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The only skill needed to become a wife is saying ‘I do / yes’.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:29 AM
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Wallet appreciation does not equal genuine desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 08:28 AM
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One of my little brothers is doing great, the others are too young to start dating. He is together with his (doctor) girlfriend for almost 10 years and he is thinking about proposing. They live together for 3 years now. They were highschool sweethearts. My brother is smart and he looks handsome, never had any issues with the ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 07:34 AM
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Being extremely picky. Leave when I get the ick, and I get the ick quickly. I dumped a LOT of men. I always knew my worth. Communication is very important to me, just like working hard for your goals and making money. I made myself to be found by a man who always worked hard, had an exceptional education and made a lot of money and was willing to support me in my endeavors. Someone who would fit in my family, and had two parents that stayed together their whole lives as well. I stay away from li…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 06:20 AM
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I dislike princess treatment, since I’m a queen. I expect queen treatment (and married a husband who provides that, and a lot more). For example, to just name a few things I expect from a man. Doors opened, thoughtful planning of dates, effort, takung my coat, being well-dressed, leisure money, bills taken care, being able to go shopping and for me to have the ability to do as I please without limitations, etc, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 07:48 PM
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My husband has a good position, I’m doing well also, by my job and family. You need around 4/5k a month to cover the basics here in the heart of the city, just to exist but nothing fancy. Of course money matters. I was not raised by my father to let myself be entertained by broke men. Being financially stable was something my parents taught me to look for in a partner, my brother was encouraged much more to be a provider. They taught us both to make financially wise decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 12:21 AM
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Because we are expected to choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 11:01 AM
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They are not lonely enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 02:30 AM
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Does the man need to be atleast somewhat physically attractive? Height is important to me, I’m 5’5. Men my height or smaller don’t get the chance to grow on me (it’s not that hard to be taller than me). I do not like overweight people (I’m thin myself). Fat men don’t get the chance to grow on me. I have a strong skin color preference, so men who do not look like that preference, will not grow on me (for a love relationship, they can grow on me friendship-level wise). and if you like his personal…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 12:57 PM
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Speed dating was the best thing ever, for my ego. 15 men, 15 women: 5 mins each time. Got a report later that I had 15 ‘yes’, and 2 matches. But I went to the speeddating with my best friend: 5 hours after meeting my husband (for the first time). So it never came to fruition.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 01:47 PM
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‘Nice Guys’🤮 They are never nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 07:36 AM
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A lot of Dutch men are pussies, indeed. They make their wives go ‘50/50’ (like it even exists..). They are usually very tall and handsome though. Our parents raised us to do and expect better. They also did not raise us to pay the debt of someone else. And to not go in to debt for bullshit/lack of vision.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 04:16 PM
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She could have been in the same situation as I am. If she made her employer pay for her schooling, instead of using her dads’ (or her own) money for an education. If the employer does not want to pay, there is no reason at all to go to college and it’s a sign to find a career which is less costly (to just throw away when the kids come). My brother is MUCH more generous than the men in this country: usually she would have had to split/pay bills. So she counts her lucky stars. Her money is hers, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 11:27 AM
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Lack of reading and a lack of logical thinking seems to be more prevalent with non-libertarians.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 10:41 AM
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[conservatives] Would y'all be okay if women could get an education, but just didn't get paid for working ? It's actually a question for CONSERVATIVE people but uh there isn't that flair the subreddit. Like I get that for y'all women working is breaking society and all, I’m educated, hold a Masters. And my salary is absolute shit. I’m a libertarian woman, leaning conservative. Women working is not ‘breaking society’. Children being raised by daycare is: the double income household (being the sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 07:28 AM
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Do you think most men are just not good enough/worthy of dating/marriage in the modern world? To me: yes. But, there is a lid for every pot. a lot of modern day guys just don't live up to the bar. Most of them, yes. This kind of falls in line with the red pill narrative that women only want the top men. Whether it's income, looks, height, intelligence, whatever it may be. Do y'all agree with this? I did/do (married to such a man), but most of my friends do not (they don’t exactly envy me because…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/25 02:36 PM
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As a libertarian woman, it was very VERY hard to find a suitable husband. I’m not talking about sex (I can have sex with any guy; that’s too easy), but about having (somewhat of) the same vision when it comes to politics and viewpoints/wants in life. I’m way too conservative for liberals, I’m way too to liberal for conservatives. I met A LOT of conservative men cosplaying lefties. Nothing gave me the ick as soon as a man trying to pretend something he isn’t. That was even worse than trying to da…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/25 09:40 AM
