Extreme-Nuance Archive

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2	Why do Childfree women bother so many men? The only real-life man I've heard complain about this was a friend who had really hit it off with a woman, gone on a few dates with her, and then when they started talking next steps, he found out that she was not interested in kids, ever. He wasn't mad that this was the case, more disappointed that he really liked her and they were so compatible in other ways. He ended it with her because he does want kids. I've never heard men in general (irl) moan and whine about childfree women in general. B…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 03:55 AM
1	Why do you think so many women are sexually attracted to K-pop male stars ? Was going to say this. I'll just add an article for the doubters. https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/03/study-women-on-birth-control-pills-prefer-less-masculine-men/274464/#:~:text=RESULTS%3A%20After%20beginning%20a%20regimen,narrower%20jawbones%20and%20rounder%20faces.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/23 01:15 PM
2	Does paying women for sex automatically make me a “misogynist”? No. Sex is good. People selling sex are welcome to do so, and you've stated that you are only interested in adults. As long as you're 100% sure that the sex worker is an adult and is consenting, as you say, then I don't see the issue for either sex. That would be the case regardless of who is buying and who is selling, so it's not an issue of misogyny unless you only want to pay for sex because you want control over women (which doesn't seem to be the case). If anything, it might be a human welf…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/23 04:49 AM
1	Do women find lottery winners attractive? No, because the lottery is a fine on the innumerate. Illiteracy and innumeracy are unattractive, notwithstanding any other traits.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/23 03:11 AM
1	Question for the men who have trouble meeting women: have you tried signing up for a Ballroom dance class? And even if you don't like dancing, it gives you practice in speaking to women, which gives you confidence. Both sexes seem to find confidence to be attractive. I met my husband when we both accepted a mutual friend's invitation to go swing dancing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/23 03:38 AM
4	So how exactly do men "deceive" women into sex? Nope. But good guess. I believe that some Muslims do practice a similar temporary marriage situation to what they basically did.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/23 02:28 AM
10	So how exactly do men "deceive" women into sex? The only time I know of that I would really consider deception was a friend of a friend, so take it with a grain of salt. The woman ( in college) refused to have sex until after marriage. They dated for a year. The man (classmate) convinced her that, in their religion, all they needed to do in order to be married was to state aloud that they were married, and then they would be. A bit of a Clarissa scenario, if you're familiar with that novel. She was naive, and he was deceptive and dropped her,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/23 01:52 AM
7	The greenpill is a true and genuine solution to modern dating I agree, and this could also help with the problem of sex trafficking and underage exploitation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/23 03:53 AM
1	Is it worth it for average guys to get good at bedroom maxxing? What do you mean by "choose"? For the long term? FWB?	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/23 03:08 AM
5	Q4Everyone, can you give examples of good women/men you know in real life? Preferably people of the opposite gender to yours. 38F. I'm assuming you don't want to hear about people's spouses, because obviously those are great or we wouldn't have married them. So other than my husband: Most men I know are quality guys. My dad is a loving protector and provider, and my parents are crazy about each other after 49 years of marriage. My best friend's husband is always attentive to her and to their two kids, works out religiously, and is one of those parents who actually likes playing with his kids. I am now realizing that mo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/23 07:52 PM
2	Women...ALL WOMEN...hate men who act like pussies I don't wonder that at all! Mazel tov! I wish them great success. Happily married for 15 years, and I've no problem with the men with passports, the foreign dating, or the good jobs. I truly hope they find the women of their dreams. And I wouldn't call them that, either, just because it seems so offensive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/23 03:28 AM
3	Women...ALL WOMEN...hate men who act like pussies I would not want to be ignored, and being disrespected has got to be unpleasant. It's devoid of animosity in my case. I just find them hard to remember for the most part. Same as timid women. I think your point about there being no benefit to men in acting shy and timid is overall correct.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/23 02:27 AM
1	Women...ALL WOMEN...hate men who act like pussies Don't hate them, just don't respect them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/23 01:39 AM
