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DebateEvilLiberalHarlot/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 06:17 AM
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Social IssuesEvilLiberalHarlot/r/MensRights01/04/24 08:37 AM
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DebateEvilLiberalHarlot/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:21 AM
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DiscussionEvilLiberalHarlot/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:34 AM
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DiscussionEvilLiberalHarlot/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 12:37 AM
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Question for BluePillEvilLiberalHarlot/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 08:55 AM
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DebateEvilLiberalHarlot/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 08:38 AM
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FeminismEvilLiberalHarlot/r/MensRights02/04/24 08:02 AM
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DiscussionEvilLiberalHarlot/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 09:08 AM
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DiscussionEvilLiberalHarlot/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 12:06 AM
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Question for BluePillEvilLiberalHarlot/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 08:49 AM
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Getting attention for being an exhibitionist isn't positive to a normal person.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:24 PM
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Yeah, sure, it's definitely men's fault that they get their genitalia mutilated at birth /s
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 08:24 PM
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Men receive no preferential treatment and a lot of detrimental treatment. I'd rather give birth a few times than be a second-class citizen my entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:06 AM
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They did it to show off and get attention, same reason men flash their penises.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 10:34 PM
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This is incorrect. It is not always performed with rusty, unhygienic tools, and the most common forms of FGM remove far less tissue than male "circumcision" does. Circumcised men feel very little sexual pleasure, only about 1/3 of what an intact man does. What is it with feminists and supporting male circumcision? You're not the first one to do so, even in this thread. Male circumcision become popular in the US as a way to reduce a man's pleasure to prevent him from masturbating.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 10:33 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 09:29 PM
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You dare use my own spells against me, Potter?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 07:34 AM
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No, you're not.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 08:24 AM
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Breasts are comparable to a penis in terms of societal views. So what if they aren't a reproductive organ? Indecent exposure in front of minors, possibly assault because she kicked him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:15 PM
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She deserved it. Bullies are scum.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:48 AM
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How would you feel if you had preteen children, in the audience at a concert, and the singer peed on a fan on stage? Sure, my body might be seen as more sexual, but most of my male peers had part of their bodies chopped off. I'd much rather be seen as more sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:48 AM
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Nice. What did she get that was more than deserved?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:47 AM
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I'd actually say that flashing breasts is worse in some cases. If you flash your penis/vagina because you are desperate to urinate and can't get to a toilet, that's way less bad than flashing your breasts to get attention/to titillate yourself, etc...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:46 AM
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If men go on the registry for taking their penis out in public, even if just to urinate, then women should go on the registry for taking their breasts out in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:46 AM
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What does that have to do with the price of tea in China?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:45 AM
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At least I have some anecdotes to support my claim. You have none.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:35 AM
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That's good to hear. I hope she got in trouble for bullying you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:35 AM
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Public indecency. She belongs on the sex offender registry.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:30 AM
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Thank you for your examples. Do you agree that the woman who flashed in my OP deserve arrest and probably sex offender registry?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:30 AM
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Some things are better done in private. Taking out your boobs is one of them. Boobs are sexy. I'm a straight woman, and even I can admit this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:29 AM
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I applaud you for standing up to your bully. Did the school punish you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:28 AM
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I don't think there was any actual masturbation. There was definitely no exposing of his penis or releasing fluids on stage. How would you, as a radfem, feel if a man peed on a woman on stage? Female breasts are inappropriate for public display because of millennia of tradition. It's valid to break tradition when it actually hurts people (male circumcision is the perfect example, you still haven't said if you acknowledge how it infringes on bodily autonomy, but you want female circumcision banne…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:20 AM
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I didn't really think my thread about circumcision and bodily autonomy was repetitive or inflammatory, but ok
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:16 AM
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She never got charged with anything, as far as I can tell. She belongs on the sex offender registry.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:16 AM
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Boobs and genitals are equivalently private/sexual/inappropriate in American society. It doesn't matter that boobs are not genitals. Men don't get away with nearly as much sexual stuff in public as women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:15 AM
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Thanks. What is "breadpill"?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:14 AM
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It is completely fair. Breasts and penises are equal levels of private/taboo/sexual in American culture. Do you have a source for women arrested for flashing their vaginas? She wasn't charged because she was a woman peeing on a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:13 AM
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We meet again...I took your advice and made a separate thread, but the thread was taken down as off-topic. Women are shamed for masturbating a lot less than men are shamed for crying...I checked, and apparently Gerard Way pantomimed masturbation over his clothes, not really the same. Do you really think a man who pissed on a female fan on stage, in front of an audience that included minors, would get away with no sex offender charges? Men don't have breasts, they have nipples. Female breasts are…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 09:11 AM
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I know that, but I don't see why discussion of feminism has to be contained to that one thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 08:38 AM
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Why are threads about feminism not allowed? The sidebar says there is a moratorium, but doesn't say why. This subreddit is about sex and gender issues, so I don't see why threads about feminism are banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 08:36 AM
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Well, if you choose to be a bitch, you have no right to complain when men are rude and standoffish to you, okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:04 AM
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Well, you're wrong on both counts. Why won't you just admit responsibility for choosing to be with that guy? 15 year olds aren't innocent little kids. I remember being 15. It wasn't that different than being in my 20s (which I am now). You chose to be with a 22-year-old guy when you were 15. My grandparents are 6 years apart in age. You're not a victim, except of your own poor decision making.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 07:02 AM
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Yes, I do not share your preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 09:05 PM
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So, then, would you say that anyone who posts about BLM has to be black, because a white person would not be so personally obsessed with BLM? It is entirely possible to care about a group you're not part of. I also lost my virginity at 15 to an adult man. My guy was 19. It didn't hurt me at all. I wasn't abused or taken advantage of. Why do you keep trying to deny any of your own responsibility for dating that guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 09:04 PM
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Because there's no real reason to feel uncomfortable when a friendly guy approaches you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 09:02 PM
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Your misogyny is showing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 09:02 PM
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Why do you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 09:02 PM
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There was nothing disrespectful in the OOP's post about how the man approached her. Most men do approach tactfully and respectfully. It's not fair to paint all men with a broad brush based on the worst men. Why do you say "considering how they're treated most women are actually way too patient with random men"?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 09:00 PM
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There are way more hard things to deal with if you are male than if you are female. If I, a woman, can acknowledge that, everyone else should be able to as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 08:57 PM
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Thank you for protecting your kids and nephews. I wouldn't stay friends with a cutter.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:44 AM
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No, it's about the human right to bodily autonomy. Even if I preferred penises that had been mutilated, I would still be against doing it to children.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:43 AM
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If only they knew that foreskin improves sex for women, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:41 AM
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I've seen multiple posts on AITA about a boyfriend asking his girlfriend to abort
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:41 AM
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When did you have your kids? I sure hope you left them intact.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:41 AM
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Do you support intactivism?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:46 AM
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I think you wrote "uncircumcised" where you meant to write "circumcised". I, personally, far prefer intact men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:45 AM
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I am not pro-FGM. Both should be illegal. I was just pointing out that the Western narrative of "all FGM is clitorectomy and all FGM victims can't orgasm" is a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:43 AM
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So basically, you're just trying to make yourself feel better about having scarred, surgically reduced genitalia with diminished sensation. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:42 AM
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Lots of traditional Irish songs and poems say very negative things about the British, does that make the people who wrote those prejudiced? No, because they were reacting to the harm British culture inflicted on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:42 AM
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No, but I've seen nothing that would make me doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:41 AM
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A child is an individual who has rights, not a possession to carve up at will. https://www.doctorsopposingcircumcision.org/for-professionals/alleged-medical-benefits/ I googled about Ulf Dunkel's antisemitism, and the only thing I found is he wrote some emotionally charged negative things about circumcision. I didn't find any evidence of him advocating for a second Holocaust. Not all FGM removes the clitoris, the most common kind actually doesn't, and many women who had a clitorectomy report tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:41 AM
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If you’re a woman and have not experienced things that have taken away your autonomy, My parents were strict, yes, but that doesn't compare to having your body sliced up. had something taken from you without your consent, I've had guys grope me on occasion, but that is no where near as bad as having my genitals sliced up. nor reduced sexual pleasure, Most women don't have reduced sexual pleasure. What are you getting at here? Our genitalia is legally protected from harm. then you’ve lived quite …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:39 AM
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The decision should be made by the person who the penis belongs to, since he's the one who will have to live with it his entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:35 AM
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Ulf Dunkel signed a statement against antisemitism in 2022: https://ulfdunkel.wordpress.com/2022/05/18/intactivism-is-not-about-jews-but-about-childrens-rights/
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:34 AM
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Your right to swing your fist (practice your religion) ends where someone else's nose (penis) begins. The health excuses for circumcision have been debunked many times over. No medical association recommends it, not even the US's! Even if there were medical benefits, bodily autonomy is more important. Did you know that circumcision means you will only ever feel 1/3 of the sexual pleasure an intact man does? I googled Ulf Dunkel Neo-Nazi and found nothing. Either link proof or stop claiming it. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:33 AM
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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17378847 https://www.jstor.org/stable/43282776 https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34564796/ Here's a man talking about it: https://vimeo.com/316275787
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:31 AM
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Thank you for saving your friend's son.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:29 AM
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He is an ethicist writing about the ethics of mutilating children's bodies. If you want a medical expert, try Morten Frisch, Leonard Glick, or Ronald Goldman. The last two of them are Jewish, so there goes your "antisemitism" argument. Another prominent Jewish intactivist is Eric Clopper.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:28 AM
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It is immoral to carve your religious beliefs into a child, and if your religion cannot survive without harming children, it doesn't deserve to survive. The same is true of evangelical Christianity and homophobia. If evangelical Christianity cannot survive without homophobia, it doesn't deserve to survive, either. There are no "health reasons" that justify inflicting it on an infant. I googled Ulf Dunkel Holocaust and found nothing to support your claim that he wants another one. The onus on you…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:27 AM
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https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/1079164114784714752.html
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:23 AM
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Being a sheeple is a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:23 AM
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Culture isn't an excuse for harming children, for the same reason segregation can't be excused by saying it's part of Southern culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:22 AM
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Comparable and less severe forms of FGM are the most common forms by far.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:22 AM
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Do you or don't you think that chopping healthy body parts off of infants without their consent is immoral? That's far more immoral than writing offensive poetry, and nothing in your link said he wanted another Holocaust.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:21 AM
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So you don't see why bodily autonomy matters here? Did you even look at the site I linked you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:19 AM
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OK, what are the 5 things before you turned 11? It's worse because it permanently damages and scars your body, not just any part, but the most intimate part. I myself am a woman, not a man. I genuinely think that men do not have privilege in American society. I've signed multiple friends and relatives up for intactivist newsletters, in hopes that they would be convinced.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:18 AM
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It is much more reliable than Morris. Why are you so hellbent on defending immoral things?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:15 AM
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It makes sex less pleasant for the woman, too, makes the men less likely to wear a condom (because condoms are an additional sensitivity decrease on top of circumcision) http://www.sexasnatureintendedit.com/ Do you agree with me that circumcision is morally wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:13 AM
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Pretty much all pro-choice men would be fine with their girlfriend/wife getting an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:10 AM
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What I said was 100% correct - men are twice as likely as women to want to leave their own sons intact.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:10 AM
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Well, men can't get an abortion, so...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:09 AM
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Brian Morris is not a reliable source of information.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:08 AM
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Do most American women routinely have the most sensitive part of their body sliced off without their consent? Do they have any part of their body sliced off without their consent? I rest my case.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:04 AM
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Stop making excuses for people who maim their children.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:03 AM
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Read this Why are you defending genital mutilation?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:02 AM
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Thank you for respecting and protecting your son. Personally, I think parents who do it deserve nothing but judgment and scorn.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:01 AM
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The biggest test of your actual views and values is your behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:00 AM
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Of course, circumcision also interferes with breastfeeding, increases rates of meatal stenosis, erectile dysfunction later in life, etc... You could achieve far more health benefits by removing the breast buds of newborn girls to prevent breast cancer. Why would you stay on friendly terms with relatives who did that to their children? No, most FGM is actually milder forms like hoodectomy or a pinprick even. Infibulation is rare among FGM. http://www.drmomma.org/2011/04/male-and-female-circumcisi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 12:59 AM
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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17378847/
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 12:55 AM
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Ignorance is not an excuse in the age of the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 12:54 AM
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No, it mostly happens in the US because the mothers think it is "cuter"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 12:54 AM
