starting at 175 lb, 4 weeks cutting, 2 weeks maintenance, then 2 weeks cutting down to 153lb, now maintaining at 156lb or so.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/20 03:43 PM
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OYS July 28, 2020 Background: 47M, 50F, married 19 years 3 kids 12-18 y.o. Writing for OYS, theres a lot of stuff I could put in. A couple of weeks ago I finished cutting down to around 10% BF, probably now somethwere like 12%. It feels good to look in the mirror, and it's validating to get comments ("big/buff/muscular") from other people. My mission right now is simple: I want to fuck, I want to fight, and I want to be free. I'm not a very good husband or father, except that I take care of myse…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 01:04 PM
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U mad bro?
/r/seduction24/06/20 02:51 PM
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OYS Jan 07, 2020 47m, married (50f) w/ 3 daughters (18, 16, 12); not satisfied with sexual frequency or quality. I took a long break from posting in OYS and MRP, because I noticed that after I post anything, I'm a little too interested in what anyone has to say about it. I dig the idea of accountability and getting constructive feedback, but validation-seeking is a weakness I'm trying to watch out for. Areas I want to improve, in rough order, weakest areas first: Fun, Fashion, Flirting, Fitness,…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/20 03:20 AM
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When I am successful, it tells me I'm doing something right. When I'm not, it tells me I'm fucking something up. Not really. It's possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That's not a weakness; that's just life. And even if your loss is because you actually fucked something up, that loss is not a referendum on your personal value. Just means you could improve some technique, skill, timing, etc. Wife rejects your advances? Her choice. Your fault, her fault, nobody's fault, doesn't matter. Y…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/19 05:20 PM
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I think it's u / SBIII (capital i's). But i don't recall the tranny story. Link?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/19 04:59 PM
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Love if you want. But you can't make anybody else give you a feeling.
/r/seduction10/10/19 10:04 PM
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"One can bring no greater reproach against a man than to say he does not set sufficient value upon pleasure, and there is no greater sign of a fool than the thinking that he can tell at once and easily what it is that pleases him. To know this is not easy, and how to extend our knowledge of it is the highest and the most neglected of all arts and branches of education." -- Samuel Butler, "On Knowing What Gives Us Pleasure" Great read, well worth the 10 minutes.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/19 02:13 PM
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Ok, weird, works fine for me now. False alarmi guess
/r/seduction10/10/19 01:30 PM
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Ok wait. GameGlobal.net is non-existent. https://i.ibb.co/RPr31Ws/Screenshot-20191008-133428.png WTH?
/r/seduction08/10/19 05:40 PM
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32: you've got plenty of time, if you make effort to get what you want. Kissless: you've got plenty of time, if you make effort to get what you want. Fat: This you can change. Have you tried? Short: Can't change this. But short guys fuck. Don't let this be an excuse for not going after what you want. Live at home: This you can change, if you want to; sounds like you want to. Put in the effort to get what you want. Underemployed: This you can change, if you make effort to get what you want. Asper…
/r/seduction08/10/19 03:47 AM
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Yeah, it's way of topic, but it's true.
/r/askMRP17/07/19 04:05 PM
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Why in the fuck any single man would be attached to the concept of marriage -- in the abstract, completely without a specific hot and horny woman to catch feels for -- is beyond me entirely. What in the fuck are you thinking? I met my wife when i was so scared of pussy i had to join a cult and get the cult leader to match me for all eternity with a similarly brainwashed prude. Nothing close to what any other guy here went though, but you know what, we all have found ourselves in the same boat: b…
/r/askMRP15/07/19 03:26 PM
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Spell-check before painting on wall.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/19 04:04 PM
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high reps, lower weights This could be the key to beating my tendonitis and getting my arm workouts back in gear. Thanks for the link.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/19 05:23 PM
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You got three choices: live with it, address it, or die. Can't change the past. Gotta change your capacity to deal with it and move past it. Counseling can help.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/19 05:40 PM
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Ditto. At least do the math and see what the move would cost you: financially, both to move and to live in the new location; and otherwise, in lifestyle changes.
/r/askMRP06/03/19 06:53 PM
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Never understood how anyone could study on municipal public transport. Commuter rail, maybe, but local transit just has too much going on.
/r/askMRP06/03/19 06:50 PM
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You went straight for the sex, without fucking her mind first. Get the pan hot before you put the meat in. Bingo. +1
/r/askMRP02/03/19 01:00 AM
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Sounds great darling! I'll have my mother look over the documents and get back to you. Can you give me 24 hours?
/r/TheRedPill28/02/19 05:15 PM
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This story reads like a high school revenge porn fantasy. He anticipates the reader calling bullshit at every turn and offers a neat handwaving explanation for every little thing. Besides that, why all the drama? Kick her out and move the fuck on. And not seeing women until he finds one he can trust? Jesus Christ.
/r/TheRedPill27/02/19 04:18 PM
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"I'll do it though" https://youtu.be/rbzm4cT5sDM
/r/TheRedPill26/02/19 05:16 PM
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"his semi drunk GF" probably
/r/askMRP30/01/19 07:02 PM
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Our wives feel something and we react to that feeling. Not really. Our wives do whatever, and we try to guess how they're feeling and we react to that guess. Part of frame is staying out of other people's heads. But great post. So much of that brain noise really is just noise.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/19 04:37 PM
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Probably have only crawled through around 200 yards of shit, so maybe like 300 yards or so.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/19 05:05 PM
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Yeah, I think it means I'm the prize, I'm giving them a gift by talking to them, they probably want to be approached as much as i want to approach them, etc. Right?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 05:25 PM
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Endgame is me living without regret, having confidence with women based on routinely positive interactions, and having sex frequently with a woman or women who are attracted to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 02:03 PM
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Ok, thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 07:31 PM
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I don't get your meaning. Are you saying counseling is a waste of money?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 07:07 PM
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No more “I’m sorry”. Right on. Apologies and promises are weak attempts to buy good will without taking action. Don't like what you did? Do better. No need to talk about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 05:16 PM
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OYS week 85 Current goals and guiding principles: Everything is for me, or I don't do it. Always look forward, never dwell on regret. I want to own beautiful things that are well maintained. I want to be in charge and ahead of the game. I want to build my company value by making it less dependent on my constant attention. I want to have many experiences worth remembering. Sex: Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. Last week I was 0 for 4, and I let it get to me. It's just so easy to think li…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/19 03:52 PM
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That would at least demonstrate that it's not covered up by your pendulous gut.
/r/askMRP22/01/19 03:44 PM
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Would have been better if you just did it and never responded to her email. Just do it, say nothing. If she comes home and mentions it, you say "yep". The end. Don't bother making promises about the future. You're human, you will make mistakes, which then makes you a promise-breaker. Promises are a lame attempt to buy good will without doing any work; it's cheap credit, and the late payment fees are hell. Instead, take your lumps now, let your actions demonstrate what kind of man you are, and le…
/r/askMRP22/01/19 03:41 PM
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ABCBC. Always be in control if birth control. "I thought it was safe" is not enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/19 09:35 PM
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She's not his, it's just his turn. When it's my turn, I decide whether to take it or pass.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/19 09:21 PM
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Interesting. I figured moms with kids would be in mommy mode. You're saying they're even more likely to be looking for adventure? I'll have to give them a shot.
