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| 2 | Discussion: Master's of Love - Culture of Generosity and Kindness - Part (3 of 3)Thank you! We have standards for politeness and courtesy with other people but it’s accepted that those standards just get thrown out the window when you’re in a relationship. We should be especially kind and generous to our spouses! This isn’t to say you can never be open, vulnerable, angry, or any other emotion. You can but you can still be respectful when expressing that. We acclimate and take for granted what we have on a regular basis. It's human nature to become adapted and dissatisfied or… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/25 06:03 AM |
| 4 | Discussion: Master's of Love - Culture of Generosity and Kindness - Part (3 of 3)That’s great to hear! Rpw gets a lot of flak for our strategies and advice. The largest key that solves the puzzle for using these principles freely is vetting men who actually have a protective instinct that can be inspired and finding men who are reciprocal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/25 05:33 AM |
| – | Tigre's Nun Mode Ending?I do believe it can happen though once I graduate and enter a new environment though I just need a break from constant effort on my end when I have objectively more important things to focus on in my life like my academics and internships. I think you've answered your post here. I personally went through multiple periods of monk mode when I was 19 into my mid 20s. There was various times of dedicated focused self-improvement and periods where I went back into the world (of people and things) to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/25 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Tigre's Nun Mode Ending?Can you tell me the stats on your lifts. Your supplement stack. And the obstacle and challenges you’re encountering with making friends? You should read through the hyper linked posts and articles. You’re suffering from black and white ‘all or nothing’ fixed mindset. I do not think you have a thorough understanding of a growth mindset and separating your self worth from your outcomes (abundance mentality and outcome independence). All of your limiting beliefs in your previous comments is the und… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/25 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Tigre's Nun Mode Ending?I'm editing the second half of this post on practical things you can do to address your limiting beliefs. I'll have it posted later this evening. I have these thoughts regularly when I've been taking care of myself A lot of these thoughts are simply mental models you picked up from your environment growing up and developed unproductive core beliefs that makes your mind your enemy instead of your friend. This is normal for beginners or people who are inexperienced or have low skills. I'm a believ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/25 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Tigre's Nun Mode Ending?A lot of your obstacles are simply mindset and skill challenges. I'll advise on that and other points later today to help with beginners vs intermediates mindsets. You're inexperienced at dating and suck at getting your social and relationship needs met. That's perfectly ok and normal as a beginner at dating and you need to give yourself some compassion, grace, and validation that you suck at the dating game. And that's awesome, because you get to experience the joy of learning when you check in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/25 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Tigre's Nun Mode Ending?1. Can you debrief your progress with your current therapy sessions. What you've covered, progress on that, etc. as long as it's not too personal. 2. Have you completed a root cause analysis journaling on this: Even still with so much progress made and an overall healthier person I still feel as if I am not good enough for a relationship, even though I have developed desirable traits and learned from past mistakes. I know I probably can't get into anything serious because I am going abroad in th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/25 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Discussion: Master's of Love - How Small Interactions Shape Long-Term Marital Success: Gottman’s Insights - Part (2 of 3)I didn't have my first personal computer until I was 12 or 13 and first dumb phone until I was 14? I think it would have likewise been ok and beneficial if I wasn't given unrestricted access to the internet without any guard rails or supervision. And I still would've been technology adjusted. Raising children who are deeply loved and psychologically, emotionally, and physically well cared for provides excellent grounds for completing their first six psychosocial development stages: trust, autono… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/25 04:55 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: Master's of Love - How Small Interactions Shape Long-Term Marital Success: Gottman’s Insights - Part (2 of 3)I'm autistic with my scheduled work time. It's extremely difficult to get back into deep work and I always protect those time blocks. But the occasional 25m/5m, 25m/5m, and 25m/15m pomodoros work to rest cycles does help to release work tension. When I have people I'm working around, I'll let them know I have a 15m break coming up if they want to also take a quick work break/chat. Otherwise, I'm locking in and any bids is gladly accepted after 'work hours' and shouldn't touch my beautiful golden… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/25 01:29 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: Master's of Love - How Small Interactions Shape Long-Term Marital Success: Gottman’s Insights - Part (2 of 3)No problem. These posts are really brief and skimming the actual article. There's more examples and other details if you read the original by Emily. My intention with these posts is to have people who are interested to go deeper with the reading. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/25 01:19 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: Master's of Love - How Small Interactions Shape Long-Term Marital Success: Gottman’s Insights - Part (2 of 3)Thank you for sharing. This is really heart warming. The first step in any change is personal accountability (radical accountability or taking extreme ownership of one's life). From there, the specifics (books, people, etc.) can vary. But once the ball gets rolling from small changes, we eventually see the big changes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/25 01:15 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: Master's of Love - How Small Interactions Shape Long-Term Marital Success: Gottman’s Insights - Part (2 of 3)8 hours a day on TikTok Doom scrolling and the dopamine algorithms are no joke. The ceos / chief technology officers who make active design decisions on these apps personally do not let their own children use these social media platforms. https://youtu.be/KT7QEWEcA8I?feature=shared&t=41 | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/25 01:08 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: Master's of Love - How Small Interactions Shape Long-Term Marital Success: Gottman’s Insights - Part (2 of 3)On the list of '100' things I screened and vetted for in a partner. One the top 3 qualities that made me overlook yellow to soft red flags was a growth mindset. Nobody is going to perfectly respond to bids, have perfect emotional control, have everlasting kindness, patience, grace, care, competency, etc. But as long as both partners are on the same page (life and relationship values and goals), bought into the same frame of a growth mindset, and show a past or present successful track record of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/25 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Master's of Love - How Small Interactions Shape Long-Term Marital Success: Gottman’s Insights - Part (2 of 3)I was intentional when I dated. Probably a lot more than the average person because I valued certainty so much when I was younger. The relationship and dating guides I was studying simultaneously recommended to screen out people who were chronically online (social media addiction, etc.) or on their phones especially while on a date or during scheduled quality time. I wonder what it would look like now with smartphones. I see sooo many couples going out who barely seem to lift their face off thei… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/25 04:41 PM |
| 8 | Need help repairing relationshipBan/comment removal revoked. I read this comment incorrectly and thought that you were saying, "Do the polar opposite of nagging and make fun of him (instead)." | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/25 05:31 AM |
| 6 | Need help repairing relationshipShameless plug of a discussion post series I'm doing on the subreddit on criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling from John Gottman. Part 2 | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/25 05:25 AM |
| 3 | New nun mode planAlex Hormozi approach is pretty much what you’re recommending but he shows it visually. Alex is on gear and trains a lot, but the advice is the simple and visual way of doing this. Op has a past history of deleting their posts and giving up after a few days when things get difficult. If you have any accountability subreddits or other social accountability resources to offer her that would be kind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/25 03:12 PM |
| 8 | New nun mode planTherapy is needed. That or a professional life coach. Op is extremely dysfunctional and so hopefully she’ll get lucky and find a competent one by the grace of God. Daily Exercise • Aim for 15-20 minutes of walking each day to build an easy daily habit. • Adjust the duration or intensity by 20% each week, if needed, to make the habit easier or harder, ensuring it becomes a lasting routine. Nutrition • Eating daily vegetables is a good option if you prefer that route. • Alternatively, set a simple… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/25 02:54 PM |
| – | Says he needs to see what God says about us. Should I move on?This was my last moderation comment post to you three months ago. You've deleted that post after being warned about post deletions. /u/MathematicianMean273 if you delete another community post to hide your trails, moderation will consider that as posting and commenting without good faith or you're a hard case that will need exclusive in person professional help and will be given an indefinite RPW vacation. Your next community post should be a field report progress on your nun mode goals: https:/… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/25 05:51 PM |
| 2 | How to present concerns in a way he will understand.The reason she’s replying back that she’s right is because she’s right. Her husband has committed adultery in his heart and violated the marital contract. Now he is clingy and accusing her of not loving him enough as a projection to protect his ego from the wound of guilt. Gentle mod note because you're new to the community and in debate mode. Rule 10. No moralizing. The reason she’s replying back that she’s right is because she’s right. The OP can be right and authentic or she can be wise and i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/25 06:25 PM |
| 2 | How to present concerns in a way he will understand.I spoke to my husband about this and some other advice I have received on this thread. He ultimately wants me to believe the good in him while he is rebuilding trust and take more of an "innocent until proven guilty" approach. He wants me to trust that he is doing the right thing, stop questioning his motives when triggering events happen, and learn to reduce my triggers, and he believes that these things will allow us to have a better relationship. So we decided to do the STFU and always look a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/25 05:02 PM |
| 5 | How to present concerns in a way he will understand.I'm not sure about the quote because I didn't write that. Unless you are saying, that is your perception based on the details I did share. The entire second half of my original comment is a copy and paste from an old endorsed contributor that I hyperlinked to. I didn't write that. That comment may seem like it's addressed to you but it's a copy and paste from another community poster who was likewise married 16 years and was struggling in a very similar situation where both partners were in surv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/25 02:24 AM |
| 9 | How to present concerns in a way he will understand.Some questions: Was your relationship egalitarian, male led, or female led for the majority of your guys time together? Are you guys on the same page for leadership? It's going to be extremely difficult to have your SO lead you if you've been domineering and betafied your husband and now expect him to control frame and effortlessly lead you while simultaneously managing any past negative experiences of resentment and contempt. I don't have all of the relationship details, but it seems like you g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/25 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Do men still want to have sex with you even when you’re over thirty?Removed: Rule 4. Strategies should be from a Red-Pill Perspective Rule Zero: Stay On Topic All theories and conversations spring from a traditional, evolutionary psychology, or anti-feminist foundation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/25 05:20 AM |
| 0 | Do men still want to have sex with you even when you’re over thirty?No moralizing. Rule 4. Strategies should be from a Red-Pill Perspective Rule Zero: Stay On Topic All theories and conversations spring from a traditional, evolutionary psychology, or anti-feminist foundation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/25 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Master's of Love - Gottman's Love Lab, Masters and Disasters, Bids - Part (1 of 3)For anyone interested on my personal thoughts on Bids (Masters 87% vs Disasters 33%) and the Love Bank metaphor for our bids and how to apply it effectively. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/25 01:54 AM |
| 1 | Masters of love - I read PDFs so you don't have to - An Intro to John GottmanOf course, with that being said, I am not ignoring lifestyle management and just hoping meds will fix it. Health is the bedrock of wealth and relationships. Sometimes a lot of our relationship 'tasks'/'skills' really can be solved by cleaning up our diet (taking out sugar, inflammatory foods, preservatives/seed oils, etc.), getting our micro-nutrients and sunlight in, and routinely getting some form of exercise in every week. Then the other half is building relationship skills and getting on the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/25 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Master's of Love - Gottman's Love Lab, Masters and Disasters, Bids - Part (1 of 3)The bids were something that stood out to me as well. We each have a preferred love language and when we reach out for connection with our partners, they won't always see what we're communicating as a loving connection. And at worse, it might be seen as a lack of love or respect. Guys will clock in more hours at work to provide because they're saying this is an act of service to provide for you because I love you But girls will say you don't love me because you spend all your time at work and do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/25 12:44 AM |
| 3 | Master's of Love - Gottman's Love Lab, Masters and Disasters, Bids - Part (1 of 3)From my reading, it can be both. The 'always stressed out in their relationships' are your neurotics / type A personality folks. Whatever is leading to their heightened physiology makes it easier to slip into survivor brain and reply with criticism, defense, contempt, or stonewalling (the 4 horseman replies to our partners bids for connections). RPW calls it the crazy cycle. Other relationships can gradually develop into 'Disasters': new baby in the family, health problems, loss of jobs, new job… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/25 04:29 AM |
| 2 | Masters of love - I read PDFs so you don't have to - An Intro to John GottmanHe makes bids for connection in this area frequently, and I realize now that by not responding I am turning away, though that was never my intent. I wish I knew why I felt this way, because I don't want to.... From my perspective, it seems like you're the 'One Up' and he's the 'One Down' in your relationship? I.e. he invests more by making more bids for connection and the more bids he makes the less attracted/desirous you are in wanting to reciprocate by turning towards and connecting with him. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/25 04:15 AM |
| 3 | Masters of love - I read PDFs so you don't have to - An Intro to John GottmanI'll have to let my brain do some more thinking on this one, but the below is stream of conscious. I think you're on the right track. Fundamentally, we feel emotions when our needs are being met/unmet. Positive emotions when met: happy, joyful, excited, relaxed, satisfied, etc. Negative when unmet: angry, frustrated, upset, sad, apathetic, etc. When we invest in someone and have expectations for them to meet our needs, but they consistently fail to do so, it can evoke negative emotions. In state… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/25 03:58 AM |
| – | Don’t Fear The Wall - Use Time to Your Advantage/u/Hot_Blacksmith_3404 +1 star ⭐, this is a good post. Age comes for everyone, man or woman, but RMV is like the compound interest of relationships. It only increases as we invest into it and doing it while young leads to even greater gains as you get older. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/25 03:13 AM |
| 2 | What to do with this guy?Thank you. I'll check it out when I get some down time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/25 01:22 AM |
| – | What to do with this guy?RPW Getting Started post has a FAQ link to The Wall™: The Fear of the Wall and Why I'm Sick of Hearing About It What This Means For You Is there a wall? Yes. Will you hit it? Yes. Should you be aware of it? Yes. Should you obsess or be afraid? No! If you obsess about The Wall or are afraid of it, you will most likely settle down with the first chump that comes along because you’re afraid you won’t get anything more. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/25 12:55 AM |
| 2 | What to do with this guy?Theres actually a study on this which says that under the age of 40, women look better and younger when they weigh less. But over 40, women look younger when they are a bit overweight. Do you have the studies on this? This would be a good discussion post for the community. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/25 12:47 AM |
| 1 | Women Breadwinners and How to Get EnergyLow effort comments will be removed. Read the pinned comment on this post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/25 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Women Breadwinners and How to Get EnergyLow effort comments will be removed. Read the pinned comment on this post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/25 11:31 PM |
| – | Women Breadwinners and How to Get EnergyGentle mod note to the community to set the tone for this post: Leave him is never the first option. We are not 2x and require community members to invest by leaving high quality relationship advice. To the OP, RPW typically recommend the rule of thumb of 3A's as strong signals for a break up: Addiction Adultery Abuse https://www.reddit.com/r/NoStupidQuestions/comments/1gy25sl/does_testosterone_really_make_men_enjoy_hurting/ https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/1hixa3u/what_is_the_bes… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/25 11:27 PM |
| 13 | “Women live their life on easy mode”+1 star. This is red pill. Keep up the good work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/25 02:29 AM |
| – | Any active groups for red pill single women?Small note to the community on revealing person information or seeking group chats or other subreddits. PSA: Safeguard Your Privacy! We do not allow group chat (discord, wechat, telegram, etc.) advertisements because we are unable to vet whether or not it's genuine, social engineering scams, or men roleplaying as women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/25 01:57 AM |
| 1 | Too late?This subreddit is open to anyone on reddit. Please do not ask users their location or other information that can dox them. And be careful of the information you put out while visiting more controversial subreddits. Safe guard your privacy There's internet actors who have political agendas or simply want to hurt others and can/do use personal information and other details you post online in an attempt to harm you financially, physically, or socially. /u/Ok_Evening_5412 | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/24 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Princess TreatmentRead the linked post. This is a subreddit called redpillwomen. If you’re a man participating, the required standards and posting expectations is higher than it would be if you were a woman. The subreddit is not here to coddle men or train men how to comment and post according to the forums themes. Even if you’re married or in a long term relationship, you can still be disqualified from participating or the mods will either remove your comments or give you a ban. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/24 05:21 AM |
| 1 | Merry Christmas & Happy HannukahHappy holidays! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/24 03:27 AM |
| 1 | How to act in your feminine energy?The main Reddit website has shadow banned your account (this is normal). Likely an overactive auto-moderator response from the main website that's trigger happy on new accounts. You can appeal here: https://www.reddit.com/appeal | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/24 03:06 AM |
| – | Can someone tell me what this thread is about?Getting Started with RPW The side bar: This community was created as a harbor for RP minded women whose goal is to build a lasting and happy relationship with a great man. We explore the female RP sexual strategy, better known as "girl game", in an objective, realistic and compassionate manner. RPW does not endorse a moral stance. We discuss the elements of girl game not as behaviors that are right, or good, or morally superior, but as tactical behaviors that work to help us achieve our goals. W… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/24 01:08 AM |
| 4 | How can I increase my RMV?This is an old post from the subreddits founder (by content contribution). So what if you've had a lot of partners? It's an old clasic on three different strategies you can use to address high n count by improving RMV: There are three approaches: Lie. This may seem immoral, but we don't do moralizing here. Lies can, theoretically, fix the problem. But there are some drawbacks. You can't ever be totally open and honest in your relationship... you have to live that lie for as long as your relation… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/24 02:27 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: Men in high earning careers more likely to be unfaithful or...I really like countthebees comment on this thread: Unhappy relationships would be the highest the biggest predictor of unfaithfulness It's a lot more than testosterone. But the simple answer would likely be yes, lower testosterone would mean lower sex drive. That would likely be releasing some of the pressure on one of the factors that can contribute to cheating. There's other factors at play as well: older men will usually have gotten to sow their wild oats when they were younger so it's not as… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/24 03:55 AM |
| 12 | How can I increase my RMV?+1 Star. Practical and actionable advice. Keep up the good work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/24 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Did anybody read The Queen's Code?There's so many good lessons and maxims you have written out. Thank you for taking the time to think and write. If you're up for it, I'll grant you a star if you post this up as a personal field report on the main subreddit. You can label it under something like, "Field Report: Lessons to my younger self" and pick out 2 or 3 key points that really resonated and helped you grow the most to highlight personal lessons and list out the rest of the lessons as a '12 point list, etc. something like "12… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/24 12:52 AM |
| 3 | Husband confessed to meTo give context he went to a Muslim therapist, and we do allow polygamy Please edit this into your original post. RPW will typically make the assumption that you're in a first world country with western cultures/religion. Thank you for posting to RPW. Here are a couple reminders: If you are seeking relationship advice. Make sure you are answering the guidelines for asking for advice on the rules page. Include any relevant context regarding religion, culture, living arrangements/LDRs, or other in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/24 10:19 PM |
| 5 | Discussion: Men in high earning careers more likely to be unfaithful or...El Tigre was a lion in the sack and had needs, which weren't getting fulfilled around the house. At some point he thought to himself, "Hey, I'm Tiger Woods, I'm rich, I'm famous and there are plenty of women who will hop into bed with me." What's the difference between a lion and a tiger? Lions lie and tigers cheat. Tiger Woods had super star athlete status and likely used a lot of conspicuous consumption as strategy (hundreds of millions of dollars and being in your prime will do that), but the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/24 05:21 AM |
| 1 | Discussion: Men in high earning careers more likely to be unfaithful or...Strategic hypergamy is a valid dating strategy. Rule 9: If you are a man. Banned. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/24 02:06 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: Men in high earning careers more likely to be unfaithful or...edit: Nvm, it's the formatting differences between mobile and web browsing. My comments are formatted as text walls on mobile. This comment should be upvoted a lot more. I think the formatting made it slightly harder to read as a text wall. I think several factors contribute to infidelity; Morality (Do they have a moral code that prohibits infidelity) 1.1) Self-discipline (Even if he has a moral code, how well can he abide by it) Happiness in their current relationship (i.e., how they feel about… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/24 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Discussion: Men in high earning careers more likely to be unfaithful or...I have to take back my last few words. I'm thinking testosterone and its link to social risk taking plays out similarly in both men and women. It's not an exact 1:1 in men and women. I have a high libido and am competitive, but also don't make rash or high risk decisions and weigh out options very logically. Your personal experiences is likely closer to the truth. Testosterone increases libido and competitiveness/assertiveness in both men and women. But there's sex differences in risk decisions.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/24 07:14 AM |
