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It was more just stating "find the ones that are single and take a shot." Not suggesting anything weird.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/26 01:55 PM
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I've never had any doubts that I was doing the right thing when getting married. That in itself would be a massive red flag. The other stuff is insane though. I would never even consider marrying this guy based on this post alone.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/25 02:03 PM
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Blue-collared. But I might be a little biased, being married to one.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/25 06:18 PM
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I’m a little confused by the post because what your fairy tale man is might not be what mine is. I have my fairy tale man. When we were in the honeymoon phase, he thought about me all the time. I thought about him all the time. That’s how it usually goes. Nowadays, that’s not the case because we’ve been together for five years. My husband takes care of our family by working 12+ hours every weekday and loyally provides for us. He does everything for me that I could ever ask for, and he will drop …
/r/RedPillWives06/05/25 06:58 PM
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My husband and I dated for 2.5 years, then were engaged for just under a year. So about 3.5 years before we were married. We’re about to hit our 5-year anniversary, and we also have our first kid now. My husband probably would’ve proposed sooner if not for certain circumstances. And I definitely don’t think it should take 5+ years to know you want to marry someone.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/25 03:50 PM
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Enjoy your trip as much as you can. But personally, I would never marry this man.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/25 07:22 PM
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Nah, this ain’t right. No matter how much he wants it, as much as we say you should do your best to satisfy your man even if you’re tired or whatever, if you’re extremely uncomfortable or unsure about something, that trumps everything else. Also, soap is just not a good lube. So it’s a little bothersome that he’s saying he considered everything. I’ve actually gotten a rash from trying to use soap of lube.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/25 01:37 PM
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My husband was unemployed when I met him (I was 28 and he 23). And he doesn’t have a college degree. But he built himself up during our relationship, and now he supports our family while I stay at home with our daughter. Those things can be red flags, but they don’t always spell disaster.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/25 03:37 PM
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Always crying is not okay. I was in two seriously relationships where I cried constantly. Then I had a healthy relationship where I never cried and realized it’s never okay to be crying constantly.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/25 04:32 PM
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No, thanks! I wasn’t intending to bother, also due to the first sentence. lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/24 02:15 PM
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I’m a woman. What agenda am I supposed to have? Look into it. Yes, they are always much better than single-mother households.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/24 11:38 PM
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The choice isn’t relevant in the context of those studies. It’s the sheer absence of a male/father figure in the upbringing of a child. Men are inherently different in the way they raise and discipline a child, and studies are showing more and more that even a single-father household is astronomically more beneficial than a single-mother, but obviously a household with both is ideal. I didn’t just “have a poor experience.” This is the reality for most, and you can even trace patterns of fatherle…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/24 07:37 PM
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I don't really have exact advice, but I encourage you to look into the serious repercussions of fatherless households, particularly on the child (especially boys). I believe that, unless the father is abusive or endangering the mother/child(ren), even the most subpar father is always better than none. I would personally be childless forever than raise a child without the father. I say this as a child that had a dad in my life very minimally (TLDR mom hated dad and kept him away, and he didn't pu…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/24 07:26 PM
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Seconding this. I’ve been with porn-addicted men, and I’ve also been with men who love me but still seek visual pleasure from other women/porn. My husband is not one of those men, and I have zero doubts that he’s completely loyal to me. Does he enjoy if he sees an attractive woman? Of course. But he isn’t seeking it out or dwelling on the times he does see something in the wild.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/24 05:00 PM
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That’s so wonderful! I feel like my husband and I really helped each other grow, and continue to do so. Now we’re parents, and it’s such a crazy adventure.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/24 09:38 AM
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I had no idea my husband was the one in the beginning. I actually didn’t have a ton of hope either because he was in a bad place. I just liked him and saw potential but had my reservations. After the first year, however, I started to feel more and more like it had a lot of long-term potential. And eventually, it just clicked that this was a perfect match, and I couldn’t imagine being with anyone better. He treated me wonderfully in the beginning and still does. He’s only become a better leader a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/24 02:40 AM
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It’s because it’s not about women all doing what they want. It’s about all women doing what they think all women should want.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 09:31 AM
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I hope so. You say you had incredible chemistry that no one else could match. Seems odd that he was so certain you weren’t interested that he didn’t want to even discuss anything and went so far as to ghost you. Not trying to be pessimistic. It just seems a little bit sketchy. Again, I really hope it all actually works out!
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/24 12:03 AM
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Do you know why he ghosted you? Months of no contact due to ghosting and suddenly wanting you to commit definitely raises some alarm bells in my head. Hopefully you’ve had that conversation and all is well though.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/24 06:57 PM
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TRP and RPW is just not the same thing at all. And even though I consider myself a RPW and am in what I consider a RP marriage, my husband is absolutely not like the men at TRP, even if he can relate to and understand some of what’s said over there.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/24 07:14 PM
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Yep, this is natural. You look best when you’re ovulating, both to yourself and to others (men and women). You usually feel mentally and physically better too which will translate to more confidence and carrying yourself in a more attractive way. It’s all quite subtle, but you can pick up on it if you’re healthy and pay attention to your body.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/24 07:50 AM
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Both. On a regular basis, my husband calls me cute. Particularly when we’re going to go somewhere because then I’m wearing a legit outfit (not house clothes) and put effort into my hair. But there are definitely times where she calls me sexy too.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/24 01:39 PM
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I'm a SAHM, but we just have a baby. I do take my house chores very seriously though and have them broken up into categories based on frequency. I can give you my lists to help you with some ideas. Daily: - Dishes - Make bed(s) - Scoop litter box (we have a cat) - Tidy up, wherever it's needed (i.e. around the desks, living room, etc.) - Prep lunch and coffee for husband (and I write a little note to put in his lunch box) - Cooking meals Weekly: - Vacuum (sometimes this is done twice a week) - L…
/r/RedPillWives10/09/24 07:00 PM
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I don't know about specifically towards motherhood, but my husband and our relationship has helped me become a better version of myself. I matured and grew more in a lot of ways through our time together.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/24 08:41 PM
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I’ve had serious relationships that were long-distance. They absolutely can work. However, if he hasn’t told anyone else about you, that’s a massive red flag. I don’t know if you can even assume he’s that serious. My husband told his family about me within a month, and we met online. Doing the breakup over long distance is probably fine considering that’s where most of the relationship has taken place. Wait until he finishes his exams though. I think that would be considerate.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 03:09 PM
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I made sure my closest friends knew what I had in mind and wanted, but it ended up not being necessary. It came up organically at some point in conversation, and I was just up-front about what I hoped for in a ring. My husband ended up proposing with a modest ring but brought me to a custom ring maker friend who made me the perfect ring. I’m still so in love with it years later.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 06:37 AM
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Yikes. My husband took over 100% of the finances once I got pregnant and quit my job. He could barely make ends meet at that time but made it happen. I offered to get a part-time job a few times, and he said absolutely not. The gold digger comment is insane. You’re his wife, and he thinks you’ll somehow possibly be a gold digger? Why did he marry you if that’s even a slight possibility?
