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| 352 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20s | Conversation | Exotic_Ad_4806 | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 04:57 PM |
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| 2 | Thoughts on Uber money?i pay for a womans uber both ways everytime but she is ten years younger than me and has a shitty job and we are intimate at least but i dont like it either, bad precedent to start especially bad if they got a good job or are same age...luckily for me only 20 bucks each way | /r/seduction | 25/07/26 04:19 PM |
| 4 | How do you stop putting women on pedestal for their beauty ?because women being beautiful isnt really a skill unless it is exercise and makeup...otherwise they were just born that way and they have nothing special about them that they did themselves | /r/seduction | 23/07/26 06:54 PM |
| 0 | Is giving business card during a speed dating weird?i was thinking of making a business card but more of a social card, which is more my contact info and more fun looking maybe with a picture of me on it but too corny, would that work over a biz card? | /r/seduction | 21/07/26 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Why are you afraid of “Rejection?”so it is more about doing approaches and stuff when you want to get laid or get a girlfriend vs doing it for the sake of doing it or to seek confirmation/validation? but i guess line blurs when people do it for 'practice' | /r/seduction | 21/07/26 09:09 PM |
| 2 | Do girls care if you have tons of followers?yea thats true but my face and real identity isnt tied to this | /r/seduction | 21/07/26 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Why are you afraid of “Rejection?”but isnt the act of being a pick up artist or having to approach so many people rather then settling for one good girl, technically validation seeking? | /r/seduction | 21/07/26 02:17 AM |
| 7 | Do girls care if you have tons of followers?i dont even use social media, and i hate social media obsessed people, waste of time | /r/seduction | 21/07/26 02:16 AM |
| 5 | Is game just the most “optimized” way to get girls?the last girl i met on a date called me gay, so im traumatized, but i get it is a numbers game but it just feels shitty when you get a bad deck with so many bad experiences and incompatibility in a row | /r/seduction | 17/07/26 01:09 AM |
| 19 | Is game just the most “optimized” way to get girls?all i know is i think i have game when the woman likes me but when the woman doesn't i realize i have no game | /r/seduction | 17/07/26 12:38 AM |
| 0 | The Lost Art of Meeting WomenExtremely | /r/seduction | 14/07/26 11:18 PM |
| 3 | How to Approach: When you notice them walking on the opposite side of a busy road?Haven't you played frogger before? | /r/seduction | 14/07/26 03:44 PM |
| 7 | The Lost Art of Meeting Womenidk i been on thousands of dates and i still suck at dating hahah | /r/seduction | 14/07/26 03:35 PM |
| 2 | I started a new job a couple weeks ago & I already have a co-worker interested in me but the problem is ..if you posting this, all we want you to do is to hookup with this person and tell us about the drama that happens...otherwise we will be bored | /r/seduction | 13/07/26 11:24 PM |
| 6 | AITO Who Feels Like Dating Has Never Been Easier?Idk i think it is true for some but a lot of 30+ women are single for a reason because they are so picky or too career focused etc | /r/seduction | 13/07/26 04:50 AM |
| 3 | Working on your self esteem will take you a LOOOOOOOONG way compared to any tips and tricks here.yea but even if you get a girlfriend you wont be happy until you fix your self esteem and arent dependent on her and she probably wont want to stay around long because you need her to feel good about yourself and got not much going on | /r/seduction | 11/07/26 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Expecting Men to Pay for First Dates Is Entitlementeven at a restaurant, coffee shop or bar in a busy city in public? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/26 02:19 PM |
| 1 | Expecting Men to Pay for First Dates Is EntitlementThats ridiculous, you meet in public spot and half the dates i been on i wasnt into the woman and some i walked out of because they were mean and rude types. And now some people expect the guys to uber them to date and back and the success rate of a first date leading anywhere is so low. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/26 05:12 AM |
| 2 | How do you deal with hostile women who use not being attracted to you as an insult?so why do you hangout with them if they are mean people? I drop those people so fast | /r/seduction | 06/07/26 03:29 AM |
| 2 | What are we even doing here anymore?I do OLD only. i keep meeting really mean women, like they just put me down bash my hobbies or job or looks etc (im average not ugly and my pics are accurate), one first date, i went to bathroom and she was exchanging numbers with a random guy at bar next to us...like how did that happen in 2 mins, others only meet if i uber them both ways on top of the date and they expect gifts...they never offer or willing to split or if they do it is a trap. They want more and more and offer nothing, most do… | /r/seduction | 02/07/26 02:40 AM |
| 1 | Stats for Top Guysis there an app to track dates/stats? i go on a ton of dates but my success rate is super low at getting a relationship or laid | /r/seduction | 29/06/26 05:21 AM |