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How many women here are actually looking for a financially equal relationship? Where you pay 50/50 for everything. I’m not, I’m married. With a huge income inequality. He is new money, I am old money. And would you say you're looking for an "equal relationship" overall? Would you stay in such a relationship long-term? I tried and it was laughable. First of all: my parents don’t accept broke men. And those men simply could not afford being with me. 50/50 does not exist AT ALL, it’s simply not how…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 09:27 AM
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My husband holds multiple masters and a PHD. People react shocked when they see us together, since we are so different, but when they hear us talk it just clicks for people. Like it did for us from the moment we met. All of my exes are extremely smart, and not ‘Instagram model’ looking (while I am, people always assume I must be a tad dumb because of that: joke is on them). Most of them don’t even have social media, or have very inactive profiles (we are early 30’s).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 10:25 AM
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Honestly, for some guys I felt bad. Some completely deserved it. But I can not stay with someone who is not right for me, and most definitely also not out of pity. Too bad. ‘Life is tough, get a helmet’: to quote Candace Owens.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 10:18 AM
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Roll over and give up then. Or, be a smart human, and start fixing yourself. I can already smell your unwillingness from here, that’s a HUGE turn off for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 06:25 AM
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I do (did, I’m married to a man who did). All my friends do: it’s less than the bare minimum (for us). More affluent men understand it completey, only brokies take offense. We don’t want scrubs. Works out the best for everyone, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/25 12:00 PM
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Exactly this, protecting my daughter also.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:05 PM
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In case of that, I would dislike the same red flags in women, as I do in men now. I don’t like leftist (wo)men, but I sure hate incels/nazi’s/extreme right people. Huge red flags. So that for politics. I take pride in how I look, so I expect that from my partner. Don’t matter if they own a penis or a vagina. Someone who doesn’t take care of themselves or or the people around them: huge red flags. Honesty, punctuality and respect are important to me. Lying, being unpleasant to innocent people or …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 10:43 AM
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I did hook up a few times. I never hooked up with any of my former boyfriends. I have a husband now, and I think intimacy came in the 3th month of us getting to know each other. I used to have ONS when I was living alone and feeling like it. The expectations for someone I would just like to fuck me, are much lower than the expectations for a life partner. I don’t think it’s that weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 07:09 PM
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You’re the one calling me bro 😉But, then I take it back! I think I have already ruined my body. Partying my ass off early 20’s, giving birth in my late 20’s while retiring amateur ballet (too late) did something to me. Pilates is the bare minimum I can bring myself to do at this point in life (combined with a toddler). One day I can work out with a PT again! I’m 1.68m, so it’s not too bad, but also a reason why I had to stick to pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 06:07 PM
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Wow, so you’re basically a super strong lady doing a master’s while smashing plyos 💪🩷 Impressive!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 05:42 PM
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I don’t have to work a day in our life anymore, and I became a mom. But I managed to avoid a lot of you guys, by hanging around here! So thanks 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 05:39 PM
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I prefer pilates, but I sure hope you find a nice reading class! ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 05:34 PM
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I’m 50 kg’s, so I estimate you will need about 4 of me to get to that weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 05:11 PM
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Sorry to burst your bubble. I used to model, my husband is in M&A. It would be very weird for me to be ugly or for us to be poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:55 PM
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The men who hurt me: yes, I was WAY out of their league. That’s what even made it more hurtful, because I settled.. Never had such an experience with people who also look good. It was more balanced.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:51 PM
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I never (ever) had a problem attracting men. My husband and I are the 0,1%, so I think we may consider ourselves to be comfortable and succesful. To me, reading here is just one of the many things I use to protect our daughter against losers. My husband does not even know Reddit/any pill shit, and sometimes I’ll tell him what I read here, and then he just bursts into laughing. I came here after I broke up with a guy (while I was WAY out of his league). It made me much less naive about men and da…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 04:48 PM
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If you don’t want kids: I completely understand, It’s not for everyone. I always wanted them. Be a happy DINK/single person, more power to you as long as you respect people that make different life choices. You are making a lot of generalizations: but you seem to forget that you can make your own choices when it comes to these points: For all these things you’re mentioning: there are solutions. I still look hot, because I put in the work and got (non-surgical) procedures done to look like my pre…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 09:29 AM
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There is no barrier: there is no need. Men chase, women pick. It’s that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 12:04 PM
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Most people don’t deserve poverty. People like you, however, do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/25 06:07 AM
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Someone’s projecting from the abyss again. I’ve hit the ground too, at points in my life. Difference is: I did not start a whole show about ‘how life is so unfair’ down there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 01:36 PM
