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More detail re relationship: Had an argument in week 1 which included a vomit of complaints such as my going to salsa classes alone, my going to the gym too often, not making fast enough progress with house renovations, and more. I interpreted these as mostly shitty-comfort tests and fogged, albeit rather poorly ('yes, I can see that its annoying that you have to put the kids to bed alone' etc.) Argument ended with her shutting up and asking for hugs, so I considered them passed, but barely. Sec…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/24 05:51 PM
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OYS10 *Not been able to post for a few weeks, so this is refers to a longer period * Basic stats: 48y, 6'2", 80kg, married 18y (47F), 2 kids (11F, 14F). Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, SGM, MAP, Mystery Method, part of Frame & Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, currently reading Saving a Low Sex Marriage (yes, I know not everyone here likes BPP...). Mission: Be excellent in what I do, help others, have fun, and leave a legacy for my kids. In the medium term, this means building up my fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/24 05:41 PM
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Women are often insane, or at least deeply irrational, especially during pregnancy. It doesn't always equate to manipulation, though. The question is, do we make a fuss about their irrationality, or do what's needed to be the protective Oak?
/r/askMRP27/11/24 05:36 PM
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Yeah, I know this week's post (& last) looks a bit half-arsed; been hectic with stuff that's probably not of interest here. My mission is something I've genuinely spent a lot of time thinking about. The divorce prep, on the other hand, is something I've been putting off as I don't want to think about it. If I've not at least spoken to a lawyer by this time next week, please rip a fucking strip off me.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 03:37 PM
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Looking for a combination of insights plus motivational kicks up the backside, as well as a reminder to myself of what needs doing. And think it better to be honest about what's weak than pretending it's sorted.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/24 03:11 PM
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OYS #9 Basic stats: 48y, 6'2", 81kg, married 18y (47F), 2 kids (11F, 14F). Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, SGM, MAP, Mystery Method, currently reading Frame (but think I will pause Frame and swap to Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, as it was recommended the other week). Mission: Still thinking about this. Physical: SQ 80kg (deloaded this week & building back up), BP 62.5kg, OHP 45kg (all 5x5). Managed gym 3 times this week. Financial: No major concerns here. Though I've an upcoming co…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/24 10:03 PM
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OYS8 Basic stats: 48y, 6'2", 81.5kg, married 18y (47F), 2 kids (11F, 14F). Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, SGM, MAP, Mystery Method, currently reading Frame, but little progress since last week. Based on last week's recommendations, will read the Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck next. Mission: Fuck knows. Still. One week I feel like it's about making an impact on the world; the next week I feel thats all pointless and I should just focus on myself and my family. Maybe it's both. Physic…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/24 06:41 PM
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This makes sense. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/24 01:06 PM
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I've been trying to post weekly but keep earning bans, lol. (Edit: I do appreciate responses from you and others. There are some comments from previous weeks that I was unable to reply to, but did read and think about).