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Less biased than US medical organizations.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 12:54 AM
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Now read what some non-US medical organizations had to say about it https://circumcision.org/circumcision-policies-of-international-organizations/ Circumcision ablates the most sensitive parts of the penis: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17378847 Doesn't that count as a disadvantage? The AIDS prevention was debunked years ago. Were you able to protect your nephews? Not all forms of female circumcision are infibulation. Clitoral hoodectomy removes the homologous structure to the foreskin, and ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 12:42 AM
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In a world with the internet, ignorance is a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 12:34 AM
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It's fine to get annoyed if approached in line at the grocery store, on the train, etc...cold approaching isn't a cultural norm in those places.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 12:26 AM
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Any parent who ever did it is a bad person, no exceptions, every single one of them, Especially mothers and intact fathers who do it. With cut fathers, there is an element of "hurt people hurt people", but intact men and women have no excuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 12:25 AM
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I've noticed this, too. Most women that I know don't care about men. I, personally, care about men, and that's a big part of why I am involved in intactivism.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 12:24 AM
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Well, at least you agree that OOP is a jerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 12:11 AM
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Because?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 11:56 PM
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Well, I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 11:56 PM
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I hope that one day the disagreeable women have a man be just as disagreeable to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 11:56 PM
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It's one thing to say "I'm not interested in talking to you" (and that is still somewhat rude), but what OOP did wasn't that and was very rude. Forget her.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 11:54 PM
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Being rude to them is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 11:54 PM
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Then you have no business being in bars or nightclubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 11:53 PM
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At least you admit that OOP is a jerk. Jerk moves are never appropriate. You don't want to be approached? Don't go to bars and clubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:59 PM
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I didn't copy and paste anything. There is no indication that the guy in OOP was a "sex pest", or that he physically threatened her. She was just a bitch for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:58 PM
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I disagree. I lost my virginity to a 19 year old when I was 15. It wasn't abusive at all. He was gentle, safe (wore a condom), and didn't pressure me. It was a way better experience than losing my virginity to someone my age who also had no experience would have been.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:57 PM
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You can be firm and direct without being rude. OOP was rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:56 PM
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I'd rather be a "pick-me" than be rude and misandrist.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:56 PM
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The social norm of clubs/bars is to socialize with strangers. If you violate the social norm, you are an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:55 PM
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Just because I have maverick views on gender issues doesn't mean I'm not a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:53 PM
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Even if he had ulterior motives, he was still friendly, and so it was wrong for her to not be friendly to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:53 PM
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Well, I disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:52 PM
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I like this. If you don't want to get hit on, don't go to a place where the social norm is to get hit on. You're one of the few sensible commentators in this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:52 PM
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Why would you prefer rudeness over politeness? If you choose to interpret politeness as him leading you on, that's on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:50 PM
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Do you at least think she was rude, if not offensive?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:50 PM
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Not if they were rude to you first and you just responded in kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:49 PM
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If he's hostile but not violent, who cares? Who cares if he calls you a few rude words/mean names? It's nothing to worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:49 PM
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Because you're being rude to someone who wasn't rude to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:49 PM
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I didn't say it was abuse, but being snarky and standoffish, like OOP was, was a jerk move.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:48 PM
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Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:57 PM
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Why don't you understand that it's wrong to be disagreeable? I doubt you're actually a man, based on your comments here. Haven't you ever had a woman be disagreeable to you when you approached her?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:57 PM
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You are wrong about that, but you have just earned yourself a place on my block list. Bye now.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:33 AM
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And I disagree with that. See my other comments/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:32 AM
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I don't agree with that. See my other comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:32 AM
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I don't agree with that. Like I said, I hit on a gay guy by mistake. He was polite but told me he was gay. He wasn't rude or standoffish.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:32 AM
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I don't agree that men are equally standoffish to women they don't find attractive. I hit on a gay guy by mistake, and he was polite but told me he was gay. He wasn't standoffish or rude at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:31 AM
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Not solely, but that's a big part of it...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:31 AM
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It's not very friendly, but it isn't rude if you're upfront and honest about it. OOP wasn't. She played some stupid mind game with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:30 AM
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So do you agree that the woman in OOP was rude?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:07 AM
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If the person was approached on a train, in an office, I would agree, but the social norm of bars and nightclubs is approaches from people who are into you, so yes, I would consider it very rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:07 AM
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And gay men can be the same way of any guy they don't find attractive, and straight women can be the same way of any guy they don't find attractive, and gay women can be the same way of any woman they don't find attractive, so what exactly is your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:06 AM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:05 AM
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And women hurt men, too. The vast majority of both men and women are non-violent. Just like I wouldn't want to be judged by that woman who pushed her boyfriend into killing himself, we shouldn't judge men by the Elliot Rodgers of the world. We are absolutely not dismissed as an inferior class. I have my entire genitalia, and you almost certainly do, too. Most of the men in our cohort had the most sensitive part of their genitalia sliced off without their consent. As long as cutting a baby girl's…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:05 AM
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There is a difference between someone being friendly to you trying to get to know you better and someone who is only after your money.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:04 AM
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Interesting...I think women have it way better than men, and I'm a woman myself
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:02 AM
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LOL no. Being rude to someone who was rude to you isn't an indication of being violent.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:01 AM
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LOL. If you want to drink with friends and partners, buy alcohol and drink at home. It's way cheaper. How would you feel if you approached a man in a bar and he was standoffish to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:01 AM
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I disagree, if you go to a place of socialization (i.e. a bar or nightclub), and you are rude to people who try to socialize with you, it makes you a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 07:00 AM
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Disagreeable is a morally undesirable trait, no matter what excuse you use. You should always be kind and agreeable, unless someone as actually physically threatening you. A friendly cold approach is not a threat. I disagree that men are more likely to be overtly disagreeable. Men will duke it out and then be back to friends the next day. Men will usually be polite to a woman who cold approaches them, whereas the same is not true in reverse.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:59 AM
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As a woman, I disagree. We are rude to you far more than you are to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:58 AM
1

