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When I was married, I often didn't vote because my husband grew up in a religion that was against voting. I'm pretty ashamed of that now. I think one woman choosing to trust one man is a radical act, worthy of admiration. I think trusting men collectively is insane. Don't people say around here submission has to be earned? How does legislating it make any sense?
/r/RedPillWives15/07/21 08:42 AM
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Ooh interesting -- what would being more expressive look like? I see how cultivating an attitude of playfulness would be hard (I'd love to do that myself). Just working more playing into life seems easier -- more games, more music, more funny podcasts/videos, etc.
/r/RedPillWives15/07/21 04:09 AM
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This interest in getting more dresses seems to come up here a lot! Couple random tips: Bandeau tops open up a whole world of low V dresses a good strapless bra opens up a whole world of strapless / unique dresses this'll sound odd but deodorant on your inner thighs prevents chafing If you already have tops you like, maybe skirts would be easier?
/r/RedPillWives15/07/21 01:04 AM
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Good for you on the bikini. Once I switched, I never went back. They're so functional -- they dry faster, give better tan lines and more support, makes it easier to change outfits and the list goes on.
/r/RedPillWives13/07/21 08:26 PM
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I've been wondering if I, as a woman, could apply any of the MRP principles to a relationship with a man. Specifically not caring about his mood, not caring when he says he wants to quit his job and being the oak that he can lean on to not fall as far into anxiety and depression. Reflecting back on my last relationship, I think I took his moods / things he said too seriously. For example, he often talked about wanting to quit his job -- but he never did -- so maybe I should have seen it as simpl…
/r/RedPillWives11/07/21 06:53 PM
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Aw that's really tough. The caretaker never gets much caretaking for themselves :/ How's your husband's recovery going?
/r/RedPillWives11/07/21 06:18 PM
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Oh neat, I wouldn't have expected humor in it. Thanks for the feedback :)
/r/RedPillWives08/07/21 07:00 PM
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Ha ha! Chris Pratt is pretty adorable. I'm not sure if this would be your humor style or not -- I find these mock movie pitches pretty funny -- https://youtu.be/gzdm_YWwEbA
/r/RedPillWives08/07/21 05:07 PM
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At the risk of sounding like an elitist jerk... Does the Class book happen to address anything about whether it's worth telling someone they are signaling they are in a lower class? Dumb example: one of my roommates loves to drop a pre-emptive "it's ok I'll just sue them if it goes wrong." I cringe every time. It's a stressful way of imagining the future -- first he's assuming things won't go well, then he's imagining punishing someone for it not going well. I think the middle class assumption i…
/r/RedPillWives08/07/21 05:01 PM
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That's fantastic that they're meeting tomorrow. Your children sound pretty great :) When you said "she doesn't have to agree to anything right now" it just hit me that her husband is in hospice... Right. Now. Nothing should be set in stone this week or even this month. Lots of love to all of you.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/21 03:32 AM
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Hi apologies for the quick comment -- you need to ask your MIL to call your husband and say "Son, I want to look at more options for homes. Can you or your wife help me?"
/r/RedPillWives07/07/21 01:35 AM
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Echoing a lot of other comments, I think faced with you doing the thing he asked you to do, he feels guilty. If you can find a genuine way to relieve that guilt & do the thing, e.g. a smile + "I got this" you may as well. If he's making it impossible, eh, his problem. On the laundry I just wanted to say is it possible there's an organized lower effort fold? E.g. I just make stacks of my underwear and stacks of my socks, rather than folding them. When my ex would neatly roll my socks together and…
/r/RedPillWives06/07/21 07:32 PM
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A few things... Supporting him doesn't mean putting on a happy face. It means "Thank you so much for being willing to work so hard to provide for our family. I admire your strength and know you could handle being away. I'm scared that I may not handle it as well." Remember this doesn't have to be a binary choice. He can keep looking for a job in town, even if he accepts this role. A pregnant partner is an excellent reason and if that burns any bridges, then they aren't good people/a good company…
/r/RedPillWives05/07/21 05:47 PM
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Aw girl, I am so sorry. he’s never been attracted to me, he never has wanted to have sex with me at any point in our relationship This is gaslighting. he is embarrassed to be seen with me, he is disgusted by me, he’d rather have sex with hot young girls than me This sounds like narcissism to me. You could skim this and see if any of it resonates if you want - https://innervoicepc.com/recognizing-and-recovering-from-narcissistic-relationships/ Please remember When someone shows you who they are, …
/r/RedPillWives05/07/21 07:24 AM
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I lived in an older house where the floors felt dirty even after mopping. I found this blog post and bought the "scrubbing bubbles" cleaner and it worked for me with those floors. https://thegraphicsfairy.com/my-secret-tip-for-easily-cleaning-vinyl-floors/
/r/RedPillWives03/07/21 05:04 PM
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There's a great short book called "How to Fight." Mindfulness based with a very soft writing style -- I definitely recommend it. (I'll warn you my run with it is leading me towards a lot of avoidance, however, I do consider that an improvement from defensiveness or escalating.) A couple of highlights from it focus on compassion for him and how he has suffered. (His suffering is real, even if you disagree with his points.) there's something along the lines of "We do not respond in anger, we come …
/r/RedPillWives02/07/21 10:54 PM
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December!! Well, I'm glad you're mentally prepared!
/r/RedPillWives02/07/21 05:41 PM
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Ugh that's tough. When you say this although i'm busy crying, making phone calls about financing, etc. when he's not around I worry that you'll end up saying or doing things that invalidate your attempt to trust him to take care of it. Maybe you could mentally set a date ("I won't ask him about the basement situation until after August 1st"). Or maybe you could lean into it "I'm so glad you have the knowledge of how to handle these homeownership challenges. Is there anything I can do to help?" B…
/r/RedPillWives02/07/21 08:16 AM
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Aww :)
/r/RedPillWives01/07/21 05:36 PM
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Military and 24.... it's quite possible he's been married and cheated on. Or LTR and cheated on. A financial or living arrangement incentive for getting married + 6 month deployments makes for a lot of sad stories.
/r/RedPillWives19/06/21 07:25 AM
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On 1 you're probably doing everything you can. It's really sweet how you both clearly love each other so much. On 2, but what is the solution to the you being able to sleep problem? On 3, if you're keeping healthy meals and snacks available, you're doing what you can control. What kind of things are we talking about here and is it throwing you off your progress too?
/r/RedPillWives16/06/21 05:13 PM
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A few ideas Tell him you're feeling insecure about whether he desires you and leave it at that. (Give him the problem to solve.) Try initiating physically (actions not words). When you're in a good mood, ask him what he'd like from you sexually. If he'd like lingerie or specific positions.
/r/RedPillWives16/06/21 04:32 PM
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Aw, that is hard. I think your friendship with Jenny will swing back around if you give it time. I'm sure your other friends will really appreciate any effort you put into keeping girl nights and bonfires going. PS) Bonfire nights sound amazing.
/r/RedPillWives13/06/21 06:07 PM
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Thanks for the update! I always wonder how people are doing so it's nice to know. That must have been disappointing. Really lovely that you were able to offer emotional support during some of his hard time, and even better that you came out emotionally unscathed. Wishing you all the best! ❤
/r/RedPillWives13/06/21 05:51 PM
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Keirsey (author of Please Understand Me II) suggests people match on the communication letter (abstract vs. concrete) and be opposites on the other letters (extrovert vs. introvert, thinking vs. feeling, scheduled vs. flowing). It makes sense to me -- gives the couple a wider range of strengths collectively. In particular, I think introverts often benefit from a little "pull out of their shell" / "push to experience more" and extroverts often need someone to create some calmness, relaxation and …
/r/RedPillWives10/06/21 02:30 AM
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Awww. We've all been there. The important thing is for you to know what is true. You are a good wife, you are a good mom, you are good enough AND you are learning, growing and getting even better.
/r/RedPillWives09/06/21 01:12 AM
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Wow, you set so many goals last week. Congrats on the weight loss and what a fun week for your son with the swimming and the time with cousins!
