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LESSON LEARNEDFDS_elderGoth/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 01:49 AM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONFDS_elderGoth/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:17 AM
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I'm 48. When I go on the apps I'm a hot commodity among 20-somethings with mommy issues. I can't beat them off with a stick. If all I wanted was sex with a hot young guy, it would be like shooting fish in a barrel. A fulfilling relationship? Dunno, that seems to be hard to find for women of all ages. I have friends ranging from 20s to 60s and honestly they all have similar complaints about dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:39 AM
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I'm an ex who my LVM insisted on being friends with during his budding relationship with his now-wife. He hopped on tinder during our separation and neglected to mention that we were still married until he'd already slept with her. He told her that he left me because I cheated on him. This was a lie. I left him because of his drinking, and the "cheating" was me dating again before the divorce was final. But his triangulation worked--she's a fuck-first-ask-questions-later pickmeisha (which I was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 10:09 PM
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Yep, you don't want to waste your retirement nursing a scrote either. At all life stages there exists a man willing to waste your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:52 AM
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I go to the gym. These are the kind of guys who will run over to you from across the gym when you sit down at an empty machine to tell you they're using it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:45 AM
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I'm picturing something like this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:42 AM
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"Competence" being a big part of the life of a self-proclaimed asshole means you're going to be hearing a lot about your own incompetence compared to his manly capabilities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:37 AM
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Yeah these redpill assholes call these "dark triad" traits and specifically emulate them because they see psycho women write to serial killers in jail and think "hmm, he's getting women, better be more like that guy."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:33 AM
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So from a biologist's perspective, how likely to have issues are the kids of a hardcore alcoholic who fathered them in his mid-40s?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:05 AM
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At the end of the day, women don't have the kind of time that men do. If you want to have a kid, you have a finite window. Women in their childbearing years need to be downright mercenary about tossing scrotes out the window, because men can and will waste your entire childbearing years in situationships that benefit them. If he "doesn't know what he wants" that's his problem, not yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 02:25 AM
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For any non-goths, you will hear 1000 variations on the theme of "but our subculture is alternative, and boundaries and standards are for normies." They also use the alternative-ness to deploy "you're not like other girls" with weapons-grade precision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:16 PM
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The hobosexuals. Dear lord, the hobosexuals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:07 PM
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Love your username!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:58 PM
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Never underestimate bro code. Knew a different guy who played wingman for his brother-in-law when they went out drinking, while wife specifically said she only felt comfortable with her husband's bar hopping because she knew he was with her brother and therefore wouldn't cheat. For some of these scrotes even their own sisters are hoes to them in the bros-before-hoes equation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:41 PM
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This makes my skin crawl, especially her reaction to it. I have the feeling this scene launched a thousand lovebombs. Should also be noted this is from a "romance" movie where the male character is a crusty antisocial geezer/noted writer who says he writes women by writing a man, then taking away reason and accountability. He treats the (beautiful, young) female character like shit for most of the movie until he pays for her kid to get medical treatment not covered by her HMO, and then he's her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:31 PM
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Here are the lovebombs that worked on me: "I want to be a better person for you." "You're so [insert X quality you like about yourself]. I wish I was more like you." The flattery made me want to help him, and the positioning of himself as wanting to be better but not quite there yet gave him a get-out-of-jail-free card when he acted like an asshole. If he did something shitty it was because he wasn't as [X quality] as I was yet, and I wasn't supposed to get mad at him, I was supposed to invest y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:20 PM
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There's a grain of truth in every joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:59 PM
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Thank you for asking. That's very kind of you 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:58 PM
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Well, getting out was a long hard slog that probably requires its own post, but I will say the thing that helped me the most was friends who got real honest with me. I had one friend ask me why I kept going back to him, which made me ask myself that question for the first time. How am I doing now? I realized the other day that I can't remember the last time I cried. When I was married I cried at least once a day, and I was so used to it I thought it was normal. Also had my ex (and let's get real…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:56 PM
