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Getting called an Oreo or my personal fave, "Halfrican"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 04:31 PM
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So you assume women are lying when they say something that diverges from your understanding of what women think. So there's no point even talking about it anymore. No matter how many times we tell you that attraction can work differently for us, you disregard it. It surprises me that you've never seen someone in a different light the more you learn about them. It surprises me that you've never not been attracted to a woman and then you talk to her and she opens up, makes you feel good and ends u…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 02:37 PM
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According to the women in here, most men are neither attractive nor unattractive. They are just people until we interact with them. Once we interact with them, attraction can grow or not. Dating apps are different and don't reflect real life. I wouldn't have dated half the guys I've dated if I met them on a dating app because they can't make good profiles.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 01:43 PM
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Face. That's #1. Can be vastly improved with a beard according to many women. But not patchy scruff. Just shave at that point. Also, not TOO styled. Sharp edges are kinda weird looking. We like thick, natural but shaped well and taken care of. For me I love nice teeth. A nice smile is soooo attractive. A nice haircut. Hair can drastically change how a person looks. I don't like hair that covers the face (reminds me of Justin Bieber or emo kids, which I liked when I was 13). Decent clothing. No s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 11:43 AM
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They're usually not ones who are appearance-focused (in my experience). For example I'm the same way and I don't wear makeup or spend time on my hair or nails. I wear glasses. I have several pets. I don't care about the latest trends. I don't post on social media besides like news stories or music. I keep to myself and don't talk about myself much. Of course there are girls who spend a lot of time on their appearance and social media who are also not driven by looks or income. But they're usuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 11:26 AM
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Maybe if you live in LA lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 11:19 AM
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This is the way Hey I'm half black too, shout out to the identity crises lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 11:19 AM
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The wife got the kids she wanted, Or the kids she felt obligated to produce, judging by the amount of people who had bad childhoods and old people in nursing homes with no visitors.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 11:14 AM
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We don't like all that
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 11:07 AM
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It's almost like women have different tastes in men 🤯
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 11:05 AM
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When they talk the whole time and comment on your body I had a female massage therapist (I'm female too) and she would comment on my tan lines. It's not particularly offensive but it's just annoying. I just wanna relax and be in less pain. I don't care what you think of my tan lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 11:03 AM
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Depends on your family, community, religion, etc. In my area, men who present traditional masculinity scream "fragile" which isn't really masculine at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 11:02 AM
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The moon cycle
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 10:59 AM
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Didn't know that!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:12 PM
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Sensory issues can come from autism but I don't have the other characteristics. However, it does allow me to empathize.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 09:16 PM
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Kisses count too, right? You wouldn't kiss a third party in a marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 08:45 PM
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Anybody here have sensory issues that make touching/being around other people uncomfortable or impossible? Sometimes I can't be close to someone. If I can smell their breath, I can't breathe. Touching their skin feels like bugs are crawling on me. When they say certain words, especially with "s" or "t" sounds, it's like nails on a chalkboard. Someone shook my hand today and I got a shiver in my spine. Why am I like this? Make it stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 08:43 PM
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Some do. Maybe you haven't been ditched by friends for their new boyfriend. Or you have seen moms and couples lose their friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 07:10 PM
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I chalk it up to being abused by women all their lives (I understand in this case), or never interacting with women and just parroting what others say about them (this one is immaturity). If they've actually met good women, I feel like they wouldn't spew so much hatred.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:59 AM
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Idk hopefully most likely if they hold such bad views of women, they are actually interacting with nasty women. And I know lots of nasty women, and I don't consider myself one of them (I don't gossip or objectify men on the daily and mostly keep to myself). So I'm guessing since you don't hate women, you probably interact with women who are just people, neither horrible nor perfect?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:57 AM
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I don't know your views and I'm not a profile creeper but if you're not one who says "all women are x" and "all men are y", you're doing better than a lot of people in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:54 AM
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Most of what you guys say is because you can't get dates or relationships, though. If you all were in a happy relationship, you wouldn't be on here. You would think more of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:52 AM
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It's like when you're the one black person at a party and they are saying the n-word and then they notice you're there and they're like "oh sorry I'm just used to saying it, I'm not racist or anything. But that guy was acting like a n--- you know?" And you say it's ok because you don't want to be the angry black woman who ruins the party
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:51 AM
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Don't worry, it'll all balance out in a few years when anorexia becomes the fad again. Right now it's implants and filler. Who the f is being told they are perfect?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:48 AM
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Are you asking us to ask for demotions or not go to school? Like what is your solution actually? Or is it that you don't want women to prefer a man who makes more? That's going to be hard because she will be thinking about what happens if she can't work for a long period of time, like, idk, when she has your children? If you want kids, expect to cover the household bills for (depending) 1-2 years per child.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:12 AM
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There's also female forums that are not on reddit, such as Lipstick Alley (black women centred), and lots of mom/baby forums that also talk about love stuff. There are/were daytime shows like Oprah, The Real, etc. that aimed to talk about that stuff too. Those fashion websites and magazines also have love and relationship stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:09 AM
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It's called Cosmo
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:03 AM
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When you're Canadian living near the US border and American men like you on dating apps What are you doing?? You don't even have a passport lol (Semi-joking bc I know some do, chances are bad though)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:02 AM
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Good advice for anyone. Don't take any nudes really. Remember the celebrities whose clouds got hacked? And the celebs actually apologized to the public for being victims of a crime?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 03:59 AM
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Finding this sub was scary at first cuz I'm like "oh no, there are actually men who think like this walking around? I could know men like this?" But then I realized they're probably not interacting with women at all so I breathed a sigh of relief (not talking about you decent men in here, just the women-haters)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 03:55 AM
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When I was a teen, the only male attention I got was sexual harassment from older men. Extremely common. 12-year-old girls get more attention from men than they might ever get in their adult lives. Source: myself, my female family members, and my female friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 03:38 AM
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Loneliness kills though... It doesn't matter the sex. Drugs, anti-depressants, alcohol... Very common for women to try to ease the pain. And loneliness can happen in and out of a relationship. It's one thing to be rejected by a potential partner, but another to be rejected by a real partner. We're all hurting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 03:32 AM
