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Gas pains
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 12:34 AM
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It doesn't matter whether it's an impersonal business transaction or not; you still must be selected as a prospective client every bit as much as she is selected as the carrier. There are carriers who will reject you because they don't like you as a person and don't want to deal with you for the entire conception process and pregnancy. You cannot reproduce on your own. All reproduction is permitted by women, and you cannot escape that. Adoption is an option, but that's not reproduction. I will s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 12:10 AM
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Right, you're just going up to those women to make friends with them, I suppose?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 12:06 AM
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You're missing the fact that the surrogate, unless being forced, still needs to consent to the surrogacy, which means a woman stills needs to permit you to reproduce. And unless the surrogate is very poor and very desperate (in which case, she's more likely to be in conditions that are not ideal for your developing child,) she probably has her choice of people for whom to carry, and won't take "anyone who pays." You obviously have no idea what it's like to care for a newborn, let alone by yourse…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 09:42 PM
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I hate to inform you, bud, but surrogacy still requires a woman willing to gestate your child. Except she instead of doing it for free and helping you parent the child, she'll ask for thousands of dollars and dump the baby on you afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 08:23 PM
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No no, not third parties. It takes TWO people to reproduce. So at least one woman has to agree to you impregnating her. If no woman wants that to happen... I'm sorry hun, but women have collectively decided you are unfit for reproduction.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 06:24 PM
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Who do you think you are that you think you should get to reproduce?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 06:05 PM
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Seeking them out and giving them your number is chasing them 🤦
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 02:28 PM
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Yeah we know
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:42 PM
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There are probably other reasons for those behaviors
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:42 PM
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Yeah let me know how that goes for you, waiting for women to just fall in your lap for just existing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 05:40 PM
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And skanky gym outfits!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:28 PM
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Me but at Tractor Supply Co. Do not let me go unsupervised I will come home with $400 worth of gardening supplies
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:25 PM
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Donald Musk
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:22 PM
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They really don't know when we're joking. I am SO unserious and I have to tell them half the time otherwise they just assume I'm a dumb bitch. It's like come onnn
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:22 PM
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Men only get female pursuants when they are Chad. Most men are not Chad. Therefore generally speaking, men pursue, women select.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:17 PM
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Men are the pursuants and women are the selectors, typically. The kneeling is to symbolize that he wants to dedicate his provision and protection to her for all his life, and he's asking her to choose him as a lifetime partner and forsake all her other options. It's like a kneeling before royalty to be knighted and pledge fealty. It's romance, you see. You should try it sometime.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:14 PM
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But you need to make a valid argument for why you think society should change its current opinions. You haven't.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:09 PM
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Also I saw SO many hot women yesterday
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:07 PM
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I watched the cutest little baby I've ever seen for the church service yesterday. She had the prettiest icy blue eyes and big chubby cheeks and delicate little cupid bow lips, and her arms and legs were covered in sun-toasted rolls (you know how the sunlight doesn't get in between them so they're darker on top but still pale in between? Amazing.) But she was HEAVY and she wouldn't let me put her down or hand her off for the ENTIRE HOUR, and today my biceps are cooked 😅 My regular upper body days…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:04 PM
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Are you sure that's not a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 12:59 PM
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I don't understand this insistence that hookups don't bother to get women off? Like typically men find women getting off to be hot and ime they try pretty hard to do it, especially if they want to fuck her again
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 12:57 PM
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Right, and Western society determined that women should be allowed to sleep with whomever they please, and men who feel some type of way about it are icky. Suggesting this needs to be inverted is not "holding women accountable." Your argument is circular.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 12:55 PM
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Maybe we need to "hold men accountable" for the underlying beliefs about sex and women that typically accompany n count "preferences." Cuz all you're really doing here is making a circular argument: Women shouldn't sleep around --> because I don't like it --> Women don't like that I don't like it --> we need to hold them accountable for sleeping around by making them accept that I don't like it --> then women wouldn't sleep around, as they shouldn't --> because I don't like it...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 06:07 PM
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Just over here expressin' my thoughts. Sorry if you don't like 'em
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:46 PM
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"Doesn't matter, still hit."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:45 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:37 PM
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Have you tried being chadly?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:36 PM
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There are so many ugly to average looking men with attractive personalities... They will talk their way into your pants and then one day you look up at them in bed and get the ick and then it's ovar
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:30 PM
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What does "holding them accountable" look like, in this instance? The particular men who care about n count not selecting high n women as partners? I have news, friendo, neither high n women nor low n women find low-n-count-"preferences" to be attractive traits in partners either. You're not punishing them by filtering yourselves out of the dating pool; you're doing them a favor.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 11:58 PM
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Of course women compare partners. Literally everyone does. That's why you just focus on getting gud at sex
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 11:53 PM
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Right, of course it's women's fault if men want to treat them nicely, because they're not aware of their own simpery.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 08:09 PM
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Neither is bad. I did sex work in the past; I don't feel worse about myself for doing so. I also didn't look down upon my male clients. However, I think the people buying sex are often resorting to that when they can't get it for free. (Though some of them just do it because it's easier than seducing/dating people.)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 07:39 PM
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People are happiest when they don't engage in those things. The simplest things in life give pleasure to those who aren't dopamined out
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 07:27 PM
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Yes it is. Although, so is social media and junk food, so who am I to be saying it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 07:24 PM
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This is so sweet ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 07:22 PM
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Stop watching porn. It's bad for your brain
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 07:21 PM
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A woman told me I smell good yesterday and I was so fucking pleased. Not only because it was a compliment from a woman, but because I mix up my own signature scented body oil. She wanted to know if I sold it. 💁‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 07:20 PM
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It's not using them if they're willing participants.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 07:17 PM
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And people should also be honest about their n count preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 06:00 PM
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Best age ever
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 05:57 PM
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Why do you keep trying to impregnate these women?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 05:56 PM
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I think you should probably look for more IOIs than just "being nice" because every female customer service worker is obligated to "be nice."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 05:56 PM
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It's the easiest way to get casual sex if that's what you're looking for. You're probably attractive yourself if you're being shown stacies.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 05:55 PM
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Male attention is valuable if you know how to capitalize on it. Only dumb men are worried about gold diggers. Of course men want young and beautiful women. Most men do not think in terms of alpha/beta. Many are perfectly happy to provide for their families and don't care at all how much their partners make. Get yourself a well-paying career only if that's what you want, not because it's what you, as a woman, have to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 05:53 PM
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I WISH it was propaganda. It's my experience, and the experience that women everywhere share. Either their husbands are useless when it comes to caring for the kids, or they have to be taught, and they still don't do things as well as the mums do it. They do not automatically think, "Oh, hey, we have to leave for church at 8; maybe I should wake up at 7:00 and help my wife get the kids ready so she doesn't have to wake up at 6:30, instead of waking up at 7:45 and only worry about getting myself …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 02:04 PM
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Mum here. You should expect to be the default parent as a woman, because you carry the babies for 9-10 months at a time and feed them from your own body, and that has profound, fundamental, scientifically proven effects on your brain and capability as a parent. Women are quite simply more attuned to their children's needs, more invested in their safety and wellbeing, and more likely to need to take time off work by virtue of the nature of female reproductive processes. It is virtually all-consum…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 12:46 PM
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This is why men who care about n count need to be upfront about their "preferences" in dating, so that they don't waste women's time
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 12:04 PM
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Absolutely not. That's disgusting. He's gonna have to figure something out
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/25 12:02 PM
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This woman is scaring away the men with her make up and desperation. I used to be a "fuckgirl" during my hoephase. Many men were sad that I would fuck them, but wouldn't commit to them. I don't imagine they felt "used" though, so much as rejected
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 11:05 PM
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It shouldn't be. I can do 120 for reps... Keep at it though; you're young, so you can expect quick strength gains
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:51 PM
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A lot of people think pink pill is just red pill for women, so I can imagine there is some confusion
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:48 PM
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who dat?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:44 PM
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Plenty of fish in the sea hun *hugs*
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:43 PM
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What happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:41 PM
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35 + the weight of the bar?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:29 PM
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Anime is definitely nerdy, but it's a brainrot "hobby." I was thinking something along the lines of like, antique book collecting, touring historical sites, being part of a debate club, anything that requires a deep understanding of one the sciences...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 03:40 PM
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That's still a fuckton of wealth I'd have his baby if Hubby would let me, though. Neither of us would ever have to work again
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 05:11 AM
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Okay, Elon Musk
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 05:03 AM
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Assume they do
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 05:02 AM
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Q4M: Women who are smarter than you-- turn off, turn on, or neutral? (Think, uses big words correctly, has complex and nerdy hobbies, maybe has a high iq job like, idk, an astrophysicist or neuroscientist or whatever.)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/25 04:51 AM
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Fan-cy!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 03:49 PM
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Big heat wave swept through my state last week, and I neglected to water the baby tomato plants I bought. I thought for sure they were dead, with all the leaves wilting and the stems having collapsed, and yet the cherry tomatoes were still somehow growing on them. So I went ahead and planted them in my garden beds anyway, and gave them some supports and a healthy serving of compost, and just as soon as I was finished, a huge storm swept in and downpoured all over them. Surely that would have pum…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 03:48 PM
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You are not the OP; therefore it is pointless for you to dictate the terms of this hypothetical. There's no reason to be like, "Okay you asked 40 people out and now you found your ideal person who wants to be with you forever... But what if what you want isn't actually what you want???"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 03:42 PM
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As Leos said, there's unattractive (no), neutral (could be, needs to have other attractive traits and make me notice him for me to feel attracted to him, and attractive (yes)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 05:21 AM
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By definition, my ideal person is interested in forever with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/25 05:14 AM
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I used to have an elaborate routine, but I got sick of doing it. Now I just use a rotation of Gold Bond anti-aging lotions... Though I might have to switch soon because I think I'm allergic to them
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 07:13 PM
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Q4A: thoughts on this MRP post? np.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/1llwvgi/serious_question_to_men_only_could_you_genuinely/
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 03:39 PM
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T-25 days
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 03:29 PM
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I've had sex with more than one man on separate occasions within the same day before, and I felt disgusting. I couldn't imagine doing that without using condoms, with semen in my vag 🤮 Also you are going to die of AIDS
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 03:29 PM
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If I was single, absolutely, yes. Approaching 40 men, max, with the guarantee that one of them is my ideal forever person? That's nothing. Sold!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 12:19 PM
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I have a man who's got just about everything :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:48 AM
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You don't need to kiss to do foreplay. Kissing is very intimate for me; I don't like to do it with people for whom I don't have feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:47 AM
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They're trolling
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:45 AM
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I'm pretty good at it, but that was also one of my AuDHD obsessions
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:44 AM
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Where does semen go if you don't ejaculate? does the body reuse it, or does it get eaten by macrophages or something? Just wondering, cuz I got my fallopian tubes yoinked, and now my ovary yeets my eggs into the abyss, to be cleaned up by some biological process. I was wondering if it was the same for men, or if their bodies do something useful with their gametes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:42 AM
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Be quiet and go back to competing for female attention like the rest of the males
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:38 AM
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Yes lol. My body count is probably somewhere in the 50s, and I've only kissed 6 people
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:35 AM
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Time for grandchildren
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:34 AM
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Good deal for us age gappers
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:34 AM
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I will take the maintentance of his looks, the conversation, emotiional intelligence, insight, emotional support, good fatherly-ness (?), charmingness.. but if he doesn't want to be the primary earner, a leader, and at least occasionally care about his own pleasure in bed, it's no deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:29 AM
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Biology hates men. That's why it doesn't trust them to carry the babies
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 11:14 AM
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"they wait for their wives to go and do the filing" in the instances where men are checking out
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 01:28 AM
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Unless the reason is "sex = intimacy and I want to have it with as few people as possible and also for my partner to feel that way," it's almost certainly a gross belief about women and/or sex in general
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 01:27 AM
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Woah woah woah. I never said "all divorces initiated by women are due to men mentally checking out." I said "in a lot of instances"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 01:25 AM
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I haven't downvoted you. I think there's a difference between maintaining a relationship for a relatively long amount of time while intentionally trying not to know someone's n count lest you dump them like a sack of potatoes and gradually finding out simple things like you hate someone's laugh and realizing it's just not gonna work... Like you know ahead of time that you have these beliefs about sex and women; you ought to put that out there to not waste anyone's time, just as women should be h…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/25 12:21 AM
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DEW IT
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 06:13 PM
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What a catch
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 06:05 PM
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That is the literal etymology of the word and how I understand it, which is, neutrally, someone who does not engage in promiscuous behavior. You simply cannot be like, "No, you liar, that's not what you think." Otherwise there is no point in attempting to communicate with you. Again, there's nothing inherently negative about vanilla prudes, and it's not my fault if some men deem those individual to be incompatible or undesireable. ETA: I am also a woman in a heterosexual marriage, so...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 05:56 PM
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I don't view "prude" as an insult. Again, it is not an inherently negative trait to have a conservative sexuality. It is what it is. The word "prudish" originates from the French word "prude," which itself comes from the Old French "prudefemme," meaning "loyal, respectable, or modest woman". How am I moving the goalpost? The original comment was that high n people are so quick to throw low n women under the bus, but was unwilling to give examples. I was explaining something I have said in the pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 05:37 PM
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I'm telling you that they are not inherently negative traits. If you don't desire sex that often, you just don't desire sex that often. If you're not interested in exploring non-traditional sex acts, you're not interested. You shouldn't feel pressured to do either of those things, and the individuals who do desire sex more frequently or do like to explore more aren't inherently "better" or more virtuous in any way. Now, if you're a kinky, high libido individual, are you going to want a vanilla, …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 05:25 PM
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That's your interpretation. There's nothing inherently wrong with being vanilla or having low libido. If that's not something you want, that's you not desiring them, not me painting them in an undesirable light.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 05:10 PM
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To share mutual responsibilities in a way they agree is equitable and satisfactory To share all that they have To consider and honor the common welfare of the couple/family when making decisions To be emotionally supportive to one another, and remain together for better or for worse To keep the love alive To satisfy each other sexually To effectively parent their children, should they have them I'm sure I'm missing some big ones, but here are some
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 05:06 PM
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Also not being present with them, not trying to improve the situation, not keeping them happy and together... (and that goes both ways.) If one partner stops doing any of that, and simply waits for the other to divorce him/her, that's not "fulfilling his/her duty" as a spouse. That's breaking the agreement and being lazy about getting it done legally.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:15 PM
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It just seems to me that the particular man I was talking to, and others like him, wanted for there to be consequences for slutty women like me, and he was mad that there isn't. Like "accountability" was just a word thrown around in the manosphere places he'd been frequenting where they preach "sluts are bad and end up miserable" and he was just parroting it without much thought
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:01 PM
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Mentally checking out of your marriage is not "fulfilling your duty"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 03:00 PM
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Right, okay. I made a choice to be promiscuous. There have not been consequences... I'm not sure what the point is
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:50 PM
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What's important to recognize with that statistic is that "initiating divorce" means "filed the paperwork," not necessarily that women unilaterally elected to end the marriage. What happens in a lot of instances is that men become unhappy within their marriages and mentally check out, but not legally, because that's either too much trouble, or too financially costly. They wait for their wives to actually go and do the filing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:48 PM
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I don't know if it would make much sense if you were to answer for someone else. But one time I heard someone say, "Women need to take accountability for being sluts," and I was like, "What do you mean?" and he wouldn't give me a straight answer. At one point he said "Take accountability for how your life turned out!" And I was like "I like how my life turned out though. It's great... I'm still not sure what you're wanting here?" And he just got angry and then stopped replying.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:44 PM
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Exactly. I've heard from lots of low n women that they've even started telling men their n counts are higher than what they actually are just to weed out the ones that care. It's not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:40 PM
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I suppose that's a good thing, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:08 PM
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Often times they can't, in the specific context that they're saying it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 02:08 PM
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Did he report feeling any better afterwards?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:41 PM
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I usually ask them "What do you mean by 'accountability?' what would taking accountability look like, to you?"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:40 PM
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If it were some simplistic preference or "evolved instinct" in men, as some of them insist, instead of gross beliefs that were socialized into them, you would think it would be common practice and save people a lot of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:35 PM
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Noooooo I fucking love the mullet-mustache combo! Like Kurtis Conner on Youtube? I think he's so cute because of it. Jenna Marble's husband Julien Solomita also rocked it. This dad? Handsome AF. Broccoli boys got NOTHING on mullet men
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:12 PM
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I used condoms in probably 99% of my sexual encounters until I started wanting to become pregnant by the man I was fucking (my husband.) There were a couple instances where I just forgot in the moment, or elected not to use them because both myself and my partner had gotten STD testing done and he was sterile (vasectomy or from cancer.) Hubby and I don't use them when it's just us two now because I got surgically sterilized. We use them when engaging in ENM activities. ETA: Oh, and there was one…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:54 PM
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There's also plenty of people who legit just don't care about n count
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:48 PM
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The only potential negative consequences are STDs and unwanted pregnancy, and those are well-known and easily mitigated.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:47 PM
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Men who care about n count should be explicit and upfront about it when dating, the same way women should be upfront about their sexual history. It doesn't make any sense to risk investing a lot of time and energy into a person if there's a risk that finding out about their sexual history can spell the end of a relationship; you kind of owe it to any potential partner to let them know you feel this way. (But somehow I think the number of women who would be repulsed by their gross beliefs about w…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:46 PM
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There are many men who do care. But people like you do not make for good partners, and like I said, there are PLENTY more men out there who do not care at all. My advice for you would be to actually ask your potential partners. Don't waste anyone's time getting involved with them with the risk of accidentally learning of their sexual history and then having to end the relationship over it. Don't you think your potential partners deserve to know that these are the beliefs you have about women and…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 12:37 PM
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It's just my husband's preferences; he's not forcing me to do anything. He still loves me even when I'm hairy or sporting a pixie cut.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 05:28 PM
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What do you like about him?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 02:50 PM
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There's literally so many human beings on this planet, all connected by the internet and ability to travel, that one can have a pretty long list of requirements and still find a good number of potential matches... It's just a matter of them wanting you back.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 02:16 PM
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Well, there are some things that don't matter so much to me that I don't mind keeping a certain way for my husband. For example, it's not so much of a huge PITA to shave/wax my body hair and to keep my hair long or a certain color, the way my husband likes, for me not to be willing to do it (though in a world without men, I'd leave my body hair alone and have a pixie cut.)Or like, every once in a while putting on "real" clothes instead of old gardening attire, gym clothes, or stained sweatpants …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 01:53 PM
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For some people, it’s more about emotional compatibility, long-term trust, or personal comfort, not moral judgment. Everyone has different boundaries shaped by their own experiences and values. I'm trying to understand what you mean. How does one's n count affect emotional compatibility, long term trust, and personal comfort, without having an underlying judgement about n counts? The way I'm interpreting this is, "High n people don't change, they always want new partners, they're more likely to …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 01:39 PM
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The reasons men give for "preferring" low n counts are indicative of shameful views and thought processes regarding women and sex. (With the exception being men who believe that sex = intimacy and it's only meant to be had with as few people as possible, and who also practice that themselves. That's fine.) The vast majority of people take a casual approach to relationships until they find somebody worthy of more commitment. You don't find someone to marry without going on dates and getting to kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 01:22 PM
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I do think it's shameful to have those views about sex and women
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 01:12 PM
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Is this an eating disorder thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:55 PM
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Why would your partner care that you're going to Taco Bell?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:14 PM
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Hubby and I share locations and also can see the locations of our cars through the Tesla app. It's mostly for safety and convenience, but I also like that we don't have anything to hide. So, yeah, practical. We didn't really talk about it though; just kind of did it when we needed to share locations, and didn't turn them off.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:12 PM
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Examples? I have said in the past that I think it's more likely for low n women to be prudish or low libido, because people who feel less desire for sex/non-vanilla sex are going to face less temptation, making it more likely that their n counts stay low and less likely for them to explore sexually. People will respond with, "No! They just actually self control!" as if I had insulted them and they now feel the need to indirectly insult people with higher n counts...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 12:07 PM
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Okay, I was doubtful at first, but those are really good examples. Thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:59 AM
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And they fit those women's standards because they have other characteristics that are of value to women. If someone is telling you, "there's all these "perfectly decent" short or broke men out there who are single; you should lower your standards and try dating them instead," They are telling you to date people who are both short/broke AND otherwise unattractive. Why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:53 AM
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I didn't have to force anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:42 AM
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Kissing strangers counts as 272 because kissing is intimate as fuck and you're a slutty slut slut if you do it with just anyone. Also it doesn't count if you had sex with someone and you didn't know their name, they didn't get you off, you forgot about it, if you were wearing socks...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:42 AM
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Tell him don't you dare correct her
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:38 AM
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Definitely a yeast infection
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:34 AM
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Walked into a Wawa yesterday and there were a bunch of blue collar type men in there in boots. One of them was absolutely massive-- maybe 6'5 and proportionately big everywhere else, not too bad in the face, with this crazy relaxed energy... Gave me the tingles and I scurried nervously out the door. Didn't know I liked that before. My tastes must be expanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:29 AM
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I got lasik. I miss my glasses sometimes though. More style options
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:24 AM
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me af
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:24 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:21 AM
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Why does his neck go forward like that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:21 AM
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I feel like much of my life has been spent centered around men. When I was young (probably from about 12/13 to 17) all I wanted was a boyfriend. I felt lonely and unliked and couldn't figure out why boys were interested in other girls but not me. My self esteem was really low. Then it became about sex for me, mostly heterosexual sex. I spent a lot of free time seeking that out. Then it was, "Hmm, men will do nice things for me if they find me attractive and if I date and have sex with them" and …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:18 AM
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They think I am much younger and can’t tell their bullshit when they try it. They try to play the games and when I call them on it then they get sheepish because it still works on some people. Examples?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:08 AM
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Kind of romantic
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:01 AM
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Can a person who's that mentally ill even be saved?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 10:33 PM
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There would be a lot of 18 year olds "alone" in the forest... Probably a lot of unplanned pregnancies, too