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/24 06:04 AM
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If I had a choice between being a single mother or never having kids, I’d choose the latter every single time. Raising a child alone is so hard. Hell, raising a child with my incredibly wonderful and supportive husband who takes on half the work is so hard. The hardest thing I’ve ever done. And children that come from single-mother households are far worse off. They’re worse on than single-father households, but ideally children can grow up in a healthy home with both a mother and a father.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/24 06:26 AM
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Yeah, an hour of TV isn’t anywhere near as problematic as hours of phone/tablet time. We’re okay with watching movies or a show, but our kids won’t touch a phone or tablet at all. And video games will be minimized and not until a later age.
/r/RedPillWives01/08/24 04:10 PM
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You’re right. I’m definitely still open to more!
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/24 02:44 AM
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That’s actually really good point!
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/24 09:06 AM
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I just had our first baby. I told my husband that I may no longer want a second, despite us both wanting 2-3 before, and he said it was entirely up to me because I’m the one that has to endure then pregnancy, labor, and delivery. Sounds like you’re just meeting men who don’t support you the way mine supports me. Because I can promise you that my husband loves me unconditionally. Or as close to it as possible since I’m sure he wouldn’t tolerate infidelity or anything extreme.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/24 06:06 AM
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Fixed.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/24 02:14 PM
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I couldn't have done anything related to labor and delivery if it weren't for my husband being at my side every single second. I'd also never take away those moments of being so connected and sharing the moment our baby entered the world together. Our entire relationship deepened so significantly after that. It was like we were in the honeymoon phase all over again for a couple of weeks. It's ultimately your choice, but I hope you'll reconsider it. It's his baby too, and I imagine any man would …
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/24 01:33 AM
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Seconding this. Even four years with my husband, when I have moments of insecurity and where I just see him as this incredible man that's way out of my league, I start getting needier and wanting his affection more for affirmation. Luckily, my husband is wonderful and will make sure I feel loved, but yeah, it can definitely happen to all of us.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/24 12:55 AM
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My husband and I eat a carnivore or animal-based diet to maintain ideal health and weight. My husband lost 125 lbs in around 4-5 months effortlessly. I didn’t have nearly as much to lose but also saw dramatic improvements in my body composition. It’s like it rearranged everything to emphasize my feminine features. You don’t need to count calories or work out (you still SHOULD exercise for health, but it’s not for weight loss). I’ve seen so many people follow this path and effortlessly lose weigh…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/24 09:35 AM
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It's insecure, sure. But it's not cheating. At all.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/24 08:44 PM
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My husband (27) and I (31) have been together for four years, married for one. We live together and are about to have our first. Our sex varies depending on many things. When I'm ovulating, we have sex around once or twice a day because my drive goes way up and pheromones are powerful. But outside of that, we average 2-3x/week, give or take depending on life. I'm currently pregnant (almost 39 weeks!), so sex has definitely gone down. We still usually do it 1-2x/week though because it'll take a t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 10:59 PM
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If he’s going to go sleep around because that’s what men do, you go find a man who will provide you with far more than he ever could. Because that’s what women do. In all seriousness, this is bogus. All I got from this is “I’m never going to stop cheating on you and want you to shut up and say you’re okay with it.”
