ExasperationStation Archive

Upvotes	Title	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
20	You know the whole "fake it til you make it" thing? I can't even manage to fake it.	ExasperationStation	/r/seduction	08/11/17 07:08 PM
16	Stuck in my head at social gatherings, even after several drinks. How to break free?	ExasperationStation	/r/seduction	21/11/16 04:22 PM
4	How do you deal with being nervous in the moment?	ExasperationStation	/r/seduction	09/12/17 07:55 PM
3	Women don't even want to be friends with me.	ExasperationStation	/r/seduction	27/09/16 05:01 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	What are some tips for approaching when using transit, like bus stops, on the bus, subway station, on the subway. Well now it sounds like you were trying to open her by qualifying yourself. "Hey, thanks for reading my article :sunglass smiley:" Idk man. I can't help but think you were trying to impress her... You do realize that you're making exactly the same pre-judgment about me that she did, don't you? Somehow, I get the feeling that irony is lost on you.	/r/seduction	02/12/17 02:57 AM
1	What are some tips for approaching when using transit, like bus stops, on the bus, subway station, on the subway. You seem to be under the impression that a "bad approach" (frankly it baffles me that you're this convinced it was my "approach" when the only words out of my mouth were "Excuse me") is the only explanation for being ignored/poorly received. This runs counter to one of the central tenets of the sub, that you can be blown out for a million reasons that have nothing to do with you. Given that she decided to ignore me the instant I even attempted to communicate tells me that there's a fair chance s…	/r/seduction	01/12/17 10:15 PM
2	What are some tips for approaching when using transit, like bus stops, on the bus, subway station, on the subway. I repeated myself 3 or 4 times, notching up my volume slightly each time. She definitely heard me. Dude, I wrote one of the articles she was reading and helped edit some of the others. Do you honestly think I could not have felt genuine gratitude for having someone actually read what I've published?	/r/seduction	01/12/17 08:46 PM
1	What are some tips for approaching when using transit, like bus stops, on the bus, subway station, on the subway. You might want to read what I wrote a bit more carefully, as it is very clear you did not understand it. I was not attempting to game this person. I did not have any intent other than expressing gratitude to another human being, who happens to be of the opposite sex, for taking the time to consume content that I and my coworkers made. And furthermore, I got completely stonewalled before even uttering three words. My choice of "opening" was irrelevant; simply being a trying to strike up a convers…	/r/seduction	01/12/17 07:46 PM
3	Awkward silences on a date. Except that there are usually at least two people in a conversation, and there's nothing to prevent the other person from making it awkward. It's not on you if that happens, but it does open the potential to things going sour.	/r/seduction	01/12/17 06:13 PM
4	What are some tips for approaching when using transit, like bus stops, on the bus, subway station, on the subway. I have to side with u/Auxabe on this one. Here's an experience that clued me into that. I was sitting on a bus heading back home from campus. A young lady sits down and begins reading a student-published newspaper that I happen to write for. She read the issue cover to cover. I wanted to thank her for taking the time to give us a read and being interested in local news. I genuinely had no intention of even so much as hitting on her. And yet, when I tried to get her attention with an "Excuse me..…	/r/seduction	01/12/17 05:51 PM
1	Being Unapologetic About Your Sexuality Helps You Get Laid Significantly. If you're an insecure, blubbering mess, who has weird body language, who's voice cracks when talking to women - it will all be incredibly cringy, creepy, and terrible - and women won't respond positively to this. So what do I do if this is an accurate descriptor of me? Because exposure hasn't really done much to put a dent in it.	/r/seduction	08/06/17 06:47 PM
1	Here's what to do on a date with women to never be seen as a boring man! So, I've heard this bit of advice before, and have tried to use it. However, with my favorite game in particular, I mostly get the reaction of polite nods with glazed over eyes that say "could you please talk about anything else?" That game? Magic: the Gathering. Part of the issue is that Magic is very technically complex, especially the formats I play (Legacy, cutthroat EDH). Also, being a "power gamer", the stuff that really gets me jazzed and excited is exactly the nitty-gritty, technical asp…	/r/seduction	07/05/17 05:15 PM
64	20 Things to Talk About on Dates With Girls 15) What She Finds Sexy in a Guy {...} “Now that we’ve talked about all the ‘normal stuff,’ let’s make things exciting. What do you find sexiest in a guy?” This just seems so hamfisted to me, I'm having a difficult time imagining this working well.	/r/seduction	01/05/17 06:03 PM
