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Extension_Match_8959/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 03:37 PM
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Is there a reason you don't go see them? Get a hotel in the area and take them out to lunch or day trips? Let them invite their friends to come along too.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/25 10:12 AM
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Now you've missed the point of my post. Good luck, sir.
/r/MensRights06/05/24 06:17 PM
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You have totally missed the point of therapy. Yes, it is a transactional warm relationship, but the goal is to create the skills so you can go build relationships outside of the therapeutic setting.
/r/MensRights06/05/24 02:10 PM
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There needs to be more study of men in psychology. This guy talks about his research, and there needs to be more https://www.instagram.com/re.masculine?igsh=cTJuc2IycDFxbDdq
/r/MensRights06/05/24 10:16 AM
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This should be required reading before marriage. For everyone. Sadly, many don't find it until the end of marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 02:10 PM
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The only way to find out if they'll tell you anything different is to call. Get off Reddit. Dial 988
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 10:06 PM
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This is the answer. You don't need to be actively suicidal to call the hotline. Take care of yourself. Learn new ways to deal with stress. Build your support system. It will make dealing with your ex 1000x more bearable. And the less stressed you are, the less stressed your kids will be.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/23 11:18 AM
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Anyone who is that starved for attention two months after getting married needs more help than a spouse can provide. Keep posting here. Find a support group. My local community centre has a men's group on Wednesdays. Maybe you can find something similar. Glad she's not in your lease, that'll make things easier.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 12:17 PM
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This isn't about you. Or anyone in this forum. It's specifically about refuting that marriage means unconditional love. And if you don't agree with me that's cool. You are welcome to feel love for your spouse, ex spouse, parents, kids, dogs, self, etc without my agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 08:04 PM
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What vow is about unconditional love? Mine were about respect and love through the good and the bad. But there's a difference between bad situations and bad people. Like, my dog and my mom would still love me if I became an ax murderer. That's unconditional love. If my partner didn't walk away, she'd be out of her mind. Because that's not love and respect during bad times, that's me being a bad person.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 05:18 PM
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No woman except your mom will give you unconditional love. If that was your expectation going into marriage, that explains why you're here.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 07:54 PM
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Sadly, you can see some guys are never ready to hear it. My friend is going through a divorce now, and he sounds a lot like some of the other responders on this comment. He bitches that the STBX never said anything, he's totally blindsided. But he also said she nagged him. He just doesn't put the two together.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 12:32 PM
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Sadly it takes some of us facing consequences to our carelessness to face change. To everyone who was blindsided by their STBX, hopefully this is your wake up call. She hasn't just been thinking about it for years, she's been telling you. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/she-divorced-me-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink_b_9055288
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 03:06 PM
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She's your ex. Stop following her life so closely. If people are updating you, ask them to stop. Block her on social media. You're the focus of your life. Not her.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 04:49 PM
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Okay. You said you were curious. I answered. Not trying to change your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 09:48 PM
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Ability to share health insurance. Would be allowed to make decisions in the hospital if it was an emergency. Can leave everything to each other on death with no tax issues.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 07:23 PM
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Abusers don't get better without significant intervention. And even then, they mostly just get better at hiding it. You'll want support to recover from this. Emotional and verbal abuse are known to cause more psychological damage than physical abuse. Call the national domestic violence hotline. They'll connect you with your local resources. Yes, it will be rare that you're a guy. Yes, you are welcome. If you're a reader, check out The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. Ignore the p…
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 10:59 PM
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What's your other choice? Retaliation? Go focus on staying sober and moving on with your life. She may have written it to get it out of her system. It's not your concern. Go to the gym, lift something heavy and forget about her.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 10:05 PM
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Yup, this Be proud of your honest response. This wasn't finding out the ice cream machine is broken at McDonald's, it's your family being fundamentally restructured. It's a good thing you still cared, OP. It's good you still care today. Those who are able to coldly walk away from their partner are either lying to themselves or dead inside. Go to the gym. Get it all out. Start again tomorrow.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 10:35 PM
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It's interesting about how the kids do better when the parent does better. I'm currently reading Good Inside that has a similar message. Parenting from the Inside Out is now on my list too. Thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 10:48 PM
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Just added How To Talk... to my reading list. Especially with teens and tweens, I'm keen to keep that communication open. Thanks. And No More Mr Nice Guy is a great call. Once you start seeing those covert contracts, you realize they're everywhere. Not about to model that crap for my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 05:46 PM
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It does suck. Even years out when life is better in every way. It still sucks. I wish we could have had this better life together. But that would never have worked.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 03:48 PM
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The book can be cringy, but the core lessons are good. If you can't get past the ick factor, try Codependent No More, or When I Say No I Feel Guilty.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 03:28 PM
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You need to find the right therapist. Find someone you like. Someone you look forward to spending an hour with. Some will offer a free 20 minute consultation to see if it's a good fit.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/23 12:25 AM
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Contact the national DV org and have them find your local support organisation. https://www.thehotline.org/ They can help you make a plan and support you through the process. It will be unusual that you're a guy, but you won't be the first and the patterns of behaviour are the same.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 01:21 PM
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You're putting their needs first and in the long term they'll know it and appreciate it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 02:46 PM
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You want 50/50 to save $200/month? I'm going against normal advice to say you should let your ex have 70/30. You're not in the right head space for that much responsibility. Do what's right for the kids. Support them by supporting their mom.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 01:54 PM
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Therapy. Men's support groups. Codependency support groups. Reading the book on attachment. Googling the answer yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/23 01:37 PM
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Yup, my ex owed me money from the divorce. I'll be drinking a few extra beers on the beach in retirement thanks to her.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 12:53 PM
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