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/24 12:41 AM
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Yep, easily. My husband and I eat a carnivore diet. He lost 125 lbs in 4 months. I didn't have as much to lose but can easily maintain a healthy weight if I stick to it. Six years and counting for me (about three for him). It also made pregnancy so smooth. No cravings. No food aversions. No morning sickness. Just smooth sailing, except for some back and round ligament pain. Makes for an awesome placenta too.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/24 12:04 AM
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That's the thing. This has literally happened to everyone. When I still used Facebook, I accidentally liked someone's picture from over 7 years ago. I didn't even sweat it. They never said anything, but I was fully ready to crack up about it when they did. I'm pretty sure I've done the same thing on Instagram. It is what it is. lol
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/24 11:26 PM
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This is exactly what I do. Turning awkward moments into something you openly embrace as funny usually diminishes how weird it might be.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/24 11:08 PM
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There, unfortunately, isn't a magical place or way to "find" traditional men. For example, I met my husband by playing a popular online video game. I would never say that that's a good place to meet met though. It just happened and worked out for us. You're going to have to date and vet men to find the right one, regardless of if you meet them through school, work, a dating app, or the local bar. Or an online game, like I randomly did. Not sure how old you are, but it's also always possible to m…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/24 03:24 PM
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It's a combination of things that will help you maintain a healthy sex life throughout your marriage: You both want to have an active sex life. You are both healthy enough to maintain a libido even as you age. You have a healthy relationship that doesn't wear on the sexual attraction you have for each other (like chronic stressors, poor communication, fighting more than not, resentment, etc.). And also flat-out continuing to put in the effort (which could be effort on your end to keep yourself l…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/24 05:32 PM
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My husband and I had sex on our first night together because we'd known each other for over a year and met online. So.. it wasn't like we literally just met that day. It's still not RP, and I don't recommend that to anyone, but we also were not at all RP-minded at the time. Yet, my husband is the best man I've ever known. Our relationship is absolutely RP/traditional now, and it's very healthy and fulfilling. So while it's still not ideal to have sex that early on, it isn't a definitely doomed-t…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/24 04:39 PM
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It depends on the couple. My husband does appreciate lingerie, but it's not really anything he needs. He's happy with me wearing anything "cute," which doesn't have to be sexy/revealing. And he obviously just likes me naked. I think his actual favorite is if I feel up for sleeping in bed completely naked with him.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/24 05:10 PM
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Final Fantasy XIV. And thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/24 10:23 PM
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Met my man on an online game 5 years ago. We've been together for 4 years, married for one. First kid on the way in a couple more months. He's RP in the way that I am, not the toxic way that you see in the men's sub. We're monogamous 100%.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/24 10:15 PM
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Does he watch porn? Pretty much the go-to reason for trouble getting aroused or not enjoying what should otherwise be a very pleasurable experience. I am NOT good at doing this, and my mouth is relatively small. I struggle a lot do maintain techniques and need to come up for air, need to give my mouth a break, etc. But it's not hard to finish my husband since he detoxed from porn. So just a thought there. No idea about the cold mouth thing. You take body temp readings in the mouth because it's a…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 10:00 PM
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Everyone has already covered pretty much everything I think. I just want to really emphasize that this is not healthy and not real love. This is attachment to/complacency with a horrible situation.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 09:50 PM
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Exactly this. I love coffee dates because they’re cheap (so there’s no pressure on the guy if he pays for it all, nor myself if we split), and it’s a very simple date for vetting. Good atmosphere, and you can just focus on getting to know each other.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/24 01:46 AM
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Not the cheapest solution, but merino wool underlayers. Then you can wear anything over it and be cute and cozy.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/24 03:25 PM
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I'm not sure about manipulative, but I always felt gross when a man will just "love bomb" me with compliment at every single opportunity. It starts to feel disingenuous and a little bit like you're desperate. I had a guy that was interested in me that would find every reason to compliment me. It started to irritate me, so I'd end up questioning them. Like he would say, "You always make the most delicious food" when he has literally never had anything I've made before. So I'd say, "How can you kn…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/24 03:22 PM
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I really do not miss dating and people playing these weird games. Just communicate like an adult. But also, situationship says everything.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/24 02:38 PM
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But you’re not lying. You truly are just working on yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 08:38 PM
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This is what I did. My husband found me reading The Surrendered Wife and asked what it was. I just said it was a self-help book that I heard good things about. I eventually did tell him everything later on because we're extremely open about everything.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 08:29 PM
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It sounds like you're already doing what I would do. My husband doesn't WFH, but I imagine I'd do what you're already doing with coffee and food. Depending on the work, I'd drop a kiss or something once in a while just for a "moral support" type of gesture. If he can be talked to, then I'd probably do a little more. Otherwise, I'd just go about my day, maintaining the house and what not. And there's nothing wrong with flat-out asking if there's anything you can do to help him get through the day…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 05:48 PM
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I do personally think this could just be natural hormones at play, and it isn't that it's the only thing he cares about. But I really encourage you to have a real discussion about it with him. If he is unwilling to, or he doesn't seem to take your feelings and the non-sexual side of your relationship seriously, then you'll have a better idea of his priorities. I just know that when I was your age, sex was a lot harder to keep in check because of raging hormones and being younger and really excit…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/24 02:17 PM
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Not a popular opinion to have nowadays, but boys NEED a father in their life. Single mothers can only do so much, and that isn't to make any single mom's feel bad at all. Really though, boys and girls ideally need both a mother and father.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/24 02:32 PM
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I met my husband on an online game.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/24 11:54 PM
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There definitely is a correlation between being Liberal and being a feminist while many trad-wife types tend to be Conservative. But it isn't a hard rule or anything. Just a more common trend. That being said, you can easily start implementing things very slowly. I just adjusted things in a subtle way, mainly in surrendering control and letting my husband fully take over everything as the provider and head of the household. I was always a very controlling (not necessarily in a highly toxic way, …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/24 08:22 PM
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Then that's all you need to know. Either ignore or block and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/24 06:03 PM
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If you want to potentially preserve any sort of friendship, just ignore most of his messages and only respond once in a while when you truly feel like it. Hopefully he'll get the hint and stop pushing. But if you just want to end everything, you can be firm and tell him that he's not respecting your boundaries at this point to where you don't even feel comfortable with a friendship. And then block if he doesn't. Or block anyway because it's already to that point. Or just block now without anymor…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/24 05:58 PM
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Oh yeah, the dopamine issues can happen with various things. Social media, media in general, drugs, food, etc. I know plenty of people with dopamine addictions. It's becoming the norm nowadays. That's why people can't put their phones down, can't stop eating crappy food, can't stop having casual sex, can't stop watching porn, and whatever else. A lot of people will argue that men have always had casual sex, but there is a big difference between having to put effort into getting laid and also onl…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/24 02:31 PM
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I recently moved back to the Midwest and into a more rural area. It's great, isn't it? I absolutely love it. Don't give up hope. You can meet people anywhere, truly. Within 2 weeks of moving here, we met this couple at the farmers market who are now our best friends here. I've met people on the street (just walking), coffee shops, the grocery store, and more. I really hope you can find a social circle that works for you!
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/24 09:19 PM
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I don't equate them either. It's far more damaging in men from what I've seen. Women can have real porn addictions though. I have a friend who was sexually abused who had a crippling porn addiction that still haunts her to this day. She's married with a daughter, and it can still creep up in the back of her mind at times. It's very sad. But her husband helps her work through it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/24 07:56 PM
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They're few and far between, but they're out there. I think it's harder to find single men that already abstain than a man that will cut it out once in a good relationship, but it is possible!