/r/askMRP31/12/18 05:01 PM
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OYS week 81 Current goals and guiding principles: Always look forward, never dwell on regret. I want to own beautiful things that are well maintained. I want to be in charge and ahead of the game. I want to build my company value by making it less dependent on my constant attention. I want to have many experiences worth remembering. Sex: I'm still only fucking the only woman I've ever fucked, so part of this is just notes about how to fuck this one woman; but most of it is about how to get what …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 08:45 PM
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Do you have kids with this woman? What value does she bring to your life? It sounds like the cost of keeping her around is significant. Why is she worth it?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 08:13 PM
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a way to have her back off gracefully Agree with MITW here. Amusement and affection. I've had good results teasing her with something like "OMG you are the most worrying woman I've ever met; how do you make it through the day?" The hardest part was remembering that Amused Mastery means I've got Mastery -- i.e., I've got this babe, you're worrying over nothing. Once I'm sure of that (and I'm not taking her concerns personally anymore), the Amused part is a lot easier.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 07:46 PM
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Maybe your meaning is a lot subtler that I can grasp, but I mean, can't you do that now? She says no, and you're OI and move on. But of course, OI is not a mere mental trick, which I think its what you're getting at. You've got a very clear commitment on a very significant matter: "no sex until ...". I can't see how that's going to work out well if you don't have an equally clear goal and plan. So, what's your plan for achieving this goal? is it just "no sex until XYZ" or something more?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 07:40 PM
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she does lead when it comes to planning vacations. I do need to address this. Yeah, I could say the same. My woman comes up with all kinds of ideas for vacations, home improvements, whatever. I don't know where she gets the brain cycles for it; I'm busy running my business and just don't think much about entertaining the family. As you suggest, it's an area that could be improved. That said, her ability to come up with ideas doesn't have to make her the leader of vacation planning. She can say "…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 07:33 PM
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Mission: I am working real hard on locking this down Keep in mind, you don't have to know your One True Mission Forever; just start with your Mission Right Now. "You don't have to get it perfect; you just have to get it going." Oh, and the wife bought me tickets to fly us all to Vegas for a Hockey game tonight. Is that good or bad? Is this your money she's spending while deciding how your family will spend its time? Or is this her money she's spending on something you've already decided you want…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 06:35 PM
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done having sex with her till I got my act together Is this a specific and achievable goal? How will you measure that?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 06:27 PM
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Saved. There's a reason the word "autistic" comes up here so often: a lot of guys here are just not very good with emotions. Definitely a weak point of mine. Sounds like SGM is next on the list for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 04:50 PM
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Looking forward to the [FR].
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 11:19 PM
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That sounds like an awful lot of talk about what you're "going to do". Seems like you're just creating expectations and anxiety. You've been at this a while and it sounds like you're being intentional about it at least, but what's the point of telling her all this? What action can she take based on what you've told her? I hope you post updates on the effects of this approach. Anyway, you've said it already. Own it, and keep moving forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/18 09:33 PM
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Yes! In the beginning it was so hard to approach because I kept thinking I had no game, she'll never talk to me, etc etc. But I said to myself: I'm not trying to fuck her, I'm not even trying to get her number; I'm trying to practice my approach, and that depends entirely on me, not on her.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 10:20 PM
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It's been 12 weeks since I posted here. It was starting to feel like mere validation-seeking without much real progress, and my reddit-to-living ratio was upside down, so I decided to keep my notes to myself for a while. I think the interim has been productive. What I want This isn't a mission, but I'm getting an idea of what I want out of life: I want to own beautiful things that are well maintained. I want to be in charge and ahead of the game. I want to build my company value by making it les…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/18 05:54 PM
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Seen this? http://www.rohitnair.net/pp/
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 07:44 PM
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Duvall. https://youtu.be/9Qj0RrSmQEo
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/18 05:45 PM
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This reads like a guy who's not telling the whole story. You "might have" told her you recorded her? Own your shit, man. You don't have to make us think you're the good guy here. We're not your judge - you are, and only you. Not us, not your wife, not all her friends-and-relations at some party. Own. Your. Shit.
/r/askMRP17/10/18 06:11 PM
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DEER.
/r/askMRP17/10/18 06:03 PM
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obsession ... Compulsively ... When i get like this about something, it's usually not about the thing itself; the thing is just a way to escape something else about my life. Do you have a mission in your life? Things you really want to accomplish? On the flip side, do you have something you're unhappy about and hiding from? Stay off the sports-crack for a while, quiet your mind, see what you actually want, and go work to get it.
/r/askMRP16/10/18 05:46 PM
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Consider the notion that paid sex with a whore may not really be as good as it gets. Its an orgasm with a busty robot. Take that whore money and spend it on yourself: upgrade your wardrobe, fix your teeth, hire a coach for whatever skill you want, have experiences you can actually talk about with other people. Then have sex with real women, and consider then whether sex is still "not so great."
/r/TheRedPill16/10/18 03:13 PM
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next time I'll do X Be careful with that. Why make promises? It just seeks approval. Honestly, next time will have a whole different context -- who knows what you'll do? "I made a mistake" is enough. Its all in the non-verbals Yes. And the non-verbals are all in being your own judge.
/r/askMRP03/10/18 04:41 AM
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Republican national convention?
/r/askMRP21/09/18 07:56 PM
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Sidebar on desktop, "community info" on mobile app. Start with the prereqs, then 101, etc. This is part of "doing the work," without which nobody here can help you.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 07:51 PM
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If my wife and I decide our relationship isn't working, and we are happy to split amicably, I am more than happy to pay her out for all the value she's added to our relationship I really dig the frank sense of ownership in this statement.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/18 05:18 AM
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I'm not michael jordan, man. any high school kid could indeed help me sharpen my game. and if jordan comes around, i'll play pickup with him too.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 05:52 PM
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Not really. Can't think of any good reasons not to though. You should expect updates from me on this in a future OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 05:22 PM
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give up on using her as a sparring partner Sure, that would be dumb. I'm not against sparring with her, but I'm giving up (or trying to give up) on constantly trying to cash in my dancing monkey covert contract, in which I was essentially saying every now and then, "hey wife, I know we've only been talking about kid logistics and house logistics for the past few days and haven't really laughed together about anything in weeks, but I'm going to kiss you now and grab your ass for a few minutes and…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 05:13 PM
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Agreed.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 03:52 PM
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None. No candidates, no effort at finding them, yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 03:51 PM
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Yeah it's true, I really don't know how to break out of this. I have a vague notion that flirting with and gaming other women will help me learn some game, learn to have fun with it, see how that affects me. Specifically I've scheduled some time on an upcoming weekend just to make myself go out and meet people and approach women, but that's just a one-time outing. Shifting to a lifestyle where I actually have fun on a regular basis (just making life fun in general, or specifically making time re…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 03:50 PM
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OYS week 66 Hitting my limits The past ten days or so I'm 0 for 3 on initiationing sex with my wife. The most recent was pretty pitiful and needy, basically lots of stroking and kissing of a woman who showed complete disinterest. Don't know how I could have missed seeing how needy and creepy that is. I've imagined in the past few months that things were getting better. They are not. In the past many months, I've come a long way in increasing my self confidence, acting with purpose, owning my shi…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 02:50 PM
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Telling young men to be more like women? Not cool man. Tell 'em what a man is: abundance, DNGAF, acta non verba, etc. But saying anything along the lines of "be more feminine" is confusing AF for a youngun. They're hearing that all day everyday from single moms, school teachers, celebs, and Disney.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/18 04:25 PM
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Did you mean "the less of a big deal you make out of it the better?"
