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Unlike this comment? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 01:50 AM
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A lot of vetting is related to your dating goals (casual, serious, etc.) and compatibility with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 01:45 AM
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No worries!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 10:31 PM
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Thank you! It's wild...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 10:04 PM
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I am disagreeing that women are responsible for men's mental state and actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 09:15 PM
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So the women who are murdered by men drive them to it with their psychological superiority? 🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:41 PM
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You could have that position. It's also fine to have a different position. Try to imagine walking into a nursing home with a couple in their 80's who has been together for 50+ years. They may have prioritized a lot of compatibility characteristics when they first picked each other. ...and they may not have those characteristics anymore. ...and they may still be together. They are allowed to have reasons to STAY together that are different than their reasons to CHOOSE each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:33 PM
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It's not up to you to tell anyone else that there's no reason to stay with their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:21 PM
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Or I could just accept that that one particular quality is no longer available in a genuine way. You could date a woman who can no longer have sex because of medical reasons. You aren't required to dump her just because she can't have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:13 PM
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I don't know what you mean. My boyfriend is fun. Sometimes he is not fun at all. Sometimes he's sick. Sometimes he's stressed. And then he is fun again. I do not expect anything else. He is not performing anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:07 PM
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Want a partner who is fun =/= expecting a partner to be fun "all the time"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:03 PM
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You understand that people have fun with each other?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 07:53 PM
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Why are you framing being fun as a thing that requires a personality change or "burden of performance?" Do you have friends? When you and a friend have fun, is it because one of you has changed themselves for the other?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 07:52 PM
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The question here is why women don't want to commit to.... lame men?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:59 PM
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I think a lot of people are each of these ways. I don't think they're opposing "viewpoints," just different ways to experience things/live. In my experience, once I try something with a man, it is almost impossible to convince him that I didn't like it and don't want it again. So I wouldn't try something with someone I was seeing regularly, unless I knew they would/could listen to me. But I might try something new with a casual partner I didn't expect to see much, because then it wouldn't be muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:19 PM
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I think the problem is that the wording is literal, but he wants it to be figurative? If I said, "Taco Bell is the ONLY fast food restaurant." You'd probably get that I mean that Taco Bell is the ONLY GOOD fast food restaurant. It's obviously figurative. We both know there are other fast food restaurants. But if I said, "Taco Bell is the ONLY GOOD fast food restaurant," that just means what it says.. I could mean Taco Bell is the BEST fast food restaurant... But I can't mean that Taco Bell is on…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:12 PM
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Opposed viewpoint?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:40 PM
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No...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 04:51 PM
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Why did you use the word "only" instead of "a?"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 04:46 PM
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Chasing male validation is more valid than exploring your own sexuality?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 04:40 PM
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> For women who had a more sexually adventurous or uninhibited period before settling into a long-term relationship: A lot of people are adventurous and uninhibited with their long-term partners. Are you asking about something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 04:15 PM
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Your post and comments certainly conflate them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 01:47 PM
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But let's take London, which is about 9 million. Only about 35% are White British. That's over 3 million people! What about the other people makes it hard to go on a date with a white person??
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 09:57 AM
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I'm arguing with your assertion that I live in a rare PLACE where I know neighbors and kids grow up in friendship groups. I do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:13 AM
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Give me a break. I've lived in different cities and always met my neighbors. The internet and parents are keeping a lot of kids isolated, but cities are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 07:56 AM
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Yes and yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 07:39 AM
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City streets are way safer now than when I grew up in the 80s and 90s. Kids have way more ways to communicate with each other than ever. My friend's middle-schoolers are biking and taking the bus all over with their friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 07:31 AM
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I'm not following- you're sayings it's hard when your friend ARE in the same school?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 07:20 AM
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Why would you stop being friends with people just because they went to a different school than you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 07:15 AM
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Very strange perspective. I grew up in a downtown, and kids grew up with childhood friendship groups. Kids grew up with their parent's friends kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:58 AM
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"There are no longer stable neighborhoods or childhood friend groups where relationships can develop organically during the late teens." Why wouldn't these exist in urban areas??