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/24 07:35 PM
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Yep, that's very true! Porn reminds me a lot of alcohol too in that it's flat-out terrible for you, but it's socially-acceptable to consume it in really any amount. You're weirder if you don't ever drink than if you have alcoholism at this point. Which is quite sad. Just know that there absolutely are men that don't watch porn and more than would give it up once they're in a solid relationship. There are a lot of things that fall into the same vein when it comes to easy dopamine hits, convenienc…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/24 07:34 PM
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Porn is unhealthy, period. My husband and I both watched porn before we got together, but we also both stopped once we were dating and seeing each other regularly. My husband did a ton of research into the damage it causes to you mentally to consume porn regularly. Like once in a blue moon, say, if you're out of town for several weeks and can't stimulate him from afar, is one thing. But porn consumption when you're in a LTR is damaging to some degree. Since my husband did a lot of digging into i…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/24 05:55 PM
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What? Even the most promiscuous woman is going to benefit and probably even need (at least want) some level of foreplay. Wetness is an indication of arousal, but it isn't that black and white. I damaged my body with hormonal birth control (don't ever take that stuff), and I never get as wet as I used to no matter how aroused I am. A lot of the time, the wetness is enough to lube inside but not enough to come out, so you need lube to actually get inside initially. The only exception is if I'm ovu…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/24 03:21 PM
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Us too. City people with country/farmer hearts! Thank you very much!
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/24 09:10 PM
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Very nice! Ours is also for just providing for our family. We actually only have rabbits at the moment. We re-located halfway across the country late last year, and we're kind of in a transition period where we're renting a house. So it's all we can currently have. The hope is to move somewhere that we can also have chickens and ducks, then we'll probably sit with that until we're able to buy our permanent place. Good luck with your hogs! They can be a lot. But quality pork is unbeatable.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/24 08:26 PM
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Sounds a lot like my relationship. What livestock do you raise?
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/24 08:11 PM
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My mindset is that I do not have to go to a physical job like my husband does, so I'm going to do absolutely everything I can at home in order to ensure he doesn't have to do additional work outside of his job. It's not a perfect system, of course, and there are plenty of times where my husband will help me with cooking, cleaning, and even laundry simply because we like to be together and work together on things. So sometimes we make a more complex meal together over the weekend that also requir…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/24 08:04 PM
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Just be there for him. Grief is impossible to just wash away. He needs time to process and work through it, however long that may take. Be there if he wants to vent or talk about it, but don't force him to. Everyone copes differently. Losing a pet is as devastating as heartbreak or the loss of a close human companion.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/24 04:43 PM
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If he does watch a porn (and a lot of it like you said), this will be one of the biggest factors. One thing my husband told me about our sex life is that when he quit porn once we started dating, it took him about a year to fully "detox" from it. But after that, even the most basic sex with me was a total thrill, and he felt more easily stimulated by everything since he wasn't touching himself at all anymore. We never had problems in the beginning, but he sometimes had mental blocks and was slow…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/24 04:12 PM
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"Modest but flattering" is exactly how I try to dress. I really enjoy looking pretty/cute without showing a lot of skin. Plus I just think I look better that way compared to low-cut shirts.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/24 03:33 PM
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There are a lot of reasons that loss of attraction can occur, from really serious issues like abusive behavior (you become scared of him rather than seeing him as a source of safety and security), to just simply realizing you're not that compatible. The latter is what happened to me and the man I was referencing. We made better friends than romantic partners. There were a lot of things that I started noticing over the years that made me aware of how incompatible we were long-term. That, and I st…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/24 06:00 PM
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Social media is extremely toxic (for a dozen or more reasons). It makes women feel inadequate, and it creates false standards in men. In addition to not subjecting yourself to it (delete all of the social media that's exposing you to these things), you should strive to find a man who isn't indulging in porn/insta-models/only fans/etc. who will have an unrealistic idea of beauty. I also personally find that most of those women are more beautiful in an "art" way. They're pretty to look at, but mor…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 08:47 PM
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Seconding this. I would probably torment myself through the rest of my pregnancy (I'm 29 weeks now), and that amount of stress is definitely not healthy for me or the baby. I'd spend time thinking about everything in the first comment, but I would wait months to actually bring it up. But I also can't even imagine myself in this situation either, so I could be wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/24 11:15 PM
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Yeah, that's really tough.. I'm glad you're in a better relationship now though. It's wonderful to be with someone that you really find attractive--and stay attracted to!