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/24 01:02 PM
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The CEO of one of the organisations I work for asked me to take it on, because no-one else is qualified to do it. I accepted it because it's definitely within my remit - and, if I'm honest with myself, probably also because I feared saying no, as I didn't quite have the abundance mentality to not care about his reaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/24 04:17 PM
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Yeah, I need to figure this out more. Part of my 'nice Guy' behaviour for decades has been excessive 'self-censoring' because I cared too much what other people thought. But that doesn't mean that the remedy is to broadcast everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/24 09:37 AM
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Thanks. It's on my list but I'll move it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 03:53 PM
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OYS7 Basic stats: 48y, 6'2", 81kg, married 18y (47F), 2 kids (11F, 14F). Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, SGM, MAP, Mystery Method. Now reading Praxeology:Frame & Multiorgasmic Man. Mission: Have been thinking about comments from RedTard & others last month. Defining this is still a big gap for me. I have a series of goals which include building up my family farm, raising my kids well, living in accordance with my beliefs, and competing in my niche-and-not-very-physical sport. But I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/24 09:52 AM
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"Given divorce rates" is quite a caveat, though. The vast majority are initiated by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 03:45 PM
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I'm sure there are tax perks in the U.K. If you find one, please do let me know. AFAIK, there's one tax break that's only relevant if at least one of you was born before 1935; and a second which is only relevant if one of the couple earns under £12,570 pa.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/09/24 10:46 PM
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Why? Because people are sexist. Just not in the way feminists would have everyone believe. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/334751470_Reactions_to_Male-Favouring_vs_Female-Favouring_Sex_Differences_A_Preregistered_Experiment_and_Southeast_Asian_Replication
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 02:22 PM
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I've never understood the Womanese phrase 'emotionally unavailable'. As far as I can tell, it means that the other guys didn't react with sufficient emotion to something she felt they should. But then she criticises this guy for being 'too enthusiastic'. Basically, she wants boiled ice.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/08/24 10:51 PM
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Oh, I don't think they will get wise. Had a long conversation with a woman yesterday who posted on AskMen wanting to know why men pulled funny faces when she described her (genuinely) abusive ex. She absolutely didn't want to listen to the responses from men, and only wanted validation from the other women weirdly lurking there.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/08/24 06:15 PM
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Disagree. If someone like Rian Stone can say he thinks the 80/20 thing is irrelevant (as I'm pretty sure I recall him saying), why do you think it's a cornerstone? It doesn't undermine anything that's being said by TRP/MRP about how to improve yourself and make yourself attractive. As for evidence, it's simply silly to claim that there is no data for what @worstonlinedater has presented. It's not a peer-reviewed Nature publication for sure, but it is data. His posts are reasonably persuasive and…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 02:24 PM
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You're referring to the stuff that @worstonlinedater has written? I see you have a thing for this. But it's neither a cornerstone of RP (even some of the RP OGs like Rian Stone have explicitly said that it's irrelevant, I think), nor do I think that there's much data to support an opposing claim; please do share it if you think otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 01:54 PM
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What is the most egregious example of this, in your view? I.e. something which you think is disproven by data but believed by the mainstream RP community?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 12:53 PM
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The 'rejection of reality' is the least appropriate criticism of RP, IMO. Everything about RP is intended to be empirical and testable. The RP subs are full of field reports and debate about what works, precisely because it is fundamentally concerned with the reality of human behaviour rather than socially-imposed beliefs or Disney ideals.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 08:56 AM
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Hybristophilia is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/24 08:23 PM
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Not quite. As per my other post, one of the issues is that two friends have transed their kids and now want others to use different pronouns etc. Along the way they have become hardcore social constructivists who claim that (for instance) sex has no physical basis, whereas I happen to believe that there is such a thing as objective reality & that sex is real. Those are core beliefs of mine - I won't force them on others, but nor will I pretend not to hold them just to keep the peace with former …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/24 07:58 AM
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Yeah, well as it happens they did bring good gin... With most of the guys, we do indeed laugh and mock each other for our differences of opinion. But two of them have transed their kids, and now want everyone else to use specific pronouns, etc. That is obviously deeply personal for them, so it's really very difficult to make jokes about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 11:12 PM