| 2 | Discussion: Men in high earning careers more likely to be unfaithful or...I'm thinking testosterone and its link to social risk taking plays out similarly in both men and women. Olympians, in their prime (early 20s), who've trained competitively their entire lives and are at the peak of their genetic limits are likely maxed out on natural/sports enhanced testosterone. Add in the hormonal impacts of the winner effect from competition and you get the nytimes article on what goes on in the Olympic Village. Aka, a bunch of in shape attractive horny young people living tog… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/24 06:17 AM |
| 7 | Discussion: Men in high earning careers more likely to be unfaithful or...So this becomes a which came first argument - The career? Or the access? I'm formulating a third hypothesis: high testosterone men are more likely to be unfaithful (higher probability of infidelity). Testosterone increases risk taking and if there's temptation... I dated another man - third generation wealth. A top doctor in the state. He took care of himself and was confident AF. Very good looking. A bit of an asshole... All classic signs of the winner effect and the causative impacts on testos… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/24 06:01 AM |
| 4 | Discussion: Men in high earning careers more likely to be unfaithful or...This would result in people seeing more wealthy infidelity than non-wealthy infidelity, even if the rates were roughly the same. What do you think the numbers are on this ($200k+? or having enough money that it doesn't matter what you do anymore) And/or is it more related to class background? As a personal example, for family background, I know a new rich entrepreneur (10-20m? net worth) who came from a working class family/friends background. He's on his second marriage (they're currently toget… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/24 04:42 AM |
| 3 | Discussion: Men in high earning careers more likely to be unfaithful or...I have definitely observed real estate brokers cheating on their wives/steady partners. Although I am not sure if an unstable income generation profession like this provides the man with the resources to be able to cheat openly on his partner. It could be that high risk (which typically comes with high rewards) career fields attract high testosterone men. Testosterone, Cortisol and Financial Risk-Taking Testosterone and cortisol affect how we make decisions about money, especially when there’s r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/24 04:09 AM |
| 4 | Discussion: Men in high earning careers more likely to be unfaithful or...She could be. Or give her a spin in a time machine to a time when divorce laws favored men or even further where resource scarcity was a biological and physical reality and we'd likely see her sing a different tune. Married Women's Property Acts (19th Century): These laws allowed married women to own property and control their earnings, granting them economic independence. No-Fault Divorce Laws (1969-1970s): Reforms made divorce easier without proving wrongdoing, making the process fairer for wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/24 03:56 AM |
| 2 | How to express love and affection to my boyfriend?her sighing, cooing, purring So words of affirmation 😎 | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/24 03:24 AM |
| 3 | Repost: Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire — A Guide to Marrying RichI'm invested; I'm starting a discussion post to see what the communities thoughts/experiences are with different high earning men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/24 02:54 AM |
| 3 | Did anybody read The Queen's Code?Would love to see a field report on some of the key ideas / advice that helped you the most or things you would've wanted younger zaftig_stig to learn that would've helped her grow sooner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/24 10:47 PM |
| 3 | I think I’m too masculine/boyishInner game is tough. The boys on TRP have the same challenge when it comes to inner vs outer game. It's faster/easier to hit the gym, wear clothes that fit and flatter your body, and copy different types of verbal and physical flirting techniques. But that won't help any in-congruency if you feel it's there to cover up for awkwardness or social discomfort. Being socially adept and poised just seem like ideas that I have no clue how to accomplish. The simple answer is practice. Nobody is born con… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/24 08:45 PM |
| 4 | How to raise pragmatic concerns in a feminine - not pessimistic - way.I'll revisit this post for a second response tomorrow, but here are some community theory/playbooks on how to handle: I've worked for companies and been in relationships that are led by someone that is a "dreamer" without very good execution instincts, and in those cases, I've felt compelled to point out major issues with their plans. I usually pair it with a suggested solution so that I don't just come across as whiny, but sometimes I think adding the solution makes me super masc. and bossy. Al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/24 06:20 AM |
| 4 | Repost: Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire — A Guide to Marrying RichUnfortunately, I found the discussion here to be mildly shallow due to the lack of variety of views (which make sense given this page is dedicated for people with a specific type of opinion) but for, I removed the post. You made a sneaky edit on this comment calling our community 'mildly shallow due to the lack of variety of views' which is amusing since you couldn't take a little bit of constructive criticism from the community DESPITE being the person to reach out specifically to /r/RedPillWom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/24 05:57 AM |
| 5 | Repost: Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire — A Guide to Marrying RichThe mod response was a gentle warning about the community rules on feminism. As far as rude comments, there was some community push back as you were making some strongly advised 'discussion' points. It's good practice, in the future, to learn how to let small challenges/obstacles not crumple you and allow it instead give you an opportunity to build resilience and perhaps see it as an opportunity or gift for learning or be an area of improvement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/24 05:34 AM |
| 3 | Repost: Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire — A Guide to Marrying RichThis post was a good find. Thank you for cross posting it to the subreddit. I was happy that it inspired a second discussion post, but it looks like /u/ThrowRA-justasking deleted it from the sub. We had a lot of good discussions from our community members on it that would have been very useful to other readers in the community, but with the post deletion it's unfortunately gone now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/24 05:17 AM |
| 8 | I think I’m too masculine/boyishLast years 2023 RPW Back to Basics we had a post that covered Psychological Femininity. If dressing up, adjusting posture, voice tone, body language, etc. is the fundamentals of outer game. Then the psychological aspects of femininity is the inner game. Now, how does a psychologically feminine woman actually behave inside her relationship? She is: Yielding. To yield is to submit, defer, and/or relinquish oneself to a higher power. Receptive. A receptive woman is open, interested and responsive t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/24 05:11 AM |
| 3 | Did anybody read The Queen's Code?We had a recent discussion on Alison's Frog Farming theory/advice. I would encourage anyone in the community, who resonates with the books/techniques, to write a field report or perhaps a book summary similar to the one's we have in our subreddit wiki for Fascinating Womanhood and For Women Only. Why? It'll encourage more women to read the books and open more discussions threads for everyone to join in on and chat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/24 11:17 PM |
| 4 | Took the red pill years ago and reinvented myself to be a feminine, submissive woman but now I’m 30 and STILL single. Please help me.Yes: First read the RPW flair guide to know how to vet community members advice. Community Flair Guide Female Game for Women in Their 30s A Definitive Guide to Nun Mode: Part I An Introduction Vetting a Man Part 1: Seeker, vet thyself first! For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part I: Motivations for being RPW, Facing the Wall, Dealing with N-Count For Single Ladies “Late to the Red Pill” Part II: Nun Mode, Realism vs. Settling, Vetting Mistakes | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/24 04:17 AM |
| 6 | Took the red pill years ago and reinvented myself to be a feminine, submissive woman but now I’m 30 and STILL single. Please help me.Value is subjective. It's better to think about the type of men you like, admire, and who lead functional and successful lives and see if you're able to gain commitment from them. If the answer is no. Then continue improving your SMV and RMV fundamentals until you can start landing commitment from these guys. An easy 'end game' is if they're willing and do marry you. A second 'end game' is a successful committed LTR: think 5-7 years+. A third 'end game' is to accomplish whatever long term relati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/24 04:08 AM |
| 2 | Took the red pill years ago and reinvented myself to be a feminine, submissive woman but now I’m 30 and STILL single. Please help me.Authenticity will attract more men into your life than following any kind of manual of behavior ever will. ... Be your best self, go out into the world and have fun. Some women's best is being a shrew in relationships. They're so authentic and in their feelings that their 'in person' relationships and social circles will not give them any feedback or advice unsolicited and they simply go through life unaware without any form of introspection because that's what's authentic to them. We see a good… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/24 04:00 AM |
| 5 | Took the red pill years ago and reinvented myself to be a feminine, submissive woman but now I’m 30 and STILL single. Please help me.The second man did tell me that I lacked confidence, however, and it was driving him away from me. But he also told me that I’d have “more value if I was younger” and told me that I wasn’t logical enough when making decisions. That made me uncomfortable but I couldn’t really refute him because he wasn’t wrong. From one of OP's comment on the post. Her RMV is too low (at least for the second guy) and it may be related to her general levels of life competency (relationship competency (the people s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/24 03:36 AM |
| 4 | Confessing How I Learned to Accept My Husband's Secret Life.Op, please answer the required relationship questions asked before submitting your post and what you’re seeking for from this subreddit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/24 04:31 AM |
| 3 | [Advice] How do I (25F) balance my nurturing nature while encouraging male leadership/initiative and preventing passiveness in partners?This is really good. I’ll add on a small note, in addition, when it comes to vetting tactics. There’s 3 types of guys you can vet for who will have differing levels of relationship investment (taking you out on dates, buying you things, acts of service, etc.). Men who will invest and do things for you as long as you ask them Men who won’t invest even if you ask them to and men who will automatically invest even without you asking The third group of men would be considered ‘auto investors’ and ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/24 04:02 AM |
| 1 | Is is possible to restore heated passion in a relationship? Maybe some mystery? Anyone who succeeded?/u/zaftig_stig You can also play the '36 questions to fall in love' game. They've ran these experiments with strangers and had people on blind dates fall in love asking these questions that slowly builds and ramps up intimacy. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeSzLqqyNgs (9m jubilee video) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rvm_4qJYMzI (5m SciShow Psych) | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/24 02:47 AM |
| 3 | Do I need to be more submissive to make my husband happier?It's not super actionable advice to tell women, who are in the community, that their husbands/LTR need to do better or be better. We typically leave that for 2x and other relationship advice communities Perhaps he needs to modify his approach? This advice has a tendency of emphasizing personal fault finding and 'environment' scanning for what's wrong (John Gottman's work) in a relationship. Gottman call these people who constantly criticize, seek out what's wrong/missing/lacking relationship 'di… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/24 03:12 AM |
| 1 | What with the trend of women claiming their partner doesn’t notice other women? #observation3 day vacation to cool off. The community culture values politeness and arguing the ideas, not the person. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/24 01:57 PM |
| 7 | Why am I constantly beefing/in conflict with men?After a particularly horrible experience, I decided to go nun mode indefinitely. Small nitpick on nun mode. It helps if the community is all on the same page as to what nun mode VS what actively remaining single is. You can choose to be 'actively remaining single' or abstinent/not dating for as long as you want. But nun mode is typically a period of focused and intentional self-improvement lasting anywhere from 6 months to 1.5 years for harder cases. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/24 04:05 AM |
| 3 | Is it just me or is talking about RP cringe?You should read up on the social statistics of hypergamy (marrying across or up): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypergamy# Then do some in field observation of couples in grocery stores, coffee shops, concerts, parks, etc. I also just have experience with this. My entire original trio is not tall. I'm the shortest at 5'5 and use to be really fat. the tallest of the original three is 5'7. We all have pulled mulitiple women in our subjective 9/10 ratings. The exception does not prove the majority.… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/10/24 05:26 AM |
| 3 | 15 years difference of ageStaying off forums like this with our business is a critical element. Clarify this sentence. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/24 05:26 AM |
| 3 | 15 years difference of agePursuing every little detail of life or how best to manipulate/control a significant other? Or pursue a social credit check on another human being? Absolutely not. Unethical and immoral AF IMO. No moralizing. Stay on topic. If you're new to the subreddit, read the community rules. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/24 05:24 AM |
| 3 | RPW strategies that helped me the most, from a slightly different perspective. (i.e. How to have a good relationship, even if you're a bit insane)/u/ArdentBandicoot Having the RPW specific account also allows a pretty flexible and anonymous account where no one will connect the mistakes, foolishness, unwise behaviors, etc. to who you are. A learning mindset where you don't have to worry about performance, expectations, achieving anything etc. is fairly easy to frame if it's on an account that you can just let go once you've learned the lessons and don't have to worry about putting on the old persona anymore. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/24 01:35 AM |
| 1 | RPW strategies that helped me the most, from a slightly different perspective. (i.e. How to have a good relationship, even if you're a bit insane)I’m too embarrassed to ask for advice We have a Getting Started post to onboard you into the community. The general recommendation is to make a dedicated account for RPW so you can ask questions, post theory/discussions/field reports, and be able to have a separation from your main account to avoid being doxxed or banned from other subreddits. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/24 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Discussion: Hen pecked, Frog Farming, Domesticated Husband?the danger of wanting an "equal" relationship is when a man feels like he has no "ownership"/responsibility over you, he stops thinking his actions affect you, and therefore stops putting your interests before his or even considering them at all. I've seen the ''equal'' relationship dynamic discussion/frame primarily in committed long term relationships (guys with LTR girlfriends and guys who were engaged/married). These guys were usually in the one-down position and become fairly submissive / o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/24 10:27 PM |
| 6 | Meeting Men without Online Dating+1 star, great work and thank you for sharing with the community. This is a really great write up and there's a lot of good lessons tucked away in this field report for the more introverted girls in the subreddit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/24 10:14 PM |
| 7 | Discussion: Hen pecked, Frog Farming, Domesticated Husband?I don’t know much about this woman and for whatever reason her whole vibe totally turns me off. It's the beginning of the clip. She has a non-Duchenne smile (she comes across as polite/non-genuine), where her lips are curving up but it doesn't meet her eyes. And I'm not sure if it's her mannerisms/behaviors (energy/vibe) or the intelligence / social 'dominance' she has that either makes her 'high dominance' or she chooses men who are lower on the dominance threshold than her for her relationship… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/24 05:33 PM |
| 5 | Discussion: Hen pecked, Frog Farming, Domesticated Husband?This rings true, thinking back to the failed relationships I’ve seen, all three in some form have led to a breakdown in attraction and respect. On two, the egalitarian relationship frame usually suggested by a “I prefer an equal relationship” from the women’s side and bought in by guys who aren’t leading their relationship and want to please their partners is a recipe for disaster. The desire to please, protect, and provide is a natural instinct but combine this with being the one down in the re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/24 02:58 PM |
| – | Trying to take the red pillI’m locking the post as problems beyond the scope of RPW: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/ktbi3l/problems_that_are_beyond_the_scope_of_rpw/ It was brought to the moderators attention the op has a history of being reciprocally abusive with their partner (verbally, physically) and before the thread spirals out into giving conflicting advice from trickle truths I’m locking the thread early. Advice for the op: RPW is not qualified to give advice for situations involving the 3A abuse, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/24 12:13 AM |
| 8 | Trying to take the red pillThat is what’s challenging about her post. I’ve read through her profile that she has bpd and other maladaptive behavior patterns in addition to heightened emotional reactiveness and their relationship is at the edge co-enabling minor to major dysfunction with each other. The ‘physical abuse’ post she posted was enabled by both partners lack of physical boundaries and healthy communication. The op has likely received enough community advice, but I’m going to lock it now for problems beyond the s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/24 11:56 PM |
| 7 | Trying to take the red pillHas been physically abusive of you in the past. Can you comment the link to her post where this occurred. I'll lock the OP post under "Problems beyond the scope of RPW" and pin a comment for the OP to seek in person help if this is true. But for now, I don't see the abuse post on her profile. For now, it seems like she has tendencies of being unconsciously disrespectful and emotionally reactive causing both her and her partner to go into a negativity spiral and activate the crazy cycle of disres… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/24 06:59 PM |
| 5 | Trying to take the red pillI suggested in my own comment that she and her fiancé go to couples therapy before getting married Comment removed. Strategies should be from a redpill perspective Rule 4. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/24 06:43 PM |
| 2 | How to meet men? Is online dating advised?This would be a great field report to share with the subreddit. We get the "where do you go to meet men" advice posts all the time and the generic "go to where the men you want to meet go to" is fairly non-descriptive and not super actionable. Having an extroverts insight on their natural social game would be really great for all the introvert women we see on RPW, haha. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/24 04:02 PM |
| 1 | How to meet men? Is online dating advised?You've been granted an anonymous star from one of RPW endorsed contributors. ⭐ Good work, /u/LiftsLinage ! If you would like to learn more about stars and RPW endorsements the Getting Started guide has a section on navigating by user flair. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/24 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Partner says I’m like a manI do like the idea of a couple reading the set of books, making notes and then exchanging. Sometimes it’s just hard to find the language for our internal states. One of the great things that RPW has given my relationship is a common language to talk about relationship stuff. But my man lurks around here, not all do, and I think the pair of books could serve well as discussion starters for a couple. I forget that I’m a power reader on subreddits. Oftentimes, when you’ve been giving relationship a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/24 03:32 PM |
| 5 | Nun Mode Goals Part 6Around 2k people... a heavy female skew in my particular major I'll do that paper napkin math on this later on this comment, but those numbers are more than enough. There will always be successful men who are good potential relationship material because of the laws of statistical probability. E.g. 80/20 rule means that 20% of 1,000 guys is 200 guys who are natural leaders among their peers. You've only been on 6-8 first dates. /u/wife_and_mama went on over 50? first dates (online) before she fou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/24 02:27 AM |
| 8 | Partner says I’m like a manI got a chance to read "For Men Only" a couple years ago when I was on a trip visiting friends and seen it on their coffee table. I'm not sure if it was because the person who did the write ups for "For Women Only" in our wiki did an amazing job taking notes or if the book was written with more care and effort, but the "For Men Only" basically covered a few of the same ideas for FWO with barely any additional insights. I wouldn't recommend FMO unless the couple's both into books and want a bondi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/24 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Nun Mode Goals Part 6Some stats: According to The Knot, 15% of couples meet in college, making it one of the more likely places to meet a spouse. However, this includes people who met their spouse after they both graduated The Knot is a marriage website (so likely not the best stats research). Other places people meet their spouse include: Work: 10% of married couples meet through work, either as colleagues or at a work-related event Mutual friends: 18% of married couples meet through mutual friends Out in public: 1… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/24 02:46 PM |
| 4 | Nun Mode Goals Part 6I'm afraid of... Besides it's not like there are many eligible guys I meet anyway This has been a theme across your field reports. Both the fear and desire and the limiting belief around relationship worthy guys / self-fulfilling mindsets you're holding on to. Without going into too much detail: How many people attend your college in person How many guys have you actually went on a date with What experiences have you had previously that's leading you to believe that there's no eligible guys And … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/24 02:32 PM |
| – | Is it ok if I don’t do my hair and makeup?RPW typically recommend periods of: active posting to learn and time to reflect and integrate The community values self-improvement and long-term goal setting to maximize your personal happiness. We're going to allow you to take a 2 week vacation to rest and digest the content and information you're taking in. Do not delete any of your post as that will result in a ban as per community rule. Consider following my advice I gave you last time as it mirrors the same advice many of our star, endorse… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/24 12:55 AM |
| 8 | I think I found my person…This is really wholesome vanilla traditional conservative dating advice on basic boundaries and courtship traditions. If you're open to it and have some time, consider making a field report about your early dating and advice you're giving here. If you're feeling open to more challenge, a theory post with the advice and why you follow them would be great content for the community! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/24 01:21 AM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Learning the Girl Game from Lucifer's Daughters - Implementing the Game (Part 2)One of the mindsets that a lot of the ECs, mods, and high star community members will typically recommend is the, 'these are one of the tools in the RPW toolbox use the ones that resonate with you and drop the rest'. There's a lot of lessons, advice, and ideas I personally disagree with in the OP posts for this weeks B2B because my relationships in life tends to be with people high on conscientiousness and low on neuroticism, e.g. functional and healthy people with stable long term relationships… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/24 11:14 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Learning the Girl Game from Lucifer's Daughters - Implementing the Game (Part 2)People define love based on the relationships they have with their parents. I think this is what angel is qualifying her example on. The first sentence of that particular paragraph is the bigger theme and then the OP goes into one of many practical examples (in this case, a more dysfunctional one for dysfunctional relationships). I'd imagine for most people who have stable and happy relationships with parents who were low on neuroticism, this would definitely not work on. But think about relatio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/24 11:05 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Learning the Girl Game from Lucifer's Daughters - Implementing the Game (Part 2)I think the point is that our opposite gender parent forms the subconscious basis for the mate we are likely to be attracted to. For example, this is one of the themes in the book "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters" by Meg Meeker. If a girl grows up with a strong, loving and protective father in her life... I really like this reply. There's a lot of different advice in both of the original OP posts that I would personally disagree with and also feel there's better advice and strategy for, but bei… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/24 10:56 PM |