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You do you. O no, haha, no one will do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 01:13 PM
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Maybe actually try to listen to actual women sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 01:04 PM
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My children will keep winning, like their children will, and like our parents did before us.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 01:01 PM
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You rent pleasure. I build power. Same agency, different ambition. You win the night, I win the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 12:37 PM
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Some seem born to lose. But even then, you choose the terms: fade out quietly, or go down unforgettable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 12:28 PM
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A 5'0 ugly bald guy has the same agency every other human has: the choice not to stay on his knees. The world sees you as nothing? Fine: you can hate, beg, disappear: or you can build something no one can ignore. Power, vision, precision, character, humor.. The list is endless. Looks aren’t your fate. Giving up is. That’s where you either betray yourself, or rise. If looks are everything, why should I not give up already? Fading looks is something we all have to deal with, and I won the genetic …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 12:22 PM
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No, I wouldn’t be responsible for someone choosing to mug or shoot me. But I’m still responsible for how I move through the world. For how I assess risk, prepare, and respond. It’s not about blame; it’s about agency.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 12:09 PM
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We all have our crosses to bear. But nothing will ever change if you just point fingers at other people/things. Rolling over to rot and die is the dumbest thing a human can do. Everybody has their ‘issues’. My husband is bald and has ADHD. I have severe dyscalculia and an issue with most authority figures. Shit happens, you can wade in it or try to get out as quick as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 11:48 AM
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He got an education, focussed on making his life better and was able to retire us both at the age of 30 (we decided to keep working though). He is 6’6, has no issues attracting women. He also does not have any social media, does not know what Reddit is, and we are both under 35. If he would read what people write here, he would laugh his ass off at all the incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 11:31 AM
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We are ALL responsible for our own luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 11:23 AM
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That's pretty much the blackpill in a nutshell, they say it's impossible for them to become something they were not born to be so what's the point ... My neighbor men and husband did not just woke up one day with multiple degrees and mountains of cash, looking like male models. They had to study, work hard, go to the gym, plastic surgeons, beauty professionals, stylists etc. Same for me: I had a lot to do and learn before I became the (lucky) woman I am today (also when I was my priviliged under…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 11:23 AM
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I had to endure a lot from men, when dating and outside of dating. I’m considered attractive by most. By American standards I’m conservative/libertarian leaning: I get to see quite close to the good/bad/ugly of men. Reading along here made me much less naive, and learn the lingo of incels/low class men. So I knew exactly what to look out for while dating. I started playing a numbers game, and won. My husband is basically what every incel dreams to be, and I’m basically what they describe as thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 06:10 AM
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I always thought I wanted children very, very young. But the best gift I gave myself was becoming a parent at the age of 30. I love children, I’m a teacher: but waiting was the BEST thing I ever did. I was way too young before that. But we all live, and we all learn: just all at a different pace. Have children when you are ready, and when you are able to provide a loving home.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 10:04 PM
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🖕🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/25 01:40 AM
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I don’t expect someone like you to understand, since you cant look further than your own dick. Like the one you are. Btw, I never have to work a day in my life again dumbass.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 09:26 AM
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Society has EVERYTHING to do with that. I get to ‘enjoy’ seeing motherhood penalty vs. fatherhood reward first row: since I became a mom. But in my professional/personal life it’s very common as well (I’m a teacher). See a child with a hamburger? O, how cool dad is making quality time happen, how good to feed your kid. But mom, why don’t you provide a healthy meal? You are a trash parent! Forgot an item/appointment? As a dad this can happen, a lot, does he need help, is he overwhelmed? Do this m…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 09:21 PM
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‘Half the time I’m a stay at home dad’ That’s comparing pears and apples. 1. You are not a woman and society expects MUCH less from men when it comes to chores and child rearing. 2. Being a ‘parttime’ parent, is not to be compared by having to carry the mental and physical load all or most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:16 PM
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Who set that system up?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/25 04:13 PM
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I’m my country, being frugal is a good thing and can even be something to brag about. But not when it comes to dating. We also see it in nature. You see how much effort the male birds put in building their nest? Or how the peacock flaunts?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 03:43 PM
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True but there are women who just date to get free dinners. Much less than there are men just ‘dating’ to fuck. And at least you figure that out quite quickly: the exact opposite of what a lot of women have to endure in dating. Don't you know there are always people who'll take advantage of that dynamic. I did that too for a while, when I was very broke and a little bit too lonely for my liking: just moved into my own apartment. I still gave every single one of those guys a fair shot: I just put…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 03:30 PM
