Im a dude. Nice for you to pretend that those "superficial" qualities arent more important. Why should i care about personality, values or morality of a ugly bum who cant provide a better life. None of those matter till you get the "superficial" shit right.
Most men have too low standards for themselves. Many are lazy, skinny fat, no achievements, no job prospects, no ambition. Fuck what the women think, we should be ashamed of our own loser-ness