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🤣 yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:42 PM
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One of my exes started hitting me at the 10 month mark. He'd been a dream up until then, and I realize in retrospect he'd been lovebombing me. He changed on a dime and it happened quick. It started out with him shoving me but explaining it away, and by the end of that month he was using his fists. I left him, he found another victim before the dust had even settled behind me, and guess what he did to her at the 10 month mark? Married her. He learned his lesson from me about locking her down befo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:30 PM
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Cultural misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:23 PM
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THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:18 PM
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"Fiancé said I sound like I think I'm morally superior." Holy. Shit. I take back my earlier comment about not telling you what to do. OP, run for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:17 PM
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Faster too. My divorce took three years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:08 PM
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Yeah I love how it's the fiance calling this other guy an amazing husband. How would he know? Is he with them 24/7, or does he only see the guy's public facing front? Does he judge amazing husbandry by a woman's standards, or by a man's? A LOT of men think just bringing home a steady paycheck makes a man an amazing husband, but ask a wife in the trenches with childcare and household management the same question for the real answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 01:07 PM
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Yeah, they'll just gaslight her into being a submissive helpmeet like the Bible says.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:59 PM
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Yep. He'll learn all the right lingo and start dropping buzzwords on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:58 PM
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As a divorcee myself can I just mention that "legally bound" part is no joke. Getting legally and financially untangled from a LVM who wants to punish you for leaving is its own special brand of hell. IMO people focus way too much on the romantic aspects of marriage and not the practicalities--you are entering into a legal contract with someone, and whether or not you want to think about that on the front end, if the relationship goes sour you WILL be thinking about it on the back end. For years…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 12:46 PM
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Women are allowed to be emotional? When we're angry, we're Karens. When we're frustrated, we're nags. When we're jealous, we're catty. When we're exuberant and excited, we're bimbos. When we're sad, depressed, or traumatized, we're damaged goods (note that fucking word "goods.") When we cry, we're either manipulative or fragile/incompetent depending on which position--harpy or helpless--makes him look better by comparison. Also fuck everything about a man "needing sex" in order to function as an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 04:23 PM
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Or treat him like the functioning adult he is and not patronize him? Even the scrotiest scrote I've ever dated would've been offended if I talked to him like a kindergarten teacher.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 05:08 PM
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🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 05:06 PM
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Psshh girl those aren't real women. Unfuckable women are a myth like bigfoot. Only hot chicks actually exist, and their lives are an endless pink bliss of attention and adoration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 05:00 PM
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You're spot on that packs of friends are inherently unstable, even if they may seem like so! much! fun! from the outside. I've alternated throughout my life having a circle of friends and having a few close friends I see individually, and MY GOD the drama of a circle of friends. Everything is a tradeoff--friends come with drama, solitude comes with loneliness. I've come to expect that if I'm part of a friend group it will reconfigure itself sooner or later because the only thing that holds group…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 03:50 PM
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Gosh, when has society ever done THAT before?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 03:30 PM
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Just want to say this is some peak parenting, and I admire it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 03:28 PM
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Yes. This an actually studied sociological phenomenon, whereby males in warrior cultures are trained from childhood to be violent in a process Lonnie Athens calls "violentization." Part of this process includes practice victims in the form of females who stray outside the social norm (or can be said to have, whether they actually did or not).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 03:24 PM
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The rational, logical gender.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 09:41 PM
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I genuinely feel bad for people who have only experienced mean cats because the good ones are just the best thing ever. My current kitty I've had for 7 years likes to sleep next to me all day while I work from home, and he's always down if I wake him up for a quick cuddle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 09:17 PM
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I know, all those extra letters when he could've just gone with "wyd?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 12:58 PM
