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Sure some women were in careers at that point. But they didn’t have guaranteed access to credit, and non-discriminating banking services. Plenty of women couldn’t get a bank account without their husband or father’s co-sign. You see how a husband would be necessary back then? For rent.. for food.. to have a place to hold your paychecks you earn at the job you’re suddenly allowed to work at?…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 03:54 PM
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No one’s entitled to your labor, and no one’s begging for it either. Just stop pretending your disengagement is some revolutionary act when it’s really just sulking in the corner of the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 03:33 PM
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You’re confusing your role in society with your dating life. Women don’t owe you relationships just because you do a job or pay taxes — everyone, including single women, already does those things. You’re not holding up civilization alone. Saying you’ll “let the cities fall” because women aren’t dating you isn’t some bold stance — it’s just entitlement disguised as rebellion. If your only motivation for contributing to society was the hope of romantic reward, maybe the problem isn’t women, it’s t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 03:28 PM
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50 years ago this was not an issue. 50 years ago women had to marry to survive in society 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 03:21 PM
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I don’t think any of that affects anyone dating towards long term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 09:02 PM
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Let’s be real tho, does she actually want a long term relationship? Or is her fun just the trying and criticizing? You know, like a food critic.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 05:44 PM
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Oh so this is your personal experience as a “female”? Or are you just another boy on PPD desperately trying to mansplain a perspective you don’t understand and have never actually encountered?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 05:42 PM
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No. I personally wouldn’t say someone describing another groups interests as “garbage on top of garbage” is particularly intelligent or informed about said group.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:56 PM
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No shit. It’s even more frustrating for them because they’re killing themselves to keep up with unrealistic beauty standards and in truth they’re already beautiful they just never feel like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:13 PM
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You’re conflating two different groups. Many of us who recognize the misogynistic messaging we were raised on have worked through the internalized trauma and shame, and live our lives as we please. The women you referred to previously, likely haven’t. They’re still operating from the playbook society gave them, performing behaviors taught to earn value and respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:01 PM
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Humans can think independently—but choice doesn’t exist in a vacuum. When you’re conditioned from a young age by powerful social cues, media, and reward systems, that conditioning shapes what feels like your “choices.” It’s not about making excuses—it’s about recognizing how much of what we call “preference” is actually learned behavior responding to deeply ingrained norms. When girls have been consistently shown that their value lies in being attractive and desirable, it’s no surprise they grow…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 09:54 PM
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You reference this part of OPs post: bombarding girls with sexual imagery and essentially grooming them to learn to be sensual humans with appeal to the male eye is predatory And then wrote: But women lean into this, do they not? They know that their social currency lies mostly in their looks, which is why women will go to the club on a below-freezing night in a mini-skirt and crop top after paying $300 to get their hair done. If all the messaging you’ve been given throughout life has trained yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 09:39 PM
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it's just garbage on top of garbage. I think we may have located your issues with women 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 09:34 PM
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I think you’re confusing a personal interest for a trained habit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 09:32 PM
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This is a really important conversation—urban planning absolutely needs to evolve to foster stronger community ties and reduce isolation. But without parallel investment in social infrastructure—like better work-life balance, affordable housing, and policies that reduce wealth inequality—even the most well-designed spaces will fall short. A lot of the social distance we’re seeing today feels less like a choice and more like an energetic recession: people are too drained from long hours, high cos…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 04:20 PM
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No shit. That’s what happens when you set-up a society where one gender is supposed to be fully financially dependent on the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:59 AM
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If only feminists recognized this in their whining about the wage gap. No we do. That’s kinda the whole point. Like if I have kids at home but their father is the one caring for them, my pay shouldn’t be affected because my hours and work aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:19 AM
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So?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:17 AM
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it’s just that women are more susceptible. You want to explain this?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 02:03 AM
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Eh not for Gen Z women, maybe for elder Millenials and up tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:53 AM
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It doesn’t. It blames unequal division of household labor, the gender wage gap, societal treatment of women, and social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:20 AM
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If you actually read that article you’d notice that none of the recorded reasons women gave for being stressed or unhappy were their jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:13 AM
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Oh so your confusion is basic English grammar then, I see. Well just fyi, in Modern English, we is a plural, first-person pronoun. Used by a speaker to refer to himself or herself and one or more other people considered together.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:11 AM
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Yes, seeing as I used it twice, clearly speaking of myself and other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 12:55 AM
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I say I’ve built a life I genuinely enjoy, and you automatically assume I work 50+ hours and have kids? So weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 12:43 AM
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Also, like 90% of women experience cellulite. I’m a small woman and I have cellulite. That’s not an obesity thing, that’s literally the female body storing extra fat deposits because we’re designed to grow a baby at any moment. Doesn’t matter how fit or skinny you are, majority of women have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 12:42 AM
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And what, we’re too dumb to recognize our supposed current unhappiness? Is that really more likely than we’ve built a life we genuinely enjoy living?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 12:28 AM
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My singleness isn’t because of societal expectations for men. I just haven’t found the right person for me. Why do y’all feel the need to overcomplicate everything?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 12:25 AM
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Damn she looks great for 50!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 12:23 AM
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yes 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:44 PM
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you aren’t entitled to society giving men a restraint order for approaching you. Yeah, that’s not happening dude..
