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Expatriated_American/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 07:57 PM
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In my experience (I work in a STEM field at a liberal institution) it is common for women (especially white, boomer women) to argue that criteria for hiring women should be lower than those for hiring men. They feel that if the criteria are the same as for men, women won’t be hired at all; the argument goes that social barriers and sexism have made it impossible for women to compete on a level playing field, and it’s better for the institution and society if more women are hired even if they hav…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/07/25 11:10 PM
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That they need affirmative action in order to be hired.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/07/25 02:55 PM
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Overall, I think marriage can make sense if you’re planning to have kids together. And maybe not until you’re going to soon have your first kid. It’s a practical arrangement given the laws surrounding marriage. You should love each other if you’re going to get married, but marriage is unnecessary for love. The times right now are not actually that uncertain, compared to most of our history. So sure, have kids.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/06/25 04:42 PM
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Not to be a downer, but marriage often fails even if you do it right. People can change, and it’s not under your control. It’s a risk you have to be aware of and willing to take.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/06/25 04:36 PM
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Yet their personal problems are due to the “patriarchy” 🙄
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/04/25 05:33 PM
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Have her get a job, now that the kids are in school.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 11:19 PM
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I kept them for historical reasons, for others and myself. Recently my girlfriend asked to see my wedding pictures so she could see how I looked 20 years ago. We spent an hour leafing through my wedding albums. I looked pretty damn good, I thought. But my gf says I’m sexier now.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 03:05 PM
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You’ll do better. Lots of great women out there.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 04:07 PM
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For me, after this happened I discovered that I was far more desirable than my shitty marriage led me to believe. It felt like suddenly I was on easy mode.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 03:04 PM
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Thanks, that’s interesting and thoughtful. Being vulnerable can be pretty fraught.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/24 06:19 AM
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Why did your gf break up with you? Just curious, my situation has some similarities.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/24 05:56 AM
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My ex probably thinks I had a midlife crisis. But to me it was a midlife opportunity.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/24 04:34 AM
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Raise your expectations reeeeal high, and date at least 30 before choosing.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/24 04:56 AM
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I did this for six months while separated, while making it clear that it was a casual arrangement and I was dating others. She was very hot, smart, interesting, extroverted, great in bed, and a total mess. Her BPD was exhausting. Honestly I don’t regret it, but I’m glad I moved on when I did.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 05:30 PM
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She’s being really shitty to you if she won’t support you when your parents die. If your marriage is great otherwise then maybe you shouldn’t divorce her. But if this is one more of several big problems then yeah, cut her loose. I bet you can do better.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 05:47 PM
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Don’t stay for the kids. It’s not better for them, and it’s not better for you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 07:48 PM
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Your dating prospects will improve vastly once you’re divorced. But also you will have less money, as you and your ex will be paying for two homes instead of one. Probably you will be happier divorced - I certainly am. Happiness > money.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 07:16 PM
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You don’t have to pay. Just say no.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 06:33 PM
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Dump her now. Better than being divorced later.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 03:52 AM
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By being married you were in a business partnership with your STBX. A partnership where everything you earned was split 50/50. That business partnership didn’t work, so now you’re both cashing out. What do you do when you have a shitty business partner? You get out of the situation as quickly as you can, and learn from the experience.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 02:20 PM
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How long are your international trips, and can you control when they happen? I’m on a 2-2-5-5 schedule and my ex is flexible about trading a couple days here and there when I have travel. But you could also trade off weeks.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 02:54 PM
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No way, take the cash and invest it.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 02:58 AM
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He’s 100% correct. So glad my new gf doesn’t want to ever get married, for all these excellent reasons.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/24 03:24 PM
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“Marriage is like a larva stage for true happiness, which is divorce! Because you just let go, and everything’s fine now. Divorce is forever. It really actually is! Marriage is for how long you can hack it. But divorce just gets stronger, like a piece of oak.” Louis CK
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 05:51 PM
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Because we have actual, ya know, responsibilities.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/24 03:57 AM
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Your therapist is right. And you will find someone better.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 12:49 PM
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Could be do-able. In a few months if things work out then you could start spending a few nights a week at her place.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 07:24 PM
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They ignore me. Really they should apologize for the shitty behavior of their daughter. But I’m not holding my breath.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 02:59 AM
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I think a good balance is to be open to commitment, but not open to legal marriage. I’ve always seen legal marriage as a way to financially protect the stay-at-home spouse when you have kids. Once you’ve had your kids and gotten divorced, there is not much advantage to getting married again, only unnecessary risks. My girlfriend feels the same way.