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We have to see it to believe it, unfortunately! COVID times made it even harder, since all guys started feeling entitled to ‘walking dates’ (haha).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 03:18 PM
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It’s highly personal, of course. But I wanted a guy within an age range of 5 years (up), at least taller than me in heels (I’m Dutch: guys are quite tall here, so lucky me, with my 5’5). Who was able to take very good care of himself: physical, household, cognitive etc. Education was important to me, I wanted someone that was educated at least as high as I was. With (mostly) shared political views. That was well-traveled and from a background I can relate to. That loved my dog, and had a house b…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 10:44 AM
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Once I started refusing low-effort dates, my dates became much more fun and I attracted much nicer men. That’s how I ended up with my husband, who checked every box I had. Don’t let them fool you ladies. Effort is effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 09:10 AM
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Let guys check it for you so you can compare it to any woman who ever checked on you befo… Hahaha. Who am I kidding.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 06:44 AM
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What’s important in this event was time, which is very unexciting for a Reddit post. I grew suspicious over some behaviors, and decided to do some digital research in his phone and laptop (when he left them unattended). What I found, over the passing of weeks, were messages, including one that completely laid down what must’ve happened (including 2 pictures of his bruises). That specific e-mail gave me some insights to ALL the other messages (that already worried me). In the end, with that e-mai…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 03:07 PM
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Hoe was your little tantrum honey? Haha 😝
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 03:17 PM
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Actually, this were his only somewhat decent friends.. But you are right!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 06:59 AM
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That’s ok, he is laughing at your looks and bank account 🤭
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 06:58 AM
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I am a lucky woman and I married a very good man. I don’t play around in your ‘relationship material’ area bla bla bla. But my husband does know that when he fucks around, he WILL find out. Just like I know my husband would not things like that slide from me. Nothing wrong with good revenge, and the best revenge I got on my ex: is living well. This was also in my earlier 20’s, and I won the genetic lottery, so I can afford to be ruthless.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 05:07 PM
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I am a lucky woman and I married a very good man. I don’t play around in your ‘relationship material’ area bla bla bla. But my husband does know that when he fucks around, he WILL find out. Just like I know my husband would not things like that slide from me. Nothing wrong with good revenge, and the best revenge I got on my ex: is living well. This was also in my earlier 20’s, and I won the genetic lottery, so I can afford to be ruthless.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 05:06 PM
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Well, little boy. They were very happy to dry my tears when I confronted them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 04:51 PM
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Well, you little immature boy. They were more than happy to let me cry out on their shoulder, when I confronted them with this info.. That’s how bro’s are, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 04:49 PM
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Not in the eyes of many, but I do believe people like you will be punished by life itself. Good luck with that!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 03:16 PM
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So he can misbehave and have no repercussions, but I should be ashamed. Hahahaha, which drug are you on, or are you just mentally impaired? Do we need to send people to do a wellness check on you? I did leave him, after making sure his victims and I got our revenge. And my life got beautiful, thank you: I can do whatever and go wherever I want. I think that’s my ‘thank you for being a good person’ from a higher power.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 03:15 PM
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I’m not mother Theresa, and he deserved to suffer for this. Like he made his victims suffer, and me as well (altough less). I’m very proud of what I did to this day. If that makes me cruel in your eyes, get a fucking helmet to handle life man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 03:01 PM
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I did not want to fuck his friends, I wanted to ruin his support system. It worked like a charm.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 02:56 PM
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Your way of looking at people/relationships is completely flawed then. I never beat up gay people? Nor ever did anything to hurt him (until after I found out). Yes, when I take my revenge I’m vicious. Just like he was, beating up people for no other reason than being gay.. Police would have done nothing, and they also would not have been able to. In my country they can only arrest/prosecute someone when they are caught in the act. They are also not allowed to lead people on: a judge would judge …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 02:54 PM
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Thanks ❤️🙏 I completely agree. I was also so hurt by this, you think you know someone for 8 years and then they do that.. I almost felt like I was enabling that shit, even though I knew nothing. I only found out after he left his laptop and phone unlocked. The police can not do anything in my country when they are not caught red handed, and they are also not allowed to lead them on. This was the best revenge I could come up with at the time (my early 20’s).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 02:50 PM
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How can he trust you after you cheated on another man? He can trust that I will not let any men walk over me, he puts more trust and value in that. Do you at least respect men enough to admit that circumcising minors is wrong? That’s a stretch. In my country, circumcizing is done only to religious boys or boys with a faulty penis. It’s highly frowned upon to circumcize a healthy boy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 10:40 AM