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I was in university not all that long ago and relationships were honestly kinda rare. Nobody wanted to actually be serious. Some might hook up or have fwb/f buddies but others just weren't doing anything. The actual people in relationships were usually fighting all the time 😂 It's stressful being in school. Early 20s are when people are fucking around, changing their majors, dropping out, etc. Relationships are fleeting and not really built to last. Remember people only settle down around age 30…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 03:21 AM
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I always wonder what the men in here would do if someone talked about their daughters the same way these men talk about women in general. If they truly believe that women are heartless golddiggers, that means their daughter must be, too, right? It worries me that they might not think their kids are actually individual people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 03:03 AM
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Yup or even male friends. Those male friends might have female friends who also have more female friends. It goes on and on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 02:54 AM
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I beat out my coworkers for a promotion just because I was the only one who talked in the group chat I literally got a promotion for sending gifs
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 02:52 AM
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Women make men do these Hunger Games Women are making socializing with them unenjoyable for men You make some understandable complaints before this, but then you come to these conclusions. In the example you gave, the woman is literally just sitting there. She's at a party, socializing like everyone else. Why is she to blame if men are coming up to her and doing their mating dances? Sounds like she's actually giving everyone a chance and being friendly. I don't see how she's making anyone do any…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 01:39 AM
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It's a real movie starring Sidney Poitier and it's famous for being an interracial love story on film. This isn't bait, I actually want to watch this movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 01:09 AM
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I know, which is kind of nice. Hopefully it's not offensive to say that I think that part of being blind could be a gift.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 01:06 AM
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Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 01:05 AM
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That's a good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 01:02 AM
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Yeah toxic people can draw you in, that's not a lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 01:01 AM
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Idk, I've never lived with a man romantically. I'm literally just going off what I've heard and read women say. They get home from work, cook dinner, get the kids sorted and into bed, then clean up, then go to bed. The husbands might "help" (why is it helping if it's your house and your kids too?) but most of it rests on the mom. At that point she's got 5% battery left and she's not looking at hubby like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 12:59 AM
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Yep, a "small loan of a million dollars" really gives you the boost
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 12:32 AM
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A Patch of Blue
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 12:22 AM
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TIL there's a 1965 movie where a blind white woman and a black man fall in love and that sounds so wholesome 😍 I'm gonna watch it tonight
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 12:15 AM
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I think some people in here have a hard time doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 12:09 AM
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When is the last time you watched Family Feud? They post clips on YouTube every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 12:08 AM
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If you want to see more average couples, watch Family Feud, Let's Make a Deal, and The Price is Right. Look at the live studio audiences on Seth Meyers, Jimmy Fallon, Stephen Colbert, Jimmy Kimmel, Trevor Noah, James Corden, Saturday Night Live. Search YouTube for live concerts, wedding videos, live street cams. Average couples are everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 10:57 PM
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Why are we doing Men vs. Women when it's really Good people vs. Bad people Clearly not all women are like "x" and not all men are like "y" We just need to find the right people to be around and avoid those who treat us poorly
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 03:46 AM
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I think we've all heard of men who love to take gym selfies and brag about themselves in the bedroom. "Oh you like that don't you? Tell me how much you like that. Call me Daddy. Beg for it. You're a little slut for daddy." Come on, guys get off on women thinking they're hot shit, too
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 03:39 AM
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Or if you listen to women you'll see that many are in happy sexual relationships, and the ones that aren't are for very common reasons. #1 seems to be that she is not attracted to a man who acts like a child and does not clean up after himself. Please speak to women instead of assuming you know what's going on in their heads.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 03:34 AM
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I wonder if the people in here saying that they don't see average couples just have a very strict algorithm on their social media? Like are they too young for Facebook? Are they just viewing thirst traps on Instagram and Tik Tok? Are they just watching porn and scrolling reddit?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 03:25 AM
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If you wanna see more average couples, search for reaction videos on YouTube. Lots of couples laughing and crying together, watching movies, listening to music, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 09:21 PM
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“I mean what else is there for a woman to do if she doesn't want to go from the parental to the marital home with nothing in between? 'An educated woman,' Millie amended. 'An educated woman,' Ursula agreed.” ― Kate Atkinson, Life After Life
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 02:58 PM
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Eartha Kitt in 1981: Eartha: A man comes into my life and you have to compromise? For what? A relationship is a relationship that has to be earned! Not to compromise for. And I love relationships, I think they're fantastically wonderful, I think they're great. I think there's nothing in the world more beautiful than falling in love. But falling in love for the right reasons, falling in love for the right purpose. [...] When you fall in love, what is there to compromise about? INTERVIEWER: Isn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 02:27 PM
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Are your genitals ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:07 PM
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People acting like once a week sex is such a bad thing But they are forgetting that sometimes the cuddles, handholding, kisses, booty grabs, massages, etc. are just as, if not more intimate. If those things aren't there, that's not a dead bedroom, that's a dead house.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 03:16 AM
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Y'all remember in school when it was considered "cool" to have a girlfriend/boyfriend? If you didn't have one, you felt left out, not "popular." It was actually a marker of status to have a gf/bf! People in here talk about women wanting high-status men. But don't men use women to increase their status? How much of this critique of women wanting "high-status men" is actually men competing with each other, trying to be high-achieving and look cool to everyone else? (I'm not saying some women don't…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 03:09 AM
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So the country of Niger has been in the news lately because of insurgency. So I decided to look up some stuff about the country. TIL "Niger has the highest child marriage rate in the world among girls. More than three fourths of girls aged under 18 were married, with nearly 30 percent of them being younger than 15 years old." And apparently boys can only legally marry at age 18, but girls can be 15. 🤮 Very thankful to not live there right now. https://www.statista.com/statistics/1226532/countrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 01:33 AM
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Maybe... I guess my idea of thin is not everyone's. But these women were considered to be the chunkier girls in Hollywood.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 03:11 PM
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No. I'm asking the men who say they want a feminine girl is they are not attracted to these girls who are less feminine than the average celebrity. And I'd say even more women irl are less feminine than these ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 02:48 PM
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Most of them I would never call thin. Thin is Keira Knightley or Zendaya or Cameron Diaz or Taylor Swift. Lower body fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 02:46 PM
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When the men in here say they like thin women, does that mean they're not attracted to: Kate Winslet Eva Mendez Salma Hayek Kate Upton Jennifer Lopez Christina Hendricks Rihanna Jennifer Love Hewitt Beyonce Sofia Vergara Kat Dennings Scarlett Johansson Ariel Winter Fair enough if you're not attracted to them
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 03:51 AM