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/24 07:15 PM
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Correct. And that’s 40% after taxes
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 06:21 PM
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To be clear, that’s 40% after taxes, and includes both alimony and child support. So the child support piece will eventually go away.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 11:24 PM
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My girlfriend doesn’t want to ever get married again, fortunately.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 09:23 PM
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Yeah, my hopes are not high
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 09:05 PM
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Yes, unless she gets a job.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 08:58 PM
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Thank you! It feels good to vent 😂
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 08:25 PM
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CA, lifetime.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 08:24 PM
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Divorce Song - Liz Phair
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 06:19 AM
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You totally can. The main thing is to be totally up-front with your intentions. And dating is expensive, so you want to be past “date of separation” so that you can’t be accused of spending marital assets on dating. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised about easy it is to date for a man in your 40s if you’re in shape and successful.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/24 06:30 PM
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I’m interested in the drastic mistakes you didn’t make :) What do you realize better about them in retrospect?
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 07:44 PM
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I don’t recommend this. 1) The longer you’re married, the longer you’ll be paying alimony. 2) You’ll be in a better mental state sooner if you separate 3) She needs real pressure to find a job, and the financial stress of separation/divorce will push her to apply to more jobs and find one sooner 4) There may be a chance she finds a job in the next 6-12 months, but there is also a real possibility she doesn’t. And you don’t want to just keep kicking the can down the road.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 07:17 PM
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Revenge is best served cold…
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 10:38 PM
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I’m 50 and limit myself to 32 (the half plus seven rule) and up to my own age. But on OLD I can find attractive women to date anywhere in that range. I’m decently handsome, and have an interesting but very stable job that makes good money. Tall, muscular, but a bit overweight (BMI 27). If you state up front that you don’t want more kids, then you won’t have to worry about them asking for that. But they will want to line you up for a LTR, and then you’ll have to decide whether to keep fishing or …
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/23 06:21 PM
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Women usually have to downgrade if they want a new relationship. Not true for men.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/23 05:07 PM
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But if the sex isn’t amazing then you can just dump her. And if the sex is amazing then why bother sleeping with anyone else? I don’t see much downside to agreeing to being exclusive. Exclusivity doesn’t mean you’re committing to a LTR; you’re just agreeing to not have a sex roster.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 07:41 PM
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I always think of the joke: “Why is divorce so expensive? …. Because it’s worth it!”
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 02:32 AM
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Despite my very expensive divorce, I think marriage might be ok as long as your new wife works and you have a prenup to protect your assets. And you have to only do it after a long period of LTR, tests of the relationship that you’ve been able to work through, yet also be willing to walk away if things aren’t working.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 06:30 PM
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It can work if you’re explicit about only wanting to date casually, and you find women who want the same. But keep LTR off the table.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 03:45 PM
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Yeah and no doubt his wife feels she earned it! So crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/23 03:17 AM
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Stop paying her credit cards.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 01:49 PM
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Obama has better sense than his wife.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/22 04:26 PM
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Oh yes it does!!! 😁
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 03:53 PM
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I’ll date single moms, but only if they are educated and have a career. And are attractive. And are not bitter man-haters. And are submissive in bed.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/22 12:37 PM
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Lots of women love receiving oral too! Usually if they love to receive then they also love to give. Though if they’re really subby then they may be more into servicing than being serviced.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 10:01 PM
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Yes, lots of women love giving BJs. My soon-to-be ex-wife is not one of them... At this point, enthusiasm for oral sex is a 100% requirement for any woman I date.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 09:55 PM
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Well, dating and sex are all fine and good. But if you don’t want (more) kids then definitely don’t get married or let a woman move into your house. The financial risk is too high. And get snipped to remove that risk too.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/22 08:03 PM
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