| 3 | I‘m resilient and thats what you should befocus on the positives though, any little win or positive signal you get, and other stuff you got going on for you too, so if dating doesnt go well then got fall back like us the homies and the hobbies and the family. And Kudos that you got the balls to even try to cold approach, im too scared to do it | /r/seduction | 21/06/26 06:37 AM |
| 1 | TONIGHT I WILL APPROACH 100 WOMEN ON THE STREET I PROMISE. I WILL KEEP YOU GUYS UPDATEDwhat is the dating, cold approach and hookup culture in turkey? | /r/seduction | 19/06/26 12:27 AM |
| 2 | Cold approach has changed my lifevery helpful, thanks | /r/seduction | 18/06/26 09:21 PM |
| 5 | Cold approach has changed my lifeso i never cold approached during day but want to, so you just compliment them on something their wearing then what happens? they say thanks and then you say like you are pretty, we should meet again for coffee or drinks, can I get your number ? And how do you know who to approach? I'm in NYC lots of people which is good but a lot wear headphones or walk fast or with a friend or in groups...do I approach those like in a coffee shop or in a park or walking but slowly without headphones and alone?… | /r/seduction | 17/06/26 02:34 PM |
| 1 | I've been doing pickup for almost 15 years and now I feel convinced that its a scam and/or a waste of time?For example, rob gronkowski who was on the patriots and tampa bay team, is tall, great shape, has money and success approached women at a party and one said no. He even told her who he was (i know this because the woman was my co-worker family member)...so it goes to show obviously famous people like Elon can't buy or get everyone. So trying to be accepted or approved by anyone you approach even if you are amazing will ultimately lead to one person who doesnt like you then you will feel sad or n… | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 06:54 PM |
| 1 | I've been doing pickup for almost 15 years and now I feel convinced that its a scam and/or a waste of time?well you will always want to orgasm whether that be with same person, new person, or done by yourself assuming you still got a sex drive...and there is always someone out there who wont be attracted to someone even if they are famous. Like for example scarlett johansson everyone would be like id be down if she was down with me but i honestly am not attracted to her, so maybe 80% are but not 100% | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 06:44 PM |
| 1 | I've been doing pickup for almost 15 years and now I feel convinced that its a scam and/or a waste of time?well it is also is an endless need/desire to want to get laid, so no matter how many women you get you will always want more or someone different. Lust is a deadly sin for a reason. With that being said, i think the most fulfilling thing you can do is focus on one person and get to know them and find a great partner or at least a consistent few to keep rather then constantly approaching people. It also sounds like you are doing it for validation and adrenaline. The truth is no guy or woman and a… | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 06:38 PM |
| 11 | Deleting all dating appsi got the best subscription tier and i live in big city, i get matches and i go on dates but even then nothing makes sense, girls still ghost, or have no idea what they want and are talking to ten guys at once...online dating is the fastest way to overthink and go insane yet i still use it and have gone insane. | /r/seduction | 15/06/26 05:08 PM |
| 1 | What are the biggest factors that stop you from cold approaching?and you dont know if they physically into your or single but i get the appeal of cold approach and sometimes i wish i had more confidence to do it in certain situations or when traveling | /r/seduction | 12/06/26 06:57 PM |
| 15 | What are the biggest factors that stop you from cold approaching?low confidence or self esteem, limiting beliefs, some depression or comparison to others that isnt always realistic or thinking they expect me to own a private jet or be a tech CEO or super charismatic or 6 foot tall...im also introverted and it seems exhausting | /r/seduction | 12/06/26 03:18 PM |
| 1 | all men have the same problems?i cant get laid anymore, i can get dates (sometimes multiple with same person), maybe a kiss or hand hold or cuddle but no one wants to have sex or im bad at escalating, im not sure if we are in a sexrecession or i just suck but in my 20s it was easy mode | /r/seduction | 12/06/26 04:14 AM |
| 1 | ED problems with a new girl.it is so easy now with telehealth and a trillion websites to get generic or branded viagra or cialis sent right to your door, you can just use that to build confidence then stop using once comfortable and confident | /r/seduction | 11/06/26 04:20 PM |
| 3 | Is everyone getting laid?where do you meet the people or what changed? | /r/seduction | 06/06/26 06:15 AM |
| 10 | Is everyone getting laid?i did online apps in my 20s and 30s main way, and i think dating is worse now...i got a hookup every couple weeks, and a date every other day...now i get barely any hookups in a year, people way more serious and intentional, apps more monetized and shitty | /r/seduction | 06/06/26 06:14 AM |
| 10 | Is everyone getting laid?I did well in my 20s and now in my 30s barely getting anything. A lot of dating and hookup culture is messed up right now but 30s dating isnt as fun | /r/seduction | 06/06/26 05:11 AM |
