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Hey no worries! I’m new to reddit too! Ah, thanks for the LibFem definition. Totally understand having likeminded friends. I like to keep my world view open so when I had more likeminded friends, it would turn into a dangerous echo chamber of extreme views that I didn’t necessarily agree with, and they expected me to just ‘understand’, and would borderline interrogate me when I didn’t. I’m kinda a complicated person and don’t fit in a single box so I don’t like to keep only likeminded people aro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 06:58 PM
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Depends on how you feel about her. Listen to your gut. A trick I use is to close my eyes and imagine what her reactions would be like if I told her I wanted to end the friendship. If you’ve been close friends for a long time and this change is just starting to happen, then in person is best. You can read her, gauge her reactions, and possibly have a more in depth discussion about how her behavior and interactions have made you feel. If you just started this friendship or it’s not very close, ove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 01:50 AM
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Trust your gut. If you don’t want to spend time with her, don’t. Your instincts are telling you something is wrong. You could be direct and say what you feel in a nice way: “I really did not appreciate how you criticized [xyz] boundary. It really hurt, and this has happened multiple times. I really appreciate our friendship over the past [enter time frame here], and the time you have spent with me, but I think it’s best to part ways.” If you are considering being her friend in the future, you co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 12:48 AM
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Curious, what do you consider LibFem views? Some of my green flags: flexibility and open mindedness. I don’t mind someone being different than me so long as they don’t belittle my lifestyle. I don’t mind someone challenging me because they have different views, and I don’t try to change theirs, I don’t mind getting into a healthy debate about topics, who knows, maybe we’re both coming from flawed perspectives and are both willing to change our views. empathy and kindness. Must be open and unders…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 09:32 PM
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I don’t get the cat lady thing either! I prefer bunnies tbh 🐰🥰 (I’m allergic to cats)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:46 AM
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Be careful with this one. He could pretend to help you in the beginning and string you along during love bombing. Then he’ll pull the rug from underneath you and trip you up and sabotage everything you worked for in an instant because he knows how hard you worked to get there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:30 AM
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I think women feel like they need to live with men because of financial reasons. At least where I live, you need to earn nearly 6 figures to have your own place. And for those who live with roommates, it turns into a nightmare when they act irresponsibly and you have to clean it up. Most people would rather live with their SO before marriage than have random and messy roommates. I don’t suggest it. I lived with my ex for a while to get away from my parents, but at least when things went south, I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:42 PM
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Thank you so much! 🤩🥳 I hope you have a wonderful 2021 to make up for 2020! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:07 PM
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I completely agree with you, I want to be marriage and child free. I believe marriage is a social construct to pass property through family lines as well as raising children. With women’s ability to have their own property now, I don’t really understand the purpose of marriage other than children, or possibly traditional/religious views. Men are pretty useless, they don’t really provide much value to your life and usually cause more problems than it’s worth. The only thing I miss from having rel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:00 PM
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As a former gamer, it’s sad to see how much gaming culture encourages NVM behavior. One of the reasons I stick to single player games now is the toxic environment. I can’t stand terms like “I raped that bitch” it’s so insensitive and encourages others to normalize abusive behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:58 PM
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“I’m a grown ass man” yet his daddy owns his house, he asks his friends to complete basic chores, and he can’t tell the difference between satire and reality. If he were such a “grown ass man” he would have treated me like a queen instead of asking me to buy him a plane ticket back to his home country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:43 PM
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This is probably a controversial view, but the worst part about becoming super accountable is when therapists further gaslight you into thinking you’re the problem. Your intuition is labeled as ‘anxiety’, and you’re told to dismiss it. Then you have a breakdown and are labeled as ‘disordered’. It’s a societal trap to keep women in abusive relationships rather than holding the narc NVM accountable to his actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:53 AM
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Maybe if he spent less time on twitter telling the world how much he hates women with power and dedicated that precious time achieving that status for himself, then he would feel better about his ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:09 AM
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Stay financially independent, it’s truly an amazing and freeing thing! You’ll be able to do things that your friends will likely never be able to achieve in their lifetimes! 🤑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 12:18 AM
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Just because someone says they love you and care about you doesn’t mean they do. It needs to be shown with actions. This applies to not only dating but every aspect of life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 06:46 PM
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Definitely, before FDS, I used to struggle a lot with accepting my exs were NVM. My very first relationship in college was with a NVM. I introduced him to my parents and they instantly disliked him. I wish I had listened, but I was 19 and trying to make my own ‘adult decisions’. Of course my parents told me their dislike of him but the things they insulted were the fact that he was 2 years older than me but still undecided in his major, and the fact that he was a different race than me. I found …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:55 PM
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I think the key is to make friends with other HVW, maybe some HVM, otherwise you run the risk of being gaslit into devaluing yourself for the sake of ‘love’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:08 PM
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I was in a very similar situation to you. I know it hurts a lot right now, especially the feeling of being used and discarded like this. Believe me, you will get better over time. Stick with friends and family, and stay around some queens. Be very glad that he left your life. This guy is likely a narcissist, and he could have done some terrible damage if you had stayed. Be very grateful that he’s gone and that you’re starting off the new year with a fresh new perspective and with an open heart ❤…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:29 PM
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I can understand if someone wants to date a single dad if they want kids but are unable to have kids themselves, nothing wrong with that. But personally it’s a red flag as well. I don’t want kids myself so why would I raise someone else’s? Plus I want to be with someone who dedicates time to me and makes me a priority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 05:03 PM
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I believe there needs to be an additional set of criteria regarding vetting processes to protect our own assets. Not sure how to go about it though. I agree with HVM matching me financially, it’s incredibly difficult to find these guys though! I feel like it’s very easy for LVM with money to pretend to be HVM. I just looked up how to protect finances after marriage, a legal document called a postnup. The only downside is both parties must sign, so a LVM could stall and delay, claim I forced him …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 06:43 PM