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 10:33 PM
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I was being facetious.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 08:46 PM
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Exactly 16.5 with 59.46% response rate
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 07:50 PM
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Most of the people who go to group sex events are below average; the attractive ones are arranging their own private play sessions with carefully curated participants.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 04:03 PM
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Have you considered that sometimes people like kinky sexual acts because they actually find them hot, not because they are just doing them to please their partner? I don't like to be choked choked, personally, but a hand or a belt around the throat with hardly any pressure just to remind me that my partner *could* choke me gives me a little thrill. It's the vulnerability and power play that's hot to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 04:01 PM
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Youre not listening. Why do some short or broke men do just fine in dating and others don't?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 11:33 AM
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I'm gonna need you to keep up. Women do pick short and broke men IF they have other things going for them. If they're not being picked for long periods of time, it's almost always because there's something unattractive about them that they either won't fix, don't want to fix, or aren't aware of. When incels say "Forget about your present standards and date these men who you aren't attracted to or compatible with, who are struggling to get dates..." What exactly do you think they are suggesting? …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 09:04 PM
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Short men and broke men with acceptable personalities and who have other attractive qualities find partners just fine. The men who "deserve a chance" according to incels and unattractive men are not being picked for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 08:52 PM
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Traditional gender roles are fine if that's what a married couple chooses for themselves. Is anyone saying otherwise?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 08:41 PM
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The bitter men are the ones who aren't being picked and have decided that that's the fault of women or society at large rather than changing to be more attractive. They often give advice to women that would make it so men like them have a better chance of securing a partner, rather than advice that would actually benefit the women in question. It's a tale as old as time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 08:39 PM
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Keep insisting that self respecting men care about n count. Reality won't change, and promiscuous women with high value husbands, with whom they have or are planning to have children, will continue to laugh at people like you. I didn't specify "in a professional context." I mean in all contexts, whether that's at work, out and about, someone trying to sell you something... You have to be able to tell people to fuck off if they're trying to take advantage of you or steer you in a direction you do…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 08:17 PM
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🤦 This is a waste of my time
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 08:08 PM
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Self respecting men do not find women who have had many partners appealing. Yeah, you're doing that curious thing that men with low n-count "preferences" do and disparaging men who are apathetic about n count. I assure you, friendo, there are SO many men out there who don't give a shit about n count who respect themselves just fine and don't have cuckhold fetishes. Ask me how I know. Women need to be disagreeable to men who are not their partners at least occasionally or they will be walked all …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 08:06 PM
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Bro. The OP said "She did everything exactly as the bitter men on this sub say women should" and YOU quoted her. Do you not understand how conversations work? Do I need to explain them to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 08:01 PM
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I did not say they were, but rather I quoted some of the advice that some men commonly give on this particular subreddit. No offense, but are you possibly autistic, or just intentionally being obtuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 07:58 PM
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Those are the words of men on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 07:51 PM
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"properly vet his character" but also "settle down young" and "give men a chance"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 07:49 PM
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Men who care about n count (other than the ones who see sex as strictly intimacy meant to be had with as few partners as possible, whose own sexual behavior embodies that belief) do not make for great partners. I think it is also best to explore sexually before you settle down, and have the sex you want to have when you have the opportunity, without shame. So no, "maintain a low body count" is not good advice. Also, women should not be "agreeable" to every man just because he is male, but rather…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 07:47 PM
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So do you think you're more likely to encounter ragebait online where women are talking about innocuous interactions with men and unnecessarily calling them creepy as well? Or does the bias only go in one direction?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 04:44 PM
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18 yo women are adults and can be attractive. I don't know why this is such a hard concept for people
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 04:27 PM
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This is a cuckholding relationship, not cuckquean. Cuckqueans are women who fetishize their male partners being with other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 04:00 PM
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On the other thread where women were describing encounters with creepy men, it seemed to me that the offenses were all pretty egregious
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 02:42 PM
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Most women want to have children, and they will face the consequences of having children whether they want those to be the consequences of having children or not. It's literally in women's best interest to secure a high-earning life partner. You can't reduce that to "willful perpetuation of gendered roles." It IS biologically necessary. We've been doing it since hunter-gatherer days. You think Ugga was lusting after Grugg when he failed to bring any meat back to the cave? No, because her childre…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 02:41 PM
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I disagree with your last paragraph.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 12:40 PM
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Why don't you go to a porn sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:55 AM
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Getting you off the last time is what got her halfway to orgasm
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:52 AM
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Creepy is like, unable to read social cues of obvious discomfort with the approach, with what one is saying, making someone feel objectified, unpredictable/weird behavior or body language (standing too close, breathing heavily, touching someone without their consent, etc.) It's not necessarily that someone is unattractive (though it is true that attractive people can get away with a bit more socially unacceptable things than unattractive people.) But if someone is the most good-looking person in…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:51 AM
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The sexes will never be equal. Women are the ones who get pregnant, give birth, have to recover from birth, and breastfeed. We're the ones who take care of everyone when they're sick; men lay on the couch for three days, or stay away to keep well, because they can't handle sickness. These things take tolls on women's careers and long-term earning ability, and make it so that if anyone stays home with young children (which is the best thing for them), it's almost always the woman. There's nothing…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 11:45 AM
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What if she just wants one more quick orgasm and doesn't want to wait? Like if she can get off in like 90 seconds on her own, especially after she was already halfway there or especially turned on ?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:31 AM
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Why not? Sometimes it's fun to just watch a partner pleasure themselves. Sometimes someone wants a quick, none-too-stylish orgasm and they're the ones who can give it to themselves the fastest... There are lots of reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:30 AM
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What if she says there's nothing wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:18 AM
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assume this occurs during your refractory period
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:08 AM
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What action would you take? Less hot sex? Trying to time your orgasm so it coincides with hers? (assuming you're not pulling out?)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:07 AM
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Silicone wedding bands are a thing. When I was young and single, a dude successfully got my number by sitting down next to me while I was stretching and initiating casual conversation. I didn't have to stop stretching. He made me laugh and the chat was nice, and I didn't think he looked half bad either, so I gave him my number when he asked for it. We went out on one date. I would say, try to read women's "energy" while they're exercising (Do they seem pissed off? Sad and working through some sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 03:03 AM
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It was amazing! Surprisingly not as hard as I thought it would be to do with a 4 yo. I can't wait to do it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 02:49 AM
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Q4M: You and your lady are having sex. She orgasms from it (maybe even multiple times.) Afterwards, you're lying in bed next to each other and you realize she's masturbating. You ask her why, and she says either: A) "The sex we had was so hot, I got horny again just thinking about it!" or B) "Sometimes you get me halfway to another orgasm when you finish; I'm just getting myself the rest of the way there." Do you believe either of these explanations?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 02:48 AM
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Maybe they want success and knowledge of the world for their daughters and to provide well for their wives? Those things aren't mutually exclusive
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 02:41 AM
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Always finding fault with and demanding more from a man who's doing literally everything for her, using sex as currency/ransom ("If you only unloaded the dishwasher more often, maybe I'd feel less stressed and want sex!), siding with women in every situation regardless of whether they're right or behaving absolutely horribly, never being able to admit she's in the wrong or to apologize for it, making her and her partner late for anything because she spends too long getting ready, general misandr…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 02:11 AM
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obesity also fucks up fertility
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 02:04 AM
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38ish lbs of child, about 4 L of water in bladders, snacks, a med kit, sunscreen, bugspray, additional clothing, a pocket knife... IDK, I just got the standard pair. I think they conform to your feet, mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 01:48 AM
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Love it :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 12:20 AM
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Human's feet are designed to naturally distribute weight so the body can move ergonomically, and the toes are meant to spread for increased balance. When we put shoes on (which are not feet shaped at all; they have too-narrow toes and the ends often curve upwards) especially when we start wearing them young when our bones are still developing, they change the structure of the feet to match the shape of the shoe. Lots of shoes also have arch support in them, which ends up actually weakening the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 12:18 AM
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afraid you can't measure up to the other men she's been with -> Insecure. That's like the definition of insecurity; that's worrying some aspect of yourself is "not enough" for the person you're with and they will leave you because of it. The reason it's connected to the n count debate is because if you ask men why they care about n count, this is often a reasoning that they will explicitly provide.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 08:29 PM
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It's not exploitative if your future husband feels you give him equal value in return, and he's happy with that. Everyone wants to make out "gold digging" as some horrible thing because they conflate it with not actually caring about the person you're with, but that's not necessarily the case. You can choose to date only men that can give you the lifestyle you want and fall in love with one of them just as easily (if not more easily. Hello, romantic dates and vacations) as you could with a less …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 08:26 PM
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And tbh, your post feels like a barefoot shoes ad. I googled them, I would rather cut off my leg before wearing them. You take that back!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 08:08 PM
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Yesterday at the gym, and older man approached me to ask about my barefoot shoes (vibrams.) I took out my headphones initially because I thought he was going to say something about me being in his way or similar. I answered his questions pleasantly because I love to preach the benefits of barefoot footwear, though it was difficult to focus on what he was saying because his eyes weren't going in the same direction. After a few back and forths I was ready to return to my workout. Then he asked me …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 06:05 PM
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4.5. would not
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:16 AM
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I'm envious of women who look good in yellow. It's such a fun color, but it doesn't flatter me at all
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:16 AM
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No. I see fat people everywhere and I am continually disgusted. The only safe space is the gym
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:15 AM
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Killer bone structure, but no muscle mass
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:14 AM
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I did not take my husband's last name. My mum gave me hers because her step father adopted her, and the name became important to her. I am also in the military, and I earned my rank, and my last name follows that (plus it's a PITA to get name tapes changed on uniforms and it confuses people.) So I kept my last name. My daughter got my husband's last name. Hubby was mildly disappointed. He says it makes a family look unified if they all have the same last name.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/25 04:07 AM
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I already did that a couple times today and it did not help. I don't even think sex has been helping, even though it's great sex
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 11:42 PM
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Stoning? kinky
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 11:35 PM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 11:34 PM
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That happens with me, unless he does it in a domineering way (I generally don't like it, but this one time my husband restrained me and ate me out and that was pretty hot because it felt humiliating...)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 11:33 PM
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I am wayyyyy too horny. I feel like I might die
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 11:28 PM
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Don't forget to spit every syllable
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 10:58 PM
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I do
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:24 PM
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They are equally disappointing when they fail
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:24 PM
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I'm talking about the passport bros that pretend they want relationships with these women just to have sex with them and then dip, not the ones who actually form lasting relationships in which they better the SEA women's financial situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:42 PM
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We are ENM
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:40 PM
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I didn't know either, until I tried someone of a similar length and it hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:36 PM
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The point isn't what either party is capable of. It's that these women are falling for the tactics, stupidly, getting burned, and wasting their potential. They can do better than that
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:35 PM
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I just don't get the female resistance to paternity testing. If you could do something simple to reassure your partner that he's not having the wool pulled over his eyes in like, the worst way, why wouldn't you just agree with it? Sometimes people have anxiety that isn't directly related to a partner's character or behavior; that's why it's "anxiety." Men wanting paternity tests aren't direct accusations of infidelity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:18 PM
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My husband is 7 inches in length with a smallish tip, above average girth, and an upwards curve. That's just right for me. (Some 7 inches with larger heads have irritated my cervix instead of slipping nicely into the A-spot; that's the only reason why I bring it up.)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:10 PM
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I'm aware that there is some sort of special status that SEA women enjoy if they can lock down a foreigner, and that they may enjoy dating them. I dislike the fact that so many of them are failing in their pursuits, wasting their time and youth on passport bros with bad intentions, and I hear that some of them even get pregnant by these men and keep the babies... It's disheartening. They could be making much more beneficial decisions; it's not about nationality at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:07 PM
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Women can still get partners easily if they're not fit but also not overweight, and they can still get partners with a little more difficult/get lower quality partners if they are overweight. Their social status is not increased by having more muscle mass. Men have a much harder time getting partners if they are not fit, and they are respected less by other males if they have little muscle mass.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 03:51 PM
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Yell at him for allowing me to come underdressed for the occasion
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 03:46 PM
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PIV is meant to feel good for women too. It's my personal favorite part of sex; I prefer it to clitoral stimulation. I have found that the correct penis size, shape, and harness is instrumental in producing an orgasm during PIV. ETA: I think women have been somewhat gaslit into believing that if they care about penis size at all, they are shallow. But it matters, and it's not shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 03:35 PM
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It kills me to see women throw away their power and potential
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 03:09 PM
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I don't understand the attempts to lock down foreigners and the consequent upset of only getting sex instead of a boyfriend if they're aware of passport bros
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 03:06 PM
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How are SEA women not aware of the passport bro shit that's going on?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 03:03 PM
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It's understandable if you're also prejudiced.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 04:20 AM
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I am trying very hard not to engage because I know EXACTLY how this conversation will proceed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 03:52 AM
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25 years older. He wasn't the first older man I dated. And he and I didn't marry right away either. We dated for a year living separately, then I went away to military training for a year, then we moved in together, lived like that for another two years, then got married, when I was a week shy of 24. People are just prejudiced.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 03:46 AM
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Interesting. I met mine at 19 and I get all those comments, just because he is significantly older than me. Meanwhile I dated and slept with hella people before settling into my LTR and marriage, knowing very well what I wanted... But high school sweethearts being one-and-onlies are always painted as romantic. Sorry, I don't mean to rant at you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 03:30 AM
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Off-topic question, but does anyone ever ask you if this early, one-and-only relationship "stunted your development" or insist to you that you can't possibly be happy, having committed so young, without knowing what you really wanted for lack of experience otherwise? (really pointed question, I know)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 03:08 AM
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I was a broke college student wandering around the city on a weekend, when I stopped into a bookstore. Apparently I was frowning at the bookshelves, when a man walked up to me and queried, "Can't find anything to read?" And I said no. He plucked one out and said, "This one is pretty good..." and then we got to chit-chatting. He was really funny and charming, and he looked very handsome in his formal work clothing. Our conversation gradually died out, and as we went to part ways, I put the book b…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 03:04 AM
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You are coming around!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 02:41 AM
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There are women like me, who prefer to date significantly older (started dating my husband at 19, when he was 44. It's been 10 happy years together), but we are a relatively rare species. I am of the opinion that men who take care of their bodies all their lives peak between 45 and 55, when they are old enough to be financially successful, to have spent literal decades working on their physiques, to know who they are and what they want and how to get it, to be good in bed (and not so excitable t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 02:38 AM
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If I don't get around to cleaning for a day or two, he doesn't complain, necessarily, but it takes a real bad toll on his mental health, and that sucks the soul out of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 02:20 AM
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You are the one who asserted that sex "should be" meaningful. That's inherently subjective, and if you want to make an argument based on more than an opinion, you are welcome to do so. I'm listening
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 02:12 AM
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"Should be" is your opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 02:07 AM
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I slept around a lot. I wouldn't call it finding "myself," but I sure found out what I did and didn't like. It was "healing" in the sense of, "There's this patriarchal idea that women aren't supposed to enjoy sex or have it with a lot of people, or else bad things will happen... But I don't care; I like sex, I'm having it, I'm enjoying it, and nothing bad is happening to me. So there."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/25 02:06 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 02:05 AM
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He’s exactly where he wants to be
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 02:02 AM
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What do you do when you miss someone so much you can barely breathe and can’t make yourself get out of his side of the bed because it smells like him ?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 01:59 AM
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At a recent sex party, some dude asked me if I liked his thumb inside me as a means of dirty talk and I burst out laughing for like a full 30 seconds because all I could think of was this: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/n7biary78iw
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 01:56 AM
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You can mitigate a lot of the risk through STD testing, condoms, and using multiple methods of contraception. Though most people (whether they have a high or low n count) don’t do that
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 04:56 AM
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Yes. He said his is 6. I wanted all the deets; he told me as many as he could remember
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 04:53 AM
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You need to be slightly longer than the woman's vagina, such that you go into the pocket next to the cervix... That length varies from woman to woman, and whether A spot stimulation is pleasant is an individual thing as well. There are plenty of women okay with non-curved penises too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:43 PM
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That was hyperbole. They’ve always got like 3 under 5, two dogs, and a rabbit or something that they like to bring up
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 02:57 AM
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Tired of working parents saying they do “everything SAHPs do” but also work full time. Like I assure you, you are not caring for your 6 toddlers and 20 pets while you are working. They’re at daycare for most of the day, making a mess there instead of your home. And the ones that are partnered are presumably sharing the housework, so it is halved, and they assume SAHP have to “stretch the chores to fill the days.” Trust me, there is PLENTY to do, especially if your property is more than 10 square…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 02:41 AM
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but at that point it doesnt matter if the penis is "2-4 inches" longer than average. it'd be better to be 1-2 inches above avg
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 12:06 AM
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Very few women are going to be able to take 9 inchers
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 11:57 PM
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To the crease of your elbow, or the humeral medial epicondyle?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 11:53 PM
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Nah lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 10:55 PM
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Im sorry to inform you, brother, but youve got t rex arms
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:57 PM
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Europeans are such pussies. GD
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 08:30 AM
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You have to leave your house sometimes, don’t you? Talk to strangers in line at the grocery store, at the gym, at the bus stop, at your work, in your school, in hobby groups or classes, at the library… Talk about anything
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 04:43 AM
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Just talk to strangers whenever you can. Occasionally you’ll meet people you really click with and genuinely want to be friends with. Your social circle should theoretically widen slowly but exponentially
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 04:07 AM
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Wdym, “not going to give you as good of a workout?”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 04:05 AM
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Why do you want friends (but also not want friends)?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 03:42 AM
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It’s a possibility that people who marry without vetting for several years are more likely to end up with cheaters. Cheating and addictions can be worked through, even if you have to separate while the affected partner attends rehab/therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 03:37 AM
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Idk, the dude looks attractive to me, as much as I can discern from a tiny blurry pic
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 03:31 AM
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TIL men have color preferences for vulvas
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 03:21 AM
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GOODS AND SERVICES
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 03:17 AM
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Damn, that’s not a body designed for tight turns… or breathing well
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 03:17 AM
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Some women’s periods stop under 20 BMI
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 03:14 AM
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It’s okay, but the sleeves are kind of weird
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 03:13 AM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 03:12 AM
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That means u r a q t
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 03:11 AM
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They’re trying their best, okay? Parenting is hard
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 03:09 AM
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The guy’s last name is Barr. Where did you measure from? From the base of my wrist to the inside point of my elbow is ~12 inches. I’m a bit under 5’5; the human wingspan is supposed to be a bit under your height, so it makes sense for a little less than half of one of my arms to be about a foot. I’m actually remarkably good at estimating size/length/volume/distance. It’s like an autistic side effect
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 02:55 AM
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My forearm is about 12 inches long; it was only slightly shorter than that. It was literally monstrous, and only a little more than half would fit… extremely uncomfortable. I’m pretty sure the world record is like, over 20 inches (but that dude had a medical problem) ETA: I was wrong, it’s like 14 inches https://nypost.com/2024/08/26/lifestyle/man-with-worlds-largest-penis-reveals-the-hardest-things-about-his-daily-life/
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 02:41 AM
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Very, very few people can hide their true colors for literal years. There are women getting married after knowing a man for 6 months saying "Why do you have to wait so long? When you know, you know." There are women getting married without having lived with their boyfriends first. And of course, there's a tonnnn of babies born out of wedlock all the time. I'm pretty sure there's a ton of people not vetting properly.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 07:53 PM
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I think I'm gonna go with finding out about my partner's past, as someone who has spent the last decade and has kids with the same man. Like, if I found out he had kids with someone who isn't me or his ex wife and just abandoned them??? that would be troubling for sure. We can work through cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 06:29 PM
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That's hardly any weight loss. You shouldn't feel the need to snap
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 06:14 PM
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If you're only going to reply with "But studies!" to every comment, why even post?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 04:08 PM
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Can you get one that has six or fewer abs?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 04:01 PM
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Right. can't go looking like a thumb
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:51 PM
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The average ideal is probably larger than average penis length, but there are preferences on either side of the average, and there are more factors that go into preference than just penis length.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:48 PM
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Men don't notice many things
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:46 PM
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Right. like we're better liars than that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:43 PM
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Too many abs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:40 PM
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How about everyone should just be required to wear clothing that doesn't show off their genitalia if they're going to be exercising around other people? Whatever happened to loose shorts?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:30 PM
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Women vary considerably with anatomy and sensation preferences. Some women have shorter or longer vaginas, more or less sensitive cervixes, uteruses in different positions, vagisimus, butts that get in the way or long backs... Plus the variation in cervical height throughout each woman's cycle. Some women really like A and G spot stimulation; others find it to be too intense or straight up unpleasant. All of those things are going to affect size (and shape!) preferences. Personally, I have an ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:24 PM
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Yeah, I'm guessing that has to do with the divorcees' attitude towards divorce... If they chose wrong the first time, or maybe didn't try hard enough to fix things with their spouse, and decided to walk away, and survived that just fine, they probably feel like they could do it again. Even more so if they did it twice and were okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 02:59 PM
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It asked if I wanted a list of celebrities that were in my category
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:31 PM
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Yeah, I also said disagreed and was offended
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:26 PM
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it asked me if I wanted it. florence pugh, saoirse ronan, alicia vikander, lily james, and natalie portman (fuck capitalization)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:25 PM
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I don't think I look mentally ill or like a barbie at all, minus the blue eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:21 PM
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The PSL ChaptGT thingy just gave me like 5 celebrities who look like they could be my sister and now I'm creeped out
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:16 PM
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Would motorboat
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 05:01 PM
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I think I was 2
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:57 PM
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Idk, I wouldn't marry someone who spends a ton of money on things that I find frivolous. I was very pleased that my husband felt the same way I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:51 PM
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I mean, I'm just one datum point, but when I put my requirements into the Female Delusion calculator, I get a fraction of a percent of the male population... Fortunately the population is so big that that percentage is still more men than I could ever meet and vet in a lifetime, and it wasn't difficult to find and lock down a man who met my requirements. I do think some women get the ick over stupid things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:45 PM
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Updoot because that was well written and thoughtful... Just wanted to chime in as a woman who also kind of looks down on single mums and is DEATHLY afraid of becoming one herself... The reason I do so is because I think children deserve two parents, and you're kind of a fuckup if you pick an irresponsible man and have a baby with him, in an age where even oopsie pregnancies can be taken care of easily enough. I think women ought to spend plenty of years vetting a man before marriage, truly mean …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:40 PM
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Would, if he waxed his torso
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:30 PM
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I genuinely feel sorry you feel that way
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:28 PM
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You don't have to have an expensive wedding. I paid a total of like $200 for mine, and half of that was the cost of the marriage license
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:27 PM
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No; you have invest your time, money, and energy into her (but she will also do the same for you)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:26 PM
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She meant why isn't it on you to choose a woman who won't leave the marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:25 PM
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No thanks. I will stick to feeding my man pineapple
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:52 PM
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Its flat, but soft and undefined. and you can tell from the rest of her that her body fat percentage is high.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:51 PM
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shes definitely overweight by bf %
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:58 PM
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sounds like it'd be straight acid
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:55 PM
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too chubby for me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:54 PM
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maybe the one on the left
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:53 PM
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I've had such kinks for about as long as I've known about sex, pretty much. My husband was pretty vanilla when we met, and I perverted him. We both enjoy exploring now, and we regularly discuss what we'd like to try or experience and compile it into a sexual bucketlist, so to speak.. So when Hubby found out there was a free use party, he asked me if I wanted to go, and I said "yes." He likes to see me enjoying myself, and I hoped to see him with another woman (though he didnt find any of them th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:50 PM
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yum
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:10 PM
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oh look, 19-21 bmi women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:09 PM
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good looking = above average, meaning you might be shown first. I have seen a lot of boring and unappealing profiles in the past, before algorithms became so common.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:08 PM
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Idk, when I was actively looking for a female fwb, I paid for premium features. But yeah, it also probably helps with retaining women. OLD is genuinely fuuucked for avg and below avg men, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 01:58 PM
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beefy/10
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 01:48 PM
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What a wild paragraph
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 01:47 PM
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I briefly checked the "men" box on the "show me" section of Hinge, just for some entertaining window shopping, y'know, and I probably would have swiped right on the first 15 or so male profiles I looked at. They were attractive men in their late 20s or early 30s, with photos full of fun activities, friends, and poses with their dogs, and well-filled out prompts. I thought to myself, "What are women complaining about? We have access to all these great men at the push of a button!" And then I reme…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 01:47 PM
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They were actually really respectful (ironic considering I wanted CNC/abuse)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 01:41 PM
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Fit men are there to work out, and working out with a partner can slow you down. The women who are with the average looking dudes probably have good personalities or other qualities which raise their value in the eyes of the women their with. Or they're just friends
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 01:13 PM
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He's just a baby
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 01:11 PM
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It makes me sad. Men are really great, if you surround yourself with the good ones
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 01:11 PM
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Technically he did have a cis woman in his DMs... he just didn't know it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:55 PM
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Are you implying that it's possible to get a partner who is exactly equal to you in every single way and has had all the exact same experiences in every category imaginable? Because it's not lol. You're gonna end up with someone who knows more about something, or has more experience with something, than you do, and I don't see how it can be anything but beneficial to learn about that something from them, or anything but practical to defer to them in decisions regarding that subject. Generally, t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:49 PM
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You know those stupid people who will reply with the exact same points you *just* countered? hate them
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:09 PM
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I do that too when I'm dieting
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:06 PM
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All the examples you listed are jobs where you literally get paid to follow or your a child . In romantic relationships, you don't "get paid," but you do benefit from having a partner who makes your life better. Also, there are plenty of adult student-teacher relationships. It's also commonly referred to as 'mentorship.' There is nothing inherently child-like about learning new things from another person who happens to know more than you or has more experience than you. People aren't meant to st…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:02 PM
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I'm in what I would call a trad-lite relationship, where my husband works and provides financially for our children, and most of the time I take care of the housework, pet care, and child care. I am a reservist in the military, though, and every few years I'll work a part-time job for a bit just to keep my resume current. I figure if, god forbid, my husband were to divorce me, I'd be able to go active duty, or go and get a different job, until I found a new man to provide for me. I have a lot of…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:45 PM
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What do we mean by, "doesn't tip much?" Like, he never pays more than 20% at a restaurant (that's fine.) Or, only ever 10% (Definitely a turn off and I would feel obligated to add to the tip. Not a dealbreaker though) Or like, never more than $5, no matter how big the bill is? (pretty gross. Idk If we'd be compatible by principle) I actually really like the fact that my husband tips well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:33 PM
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I'm 28, and have been with a man who is presently 53 for nearly a decade (I'll let you do the math on that one, if you care to.) If, God forbid, I had to start over in like, the next couple of years, I'd think the age range I would go for would be 40-50ish. Maybe a particularly mature and successful 35 year old who doesn't want any more children. I find that older men are more sure of themselves, tend not to play games, have had time to build wealth/security/success, are better in bed, more matu…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:22 PM
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Felt. Gotta plan out your meals ahead of time and set reminders to eat and drink
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:43 PM
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Why would you not want a man who is better than you? King term partners? Also the leader and follower sounds more like pet and owner Uh, I think that's a 'you' interpretation. There are lots of human relationships that are leader-follower that aren't like being owned. For example, boss-employee, teacher-student, pilot-copilot, etc. whatever choices he makes, they both bare the fallout if it *bear. The both face the consequences for whatever the man chooses, but it's the same way if they argue ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 04:39 PM
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It's true love!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:30 PM
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I keep replaying in my mind how my one coworker directed everyone in the course to wash their uniforms that evening so that the next day when we were in close quarters, we wouldn't stink from having been sweating the day prior and then I was like (addressing the group) "I have tide pods if you need them." And he said, "Yes, ExcitementLow's uniforms smell great" and then VISIBLY COLORED !!! Like at first I thought, I'm definitely reading into that too much; I'm imagining things. Obviously he was …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:29 PM
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I'm sorry to say, but i've heardt it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:20 PM
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Be pervy first and give positive feedback every time he's pervy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:18 PM
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RPW doesn't say that all men are superior to all women, just that women prefer to be with men who are superior to them in as many ways as possible. Like, if we're picking a long term partner, why would we not want someone wealthier, smarter, stronger, more level headed...? Provided he's a good man and benevolent partner, all those traits directly benefit us. Because of this, and because of men's great need to be respected, it seems to be the "natural order" of things that men should be leaders i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:15 PM
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Ugly men for sure. Girls get told they're beautiful no matter what they look like
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:06 PM
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Shapeless
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:02 PM
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Brit detected
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:02 PM
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Goddamn that man's voice is smoooooooth 😩 I lol'ed at "laughs in wrestlemania" Though I appreciate your growing appreciation for older men with a feeling of kinship... Men of all ages can have attractive voices.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:01 PM
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There are women who are complete dumbasses or absolutely desperate and they'll date men with MASSIVE red flag, and then cry when they're inevitably abused/mistreated/hurt by them. That's what "choose better" means. Oh, this dude your with refuses to pick up after himself at all? There's one out there who will. This dude that shouts at you and slammed you up against the wall yesterday? There's one out there who won't be aggressive or violent (and you should probably move on immediately before it …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 11:36 PM
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Good examples (minus abortions)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 08:44 PM
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Agree, except for this part: especially if you're on Reddit and spend most of your day playing video games in your mom's basement. Young, attractive women can have pretty much any man they want, long as they have ok personalities. Most young women prefer their age peers, and the ones that prefer older are also looking for things like greater maturity, impressive accomplishments, financial/career success, having their own car and home, etc. They’re not gonna pick losers still living in their mums…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 04:39 PM
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There‘s “needs” as in, ”you will die if they’re not met,” and there are “needs” as in, ”you will be extremely unhappy and/or likely have a limited ability to function if they’re not met.” Like, food, water, shelter from extreme weather, etc., are needs, but so are exercise, friendship, sunlight, sex, love, romantic companionship, fun/stress relief, etc. See: Maslow’s hierarchy of needs
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 04:33 PM
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I mean, I think if my husband had somebody *in mind* that he would prefer to be with instead of me, that’d put a real damper on things. If I knew about it, I’d constantly be comparing myself to her, and probably never feel good enough
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 04:20 PM
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People in age gap relationships typically relate to each other just fine, usually either because the younger person is an “old soul” or the older person is “young spirited,” or both. Like, you aren’t restricted to your own generation of culture or experiences; you can continually seek out what’s modern in addition to learning about the past. Most men wouldn’t *date* younger women because, like you, they are socialized to see them as children. But most men see youthful adult women as more physica…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 04:12 PM
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Except there were men who were happy to pay for my meals, and my husband, who is happy to provide for me financially. So why should I pay for dinner?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 12:29 AM
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he looks tall and probably has money
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 10:48 PM
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Use DMs
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 10:46 PM
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He financially provides for our family.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 05:35 PM
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Being in a happy relationship doesn't make pill topics not interesting.. Also, different perspectives can also be helpful when interacting with the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 01:49 AM
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An adult is an adult. If you think young adults are not capable of knowing whether they are being treated well by a romantic partner, then it doesnt matter if that partner is an age peer or older. They can be mistreated by partners of any age...And yet somehow you probably aren't up in arms about young adults dating other young adults. Just because mistreatment is possible, doesn't mean it's going on. Older partners in AGRs are not inherently more likely to mistreat their younger partners, even …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 01:40 AM
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No, its not " understandable" for people to be "put off" by it. There's nothing wrong with our relationship to warrant that. We have the same things in common any other couple has.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 01:32 AM
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have you lied/deceived/manipulated others in order to get sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/25 01:18 AM
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No, you keep and care for the baby for the most part; he just lavishly funds your lives. You can definitely hire a nanny and a chef and a maid, if you want
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 11:51 AM
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There is no war in Ba Sing Se
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:06 AM
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Nothing can fully prepare you for the stress of being a parent before youre a parent. The decision to become a parent is always, unfortunately, an under-informed decision. A lot of times people find out after having kids that theyre not as prepared to cope with that stress, or to manage their emotions/finances/time properly, and they struggle to figure it out... and its not like you can just put them back where they came from if youre failing at parenting in some regard. . Youre morally obligate…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:05 AM
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It seems, though, that there are men who care a little bit, and men who care a lot, and men who care not at all, so it's not really a binary, is it? And like I pointed out earlier, many men *say* they care when surveyed, but their choices in partners and their consequent satisfaction with their relationships often dont reflect that they care about n count the way they previously expressed it... So does that really count as caring? What about men who say, "Yeah, anything under (some significantly…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 03:52 AM
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I'm nearing 29. I don't have any anxiety about my much older husband ending our semi-trad marriage that began in my 20s in order to go off with someone younger. (lets be real, how much younger is he going to be able to pull when he's 60, 65, 70...? I dont think he even wants that.) Mostly, i know i've spent my most attractive years building a life with him and cementing emotional, familial, and financial bonds with him, among other types of love/intimacy/connection/support that will outlast my y…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 03:35 AM
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The definition of 'care' here seems very ill-defined
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 03:18 AM
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Can you give an example of a behavior women do that isnt good for them, where men (attempt to) implement controls?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:31 AM
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Men's standards are def a lot more restrictive than women's, at least in my branch
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:29 AM
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As a married SAHM with a well-providing husband, no, i do not (and did not) see women wanting to go '50/50' financially as competition. There are many men who want an equally financially contributing partner, and many who value the work of a SAHM more, and even those who have no preference either way (like my husband, whose first wife ended up making more than him, but who he does not consider her to be a good parent.) These are like different games or arenas entirely; traditional women and egal…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:49 AM
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Males just get neutered, not spayed
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:18 AM
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Wherever my much wealthier husband lives
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:08 AM
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I feel like shit about myself but i appreciate your positive energy :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:04 AM
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He generally punishes the women who don't keep the situation confidential, and idk if he would want to see the kid or not. Seems like he has favorites, but who knows if he'll even be able to keep up with all of them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:01 AM
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I met my husband when i was 19 and he was 44. We have plenty of things to talk about and relate to each other just fine... i always find it funny when people ask this question of AGRs because all my peers talked about at my age was sports and drinking, and that wasn't my scene at all. I still have a hard time relating to anyone under 35 or so (generally it's easiet with people aged 40-60) even now that I'm almost 29. We are doing okay navigating the social aspect so far, but people can be really…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 12:58 AM
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Most men lose attraction for their wives because they get fat and stop caring about their appearance, not just because theyre aging. If you actually love your spouse, aging itself doesnt make them unattractive to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 12:51 AM
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But you would never have to work again
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 12:47 AM
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I read an article today that detailed Elon Musk's activities to build his "legion" of children with which to one day occupy Mars, and how he offered St. Claire 15 million dollars and 100k a month to have his baby and keep quiet about it being his kid (she didnt take the deal!!!) Q4W: Would you have Elon Musk's baby for 15 mil + 100k a month? I would, if my husband let me. (he said no!) Q4M: Would you let your girlfriend/wife have Elon Musk's baby if she agreed to split the money with you and pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 12:38 AM
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What site is it? I wanna be nosy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 12:18 AM
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Never weed with a hoe
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:40 AM
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In reality, most men are accepting of a range of n counts, many of them very wide ranges. Men will also say they care about n count if you ask them... but if a pretty woman comes along who has other traits they value, they're very willing to overlook n count.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:38 AM
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im gonna say its a yellow flag-- needs further evaluation As bad as it sounds, I prefer it when my partner hates his ex and there's very little chance of him desiring her again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:15 AM
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sure sure sure
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:58 PM
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I would probably just feel bad about myself and try harder to improve my attractiveness. I wouldnt feel rage
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:54 PM
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We'll see.. my husband says my angry voice is terrifying, but if that doesnt work, my only other options are to haze them with physical activity/pointless work or to give them negative paperwork, and I'd really hate to have to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:45 PM
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Are they on them in the middle of the workday? Are you often seated/standing close enough to see their screens? I feel like youre accusing me of being nosy where you simply dont have the opportunity to even see your coworkers screens, let alone consciously choose to look away before you can see them, but 'whatever i guess'
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:42 PM
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WDYM? They are in my line of vision. im not going around looking over their shoulders at their soft pour corn
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:29 PM
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Well, poisonous species *used to be* meant for eating
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:22 PM
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I wont be angry; im just gonna use the voice i do when im angry (its deeper, louder, and more authoritative)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:20 PM
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im just walking around and they have them out
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:19 PM
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Theyre not uncommon enough that you cant find one... but they are 1.5 inches above avg
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:15 PM
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We measured my husbands because he accused me of using "girl inches" and my autistic ego got offended because i am VERY good at estimating things like sizes, distances, weight, calories, etc. I can usually guess penis size just from pictures with high accuracy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:13 PM
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yes, i have
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:11 PM
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I would like a hug from your kindly elder dogperson
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:10 PM
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Smooth
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:09 PM
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Which ones?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:07 PM
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Its not safe to drink drinks that you didnt see being made. thats how you get drugged
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:05 PM
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The men taking this work course with me are so goddamn horny, it's like, gross and pathetic. Any time I catch a glimpse of their phones, theyre looking at female influencers, or anime women. Theyre absolutely leering at other women who seem pretty mid to me... It's been like 3 days. Many of them have girlfriends, too. Two of my juniors don't listen to or respect me, and things are gonna come to a head soon, I think. I've already docked their performance evals for it... Gonna try using my angry v…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 10:03 PM
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No; thats a good choice
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 09:57 PM
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I dont think men are shamed and called those things for being sexually successful unless they lie/deceive/manipulate others in order to get sex
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:06 PM
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1) Educational and professional development dont speak to an individual's psychological development 2) thats impractical.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:53 PM
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It doesnt matter who paid for the assets. They are split in half when a couple divorces. Your options prior to that were joint ownership of 100% of the assets while remaining married, or individual ownership of 50% of the assets when divorced. Divorce is disincentivised. Tax breaks incentivize people to get and remain married. What is meant to happen is that people get 50/50 custody of their children unless they go to court to have it specifically different. The court is meant to assess which pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:49 PM
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The only animals who arent "meant to be eaten" are apex predators and poisonous animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:40 PM
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Yes. rape is bad. though some people do it for the same reasons others commit murder.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:39 PM
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Right. rape bad
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:37 PM
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What is the alternative?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:37 PM
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Or maybe, in communist countries, they tightly control and manipulate the data in order to look better.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:36 PM
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They are. Children develop better when theyre not in childcare settings the first two years of their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 03:34 PM
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PPD summed up in two comments
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 01:15 AM
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I absolutely would not take that deal for any amount of money
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 01:12 AM
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They fudge their stats and persecute perpetrators of DV less
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 01:08 AM
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SAHMs are good for a country's future generation, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 01:04 AM
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oh please. the govt does not "incentivise" divorce. You get tax breaks for being married, it costs fees to file for divorce, and both parties lose 50% of their jointly owned marital assets.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 12:44 AM
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Dogs were specifically created to be slcial companions for humans. They're not meant to be eaten, so doing so is considered unsavory.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 12:37 AM
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No, i'm pretty sure youre just a sick fuck and youre morally bankrupt if youre raping animals for sexual pleasure this is coming from a person who regularly engages in the kink scene
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 12:33 AM
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That's if you have space to keep eggs and dairy producing animals and it's legally permitted in your area
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 12:30 AM
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Raping an animal is harming it for no reason. Humans are naturally omnivorous and generally have to kill animals to thrive, though nowadays most people just eat factory farmed meat killed by someone else instead of hunting it. side note: I was pondering if i could bring myself to kill an animal and decided that if i couldnt, i'd go vegetarian... Found out squirrels and game birds are really tasty.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:19 PM
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Technically you couldnt prove causation... I would think violent people and rapists would be more likely to play those games in the first place. Might be mutually reinforcing though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:15 PM
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lies. big bouncy lies
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:07 PM
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"Let's all hang out again soon. Im doing xyz thing on abc date, if anyone would care to join"
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:05 PM
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Gaudy fake tits
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:03 PM
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It doesnt have to be group sex. And you gotta be a huge pussy deserving of inceldom if you cant take the initiative at something like a free use event, for example
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:02 PM
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A lot of them have fetishes, at least. You gotta find events with good ratios... lots of very female presenting ones who didnt identify as women but definitely were at the last one i went to. Some regular women. And yeah, lots of gay dudes. But Nobody was really having group sex; it was more people taking turns/having individual scenes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 09:58 PM
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Uh oh! That's not a complete sentence. Do you want to try again?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 09:49 PM
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You still dont want to be wet because of chafing. And youll need to train for endurance rather than speed, so work up to like, 2 hours at a lower setting... Again, you'll probably only need to hike at 2 mph
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 04:31 PM
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How do we know he's good at math? I had sex with 3 men last night, and 2/3 were very small, and one was much above average
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 01:35 AM
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What if shes had disappointing live shows and now she wants a preview to avoid wasting her time?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 01:34 AM
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Women age the same regardless of their marital status, but the reason whe "the wall" is scary is because you end up with fewer options. Married women dont need to worry about having options anymore. Plus, if you marry young, you have more time as a maximally attractive woman during which you can build a life and bonds with your husband which will generally keep him attracted to you (love goggles. provided you dont like, let your hygiene and body fat percentage go to shit.)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 01:32 AM
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how do you figure?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 01:23 AM
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They do tend to brandish their wands, though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 01:22 AM
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Sometimes creeks can be pretty deep. maybe something waterproof to carry your clothing/belongings in in the event the crossings are deep (you might have to strip) or slippery (dont wanna drop your stuff in the water and have it get wet or carried away). Bugspray for sure. Some stairstepper cross training training would probably help you with the elevation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 01:19 AM
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Are any of them deep?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 01:11 AM
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Well 5.5 is avg here... i would think it possible to get 3-4 below avg ones
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 01:10 AM
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Not all incels are virgins... Also, its a good place to meet sex positive people, with whom you might spend time outside of the scene
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:59 AM
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Ok, then probably just make sure youre well-conditioned to complete the hike (build up mileage wise), wear WELL broken in shoes and carry moleskin for blisters, stay hydrated and eat plenty of calories, and you'll probably want sun protection and bear mace on hand.... any water crossings?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:55 AM
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Usually you have to buy tickets,
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:51 AM
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There were lots of single men at the last one i went to. I think most accept some, or just make single male tix more expensive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:49 AM
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You can date avg height men who also meet your other standards/preferences. It doesnt have to be either or
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:47 AM
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Well your face wouldnt be in it, so you'd have plasible deniability. And youre not exactly strangers
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:46 AM
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lmao youre not you when youre hungry
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:45 AM
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What if shes only had a few but they were disappointingly small, and she just doesnt want to waste her time if youre not sexually compatible?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:44 AM
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You can just go online and find events... you dont necessarily need to be invited
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:42 AM
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Q4M: Youre chatting with a woman online and you two like each other. You ask her out, and she responds with "I have one request before I answer that... Can you send me a picture of your penis?" How do you respond? Also: why don't more incels just go to kink play parties in order to get some?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:24 AM
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You get to pick him, you know
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:17 AM
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Awooo
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:12 AM
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Relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:11 AM
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43 miles in 24 hours works out to 1.79 miles per hour, which is definitely doable. where are you hiking? that will determine what you'll need to carry with you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:06 AM
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I'm flooded out :(
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:04 AM
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Probably
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 12:02 AM
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Tf are you cooking???