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I don’t respect most men, my husband is the exception: I respect some men. My husband actually loves the story, we know each others past.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:34 AM
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I would cry in the nice castle I will buy, supported by all my loved ones. Sniffing my nose in the millions of euros that would get me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:25 AM
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That’s not an excuse to let ‘the world’ shit al over you and just let it be. A few years and relationships later, I married an amazing, handsome and affluent man and my life became wonderful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:18 AM
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I think it does: I was with this man for 8 years. He must have been doing it for years. And with men like that: I just expect some sex occurred (homophobic to me means: you are secretly gay and loathing yourself). So he put our relationship at risk, my health AND he hurt other people. The goal was not to cheat, I did not even like his friends: but I needed to make sure he was more hurt than I was. And boy, did I succeed in that! If my husband would do what he did, I would do the same. But I’m ol…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 09:14 AM
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He was leading on gay men, made an appointment and beat the shit out of them. Multiple times. So. 1. He was on a gay website 2. He would hurt other people 3. He was homophobic (while still putting himself on a gay website). So I made sure that his whole support system fell apart and he had no one to go back to. Even his own mother despises him to this day.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:58 AM
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I would not have cared: what he did was way worse than cheating. So I fucked his two friends (not at the same time).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 08:36 AM
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Yes, it felt very good. I cheated after I found out something uncanny about him. We broke up not too long after that, but I made sure that he knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 07:51 AM
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This the best you could come up with after 6 days of thinking on your part? I guess when you’ve got nothing going on in your DMs, you’ve got plenty of time to overthink extremely bad comebacks! You are a funny man, think about a career in the circus: you might actually make some money once. ‘Voluntarily celibate’, nice try, but that’s just a pathetic spin on ‘no one wants me.’ You’re about as ‘voluntarily celibate’ as a dead houseplant is ‘voluntarily’ dry.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 08:22 AM
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If I needed your validation, I'd have to lower my standards too much 🤭🤣 Voluntarily celibate’ is a beautiful way of saying ‘unfuckable by choice’. Just remember, choosing not to swim isn’t the same as being thrown out of the pool. And, as someone who has English as a 6th language: there is a vital difference between your and ‘you’re’.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 06:46 AM
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Care for your eye sight and your ability to read with comprehension. You might make something of your life, maybe a woman will voluntarily fuck you once!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 09:03 PM
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When I was single, I also did not want to date men with kids. It’s a huge responsibility: and it always comes with a connection to another woman and her family. Parenthood is such a big event, pregnancy is a whole experience itself: I think it really changes you. I completely understand the men that are not up for that. Who might want to experience that with someone for the first time too. But I also respect men who make the choice to raise children that are not biologically theirs so much. Pare…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 07:06 PM
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You can be ok with low effort, that’s just fine and that’s what you will receive back. I know that I deserve more than that. Any woman that respects herself, will not agree to low effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 01:58 PM
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I think you should try to read a bit better, since I care a lot about penis size. As stated.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 01:52 PM
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I think it's great that you've found a dynamic that works for you, but I also find it concerning that the balance seems to depend mostly on you adjusting your behavior to fit his expectations. What you describe sounds like a relationship where he leads and you maintain the peace, and honestly that feels more like regression than partnership. Feminism isn't just about the freedom to choose, it's also about equality within that choice. If you're truly happy in this setup, that's fine. But if work …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 07:47 AM
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Wow, a whole one line in your dating profile and 30 matches later, no one messaged first? Tragic. Meanwhile, I can post a single blurry selfie on a bad hairday and my inbox turns RIP. Also, complaining about emotional exhaustion from rejection is wild. Men are so tired of making the first move? Babe, I have 10.000+ unread messages from guys who didn’t get that memo. It’s not that unrealistic women won’t message first: it’s that we just have many many options, and you’re not the prize you think y…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 07:20 AM
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The thing is: not all women do this. My girlfriends actually had me give him a chance! I was a little bit in shock and thought ‘such a small penis will not satisfy me’. Which was complete BS: since we truly had awesome sex. I totally get the anxiety about this. But this is not only something for men: women can be just as insecure about their bodies. If not more, because this is where the world puts emphasis on (publicly).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 09:07 PM
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If a guy with 11 cm can make me have such good sex (while I was used to bigger guys) I don’t think you don’t have to worry for that 1 cm difference. Everyone comes in shape and size, and, as we say in my country: every jar will find a lid that fits.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 09:03 PM