| 1 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sanything i should read or say or know as an opener and close? | /r/seduction | 01/06/26 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sNever tried. What do you say or how do you stop them? | /r/seduction | 30/05/26 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sya i guess more social life, dorm life, friends, events, social structure, everyone was more care free, into night life/hookups/having fun, just different stage of life now and i hear gen z is not really dating or having sex much. | /r/seduction | 27/05/26 05:42 PM |
| 1 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sThe answer is to get more out of shape i guess. But i guess my standards are higher as well and so are theirs. I dont want lead someone on just to get laid. | /r/seduction | 27/05/26 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sIm looking for long term and dont want to get metoo'd but i was a god in my 20s. Now im a no1 | /r/seduction | 27/05/26 05:55 AM |
| 1 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sWell that makes it hard. You can commute here first hahah | /r/seduction | 27/05/26 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sWhere you live? | /r/seduction | 27/05/26 05:54 AM |
| 1 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sbut they say no or they say not ready or they push my hand away if i do too much and i need them to reciprocate and show signs, otherwise it feels really weird and i dont want to end up being MeToo'd | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20swell tell me what i should do? I touch, i try to escalate, i kiss, and i even sometimes ask them directly. The ten date girl liked me and was sad i ended it with her but i said i dont want to keep seeing her if she isnt ready to have sex 10 dates in but she said eventually she would but still didnt wanna keep investing in it | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20slets all go gay, problem solved, agreed | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 03:07 PM |
| 1 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sbut honestly what makes a girl high level, her looks? Because that means they were basically just born that way and possess no real talent themselves | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sIm looking for a life partner now too. Not a hookup but even hard to get someone for long term. | /r/seduction | 26/05/26 06:15 AM |
| 2 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sI agree i need more social hobbies and to do meet stranger events. Im definitely more introvert guy but have small group of friends and work 100% from home. | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 07:55 PM |
| 6 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sThey wont leave their house unless it is a nice dinner or something like that | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 07:53 PM |
| 3 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sJust apps. Not a nightlife guy. | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 06:36 PM |
| 3 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sI never cold approached. Would love to see it done or try it out myself. I did it before in my 20s at parties or night life but i want to try during the day | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 06:33 PM |
| 14 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20si usually only match with women 30+ even though my filter is set to low 20s. But the 20 year olds have been more sugar baby and the 30 year olds are delusional and want a perfect super rich man to marry. | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 05:35 PM |
| 43 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20swhere do you meet people? like hobbies or bars or cold approaches? | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 05:34 PM |
| 35 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sso many profiles want princess treatment or are sugar baby adjacent but they must be getting some people providing that to them right or they would be brought back to earth or they have a friend or social media telling them that? I dont get it. I remember when splitting the check was a thing, not that I dont care about paying for the dates forever but I dont want to have to take them to fancy places everytime or buy them expensive gifts to keep them happy that's crazy and not a good foundation f… | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 05:33 PM |
| 10 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20sso do you meet people in person a lot if so where or how? or mainly use Online dating? i mainly use online dating, I work remotely 5 days a week, I probably should find more community based hobbies but not sure where to start. I'm not a huge drinker or extrovert, so I dont go to bars or do night life a lot etc. | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 05:21 PM |
| 55 | Dating, hooking up is significantly harder for me in my 30s than my 20salso there is a sex recession, people across the world are having less sex, drinking less alcohol and just probably staying in getting their dopamine and distorted world dating view from their phones. And there's an educational and political divide between men and women, big gap thats driving less attraction. I am educated and got a good job, I'm liberal, a good listener, kind but im not 6 foot, im not the .1% in wealth with a private jet, im not a model, im not smooth like tom cruise. Online da… | /r/seduction | 25/05/26 05:12 PM |