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 10:31 PM
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Yeah, this is what I was thinking too. There's a baseline attraction that needs to be there. A man who isn't your exact or ideal type but has everything else can definitely become more physically attractive as you get to know him and things work out really well. But if the guy is actually ugly, like there is zero attraction and you can't imagine yourself being intimate with him, I don't think anything can boost it up enough to make you want to be physical with the man.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 09:18 PM
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Agreed. At 23, I was in the worst relationship of my life. He was incredibly wealthy though. He would've been able to provide me with literally anything and everything I could've imagined for the rest of my life. But no way. I met my now-husband at 29. I couldn't be happier. He isn't as wealthy as the aforementioned guy. Not even close. But he's a devoted husband that would do anything for me. Our relationship is extremely healthy and fulfilling. And I'm incredibly attracted to him. I couldn't a…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 09:16 PM
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I'd lie next to him in bed after sex, which I'd try to avoid as much as I could, and think, "oh my God, that's what'll it'll be like for the rest if my life," and I'd feel an almost suicidal despair. This is so sad. I'm so sorry. I was in a relationship with a man who gave me the ick, and the hard part was just doing it. I was fine afterwards. I just had zero attraction, so I want to do literally anything besides sex, even when half the time it really only took like 10 minutes. It was like tryin…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 08:18 PM
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I would never. It's not fair to yourself or the man, unless both parties have no libido or, as another commenter put it, prioritize other things so far above sex that not having any sex (or extremely minimal) would truly not bother either person. Something like the latter occurring is going to be incredibly rare, but both are situations that aren't guaranteed to always be that way forever. One person could start wishing for more sex, or one of you starts to have a libido for one reason or anothe…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/24 08:16 PM
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Yes, but I developed a thyroid condition a year into dating my now-husband. We're working on reversing the issue, and we eat an extremely healthy diet. So he knows I'm not overweight because I just eat junk food and won't exercise or anything like that.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/24 02:09 AM
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Just throwing out an alternative perspective: Have you confirmed that he's very active on Instagram and interacts with these pages? I only ask because there are plenty of people, my husband included, who used to casually follow pages like that but has no interest now, yet never went through the effort to remove all of those he followed simply because he doesn't use IG much these days and forgets they exist (since they're not what primarily pop up in his feed). I think I actually have some of tho…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 08:23 PM
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I don't believe that anime = porn/hentai addiction. It's just that a substantial portion of the population likes anime, and a substantial portion of the population watches porn or even has porn addictions. Both are just extremely common interests/hobbies nowadays but don't have to be intricately connected. My husband and I are pretty big anime fans, and we have nothing to do with porn. We're in a very healthy, traditional marriage. We're friends with another couple who is exactly the same. Loves…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 08:19 PM
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Love both of them.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 03:36 PM
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I believe in embracing the differences between men and women, like gender roles, and following a traditional/RP lifestyle is most fulfilling for my husband and I. It doesn't have to be for everyone, but I think it works really well for a reason. The psychology behind it is also really fascinating and makes a lot of sense.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 05:07 PM
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3-4, which we're going to try for anyway. The issue is more age for me. I'm 31 and going to have our first this year. If all goes well, we'll have another. Then another. But if there are complications due to age or anything else, we'll only have 2 or 3.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/24 04:42 PM
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I would never touch hormonal birth control, and I don’t encourage it for anyone. You’re literally messing with your hormone levels. That shouldn’t be taken lightly. And anything that intentionally suppresses your body’s natural functions is a big NO for me. In addition to screwing up your hormones, birth control depletes your body of vitamins and minerals like different B vitamins, magnesium, and more. That was what woke me up when I was on it (for about 2 years) to get off. It took me almost 10…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 11:24 PM
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It's definitely young, don't get me wrong. I just imagine that trying to date around for "fun" is going to take more than just a few months, but maybe I'm misinterpreting the post.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 02:30 AM
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You've already established that you want to have children, and I assume you would like to be married too. Why would you waste time with the "okay" ones that you already feel upfront are not the right guys for you? 24 isn't old, but it's also not exactly an age where you can easily just throw away a few more years for "fun."
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 02:22 AM
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It just depends on the individual. Some love head a lot more than others. For example, I actually don't care about receiving oral (on myself) and don't particularly enjoy it, so I never have my husband do it. But we both enjoy when I do it to him. I'm not great at it though and utilize it as foreplay (not as a finishing act) most of the time. Same with touching. Sex is pretty much always the main course for him, as another commenter said. As with anything, communication is important in your rela…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 06:44 PM
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Seconding this. I have a few very close male friends whom I've known longer than my husband, however, there is absolutely no secrecy in what goes on when I'm talking to them or about our friendships in general. My husband knows everything about them because I'm very open and transparent about it (and things in general). Good communication is extremely crucial in a relationship and doubly so with things that could be considered sensitive like close opposite-gender friends. Some people are firm ab…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/24 07:15 PM
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Your post almost brought tears to my eyes! I don't have too much advice because I'm actually going through my own journey of still refining myself and having to check my controlling habits. I've improved a lot, and my relationship has always been thriving, but it can be tough when you've always been kind of a controlling and dominant kind of woman. I just want you to know that I'm cheering you on! I've read quite a few stories about marriages that have been really, really bad for several years t…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/24 01:39 AM
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Yeah, I met my husband at 28, and he's the best man I could ever ask for.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/24 07:56 PM
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It sounds like the damage is already done. In my experience, once resentment is building enough, nothing fixes it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/24 03:22 PM
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Pretty much this. If there's a huge foundation and a lot of reasons to think it's an excellent relationship, I'd try a conversation. But it would be really tough to regain my trust after lying about something so sensitive.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 07:20 PM
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Don’t lie. My count is higher than I’d like—though not extremely high—but it wasn’t a problem for my husband. We discussed our histories with each other during the dating process and never had an issue with it. Having a higher count is a flaw, but nobody is perfect. Work on yourself and on ways to make your value higher in spite of the higher body count. Some men are going to have a problem with it, and some are not. But a lot of it comes down to the circumstances and how you present yourself no…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 10:13 PM
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Sometimes he says thing to me and I feel like he’s talking to a guy friend. That could be a personality thing. My husband and I joke and mess around in ways that sound like we're bros sometimes. But there's no doubt that he views me as his wife and not like a guy friend. Just ease into RP stuff, and see how it works and affects the relationship. It took me a couple of months to really get it down naturally. I used to be pretty controlling and nitpicky, and after 30 years, it takes time to subdue…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 04:43 PM
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Thank you! He is absolutely amazing, and I'm blessed everyday I get to be with him. I wish you the best too!