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When the men in here say they like feminine girls does that mean they're not attracted to: Avril Lavigne Zendaya Kristen Stewart Jennifer Lawrence Cara DeLavigne Michelle Rodriguez Kehlani Rihanna Janet Jackson Alicia Keys Emily Blunt Debbie Harry Alanis Morissette Janelle Monae Drew Barrymore Mila Kunis And characters like: Kim Possible Lindsay Weir (Freaks and Geeks Mikaela Banes (Transformers, Megan Fox) Fair enough if you aren't into that
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 03:31 AM
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Everybody grows it, most women remove it, because it's seen as manly. I'm not saying it's actually manly. Maybe long, bushier body hair is manly, but just body hair itself is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:24 PM
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I'm very confused. Random men are not soulless. They are just people. We treat people with respect (until they do something disrespectful.) Pretty sure most men do the same thing. You're not out here kicking people you aren't attracted to. You're just focusing on whatever you're doing. Can you please explain more about what you think we're doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:21 PM
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Women literally opted out muscle and mass for attractiveness..why fight other animals when you can just have a stronger human do it for you… You're saying women chose something when we didn't. The human species evolved, like most species did, in a certain way. Men and women generally have different strengths. You didn't choose this life and neither did we.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 05:13 PM
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Yeah. I guess maybe the difference is that the high-rise buildings aren't really meant for congregation? They kind of separate people? No idea though...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 12:35 AM
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That's just reddit lol most people are going for a drink or a coffee
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 12:23 AM
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By streets they probably mean no-car streets. I've never been to NYC but do they have pedestrian-only streets like plaza areas?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 12:21 AM
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Because status and success also come with other things - usually a charming personality, a way with words. Men get status and success by manipulating people (good or bad). They win people over. They make smart decisions - maybe risky ones. These are attractive things to a lot of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 12:12 AM
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Depends where you live, too. Go to NYC, you'll see everything. Go to Hicktown Tennessee and you'll see very little variation. Leggings are still very popular where I live. By athletes I mean competitive. Like bodybuilding, weightlifting, wrestling, sprinting, swimming, etc. You can include dancing in here even if it's more of an art form in the public's eyes. Your regular gym-goer is probably wearing looser clothing on top of any spandex he might be wearing. This is true for basketball, too, for…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 12:04 AM
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Men wear tight clothes but I'm talking spandex material. That's usually reserved for athletes, gay men or models.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 11:28 PM
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Idk who the f is saying that but I highly doubt that's what people are saying when they say NPCs. I think we all know people have depth and their own lives. It's just that we're not paying attention to them. They're like NPCs in that they are there, if you talk to them you can learn more about them, but other than that, you're busy with your own things. We probably need to come up with a better term.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 11:14 PM
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Highly contextual... Same thing as saying leg hair is manly, even though every human grows it. It's only acceptable for men to have it, therefore it's "manly". There are some things that are generally provacative outside a beach/swimming pool/similar: A certain amount of cleavage A certain amount of upper thigh Clothes that "cling," showing the shape of your body Clothing that is see-through. Men can wear provacative clothing, too. Tight-fitting tank tops, short shorts... But it's mostly gay men…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 10:36 PM
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Oh ok. Yeah, I took it a different way. How do you look at men when you're in public? Are you really noticing them, sizing them up in some way? Or are they just... there?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 10:23 PM
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Oh, I didn't know being treated like an NPC meant being mistreated. Do most guys treat NPCs badly when they play video games or something? When I think NPC, I just think of the people walking around, day to day life. You smile at them when you pass by, might say hello. Hold the door for them. Talk about the weather, maybe. (I'm Canadian so this stuff is normal. YMMV.) Just treating people like a normal human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 10:06 PM
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I think we don't like when the video games interfere with other parts of our lives. Men say similar things about our phones, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:55 PM
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Were they drinking?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:51 PM
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All the stuff you wrote about "If he is physically attractive, but ___, attraction is gone." DING-DING. BINGO. DEAD ON. Now, some women are okay with casual sex with men they don't really like, or even "hate-fucking" once in a while, but that's certainly not typical.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:44 PM
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Do you blame females of all species or just humans? As if we chose our biology? Why the fuck would we choose for our baby's heads to be bigger than our vaginas to the point that they regularly tear? Why would we choose that our babies can't even hold their heads up and need to eat from our breasts every 2 hours? Why would we choose 4-7 days of pain per month to punish us for not being pregnant? Do you really think we had a say in all this?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:27 PM
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Men want to be noticed in everyday life? I learned something new today.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:23 PM
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Like with most women I think, everything is contextual. If we're single and horny, we might be looking at men in a "would/wouldn't" sort of way. If we're not, we're probably not looking at them at all. The big exception is for men who really stand out (like celebrity good looks). All of this can change once we interact with the guy. If I'm at the lunch table and a guy is making me laugh until my belly hurts, I might notice him. If a guy starts flirting with me, I'll definitely notice him. If a g…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 09:18 PM
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I think the audience is similar to WWE. Some people think it's 100% real, some people think it's 100% scripted, some people don't give a fuck but are entertained regardless because of the characters and stunts.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:52 PM
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Like I said, people follow the female and male contestants. Most women aren't bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:36 PM
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All true.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:34 PM
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I account for that. But following on Instagram isn't dating. Bachelor fans will follow anyone, woman or man, that appears on the show. They are interested in what's going on in their lives. People would rather see what Joey is up to than the other three combined.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:28 PM
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Prettier face and whitest Shorter, less muscly and masculine, not the best educated, not the most aggressive Proof that height is not king Face is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:23 PM
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I've literally seen that argument in this sub The black men are all over 6'0 and the only white guy is 5'11 and he has way more followers than the black men combined Like come on...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:19 PM
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There you go, if he looks better, it doesn't matter if he's the shortest. And "looks better" to most American women is, I guess, whiter.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:18 PM
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That's what you took away from this? My argument is that contrary to popular opinion on this sub, height is not the main thing women are going for. I've always said face is #1. This man has a handsome face, and is white. The rest of the guys are taller, at least one is more educated (PhD biochemistry), literally trying to find a cure for degenerative diseases. They're generally more muscular and more masculine. And they're black. If I'm "mad" about anything, it's that it's clear his whiteness is…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 08:16 PM
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EVIDENCE that HEIGHT is not the #1 factor in a woman's attraction: The Bachelorette contestant with the most new followers is the SHORTEST guy. Hes 5'11. The other guys are all taller, including one who is 6'7. SIX FUCKING SEVEN. Why does he have the most followers? Because he's the only WHITE guy. The other 3 guys are all BLACK. Which makes them less desirable to the mostly white, often conservative audience. Even though the black guys are either more educated, taller, or masculine - nothing co…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 07:23 PM