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 10:54 PM
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Has there ever been a single unfuckable man that has ever had the introspection to realize that they're doing something that makes them unfuckable? Oh there’ve been tons, but see that introspection led to actual growth and self-development and now they’re not unfuckable anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:56 PM
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Yes, but you seem to think that freedom of speech goes one way? You are free to act as you want, you’re not free of social judgement. That’s not even a gendered thing, that’s just reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:55 PM
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It’s that y’all take rejection so terribly that even the online criticism of your imaginary actions are enough to turn you away from action. Everyone’s going to be mad at you at some point for something. Being a good person is doing the personal calculation of where your values lie and if you’re living them accordingly. That’s all that matters. Stop giving a shit what people think of you. Just don’t be a perv or an asshole, and you’re good.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:47 PM
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Both parties have freedom of speech in that exchange, so what’s your issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:43 PM
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No I’m very consistent, you are free to judge a woman however you want. Just like I’m free to judge your comments or rhetoric as misogynistic if I think they are. See how that works?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:43 PM
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You’re free to make whatever choices you want. We’re free to judge you for whatever choices you make. That’s life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:26 PM
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You know half of those poets and authors were women, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 05:18 PM
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I disagree with that completely. Women, after all, are the ones that nurture social relationships through all these love languages, men to their own devices with no prompting from a woman, don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 05:05 PM
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By your own admission then men are performing those actions to speak to a woman’s romantic nature? Y’all have to perform these behaviors because they’re not engrained in who you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:54 PM
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1) not caused by men, and 2) not solved by men changing their behavior? “Uh hey dude, you’re standing on my foot.” “God! You want too much from me, why do I need to do anything to improve your situation?”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 04:53 PM
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Reread your og comment, it’s not very clear which sides violence you were supporting..
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:47 PM
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Care to elaborate what “social issues” you’re referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:44 PM
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And so what? We concede and let the crazy people run the asylum?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:43 PM
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It’s women. Google it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:52 PM
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Do you know who’s statistically more likely to stand by their spouse in sickness + in health?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:40 PM
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Exactly. And have most men had to learn those super useful skills? No. So when faced with overwhelming emotion or sweeping hormones, they lose control, to the disruption or even danger of anyone else around him.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:36 PM
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It does. You should google it. You’ll learn something.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:26 PM
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No one’s denying that emotional instability is causing issues for some people. But you seem to deny the fact that every single woman has been successfully living and surviving these “crashing hormones” and “wild emotions” every month, like clockwork, since we were about 10 years old. And you seem to think that the majority of women haven’t made it this far in life because of our skills to consciously handle our emotions at all times.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:18 PM
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Yes, that’s exactly my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:16 PM
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No, women “natural” sacrifices result in population growth, nourished people, healthy people, and more focused men in the workplace. Do you think men of the 60’s could’ve have been half as productive if they actually had to know how to wash their own underwear?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:15 PM
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Id say women are just unhappy with the role that was biologically assigned to them. Not biology hon. Violent men. And what we’re experiencing today, these dating crises that yall complain about, is a direct natural consequence of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:07 PM
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So you’re just less aware of your moods or changing hormones then women are, got it 👍🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:05 PM
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I see you’ve never been a woman accused of her period literally every day of every month. So weird that you’re unaware how frequently this happens?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:04 PM
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No, just the latter. Mind you any time a woman complains about something our concerns are invalidated with “eh it’s just your period”. So now, society doesn’t actually care about women’s mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:00 PM
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I’m sorry you think men aren’t influenced by their mood or hormonal cycles?…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:59 PM
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Does “society” care more? Or do women just support other women?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:58 PM
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Not the definition of stability we’re using here But let’s talk about it, men’s hormones and emotional waves are far more frantic, violent and disruptive to those around them, all because they generally lack the emotional intelligence and communication ability to process and handle their own shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:56 PM
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Y’all seriously overlook how fucking awful it is to be the nurturer. To always put yourself last, to only priories everyone else’s feelings and needs. Those are the sacrifices women have been making for centuries. Men got to come home and beat on their women, and women had to smile and take it. So yeah when a woman finally leaves a man and he’s left in a messy house of his dirty underwear and empty pizza boxes, his life is obviously worse than it was before, because he no longer has the domestic…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:55 PM
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So your point is that they’re justified in those threats of violence??