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:47 AM
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So you disagree with OP that men should wear shape-wear to have more sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:27 AM
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If no one has sex with you a second time after discovering your Spanx, is that more sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:18 AM
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I have no idea what you're including. Likelihood of sleeping with a random woman? Likelihood of sex after a first date? Likelihood of repeat encounters, and she noticed your Spanx?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:30 AM
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What chances?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:20 AM
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More sex with who?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:19 AM
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How would these things improve sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:12 AM
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"Should" for what purpose?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:03 AM
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Yikes, bro. You made a debate post. It shouldn't be so triggering to be asked what kind of discussion you hoped to hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 02:03 AM
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Who wins the debate. You're using your personal dating strategies as evidence of what "most people" do. Any other person can say, "I do something different." So what then?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 02:00 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 01:48 AM
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Everyone with internet access can contact someone from their past. According to you, being able to contact someone from your past = having a Plan B. Therefore, most people have a Plan B, by your definition. OK? So what do you want people to talk about here?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 01:46 AM
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Cool, I've never in my life hit up a past connection after a breakup and can't imagine doing so. Who wins?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 01:33 AM
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It's always convenient when your position isn't dependent on people's actual mindset or behavior, but just their existence in the modern world. So what's the point of this post?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 01:28 AM
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It sounds like you believe that if you haven't deleted and blocked someone's number, you're keeping them as a Plan B? That isn't true for a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 01:19 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 05:05 PM
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As opposed to what? How could anyone fall in love with the personality of someone they don't know?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 04:18 PM
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Why wouldn't I believe that? I think the apps have been losing a ton of users, men and women. That has nothing to do with sugar dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:16 PM
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Are you lost? You mentioned Bumble, and I have asked you questions to try to figure out why you brought it up. Now you're talking about their investors. I have no clue why.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 09:06 PM
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Did you mean to post these comments here? What does this have to do with our conversation?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:47 PM
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Literally what are you talking about??
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:43 PM
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You think Tinder and Bumble changed their rules and service because men were dropping out of sugar dating?? You cannot be serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:38 PM
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Are we still talking about sugar babies? Or dating in general?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:25 PM
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But you aren't just saying that sugar babies are complaining about other sugar babies being scammers. You are saying sugar babies are complaining about other sugar babies being "unrealistic."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 07:06 PM
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> "women who have done it for some time also have same complaints that women are being unrealistic" Why would experienced sugar babies complain that their competition is pricing themselves out of the market?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:52 PM
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"Outside the West, these customs are often adopted only partially," These practices are only common in movies and red pill content.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:14 PM
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You edit your comments after posting to manipulate the convo. We're done.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:30 AM
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Oh, stealth editing your comment after I replied. Bad form. Tsk tsk.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:30 AM
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Why not 15 year-olds? If it's only good and never damaging? What's wrong with a 15 year old getting asked out and getting presents?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:29 AM
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Then the 15 year-old boys are lucky to get it from adult men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:27 AM
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Sometimes. Sexual attention from men comes in some pretty horrific and damaging forms.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:24 AM
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You are the one who made a post about how it's an advantage...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:20 AM
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Let me get this straight. Women get more immediate advantages before developing themselves. One form of those advantages is sexual attention from men. A 15 year old getting immediate access to those "advantages" before she's developed confidence or social skills is... not relevant. Sure bud.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:14 AM
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We're attractive to male sexual and romantic attention at 15.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:06 AM
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Bro, your post literally says women are BORN WITH THEIR ASSETS. That's why they are better off than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:03 AM
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Your entire claim is that EARLY sexual attention BEFORE BUILDING anything is a huge advantage! When do you think this is happening??
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:00 AM
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I received a ton of sexual attention from adult men when I was 15. Why wouldn't that be relevant?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:57 AM
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Did you forget your post title? That's what they're referencing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:53 AM
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This is the metric of success? > "As a result, women typically have an easier time attracting initial romantic or sexual interest" If a cute 15-year-old boy were hit on by a bunch of adult men, would you say that's a big advantage over other boys?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:52 AM
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Uh... you need to "unpack" why you made up a completely separate question than what I asked. I asked what I wanted to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 05:01 AM
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I'm aware what I asked. What is he meant to "interpret through his feelings?"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 04:22 AM
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"interpret something through his feelings" What now?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:39 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 12:43 AM
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You only do masculine things with your friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 11:40 PM
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"A relationship?" I have a relationship with my boss. Is she my girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:26 PM
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I'm unclear what you're asking. I think it means different things to different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 09:03 PM
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Because that's the purpose of establishing and labeling a sexual/romantic relationship. I'm not saying that expectations/intentions = marriage, or anything serious. But every single label means something about what you expect and/or intend. "Person I'm Dating" "Friend with Benefits" "One Night Stand" "Girlfriend" "Fiancée" They don't mean the same things to everyone, but they mean something to every person who uses them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:51 PM
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I didn't ask if you'd help.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:43 PM
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Because there's no such thing as "no intentions" in an established labeled relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:42 PM
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Ah, I guess you still live where you grew up? How would you feel if a friend asked you for help?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:35 PM
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Yeah, better than someone who copies their opinions from hypocrites.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:27 PM
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Who would you ask for help?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:24 PM
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Maybe? The post being referenced here shows a guy who had expectations from people he wasn't in relationship with, and then equating that with expectations IN an established relationship. Those seem drastically different to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:18 PM
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So it's about revenge, not your actual opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:58 PM
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I'm not really getting your point. Obviously people disagree about moral conduct and share their differing opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:51 PM
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You don't have any options/values of your own? Just agree with others said?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:45 PM
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And you agree it's entitled to not want to be lied to?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:40 PM
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But in the post being referenced, he is also upset that she didn't have the same feelings and expectations as him. He's upset that she doesn't value the relationship and experiences that they shared, now that it's over. He also kept his delusions private and hurt his own feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:35 PM
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You're free to make a comment arguing that he was honest. This commenter is making the point that it didn't matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:32 PM
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Think about how they are different in law. I can't (successfully) sue you for not signing a contract with me. I can sue you for defrauding me in a contract.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:30 PM
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Honesty =/= a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:01 PM
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Have been what? WTF is a bloopie?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:49 PM
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Is he? Please walk me through it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:44 PM
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I don't think blame needs to be assigned to one party. BOTH people have a responsibility to communicate about intentions and expectations in an established relationship. The fact that she could and should have done better does not absolve him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:30 PM
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Not entitled to honesty? If someone complains about being lied to, you call them entitled?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:20 PM
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Then why do you call it free? If you think it's the same as her paying for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 02:33 PM
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Of course it isn't the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 02:26 PM
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"A SAHM is well compensated for her role, she is given free housing, free healthcare, free food etc etc etc. It's not unpaid labour." What do you think it means to be paid??
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 02:19 PM
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You are making the affirmative claim: "Yes, but this doesn't really address the notable difference in treatment." There was no description of different treatment, notable or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:46 AM
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Let's imagine a guy flies to another city for a job interview. He takes time off of his current job to travel to the interview. He buys his own flight. While he's there, he visits some local sights and enjoys some local food. He does not get the job. If he goes online and says, "I'm incredulous that they didn't hire me! Why did they think I was flying across the country if not to get hired!?! They can't claim ignorance!" People are going to think he's a weird clueless entitled moron. If he inste…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:44 AM
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So it's a "double standard" because of something that didn't actually happen to her...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:24 AM
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Her frustration is seen as justifiable by whom?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:22 AM
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Your post doesn't really show you doing the same thing though. Did she post about how she couldn't believe you didn't marry her?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:21 AM
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She was met with compassion from whom? Did I miss that part of the post?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:18 AM
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I think you're conflating different things here. "How could they possibly claim ignorance of the situation?" is not the same as "wished we had broken up a couple months in." It's fine for you to regret the time you spent flirting with people. It's fine for your girlfriend to regret making you dinner or dating you for more than a few months. You can regret doing things whether you feel like you were led on or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:57 AM
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Yikes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 07:09 PM
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What would that look like?? You going to force women to play video games or something??