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This is true, it comes down to the couple working together. But, some people are better off separated. That's also why I think the argument that women divorcing means they don't care about men is stupid because divorce can actually be a good thing for both parties AND the children. If the alternative is constant instability in the home, fighting, chaos, neglect of the kids... Divorce can be the best course of action.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:40 PM
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You're focusing too much on fault here. But you are the one who villifies women. You say that women are only here to use and abuse men to get whatever they want and will dump them as soon as they're useless. But here, you're saying that it's actually more equal, that both parties' needs have to be met, and there's a reason for all of their actions. So which is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:22 PM
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Great, so you recognize that women often have valid reasons to divorce, so this argument that women divorce more because they don't respect men or are just after their money is actually not a great argument at all. (it seems like you weren't as extreme as some others on here, so thank you.) I personally highly doubt that a woman would marry a man she's not attracted to (of course some will but those are outliers). But women can lose attraction over time even if we don't want to. Women WANT to lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:15 PM
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"They want more sex" or "variety of sex." So if she doesn't want sex enough or doesn't want to engage with his fetishes, cheating is justified in some way? And if she divorces, it's her fault the marriage is broken? Would you tell your daughter that she shouldn't have divorced her cheating husband because he was only responding to her not having anal sex enough or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:04 PM
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Do you blame all the victims or just women?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:57 PM
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Then you should say the same about divorcing. There is something the man is doing or not doing to trigger her divorcing, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:54 PM
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Assuming your theory is correct, what starts the lowering vagina output?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:52 PM
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Sounds like one of the most chill divorces ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:50 PM
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How many men are ASKING for alone time with the kids? How many men are LOOKING for ways to help their wives instead of waiting to be told what to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:31 PM
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How many men are initiating ways to save their marriage, like doing more, suggesting therapy, asking friends and family for advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:27 PM
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Women initiate divorce more, sure. But how many men actually break their vows first by "checking out" of the relationship - cheating or neglecting? How many men break up with their wives, date another woman and say "don't worry, babe, we're separated, just gotta sign the divorce papers?" How many men only bother to sign the papers when their new girlfriend wants to get married?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:25 PM
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What does it mean when a man expects his wife to take his name? Is that narcissistic? Some things are just tradition. Same reason why non-religious people put up a Christmas tree. It's just the "way you do things." It doesn't mean it isn't changing. It's becoming more common that the person who asks pays, or they go Dutch. I'm not saying it's right, but calling it narcissistic is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 03:18 PM
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We aren't thinking long-term when we are young because we barely understand the world and each other. Men and women. People change careers usually 7 times. People change their minds about their college major. People change their minds on so many things. They don't know what the f they're doing. Of course someone in their early 20s is going to have a crush on someone, like them, think "this is it," and then realize it's not it. They were going with their feelings, not with their brains. Ask young…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 11:02 PM
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Men want the hot girl for fucking, the good woman for birthing his children, the mom to take care of him (and the children), etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 10:53 PM
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For me, it's just the voice and mannerisms. Everything else is personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 10:47 PM
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Women everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 09:38 PM
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Look on YouTube for curly hair routines. Specifically the Curly Girl method. I highly recommend the "Curl enhancing smoothie" from Shea Moisture and the Curl Keeper hairbrush.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 09:36 PM
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So not the USA either.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 09:27 PM
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Miserable and unhappy men commit the worst atrocities. Turn on the news any given day. We don't want that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 09:26 PM
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I appreciate your comment a lot, but still the words "untouched and unspoiled" is a bit much. It's stigmatizing to women who have been touched without their consent. Also, do you feel like you've really been untouched and unspoiled? You haven't been through BS in your life? You feel innocent? You've never watched sex scenes in movies or porn? Do you think once you have sex, you're spoiled? These attitudes can sometimes have a horrible effect on your sex life once it starts. It's very hard to get…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 09:23 PM
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Random relationship advice videos keep showing up in my feed by a guy called John Delony. Anybody watched him before? Thoughts?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 09:15 PM
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Interesting. Have you asked real women about this or are you parroting things you've read online?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 08:35 PM
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True in some cases, but if women could all have healthy sex lives, they would.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 12:09 PM
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I wish we had a sticky or something with the actual statistics and sources. But that would end most debates. Every single study I've read has shown that men cheat more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 03:50 AM
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Women have an average of 0.5 - 1 more partners than men. Yes, this is more. Given the low numbers, that is significant, but I doubt that's the number you were thinking of. Sexlessness - depends on the study. Going off the first few pages of google search results, I'm seeing an average rate of ~20-25% sexlessness for both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 03:49 AM
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Even if that were 100% true about the lying during interviews, using dating app data is even more flawed because it's not like everyone is using them, and they're often used for casual sexual relationships including couples looking for women, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 12:35 AM
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Men, if you found out you were pregnant right now (whether you've had sex or not), how would you react? Genuinely, think about having a fetus in your abdomen right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 10:37 PM
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I think a lot of personality differences are more like introvert/extrovert, nerdy/basic, ambitious/not, creative/not, higher intelligence/lower intelligence, well-off/struggling, open-minded/closed-off.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 10:34 PM
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If a woman is hungry, tired, or stressed, she probably has -500 sexual desire right now. It's not your responsibility to fix it (though that is boyfriend material if you do), but just FYI. She's most likely not just withholding sex to punish you - she literally feels NOTHING sexually at the moment. I don't think men are wired the same way. Correct me if I'm wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 08:56 PM
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A man's attractiveness can go up and down wildly depending on how he speaks and how he treats us. When a man is saying something insensitive or being rude in general, we lose all attraction until we're no longer upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 08:47 PM
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Some men here talk about women like they're an alien species as if we're not sitting here on the toilet scrolling just like you are We're just more likely to be bleeding from our genitals at the same time S/O to any fellow menstruating or pregnant ladies in here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 08:36 PM
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STEM LORD 😭😂
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 08:30 PM
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Very true, to the point that I've seen some men put their HIV status in their Grindr profiles. (Not sure if this is commonplace.)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 08:25 PM