1	Loneliness cannot be solved in the long term without romantic relationships Ok, it sounds like you believe that single ladies don't really exist (Beyoncé will be surprised). I could tell you all day that she wasn't dating or having sex, and it sounds like you wouldn't believe that. Given that premise, I can only assure you that there are men living in her communal house, too. Some are single. I can't say whether they are having sex, because I don't know them well. It sounds like you would consider them to be "single for real" because they are men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/23 01:42 PM
2	Loneliness cannot be solved in the long term without romantic relationships Did you miss the "and several singles", or the other options? I didn't realize that there were no married people allowed in the asker's ideal community. That might be more difficult, since it would mean that you're effectively only in intentional community until someone finds a partner. You would be kicking them out for partnering. As I mentioned, I don't think it'd be the same as romantic partnership. But it does exist. My sister-in-law's been living there for ten years, but she just got marrie…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/23 06:47 AM
11	Loneliness cannot be solved in the long term without romantic relationships My sister-in-law and her husband have lived in an intentional communal house for ten years. I think she's nuts because I love my privacy, but they (about 10 people, two family groups and several singles ranging in age from 18-70) are living their best lives I guess. It's a nonreligious house with a house covenant. There are religious communities for single sex. These are lifelong. There are nonreligious kibbutzim in Galilee, as well as religious ones. Some of my friends lived in a communal house…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/23 02:38 AM
1	You cannot really have a submissive wife/gf and not view them as inferior to some degree I think it depends if you stop or not. If you keep making the same decision, day after day, to submit, then it's not playing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/23 01:33 PM
2	You cannot really have a submissive wife/gf and not view them as inferior to some degree Yes, as long as you've been smart about it (making sure that the house is in both of your names, making sure you have equal access to finances), it's actually the submissive partner who can choose to submit or withdraw that submission. In a way, she's the one allowing the man to be in charge. He can't force her (in most developed countries).	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/23 11:01 AM
20	Nonverbal consent I think it would ruin the mood if someone asked each step of the way. I understand that this is taught. I understand why. I think men are in a tough position here - if I were male and casually dating, I would want to do this constant questioning just to cya. But to me (as a woman) it would sound to me like the man wasn't confident, and wasn't sure of his appeal or wasn't that excited about me. Or that he thought I was too fragile to use my words. That's why I would prefer to encourage him verbal…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/06/23 06:25 PM
6	'Liberal Woman' Goes Viral On TikTok For Saying It's Hard To Find 'Masculine' Man Who's Not Conservative I agree that there are masculine men who aren't conservative, but I read this study that seems to indicate that there may be an overall testosterone trend here that she's noticing. For the purpose of this discussion, I'm going to use the US ideas of "conservative" being related to "republican", even though in my view the republican party is not fiscally conservative in any way and is basically socially reactionary. https://www.openicpsr.org/openicpsr/project/155441/version/V1/view Now the N on t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/23 02:09 PM
2	Is it me, or has toxicity towards men been normalized? Yes. I've noticed this since the 90's. It's not helping anyone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/23 02:17 PM
–	Is it me, or has toxicity towards men been normalized? Yes. I've noticed this since the 90's. It's not helping anyone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/06/23 03:00 AM
2	What's something you've learned from dating that typically isn't preached here? I'll share mine Choose carefully. Do not marry or commit unless you are certain. Do not settle.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/23 01:51 AM
–	What's your unpopular opinion about women? Something you've observed from your own lived experience, but would get you downvoted here on reddit I am a woman. I think women are more likely to weaponize our emotions. When we feel defenseless, and even if we've just learned to use this power, we can manipulate with tears or the silent treatment or withholding warmth. Some of us need to learn to say what we need and to express verbally that we would like support (but are still responsible for our own emotions and behavior).	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/23 01:29 AM
13	Q4W: Have you ever lost interest in a man because he was too "unassertive"? Yes. But I don't have patience with female friends who aren't assertive, either. You think everything is fine and then you find out later that they've been stewing for two years.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/23 10:38 PM