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This is interesting! I haven’t thought of it this way. So I am a believer of never sharing my assets. I am afraid if I ever decided to get married, then circumstances change we decide to get divorced, he would have access to all of my hard earned money, and he could potentially take that away from me, so getting married would benefit him, rather than me (not sure if a prenup covers anything you acquire yourself after marriage, I want to start my own business in the future). Plus I have terrible …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:32 PM
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Could someone please explain to me the difference between a forever girlfriend and wanting a LTR and a life partner without wanting to get married or have kids?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:42 PM
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Same here! She’s very misleading. I was under the impression something was wrong with me sexually for a long time so I looked to her advice. Turns out she was so wrong, waste of my time and energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:33 PM
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Agreed, also, try to have your friend contact her daughters friend parents. Get them involved ASAP, possibly even suggest the high school security get involved if she’s still in high school. That guy sounds like a complete psycho, and that is not acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:22 AM
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She deserves better, so does that baby. I wish she had dropped the baby off at child protective services rather than giving her back to the father’s family (if she was able, not sure about the legality in this, she could claim abuse, or possibly gain custody and find a loving family to adopt the baby herself). He clearly won’t raise the child. I’m kinda afraid nobody will stick up for this child. But otherwise I completely agree with her. She should not go back to that LVM. Even though it’s not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:03 AM
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Probably... “Hi honey, here’s my low-effort gift to you for your birthday! Now you can clean up the mess I made for you in the kitchen and put away all the dishes because I am incapable of acting my age! Oh also forget about a present, I was too broke to afford anything, I spent all of your hard earned money on the material to make this POS! Love you! 😘” Disgusting! 🤮 GF really needs to get away from this guy! I feel terrible for her! If you don’t get Tiffany’s for your bday, run!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:42 AM
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I don’t think she has any right to be offended. Obviously the mother is trying to protect her child, and if I were her, I would refuse to let anyone outside of my husband/SO and parents get involved, including my friends. Probably wouldn't even his parents get involved. The SIL should go no contact with the OP, obviously she does not care about the baby’s safety, she only cares about her bf’s ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 03:31 AM
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He should have just bought a cake, that would have been more thoughtful 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:40 AM
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Woah, this has my ex written all over it. He claimed he could ‘no longer wait for me’ when I had to cancel on him several times to meet with my grad school advisor... he made me feel like shit over that. Now I can see how much of a NVM he really was, trying to pin that shit on me. Sorry, not sorry, my education is more important than you scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 12:35 AM
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Have any suggestions on weeding out the guy who wants a power couple from the guy who pretends to want a power couple?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 06:21 PM
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This is interesting, maybe my family is different, but we’re encouraged to bring whoever we date over very early on (even several weeks into dating) so family members can vet the guy throughly. If they get scared and refuse to meet family, it’s a sign they aren’t interested in the long term. Plus my family makes it very clear to the guys we’re dating that they better be on their best behavior or else my cousins are coming after him. 🤣 I can understand if other families aren’t like this though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 05:53 PM
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Oh I see, it’s about intention! This makes much more sense, thanks for the clarification!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 09:48 PM
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Is waiting for a decade a bad thing? I mean my parents met when they were teenagers and got married 10 years later. Even though I’m in my late 20’s I would feel very uncomfortable getting married before I finish my higher education and starting my business, the last thing I want for myself is to get married prematurely then divorce because I rushed into a decision, even if it does take 10 years to make that decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 09:33 PM
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How do you suggest dating multiple people at once on top of work/education/friends/family responsibilities? I feel like I’d forget all of the guys and a HVM would see me as a LVW for forgetting aspects of our conversations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:15 PM
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Why does this guy hate us so much? Also wtf is up with the racist comments?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 12:31 AM
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One ex told me “only weak minded people communicate” Scrotes 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 11:41 PM
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No women shouldn’t act like hot shit in STEM, we should just get the work done and do it better than the male colleagues, then party like queens when we get the promotion and they don’t. 👑 Then we take it a step further and get into manager roles and hire more women to take more prominent positions in male dominated fields, change the status quo for the next gen of women out there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:54 PM
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This woman doesn’t need counseling, she needs to GTFO. If she is this conflicted, going to counseling would only exacerbate this conflict and probably convince her to stay. Unfortunately a lot of counselors encourage pick me behavior (from my personal experience), so she will get screwed over in the long run. She needs to trust her gut and run far, far away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:38 PM
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As a woman who was formerly in an abusive relationship, I really appreciate hearing that you’re building up your friend. I had the opposite experience, I had a friend who would tear me down when I spoke about my abusive relationship that I was struggling to get out of, and she basically ditched me and left me with pick me friends who encouraged me to stay with the guy. I desperately wanted out but was not strong enough to do it on my own since he was a narcissist and took advantage of my former …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 07:07 PM
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Even worse: the mirror selfie at the gym bathroom! Hate that! At least flush the goddamn toilet when you’re done! Disgusting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 04:24 PM
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Hey, you live, you learn. Never would have found FDS if it weren’t for him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:50 PM
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I wish I had known this several years ago. I dated a guy who I believed was 10 years older than me (I was 25 at the time). I fell for it because I was focused on my career and education, so I thought we could be some sort of power couple. Turns out he lied about his age (he was 38 at the time), and if I had known the truth, I would never had entered a relationship with him. Just like you said, he was a manipulative asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:09 AM
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Thank you! First Christmas in my new place!!! So exciting!! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:56 AM
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Just bought my first condo with my own money. Thanks so much to my wonderful parents who supported me through my entire life journey! 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:07 PM
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