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/18 03:29 PM
1

If you've fasted before, you might know this, but I've found drinking lots of water helps. I agree with Stone, eating nothing is somehow easier than just eating less.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 06:50 PM
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By not basing your self esteem on comparison with others. Self esteem is an idea in your own head. You make it what you want.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/18 12:53 AM
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I see what thou didst there.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/18 01:25 PM
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Funny, i thought everyone had it. Ah well, if it ain't one thing it's another.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/18 05:23 AM
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OYS week 62 Moving house This is the singular focus I've been embracing in the past few weeks. We closed just about one month ago and I've had contractors getting the place ready until this past weekend. Small wins and losses include: Win: The mere act of hiring someone and holding them accountable to quality work was fairly new to me. A couple of times I had to insist that the contractor complete things he'd forgotten. Once I had to tell him to rip out what he had done and redo it the way we di…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/18 04:47 PM
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He destroyed someone else's property. Just because I'm feeling sad and adventurous doesn't mean i get to burn your house for a funeral pyre.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/18 02:25 PM
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OYS week 61 Initiation vs Escalation Comments from last week's OYS pointed out that I could do with more focus on escalation instead of mere "lay down and fuck me" initiation. This week I tried using more non-sexual touch with my wife. I noticed it was hard not to skip right to her boobs. Apparently I've made that a lazy habit over the years: I'd like sex now, so let me just grab her boobs and see if she's DTF. I've read advice here to try more sexual touch when the logistics were not necessaril…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 03:07 PM
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more escalation and less initiation. and for some reason that pisses me off. Less initiation i can handle; it's the more escalation that gets me. Sore spot is usually the area that needs the most work.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 07:48 PM
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more escalation and less initiation. Yeah i think so too.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 07:06 PM
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Also, you forgot to post that stock photo of you from 2015 that you use every other week and call it your progress pic. https://image.ibb.co/hr5iVe/20180730_193211_HDR.jpg
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 02:47 PM
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Yeah, reading back over it, that part about the truck should have ended with "my money, my truck, my decision." Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/18 02:38 PM
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Good points from other posters about improving your boundaries, but in other news I like how you're thinking of this as sparing and learning. Stay in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 04:05 PM
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OYS week 60 Day game Scheduled daygame outings are on hold for a couple of months while I move my family into a new house and attend to household improvements on the new and old properties. Incidental flirtation with randoms is still in the mix, but actually encountering randoms is fairly infrequent considering small town and routine activity patterns. Mood-monitoring the woman I noticed a habit that I'm trying to break. When in conversation with my wife and daughters, I have a habit of constant…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/18 03:53 PM
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OYS week 58 New house: temporary singular focus I closed on a new house last Wednesday, so other than the usual work/lift/kid-time essentials, I'm now putting all my time into managing the house move, improvements to the new and current houses, and sale of the current house. Updates on the new house are happening over the next 2-3 weeks. Then I'll move my family to the new house and begin improvements on the old house. I'm allowing a month for that, and then the old house goes on the market. Pro…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/18 01:19 AM
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Ok, so just moralizing. Got it.
/r/askMRP10/07/18 06:53 AM
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Why is it shitty? MRP guys should never go on Tinder? Is this just moralizing or do you have a point to make about efficacy of Tinder in LTR male sexual strategy? OP, if you want to do whatever you're doing on Tinder (spin plates, get strange, flirt, test the waters, or just validate your ego), be ready own it. Congruence counts.
/r/askMRP10/07/18 06:13 AM
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So I'm reading your post and I'm thinking cool, 22 year old kid thinking about his future and carrying his own weight, manning up and doing the hard work ... I proceeded to tell my girlfriend about this because I wanted her to know where I was at in my life. Fuck. You were on a roll, and then this. She is not your mother or your therapist. She's your (current) fuck-friend. She wasn't even prodding you, and you rolled over and showed your belly. If you're "trying not to get myself into a catch 22…
/r/askMRP09/07/18 05:31 PM
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Read this: YOU, the father, are the PRIMARY CAREGIVER of the children, NOT HER
/r/askMRP06/07/18 07:24 PM
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Please ask your friend to wait while we set up a gofundme page for the cost of his own fucking Reddit account.
/r/askMRP06/07/18 06:40 PM
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genius
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/18 06:27 PM
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genius
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/18 05:36 PM
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genius
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/18 05:36 PM
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genius
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/18 05:35 PM
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Pics or GTFO.
/r/askMRP06/07/18 04:31 PM
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she can divorce rape Meh, she can always do that anyway, whether or not you decide to value your own masculine needs over her approval.
/r/askMRP06/07/18 04:29 PM
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Great read, thanks. Interestingly, it's a great fit for some of the main reasons I'm out there daygaming.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/18 03:36 PM
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https://imgflip.com/i/2dgai6
/r/askMRP05/07/18 01:42 PM
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You don't have to be a dick. You just have to not be a pussy.
/r/askMRP05/07/18 01:00 PM
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it wasn’t my intention Okay, so good effort trying to implement some WISNiFG techniques. But clarifying that "your intentions were good" is not very important. What did you want to achieve by convincing her your intentions were good -- that you're really a nice guy and she should approve of you even though you're inept? Let her think you're an asshole. What does that hurt? Let her think you don't care about her feelings. What does that hurt? Her: You really upset me with how you reacted You: I s…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/18 11:38 PM
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No progress on lifts recently - simply haven't carved out the time for it. ... Haven't done an OYS for a while, ... Reading Stalled. ... I've not been lifting for a few weeks now ... . Work ... still not as disciplined as I need to be with it ... Holy fuck. Have you had your T checked? So much half-assery is hard to imagine in a normal person. Do you half-ass everything in life? If you want to stay where you are in life, that's not my business, so go ahead. But if you want better, you're gonna h…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/18 11:07 PM
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OYS week 56 (July 3, 2018) I've been starting to understand that sex is not really my goal. My goal is to explore and enjoy, often and deeply, the male/female dynamic, the buildup and release of sexual tension. They're definitely not the same thing: Sex by itself might not include much of that male/female sexual tension, while two fully clothed people in a polite public setting can experience a quite lot of it. Other-than bed-time sex For the past many years, around 95% of our sex has followed m…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/18 02:42 PM
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Let her.
/r/askMRP30/06/18 11:36 PM
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WTF, there's a required bangs-per-week minimum that makes you a real man? You're your own judge; he's his.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/18 03:11 PM
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Right. Wife mentions bff is coming? Tell her that's great, you heard she's a lot of fun.
/r/askMRP11/06/18 03:59 PM
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Good questions. I have no answers yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/18 12:57 AM
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It all started slow and I was optimistic about a plan for my future but results felt sluggish because I was judging my progress on my wife’s actions in the beginning. Incrementally accumulating growth. Being your own judge. Nice.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/18 07:03 PM
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Not to overthink it, I imagine these women are used to men seriously taking charge, and are naturally suspicious/uncomfortable with men who don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 08:46 PM
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(at least for north Asian women) that it takes some pretty heavy ordinance to move them out of their frame. You would know. Certainly sounds right. I'll investigate and confirm, in time.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 07:58 PM
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Nice guyz gonna nice. I mean, if I'm a nice guy, everyone will like me right?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 07:13 PM
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you're probably going to have to hurt her feeling real bad Nailed it. This is the hard part for me. Damn right I'm not there yet, still trying to walk a (fictional) line between "I go after what I want and usually get it" and "I'm a good guy who'd never do anything to hurt her feelings". So I've been in this place where I think I'm leading my own life and being my own judge, except that anything that would "hurt her feelings" is automatically off the table -- in other words, still in her frame, …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 07:10 PM
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Damn, that's probably right.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 02:37 PM
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Yeah, I think that's what's going on with me now. I'm working through the idea of being a little more self-interested, a little less placating; exposing those whiteknight feelings to a little more disinfecting sunlight, to see if I can stop being controlled by them and start acting more on what I want to achieve.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 02:36 PM
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Sooner or later, yeah.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 02:26 PM
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Sure it's about more than sex. I could buy sex if it was just that. It's mainly about game, about enjoying the masculine/feminine dynamic from the first interaction to the last, naked or not. That's seriously lacking here, and not just with my wife. I'm not seeing the unnecessary self inflicted, preconceived boundaries you mention. Can you elaborate?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/18 02:00 PM
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My wife is wicked smart and very quick witted I bet she's not really; not more than most people, and not more than you. You've just had her on a pedestal for 15 years. She looks awfully damn tall up there. She’s always got an answer and my attempts at A&A were met with better responses. Must anticipate this. No need to anticipate anything. Instead, you just do you. There's no competition for the best line; nobody else is watching and evaluating objectively. If anything, she's watching to see if …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 07:43 PM
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Right, it doesn't have to be an either-or choice like that; divorce is not actually an objective here. What I don't like right now is that I'm still emotionally unwilling to walk away, or to sleep around, because of my own white-knight insecurities. This part of me says that would make me the bad guy, and it wants desperately to be the nice guy. This part of me says, if she finally got tired of me and walked out, I'd still be the nice guy, I'd just be the victim, not the bad guy, nobody could sa…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 07:19 PM
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Her: Seriously, How many places?!? Me: I lost count. Her: Why won't you just answer me? Me: Because it's a silly question. Here's where you broke character. It's a silly question, but you suddenly decided to answer seriously. You knew enough not to DEER about the video, but now you're Explaining about not DEERing. Why am I not answering you? But I did. I love answering you, especially when you wrinkle your forehead that way. Come on, ask me another!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 07:06 PM
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How do you mean?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 06:59 PM
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Right, that's a real option. In my state, infidelity can have an impact on divorce settlements, but the lawyer visit will address some of those questions (and I think infidelity won't make it any worse than the existing 10+ years of SAHM status already does). The bigger question is whether I'm willing to kill my inner white knight.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 06:53 PM
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rural area where we live We're not in the woods, but it ain't NYC. "Vibrant small town" is maybe better than "rural". kids ever get off the compound ... ? Yeah, kids are out there in the world and doing great. 16-yo is full time at the local junior college, all 3 involved in various long-running community activities (martial arts, co-op classes with other families, theater, etc.) My social life needs improvement, though I don't blame it on my wife. That's on me. Getting better, but I've got (to …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 05:37 PM
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OYS week 51 "Are you still thinking about getting divorced?" I ran into a buddy this week. He's been separated from his wife for a while, which I learned several months ago when I met him in the cafe with his girlfriend. He and his wife are old family friends from a Christian homeschooling group (i.e., a fairly conservative and family-focused bunch), so it's very interesting to watch his progression through separation and possibly divorce. So this time he asked me, "Are you still thinking about …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/18 02:37 PM
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Just remember that the kino and teasing (running Game) is for you I like this. My frame, my desires, my actions. It's easy/lazy to keep that CC going: "if I game her right, she'll get excited and I'll get some." Quite the contrary: if I game her, then I have fun, however far it goes.
/r/askMRP17/05/18 09:07 PM
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Yep, after the first year, you could jump off the Sears Tower and they should pay out. State Farm.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 08:39 PM
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although insurance won't pay Mine (and hers) does.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/18 07:58 PM
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OYS week 48 Social and fun Friday evening my favorite local cafe had a grand opening for a second location, so I took my wife and kids. This was a good chance to have fun myself and bring my wife along. This is a small community, and for the past several months I've been both hanging out a lot at this cafe and socializing at the local Chamber of Commerce mixers; so I literally knew about half the people there. My kids said, "Dad you're so popular." I really enjoyed talking with people (men and w…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/18 03:31 PM
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Don't talk about it to her. Your acievements are for you, not for her.
/r/askMRP05/05/18 10:05 PM
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Yeah, might as well use the same pic every week. No idea why progress is so slow. Hoping to learn something useful in this new program.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 04:45 PM
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OYS week 47 Two main areas are getting my focus now: getting stable in business, and having more fun in general. Professional life and personal frame This is my second week working from the local co-working space, and it's one of the best things I've done in the last 47 weeks. Environment is so important. This place has hours, 9-5, so now I do too. This place has coffee and someone to mop the floor and other people who are working productively on their own projects. It's a night-and-day differen…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/18 02:43 PM
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I guess her branch swing didn’t go so well after all. How does this relate to your mission?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/18 11:00 PM
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OYS week 46 Overwork as DLV: Sometime around 3am Friday morning, around the time my barely-on-time customer feature changes were uploading while I was finishing drywall in the extra bathroom and trying not to wake the kids, it hit me: a high-value man is not a slave to his work, is not afraid of his customers, is not routinely trying to catch up with deadlines. He pursues opportunities -- even creates them; has no need to overpromise; commits only to what wants to, and delivers better when he wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/18 10:58 PM
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Mainly: Lifting progress matters, and a pic shows it clearly. Helps keep me honest when I'm hamstering on "how much progress I've made." I mean, are you just saying "stop trying to hide your fat"? [Edit: just read your edited comment. So yeah, "don't bother trying to hide your fat". Very good point; I'll take it. Thanks.]