2	Should men be friends or even partners with women who claim to hate men? I never want to underestimate the human capacity for idiocy, so I won't disagree with you! I tried to allude to this with the part about growth, but you're right, maybe some people don't have trouble with this and some do. Idk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/23 07:15 PM
2	"Touch grass" is awful advice. Social interaction and getting better at social skills is a two way street. You need two people who are BOTH willing to have a social interaction, it's not something you can do on your own. People seem to forget this. I'm sorry to hear that those social skills lessons didn't work out for you. Hope you're doing well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 11:09 PM
3	"Touch grass" is awful advice. Social interaction and getting better at social skills is a two way street. You need two people who are BOTH willing to have a social interaction, it's not something you can do on your own. People seem to forget this. That's very kind of you. I enjoy the social skills training, because I had to learn some of those same skills when they didn't come naturally. I was lucky to have a mother who was able and willing to explicitly teach me how to do small talk.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 05:39 PM
7	Should men be friends or even partners with women who claim to hate men? I'm not sure about "mainly." I'm sure that's part of it. I think there is some portion that is performative, and some that's born out of injury/abuse, and some that is a form of online radicalization. If you spend all your time reading rage-bait about anything, it'll have an effect. I've seen one friend who, in the space of 15 years, has gone from a happily married trad wife (her choice) to a man-hating and angry they/them (I'm adding their pronouns so that the rest of my sentence is understanda…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 05:34 PM
9	"Touch grass" is awful advice. Social interaction and getting better at social skills is a two way street. You need two people who are BOTH willing to have a social interaction, it's not something you can do on your own. People seem to forget this. Yes, I am a counselor and I do social skills training. Teach people how to have a conversation, how to read emotions, how to make a request, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 01:58 PM
9	Should men be friends or even partners with women who claim to hate men? Imo, these women did not grow up with any admirable men in their lives, so they didn't know what to look for. Some women can learn as they grow, and they go on to have adaptive relationships. Some don't change, and as they age, they feel most comfortable with the familiar. So they continue to aim low, and they keep having bad experiences with men. If you can't get positive attention, you might have to go for negative attention. But I think a lot of them do genuinely want to find "a good man," th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 01:53 PM
45	Should men be friends or even partners with women who claim to hate men? I know a few of these women who either say they hate men, or they just clearly have no respect for them (always running down their partners in front of others, ignoring them when they talk, etc). Bizarrely, some of these women still keep getting into romantic relationships with men. One of them just really likes the attention, I think. The thing with these women is... I wouldn't be close friends with them, just because they also bring the drama. I do not like this kind of person. They are exhaus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 01:41 PM
2	Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys? It truly isn't meant as a bad thing. I married one of those STEM guys, a software engineer, and we're both a little aspie (yes, I've been evaluated for it). We sometimes need some extra help understanding human interaction that seems instinctive to others. I don't object to science-based comments about female tendencies. I know that female and male brains are different. It's okay to say so. Thank you for letting me know what you found to be offensive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 01:16 PM
1	Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys? This is just the first I came across, but feel free to check my assertion further. This study talks about ASD students choosing stem fields at a higher rate than average. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/232745351_Science_Technology_Engineering_and_Mathematics_STEM_Participation_Among_College_Students_with_an_Autism_Spectrum_Disorder For some reason this seems to have offended you; I'm not sure why. Ok professor. Counselor, MA clinical psychology.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 12:38 PM
5	Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys? Idk about the inhibition, but yes, much more likely to marry and stay married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/23 09:33 PM
5	Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys? Idk, I think women are attracted to all different types. I met my software engineer husband in college, and he still makes me crazy. But I am also extremely introverted and logical, and was close enough to Asperger's (as we used to call it) that the my child psychologist mother had me evaluated more than once for it. So it's possible that my wiring is unusual.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/23 07:26 PM