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:30 AM
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He's just an excellent man. He's always naturally wanted to provide and be the sole provider for me (even if he couldn't at first). He's exceptionally caring, loving, and affectionate, but never smothering or overbearing. We have amazing communication and rarely fight, though we have the odd little squabble that we can immediately address and resolve maturely without yelling, swearing, berating, or anything I used to experience in prior relationships. He wants to shower me with anything I could …
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:26 AM
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Maybe slightly more affectionate. But I was lucky to have a husband that pretty much met every traditional/RP standard even before I get myself into shape and became a better wife. But he has said that he appreciates the changes I've made, and he's even happier with me and our relationship than ever before. So it's still a huge win.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:17 AM
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Neither, clearly. The man that you want to spend the rest of your life with should be the man you can’t imagine you life without. The fact that you’re considering the other means you could live without both. Also, four months is way too soon to truly know anything in a relationship. You’re still totally infatuated and running off the honeymoon phase.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 09:55 PM
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Seconding this. I have HSV1 and it wasn’t from sex. I’m pretty sure my mom gave it to me when she had a cold sore and shared a cup with me when I was a kid. I don’t get cold sores often and if I do, I just don’t kiss my husband or do anything intimate that involves my mouth (like oral). It’s actually a pretty benign thing to deal with and is more of an aesthetic insecurity if I have it than something that’s a problem for any relationship I ever had. I’ve literally never had a guy act grossed out…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/23 01:59 PM
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My husband told me recently that me no longer working and him being the sole provider for the family has been one of the most fulfilling changes of his life. It was tough at first because there was a lot of new pressure and stress, but he never wished life was different because of it. He loves being able to provide and only ever feels bad if he isn't able to give me something I want in the moment. He just wants to shower me with everything.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 03:31 PM
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My husband is 5 years younger, and I’ve never been able to tell both in our appearances and maturity. And no one else would guess. But I’ve known guys a year or two younger who felt like my immature baby brother. It depends a lot on the individuals.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 02:36 PM
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No, and I'll never understand why we suddenly decided as a society that infidelity is not a horrible thing just because you admit to it ahead of time.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 11:20 PM
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Homemade things are invaluable, especially coming from a loved one. It's one thing being filthy-rich can't necessarily get you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 06:21 PM
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It probably comes down to a lot of variables. Some situations are worth stepping up and having that conflict, but others can just not be worth the drama. In the example of the "fierce aunty," my response to her saying that everyone needs to pitch in on everything would probably be something along the lines of, "I can't pitch in at my husband's job... so this is my way to contribute. He doesn't need to help me when he's worked 8+ hours at work 5 days a week (or whatever is accurate)." Of course, …
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/23 03:34 PM
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Agreed. I think there's a balance between not giving it up too early and not waiting so long that it hinders the relationship, assuming there isn't a strong religious reason behind holding off (in which case both partners should be on the same page).
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/23 09:18 PM
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Wow, this is crazy! I've never been in a relationship with a man who wasn't willing to wait for me to be ready, no matter how much he wanted it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/23 09:16 PM
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I’m super picky with how I sleep, so I do the same thing basically. Cuddling until we’re sleepy, then we get into our positions and loosely touch, like me having a leg or foot over his.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/23 02:52 PM
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Pretty much same for us. When I ovulate, it’s off to the races. Sometimes three times a day (though normally 1-2 times). But that only lasts for about 5-6 days, and then we go back to doing it every other day or even a bit less. It’s actually fun having it happen this way, and my husband says he’s noticed his libido had somewhat synched to my cycle after we lived together for a few months.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/23 02:15 PM
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Right. Good communication between two people that want to work together and build a good relationship will pave the way to good sex and everything else. Good sex alone isn't necessarily going to fix poor communication. Nothing wrong with the original comment though. Good sex is CRUCIAL and underestimated in terms of how much it impacts relationships in the long-term.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/23 06:20 PM
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Extremely low libido in either sex is not healthy. Assuming it isn’t a lack of attraction to your man, you should be able to get into the mood most of the time. Not all the time, obviously. We all have days that we’re not feeling amazing or simply do not want it. But I can’t remember the last time I was too uncomfortable or in pain to at least try to do it, and then enjoy it. It could be a health thing. Diet plays a massive role in your libido, and even one inflammatory food regularly being eate…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/23 03:12 PM
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Almost definitely a health issue. Diet is a HUGE one, as it directly effects hormones and everything else around them.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/23 02:23 AM
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I still personally think communication is number one. Sex can only fix so many things, but good communication can fix anything, including anything that might be wrong with the sex.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/23 02:22 AM
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There's a difference between finding another woman attractive--because that's literally inevitable--and for your man to be entertaining sexual ideas about another woman. I have no problem knowing that my husband checks out other women. I mean, I do too. An attractive woman is an attractive woman, and that's it. But the thoughts my husband have about those women end right there. They're a fleeting feeling that can't be helped because he's a man looking at what could be a potential mate. It's hard…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 07:20 PM
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That’s great! Both of those things should really help. It won’t be an overnight fix, but you should definitely see improvements.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 04:25 PM
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Life can be really depressing, but there's also a ton of beauty in it if you look for and want to see it. The reason can be as simple as to see the next sunrise, enjoy a good meal, or have another day with my husband and cat. It doesn't have to be that deep for me. I used to be really suicidal (not actually wanting to commit suicide, but I just wanted something to end it all for me) and nihilistic. I got healthier, and this helped a lot. But changing my perspective helped too. I don't know what …
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 03:40 PM
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Stress while pregnant is a HUGE contributor to problems with fetal development. You need to get this under control. I see in another comment you said you're on meds. Hopefully you can find a better solution. My husband had crippling anxiety and depression (tried to take his life as a teenager) that is completely gone now that he eats a healthy diet. That's all it took. I encourage you to re-evaluate your lifestyle and environment and do what you can to clean it up.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/23 03:06 PM
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I can’t speak from experience, but I know my mom still has intimacy with her man (not my dad) even 10 years into menopause. She’s around 60 now.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 09:48 PM
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I’m pregnant and feel like a beached whale, and my husband will still always do his usual pervy smile and nod anytime he gets a glimpse of me topless.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 09:44 PM
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Yeah, this is pretty standard. Glad you got your intimacy back! My husband is always kind and caring, but if we were to go over a week or two, I can feel a slight tension, and he can be a little more snippy with me. And the affection definitely drops. Luckily, this is a really rare occurrence. I've also noticed that his affection will go up for a bit before initiating. Usually some nice back rubs, then he initiates. So yeah, sex = intimacy = affection. It's a whole cycle that benefits both parti…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 03:21 PM
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I think a healthy man is going to know that the really wild stuff you find on porn sites is not a good representation of what a sexual experience with a normal woman is usually like. Because of the way porn screws with your head (dopamine), you need more and more and more and weirder and kinkier shit to get off, hence the popularity of really crazy genres. But everyone is different, and what seems really vanilla or wild to one person may be the opposite to another. I think so long as both partie…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 08:37 PM
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Exactly this.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/23 02:56 PM
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There are pros and cons to both, and there really isn't a "better" version of the wife because it depends on the man, relationship, and various other things. I personally prefer to be the latter, and so does my husband. I used to work 6 days a week and make double the money my husband did, which gave us an immense amount of financial flexibility and ability to just buy whatever we wanted when we needed on top of saving a good amount. Now, though, I don't work, and we only make a little more than…
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/23 03:35 PM