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 04:32 PM
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The 2nd one. With that fat belly. Okay, but why? What's the point here? Really not getting it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 04:21 PM
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I love that you guys post here - it means that I have to search for old school PUA concepts. Not sure "have to" is the right word, but since you provided the link, I'm checking it out. At first glance, this looks mostly like "a stack of pick-up lines tips and principles for meeting cute babes" -- whereas I'm really looking to increase my skill and enjoyment in conversation in general, not just with women I want to fuck. And your point is, that "natural game" like that is something that comes as …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 03:54 PM
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I'm sure I'll fuck it up. I hate this kind of talk. Do it, fuck it up, own it; no need to prep us for it. You'll also fuck up with your wife pretty soon too. No need to announce it before hand. Do it, learn from it, move on. I'm still running a huge covert contract Knowing is half the battle. The other 80% is breaking the habit.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 04:55 PM
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Been there (feelz out of the blue). Sounds like the result of applying meaning where there should be none. But you gotta decide: Either it was recent enough that it crossed the line and you're done with her, or it was in your former life as a beta fuckup and who could blame her.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 04:44 PM
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My wife may have cheated on me ... looking for a way to bury this issue for good Start by assuming it happened. Stop wondering. It happened, whether it happened or not. Then get over it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 03:40 PM
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Its because of this that Napoleon said the most dangerous moment for an army is immediately after a victory.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 03:36 PM
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OYS week 45 Social/fun: My biggest weak point at the moment is making conversation and having fun. I've mentioned it here before, my social and conversation skills need a lot of work. In my last OYS post I said I was going to start "interacting with attractive women often, with masculine confidence and intent". I'm not willing to do much real flirting and approaching in my small town, but as planned, I took advantage of a business trip to start conversations with attractive women I met in the ai…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 03:13 PM
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workout for a few hours Every day? i've got several young women (late 20's/early 30's) that clearly want my dick Could be related, I guess.
/r/askMRP13/04/18 05:16 PM
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Blaarg too. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5l6un6/heres_your_example/ (I got the impression Scurvy reincarnated but can't remember as whom.)
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/18 03:26 PM
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Sooooo much worrying about how he will feel and who he will fall in love with and whether everyone will be haaaappy. And how your actions will make them all feeeeeel. You're a woman, so I guess that's how you roll. Spoiler: not everyone will be happy. People are gonna feel whatever they're gonna feel. You're just a small part of the show, not the center of it. Admit to yourself -- if you can -- this is about you. Then drop some truth on them if you feel inclined, and then enjoy the feelz rollerc…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 12:53 AM
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i see your point, but I wasn't really interested in a warm hole. Anyway, that hole wasn't very warm. I could have gotten a lame hand job out of it. But I can have an orgasm whenever I want. would have saved you a lot of the time in your workout Not caring what she thinks of me -- that's what would have saved my workout.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 08:32 PM
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Yep.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 08:02 PM
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Marriage. Holy shit. For the edification of the faithful, I offer the Prophet Bill Burr (PBUH): https://youtu.be/Ph-38N47yTM not planning on banging some strange, but I dunno... Seems like something you'd want to be real clear about with yourself, as in: if (when) it comes out, are you ready to own it?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 07:49 PM
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Yeah. Good you could laugh it off and let it go. Frankly I think the little boy in me was eventually more interested in "proving myself a man" than the sex itself, thus the extra ego investment and frame-rattling in the aftermath. Already today I've been having more fun interactions with women i've encountered; sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, and I don't have to take it personally or "prove myself" by it -- I'm just aiming for a fun male/female dynamic, and if it doesn't work in one in…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 07:33 PM
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No big master plan, but if a guy says he wants to enjoy the male/female dynamic deeply and often, he should be interacting with attractive women often, with masculine confidence and intent. I don't see a lot of new women in my small town day-to-day, but the business trip this week is an opportunity. EDIT: Also, there are more opportunities locally than I probably noticed before. I work a lot in cafes that get a lot of highway traffic (i.e., new people every day). There's probably more than that,…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:20 PM
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OYS week 40 Sex Monday morning I initiated with my wife. She wasn't resistant -- she was even compliant -- but she just wasn't into it. Finally I just pulled back and said, "Hm. I don't think you're really into it." So I showered and then came back to the bed, thinking something like "back off, recalibrate, initiate again." But there was no sexual energy all, and my efforts weren't changing that. So I went to the gym, a little later than usual now, having spent half an hour doing whatever-that-w…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 04:08 PM
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Not a bad idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/18 07:43 PM
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bought seriously on the cheap or it is a total pile of shit A little of both. instead of... napping in the car Yep.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 07:27 PM
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Can confirm. I at first hated the feeling of saying 5'9" instead of almost 5'10" or whatever. But fuck it, why bother with half an inch? I'm 5'9" like it or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 05:42 AM
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OYS week 39 I fucked up, and it wasn't so bad. Saturday I dropped off my two oldest kids at an activity, and then had several hours to kill. I figured I'd hit the gym, and maybe catch up some office work. I also would need to go back home to grab some things that these kids would need when I picked them up -- at 4:30 -- for transport to their next activity. (Yeah, why not take the stuff with us in the first place? Because, gee, since when did Murphy's Law apply to me?) I was tired. Real tired. D…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 12:29 AM
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OYS week 38 Business Still heavily focused on hourly client work, and have been working evenings and weekends to keep up -- which is not at all where I want to be. Starting now is when I start increasing my estimates and telling customers in the beginning how complex their projects can become. I've never been intentionally deceptive by lowballing estimates or glosisng over complexity; frankly I'd feel better about it if I were. I mean, it would be better if I were honest with myself and outright…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/18 04:33 PM
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Diet has been basically the same in my 8 months of lifting: track calories religiously, targeting a specific weight gain or loss; 1g protein per pound of bodyweight daily; fill in calories with whatever else to meet daily calorie targets. Do differently? Start when i was 16.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 02:16 AM
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taking a vacation from worrying about everything and just focusing on myself Yep. Keep that up. The phrase "permanent vacation" comes to mind. "don't think about what she's thinking." Yep. Watch her actions not her words. Watch the unseeable thoughts in her head that you can only guess about -- even less. no expectation of sex covert contract for sex ... anxiety goes away, anger drifts away. Right on, but FTFY. Expectation: not a problem. I expect my wife will have dinner for me when I get home …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 04:39 PM
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OYS week 36 Work / life Virtually no effort on the classical MRP front. I'm still lifting regularly, and reading in my spare moments. But mostly this week has been scrambling to meet client demands. February has got to be the end of this. I have more clients than I need, and am in a position to be more picky about the projects I take on. I have a financial cushion which can allow me to make effort in other areas besides selling my own time. Am I willing to risk rejection by saying no? Am I willi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 04:25 PM
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OYS week 35 When I manage my time well, I feel guilty Way too busy with work. Three times in 7 days I was up past 3am to meet customer deadlines. This fucks up my schedule the next day, tempts me to skip the gym (didn't skip), and makes Jack one dull motherfucker. I need to get more practice at saying no to customers. As in, "No, I can't have that ready this week. It will be ready next week." and "No, I'm not able to start that project now. I can start next month." Could it be that saying no mak…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 05:48 PM