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I'm the ex my ex-husband's new wife got to hear all about when they first started dating. I'm the ex who he didn't tell her he was still legally married to until he'd already slept with her. I'm the ex he forced her to socialize with under the guise of "staying friends after the breakup" but really because he was still hoping I'd see the light and come back to him (and hoping bringing her around would make me jealous, when all it did was make me feel bad for her). I'm the ex who prompted him to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 11:53 AM
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I've had lots of cats throughout my life and I've never had one do any of those things. I have had one who would come and curl up between my shoulder and neck when I was crying, that was pretty awesome. Had another who would come when I called him and we'd go lay in bed and cuddle for as long as I felt like it. That cat died 21 years ago and I still miss him to this day. Not to say I haven't known asshole cats--they definitely come in that flavor. But #notallcats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 10:44 AM
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I'm 48, only stopped being a pickmeisha at 45, and am here to share all those hard lessons in the hopes that my kid sisters can learn from my mistakes instead of wasting decades with an LVM who sucks the light out of your soul. I'm here to learn from my younger sisters as well. I will use the wisdom for myself if I ever decide to date again--FDS will be invaluable trying to wade through the sea of cougar fetishists and aging LVM looking for a mommy-nurse--but I also point every pickmeisha I know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 08:24 PM
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I not only have a throwaway account for FDS, I won't even leave FDS open on my phone where anyone else might see it. I encountered a real live incel in the wild once in the line at the pharmacy (storytime below), and I definitely wouldn't want him to have seen what I was looking at on my phone. Storytime: 5 or 6 of us in line, long wait. I'm the only woman. A couple places behind me, sighing loudly and muttering angrily about the wait, is a guy with an Alpine ski slope's worth of dandruff in his…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 03:36 AM
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I have a few close male friendships, but they're all married except for one who's gay, and they all live in other states and our relationship is primarily maintained over the internet and phone conversations. Without that distance the friendships with the straight guys probably wouldn't work. Not sure about the gay guy. Anytime I've had a friendship with a gay male in meatspace they always think they can grab my tits because they're gay so they don't really mean it or some shit. I ended the frie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 06:16 PM
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I had someone respond to this but I guess they're not flaired so it's not showing up here, but I wanted to respond to their point. This is what they said: "He obviously misses you and was trying to make you jealous. We do all kinds of crazy stuff when we're in love. Think about it this way, why would he want to make you jealous? Because he misses you." There was more but the email cut off the rest of it, but there's enough here to make the point that needs to be made. So what if he misses me and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 05:46 PM
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"And if a man doesn't sleep with you right away, it's not because you're special, it's because he's got a small dick." THIS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 03:57 AM
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I've had an ex try to woo me back by bragging about all the ass he scored while we were broken up. I was just watching this idiot run his mouth wondering what the hell he was thinking, and then it dawned on me that he was trying to show off what a hot sought-after piece he was and he legitimately thought that would impress me. Guess he forgot I wasn't one of his bros and we weren't in a high school locker room.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 03:41 AM
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Another thing I wanted to add on the subject of pressuring a man for marriage--if your LVM is anything like mine, he will also spend the marriage punishing you in passive-aggressive ways because he's resentful that it's game over and you "won" while he "lost."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 10:12 PM
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It's a lot like consent for sex. If you have to pressure someone into sex they're not enthusiastic about, it's going to be shitty starfish sex. Unless the dude enthusiastically wants to marry you, you're going to have the marriage equivalent of shitty starfish sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 10:07 PM
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Anecdotal, but I was married to a LVM that started out as a hookup for almost two decades. He enjoyed fucking me and watching movies with me so he kept hanging out with me for years out of inertia, then I hit 30 and decided I had to GET MARRIED RIGHT NOW OMG TIME'S RUNNING OUT AIEEEE and went on a major campaign that finally browbeat him into going down to the courthouse with me when we were 33. End results were predictable. Also interesting to note that even this commitment-averse scrote wound …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:49 PM
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I once said exactly this to a therapist: "It's just a job!" and her response was, "It's a job where you're exposed to sexual trauma every time you go to work," and Jesus Christ if that didn't open my eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 02:44 PM
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Fifty bucks says he used the word kiss because some pickup artist course taught him it will plant the idea of kissing in her mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 08:29 PM
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I could visualize their dirty bathroom and that bro flatshare musk. Comments you can smell. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 11:17 PM
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Gorgeous pic, sis. Congratulations!!! Funny how they always leave off "for me to meet" at the end of the sentence "your standards are too high."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 03:38 PM