| 5 | Back to Basics September: Learning the Girl Game from Lucifer's Daughters - Implementing the Game (Part 2)There's a lot of really great lessons in these two part series. I specifically chose them because of the standout lesson at the end of part 2 that goes into the ideas of validation sex vs transactional or duty sex: As Kimber in nip/tuck puts it "You are not giving him a blow job so that he gets off, you are giving him a blow job that will make him love you". Basically, fuck him like he's some guy who's SMV is 10 points above yours even if it's the same. Anybody can give a blow job, but can your … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/24 04:00 AM |
| 15 | I've gotten Girl Game all wrong. (Reflecting on my Observations)+1 star ⭐ /u/chxcolatewings. This field report is well written and ties together a number insights beautifully. There's a small minority of women who will learn this lesson about girl game in their 30s. And an even smaller group who never do make this insight and connection; they're typically religious conservative women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/24 10:56 PM |
| 11 | Field Report - Getting Started+1 star ⭐ /u/throwawaytalks25 This is a really well organized field report and it looks like you've been putting in some really solid effort. Thank you for the write up and sharing with the community! We have a smaller sister subreddit at /r/RedPillWives (open to all women, not only married) where we have a Weekly OYS you can use to make more relaxed, low effort, weekly check in reports and get encouragement, advice, or a combination of both. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/24 10:49 PM |
| 2 | I am having a hard time swallowing the pill.Small advice. It’s helpful to read the getting started post that’s pinned to the top of the subreddit. And keep in mind that the evolutionary psychology and biology readings tends to be advanced material and really pays off when you’re in a stable long term relationship. It can be heavy reading if you’re young, inexperienced with relationships, and it’ll be easier related to if you start first with the wiki and recommended books. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/24 10:32 PM |
| – | Back to Basics September: How class affects male preferencesClass: How It Works and How It Affects the Men You Meet or Who Will Commit to You This post is edited from the original. I've always believed class is the third rail in TRP/RPW, or at least the big under-addressed issue that affects attraction and commitment. I believe male attraction (in other words, his desire to hook up with you and spend time with you casually) is almost entirely dependent on interpersonal skills and your looks. That doesn't vary much across classes and follows conventional … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/24 02:47 PM |
| 2 | Pornography and Your Marriage Part 1You may find better discussion in /r/PurplePillDebate or /r/TheRedPill. This is a women's space that's focused on: This community was created as a harbor for RP minded women whose goal is to build a lasting and happy relationship with a great man. We explore the female RP sexual strategy, better known as "girl game", in an objective, realistic and compassionate manner. There's the occasional discussion on deeper evo psych theory, biology, etc., but it's focused back towards women's goals and rel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/24 03:47 AM |
| 3 | Pornography and Your Marriage Part 1if you don't it's basically where catastrophic pathologies emerge when utopia is engineered for mice You may want to rewatch a video or reread the research papers on that. There was a utopia (unlimited food and water, ample space, different divisions and social mates). BUT the ample space quickly became over crowded (limited experimental space as designed in an enclosed barn rather than a 'true' utopia that would allow freedom of expansion and autonomy of the physical world) There's rat swarms i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/24 02:08 AM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Calibrating a Self-Improvement Strategy for Women [Part 2]I think of it more like three roles the woman plays Or maybe the 5 faces of the perfect wife and carrying out the essential duties of the first mate. A collection of all of these frameworks into a table with side notes next to each would make a great meta-analysis. I have some articles I'm slowly reading about the life arc that we all go through is pretty much the same, but the paths we take along the way affect the type of journey we have. We're all going to have a job, have a partner, possibly… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/24 12:21 AM |
| 3 | Pornography and Your Marriage Part 1The 'thesis' of Easy Peasy Method is that pornography addiction is due to our personal saboteurs (our big monsters or personal beliefs/rationalizations) convincing us that porn, masturbation, and orgasms provides value to us (sleep aid, relaxation, energy, boredom, escape, novelty, etc.) For a lot of guys, that's all they really needed because they've used the willpower method multiple times successfully in the past to white knuckle past '30 days' of physical withdrawals/cravings. And only neede… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/24 11:30 PM |
| 4 | Pornography and Your Marriage Part 1only chimpanzee in captivity masturbates, what does this mean? It means we should give those chimpanzee a monkey park that has enriching experiences, community to socialize with, activities that refill hope, opportunities to build strong social bonds and self-control. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d-0KfwFCMRM&pp=ygUIcmF0IHBhcms%3D I think this is a difficult problem because it touches so many layers. What does a chimpanzee in captivity, a rat in a skinner box, and a man addicted to pornography… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/24 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Ovulation makes me look good?That would be my personal nightmare to be indecisive from the Perceiving disposition. Google's AI search results would make the perfect INTP archetype though :) That makes me wonder if future AI agents/swarms will be modeled after the 16 personality types to make them more specialized and use compute resources more effectively when general models hit an upper 'utility' limit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/24 10:47 PM |
| 3 | Pornography and Your Marriage Part 1I'm not disagreeing with you, just doing a "yes, I like this, and..." to add to the discussion. it's not just about a dopamine hit, men often experience this drive as a burden to be relieved, something which is distracting and even uncomfortable. This is the small monster of addiction charging up the hamster to start running on the rationalization hamster wheel. it can be thought of as relief often, or sleep aid even. There's constructive, destructive, and neutral ways of getting a need met. Usi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/24 06:16 PM |
| 5 | Pornography and Your Marriage Part 1his addictions cannot be stopped or controlled by you This is from AA, but also applies when it comes to relationships and partners with addictions and the desire to 'help' (or potentially any guilt surrounding it): The 3Cs I Didn’t Cause It I Can’t Control It I Can’t Cure It For the early daters, this should be a pretty bright flag to potentially screen out something that's part of the 3As (addiction, adultery, abuse) that Laura Doyle would qualify under categories for divorce or separation. Fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/24 05:49 PM |
| 5 | Ovulation makes me look good?It's a thing. The inner workings of the human body is pretty fascinating: From google search: In 2007, a study by University of New Mexico evolutionary psychologist Geoffrey Miller and his colleagues found that strippers made more tips while ovulating. Methods 18 strippers recorded their menstrual cycles, work shifts, and earnings on a website for two months. Results Strippers made an average of $335 per five-hour shift while ovulating, compared to $260 per shift during the luteal phase and $185… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/24 05:38 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Calibrating a Self-Improvement Strategy for Women [Part 2]The conversation about 'Sexy Madonna/Virtuous Whore' assumes the quality of a woman makes a big difference. Men don't look at things the same way. Combining sexy and virtuous sounds great, but it doesn't change a male fish. That means Chad won't suddenly change his philandering ways just because your bait was better. The intention for maximizing cute/adorable and sexy/hot green flags is to simultaneously raise sexual market value (to attract a large pool of men) and relationship market value (to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/24 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Calibrating a Self-Improvement Strategy for Women [Part 2]This reminds me of the triangular theory of love - the whore embodies passion, the madonna embodies commitment. Intimacy I think would come from genuinely embodying both, being true to one's self while sharing life with the person you're with. And also reminds me of Ark's great post on security, status, escape. It fits perfectly with this one. I intuit that there's a unified theory lurking behind all of these models waiting in the wings for its moment to shine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/24 04:55 PM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Calibrating a Self-Improvement Strategy for Women [Part 2]The community values offering actionable advice. There's always been a lot of theory and discussions throughout the years, but we always check back in to ask, "Does this work? And does this work specifically for me?" | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/24 04:51 PM |
| 6 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Calibrating a Self-Improvement Strategy for Women [Part 2]Today's post reminded me of the Do you think it’s better to be perceived as sexy or adorable? discussion we had this week. We had a camp that either leaned towards being cute or being sexy as strategy and this is also reflected in the green flags for the madonna/whore: Madonna Green Flags (cute) has an innocent, pure, even childlike outlook on life has a gentle vulnerability and softness about her that triggers her partner’s protective instincts Whore Green Flags (sexy) looks-wise, resembles a B… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/24 04:43 AM |
| 5 | I did it! Pt. 2 and green flags to look forIf you include this in your main post with an edit, I believe some of the community resistance you're seeing will shift to being a lot more receptive. Your post is technically flaired under a field report, so it's really no big deal. But if the community sees the actual work you put in, the care and attention you applied, and the parts you compromised in to allow attraction to build it would be more resonant. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 10:43 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Calibrating a Self-Improvement Strategy for Women [Part 2]Sort of yes. If you're really into a subculture that has tattoos and everyone is fine with it for work, relationships, religion, etc. then it's fine. Buy matching luggage, carry it together is the long answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 09:54 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Calibrating a Self-Improvement Strategy for Women [Part 2]Not always, but it's commonly associated with high risk taking behaviors. A quick reminder: having 1 red flag doesn’t mean you’re no longer a worthy mate, and having 1 green flag doesn’t make you God’s gift to mankind. However, if you notice that you’re stacking up quite a few red flags, you’d better work to add more green flags or do what you can to decrease those red flags. If combined with the other red flags: excessive smoking/drinking/taking drugs getting multiple tattoos partying wearing h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 09:34 PM |
| – | I did it! Pt. 2 and green flags to look for+1 star! ⭐ /u/Impressive-Tangelo44 I'm granting this star, despite push back from the community, because it reflects the practical and strategic aspects of Septembers Back to Basics. A quote from /u/deliaallmylife: Red Pill is about understanding and accepting reality and utilizing it to your benefit. It would not be what it is today if there was not this utilitarian component. Pink Pill / Dark Femininity / Whatever You Want to Call It is the strategy piece of Red Pill for women. It is not the a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 09:30 PM |
| 3 | I did it! Pt. 2 and green flags to look forI’ve been berated for years on this sub that I would have to settle for some average Joe who cheats on me or something which has actually led me into dangerous situations. If you link back to those comments, make a report in the future, or see this from a star flaired or endorsed contributor. Message the moderators or click the report button underneath the comments and we'll take care of the challenge. The mod team usually finds that the women who returns to the community and talk about the comm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 09:12 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Calibrating a Self-Improvement Strategy for Women [Part 2]We all start exactly where we're at in life. If you have a mixture of traits that's less preferred on both the madonna/whore scale. Follow the next steps that Sunshine recommends on building green flags. However, if you notice that you’re stacking up quite a few red flags, you’d better work to add more green flags or do what you can to decrease those red flags. devotes herself to live by virtuous values: truth, goodness, altruism, sincerity, modesty, and kindness This includes things like: explo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Understanding the Theory [Part 1]Yeah, a lot of these theories can be dry, heady, sometimes tense, and can be really misapplied if we're taking them as facts rather than observations and potential hypothesis/theories. An average 40 weeks for gestation, 18 years of parental care/support, savings for college, and potentially a car if your city doesn't offer great public transport is every day life for the vast majority of parents in the 21st century. Most parents naturally think in terms of the 2 and a half kids paradigm in order… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 03:39 PM |
| 4 | Reading: My ex texted me after 5 months of no contact. What does he want?I love this reply. Super actionable and obeys the rules of commitment and consistency (investment theory). | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Understanding the Theory [Part 1]I don't think we're disagreeing either. My point I was making in regards to the comment about 'unlimited' (forgot to drop the quotes on that one) resources and the biological desire to seek "as many mates as possible" is that it's a real biological driver (survival and replication) if we're looking at this from the perspective of our lower lizard brain circuits (triune brain theory). AMALT (heh). Here's where I think the conclusions get taken too far though: ... A stronger desire for sexual nove… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Understanding the Theory [Part 1]We'd have to write a book if we covered every red pill truth. Have to serve it one post at a time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 05:40 AM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Understanding the Theory [Part 1]You bring up a good point, sunshine mentioned it indirectly and very briefly in her foot note: So while there are men who take it too far and have the Madonna/Whore complex to an unproductive and debilitating level just like how there are women who do the same with AF/BB, we can still learn from it as a normal dual mating strategy that healthy men exhibit. It looks like her ultimate intention was to borrow a relatable idea that everyone was familiar with and apply it to her 'Be a Sexy Madonna/Vi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 05:25 AM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Understanding the Theory [Part 1]I just think maybe people are waiting for part 2 I was highly considering double posting part 1 and part 2 together on the same day for this weeks male dual mating strategy (likewise for next weeks part 1 and 2 series, but those will likely have a lot of controversy and discussion). I figured it best to keep with the process and stick to a MWF schedule. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 04:50 AM |
| 3 | Updated Questions after Multiple talks and reading the sidebar.Hi, /u/throwawaytalks25 I've written a guide on how to write/journal/improve your relationship with a RPW field report: 5 Key Tips for Writing Effective Field Reports Consider reading and writing a field report on your next post to help you organize these ideas and put them into practice. It'll help you AND the community by having a more structured and organized approach to see how you're doing and help everyone offer more constructive advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 02:11 AM |
| 5 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Understanding the Theory [Part 1]I'm surprised this post didn't find much traction today. I always have a bit of trouble balancing the relatability and authenticity of writing about evolutionary psychology and relationships, but have always looked up to these series of posts on how well it balanced this need for the community. When the original posts went up, it had mass appeal and really resonated with the community. But that could've also been due to how well /u/SunshineSundress related and taught these ideas/advice for /r/Re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 01:58 AM |
| 6 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Understanding the Theory [Part 1]If she was correct, then men ideally want both in the same woman. If that's the case, then is "madonna-whore" actually two sides of the same coin? Yes! Part 2 goes into further details on calibrating a strategy around these ideas. Just like how women seek out a partner that not only has the ability and stability to provide, they would also optimally want him to be tall, handsome, fit, etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 01:52 AM |
| 4 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Understanding the Theory [Part 1]The required effort in searching for a mate is usually much higher in a man than a woman, so this is relevant - and it means the point is not "as many as possible", it's "as many as you can manage while still providing the necessary investment in your offspring". Evolutionary speaking, a man doesn't actually want to look for as many sexual partners as possible... For all intents and purposes, I would agree under normal conditions of evolution by natural selection that there's a natural limit as … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 01:49 AM |
| 4 | Back to Basics September: The Male Dual Mating Strategy: Understanding the Theory [Part 1]I'm going to break my comments up for readability and easy organization. I like the second footnote. It's a very valuable lesson to learn that "it's not wrong, it just IS". There's nothing bad in a man who instinctively looks for signs of fidelity in a potential partner. Women do the same, and have actually evolved just as many strategies to ensure monoginy in their men. It's uncomfortable to put the world under a microscope and discover that there's a lot more than the eye can immediately see. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/24 01:07 AM |
| – | My husband all the sudden thinks it's okay to be married and see other women. I love him but can't accept this. Need adviceOP, please edit your post on what you have applied from four months ago when you last sought out this subreddit for advice: Husband wants a one sided open relationship what do I do? Your last thread was locked under, "Problems Beyond The Scope of RPW" for physical, emotional, and mental abuse. And our last moderator advised, "OP, we can't deal with the fallout of your relationship for you, whether you choose to stay or leave. Please seek in person help, and take care." | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/24 02:33 AM |
| 2 | The Riddle of the Stinson, with an RPW EyeI've heard a man say "I'm the least important person here" when he was the one picking up the tab. Strong work ethic, high instincts for provisioning/protection, and humility. Add in strong character and these are one of the category of guys I get a long with really well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/24 01:34 AM |
| 3 | I'm too good for every guy I meet?The Relationship Triangle This is a helpful model that's 2 turtles up from the Sales and Seduction Triangle and adopted for RPW. The Relationship Triangle states that a successful dater requires 3 traits in order to be successful, and all 3 traits have equal weighting; one is no more important than the other (though I’m sure some will think otherwise). These 3 parts are: Vibe / Mentality: positive, value-giving, abundance mentality, cute/sexy, being a soft place to land, etc. Fundamentals: fashi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 04:51 PM |
| 2 | I'm too good for every guy I meet?When in doubt, zoom out. Let's step back, take a breath, and see the big picture to get some perspective: You're a beginner at dating/relationships You have a limited amount of reference points (based on past unsuccessful experiences) that's creating flawed mental models of the world As Matthew McConaughey said in The Wolf of Wall Street, "You gotta pump those numbers up, those are rookie numbers in this racket..." The combination of limited experience and a languishing (vs thriving and naturall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 04:51 PM |
| 2 | The Riddle of the Stinson, with an RPW EyePresent a united front. I like this post because it's reinforcement of a simple lesson on men and respect. When there's disagreements or frustration, because that's normal in any relationship, express and discuss concerns in private. Nobody is perfect and we're all going to have our days where we're not bringing and presenting our best. But when in public, ALWAYS present a united front even if you disagree with your partner. The wife does this well in scene 2 and get's to reap the rewards of a h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 02:39 PM |
| 3 | Feeling defeated about getting in a LTR+1 star, thank you for offering quality advice and welcome to the community. We have a getting started post if you haven't read it yet and would like to learn more about the community. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 01:59 PM |
| 3 | The Riddle of the Stinson, with an RPW EyeMany writings from dating and relationship blogs went over my head when I was younger, but looking back, I appreciate them and recognize the "aha" moments that reveal what was really happening behind the scenes. We kind of take it for granted because we're living our lives and navigating the challenges and obstacles of our relationships one day at a time. But it makes me really happy that, in contrast to our parents and grandparents generation, we have immediate resources (from the internet age … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/24 03:52 PM |
| 2 | Book Club: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands: Author’s Note and IntroductionThis book was laying around at a family member's house about a decade ago and I picked it up on whim to read. I put it down after the first few pages because of how harsh the tone of writing was. It's written for a very specific demographic of women with a backbone made of steel who's dominant in their relationship with their man and looking for harsh truths and a 'check' to keep their 'controller' / hyper-vigilance / criticism down long enough to repair and have a successful male led relationsh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/24 02:08 PM |
| 3 | The Riddle of the Stinson, with an RPW EyeI rewatched the scene and he had a little smile as she said "I want the guest room painted" and ignored her. How to handle Shit Tests 101: Agree and amplify, amused mastery, or/AND ignore and move to something more fun/carefree/passionate. Haven't watched the full movie to see what their relationship dynamics is like from previous scenes, but a smile and ignore is classic amused mastery and redirection to passion (his mission for finding the people from the plane instead of being pulled into her… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/24 05:08 AM |
| 12 | Back to Basics September: 'Girl Game: The Glory Hole Experience'I love this community because it creates a safe space for traditional conservative women to talk about relationships and dating, but we also are inclusive enough to allow discussion from women with modern values and even endorse sex workers, BDSM submissives, and women who have feminist values. The founding of this subreddit was from a man from /r/TheRedPill and one of our strongest contributors who wrote about half of the leading theory posts on the subreddit is also a man. If this weeks title … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/24 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: 'Girl Game: The GFE'I like your links you're sharing because I'm a big theory nerd, but you're derailing the thread. Stay on topic. If you want to discuss your ideas, you can make a discussion post about this or make a theory post if you want to defend an idea or convince the community. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/24 03:59 AM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: 'Girl Game: The GFE'The subreddit is called /u/redpillwomen to talk about sexual strategy and girl game. It would be understandable if the subreddit was called /u/RedPillWomen-RelationshipCounselingAdvice and offered an entire Back to Basics month on recovering broken relationships. But we're not. Women can make an advice post if they would like relationship help. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/24 01:02 AM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September: 'Girl Game: The GFE'And yet… when I surprise him with lingerie, he seems completely uninterested. I’ll walk by in skimpy outfits and he barely takes a glance. I try to be visually appealing and engaging, but he just seems uninterested. Different men have different preferences. Some really enjoy a simple overknee socks with a skirt or shorts combination to create the 'absolute territory' of bare thigh skin effect. And lingerie will do nothing for the guy. Others may be more primal and having something light, tearabl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/24 12:35 AM |
| 1 | "Women would rather share an alpha than settle for a beta" Does this extend to marriage?Banned. Rule 9: If you're a man on RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/24 12:49 AM |
| 1 | “A woman cannot date backwards..”Removed. No moralising. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/24 11:43 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Charming Other MenSecond, it's an endorsement of coquetry, playful feminine flirting and charm, an undervalued tool in girl game. I'm in the support camp as well. I occasionally see advice on RPW about 'being natural' and 'authentic', don't try and just be your authentic self and you'll be fine in the dating field. ''You don't need to practice'', and it makes me wonder if these women ever encountered hard obstacles in dating/relationships that they couldn't immediately figure out and had to approach it multiple t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/24 11:35 PM |