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:53 PM
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says the man on Reddit who just said so
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:52 PM
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Basically all of those same problems existed back when we had perpetual monogamy with no means of resolution or escape.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:50 PM
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Who’s “threatening force” here?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:48 PM
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There are times when one needs to acknowledge that there are irreconcilable differences and force is the only comprehensible language left. Explain what you mean here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:44 PM
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Yeah it’s so romantic when wives get terminally sick and dudes statistically move on and leave them to suffer.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:39 PM
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It’s not that women dont want stability. It’s that theyre more fine in chaos. It’s that women are taught to be their own stability, men are taught to find a woman to do that for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:34 PM
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I'm convinced that men are more romantic. They’re not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:26 PM
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Yeah that’s not because “they love harder”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:23 PM
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Yea, once again that’s from your biased perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 12:40 PM
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Men tend to be more romantic in some ways so I’m sorry, what?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 12:36 PM
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But you’re the one judging their choice as right or wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 12:35 PM
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is directly, 100% correlated to "choosing" right or wrong. to you… from your perspective..
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 12:29 PM
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Great. So those men should get right to work on that. Advocacy doesn’t just happen people. Fight for the legislation you want
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:56 AM
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That’s not healthy dude… wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:36 AM
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Nope, not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:21 AM
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Casually admits he views women’s rights as a bargaining chip
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:13 AM
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Not what I said. If you find yourself compatible with someone like that, then great, you do you. But if you find yourself compromising on a shitty relationship because you’re scared to be alone, have some self respect and don’t waste your energy like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:13 AM
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I’ve flirted with both very successfully. No inappropriate boundaries crossed whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:20 AM
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Callous indifference is a status quo dude. It’s literally what all strangers give all other strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:15 AM
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So go fix that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:02 AM
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Yeah, and do you get how until genitalia or words about genitalia are involved, you’re basically good.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:02 AM
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Then those guys should go to therapy and genuinely work on their self-worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:00 AM
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But why would he sacrifice his quality of life for a shitty relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:52 AM
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Read bros last comment and tell me that doesn’t perfectly describe a friendship, something he’s fully capable of achieving himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:48 AM
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No, but you know what is affected by settling for a shittier partner? Your personal health and happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:47 AM
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And if he could meet her standards, he would be better off, along with said woman. His choice here can cause two people to lose or two people to win. Now extrapolate that to an entire gender making poor choices. See what I did there?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:44 AM
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So here’s a universal lesson on consent to you. If your genitals or theirs are the focal point of an action, that’s a sexual advance. If you’re using sexual verbiage against another person, that’s a sexual advance. You know what’s not a sexual advance, “hi there”. Anything involving platonic interactions and full clothing. There’s literally more options that are appropriate, then are inappropriate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:43 AM
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Then right back to my last point, those women are living the natural consequences of their life choices. So what’s the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:33 AM
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That’s not really related to the conversation at hand? But sure avoid women if that’s what makes you feel safe 👌🏻 Boundaries are important.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:31 AM
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So? Do you actually think women weren’t made fun of all of our advocacy efforts? We were endangered and insulted and made fun of and belittled, and we still did it. To this day we’re still mocked for it and made fun of, and we still do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:30 AM
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But I am happy. I wouldn’t be happy by settling for someone I’m not compatible with. See why your “solution” makes no sense? Why would I sacrifice my current happiness and satisfaction living a solo life for someone who doesn’t share my lifestyle, values, or interests?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:27 AM
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Because they value their time and energy with a minimum level of self respect?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:26 AM
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Do you know how many men violate and abuse women? We could go back and forth all night hon, doesn’t negate my previous points at all. If y’all wanted to fix it, you could.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:23 AM
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If women are over inflating themselves, as you say, then surely they’ll suffer the natural consequences of that and be alone with their high standards. So what’s the issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:22 AM
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Both of those sound like issues yall could solve if you cared. You know the way women banded together to solve those problems for ourselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:20 AM
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Super no, there are countless moves before sexual advances are appropriate or even necessary. wtf dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:14 AM
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I didn’t mean “live alone” as in a living situation by themselves. I meant “live alone” as in go through life solo.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:14 AM
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There is always someone waiting to support you, or give you affirmation or at least give you attention. Bros just discovered friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:09 AM
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This is just a way of saying most women aren’t scared to live alone, while most men will settle for any relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 12:44 AM
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No, in 2016-2020 it was very obvious. Not this time round.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 07:52 PM
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Are you sure you’re not recognizing the different levels of support a friend gives you and how that different than the support of a society?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 06:45 PM
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Sexuality isn’t offensive, period. Unwanted sexual behaviors to a non-consenting participant is offensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 06:39 PM