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Caught myself cheating.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 07:01 PM
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strong lifts - don't cheat on form chasing the weight goals This is why I switched to Greyskull LP. I'm not the poster boy for new gains, but I'm pretty sure the switch helped me to increase my lifts by not chasing PRs at every session as in SL.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 03:31 PM
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attend Chamber of Commerce events Yes, do it. And I'm saying that to myself to. I find it's really easy to say "I'm too busy" and skip it, but no doubt this is an obvious opportunity to practice social skills, learn to enjoy being social, and hang with people who like hanging with people. Testosterone Remind me, are you doing TRT or just tracking your T for your own curiosity?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 03:29 PM
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OYS week 35 Business I'm seeing I need to incorporate more OI into my business. A lot of my work mentality involves stressing out over how to complete a project on time, and it's really hard to stay in that kind of "victim of life" mindset when I'm working, and then shift to fun and free and master of my life when I'm not working. Work is one of the biggest slices of my day, and staying in that "always behind the curve" mindset has been shaping my personality that way. Its hard to even have a co…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 03:21 PM
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after finally realizing that she ... So what will be cool is when you dance with that girl after finally realizing that you want something, instead of waiting for signs from her. when I felt tremendous uncertainty after telling her that, I caught myself BEFORE I expressed it to anyone Right. Had to learn this the hard way a few times myself. I fucked up? Maybe. Do I need to go blab to mommy about it? Not in the least.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/18 07:51 PM
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N closing is a goal, but clearly i need to improve my conversation skills, and you're right: no need for special venues to work on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/18 10:26 PM
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read this post explaining what are good quality posts and what aren't Needs a link.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/18 05:51 PM
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consider paviron Is that a typo for proviron? Are you suggesting that in addition to the cyp?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 05:36 PM
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This guy is actually a Chiropractor and Nurse Practitioner. So yeah, if I'm being honest I'm basically doing my own thing, with a supplier who's licensed enough to be legal, local enough to be convenient, and cheap enough to be affordable.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 04:01 PM
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#metoo
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 11:50 PM
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OYS week 34 Oneitis and game I went out in the evening this week to practice approaching women. This is not casual chatting up of barristas, it's a focused effort at approaching women in typical day-game situations (i.e., not clubs) aiming at a flirty conversation that could lead to a date. The goal is to get better at flirting, increase my confidence, and build abundance. An alternative to "an evening of cold approaches" would be just to work it into my everyday routine. That has its downsides:…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 04:13 PM
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(probable) alcoholism I don't get it. What's the downside of just saying you're an addict? Jesus. Just say it, and find a way to beat it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/18 04:04 PM
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Too zen for you and me, maybe. "Defeat the ego", if I'm using the phrase, means "own your shit; admit what you don't know and go learn it." It does not mean "give up on the things I want." You're angry because you haven't put yourself first. Church, society, wife, all of it, they will never be able to give you what you want. Accept that. Waiting for them to do so is a covert contract; it's putting your happiness in their hands and then bitching when they don't make it happen. You wanna be happy?…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 05:09 PM
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Symptoms are low energy, lack of progress in lifting, lack of focus. Labs include total T, e2, FSH, LH, TSH, T3, T4. All "in range". FSH and LH were in-range in the initial labs but not measured in the most recent one. SHBG was never tested. I'm inclined to give this a go for a few months and see how well it works.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 04:51 PM
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OYS #11 ... DL6→7 ... I'm still pissed You've been at this longer than 11 weeks, right? It's good to recognize where you're at. "Still pissed" and "DL6→7" don't usually go together. If one of those is incorrect, I'm guessing its the DL. Running at DL 7 with anger issues seems like a recipe for regret. Good on you for recognizing your anger. Embrace it. Chew it, savor it, swallow it, digest it. Find out what it's made of, what's at the shitty center of it. You're not only angry at her.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 04:36 PM
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OYS week 33 Oneitis and lack of game: Last week I made specific goals to address oneitis and lack of game: More reading (NMMNG 2nd read; MAP; Book of Pook): At least 4 hours/week reading slowly and taking notes until the above texts are completed. More practice (time spent specifically on day game / flirting): At least 2 hours/week for field practice. Reading went okay, thought more like 3 hours than 4. The real fail here was the day game: I tried going out, but I let "lack of venues" become an …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/18 03:56 PM
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Wait, you wrote yours BEFORE he posted this? Are you both clairvoyant AND hilarious?
/r/askMRP12/01/18 09:09 PM
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OYS week 32 I've been spinning my wheels for a while now. My weakest area is game/flirting/kino, and I've made next-to-no effort to address it. My other weakness is oneites and/or a deeply ingrained religious-moral compulsion to be a "good husband", absolutely and unconditionally. My strategy to address these weaknesses includes: More reading: Finish 2nd read of NMMNG. Finish Mindful Attraction Plan. Start and finish The Book of Pook Concurrent with the rest (i.e., starting this week): Bang and …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 09:06 PM
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clocksuckers made my day.
/r/askMRP09/01/18 07:04 PM
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Good question. I've been thinking about this, and related comments from /u/wrong_hole_lol and /u/snatch_haggis. I think some part of me is still holding on to the erroneous belief that it would be morally wrong of me to do anything less than strive unconditionally to be a "good husband", even if that "husband" role gets me nothing more than "friendly roommate" benefits. It's a religious habit of thinking that I maintained for decades. Thought I was over it, but apparently I'm not, yet. Back to w…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/18 06:50 PM
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To be honest I'm mostly running at DL3, with rare spikes into 4. Shoulda woulda coulda, but have not put in the effort to go beyond that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 03:17 PM
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But damn, she wants that sausage.
/r/askMRP02/01/18 05:21 PM
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Me: I'm not negotiating for sex. Not bad; it conveys intent, at least. Imagine yourself saying this in a few different tones of voice: cocky, angry, flippant, resentful, hilarious, pouty. Then ask, which one sounds best to you? And, which one did you use here?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 03:44 PM
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OYS week 31 Work and family dominated my attention this week. I had a notable success initiating sex during the day. Coming home from the gym in the morning, I found my wife in her PJs at the computer, and the kids still in bed; with pretty clear intent I carried her back to the bed, and applied some basic concepts to escalate to sex. She put up resistance, and I alternately AA'd it ("You're right, there's no time. I should walk away right now.") or backed off and recalibrated (She doesn't want …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 03:23 PM
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An ongoing cycle of deloading periodically, then climbing back up, seems normal as long as the peaks keep getting higher. Two recent deloads on squats, with falling peaks. First one because i just hit my limit, seems normal. Second one was when i noticed i wasn't going all the way down, and going all the way down suddenly made it harder again. So I'm climbing back up with stricter form. Gaming wife is getting better. I'm more often able to tease and flirt without forcing it. Kino isn't something…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/17 05:08 PM
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I was kinda thinking T levels. Will be getting that checked again next month.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/17 01:38 PM
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Funny, I was thinking of this as "not single-minded enough" but you may have a good point here.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 09:50 PM
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Sleighing it again, Will.