| 12 | Back to Basics September: Charming Other MenYou forgot the: step 1: be attractive step 2: don't be unattractive Also, look pretty. Men want to like a pretty woman. If you're a pretty woman, all you have to is be nice and it will simply open the door for them to allow themselves to like you. heh | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/24 01:29 PM |
| – | Was Banned from r/offmychest bc I commented here.Look's like the community is seeing "I've been banned" posts again. Please read the auto-mod comment that is submitted to your posts: Within the last year, RedPillWomen has had over half a dozen 'Banned from 'x' subreddit' post for commenting/subscribing to RPW. Moving forwards, the mods will remove these types of posts: 1, 2, 3, 4. We recommend you make a RPW specific account. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/24 03:01 AM |
| 3 | Advice: how can I become his ideal woman and save our relationship?Right now he is in "Rambo" as others have mentioned. Fun fact, 'going rambo' is from /r/marriedredpill which is not an official RP network subreddit as /r/TheRedPill's official stance is no to marriage with the current state of no fault divorce, alimoney, child support, and custody laws. He has just discovered the red pill and right now is very angry. He is placing blame on society and you for his dissatisfaction. TRP would call this the 'anger phase'/stage: The Five Stages of Red Pill, and how … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 02:50 AM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is MonogamyI understand and appreciate the levels of empathy, care, and support you're open to sharing for men. But... By nature, men are the disposable sex (women and children first when the boat sinks, selective service, etc.). Yes, it's not easy for both genders, but for men the life lessons we encounter are masculine in nature. Between the two genders, this is typically the masculine role and we likewise expect men to go to war (protect the home/family), work in heavy industry/trades (heavy home labor)… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 02:31 AM |
| 4 | Back to Basics September: A Good Relationship Is Built In The BedroomI'm surprised necro-posting revived an old community member. The mod team will have to target more outstanding posts from the past to see if we can lure more community members back for a visit ;) Welcome back and I hope you enjoy the rest of B2B September! edit: if you get the 'itch' for writing again, it would be awesome to see a field report from you if any of the old RPW strategies/tactics really helped you in your relationship that you would want to share with young you, or any of the new RP… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 01:52 AM |
| – | Field Report: Two weeks after being vulnerable about jealousy+1 star! Thank you for taking the time to write up a field report; the amount of clarity in your lessons and insights was really nice to read and it looks like it's contributing to a lot of other community members insight too. That's really awesome and I appreciate your writing it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/24 04:07 AM |
| – | Back to Basics September: Submissive Behaviour as StrategyBonus B2B companion post to: Submissive Behaviour as Strategy Back to Basics September: Learning about the male protective instinct from my brother A compiled list of notable field reports by livelylychee on what submissive behavior actually looks like in a relationship | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 01:24 AM |
| – | Stereotypes aren’t always true…I'm going to let you go on vacation for 3 days to read the subreddit wiki and other resources that you can find. If you're genuine and come back with a rewrite on this in addition to what you've learned, I'll allow the post to go up. Currently, the writing is unclear and is just a bunch of words. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 12:53 AM |
| 3 | Hypergamy as an InstinctI wrote a small comment on today's B2B post on the idea that the hypergamy drive is like an 'on-off' switch. I would say it's more like a dial between 0 and 10. All women are hypergamous, but some women can display 1 (of 10) because they've improved relationship self-mastery. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/1f8tfsy/back_to_basics_september_submissive_behaviour_as/lljm19w/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 11:20 PM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: Submissive Behaviour as StrategyI was a bit wordy with the introduction for todays post when I wrote this line. Today, we revisit another classic post from /u/whisper on women's instinct to submit to, defer to and obey men. Men's instinct to protect and care for women. /u/_Pumpkin_Muffin mentioned in her comment that she and other women are likely having an eye roll response that all women are natural submissives or women should submit to men on first read of this post. The post is authoritative because that was whisper's writ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 11:11 PM |
| 4 | Back to Basics September: Submissive Behaviour as StrategyI think the "submission" word doesn't really do us a favor here. I am a submissive woman. It's deeply ingrained in me. Submission is a heavily loaded word in today's culture typically associated with a variety of meaning that can be unpalatable to anyone with modern values. Enough for an EC to write the post: Submission: a rose by any other name | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is MonogamyRule 9. Men must follow community rules. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 01:34 PM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is Monogamy“Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.” Don't be bitter that it's hard. Find the silver lining and be grateful that it will make you become better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 12:07 AM |
| 0 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is Monogamy“Hypergamy means that women would rather go home alone than with the second place winner.” - however, this doesnt mean that they do go home alone , there is no security in “going home alone” or being single , this is why many settle for men that arent necessarily their first choice, security & provisioning. It's a bit naughty, but the short form on how the men on TRP called this is "alpha fucks, beta bucks". If hypergamy and the selection for the top 20% of men is true, and NOT ALL women can hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/24 12:03 AM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is Monogamythis seems to be true for most men and women, but not for all. So they actually have a term for this on TRP. It's called AWALT (All women are like that). Obviously, that's a really large generalization and would be countered with NAWALT (Not all women are like that). Not often as used is AMALT (All men...), but ultimately we're looking to generalize to speak broadly about behaviors that show up commonly and recognize that there are exceptions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 11:54 PM |
| 2 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is MonogamyThis is an interesting idea/hypothesis that has floated around the subreddit for some time. If genetics and statistics points towards an 80/20 distribution, then this behavior MUST be an instinctual level behaviors that have a track record. A counter idea is that these DNA studies were completed during a time in which an agricultural revolution shifted the human civilization from nomadic hunter gatherers to one where resources, scarcity, and the accumulation of wealth can be distributed to a min… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is MonogamyThis is a life lesson in general, not really red pill, RPW, etc. If it's not a hit, switch. Often times (not always), an adjustment in social models, systems, process, or whatever learning/experience avenue you're undergoing can be the keystone to learning faster and more effectively. If /u/whisper or 'x' person doesn't do it for you, just move on and trying something different. The more volume and time you can safely put under your belt as far as learning from people, books, videos, mentors, co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 11:26 PM |
| 6 | This subreddit might change my lifeThe standard for men are higher than it is for women who are on a subreddit called /r/RedPillWomen and is bright pink. Women are allowed to learn, make mistakes, ask questions, and come to the subreddit for self-improvement and training. Men are expected to be aware of the community rules and values before they engage with the community and if else, they should be lurking or contributing to TRP. We also ask for regular community visitors, if women, to also be familiar with the community rules an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 05:49 AM |
| 9 | This subreddit might change my lifeConsider writing a theory post on frog farming/farmer. I've seen this mentioned on another post but that user was really combative for some reason (perhaps an 'in recovery' frog farmer turning a new lilly pad). I think a community discussion/theory post would be great if it can help other women have more tools in the RPW toolkit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 05:41 AM |
| 6 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is MonogamyI'll briefly pre-empt this post because there's a lot to unpack inside of it, especially the 'shock writing' that's on the surface level. /u/LightOverWater brought out some good points: And to close on "read between the lines," it's another prime example of why many people write-off TRP altogether because a couple points out of a dozen don't resonate or perhaps even shocks them. Meanwhile they're also throwing away the wisdom. There's about a decade + worth of history on /r/TheRedPill and how ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 05:10 AM |
| 5 | Back to Basics September: Hypergamy is MonogamyCheating is not good, no matter what. It's obviously bad for the person being cheated on, it's bad for the cheater in the relationship, and it's bad for the guy who is willfully seducing her to cheat- society and everyone he knows will blow back at him. He, himself, is not serving himself as he's not engaging in fulfilling behavior. I've never really sat down and spoke with whisper, but with the years of following his writing I doubt he personally endorses cheating under his /u/whisper persona n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 04:35 AM |
| – | Back To Basics September: Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey BranchingB2B Monday Bonus Post: As a companion discussion to 'Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey Branching'. Hypergamy is Monogamy from /u/whisper goes into the discussion on women's hypergamy drive vs the counter drive within men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/24 03:50 AM |
| 1 | Fiancé made me quit my favourite hobby and resentment is buildingin this case an awful lot of commenters think he’s doing the right thing by “taking her seriously” now she’s a fiancé First sentence of her post seems to narrate that this was early in the relationship and not 'after she became a fiance'. A few months after we met , my now fiance put pressure on me to quit my favourite hobby- belly dance. Yes. He could've walked, but so could she. If you read through their post history, op seems like she's not the greatest catch herself and both of them might ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/24 03:53 PM |
| 3 | Fiancé made me quit my favourite hobby and resentment is buildingIf she were a musician or singer and she could still sing and play her instrument for other women but not in mixed company it would lose its lustre. Apples to oranges. She could also pick from a multitude of other dance styles and perform in public. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/24 02:10 AM |
| 3 | Fiancé made me quit my favourite hobby and resentment is buildingThe down voters on this comment needs to go Back To Basics and read Love and Respect from For Women Only. In just the way that we want to be loved unconditionally, even when we are miserable, sick, pmsing, cranky, you name it; men need respect to be unconditional. This might mean respecting him and trusting him even if you don’t feel like he’s meeting your expectations. It is very common for us (as a culture) to believe that love is supposed to be unconditional but respect is something you must … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/24 01:52 AM |
| 5 | Fiancé made me quit my favourite hobby and resentment is buildingThe hamster wheel is furiously spinning. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/24 01:45 AM |
| 3 | Back to Basics September: 2024 Dark Femininity EditionI'm excited too! Thank you for volunteering again this year | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/24 03:57 PM |
| 7 | Back to Basics September: 2024 Dark Femininity EditionGirl game is one of tools in the RPW toolkit. Neither good nor bad inherently, it just is. We can't control the world or other people, we can only control ourselves and the decisions of who we vet into or out of our lives. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/24 03:57 PM |
| 5 | Back to Basics September: 2024 Dark Femininity EditionCan Laura Doyle’s SFP be categorized as RPW dark femininity? It's my belief that all tools like all technology is neutral. The 'good or bad' is determined by who is using it, their intent, and the context. There are times my fiancé is not feeling great about himself and I’ll say things like “I know you’ll figure it out, you always do” even if I don’t necessarily believe it. Laura's 'Spouse Fulfilling Prophecy' is a frame control technique. And is a form of social psychology influence that can be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/24 03:51 PM |
| – | 5 Key Tips for Writing Effective Field ReportsI'll keep an eye out for it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/24 02:24 AM |
| 4 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsThe subreddit has a pinned Getting Started guide that gives tips and pointers on how to use the search bar and scanning for endorsed/star flaired community members. Here's a post by a star flaired community member dating a father with a child: struggling. If you follow through their post history, you can see their relationship progression. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/24 01:41 AM |
| 6 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsThis is one of the major red flags people usually miss in relationships Look at how they treat service people, children, or people below them. If they have a distorted sense of esteem that's built around putting other people down and mistreating them or they're incapable of having any basic level of kindness even to those who they view as 'less' than or does not provide value to them. This type of selfish and emotional behavior will show up in your relationship with them if you're ever in the on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/24 01:23 AM |
| 6 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsAny sort of addiction I think it was from Laura Doyle that mentioned the 3As: Addiction, adultery, and abuse. One of those can be a yellow/green if they're working through it, but two is a major red flag and all three is a full stop black flag 'captain of the pirate ship'. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/24 12:59 AM |
| 7 | It's Probably Not Love At First Site | A Guide for the Early Stages of DatingThen it's time to do some radical self-improvement so you can upgrade the quality and quantity of men you can attract and keep: Nun Mode Part 1 | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/24 06:06 PM |
| 3 | Feeling jealous of another girl who’s in my house literally right now…He was very loving and supportive, and apologized for being on his phone so much. We’ve both had a rough time with the baby, and he said it feels easy to be comfortable around me. He suggested we set aside time to do more fun things together, just the two of us. I definitely feel a lot better about things after having the conversation, and I’m glad I posted here before we did. I know this is too soon, but it would be super cool if you: Come back with a field report on how the quality time and sc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/24 04:33 AM |
| 10 | It's Probably Not Love At First Site | A Guide for the Early Stages of DatingI don't know much about the quantum dating strategy, but I do agree that keeping your social networks stacked and having warm relationships does significantly improve abundance mentality. That feeling of chasing, FOMO, or 'what ifs' usually signal you're in a state of scarcity and building up a solid option B and C can keep you calm, cool, and collected. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/24 03:34 AM |
| 4 | field report: the way to a man’s heart is his stomach+1 star 🌠, great field report, /u/undothatbutton! You have a lot of really great lesson points in your field report, but I'll choose this one: i had to just take action. i had to just claim my role. i just dove headfirst into feeding myself, my kids, and my husband with nutrient-dense, protein-packed, consistent meals and snacks. it turns out that was all it took to inspire a trickle down in my home!! It reminds me of a few of our community posts that talk about how 'OYS' and simply going first … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/24 06:11 PM |
| – | Interested in a man 10 years youngerYou're still shadow banned, please check in with reddit to get your account unbanned. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/24 03:31 AM |
| – | Modern College-Aged Field Report and ObservationsThis is the observation that made me believe in this subreddit's ideology even more due to the rise of the situationship in this generation. Small note on the use of the term ideology. All official Red Pill community networks (TRP, RPW, etc.) do not consider themselves an ideology. There's feminist, traditional conservatives, modern conservatives, and a large variety of other types of women and values that are all welcomed and everyone is allowed to freely believe in what they wish to believe. W… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/24 03:22 AM |
| 6 | Modern College-Aged Field Report and ObservationsI don't have a lot of time to dedicate a fuller comment, but this challenge with finding guys who share similar long term goals falls under the category of screening and qualifying and using high probability dating strategies. E.g. looking for the top 20% of men who are club, fraternities, student christian orgs, or work place group leaders and dating these types of guys who are consistent, reliable, future oriented, but also winners and have consistency as part of your learning experiences. Dat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/24 03:11 AM |
| 1 | Tigre's Nun Mode Part 2In the men's community (TRP, manosphere, pick up, etc.), we'd have a number of inexperienced guys who would come in regularly and say, "I don't have enough "x": money looks, fashion height wrong ethnicity muscles confidence status, etc. ...to get with girls." Ultimately, this came down to the idea of limiting beliefs and a bit of self-fulfilling prophecy. As beginners, in life, we're typically unskilled and have limited amounts of experience that can build incorrect mental models of the world ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/24 11:24 PM |
| 1 | Overwhelmed by entering Nun ModeWe have a lot of great community advice from multiple flaired community members in here. How can I plan Nun Mode to just build a foundation for myself to live like the women I want to become? And not self-improvement to make myself as a women more desirable but to get to that starting point. One step at a time and making your goals SMART is recommended and pacing yourself as Rome wasn't built in a day. I know that a big part is that I have an idea of how I want my life to look like but feel that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/24 05:04 PM |
| – | Tigre's Nun Mode Part 2Great work, /u/TigreGrande05. I'm retagging this post under a field report flair and awarding you a star. Advice can still be requested under field reports. Field reports are important because writing and thinking work in synergy and it allows you to catch yourself if you missing something or the community can see if you're having a blind sided moment and offer advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/24 04:38 PM |
| – | RedPillWomen's Hamster: Harnessing Hamster Wheel Energy (Part 1 of 2)Our emotions at the right time and right place act as action signals to help us flourish and grow. Unnecessary large amounts of fear, hurt, or continual amounts of these emotions (or other emotions like anger, anxiety, frustration, etc.) are usually signs you haven't taken the right action and are currently stuck in a situation or relationship that's continuously causing these experiences. In the short term, you can use the 3 Gifts or 3 Opportunities Reframing Technique: You can't control other … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/24 05:59 PM |
| 2 | RedPillWomen's Hamster: Harnessing Hamster Wheel Energy (Part 1 of 2)The first step is to step back and take a breather if you're really being hi-jacked by your emotions (amygdala hi-jacking or hamster flooding). This puts an immediate stop on any automatic behaviors like being avoidant, dismissive avoidant, stonewalling, etc. If this is happening in almost every relationship (romantic or platonic), then it's pretty normal to have the fear response from the hamster because it's signaling that you're missing out on either: resources: do you trust this person to me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/24 01:36 AM |
| 1 | RedPillWomen's Hamster: Harnessing Hamster Wheel Energy (Part 1 of 2)The advice, tactics, and guides you see on RPW is based on the assumption that you're in a state of functionality and have a stable and functional relationship with a good man. 3A: Abuse, Addiction, and Adultery would be Problems Beyond the Scope of RPW | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/24 11:45 PM |
| 1 | I met a guy randomly and now I can't stop thinking about him, but I have a boyfriend , how should I act?You could start a nuclear reactor with the amount of energy that came out of the rationalizing hamster on that one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/24 01:00 AM |
| 2 | The Burned Haystack Dating MethodStay on topic. If you want to discuss frog theory, make a new theory post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/24 12:44 AM |
| 2 | 7 Year relationship. He just confessed to kissing a girl 5 years ago while drunk./u/RatchedAngle is also correct. I would take the redpill men’s advice with a grain of salt, even the ones who are endorsed. The moderators also warn members to vet endorsed redpillwomen community members to see if they share your values or if they're giving actionable and beneficial advice. Some of our ECs are religious, monogamous, or in ethical non-monogamous one sided open relationships. You need to read all community voices with discernment and select a few who resonate with you as is menti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/24 11:52 PM |
| 2 | 7 Year relationship. He just confessed to kissing a girl 5 years ago while drunk.The moderators have full time jobs, marriages/LTRS, and some with a full family; mod work is community service and a labor of love that does not cover us monetarily. /r/RedPillWomen is a community effort and you can press the report button or tag one of the mods if you find value and enjoy the community and want to support the subreddit by investing in reporting people who are not following community rules. I wish the mods would more closely moderate the men who give clearly primarily self-inter… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/24 11:48 PM |
| 17 | how to add more mystery to yourself?Mystery is one element of push and pull in social dynamics (i.e. challenge). There's a sweet spot between no challenge and too much challenge when dating and in day to day interactions. A. On one side, you have no challenge where you're: Overly Accommodating Agreeing with everything Always available Predictable and Passive Lack of initiative Routine Responses Lack of Personal Opinions or Boundaries Avoiding expressing yourself Weak boundaries B. And the other is too much challenge: Overly Teasin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/24 11:56 PM |
| 1 | How to be the “goddess of fun and light” when it’s not your personality?/u/Doomer_Queen69 Small warning about clicking or sending random links. The moderators try our best to keep the community safe by removing posts, links, or comments that can potentially dox community members. It's hard to say if the person on the other side of the screen is genuine or is secretly a cat, but being cautious about clicking links and scanning users profile is a good first step to seeing if the user is trustworthy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/24 05:16 AM |
| 6 | Is nun mode worth it?This comment and your comment from a few weeks ago you linked is field report material. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/24 05:09 AM |
| 10 | Is nun mode worth it?Otherwise, having the feedback of interacting with men is helpful for self improvement, not detrimental. This is good advice. Regularly stress testing relationship market value, sexual market value, and your frame that you've built up over time from extended periods of nun mode (3-4 months cycles) keeps you sharp and is a good form of feedback to see if you're on the right path. It doesn't do anyone any good if you've spent 9 months in nun mode and as soon as you go back to socializing it all ba… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/24 04:55 AM |
| 7 | Is nun mode worth it?Yes, nun mode is worth it. I have a bias though because I wrote the current edition for RPW. Nun Mode (part 1, part 2, field report compilations). One of the major keystones for nun mode is that you're able to sustain self-improvement as a 'way of life'. Or when you've hit and locked in the threshold of constantly working on becoming a better version of yourself every day. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/24 04:42 AM |
| 2 | Massive Nun Mode but ScaredIf this is what you're concerned about for completing nun mode and seeing if it's worth it: I'm not at a point where I offer enough for a partner. It may be a good point to consider journaling about and checking in with RPW later down the road with a field report after you've spent some time introspecting and improving on it. For body image issues / mental obstacles with low self-worth, consider checking in with your schools psychology clinic. They usually offer free or reduced cost one on one o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/24 02:02 AM |
| 1 | How to be the “goddess of fun and light” when it’s not your personality?Rule 9: if you're a man and you're here | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/24 12:46 AM |