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I think we could argue your wife was already more inclined to western culture simply by her interest in moving into it. Also, not sure you intended it, but that second paragraph seems weirdly controlling on your part. I hope you’re not limiting your wife’s living experience for your own comfort.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 03:43 PM
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“traditional non-western woman” y’all are dreaming of The trad-wife dudes crave are not waiting for the first American they find to pop over and take them off to a new world away from tradition and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 02:34 PM
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Because any “traditional non-western woman” y’all are dreaming of would have no interest in moving to such a western + liberal country.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 02:25 PM
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This works if you move to a developing country. Not if you travel and bring said women back to western country.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 01:22 PM
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Connection, spark, chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 01:20 PM
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I’m not assuming anything. I said what I said, describing the difference between the two things OP was conflating into one.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 01:10 PM
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Did you even read my og comment? Complaining about your lived experience with a woman is totally valid. Complaining about the stereotypes you’ve assumed of women, isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 01:01 PM
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Not if you’re assuming your personal experience is universal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:45 PM
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Complaining about your lived experience with a woman is totally valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:40 PM
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most women show contempt towards men first Once again, that’s just how humans work. That’s not a gendered thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:17 PM
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Yes to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:12 PM
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in reality women just see guys as guys they would date and guys they would not That’s just how humans work dude, nothing gendered about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:09 PM
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It’s the same base instinct dude, protecting the family.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:06 PM
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Women also suffer and die for their families. Is the average man sacrificing his life for his family in this modern day/age?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:57 AM
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Yeah… no. Men don’t love “spirit first”. Some men likely do, but the data we have on male attraction and dating habits does not support your overall hypothesis.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:50 AM
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Why would I rank anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 11:48 AM
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you can fit an archetype and have no personality or not fit an archetype and have personality. No you fit the archetype because your personality, looks and mannerisms match the vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 03:58 AM
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Are you just realizing that women actually care about vibes and personality as much as we say we do?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 03:48 AM
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Your boundaries are yours. They’re not to be dolled out or threatened. They’re not about the person you’re dating and their actions. They’re about your values and what you prioritize and protect for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:20 AM
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How exactly is that “devaluing gays”?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 10:56 PM
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EDIT: Hahahahaha you dumb triggered femtards, the harder you downvote and the angier and more spiteful you get my power grows Aw imagine caring this much 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 10:01 PM
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I think you’re conflating different things here. Complaining about your lived experience with a woman is totally valid. Complaining about the stereotypes you’ve assumed of women, isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:28 PM
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She assumed therapy is there for men to loosen their boundaries of what they find acceptable; it is not. I don’t think she did..
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 02:45 PM
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This take wildly oversimplifies history and ignores centuries of systemic, gendered oppression backed by law, culture, and violence—especially against women. Claiming “men and women have always been equal” is not only historically false, it’s intellectually dishonest. Feminism isn’t about “oppression points,” it’s about dismantling real, measurable inequalities—from voting rights to workplace discrimination to bodily autonomy. If you truly believe both genders have always been equal, you’re not …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 02:35 PM
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Again I don’t think that’s invalidating to recognize someone’s dealing with emotions that you’re simply unable or unqualified to navigate safely with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 02:29 PM
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How is it invalidating to hear someone’s emotional experience and recommend therapy as a functional tool? Therapy is literally the place you go to work through valid emotional trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 02:24 PM
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Hence the not even and the maybe 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 01:27 PM
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Okay, so like I said.. Not even. Like maybe if you’re in a committed relationship where y’all live together and generally share all other household appliances ex. curling iron, dehumidifier, blender
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 01:23 PM
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that is lesbian or bi behavior then what?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 01:12 PM
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that is lesbian or bi behavior Not even. Like if you’re in a committed relationship where y’all live together and share most household appliances then maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 01:10 PM
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Most of those have nothing to do with sex. Also, a few of those are completely made up- women aren’t sharing vibrators wtf.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 12:02 PM
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I mean about 30% of Gen Z women identify as LGBTQ+, so you’re not far off..
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 03:22 AM
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Is this really a question? Dude on the left looks way better.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 04:51 PM
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Well for one thing gay men aren’t having threesomes with a woman. . Because duh
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 12:08 PM
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Based on your explanation above tho that’s not “holding frame”?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 03:29 AM
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Personal performance in a sexual encounter isn’t the same as watching porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 03:22 AM
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No, the emotional regulation is seen in how someone refutes that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 03:20 AM
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Sure, but once again, actual Gen Z here.. this thing you’re saying is rampant amongst Gen Z? Isn’t..
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 03:04 AM
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Even if they did date bi/pan women, that doesn’t mean they’re into threesomes like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:59 AM
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Then do us all a favor and put that “feminists” in quotations. Cuz that was my main issue with your comment. You making sexist generalizations about feminists as if they held weight in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:57 AM
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and simply never was a social media meme term until zoomers engaged with said content. I don’t even think it’s a mainstream social media term now..