1	Weird, socially-phobic guys with low value So here's the thing about women and autism. In the first place, women are on the spectrum much less frequently than men. IIRC there's about 1 autistic woman to every 4 autistic men. Secondly, those women that are on the spectrum, tend to on average have drastically more severe symptoms than their male counterparts, such as being entirely non-verbal. As such, while this advice is coming from the right place, it ultimately falls short.	/r/seduction	20/03/17 06:31 PM
1	Why do girls lead me on, then find someone else and ignore me? Well, not OP but am in a somewhat similar situation re: female friends. I have a reasonable number of female acquaintances, whom I see with some regularity by virtue of being part of the same social circle, and we get along reasonably well. However, that's about as far as it goes; generally speaking, they're far more inclined to speak/hang out with the other guys in the group. Frankly I'm having a good amount of trouble finding common ground upon which to build that stronger foundation of friend…	/r/seduction	02/03/17 10:00 PM
1	For guys who are insecure about being short Fun fact, taller people on average earn more money over the course of their career than shorter people. http://www.apa.org/monitor/julaug04/standing.aspx	/r/seduction	24/02/17 10:12 PM
1	Why guys aged 30-40 are usually more desirable to women than younger men. being out of touch with youth culture (like insisting the best new music is a Metallica's greatest hits album) This made me think about something. Replace Metallica with Rush, and you've just described me. Except I'm 24. My hobbies are also really niche (archery, autocross, board/card games [Legacy M:tG is the best], reading [just finished Good Omens by Pratchett+Gaiman, so good]). I also find things like snapchat/Instagram to be incredibly vapid and, frankly, stupid. In fact, I have an awfully …	/r/seduction	05/02/17 04:11 PM
0	To the throwaway account whose post ghosted, and anyone else who thinks there is no hope. Worth noting: not only are men far more likely than women to be on the spectrum at all (the ratio is about 4-1, IIRC), but those women that are tend to be much more severely affected by it.	/r/seduction	03/12/16 04:45 PM
1	Did what you said: 6 Months, +10 Approaches/Day. No sex, no Makeouts, no Hooks. I don't know what to do anymore Not the guy you replied to, but I'm interested in what you've said. I'm doing the whole University thing right now. I'm not exactly at the end goal, but at least I'm going somewhere in life. I'm involved on campus, play in the orchestra, write for the student newspaper, all things from which one can derive great confidence. At least in theory. Problem is, it's all context dependent. Being excellent writer, a competent musician, skilled motorist (rallyx), and more does not in any way negate the f…	/r/seduction	10/10/16 11:40 PM
–	How to Overcome the "Nice Guy Syndrome" Ah, if I could be my true and relaxed self, this would most certainly not be an issue. I get such a visceral nervous reaction, though, that they never even see the real me. My reference experiences when interacting with women are... less than spectacular. Further, in my experience there's almost nothing women seem to find more detestable than a nervous man. This leads to me getting nervous... About getting nervous. All this has left me in this lovely little catch-22 where I get extremely nervous…	/r/seduction	02/10/16 01:18 AM
–	How to Overcome the "Nice Guy Syndrome" So, on an objective level, I know that I am a person that brings value. I'm a musician, a writer, well spoken, well traveled and generally a fairly talented individual. The second I try talking to women in my age bracket, all of that goes flying out the window. With alarming consistency, I just crumple into a stammering, trembling ball of social awkwardness. My powers of oratory fail, my heart starts beating hard and fast enough that it shakes my torso, and I start constantly running out of brea…	/r/seduction	01/10/16 08:03 PM
1	Women don't even want to be friends with me. Yeah, that is literally the entire point of the post; I don't have any female friends to speak of, and none of the women I meet seem to have any interest in actually being my friend. I just can't figure out why. Even with the ones I meet I actually have things in common with (not the most frequent occurrence), they're just totally uninterested in interacting with me in any way more or longer than absolutely necessary.	/r/seduction	27/09/16 09:26 PM
2	Women don't even want to be friends with me. You say these things as if I haven't attempted them. As I said, I'm definitely trying to do those things. I'm actually not a bad looking guy, if a touch on the smaller side. I will confess that my interests are either fairly niche and very male-dominated or primarily solitary in nature. What I'm trying to say, and perhaps I wasn't as clear as I could or should have been in the OP, is that in spite of the objectively large improvements to my social skill set over the years, I still seem to exude …	/r/seduction	27/09/16 08:27 AM