| 0 | How to be the “goddess of fun and light” when it’s not your personality?Rule 7: No advertising external groups Community members must invest in the community first and become long term contributors before the moderators will consider allowing external promotions such as blogs, websites, or other subreddits. If you edit out the group link, I can reapprove the comment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/24 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Massive Nun Mode but ScaredI'm the community member who wrote the latest guide to Nun Mode (part 1, part 2, field report compilations). Most people do not need nun mode to work on self-improvement, but some may benefit from a soft nun mode. This involves a soft social solitude where you can be 'actively remaining single' for half a year to a year and half while you get rid of habits that may be destructive (social media, sugar, being sedentary, etc.) and replacing them with constructive and cathartic habits like surroundi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/24 12:25 AM |
| 5 | How to be the “goddess of fun and light” when it’s not your personality?I'm in agreement. One of our EC's wrote Deal Makers and Deal Breakers and this would hit all 3D's: Disrespect, Disruption, and Disloyalty. I personally wouldn't stick around, but the OP has to make her own decision and see both sides of the relationship clearly and make a decision that includes what's best for her children (be it complete divorce or staying together). | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/24 10:03 PM |
| 0 | How to be the “goddess of fun and light” when it’s not your personality?Controversial take, but it can be motivational to some women. Level 12 dread is a playbook option for men in marriages (/r/marriedredpill) that have exhausted all hope of relationship revival and is something they recommend after completing levels 1-10 of dread game to try to bring their relationship back to life. edit: a marriedredpill moderator's meta field report on 12 Levels of Dread after it was field tested for 7 years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/24 09:49 PM |
| 1 | How to be the “goddess of fun and light” when it’s not your personality?Please read: The pinned post on 'leave him' is not the first answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/24 09:06 PM |
| – | How to be the “goddess of fun and light” when it’s not your personality?Gentle reminder to the community: "Leave Him" is never the first option. The OP has children with her husband and has stated she wants to try to do something for 'the best of her kids'. Take note of /u/Wife_and_Mama (an endorsed contributor) answer to this post as a model of the advice we're seeking for OP. Policy Discussion on "Just Leave Him The rule will be "Don't advise abandonment of an LTR before trying other options, unless someone is in danger". This will only apply to something that's r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/24 09:00 PM |
| 3 | How to be the “goddess of fun and light” when it’s not your personality?/u/123me_anon Thank you for being responsive with your post. Please answer with an edit in your main post: Rule 6: Guidelines for Asking Relationship Questions What is the problem, and what do you think is the root of the issue? How have you contributed/attempted to mitigate the problem? What is your current relationship status and length of time? Be honest with yourself about what background is needed to help the community answer your question. Withholding information doesn't make it less true … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/24 08:53 PM |
| – | My boyfriend's been depressed for a year. I'm drowning too+1 star. Great comment and thank you for sharing! Depression, anxiety, and other 'unseen' illness is a tough line to walk and is something that should be carefully examined if it's something you're willing to commit to for a life partner. Sometimes, the hard answer is no while in others the answer can be yes given conditions for positive expectancy and a partner who's willing and able to reach, sustain, and grows towards functionality and get their feet back under themselves. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/24 03:27 AM |
| 5 | Thoughts on 'Be the Prize'?It doesn’t mean have a bad attitude as if you are above him, but “be the prize” can also mean just hang back and allow him to have to work for you a bit, work to impress you, work to coordinate dates, work to sleep with you the first time, etc. Allow him to feel like a man. This is good girl game. The more we work harder for something, the more we personally value it. There's a trope about a family member who buys someone a new car, only for them to wreck it because it wasn’t the car they truly … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/24 02:42 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on 'Be the Prize'?Good people just keep being good, not looking to exploit their advantage. Agreed. One of the keys on RPW is vetting for men who are reliable and has a strong baseline of functionality. Higher probabilities of having your needs met and they'll be more likely to be reciprocal as life, marriage, health, and other challenges and obstacles enter the length of the relationship. I have a SiL who is very tactical, ALWAYS looking to work angles and exploit any advantage she can find. We tend to steer cle… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/24 01:41 AM |
| 6 | Thoughts on 'Be the Prize'?Looking back, it made me look desperate and put me in a masculine place, even if the interest was mutual at first. I am relatively new to RPW, but I am working on "dropping the handkerchief" to subtly invite a man to peruse me. This is sort of intermediate dating strategy, but the relationship power dynamics typically swing like this: Pre-sex and initial courting: women should be the one up because men will typically want and pursue sex more It's ok to play coy, drop the the handkerchief, and in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/24 02:48 AM |
| 14 | How to forgive yourself after letting low value men have your body?/u/Least_Elk_9532 Some of these guys I have to see often as it’s a pretty small campus CountTheBees made a good point about the extended Walk of Shame. There's a few options on handling this situation in the future: Reframe your dating experiences as learning experiences instead of a win or loss that you're then going to critically judge yourself on If you're focusing on learning and learning safely (abstaining from hooking up while dating, etc.), try to date outside of your social circles and a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/24 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Am i being a victim or do i have a genuine excuse?edit: I see your edit at the bottom, I'll reapprove the post. /u/RadioFirst1779 I've removed this post. Please reply to this comment and tell me how it relates to RPW and answer the posting guideline questions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/24 10:28 PM |
| 3 | RPW vs. Pink Pill: Misconceptions and Understanding the Differences/u/Dionne005 We also have the Getting Started with RPW post that warns about the live ducks and user flair guide. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/24 05:04 PM |
| – | How Do You Know if You Have Found a Man with "Matching Luggage?"One of the baseline requirements for "Buy matching luggage, carry it together" is that you come to the relationship with a minimum level of functionality. Telling half truths, compromising with addictions/lies, and being ok with dysfunctional standards and values shows you a mirror of how you value yourself and the types of men you'll match with assortative mating. The prescription for effectively 'Matching Luggage' is that you raise your personal and social worth so that you'll be able to attra… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/24 04:29 PM |
| 12 | Am I Wasting My Time?Thank you. Accurate or not, we have a community culture of offering actionable advice and that typically involves not insulting the partner of the poster. Starting with insults can cause the OP to dig their heels in and not listen to advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/24 01:32 AM |
| 4 | My (28F) boyfriend (28M) isnt masculine enough for me. Give him time or break up?i think it can be a symptom of immorality if a person Gentle warning, please read the community rules on 'no moralizing'. Rule 10. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/24 01:29 AM |
| 1 | Am I Wasting My Time?Removed. If you edit the first line I can re-approve. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/24 01:24 AM |
| 2 | Feminine Role Models in Media?Please use your 2 day break as time to lurk and read more about our community. 1. Please lurk and learn more about the community: Getting Started with RPW The hierarchy of expertise, reliability, and vetted status is like so: Moderators: Mods and ECs have the privilege and responsibility to award stars to stand out contributors. When a moderator gives instructions, that is not an invitation to argue the matter (standards of conduct) Endorsed Contributors: ECs are community members who have earne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/24 05:55 PM |
| – | How can I tell my friend that she needs to change her bad habits to get a boyfriend?This post is locked due to: rule 2: You cannot ask questions on behalf of others. "Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself" First and foremost, you cannot ask for advice on behalf of others. We cannot advise you how to convert your sister, mother, best friend, girlfriend, aunt, niece or second cousin twice-removed to an RPW mindset. No matter how close you are to a woman, you cannot know what is going on in her mind or her relationship. It is a waste of time … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 10:11 PM |
| 2 | Is it too much to expect my boyfriend of 6 months to say "I love you"?There's a large variety of relationships on RPW. Some men and women are in very vanilla, low need for dominance, and high affection relationships. Others would prefer playful banter, push pull, challenge, and high dominance/submission polarity. Ultimately, what we all share is not a lifestyle, a set of values, or a worldview, but a way of relating to men. For more context, listen to Suede by Anderson Paak. Calling someone, 'my bitch' can be used in an affectionate and playful manner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/24 09:51 PM |
| – | Saw a post on here a year or two back saying there was no Redpill music..I know of the post you speak of. But if you haven't listened to The RP Music, then you're not a true RPW member yet. Please lurk and continue reading the sidebar, wiki, and understand the community culture and subreddit rules. The mods will message you the link to the RedPill Musics when you've qualified. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/24 10:42 PM |
| – | How do I know if he likes me?The moderators have removed this post. Some community members have advised to read: Advice for a RPW teenager Other resources that you may find helpful: The Rules Revisted: Teenage Girl Game | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/24 12:23 AM |
| 1 | Why do husbands have to beg their wife to have sex with them?Removed. Two day ban, men who are participating must follow community guidelines rule 9. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/24 01:41 PM |
| 1 | I'm (30F) ia relationship with a single dad (39M) with a child (4M) and baby mama (40F)Removed and two day ban granted. Read the community rules. You can lurk, read, and read the wiki and sidebar. RPW is not a zoo where people can go in and do research on us like zoo animals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/24 12:23 PM |
| 1 | Women, how do you find balance when there is so much on social media of women speaking badly of men or claiming they all cheat? And what are your thoughts on shera seven, she stays this..Removed and 2 day ban granted. Men who are posting on RPW must follow the community rules and are held at a higher standard. Next ban infraction will be a permanent ban. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/24 12:18 PM |
| 2 | How to handle being uncertain of one of your man's friends?Removed. Dropping down to shit tests and tactless remarks is not tactical or strategic and can damage OP's relationship with her partner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/24 12:47 PM |
| 2 | How’d you meet your husband and how long have you been married?? Just curiousCommunity Rules: Rule 3: Do not insult the community or its members Red pill is amoral sexual strategy. Not sharing goals with the men’s red pill community does not make people toxic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/24 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Reflections After Four Months Postpartum🌠 granted. Keep up the good work! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/24 01:24 AM |
| 3 | Embracing a RPW lifestyleOne of our community members summarized each chapter (Intro) and we have it in our subreddit wiki (scroll all the way down and you'll find each chapter link). | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/24 03:35 AM |
| 1 | How not to become a plate & still avoid "the talk"?I'll leave this comment up, but RPW mods will typically remove comments/posts with examples from fiction or pop culture. Rule 7 Posting Requirements: No examples from fiction or pop culture We had a good comment from one of our starred community members that pop culture/celebrities, "... are in a whole different realm, though...who knows what's real and what's concocted by their management." Fiction is another subject area that we remove because the social dynamics and relationships come from th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/24 03:05 AM |
| – | Why do some women get proposed to a lot?Gentle mod note /u/Relevant-Scholar-544, we typically do not allow post examples from fiction or pop culture: Rule 7 Posting Requirements: No examples from fiction or pop culture This post will stay up because there's good discussions from the community. But I'll borrow a quote from /u/Cosima_Fan_Tutte: Celebrities are in a whole different realm, though...who knows what's real and what's concocted by their management. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/24 02:57 AM |
| – | Met a guy who writes a blog on how men can seduce women. Lots of articles about this. On the blog he also advertises dating apps (where he’ll earn commission if people sign up for the apps) and writes tips for how men should use them. How much of a red flag is this on a 1-10?Edit: Community note, users must reply in a timely fashion and post/comment in good faith. Drive by posts where you're using RPW as your personal 'google search' and not engaging with the community will receive a ban. Post is locked and permanent ban awarded. /u/Buabue1 please be responsive with your post. We will remove after 24 hours if you do not engage with the community and noted for a potential subreddit ban. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/24 01:06 AM |
| -1 | The great divide👎 | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/24 05:12 AM |
| 2 | If men can pump and dump, can't I just do the reverse and use them for dates and provision, etc without giving my body?While this sub is anti-feminist, I personally am not, so I am strongly against the idea that you owe a man your time or your body because he was respectful and gentlemanly. Can you clarify this part of your comment and what not being a feminist has to do with owing a man time and your body just because he was respectful and gentlemanly. If you're referring to some of the religious traditional conservative women who may hold the cultural belief/traditions that sex is marital duty and you should a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/24 04:24 AM |
| 3 | I got what I thought I should want, and I miss what I threw away+1 🌠 star Keep up the good work and don't worry about the random men who are Captain of a pirate ship. You can normally navigate the subreddit community members based on their flair/endorsements. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/24 02:18 AM |
| 2 | How stop obsessive thoughts about a person and focus on yourself?+1 🌠 star This is a super solid recommendation for managing your focus and mental/emotional energy (to not over invest and become obsessed/needy/clingy before there's incremental relationship equity) when you're in the early phases of dating/looking. We have a great guide on RPW for managing and applying our investments in relationships/dating using incremental reciprocation to minimize our risk while being vulnerable and submissive. But we don't have a post on actionable advice on managing our … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/24 04:45 PM |
| 6 | If men can pump and dump, can't I just do the reverse and use them for dates and provision, etc without giving my body?Gentle mod warning, RPW is a red pill community and we do not endorse a moral stance. RPW does not endorse a moral stance. We discuss the elements of girl game not as behaviors that are right, or good, or morally superior, but as tactical behaviors that work to help us achieve our goals. OP's /u/Eldritch_0501 intentions and goals is in conflict with the communities primary objectives, "This community was created as a harbor for RP minded women whose goal is to build a lasting and happy relations… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/24 04:06 PM |
| 1 | I feel like such a mess, pls helpRemoved and banned. Men on RPW asking for DM/PMs is not allowed. 'Death OCD' and other severe mental obstacles is not something posters/commenters on RPW should be offering. Problems beyond the scope of RPW This is not simply a matter of "we're not qualified professionals"... indeed some of us may be. But the major qualification to do intervention in a profoundly unhealthy relationship is physical presence and ongoing involvement... neither of which we are able to provide you. Men who are postin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/24 04:55 AM |
| – | please helpA great place to start is to read the community post resources: Getting Started Advice for A RPW Teenager The Rules Revisited: Female Game for Girls in Their Teens | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/24 03:47 PM |
| – | Do some of you not get disgusted with some men who seem to have a fetish for "submissive" women ill add more context bellowThere's a community rule against deleting posts and comments. If you need to post anonymously, use an alternative account specifically for RPW as mentioned in the stickied 'Getting Started' post at the top of the subreddit. Users who delete comments and posts goes on the moderator radar and will be banned after multiple deletions. Edit: RPW as a community seek to honor and respect men (with healthy and selective discernment) and cultivate a community where we do not bash, criticize, or show cont… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/24 03:23 PM |
| 2 | What made you all turn to red pill women? How did you find out about it etc and in what ways did it improve your lifeThere's a community rule against deleting posts and comments. If you need to post anonymously, use an alternative account specifically for RPW as mentioned in the stickied 'Getting Started' post at the top of the subreddit. Users who delete comments and posts goes on the moderator radar and will be banned after multiple deletions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/24 03:22 PM |
| 3 | Do some of you not get disgusted with some men who seem to have a fetish for "submissive" women ill add more context bellowSmall and gentle mod warning. /u/Lily_Swan1800 RPW as a community seek to honor and respect men (with healthy and selective discernment) and cultivate a community where we do not bash, criticize, or show contempt to TheRedPill communities or men in general. We seek to understand both men's and women's sexual strategy with compassion and utilizing discernment over judgement in accomplishing each sexes relationship goals: "The sexual strategies of men are not oppositional, but complementary. Red P… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/24 03:17 PM |
| 3 | I think men simply find me repulsive and I have a hard time finding out whyNo unicorn petting, banned. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/24 08:39 PM |
| 2 | Balance between self-improvement and getting out there.Most people are not taught or are aware of effective self-care and self-awareness skill sets to manage when their stress and fatigue levels reach a 'boiling point' in a relationship. If you keep a daily journal or a to-do list with a small check in to see where you're at on the subjective units of distress (SUDs) meter, you can catch yourself when you're in a mood and lower your stress/fatigue levels to bring your best self to your relationship like you would when you're 'ultra tolerant' and bri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/24 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Balance between self-improvement and getting out there.My apologies, had the child comments hidden. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/24 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Balance between self-improvement and getting out there./u/Charming-Notice1896 please respond to your thread. If you do not engage, we will lock the thread and make note of your lack of participation. Mod blunder, please continue. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/24 02:06 PM |
| – | I think men simply find me repulsive and I have a hard time finding out why/u/SilverKnightLife, from your last post 3 months ago on RPW, what have you applied or practiced from: The top comment on that post The post written and recommended from Jenneapolis a 5 star community member that you said you'd read What did you learn or learn about yourself? Have you recognized any personal weaknesses or shortcomings about yourself? Do you have awareness on any limiting beliefs or hard obstacles that you're encountering that's hindering your growth and development? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/24 04:40 AM |
| 1 | RPW Advice on how to use dating apps intentionally and early stage vetting?Would love to see a field report, theory, or discussion post for online dating from you on this subject. OLD still gets a lot of flack from people who aren't dating/haven't dated in ages or who just find themselves in a better position to date organically, not realizing that's not how it works for everyone. The 80/20 for ease of convenience, breadth and depth of vetting data, and in person chemistry that you get from social circle dating skews the majority of the subreddit to in person, but you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/24 03:07 PM |
| 2 | Why don't men like women who earn more?Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here Rule 3. Do not insult the community or its members Community Rules: Negging our community members will not help you provide actionable advice. Removed and banned. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/24 01:50 AM |
| 1 | How Women Keep ScoreI'm not who you asked, but here's a few RPW theory posts (and a small highlight) on what to do if you 'don't feel like doing things that would...': How to avoid branch swinging We don't have to be slaves to our emotions. We can gradually change and direct our emotions through conscious action. Our brains will find an emotional "excuse" for why we're performing certain actions. You Cannot Change the World - You Can Only Change Yourself There is an old Asian proverb: "The person who loves others w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/24 02:59 AM |
| 2 | How Women Keep Score+1 Star. I really like this idea of a 'love bank' and doing a temp check with the current 'meters' love level. Thank you for sharing with the community. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/24 06:46 PM |
| 6 | I (f22) am planning on a petty revenge for my cheating ex bf(m29).You're fine, no need to apologize. The mod team fights a small war on the casual labeling of RPW as an ideology. This is dangerous thinking because some women will visit, read a few comments and posts, and assume that they MUST follow the post word by word. They'll return with a negative 'review/field report' (usually after submitting to abusive men) calling the community an ideology, but when asked if they read any of the major posts their answer is usually no. Specifically the posts that say t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/24 01:17 AM |
| 5 | I (f22) am planning on a petty revenge for my cheating ex bf(m29).Red Pill Women ideology is mostly based on Western Philosophy which emphasises more the turning of the cheek and being a bigger person than being petty. This is half correct. Please read the Getting Started with RPW post and the sidebar for a clearer understanding of what the RPW Tool Box is. Community Rule Zero: RPW is for women to discuss sexual strategy. Content must serve to help women, deviations from this are off topic. All theories and conversations spring from a traditional, evolutionary… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/24 12:44 AM |
| 2 | I feel more like a man than a woman/u/VasiliyZaitzev is correct. He's an endorsed contributor for a reason. There's a theory post on the sidebar (Submissive Behaviour as Strategy) about men's nature being built for conflict and it being a wiser and more effective strategy to use a collaborative vs combative frame when interacting with the opposite gender. This, in a nutshell, is why RPW teaches submissive behaviour. It has nothing to do with tradition. It is not a religious law, or a moral obligation. It is simply the best move f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/24 02:51 PM |
| 6 | Getting married in 2 months and fiancé broke down in tears due to sexless lifeRule 9. If you're a man. Removed. We set a high standard for the men who post on RPW. If you have a chip on your shoulder and cannot effectively communicate actionable advice that can land with RPW, then you should be on the men's subreddit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/24 02:36 PM |
| 2 | We Really Should STFUSTFUing wasn't really a thing when I came here Your account's 5 months old. I'd be open and willing to promote a RPW theory post on a better idea or framework if you would like to invest in the community and write one. But if you're just going to do a drive by comment, you're getting the same message drive by, male commenters get "Commitment or GTFO". | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/24 05:02 AM |
| 4 | Why are You a Red Pill Woman?We have a few high starred contributors who are or lean feminist. The community value is anti-feminism though and will typically see 'proselytizing' comments removed, but there has been open discussions every once in awhile on the subreddit about it. Ultimately, the focus of the subreddit is on male led relationships for women of all walks of life: We come from all different walks of life, so on RPW you will find harmonious and productive discussions between very religious traditional conservati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/24 04:41 AM |
| 1 | i'm never the first pickNo promotions. Removed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/24 02:48 PM |