A friendly cold approach isn't badgering.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:57 AM
1

Being rude and standoffish isn't decent, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:57 AM
1

Because?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:57 AM
1

And it's still wrong for them to be rude when you approach them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 06:57 AM
1

I think kindness is critical.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 01:02 AM
1

And women are, on average, the same. Nice to men they want to fuck and horrible to men they don't want to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 01:02 AM
1

Men are way nicer to women who approach them in bars, on average, than vice versa
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:55 AM
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Good thing I am also on birth control and have purchased the morning after pill on occasion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:55 AM
1

It is very rare for men to lash out physically at a woman who rejects their advances. Saying "fuck you, bitch", to a woman who rejects you is rude, and it is lashing out, but it isn't physical lashing out, and it's ultimately harmless.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:54 AM
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Being rude and standoffish may not be evil, but it is a morally undesirable trait. Just because it doesn't rise to the level of evil doesn't make it bad. Are the drunks who urinate on store fronts evil? No. Are they bad? Yes. I don't think men are more disagreeable than women, not by a long shot. Have you ever seen "Mean Girls", that kind of meanness is way more common in women. Two men have a dispute, they will duke it out and then be fine the next day.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:54 AM
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Well, I'm a woman, and it's not my experience, and you should also say "many other women's", not "many other womens". "Women" is already plural, and you need an apostrophe to make it possessive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:52 AM
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But just because you never felt like it would lead to you getting physically harmed doesn't make what those women did okay. Emotional abuse is just as wrong as physical abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:51 AM
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The guy in the OOP was just friendly. He wasn't pushy or incessant.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:51 AM
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Arguably, her second comment was kind of mocking him. It is unkind, and unkindness is a breach of etiquette. She has no right to consider herself a good person. There is no reason to go making enemies with people who are being friendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 12:50 AM
1

Feel free to regard social norms, but don't expect people to like you when you do...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:24 PM
1

FGM is virtually nonexistent in the US, and is only practiced by a small subset of unassimilated immigrants from countries where it is the norm. Less than 1% of American women vs 80% of American men. It's not even a context. Being groped is no where near as damaging as having the most sensitive part of your genitalia sliced off with no/inadequate anesthetic (you cannot give a baby enough painkillers), a permanent scar on your penis, a second-rate sex life forever, etc... I have been groped. I wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:23 PM
1

From my point of view, you are being delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:21 PM
1

Why do you think my view isn't based in reality?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:20 PM
1

Yes, that is rude, but "no I'm not interested" is better than being snarky and standoffish.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:20 PM
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I am 100% serious. Friendly conversation isn't harassment. If he had come up to her and been like "nice ass, sit on my face", she would have every right to tell him off.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:20 PM
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I'm sorry for accusing you, but it really irritates me when people who claim to care about bodily autonomy downplay the harms of boys having their bodily autonomy violated. Nothing that has ever happened to me, or most American women, comes anywhere close to what most of our male peers have had done to them. I recognize my privilege and seek to use it to help others.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:19 PM
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But don't you agree it's important to be polite. Getting approached at a bar/nightclub is not an imposition - it's the social norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:18 PM
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Sure, does he want to hook up? Maybe. Maybe he just wants to improve his social skills and get more comfortable talking to women...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:00 PM
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She was snarky and standoffish, which is a form of rudeness. How would you feel if you approached a guy and he treated you like that????
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 11:00 PM
1

If I made a thread about it, would you discuss it there?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:59 PM
3

What does feeling physically threatened have to do with anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:56 PM
1

Because?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:55 PM
1

Do you agree that what she did was unkind?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:55 PM
1

Yes, they are, in places like clubs, bars, etc... Not on the train, not a waitress, but customers in bars, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:55 PM
1

Did you just gaslight me about my gender identity? That's not very liberal of you...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:54 PM
1

The women who are condescending and rude deserve to be judged for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:54 PM
2

Actually, in a lot of cases, the mothers decide. I will make a thread about it in a little bit. And even if the father decided, the mother still okayed it, while being protected herself from invasive, harmful things being done to her genitals. Interesting how you dodged my point about it being worse than most FGM and how it should be illegal. Bodily autonomy is for women only in your worldview, I guess. In the US, fathers are twice as likely as mothers to want to leave the baby intact, see page …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:53 PM
1

It's mean to say "I don't want you around" to someone who has been polite and friendly. Do you remember from grade school: you can't say "you can't play"?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:51 PM
2

Being condescending is rude and uncalled for.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:51 PM
1

What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:50 PM
2

It is not as bad as the worst forms of FGM, but it is worse than the milder forms of FGM, and the milder forms of FGM are far more common. Do you support banning it with a legal penalty for mothers who do it, yes or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:50 PM
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It is a perfect analogy. Prejudicial mistreatment of a group based on the bad behavior of a small percentage of that group.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:49 PM
1

Why won't you just answer if you agreed to be with him or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:48 PM
1

Still, there is no excuse for going into bitch mode, and it's mean to say "please get away from me" if all he is doing is talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:48 PM
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I think, as women, we need to work on being nicer to guys who cold approach us.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:47 PM
1

Still, you should still be nice even if you're not attracted.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:47 PM
1