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This is the most magnificent thing I've ever seen, and her nails! My god how they must trigger the scrotes. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 08:01 PM
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Marriage is a trap for women FAR more than it is for men. That's why it gets sold so. fucking. hard as the ultimate life goal and fairy tale for a woman. If it was actually that great they wouldn't have to sell it so hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 01:35 PM
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"It's the cost to keep the victim." OMG yes this so fucking much. My ex-husband was adamant that he didn't want kids and strung me along for most of my childbearing years with "in a couple years, in a couple years..." Bounced out of our marriage into another one with a woman over 10 years our junior and knocked her up within the year. He still doesn't want kids--during her first pregnancy he started working 80 hour weeks so he's never home with the annoying pregnant wife or these kids he doesn't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 01:32 PM
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Also "I've never had any complaints." No, Cletus, you've never had any complaints because no sane woman is going to complain to your face about how shitty you are in bed. We've seen Unforgiven. We complain about you to our girlfriends behind your back where we won't risk getting stabbed for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:40 AM
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What, you've never had a guy try to seduce you by grabbing your hand and putting it on his crotch?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:50 PM
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Yeah squirting is real and it feels good and it's definitely not urine. I once peed right after I woke up--you know the full bladder fire hose morning piss--then got frisky with my dude right afterwards, he got me to squirt, and there was a TON of clear, odorless, flavorless liquid that came out when I'd already just emptied my bladder. Not all guys can make a girl squirt, it's a skill (and let me tell you I really enjoyed letting my LVM ex-husband know that I am in fact a squirter, something he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:49 PM
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Exactly. It's the modern-day trenchcoat flasher pervert but without the risk of getting arrested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:52 PM
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Well you guys finally got me to join discord. See you there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:37 PM
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Exactly, it's the equivalent of trashing his inhaler or meds because "you can put THOSE in your mouth but you can't put my clit in your mouth."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:59 PM
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Hanging onto toxic friendships because you've known them a while is a recipe for misery in the long-term. This is what's known as the sunk cost fallacy. You've already sunk a lot of something valuable--time, money, etc.--into something so you keep trying even though it isn't working, because you don't want your sunk costs to have been in vain. Throughout my life I've had to disengage with friendships of various lengths because the people ended up being seriously bad for my mental health. In high…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:16 PM
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I have a theory that the reason scrotes hate FDS oh so very much is that they have to hear what we really think of them without being able to punch/rape/assault/verbally-attack us in retaliation and it drives them crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:47 PM
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Ah yes, Schrodinger's fat chick. How could I forget?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 06:49 PM
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"That crazy slut-prude led me on!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:12 PM
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YES. When you explain things to a guy like this, you don't make him appreciate your point of view, you just give him ammo to manipulate you or the next girl. Also a lot of dudes take it as a Big Dick Energy challenge to get a girl into bed when she tells him she likes to take it slow. The block and delete is the only way he'll understand you mean it, though of course he's not going to get the actual message, he's going to tell all his bros that you're crazy, a tease, a golddigging dinner whore. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 04:11 PM
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Not in my experience. I used to be acquaintances with a female cop and she spoke frequently about all the false rape allegations she dealt with on the job. When I asked her how she knew they were false, she said that the women often decided not to press charges after the cops finished grilling them about what they were wearing, why they were in that neighborhood, whether they really want to ruin a man's life, etc. And this was a woman who had previously defended herself from a rapist by shooting…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 03:05 PM
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Being female doesn't make a cop more empathetic to women. If anything they're worse, because it's such a macho job that the women who do it are absolutely crawling with internalized misogyny, and guess who they take that out on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:15 PM
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This isn't her life, this is plausible deniability so the harpies in her bible study group can't say it was her bad wifing that drove him to it when he's inevitably caught with child porn on his laptop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:06 PM
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I loooove this movie! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:31 AM