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I did not take a ruler, but I was shocked when I felt and saw how small it was when we started doing handwork. I think 11 centimeters? So I discussed it with my girlfriends, who understood my hesitation, but quickly talked me out of it. They told me it’s such a shame to have a connection, and then to just throw it away because his dick was smaller than the guys I was used to. I’m forever grateful they talked some sense into me. The break up happened because he decided to be a dick, but absolutel…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 08:55 PM
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I suppose you mean like ‘small dick energy’? The thing is: women didn’t start the trend of attributing personality traits to body parts or body types. May I remind you of terms like ‘roast beef’: to shame women. Or to say they are ‘used up’ even if they’re virgins. Or how ‘flat-chested’ is often equated with being less feminine or desirable. Or how ‘thigh gap’ or ‘camel toe’ became memes, used to judge women’s bodies in public. This kind of language didn’t come out of nowhere, and it didn’t star…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 07:14 AM
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I salute anyone able to fuck in a canoe! I come from a sailing family, his family was more about motorboats. Maybe something like that? We just really loved boating to a private place on the water, lay out the anchor and to get it going on there. Good food, good music, Nice weather and ‘camping’ out. It had nothing to do with exhibitionism: we were both not the kinda people who like a public while doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 03:35 PM
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It was the way he moved: he just instantly knew what to do and where to touch at the right moments. Sex was not too short, not too long: so his timing was excellent. We had a great connection and shared a love for fucking on boats. My husband is the only man who is able to get me where this guy was getting me, and my husband is a little bigger (I really don’t think it’s dick size though).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 11:25 AM
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Some of the best sex I had in my life was a guy with a much smaller dick than I was used to. It’s not about the size of the boat, it’s about the motion of the ocean. This ex was really having issues with his small dick size and endurance. While he fucked like a god and I never came so much with any guy. Such a waste. You guys should really stop making each other so insecure about something you can do so little about (pun not intended).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 06:22 AM
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I don’t get why you should do that, altough I see a lot of women accepting/doing it. My friends basically have to mommy their husbands (most aren’t even married even..). But the answers are simple, allow it and be treated as a door mat. Or simply kick the guy out and do everything yourself (most peaceful option) or find workable alternatives (for both partners). All my exes tried to make me carry the household/mental load, and I basically made them regret it real soon (sometimes on purpose). I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 06:18 AM
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I can buy your dad and make him work windows here, and your miserable ass as well ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:18 PM
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I have therapists pay me to educate them, so.. Jokes on you 🤭 I actually achieved great things, and never have to work a day in my life again. While you sound absolutely miserable: good luck with that!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:16 PM
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Because it also happened to me AS AN ADULT. Seriously, can you read or..?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:12 PM
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Adult me was groomed from the ripe age of 14. Are you mentally challenged? Serious question, since you don’t seem to comprehend a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:10 PM
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The second time I was 16. That relationship ended when I was 23 and after being single and scared, so I jumped right into a familiar experience at 24. That’s what trauma does to people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:08 PM
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I was. 14. Fucking 14. Just started puberty. You should be in an institution.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:04 PM
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You are seriously blaming the 14yo while defending the guy in his 20’s who should have known? You also laugh at kindergartners who hurt themselves or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:03 PM
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the "frontal lobe develops 25" thing is junk framed pop science, it has been debunked the same way "we only use 10% of our brain" factioid was. Your article is literally showing that the brain is not fully grown at the age of 18 so.. Thanks for proving my point? Ask any person over 30: is there a point where you realize your way of thinking changes? I can assure you that most of us cringe at our teen/early20’s self.. From what info I gather from your comment alone is that nothing really happened…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:01 PM
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the "frontal lobe develops 25" thing is junk framed pop science, it has been debunked the same way "we only use 10% of our brain" factioid was. Your article is literally showing that the brain is not fully grown at the age of 18 so.. Thanks for proving my point? Ask any person over 30: is there a point where you realize your way of thinking changes? I can assure you that most of us cringe at our teen/early20’s self.. From what info I gather from your comment alone is that nothing really happened…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 06:00 PM
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I get so mad at this narrative that older women are jealous. No, we are just experienced. Exactly this, we know their ways and that’s why they dislike us. I’m happy I listened to the older ladies right on time, older women saved me from a lifetime of sadness en being dependent on men. Once a person is 24/25, I get a lot less concerned about age gap marriages (ed or relationships) . Thissss, I will judge in my head: but not at loud. Adult people should be able to make their own adult decisions/mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:55 PM
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You are really defending (multiple) predators here? Haha, you are a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:50 PM
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14yo me should have taken responsibility for an old dude preying on me? That’s what you are trying to say? I hope no woman/girl ever has to deal with you. You sound very much out of touch..