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I lost my virginity to the guy I was dating at the time (I was 17), and I don't regret it. I do wish I didn't have sex with a couple of guys that I wasn't seriously interested in, but I was younger and in a bad place. My husband and I also had pre-marital sex and don't regret it. I personally believe that being "forced" to wait can cause people to rush into marriage because they're horny. I have two friends who are in relationships with poor sexual chemistry that waited to find this out until th…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 03:57 PM
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My husband and I are playing Baldur's Gate 3 together, and that's a game in which you can have pretty deeply romantic and somewhat sexual relationships with characters. It isn't a problem at all because the sex, while fun, is absolutely nothing compared to the rest of the game. We actually get far more enjoyment from the "romantic" aspects because the characters are really well-written, so you get some great depth to learning about their history and what not. I just asked my husband, and he said…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/23 06:04 PM
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I agree with all of this.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 06:05 PM
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My husband and I met online when playing an video game, so it was a very unconventional way to meet. We became friends and chatted every now and then for an entire year before circumstances led to us talking everyday. I ended up moving back to my hometown which happened to be very close to where he was living at the time. We met in person and things sparked from there. We started dating shortly after.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/23 05:32 PM
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I agree with other comments about insecurity being a massive turn-off, but I'll share an example where it ended up not being the worst thing. My husband came from a really messed up family. His mom was a massive narcissist with borderline personality disorder and quite literally did not allow her own husband or children to have any sort of personal identity. Everyone was an extension of herself. Her children were adults and were convinced they needed her permission to do ANYTHING. Eat something,…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/23 12:11 AM
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I personally don't, but I've always been about being as natural as possible. My hair is pretty vanilla, and I don't wear make-up. But I do like to dress in outfits that are cute, particularly linen dresses and skirts. My husband loves how I look and appreciates that I'm not "all done up with artificial stuff." I have been growing my hair out as long as possible now because I feel more feminine that way. I also eat and live a very clean lifestyle because nourishing your body will help your weight…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/23 05:31 PM
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It Takes Two was SUCH a fun game. My husband and I played it on our most recent anniversary. It was a shockingly well-made game with some really awesome gameplay. Definitely recommend it to couples.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 08:53 PM
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I love cooking and cleaning to some nice music.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 05:51 PM
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I feel like these topics just naturally come up during the dating process.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 06:32 PM
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Right now, I contribute about 60% of our finances. But we're going to be changing that by the end of the year when we move, and I don't have to work anymore. I may get a part-time job just to keep me busy until we have our first kid, but I won't have to work.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/23 12:20 AM
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I think about 90% of what I read in that book is excellent advice, and I personally do my best to execute most of her concepts in my own relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 06:02 PM
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30F and married. Been living on my own (away from family) for about 12 years. Feel free to message.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 05:36 PM
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So unhealthy… but this is the norm for a lot of people.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 02:56 PM
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Been cooking every single meal I eat for the last decade. It’s healthier, cheaper, and more fulfilling. And it’s impressive to people—not just men! Everything I make is restaurant-grade food and my husband has never once asked if we could go out to eat instead. He likes to cook too but absolutely adores having me make whatever he wants. I can grill up steaks (his favorite), prepare complex recipes from other cultures, whip up all the necessary condiments and ingredients for things from scratch, …
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 02:55 PM
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This is pretty much the natural way things go for my husband and I, so I didn’t even consider it to be a big RPW tip. Thanks for sharing! My husband absolutely adores when I make whatever special thing he wants.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 02:23 PM
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I think it just depends. That could absolutely kill the moment though. Just have to gauge how seriously you NEED to freshen up.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 01:05 AM
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Some of the best sex I've had with my husband has been when it wasn't at all on my mind, and I was definitely not "ready" in the same way you weren't: I was un-showered, disheveled, probably bad breath, etc. But when the mood strikes, roll with it. I find that when I'm not 100% prepared, my body naturally stiffens up, and I can find myself subconsciously resisting the stimulation. But I do my best to pay attention to that and relax, and then it's infinitely more pleasurable for both of us. I can…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/23 09:26 PM
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This is so true. I think people (especially under 25) really underestimate how much your thinking and decision-making changes after your brain fully develops. There was this really subtle yet dramatic shift in everything for me once I was 26. So many things didn't matter anymore, and so many things became way more important. My future and goals were much more clear, as were my core values and beliefs. I feel like I became much more of a feminine woman after that.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 04:39 PM
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I've never been a strong feminist because I've never aligned with any of the garbage they spew about all men being rapists or how every little thing a man does that you dislike is sexual assault. I actually had far more male friends than female friends growing up, so I knew first-hand that most men actually just aren't rapists or horrible. And I recognized how dangerous it was to convince women that they're constantly being sexual harassed or assaulted and that they need to be expecting all of t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 04:37 PM
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With cooking, you just have to start doing it. There are millions of recipes out there, many with videos to show you exactly how it's done.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 01:56 AM
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I don't like to have zero responsibilities. It's great for like a month, and then I get bored. Until we have kids, I work part time. But once our first is born, I'm going to be a stay-at-home mom for good. We're also going to be building a homestead, so that'll end up being my full-time job.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 02:55 AM
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Awesome! I've experienced the same. Even with some out-of-control factors messing up my hormones and giving me random acne sometimes, I still look great for my age. I'm going to be 31 this year and was visiting my dad, and his neighbor thought I was barely 18. I don't actually think I look quite that young, but most people do think I'm in my early 20's most of the time.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 11:46 PM
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Friendly flirting is not a sin, in my opinion. I worked in restaurants for years, and I would flirt with guys despite being completely happy in my relationship with absolutely NO intention of cheating or anything. I think healthy people can flirt without it being intended to go anywhere. If it does advance, of course, boundaries need to be set. I mean, I even say things that are flirtatious or suggestive to my co-worker who is a woman 20 years older than me just because it's funny for the moment…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 08:38 PM
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Going to come in with an unconventional reply: eat better. I'm not going to go how that's done because nutrition is like religion and people get very upset about it if they don't agree (though I'm happy to DM about it). But trust me when I say that eating better is a GAME CHANGER for how you look. If you're truly healthy, your hormones will be more balanced, your hair, skin, and nails will be healthier, you won't carry water weight or have inflammation, and you'll stay looking youthful longer. Y…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 06:47 PM
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We’d known each other for over a year but both had different lives at the time. Then things brought us together, and it was about three months after talking constantly and finally starting to date (be exclusive) that we both said it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/23 03:47 PM
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There’s a limit, in my opinion. We all want to avoid hostilities. And we won’t all agree on things. But you can’t bend for everything, especially core values.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 10:20 PM
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Yeah, it's not good. He would literally bend his own thinking in order to contort with their views. He would even eat differently despite knowing that how we ate was making him feel good, just to make sure they didn't get upset or anything. It was super gross to me.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 10:10 PM
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I dated a guy who was essentially a puppet for his family. He was fine on his own, but if ANYTHING he or I did or said didn't align perfectly with his parents, he bent. Always. And it was all "to keep the peace," but he would do things I knew he really didn't want to do at all. It was one of the biggest turn offs. You need to be your own person.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 10:04 PM
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YMMV with this, but I tend to just be up-front in these situations. I would tell him that I had some interest back when I first met, and I'd like to get to know him more now that we're both available. I really hope things work out for you!