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:55 AM
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Dude, life is a roadtrip and y’all are copilots. Sometimes they drive the car so you can sleep, other times you drive the car so they can sleep. Equal relationships absolutely exist, you just take a lot more turns depending on the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:51 AM
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That is so many words to just mean a dude has emotional regulation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:48 AM
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No, I’m saying this as someone who spends a lot of time in coed third spaces with fellow Gen Z… Are you Gen Z yourself? Like is this your lived experience or is this you playing anthropologist and prescribing actions of a younger generation?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:43 AM
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If he's a leader, he's too insecure to let her lead. If he lets her lead, he's too insecure to stand up to her. Different people say those things. The first comment is generally said by women. The latter is usually said by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:40 AM
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But basically a lot of social norms of zoomers have resulted in them warring with each other over who gets to maintain frame (not even in just romantic relationships). And now things that used to be seen as endearing are becoming seen as losing frame and thus “cringe.” Genuinely can’t say I’ve ever observed this, or experienced it, amongst my generation lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:36 AM
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No I completely agree with that part. I just view the “cognitive dissonance” as thinking you’re some independent feminist and then letting your husband walk all over you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:35 AM
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I was agreeing with you dude. Did you even read my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:14 AM
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That’s a weird argument? but sure I guess if people are saying that then it’s dumb and they’re wrong.. That being said I absolutely have been in relationships where dude brings up threesome and I have to bring up MMF to put it in perspective what they’re asking for, tends to make them rethink the whole threesome idea altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 02:03 AM
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I think there's some cognitive dissonance between what type of man woman are attracted to and their feminist beliefs. No. There’s cognitive dissonance here for sure, in no way is it what you’re describing 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:57 AM
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When the time comes, do yourself a favor and learn how to do your daughter’s hair. Give a shit about the girly things she’s into and validate her interests like you would a son. If she wants your opinion on what sparkly tutu to wear for kindergarten photos, you better be pulling out your best Tim Gunn impression and giving that girl an informed opinion. Little girls learn early on the type of respect they should expect from men. You want to know how to raise a young woman who doesn’t accept the …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:37 AM
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I fall into this category but I don’t see it as them leading anything. It’s just me delegating 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:27 AM
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I looked at OPs post history. I want to vomit. Man’s emotionally abusive to get what he wants and she never says no to sex. what the actual fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:20 AM
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wtf does “lose frame” mean here? I’m a gen z woman and I’m genuinely so lost by this whole post.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:17 AM
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I won't be leading raising a daughter. This is a fucked opinion dude. Until her first period there’s literally nothing going on that you shouldn’t have full ability to lead on. Raising your sons and daughters like different species is highly problematic and not great for family respect and unity.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:15 AM
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Hold up, how did you end married to a man and only then realized he was into the trad con relationship dynamics? I resisted this for a while and conflict ensued not giving him peace These phrases alone make my blood boil. I guess if you’re happy then good for you, but god that sounds like a controlling nightmare to me. Like dude could’ve “had peace” far sooner if he’d just appreciated the actual woman he fell for 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:12 AM
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When women go for men who are smarter than them, or funnier than them, or more exciting than them, they run the risk of choosing a man who does not respect her. Sounds like a self-own dude. I feel like normal people don’t quantify who does and doesn’t deserve respect like that. It matters who you are, not you measure up to me..
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/25 01:08 AM
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Somewhat yes and then a bit no. It is absolutely easier to find your soulmate level match in modern day. Between social media, apps, and general online communities it’s way easier to connect with people across the world and find those connections that are really meaningful to you. No longer are we limited by our zipcode to find the right person for us, and international communication and travel makes it even easier to find and connect with those people irl. So many genuinely amazing couples I kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 05:55 PM
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Idk how true that is but considering most sex happens in committed relationships, that's pretty alarming. I don’t even mean like violent or anger, just that the average man does not have the emotional regulation to handle much feedback during a vulnerable act like sex because a lot of men hear women’s opinions and equate that to criticism. Not saying this is true for everyone, but I’ve certainly been there and I know countless women who’ve been there as well when one second you’re having sex and…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 05:45 PM
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and in fact fakes an orgasm, should people take her complaints seriously after the fact? Yes. But that follows many attempts to communicate and correct the sexual partner. The “faking it” isn’t done to appease the woman, it’s because a lot of men react very badly when receiving any correction in the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 05:12 PM
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Hon, if the women you’re sleeping with are just starfishing, then they’re not into the sex and just want you to finish as quickly as possible so it can all be over.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 02:58 PM