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:46 PM
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No, it’s called being vulnerable after years and years of grooming. You sound terribly dumb though.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:43 PM
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Indeed, predatory men are a danger to young girls and society.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:41 PM
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I was 14 when it started.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:41 PM
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Trying to keep me away from men like that since I had the ripe age of 9.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:40 PM
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What a shitty human you are. I was not a young woman: I was literally a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:39 PM
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I barely hit puberty when it started, wtf is wrong with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:36 PM
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Big words for someone displaying an IQ lower than my shoe size.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:36 PM
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Yeah, 14/16/24 yo me should have known better against these full blown adult men in their late 20’s/early 30’s. You are absolutely nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:35 PM
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You are most likely too poor and ugly for me anyways, no worries man: my husband is gold.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 05:33 PM
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In my teens and early twenties I was with older guys. None of them had nefarious reasons. All of them fucked me up and enriched me in ways every other relationship would. BUT. There was a huge power imbalance. Emotionally, mentally, financially and support wise. Even though I was ‘soooo mature for my age’ and ‘looked soooo much older than my age’ (I was and did not+power of make up). And I only see that now looking back at it, in a healthy marriage with only a 3 year age gap (instead of a >10 <1…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 12:03 PM
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A lot of good men feel unseen in the early stages, like they have to pass a dozen tests just to be considered. But here’s the thing: when a man truly embodies all those qualities, it usually doesn’t go unnoticed for long. He often already has someone who sees his worth - because that kind of presence, respect, and emotional intelligence tends to attract someone before he even needs to convince her. It’s not about flashy moves, but about the kind of energy that makes people feel safe, seen, and c…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:12 AM
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The bar is split. There’s the bar to get our attention, and the bar to keep it. And yes, getting through that first gate is work. It’s not because women are unfair - it’s because time, safety, and energy are limited. Just like not every CV gets an interview, not every man gets a date. The solution isn’t lowering the bar, it’s standing out in ways that actually matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:08 AM
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I live like 5 minutes from there, never had issues in the area. Some countries should really calm down down about it. It’s one of the oldest professions. The whores can be very expensive though, from what I’ve heard from my friends. It’s a little frowned upon, and it seems to be more like the middle aged men who go. I prefer the other (green) goods my city has to offer!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 10:10 PM
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Some traits aren’t instantly visible. But here’s the thing: women don’t need to see everything up front. They need to see enough to believe there’s more worth discovering. If you say you tick all the boxes but can’t show any of them early on, that’s not a mystery - it’s a marketing problem. Depth isn’t invisible. It shows in how you listen, how you engage, how you handle life and not being on center stage. If that’s not coming across, don’t blame women for not wanting a second look.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 02:57 PM
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That early stage is precisely when those traits should show. Emotional maturity isn’t a hidden feature that unlocks after six months. It’s right there in how someone listens, takes initiative, respects boundaries, and shares space. If it’s missing in the demo version, why would I invest in the full release?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 02:32 PM
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A coffee date screams low effort, low interest, and even lower standards. I’m not here to audition - I am the main event. I didn’t spend an hour getting ready to sit across from a man who couldn’t commit to more than a $4 coffee and 30 minutes of lukewarm small talk. If that’s your version of effort, don’t be shocked when your espresso machine gives you more emotional intimacy. And that’s exactly why I married a brilliant, tall and extremely successful man who never confused convenience with cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 07:39 AM
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If a man’s really living all that, he won’t need to showcase it- his partner will be too busy thriving to stay silent. But for the rest, maybe a LinkedIn endorsement from their toddler saying 'Dad unloaded the dishwasher without a sticker chart' could help?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 07:22 AM
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That’s the problem. Almost all men think they are understanding, compassionate men striving for equality and fairness. The reality is that they are not, and it usually shows quickly. Women are the ones that should stop entertaining these men: but women are pushed to lower the bar, not raise it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 07:07 AM
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Those are not ‘important traits to present in the mating process’. These are the bare minimum traits of being a decent person during a relationship: understanding, compassion, striving for equality and fairness. Men who do not display those traits, should be avoided like the plague before they even get to see (or touch) a private part.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 07:00 AM
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It is. And that’s why we laugh at men who pretend it’s such hard work.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/25 06:38 AM
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Hi, I’m from Amsterdam. You might be familiar with our famous red light district and lax laws surrounding prostitution. I am very sure we have loads and loads of lonely men on the apps, looking for both love and sex. Just as in real f2f life. I got to date around for a few years, and boy do we have some special guys over here. That would not even be aided with publicly funded prostition. And we live in a country where it’s fairly normal to ask a guy if he’s over 6’0 tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 09:42 PM
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As someone who had the dirty habit to date (not fuck, not everyone is an American assuming dating equals sex!) a lot of men from both types, I prefer the assertive dirtbag over the super shy ‘sweet’ ones. The latter type always turned out to be the most detrimental when I broke it off. Those ‘sweet men’ turned out to be very vindictive, much more than the assertive a-holes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 10:32 AM