/r/RedPillWives08/06/21 04:24 PM
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I feel you on the criticism--> sadness train. I'm glad things are going well with your relationship dynamic!
/r/RedPillWives08/06/21 08:11 AM
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OYS #4 Doing the work Me: Age 35, previous 11 year relationship (6 married), then previous 2.5 year relationship, now single, looking to stay single for a while. Here for self-improvement. Last week's goals Continue to do something active every day, keep a log of what it was to report back M: helped friend move T: 3 miles W: Home HIIT + 3 miles Th: rest F: Home yoga + 1.5 miles S: swimming + 2.5 miles S: swimming 6/7 --> this was great. I'm going to make "never miss twice" my new goal. get a lit…
/r/RedPillWives08/06/21 07:56 AM
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Hi, you're getting lots of good advice from commenters here and I hope you can hear it. This is his issue. Women have hair. On their head, their face, their arms, their stomach, etc. More in some places, less in others. It happens to show more on light skinned/dark haired women. So you do more hair removal than someone else might -- but then you probably don't have any need to fill in your eyebrows and you probably have long beautiful hair! He has gotten an unrealistic expectation from somewhere…
/r/RedPillWives06/06/21 09:03 AM
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May I suggest... run through and prune your old posts. (Delete/hide/untag). For some reason your husband's boss is cruising your content (pretty damn weird, unless your husband is in ministry?) -- anyway, prune now in case other coworkers of his do the same. take a break from consuming and a break from posting. once you're free from the dopamine slot machine, evaluate how consuming and posting can add to your life. With love, don't fool yourself into believing your tweets or grams add value to o…
/r/RedPillWives06/06/21 07:14 AM
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@ u/cloudlilies --> the links from your old posts don't work :/ Are you still around? Is there an active Discord? @ HappilyMrs -- it's a communication tool that supports instant messaging and group phone calls (great voice quality). I think there's a desktop version and a phone app version. I've only used it once (with coworkers, early pandemic) and it was nice.
/r/RedPillWives03/06/21 06:04 PM
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Thank you. This is a good point, just because it was awkward for a moment doesn't mean anyone other than me thought about it again afterwards.
/r/RedPillWives01/06/21 04:54 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives01/06/21 05:00 AM
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Ohhhh I like that. I'll watch the video.
/r/RedPillWives01/06/21 02:40 AM
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OYS #3 Room for growth Me: Age 35, previous 11 year relationship (6 married), then previous 2.5 year relationship, now single, looking to stay single for a bit. Here for some self-improvement. Last week's goals workout every day. --> most days were just something short to "count" but I'm thrilled my imaginary OYS pressure is motivating me! ✅ be strategic with work time, it'll get simpler the more I close out tasks --> I mean, I guess I was strategic? Lol at myself for writing my goal this way. ✅…
/r/RedPillWives01/06/21 01:53 AM
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Thanks for sharing -- this is a really interesting way of thinking about spaces. It helps explain the phenomenon I've long felt with what ever area my work station is in losing its ability to be everything else. E.g. if I can see my monitor from the couch, I can't relax. Which usually leaves me with the dilemma: do I care more about having a bedroom or a living room 😅 I know you read a lot -- have you read Marie Kondo's The Lifechanging Magic of Tidying Up? I definitely recommend it if you haven…
/r/RedPillWives01/06/21 12:09 AM
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3 times!!! I didn't realize the scale of what you deal with.
/r/RedPillWives28/05/21 07:21 PM
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Life without a dishwasher is a neverending cycle of dishes best broken by getting a dishwasher or at least a drying rack cabinet. Life with a dishwasher I think is just getting to where more and more of what you own fits well and is dishwasher-safe. We run our dishwasher every single night and unload it every single morning. Have you read Atomic Habits? There's surprisingly a lot in there about cleaning routines.
/r/RedPillWives28/05/21 06:15 PM
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Oh my gosh I love that it was mangoes. That's a great story. Thanks ❤
/r/RedPillWives28/05/21 05:39 PM
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Thanks for checking in and for the advice. "This is not a movie; this is your life" has been so useful for me. My feelings are all over the place from relief to loneliness to nostalgia to disappointment. I'm okay but it stings.