15	Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys? I think a lot of upper class women have the "I don't need a man" idea, and they don't prioritize relationships as much. They don't need the financial support, and they have heard the "mansplain", "toxic masculinity", etc concepts, so they're a bit more critical of men. They may wait until too late, or they may decide not to partner up. The lower classes have always needed to depend on social networks more, and they may be more ready to form a family out of financial necessity. They don't seem to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/23 07:12 PM
2	Women, is the 2x sub a representative sample of women? I agree, it's a problem. As I said, hating a whole sex is never excusable. As i read over my comment, it looks like I omitted the word that I've now marked as edited, but I meant to say that I'm NOT excusing the person for hating one sex over another. Apologies for the typo. With 53 million users active daily, there are 1300 (from your stats) who found this topic worth discussing. I may have been using the upvote (for posts) incorrectly, but I upvote topics that I think are worth engaging, even …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/23 03:46 AM
1	Why married women are you on this sub? I don't understand the question. This could be because I'm unclear on the RP/BP theory. I favor some ideas from each. More importantly, I favor free speech for all. If I don't know what people are thinking, then I will never understand them, and that's worrying. I was interested in the ideas of each, and these are ideas that husband and I have discussed for years. I have female friends who are more RP, and they're not cowering and abused, and I've got male friends who are more more BP and are no…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/23 03:29 AM
0	Women, is the 2x sub a representative sample of women? I certainly think that 2x is not representative of women, as I mentioned below. I want to draw your attention to the OP in the post you cited above. If you read her comments on the post, you'll note her BPD, and this is probably a factor in the rage she feels and expresses. Hating an entire sex is not okay, so I'm [eta: not] excusing her, but I'm wondering if maybe some of these illnesses are overrepresented on the subs that tend toward hatred of either sex. It might explain part of what you're …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/23 03:28 AM
11	Women, is the 2x sub a representative sample of women? No. Most women I know do not think of men as either a threat or a joke, which seems to be the 2x thing. But even female redditors are not a representative sample of females, so that's important, too. Women, like men, are not a monolith. That subreddit, like most, is subject to groupthink.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/23 11:17 PM
1	How would you feel if a guy didn't take you on the same quality of dates as previous suitors? Depends on the effort/thought involved. Doesn't have to be expensive. Maybe he's packed something really nice, something he made himself or a favorite food that we have in common. Picnics are romantic. If I'm really into him, then it doesn't matter. The only way I'd feel offended is if he means that he's put zero thought into it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/23 02:29 AM
2	What are some things men & women commonly say while dating that actually mean something else? Makes sense. It conveys that you're associated, without adding commitment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/23 03:09 AM
7	What are some things men & women commonly say while dating that actually mean something else? In general: "I'm gluten free but do not have celiac" = I'm high-maintenance. "I'm a feminist" (man) = I'm hoping you are easy "What you see is what you get" = I am inflexible "I'm an alpha/I'm a queen" = i am deeply insecure	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 03:34 PM
6	What are some things men & women commonly say while dating that actually mean something else? "he's my partner" could also mean "he doesn't value me enough to put a ring on it"	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 03:16 PM
–	Women, how much did your relationship with your father affect that with men? A lot, I think. He showed me that I wanted someone similar but he also showed me those traits that he has (status anxiety and dogmatism) that I wanted to avoid. He showed me how a man treats a woman in whom he's interested, so I had high standards. My parents' relationship is still passionate, and I knew that would be important to me. My parents have been married for almost 40 years, and I've been married for 15. Children of divorced parents are more likely to divorce, so I imagine that's a fact…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 03:10 PM
3	How safe is it for a guy to get black out drunk in presence of girls? Tom? Is that you? I'd say we were sorry but we aren't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/23 07:47 PM
2	How safe is it for a guy to get black out drunk in presence of girls? Top notch advice. I was surprised that OP didn't get this kind of advice, because my mom talked with me about all the rules (take your drink with you to the ladies' room; never get tipsy with people you don't trust) when I was like 13 or 14. I guess only girls get that talk. But it's not just a sexual risk or a liability risk, it's a risk for everyone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/23 07:46 PM
