TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

Exploretheunknown Archive

View 0 posts and 38 comments by Exploretheunknown on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

I get that, and it is a hard thing to do, to give up on someone you care about. I completely understand. That being said, life is about choosing your moments. Keep being awesome.
/r/seduction09/10/12 01:37 PM
1

Don't be an idiot, she doesn't want anything to do with you, so let her go. If an ex wants to remain in contact awesome. If not, don't go chasing after her.
/r/seduction09/10/12 07:35 AM
5

That was the ideal time to ask her out. That being said, if you run into her again, sooner is better than later. Even if you don't just take it as a learning experience.
/r/seduction09/10/12 05:59 AM
2

You seem slightly confused. You can show that you care, and you can even be over the top with it. That being said, it takes the proper mindset and skill level to do so. Done incorrectly it comes of looking very clingy and way too invested given the amount of interaction. Think about what happens when a girl seems clingy to you. Do that increase your interest in her? I doubt it. The reason that not showing your attraction is taught is that it is much easier and much less risky, for nearly the sam…
/r/seduction09/10/12 05:32 AM
3

I have some bad news for you. Odds are you aren't really that nice. The vast majority of "nice guys" act how they do not because they want to help people, but because they want others to "return" the favor. That being said, you don't need to become a douche to get girls. You can become a truly nice guy who does things expecting nothing in return which works significantly better than becoming a douche. To do this you need to do a few things. First, be willing to make people dislike you. Odd sound…
/r/seduction09/10/12 04:20 AM
1

My friend, I do believe that clothing falls under the lines of being classified as items.
/r/seduction08/10/12 01:25 PM
1

This is going to sound insane, but properly fitting well styled clothing that works well with your body type. Shocking, I know, but it really matters. Girls notice guys who dress well.
/r/seduction08/10/12 03:26 AM
4

That hurt to read. If you could rewrite it more cleanly that would be extremely helpful.
/r/seduction08/10/12 03:21 AM
6

Good work. Trying is the first step. You did amazingly. There is no reason to feel bad. You got further than every guy out there who decided not to talk to the girl they are interested in. You will get better at this as time goes on and you do it more. That being said, I agree with your take on the situation, she isn't interested. For next time with a different girl, change what you said to just asking if she wants to go for coffee.
/r/seduction07/10/12 05:17 PM
0

The problem is your mindset. Many people have a problem with remaining in the zone. I know I did and still on occasion do. I think you will find that you do better on days that have been good, and times when you are fully present, while the times when you are in your own head you will do rather poorly. The trick is to be able to identify when you are in each mood and to find ways to shift yourself to a mood that is fully engaged in the present. I suggest meditation.
/r/seduction07/10/12 05:11 PM
1

Exactly. I would argue that being funny is more related to how people view you that what you say, unless what you say is amazing.
/r/seduction07/10/12 05:07 PM
1

Just try things out. Perhaps you kill a few potential relationships this way, but in the end you learn what feels natural for you and what works. That being said, you can say extremely romantic things before ever kissing her if you approach it with the right mindset. On the flip side, with the wrong mindset you come off as kind of stalker if you seem super invested before anything ever happens. If you are looking at the relationship as something you really want and yet you don't know the girl we…
/r/seduction07/10/12 05:05 PM
1

You can develop a sense of humor. Also if you have the right presence, even stuff that wouldn't have been deemed humorous before is suddenly very funny. This tends to be when you call gently call someone out on something unreasonable in a light and friendly way. As a result, I think it is possible to become very funny without ever even trying to be.
/r/seduction07/10/12 04:57 PM
1

The fact that you are reviewing everything is a good sign. It will allow you to learn from your mistakes. Yes, it will be painful at times to see the situation and realize what ended up happening, but you will grow as a result. In your specific situation, almost anything would have advanced it.
/r/seduction07/10/12 04:54 PM
1

Nice, I am glad to hear it. Keep up the awesome work. You will get there.
/r/seduction06/10/12 09:49 PM
1

Your attention to detail about the encounter your describe is extremely lacking. If you can add additional details, it would help people formulate a proper reply.
/r/seduction06/10/12 03:37 PM
1

I am not a lady of seddit, but I can tell you that unless your armpit hair is unruly it won't matter in almost all situations. Focusing your effort on other areas of your development will prove much more useful.
/r/seduction06/10/12 03:34 PM
1

Don't give up, it takes time for you to adjust to new settings. They say on average it takes 6 months of being in the community before you get to the point where anything happens. For me it took nearly 8. The rewards are unbelievable. It isn't just your interactions with women that see the benefits, it is your entire life. Things you wouldn't even dream of happen as a result once you get very good. Keep pushing, keep going forward, go and get it. As a side note, 100 approaches in 4 months at 3-4…
/r/seduction06/10/12 03:32 PM
1

Enjoy life. Understand your dreams, goals, and desires and go after them. Know what you like to do and do that. Accept that not everyone is a great match as a friend or potential mate and be willing to let people go if they don't fit your mold. Have fun and realize that life is meant to be enjoyed.
/r/seduction06/10/12 03:24 PM
1

No matter what as long as you keep trying you will get better with or without a wingman. That being said, it helps a significant amount to have a wingman, especially one who is better than you. You can learn, discuss, and keep each other honest. There is also a negative side to having a wingman, so keep that in mind. Despite any potential negatives, having someone else there with you to help you along the path is extremely valuable. I would recommend it. One great way to find a wingman would be …
/r/seduction06/10/12 03:21 PM
2