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:02 PM
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agree
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:00 PM
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Also the number of legitimately trans/gender queer people (and the number of trans-identifying people who present as completely cisgender) there last night was insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 06:59 PM
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Man, staying up till one AM, getting beaten at a free use party, then waking up super early to drive an hour and a half to church to watch babies, and then having to do like 6 loads of laundry and clean half my house before I drive another hour and a half to a 5-day job course I'm taking... Really blows. Whose idea was this???
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 06:57 PM
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I thought this was going to be about a man You don't take in strays; you take them to the vet/shelter if it's cold, or you keep them secured outside until you can locate the owner. It's safe to adopt a dog from the shelter once they've been examined, bathed, and given preventative flea, tick, and worm medications. You have to get them a look-over if you take them into grassy/wooded areas, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 10:23 PM
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I will look that up
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 10:16 PM
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I have crazy, crazy dreams. Sometimes lucid. It's not easy for me to force lucidity, or to quiet my thoughts enough for meditation, but I believe I did it that once. I absolutely could not handle the immense noise, though. And it was bizarre, because I've never had a dream like that-- just darkness and overwhelming voices filling the entirety
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 09:45 PM
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Nobody tell the men what this means
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 09:37 PM
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Wait til you find out how much tattoos cost
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 09:36 PM
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I didn't pay to see any of the videos. I didn't really need to see them to be convinced some people can read minds and that there's more to the universe than normal people can perceive... Some of the episodes have kids who know each other from The Hill before they meet in person, and I don't think there's any way to explain that. Or the animals being mind readers. ETA: https://youtu.be/p0xYuOAQKts?si=ngZnbspBo0Wo6t8F Call me crazy, but while I can't hear thoughts, people's emotional energy tends…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 09:31 PM
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Maybe not *your* vagina...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 09:25 PM
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Mine is great. She's very gentle, polite, considerate, takes my concerns seriously, gets back to me in a timely manner... There are good ones out there. Had a male gynecologist take my tubes out. When he came in for my pre- exam, he was like "SO! Closing up shop are we?" and I was like bruhhh... Then when it came time for my follow up, post surgery, he hardly even looked at me. I have not gotten pregnant again so I trust he did what he was supposed to in there, but obviously I changed providers
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 09:23 PM
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absolutely fucking not. call the police if it ever goes like that!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 09:19 PM
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It only takes once
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 09:18 PM
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I'll take the one with the mustache
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 09:14 PM
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I found my library card. Am a happy gurl
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 09:13 PM
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Leave, immediately. that's fucked up and he's endangering their children
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 06:02 PM
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Horny post time Either the orgasm restriction or the supps i'm taking are workimg, cuz all I can think about is jumping my husband's bones when he walks in the door later.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 12:01 AM
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What I got out of it is that the youth are engaging in crazy gender wars that are resulting in violence and engaging in earlier and earlier sexual relationships/feeling pressured to have earlier and earlier sexual relationships, and their parents are unaware
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 11:46 PM
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Isn't that just a short term relationship? A fling?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 11:44 PM
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Fair enough. I had my booty call roster, back in the day. My dick appointment providers
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 11:41 PM
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idk man. I guess i just can't be friends with people I've fucked
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 11:38 PM
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I feel like a situationship is where one partner likes the other and wants romantic commitment but the other is being evasive, or that both people like each other but are afraid of commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 11:38 PM
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*only for married monogamous couples who are TTC
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 11:36 PM
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yes. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't better your life in some way? Or only can offer sex and companionship?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 11:31 PM
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Why? being touched is nice
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 11:29 PM
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Do FWBs even hang out, or is it just a euphemism for "we meet up and fuck on a regular basis but we're not dating or committed to one another?" Is hanging out with someone you're fucking...a date ?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 11:27 PM
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I see a lot of paired-up geese in various places, most of them pretty/romantic... but every once in a while, I'll see a couple like, in a parking lot or by a dumpster, and all I can picture is the female goose being pissed off cuz her mate can't even take her somewhere nice
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 11:25 PM
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... in order to make a decision about whether you'd be a suitable partner for them ? Most people move out of their parents house around age 18, even if it's just to go stay at a dorm at their university, and have worked jobs before.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 11:13 PM
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b-b-but wealthier older men are gross perverts and I can make my own monies!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:16 PM
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Is this being posted to r/NotHowGirlsWork mean that OOP thinks that it doesn't happen? "it" being, women being told that men don't like hairy women and then becoming hateful of men?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:15 PM
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Don't sleep with desperate dudes but also not the ones that are significantly hotter than you that you're actually attracted to... and the ones you do sleep with should be attractive and attracted to you (but also they'll lie to you and say they're attracted even if they're not because they're desperate to get in your pants...) Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:03 PM
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I like wrestling with men who are like, "What? No, I'm not gonna fight you!" and then I go for it (maybe like 75% of my capabilities) and they easily counter me (going maybe like 25% of their capabilities), and if i get pinned that's like super hot
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:58 PM
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wtf... I was imagining much younger people doing these things
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:55 PM
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Idk, sometimes I just wanted a quick fuck or their expression of pleasure wasn't that sexy to me. I still did my best. I never asked for feedback, but lots of men will ask for specific things if you show you're interested in their pleasure, and coach you into doing it the "right" way. Then you're aware of more things to try with consecutive partners, and sometimes you show them something they didn't even know they liked... What you're describing sounds nightmarish and not at all consistent with …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:53 PM
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They could be looksmaxxed but he could still find her unattractive and thus consider the sex to be dumpster diving... So what do you suggest women do when they want casual sex? Fuck men they're not attracted to, or significantly less attracted to than their other options, in the hope that those ones don't consider their sex to be "dumpster diving" and that they'll put in some effort? This all sounds insane and not at all consistent with my experience as a casual sex haver
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:48 PM
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>Because people who GAF are hoping for more than a one and done encounter. Not necessarily ? I mean, I did my best to please my casual sex partners. Sometimes I enjoyed their enjoyment, and I valued their feedback and teachings when they were willing to give it. I think it helped me get better at the sex. And I've had a lot of casual partners enjoy pleasing me as well. What kind of sex are you people having??
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:33 PM
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I thought it was pretty common knowledge at this point that men lower their standards considerably on dating apps I mean, it's common on here... Even if you're aware of that, what if you don't think of yourself as less attractive than him? If she's a 4 fucking a 4, why would she assume he sees the sex as dumspter diving? Or maybe she thinks she's a 6 and he's a 4 Obviously if he came out and said "I'm not attracted to you but I'm desperate so let's have sex," the woman would be like "ew no"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:30 PM
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Why would people continue having casual sex if anybody who has it doesn't GAF about the other's pleasure? That doesn't make any sense
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:27 PM
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Why are you assuming she knows (that he thinks) he is dumpster diving?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:23 PM
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So what you're saying is... Horny men fuck women they're not attracted to and blame women for it, so they don't even try to get them off? what in the
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:21 PM
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So abstinence makes you fat?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:16 PM
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I feel like that would be SO awkward... how old are yall?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:15 PM
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DOWN BAD
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:14 PM
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I would usually say "I learned xyz thing in my kinesiology class, spent time studying, and had a track meet." There wasn't really a need to mention the other dates I went on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:14 PM
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Well, if you want women to only date you and not other men in the beginning stages of a relationship, then you should probably say that to them upfront and do the same thing yourself... But the thought of my dating prospects dating around in the beginning didn't bother me at all. I didn't feel entitled to exclusivity until we talked about it and committed to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:12 PM
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lololol Killer bod. poor dude still has a baby face though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:09 PM
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Romanian economy down bad
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:08 PM
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I mean, that was my strategy... I don't see why you should spend time on only one person you're just getting to know at a time; you're only young for so long, and it takes a long time to vet people for increased levels of commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:07 PM
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how does one kiss another on the cheek "for too long?"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:04 PM
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Right, so there's the intersection between socially instilled preferences (which are often cemented with positive experiences) and evolutionarily instilled preferences. Wherein pubes are a signal of fertility, but society says that women should be hairless downstairs, and men who have experienced and enjoyed eating hairless box maintain that preference. Therefore, in the context of the original discussion.. preferring women sans-pubes is not a pedophilic indication, nor a counterargument to men …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:57 PM
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are you sure they are flirting
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:50 PM
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While I think her husband is kind of dick, she definitely has help with the children and the farm work. They're incredibly wealthy, and she would be able to leave him and continue her career on social media any time she chose.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:50 PM
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But would you have ever experienced munching a hairless c*nt if women weren't widely encouraged to shave off their pubes? It'd probably be significantly less likely
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:42 PM
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In the traditional definitions of "liberal" and "conservative," I think it would fall under "conservative," as in, 'we want minimal government interference with our lives and maximal freedom." In modern politics... Usually the democrats are called liberal and the republicans are called conservative, but: -Republicans typically are anti-drug, pro guns, anti choice, not supportive of LGBTQ initiatives, and push traditional gender roles -Democrats typically are for the legalization of drugs, anti g…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:38 PM
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What I meant was, lots of people are liberal or conservative in different ways. One might be supportive of legalizing marijuana, the right to bear arms, be pro choice, support LGB marriages but wary of accidentally influencing kids to transition when they're not actually trans and not supportive of trans people participating in gendered sports, desire a marriage with traditional gender roles but totally supports people who don't want to adhere to them... And then we've got this stupid two part s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:30 PM
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oh. yeah that makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:22 PM
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A lot of people are trying to discern the lesser evil
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:21 PM
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I read their posts on fetlife sometimes... they rarely seem to be doing well
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:19 PM
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What if they're only financially conservative and don't support the current republican politicians?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:18 PM
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Did you ask them what that means to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:14 PM
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hear me out I don't think it's wrong for closely related, adult, consenting individuals to have sex with one another provided no one was groomed, they take every reasonable effort to use proper birth control, and they agree not to carry to term in the event of accidental pregnancy. Is it weird and icky? Absolutely. Morally wrong outside of the grooming and genetic defect aspects? I don't see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 05:57 PM
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I think, as a parent, that it's reasonable to want the best outcome for your children, and to not want them to be disabled, diseased, or treated poorly because of lookism is normal/moral. That doesn't necessarily mean that you view disabled/ill/conventionally unattractive people as less than or unworthy of existence/reproducing themselves... I mean, ask anybody with a heritable disability/disease if they would have rather been born healthy, or any conventionally unattractive person if they would…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 05:02 PM
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Are you saying that you think it's problematic or immoral to want your own children to look a certain way or to have certain heritable traits? Or are you conflating the immorality of legitimate eugenicist practices with caring about that sort of thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 04:40 PM
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Right. So a single individual not wanting to reproduce with another individual with/without certain traits is not him/her trying to arrange reproduction at the population level to make those traits more common.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 04:30 PM
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"Eugenics" has started being thrown around any time someone mentions wanting their own children to look a certain way, or anytime someone supports reproductive choice. The problem with actual eugenics is that people with power forcibly prevent others from reproducing because they deem them unworthy by some arbitrary standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 04:24 PM
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I think the equivalent of a woman hiding her plastic surgery from a man she's dating is a man hiding his plastic surgery from a woman he's dating. Same thing applies for intentions-- some men date just to get sex, some women date just to use men for meals, status, or resources. All these things are generally frowned upon
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 04:20 PM
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If young women are insecure and likely to overlook major red flags in older men, they're just as likely to overlook red flags in their age peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:13 PM
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IDK about yours, but my common sense tells me that people can have differences and still have plenty of things in common for them to have a successful relationship, age gapped or age peer, as my husband and I do. You see, you don’t need to be exactly the same to have compatibility, but rather you have to complement one another and be headed in the same direction in life. Maturity and experience are two separate things. Experience is what you’ve gone through, accomplished, perceived. Maturity is …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:09 PM
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I'm sorry, but when I read "benevolent guidance" it's an automatic "ew" from me. Well, that's your preference, and that's perfectly fine. Personally, benevolent guidance (and assistance) is something I've really appreciated about older men, especially in my husband. I can admit when I don't know much about certain things, and I recognize when I'm better off for having been advised by someone who does know about them. I don't think that I'm in the minority by saying that my partner should be my e…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:45 PM
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The men who frequent this space are not a representative sample of the general population. They are more likely to have misogynistic views of women, and thus are more likely to behave badly towards them, than men who do not post here. So you can't say "well men talk about it all the time online!" and use that to generalize.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:28 PM
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But the kind of men I was talking about feel this way about a woman who gave birth to their child, not someone else's The thing is, when we're talking about preferences that come from thousands of year of evolutionary programming, it's not so simple for individual traits to be isolated from their circumstances. A woman with no physical signs of having been pregnant and given birth is most likely not caring for children from another man. A woman with those physical signs is likely to be caring fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:19 PM
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It's not about testosterone or anything like that Well, not consciously. A lot of our sexual preferences come from evolutionary programming, and some from social conditioning... Then there are those that we are conscious of that come from our experiences, like being able to go down on someone without getting a complementary teeth flossing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:38 PM
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I'm sure you will, when you get more experience with dating. Right now, you'll probably take any port in the storm, but eventually you figure out what you like or don't like in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:36 PM
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How similar do the cultures have to be? Is it enough if two people both grew up on the same coast of the same country, in the same socioeconomic class, raised by the same race of parents? Or do they have to be from the same hometown? Is it enough for them to have similar values, beliefs, opinions about how to handle the finances and raising children, equally familiar with the current technology, know the same songs, etc., or do they need to have been born the same year regardless? There are lots…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 08:46 PM
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You can help prepare your child for adulthood in fun ways, in addition to giving them lots of free play time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 08:12 PM
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Miss Rachel core
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 08:11 PM
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It's so frustrating when someone says something outrageous and then dips without responding to your follow-up questions
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 08:10 PM
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I've never heard a man specify that he likes younger women for their agreeableness outside of the internet, and the most times I hear it is from women who are pearl-clutching over AGRs and putting words in people's mouths.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 08:09 PM
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Pubic hair, specifically, is a sign of puberty. Like I said, I think men have been conditioned by porn and society in general to prefer hairless pubic areas, and then having a positive experience with a hairless partner cements that preference. Body hair tends to grow more and darker the more testosterone a person has, wherein the hairiest women are most likely to have the highest T, and the least hairy women are likely to be lowest in T (or have a genetic mutation where their body doesn't respo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 08:04 PM
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Unless a man verbally specifies that he prefers younger women for their malleability, there is no reason to assume that's the reason for his preference. I acknowlege that OP said that, but he's not all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:59 PM
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Can you give some examples of "things in common" you think are not "superficial" and important for a couple to have? Have you considered that different people value different commonalities within their relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:57 PM
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inflammation
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:36 PM
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>A younger person who's never been married isn't a match for a divorcee. Why do you say that? My husband has been married and divorced prior to our relationship. I've never felt that we weren't on equal footing. >Get with women your own age who have had similar life experiences and that you have something in common with. It ain't hard. If they can get both younger women (who are equally consenting participants in the relationship, btw) and their age peers, why should they not go with their own p…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:34 PM
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If a 28 yo is high value enough to convince an 18 yo to date him (when most women prefer and are in closest social proximity to their age peers), women his own age probably find him to be HV too. And if he has his pick between the two age groups... Why shouldn't he date according to his preferences? There is no reason to assume a older man in an AGR cannot get women his own age.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:30 PM
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right. very productive
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:24 PM
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Sometimes people have long term relationships into middle age, and then they don't work out. It's not always their own fault (it takes two to have a successful and happy relationship), or maybe it was, and they're learning from it. Sometimes people choose not to settle down in LTRs in their lifetimes. There are many reasons why older men might be single. There is not always a *notable power imbalance in AGRs. (*I think all relationships have multiple kinds of power imbalances, depending on how y…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:23 PM
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Having boundaries and a developed sense of self aren't "jadedness." Jadedness is when you've been treated poorly in the past, and you expect the next partner to treat you similarly, so you come into the new relationship with a pessimistic outlook and oftentimes, an avoidant attachment style. It doesn't make anybody, male or female, a particularly enjoyable partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:16 PM
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Of course :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:11 PM
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That's an awful lot of assumptions
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:09 PM
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The masses also don't shit all over their relationships anywhere near as much
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:09 PM
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Body hair is associated with masculinity, wherein those human beings with the most testosterone tend to be hairier than those with less. Having less body hair then becomes associated with femininity, and I think a preference for hairlessness is socialized into us and maintained through positive sexual experiences...I forget what it's called when there are sex-specific differences within a species, but it's an example of that. ETA: sexual dimorphism! Like you said, menstruation is an indicator th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:06 PM
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This will be the first one Hubby and I have attended, but I've had similar kinks for as long as I've had sexual fantasies. The first older man I dated helped me with exploring those kinks. The rest, not so much. You would be surprised the number of men who are deathly afraid of being impolite or less than gentle during sex... Hubby was very vanilla when we first met, and I perverted him.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:51 PM
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Yeah, I guess lol. That contributes to the "being used" fetish, the indiscriminate nature of it. It won't be intimate at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:47 PM
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Yeah, I've heard of a lot instances of that. Honestly, I had just decided that I wanted to be done having kids by age 25 (at the time, because I wanted my body to "bounce back") and had enlisted in the military on a whim, so it was really by luck that I ended up having a means of being financially independent if needed. But like I said, Hubby has always been supportive of whatever direction I wanted to take my life, which is definitely a green flag. He made sure the car and the house we bought m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:44 PM
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Idk if Hubby will blindfold me or not. I think I might prefer that if the men are particularly unattractive lol. It's not for everyone, but I don't think it makes me un-classy to engage in our kinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:37 PM
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I think there's "would be happy to have sex more frequently" and "actively and presently dissatisfied with the frequency." Like a sliding scale of satisfaction
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:35 PM
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I started wanting a baby around age 20, and started trying for one with him at 21, after I got back from military training. I struggled with infertility for two years, and was 23 before I finally conceived my daughter. I was 4 or 5 months pregnant when we decided to get married, a little bit shy of my 24th birthday, but we had already been living like a married couple for years prior to that. Not everyone wants to wait til they're aging out of their reproductive years to start their families.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:29 PM
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That feels to me like you're satisfied with the frequency even if you have a higher libido, which is not really the point of the question
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:26 PM
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It's actually harder for men to get younger women than it is for them to get women their own age. Most young women prefer their age peers, and there is more social overlap with those age peers than there is with older men. Older men have to put themselves in situations where they can interact with young women, and they have to be significantly more attractive than the age peers the young women have access to in order for them to pick them up. Additionally, those in AGRs face a lot of social push…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:22 PM
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bitterness and jadedness are a completely separate thing than one's ease of being impressed or comparative experience. There are lots of women out there who have been with bad men, and project their feelings about it onto the next men they date. They expect the next men to be bad as well, and will treat them at best, pessimistically, and at worst, poorly. That's one aspect of younger women; they aren't as likely to be bitter or jaded because they've spent less time in the dating pool. They're mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:18 PM
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I like that answer. very nuanced, as per usual from you
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:10 PM
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I dated a lot of older men from age 17-19 (don't blame them for the first number; I lied to one about being underage) and I've been with a man who's 25 years my senior since age 19. (I'm nearly 29 now.) None of them treated me poorly or "took advantage" of me. Many of them taught me things that my age peers generally could not have, and took pleasure in giving me new, enjoyable experiences. My husband has been wonderful to me, and has provided trustworthy, benevolent guidance more times than I c…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:07 PM
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What about my pregnant?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:48 PM
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For me it's (in no particular order of importance) confident/assertive, but not impolite or arrogant intelligent/wise/knowledgeable/well-educated has a good sense of humor/is able to make me laugh, open to trying new things, emotionally mature/available/able to empathize and comfort, courageous (but not accepting of stupid, unnecessary risks), is a good communicator/doesn't start or engage in drama good with children (especially his own.) likes dogs. Not a cat person ambitious, but still a famil…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:44 PM
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Horny post/TMI warning Remember, you DO NOT HAVE TO click the spoiler text if you don't wanna. I don't want to hear any complaints because y'all can't control yourselves. Been having an issue where I'm only horny in the morning, and not at night when Hubby wants sex... This morning, we were doing it, and he told me I'm on orgasm restriction until the free use party this weekend. I have never felt so physically frustrated in my entire life. I'm trying to remember to take my supplements and to exe…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:31 PM
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When i was dating, i didnt go out with low-earning men, but to indulge your hypothetical... Yeah, I'm breaking it off with the boyfriend and dating the new guy. Not sorry, just being honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 09:51 PM
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She needs to experience something similar to working a different job all day, coming home to "babysit" for several hours in addition to doing housework and not getting anywhere near enough sleep. then she can decide if shes still confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 09:48 PM
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Not to bed ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 09:45 PM
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She'll change her mind on her own, most likely. encourage her to try out a nannying job
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 09:42 PM
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My wedding was just my husband, myself, my unborn child, and a judge on a zoom call in our living room. we spent maybe 60 bucks total between a small cake, silicon rings, and a bouquet of flowers. I forgot to mention to my family members that i was even getting married... but it was a nice and very intimate evening. i dont think its worth it at all to have an expensive wedding, and theyre often very stressful to plan and execute.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 09:40 PM
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I would love to hear them... I usually add that pregnancy and recovery get harder the older a woman gets, but theres always someone who pipes up with "my sister's friend's boss's dog just had a baby at 40 and it was so easy for her!" And of course, having to raise them requires lots of energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 09:35 PM
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I know a bunch of people who've said they want 4+ children
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 09:26 PM
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Whatever floats your goat, dude. You do your relationship however your want. Also keep in mind that we’re married. It’s not like its the first year of dating or anything
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 09:54 PM
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memory foam… I’ll need to glue it down first, so hopefully that protects it from complete disintegration. it’ll probably be fine if it melts a lil bit because the pieces might look a bit more like gravel
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 09:37 PM
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It’s not that smart to wait until your prospective wife is in her 30s to marry her and start TTC if you want more than a couple, well spaced out children. Think about it. Let’s say she’s 33 when you two marry Most people want to be married for a while before TTC, so lets say she’s 34 by then. Maybe it takes 6 months to conceive. Now she’s 34.5 40 weeks for a full-term pregnancy, so she’s birthing her first at 35 Doctors recommend you space out pregnancies at least a year, though it can take up t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 09:30 PM
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Maaan, my daughter was watching Lilo and Stitch today and I was perving on David 😩 They drew him fine af
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 09:06 PM