3	CMV: Men see younger men as other men, where women see younger women as little children. This is at the core of many disagreements on PPD. Well, my thought was that men can become infected with other diseases as well, and there are lots of ways to prevent pregnancy for both sexes. HPV and cervical cancer are one of the things that really affects women in a radically more dangerous way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 09:56 PM
4	CMV: Men see younger men as other men, where women see younger women as little children. This is at the core of many disagreements on PPD. Oh, it's rare. I mentioned this as one of the risks, but not the only one. You'd get HPV (and there is a vaccine for this), then only possibly cervical cancer. I mentioned it because it's a disease that both men and women can get but women have worse effects from it. But there's also other diseases, and pregnancy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 09:48 PM
10	CMV: Men see younger men as other men, where women see younger women as little children. This is at the core of many disagreements on PPD. It's also probably because men run fewer physical risks from sex. Women can get HPV (leads to cervical cancer) from sex. Makes sense to me that men wouldn't worry as much about protecting other men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 09:03 PM
2	Is ghosting less immoral, or even amoral, for women to do because of safety concerns? Yeah, I definitely understand avoiding someone in person, but I think of ghosting as not texting at all. You can just say you don't want to see someone again and not reply to anything else, if you're worried.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/23 12:18 AM
1	In all seriousness, Men what do you want from women in regards to solving the modern dating problems ? I have wondered about this, too. In my understanding, men tend to be pretty easily turned on by a photo. Women, less so. Our arousal is more easily triggered by talking to an attractive person, watching him move, by scent, by touch. And our arousal cycle is longer, so if I'm quickly looking at photos, no one is going to turn me on. It'd take several minutes of considering the person. So to me, it makes sense that the tinder model wouldn't entice as many women to approve matches. They have to see…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/23 09:16 PM
3	Do women really want commitment? I agree with part of this. I think that your premise assumes that humans have a well-considered and consistent mating strategy from day one, though. Some women probably experience the onset of libido, have sex for fun, then realize that they would later like to settle down. But since they enjoy sex and aren't virgins, I think a lot of men would want to know why those women have slept with other men but now won't sleep with the one they say they want to commit to. It makes sense that if you are a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/23 08:53 PM
4	N Count Weekly Discussion Thread The travel one really surprised me. Can you help me understand? It's just most people I know have been to several foreign countries, and while I'm sure that a few are promiscuous, most do all their travel with either parents or spouses and kids. Clearly the travel thing says something to you that it doesn't say to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 06:55 PM
1	Question 4 Women: Has PPD and TRP made you less trustful of men or dislike them? Yeah, the other thing it makes me wonder is: are men being nice to me because I'm conventionally attractive, but maybe the ladies who don't have the same body type/facial structure/feminine look... Do they get this kind of disdain IRL? And maybe I was just being sheltered from it based on my looks?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 02:22 PM
1	Q4Women and for Blue pill. What do many or most women need to improve or fix about themselves? I'll first address your thoughts on problems between men and women. Yes, this is my understanding of a large part of the problems we face. Instead of valuing the uniqueness of each sex and understanding its contributions, we sometimes try to make both sexes do everything the same way. I've heard both feminists and Mgtow men talk about how they don't need a man/woman, and this is a recipe for failure for most humans (not all). Man and woman need each other, and we can do so much more when we work…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 07:47 PM
11	Question 4 Women: Has PPD and TRP made you less trustful of men or dislike them? I have become aware that I was getting a filtered view of men, and that when they can't see my face, they're...less kind. IRL, men are really nice and respectful to me (aside from a few bad apples who do the catcalling thing), so it's good for me to get an idea of what some of them are thinking. My husband talks with me about some of the challenges of being a man, but it's helpful for me to get a fuller picture, from men who aren't happily partnered. Doesn't make me dislike them. Maybe be a litt…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 06:53 PM