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There’s no double standard. Women aren’t judging men who put in the active effort and the orgasm just isn’t happening, that’s the nature of the beast and totally normal. Women are judging men who put in no/bare minimum effort and then expect to use the woman’s body as a fleshlight. Sex is about mutual pleasure. Masturbation is a solo adventure.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 02:57 PM
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Sex is about mutual pleasure. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 12:55 PM
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If shes shocked by his living style after moving in with him then obviously he was cleaning regularly when they were dating to impress her. That shows a clear understanding of societal norms as well as the capacity to clean their living space. It was dishonest on his part to advertise one set of traits and then revert once they’re living together.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 03:40 AM
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Because it is. Just because you want to live in squalor doesn’t mean your partner signed up to live in squalor. So pick up your shit, or live alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 03:25 AM
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A surprising amount of men know how to say and do the right thing whilst courting only to get very lazy once they’ve married the woman. Add to that the extra labor of kids that generally most dads don’t quite grasp fully, and suddenly being a wife and a mother is a full time job even if she also works a full time job. Not to say this happens to all couples, but the few women I know ended up here because their husbands stopped showing up in the marriage and the women care too much about preservin…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 12:24 AM
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Whatever is outside the bounds of our established relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 09:31 PM
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Why are you dating her then? She’s at a completely different life stage than you and doesn’t share your values or lifestyle preferences. (none of that’s even a judgement, mind you) Y’all don’t seem compatible as life partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 03:23 PM
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How the hell do you see us as belittling that which we most desire? Man up. Don’t be a pussy. You run like a girl. You’re conflating the desire of access to a vagina for a positive judgement of feminine traits, they’re not the same thing. Just look to our world, “men’s” hobbies are considered worthwhile and valuable, “women’s” hobbies are frivolous and unnecessary. Same for professions. Same for character traits in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 10:03 AM
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Raising boys as if we're defective girls is the fucking problem here. That literally requires a gendered societal response, the fact that you think there’s a “girl way” to do things and a “boy way” to do things is entirely the problem. You ever wanna talk about true internalized hatred of women (actual misogyny) where it comes from, and who put it there? Sure, centuries of society celebrating masculine traits as superior and belittling feminine traits as inferior and weak.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 09:43 AM
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Dude, it’s men and women. That’s how the patriarchy works. You’re the only one making this a gendered issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 09:37 AM
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No, boys weren’t taught that. They were just taught that girls aren’t here to serve them. Same as girls were taught when we threw antiquated gender roles in the past where they belong. The issues you’re complaining about are because of those toxic gender norms. So let’s move beyond them, yeah?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 06:02 AM
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No, “being disingenuous” would be implying that we teach boys an extra set of oppressive lessons rather than the actual equal skills we give kids in general these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 05:58 AM
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All kids are “targets needing education”… that’s literally how children work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 05:39 AM
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What question? Which one of us is “insecure”? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 05:38 AM
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Shall I now paste all the news articles where a dad killed his daughters? Or can we both agree with the very obvious fact that insane people do insane shit, completely regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 05:22 AM
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Dude, don’t be catty. She answered your question fairly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 05:04 AM
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I already answered.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 04:52 AM
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Some do, some don’t? This cannot be a serious question bro 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 04:48 AM
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There is a higher risk for us(pregnancy, higher risks of stds, sexual violence) So true, but you know what we don’t mention enough.. the post sex UTIs. Sure, they’re totally fixable but god damn does the pain sneak up on you if a dudes hands/dick/tongue bacteria doesn’t jive with your natural ph.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 04:08 AM
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For me personally, when I’m not in a relationship I’m still horny as hell but I genuinely have no interest in casual sex. My orgasm, pleasure and satisfaction is something I provide for myself. I’m also not a touchy-feely person so the idea of even hugging a stranger for more than 10 seconds grosses me out, much less letting them inside of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 03:59 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 12:30 AM
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Honey I was raised Christian. I literally was a salaried employee at Lutheran Church in my early 20s. I’ve studied history, theology, folklore, pagan rituals. All of which is rooted in the exact same place, by the way. You have the audacity to ask me for consideration when you’ve given none before your judgmental comments spouted here as fact? Nothing beats the hypocrisy of a Christian man, I swear to god and mother earth herself 🤣💀
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 12:30 AM
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Genuine question, is your criticism against the concept of faith in general or just about secular faith?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 11:52 PM
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You’re implying that it’s not something innate about a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 11:48 PM
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Sexual fluidity doesn’t mean sexuality is a choice. .