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 07:00 PM
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How is that relevant? A cheesemonger can offer you something a butcher can't. If you personally like meat more than cheese... who gives a fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 06:20 PM
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What kind of debate are you looking for here? You think someone is going to tell you to date a gender you don't enjoy dating...?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 06:17 PM
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Interesting that no part of this post says: "all the moms I know are so happy!" There's a reason you have to make academic arguments about "purpose" and the value of different careers you've never had...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:01 PM
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I'm sure my first thought would be, "I better lie to him!" Definitely not "where is the closest exit to this room??"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 06:26 PM
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Could you elaborate? Are you talking about a stranger messaging a woman and asking her how much she weighs? Or are you talking about a male partner touching a woman's naked body and then... asking how many kilograms it is?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 05:26 PM
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> Besides the few men they have to interact with, such as at work or school, men may as well not exist to them. Where do these women live?? I'm affected by men I've never even met on a day-to-day basis. The laws passed by overwhelmingly male politicians. The wars they start. The technology they've decided to deploy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 04:13 PM
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Also you... "I do not believe that criminal violence (an action) is culturally reinforced among either men or women to any significant degree."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:12 AM
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YOU already countered your position. Why would I? "I'm willing to accept that violent crime is neither masculine nor feminine"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:05 AM
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Is there a comment of mine you're having trouble understanding?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:52 AM
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You should probably ask someone who believes that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:46 AM
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The expression of anger is not reinforced among women. "One angry woman: Anger expression increases influence for men, but decreases influence for women, during group deliberation" "Professional women suffer negative consequences for displays of emotion in the workplace, while professional men are accorded benefits for similar behaviors."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:36 AM
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They make great home improvement videos too 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:50 AM
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Therefore femininity refers to "the cultural roles, behaviors, and attributes assigned to women?" You said that violent crime is feminine. Do you think that criminal physical violence is culturally reinforced among women?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:49 AM
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But the choice to align stoicism with "masculinity" is yours. I can just as easily say that intelligence is a feminine trait. Therefore, any man who is intelligent is feminine, and not masculine. ...and "masculinity" is typically defined as "the quality or nature of the male sex" (Miriam-Webster)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:15 AM
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I just think it's stretch to characterize crimes like assault and murder as feminine acts when they are so disproportionately committed by men...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 11:57 PM
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"Expressive anger is more commonly associated with femininity, yeah." I'm not sure I understand what you're saying here. Are you saying that you believe expressing anger IS a feminine act? Even when through physical violence? Are you saying that people generally tend to SEE expressing anger as a feminine act? Even when it's through physical violence?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 11:39 PM
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And the fathers of these kids are choosing the moms to impregnate, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 11:23 PM
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Would you say that men who express anger, get into fights, etc, are more feminine than men who don't?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 11:19 PM
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I'm not sure how this addresses my question? Are you suggesting that these women are raping men? Having sex without the men's approval?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 11:14 PM
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Let's talk about expressions of anger. Would you say that's a common behavior of masculine men? Masculine liberal men? Masculine conservative men? Men who are not masculine? Or would you say that it has nothing to do with masculinity or political ideology?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 11:04 PM
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Many frat guys are liberal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 10:38 PM
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"behavioral characteristics of conservative men" Meaning what?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 10:35 PM
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That's OPs notion, not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 08:10 PM
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My notion of contradiction? I'm not sure what you mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:13 PM
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In many cases, I think that reflects an awareness of the impacts of pregnancy and childbirth, not preferred gender roles or conservatism. The physical and mental health impacts of pregnancy and childbirth sometimes mean the female partner is literally unable to prioritize work in the same way, without even considering the impacts of medical leave on long-term career trajectory/earnings. I know a lot of women who are breadwinners and parents. But some of them would not have taken the risk of part…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:13 PM
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Men are statistically taller than women. Even if men and women were randomly assigned to each other, the vast majority of women would be with taller partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:04 PM
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But that's not the point OP is making. He's not just saying these combinations of traits are rare, he's saying they are contradictory. He's saying the men who embody them are hiding a part of themselves, are hypocrites.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 07:03 PM
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He is too liberal to go to the gym, so he hasn't seen them 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:36 PM
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Right? Imagine going to Detroit and telling folks that being into cars is overwhelmingly conservative 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:32 PM
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Almost every LESBIAN I know 1) is liberal, 2) has empathy, 3) is confident, and 4) calls people out of their BS/initiates difficult conversations... These are not mutually exclusive qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:26 PM
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I live in one of the most liberal cities in America. There are liberal guys at the gym. There are liberal guys in the high paying jobs. There are liberal guys providing for their families. There are liberal guys with confidence. I would never consider any of this "acting conservative." What in the world is "hypocritical" about being a liberal who works out?? The gays and lesbians and trans folks are doing all of these things too...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:11 PM
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Where is the contradiction? None of the qualities you're referencing are mutually exclusive. You aren't saying, "women say they want to date someone out of shape, but then are attracted to men who are in shape." You aren't saying, "women say they want to date someone well-educated, but actually pursue men with less education."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:55 PM
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The men are also having kids out of wedlock, yes? Does that reflect on their poor choices in choosing partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:49 PM
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I've watched plenty of content, including where Curry says she MIGHT have given him a chance. I've never seen him say she WOULD have given him a chance, much less that he expected that to be clear to the audience.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 05:31 PM
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Source? Are you referring to the panel Q&A at AMC Century City from May?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 08:28 AM
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> It's quite clear to the viewer Nikki likes him back False.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 11:09 PM
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Gaslighting?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 09:35 PM
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Nearly all the women hated this All what women?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 09:26 PM
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