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And what do they define as sex? Are they getting handies and blowies or giving oral/fingers but they're not reporting that? Are they happy with cuddling most nights and don't miss the sex as much as sexless guys might imagine?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 08:21 PM
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Since when do women want to share their man? Women are more monogamous than men. Men are more often the ones asking for threesomes and cheating on their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 08:19 PM
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It's interesting that you call it "punishment" for women not giving up their vaginas to you. That really reveals a lot about what you feel entitled to. Would you tell your daughter to make sure she doesn't punish men and give it up more?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 08:17 PM
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Haven't you heard of women liking big guys? They give the best bear hugs? They are comfy to cuddle? They feel smaller and protected by their big men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 08:14 PM
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Literally just google the average amount of sex partners people have in their lifetimes. It's around 2-7. Men AND women. You think women are hooking up WAY more than they actually do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 08:05 PM
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I agree that children are often treated like trash by parents, male or female. But it's something different to know that your child is going to live 80-something years and you don't even want to see them. How can you create a life and then treat it so poorly? At least visit and try to support them as much as you can if you can't handle being a caretaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 11:42 AM
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have even been corrupting academia that is supposed to study these things objectively Agreed, by the time I was done with my 4-year degree, I was tired of hearing about the same things, even if the stats, etc. were true, why are we not looking at this stuff from all angles? sexist individuals with power doing sexist shit and your average feminist should call them out for it instead of excusing them. Yes, this can be applied to almost any issue - people in power, people who are the loudest are no…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 11:34 AM
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I don't know why women fail at it more often, perhaps they underestimate what it takes to really end your life, perhaps they change their minds more often halfway through, perhaps they have more friends and family who intervene, and perhaps many of them don't have as much intention, as you said. It might be more of a self-harm thing than a full-on suicide for some. But I dislike when they say suicide is a man's problem caused by women when women are very suicidal as well. So many people are stru…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 11:23 AM
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I also wanna add that I think feminism opened up a lot of resources for women, and a lot of these same initiatives could really help men too. I also am really disgusted by whenever you hear of boys/teens being abused by older women like their teachers, it's usually men in the comments using laughing emojis and saying he was the luckiest guy ever, etc. I even had a guy brag to me once in high school that our teacher was his girlfriend and they used to hook up. I remember thinking that was gross t…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 10:49 AM
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It's the method. Men use more effective methods. Guns, jumping, hanging. Women use drugs, cutting wrists, drowning. It's harder to survive a more violent suicide attempt. Yes, when you hear of abuse in the home, domestic violence, you think of men beating women because it's more common. Men are expected to be able to defend themselves and overpower a woman any day of the week. And it's not always true. It is unfair to not take guys seriously when they say they've been abused. I look down on any …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 10:28 AM
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Are you a sociopath or just hate yourself that much? That's your flesh and blood. That's how you value yourself? Throw it away?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 09:19 AM
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A significant number doesn't mean that the stats are way off though. If women attempt 1.5-2 times more than men, even if you were being conservative saying a significant amount were just cries for help, it would still be more than men. The abuse stuff - my point still stands. Women can abuse men and get away with it, and men can abuse women and get away with it. So it's not something that only men are dealing with. WOMEN have been dealing with not being believed since forever, too. Why say it's …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 09:17 AM
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It's not nonsense. I do think it's disrespectful to the animal to pose it like that before it even turned cold. It's one thing to see it prepared and another to be posing all proud that you just shot a deer while its guts are hanging out. It's like posting a photo with your family member in a coma rather than a nice picture of them before they were in a coma. It's called "bad taste."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 03:53 AM
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I said "so many", just like you said "some". I could probably cite sources that say literally MILLIONS of men are absent fathers, MILLIONS of men don't want to pay child support, MILLIONS of children are raised by single mothers, etc. There are ~350 million in the USA last time I checked? It's not a stretch to say millions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 03:37 AM
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The suicide thing is important because 1) most people don't know that women are attempting suicide at higher rates, and 2) many men in this sub blame women for high male suicide rates because women are making them lonely. The abuse stuff is there because many men in this sub say that now women are very privileged because they can hit and man and get away with it. Men have had that "privilege" for all of human history, including now. It's actually not a privilege at all, it's a disgusting practic…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 03:34 AM
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It's a common thread among victims that they say their abuser wasn't abusive at first. It takes about 3 months for red flags to appear and then you are able to excuse them away because "they're so nice". And sometimes things just flip after the wedding because now they got you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 03:27 AM
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Women fall in love with the man they want to marry and then they marry them. If a woman makes you feel like a settlement, she's no good and you gotta leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 03:21 AM
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Yes, usually vegans and vegetarians are bothered by that. But the average woman probably doesn't care as long as it doesn't still have fur, eyes, teeth, a big bloody wound, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 03:17 AM
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Yeah the only animals I wanna see are the cute pets! Show me puppies and kitties
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:53 AM
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It says something about a person when they hold up a corpse of something, take a smiling picture and post it online. What happened to respecting the animal that spent its last moments in pain so that you could eat?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:47 AM
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You're estranged from reality. Go to the mall, the beach, downtown, a nature park, a restaurant, pretty much everywhere, and you'll see average people in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:43 AM
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I had a boyfriend who wanted me to wear short shorts to attract other men because he liked to show off that he had a hot girlfriend. So some guys like the attention that their ladies get because it makes them feel like they got something good and increases their social status. I normally dress modestly and I don't post on social media, so I don't know about thirst traps. But yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:32 AM
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I'm responding to "women have so many options, it's so easy for them, they only want the top 5% of men." Well maybe if you saw what women actually experience, you'd see that it's not all grass is greener.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:29 AM
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That's disgusting. 😡 Humanity is really something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 01:13 AM
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They like to orgasm inside a vagina and that's all they are thinking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 12:14 AM
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Imagine growing up without a dad because when he found out you existed, he ran away to another country.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/23 12:14 AM
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orgasm and lubrication is necessary for pregnancy: What is this bullshit? Most children wouldn't be born if this was the case. Women don't usually cum from PIV sex. And does this mean you think pregnant victims of rape are lying? Most of them probably were not cumming or wet when they were raped (although it does sometimes happen as an involuntary biological response.) Please tell me this is a whoosh moment for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:52 PM
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Women aren't second class citizens anymore. We actually don't have to put up with being disrespected anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:47 PM