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Why do you say that? I'm not talking about needing to foist my beliefs on people. But if I genuinely believe in Catholicism, say, why would I hang out with an atheist who mocks it, or work in a place that makes me suppress it? If I believe that Communism is evil, why would I hang out with self-proclaimed Bolsheviks, or work somewhere that insists on Marxist framing of issues?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 09:00 PM
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I don't think I can be happy if I am suppressing my core beliefs. I've worked in organizations which were very misaligned with my values and where I constantly had to pretend to care about certain things, and over time it took a major toll. I don't need that in my personal life, too. (I should add that some of my very best friends are of a different political persuasion, and we have deep, respectful conversations about all kinds of things. But there are some others with whom this simply isn't po…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 05:03 PM
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I don't want to hijack crimpandjam's thread, but one of the issues I'm facing is a number of old friends whom I've known for ~30 years, and with whom I have a lot of shared history, but whose political views have increasingly diverged from my own. The BP, people-pleasing me would bite my tongue at many of their comments, in order to preserve the friendship. But that's exhausting, demeaning to myself, and not living authentically, so I've had enough of doing that. That's what I meant by putting o…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 11:58 AM
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This seems spot on. I need to figure out how to trigger those emotions more effectively. Probably also need to re-read the E part of SGM.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 11:41 AM
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A genuine question, because I'm trying to work out similar things myself: if you're amongst real friends with whom you can truly relax and be your authentic self, is your 'social battery' still an issue? Or is it exhausted more readily because you're putting on a 'front' of some kind?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 10:49 AM
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OYS 6 Basic stats: 48y, 6'2", 80kg, married 18y (47F), 2 kids (11F, 14F). Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, SGM, MAP. Paused Multiorgasmic Man; now reading Mystery Method to improve my game. Mission: Been thinking about the comments from previous weeks. I want to be a man who lives authentically - who is not afraid to speak his mind and who lives in accordance with his beliefs. I want to achieve excellence & greatness in all I do. The idealist in me also wants to change the world for th…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 10:30 AM
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Google allows you to nominate individuals who will receive access to certain things (eg. gmail, photos, drive) in the event that you are incapacitated and don't log-on for a period. I have this set up, since when dealing with my parents' deaths it was a massive PITA to not have login details to various things, and I don't want to inflict similar on my remaining family. If, on the other hand, you are concerned about cheating, there's a thread linked somewhere on TRP discussing the pros and cons o…
/r/askMRP12/08/24 05:46 PM
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Have you been through the divorce advice posts on the sidebar?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 10:08 PM
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I'll be honest, I don't fully get the 'IDC' answers to Q1. I'd much rather a thousand people say 'that guy changed my life; I'll miss him' than 'that guy was a dick; I'm glad he's gone'. Now, I get that if that's part of my mission then there's a strong risk that I fall even more into the nice-guy people-pleasing I'm trying to escape. But is it overly ego-driven to care about your legacy? Does dissolving your ego mean not caring about your legacy at all? I really don't know. (I'm reminded of an …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/24 06:36 PM
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That would require taking responsibility. In reality, whatever they are missing from a good man, they will demand that the State provides instead.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/07/24 10:49 PM
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This is a very good point. Although the propensity of old, single women to cheer on mass migration (always of strapping young men, not fit Latinas...) is likely also a strategy - conscious or otherwise - to generate more supply.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/07/24 10:41 PM
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Thanks. You're right - it's as simple as logging in via desktop first! (Which I didn't try as my desktop is logged in to my main a/c... D'oh...)
/r/askMRP31/07/24 04:09 PM
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Related to this, anyone know how can I access the main TRP sub with this account, please? It is age, karma, or by request?
/r/askMRP31/07/24 12:56 PM
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As a newcomer here, I know I'm not in a position to offer advice. But as a recovering academic myself, I have noticed traits in me which seem common to other academics and which are positively unhelpful to TRP/MRP: We are often particularly driven by ego, prestige and external recognition. We think our words give us weight. I've had to fight these hard. Acta non verba.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/24 10:16 AM
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Thanks - helpful. Laughed at your last comment. You're not wrong. Though historically I've let the wife take the lead on suggesting holiday destinations and flights (whilst beta me just earned the money to pay for them...) so it's an area where I want to take more control. But your point is well taken.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/24 07:34 AM
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Man, how I wish I'd discovered TRP at 18. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/24 07:30 AM