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 11:45 PM
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In your head apparently they do. Too bad you can’t back it up 😕
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 11:40 PM
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wow- you totally made that shit up 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 11:36 PM
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You gonna link that source? Because clearly that’s not representative of the data the rest of us have read on the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 11:32 PM
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It doesn’t. It just specifies that the abused victim was one of the female partners, not the relationship to the abuser or the timeframe it occurred in.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 11:27 PM
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In these comments, OP defends his belief in Catholicism while critiquing any other form of spiritualism and also magically has clairvoyant insight into bisexual women and their “real” thoughts. This would be an interesting conversation if he weren’t so blinded by his own preconceived opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 11:24 PM
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No, a belief in something greater is just that. It comes in different flavors but yours isn’t inherently superior than others just because you participate in public shame if you don’t perform the right steps at the right consistency.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 11:20 PM
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I realized that it is actually majorly unhealthy. Funny, I feel the same way about organized religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 11:18 PM
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No, you’re perpetuating bi-phobia dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 11:16 PM
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Bisexual women’s standards for women aren’t “higher” than for men, they’re just different- because men and women are different. Also bisexual women tend to not give a fuck about male height. You’re projecting heterosexual dating preferences on an unrelated group.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 11:15 PM
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Do you see how in the article you linked “initiating divorce” means “filing the paperwork”? Also according to your cited article, it’s most commonly a final reaction to a long and ongoing struggle for respect within the relationship. Women often feel less satisfied in marriages due to unmet emotional needs, poor communication, and lack of independence.* None of those are women stirring up trouble, it’s about men not fulfilling their end of the partnership. (Now I know plenty of couples where the…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 08:02 PM
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I didn’t mean that all women aren’t responsible. I meant that the “majority of women” above commenter was describing aren’t inherently the choosers of their divorce just because they filed the official paperwork. I agree marriage takes two people and yeah lots of women are the reason marriages end, lots of men are too. But I wasn’t trying to make a claim about divorce, rather refuting a very specific incorrect claim by above commenter.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 07:41 PM
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Women file the paperwork, they’re not the cause of the divorce. Men get equitable custody at statistically the same rate women do, but majority of fathers don’t file for custody so that’s why the numbers lean to women as the default parent. Whoever was the highest earner pays alimony, that’s not a gendered thing. You can very easily avoid this by marrying someone who makes more than you or signing a prenup. None of this supports your overall point here?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 06:33 PM
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Hence my original comment: casually admits he misses the days domestic abuse was normalized
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:16 PM
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I did start with that. I don't care. I want an incentive structure that heavily punishes leaving the relationship. My point exactly. That’s a fucked opinion dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 04:07 PM
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the social ostracisation towards the partner that leaves the relationship and make it bad enough for people to choose death over divorce The reason both of those things were done away with was due to growing concerns on domestic violence and abusive situations. Do you not get that?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:59 PM
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casually admits he misses the days domestic abuse was normalized
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 03:52 PM
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You’re complaining about dudes not competing for the women you prefer?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:17 AM
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It wouldn’t, because the same men would still be unapproached and bothering women irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 06:48 PM
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some women ffs
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:54 PM
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No, you’re too busy spewing it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:57 AM
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They don’t have testosterone they don’t experience peek horny like guys do. no one tell him what ovulation is.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 01:25 AM
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Yeah, you’re too busy spewing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 12:03 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:31 PM
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Guinevere Turner’s a lesbian. Has been since long before she wrote that screenplay lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:30 PM
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The obvious reason for the question being asked of men was as a point of comparison. Your reading comprehension is worrisome.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 11:26 PM
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asked why he likes being a man, wrote paragraphs about what he doesn’t like about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 10:06 PM
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I have my own business dickhead. Because I don’t care about ambition at all To be clear when women, like myself, mention our ambition we’re not saying it because we think it impresses dudes or it’s what y’all look for. We state it to point out that our work, research, career, whatever we’ve devoted our life to is our priority. It narrows down a lot of dudes right out the gate who can’t respect that. Like you, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:28 PM
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how is this progressive? It’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:15 PM
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I know she’s talking about climbing the corporate ladder to a do-nothing middle management job that gets laid off the moment a recession hits. I’m not, but go off sis ✌🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:13 PM
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I think you’re missing the point. Women in larger and larger numbers are choosing no relationship over bad relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 08:55 PM
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It absolutely is still done.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 08:41 PM
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It’s funny how most people are still coupled up despite being closer to the middle of those. Maybe different people really do have different preferences? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 07:08 PM
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Are you okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:57 PM
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But above comment doesn’t seem to be denying any of that..?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:57 PM
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I think you’re overestimating how many women actually want that tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:46 PM
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I don’t think my comments reflect my empathy on the subject matter, because that hasn’t been the topic of our conversation. I don’t think empathy is exclusive to self-beneficial things. I do think that societal accommodations are limited in scope, but that’s beside the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 06:42 PM
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No, pretty sure the same raige-baiters will continue their gig. I don’t see their audience growing any.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:59 PM