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I ordered a bunch of shredded foam, since gravel was going to be too heavy, and I’m gonna try to spray paint it to look like gravel. Hopefully it looks okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 09:03 PM
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Since the boards themselves are so heavy, I think I’m gonna go with shredded memory foam that I’m gonna spray paint to look like gravel, and hope that saves on some weight. Cuz I was thinking, how the hell am I gonna lift these panels overhead, hold them in place, and then put the nails in the rafters if they’re 150lbs? There’s no way. Hopefully Hubby’s buddy comes to fix the leaky roof, and then I can get the lower class boards
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 09:01 PM
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It’s not like he sits with my phone and reads all my texts messages… Though I get nosey occasionally and see what he’s talking about his mum and buddies (bad wife-ing, I know)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 08:58 PM
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I just googled the difference, and apparently the ones that are part of the sloped ceiling are rafters, and the ones going cross-ways are joists
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 08:27 PM
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Thanks 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 08:24 PM
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That’s what I was thinking. I just wasn’t sure if that was too flexible
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 08:10 PM
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Right. Like GET HER HELP! And at least get a medical evaluation before throwing around accusations like that…Also, if my husband was insistent on getting our daughter medical attention for the pain she’s experiencing, I would be less suspicious that he had done something to cause it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:48 PM
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Couldn’t see what clearly? The succulents will be taller than the surrounding medium I forgot that I saw an ad for pumice recently; I meant to look into whether I can get a bunch of small, tan-colored pumice stones, but thank you for the reminder!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:32 PM
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Okay, creative peeps of PPD (and men who are familiar with… Wood?), I need your help… I’m doing my ceiling like an upside-down succulent garden, will faux succulents nestled into a layer of gravel glued down onto some kind of board, which will I will attach in 94”x45” sections between the rafters. The problem I’m anticipating is that a) Gravel is heavy, and the sections are pretty large. I’m worried the boards will sag in the middle if they’re not made out of a stiff material or reinforced someh…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:26 PM
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I was horrified the few times people assumed I had gotten filler in my lips. Like they don’t look fake to me ? But I guess it’s because I’m pale and people assume pale skin goes with thin lips
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:16 PM
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Well la di da, your majesty
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:14 PM
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Her boyfriend is a drug dealer
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:12 PM
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When I was making a ton of money, I used to love to go to hole-in-the-wall restaurants and leave huge tips. The staff were always so appreciative. Share the love, make someone’s day, help out a small business.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:11 PM
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Laugh cuz that’s funny af. I’d be glad he protected our kid, even if he didn’t go about it in the best way.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:08 PM
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She’s tryna fuuuuck
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:06 PM
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Probably cocaine, among others. His eyes are always wild, shifting all over the place, and he can’t sit still ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:02 PM
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Would he? Possibly. But that’s something he would probably tackle with his therapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:01 PM
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Why? It’s nice to be able to pick up his phone and use it if I can’t find or easily access my own, or if he’s occupied and I need something off of it. If he should suddenly pass away, I can contact the appropriate people from his contacts, and access his accounts. I also prefer to just look at his location and/or arrival time instead bothering him to ask where he is or when he’ll be home, especially if he’s driving. And if somebody stole any of his devices or his car, we’d be able to track them.…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 07:00 PM
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Hubby and I have each others' passwords and locations on, for safety and convenience. i trust him 100%, and dont feel the need to check up on him to make sure hes not cheating, but i feel so much better having that option than if he didnt want to give me it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 11:58 PM
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Shit, if he wants to pay for that...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 11:52 PM
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I've fucked a ton of people, but if the man I married ever described me as "ran though," as if I were a tunnel or a sprinkler, I'd either rope or rope him, if yk what i'm saying
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/25 11:39 PM
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You got something say that i can actually respond to?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 11:25 PM
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One thing ive learned while being partnered with my husband for the last decade is that i gotta give him space to have his feelings, the way he gives me space for mine, and that theyrenot always about me or a result of my actions. *I* know for a fact that our daughter is his, and that i havent cheated, but if he was having anxiety about it, even if there's no legitimate cause for it, thats still the feeling he would be having. I would ask him where its coming from (if ive done anything to worry …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 10:28 PM
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or you could just... pick a man who doesn't trample on you, whether older or your age
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:20 PM
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You're misconstruing it. It shouldn't be a surprise to anyone who frequents the pillsphere that men care about (and often place high priority on) the physical attractiveness of their female long-term partners, or that older-looking women are perceived to be less conventionally attractive than youthful-looking women. Logically, you can conclude that women's SMV declines as they start to visibly age. It's not about "offering" their youth and beauty to the men; it's about securing the best partner …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:19 PM
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Im confused. What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:10 PM
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supposedly, but some considerations: 1) Large age gap couples are rare, so it's hard to collect sufficient data on them in order to accurately compare to age peer marriages 2) Again, different factors used to predict divorce intermingle and affect one another. 3) Divorce/life-long marriage is kind of a binary, so in order to get accurate stats about divorce rates in a given time period, you need to follow couples from the time they get married up until they either divorce, or at least one of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:04 PM
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Face fat keeps you looking young though
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:39 PM
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Divorce rates are more complicated than just a single factor. For example, one contributing cause of divorce is financial stress. Young couples who marry early are likely to just be starting out in their careers and not making very much money, while also trying to establish a home and family with one another. Make one partner older and high earning, and the likelihood of divorce is going to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:34 PM
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There's this weird phenomenon where, if I say "I think women should capitalize on their youth and beauty, find the best man they can, and settle down young. Maybe with someone a little older and financially well-established. That way they're more likely to get a high value partner with whom they're happy, they have more flexibility with planning their family, and by the time their looks start to fade, the couple will have built love, a family, and a life together, so the husband will be less lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:26 PM
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Make as much money as possible
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:11 PM
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It's not necessarily that they prefer naive or inexperienced partners; it's more like they value other traits over experiences, such as youth/attractiveness, fertility, lack of jadedness from bad experiences, a sense of wonder or greater enjoyment of new experiences that the older partner can give them... Sure, there are older men who do prefer naivety and inexperience for sinister reasons (the intent to abuse/mistreat without the younger partner knowing better, or a maddonna whore complex if th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:08 PM
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Uhhh... I'll explain it to you, and that might help. When a study reports an average, that means there were values in the data set that were higher than the average, and values that were lower. That means there are couples in the given population (In this case, the populations of the US) who have larger and smaller age gaps. It's inaccurate to say "In the US, husbands and wives are 2.2 years apart." Typically, in normal distributions, ~68.2% of the data falls within one standard deviation of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 07:50 PM
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I went on that show. Myron is on drugs, Walter is a rude slob, they've taken a hard right turn into Nazi-level antisemitism/nationalism territory, and they invite on mostly young, scantily clad women with air for thoughts who do nothing but take pictures to post on their social media, who they interrupt constantly. Their comments sections are full of incels insulting the women and verbally stroking the hosts d***s.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 03:42 PM
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While most women are attracted to the highest value men in their own peer groups, and tend to interact with them more often than they do with high value older men by virtue of social proximity, older men have had more time to increase their value than younger men, provided they take good care of their health. For example, young men are less likely to be financially stable or successful (have their own home, be able to pay for nice things/fancy dates/fun trips, provide for a family, etc.), genera…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 03:34 PM
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What stats are you referring to? Divorce stats? Divorce stats are high all around, and a person risk of divorce is influenced by a great many, complicated factors. For example, divorce is correlated with age and income level, where younger and less wealthy couples are more likely to divorce. But consider, usually people who marry young didn't spend very much time in the dating or engagement phase (y'know, taking time to vet someone for compatibility properly is important. It's risky to be 18, kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 03:03 PM
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The wall is only scary for women who haven't found their life partner yet, because it refers to women's reduced RMV/SMV in regards to their ability to *attract* high quality partners. In other words, it's when women exit their peak attractiveness years. If you find a partner during those peak attractiveness years, it's more likely that you'll get a higher quality one, and that you'll be more satisfied with him. You have time to develop love, deep bonds, build your life together, make a family...…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 01:20 PM
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I am closing in on 29 now. I am still pretty fit (though not as fit as I was when I was a D1 collegiate athlete, naturally) and I would say I have a higher than average libido still (it's lessened a bit after having our daughter because she's exhausting, but I still very much desire my husband... It's not like I roll my eyes and say "let's get this over with," once a month and call him a pig any time he wants to jerk off like he was previously experiencing, ahem.) Objectively, his ex wife is ove…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 01:13 PM
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I mean, I love my husband to death and I'm very proud to be with such a good man. But the age gap just... is. It's neutral, not a flex. I'm also closing in on 29 now (still pretty fit tho)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 12:51 PM
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So you think men should have a right to force women to either carry to term or abort? Or do you think men who know they legally have no right to say what happens in someone else's body and still fail to use contraception properly don't have to financially provide for their kids because.... because why?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 12:54 AM
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"Assess my situation...?"You mean being happy, secure, and married with kids with an older man ? I think i can assess it just fine. The suspicion rises but the likelihood that people will actually bother to evaluate whether there's abuse at foot instead of automatically assuming thats the case does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 12:38 AM
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Im in a 25 year age gapped relationship and people often give us dirty looks in public or will make assumptions (like that hes my parent and then make a shocked/disgusted facial expression when corrected, or make jokes about how im just with him for the money or "cradle robbing" and then act confused when i dont find it funny), or will pull me to the side and ask if im being abused (without any reasonable cause for concern.) When we first starting dating, my husband lost some friends. it probabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 12:31 AM
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Disappointing
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 12:03 AM
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I just dont see why an unhealthy attachment style is a pre req for preffering older men. like, i have a very secure attachment style. i still like middle aged men people continue to develop throughout the entirety of their lifespan. People develop at different rates, and more in some areas than others. There are young people who are good at assessing thing, and there are men dating younger people who may be bad at assessing things, but instead of taking advantage, they guide them in a way that l…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:58 PM
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how much do you weigh? those lifts are crazy numbers, esp if youre not a huge man, not on the juice, or eating in a way that will weaken you in order to stay that lean. And if you are huge, that makes running fast for a whole mile more challenging
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:52 PM
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based wife
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:50 PM
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And was there?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:48 PM
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Id be pissed and tell him that was unkind
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:47 PM
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I was 19, and an adult. Again, a woman, not a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:35 PM
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I think that our parents model relationships for us in terms of how they interact with one another, and how they interact with us may *affect* our attachment style... I dont think getting an insecure or avoidant attachment style would make an individual prefer older men, however. I dont see the connection there. Also not all younger partners see their older partners as developmentally above them. Like there are some things that my husband is better at and was able to teach me about, but im also …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:17 PM
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It is very frustrating to try to communicate with you. The tone im getting is very snarky
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:09 PM
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At some point, we need to consider adults mature enough to know who they want to be in relationships with. At some point, maturity does not outweigh youth, beauty, fertility, un-jadedness, etc. in terms of male attraction, whereas women who prefer AGRs may find that ex maturity, experience, mentorship, financial success/stability, self-assuredness, etc. may outweigh youth and fertility in men (though men tend to lose their fertility at much slower rates, provided they take good care of themselve…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:07 PM
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Girls are children, full stop
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:01 PM
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yes. also, no one ever expects to be captured and rape, and even if they do, some would still find serving to be worth it. I personally worry more about being parallyzed or losing limbs if i ever get deployed u/Steakman1
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 11:01 PM
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Many do love me, including my husband. That's not a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:58 PM
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It affects everyone's promotion, NCO Or junior, enlisted or officer.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:57 PM
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it is. The study that the myth comes from only studied people *up to* age 25 and only concluded"the frontal lobe *continues* to develop into the mid-20s." The reality is that the human brain continues to change and develop throughout the entirety of the human lifespan; it is never "finished."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:55 PM
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No, hun. "girls" are female children. I was (and am) a female adult, aka, a woman. You are trying to make it sound like he was having relations with a child because you find age gaps creepy, but that's not the truth of the matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:52 PM
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I think its pretty hard to separate the perception them wanting validation from a wise, experienced partner from the inherent value that being wise and experienced has. I mean, why would any woman prefer a naive or inexperienced partner to a wise and experienced one? Same thing with mentorship- its inherently valuable no matter if the relationship is age gapped or age peer. And perhaps its not so much that they want to feel wise/mature 'for their age,' but rather that they just value someone tak…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:46 PM
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It would be certainly possible for women who train regularly to *pass* basic training and fitness tests; we just would hardly ever get good or perfect scores. for instance, in my branch, a perfect score for me on the PFT presently looks like 11 pull ups, a 3:50 plank, and a 20:59 3-mile run. I can do that . For men, passing looks like 5-8 pull ups, 1:10-1:36 plank, and a 26:20-28:00 3-mile run (to get a minimum score of 150 without failing any event.) I can also do that, except now emy best effo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:25 PM
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That's a myth hun
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 09:30 PM
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Please enjoy this downvote
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 09:27 PM
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Apparently they are making the physical standards for men and women in the military "in combat positions" the same, which I am generally supportive of. (Y'know, war doesn't gaf what gender you are. You're either fit enough to fight well or you're not. You're either an asset to your comrades in arms or a hindrance, when it comes to group physical limitations.) I would like to find out what "in combat positions" means exactly. Grunts only? Service members who are deployed? Those specifically on th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 09:24 PM
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I was an adult woman. Men vary in their opinions of adults under 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 09:16 PM
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Appearance-wise, I see attractive men on a daily basis, often times multiple attractive men. When I was single, I had sex with a lot of men that weren't sexually attractive imo, but just happened to be available at the right place and time when I was horny. The men I have been genuinely attracted to were a) good looking, b) approached me in a way I liked, c) had good vibes/personalities, and d) had things going for them (goals, aspirations, financially successful, etc.)... And those men are much…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:46 PM
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No women are dating any men they truly think are broke losers. Any time a woman dates a man, it's because she finds some value in him... Whether it's financial success, social status, looks, sex, personality.. I see no reason to assume NothingOrAllLife's partner only desires a relationship with him because she's impressed with $33 an hour.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:37 PM
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What kind of "life experience" does a woman need to have to know whether or not she wants to date you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:33 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:31 PM
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Do you know what an 'average' is?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:30 PM
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Or, perhaps, she finds him attractive physically and/or as a person ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:29 PM
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What kind of 'validation' do you think women who date older men get from their partners, and how is that different from the validation they would get from age peer partners? Like, I had an absent biodad and an abusive stepdad, but by the time I started dating, I was perfectly sure that *I* wasn't the problem there. Yeah, I have some other issues relating to that, but I don't feel that my attraction to older men is at all connected to it, nor do I think I would prefer my age peers even if I had h…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:05 PM
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I always ask, because I don't feel like there's any consensus. One not having a good relationship with their father? (or no relationship at all?) How much conflict exactly can you experience with him before it's "daddy issues?" Why do we assume that it's "issues" with one's father, and not with their mother, or both parents? Why do we assume that "issues" with one's father is the direct cause (or at least a significant contributor) of someone's preference for older men? I don't think that any of…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:00 PM
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I can say from experience that people who have shit to talk about AGRs never actually bother to assess the quality/health of the relationship itself or whether the participants are happy and treating each other well. And if a young woman speaks up about how she's happy in her AGR, people will not only not believe her, but they will also attempt to gaslight her into seeing herself as an abuse victim.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 07:02 PM
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Can confirm w/re: to the pedophile accusations... My husband's ex wife gained a lot of weight, stopped wanting sex and forbid him from masturbating (among other egregious marital sins), but after their separation and him finding a fit, high libido 19 yo (me) to date, she went around telling everyone he was "fucking a child."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 06:56 PM
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People ABSOLUTELY judge AGRs in real life
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 06:42 PM
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Define daddy issues
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 06:41 PM
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Women's fertility begins declining in their mid twenties. if someone wants multiple kids that are reasonably spaced apart (doctors recommend a minimum of one year between pregnancies for women's health and for better breastfeeding outcomes, however, the body can take up to two years to recover from pregnancy, labor, and delivery), waiting til your 30s as a woman, or selecting a woman in her 30s as a man, is a bad idea. Not to mention that recovering from pregnancy/llabor/delivery and chasing aft…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 06:39 PM
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Hi. I met the man who would become my husband shortly after my 19th birthday. He was 44 at the time... We have happily been together for 10 years, and married for four, and we have a beautiful daughter together. life is good. I knew I preferred older men by the time I turned 18. They just seem superior in every way to younger men/my age peers. While younger women with the same preference as me are relatively rare, we do exist. The vast majority of women 18 and older are perfectly capable of know…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 06:25 PM
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I lol'ed at minion- shared goals: optional
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:17 PM
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I haven’t been running, but yesterday I went out for 4 miles at ~8:30 pace in my barefoot shoes... Apparently my calves remained in good condition, but my feet have gotten out of shape, because they ache SO BAD this morning! Also I got sunburned from being outside for less than an hour in 72*F weather :( I’m pasty
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 01:55 PM
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I’m planning a cross-country hiking trip with my daughter!! Also gonna enjoy decorating my house, growing my garden, and raising my chickens.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 01:50 PM
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My trees came!! I’m so excited 😃😃😃 https://imgur.com/a/mCD4rPV
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 08:13 PM
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That’s a beautiful body wtf are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 07:59 PM
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Wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 07:55 PM
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Why is the assumption that someone who wants non-monogamy has low quality character?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 07:43 PM
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Define “sharing.” I’m a bit of an unusual case, because I’ve never needed sexual monogamy from my romantic partners, even if they require it from me. Like it just does not bother me or make me jealous, provided they’re safe about it and no other romantic connections are formed or children are made. That’s independent of my partner’s value. I do think it would be nice to have a sisterwife sometimes, provided I had a close bond with her as well (ideally she and I would have a sexual relationship a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 07:37 PM
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Mine already had two and didn’t actively desire any more. We got married after I was already pregnant, so it worked out
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 07:13 PM
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Assuming this was before we already completed our family… talk with him about what changed and if there’s anything I can do to make it different, or if we can adopt, and if not, divorce. There was one point when I was dating my husband where I had to tell him, look, I want at least one child. If that’s not what you want, maybe I have to move on… So he agreed to give me one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 06:52 PM
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Beagles love blueberries
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 06:49 PM
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Taxidermy time bc that thing would make for some sick decor
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 05:19 PM
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The other ED
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 05:18 PM
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Probably a very average sized trout. I haven’t done a lot of fishing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 04:55 PM
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What advice would y’all give a man whose anxiety about ED is causing ED?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:53 PM
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I think we can encourage people to protect themselves without blaming or shaming them for remaining in abusive situations
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:50 PM
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I am in the military. I like to shoot guns, interact with my fellow servicemembers, and health insurance is inexpensive. Plus it helps a lot with getting other jobs and social clout
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:49 PM
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Gonna take my little girl fishing :))
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:47 PM
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I do agree that people tend to victim blame when the genders are flipped, but I think that’s wrong too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:44 PM
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If we’re going by the definition of attractive where it’s a general consensus, sure. But I personally find him to be ugly. Like if he had a hot body and was running on the treadmill across the gym and I was perving but then saw his face on aforementioned body… the perv sesh is ruined. So the question becomes… Would you want to have his face and a hot body, even if I personally didn’t like it? Or would you rather be invisible?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:43 PM
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Must be pretty cool to be able to see souls
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:32 PM
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It’s gotta pass the threshold for me
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:28 PM
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What’s ugly to me is not ugly to everyone though. Like lots of women lust over Timothy Chalame or however you spell it, but he makes me wanna puke.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:26 PM
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When I think about assigning ‘fault’ or blame, I not only consider people’s options (in this case, the abusers options to be kind or to be abusive, and the victim’s options to remain with the abuser or to distance herself), but also what each individual has control over. We only control ourselves, not the actions of other people. Therefore, I can’t necessarily say that the choice and action of the abuser are the fault of the victim
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:24 PM
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Nonsense. Women have all different sorts of physical preferences. For example, my favorite is the rugged masculine types with beards, kind eyes, and a touch of grey hair, but other women like pretty boys or androgynous men, or hunter eyes, or blonds, or men who appear more youthful than ‘wisened’
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:20 PM
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I don’t usually notice men unless they have a nice body
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:15 PM
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It’s still the robber’s decision to rob you, and it’s not okay for him to do that to you. But it’s also not smart to do things that’ll get you targeted
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:13 PM
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Paperbagmaxxing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:12 PM
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I’m just one observer though
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:12 PM
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I hate when I’m perving on a man’s body and then I look at his face and it’s like 🫤🥴👎
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 02:35 PM
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I don’t think most women even like blond men
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 02:17 PM
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Abuse is never the victims fault… But sometimes victims don’t take action that they could have taken in order to save themselves either.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:16 PM
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You have 5 ovens?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:15 PM
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I wouldn’t marry someone I hadn’t had sex with, and I wouldn’t allow myself to spend so much time and develop feelings for someone who may or may not be sexually compatible with me. So no, I wouldn’t wait for him InB4 “what if the genders were reversed?” Yeah, same thing. If sexual compatibility is important to anybody of any gender, they shouldn’t wait for a partner who doesn’t want to have sex with them before some type of big commitment. Likewise, if you’re not ready to have sex with someone …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:08 PM
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Lying about being on BC and/or sabotaging contraceptives is wrong. But men can also choose not to have sex with ovulating women, bring their own condoms, AND pull out, and then the risk of accidental impregnation is approaching zero
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 12:32 PM
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The assumption isn’t “the only men worth approaching are the ones who already approached you” UNLESS you want somebody with that kind of initiative. Again, the assumption is that these women who are complaining are not ENCOUNTERING men worthy of approaching— Their complaints are “men suck” NOT “the men approaching me suck.” I’m not reading the rest of what you wrote because this is going nowhere
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 12:03 PM
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You said that if women want men who are leaders, initiators, and planners, they need to "meet that energy in return." That's not necessarily true, for the reasons I explained. If you're a woman hoping to meet men who initiate (because maybe you like their confidence and interest in you or whatever) asking out men isn't going to help you, because if they were interested in you, they would have asked you out first. The ones you end up with are going to be those men who aren't initiators. If you wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:24 PM
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Where is that? I'd like to read the legislature that specifies that legal aid shall only be given to mothers
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:16 PM
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I don't believe for a single second that anyone shitting on AGRs actually cares about the wellbeing of the younger person. Why are we not this concerned about all young people's wellbeing in any relationships? Why are we automatically assuming mistreatment in AGRs instead of actually asking the younger partners how they're being treated and if they're happy? Why are they being infantilized and not believed when they say that their partners are good to them and their AGRs are what they chose and …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:11 PM
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That's your opinion. Also the "frontal lobe development" thing is a misrepresentation of the research. The original study everyone likes to refer to only studied individuals *up to* age 25, and simply concluded that "the frontal lobe *continues* to develop into the mid-20s." The reality is that the human brain continues to change and develop throughout the entirety of the human lifespan; it is never "finished."