Did you or did you not agree to get together with him? 15 is hardly a child. I lost my virginity at 15, and it wasn't some kind of traumatic or abusive experience. I enjoyed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:45 PM
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Invite your friends over, then. Being in a bar, nightclub, etc...is implicit permission to be approached.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:44 PM
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If you want obvious horseshit, take a look in the mirror.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:44 PM
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If you think it's okay for women to treat unknown men with suspicion because a small minority of men respond violently to rejection, that's the same logic airports use to profile people who look "Muslim".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:43 PM
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It's less common, in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:42 PM
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No, I am not. If a woman isn't willing to treat men who approach her with kindness, she has no business going to nightclubs/bars/etc...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:42 PM
2

It is very rare for a man to respond violently to rejection, especially in a crowded public place.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:41 PM
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Women who are rude to guys who approach them are bad people. It seems they get their kicks from hurting men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:41 PM
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It is not an imposition. It is part of what is expected at bars and nightclubs and the like. That woman in OOP was unbelievably rude and sounds like a horrible person. The man who approached her sounds like he was friendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:40 PM
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That is a small minority of cases, and using those to justify being rude to friendly guys is just as wrong as using 9/11 to justify racially profiling people in airports for looking middle eastern.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:39 PM
1

You say that like it's a bad thing...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:39 PM
2

So, do you think racial profiling in airports is okay, then? Same logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:34 PM
1

Drinking out is way more expensive than buying booze at a store and drinking at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:34 PM
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No, if you are rude to someone and they lash out at you for it, you brought it upon yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:33 PM
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I'm not doubting your experiences, but I've seen that only on very rare occasions.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:33 PM
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Canadian, I presume.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:32 PM
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You downplayed its harm and brushed off concerns over how it violates bodily autonomy, and claimed that FGM is always worse, which is factually inaccurate. The most common forms of FGM actually remove less tissue and fewer nerves than a standard male circumcision does. Most FGM is not clitorectomy and infibulation. So, if you don't support it, you would have no problem with it being banned, so that baby boys can enjoy the same bodily autonomy baby girls enjoy? Can you see how FGM being banned wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:32 PM
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I don't remember asking you a god damn thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:30 PM
1

No, but how can anyone tell someone's personality just by looking at them for a few seconds?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:29 PM
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Lying doesn't reflect well on her character, either. Either she should be honest and say "I'm not interested in you", or if she lacks the courage do to that, she should just humor him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:28 PM
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I am one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:27 PM
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Approaching someone at a bar, nightclub, rave, party, fest, etc...isn't rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:27 PM
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There are no valid reasons to be standoffish and rude to a guy who approached you in a friendly manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:26 PM
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I highly doubt that you would actually feel good if a guy treated you the same way the girl in the OOP treated this guy. You can give a clear signal while still being polite, and you can even open your mind to more guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:26 PM
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That's a you problem. It's not the 10th beggar's fault, so the moral thing is to be kind to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:25 PM
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No, approaching another person isn't rude. It's called socializing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:25 PM
2

Still, women should just suck it up and be polite to approaching guys unless the guy is rude first.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:24 PM
2

In many European countries, the age of consent is 15. You made a bad choice, why not just own it? I, personally, have no interest in teenagers, but, as someone who remembers what it was like to be a teenager, I don't think we should ignore their agency and act like they are never responsible for their own choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 10:24 PM
1

Not all of it, but most, and all it takes is most.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:24 PM
1

You would be in the wrong because you were rude to someone who wasn't rude to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:23 PM
0

LOL did you or didn't you agree to date the guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:23 PM
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Because that's the kind thing to do. Be kind. She was unkind, which reflects on her character. She's not the kind of person I would want to be friends with, because I don't like mean people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:23 PM
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Because it's not fair to be rude to the man who approaches you just because lots of other guys have done it before. It's not his fault. Even proportionally, a greater percentage of the 100 rejections is rude than the 10 rejections.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:22 PM
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The point I'm making is that just as the social norm in a restaurant is for waiters to approach customers unprompted, the social norm in a bar is for people to approach their preferred sex unprompted.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:20 PM
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So at least you implicitly acknowledge she was being mean. Approaching someone in a friendly way doesn't make you the bad guy. What would you do if the man was rude to you in return? You couldn't claim victim status, since you were the first one to be rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:19 PM
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So it benefits you to be rude and standoffish? How would you feel if men were rude and standoffish to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:17 PM
2

She was rude. Why don't you think so? She intentionally said things that annoyed him and was rude when he called her out on it. Why would you have given him hellfire? Do you actually think the woman in the AITA was being nice?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:12 PM
2

Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:10 PM
1

What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:09 PM
1

It's concerning that anyone would punch someone for trying to flirt with them, but especially so when it's a straight person doing it to a gay person, since that has undertones of homophobia.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:09 PM
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Approaching someone doesn't mean you don't care about their personality...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:08 PM
2

Wait a second, I remember you. I read this community for months before I posted. You're that woman who defended male circumcision while calling female circumcision heinous. Funny how bodily autonomy is only for women/girls in your worldview. Not that I'd expect you to care about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:08 PM
1

So does HB 8 mean more attractive than HB 6?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:07 PM
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Don't go to places that are full of horny people seeking to hookup if you're not interested in hooking up. It's like going to a restaurant and being mad the waiter came up to you and asked for your order.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:07 PM
0

Imagine going to a restaurant, sitting down at a table, and being made that the waiter approached you to ask for your order.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:06 PM
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I have had multiple boyfriends, and I have treated all of them with the respect every man deserves.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:05 PM
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No. Why did you get with him in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:05 PM
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The friendly, kind, and polite thing to do is to humor the guy. Even if she didn't want to, she could have just said "you seem nice, but I'm not interested right now". It's okay to be rude to someone who was rude to you, if you were rude to a guy and he then called you a bitch, you have no right to complain. He was just giving you a taste of your own medicine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:04 PM
1

So you think it's okay to be rude to someone who was polite to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:02 PM
1