1	Q4Women and for Blue pill. What do many or most women need to improve or fix about themselves? Thanks for your thoughts. Made me reconsider a few things. My only area of disagreement is with the idea of "toxic masculinity." I have a different idea of what that is. I think the big pushback from men against the idea of toxic masculinity is that, when this idea is presented, it's not presented alongside the problem of toxic femininity, which is just as real imo. So i think toxic masculinity is real, but it has to be a part of a balanced conversation about how we're hurting each other, not a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 06:36 PM
20	Q4Women and for Blue pill. What do many or most women need to improve or fix about themselves? I think women underestimate some of the pressures men face. In marriage, I can choose a more traditional role, or I can work full time outside the home, but my husband bears the social pressure of providing. I can fight to defend us in case of attack, but he has no choice. If our country were attacked, I could fight, but he would have to. If something breaks in our house, people will wonder why my husband hasn't fixed it, not me. He bore the pressure of buying the ring and deciding when to propo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 07:11 PM
34	Average men gain nothing from being sex positive and against purity culture. I'm going to address the purity culture part of it, because that's where I disagree with you. I grew up in that world. I waited for my husband and he waited for me. That part was great, and I got really lucky with a husband who's sexually compatible. Our sex life is great, just had our 15th anniversary. But purity culture teaches that women shouldn't even think about sex, because it could lead to desire. This means that a lot of women have no idea what they're attracted to or what they like. It …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 04:03 PM
1	Since most women lose sexual interest in their long term partners, what incentive do men have to settle down with and marry women? I think it's not always the case that sexual interest fades (married for 15 years and we've prioritized it), but let's say it is overwhelmingly the case. My point in identifying the studies about increased sex for committed partners is this: if you are thinking that you'd have more sex being uncommitted/unpartnered, you might be incorrect in that assumption. It might not be the perfect frequency that you want, but it could still be better than what you have now. But of course, commitment isn't f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 02:08 PM
1	Since most women lose sexual interest in their long term partners, what incentive do men have to settle down with and marry women? Well, the implication in the original post was that the man would have no incentive to commit without sex? Or maybe you can explain it to me better. I apologize that my phrasing was offensive. You're right, it was insensitive. He asked why a man would commit to a woman if sex diminished. There's no reason a man would have to. It's up to you. You don't owe anyone an apology for your opinion. None of us does.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 03:18 AM
7	Western Women, how much of a turn on is it for you if a guy is rich? Oh, no, I'm sorry that I wasn't clear. My point is that I don't buy flashy accessories for myself, but I do travel (I'm married for 15 y now). So I wouldn't judge the person for spending differently, but I would guess we wouldn't be a good match because my husband and I both prefer experiences to branded merchandise. It's just my preference, not a value judgement.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 02:38 AM
2	What are women even expected to do during the courting phase? I understand "courting" to be the exclusive dating phase before engagement. You seem to be thinking of it as dating, so I'll think of it as you're doing. Fwiw, I did my (then bf, currently husband)'s laundry and cooked for him about once a week when we were dating exclusively. We were both living in university housing, in full time university, and I went to his dorm and did his laundry (he paid the quarters if that matters). He took me out, he paid for almost all the dates, and I cooked and bake…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/23 02:35 AM
20	Western Women, how much of a turn on is it for you if a guy is rich? I will be brutally honest, and take my downvotes: I come from a family that is financially comfortable. I would not have married someone with no career prospects, because I like my life and don't want it to change for the worse. I want my current assets to grow, and I work towards that. I wouldn't be as concerned with starting net worth, unless my spouse planned on living off his investments/real estate. As to the conspicuous display in your photos: Because I'm an only child and have a family sa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 07:58 PM
2	Since most women lose sexual interest in their long term partners, what incentive do men have to settle down with and marry women? Idk, I found several sources since 2014 that show married couples as still having more sex. This first one is about married or cohabitating couples, so that might not fit what you're looking for: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/how-often-do-couples-have-sex Here's the BMJ on it: https://www.bmj.com/content/365/bmj.l1525 This one is a breakdown of data 2010-2016, married vs unmarried: https://flowingdata.com/2017/07/03/married-people-sex/ So it looks like maybe we still aren't sure. Som…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 06:26 PM