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Do I hope that being more fun leads to more dominance and better sex? Yes. Do I think she'll owe me submission and better sex if I become more fun? No. Is that a CC? I don't think so. But happy for you or anyone else to change my mind. Edit: I see how my original phrasing - 'if I do X it will lead to her doing Y' - is poor.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 09:05 PM
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One of the issues I raised in my last OYS was my wife reacting poorly to dominance in bed (saying she disliked me going caveman, etc). CastIronSkilletSet's view was that my wife probably needed more comfort in order to feel free enough to submit, and I was struck by a comment in MAP that flirting and teasing "frames you as a fun and most importantly a safe person to allow being in a dominant position over them." Is that a covert contract? I don't know. But I think I need to be more fun regardles…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 06:19 PM
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OYS5 Basic stats: 48y, 6'2", 77.5kg, married 18y, 2 kids (11F, 14F). Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, Sex God Method. Now started reading Multiorgasmic Man. Just finished MAP: one key take-away from that was that my being more fun will make her more comfortable with dominance. Another lesson was that I have too much clutter at home, and/or physical stuff which needs fixing - and that this is affecting the relationship more than I appreciate. Mission / Ambition: Someone rightly commente…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/24 10:02 AM
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"IDK if [harder dating] comes with getting older"... Do these women really, genuinely, not understand? Have they swallowed the feminist myths so completely, I wonder?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/07/24 10:30 AM
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That and the flip-flopping between "I thought I would marry him" and "he was emotionally abusive" shows her words (or judgement) cannot be trusted, either.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/07/24 07:58 AM
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An excellent analogy.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/07/24 07:46 AM
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Interesting. One of the old posts that I've found helpful suggested that complaints starting with "YOU..." are most likely shit-tests, whilst those which start with "I..." are more likely comfort tests, but it's obviously not a perfect rule. More importantly, since I've basically been her beta bitch for years, I no doubt err far too much on the side of giving comfort -- and so probably would do better by generally assuming tests are more likely shit-tests, and responding accordingly.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 11:31 AM
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That makes sense. I still tend to see shit-tests/frame-tests just as gateways, rather than remembering that attraction is generated by passing them. And, yes, my game is really rusty.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 10:25 AM
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Couldn't reply till recently as I was on the naughty step. But I've been thinking about your questions. I've responded in the latest OYS but will also add my reply here: Your q led me to this post about [validation needs that can poison your sex life] (r/marriedredpill/comments/ab7vt5/validation_needs_that_can_poison_your_sex_life/), which was very helpful. I now think my being butthurt is composed of two things: First, attraction validation + 'good lover' validation -- compounded by occasional …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 08:49 AM
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(Double post as I've been on the naughty step for a couple of weeks) OYS 4 Basic stats: 48y, 6'2", 77kg, married 18y, 2 kids (11F, 14F). Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, Book of Pook, WISNIFG, Sex God Method. Now reading MAP & Multiorgasmic Man. Mission: No change. Still needs better definition. Physical: Lifted 3x. Stronglifts - squat 60kg, BP 55kg, OHP 40kg (all 5x5). Definitely feel more energised after gym and wish I'd started lifting years ago. Wife has commented on my gym attendance (now ~8 weeks, 2-3x…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 08:38 AM
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OYS3 Basic stats: 48y, 6'2", 76kg, married 18y, 2 kids (11F, 14F). Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, Book of Pook. Nearly finished WISNIFG. Rereading Sex God Method. MAP next. Mission: No change. Building up my family farm + furthering my career + competing at my very-niche-and-not-very-physical-sport. Still needs better definition. Trying to ensure that I'm competing for the fun of it, not for the validation it brings. Physical: Stronglifts: squat 55kg, OHP 37.5kg (struggling to break 40; had to deload), BP …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/24 08:33 AM
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OYS 2 Basic stats: 48y, 6'2", 75.3kg, married 18y, 2 kids (11F, 14F). Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, Book of Pook. Currently mid WISNIFG. Rereading Sex God Method Mission: building up my family farm + furthering my career + competing at my very-niche-and-not-very-physical-sport. Refinement still needed. Physical: Only lifted twice this week. Have had some nagging signs of illness that I've been putting off checking; had bloods taken today to test. My 'Nice Guy' syndrome means I sometimes don't want to both…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/24 11:54 AM
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OYS #1. First post, here goes: Basic stats: 48y, 6'2", 75kg, married 18y, 2 kids (11F, 14F). Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, Book of Pook, The Game, How to Win Friends Influence ppl. Currently mid WISNIFG. Mission: combination of building up my family farm + furthering my career + competing at my very-niche-and-not-very-physical-sport. (I'll do a longer post on this later because I want to get it clearer in my head, and I'm now questioning whether some of the things - e.g. competing - are really a search fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/24 08:33 AM
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