Not my experience. I approached a guy who I didn't know was gay once, and he was chill about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:01 PM
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That doesn't make rudeness okay. If your boundary leads you to be rude, rethink your boundary.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:00 PM
1

I would certainly never punch a lesbian woman in the face if she hit on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:59 PM
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Women should try to be more receptive to men, not necessarily sexually, but just being polite, cordial and friendly. You can read the story, the AutoMod posted a copy of it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:59 PM
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It reflects negatively on women who do this. The guy was just being friendly, no need to be rude.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:56 PM
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Being rude and standoffish isn't morally sound behavior, though, and reflects poorly on your character. You can choose to be rude and standoffish, but that choice makes you a bad person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:44 PM
0

Are you American?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:43 PM
2

I have observed far more standoffish behavior from women to men who approach them than vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:42 PM
1

Everyone knows that a big part of the appeal of bars and nightclubs is the potential for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:41 PM
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That hasn't been my experience. I approached a cute guy in a bar back in 2022, and was flirty, and it turned out he was gay, but he wasn't rude to me or anything, he just said "sorry, I'm gay".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:41 PM
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I was talking about the behavior of the individual woman in the AITA story. If I were a bar owner or bartender, I would kick out women who were rude to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:40 PM
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So then girls should keep in mind that the individual guy did nothing wrong and be kind accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:39 PM
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Or perhaps, when I saw this story in my feed, it reminded me of a similar thing I witnessed years ago? Or perhaps someone else saw my comment here and made an AITA post inspired by it? You are so quick and eager to assume the worst of me. Every time I link a thread, I always use np and say don't brigade because brigading can get me in trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:39 PM
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I am not a man lol If you put yourself in a situation where you get lashed out at, it's your own fault. And no, you're not risking STDs and pregnancy if you make him wear a condom.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:34 PM
1

Standoffishness is always unkind, therefore, always bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:32 PM
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It reflects negatively on her, either way. Not fair to lash out at a guy hitting on you if he's just being polite. As a woman, a lot of us are way too disrespectful of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:32 PM
1

Then don't go to places where getting approached is the social norm!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:31 PM
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Every restaurant that serves alcohol that I've ever been in has had no problem with me just buying a few drinks during happy hour. Restaurants usually have a higher profit margin on drinks than on food, anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:30 PM
1

Never been to a bar in the UK, so I can't answer this. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:29 PM
2

Not all women are like this, but, from what I've seen, the vast majority are.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:29 PM
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There's a difference between someone trying to part you from your money and someone who is just trying to chat and see where it goes...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:28 PM
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You also chose to get with him...both of you made bad choices. Sure, yours weren't malicious like his, but you still demonstrated poor judgment.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:27 PM
1

Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:26 PM
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"I've always been nothing but kind when rejecting men." A lot of women who think they are being kind while rejecting a man are not actually being as kind as they think.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:26 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:25 PM
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That's not an excuse to treat all men with suspicion, anymore than terrorism is an excuse to treat all people who look middle eastern with suspicion. Just because a small number do bad things doesn't make it fair to treat them all poorly, when most of them aren't bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:24 PM
1

What is an HB?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:23 PM
-1

Well, then, don't go to places where approaching the opposite sex is the norm. It's fine to get irritated if a guy approaches you on a train or something, but not at a bar, nightclub, rave, fest, etc...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:23 PM
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How do you think it makes the men feel when they approach and are friendly and then you're rude? Also, women like sex, too. It's 2024, we don't need to worry about being coy or acting like we're asexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:21 PM
9

So her technique was to damage her lungs and increase her cancer risk? Wow, she really showed them!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:20 PM
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Don't go to a bar if you don't want to be approached, or if, for some reason, you don't want to be approached, wear a wedding ring (doesn't need to be your actual wedding ring, you can get a fake that's good enough to fool a drunk in a low-light environment like a bar, or go with your boyfriend and be visibly affectionate with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:20 PM
1

I'm American, white, 20s. Even if men physically harassed women more, can you at least admit that women are rude and standoffish to men who approach them more.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:18 PM
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But wouldn't you rather feel a little uncomfortable than be rude to someone who did nothing wrong to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:17 PM
1

Thank you! This tracks with my experiences as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:16 PM
1

Since when do gay guys try to approach straight guys in non-gay bars? If you're a straight guy in a gay bar, you have no right to get upset that gay guys are hitting on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:15 PM
2

Or, maybe, many women expect men to back off way sooner than is reasonable?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:14 PM
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That's still not a good excuse to be standoffish and rude. I believe in being kind. It's always worked for me. (I'm American).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:54 AM
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Fair enough. Do you at least agree women are more likely to be standoffish to a man who approaches them than vice versa?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:54 AM
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If you don't want to get hit on, don't go to a bar. A big part of the purpose of bars is for people to find hookups/dates. There are other places you can drink if you don't want to get hit on. Do you at least agree with me that women are more likely to be rude to a man who approaches them in a bar than vice versa?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:47 AM
1

Every woman knows that most men think astrology is stupid. Hell, I'm a woman and I think it's stupid. Intentionally misinterpreting a question to talk about it is a form of standoffishness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:46 AM
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But, based on my own observations as a woman who has spent a lot of time in bars, women do way more of it, and get called out on it way less.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:45 AM
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The first comment wasn't funny to me, it was an example of being subtly rude and standoffish and trying to play it off as funny. If you go out with your husband/boyfriend and are clearly acting like a couple (where it is obvious to an observer who doesn't know you that you are romantic/sexual partners), then it's fair to get upset about being hit on. If not, then, no, being in a (non-gay) bar without a partner is an implicit invitation to be hit on, by social convention. She didn't read the room…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:40 AM
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If you don't want to be approached, don't go to a bar. That's a big part of what bars are for. If you want to drink without being approached, go drink in a restaurant, or at home, or something. Hell, even the r-slash-AskFeminists FAQ says it's okay to approach women in bars (and I got kicked off of that subreddit for not agreeing with the feminist ideology)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 09:31 AM
1

I'm one of the few American women who doesn't support it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 08:28 AM
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The vast majority of feminists do. It seems you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 11:59 PM
-1

The original intent behind both is reducing sensitivity, even if modern Americans have fooled themselves into believingother justifications. Why do you support male genital mutilation? All of you feminists do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 07:37 AM
1

What I think he's saying is "I'm a dude and like [when my wife does] this"
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 12:45 AM
1

If they knew what they were missing...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 12:30 AM
1

No, no one ever has.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 12:30 AM
1

A: Do you have proof/examples? B: Popping pimples is painful. Running your fingers through your hair every few hours isn't. C: I, too, am capable of complex thought, but that doesn't mean I enjoy having pain inflicted on me. I'm not into BDSM. D: Once again, proof?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 11:14 PM
1

Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 11:13 PM
1

Is stubbing your toe something someone else does to you against your will?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 11:12 PM
0

Fine, if it were men laughing about popping their wife's pimples without her consent, the response would be quite different. I guarantee you the men wouldn't receive hundreds of upvotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 11:11 PM
2

incel, fedora types
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 11:10 PM
0

Because?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 11:09 PM
1

There is a difference between hugging someone and inflicting pain on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 11:06 PM
1

I am not a "fella".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 10:51 PM
1

Neckbeard doesn't literally mean a man with a beard. It refers to men with a certain attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 10:48 PM
1

I had never heard of a man popping his wife/gf's pimples...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 10:46 PM
2

Women need to work on our insecurity.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 10:46 PM
1

Can you at least admit that it's not very nice of you to social media stalk job applicants?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 10:42 PM
1

Why didn't you just tell them to stop holding you down? I can see why you wouldn't like being held down, I wouldn't like that either. But if it's just someone touching without holding me down, I still don't like it, but it is no more annoying than stepping in a puddle.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 10:42 PM
1

I feel the same way about your comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 10:41 PM
1

Read the first comment that the two mean women replied to, it was clear that the man wasn't expecting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 10:37 PM
1

Any parent who does it doesn't deserve to have any kind of relationship with their children. I'm sure you'd say the same thing about parents who do that to their daughters, so the same should be true of parents who do it to their sons. Gender equality, yo.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 10:36 PM
1

Because I found pimple popping far more physically painful than anal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 10:35 PM
0

ok then
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 10:33 PM
1

Do you let your boyfriend take your clothes?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 10:32 PM
0

You're ignoring the forest (my point about gendered double standards vis-a-vis bodily autonomy and consent) for the trees (my specific analogy).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 10:27 PM
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Maybe it was a bad comparison, but my general point still stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 10:26 PM
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1 - I don’t have to be nice to people who approach me. I don’t owe anyone that. I owe them indifference at best. And let’s be honest here, most women just turn you down and want to be on their merry way - and don’t get rude until they become pushy or use the PUA method of “pushing back.” You should be cordial and polite. Being rude is not good. One girl I knew in college, when a dude came up to her at a costume party and asked "what are you?" (referring to costume) said "I'm a Capricorn", knowin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 09:05 AM
1

Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:50 AM
1

Since I no longer live with my parents, it's not really an issue. What are you trying to do here?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:48 AM
1

A: Can you at least admit that if the genders were flipped, and it was men laughing about how they popped their wives' pimples without her consent, they wouldn't get hundreds of upvotes? B: Brushing hair is not painful if you do it correctly. Use your fingers to untangle it first, and then use the brush. Do this multiple times a day so your hair has less time to get tangled. I've had long hair my entire life. C: Why not just tell him to stop? D: Like I said, if it was men laughing about doing it…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:48 AM
1

She put herself in that position by choosing to drink to excess.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:44 AM
1

Do you at least agree that if it was men talking about popping their wife's zits without her consent, they wouldn't be upvoted the way those nasty women were?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:38 AM
1

Feminism has become too powerful in the USA.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:38 AM
1

I don't respect everyone who is male, but I respect men in general. Incels who advocate for violence against women don't deserve respect, but that is a very small majority of men, and even most incels aren't violent.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:34 AM
1

A lot of the times, because the mother thinks it's cuter, and who cares that the baby boy is his own person and it's not her body, a woman's aesthetic preference is more important!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:33 AM
0

Personally, I don't think employers should check out social media...what the applicant posts in their free time should be none of your concern. How would you feel if someone didn't hire you because they looked you up on social media and didn't like it?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:30 AM
0

It's creepy and invasive. How would you feel if a guy social media stalked you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:29 AM
2

"Women probably do it more often" "It's not a gendered thing" These statements are contradictory. Also, what does women doing it more often say about women as a group?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:29 AM
1

I know that women have pimples, a big part of why the pimple popping thing made me so mad was because my mom used to do it to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:28 AM
1

I don't like it, but I don't see it as anything other than a minor annoyance. Obviously, if a guy penetrated me without my consent, that would be different, but just over-the-clothes touching? Who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:27 AM
0

Did you apologize to your brother for sharing what wasn't yours to share? Why did you do it to him in the first place? I hope you did something to make it up to him...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:25 AM
1

Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 08:19 AM
1

We can learn to overcome our base impulses.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:12 AM
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A) My boyfriend is the pimple-popper of our relationship. When I have a zit he always tries to pop it and begs me to do it lmao. I don't like to pop zits. We're sometimes playfully fighting over it. It's literally harmless fun and nothing like the example that you gave. Fair enough, but I still think it's wrong to do without explicit permission B) I do talk about sex with my friends. I say only the good stuff about my boyfriend, I never say anything embarrassing or bad about him in that area. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:08 AM
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I have been groped without my consent. I have never been penetrated without my consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:04 AM
1

Evo Psych is a pseudoscience.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:59 AM
1

The users on AskFeminists debunked when they fell out of their bunk beds and suffered permanent brain damage.
/r/MensRights03/04/24 08:57 AM
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I was in middle school and it was over a decade ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:56 AM
1