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:02 PM
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Were you not also offered free legal aid? And if they only give aid to the initiator in the dispute, why did you not attempt to file for custody before her, given the nature of the abuse? Did you file an appeal to the court decision? I am not rushing to anyone's defense; I'm asking questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:58 PM
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I don't see that as being on the same level as being called a pedophile, a predator, and abuser, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:50 PM
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this is not considered ok anymore as we now view teenagers as children that aren’t fully developed Minor teenagers are definitely still children, but legal adults are adults, and we still expect and trust them to make major decisions like voting, choosing a career, entering into thousands of dollars in student debt, enlisting in the military, making legal and medical decisions for themselves... And yet somehow, they're suddenly not viewed as capable of consenting to relationships with older adul…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:47 PM
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Like I said, the women who are complaining are not encountering men who are better than the ones approaching them. Actively asking out men who don't meet their standards isn't going to solve their dating woes. Generally, relationships are complementary. If one person likes to be the planner, the initiator, the leader, it can actually cause more friction if the other also is trying to plan, initiate, and lead, rather than being the go-with-the-flow type. For. example, I like for my husband to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:39 PM
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The men get shamed, but the women also get infantilized and gaslit about their "victimhood." I don't want anyone to talk shit about my older husband because we met and started dating when I was 19. I was a grown adult with full capability to consent and understand when someone was treating me well or poorly, and he did nothing wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:33 PM
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It's unreasonable and shitty, is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:30 PM
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Do the women you're dating also have tens of thousands of dollars around for attorneys to prevent you from getting custody? Also in cases where the custody dispute is not complicated, you shouldn't need one
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:24 PM
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So we've got about 60 more years of this bullshit?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:22 PM
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That's a good comparison
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:18 PM
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What "accountability" do older adults have to take for simply asking younger adults out? Are they not adults capable of deciding who they want relationships with? Presuming, of course, the older adult had no interaction with the younger adult when the younger adult was a minor, and there's no established professional relationship between the two (like boss/employee or professor/student or [god forbid] parent/child-like relationship) (side note: it's not "creepy" just because you would say 'no.')
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:02 PM
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Men go into sex knowing that if their semen enters the woman and she gets pregnant, he doesn't have a say in whether the pregnancy will be carried to term or not because it doesn't occur in his own body, but rather in the woman's. (No, biology is not fair in this way, but nothing's going to change that.) They often still have risky sexual encounters where the woman is ovulating or close to ovulating, and they often don't pull out, and often they don't use condoms. They don't attempt to assure th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:55 PM
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It seems like you want the women who are complaining about the quality of their dating options to start actively approaching "better men." But I don't think the complainers are finding "better men," or at least not ones who are interested in them... Otherwise the women would be getting approached by better men. The complainers aren't going "The men who approach me suck" they're going, "All the men I'm encountering suck," and whether they approach or not is of little consequence. (Especially if t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:36 PM
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A home, financial stability, good times and memories, love and support... I would still call a married couple with pet a family unit, plus if you consider extended family, marriage joins two extended families together, so even if a married couple doesn't have kids, they're still increasing the size of their families through marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:19 PM
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I am a parent, but... There are other reasons to get married beyond having children. You can still prefer someone's company and commitment to you for the rest of your lives, and build your life together. You can share a home and care for pets and combine finances and keep each other company and generally take care of one another... stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:03 PM
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https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/bonding There. "bonding," not "pair bonding."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 09:20 PM
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https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1jkk6ou/comment/mjw2rbu/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button read this. I explained here why studies on divorce rates are flawed and why they're not good indicators of an individual's ability to bond. Also why they fail to prove causation. I know that hormones/neurotransmitters effects are not immediate and that they are complex. That also makes it difficult to isolate the response to repeated o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 09:14 PM
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This is not pair bounding means, meaning of it: (of an animal or person) form a close relationship through courtship and sexual activity with one other animal or person. It don't means to have one partner for life just forming the connection. When humans do that, it's just called "bonding." "Pair bonding" is redundant, and any time someone says it I immediately know they've had their worldview tainted by the prairie vole studies. That is where the term came from, those researchers defined it in …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 08:39 PM
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You would need to prove that repeated exposure to oxytocin reduces one's ability to bond (I assume through downregulation, but I'm not sure if that even occurs with oxytocin.) But think about it... Sex isn't the only time humans release oxytocin. We get oxytocin rushes from interacting with close friends, hugging, seeing/holding/petting cute babies/animals... The biggest oxytocin dose a woman will ever get is while she is giving birth, and yet, women don't seem to immediately fall out of love wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 08:27 PM
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That's what I'm saying; there has been no definitive proof found that humans are "meant" to mate for life with one partner, nor that their ability to bond to romantic partners diminishes with new sexual partners. The researchers looking at prairie voles came up with the term "pair bonding" to describe them selecting a mate for life, as is customary for their species, but that cannot be extrapolated to human behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 08:14 PM
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"Pair bonding" isn't a real thing. The commonly-cited study that mentions "pair bonding" was conducted on prairie voles, not human beings. There is no evidence that people lose the ability to bond with romantic partners after a certain number of partners. Usually people here also cite the studies conducted by The Family Institute, which is an inherently biased source that cherry picks the data to report. For example, their data shows that people with 2 sexual partners are more likely to divorce …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:58 PM
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For me, 5'9. For shorter women, I'd say probably 5'5; mid height women, maybe 5'7
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:36 PM
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Villifying age and body type standards are dumb, I agree... But promiscuity standards aren't usually shamed; it's everything that comes along with it-- believing that sex is done to women, that it "soils," "dirties" or degrades them in some way, that only "broken" women are promiscuous, that promiscuous women inherently have character flaws, that that it's not okay for women to enjoy it, that they "belong" to their future husbands and are disrespecting them by having sex with other men before ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:30 PM
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That's kind of romantic
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:15 PM
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https://www.tiktok.com/@sparklinghosewater/video/7338134916942597407 I find this guy to be so cute!! I also appreciate that he looks a little racially ambiguous; that's a huge turn on for me
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:07 PM
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What changes in someone at almost 30 that they suddenly want to start having real relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:04 PM
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This idea that women who have hookups with some men and actual relationships with others are somehow punishing the men they're dating by "making them perform/work for it" is so bizarre to me. Women are not rewarding men based on merit by "giving" out sex, we are *having* sex when we feel sexual attraction to men. Some women feel that immediately and some don't, and some women feel it immediately for some men and not others. But either way, immediate attraction and attraction that develops over t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 10:59 PM
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What is she doing with her hands
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:34 PM
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How do they define complete and half-dissolution of emotional attachment?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:34 PM
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Next time, look them in the eyes, say hello, and smile. Then go back to your work. The time after that, you can try making small talk, and then when you are comfortable with that, you can work up to flirting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:32 PM
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Yes and no. On time payments increase your credit score. Closing long-held accounts (which happens when you pay them off) decreases your credit history age, which can lower your score.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:31 PM
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well, if you consider one partner dying "ending" a relationship...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:04 PM
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I don't really care that much about n count as long as he's a good relationship partner and good in bed (generally these things get better with more experience, so a lack of experience with one or the other is a bit of a red flag). But if he's my age (28) and never had a relationship, I would wonder what's wrong with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 08:00 PM
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Stop copying and pasting the same response and actually reply to what I'm saying before I report you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 07:50 PM
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Are farmers profiting off of people's survival by growing and selling food? You seem to forget that landlords work. They worked to be able to afford their properties, they worked to vet tenants and to get their properties leased out, they work to maintain their properties, they have to work to evict tenants when they fail to pay their rent, and they have to work to repair their properties when angry tenants damage them. They're not just existing and passively profiting off of people's survival. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 06:41 PM
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Most of the time when women have children, their careers suffer. Pregnancy/delivery/recovery/postpartum are hard and take away from one's ability to work, and often times the one who picks up the kids when there's an emergency at school or a child is sick and can't go to school/childcare, it's the mother who leaves work early or calls out to take care of them. When women have children, they expect to lose income; therefore it is reasonable for them to compensate by selecting a higher earning par…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 06:32 PM
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How many?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 06:25 PM
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turkey basters are like $5
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 11:14 PM
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smegma doesnt come out of the urethra; its a build up of dead skin cells, oil, and bacteria
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 11:13 PM
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What about STD risk?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 11:12 PM
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I wouldn't mind if it was my husband. we could still have kids with the turkey baster method, right? But i would be worried about preventing STDs if we couldnt contain the semen and we were new to dating one another
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 11:11 PM
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how old are you to be witnessing women's first boyfriends' treatment?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:43 PM
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Income is always a factor whether you're consciously selective about it or not
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 10:24 PM
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Good luck to you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 10:21 PM
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65% male, 35% female at the one, 75/25 at the other
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 10:20 PM
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I dont think most 80 yo women want sex or that most 80 yo men can get it up v well tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 10:18 PM
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Why did she match with me then? Like what is the point
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 10:15 PM
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I would be unhealthy and weak at 19-21 BMI
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 10:04 PM
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I matched with this woman on Hinge and sent her a corny pickup line, which she laughed at... but then when I tried chatting with her more, she said "Aw, I'm sorry. I'm looking for a relationship. Hope you find what you need tho" which took me by surprise... Like I do have STR/open to LTR & non-monogamy/married ENM in my profile in the appropriate places, but ig she didn't read too closely ? It still hurt my pride a bit, ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 10:00 PM
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Do electronic sex toys count as robots?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 09:51 PM
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Parents do not "own" their children; they are legal guardians. Physical abuse is illegal, and verbal/emotional abuse can also lead to removal of custody if discovered by the authorities. Yes, they are forced to go to school and get an education, or to receive an education at home, in *most* states -- that's not exactly a bad thing. Schools are not permitted to abuse children either. They are made to conform to reasonable expectations of conduct. Children are not granted full bodily autonomy beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 09:46 PM
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You’re just imposing your own standards onto women and saying their standards are wrong over and over again. There’s literally no other way to interpret what you’re saying. It’s unreasonable. Women have the ability to provide for themselves, yes. But some women don’t want to do that, and so that is their personal reasoning for setting their standards that way, and not wanting to compromise on them, because they will not end up happy. Whether you think that’s a dumb way to go about life is irrele…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:47 AM
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I think the men who fail to seek self improvement (if that’s what you mean by “rancid—“ I’m picturing a man rotting in a disgusting studio apartment filled with piss bottles and dirty dishes and food rappers everywhere because all he does is work a minimum wage job and play video games) do so because they’ve never felt the urge to do that; not because they’re jaded.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:42 AM
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Idk. I think the “older lady who hates men and constantly warns younger women about how shitty they are while she goes home every night to her three cats and a glass/bottle of wine” troupe is a troupe for a reason. Not saying that every one of those type of women are unhappy in their singlehood, but I do think it’s generally human nature to desire romantic company, and that it’s gotta be a frustrating conundrum when you feel disgust or disdain towards the population of people towards whom you ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:41 AM
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Were the boyfriend and husband material guys good enough to be “dial a dick appointment” guys? Of course. Why would I want to date or marry someone I didn’t want to fuck? For me, sexual compatibility was a prerequisite for a relationship. Let’s say the husband/bf material explicitly told you he can’t commit. isn’t interested in anything serious, and just wants FwB. Would you continue as FwB or were they not hot, gorgeous, well hung, amazing in bed enough to justify wasting sex counts on them? I …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:34 AM
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Sex is not something that women award men with, either; it’s not given from one party to another based on merit or work performed. It is something that men and women DO TOGETHER. The reasons why a woman decides to engage in sex (any consensual sex, casual or otherwise) vary considerably; that still doesn’t mean she is passively “letting” the sex “happen” to her. This is so icky I can’t even stand it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:22 AM
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12 year olds are generally not mature enough to care for themselves nor consistently make decisions in their best interest, so their parents are legally given the right to make those decisions for them. The government also oversees parental conduct to assure children’s human rights are not violated— that they are not being abused, that they are educated, that their basic needs are being met, etc. To say that because children don’t have 100% free reign over themselves until adulthood makes them “…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:15 AM
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Not a man, but I find that older men tend to be less jaded, actually. When they’re young, they’re full of piss and vinegar about every unfair thing that happens to them. By the time they’re in their 30s, most of them start to accept that life isn’t fair and you just get on with it and make yourself better.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 02:15 PM
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I’d be suing if I was her
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 02:13 PM
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Very unprofessional on her part
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 02:06 PM
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She’s wondering if staying with a 400 lb woman that he doesn’t find attractive means he still loves her or not??? That’s the “in sickness and health” part of marriage. Sheesh
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 02:05 PM
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So basically all you’re saying is you want women to have flexible standards when it comes to men’s finances and ”give men a chance” if they don’t meet those standards, even if it results in them wasting their time because those men can’t give them the lifestyle they desire and they won’t ever feel fully actualized or happy
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:54 PM
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I think parents owe their kids for enslaving them for 18 years and probably abusing them either physically or emotionally as well. I’m sorry if that happened to you, but that’s not normal at all. Some chores? A little bit of help with the pets or younger children? Sure, that’s just teaching life skills and responsibility. Enslavement and abuse? Def not. They should be legally required to provide for them for another 18 years otherwise face imprisonment. Surely this is meant facetiously. You thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:49 PM
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Probably looking after the baby while she’s at school, and part of the time at night so she’s not falling asleep in class. Full financial provision and then a gradual tapering off. She’ll need to get a job near graduation, of course, and then I’d look into getting her an apartment. Gradually she’d take over more and more of her bills (also I would encourage her to find a good man to help her out. It’s not difficult.)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:45 PM
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Why would any woman want to start having babies at 45 anyway?? Like that’s insane. Pregnancy, delivery, recovery, and looking after needy/energetic little ones is hard enough in your 20’s; I legitimately cannot imagine doing it in your late 40s. And why would she think that freezing only 11 eggs in her late 30s and then trying to conceive at 45 would work??
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:41 PM
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Last night I got in late from a long car trip, and brought my daughter and the leftovers from our lunch in the house. Absent-mindedly, I carried some cling-wrapped bread into the bathroom with me, focused on shushing my kiddo so she didn’t wake her father up while I got her ready for bed... I guess we were still too noisy, because I opened the door to see my husband standing there in his boxers. Startled out of my mind and without thinking, I chucked the bread at his face.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 01:35 PM
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I would feel upset because not only did he put himself in danger by choosing to fight instead of calling the police, he now is involved in a police investigation where he might possibly be incriminated for assault. He's risking leaving our child fatherless, whether through death/serious injury or prison time. Not a smart decision... Though i would admire his bravery
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 10:38 PM
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What's your definition of 'deal breakers" vs "standards?" Those two phrases mean the same thing to me. I quite simply would not have dated a man who couldnt provide for me; that's a deal breaker and a standard. That's not how i wanted my life to go. Seems like you just don't like the standards/dealbreakers some women have
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 10:29 PM
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Kids unfortunately have the ability to make adult decisions before theyre mature enough to do so... I would at least wait til she graduates high school to *facilitate* her leaving the home.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 10:22 PM
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Regardless of whether a given man has a line of women wanting sex with him or not, he is still "letting"any woman he has consensual sex with envelope his penis. See how weird that line of thinking sounds? Sex is not something women let happen to them, its an activity they actively decide to participate in. Same as it is with men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 10:19 PM
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Maybe not in physical form, but He is still here with us. He was here with us before time, and will always be with us
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 06:22 PM
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God is with us always
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 06:06 PM
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He has not told me He is against it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 06:05 PM
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I was joking, hence the reckless spelling
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 06:05 PM
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You absolutely can. Also the Bible very clearly says that God is omnipresent
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 06:04 PM
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You say that, but you don't have any basis for it. Most relationships end for one reason or another, and most relationships are age peer. There are toxic and abusive age-peer relationships as well, so you can't just say, "oh every time an agr goes south its because of the age gap."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 06:02 PM
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God is with us all
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 04:46 PM
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Why wouldnt an AGR couple have the ability to be good to one another?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 04:46 PM
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God loves every country and all His people, of course... Hubby and I don't have the most Biblical of marriages, but we still value our union and lifelong commitment to one another.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 04:44 PM
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Ben is a ho
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 03:48 PM
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Happy Sunday! Reminder that: 1.) America is God's favorite country because we r da best 2.) God created and blessed marriage, so 'spouse material' is the highest compliment 3.) Age-gapped partners have every ability to be good partners and to bless one another that age-peer partners do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 03:46 PM
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Neither are inherently bad
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 03:39 PM
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You're supposed to support your kid when they majorly fuck up, as a parent. What is the wife supposed to do, cast her daughter and grandchild out on the streets to fend for herself? I don't think her husband really loves her all that much, and if he's going to be this negative about the baby, he really ought to get a divorce. The wife should also start making the daughter behave more responsibly, because her life is about to change a whole lot and she owes it to the baby to get it together. I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 03:29 PM
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When I was dating, I was looking for a man to provide for me and the family i wanted some day. I knew i could fall in love with rich or poor men, and traditionally-minded or more egalitarian men. So i exclusively dated wealthy, traditionally-minded men until I fell in love with one of them enough to want to spend the rest of my life with him. I love him to death, and I can't imagine living without him. He's an amazing person-- wicked smart, great sense of humor, kind, honest, caring, athletic, h…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 03:13 PM
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Why would you waste time dating people with whom you have chemistry, but who dont meet your standards? Youre not making any sense
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 02:36 PM
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You can have chemistry with people who don't fit into your life, and you will end up unhappy in the long run if you settle down with them. For example, I wanted a wealthy husband who could provide for me while i SAH with my child. There were men with whom I had chemistry who couldn't do that for me, and there were men with whom I had chemistry that could... Why would I pick the former and end up miserable, having to work outside the home and put my child in daycare all the time, when I could jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 07:55 PM
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Its interesting that you decided to take a specific experience that most men have but most women never have, and extrapolate that into women lacking a virtue, like women are somehow to blame for not being treated like men...by men
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:09 AM
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If its just a mechanical description, would you say that the men "let" the woman envelope them?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:02 AM
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Its easy to think that until your feelings deepen and you want to move forward and for her not to see anyone else, and she doesnt want that with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 04:48 AM
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I have been in a situation before where the man recorded me saying things that would indicate consent (while under duress) before he proceeded to SA me, so that would be very triggering and suspicious enough for me to not want to have sex any longer. ETA: I convinced him I was a minor to get him to delete the video
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 04:35 AM
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Ig my husband just wanted a hookup... devastating to learn after 10 years together
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 12:26 AM
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Why would you not just call it "having sex" instead of using the passive phrase " letting them inside?"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 11:59 PM
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See later comments for the mathematical explanation
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 06:04 PM
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Like it’s flat out wrong to treat someone like their economic worth determines their human worth. I think you're conflating "human worth" with "worth as a romantic/sexual partner." They're not the same thing. We each set our own individual standards for the qualities we want in a partner, mostly based on what will make us feel happy and supported, and on what will help us lead the lives we want to live... Someone could be a perfectly good human being and be poor, but that doesn't mean he'll make…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 04:57 PM
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I didn't specifically break down the expenses, but I did make it less than double the woman's living expenses for a reason(rent won't be 2x as much, and buying bulk in food is cheaper, plus they save money by being on the same phone plan) But either way, more food costs more money, and either the woman makes up the difference in cost, or she buys lower quality groceries than she used to. Its a decrease in QOL. It is a reason. If you could have a rich, beautiful woman treat you to a lavish, luxur…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 02:49 PM
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right, its common sense. even if a man buys cheaper food, either she has tospend more on groceries, or she has to buy lower quality food in this hypothetical
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 02:39 PM
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Maybe before they were both living in one-room apartments, and they need a living room and additional closet space so they don’t kill each other. 2x as much food for 2x as many people is going to cost more. Because they can. Also, women sacrifice a lot to bear children.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:21 PM
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Again, you are free to set your standards and division of mutual responsibilities however you please. If your partner makes less than you and you want her to do more household chores, by all means, make that a standard of yours. If you want to split the bills and the housework 50/50 regardless of what each of you make, by all means, make that a standard of yours. Personally, I’m a SAHM and I keep the household running, and my husband works outside of the home to pay all of the bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:18 PM
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Yes, we are talking about NSA hookup sex. That still doesn’t mean that sex is something that women “let” happen to them. That view of sex is not normal
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:15 PM
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Let’s say a woman’s cost of living is $1000 a month (obviously that’s too low to be realistic, but it’s just to make it easy math.) She brings in $1500 dollars a month, so she saves a portion of the excess $500 and spends the rest on non-necessities. She meets a man who makes $500 a month, and they move into a bigger apartment together, because they need more space, and so it costs more. They also need to feed two people, and they bundle their phone plans together. Total combine cost of living i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:14 PM
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What’s convenient about it? We are all free to make our own standards. I’m explaining to you why most women have the “equal or greater” financial standard. I can’t tell you why most men don’t have that standard; it literally makes no sense to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:05 PM
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They should do whatever they want. Most of them don’t mind supporting a wife and kids
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:02 PM
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I assure you, PLENTY of men are completely apathetic about women’s sexual histories.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 01:00 PM
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“Letting other guys inside her?” Sex isn’t something that women passively “let” happen to them; it’s something they actively engage in with other people. If you take the casual sex someone you’re interested in dating personally, obviously she’s not the one for you, but for the love of god, don’t project your backwards view of sex onto other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:56 PM
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Quite simply that men who were hookup material — relegated to sex only, never more — mostly only ever got attention from me when I was horny. We didn’t hang out outside of meeting for sex, or get to know each other that deeply. Even if the dude was a FWB, text messages were basically “hey are you busy later?” followed by arranging a dick appointment. Two exceptions: One dude in high school that I was already friends with, and had a crush on before we had sex and he cheated on his gf. He was frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:53 PM
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The amount of money a man makes is important. If he makes less money than a woman, then by combining finances, she’s going to lower her quality of life. Financial provision is also a huge consideration if you’re someone who wants kids, because being pregnant and postpartum takes a huge toll on women’s bodies and minds, and it’s pretty traumatic to leave your young baby at daycare to go back to work full time.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 12:30 PM
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I appreciate your perspective, but do you agree that the stigma of being an older male virgin is substantially greater than that of being an older female virgin, and that the issue becomes increasingly harder to remedy with each passing year for the former? Of course. That doesn’t change my answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 11:53 AM
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I’d definitely take B. Being a virgin when you don’t want to be and you’re horny all the time suckkks, but like, at least you can fix that. You can’t get back your mum or all the kids you made and got taken away. You wouldn’t be a bum
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 10:08 PM
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No, I dated wealthy men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 05:17 PM
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I have always wanted any man of mine to be responsible for the finances… When I was younger (like colleged aged) I sugar dated to be able to afford college, groceries, and my phone bill. When I met and committed to my husband, he took over a lot of the provision for me (paid off my first set of student loans, bought my groceries and a new phone for me, etc.) At one point in our relationship, I was making pretty good money and was able to afford an $800/month apartment near my second college camp…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 05:12 PM
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Who cares? If it works, it works
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 04:56 PM
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25 BMI is overweight, 30 is obese... body fat percentage varies by gender
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 11:48 AM
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Right, but you might be a lot leaner too or she could be lying
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 01:22 AM
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darn
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 12:48 AM
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Do you think it would help if you decreased your bf %?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 12:34 AM
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These women are fat and just happen to have a fortunate fat distribution so they dont look as bad as apple-shaped women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 12:32 AM
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i believe that one
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 12:20 AM
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is she 6ft tall?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 12:16 AM
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I think they'd need to make a flirty, in context joke about it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 12:15 AM
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mm definitely a keeper himself
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:59 PM
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Yeeeah, I don't think he gets to have judgy opinions on other people's sexual choices
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:57 PM
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He didn't think about what it means if a man is also willing to engage in anal sex on the first date? Two people doing right away an activity that usually takes most people time to work up to are equally promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:54 PM
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Did you keep asking him probing (no pun intended) questions to get to the root of why he felt that way?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:50 PM
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Do women even worry about the men they're hooking up with not wanting relationships with them? Seems to me like the women who want casual sex are having it while shopping for their LT partners; they're not wasting time having feelings for men who are playing games. Half of the shit I read here about men being bad boys and "using" women for sex and breaking their hearts or whatever just feels like implausible revenge fantasy written by men who get rejected all the time and want women to feel reje…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:48 PM
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like what?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:41 PM
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pls make it stop
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:39 PM
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God, none of her face is even her face anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:21 PM
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Or perhaps… sometimes it’s a result of social conditioning, sometimes it’s a result of one’s own choices. It doesn’t have to be consistent
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:19 PM
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Well unless you’re a vegan/vegetarian, you’re either hunting, farming, or buying from the grocery store. I’d much rather be eating meat that had a nice life and died by my hands than consume meat without knowing where it came from and not even being grateful for its sacrifice.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 07:05 PM
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Ah, okay. That makes it better
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:57 PM
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Familiarity is nice though
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:55 PM
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May I also offer: ”You’re a vegan I bet you’re a vegan. You don’t like beef But I do And I’ve just eaten” https://youtu.be/AO5GzlyODsE?si=sSOESRfQhAVyS04v
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:46 PM
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I think you’re normie enough that you should be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:43 PM
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Is that a thing now? I remember asking my Gen X husband if he was mad at me because he was ending his texts with periods, and he was so confused.. This must be what he felt like
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:42 PM
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Glad our tax dollars are being spent to pay people to change back trans’ people’s sexes on their documents. Only the most important things
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:35 PM
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Is your instagram account not private?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:32 PM
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Too much unibrow
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:30 PM
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You just gotta worry about the men who follow the wrong pill stuff. Which is the same as you had to worry about before you knew of it, just now it has a name (and may be slightly more common)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:28 PM
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The crayfish in the creek are going into the soup pot too https://youtu.be/JJ1J9zDSHYo?si=19bZtXG7cop33oKe&t=6
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:10 PM
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That doesn't even make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:07 PM
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Congrats on your obscene cholesterol levels
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:07 PM
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IDK, the prospect of having a wonderful life with a good man was exciting to me... Of course, that can't be the *only* thing a man has going for him
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:06 PM
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Fortunately there are no lions in my back yard... Hopefully I don't need to pull a Fox and the Hound when I get my chicken coop
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:04 PM
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Negative
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 05:02 PM
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The obesity issue affects first world countries all over the world, and obesity happens as a direct consequence of a series of personal choices... so technically, yes, it is a "freedom" to be able to decide your weight. Homelessness and drug addictions are also usually results of a series of choices. Personally, I manage my weight just fine, and am neither homeless nor a drug addict
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:58 PM
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Anyone who talks shit is just jealous of our freedom *eagle screeching in the distance*
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:39 PM
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Even Bambi featured death
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:33 PM
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They are not pets; they are wild prey animals. They are endearing, but I must procure meat. We eat many animals that were raised by humans; the only difference is that now we have become so removed from the killing that we take meat for granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:21 PM
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No. They will run
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:10 PM
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The deer in my yard are soooo big and docile! I just went outside and crept within 20 yards of a herd... I think I will keep conditioning them to not be alarmed by my presence or the sounds of my windows and sliding door opening, and putting out oats and apples for them. Then, when I actually have time to butcher one, I can take a headshot from a close distance in a safe direction where I basically can't miss, and then I won't have to track it or be discovered by the authorities. They're really …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 04:07 PM
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But if they're doing oral or anal sex, or exchanging bodily fluids some other way, there's still a risk of STD transmission
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:54 PM
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Yeah, take that, you dumby dumb normal normie
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:10 PM
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What kind of sex are they having? If it's anything where he can catch an STD, doing it with escorts is too high of a risk
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:08 PM
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I keep trying to explain that concept to people like him and they just do not get it. They cannot conceive of it
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 03:07 PM
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For sure. I wonder if it's real
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:37 PM
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Would you prefer it to sit at the dinner table with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:33 PM
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Q4W: Your husband is extremely distraught over the death of a coworker. You come to find out he and said coworker were having an affair, and she was pregnant at the time of her death. They were not sure if he was the father, or if her husband was. He quit his job because he is overwhelmed with grief, and frequently wakes up in the middle of the night crying and trembling because of it. He tells you she's dead and there's no reason for you to feel jealous or threatened, and asks for your understa…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:29 PM
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Seems like Trump is trying to cut expenses by any means necessary... If you just murk criminals, you don't have to house and feed them
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:12 PM
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I think they do look for it. They just suck at it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:04 PM
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How romantic
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:03 PM
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But our house is organized so that it's easy to find things. "Where is the ketchup?" "In the condiment shelf on the door, with the condiments." "Where are the clean towels?" "on the towel shelf in the bathroom closet." "Where do we keep duct tape?" "In the ductape drawer of the drawer-thingy in the storage room." "Coco powder?" "In between the chocolate and baking sections of the pantry." "Where is the lint roller?" "There's one in your closet, in my closet, and also the Miscellaneous Useful Thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 08:00 PM
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At least you can make those make sound
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:54 PM
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I don't like mouth vibrators
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:53 PM
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Right, it accomplishes literally nothing. They just can’t find shit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:41 PM
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I stg if you moved a man’s toothpaste two inches to the left of where he normally sets it on the bathroom sink, he’d call his wife to come find it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:38 PM
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Too many abs
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:34 PM
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I just think we’ve forgotten that just because a man makes all the money doesn’t inherently mean his wife doesn’t get a say in how it’s spent and/or is under his control
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:33 PM
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Men can’t find anything
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:26 PM
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*Shrug*
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:24 PM
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Oh {:(
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:22 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:20 PM
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that’s what happens when there are fewer and fewer social consequences for being queer
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:18 PM
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Does the picture have anything to do with the question? IDk I’d be okay with that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:17 PM
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>I did not consent to that info. Gonna adopt this phrase and start using it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:16 PM
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When did we start conflating a husband providing for his family with parenting his wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:15 PM
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KMS
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:13 PM
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To me, settling implies that you're discontent with some aspect of your partner, but you try to overlook it because s/he is the best you can get otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:30 PM
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But he still longs for Stacy and feels meh about the woman he picked /s
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:29 PM
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People develop neuroses all the time, even after you've married them. That doesn't mean they're desperate. Whatever happened to "For better or for worse, in sickness and in health..."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:28 PM
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What if he's just being neurotic?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 10:03 PM
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Disagree. I think most people are content.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 09:57 PM
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Yeah, I don't get the offense women seem to take at their partners wanting DNA tests. If they're having anxiety about it, the easiest, most immediate way to begin squashing it is to help him conduct the DNA test. Then you guys can talk about what's making him anxious, because you aren't cheating. Unless you are cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 09:51 PM
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Do you think the woman he impregnated while all that was going on is HV?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 09:39 PM
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Same :(
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 09:37 PM
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He is okay, facially. Bald men look better if they have beards.. I'd like to see the rest of him in order to be able to r8
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 09:21 PM
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B-But, raw attraction! Settling!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/25 09:14 PM
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See follow up clarification
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 04:11 PM
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Who said that? also I'm literally kidding
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 04:10 PM
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Chill out. I'm just joking
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 04:09 PM
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How do you know you've consumed fentanyl in order to be able to seek out more fentanyl if it's concealed in other things, though?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 04:09 PM
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Not necessarily. The life expectancy in undeveloped countries is much lower, and many are shorter than global average. In developed countries, all things being equal, an exceptionally tall person's heart has to work harder to pump blood to more tissue, so that skews the data
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 04:08 PM
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Right, maybe he has a humiliation kink and it hurts so gud
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 04:03 PM
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Like what?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 04:03 PM
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The feminine urge to doomsday prep ✨💅
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 04:01 PM
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I suspect it has something to do with the drones in NJ
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:59 PM
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Why do people even take fentanyl? It's not fun
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:58 PM
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There are men who are short because they couldn't get enough nutrients to fully potentiate their tall genes, and there are men who are short because they lack tall genes. It's safest to reproduce with taller men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:52 PM
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Here we have tubs of greek yogurt with four 1-cup servings for like $5, or packs of four 1/2 cup servings of greek yogurt for the same price. And people buy them because they can't be assed to spoon their yogurt into a bowl in the morning
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:51 PM
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What's your answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:45 PM
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Q4M: Would you rather be alone in the forest with a bear, or the common cold?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:41 PM
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To us, I mean
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:38 PM
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Is mexico even dangerous?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:38 PM
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My frugal ass could never
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:37 PM
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Yeah but we don't want short children
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:35 PM
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I don't think they're nearly as common as people in pill spaces make it out to be
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:34 PM
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Right, but are you talking tubs of yogurt or the individual serving sized yogurts? (The small ones are a rip off)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:33 PM
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INVEST
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:23 PM
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12 yogurts?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:23 PM
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We should start a grocery shopping club. Like a book club, except we synch up our shopping and swap pics and pie charts for the stuff we bought
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:22 PM
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beautiful
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:21 PM
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that's the spirit girl! mark your territory
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:19 PM
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What a tasty looking male
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:19 PM
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Ask her if she wants to be our sister wife
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:18 PM
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20 years
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:16 PM
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There's a difference between looking at a male in a photo or video and standing eye-to-eye or looking down at him in person...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:15 PM
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There's just something off about her face. Like maybe too plasticky
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:13 PM
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a couple of them weren't that bad looking... though many were BUSTED
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:12 PM
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maybe they have a kink?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:10 PM
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Yes, i understand that, but what you are failing to grasp is that they are considered neutral initially and then they become sexually attractive to the women partnered with them, such that they are not only valued for looks or for personalty, but for both things. If you hyperfocus on being "hookup material," you will never end up in a happy long term relationship, becasue the term "hookup material" implies that you are only good for your looks and for sex, and that you aren't valued for who you …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 03:01 PM
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He will only be determined to be husband material AFTER the woman has developed sexual desire for him as a result of getting to know him, if he is in the neutral category INITIALLY. His analogy implies that the gf is only *ever* cute, and not *ever* sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 02:59 PM
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There are literally men on this subreddit and on RP spaces that talk about how they would never take a woman "seriously" if she sleeps with them early on in the relationship. I've had men tell me this to my face IRL (for what reason, I have no fucking idea. I guess I look like the tradcon type despite having been a mega casual sex having slut in my single days.) So, start with the acceptance that this is a real complex some men have, and then go from there. Like I said, I think it's a stupid str…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 02:55 PM
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They see them as neutral AT FIRST when they BEGIN DATING and then BECOME ATTRACTED to them as they get to know them. Why is this such a hard concept for the men in this thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 02:46 PM
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Yeah, I just disagree. I dated a lot of people, and there were several instances where the men wanted exclusivity and more with me, but they just weren't long term material. When I met my husband, it was like a switch flipped, and committing wasn't hard at all. It takes the right person, and sometimes lots of tries to find the right person, and sometimes lots of people to fill in the spaces while you're looking for that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 02:44 PM
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Right. But less so if you start out with at least a little titty meat... I was completely flat, so the sudden growth and repeated emptying over two years left me with deflated balloon "boobs."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 02:40 PM
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There’s the youthful, carefree, don’t-think-about-tomorrow just fun, and there’s the building a pillow fort in the living room with your kids and laughing at each other’s implausible bedtime stories fun. You know what I’m saying? The person you marry doesn’t have to be boring, but they might not be the same kind of fun you were looking for earlier in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 05:37 AM
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I guess that’s why people don’t talk about it very much… but it’s fine. A lot of women either get plastic surgery afterwards, or they feel alright about it because they fed their kids. Of course
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 02:14 AM
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I didn’t either, until it happened lol. The initial increase in size during pregnancy comes from growth in the mammary glands; that remains even after you stop breast feeding. When your milk comes in, obviously the more fluid that’s in the breasts, the bigger they are. So they vary a bit in size while breastfeeding. This unfortunately stretches out the skin a good deal, so when you stop breastfeeding, they tend to shrink and sag. If you started out small and had a significant increase in breast …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 01:58 AM
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If you only believe women when they say they are not attracted to their husbands, but not when they say they are attracted to them, that’s clear evidence of confirmation bias I feel like worrying that your partner is lying by omission about not being attracted to you, or having had been more attracted to previous partners, is a reflection of personal insecurity, and you should both work on that and also observe your partner for signs that she is sufficiently attracted to you (physical affection,…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 01:50 AM