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/23 08:08 PM
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I'm definitely open to chat if you need it!
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 04:22 PM
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Meanwhile, I’m married to a guy that’s younger and (to me) in a whole tier above me as far as looks go. And he makes me feel Iike the most desirable, beautiful, and amazing woman ever and has since day one. I got lucky.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 02:40 PM
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I recommend moving on and using this time to refine yourself more and more. My first and second serious relationship went downhill because I was a controlling bitch, and I wasn’t empathetic towards my man nor was I submissive at all. The first guy cheated on me despite never being that kind of guy and hasn’t been ever since, and the second one built so much resentment towards me that seeing me naked made him recoil. Both were toxic towards me too, but I’m realizing more recently that I was proba…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/23 02:31 PM
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Based on your post, he isn't trying to do that at all.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 11:21 PM
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He's cheated on you. Done.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 11:14 PM
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Your family is the people who sleep in the same house as you. Everyone else is extended family or friends. Bingo!
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/23 01:23 AM
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I don't think age always matters so long as it isn't a massive gap that makes itself really obvious, in my opinion. Glad you found someone that works for you!
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 10:22 PM
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Well, we’re married now. So it’s going pretty well. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 01:49 PM
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That's a good way to put it! I like that. Thank you for the tip on wording it that way. I'm looking forward to finishing the book. I'm just taking it in chunks before bed.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 12:20 AM
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Oh yeah, I completely get the difference! I've just noticed in my experience that my husband genuinely wants me to give him an answer in some situations that the book would probably deem a time in which I should say, "whatever you think." There are times where he actually ends up pretty upset because he wants me to give him advice on what he's going to do, like how to help him arrange his new desk setup. He admires how well I can arrange the house and my own personal areas in a room, so he usual…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 12:10 AM
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I'm halfway through this book and really like it. I don't believe in literally never speaking up even a little bit, personally, but I'm also in a relationship that has extremely healthy and open communication. My husband would probably hate it if I never spoke up at all. I absolutely love the idea of being much more passive and submissive in most situations though. I hope it helps you!
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/23 11:00 PM
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I (31) got really lucky and somehow ended up with a younger guy (26) that helped me have even better core values.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/23 10:58 PM
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Thirding this. I've relocated three times in my life, and they've always been HUGE for me. I went across the country and pretty much started my entire life over from scratch: no friends, single, no job, etc. and built it up. It was THE best decision of my life. So many new experiences, people, and more.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/23 04:31 PM
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I wanted to piggy-back onto this and say that having certain types of part-time jobs can be INSANELY good for learning how to talk to people. I worked as a barista and as a server in restaurants for quite a few years and went from being super nervous talking to anyone to being confident talking to literally anyone about just about anything. It is different talking to people professionally versus more personal/intimate, and I can still get a little nervous and awkward in more intimate conversatio…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/23 04:28 PM
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Our relationship didn't change at all between dating and when he proposed. I guess there was the most subtle subconscious change just because we knew we were at the next serious step, but as far as what we did for each other, how we spoke to each other, etc., it was all exactly the same. I don't get into a committed relationship with someone unless I hope for it to result in marriage. I've always felt that dating is a trial for marriage, so I'm not going to hold anything back. And neither did my…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 04:27 PM
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I've had similar situations--not always specifically about relationships/marriage/RP stuff--where a friend I've always been close with just doesn't have the same views at all about a lot of things anymore. It's actually happening with my best friend and I now. It inevitably makes me distance myself because we can't relate anymore. I think about making new friends with other wives and moms who are in a similar season of life and understand firsthand the reality of running a household and family. …
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 12:19 AM
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In my opinion, regardless of marriage, being with the right person will keep you fulfilled so that you don't consider other options. If you're looking for or even entertaining other options, you probably aren't totally satisfied with what your current man offers. I like to get to know someone either because we organically became friends or are actually going on dates, then if we mutually want to take things further, we would become exclusive. I believe that the exclusive phase is pretty much a t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/23 10:06 PM
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Wool. Lots of wool. Merino wool, if you're worried about itchiness. I normally layer with wool leggings and a wool turtleneck and layer a dress over it. The rest is up to you to add your own personal touches like what kind of boots, belts, etc. I'm pretty basic with those things though.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/23 06:35 PM
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