| 5 | Bl*wjob vs Handj*b vs Regular S*xHe was shown the door. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/24 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Where are y’all finding men who want commitment?Community Rules: Rule 4. Advice must be actionable. Removed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/24 03:58 AM |
| 2 | We Really Should STFUBefore you get on your high horse, you should do some basic reading on the community's tools: The STFU Method Getting Started With RPW | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/24 03:22 PM |
| 1 | New SAHM to 2y.o step daughterYes, as a guy, I think this is it. Your gender doesn't matter in the marketplace of ideas. Read the community rules, particular rule 9 and the associated posts: Mentioned you're a man? Ban. In-depth guideline for posting as a man | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/24 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Looking for hard truthRemoved and banned. This is your third comment that the mods have discerned is not helpful to the community. A 'married man' reaching out to a 29 year old single woman under the guise of God first can be facilitated by the religious women in the community reaching out to a religious woman. Rule 9: if you're a man The men who can provide the most valuable advice are: older, married and long time participants in the RP community. And you should have successful contributions on TRP. Your first comm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/24 01:42 AM |
| 2 | i think my bf acts too femininely. opinions on what to doThank you for the calm and level headed response. The mod team usually shuts down 'leave him' and 'girl run' types of advice because we want a community that understands the nuances of the consequences of relationships that have children and actionable steps that people can take as the first resort for sustainable and happy relationships. Sometimes this may require advice to seek external professional help which you've done excellently. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/24 05:52 AM |
| 2 | You RPW are worth finding!Lately, I've noticed an increase in men (mostly in the comments rather than the posts) speaking over women here, or fundamentally misunderstanding that RP is about BOTH sexes stepping into their strengths, and caring for each other using our unique strengths, not about women serving undeserving men. If you familiarize yourself with the community rules, you can assist the moderators and the direction of the sub by submitting a mod report on the men you see doing this. The mod team like pearl, cam… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/23 04:33 AM |
| -5 | How do you find a man to pay for you?Please follow community rule 2 on offering actionable and helpful advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/23 09:02 PM |
| 1 | How do you find a man to pay for you?Please follow community rule 2 on offering actionable and helpful advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/23 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Do you believe that religion is a necessary part of being traditional?I like an idea from one of our top EC's on rpw. Religious TradCon is an easy 'plug and play' solution for securing 'safe' and low risk relationships (category 4 men), but maybe a better idea is to think of it in terms of 'classic womanhood' as a strategy. In an age where religion, especially among young americans (pew research), has been steadily decreasing since 1990, main stream and subculture can evolve. RPW is an example of this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/23 01:51 AM |
| -1 | Is anybody here a survivor of Schrödinger’s PatriarchyThe guys on TRP used to argue the same thing about 50/50 marriages and how it destabilized gender roles and clouded traditional relationships. Women becoming the one up and men one down and don't get them started on the divorce rape. It's almost like this big feminism movement towards egalitarianism isn't as beneficial to either genders as touted as it is by the so called women's movement, that benefits women (and men allegedly), but what do I know /s On a serious note, even if feminism didn't b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/23 01:31 AM |
| 1 | A Definitive Guide to Nun Mode: Part I An IntroductionPart 2 just went up - it's a lot of information, but it's worth it if you're successful in the end: https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/18k43ia/a_definitive_guide_to_nun_mode_part_ii_the_3is/ Successful nun mode field reports: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/18k3fnk/rpw_nun_mode_compilation/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/23 01:21 AM |
| – | RPW Back to Basics Mega Compilation2023 2023's Post Curators: FastLifePineapple, LivelyLychee, ArdentBandicoot, ChamomileMist, Jenneapolis, morbidityofanother, pieorstrudel5 Back to Basics September: 2023 Introduction Post RPWi Back to Basics Back To Basics September: Psychological Femininity Back To Basics September: A Comprehensive Guide to Vetting Men Back To Basics September: Practicing Vulnerability Back To Basics September: Online Dating RPW Back to Basics Back to Basics September: A Quick Look at RPW Wiki Back to Basics Se… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/23 03:22 AM |
| – | What to do if you’re not doing anything physical but get turned on easilyThe OP is not working with the community in good faith. After multiple posts in the last few months with good advice from many community members, it appears that she's looking for emotional validation and not seeking to take action on the advice or resources from the community. 30 day break with a focus on applying the communities advice and resources in the field. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/23 10:11 PM |
| 2 | do men care about women coming from lower social backgrounds?Plus 1 star. Please read the getting started guide on RPW on the flair guide and the post on mentioning "as a dude... etc.". Mentioned you're a man? Ban. In-depth guideline for posting as a man | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/09/23 02:30 AM |
| 3 | Ways to test RMVI have anxiety, i tend to think worse case scenario in the first place. So instead of just going with that since I am aware that it may just be my anxiety, I decide to actually talk about it and get there answer, instead of running with whatever my mind tells me first. I think it's awesome that you're studying and actively applying theory. It typically takes a periodic 3 to 6 month cycles of reading material, applying, making observations and reorienting for all of the material to click and come… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/23 02:47 AM |
| 1 | How to make it clear you’re into someone without saying itCan you elaborate and be specific on you doing anything if he initiated. E.g. you're looking to hook up or looking to secure a long term relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/23 03:26 AM |
| – | I would love to join a self improvement discord or whatsapp groupNo discord or group chat promotions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/23 02:50 AM |
| – | I stopped my husband from committing suicide and he thinks I never knew his plans1. Stay on topic to RPW relevant subjects, rule 1: This community was created as a harbor for RP minded women whose goal is to build a lasting and happy relationship with a great man. We explore the female RP sexual strategy, better known as "girl game", in an objective, realistic and compassionate manner. 2. No cross posting, rule 7: No inter-reddit links or promoting other subs. If it's relevant to RP theory or field reports, message the moderators. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/23 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: Sex, RPW, Your Man, and YouIf anyone is wondering why there's more than the original 3 posts/week that was mentioned in B2B outline post. Weekends will see bonus posts if there's something in queue. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/23 03:23 AM |
| 2 | Back To Basics September: Online DatingTRP would call that the epiphany phase, while RPW/RPWi would likely call it maturing as an adult. I think that was the main point of Phantom's advice on dressing more professional/removing facial piercings. The typical early and mid 20s women are likely still dating from college/work social circles and wouldn't need to filter through 3-5 dating apps. This was likely written for the women who were mid/late 20s and later who were seeking marriage with a traditional provider. Letting go of youthful… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/23 11:04 PM |
| 2 | Back To Basics September: Online DatingIf you're really into whatever alt scene, why would you even want to be with a trad guy in a polo shirt? And if you do give up the alt look/music for him (again, that may be a good choice and completely worth it to a woman), I can't imagine he'll react well to a nose ring, tattoos, and magenta hair down the line. Where's that RPW post about having equal baggage and carrying it together.... You have to remember the context of this post, in contrast to RPW where we have a community and culture tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/23 10:12 PM |
| 3 | Back To Basics September: Online DatingIf he'd met the girl in the A-line dress and cardigan and she had a nose piercing and sleeve tattoo, there wouldn't have been a second date. I think presenting the best version of your actual self is the better advice. RPWi and the leading voices in their community leaned more towards the conservative and traditional religious perspective from the posts and users I've read through. I'm thinking that phantomdream is likely taking the 'safe' cast the net far and wide approach on dressing to attrac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/23 05:05 AM |
| 3 | Back To Basics September: Online DatingThe social norm for video dates/meets sound's like a great idea. Phantom recommends under her Rules and Boundaries subheading that she prefers a minimum two week message exchange (what she felt kept her safe but also said this was a personal rule) before there's an actual date. We've had other ECs/starred community members who've recommended a faster coffee meet date rather than extended text messages because you can quickly screen for in person chemistry (a drawback of becoming emotionally atta… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/23 05:19 PM |
| 3 | Back To Basics September: Psychological FemininityWe're starting September off with a series of post from /r/RedPillWives. These are being sourced from, Essential RPWi Posts where you can find resources on: RP Theory Sexual Strategy LTRs And Marriage Homemaking Self Care | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/23 01:27 PM |
| 8 | Back to Basics September: 2023 Introduction PostThe mod team has been working hard in the background. I'm super grateful for the work they put in for the community as well as the community itself to allow us to get together and have these discussion posts! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/23 03:34 AM |
| 2 | My (29F) husband (31M) got mad and left me on a Café for a trivial reasonHi Jen, was looking to send you a direct message on your profile page. Wanted to drop a quick message on B2B September and if you had any posts in mind you want to nominate. You can direct message me or send in a mod mail with the post link. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/23 05:02 AM |
| 3 | Ways to look better / more feminine / change up a bit as a woman. I'm at the point where I don't exactly feel " ugly " I just want a change but I don't know where to start... And ways to look more " polished " but in a feminine way. I am feminine, so anything feminine I usually like. I'm consideringI have tried writing a post, but it turns into a novel. So I have decided just to recommend my favorite you tube channels that have leveled me up. The mods and community would love to see it! I usually have trouble with overly long posts on my EC account as well, but the inner community always look forward and encourage members to write and share even if it's just long comment posts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/23 06:54 PM |
| – | Would you forgive cheating in my situation?This post has been locked for user non-engagement. OPs must reply to their posts and engage with the community. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/23 06:19 PM |
| 2 | Things men have complimented me onGood post. In the future, this would be better if post flaired under field report. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/23 06:16 PM |
| – | FR: My Time in Nun Mode as a TeenThe mods have been taking notes of the community desires and questions on what exactly is nun mode and guidelines on successfully going through a period of focused improvement. In response to this, we're putting out an open call for more Nun Mode Field Reports to compile for newbies. There will be a wiki post that will come with that collection post. These personal stories are immensely valuable, particularly for those just beginning their own nun mode journeys. If you previously went through a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/23 12:43 AM |
| 1 | How to Achieve a Feminine AuraIt definitely falls under 'girl game', but there's a lot of good mindsets that would be under inner game. I'll take another look and decide which category it fits better with | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/07/23 03:21 AM |
| 8 | How to Achieve a Feminine Aura+1 Star. Thank you for writing the post! This will be entering the wiki under Internal (inner game). I'm also adding a small side link with it to your original comment that started the post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/07/23 05:49 AM |
| 6 | How to become more feminine?Excellent comment. Femininity is always more than just the outer game elements of fashion and health. Inner game and psychological femininity is usually where the 80/20 tipping point is at for presenting an aura of a feminine woman. The mods have been working in the background on updating and writing for the wiki. If you get some time and are interested, can you expand on your comment into a slightly longer post. I think it would go great in the wiki! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/23 03:45 AM |
| – | 20F New Homemaker Looking to Build a Sisterhood via WhatsApp !Removed. Group chat promotions (or any promotion) is not allowed. Read the community rules on doxxing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/23 11:42 PM |
| 8 | Single at 31 - how do I not freak out?+1, Star granted. Keep up the good work u/Jenneapolis ! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/23 10:17 PM |
| 1 | My (35F) ex husband (33M) left me for an engineer (26F) from his work, will he want me back some day?Comment removed. Rule 3 and advice must be actionable. Read the community guidelines. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/07/23 03:35 AM |
| 2 | Am I wrong to heal my trauma before settling down (and face hitting the wall) ?Yes, community members are allowed to use general assistive technologies such as Grammarly as well as AI tools like ChatGPT as long as quality, continuity, and readability stays consistent. Low-effort text generation will be removed Community guidelines such as rule 1, rule 4, and others must still be abided by R1. theories/conversations must come from traditional, evolutionary psych, or anti-feminist foundation R4. strategies or discussions must be actionable and require either thorough red pil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/23 02:27 AM |
| – | RPW and pregnancyThe wiki have been receiving some updates on: Married RPW matters Married Girl Game Relevant and notable posts to check out: First mate in the first trimester On duty sex. Some additional shower thoughts about sex and marriage and dating (oh my) 'For Women Only' - Sex- Chapter 6 | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/23 05:29 AM |
| 2 | Adding value through hard skillsGreat list! Consider posting this as a stand alone field report post on increasing 'relationship market value'. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/23 04:12 AM |
| 2 | What is realistic to expect?/u/livelylychee | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/23 03:48 AM |
| 1 | Is my husband okay to talk like this? How would/should a RPW feel?7 day vacation for you. Read the sidebar on expected community guidelines for giving advice and read the community rules as well as the pinned post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/23 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Is my husband okay to talk like this? How would/should a RPW feel?Removed. Advice must be actionable. Review the community guidelines on posting. https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/about/rules/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/23 01:33 AM |
| – | Peter pan syndrome for a 47 y/o man who started a "relationship" with a 16y/o?I'm locking this post: Some problems are beyond the scope of RPW. This is the number to the National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 If you're not located in the states, a quick google search can refer you to a qualified professional in your country or resources that can help place you in contact with in person help if you're unable to contact your personal social support network for a retroactive analysis and support. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/23 05:55 PM |
| 1 | I realized I'm addicted/drawn to drama. Tips on how to overcome that?Link removed, please provide context and I'll reapprove. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/23 04:34 AM |
| 2 | Should I put on my dating profile that I have a high body count?Personal preference is not advice. Removed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/23 06:36 PM |
| 1 | What to do when partner stops pursuing youYour Sister needs to move out asap. Rule 0. Stay on topic. If you don't have the time to properly read or reply, return at a different time to give advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/23 01:51 PM |
| 8 | What are your best tips for a first date?Removed. We do not need feminism policing on user comments. The moderators can take care of that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/23 05:01 PM |
| 2 | How do you stop shit-testing men?I personally didn't find the article of much use, especially when it defined "do you have a girlfriend?" as a shit test. Um, some of us prefer to avoid partnered men. That would be a situation where that woman would be making a comfort test. RPW is still seeking a definitive guide on fitness testing (shit test) and comfort testing for the wiki. As that article is named Shit Test Encyclopedia, I would imagine his examples and theory would focused on: dominance, compliance, and fitness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/06/23 05:34 AM |
| 4 | How do you stop shit-testing men?/u/Icy_Athlete385 This is from the RPW glossary in the Getting Started post pinned on the sub: Shit Test, or Fitness Test - A statement or question meant to gauge your level of Alpha traits. Someone recently posted illimitablemen with more details on it here: https://illimitablemen.com/2014/12/14/the-shit-test-encyclopedia/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/23 01:28 PM |
| 6 | has the pain of male infidelity always been this way?Community Rules: I want RPW to also know that I read this subreddit almost daily. It gives me hope that, one day, I may find someone who will treat me right. I truly believe that this is one of the greatest communities on Reddit. Rule 9: Don't pet the unicorns. I hate how this type of behavior seems to be, at least to some degree, accepted by many in the RP community. It absolutely should not be. A man who can't control himself is no man at all. Rule 3: Don't bad mouth the communities Rule 10: N… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/23 04:34 AM |
| 1 | Why is dating so complicated?You get a permanent ban in particular. Rule 0. Stay on topic Rule 4. Strategies should be actionable Rule 9. you've been previously banned on this and you're adding nothing to the community / conversation For all of the guy's posting on RPW lately, automatic two day ban if you mention anything along the lines of "Guy Here, Male here, From a man's perspective...", even if you have something to contribute. Your gender doesn't matter in the marketplace of ideas. Read the community rules, particular… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/23 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Why is dating so complicated?Rule 9. Removed | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/23 06:43 PM |
| 2 | Why is dating so complicated?Rule 3. Don't disrespect community members. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/23 06:41 PM |
| 7 | Going down on womenDon't worry, reddit suspended his account before the mods got to him. edit: actually, ardentbandicoot did ban him, but reddit also dropped a suspension | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/23 04:30 AM |
| 2 | Do I attract older men because I’m ugly?This RPW group is supposed to be about upholding traditional cultures and roles. This group is supposed to be about not imposing cultural standards on others. Yet as soon as something deviates from someone's budgetary interactions, we see that traditional cultures are being diminished and western standards are being imposed on others. As soon as you start dictating what the sub is suppose to be about with only a two day old account, it's time for you to take a break from posting and continue lur… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/23 04:02 AM |
| 1 | Do I attract older men because I’m ugly?Removed. Rule 0. Feminism didn't ruin 1950 tradcon. Whisper writes about this in Who killed Marriage 1.0? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/23 01:07 AM |
| 1 | My(22f) boyfriend(26m) has told me he tells his parents when we 'have fun', I feel like my privacy is being taken away from meRemoved. Advice must be actionable. Red flag emojis may be cute, but they don't help the op with her relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 05:16 AM |
| 1 | His clingy female friend and how to approach boundaries as a RPWRule 0 Rule 9 | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/23 05:11 AM |
| 3 | Is it cheap to stop having premarital sex as a high body count woman?Categories of men and their risk is a good starting point for this. Sunshinesundress has breakdowns of this post on her comments page and there's other places on the subreddit going into detail on vetting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Being receptiveI think the 'discussion' or 'off topic' tag would be better suited for this post. I Ching is esoteric, out on the fringe, and unrelatable to most people. You'd likely get a better response if you started with baby steps with Jung and humanistic psychotherapy frameworks if you want to start a discussion post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/23 11:07 PM |
| – | Will society accept that the west has a huge "lookism" problemRule 0. Stay on topic. Rule 9. Men's question belong on forums.red/i/asktrp | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/23 05:44 AM |
| – | Boyfriend 55M broke my 39F finger and is now in jail and I feel sick about it. How do you cope with this?Problems that are beyond the scope of RPW National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 If you're not located in the US, a google search should direct you to your countries domestic violence hotline. You've previously posted in another subreddit and appeared to have received much advice in those communities, not sure what other advice you'll find in the RPW community that you would have found in the other subreddit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/23 04:26 AM |
| 1 | My relationship with my FNF obsessed boyfriendCommunity Rules: Rule 3: Do not insult the community or its members | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/23 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Do men 20-27 ish care about relationship history?Rule 9. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/23 02:48 PM |
| 1 | Advice: How to be supportive while maintaining “fairness”Rule 9. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/23 02:45 PM |
| 2 | 18 years old. I’m terrified and hold so much resentment against men and I don’t know what to do. Need urgent help.Regras da Comunidade: Regra 9: Se você é um homem e está aqui Seu gênero não importa no mercado de ideias. Leia as regras da comunidade, especialmente a regra 9 e as postagens associadas: Mencionou que é um homem? Banimento. Guia detalhado para postar como um homem Preferência pessoal não é conselho | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/23 06:17 AM |
| 4 | Do men have a wall? When do they become HVM?I understand younger women want to come here to learn, so maybe these ridiculous "I'm 18-24 and have no value" concerns can be addressed in the sidebar. It's addressed in the announcement post 'Getting Started with RPW'. FAQ The wall is crushing me: The Fear of the Wall and Why I'm Sick of Hearing About It Getting started with RPW for girls in their 20s, The Rules revisited | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/23 08:43 PM |
| – | Feminism/RedpillNo link dropping. Read the community rules. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/23 03:26 AM |
| 1 | dating as a med student, how to attract partners that don't treat me like a man?Community Rules: Rule 2: All posts and comments must be in good faith. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/23 05:19 PM |
| 1 | how do i work around this?Small note to random men posting on RPW: Automatic two day ban if you mention anything along the lines of "Guy Here, Male here, From a man's perspective...", even if you have something to contribute. Your gender doesn't matter in the marketplace of ideas. Read the community rules, particular rule 9 and the associated posts: Mentioned you're a man? Ban. In-depth guideline for posting as a man Personal preference is not advice | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/23 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Those of you who have no personal income and stay home with your kids, what does your financial situation look like?They've been banned and reported to reddit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/23 03:19 PM |
| 2 | Advice please?Is this really what you're supposed to do? What if they insist? Back when I had this conversation with him I initially had said let's keep the past in the past! No need to discuss that stuff. He really needed to know though. No. Read this post by Whisper and read the onboarding post for beginners new to RPW: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/j3mlf4/so_what_if_youve_had_a_lot_of_partners/ https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/13famda/we_found_where_we_stashed_the_checklist_g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 07:45 PM |
| 1 | I’m single at 30 and feel…lost…Use the AI better to help you write your own thoughts rather than copying and pasting. Lazy prompting gets the AI to write out: "Remember", "It's important...", "It's not uncommon...". | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 07:36 PM |