| 2 | hardest country to game and get women?all the persian woman i met were very smart but uptight, very high standards and easily annoyed but maybe thats me lol | /r/seduction | 08/05/26 09:39 PM |
| 6 | How do I ask a guy I went out with a few times a couple months ago if he wants to hook up?i invited girls back to my place a few times like even same girl came back several times and we would just cuddle and watch tv but it never led to a hookup, most people i meet dont drink anymore and neither do i so makes hookups a lot harder | /r/seduction | 03/03/26 05:29 PM |
| 11 | How I Get Girls To Come Straight Over (My Full Framework)from my experience, if a girl i met online come to my place directly 80% of the time i dont find her as attractive as her pics or she is weird. It has happened for me several times but usually not worth it, i just feel so uncomfortable and trapped with a stranger at my place, going to a bar first makes it so much better | /r/seduction | 16/02/26 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Why dating "sucks" now, and what to do about itNo one gave you feedback or you didnt ask for advice? | /r/seduction | 05/02/26 01:48 AM |
| 1 | Why dating "sucks" now, and what to do about itSounds more homogenous population and less people in general but i bet you are a catch. Just need to be seen. Fix the pics or work on hobbies/events or in person approach | /r/seduction | 05/02/26 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Why dating "sucks" now, and what to do about itIm in a nyc. What about you | /r/seduction | 05/02/26 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Why dating "sucks" now, and what to do about itI can get women but im not physically attracted to them or if i am they are like an au pair from another country but lack work visa and perfect english or if they are from here and attractive they disappear after a few dates or one minor thing disqualifies me. I think my main weakness is my height being 5' 7" but i still get dates and matches | /r/seduction | 05/02/26 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Why dating "sucks" now, and what to do about itYa agreed. I get it but shit aint easy for anyone nowadays. | /r/seduction | 04/02/26 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Why dating "sucks" now, and what to do about itIm also liberal but what im saying is if im having issues i cant imagine how the incels, non-introspective, poor, MAGA and uneducated people are doing with dating or getting laid. | /r/seduction | 04/02/26 10:27 PM |
| 3 | Why dating "sucks" now, and what to do about itYea i know they need xyz and i think i do provide a lot but to be honest the juice isnt worth the squeeze anymore and most are too picky. Id rather just be single and asexual than the headaches, emotional pain and hoops they put me through. | /r/seduction | 04/02/26 10:23 PM |
| 7 | Why dating "sucks" now, and what to do about itYa but apps are different. I do agree men are creepy on apps but probably wouldnt be as much in person. You got to be aggressive on app to get attention sometimes but some come off creepy or sexual only | /r/seduction | 04/02/26 09:57 PM |
| 10 | Why dating "sucks" now, and what to do about itmost men dont approach in person, so i think men arent confident or aggressive enough | /r/seduction | 04/02/26 09:51 PM |
| 4 | Why dating "sucks" now, and what to do about itsame i have two master degree, i go to therapy, i exercise, i dress well, groom + hygiene + friends, good listener, not ugly and have money...still not good enough for majority of women for whatever reason | /r/seduction | 04/02/26 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Practice Makes Perfecti only do online dating but i kept getting friendzoned, so i realized my issue was i wasnt doing any kino/touching at all, and that made kissing hard and i wasnt flirting enough...i also was talking too fast and not letting the person finish talking. So now i touch like tap on their arm while talking occasionally, talk slower, let them finish talking, be fully present...it helps a lot but still got more work to do to help my confidence. Sadly it isnt natural for me but it leads to more success f… | /r/seduction | 11/01/26 09:19 PM |
| 61 | Should I just breakup w my gf and get back to the gameThe game is never as easy or fun as it seems. You dont know what you have until it is gone | /r/seduction | 05/01/26 01:00 AM |
| 2 | Does written affirmations work?I guess to rewrite negative thoughts and patterns. Build confidence. Visualization of positive outcomes | /r/seduction | 05/01/26 12:50 AM |
| 2 | How I went from being a virgin to having meetings and sex.Before dating apps went shitty and for profit ramp up and i was in college. So got a ton of tinder matches. Now i dont get any matches since they monetized to death and i had a lot of free time | /r/seduction | 02/01/26 07:54 PM |
| 1 | How I went from being a virgin to having meetings and sex.Not at all. I knew nothing. I just went on a ton of dates. I never did pick up | /r/seduction | 02/01/26 06:37 PM |
| 6 | How I went from being a virgin to having meetings and sex.I got close to 300 lays in my 20s. back when tinder was good and free and no tiers. In my 30s now i barely can get laid maybe 1 or 2 a year. I am focusing more on relationships and meaningful stuff and i get im older/not as attractive but i still try to be fit and good hygiene. | /r/seduction | 31/12/25 02:46 AM |
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