| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 5 | Gently reminder that there are no "valid" or "invalid" reasons to break up with someone.So true!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 09:13 PM |
| 7 | Miss sparrow gotta pointThankfully this site is helping women regain the wisdom and inner strength of years past! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 04:12 PM |
| 2 | And this is how you spot HV relationships: 💚🚦💯Love this! Queens and Queen mothers of sons take note! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 12:48 AM |
| 6 | male redditors after making their 567th "unzips pants" jokeSadly, there are plenty of much older LVMs who still think this crap is funny! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 05:49 PM |
| 188 | Dump him.Queen, so glad that you took out that trash. You're a wise woman... to talk openly and to set boundaries in advance saved you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 05:45 PM |
| 4 | How many other NVM phrases can you think of ?How I wish I knew this earlier in life... Learned the hard way...But I did learn and am learning every day from this site..thanks, Queens! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 02:58 AM |
| 3 | If he left that easily, he was never worth keepingSister, you are not trapped...you just freed yourself from sharing the rest of your life withan unworthy LVM. Congratulations on taking out the trash! With time and space, you'll see your life with him through a clearer lens. And he will repeat this scenario over and over until he's too old to attract anyone. You, however, now can move forward...You can do this, Queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 09:33 PM |
| 10 | Imagine.Time to go, Sis...that "knowing" will wear off with the first "problem" a.k.a show of independence, that comes along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 06:08 PM |
| 4 | Thank you Carrie ❤️Ditto...sigh.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 05:56 PM |
| 4 | 🤷🏻♀️So true, Queen! you're not gullible, just kind and empathetic. I hope that you're finding that it's better for all involved to be kind and empathetic to yourself first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 07:22 PM |
| 2 | 🤷🏻♀️OMG! Sisters, this is so true! I used to think that this was a guy trying to get closer to me...it's a HUGE red flag! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 07:20 PM |
| 4 | 🤷🏻♀️Must watch this...thanks, Queen for the heads up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 07:17 PM |
| 2 | The goalSisters, let's save our kind hearts and empathy for the deserving people in our lives...easier said than done, especially when society trains women to do otherwise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 05:22 PM |
| 40 | Our expectations aren’t unreasonableQueens, I've learned that when men say they want an independent woman, it's not a compliment. It's code for "I'm not expecting to spend much time or money on you." My response.."It's time to take out the trash!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 05:19 PM |
| 2 | ReminderSo true, Sister, and beautifully said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 05:20 AM |
| 12 | He cheated on her, she's divorcing himT., you are a true Queen and an excellent example for all the sisters on this site. Thank you for sharing this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 12:05 AM |
| 11 | He cheated on her, she's divorcing himThe same here... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 12:00 AM |
| 3 | Sharing this for the queens who need to read this as much as I do. 💛The post plus the above reply say it all, Sisters! Remember and you'll be free of LVMs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 08:20 PM |
| 13 | Don’t let this be you, sis.Yes, you will because you want to...FDS advice is solid...it may feel uncomfortable at first to value yourself more, but these FDS rules work. You can do this, Sister! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 11:13 PM |
| 3 | So I realized...Congratulations and much love to all of the young queens on this site! The kind of straight talk and support by the FDS members can be life changing if taken...Learning is better late than never in this "new" world of dating and relationships... A 64 year old "newbie". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 07:59 PM |
| 2 | 👸🏻Love this and love this sub! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 08:23 PM |
| 7 | I absolutely love a woman that does not take sh*t from LVMsOMG! This whole nude pics thing can be stopped immediately if we women just NEVER comply with that and immediately flush anyone who requests or sends nude pics. No excuse or apology afterwards is acceptable! The sad world of porn is not a real world...and have you ever met anyone who respected porn "stars"? Because what these LVMs are really asking from you is what will be regarded by them as porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 08:19 PM |
| 6 | Romance shouldn't be a literary analysis. It's clear.Amen!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 07:14 PM |
| 4 | I just dumped my LVM thanks to FDS and he is outragedFlush that *#@% and go! No need to explain ...that's just venting, however gently done, and will not change him but will perhaps anger him. Explaining also gives the "smarter" LVM more info to fool the next woman a little bit longer and waste her time. We can't speed up self reflection for anyone. Self realization combined with an authentic desire to grow is the only path to changing. Why teach a harmful person social skills that they're only going to use to promote their own agenda? Wishing you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 07:08 PM |
| 12 | sneak peak into the realities of a pickmeishaThank you for this! This was me in my last relationship (1 year!) which he (future faker) ended with ...wait for it... a cryptic text of 3 tiny phrases! ( this AC is a lawyer so he knows how to write...ummm and use a phone) Love the wisdom and strength that I'm gaining on this site. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 12:36 AM |
| 21 | Know yourselfWonderful introspection that proves you are not a pickmeisha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 12:23 AM |
| 25 | Should I communicate with my bf or respond in kind?Sorry to say it, but I have to agree with Diamond's comment. If he's not missing you, move on.* But here's something hopeful* ... My bf of 2 years was not stepping up. I was visiting family over spring break (I'm a teacher) and my aunt noticed that my bf had not called me all week. She gently remarked on his lack of interest and it was an eye opener. When I returned home, I just let the relationship drift away. There had been a man calling and asking me out for weeks...I had been ignoring him be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 12:00 AM |
| 3 | Be wary of men that say they want an ‘independent woman’This is so true! But it will take many women to be determined and hold to boundaries for more men to evolve and to realize that they have to step up. Let's not make it easy to be a LVM! And let's raise our sons to be HVM and our daughters to realize that they are HVW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 11:46 PM |
| 15 | Nobody hates LVM more them HVM... NOBODYThis should be highlighted ...so very true! That's why these strategies are so important...the first red flag, so long clown! Don't be confused, sisters! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 07:42 PM |
| 3 | New relationship goals! 😁💛💛Yes, my late husband ...a true HVM, and apparently a rarity!... He supported me in my career goals, made sure that I knew everything about our finances, set me up to be financially independent by improving my financial knowledge, and always respected my opinions. Oh, and he was handsome and fit, too! He was the pursuer in the relationship...I never had to do anything but relax, enjoy, and say yes or no during courtship. These FDS strategies are gold, my friends...they are what I "accidentally" k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 11:48 PM |
| 3 | Marriage is an econmic propositionPlease make sure that you have arranged for : a trusted guardian(s) and a back up guardian to raise your children in the event that you become unable to do so. There should be legal documentation of this decision. The guardians should be young and healthy enough to see the children through to at least their majorities. a will drawn up by a well regarded lawyer, preferably a mature female , that ensures that your money and inheritances go to your children. This would include a trust managed by a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 11:05 PM |
| 17 | LVM are whinersI'm an "elderly" widow (64) with a number of single friends in my age bracket, and older. We are pickier than ever about men, resulting in most of us having no interest whatsoever in being nurse, mommy, purse, or going through the fun of ED non-sex or unskilled sex with men of any age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 09:46 PM |
| 1 | This really, really works..Just enjoy and keep your eyes open...wide open. And consider the fact that you're needing a lot of feedback from others as to his "goodness" can be a red flag ,too...even if it's just that he's not the right fit for you somehow, no matter how well he's treating you.But for now, relax, enjoy, and remember who you are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 03:54 AM |
| 4 | The carecrow - let me introduce you to one of my least favorite types of LVM!Yes, this is an excellent concept and good to remember. Sadly, many men ( is that being too generous?) aren't interested in self improvement. This is not only my experience, but therapists and coaches will tell you the same thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 03:42 AM |
| 6 | Do not take him to your favorite restuarant/dessert place/park..etcWow! This is great advice...Learned late but better than never. But I'm going to keep going to my fave places...let him be uncomfortable!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 11:55 PM |
| 22 | Reminder to always stay weary and don’t trust any guy 100%. Always look at how they treat others and their interactions with friends. Stay alert and safe Ladies 💕Oh, I'm so sorry that this happened to you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 11:52 PM |
| 12 | Check Out His Medicine Cabinet to See If He Has Any "Red Flag" MedsThis is such good advice(checking for meds)...please heed it. My ex husband never told me that he was on heavy duty antidepressants and took himself off of them after we were married. Fast forward ...a year of several family deaths (my parents, his sibling) and he couldn't deal with it ..."I didn't sign up for this", was what he said. Post divorce, he told me that he went off of meds because he was so happy that we were getting married that he thought he wouldn't need them. Sad. I could have hel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 12:41 AM |
| 4 | Dorothy speaks truth...All hail Dorothy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 05:00 PM |
| 3 | ReminderThis is so true! I bought this line for years ...no longer! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 10:48 PM |
| 5 | Focus on a mans character consistency and behaviour patterns, not just how he initially makes you ‘feel’ or what he ‘says’Thanks for this great post...recently dumped (via text!!!) by a "fake HVM" after one year of dating and his "future faking" marriage...Hindsight is 20/20, especially after reading this post. Sadly, older men are not any more mature or wiser... Onward! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 08:41 PM |
| 3 | Do not stay with a man who talks about his ex or his pastGreat site ...I wish that I had known about it before reentering the horrific new world of dating at age 60! Thanks for the new learning!!! My late husband was a very HVM and this site has given me some hope that there may be others out there. In regard to discussing past relationships, partners, etc. , how would this differ in the cases of being widowed, divorced, or both? And with both parties having adult children? These are the most common scenarios for older daters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 12:04 AM |
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