This isn't a shit test. She is checking to make sure you are at least a semi-observant person, who has a moderate level of common sense. Just be truthful. Perhaps it was how her eves sparkled from across the room. Or the level of confidence she showed while faced with an unfavorable situation. Or even the way she played with her hair. Hell, the answer can be you have an amazing body, but you need a certain level of presence to pull that one off and she needs to be in a good mindset. Try sticking…
/r/seduction06/10/12 03:14 PM
1

Because some traits (as you call them flaws) mean a lack of other traits, you can use this to eliminate the unwanted traits, will still just taking a positive view. Figure out the inverse of the traits you don't want and make those mandatory instead.
/r/seduction06/10/12 12:32 AM
1

The fact that you were able to write this up is huge. It shows just how much time and effort you have spent working on this. Keep up the great work.
/r/seduction05/10/12 08:59 PM
1

You miss the beauty in this. It is near impossible to tell who is actually skilled and knows what they are doing, unless you also understand everything. That being said, there are also a ton of people who think they understand and know what they are doing that dont. In that way it is like life. Everyone is doing the best they can. There is no reason that a top level person is needed to answer a very basic question. Others should help with that so the top level people can focus on difficult situa…
/r/seduction05/10/12 08:58 PM
1

I completely agree, all we are discussing is a different mindset. The reason I bring it up is that I believe the difference in mindset is important. It is seeking the best in people versus looking for the worst. Which would you rather do?
/r/seduction05/10/12 08:42 PM
1

You have a very negative mindset, and see only black and white. I would say that a lot of the people here are part of the way along the path. Yes, they think they are further than they really are, but at the same time, you discount what they have accomplished so far. To undervalue what they have accomplished and to attack them for it is to hinder their progress. Don't do that. That being said, I think you bring up a good point: abandon routines. You are absolutely correct they are limiters and t…
/r/seduction05/10/12 07:08 PM
6

It sounds to me like you are losing faith in finding the right woman. Don't. Keep on trying, you will get there. The vast majority of us are also doing the same search as you are. Know that for everyone that doesn't work, you learn more and get closer to realizing your ideal woman. Once you know what you want it is just a matter of sorting through women until you find one that fits your criteria.
/r/seduction05/10/12 06:30 PM
1

Thank you. It just comes from having spent the time figuring it out. The list I wrote out is a very basic list of traits that I believe a lot of people are looking for. Now an interesting thought. It is a two way street, do you have all or at least most including all of the major qualities you seek in women?
/r/seduction05/10/12 06:18 PM
1

It seems you have spent some time thinking about it. That is awesome. What traits create the atmosphere you are looking for? It is much easier to find women with certain traits than to sort through women to find ones that don't have other traits. If you know you like girls who have fun at bars, spend time in bars. If your definition of fun is playing sports, find women while playing sports. If you know what you want instead of what you don't want it will be much easier to find awesome women.
/r/seduction05/10/12 05:29 PM
14

You are not alone. This feeling is a universal feeling at times. We are all outsiders at some point. In this process to fully understand how people work, you must be on the outside. If you never are on the outside, you will never be able to observe. Yes, it can be lonely, but it also brings massive rewards. For a while you will spend all your efforts just observing everything thats happening, as you are now seeing things in a way you never saw them before, and it takes time to adjust. Over time …
/r/seduction05/10/12 08:02 AM
1

How do you figure out that list? Also are some valued more than others? What is on that list? Why?
/r/seduction05/10/12 07:51 AM
1

I would like to respond to a few of your points. I think you take many of them out of context. I think this is a very interesting thread that people should read so I have given it an upvote. As for women being approached on the street, I completely understand why the voting would happen that way. When you think of someone you meet on the street odds are they aren't some awesome person. If you meet an awesome person, it isn't: oh he approached me on the street. It is: our eyes locked as we walked…
/r/seduction05/10/12 07:39 AM
2

You need to go out and practice it. Learning is only valuable if you put things into practice. Try to go out and practice five times as much as you learn.
/r/seduction05/10/12 07:08 AM
3

Over time you will refine your ideal women. Certain things you look for now are sure to change as you will sleep with and/or date women with these traits and realize they were only good in theory. For me it is a large mix of physical and personality traits, with a lot more emphasis on personality than when I began. The most important this is that I am looking for a girl that can keep up with me. I strive to be the best and push myself to my limits and expect any potential girlfriend to do the sa…
/r/seduction05/10/12 06:56 AM
3

This all comes back to what you enjoy. Read what you feel is interesting. If you let me know what you find interesting I may be able to help. As for using this in pickup, yes it is good. ANYTHING you find interesting is good as long as it isn't related to a highly taboo topic. I have had discussions with girls from diet (I am constantly testing new diets and tweaking them to what makes me feel the best) to social policy in Asia to sports. Whatever you find interesting is a great topic,and readin…
/r/seduction05/10/12 06:44 AM
1

Perhaps you spend a little too much time on appearance and not enough on your mind, but as long as it don't have a major impact on the way you live life I would say no. In fact, my daily routine likely takes significantly more time than your does and so far it has only been a major positive. I would think the only people calling your routine high maintenance would be those who are unwilling to dedicate enough time to properly care for themselves. As for routine you are not alone. Compared yours …
/r/seduction05/10/12 06:32 AM
2

Please define a beginner reader. Do you lack in technical ability or have you just not read that much? Or did you mean that you are a beginner in the pickup community?
/r/seduction05/10/12 06:12 AM
3

Let me start by saying I HATE THE TERM ALPHA. It is shit and negatively impacts so many guys. I think most of the replies are close but not exactly correct. Being Alpha is being accepting of yourself and how you feel. It is not doing anything differently, it is just accepting who you are. Just own whatever you are doing. Don't be scared to say whatever is on your mind. Do whatever you want and don't worry about appearances. Saying fuck this, I am going to do something else such as going for a wa…
/r/seduction05/10/12 05:54 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter