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Yes among others things. He could have anger issues (breaking or hitting objects or yelling and being verbally abusive) he could be a pathological liar, he could be overly manipulative Or he could be a strong resilient and kind person Every person is so different you can’t make a judgment on a type of person without knowing that person
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 08:34 AM
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Idk depends on the guy and more importantly how it’s shaped him and his behaviour/beliefs/coping mechanisms?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 08:25 AM
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What about out of country where people are shorter and westerners are treated better?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:50 PM
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Have you ever been? I went to Tokyo and Kyoto for two weeks a few years ago. The food was amazing and I loved the museums. Wish I could have understood more but I had this cool translator device that made things a bit easier
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:08 AM
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For people who are struggling with finding a relationship , have you considered moving? Where would you go? Would you consider moving international? Why not if the answer is no?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 09:50 AM
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I think that’s what he meant yes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 05:51 AM
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I don’t think that’s boasting, the way I read the OP post was that women are boasting about their partner to their friends to make them Jealous. Like “my boyfriend is so hot, so much hotter than that guy you were seeing do you remember” things like that I also think it is important to give your friends encouragement and hype them up so keep doing that it means a lot to people to have support :) And yea I agree most successful People want a partner who brings an equal contribution to the table so…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 05:43 AM
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At 28 I can count my real friends on one hand those would be the people I would confide in and whose opinion I trust. Outside of those people I have friends but whose opinion would mean less especially if I liked someone/was in a ltr. If a friend called out my partner for something I would question them to as why and if they don’t have a concrete reason then I would call them out and also may not associate with them
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 05:13 AM
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I’m sorry that happened to you Not giving your partner the benefit of the doubt and trust through will only cause problems and make it harder for you to be happy You can’t condemn your future partners based on the actions of a past one
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 04:38 AM
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Why would a friend criticise someone you are into unless there was a serious problem? Friends don’t do that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 04:22 AM
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Ty
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:20 AM
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What does this mean? Sorry I just don’t understand what an internal q is
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:19 AM
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Ah ok well I think as you get into relationships you will find that some people are easier to be around than others, some encourage you To try mew things and be a better version of you and some people you don’t care about talking with them because there is Just no common ground or you just don’t care. You wouldn’t be able to sustain a ltr with the latter. That’s great you would be down to share a hobby that’s a great sign (playing footy here and there or engage in another way) but there are some…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:16 AM
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I’m 28 but my family does tell me I have a severe lack of movie knowledge and have not seen as many classics or pop culture staples lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:06 AM
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If you have no common interests, it would be very hard to maintain a ltr. You spend most of your down rime in a relationship talking or hanging out at home or going out to do things. If you don’t have personalities that are compatible it would be boring or boring or you Would spend too much Time doing seperate things. Eg. Me ans my partner both like Walking and hiking so we do a lot of that together. He likes sports and I don’t really but I’ve let him teach me the rules of footy and now we watch…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 01:05 AM
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Thank you 😊 🙌🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:59 AM
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You could have a functioning woman who is not bitter, crazy, manipulative or whatever other negative trait but she could also be boring or uninterested in things you like? Gotta have comparability for a ltr
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:56 AM
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I’m happy being a woman. If I were a guy I would probably be happy too but I’m a pretty optimistic and positive person I like looking for the good in situations
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:54 AM
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Idk I’m not a man? If you wanna tell your friends then tell them!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:51 AM
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I only know tom, he’s very handsome
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:51 AM
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Sorry what? Idk if men do it, they probably don’t talk about it as much as women?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:50 AM
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Usually when you get into a new relationship you are so excited by this person how handsome, kind whatever they are you just want to shout to the world how happy you are. You settle by telling your friends. Should not be a boast though or to make others jealous
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 12:47 AM
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It’s your comments not your posts. Yes men in relationships can go to strip clubs. If it happens you have a couple options ; leave him if it makes you uncomfortable, or trust him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 10:52 PM
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If you are bitter online it probably comes across in person too
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 10:08 PM
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Ok but now even more men (and women) will Be in that situation? Why is that your argument? There are plenty of biological fathers who walked away and didn’t pay child support too. When either party doesn’t want a baby ir becomes tricky but now I’m here will be more men and women in that situation so idk why this is your argument if you are arguing for Men’s rights well a lot more are going To have even less of a say now
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 09:14 PM
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It’s more than worrying about if a man will stick around, it’s deciding if you are where you want to be in life- have you finished your education etc before you want to have a baby. The man is only a small part of the equation. Sex is for pleasure as much as it is for bonding and procreation. We shouldn’t have to be scared of having sex as a society. We should educate around safety, and responsibility but also understand that sometimes accidents happen even with protection.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 07:42 AM
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Honestly at that point I would think both people would be damaged Yes there were a lot and I saw that chart for the same reason
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 08:08 PM
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I skimmed it no way I’m reading a 63 page paper I have better things to do
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:46 AM
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According to some men
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:44 AM
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Sleeping with people and casual sex doesn’t make you a slut Sure no one wants a prostitute or someone who sleeps with everyone but some casual sex is fine. Grow up 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:26 AM
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No one kisses and tells I know he has experience I don’t want hear about it in detail but I don’t care and same for him he knows I have experience but I don’t go into details
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 10:25 AM
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Or your just wanting that to be true to make yourself feel better
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:56 AM
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Your glass can be half empty or half full depending on your perspective. What I explained is an emotionally intelligent way of understanding what happens after a ltr breakup. A rebound can be a part of that but doesn’t need to be. The key is to do the growth and reflections and NOT focus on random sex as a healing method, it’s allowed to be there but it can’t be the medicine more of a painkiller. Too much painkillers can cause problems
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:42 AM
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Man that’s sad 😢
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:34 AM
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Ok I apologise. I don’t think men realise how different they look lol. I was actually surprised too when I went to a obgyn and saw their vagina chart on the wall 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:33 AM
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I did exactly what she said and I found the most beautiful partner. Couldn’t have imagined a more perfect man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:31 AM
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Vaginas all look different. There are virgins who don’t look like the porn vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:30 AM
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Yesssss this. 👏👏👏
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:29 AM
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🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 09:14 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 08:06 AM
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Well the people I date are usually attractive so Maybe that has to do with it. I’m also no longer in the USA But still my partner and all his friends had very active dating lives. I think you saying a you know what most young guys are going through seems unrealistic how would you know the experience of 20-30 year olds better than me just because your a guy? It’s my age group, I have so many friends in this age group who do well. Only a few I know don’t and that is mainly because of their persona…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 07:51 AM
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I also live in reality and as I said surely not everyone I was with was top 10%
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 06:53 AM
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The subreddit is not representative of most people
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 06:30 AM
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Then I guess every man I’ve ever been with has been too 10%? I doubt it, most people are able to sleep around if they want. Yea a large amount don’t/can’t but many more can
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 05:30 AM
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Yes this is true
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:19 PM
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Such a common experience for women I think
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:17 PM
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So agree with therapy! Helped me get over my ex as well
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:15 PM
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Or maybe they are dumping their man because of something he did / does
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:14 PM
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I also agree. I think though that men find someone quicker while still being hung up on an ex while women take longer to get over someone but once they are over it they are completely over it Example: a ltr breaks up. In the first year the man sleeps with lots of people but misses her at the end of the year. The woman is sad for most the year, maybe sleeps with a few but by the end of year she’s over him
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:11 PM
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For men a team sport I love that my partner played sports all through school and is still playing with his friends in adult leagues
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:01 PM
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Those women are doing what I was doing (notice I said dating) they probably aren’t looking for a ltr though as they are still growing / working on themselves and learning as I explained above
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:40 PM
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You aren’t using that person to get over your ex it doesn’t work like that. You are trying to grow by having more life experiences and better understanding yourself, and giving yourself the grace to have fun( not talking sex but can also include sex) because usually at the end of a ltr you haven’t been feeling yourself and have been sad for so long that you haven’t had fun in a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:33 PM
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This is wrong. After my ex ltr of 5 years it took me 2 years to completely get over him. I spent that time working, going on dates, and travelling. After 2 years I had reflected enough to know where I went wrong, where he went wrong, knew what my boundaries were, knew what I would and would not accept in the future. Found my partner now and we are 2 years in, have never fought (yes we can get annoyed but don’t fight), have a baby, and are so happy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:30 PM
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Why would you care what your EX feels about how you choose to move on unless you’ve decided to stay friends (I don’t advise unless you are part of a friend group you love)?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:27 PM
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I agree with this it was the same for me for my first 2 ltr. Part of it can be jack of experience and understanding the importance to draw your boundaries and knowing when to walk away
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:26 PM
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Meh I would argue for your first point of raising age that most young men are using their families guns- especially high school students. Not all I know as some are 18 but if the dad or mom has guns those can be stolen( even in a gun safe as kids are smart and parents usually think they are keeping secrets like passwords but don’t realise their kids know them) I agree with your second point BUT you can’t not focus on them it’s horrific if it was my baby and there was no attention it would say th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:08 PM
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Of course not especially not right away because of the insane amounts of guns in the USA But it would help reduce and the longer Hun control would be in place the less frequent mass shootings would happen Where I am there is gun control and while criminals can still get them they are extremely expensive and they don’t waste bullets lol they save them for other criminals (‘gang/terf violence’
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 09:56 PM
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It also wouldn’t work lol men would steal Or borrow guns from the women. If someone wants a gun In America they will Get it because they are everywhere So glad I moved away, my children will never be scared of being shot in school
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:56 PM
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Most people don’t learn lessons without experience we are humans we make the same mistakes in history despite knowing the stories Of the past. At 20 you are still changing your brain is not matured, you go through so much change emotionally and figure out what you want. The difference between a 20 and 25 year olds brain, emotional intelligence and self awareness is massive. I think divorce is higher in people who marry young for those reasons. Pair bonding is bullshit lol most people Are able ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:54 PM
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Ah well it was an idea, but maybe wouldn’t work. I do feel for these people. Maybe getting a partner from overseas? Sure it’s not ideal but is being lonely forever and sad about it better than paying for someone who eventually may actually become really close to you and love you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:30 AM
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Why would a desirable man join though if the women are also ‘undesirable’ I hate describing any human being as undesirable i was using the original commenters words. I think physically unattractive would be better to describe this said online dating service. I think there are also unattractive women. Edit to add - Also what about moving?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:25 AM
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You can’t pick someone at 20 that you would pick at 30 because you are missing 10 years of EXPERIENCE
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:12 AM
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What about an online dating service specifically for ‘undesirables’? I personally don’t think people can’t improve with working on oneself, and think the fear of ‘beta bucks’ assumes women are gold diggers vs genuinely wanting better for their potential children and happiness. I also think for some - you not all of course as there are middle aged ‘terminally single’ people on here that their situation will improve as they get older if they make active changes sometimes like moving out of their s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:46 AM
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Disgusting
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 09:45 PM
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Dealbreaker
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 09:29 PM
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Lol sure Being a bad partner couldn’t have anything to do with it or incompatibility
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 01:04 AM
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Lol I hate that your saying 70% of women are initiating a divorce without taking into account WHY .
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 10:46 PM
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She’s not only average. And you guys think women are harsh lol Who is a good looking woman to you ? And what about a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 10:14 PM
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I just googled her, it’s amazing how the way light is hitting your face and makeup can change a photo. But I think In all she looks amazing. Photos are just a snapshot haha you can manipulate them (not talking photoshop or filters)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 10:00 PM
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I think she’s gorgeous in both.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:56 PM
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Oh yeah I 100% agree most beautiful people are more than just their looks. I’m glad you value yourself now and know what you deserve 🙂 I also went through emotional abuse and undervalued myself I know how challenging it is to overcome that and view yourself for all your positive traits. I was talking generally and not trying to say I thought you were only pretty and that you didn’t have substance in your character or that you haven’t achieved success in your career or other endeavours 😅 I hope s…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:18 PM
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Sounds like you had a hard situation and I’m sorry for that. I don’t think your situation is the norm though for most women and you are saying you want a high quality partner (who doesn’t) but that now you may have to go younger because there are less high quality single men in your age bracket. I feel like this is also saying that men DO have to have their stuff together otherwise they aren’t considered as a partner which is what I was trying to say in my original comment. Yes women we age and …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:06 PM
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Yes the second paragraph
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:46 PM
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Yeah I’m not one for huge age gaps. My ex boyfriends were generally the same age - 4 years older as a max My partner now is only 8 months older than me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:18 PM
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I only spoke about paying for first date. After that its about even usually taking turns I also always think cheap first dates are good, and that you shouldn’t go out unless you have the money to pay for yourself (in case you don’t like him Romantically, if you do then i would probably be paying the second date anyway I’m all for women stepping up but ive also explained now in detail my thought process and reasoning 🙂 I’ve never had a problem getting into or staying in relationships they always …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:15 PM
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Do you think the qualifying / disqualifying could be viewed as the same thing though depending on how you phrase it? Like idk quite what you are saying are the disqualifying features women look out for but so many guys here think height is one so rather than saying we are disqualifying a short man we are just qualifying a tall one? And I’m the reverse of a man is looking for a woman who has traditional values or who hasn’t had lots of casual sex he is disqualifying the ones who have had lots of …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 10:27 AM
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Haha well if it works for you then that’s all that matters
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 10:12 AM
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The shirtless bathroom mirror pic lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:32 AM
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Again I don’t disagree with what you are saying but I don’t like your example of men wanting virgins to ‘this particular gender role’ (men paying) because in the virgin example you usually have two different types of men wanting that 1. Men who themselves are virgins and value saving their sexuality for matrimony or other serious relationship (this is fine) or 2. Men who themselves have high sexual encounters but want a woman with no experience ( this rubs me the wrong way because can be seen as…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:30 AM
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I don’t mind my beliefs being challenged , but I’ve explained it pretty thoroughly to the other commenter why I think how I do and where the justification comes from
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:07 AM
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I am not disagreeing with what you are saying I just still think inviting someone out means you are paying for them and don’t view it as pushing them down- perhaps this is because I don’t think people should be going on elaborate first dates though. A beverage and conversation is always enough to know if you are interested (be it coffee or a beer or two). I don’t see it as punishing men but to be fair I don’t think I’ve dated anyone who has had trouble with women so they were presumably not goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:02 AM
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If that is how you take it that’s fine 🥸 Men and women enjoy different ‘privileges’ in dating and in life This post wasn’t about making it fair you asked what we had empathy for and what solutions are available. I already said in a lower comment what I have empathy for paying for the first date is not one, I’ve given my reasons and also suggestions on how to make it more reasonable for a man. You don’t have to agree with me it doesn’t really matter to me, I’m sure if you feel strongly about goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 08:42 AM
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Yes bullying for students who choose subjects outside their gender ‘norms’ is too commonplace and I’m sorry you experienced that. Metalwork seems like it would be a really cool experience and it sucks you were bullied out of it. Yes I understand that you may not like a man paying for your first date but that’s personal preference. Lots of women do. Granted there are women who take advantage of this and also there are men who DO have to go on so many dates because he’s not getting a second one. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 08:27 AM
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I didn’t say all women or all Men anything I said generally at least 3 times throughout those comments lol I also suggested coffee dates for first dates to better vet people and see if you Actually want to go out for a meal if you aren’t happy paying for two meals because you find yourself going on too many first dates. Be unhappy about it if you wish but most women (see how I didn’t say all) enjoy a man paying for the first date if he’s invited her out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 08:06 AM
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As someone who’s a future HS teacher (few more classes in my masters) I can tell you there is a huge problem with certain subjects (STEM) which as seen as boys subjects even today and have massive gender disparities between those classes and classes that are more ‘female’ such as food tech, hospitality, arts etc. Those choices lead to more women going into careers that generally pay less. There is heaps of articles on this but here is a good summary https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/f…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:56 AM
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But we were talking specifically about being immature that you find silly things to put the breaks on a person. Men ghost too. It’s shitty but hopefully it’s only happening early on when no one is overly invested
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:37 AM
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Yes but if we are speaking of ‘generally’ men also generally make more and women generally spend more on looking attractive for said first dates - makeup /outfits etc. Sucks if you go on a lot of first dates but a solution is don’t go somewhere expensive for first dates - try coffee dates if she’s interested this is enough, if it’s not special enough for her she’s probably not that interested anyway. Women should also offer to pay their half especially if they know they wouldn’t go out on a seco…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:34 AM
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Idk I think of you invite someone on a first date you should be willing to pay - goes for women too. I offer Dutch if I went on a date and decided I wasn’t interested romantically, I think it’s a clear signal that your interested to pay so if the feelings aren’t returned a nice way of showing that is to pay for your half. That’s what o did when I was dating anyway. Once in a relationship it becomes more equal in paying for dates
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 07:27 AM
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That’s fine, I hope you get what you want
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:59 AM
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Same haha everyone changes as we get more experience and better understand who we are and what our needs are
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:46 AM
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Eh idk I didn’t know any very mature guys who were 18-24
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:39 AM
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Also not everyone wants to settle down at 18-24 I wanted to go to school and travel which I did. Wouldn’t have had same experiences If I settles down early. But people here would say that’s waiting for someone at the finish line as by the time I was ready for kids etc I had higher standards for my potential partner
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:37 AM
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Yea I agree with the comment below. Also idk of this girl is younger than you but if she is then it’s also possible she’s immature
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:10 AM
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I did say set him self up in the broad sense that included travel or a social network OR finances. The first two are there for socialising and meeting people which if you Don’t have them dating is hard
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 06:09 AM
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Idk how old you are but humans can be so immature and silly until we get to be like 25
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 05:44 AM
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I think I empathise that young men need to get their shit together quicker than women. I think for some guys if they don’t get their act together in someway either financially or through developing a healthy social network and/or through travelling they will have a harder time building a nest egg and/or securing a high earning job. If they don’t get it together early it’s not to say they won’t experience success later in life but seeing as men usually out-earn their partners the earlier they hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 05:14 AM
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It says nearly 1/3 of adults 25-29 are living at home with parents That still means 2/3 are not living at home which means more people are renting/ have own home than living at home. Home ownership is also down so I think most would be renting alone or with a partner/ flatmate
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 11:52 PM
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Exactly this
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 04:45 PM
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I understand that, but most people Are renting. So hard these days
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 03:46 PM
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As I said a 25 year old should have a good reason to still live at home
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:27 PM
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Yes fair enough Lol they are 6-24. But older than that and they need a good reason to live at home such as saving to buy a place, in school etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:29 AM
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Millennials are 26-41 The average millennial is not at home with parents
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 08:05 AM
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Women want a man in a decent job or with plans to get to a better job, someone who is financially independent, cares about their health and appearance (weight clothes etc), is kind to his family, friends, and people in service positions and who has similar interests to her and who she can talk with about any topic, plus if they are sleeping together there needs to be some sexual chemistry so that it is fun to learn and practice with eachother Your description of average does not sound appealing-…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 05:55 AM
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Yes but most men are taller than most women if their equivalent race
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 05:51 AM
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I feel like if I couldn’t change my partner i would be even more picky lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 05:28 AM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 09:50 PM
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I agree not Always true but I did say usually for that reason
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 12:13 PM
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Parent to child is usually unconditional
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 10:34 AM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 10:34 AM
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Go for Japan
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 10:30 AM
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No way 60k is average in aus for a man , that’s barley minimum wage - you can make that as a full timer in a retail store Pretty sure average is 90k
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 10:37 AM
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Exactly what I came to say lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 02:27 AM
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Same. Me and my partner met using OLD. We decided to not have chit chat and to just meet up for a casual drink at a Mexican place as we both lived by each-other. I think we just chatted to make a date and then that was it. So many times you chat online and get along and then don’t like the person irl. To be fair though We we’re both attracted to eachother and if I hadn’t been so attracted to him I might have not been quite as available. In that case it probably would take 2 days or so of chattin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 09:25 PM
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This is lovely
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:45 PM
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Tongue and flung
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:35 PM
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Or instead of thinking she was using you for free meals maybe she enjoyed your company and you kept offering to pay? Most women will Offer after 1-2 dates if the guy says no some won’t protest. But if she continues to Go out with you presumably she likes your company even if she’s not wanting sex Edit to add all this is off the point that his Original Comment didn’t seem like a woman didn’t like sex after being sad she didn’t get to a relationship haha the meals and dates aside that was the poin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:17 PM
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Yep tactful 😊 and you didn’t leave any room for a surprise Student life is hard. Hope you are enjoying it though it def goes quick
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:14 PM
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The message that you are only Interested as a friend When you get to the second date I Would offer to pay
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:07 PM
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Yeah maybe not as a first date unless it was a casual walk with coffee. But as a 3rd date could be perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:05 PM
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I wouldn’t find it funny and I don’t know what you are referencing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:01 PM
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Getting pissed off is 100% ok. Hitting your partner is not. It’s not ok for Women to hit men or for men to hit women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:59 PM
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Read his past posts and the disturbance may grow
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:57 PM
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He could be disappointed sure but to be hurt that someone doesn’t want to sleep with you after a meal? If a guy is inviting a woman out for a meal and he’s paying it is for her company, so they can talk get to know eachother and see if there is a connection. He’s not buying sex with a meal that’s gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:55 PM
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Ah it’s you again. I’ll relay the message again that you were told by so many people ;Ignoring a message does not mean you are telling the person you ignored / didn’t reply to in time that you are inferior or worthless You never answered my last comment on your Last thread about how you Make your mother feel by being rude telling her to ‘answer right now’ and ‘wtf are you doing answer’ Do you think your mother is insulting you or is she usually just busy when she doesn’t answer? I’m going to go …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:51 PM
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in that scenario though where you have sex with someone you like because you think it might help them commit, you probably enjoy the sex or enjoy being intimate at the very least with the person you like (or else you wouldn’t want commitment) that doesn’t mean you haven’t enjoyed the sex, just that you are sad that you shared that with that person and he didn’t return your feelings Also doesn’t say women don’t Enjoy sex in other scenarios either (because we do enjoy sex, and we also do get sad w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:43 PM
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Which is a valid reason. Life is expensive and short and raising a child should be done when you are ready to commit to providing said child With all the opportunities and Resources and love you could. If you feel like you couldn’t provide these at that time, termination is a fine option. It allows you To get to a place in your life where you Can offer those things to your future children. All are better for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:39 PM
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Just make sure she knows before you go Somewhere especially if you ask her out especially if it’s a first date that you invited her out on. Find a tactful way of implying it such as “ oh let’s go and do … you/I really enjoy this blah blah blah and it’s only x$ each so it’s a pretty good deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:37 PM
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No that after conversing over a meal I’ve decided I’m only interested as a friend. If a guy asks me to pay half on a first date I would assume he only wants to be my friend as well. Of course this is assuming I was asked out. If I asked out a guy I would be prepared to pay for the first date as I invited him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:33 PM
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I didn’t get that from what he wrote at all 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:29 PM
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I think this is well written
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:29 PM
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I just don’t think you can put hard limits like that. I’m sure if a woman wants an abortion the pills are the optimal choice but not everyone can recognise they are pregnant early enough (9 weeks where I’m located as the pills stop progesterone a hormone vital for foetus growth) some women have irregular periods this Wouldn’t notice a missed period, some don’t receive adequate sexual education to know their bodies well enough, some are sexually abused young so don’t understand, some get a small …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:25 PM
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I only pay half the first date if I’m not interested. It sends a message. In a ltr my partner pays most the dates as he usually makes more than me but I treat him where I can and surprise him in other ways
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:18 PM
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I had a romantic date with my partner on the beach with a bottle of wine and a box of pizza Anything can be romantic. A walk in the park after a glass or two of wine with maybe a make out session could 100% be romantic Especially if it’s a beautiful park
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:16 PM
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Not always lol it can be a couple of pills if you are early enough
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:13 PM
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Initiating a divorce doesn’t mean it’s the woman’s fault. She could be leaving because of how he treated her and their relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:00 AM
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I don’t think wanting to date someone with the same sexual orientation as you is bigoted (heterosexual) Treating people who have different sexual orientations to yourself with disrespect or malice is bigoted
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 06:47 AM
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I agree many men are shitty but I also know so many good men Yeah I think female empowerment is super important but it is not sleeping around. I think it’s being able to set your boundaries and stand up for them, provide for yourself, and be able to walk away from things and people who don’t add value and happiness to your life
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:37 AM
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A lot of posts and comments here do lack empathy for women. Writing a post to encourage empathy does not assume all responders or even most responders lack that empathy. It’s refreshing to hear there responses. So again I’m not seeing how it’s bad faith. For the ones who do post with a lack of empathy even thinking about the question without responding is a way to reach out to them almost like a cmv? Asking what they are scared of does not assume they are paranoid lol. My partner is scared that …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:33 AM
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How am I assuming bad faith? Most posters here replied in a way that does show empathy for their future daughters and that’s so great to see so idk what you are implying. And I’m not diagnosing anyone I’m not a psychologist it would be out of my scope of practice and also I would have no idea
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:04 AM
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It’s a question to see if your values will be different compared to what you teach your daughters. Such as daughters to not sleep around whilst also saying it’s ok for your sons or for daughters to marry a man early while he has nothing to help him build while also teaching her to not be too career oriented etc. Can you see how empathy for a daughter might be conflicting with a lot of discussions or viewpoints? Would those viewpoints be held in regards to a daughter? Would dating advice give to …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 11:57 PM
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I did also include in the post how about if you had a son and would you treat a daughter different
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 11:03 PM
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While this is true it’s a lot harder than you would think to teach a hormonal teenager lessons without them experiencing it Most people try things even illegal things because as a teenager you don’t think anything bad will happen to you, you are “invincible”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:42 PM
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I agree with this. In relation to dating how does that look?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:36 PM
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I wish her all the best 😊 It’s great to have a partner who balances you out
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:22 PM
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Me too
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:21 PM
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I don’t quite agree that violence is how to get respect but I like the idea of teaching her to defend herself! Yes give lots of hugs and kisses 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:10 PM
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You aren’t short
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:38 PM
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Variety of reasons People wouldn’t be online at same time for a convo, matches Come in at random times, and sometimes your bored so swipe I met my partner on hinge so it’s not like I didn’t talk
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:02 AM
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It’s also about building and emotional connection. When you like someone building up to sex makes it so much better because you have started to care about that person. Sex becomes a really intimate act where you are sharing yourself and not just your body When you have a ons you are not having great sex most times it’s just penetration while you get yourself off (women who are comfortable doing so anyway) you may like the person enough to sleep with them but you don’t have an emotional connectio…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 09:48 PM
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Both sound like solid pieces of advice Hope you can get over the resentment 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 01:27 AM
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My ex’s grandma told me losing myself wasn’t worth being with someone. She saw me go from bright bubbly to reserved and sad with her grandson She helped me regain my confidence to leave . We are still close.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 01:26 AM