/r/RedPillWives28/05/21 05:15 AM
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You should be deeply concerned when the two subreddits devoted to supporting women with your goals are begging you to take caution. Flip the script. You want a trial run. You'll keep your room at your parents and move in with him for one month, then you'll move back to your parents. You'll talk about what you liked and didn't like about living together. You'll talk about what your future life could look like. He will respect you more for having caution. He will work harder to love and court you …
/r/RedPillWives27/05/21 02:31 AM
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Lol! I'm sure you have friends and I hope you get to see them more soon :)
/r/RedPillWives27/05/21 01:40 AM
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From less obscure to most obscure: Taboo --> divide into 2 teams, one person describes the word on the card, teammates guess Fishbowl --> everyone writes down a person, place and thing on separate pieces of paper and they go into a bowl. Divide into 2 teams. Round 1 plays like taboo (words only), Round 2 is act it out only, Round 3 is sounds only. It's the same pieces of paper through all the rounds. What's great about this one is you can play it with just some paper, pens and a bowl. Blockbuste…
/r/RedPillWives26/05/21 06:19 PM
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Hi! having a guy ... just around ... makes me nervous. What if he doesn't like me? lol. Aw, the fun part is he will like you and that's why he'll be around :) Crypto is a rollercoaster for sure. I learn a lot about myself on the rises and the falls. Oh the real reason I replied, I just wanted to say I'm sorry you've lost friends over a values mismatch. I've been dealing with a tiny bit of this and it is so incredibly disappointing. For what it's worth, I appreciate your sacrifices with distancin…
/r/RedPillWives26/05/21 03:16 AM
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Oys #2. Simplifying. Me: Age 35, divorced, no kids, previous 11 year relationship (6 married), previous 2.5 year relationship, currently single. Have read The lifechanging magic of tidying up. Surrendered Single. Nonviolent Communication. Radical Candor. Currently reading How to fight -- amazing book so far! Purpose Give and receive love without losing myself. Make the world a better place through lifting people up. Fitness Goal was to attend 2 in person fitness classes. I thought this would be …
/r/RedPillWives26/05/21 02:14 AM
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I’m about 200 About? Do you have a scale? If not, what will you use to measure your progress (measurements, photos)? I’m just always tired Taking a B12 supplement has really helped me. Also for myself sugar crashes, especially from bread/pasta really get me. If you're up for it, keep a log of what you eat and how you feel and see if you can find some patterns. (Assuming of course that you are getting enough sleep in the first place.) I just feel scared that If i actually try to lose weight what …
/r/RedPillWives26/05/21 12:32 AM
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Tim Ferriss promotes the idea of mini-retirements. Think of this as 3 months off, 6 months off, 1 year off, 2 years off, 10 years off -- however you want to frame it -- the point is you will make money again at some point in the future. Future money can lift some of the pressure off you (from feeling the need to be perfect) and from your husband. It also softens the jealousy from others and the wrestling with identity stuff. -- You're still a Healthcare professional and you're also taking time o…
/r/RedPillWives25/05/21 07:49 AM
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See what's tough is you probably should focus on yourself. Find what makes you light up and do lots of it. Be unashamedly into things. That's how you become interesting -- and also just how you have an enjoyable life. When you're happy and active, people turn up who want to be part of your world.
/r/RedPillWives21/05/21 01:03 AM
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What's your life situation? Are you in grad school? Is it a female-dominated field? Is it all remote learning right now? It seems like you're thinking about life rather than living your life. Is that a temporary situation (i.e. living with parents because of covid) or a longterm situation (i.e. demanding grad school with no energy left for hanging out with people)?
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 10:32 PM
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Thank you for the thoughtful reply!
