ExternalAffection Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
6	Desexualization and Insecurity That's quite dishonest of them, given how often they admit to using the height filter on dating apps.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/24 10:52 AM
1	Desexualization and Insecurity Yes, it is. They're still human like you and me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/24 09:23 AM
2	Desexualization and Insecurity For me it's the same thing. It's impossible to be attracted to someone who I inherently don't feel safe around because they're too much bigger or stronger.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/24 09:22 AM
4	Desexualization and Insecurity Oh wow, you're only under my guy's age by a bit. He's 55.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/24 01:04 AM
3	Desexualization and Insecurity That's bullshit. I'm sorry for the people who go through life treated that way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/24 01:02 AM
3	Desexualization and Insecurity If it makes you feel any better, I've been off the market for just under 18 years. It's likely I'm too old for you anyway...	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/24 01:01 AM
4	Desexualization and Insecurity Yeah, it's honestly more than a little disturbing, how unattractive or even just anxious/awkward men are kind of...socially castrated? Like they're weird just for having a normal human libido like the majority of the population. I always found comments such as that dehumanizing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/24 12:58 AM
5	Desexualization and Insecurity It’s funny though that even as a woman who ostensibly doesn’t care about height you wouldn’t consider a man shorter than you. That reflects my experience with women apparently open to dating shorter men. Why do you assume that? I said 5'10 is the tallest I feel comfortable with. When I was in the dating market I went out with guys as tall as 6'3 and as short as 5'0. I have no issues with men who are shorter than myself, and greatly prefer men of my height or less. It upsets my bf, so I don't men…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/24 12:54 AM
7	Desexualization and Insecurity While I agree that your self worth shouldn't be based on how others view your sexuality, I'm going to echo u/Sure_Tourist1088 here and say that for some people it's a core part of one's identity. I've always been a high libido woman, and if my sex drive suddenly disappeared, or even significantly faded, one day then I'd be distraught. Speaking just for my own life, my sexuality and drive plays an integral part of how I crave intimacy, connection, and physical touch with my boyfriend. Were that t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/24 12:50 AM
8	Desexualization and Insecurity women will say height doesn’t matter Interestingly, I've never heard a woman say that height doesn't matter. Instead, I've heard mostly what you've stated here...that they will say it's a drawback/problem if the guy is short in general or just shorter than the woman in question. I have even heard a former coworker say that she dumped a guy because he was only slightly taller and it would have been "impossible" for her to ever wear heels on a date. Personally, I'm on the other side, where I don't…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/06/24 12:41 AM