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I agree with this. I had a stressful period at work that went on for months and one morning my partner (before we lived together) showed up at my house at 8am to drop off a coffee, a small pastry, and some cheap flowers because he knew I was having a hard time. Completely made my day, work wasn’t even that bad after that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 01:22 AM
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I want gender equity more than equality
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 01:16 AM
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That’s true I never really considered how different guys experience was on OLD. I would get like 10 matches a day Sometimes it was just too much to even read or respond to all of them I would be spending way to much time on it if I was having real conversations with everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 11:37 PM
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Why do you hate being male and your gender role? Would you be open to exploring the lgbqt community then?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 11:33 PM
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https://womensagenda.com.au/life/how-the-top-grossing-films-are-warping-our-views-of-women/ Here’s another article but shows the full Showing how much more Likely women are going to Be objectified on screen
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:17 PM
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https://www.economist.com/prospero/2016/04/12/the-sexualisation-of-men-not-women-in-film-has-worsened I didn’t pay for this article so only can See first paragraph. Yes men’s sexualisation is getting worse and more frequent but still below levels of women (even though women are less so now) and male roles are still dominating the industry Overall though I think until it’s about even the most you will get from a large amount Of women is an eye roll.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:16 PM
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You get that already in most movies lol It was nice to have eye candy made for females for once 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:55 PM
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I’m glad you argue both gender representation 😁 But Thor is a god he’s not a regular human so it makes more sense he’s extra fit, so many women are sexualised in movies and they aren’t even supposed to be something other than a regular human. Jessica Alba quit acting for this reason and so have many other actresses No one expect men to look like Thor, but women are constantly told to look hyper sexual
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:47 PM
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I agree to an extent but at the same time how good did he look 😍😍 Do you equally discuss actresses such as Megan fox and her boob job & slim figure for not being a good rep for women standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:13 PM
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I feel like It would be obvious of your partner was with you for money vs love. In the way they treat you, how they respond to your touch and thoughtfulness, and if they go out of their way to make your day a little better or put your needs ahead of their own at least half the time vs tolerating you and only showing enthusiasm when asking for things
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 02:48 AM
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Life is expensive. Love isn’t always enough. It’s important and non negotiable for most women but so is a man who is works Hard, earns enough to support your future children , and who loves you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:09 AM
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I am attracted to financial success because of how Expensive life is especially with children. I want my kids to have opportunities I didn’t. Love don’t Pay the bills. You can have love and financial success
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:03 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:55 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:55 AM
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This is closer to what thought
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 07:20 PM
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Did you know we have more bacteria in and on us then we have of our own cells
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 11:53 AM
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Interesting thanks for snooping her lol Yeah she should have learned more about herself and maybe tried having sex first
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 11:51 AM
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Looks
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 11:41 AM
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I’ll agree lol Edit to add We don’t mean to be complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 10:51 AM
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I highly doubt it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 10:51 AM
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I’ve had some Convos here recently from men saying that the more inexperienced a woman is an low n count she won’t be able to Compare sex and it will be good for her with her partner and pair bonding and all that: But sexual compatibility is real no matter how much experience you have
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 10:51 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest/comments/w1dwvc/i_cant_handle_my_husband_touching_me_anymore/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Did anyone read this? Thoughts? Especially people who are virgins and want to get with another virgin to possibly marry
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 10:11 AM
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The blonde guy? First picture 8 second picture 7 He’s not my type though too much of a pretty boy & don’t like his clothes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 10:04 AM
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Here too. 7 years for most two income households to save for a deposit for a unit.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 06:52 AM
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This is why should only be done if your sure Both genders have a lot to lose if there are children. More so if the woman doesn’t work
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 06:51 AM
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I thought he meant Mexican / white
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 05:59 AM
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Do you think most men here make enough to do that for a woman / family? I know some do but realistically they are in the minority
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 05:57 AM
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That sounds like you thought you were so much better than her that she’s crazy for turning you down and it enrages you Not a healthy way to think of women
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:58 AM
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Dario for the reasons above But In reality most people don’t ask about n count but do ask about previous relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:54 AM
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Seems like it lol Makes following some conversations hard though it there are different meanings
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 01:46 AM
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So true I know men will think “but men are the ones paying alimony/ child support/ giving her half my shit” without even thinking of all she gave up - career, her body/ looks, ability to have grown retirement fund etc Where I live divorced women make up a huge part of the homeless since rent is soooooo expensive and buying a house typically take a two income household 7 years to save for a 10% - 20% deposit
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 12:40 AM
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So wait I’m confused is chad just a fuxk boy? I thought chad was your tall handsome good job man?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 12:13 AM
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I’ve said it before I think you should seek help If only to better understand why you feel the need to retaliate when something isn’t playing out how you would like. It may also give you different perspective, and coping mechanisms. Of course if you are 100% happy the way you are then I guess that’s fine but I would seriously be concerned that you may hurt someone physically if you got to a point where you were serious about each other and deeply in love and then she hurt you in an intentional w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 12:08 AM
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Did you not read r/niceguys ?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:24 PM
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Why do you think he was jealous? Didn’t you say he had a wife and a life? Maybe he is busy doing his thing. Yeah it could take 2 minutes to Reply to you but maybe he read while busy and forgot? Or maybe he just didn’t want to interact with you. Either way you took it way too personally and would have confirmed to him that it’s good he wasn’t interacting with you Every time you “burn bridges” you are really just making the person see your true colours and having them Thank their lucky stars they …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 10:57 PM
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Nope they also Like to throw insults and be mean
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 10:50 PM
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You should seek help
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 10:41 PM
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I think it will affect the men raised without fathers more that the men who can walk away from a pregnant woman literally and financially
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 10:54 PM
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In this climate with roe being overturned and many women who won’t have the resources to choose what’s right for them like I could I do take it personally My heart hurts for them. Especially being a mom now I would be so sad if I couldn’t give my baby everything I can now including a loving two parent household
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 10:30 PM
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Poor people are usually single Parent household and have multiple children. It’s not just 1 plane or bus ticket it may be 4. It may also be accomodation as wait times are ballooned out because people Are travelling from Out of state to access abortion. Just say you think poor people shouldn’t have the right to choose
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 10:15 PM
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lol and that’s where your wrong Unless your being nice to just genuinely be a good person, or to ensure others have an enjoyable experience around you ; you are doing it wrong. When you ask someone for directions why what would they have to gain by being nice? Nothing but some people are genuinely happy to help others my will give detailed instructions and sometimes if time allows will help guide that person if it’s on the way And by the way your comment makes you seem like one of these ‘nice gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 09:19 PM
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That’s good 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 12:25 PM
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Bitter broke or both? I agree though most people (men and women) spend money too easily Financial responsibility is learned - hopefully sooner rather than later. With inflation though I’m sure we will all pick up some more responsible habits