I have never been raped. I've been groped several times, but it was never a big deal. I've seen girls slap guys asses without asking, rub their chests, what happened to me was no worse. I don't see myself as a victim just because drunk guys have on occasion fondled my boobs and ass. I am a woman, BTW.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:54 AM
1

Women slap their boyfriend's derriere all the time, too...
/r/MensRights03/04/24 08:53 AM
1

Does he ever pop your pimples?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:52 AM
0

That is a sexist comment, based on the stereotype of men having poor hygiene.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:49 AM
1

If you take his clothes but don't let him take yours...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:47 AM
1

Thank you! Glad to find another women who admits this.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:47 AM
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A hug isn't painful. Pimple popping is. I hated when my mom did it to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:46 AM
1

Since when do men pop their female SO's pimples without asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:46 AM
1

It is wrong to pop someone's pimples without their consent. I hope you agree that those women are in the wrong. Fair enough on the wardrobes. I hope you at least will admit that circumcising infants is morally wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:45 AM
1

Reddit is a good representation of society, given how widespread it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:44 AM
2

What a well-reasoned and thoughtful comment! Keep up the great work!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:44 AM
1

Does he do it to you, too?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:43 AM
1

How would you feel if guys "vetted" you the same way?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:43 AM
1

I always try to be more tolerant/forgiving of men than of other women to counteract this. Just doing my part.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:42 AM
2

Feminists when a woman doesn't agree with them: "She's not a real woman!"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:41 AM
1

Well, I've never heard of men popping their female SO's pimples without consent. I admit I was wrong about men getting more acne.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:41 AM
1

Why were you intervening on behalf of a drunk girl you didn't know?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:34 AM
1

What I tell my boyfriends is that they can f*ck either hole unless I explicitly tell them that one of the holes is off limits that day (period, diarrhea, etc...)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:28 AM
1

Because?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:27 AM
1

Society shouldn't look the other way for either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:23 AM
1

Excruciatingly painful. My mother used to do this to me. I hated it. Men don't groom women painfully, or expect women to groom ourselves painfully (shaving is not painful unless you don't know what you are doing).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:21 AM
0

No, she was constantly inflicting pain on him without his consent. I don't condone what he did, but I understand it.
/r/MensRights03/04/24 08:19 AM
1

She was constantly assaulting him. I don't condone what he did, but it's hard to feel bad for her.
/r/MensRights03/04/24 08:19 AM
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This is apparently true, I stand corrected. Completely anecdotal, but my brother had bad acne until he grew a beard, and then, almost none. Maybe beards soak up the oils on the face.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:18 AM
1

A woman who used to be a feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 07:58 AM
1

Victim blaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 07:57 AM
0

Non-consensual, painful form of physical touch.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 07:56 AM
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Non-consensual, painful form of physical touch.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 07:56 AM
0

LOL I'm not larping. Is it really so hard to believe that some women actually respect and care about men?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 07:55 AM
2

lol I made this account back when I was a feminist who was angry at my dad who I still lived with in 2019 lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 07:55 AM
1

Miss me with the evo psych
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 07:53 AM
1

Why do you empathize more with the opposite gender than with your own?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 08:14 AM
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Do you at least agree with me that the women who pop their husband's blackheads/zits are bad people?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 07:57 AM
0

So many people on the internet think they are scientists.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 07:57 AM
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I think it really depends on what kind of issue we’re talking about. There are certain behavior that are judged differently in men and women whether it’s a result of gender roles and biology. Mothers are judged harsher than fathers, promiscuous women are judged harsher than their male counterparts etc. I'm not sure if this is true. I've noticed, among my own friends (mostly other young women), that promiscuous women are seen as empowered, but promiscuous men are seen as sketchy. Considering your…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 07:56 AM
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I've never used it against a man, but I've seen other women do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 07:50 AM
2

But don't you see a problem in the way that societal inequalities are always in favor of the woman? I'm a woman, and I don't want that. I want equality, not female privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 07:37 AM
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And as a woman, I don't like that. I want to be judged on my own merits, for the way I choose to treat others, not viewed favorably because I have two X chromosomes and a vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 07:36 AM
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You compared popping someone’s black heads to rape which is pretty insane. If my husband did that too me I would not enjoy it but I would not compare him to a rapist.. I’d ask him to not do that again.. Which is something those men can easily do. Both are violations of someone's body, when my mom used to pop my blackheads, it was excruciating. I hated it more than I hate any of the times guys have groped me (it never went beyond some groping, so I didn't think it was a big deal) Men are also bad…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 07:35 AM
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Men get them more than we do, IIRC because of testosterone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 07:27 AM
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They are both nonconsensual things done to your body. As a woman who likes anal, but hated it when my mom popped my pimples and blackheads in middle school, I hope you can see where I am coming from
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 07:26 AM
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Abusive and toxic behavior has been normalized from women to men, only.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 07:25 AM
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I initially submitted this as a "discussion" post, but the mods told me to resubmit it as a "debate" post.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 06:17 AM
1

By sorority girl standards, that's actually pretty good behavior. Sororities are a wretched hive of scum and villainy, full of stuck-up mindless plastic conformists who think they are better than everyone else. They also do all kinds of horrific stuff to new recruits, it's called hazing. I've never met a sorority girl that I would want to be friends with.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:25 AM
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The thought of a male toddler telling a parent "she's my favorite teacher because she's got big boobs" is just so absurd. I don't even know what the dad was thinking. Sounds like something out of an Adam Sandler movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:02 AM
6

Exactly. Domestic violence, sexual harassment, stalking, these are not gendered issues. Both genders perpetrate. Both genders are victims. I'm glad your wife is better.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:53 AM
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My ex-boyfriend once told me that "anyone who thinks that a 14-year-old boy would be upset to be seduced by a 30-year-old woman doesn't remember what it was like to be a 14-year-old boy". He's my ex for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:52 AM
1

Why do you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/24 07:07 AM
1

Why do you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 09:38 PM
1

Why do you say this?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 09:38 PM
1

I am not an AI language model lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 08:27 AM
1

Why do you think this?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 01:02 AM
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