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ExcellentCup3100/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 06:04 AM
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Mine comes out of my paycheck automatically, which I don't mind. But it does make basic survival difficult. Not impossible , just difficult.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 07:07 PM
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Codependency
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 05:53 PM
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In a 12 step program, what you described would be step 4. Taking a fearless moral inventory of your past behaviors and evaluating how they affected your loved ones. It's tough, but it tells you more about who you have been and not only how it affected them, but also how it affected you. In doing my own work I discovered I had bad boundaries and allowed things to go unresolved because I didn't want people to think negatively of me, but in doing so, it caused people not to respect me or my needs. …
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 04:23 PM
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When the divorce was finalized. Though I stopped wearing my ring the moment I knew it was over.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 03:21 AM
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Therapy dude. You need to dig into the reasons you made the choice you did.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/26 03:45 AM
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You may need to consider a different lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 03:34 AM
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Break even is often the best-case scenario. If you get stuck with alimony or child support, it can make basic survival difficult unless you have a really good income.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/26 10:32 PM
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I've been divorced for 11 years. I had a certain relief at first because I was mostly leaving a toxic situation (except for coparenting), but I had stuff in mind I wanted to do and I did them. That vision didn't quite pan out the way I had hoped, but I have no regrets about making the attempt. What I did have to learn however, was to let go of the fantasy I had in my head, and learn to accept reality, as well as mourn the loss of the life I thought I would have. It's actually been kind of freein…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 02:25 AM
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She literally told me she didn't love me.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/25 03:29 AM
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Get a lawyer and fight like hell. If you can afford therapy do it. Surround yourself with friends and family who support you. You are going to need to lean on them, and if they truly care about you they'll be there for you. There are phases to this. It's a lot like the grieving process. Be patient, be kind to yourself, be there for your son as much as you can. He will have questions, and you need to be as honest as you can, without being overly negative about your ex to him. The battle is betwee…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/25 03:13 AM
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If you can afford a lawyer, get one. They'll be way better at informing you of your rights and what she is and is not entitled to. My ex and I were relatively poor, so we agreed to not use lawyers, and worked out an "agreement" that was notarized and filed with the divorce papers. I really wish I had a lawyer look that shit over before we filed. I won't share details, but there's some things in there that I really wish I hadn't agreed to. It's been a decade of relative misery with about 4 more y…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 03:45 AM
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Mine was always a manipulative one, and I just ignored it because she would always get to the point of making me feel loved. But after having kids it got really hard really quick. Suddenly nothing I did was ok. I wasn't allowed to relax or indulge in the things that made me happy. I tried to stick with it until I realized I was losing my sense of self. She finally told me she didn't love me, and that was it. I wasn't going to stick around "for the kids", as that would set a bad precedent for the…
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 11:32 PM
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Yeah, it happens. Just take your time and go easy on yourself. My brain reverted to my 19-year-old self with all of the insecurities I had back when I met my ex. I fumbled numerous times. I'm at a point now (with help from therapy and in my case a support group) where I'm enjoying just doing my own thing and enjoying the peace when I'm at home by myself. I do still go on dates from time to time, but I've learned to not expect anything other than a fun evening. If it turns into something, cool, i…
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 08:41 PM
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Around the time of my divorce, I was invited to a party at a strip club. There were um, "substances" going around that I normally wouldn't have taken, but I was getting divorced and needed to escape for a bit. It was a wild night, and I managed to not get into trouble, but I did have fun in a way I hadn't in a long time. It was much needed at the time, and it's behind me now, but I am grateful for the experience.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/25 09:02 PM
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Best thing you can do is a clean break. I'm guessing there was something about the relationship that changed internally for her. I hope you were able to figure it out in therapy. Women change as they get older and menopause really does a number on them. My ex changed after having kids. But we were still sexually compatible for another 2 years while working out the divorce agreement. It was hot, but in hindsight we probably shouldn't have done it. I think because we started out in bed, it just be…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/25 01:28 AM
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For the most part I'm just done. It took me awhile to get over my anger. There are certain things I can forgive, but I cannot forget and that's why we divorced. We have kids so I'm doing my best to be civil with her, but once they're grown up, I'm distancing myself from her as much as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/25 10:31 PM
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Nope! Go through the court every time.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 05:40 AM
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