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MALE DEPRAVITYFab_member/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:55 PM
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I’d look them up on psychology today and send them a short email asking them if they support your ideas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 01:39 PM
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I feel like some are misunderstanding. This was not some awful thing I was driven to, like resorting to violence. He knew the whole time that I was only doing it to prove a point, and he got the message loud and clear. Now I feel actually validated and empathized with rather than him just telling me he understands when he doesn’t. I know it sounds crazy, but apart from the porn, he’s the type of man we’re all looking for. He has a degree and good job. He pays all of the bills. He does more house…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 09:24 PM
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Thank you! Empathy is exactly what I was looking for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:34 PM
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The next week will consist of lots of love and compassion for each other, deep conversations about future together, holding each other, quality time, affection, amazing and meaningful sex, etc. He knows how deeply he has hurt me, and he knows that I’ll have good days and bad days. He keeps reassuring me that he’s here to support me after what he put me through. We’re going to come out of this even stronger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:29 PM
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We’ve been together four years. I love him wholeheartedly. We’d been discussing what happened, and he kept saying stuff that pissed me off. It’s only been two months, so I’m not expected to already be over it. And he is well aware that he can leave at anytime if he doesn’t like the way I’m dealing with my pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:16 PM
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Exactly! Can you even afford a wedding? Do you not have a savings account? Are you putting money away for retirement? Will you be able to afford a house? What about a child? It’s sad to me how many married women complain about struggling to pay rent or even afford groceries. I recently read a woman complaining that her husband didn’t deposit his whole paycheck because he wanted some spending money ($80). She was so angry because after paying all their bills, they had like $50 to live off of. Why…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:09 PM
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Thank you. I refuse to be one of those women who is constantly fighting this and miserable. I’ve ended several LTRs and moved on. So I know it’s entirely possible, and I’m not stuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:57 PM
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Betrayal trauma is a real thing, and it can cause you to act irrationally. Plus, I’d had a couple drinks. This story isn’t at all indicative of how things are going. I’m extremely supportive of him, which he thanks me for often. We’re in couples counseling, and our relationship is actually blossoming as we work through this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:51 PM
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I understand what you’re saying completely. This is the only time I’ve been vindictive like this and don’t plan on doing it again. I just thought it was funny. I’ve made the difficult decision not to leave him right now for many reasons, but he knows if he does it one more time, I’m out the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 04:38 PM
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I found fds through r/pornfreerelationships, and I’m so glad I did. I’ve felt empowered ever since. I needed to be reminded that I’m awesome, and porn is for losers and is no reflection on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:21 PM
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I agree. I was also seeing this therapist individually because I live in a small town. I’ve just found a place an hour away that has actual sex addiction therapists that I’m going to start with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 03:02 PM
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“Isn't love supposed to be about getting throught the difficulty of life together? Would I want someone who claimed to love me but threatened to dump me if my childhood started causing me difficulty?” Wow I never even considered it from that angle, but you are right. I came very close to leaving and have questioned my decision to stay ever since. You putting it that way really helps me to not get down on myself for staying. So thank you! Good luck to you in going your own way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 10:00 PM
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I told him this is my private space, so he doesn’t know about this username. We’ve been together 4 years. I’m 41 and divorced with a 21 year old son. I never wanted to get married again or have more kids. But our relationship has changed my mind on remarrying. He put down a deposit on the ring I designed. Through therapy and reading, we’ve discovered that he fits the porn addict model exactly. He is starting to realize how his childhood wasn’t as happy go lucky as he’d thought. He is very calm a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:35 PM
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No matter what kind of relationship you’re in, it takes two quality people putting forth effort to make it a good one. Being a woman doesn’t automatically make you better at putting forth that effort or even being a quality person. If you had a different question, I’m happy to answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:13 PM
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Lol. I was in a lesbian relationship for 2.5 years. Trust me, they are wrought with their own problems. I continued to date women after that until my last girlfriend. She pretty much turned me back to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 06:02 PM
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I love this reply to a suggestion: “Wow that’s actually really clever. I’m a girl, we definitely get kitty bones (when girl gets horny out of no where) but u can’t see them. Lol”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 12:43 AM
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Next thing you know, she’ll be rewarding weight loss with anal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:29 PM
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I really hope not to offend. I have bpd, bp1, gad and ADD, so I can completely relate. I did dbt for my bpd, and I take meds that keep me stable aside from occasional anxiety. My ADD impacts my life more than anything else. As long as you’re stable, which you will display while getting to know someone, it shouldn’t be a huge deal. If a man stops being interested in you simply for having a mental illness, while not acting unstable, good riddance. I have no patience for people who contribute to th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 06:19 PM
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Thank you. He says he compartmentalized it and rationalized that as long as I didn’t know, I wouldn’t be hurt. Wtf. It’s really hard to integrate who I thought he was with who I now know he is, but our couples therapist keeps telling me he really loves me and is still a great guy. I guess we’ll see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:51 PM
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I think you’re right in this. You can never know. My bf treats me so well: pays all of the bills, cooks more than I do, does 90% of the housework, validates me, is the best at sex, my friends and family love him, compliments/encourages/praises me, etc. Yet, I just found out he’s a porn addict. I was shocked and have been freaking crushed. If not for this one thing, he’d be almost perfect. But I now hate myself and am in therapy trying to recover. It’s such bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:28 PM
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But he’s a 10/10 hvm without the the porn surprise. Everyone loves him and he takes really good care of me. So I’m conflicted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 12:36 AM
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Yes, I’ve posted there, but my bf has figured out my username again. I just wanted opinions from an FDS perspective rather than people who are fighting porn and dealing with their SO’s being assholes about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 12:35 AM
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Thank you. It’s only been two months, but I know he hasn’t watched since. And he’s doing a really good job of letting me feel all my feelings no matter how they come at him and being understanding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:39 PM
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Y’all I stumbled across this sub while posting about my relationship with a porn addict, and I’m so glad I did. I don’t know what to do. I know leaving is the obvious answer, but he’s such an amazing partner outside of this issue that I just found out about. He’s doing everything to recover, so can this be his one chance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:20 PM
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