| 2 | Fashion advice to be feminine and timeless but also take body type etc into account?Finding your personal style can be a process, but with some guidance, you can develop a timeless and feminine wardrobe that suits your body type and preferences. Here are some tips to help you along the way: Remember, building a wardrobe takes time, so be patient with yourself. Embrace the process of experimenting, trying new styles, and finding what resonates with you. Trust your instincts and wear what makes you feel beautiful and confident. You're really going to just copy and paste the AI wr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Advice please?They have the amoral part down. They're just missing the strategy part now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 07:22 PM |
| – | Are incels and black pillers just mad about science?Community Rules: Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 06:48 PM |
| – | We Found Where We Stashed The Checklist! Getting Started With RPWThe community is regularly visited by single women who are actively dating and seeking to understand what RPW is. This post is designed as a springboard to help facilitate their learning on RPW and guide them through a process that would give them a well rounded understanding of the RPW community. RPW is not exclusively about dating and dating advice, much of the advice you'll find on the subreddit is based on long term relationship and life after dating. More information can be found in the RPW… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 04:37 AM |
| 10 | These are the RPW strategies that got me my dream relationship.Community is comprised of it's members. There's cycles in how much RP theory and practice comes and goes in the subreddit, but the more everyone shares and discusses the more we'll see quality content. If you find any of the old content you've been reading helpful, consider writing a field report or discussion post for community engagement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 03:34 AM |
| 4 | These are the RPW strategies that got me my dream relationship.Remember, absolute trust is one of the biggest hallmark of respect. I think most men value respect above all else. Excellent field report and take away lessons. Good job, OP. +1 Star | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 03:23 AM |
| 3 | Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working./u/Sailoress7 The OP seems genuine, responsive, and it's hard to tell if it is or isn't AI assisted. It's staying up because it's helpful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 02:34 AM |
| 1 | how to reverse the damage of high body count?Consider making your own post for this advice you're seeking so people can properly respond and see. Your relationship is likely in the category of: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/ktbi3l/problems_that_are_beyond_the_scope_of_rpw/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Back to Basics September: Vetting a Man Part 1Good note. Use the tools in the toolbox, don't let the toolbox use you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/23 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Understanding RPWCommunity Rules: Rule 3: Do not insult the community or its members | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/23 05:25 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend doesn’t know if he sees a future with me because of N-count+1 star. Keep up the good work /u/Cosima_Fan_Tutte ! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/23 05:17 AM |
| 2 | What are red flags in a man?I thought RPW could be any different. But it's just another form of hypergamy. You're on a forum that's called RedPillWomen. If you expected the women on the subreddit to be submissive tradwives / bdsm subs that would accept you with open arms and a pat on the head for existing, you're in the wrong subreddit. The sidebar states that the women on the forum are looking for 'a lasting and happy relationship with a great man'. This requires hypergamy and strategic dating. I just don't get it, why wo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/23 06:00 AM |
| 3 | I am feeling conflicted about opting to be a housewife or stay-at-home mom instead of pursuing a conventional job.You should read the AI post we get then, it'll tell you that we're all robots here 🤖. Beep Boop. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 03:42 PM |
| 2 | What are red flags in a man?You don't need to make an announcement that you're a guy. We have an open 2 day ban on anyone who mentions that they're a man on the RPW subreddit. For all of the guy's posting on RPW lately, automatic two day ban if you mention anything along the lines of "Guy Here, Male here, From a man's perspective...", even if you have something to contribute. Your gender doesn't matter in the marketplace of ideas. Read the community rules, particular rule 9 and the associated posts: Mentioned you're a man?… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/23 03:39 PM |
| 3 | Do men actually care if a woman is smart/professionally successful or not?/u/StillWatersLily If you guys get a chance, you should consider making a spark notes of the book for rpw. These ideas are in line with rpw vetting strategies and the 'dated' parts of the book and their examples/references can be easily translated with contemporary examples if you ask ChatGPT or the Bing Chat the right questions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/23 06:44 AM |
| 5 | Dating tips for female medical students and doctorsStar granted. Keep up the good work /u/aussiedollface2 | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/23 05:23 AM |
| 1 | He(M32) didn’t tell me(F22) he was previously marriedRPW 3 part vetting series (3): this one is a classic but discusses men in terms of behavioral traits (alpha red/green flags and beta red/green flag traits) and references the concept of the soft alpha and greater beta. The Case for the Greater Beta Discussion 5 years ago on GB. Sigma Men The Hierarchy of Men Categories of Men and Their Risks These are some of the classic RPW posts in the wiki on what constitutes a HVM in the sub. You'll note that we don't typically define men as 'HVM' with a che… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/23 05:28 AM |
| 1 | He(M32) didn’t tell me(F22) he was previously marriedI'll come back with an edit on past posts that rpw has on this subject | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 02:23 PM |
| 1 | He(M32) didn’t tell me(F22) he was previously marriedA post on mental health red flags and when is it ok would be something that would go into the wiki if you have the bandwidth for it | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 02:22 PM |
| 7 | Red Flag: a man who doesn’t take of his poor mental health and uses it as an excuse for poor behaviourLazy gpt writing not accepted. If we wanted to talk to an ai, we would invite one on to the subreddit. We want to know your experiences, your thoughts, and your personality. Banned. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/23 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Am I ignoring red flags?You've been around RPW long enough to have read rpw wiki landing page about reading men's red pill material: Stay out of the Men's subs until you've developed a good RP knowledge base from the female perspective. Because it's a male space and locker room environment, there exists a certain amount of venting anger and frustration over women. Only after you're familiar with RP theory does it become easy to recognize the kernels of RP wisdom that are relevant to you. You don't need to take and read… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/23 11:21 PM |
| -1 | Am I ignoring red flags?Why would anyone want to train their partner? Part of great leadership is training. Are we babbling the "women are children" Yes. Men Love Women, Women Love Children, and Children Love Puppies: There is an “order” to how love works and the order works only in one direction. You can see hints to this in the Bible, where husbands are commanded to love their wives while wives are commanded to “honour” their husbands in return. Children as well are commanded to honour their parents. Love is a hierar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/23 03:21 PM |
| 4 | Am I ignoring red flags?+1 star. Keep up the good work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/23 02:59 PM |
| 3 | Taking back control of my relationship - How to secure the path to marriage?Tips for Your Situation: Typically, the RPW process for securing a relationship is to improve your fundamentals (relationship market value (RMV) and sexual market value (SMV)), and to vet heavily. If sexual market value is how you get your foot into the door, relationship market value is how you keep the door open and maintain a successful long-term relationship. In other words, while SMV may help attract a man initially, RMV is what makes a woman a valuable long-term partner. If you're feeling … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/23 06:01 AM |
| 13 | Taking back control of my relationship - How to secure the path to marriage?If you are asking a personal relationship question, please provide context by updating your flair, and answering: What are your ages, relationship status, time together? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/23 05:24 AM |
| 1 | Am I ignoring red flags?It's in the guidelines right before you submit a text post. OPs usually never follow them though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/23 05:18 AM |
| 6 | "Ladies, Are You Sabotaging Your Own Love Life? Here Are 3 Ways You Might Be Breaking Your Own Heart"Looks like I forgot to ban you. Before I do that, is there even a human on the other side of these posts or are you an AI or a sock puppet account designed to build karma to sell reddit accounts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/23 04:04 PM |
| 3 | Harvard scholars: Marriage makes women happier and healthier/u/Created-being Please engage with the users on this post and leave a brief summary of what this article is about in the comments or edited in the post. Edit: OP has been perma banned for link dropping and spamming. Post stays up for discussion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/23 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Is my relationship a bad idea and what does it mean to build a man up?Community Rules: Rule 3: Do not insult the community or its members In the spirit of encouraging a compassionate and honest community, it is important for everyone to extend a minimum level of politeness and understanding to other members in conversations. Femininity and kindness are strongly encouraged. Harsh truths are sometimes necessary for the process of learning, however this should be used sparingly and only when it is a useful tool in teaching. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/23 04:11 AM |
| – | Why do women get so offended when a man tells them the truthRule 9. Removed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/23 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Why do women get so offended when a man tells them the truthFresh and fit and whatever else podcast is not endorsed by TRP. They're not recommended social media avenue to learn about RP principles and axioms. This post also does not belong here because they do not follow the community rules for posting. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/23 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Quick relationship question (not domestic enough?)For all of the guy's posting on RPW lately, automatic two day ban if you mention anything along the lines of "Guy Here, Male here, From a man's perspective...", even if you have something to contribute. Your gender doesn't matter in the marketplace of ideas. Read the community rules, particular rule 9 and the associated posts: Mentioned you're a man? Ban. In-depth guideline for posting as a man Personal preference is not advice | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/23 05:20 AM |
| 1 | Bf is great besides not taking initiative on some thingsFor all of the guy's posting on RPW lately, automatic two day ban if you mention anything along the lines of "Guy Here, Male here, From a man's perspective...", even if you have something to contribute. Your gender doesn't matter in the marketplace of ideas. Read the community rules, particular rule 9 and the associated posts: Mentioned you're a man? Ban. In-depth guideline for posting as a man Personal preference is not advice | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/23 05:15 AM |
| 1 | Title: "Raising Boys to Be Men: A Casual Guide to Masculinity"For all of the guy's posting on RPW lately, automatic two day ban if you mention anything along the lines of "Guy Here, Male here, From a man's perspective...", even if you have something to contribute. Your gender doesn't matter in the marketplace of ideas. Read the community rules, particular rule 9 and the associated posts: Mentioned you're a man? Ban. In-depth guideline for posting as a man Personal preference is not advice | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/23 02:48 PM |
| 1 | What makes a woman the s word?Im an RP men. In principle a slut is a woman who sees sex as a tool. In practice to me its a woman who does not display strong bonding capabilities and emotional availability in her behavior and mannerisms. whatever she did to loose it doesnt matter at that point. any sexual partner lowers that ability. if you want some intimacy, you can get in a relationship with someone and get it and it wont ruin your behavior, assuming the guy is a decent and stable person. I wouldn't take a woman serious th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/23 02:48 PM |
| 3 | Any senior red pillers in here?These would be great additions to the RPW wiki. I'll be organizing and working in this resource area for RPW over the long term, but any community member contribution will be gladly accepted and is encouraged. Here's a comment post I made of some random wiki articles that Pearl's had drafted and was looking to build out in the past. Sustaining the relationship after children/without children and other areas such as middle age+ would be great additions to the community in pursuit of having a last… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/23 02:05 PM |
| – | Seeking advice: Is using a location tracking app on my boyfriend crossing a line?OPs life experience would be better suited by addressing her challenges and obstacles with a qualified professional that can hold her accountable and be there in person with her. Problems that are beyond the scope of RPW We're leaving her post up because she does appear to be slowly reflecting and addressing some of her destructive behaviors, mindsets, and strategies on getting her needs met. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/23 01:54 PM |
| 2 | I Effed Around and Found Out (Need Advice)Guy here, I do think the advice you received thus far is sound, We do tend to forget we have things from previous relationships. Some things we actually do keep. my example i still personally have photos with my exs and not because i still desire them at all. The reason why is a lot of us guys don't really take selfies or are in photos very often throughout time. Years can go by and there might be very few photos of us being us but plenty with our ex so it's sort of a way to see how far we came … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/23 01:59 PM |
| 3 | why ghost thenOp as a men I second this ,the key word is "ego" and his idea of "masculinity', as an example if I am using my chess knowledge to impress a girl and she beat me I would be actually be more attracted to her because my ego and masculinity is not entirely built on my knowledge of chess lol but other men will not be the same. For all of the guy's posting on RPW lately, automatic two day ban if you mention anything along the lines of "Guy Here, Male here, From a man's perspective...", even if you hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/23 01:51 PM |
| 4 | why ghost thenFor all of the guy's posting on RPW lately, automatic two day ban if you mention anything along the lines of "Guy Here, Male here, From a man's perspective...", even if you have something to contribute. Your gender doesn't matter in the marketplace of ideas. Read the community rules, particular rule 9 and the associated posts: Mentioned you're a man? Ban. In-depth guideline for posting as a man Personal preference is not advice | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/23 01:48 PM |
| 6 | The Importance of Self-Care in Embodying FemininityIt's due to the fact that AI written text has small tells that's fairly generic if you're not actively guiding the work. You can experiment with the current AI (Chat GPT) that's really popular and see how it has a slight formula it writes with if you're lazy and not actively working with it to make it your assistant vs copying and pasting from it: https://chat.openai.com/chat Ask chat to give you a: "3 point list article for the redpillwomen subreddit" and you'll see the same wording and voice t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/04/23 12:36 AM |
| 11 | The Importance of Self-Care in Embodying FemininitySmall test to see what your intentions are on this subreddit. OP, reply to this message from me and let me know what your goals and intentions are for RPW and using AI written/assisted post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/23 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Can someone kindly assess me unicorn list and tell me if I need to lower my standards?Rule 9 from community rules. Lurk, read the community rules. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/23 05:39 AM |
| 1 | What I want and how to get it from OLD?Gentle reminder, because RPW moderators are unable to determine if a user is genuine or not, we do not allow community members to ask or offer dating/profile reviews (Rule 8). Please do not offer to review a user profile/dating app as that can lead to potential doxxing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/23 03:31 AM |
| 1 | What I want and how to get it from OLD?Please be careful about self-doxxing. Community rule 8 was designed in order that you wouldn't self-dox. The user you're talking with has apparently been offering multiple posters that they would be open to reading/asking for dating profiles. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/23 03:27 AM |
| – | Why have so many people collectively lost their minds!?Read the community guidelines and rules. Low effort post. Stay on topic. Removed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/23 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Struggling to make female friends (25F).Why would I use it... to get social skills? Perhaps not for social skills, but using it as a personal assistant or therapeutic aid to troubleshoot cognitive distortions and other typical things one would go to counseling for. There's a 80-90% probability for a large part of the clinical therapy/counseling field will be supplemented and eventually replaced with AI tools. I know I should go, but I feel so defeated. I have gone to a few of those before and it was a huge waste of time. You might not… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/23 05:44 AM |
| 5 | Advice for women with high body counts?You've been fairly active on RPW, as a man, please read through the guidelines that discuses commenting 'as a man'. There's a corollary rule on TRP about posting 'as a woman'. https://archive.li/q6P1h | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/23 03:56 PM |
| 2 | Advice for women with high body counts?In theory or in practice? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/23 04:39 AM |
| 1 | Struggling to make female friends (25F).I'm a strong believer in AI technology especially in regards to its use in healthcare and digital therapy, but this should be done alongside building skills, confidence, and personal mastery for getting your social needs met as well as building social support networks. If op wants to use those technologies as a stop gap to get her short term needs met that's ok, but a longer term goal would be to talk with those tools to build the above skills. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/23 04:36 AM |
| 4 | Advice for women with high body counts?...because the women here are kidding themselves. Rule 3: Don't insult the community. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/23 04:05 AM |
| 2 | I can't cope with my non-RPW pastThe star system represents community vetting for members who consistently give good advice and show deep understanding of red pill theory. The more contribution posts and excellent comments you give allows you to receive more stars until you hit 5 and you're under consideration for endorsement status from the community. http://a.trp.red/2w | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/23 01:10 PM |
| 3 | What makes a woman the s word?These rules works because they come from a traditional, conservative, and moralistic perspective that has high probability outcomes towards a successful and long term relationship. OP is on RPW, despite being Christian, it would be helpful if the community balances the principles and maxims that we're an amoral community that shares values in how we relate to men for a successful and happy long term relationship and advice should be coming from either: traditional conservative, evolutionary psyc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/23 01:04 PM |
| – | women and men can do amazing things when they focus on somthingRemoved. Banned. Low effort post, videos must have summary and analysis on comments. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/23 12:44 PM |
| – | What do women want?Removed. Read rule 1 and rule 9. Next time Permanently banned. Men's question belong on TRP and asktrp. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/23 12:42 PM |
| 1 | I can't cope with my non-RPW past+1 star to /u/bunni223. The heart of rpw, is that it is a red pill community. If op is truly seeking a purely religious perspective, she would be better helped by visiting a Christian relationship subreddit. /u/jenna_grows | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/23 05:22 AM |
| 4 | When they ask what you do for work?Ban. 3: Do not insult the community or its members | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/04/23 03:06 AM |
| 4 | What exactly is a Red Pill Woman?I feel femininity and submission from women to be fairly traditional You're correct, but "Tradcon is RPW but RPW is not Tradcon". +1 star for you /u/undothatbutton | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/23 05:08 AM |
| 4 | What exactly is a Red Pill Woman?It's helpful to have simple one liners to give you the gist of what the forum is about, but the problem with that is that it leads to consensus building and 'check list' mentalities that ALL RPW should be 'x' way. Please read 'Checklist of Toolbox' from one of the major endorsed contributor that made a good amount of the RPW posts you'll see on the subreddit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/23 04:49 AM |
| 5 | body count issueCommunity Rules: Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here Rule 10: No Moralizing Banned. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/23 03:34 PM |
| – | Dating app ideaRemoved. RPW is not a subreddit designed to bounce your business ideas off of. Community Rules: Rule 1: Rule Zero: Stay On Topic Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/23 03:28 PM |
| 3 | Field report (THANK YOU)+2. Keep up the good work /u/_blushpink | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/23 05:05 AM |
| 2 | Am I being awful for not wanting to pursue a relationship with him because of his p€nïs size?would you ever making it a requirement when posting a thread to mention their progress through that checklist? It'll be difficult to enforce this. Most posters on the sub rarely flare their post nor answer the list of questions that's required when asking relationship questions right before they submit. If anything, it'll have to be a good enough post that the community organically reposts it for new members like how the other frequently linked posts are mentioned (other than being stickied). | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/23 05:16 AM |
| 2 | Am I being awful for not wanting to pursue a relationship with him because of his p€nïs size?I've been fairly busy, but I have a post on the back burner that's something like a 'RPW Onboarding Checklist' for new members. RPW members who are familiar with those basics in addition to having contributed helpful/insightful community comments/posts will likely receive a star and you can go off of that or possibly do a quick check in with whether or not they've read the beginners onboarding post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/23 04:08 AM |
| 3 | Am I being awful for not wanting to pursue a relationship with him because of his p€nïs size?+1. Keep up the good work /u/SnowOnCinders | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/23 03:59 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriend won't give up porn unless i give up instagramCommunity Rules: Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here Removed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/23 03:08 AM |
| – | I don’t see why any man would like an incel like meProblems that are beyond the scope of RPW. Hi OP, you'll likely receive a variety of comments from the community members, but please read this post from Whisper on seeking advice from the internet when you may benefit more from seeking out a trained professional. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/23 07:31 AM |
| 2 | Red pill music???+1 star /u/littlestircrazy Keep up the good work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/23 06:27 AM |
| 4 | Getting a plastic surgerySurgery is a lie. Plastic surgery was invented for fixing broken bits, not for lying about what we look like. This is moving towards moralizing where advice skews black and white. There's a lot more nuance to simply 'fixing broken things' and 'natural' does not automatically make good. Plastic surgery is part of the tools in the toolbox for a RPW, she should carefully consider the psychological, financial, and relational aspects strategically and how it would play a part in her life just as she … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/23 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Am I a low value women? Would any man want to marry me?The messages he was sending in the mod mail is likely clocking him at schizotypal personality disorder. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/23 05:11 AM |
| – | How many woman here are Islamic?This is moving close to the territory of doxxing and examining RPW as a zoo. Community Rules: Rule 8: No doxxing- yourself or others Rule Zero: Stay On Topic Removed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/23 04:47 AM |
| 1 | My take on RP and BPEdit - My mistake, incorrectly read the wrong context. I'm sorry about that. I assumed that you were simping for the OP. Half of what op wrote was gibberish, the other half was incorrect understanding of TRP and RP fundamentals. They say that we’re not naturally monogamous; only stupid men are monogamous yet several studies have shown that the higher the average intelligence, the higher the rate of monogamy. Whisper, one of the leading voices and founders on TRP, had written that women are monog… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/23 04:33 AM |