1	What are women even expected to do during the courting phase? Women and men do not spend the same amount of time and money on personal appearance. The "pink tax" is an example of this, but there's also just the time on hair and makeup. Clothes and cologne are good, but most women are seen as attractive only when they do more than put on clothes and a spray of perfume. To clarify: I'm not referring to spending money on luxury makeup or products, I'm talking about how women's basics like haircuts, razors, shampoo, etc are more expensive. My husband and I can…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 04:17 PM
3	Women, how do you know for sure that your good experiences with men have nothing to do with your easier time at dating? Okay, I think what you're saying is that there is a good side and a bad side to women getting a lot of attention from men. Then I think you're asking why women only talk about the bad side of it. This is a straw man, assuming that all women complain about attention from men. We don't all complain about it, and when my friends and I do, it's only about the jerks. I'm not going to complain about a man who asked me out and then respectfully backed off once he learned that I was married. Yes, some a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 02:56 PM
2	Since most women lose sexual interest in their long term partners, what incentive do men have to settle down with and marry women? Don't married people have more sex on average than singles? So even if you think you're going to be [ ruled by your penis ] (the part in brackets has been correctly pointed out as insensitive but I don't know how to do the strike through, so please replace with "largely concerned with availability of sex") for your whole life, you'd be better off marrying?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 01:03 PM
3	Since most women lose sexual interest in their long term partners, what incentive do men have to settle down with and marry women? Interestingly, testosterone diminishes for men in ltr. But not everyone wants to marry. No worries if it's not for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 03:26 AM
9	Married women with children experience greater intrasexual competition than their male counterparts - Speaking anecdotally: I've had female friends actually tell me that they like talking with me about their lives and kids because I'm childfree and so they don't feel like they have to compete over whose kids are happier/smarter/prettier.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 06:07 PM
3	Femininity can basically be bought from the store in the form of cosmetics, hair style and different clothes. And if you are female and have our lower center of gravity, it affects how you walk and move. Some men find this to be graceful, and it can't be bought at the store.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 03:50 PM
2	"Men are allowed to have preferences, just don't be rude about it" Is A Lie I'm female and I think it's fine to prefer a virgin. It makes sense that you might want to share such an intimate experience with only one person. That's what I wanted, too, and that's what I got. I think you might be looking for a more traditional wife, and that's fine. Feminists might not be for you. Sounds like a lot of feminists in this thread agree. Not all women are feminists, though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 08:41 PM
1	“Whoever invites pays” is just a way for women to get out of saying “men should pay” (first dates) In my social circle, it is the case that whoever invites is paying, whether that's my family and my parents or a friend group. You would phrase it differently if you want to pay separately, "do you want to go out together sometime" vs "I would like to take you out for dinner." In addition, if you're inviting, and you pay, you get to choose the date. I don't expect to have any input on where we go or what we do. If I'm inviting and I pay, then I get to choose. For example, my husband paid for mos…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/23 06:21 PM
–	If you're talking too much with a girl, does she have no romantic or sexual interest in you? At least the advice I was given was that, if I'm interested in a man, I have to be careful not to come on too strongly. And I'll always remember hearing a group of guys in my dorm talking about how it would be off-putting if a girl asked them out. I know that not all men feel that way. So yes, I would be more careful with a man I'm interested in, until I'm confident that the interest is returned. But I doubt that most women are like that. I'm 37 and have been married for 15 years, so it could ju…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 04:57 PM
1	What is the "ick" and what triggers it for you? Poor hygiene. Lack of ambition. Sophomoric humour. Transmissible infection.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 02:03 AM
1	Some questions for women Do you think of sex and physical intimacy as 2 separate things? Yes. Sex is always intimate, but intimacy isn't always sexual. Has sex ever been a chore for you, or have you ever had "duty sex"? It's not been a chore for me, but both my husband and I have occasionally gone for it when we weren't 100% in the mood. It's a gift to each other. It's never nonconsensual. If one of us is really not into it, if we're exhausted or emotional or whatever, then we just say no. Usually, I end up really getti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 01:00 AM