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They say that and then make up conspiracy theories about how women are freely dispensing pussy to Chad but dangling it like a carrot in front of them
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 01:08 AM
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What reason do you have to speculate that women are lying? There are some women who will tell you they got everything they wanted in a man, and others who will say they lack some things and aren’t perfectly satisfied in their marriages. Some women are fine with divorce, and others want to avoid it at all cost. The logical conclusion there is quite simply that people are different. Yes, her perception of her partner is what determines whether she’s settling, not whether your or the rest of societ…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 12:18 AM
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When your priorities change, men who used to fit your standards will no longer be attractive to you, even if they were before. He is not able to make you happy because he does not fit into your life trajectory. At that point, you’re going to desire the stable man more, and be happier with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 11:55 PM
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My first crushes were on smart and kind boys, with little other qualifications, because I needed glasses and didn’t want to wear them, and I didn’t know what most of the people around me looked like. Later on I got contacts. My preference switched to soccer players and boys who ran fast. I had a deep crush on the one boy on my track and cross country that went out of his way to be nice to me, when the other boys were mean and tried not to let me run with them. He always seemed so effortlessly co…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 10:46 PM
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Does “chopped” mean ugly? Or done for?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:26 PM
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We tried that once and then decided it was racist
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:23 PM
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What does this say
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:21 PM
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Very French
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:20 PM
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Sure buddy. Continue to tell me all about myself and my life; you’re clearly more of an expert on me than me. This is weird and pathetic
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:16 PM
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Right, I got that part, but what’s their rationale?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:13 PM
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Settling is when you don’t get all of the things you want. A woman who marries a man who she is sexually attracted to, who has good husband/father traits, is getting all the things she wants, even if other people perceive her previous partners to be more attractive than her husband. Again, what you describe in your last paragraph happens sometimes, but I don’t think it’s very common at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:12 PM
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I craved novelty before I got married. I wouldn’t agree to have sex with the same person for the rest of my life if that craving hadn’t ceased, as was the condition when Hubby and I started dating. I don’t want any other man. If you must know, we are considering family therapy, because we suspect our daughter has ADHD, and we are struggling to parent her effectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:06 PM
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I was shocked. It was actually very painful, and I was leaking everywhere. Once the engorgement was relieved, I was very excited about the size increase, though I did find that they got in the way of exercising. I felt good about my chest for as long as I breastfed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 09:03 PM
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I can tell you as someone who’s had ~50 sexual partners, I don’t crave novelty. I’ve been with my husband for 10 years now, and I am far from bored with our sex life. He has even offered me the chance to get with other men, but I don’t want it. Sex with other men would just feel weird and sort of wrong at this point. Like sleeping at a shitty motel when you own a beautiful mansion. Does everyone feel the same way about their marital sex lives? No. But there are certainly people who are quite con…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 08:35 PM
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They aren't mutually exclusive though, so if you solely look for “he has to have the characteristics that make him a good husband and father” then you've made the conscious choice to drop the “He has to be pretty and fun". Sometimes behaving more stably and responsible is contrary to having the sort of fun people often seek in their youth. There are attractive young men who will take you out, and make you laugh, be spontaneous, and you’ll generally have a great time even if you’re doing stupid o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 08:28 PM
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… are the rates also increasing for men? I’m on an SSRI because I have ADHD
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 08:08 PM
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Why are they doing that?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:55 PM
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a woman's fantasy/ideal scenario is to mold one of these guys who was a highly attractive bad boy to begin with into someone who only wants to commit to her, I don’t think all or even most women are into “bad boys” with commitment issues. Most people want someone who is good to them and doesn’t make them feel insecure, unless they’re like, young and dealt with abuse in their past and they just think that’s normal and “exciting.” I do think women want a mix of “alpha and beta” traits in their lon…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:50 PM
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You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:32 PM
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My settings are not working. So I am back. I was thinking back to the first time I saw my husband’s face. I recall feeling a bit taken aback at first glance. He has some unusual features— deep-set, brown eyes that show a lot of his eyelids, a slightly hooked nose, hollowed cheeks, bigger-than-average lips, and a particularly square jaw. Brows that fade out like ghosts towards the ends, like they’re there but are really only suggestions, if you’re paying attention. As we spent more time together,…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 07:23 PM
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I think what happens is just that women’s too priorities shift from “He has to be pretty and fun” to “he has to have the characteristics that make him a good husband and father” as they get older. There are significantly fewer men who are both conventionally good-looking and have those other, non-tangible characteristics, and even fewer are available as women age, because people begin marrying off. {ETA: or begin declining in looks overall as their shitty lifestyles start catching up to them} I …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:47 PM
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Completely unrelated to the original post but… if you end up having kids with a flat woman, there’s a good chance of her ending up significantly less flat after having children, while she’s breastfeeding. I went from a 36 A to a B during pregnancy, and two days after I had my daughter, I woke up a 36E. So there is hope!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:32 PM
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which she couldn’t get to commit to her Why can’t it be that none of those guys were the right fit, long term? Or that none of those guys were worthy of her commitment, but the guy she’s with now, is?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 06:27 PM
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I do. I prefer older men and I am married to one. I think 35 would have been the youngest I could tolerate dating, when I was 18/19 and single. I found older men (typically in their 40s to mid 50s) are more mature, better in bed, more self-assured, play fewer games, can provide you with a higher quality of life, can offer wise advise based on their life experiences, can get you connections from their network, and many other benefits. The ones that take good care of themselves remain quite physic…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 12:22 AM
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Toxic people’s view of you don’t matter. You treat yourself like a winner until you believe you are a winner, and others will start believing it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:23 PM
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Why do so many men go into celibacy after divorce for years That doesn’t seem like a common thing. Most men who were high enough in SMV and RMV to get married should be easily able to get new partners. Like I know my husband immediately attracted me, a much younger woman, after he separated from his ex wife. Hell, married men even cheat a large percentage of the time…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:13 PM
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Let me say it louder for the people in the back 📢: Developed sexual desire is no less real, strong, or legitimate than immediate sexual desire. They are the same thing, it’s just that one takes getting to know a person as a person first. You need to stop looking at getting to know people and dating them as work that men perform in order to get sex. If you have no desire to put effort into a relationship (and receive effort in exchange), don’t date people. Just don’t do it. I don’t understand why…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 10:07 PM
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Yes. I have been proposed to by women explicitly trying to make this "deal" with me. Well, that doesn’t reflect the vast majority of women, nor what they mean when they’re talking about “husband material.” I don’t know why you aren’t taking our word for it when we tell you what we mean. I know it’s hard for you to imagine, but developed sexual desire is exactly like immediate sexual desire, except that it’s just conditional on knowing the object of that desire as a person instead of just for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 09:50 PM
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It’s far from fiction. Women describe it like that consistently in these spaces. While I’m the kind of woman that generally feels sexual attraction immediately, I’ve also experienced sexual attraction that’s grown as a result of getting to know someone better. It’s not “factors that make up for a lack of attraction;” it’s legitimate attraction. It’s actively wanting sex with your partner after getting to know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 09:30 PM
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Developed sexual attraction is as legitimate as immediate sexual attraction. If I was dating a woman who needed to get to know me before she desired sex with me, and I was interested in also dating and getting to know her as a person as well, then we would get to know each other before having sex. I don’t see an issue there, unless I was just looking for casual sex and didn’t want a relationship with her, in which case we’re just not a good match and we should move on. There’s no scam here, lmao…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 09:25 PM
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1) no crazy people 2) no exes 3) He needs to have any partners get STD testing done beforehand, and use condoms 4) He needs to use multiple forms of contraception 5) If any feelings develop, I expect him to cease contact with that person immediately
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 09:20 PM
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How are you going to settle for a woman who doesn’t put any effort in and then be unhappy that she doesn’t like you or want sex with you, and also claim that it’s women’s fault for this fake dichotomy? God this is so ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:32 PM
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Do you think women would gladly marry men for whom they don’t feel sexual desire? “Oh, this will totally be the one person I’m gonna smash for the rest of my life, even though I think he’s unappealing.” No. By the time a woman has deemed a man “husband material,” she is attracted to him, even if the rest of society thinks he is ugly or only average. It may be that she wanted sex with him immediately, or that the attraction grew over time, but she still wants him. I stg men want to twist everythi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:29 PM
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It’s out there and it’s silly and weird
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:23 PM
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I’m just gonna lol at the fact that, a) you don’t understand women’s cycles [they vary in length, the ovulatory phase is actually around 6 days in length, etc.] and b) you think that women somehow lose the ability to use their brains or feel entirely different about casual sex when they’re ovulating. Men are filled with testosterone every day, and yet somehow they’re still in control of themselves. Crazy how that works, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:22 PM
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You shouldn’t date women who are playing weird mind games like that. If you feel comfortable having sex with someone, and you want it, and that want is reciprocated, there is no reason not to have it. Having it or not having it doesn’t make it more likely that the other person will want a relationship with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:16 PM
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The issue with your framing is that, I can’t imagine any woman preferring a neutrally attractive man for any reason It’s not that they prefer neutral men to attractive men. It’s that they meet a man who meets their minimal looks standard (at least), who doesn’t inspire immediate lust, but who she thinks she could grow to be sexually attracted to if she gets to know him better, and who exhibits some quality that makes him a candidate for dating. If all goes well, that man then becomes attractive …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:08 PM
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Gonna sing my praises to God on the way to church, play with some precious babies, eat BBQ for lunch with with my family, shoot some pistols at the range with some friends, and then maybe go for a run in the forest. What a great day to be an American
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:18 PM
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You gotta stop looking at women like they’re dispensing pussy to those they thing deserve it. They are people having sex with those for whom they feel sexual desire— and whether they feel it or not is not a conscious decision. Again, you should not be attempting to trade romance and effort for sex; you should be trading romance and effort for romance and effort, and if the sex that comes of it should be considered a bonus for the both of you. If putting in effort and romance seems like work and …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:35 PM
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If your partner isn’t putting in an equal amount of time, effort, affection, etc., why would you continue being with her? If a woman posted that her husband never compliments her or does romantic things, what would the replies be? “You deserve better. Break up with him.” All I’m hearing is that men don’t prioritize being liked for who they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:29 PM
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“Acquired taste” also implies you didn’t like it before. Why are you all so negative
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:05 PM
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What I always recommend is that the first handful of dates men plan for women be something free or inexpensive. The women there because they are genuinely interested in the man will be okay with this. I also believe that women who are really into you will also plan dates, and there are even a lot of women that will go 50/50 or alternate who pays. Again, it’s about getting to know one another and putting in equal amounts of time and effort, and if the person you’re seeing isn’t putting in the tim…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:30 AM
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That’s a bad analogy, because I’m order for a man to become “husband material” he needs to be sexually desirable to the woman calling him that. A man who is “hookup material” generates sexual desire immediately; a man who is “husband material” generates sexual desire either immediately, or it develops as his partner gets to know him. A better analogy would be my husband buy expensive gifts for his ex wife when they were married, because to her, the price tag was the metric for investment into th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 06:22 AM
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Right. Everyone is different
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:52 AM
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Some women can have casual sex, some can’t. Some women feel immediate sexual desire for some men (generally exceptionally attractive men) and not for others, but can develop sexual desire eventually after getting to know them (like those in the neutral category.) Personally I have experienced both immediate and developed sexual desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:50 AM
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Elaborate.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:44 AM
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Tolerance would be if you were having sex that you didn’t desire, and you became neutral or numb to it. What women are talking about is not having sex until they’ve developed sexual desire, and then enjoying it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:44 AM
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I don’t believe that people can be “used for sex” as long as the sex was consensual. If you got into an attractive guy’s pants and had a good time, that’s a win. If you wanted a relationship and didn’t get it, that sucks, but it doesn’t mean he “used” you. Maybe lied about his intentions, and backed it up by performing boyfriend duties for you, which hopefully you also enjoyed while it lasted. some dudes will put on a show for weeks or month, and still lie about their lack of desire for a relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:41 AM
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Do you want to be valued for something more than your appearance?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:34 AM
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If you want to narrow your dating pool down to that, that’s perfectly fine. If you don’t want to be valued as a person, but rather just for your appearance, that’s fine too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:33 AM
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Wait didn’t you just say that women aren’t making husband material work harder Yes. Normal relationship efforts and benefits are not work to be exchanged for sex. They are efforts and benefits to be exchanged for efforts and benefits. Sex is something you enjoy together, for both of you. Why does the husband guy need to take you on multiple dates to build sexual attraction. Typically people date to get to know one another, and decide whether they want to commit to a relationship with one another…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:29 AM
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You shouldn’t date men for whom affection and romance are “work.” They don’t actually want a relationship with you. They just want the sex part, and they see it as something they’re getting from you, instead of something you’re enjoying together.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:20 AM
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It definitely varies from woman to woman, but if I had to guess an average, I’d say maybe 10-20%? Would fall into the “attractive” category.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:18 AM
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If ur only husband material and not hook up material, then naturally ur lacking in sex appeal. No. To be husband material, you still have to meet a woman’s looks standards, such that if there is no immediate sexual desire, there’s a likelihood of it developing down the road, as she gets more familiar and comfortable with you. Women do not date or marry men who fall into the “unattractive” category, (unless they’re like, forced, and then obviously they don’t want sex with their partners/husbands)…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:15 AM
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I don’t know if I’m qualified to answer that. Kissing was always a very intimate thing for me, so I felt disgust when I saw strangers doing it, and generally tried not to pay attention t enough to notice the frequency.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:09 AM
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The sex with the casual sex partners was more raw, visceral. If by “raw” you mean “happened immediately,” then sure. But sex with someone you have developed sexual attraction for over time can be equally as primal. Like, I like making love with my husband, but I also still get the very primal, “visceral” urge to fuck each other’s brains out. I think that happens to other couples, too. You used the word “transcends,” which to me sounds like you mean “is greater than.” Again, not necessarily true.…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 05:05 AM
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The boyfriend takes her on multiple dates so that they can get to know one another and build sexual attraction, not in exchange for sex. The woman also invests/provides her companionship, time, and sometimes money into these dates, so that the effort exchange, so to speak, is reciprocal. The casual sex partner is not investing or providing these things, and neither is she. All they have between them is sex that resulted from immediate physical attraction; he does not meet the required personalit…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:37 AM
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If you are particularly attractive, this is a fine standard to have. If you’re average (or you fall in the “neutral” category) the number of women who will want to kiss you on first sight is going to be very small. It will be even smaller if you are below average in looks. If you’re willing to search pretty hard for those women, or work hard to become more attractive so it’s more likely to happen, by all means, go for it. Like I said, sexual attraction that is immediate is not any more real than…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:29 AM
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That happens as a result of men’s Madonna-whore complexes— they don’t want the man to view them as “easy.” Sometimes women also worry that the man will only want sex, not a relationship, so they think making him wait for it will better allow them to assess the man’s intentions. (If you perform boyfriend duties that you don’t want to do, for weeks or months at a time, just to get a crumb of pussy from women you don’t even like, that’s on you.) It’s a stupid tactic either way. Women should fuck wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:22 AM
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100%. Nobody wants to be with someone for whom romance is a chore
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:45 AM
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Now there is the question you should be asking. He should looksmaxx and seek casual sex with women who are easiest to pull. They also might not have the most attractive personalities, and they might not be the most attractive women you’ve ever seen, but they’ll do for now… right? As he becomes the best version of himself— becomes fit, stylish, develops confidence, advances in his career and accomplishes impressive things, etc.— the women he can attract should theoretically increase in RMV and SM…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:49 AM
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The husbands may be less conventionally attractive, but they are attractive enough for their wives to have sex with them, and they ALSO have traits worthy of a relationship. It takes a long time to find someone worthy of marriage, so if you have some casual sex to tide you over until then, the man doesn’t have to have the greatest personality; he just has to inspire lust. How is it a compliment to the man who's "husband material" knowing that the only way he can have sex is by putting in 100 tim…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:28 AM
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If you had your choice of women to fuck, would you waste your time going for the mediocre ones? No, you’d got for the hottest ones. But for a woman to commit to and have a relationship with a man, he has to have certain personality qualities which are weighted more heavily than looks. To be boyfriend/husband material, a man must pass a woman’s looks threshold and also have an attractive personality. Because men who both are exceptionally hot and have exceptionally attractive personalities are ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 01:05 AM
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My husband would 100% make the cut for FWB, because he’s hot and he fucks like a god. (I tried to fuck him on the first date.) He also has all the important qualities that I need in a husband, and therefore I married him. I keep trying to explain to you guys, “husband material” is a higher cumulative standard than “hook up” material. A husband not only has to pass a looks THRESHOLD, but also a personality/RMV threshold as well. (Not just for sex, but for the whole of an LTR.)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:56 AM
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He’s hot and he fucks good
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:47 AM
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All husbands/LTR partners have to provide emotional support, have common interests, common (or at least aligned) goals, and financial stability to be good choices, regardless of their appearance… I hate the idea of inexperienced men getting into normal relationships with women, providing these things, and then feeling like “chumps” or “betas” because of it. Like this is just normal and expected of ALL serious relationships, regardless of how the dude looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:42 AM
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I don’t see it that way. There’s sex and then there’s romantic intimacy. I would make sure I didn’t catch feelings for anyone else, and remain committed to our marriage in every other respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 12:09 AM
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So what negative impacts on those things do you think ENM has
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:47 PM
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How does that tie into morality though, rather than just the definition of marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:42 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:36 PM
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I think there’s a scary way to mean “divorce is not an option” and a romantic way to mean it. Preventing you from leaving when you’re not happy and/or being treated poorly? Run. Saying it when you’re going through a rough patch and he’s willing to make significant compromises and/or think of every possible solution to make your lives better before considering divorce? Big green flag for me. There’s a lot of things that I would try to work through with my husband should those situations arise. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:59 PM
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That’s already conditionally permitted
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:49 PM
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Do you think it’s immoral for mutually consenting people to be non monogamous?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:32 PM
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Tbf, many of the couples on websites like swingerlifestyle look completely normal. Like you wouldn’t think they’re swingers if you saw them in the grocery store or something
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:29 PM
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My marriage is ENM (though we rarely ever have sex with other people.) The thought of my partner having sex with others quite simply never bothered me, and I figured if Hubby wants variety or something I can’t offer, then there’s no reason why he shouldn’t get it. Of course, there are rules and conditions in place for safety and to prevent emotional cheating. I don’t see any reason to go back to monogamy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 10:27 PM
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Follow up: I asked my husband this question and he said he’d stay with me. He didn’t believe me when I said I’d stay with him, which kinda hurt
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 09:21 PM
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God, I’d be so heartbroken… my husband is the best sex of my life, and it’s part of how we connect and express intimacy. Does he still love me in this hypothetical? Does he still think I’m attractive? I would stay, but I’d probably seek his permission to have sex with other people, and that would be really depressing. I’d still love him as a romantic partner and father of my child.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 09:01 PM
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Why is that to our detriment?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:50 PM
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There are toxic Stacies and nice Stacies, and toxic, less attractive women, and nice, less attractive women. I think perhaps you should raise your self esteem to be better able to recognize who’s who, and be more discriminatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:39 PM
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On today’s episode of Purple Pilld Debate: Men discover that it’s better to remain single than to date mean women who think they are ugly (You know, something that women figured out a long time ago)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:33 PM
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They said that to you, weren’t reciprocal with affection, and/or didn’t want to have sex with you, and you didn’t dump them immediately? Those are not healthy relationships my brother. You need to raise your personality standards
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:23 PM
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Right. Duh?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:18 PM
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Betcha teens would be less likely to shoot up a school if everyone would just immediately shoot them ded
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:16 PM
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🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:15 PM
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What do you mean by “pay tax?” Have you been in relationships where the women immediately wanted sex with you to be able to compare expectations?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:15 PM
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No one is complaining. They’re just telling you how it works— women want partners who aren’t ugly, AND some/many/most (depending on who’s talking about it) don’t immediately feel the desire for sex until they get to know a man first (unless they’re exceptionally attractive; then some women are okay with casual sex.) This didn’t make sense to me at first, as someone who does feel immediate sexual attraction towards strange men, but the way they explain it is that they can recognize when a man loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:13 PM
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I’m redecorating the room to be jungle-themed
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:09 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:08 PM
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Nobody is mocking you. They’re just saying you have weird views and unrealistic expectations
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:08 PM
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Arm the children
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:04 PM
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Last night I had a dream that I was a young boy living in a coastal village and swimming in a freshwater body of water with my brothers and sisters, and I kept finding small leaches all over my body, and the physical sensation of pulling them off felt so real… I asked my siblings if we could swim in the ocean instead, and they said no because they weren’t being bitten. So I gathered the animals of the forest and went to the sea, and the birds soared overhead while the terrestrial creatures becam…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 04:03 PM
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Those things don’t contradict each other
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 03:59 PM
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Take your time, then
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 03:59 PM
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I’m not complaining about the work, and most SAH parents find it worth it. That doesn’t mean it’s as little work as some people think it is
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 03:43 PM
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I wanna try playing it like that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:28 PM
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Right, but what about before then? What about if you have multiple kids, and even if one is 5/6+ years old and going off to kindergarten/school, you still have two more under 5? That’s not even considering the work required to make sure your kid has everything s/he needs for school, is clean, presentable, and dressed appropriately, and is transported to and from school, and then the care they need afterwards… in addition to meeting the needs of your other children, if you have them. And then whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:25 PM
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Another day, another childless man downplaying how much work goes into SAH parenthood
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:16 PM
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Having sex and masturbating are two different kinds of experience in and of themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:14 PM
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Not if every time you turn around your children are doing something that either may result in their death, or destruction of your house
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:13 PM
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Both are fine
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:11 PM
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Maybe in your opinion. For me, I definitely prefer all the work that goes into being a SAHM to working outside the home and paying for childcare, and also enjoy being around my child more than if she was at childcare for most of the day. But I also have only one child. I have absolutely no clue how anyone with 2+ children can manage to keep their house clean and running and stay sane. Big (kudos to those people). I think working outside the home is easier in that situation
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:09 PM
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The reward of each outcome does not speak to the relative difficulties of each path to them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:57 PM
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Because she wants to enjoy her kids while they’re little and spend more time raising them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:43 PM
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I would have laughed. Honestly would have preferred this to him sleeping while I was in labor
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:42 PM
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Men don’t have to do anything for women, if they don’t want to. But many of them want to, and it’s how they express their love.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:34 PM
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At one point in our relationship, I shaved my head completely bald, and Hubby stayed with me… but we were already together. I got approached considerably less after doing it. Most people thought I had cancer
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:31 PM
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I keep telling dudes on here that while “hookup material” men just have to be exceptionally hot, “boyfriend/husband material men” have to be physically attractive AND have exceptional personalities, in the woman’s opinion. As for the “bad boys” troupe… there’s a subset of women who need that up/down, rollercoaster ride kind of excitement that “bad boys” give them to keep them interested, but these are not the kind of women who are mature or mentally well enough for LTRs. (See: https://youtu.be/D…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:35 PM
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You need help, girlie. I feel sorry for you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 06:55 PM
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Thanks for the reminder to not waste my time
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 06:53 PM
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Lol, okay. You go forth in your love life worrying about whether or not it looks like you’re indulging in your partner’s wants, preferences, and desires to others; see how that goes for you. RPW don’t advise dating stereotypical RP men. My husband is extremely good to me and our family; he provides for us, is generous with his affection, is patient with me, is an amazing dad, supports me I whatever I want to pursue and accomplish, makes me feel safe, secure, understood, and considered…He’s not b…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 06:04 PM
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First of all, I don’t pander to “men.” I pander to my man. Because he’s a good ass man, and both the act of pandering to him and his reciprocation make me happy. Secondly, I have a life of my own. I have a family, pets, hobbies, interests, a military career, I travel… and the type of relationship I have is a direct result of the choices I have personally made based on my own desires and judgement. Thirdly, I’m not “too incompetent to control my own life.” I did just fine on my own. It’s just tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 05:39 PM
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She is often right
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 05:15 PM
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Formula? It wasn’t a conscious choice or process to get there for me. I just never cared if my partner slept with someone else; it never bothered me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 03:46 PM
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Idk, that’s been kind of fun in my relationship. They’re soft for a reason, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 03:13 PM
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Feels like compliment fishing. She’s probably a little chubby. Not bad in the face though
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 01:36 PM
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Happy V-Day, my beloved community! I hope you know you are ALL worthy of love, and I believe in your ability to find your person someday, if you haven’t already! https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=XwGnvoUA0Ko&si=TOusQiCWD9lxMvcL Hubby likes his present, laughed at the poem, and said it’s his favorite Valentine’s Day yet! We did it boys!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 01:25 PM
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Why don’t you just invent an innovative vehicle, become a billionaire, say wild and politically incorrect things on Twitter until Donal Trump notices you, get in close with him, and be put in charge of the Department of Health, and then you can work to eliminate booty-flation and bring peace to The People
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 12:25 PM
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Let’s get you back to your room, Grandma. It’s time for your nap
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 07:14 AM
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I just measured. My pinky is ~ 2.5 inches in length. I do have overall big hands for a woman, though my fingers are slender.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 06:58 AM
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