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You’re currently dating a guy who’s equally or slightly less attractive than you are. My husband is much less attractive than I am. I’m the beauty and social one, and he is the brain and hard worker in our relationship. I hold a simple university degree, my husband has 2 master’s and a PHD. I did not fell for his looks, but for our interactions from the beginning. You have a decent relationship but it’s nothing special - he treats you well and takes you out on dates regularly, but he has an aver…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 06:07 AM
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The idea of “taking off your trousers” acts as consent and/or even a decision to a child is silly. You should complain to nature, then. Not here on Reddit, you sweet summer child who needs to be schooled on birds and bees.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 11:51 AM
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I think a lot more women (than we think) are libertarian, but they have yet to find out what it means! At school I was presented with two options. Being leftist, or an extreme leftist.. My parents are very big on politics, so they would not let me get away with biased leftist statements, and always debated me on my own. The roles can be whatever you agree on, in all freedom. Some things are gendered by nature: pregnancy, child birth and feeding a newborn is simply not a biological option for a m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 09:07 AM
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I’m libertarian, conservative leaning, and I constantly matched with left wing guys. Most of my relationships were with leftist men. Most guys I would classify as conservative/right wing (in my area), were blue collar or very religious guys: far from my type of men. In the end I married someone with a much more similar background and political views (very white collar + non-religious).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 02:56 PM
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I was with older guys in my teens and early twenties and it fucked me up (all between 9-15 years older than I was, long and short relationships). I married an age appropriate guy when my prefrontal cortex was developed enough to start making wise decisions in my life overall. I literally woke up when I was around 26 and finally saw my own stupidity for being with guys who were rejected by their own peers and older women. All the older women in my life were right, and they were happily married wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 09:31 AM
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I valued a bio, but that was only important AFTER I saw pictures I liked. And I used to swipe like that, a picture sometimes tells more than a thousand words. In the end I married a guy, who would not be my first pick in looks. But since I could see our hobbies matched and that we had the same dreams and goals: I gave this man another shot. If he would not have that bio and the nice pictures: I don’t think that I would have ever given him a chance. While now I can not imagine being with another …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 04:17 PM
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Bye Felicia!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 08:29 AM
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I would have said the same thing before kids, and then I became a parent and I understood. And yes, I hated people saying these types of things too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 08:23 AM
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That’s not really how genetics work..
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 12:44 PM
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To be honest: If I were a man, and I was in doubt I would want a test to be done. If my husband would’ve asked for a test, I would not be offended. I am so amazed by how biology works: I kinda get it. But now I’m a mother myself, and I have a partner who I made a dad.. You usually see it immediately. There is good reason why nature makes the baby look more like the dad when being born.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 12:42 PM
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https://4w.pub/the-rules-of-misogyny/amp/
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 08:59 AM
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Wow, your sense of humor is as sharp as a rubber knife. FYI: Looks just as great as my perspective, up high and clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 04:04 PM
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How does the sand look, with your head so far in it?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:29 PM
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BS. If it was a guy bound with ropes in a room full of women without them, the outrage would be for him. It’s a picture of a human in horrible circumstances, and you focus on a made-up ‘empathy gap’..? You deserve a Darwin reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 03:26 PM
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If you are a very young girl, being persuaded by all kinds of men from all kinds of ages, you quickly discover that the boys your age, are not throwing the cool parties. They are not owning the nice cars and houses. The older ‘boys’ do. Little, highly protected 14yo me was much, much more interested in ‘the cool guys’. I went full on serial monogamous with older men(10-15 year older than me), only to discover that those men were f’ing up my life in all so many, but so different ways. Common fact…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 11:00 PM
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Unfortunately, most women experience a peak in interest from men at an extremely young age. I was just 9. It dropped a tiny bit at 24 and it has stayed constant (estimated on how many men try to make a move etc.). Would you say you have found yourself in mostly healthy relationships, because you stayed in a more narrow age range? I find this to be so in all of my friends and family (more healthy relationships for the people who stay somewhat within their own age range). I think it also highly de…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 10:25 PM
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I’m over 30, married, and I get even more attention and flirtations than in my 20’s. It’s almost like I’m 15 again..! When I was in my teens and twenties I had relationships with older men. I was simply ‘too pretty and mature for my age’. Sorry to rain on your parade: it’s not a myth.. Sane men, the safe and nice men, don’t WANT to date too much outside of their age group. To my big disappointment: when I wanted to date them (and I have the’luck’ to get every guy I want, to want me). Men who are…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 11:21 AM
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Being scared that a woman will leave you if she had (one or more more) partner(s) before you, is a sign of deep rooted insecurity. Usually not a trait many women appreciate. If you are focussing on things like ‘promiscuity’ and ‘n-count’ over finding your own special good match, that insecurity will stay and will stop you in your ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 11:33 AM
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