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He will absolutely be back, hoping to see you again. You didn't scare him away--women don't scare men. We don't physically intimidate them, they don't take our anger seriously, and they know their odds of getting in trouble for bothering us are slim to none. They don't care that no one wants to see their shriveled cock--they like that it frightens and upsets us when they do this shit. That's half the fun--hell, probably more than half. If you want him to face any kind of consequences, film him a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:34 AM
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I know way too many women who met their husbands when they were in their teens or early 20s, got dumped so husband could go and and fuck a bunch of other women, then got back together in their early 30s so he could propose, and these poor sad bitches said yes. One of them actually gushes on her social media that "we're soul mates...we've known each other since we were 14" but totally leaves out the part about how he dumped her when he left for college and didn't call her again until they were 30…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:30 PM
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So I've got some news for this dumb shit. 28-year-old women are in hot demand by guys in the 35+ demographic looking to settle down. Just because a 20-year-old thinks 28 is ewww oldddd doesn't mean functional adults with life experience think so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:25 PM
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I hope you've turned the comments off otherwise you'll be responsible for countless heart attacks when the scrotes have been pounding furiously at their keyboards for 45 minutes and that's the only exercise they ever get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:15 PM
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It's almost like they're going to die mad...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:13 PM
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Ooh, I wanna play! "One user even suggested that having a floor mattress is a good way to weed out money-obsessed women who would lose interest if they suspected you were poor. 'Having little bits of poverty around is great for sniffing out them shallow bitches.' " Translation: I have fleas. My profile on Tinder says I went to the school of hard knocks. I read my mother's diary once when I was going through her underwear drawer and she said she wished I was an abortion. That's why I'm against wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 06:23 AM
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There was a time in this country when a man could build an entire house for his family with just an axe and a mule team.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:07 AM
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It happens. I knew a trust fund kid in college who drove a broke down Hyundai in order to weed out gold diggers. He was also a flaming asshole who wound up marrying a wealthier, more socially connected girl and cheating on her constantly until she finally left him. Guess she's the one who should've been driving the broke down Hyundai.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:05 AM
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They haven't become sociopaths who seek revenge when rejected, they've always been that way. At least it's frowned upon now. If you want some nightmare fuel from the days when it wasn't frowned upon, google Linda Riss Pugach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 05:00 AM
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I wish you good luck on your date! Hope he's one in a million ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:13 AM
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If you lie and say you earn less because you can't be bothered dealing with the male ego on a second date, you'll just be dealing with it day in and day out if it turns into a relationship. Not only are you neutering yourself for a man, you're taking on the job and doing the work for him. That's Pickmeisha 101. I have faith in you that you can outgrow the need to belittle yourself so that an lvm will pick you. Your life will be a lot happier if you pick yourself. Trust me. Dumping an lvm after b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 05:52 PM
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Well that's an honor, as I love the shit out of your podcast 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:17 AM
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Also misandry isn't a thing. There's no widespread historical and transnational precedent across every known culture and historical period for women hating and oppressing men en masse as with misogyny. When women are angry at men, it's because they rape, murder, abuse, demean, and subjugate us. When men hate women, it's because they see us as subhuman yet somehow these subhumans are the gatekeepers to their all-important masculinity and how dare we not give up the on-demand pussy, mothering, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:13 AM
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Lol I was waiting for someone to comment this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 11:01 PM
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Sweetheart, I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'd give you a big old hug and make you some cookies if you were here. I know four women this has happened to, three of whom were drugged by their so-called friends and the third was left passed out naked in the back of a pickup truck in the winter after her "friends" were done with her. It was just luck that she came to before she froze to death. They literally didn't care whether she lived or died after they were done shooting their load. This hap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 10:04 PM
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"I noticed guys want me around as currency too, like other guys are impressed they have me around and it makes them look better." Yep. Women are commodities to men. The attractive ones are shiny bling to show off their Masculinity Points to other men, and the unattractive ones are a stockpile of canned food to get them through lean times. A woman should never make the mistake of thinking that she's one of the guys, because no matter how much you belch and fart and drink beer and watch sports, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:24 PM