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 06:08 PM
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Oys #1. It's complicated. 35F, divorced, no kids, not entirely sure what I want next, but I read this subreddit a lot so I might as well get some self-improvement in! Reading Have read: The lifechanging magic of tidying up. Surrendered Single. Nonviolent Communication. Radical Candor. Next: How to argue Purpose Give and receive love without losing myself. Make the world a better place through lifting people up. Fitness I'm working through a yoga handstand program at home and I'm getting very coo…
/r/RedPillWives19/05/21 02:45 AM
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I'm also not tired of your posts! Always inspiring to see people being intentional and doing the work. I read a book called "Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall Rosenberg (PhD in Psychology). The first time I read it, I was angry and didn't get much out of it. The second time I read it, it really helped me and I'll probably re-read it again soon. A friend recommended a short book called "How to Fight" by Thich Nhat Hanh. It's mindfulness based, sounds pretty good, I'll probably read it soon: h…
/r/RedPillWives18/05/21 12:10 AM
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I just learned about the new wave of these where the eyeliner is magnetic and then the eyelashes attach to the eyeliner!
/r/RedPillWives15/05/21 12:11 AM
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I like playing devil’s advocate to deepen discussions. Devil's advocate is exhausting. I've never heard someone say something thought-provoking or insight-generating after "just playing devil's advocate here..." In my humble opinion, if you want to deepen conversations, deepen your own thinking and your own point of view.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/21 05:58 PM
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Overly sexual comment incoming! Initiate better Things that work much better than words: just attempt a hand job just attempt a blow job just start masturbating If you are going to use words capitalize on that acts of service w/ more of a "would you finger me?" and less of a "want to have sex?" I'm a bit embarrassed I'm making this comment, lol. Hope you have fun with whatever you do!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/21 09:36 AM
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For you to answer privately: Which conspiracy theories does he believe? How will this affect where you live, what jobs he and you work, what apps he and you use on your phone? Will you be able to vaccinate your kids against measles? Will you be able to send your kids to elementary school? What elements of your children's worldview (shaped by their father's distrust of the government) will be different from your childhood ? Does this bug you? Did he grow up in an extreme branch of Christianity (e…
/r/RedPillWives10/05/21 05:02 AM
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I am not confident that I will be a good mother because my mind is always on my purpose. My mom was amazing. She never stopped learning, kept advancing her career and was the primary earner for our family. She read tons of books on parenting and put the full weight of her intelligence into it. My dad adored her to the day she died and beyond. The RPW framework is not that useful. Women have always been powerful matriarchs. My grandmother decided to move her family to a new country TWICE. Because…
/r/RedPillWives01/05/21 10:04 PM
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Oh I understand you so much better now. I agree with the other commenter that you may be an absolute wonder woman to some single dad out there. Honestly you may even love marrying into a close family with lots of siblings/cousins who are having kids. Or you may find someone who does want to adopt. I so agree with you about how much more attractive someone who wants to provide is. I wish men understood how much a "I wish I could..." would mean.
/r/RedPillWives27/04/21 06:02 AM
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Tons of childfree men want good long-term relationships, even marriages. Keep it simple and up front: I don't want kids. Or: I don't want kids because I don't want to go through pregnancy and childbirth. Then leave it at that. And don't partner off with someone who is hoping you will change your mind. I think having a provider will always sound appealing, but please please please work on your education and career first. You need a parachute. There's also a lot of self esteem and interesting work…
/r/RedPillWives27/04/21 02:23 AM
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Wait I'm sorry maybe don't! It's where men go to fix their marriages and while it's fascinating to have the insight it can be perplexingly anti-women. You sound like you have a good thing going in your life!
/r/RedPillWives27/04/21 01:53 AM
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Reading r/marriedredpill has blown my mind about how much these can mean to men.
/r/RedPillWives27/04/21 12:21 AM
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I'm unclear on whether your criteria is: monogamous boyfriend/girlfriend status "ring on finger" or something else Make sure you're clear with him. On that "grab/grope" ask yourself if beyond enjoying his attention and enjoying the power of your sexuality, are you genuinely enjoying the sensation? Forbidden touch isn't a great path to learning and communicating what feels good and what doesn't.
/r/RedPillWives19/04/21 05:23 AM
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I'm so glad you got your bracelets!! I was wondering if it might turn into a longer saga -- I'm glad it didn't. That's a very good way of wording it... I also need to focus more on my own life than on disinterested people :) Thanks for the update ❤
/r/RedPillWives19/04/21 03:39 AM
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Hey, I'm going to write this bluntly, because I think it will be useful for you. I completely understand if your response is "Screw you! You don't even know what we have" -- and I don't know anything, really. Do you think he is testing my character? He's not testing you. He's not thinking about you at all, in any way. Aside from not thinking about you, he's avoiding doing some very basic work to honor his Etsy store commitments. Going to the post office isn't as fun as jerking off one more time.…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/21 07:48 PM
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Comments like this are really hard for me... I see that you are sincerely trying to help her. I find the idea of telling a 21 year old time is her biggest enemy horrifying, but I agree that she doesn't need to arbitrarily wait 6 months to date if she feels differently in 2 months. I'll show myself the door.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/21 01:26 AM
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You need to ask him more questions. He may want the degree for the status of having a college degree and the doors that opens. He may already make good money as an aircraft mechanic -- Google says it ranges from 35k to 110k USD. What's with the bias against teachers? Have you googled salaries in your area and considered the quality of life from the time off? The skills that transfer over to being a good husband and father? You probably need to get your own house in order -- Understandably! You'r…
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/21 01:18 AM
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I love your tone in these replies -- how you accept everyone's advice so gracefully and non-defensively!
/r/RedPillWives09/04/21 12:23 AM
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he gave up after only a couple weeks and he refuses to do it again He sounds like an idiot with no work ethic. Intelligent people don't "refuse" to exercise. Anyway, great work on your healthy habits!
/r/RedPillWives29/03/21 02:04 AM
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Ladies, I’m trying hard to understand the fondamental concepts of RP. Really I am! Don't give this too much thought. The core tenets were made by male pickup artists and miss fundamental truths about human connection and family. If the values defined by RP were true, there wouldn't be a r/marriedredpill where men go to incredible lengths to be attractive to their wives again.
/r/RedPillWives05/03/21 08:01 PM
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Yeah I was debating bringing that up. Certainly I wouldn't stand for someone talking to me that way -- but she's clearly not saying what she does in anger, other than a vague "take it out on him." Anyway, she wants the relationship and she wants to handle it better. That's the part she has control over.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/21 10:52 PM
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Aw lady, I am sorry, that sounds miserable. The mold is going to be a physical reminder of the fight, so if there is any left definitely cover it in bleach, walk away for 20 mins, wipe off and repeat daily til it's gone. If you do not have bleach you have to get some. Just text or say something to your husband like "I feel terrible about not taking care of the mold. I am going to treat it every day until it is gone because I love you and I want to take care of this for us." If he's actually hand…
/r/RedPillWives23/02/21 11:46 PM
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You are overthinking this! He asked, you answered, he paid, he planned a 2nd date where he is 100% expecting to pay. Go enjoy it!
/r/RedPillWives08/02/21 06:05 AM
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During the conversation he said, because of the age gap, I don’t see this working. we’re taking our time to say the L word to each other. I... don't think he's that into you. But hey, I'm just an internet stranger. You are worthy of love and a partner who is excited about building a life together.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/21 11:23 PM
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Try watching the Marie Kondo series on Netflix. There are lots of episodes with families. Consider getting a used roomba off Facebook Marketplace to keep up with the dog hair and get one thing off your plate.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/21 11:26 PM
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This. I think it's mostly unconscious -- --> finds me attractive --> makes more of an effort to go to events I'm at --> becomes closer friend I've also wondered if there's some reflected adoration going on -- --> finds me attractive, gives me more positive attention --> I invite to more events
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 02:56 AM
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That makes you 31 now and with each passing year, it will make it harder for you to find a partner who you may share a genuine mutual love with. This is simply not true. I know the commenter means this as motivation and I mean no offense to her -- I just want OP to know that she has not lost out on what she wants. I was divorced at 31 after an 11 year relationship and dating has been much easier than at 19. There are FAR more men who are interested in serious relationships. In every relationship…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/21 02:28 AM
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