| 1 | My take on RP and BPhttps://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/about/rules/ Rule 5: this is not purple pill debate | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/23 03:24 AM |
| – | My take on RP and BPIt's great that you feel a deep sense of moral justice and superiority, /u/Environmental_Lie561, but TRP and RP was not designed to change and transform the world. RPW specifically is interested in: This community was created as a harbor for RP minded women whose goal is to build a lasting and happy relationship with a great man. We explore the female RP sexual strategy, better known as "girl game", in an objective, realistic and compassionate manner. RPW does not endorse a moral stance. We disc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/23 03:12 AM |
| 4 | My take on RP and BPwomen created this subreddit This is incorrect, lurk and read the sidebar. Removed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/23 01:50 AM |
| 3 | Am I a low value women? Would any man want to marry me?That's why you bring shame on your house. I will remember your pettiness. Nice try with the shaming. You can enjoy a permanent vacation from RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/23 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Am I a low value women? Would any man want to marry me?lol. Removed. Don't argue with the mods and snark. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/23 06:31 AM |
| 3 | Am I a low value women? Would any man want to marry me?Dont listen to them. You are high value based on your character. Hopefully the right one - your soulmate will come along and love you both. No blue pill advice. Removed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/23 06:22 AM |
| 1 | Am I a low value women? Would any man want to marry me?You are absolutely high value!!!! Value is subjective and dependent on who's doing the valuing. Removed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/23 06:19 AM |
| 1 | Am I a low value women? Would any man want to marry me?This is a grey area comment post I'm considering removing, but I will leave it up. Please read this comment post I left for another user on evangelizing and commenting for RPW users from a more traditional religious and conservative position. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/23 06:16 AM |
| 1 | Am I a low value women? Would any man want to marry me?This is a grey area comment post I'm considering removing, but I will leave it up. Please read this comment post I left for another user on evangelizing and commenting for RPW users from a more traditional religious and conservative position. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/23 06:01 AM |
| 2 | Am I a low value women? Would any man want to marry me?Got it. +1 | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/23 05:50 AM |
| 2 | Am I a low value women? Would any man want to marry me?Pick up your Bible and put down... The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom. Removed. No evangelizing. OP is asking for traditional conservative advice, but outright evangelizing is against the community rules. Members posts and comments must be written from the perspective of: All theories and conversations spring from a traditional, evolutionary psychology, or anti-feminist foundation. Please find balance with the community's mission that RPW does not endorse a moral stance and we are a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/23 05:49 AM |
| 2 | Am I a low value women? Would any man want to marry me?What good could RPM content do? We typically advise 80-90% of the women who's here to not visit TRP side of the red pill. For the 10-20% who's able to put a pause on their feelings and carefully separate their thoughts from it, there's kernels of RP wisdom that can be found on the RPM side. Stay out of the Men's subs until you've developed a good RP knowledge base from the female perspective. Because it's a male space and locker room environment, there exists a certain amount of venting anger an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/23 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Partner says we cannot be together in the futureInsulting OP's relationship prospect is not actionable advice. Removed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/23 05:47 AM |
| 1 | Partner says we cannot be together in the futureInsulting OP's relationship prospect is not actionable advice. Removed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/23 05:43 AM |
| 1 | advice please?This isn't necessarily RP advice, but your experience is very similar and fits OP's situation and is actionable. If you're going to continue participating on RPW, please familiarize yourself with the community rules and rule 9. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/23 04:28 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on your man going out all night with friendsGood advice, that's really practical. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/23 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Book recommendations on the biological, psychological and emotional differences between men and women and how to grow in my femininity?If you find some time, consider making a chapter summary highlight on RPW for one of your top books you've read in this area. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/23 06:00 AM |
| 1 | I keep filling his cup and he is not filling mine?If you’re thoughts are to try to change your behavior in order to get him to start changing his and being more emotionally available/ active in the relationship, that is also not a solution. Please reference LivelyLychees comment post here on changing yourself before you seek to change others. ArkNemesis00 gave an excellent comment on changing OP's personal communication in order to get her needs met rather than demanding/expecting others to automatically change. This is the model that RPW will … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/23 05:32 AM |
| 1 | My (25F) boyfriend (25M) isn't very verbally affectionate and it bitters me toward himIf you are asking a personal relationship question, please provide context: What is the problem, and what do you think is the root of the issue? How have you contributed/attempted to mitigate the problem? What are your ages, relationship status, time together? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/23 05:21 AM |
| 2 | Am I just a root and boot?If you are asking a personal relationship question, please provide context: What is the problem, and what do you think is the root of the issue? How have you contributed/attempted to mitigate the problem? What are your ages, relationship status, time together? | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/23 05:01 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriends condescending “jokes”What kind of pompous and privileged asshole makes fun of a CNA. he’s fucking insensitive and doesn’t care about the consequences of his words to the person he SHOULD love and care for above all. Get lost man-baby! Community Rules: Rule 4: Strategies should be from a Red-Pill Perspective Your comment is leaning in deep towards combative and aggressive territory. It's not actionable for the OP. Reference this comment I made to another user on this post on the RPW culture and expected advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/23 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Boyfriends condescending “jokes”“I’m tired of dating a bum” see how he likes that ‘joke’ Community Rules: Rule 4: Strategies should be from a Red-Pill Perspective Your comment is leaning in deep towards combative and passive aggressive territory. It's not actionable for the OP. Reference this comment I made to another user on this post on the RPW culture and expected advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/23 01:45 AM |
| 2 | Boyfriends condescending “jokes”Also why don’t you tell him why can’t he must provide for you financially then? if he’s just complaining complaining about your job, then ask him okay can you replace my checks and support me financially then since my job is so stupid and I’m slaving it away?? Community Rules: Rule 4: Strategies should be from a Red-Pill Perspective Your comment is leaning in deep towards combative and passive aggressive territory. One of the flagship strategies is the use of 'submissive behavior as strategy'. T… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/23 01:39 AM |
| 1 | does anyone have any feminine book suggestions?Removed, no promoting discord servers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/23 02:16 PM |
| 2 | does anyone have any feminine book suggestions?Be careful about joining random discord servers even if they appear to be genuine. In general, internet links and other apps can potentially reveal personal emails and other information that can be used to reveal your personal identity and information. Please carefully examine their user profile, vet them carefully, and protect yourself online. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/23 02:15 PM |
| 2 | A warm welcome to our two new mods!This sounds like a great idea! /u/pearlsandstilettos spoke about this previously that we've had a number of posts on RPW that should be in the wiki from ECs and other community members, but they're just floating on the subreddit right now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/23 04:42 AM |
| 5 | Men don't ask me out on a second date? What am I doing wrong?stupid. not how that works Rule 3: Do not insult the community or its members Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here Community Rules: 2 day ban for breaking this rule Permanent ban for second strike | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/23 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Need advice on how to maintain a friendshipSure thing. +1 star for /u/ArkNemesis00. Keep up the good work. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/23 09:28 PM |
| 3 | Is it time to throw in the towel?I think you're going to get a lot of comments that tear your husband apart, and that concerns me... The current community commenters have been really great so far on this post. I'm grateful for the objective and compassionate communication that is being given. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/23 07:22 AM |
| 3 | Mindset advice - waiting for a baby/u/Sea-Cow4216 OP is correct: Community Rules: Rule 4: Strategies should be from a Red-Pill Perspective Advice should be actionable and relevant to the post. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/23 05:23 AM |
| 1 | How do I deal with arguments with a man that says mean words when angry and tells you he hates you?I get the same behavior from my wife Community Rules: Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/23 05:05 AM |
| 1 | How do I deal with arguments with a man that says mean words when angry and tells you he hates you?I'm leaving your comment up, but leave him is not the first option: I will just remind you that "leave him" is not the first advice that should be given. It shouldn't be given without understanding the situation and interacting with an OP. This is from pearlsandstilettos on why leave him is not the first option. Please reference womanoftheapocalypse comment in this thread for the types of response that is expected instead of ''leave him''. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/23 05:04 AM |
| 1 | How do I deal with arguments with a man that says mean words when angry and tells you he hates you?I'm leaving your comment up, but leave him is not the first option: I will just remind you that "leave him" is not the first advice that should be given. It shouldn't be given without understanding the situation and interacting with an OP. This is from pearlsandstilettos on why leave him is not the first option. Please reference womanoftheapocalypse comment in this thread for the types of response that is expected instead of ''leave him''. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/23 05:03 AM |
| 0 | How do I deal with arguments with a man that says mean words when angry and tells you he hates you?I'm leaving your comment up, but leave him is not the first option: I will just remind you that "leave him" is not the first advice that should be given. It shouldn't be given without understanding the situation and interacting with an OP. This is from pearlsandstilettos on why leave him is not the first option. Please reference womanoftheapocalypse comment in this thread for the types of response that is expected instead of ''leave him''. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/23 05:01 AM |
| 2 | How do I deal with arguments with a man that says mean words when angry and tells you he hates you?I'm leaving your comment up, but leave him is not the first option: I will just remind you that "leave him" is not the first advice that should be given. It shouldn't be given without understanding the situation and interacting with an OP. This is from pearlsandstilettos on why leave him is not the first option. Please reference womanoftheapocalypse comment in this thread for the types of response that is expected instead of ''leave him''. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/23 05:01 AM |
| 0 | How do I deal with arguments with a man that says mean words when angry and tells you he hates you?I'm leaving your comment up, but leave him is not the first option: I will just remind you that "leave him" is not the first advice that should be given. It shouldn't be given without understanding the situation and interacting with an OP. This is from /u/pearlsandstilettos on why leave him is not the first option. Please reference /u/womanoftheapocalypse comment in this thread for the types of response that is expected instead of ''leave him''. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/23 05:00 AM |
| 3 | Finding the right man has been a very frustrating journey …It helps if you explore and discover Endorsed Contributor profiles and their comments and post to help you understand the forums theory in such a way in which you can apply it better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/23 07:37 AM |
| 2 | Finding the right man has been a very frustrating journey …FDS is definitely RPW, it helps to vet better. FDS does have elements of vetting within their framework, but FDS is not RPW. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/23 07:36 AM |
| 9 | Can I listen to heavy metal and still be feminine?Damn Getting close to petting the unicorn here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/23 06:45 AM |
| 3 | how to stop replaying hurtful moments in a relationship/u/ardentbandicoot - can you award Jenneapolis a star for this comment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/23 05:16 AM |
| 1 | How many of each category of clothing items should/do you have?/u/ichillonforums - please edit your post in order to follow: Rule 7. Posting Requirements: Do not to post a wall of text. Familiarize yourself with reddit formattingand use linebreaks. Poorly spelled, formatted, or capitalized posts will be removed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/23 05:11 AM |
| 5 | Finding the right man has been a very frustrating journey …I'm leaving your comment up because it's helping discussion, but the next one will be removed if it doesn't follow community guideline rule 9. Community Rules: Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/23 05:07 AM |
| 3 | Tell me this is stupidlol | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/23 06:31 AM |
| 1 | More interest from older men than from those my age?Community Rules: Rule 3: Do not insult the community or its members | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/23 05:59 AM |
| 1 | I am a newbie and I have no idea where to start ?tatts as long as you are not covered head to toe should be fine, same with piercings. -being funny really gets the milage going. Community Rules: Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here Personal preference is not advice. Removed. Edit to clarify: There are RPW who have short hair and are tatted and 'everyone in between'. The main point is that for any men who are posting, they should be older, married, and long time participants in the RP community. If you do not have the experience or nuance … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/23 06:09 AM |
| 1 | I need serious advice, I am the girl that men date before they get into a serious relationshipIt’s definitely not something you’re doing. Community Rules: Rule 4: Strategies should be from a Red-Pill Perspective Strategies or discussion of actionable advice requires either a thorough red pill rationale or must be backed by existing and accepted red pill theory. The whole point of RP is that there's usually something on our part that we're accountable for and so the general philosophy on both TRP and RPW is that the advice and theories must be men or women centric according to their subre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/23 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Why do men today prefer to be chased?Community Rules: Rule 7: Posting Requirements Links or videos require a brief summary of the content in the BODY of the post. Tie it into RP theory. Low effort posts will be removed. No link dropping, I'll re-approve this if you can add a description and actionable information with your comment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/23 05:04 AM |
| 1 | I can’t be helpedRead the community rules: Rule 3: Do not insult the community or its members it wasn’t referring to this community. RPW values truths, even harsh and unpleasant ones, over comforting lies. Do NOT insult any RP user or community in the network. Calling others out for bad or foolish behavior with the intent of helping them improve is encouraged. Harsh speech and direct insults for any reason, are not allowed. Ladies, do not badmouth your men. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/23 04:55 AM |
| 1 | How to stop oversharing?Community Rules: Shut up. Thats how. Rule 2: All posts and comments must be in good faith. Rule 3: Do not insult the community or its members -Banned | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/23 05:05 AM |
| -3 | I can’t be helpedCommunity Rules: Rule 3: Do not insult the community or its members | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/23 05:01 AM |
| 5 | I can’t be helpedCommunity Rules: Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/23 04:58 AM |
| 2 | Wanting to wait for sex till marriage but not a virgin.Hi, your post comment was approved by the mod team. I'll leave a small note (and for any other guy that's reading this) about male participation on RPW. We hold the men who post here to a higher standard. Specifically that they should have a strong background in RP theory in addition to having participated on /r/TheRedPill. Your adage about the milk: why pay for the milk when you can get the milk for free is true and always be true. Has been counter argued on this subreddit: Why Buy the Cow When… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 06:32 AM |
| 1 | Wanting to wait for sex till marriage but not a virgin.I'm not removing your comment post, but please familiarize yourself with the community rules for posting. Religious and traditional conservative advice is allowed, but it must be actionable and be inclusive of the strategic mindset that RPW as a forum hold. Community Rules: 1: Rule Zero: Stay On Topic RPW is for women to discuss sexual strategy. Content must serve to help women, deviations from this are off topic. All theories and conversations spring from a traditional, evolutionary psychology,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 06:23 AM |
| 1 | A friend is married to a man who refuses to do a job and just sits at home while she brings in a significant pay check & she’s encouraging me to tolerate the same. Thoughts?Community Rules: Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 06:15 AM |
| 1 | Why do men today prefer to be chased?Community Rules: Rule Zero: Stay On Topic Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here -Banned | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 06:09 AM |
| 2 | Why do men today prefer to be chased?Community Rules: I feel kinda bad for you husband. Rule Zero: Stay On Topic Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here -Banned | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 06:06 AM |
| 12 | A warm welcome to our two new mods!In reply to /u/brushshstrokes question: Could we get a breakdown of the mods beliefs systems? My personal values and goals align with the 'tools in the toolbox' approach that /u/girlwithasidecar wrote about in ''Check List or Toolbox''' (aka: TradCon is RPW but RPW is not TradCon). This, in addition to the spirit of the RPW forum and role of moderator, will mean that regardless of my beliefs I'll be serving the subreddits goal: This community was created as a harbor for RP minded women whose goa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 05:33 AM |
| 3 | A warm welcome to our two new mods!Thanks for the welcome guys. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/23 04:55 AM |
| 1 | Why isn't this sub more popular?Don't pet the unicorns. Community Rules: Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/23 12:00 AM |
| 2 | I need advice from womenmy God did I not expect such hostility from a community that is supposed to be based on sisterhood. I guess if there are more people feeling this way perhaps it should be brought to the attention of the mods and have exercising kindness as a rule. Can you link me to the comments you feel did not meet the standards from our sidebar: In the spirit of encouraging a compassionate and honest community, it is important for everyone to extend a minimum level of politeness and understanding to other mem… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/23 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Eye contact meaningCommunity Rules: Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/23 03:10 AM |
| 2 | Women, should men approach you?Community Rules: Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/23 03:06 AM |
| 1 | My bf (32M) questions me (25F) on everything and its driving me crazyYou're able to reply, but I don't receive a reddit notification when you message back - automod/spam? is still targeting it | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/23 01:51 AM |
| 2 | I love this group and I am curious if there is a similar one for women who are with high value men?Community Rules: Rule 2: All posts and comments must be in good faith. r/golddiggers If RPW wishes to discuss strategies on securing men who are top earners, it's allowed and encouraged and advice must be given with the intent of helping the person requesting it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/23 01:42 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on “Passport bros”?Community Rules: Rule 1: Rule Zero: Stay On Topic Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/23 01:05 AM |
| 2 | Thoughts on “Passport bros”?Community Rules: Rule 4: Strategies should be from a Red-Pill Perspective If they really an alpha they would man the fuck up Strategies or discussion of actionable advice requires either a thorough red pill rationale or must be backed by existing and accepted red pill theory. Because strategy is for achieving results, it must be discussed from the perspective of what is, rather than what should be. Moralizing is strictly off limits. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/23 01:03 AM |
| 1 | My bf (32M) questions me (25F) on everything and its driving me crazyCan you reply to this? | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/23 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Meeting boyfriend's toddler sonCommunity Rules: Rule 8: No doxxing- yourself or others | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/23 06:49 AM |
| 0 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreCommunity Rules: 1: Rule Zero: Stay On Topic Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Considering not having children bcz I have semi-ugly genes? Thoughts? [21F] POTENTIAL DYSMORPHIA WARNINGCommunity Rules: 1: Rule Zero: Stay On Topic RPW is for women to discuss sexual strategy. Content must serve to help women, deviations from this are off topic. All theories and conversations spring from a traditional, evolutionary psychology, or anti-feminist foundation. We focus on long term relationships, marriage and building families. There is no one true way to approach RPW, the discussion is open to all women wanting to improve themselves and their relationships. Within the red pill commun… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/23 05:01 AM |
| 4 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreCommunity Rules: Rule 5: No Feminism This is an anti-feminist community, and as such, we are not interested in being "saved" by feminism. Anybody stopping in to weight-in with the feminist perspective will be shown the door, as it is off topic. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Why don't men feel protective towards women anymoreCommunity Rules: Rule 8 | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/23 03:15 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on age gaps?We hold the men to higher standards on RPW. This subreddit is not egalitarian or a democracy. It's a dictatorship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/23 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on age gaps?Community Rules: Rule 3: Do not insult the community or its members If you want to be on a women's subreddit as a man, you're going to have to do a better job at inspiring their trust and communicating your ideas effectively. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/23 03:06 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on age gaps?These are all women’s views on an age gap as it is r/redpillwomen. As it should be. Community Rules: Rule 1: Rule Zero: Stay On Topic But it must be noted that these are feminine views and their is a completely different subset of views from the opposite sex, as we are not the same. Rule 9: If you are a man and you are here RPW is the women’s space in the RP network. We recognize that men have unique insights to add to the conversation. The men who can provide the most valuable advice are: older… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/23 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Caffeine Alternativealright, please flare your post as 'off-topic' in the future from the text post menu | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/23 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Caffeine Alternativeedit: I realized you're now asking if you have morning sickness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/23 07:12 AM |
| 1 | Should I give up on marriage if I am an ugly woman?Community Rules: Rule 3. Do not insult the community or its members | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/23 06:56 AM |
| 7 | Should I quit or find someone who accepts me for me?Community Rules: Rule 9: personal preference is not advice | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/23 07:33 AM |
| 5 | Should I quit or find someone who accepts me for me?Rule Zero: Stay On Topic Rule 9: The men who can provide the most valuable advice are: older, married and long time participants in the RP community. Everyone else should focus his time on TRP | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/23 07:29 AM |
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