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Yeah, that part was a straight-up lie. Even leaving aside redpill and PUA who have actual meetings IRL and online, why do you think Trump was able to refer to his casual misogyny as "locker room talk" and have people understand exactly what he meant? Because from the locker room to father-son life lessons on fishing trips, men coach each other on this shit all. the. time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:05 PM
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Good luck! Hope it works out for you 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:18 AM
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As others have mentioned, men are men and matchmaking services are just OLD in a Gucci belt. One difference is that they tend to be used by men with money rather than the hobosexuals that litter the apps, but in my experience a lot of men with money use it as a crutch to cover for shitty personalities and/or shitty social skills and try to buy a woman way the fuck out of their league to use as a badge in the eternal masculinity competition with other men. Matchmaking services also tend to be run…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:41 PM
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A male gold digger is called a hobosexual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:57 PM
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This is simply brilliant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:30 PM
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Whoa, put an NSFW tag on that bush! This ain't the 70s!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:26 AM
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After I got divorced, I changed cities and had to start a friendship group all over again in my 40s. I found that it took about two years to build up some close, intimate friendships (and one of those years was 2020, so ymmv on how long it takes you). So my primary piece of advice is have patience. My second piece of advice is find something that interests you that gets you out of the house and meeting new people, where you'll see each other regularly so you have a chance to bond and share somet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 11:27 PM
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Sis, I was a pickme until I was 45. I'm also insanely proud of OP, and a little good-jealous that she's realized so young what it took me my entire adult life to realize, but then I didn't have the fabulous ladies of FDS as my sisters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:28 PM
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This. The solution is not to police your images online and imprison yourself, thus doing the work of "putting women in their place" for them. For one thing, you can't police yourself 100%--what if the scrote uses your yearbook photo or a picture of you at the company picnic to paste onto a deepfake or, even if you religiously keep all photos of yourself offline everywhere, a pervert takes a creepshot of you? Or what if it's someone you trust who betrays that trust and uses photos he has access t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:25 PM
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This right here. I'm close to 50, and it can be hard not to be bitter after an entire lifetime of the same thing OP is going through. It can be incredibly hard to withstand the peer pressure of pairing up with a male and feeling like you're a loser if you don't, especially in your teens when peer pressure has much greater an effect on you than it does later. I can't speak specifically to the peer pressures of coming from a South Asian Indian culture, but I will say that no matter what kind of pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 03:09 PM
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Queen, why preface this with "Delete this if not allowed?" Speak your truth and don't invite others to cut you off at the knees with your very first sentence. It breaks my heart to see women invite other people to silence them in a world that goes out of its way to do so already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:47 PM
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Midgets? Chinaman? Domestic "duties?" I guess the coma he's been in since 1972 explains his atrophied arm muscles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:10 AM
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Yeah I googled him and Jesus fucking wept that is NOT a man you fly to another city for. Any lurking pickmeishas--trust your elder goth auntie, you can find greasy-haired neckbeards in your own city by leaving your house blindfolded and throwing a dart. No need to drop money on a plane ticket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:20 AM
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AOC too. She's been a handy litmus test for weeding out raging sexists because no matter how well they disguise their sexism during the honeymoon phase, they can't keep their mouth shut about her. She's just too triggering for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:44 PM
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Hahaha yep, me too! I checked it out to rubberneck at the "dumpster fire" and wound up finding what feels like my second home. I read it every single day for months before I started posting, and I've pointed most of the recovering pickmeishas I know IRL to this place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:26 PM
113

Yes, avoid the cop. In my experience dealing with an abusive drunk husband, the cops were hit or miss on whether they'd do anything to help me. Twice they actively helped HIM when he was getting scary, probably because they identify with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 05:36 PM
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This makes my heart sing. I often think to myself that the world would've been my oyster if I'd known in my youth what I know now. If our hard-won lessons can keep you from having to learn the hard way for yourself, I feel like the lessons were worth learning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 07:05 PM
29

Nah, they'll just outlaw abortion and Handmaid's Tale us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:07 AM
2

I really appreciate all this great advice, thank you guys so much! I'll let you know how our meeting goes. Ideally I'd like to be able to post soon about how she's left his dusty ass. And I will absolutely feed her--lunch is on me, and I'm bringing her a little gift too to show her how special she is to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:53 AM
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