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Men - Borrow a woman's phone, go to a dating app and look at the guys on there. If you were a girl, would you date most of these men? Smokers? No bio? Can't spell 1 word correctly? Only 1 picture? Holding up dead animals they've killed? Guzzling beer shirtless at a party? Leaning on multiple cars they probably don't even own? Cringey poses, squatting, showing off their flashy outfits while staring into the distance? Memes instead of pictures of themselves? I'm not saying women on apps aren't cri…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:40 PM
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Don't eat anything with raw onions or garlic when you're going on dates if you want the person to enjoy kissing you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 09:58 PM
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When somebody keeps saying "That's crazy" or "Wow" when you're having a conversation, that means they want to stop the conversation or change topic. Let them take over the interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 09:48 PM
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It's amazing that women will even date men at all. Nearly half of female [homicide] victims are killed by a current or former male intimate partner. https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/66/wr/mm6628a1.htm?s_cid=mm6628a1_w 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence (beating, burning, strangling) https://ncadv.org/STATISTICS The percentage of females murdered by an intimate partner was 5 times higher than for males . https://bjs.ojp.gov/female-murder-victims-and-victim-o…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 08:48 PM
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Why are there so many absent fathers if "women don't value family" anymore? Why are there so many men fighting child support or refusing to parent their children? Why are so many men flippant about wearing condoms when they don't want children?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:57 PM
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Why are so many common ideas in this sub just blatantly wrong? Statistics show men cheat more often than women, men marry another woman way sooner after divorce, men verbally, physically and sexually abuse women way more than vice versa, and men attempt suicide much less than women (although men succeed more often). I absolutely sympathize with men who are victims of cheating, abuse, unwanted divorce, and suicide, but some of you are not realizing that these are problems for everybody, not just …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 07:46 PM
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Men are rarely providers, they are contributers
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 04:39 PM
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By doing things, I meant literally anything. And it doesn't have to include a partner. Travelling, doing different jobs, staying out late, spending a bunch of money, doing risky things like skydiving, etc. A lot of this stuff is really hard to do once you have kids. And what makes a partner special? Every person is a unique individual. Even identical twins are completely different people. You can still get butterfly feelings and fall in love even if you've experienced it before. It's a different…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 06:03 AM
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It's interacting with me and making me feel like we "get" each other and have a bond. This is it. You can't pay me enough to be with a guy who has 10/10 looks and personality but 0/10 chemistry. It's literally painful to be around someone you cannot connect with. The chemistry needs to be as high as humanly possible. They're not my life partner if it's not. They might be my "crush" but I'm not gonna spend years with someone I don't gel with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 07:34 PM
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If you campaign enough to get the laws changed then maybe they can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:25 PM
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Good luck 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 03:21 AM
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It also put an uncomfortable "pressure" on the date going well - whether you like her, whether she makes you feel good, whether she's hot enough, or whatever. Dates are supposed to be about getting to know one another, not really impressing each other or showing off. You both sound young.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:51 AM
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And this is our fundamental difference, I think. It seems you think that women who desire a man must also value that man. And then when they lose desire, suddenly the man is worthless. Maybe that's been your experience or what you've observed and that fucking sucks. If that's true, do you think it works the same way with men? That if a man desires a woman, that means he finds her valuable? And if he doesn't desire a woman, that means she's worthless? I've been around people who think that way, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:55 AM
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First of all, most people in NA/UK are fat and broke and many are also what you might call "ugly." They're still fucking. But second, you're changing the goalposts. You were saying "value" and now you're saying "desire." Two very different things. For example, a woman can absolutely love and cherish you as a person, literally crawl through a burning house for you, name her child after you, etc. but not desire you. That doesn't mean she doesn't value you, or that you're not the most important per…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 12:56 AM
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Idk, maybe you've been to Vegas before and you got arrested and don't wanna go back (i.e. You were burned by a previous guy) or maybe you're sober & can't be around alcohol (i.e. You're guarded, shy, have anxiety or trauma, and you want a guy who can relate.) Maybe you have family in Birmingham (this guy reminds you of your family, your home.) Maybe Birmingham is more humble and less flashy (you hate cocky guys, you want someone down-to-earth.) Maybe Birmingham has a special je-ne-c'est-quoi (th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 12:31 AM
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It's not about "enough", it's about "compatible." Like I know Vegas is super fun for most with all the lights and alcohol and gambling and noise... But I don't want to go to Vegas right now. I did in the past but now I'm just not feeling it. Maybe I will in the future, but I don't right now. Here, best friend, take my ticket to Vegas and go have fun. You're gonna love it. But for now, I'd rather stay home or buy a ticket to somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 12:10 AM
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I understand why that would be really disheartening. I didn't see that Instagram post, but I've been in similar situations. Maybe I can help you understand from her POV? Girls/women sometimes feel like all they have to offer the world is their bodies or pretty face. So if they're funny, smart, creative, talented, etc., it doesn't really matter, as long as they're pretty. If they're not pretty, they're worthless. (Clearly not true, but that's how we feel sometimes.) That's why some girls/women wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 12:03 AM
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Women generally aren't out here ranking men like they're watching the stock market or calculating what players are gonna be traded on sports teams. It's not some well planned out, conscious organizational system where they add and subtract value like they do in sex trafficking or child marriage. They're not assessing nor determining anyone's value. Some women are pickier than others about the type of man they want to be with. Others are just looking for a connection with anyone, regardless of an…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 11:26 PM
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He was probably taught as a kid that it's okay to lash out in anger when you're hurt or disappointed. When I get extremely mad, I retreat, because that's what my mom did.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 09:33 PM
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Or demonize the nice guy to the point of making him more abusive You can't make somebody become abusive, that's their choice
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 06:24 PM
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Sure most of it is but that doesn't mean porn is for men. That's like saying long hair is for women. Men can still have long hair
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:52 PM
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Happy for y'all Send some links, help a sista out
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:51 PM
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Good resource but unfortunately a lot of it has been deleted or unlisted waiting for verification.. And some of it is still not great. 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:48 PM
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I don't know why, really. Same reason you want to do anything - it feels good. No other particular reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:13 PM
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Ha! I'll pass then 😂 Good luck with your search lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:06 PM
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There is a market for it Unfortunately women tried porn a few times and were so disappointed they never tried it again
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:06 PM
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I would ask what kind of porn you're finding difficult to find, but I'm not sure I wanna know 😂 if it's not violent or illegal I wouldn't mind knowing lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:05 PM
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Interesting, I never noticed that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:03 PM
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Most of it is the same... It's still focused on the woman and the man makes no noise
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:02 PM
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It can be for anybody
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:02 PM
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Most can't, unfortunately. Biology really fucked with women
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:01 PM
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They're a very good, usually low-key pet and they are usually allowed in apartments, unlike other pets.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 03:59 PM
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I can speak for Canada - we have a lower birth rate, and the only reason our population is growing is because we're bringing in millions of immigrants. We need them for cheap labour and more kids to grow our population.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 03:57 PM
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Most women aren't sleeping around Most people don't marry their first love People who get married younger actually divorce more often Most women want to do things before they're tied down with kids People see that many of their parents are divorced and they don't wanna make the same mistake People are told by previous generations to wait longer for marriage and kids - "don't make the same mistakes I did" People are immature in their 20s and have unhealthy relationships - we weren't taught how to…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 03:53 PM
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More porn should be made to appeal to women It's like a needle in a haystack to find a video where the frame actually includes the man, he is actually making noise, and the woman isn't screaming in fake pleasure and/or pain Yes, most women in porn are either in pain or have a low chance of cumming, much like irl Get it together women, let's make better porn
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 03:47 PM
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Do you think if a woman values you, she will have sex with you? Do you think if a woman has sex with you, it means she values you? Or are they not correlated?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:03 AM
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I don't know anything about her besides like one song. But I think if you're obese, the reason is more than likely an unhealthy relationship to food. It doesn't matter if all you eat is healthy food - if you eat too much, you're going to gain weight. The exceptions are other medical problems, of course, like a hormonal or metabolic imbalance. Imo, body positivity has done a lot of good in making people feel less insecure about not only their body shape but their scars, stretch marks, loose skin,…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 09:32 PM
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What is mistreatment to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:05 AM
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In traditional societies, men marry very young right after falling in love. Do you think that was by choice? Wasn't it mainly religion and societal pressure influencing young people to marry? Can't have sex or move in together until marriage, can't have babies until marriage? And remember that men have always married at an older age than women (still do) - they are putting off marriage much later than women. You really think if given the choice, men would want to marry like right out of high sch…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 11:59 PM
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You've used yourself as an example and quoted Batman. I think if you asked women they'd say they lost weight for society standards/fitting in/health/confidence/fun more often than attracting men. Attractiveness to men correlates for sure, but it's hardly the driving factor. Take other things people do for example: trying out 100 different makeup techniques, getting a different colour on your nails done, buying your 50th pair of heels or sneakers, etc. A lot of these are done with no regard for h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 11:40 PM
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To me, weddings and marriages are separate. Lifelong commitment vs. a party / family gathering.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 07:41 AM
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Men are famously scared of commitment and don't want to be locked down. We've all heard stories of women waiting 7+ years for a man to propose. Men are also more likely to cheat. We've all got agency in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 07:38 AM
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It's interesting how men think women have all the control with dating when men are famously scared of commitment and don't want to be locked down. We've all heard stories of women waiting 7+ years for a man to propose.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 07:35 AM
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Were you 100% in on all of these women? Would you have cut it off if you were no longer interested?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 07:19 AM
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My mom finds Ryan Gosling unattractive so we approve of that message. Also fun fact, they casted him in The Notebook because they actually wanted someone not very attractive to play the role. That's probably why they wrote his character as basically harassing/charming Rachel McAdams into going out with him. Nobody was supposed to be swooning for him. That backfired.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 07:08 AM
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Women lose weight while in relationships and marriages - does that mean they all want to cheat? Would you say a man only loses weight or gets fit just to attract women? They do it because endorphins, disease prevention, longer life expectancy, competition/social reasons, etc. Do you think women don't care about that stuff or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 06:55 AM
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Yes, a lot of the sentiment in this sub is alarming. I've never heard of a guy outside of religion openly saying they only want a virgin. Non-religious guys who want that... I think they have some kind of unhealthy hangup, jealousy or resentment. Maybe not all, but it seems that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 06:47 AM
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Most women in the west have changed their priorities from building family to personal achievements. Most women are still becoming mothers. The difference is they also work outside the home more than ever. But women have always been needed in the workforce as farmers, nurses, teachers, tailors/clothiers, nannies, telephone operators, food service, factory workers, cleaners, social workers, hairstylists, shopkeepers, laundry workers, housekeepers, retail saleswomen, typists, accountants, clerical …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 06:38 AM
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I think you're focusing a lot on the physical aspect of genitalia. Perhaps you have an aversion to semen? I used to feel similar to that when I hadn't had sex yet or been in a relationship. Sexual arousal actually cuts off the part of your brain that induces disgust. Sex is messy but it doesn't feel gross in the moment. Why don't you think about it this way... A woman was in a relationship, it didn't work out for whatever reason. Then she meets you. She falls in love. You have a connection unlik…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 05:57 AM
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You can find the average woman who has had sex with a few guys she was in a relationship with and maybe a 1 night stand or 2. If you think that's emasculating then that's unfortunately how you feel. But a wonderful person might come along and you turn them down because they've been in relationships before? At that point you're hindering your own happiness. There are some women who would consider you a disgusting person for jerking it to videos of other women for decades, but most don't give a fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:23 AM
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According to a 2012 Gallup poll of more than 60,000 U.S. women, non-employed moms of young children are more likely to report anger and sadness, and they are also more likely to have ever been diagnosed with depression than their employed counterparts. [...] They were less likely to describe themselves as thriving or to say they smiled a lot or laughed a lot yesterday. Having a mother with depression can also affect children later in life. For one thing, it influences academic performance. Havin…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:01 AM
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I understand why you wouldn't see many people since you don't get out much. But honestly, there are so many people in relationships. Attractiveness is subjective, but when you consider over 50% of the American/Canadian/UK population are overweight/obese, most people are living paycheck to paycheck, not really remarkable... Most people are just watching Netflix, doing their regular chores/errands, taking the kids out to the park, and might go on a drive on the weekend. When buddies meet up to wat…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:31 AM
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I mean of course. We've all heard of old couples who have been married 50 years and are still going strong. But often everyone is like "Wow, congratulations! That's so great, so rare these days! What's your advice? How did you do it?" It's not seen as something everyone can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:37 PM
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Idk, I can't think of any Western women, regardless of political affiliation, that would be ok with cutting off her female friends because her hubby doesn't like it. Maybe if she's happily in a cult or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:13 PM
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Seems like a more enjoyable existence more and more every day - for both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:11 PM
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Wow. I guess there goes that myth that this new generation of millennials don't care about marriage, citing the divorce rate. We shouldn't really be surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:10 PM
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In any way within a romantic relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:22 AM
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Look at the couples around you. Go to the mall. Go to the grocery store. Go to the beach. Look on Facebook. These places are full of ugly couples. They're full of poor couples. They're just regular people. Where are you looking that you're only seeing hot rich guys with girls? Instagram or something? That's so far from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:21 AM
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There's nothing wrong with joking about the hardships that come with a lifelong relationship like that I agree, but these jokes are something else. Joking about poisoning your spouse or your happiness ending after marriage is extreme. There are so many older couples who are clearly unhappy but they can't be bothered to find someone else, or they don't know how to be alone. There was a lot of pressure to get married and have kids back then - by society and by religion. If you got a girl pregnant,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 10:19 PM
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It's easier to be defeatist than it is to recognize that you are more than able to find someone, even if it's hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:43 PM
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You're valuable whether you're attractive to most women or not. If you make more money, more women may be attracted to you but your value as a person does not increase. And those women I described - they're not going to base their value assessment of you on anything other than who you are as a person. A woman who just wants to play D&D with you and make tacos is not going to love you more when you get a promotion - she might actually be sad that you spend less time at home, because she misses yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:37 PM
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Lots of "most of the time" "statistically" "less leeway" "average woman" "most people". You know it just takes one person to love you, right? You don't need "the average woman" or "most people" to think you're attractive - unless that's your goal. You can find a woman who is actually similar to you and appreciates all of you, including your so-called "weaknesses". Even you pointed out that fat people often attract fat people. Little people often attract little people. This applies to everything.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:02 PM
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The older generations had the exact same issues, but they chose to stay together regardless Were they all really "together" though? Have you heard all the boomer jokes about hating your husband/wife? Telling people that once you get married, your happiness is over? Have you heard the advice from older people today - wait to have or don't have kids, don't get married or rush into marriage, don't rely on a man, "I gave up on my dreams to have you kids?" These people really seemed to dislike the ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 08:46 PM
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It's not just how women work, the same as it's not just how men work that they only want a sexy woman to impregnate. People are individuals. Maybe you haven't met a giving woman yet. There are empathetic, caring, kind women who want to make other people happy. There are women who just want companionship - somebody to sit on the front porch with, someone to go camping with, travel with, hold hands with, watch Netflix with, play boardgames with. Some women are even selfless - always doing things f…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 08:33 PM
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At this point it's just a difference of whether you're talking about individual survival or species survival. Either way, your wife won't ever "need" you, biologically. She and the human species can live without you. If your sperm doesn't make it to her ovum, nobody's going to die.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 08:18 PM
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I mean, that's factually untrue. I could point out the extremes like many 500-700+ lb people are in relationships, disfigured people, little people (under 4ft tall), autistic people, disabled people, homeless drug addicts, people on Death Row or long prison sentences... You know, stuff you can see on TLC or just walking around a big city. But I don't have to point out extremes. It's not like every 5'3 man is single. It's not like everyone who works at a call center or a convenience store is sing…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 08:07 PM
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I feel like it's impossible to really choose a "ride or die" person who will always love you or need you. Some people can be together for 50 years and fall out of love. Life circumstances change. People grow apart. It's not ideal, but it happens. Remember the post asking men if they would leave their girlfriends/wives if she gained 50 pounds? Out of dozens of responses, only 1 or 2 said they would stay. If the SO doesn't want to have sex? Most would leave. A child dies? Someone gets depression? …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 07:55 PM
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Well I'm sorry that's happening to you. You are valuable beyond anything a woman would want from you. If a woman or women made you feel this way, I'm sorry. There are some really heartless people out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 07:36 PM
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This pyramid is scientifically innacurate, because sex is not a biological or physiological need. You can die of old age as a virgin. You can't die of old age without the other things. If your woman "needs" you on a biological level, that means she has no control over her circumstances. And vice versa. But I'm sure you'd agree that you could split up and still survive. Or if one of you dies, the other would still live.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 07:30 PM
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It seemed fetish-like when I read that you want a woman to be "a-dick-ted" to you on a biological level. Now I think I know what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 07:15 PM
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Is this a fetish/kink, or is it actually a preference for the type of relationship you want? Sorry if this is offensive, but it does sound a bit like a slavery kink or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 06:51 PM
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Ok, but do you want women to need you or want you? And since you brought it up, what do you want or need a woman for?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 06:47 PM
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Oh LOL I thought you were making fun of me. Yes Ella was a true treasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:44 PM
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"only feel really turned on by blonde or ginger people" That's a misrepresentation though. "Really turned on" implies that you can feel turned on by non blonde/gingers, just not REALLY turned on. With demisexual, we're talking about a person literally unable to feel any sort of sexual attraction to any person ever, until they really know them. That is actually a big thing. That means NO interest in sex with them, even at a primal level. It's not that they just prefer sex within a relationship. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:43 PM
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Is that like a trope or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:26 PM
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I didn't know that's what you were talking about... I thought you were just commenting on influential big black women. My bad. Obesity wasn't marketed, and unless I live under a rock, the only thing I've seen being marketed in terms of body size is loving your body no matter what. I only know Lizzo for her music and trying to uplift women who were told they weren't beautiful because they have a difficult relationship with food. If she's actively promoting getting to an unhealthy size, then that'…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:19 PM
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You can't "prefer" who you're attracted to. It's not a choice. Your actions are a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:46 PM
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How is demisexual not a sexuality? It means you don't get turned on by someone until you get to know them. It means you wouldn't get a hard-on or wet just by looking at them unless you know who they are. Sexuality is about who you're ATTRACTED to - not what you actually DO with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:27 PM
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Idk you've got Ella Fitzgerald, Aretha Franklin... You've got Queen Latifah... You've got Oprah... Whoopi Goldberg.. Jennifer Holliday... And these are all black women. Lots of white ones, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:19 PM
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Is telling your girlfriend not to see her friends unless it's on his terms a standard, or something else? Remember that he said she could see her girlfriends for a coffee or drink, but nothing else. I can understand the thirst pics, but what kind of standard is that? And would he be okay if she wouldn't want him to see his buddies unless it's on her terms?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:03 PM
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He can leave any time he wants. He has his preferences. Unfortunately, his preferences would be unreasonable to most women. I don't know one woman who would happily let her man decide when and where she sees her female friends. Maybe male, but female? She would be walking on tiptoes to make sure her interactions with others wouldn't piss him off. That's no way to live. There's a reason why one of the signs of domestic abuse is isolation from your friends and family. If you have no one else to le…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:57 PM
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