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 10:46 AM
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That’s so pessimistic 😟 Do you try to be happy for others sometimes ?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 08:48 AM
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I really mean it, I think a lot of the mean views on PPD come from sadness and I hope everyone can get past it so they can at least be happy even if it’s alone (but hopefully with someone)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:49 AM
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How did you “treat her like gold”? Not asking to be rude but many guys do overestimate their behaviour and how well they treat partners. Sure some guys pay for women, and remember birthdays and are always there for them, but so are good friends. Many guys too who are dealing with emotional and mental health get upset easy, overreact, express anger in unhealthy ways, be jealous, be unmotivated and lack hobbies/ a social circle that is in line with their partners interests & personality
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:44 AM
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Those studies I’m sure are biased and also with a unrepresentative sample base. Most women I know including myself have had way more than 7 partners. I’ve had maybe 19. I have never had depression, anxiety, insomnia or any type of mental issues. I don’t have issues with self respect. I’ve never had a problem finding Ltrs. My first two lasted 5 years each. My current partner is the one I want to be with forever, we have a great life, a beautiful baby, and he’s also had many partners. Doesn’t matt…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 04:39 AM
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Most people go through rejection and learning about people through experience. Being “pumped and dumped” isn’t the terrible thing a lot of guys here think it is; 1. Women aren’t letting men ejaculate inside of them and 2. Many women enjoy casual sex. Even when a guy turns out to be a duck and only wanted sex that’s a learning experience; Women working allows us to explore things besides being a wife. It allows us to be independent. We don’t all want to stay home and raise children and clean a ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:56 AM
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I was not advocating for casual sex. I said that even with restricting sex to marriage women would rather be alone and travel, spend time with friends, and doing hobbies rather than marry someone who is not compatible with them just for sex. We can work and pay for ourselves, we don’t need a man we just want one who is compatible and minimum threshold of attractiveness and fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:34 AM
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Even if women weren’t sleeping with people before marriage many would rather stay single and sexless and just enjoy their girlfriends and friends children as the fun aunty vs get married to the people who are socially awkward, mentally unstable and financially insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:26 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:39 AM
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You said that but then also criticised the meme culture about “nice guys” Genuinely kind guys aren’t getting roasted there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:55 AM
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Have you ever looked at r/niceguys ? The reason it’s become a joke is because they proclaim themselves to be good decent men and then within 1-2 messages lash out calling names and being a jerk That’s not nice
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:54 AM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:52 AM
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“Nice” guys are only “nice” to get something from you. Kind men don’t care if you give them anything they just actually like to be helpful, and make others feel good. At the very least they don’t lash out when unhappy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 01:50 AM
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It’s not the only thing that hasn’t been tried there have been other helpful comments about leave being shared. Offering more social programs as well would help, free childcare, more flexible work, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 01:48 PM
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That is the most ridiculous thing I’ve read all day lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 01:36 PM
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Those are important to build yes, I just see a lot of bitterness / hate and also unhelpful rhetoric with negativity aimed at women which would be counter productive to the end goal of attracting women ( even if you build up fitness, social skills and your career) See the nice guys Reddit and you will see what I mean
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 10:20 AM
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So would it be helpful to try to build confidence some other way? Seems like it would be hard to break the cycle of underperformance and lack Of confidence if you rely on beautiful women for validation
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 09:36 AM
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1 in 4 women have had an Abortion
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 06:37 AM
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Glad to hear that. Im going to say for this example You are 25 as you said mid 20. Dating a 15 year old would be illegal but even if it wasn’t it would be gross because of the power imbalance, how different your interests and maturity levels are/ should be. Add three years 18 dating you at 28 while now not illegal is still a bit gross for the same reasons Having empathy doesn’t change that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 04:20 AM
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Are you a thirty year old with an 18 year old gf ?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 04:03 AM
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If you don’t get why a 19 year old and 30 Year old shouldn’t be dating that’s on you 🤦🏻‍♀️ You could search online why it’s not a good idea and why it’s a whole bunch of red flags Cbf typing it but there is heaps there, and heaps on reddit as well
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 03:27 AM
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That’s terrible that guys would judge eachother for the beauty of each other’s partners 🤦🏻‍♀️ perhaps self confidence would help them to not care what other men think if they are actually happy with someone. Yes I agree social media does skew peoples reality and is toxic. We should all aim to reduce the amount of time we spend on it What is the purge week? I started reading this subreddit maybe a week ago Bitterness will only hurt yourself, it sounds like many guys need to work on themselves but…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 02:54 AM
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That would be hard if your goal Was casual sex vs ltr. But guys want to be accepted for who they are vs based on looks so if casual sex was really their aim Couldn’t they accept unattractive women for who they are as well? I see on the subreddit self proclaimed unattractive men but they don’t mention having tried to get with unattractive women ? It would feel unfair but these guys get there real shot when they are a little older and are wanting to settle down
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 02:03 AM
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I don’t think young 19 year old Women should be with ten year older men no, because it’s the same thing you won’t understand his frames of reference / struggles and he will most likely be uninterested in yours if he’s a mature and quality partner But I did say once you reach the 30 Ish mark (whether man or woman )dating someone ten years older isn’t as big of a maturity issue
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 12:57 AM
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A ten plus year difference is less significant at say 30 / 40 vs 20/ 30 because the difference in life stage. Most 18-20 year olds are still figuring out who they are and are pretty fresh out of high school. If an adult male who should be well into his earning years to set himself up for life is happy talking about 19 year old problems or drama and interests it means he’s immature For sex sure I can understand consenting adults why not but I was talking about a ltr where it’s important to build …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 10:57 PM
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Part of the cause in gender bias in choosing classes/ electives in school. There has been a big push to get women into STEM because statistically they are far less likely to take those classes than boys. There is a few reasons for this I won’t get into them but there is really interesting research on that (peer reviewed) STEM jobs typically pay more. Aside from stem in corporate jobs men are more likely to be offered a higher salary, ask for raises, and be promoted - women can be overlooked beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 07:51 PM
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Nope I think it’s a maturity thing. My ex (12 years ago) is dating a 19 year old he’s 33 🤮 His brother says he’s exactly the same still immature and emotionally Abusive. I doubt he could have a relationship with someone my age 28 or older now….we are less likely to put up with that shit as we get older
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 12:55 PM
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It’s the same we try to be as attractive, funny; sexy , fun etc as can be
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 12:47 PM
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Gender wage gap lol I thought it’s generally well known Yes exceptions exist always😅 depends what a persons goals are
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 10:41 AM
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Kids are expensive lol house prices are expensive even food is expensive. Even on two incomes it’s expensive so of course we want men to have good jobs, especially since men generally make more than women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 10:07 AM
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Lol it’s about context . Like “chad” is inherently an insult but is being 6 foot tall with a 6 figure income bad? No but in the context used it is
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:10 AM
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It’s not about her loving your career , it’s about you being able to help support any children you guys decide to have. She won’t be with you and not love you or stay for your career/ money It’s about giving yourself a boost in attractiveness, a guy who can take care of himself and his future children is attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:05 AM
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I think you wrote that very well. I think your right unintentionally that can be the message work on yourself sends, but we all have to work on ourselves even those who get into relationships easier. I think it’s meant in a way that’s supposed to encourage self love rather that condemning as not enough. I certainly was a toxic gf to all my toxic ex bfs. I had to work on myself. I think people suggest it because there are people ( such as people on this subreddit) who do have a hard time - they c…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 07:25 AM
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Yes I would agree with you there
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 06:19 AM
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Also wanted to add I don’t think you are worse than anyone else. Being in a relationship isnt measure of being better than someone else. Some people have an easier time based on looks, familial wealth, intelligence, luck, all sorts of things give people advantages/ disadvantages in life but no one is better than someone else My comment was that if you are struggling in relationships there are things you can works on to hopefully have an easier time at that in the future
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:08 AM
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Yeah I can understand that would be rough, I have a sister who battles anxiety and depression and I’ve seen her lose three jobs and a scholarship because of it. The only hopefully meaningfully positive thing I can say to you without actually knowing you is mental health Issues such as anxiety can get better with time and treatment. I hope you are able to get to a place where you feel less stressed and overwhelmed. It’s hard without help. Edited to add - again without knowing you I can only reply…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:57 AM
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I’m 28 and I think guys only really start come into their prime maturity wise around 26 so if you are 18-21 don’t worry you have heaps of time to develop yourself or find your niche Hell most people aren’t developed till then.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:53 AM
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Would you mind telling me why you couldn’t make any improvements in any of the areas ? Intelligence can be improved through reading books, and if you can’t travel same thing you can pick up lots of interesting knowledge in books . If your able to be here on reddit im sure that’s not out of the realm of Possibility for you I’m 100% not saying your not intelligent im just trying to say there would be at the minimum 1 area you could work on 😀
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:36 AM
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Yes I’m sure but that has to be such a small percentage that couldn’t make any type of improvement though ? Most people can make some types of improvements
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:32 AM
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I guess so it’s amazing to think people can believe everyone else must be the problem. it can’t always be everyone else 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:57 AM
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You can have a great attitude and work a minimum wage job with no aspirations to even progress to management at said minimum wage job. You can have a great attitude and be too immature to deal with the realities of raising a family. Working on yourself is hard and it takes time and it’s more than creating a good attitude I’m not trying to gaslight you I Apologise if that’s how it comes across. I’m sure you are frustrated if you feel rejected and feel like you have already worked on those things.…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:27 AM
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You ignored everything I said. Yes women can lie but that doesn’t negate what I said. If your not attractive work on your career, work on yourself again in the areas I suggested, will you end up with a Margot Robbie? Probably not but that doesn’t mean you can’t find someone nice looking whose also kind and genuine and is also looking for a genuine partner to build a life with
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 02:56 AM
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If that’s what you took from my comment than that’s fine Lots of women consistently telling men here physical height / looks not the end all Be all to attraction. If a guys truly thinks he’s only ever being rejected based on appearance every single time, then it’s possible he’s overestimating how well he is doing in the areas that I listed. You disagree with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 02:50 AM
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Lol I gave a list of things that could Be worked on to improve 😊if you want to ignore that then fine, feel free to keep encouraging guys to be sad because they can’t be taller or change their facial features
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 02:45 AM
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I thought the bigger point was yes it’s painful but you can always work on yourself help for next time Mental health, emotional intelligence, lifestyle, hobbies, travels/ experiences, social circle, intelligence, career trajectory… these are all things you can improve which would help A persons love life
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 02:36 AM
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That’s true on the point of smell. I once went out with a guy I met from tinder and I could not stand the smell of him /his soap so I didn’t go out with him again
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 02:32 AM
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Because if that were true we would be orgasming as we are very inexperienced as virgins? I don’t know how you don’t get what I’m getting at? Am I confused at what you meant? Maybe you should explain it more if that’s not what you meant?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 12:59 AM
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You said we orgasm more when we are sexually inexperienced When you are a virgin you are extremely u experienced?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 11:17 PM
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Lol do you think we all orgasm when we lose our virginity when we are very sexually inexperienced?? It can take years for some people especially ones who don’t explore 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 11:13 PM
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You have to also consider most men don’t start maturing until 25 and that’s when they start becoming emotionally ready to handle a serious relationship and when they might start considering marriage. By the time men are 28+ I think is when yes it would get easier because by then they have their shit together and can be a provider and family man Same for women some of us even if we like ltr more than hookups we are spending our early twenties with friends, travelling and at University/ building o…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 10:12 PM
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It wouldn’t matter most men still wouldn’t believe us lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 09:59 PM
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Asking a stranger is a good idea I may try that one day if I ever do give it ago Thanks for your feedback anyway 😀
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 06:22 AM
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Most my partners friends are attractive themselves and are also in Ltr I would 100% feel Weird asking to take photos. I could ask my brother he does have a hard time with women but he is good looking + I think he did get matches when he used tinder so I feel like any success I have with his profile would get criticism that it doesn’t count because he’s good looking + tall Edited to add I meant that I don’t really need money so I am not super motivated to invest the time into this as a business b…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 06:18 AM
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How could I do it pretending to be a man? I would need photos of someone doing my suggestions? I couldn’t ask my partner he’s quite attractive I def don’t need to this as a business I am busy enough at my job + being a mom, I do get ideas such as this though without actually having the time to implement them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 06:03 AM
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Hahaha one would hope they are choosing a cluey girl but yeah if subreddits offer the service than that’s great would be interesting to see if someone here could get better results using it 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:19 AM
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Yes I would want to test how effective any advice would be forsure I’m not quite ready to try though lol was more an idea but I’ve already got my hands pretty full atm 🙂 but I hope guys who are struggling do ask for more female advice if they have women around them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:06 AM
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Haha I hope that’s not really a viable business
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:04 AM
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I don’t disagree , but I think pictures convey a lot whether we realise it or not so I think people are probably sending the wrong messages and with guidance could send different signals / messages from photos And obviously would be targeted to people who are more comfortable approaching online via matching vs in person
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:55 AM
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There is 100% something special about being approached in person if you can do it well 😃
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:43 AM
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I’ve been trying to think of a side business for awhile but I wouldn’t want to use the word hustle because sir almost sounds like I would be taking payment on exchange for a crappy service. If I were to ever charge for it I would obviously have to test out the effectiveness of any advice by doing it for free for awhile I’ve thought of lots of ideas like this (other ideas aimed at different target customers than people on this subreddit) just have never asked anyone if they think my ideas would b…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:41 AM
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Aim being to meet someone for a connection/ ltr vs just sex
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:34 AM
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I would agree with that but it seems many guys here don’t have many women to talk to/ ask? Has anyone here tried getting a successful online dating friend to upgrade their profile?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:31 AM
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Would you pay for a woman to give your tinder/ hinge dating profile a makeover? Like tell you which photos should be removed/ changed and give you suggestions on what types of photos to Add along with help writing a bio that covers your interests ?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:14 AM
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Are you saying he is wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:59 PM
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No if it was a ons from the club maybe like 6 hrs later 😂 But I mean my point was you can’t guess n count like some guys here seem to think
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 09:23 PM
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The first one was my first serious bf we met while partying I think we would have had sex pretty early probably after about 3-4 dates ( 2-4 weeks?). He was NOT ready for a relationship, he had just gotten out of one, was emotionally and mentally abusive, and majority of those 5 years were spent in a toxic spiral Maybe a year later started dating my last serious partner, I started dating this guy we knew each other for years though and only slept with each other once we started dating on probably…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 01:56 AM
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Sorry does ons mean one night stand? I’m going to assume it does 😅 By going out with friends and having fun drinking etc. you meet people while out and sometimes it happens. Also apps like hinge tinder etc. sometimes you aren’t ready for another ltr like immediately after getting out of a 5 year one you might need a couple years to work on yourself figure out where you could be a better partner what lessons should be learned from the experience, but might still use the apps to meet people for fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 11:52 PM
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I disagree with your logic for point 3. I’ve had 3 serious relationships two lasted 5 years one I’m in currently, and had 2 1 night stands. I’m 28 so by tour estimate above what would my n count be? Although you have made a good point on 4 that it doesn’t really matter if you think the girl is good relationship material I’m glad you don’t ask and I’m glad you added point 4, I think you would miss out on some great people 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 09:06 PM
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Leave him
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 11:13 AM
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Yes I agree but that doesn’t mean that people in the marriages are needing reassurance their partner isn’t going to Leave them and so is off point lol And again the ones who are constantly needing Reassurance should probably not be married to their partner in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 06:13 AM
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I don’t think people would bother with marriage if they assumed it would end up in divorce. That being said so many marriages do end but I think everyone goes into it thinking the best of their partner so again if you both are emotionally mature enough and committed to marriage I don’t think you will Have to convince your wife you won’t leave her
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 06:07 AM
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Then honestly she’s probably not emotionally mature enough for marriage. That’s how you end up in toxic relationships when one or both otters aren’t truly secure enough in their relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 06:02 AM
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I’m pretty sure most women wouldn’t marry you if they felt like you might leave them in the future so don’t worry about this so much you don’t have to prove anything Just be a good partner, supportive, kind and caring and that is hopefully enough, especially if you are married to someone
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 05:57 AM
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I think it’s easier to think that looks are the only reason why they might be having a hard time finding a ltr partner, because the alternative means that their personality isn’t quite as kind or mature as they might believe. I really am rooting for guys here though to become more emotionally intelligent and self aware, and hopefully more respectful towards women, it will pay off in the long run no matter who they end up with 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 05:41 AM
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Mostly yes. I might add to the last point that the neutral/ average guy can become more sexually attractive than the hookup because of the feelings that have developed. Most hookup sex is so average where ltr sex is great because you can communicate what you like, you trust that person and you get to practice with that person , all of that leads to the bf being way more sexually attractive than the hookup because women want and need more than a pretty face from our partners. Also will add just l…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 02:24 AM
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That’s a good question I’ll try my best to answer it because it’s complex. I think some of the time it manifests the same way this is usually when your bf/ltr partner is what you would Normally find attractive or hot. The time guys who aren’t your normal ‘type’ can become hotter based on personality because you like spending time with them. While you Are spending time with them you realise there are things about that person you really appreciate / are attracted to, it might be the guys way of sm…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 01:58 AM
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Hookup vs Ltr mostly depends on where I’m at, if I’m looking for a Ltr I’m less open to hookups but if I did have one would usually be because I’m drunk and the guy is hot. If I was looking for a hookup would again usually be because I was drunk or not ready for a ltr. In that case again looking for a hot guy but who is still nice enough to talk to/ be respectful. Or looking for someone who I have fun with either while chatting to or drinking with but a minimum level of attraction should be ther…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 01:22 AM
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Well I am guilty of thinking my partner is hot because he is what you would consider a chad.BUT I have dated men who looking back were def not hot I’ve dated people Who were short, one guy was tall but had a weak chin, one had bad teeth and balding early but when I was with them I thought they were hot because I liked there personality and would tell others they were hot. Maybe women think our partners are hot even when they aren’t if they treat us well? Attraction can develop and be stronger th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:50 AM
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I don’t really have struggles when dating but somethings I’ve seen on this this subreddit are men being upset if a woman sleeps with some men quickly and takes her time with the others, the men don’t want to be the ones who are made to wait they see it as disrespect? I think there is a disconnect between values for men and women. Any guy I made wait was because I actually liked his personality and I wanted a relationship, I didn’t want sex to confuse feelings because I wanted to make sure we wer…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:30 AM
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I don’t try to change anyone. That’s a lesson you learn with time and experience though as I had tried in the past. Much easier to take people at face value and believe them when they tell you who they are As for why I bothered in the past I think people In general get rose colored glasses when they care for someone you want to believe things will Change despite them telling to showing you it won’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 12:07 AM
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I agree that social media has created toxic mindsets and values. I still think it’s good advice though because it might help take off her blinders. The advice is to go for a person who is “attractive enough” so not ugly probably a regular looking person. You don’t have to think your date or even your Ltr partner is the most attractive person, because of it’s a genuine relationship personality makes your partner more attractive and then eventually the most attractive (not talking about people usi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 11:46 AM
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I thought this was good advice ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 11:29 AM
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Exactly not hard and if it is you are doing something wrong so work on yourself and then maybe widen your world and explore somewhere else. It’s such a massive world I find it ridiculous when people say all of the opposite gender is one way when they have never been to a different country or even worse never left their home state/ town/ city
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:34 AM
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My partner is hot with a great personality And his personality also makes him hotter Why do you think so negatively about women? Your experiences don’t define women in general, and most times if you aren’t happy you can work on things to improve your situation such as moving I didn’t like the men where I was from moved across the world and worked on myself and met my partner
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 03:59 AM
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Yes I agree it’s short, she was a happy surprise despite using birth control. Had We Not been in an amazing relationship with so Much trust and respect We def would not have decided to continue my pregnancy. My point tho is you don’t have to Wait years into a relationship To know if you are truly compatible or not. Some friction or Disagreements are fine and normal but constant nagging / toxicity / unhappiness is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 02:51 AM
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But more than 2 years and we have a baby now. Still No nagging/ disrespect from Either of us Not too sure of the relevancy of this question unless you were hinting at honeymoon phase? I was with my ex for 5 years and the nagging and toxicity was from early on like the first year lol Don’t put up with constant nagging, it just means something in your relationship Is not aligned and that’s fine , so many people Out there
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 02:32 AM
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I care. Yes I want to be comfortable, own a home With my partner, send our children to college if they would like that, be able to secure resources such as food water heating etc things that will get more expensive and scare if the world keeps going the way it is. So yes I want a partner who is earning a decent wage (I’m in Australia our currency is worth less than usd so for a man 100k is what I think he should be earning minimum.) that being said I also want to contribute to the goal of owning…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 01:40 AM
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Lol I used to nag my ex constantly and we would fight and were so toxic together. Our breakup was the best thing ever I now never fight or nay my current partner. If your relationship is full yes of nagging your personalities, goals or values might not match and you should find someone better suited
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 01:27 AM
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But if that’s the case the men here wouldn’t complain that women are going for the tall handsome and successful guy vs the average looking shorter and average job guy I also think the posters on these forums are misguided thinking that women would constantly compare their partner to past sexual experiences, if you really love someone sex becomes better with that person as time goes on and as your feelings grow (you learn what each other likes) so you wouldn’t be comparing your partner to casual …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 12:16 AM
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Women can tell if you are being real With them if you never open Up we won’t stick around. That being said open up when it’s appropriate, and think Of it almost like an interview you give a situation, what worked what didn’t etc and then what you Learned from that situation or how you are working on it…it all shows emotional intelligence, why would women want to be with someone who isn’t mature? It’s 100% ok to be vulnerable and to not be perfect but don’t open up by throwing a pity party
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 12:38 AM
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