/r/askMRP26/12/17 06:07 PM
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Your post reads like a template for a lot of the guys who find themselves here. So you're in the right place to work hard with guys who have an idea where you're coming from and will call bullshit when they see it. Sidebar has your guide for beginners, and acronyms in the wiki. Start lifting. Then start reading.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 06:03 PM
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Peddle is still floored Keep that up. A lot of guys find out that a little hot sex is enough to make them relax. Don't let that be you.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 04:20 PM
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I should have ... Good you're self-checking and improving. On another note, I see a lot of "she" in this post, esp this: She commented last night on my acquisition of clothes and how much I have expanded my social circle lately. I will continue to push both. Don't forget who you're doing this for.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 03:55 PM
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I noticed it but didn't affect my mood in the least. Good. I'd say that's more important than the visible yet indirect result: she offered to bring me a plate of food and she showed a few signs of affection to me
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 03:51 PM
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OYS week 30 Not a lot to report this week. Christmas-related stuff took more time than I expected (mainly gift prep and an extra day with extended family). I'm behind on work hours, despite goals to the contrary. Somewhere I'm lying to myself, probably about how long things will take, how much time I can put in, and/or how my priorities are actually aligned. I'm also behind on my reading goals. Going slowly again through NMMNG is good, but I've not completed the volume I intended. On the positiv…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/17 03:37 PM
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Must pretty low: If IOIs from women I meet are an indicator, I'm seeing zero.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/17 08:36 PM
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Actually I was starting from zero when we met. I've been digging a hole for 17 years, so I'm clearly in the negative. Time will tell. And yeah, not so different from lots of other guys here. Stay plan is the go plan; do it for me; fix the man not the relationship; she's a reflection of me; etc. Whatever the history, I work on me, and if she tingles, she tingles. If not, I have choices to make.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 11:15 PM
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How did you guys get together? Like there had to be some kind of courtship, no? Nope. Arranged marriage. She would have married me if I was a telephone pole, and vice versa. Fun times.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 10:40 PM
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My impression is that I have one main problem here: zero game, zero experience flirting and dating. That means I need to practice, and to be unafraid of outcomes. Guilt makes me hesitate to get good outcomes with any other woman, thus defeating the purpose. And it seems silly to limit myself to just flirting with my wife. I'm definitely not ready for actual infidelity: it's unlikely anyway, and I'm not clear enough in my own head about what I want at that level. Sure, I'm not against gaming the …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 09:14 PM
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As long as my lifts are going up, I'm planning to stick with the recomp. Weird thing is my TDEE seems to have dropped compared to its pre-clomid baseline. Have you noticed anything like that?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 08:17 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 06:48 PM
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tennis elbow, benching aggravates it ... Bad form probably. I keep hearing good things about Alan Thrall's youtube videos: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BYKScL2sgCs Also I think there's a sub (/r/fitness ?) where you can post your own form videos and get feedback. more The Oak and less The Cactus LoL. Yeah, I feel you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 06:38 PM
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Standard advice usually includes: Talk to lawyer(s) ASAP. Document everything, and don't disclose even a hint of your suspicions (sounds like you're doing this). If she's already fucking strange, I would want to know sooner rather than later. If she hasn't crossed a line, you may still want to try and clarify boundaries and let her adjust; if she's already crossed those boundaries, you'll want as much time as you can to make your plan. I can't tell from your write-up: Do you have clear boundarie…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 06:32 PM
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So no more fainting?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 06:24 PM
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It's a decent goal (measurable, time-based, etc.). But it's not a vision. You can't build your whole life around one event, even if it is a year long. Broaden your mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 06:19 PM
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her interest in me is to have a close male friend to share parenthood, emotions, life, and financial support, but not sex. Not at the moment, maybe never. I don't think she finds me repulsive though, she can imagine me for a ONS here and there when she is really horny. I don't make her horny, but if she already is, Im an acceptable sex partner for her Yeah, I totally get you here. But remember: AWALT. She's not special. If she sees you like that, why wouldn't any other woman? And to the point: w…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 06:16 PM
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OYS week 29 Having clear goals for a week helps me to work a little harder in some areas. Reading Goal this week was 2 chapters in my re-read of NMMNG. I got one, slowly, with notes and exercises. Aiming for 1.5 this coming week. Sexual strategy Over six months in, I'm still dealing with a fairly dead bedroom -- and oneitis. No doubt these are related. I can't guess what's going on in my wife's head, but she's not interested in sex with me, not often enough for my liking anyway. The causes (that…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 05:42 PM
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At least 150 grams, sometimes up to 170.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 05:35 AM
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At 21% BF, bulking is a real hard sell.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 03:17 PM
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I'm about 5'10", maybe 5'10.5" Just say you're 5'10". I used to fight for that half inch, but it's lame. I just say I'm 5'9" and be done with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 08:39 PM
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https://mayawrap.com/ That's the one I had. The ones in the department stores are overpriced, overbuilt, dear-lord-please-dont-sue-us crap.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 08:33 PM
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Rollo covers it in this piece from the sidebar, "The Rational Male, year one": https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/26/buffers/
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 04:26 PM
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almost always carrying her around the whole day, which has not let my upper body / arms rest like they should after the workout I'm a big fan of close contact for infants; carrying them around can be great for building trust and belonging. Sucks for arms though. I got a sling and wore those suckers everywhere. Closeness, yes; arm fatigue, no.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 04:24 PM
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A lot of guys (me too) hate running shoes for squats. Too much bounce and squish. The tendency to get up on your toes may be compensation for that. You might try barefoot or something hard like chuck taylors. Besides the ankle flexibility, falling forward can be substantially countered by pulling back on the bar with your arms, driving it down and back on your shoulders.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 04:18 PM
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I find almost no women attractive and fail to escalate Like /u/Persaeus said, sounds like buffering/hamstering. My thinking on it goes like this: if this girl was clearly into me, would I find her at all attractive? Unless she's a legit landwhale, the answer is usually yes, and there's the sign that I was buffering to avoid rejection.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 04:14 PM
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OYS week 28 Not feeling a lot of direction this week. My guess, this is hormonal, after completing a Clomid trial and starting Anastrazole (very lighly) at the beginning of last week. Fortunately I've built some good habits recently and have learned that action brings results, so I can stay active on things that I remember are on my MAP, even though I don't "feel" so internally driven. Good actions this week: Continued reading NMMNG Building on the storage shed cleanup last week, I began a clean…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 03:57 PM
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Thanks. I'll look more into that.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/17 04:08 AM
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OK, external factors are hard to avoid. But I got the impression you were disappointed with yourself over missing sleep: for fuck’s sake, get better sleep. This sounds like you think it's within your control, and you're frustrated because you're failing at it. On the other hand, if it's totally beyond your control, no need to beat yourself up. I'm guessing that either of those (needlessly beating-up self up / needlessly failing) is rooted in Nice Guy habits.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 07:28 PM
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Yeah, realizing when we're fooling ourselves is critical. Stay with it man.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 07:18 PM
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It's not really impossible to estimate restaurant food and record that. But if you have a plan that works, then you're good to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 06:41 PM
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sleep better Nice Guys, placaters, conflict avoiders; they often choose to sacrifice what they want in order to meet a perceived expectation from someone else. If you want to get healthy sleep time, or eat better, or hit the gym harder, or whatever, it's worth noting that yes you want it. And if you want it and you're still not doing it, it's worth asking, why not? What's stopping you from getting more sleep or more gym time? If you've already identified Nice Guy patterns in your life, there's a…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 06:06 PM
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I'm having trouble finding a direction in your OYS posts. There's a lot of individual details, but I don't see a plot. I recommend writing more about specific successes and failures rather than just intentions and "success in this area". Are you making progress week over week? Is your progress stuck in some specific areas? It's hard for me to tell. As you said in your first OYS, "just making myself post something instead of nothing" is good, but now that you've been at it a while, you'll get mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 05:55 PM
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up the gym to four times a week, tennis on a none gym day You can schedule this now, down to specific dates and times. Then the goal is "stick to my schedule" rather than "try to find time." Build my MAP As a goal, this is a little ambiguous. Your MAP will never be finished. Something measurable and attainable is "meditate x minutes each day on what I want in my life" or "spend these 3 specific time slots completing a first draft of my MAP." Start to reestablish my frame at home. Specifics will …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 05:48 PM
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Trying to find a balance between the extremes when it comes to eating Unless you're just massively in control of yourself (which you're not, right?), the only way to "find balance" is to measure the results. Don't let this be some test of your magical abilities at weight control -- it's a numbers game, just like your bank account. Is the balance getting too small? Start putting more in. Count your calories (all of them), track your weight consistently, and adjust calories until your weight chang…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 05:39 PM
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co-sleeping. No sex possible Be careful of limiting assumptions. I and several other men I know have made new babies in the same bed where the first ones were sleeping. My weakest point is that really love my daughter. ... wife ... is the mother and its so easy to slip into her frame once we are discussing about the daughter. Loving a child isn't a weakness. Being afraid of your wife is, though; so is lacking your own frame and an awareness of your own value. The external work (lifting, fashion,…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 05:23 PM
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OYS week 27 Reading: NMMNG Too much time spent reading for drama on MRP and aMRP. It's easy to claim I'm trying to educate myself, but it's often just an excuse to escape, like youtube or anything else. This week I'll limit MRP/aMRP reading to one post per chapter of NMMNG. Primary focus: Outgrowing the old Nice Guy habits. Caring less what people think of me. This is a subtle but important shift in thinking. There's not a lot of specific examples to report; just that in general I have long had …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 05:01 PM
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As one of the slower learners here, this hits home. My big mistakes so far have all been one form or another of "children with dynamite" and applying what i read word for word. I think some guys are so deep into Nice-Guy thinking, so lacking in any kind of self confidence, and so addicted to approval that they just can't see where to start. "My wife doesn't approve of me even when i try to do everything she tells me. Maybe these MRP guys will approve of me if I do everything they say. Wait, they…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 02:52 AM
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That's a great article. I'm finally seeing that "cut" and "bulk" aren't my only options. Looks like my best option is a recomp where I pursue strength gains and fat loss by continuing to increase my lifts while running at a very slight calorie deficit, limiting any weight loss to 0.5 pound per week at most.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 01:26 AM
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Basic calorie counting and protein intake, but have not explored diet to address T levels. Do you have any reading to recommend?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 02:52 AM
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I'm getting it from both sides. Cut. Bulk. Cut. Bulk. If I look like a pencil before I reach 10% then I'll adjust my goal. But 18% is too high for me. I'm cutting.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 04:11 PM
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Primary focus Of all the things in my MAP I could be working on, outgrowing my Nice Guy habits is becoming the most important. These habits are something like this: avoiding conflict. ‎letting a fear of rejection influence my actions. ‎thinking that life can only go smoothly if I do everything perfectly. ‎focusing on the approval of others, even to the exclusion of getting actual results; if my results are disappointing, I'm habitually more concerned about the disappointment than the result. Thu…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 03:04 PM
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Conventional wisdom seems to be to keep it below 15% no matter what. I'm going to get it down to "looks like 10%" and then make a plan from there. And yes, i have a strong and long-held habit of judging myself through other people's eyes. Past couple of days I've felt a strong urge to just apologize to my wife repeatedly for just being a complete fuck up. I won't do that, though. Not doing it is a first step, reading and reflecting is another, and I'm not sure of the next.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 03:46 PM
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Two week Clomid trial ending this Friday, when I'll have labs and then a review with the doc. Pharmacy gave me some extra by mistake, so I'll probably keep taking them for an extra week.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 03:28 PM
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Yeah, I do. I can see your point. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 08:37 PM
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STFU about feelings. Got it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 08:33 PM
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You said: good to see you took 0 value from any of the comments in there. Sounds like you're saying I learned nothing from the comments you and everyone else left in my original (now deleted) post, mainly the part about supplicating, apologizing, and talking. I totally agree with that, because I did exactly the opposite and went back one more time to talk to her about it. Everybody: "Don't shoot yourself in the foot, dumbass." Dumbass: "No, this time I'm going to shoot myself in the foot the rig…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 07:36 PM
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Yes, I'm that guy. You're right about the rest of it, too.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 06:26 PM
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That thinking gives her a free reign and keeps you trapped. It also ironically turns you (even more) into a low value man, thus all the more unattractive to a wife or any woman.
/r/askMRP21/11/17 05:46 PM
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I had no problem finding this time because these new behaviours merely took the place of old, ineffective, time wasting behaviours. Absolutely true. How many hours (years) I've wasted watching fail videos and porn to numb myself to the boredom of my life.
/r/askMRP21/11/17 05:35 PM
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And if the relationship, including sex, doesn't meet your expectations, you have options. A lot of new guys (me included) just can't imagine going with another woman and won't be able to fathom that "relationship doesn't meet expectations" could mean ending it. Doing the internal work helps resolve that problem, too.
/r/askMRP21/11/17 05:25 PM
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Agreed, in full.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 05:15 PM
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Not sure I get it. You're saying I missed the entire point of yours and other responses to my OP? By going back and talking to her about it again? I agree. I think my "Here's what I would write to a guy who posted this" is better. Are you saying that's way off base too?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 04:53 PM
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OYS week 25 New account and lessons learned Sunday morning I posted, "I pushed for sex, wife went to sleep on couch, crying". original content | mrp thread comments By Monday morning I was worrying that posting it publicly was a mistake. I saw TBP had picked it up and were kicking it around. I thought about worst case scenarios, which went as far as someone trying to dox me and make my family's life miserable, based on other details they could see in my reddit history. So I deleted everything. B…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/17 04:35 PM
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