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That doesn’t change anything about my previous comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:54 PM
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Yeah. That’s a perfect parallel to what happens with women’s preferences. In this very post/comment section for example. You share your personal opinion on the internet and this is what you get. If you have the freedom to share your opinion, then they have the freedom to share theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:46 PM
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How would you describe what OP referred to as that? Some men’s dating troubles.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:39 PM
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Those aren’t the same. Preferences used to choose who you want to date are not the same thing as boundaries and compromises within a pre-established relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:37 PM
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Also elder Gen Z and this comment describes my observed experience as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:21 PM
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That was a direct quote from the actual article, not my personal opinion. I have no issue with the designed height of the overhead bins, but as a woman on the shorter side I do absolutely need assistance from taller people around me whenever I travel to put my bag up there. That doesn’t make me a “damsel in distress”, I’m just short.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:15 PM
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First, the rage bait women on social media, the validation-seekers, are not representative of women overall. You seem to have issues with how women selectively avoid relationships that aren’t compatible, complain about relationships they’ve entered that are compatible and somehow also have issues with women leaving relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:12 PM
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That doesn’t relate to my last comment about societal male default and the harm that does to women, but go off sis.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 04:56 PM
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Sure, but don’t you see why it’s important to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 04:54 PM
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Not above commenter but you clearly agree with societally assigned roles by gender. That goes against freedom of choice and opportunity that feminism clearly advocates for.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:05 PM
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Here’s where you say: “as a woman with a vagina I can say it is” OR “wow as a dude with a penis I sure feel dumb for mansplaining what sex feels like to someone with a vagina”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:01 PM
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No it’s not. As someone with a vagina I can confidently tell you it’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:59 PM
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Yes and most men aren’t “extremely endowed”. Your point is?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:58 PM
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Those studies are on verbal communication and body language irl. You’re wrong about there being any difference for written communication lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:54 PM
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No, the meeting just took the average male height as the default. Same way car companies just used male sized crash test dummies and as a result more women die for automobile accidents. It doesn’t have to be intentional to be harmful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:53 PM
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I am a man, I am used to male communication Dude, men and women write in written communication the exact same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:51 PM
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They can only be achieved by more well endowed men No. It’s a matter of position and angle. The curvature of a penis is more important to that than being “well-endowed”. In most cases the precision of a slightly smaller package is easier to produce those “a spot” or cervical orgasms.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:48 PM
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You mean the article where she says, The overhead bin is too tall for most women by design.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:39 PM
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Neither those sounds like preference? The secondary advice I’ve only seen given to actual medically diagnosed micro-penises, tho
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:37 PM
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All of that is mechanical and roughly sound from a physics standpoint. Explain to me how you’re deducing women’s opinion based on the comparison of advice given? Sure, if you ignore the advice women give tovmen who are well endowed versus the advice they give to men who arent.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:34 PM
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Yeah and we’ve debated that research with opposing studies of our own. None of that is in this post hon. All you have is “trust me bro, I’m a man who knows what it’s like living in a female body”.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:30 PM
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No. My cervix has literally no interest in that. Mad respect for size queen up there but she’s a magical unicorn, not the average women with the average sized vagina lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:28 PM
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To use your own words, Your beliefs are not even remotely grounded in reality. Your argument is just " trust me bro . Im a woman man who speaks for women All research is vehemently against you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:26 PM
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Yeah.. that’s not accurate lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:24 PM
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What advice do you think women are giving to men who are “well endowed”?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:24 PM
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Or it actually doesn’t matter? Do you see how circular your “reasoning” is? Think logically bro
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:18 PM
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Women who admit they’re size queens aren’t just being picky—they actually understand their bodies. They’ve been with a guy who can reach deep spots like the A-spot, G-spot, and even the cervix—things smaller guys often can’t hit with the same intensity or fullness. So bigger guys can achieve those orgasms much more frequently than smaller ones . Stop mansplaining women’s bodies to women. Yes we know our bodies. No size doesn’t matter the way you think it does. Yes my best sexual experiences happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:17 PM
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Why are you assuming someone struggling lifting a suitcase is faking it?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:15 PM
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I’d argue the opposite actually. In this economy it’s much more reasonable to find an equal participating partner than expect one person to provide everything. That’s the elitist and shallow behavior ime.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:14 PM
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No, people are different, with different strengths and weaknesses. I agree we should allow individuals to follow the skills they’re naturally inclined to. That’s just not gendered in nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:11 PM
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The average man doesn’t work physically intensive jobs tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:08 PM
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if men behaved like women you wouldn't be here typing this today. What do you mean by that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:04 PM
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Why are those roles gendered tho? You’re talking about communal support and being a contributing member of society, there’s no need to gender that participation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:59 AM
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All of this. I’ll add that this doesn’t just affect women. I’d wager half the issues men bring up on this sub are because of antiquated gender roles where men are expected to be unemotional and stoic, be the tough protector and provider. Those things may come naturally to some people, but others feel belittled by these gross expectations that they truly don’t need to fulfill for our modern world.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:38 AM
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You personally choosing to do more masculine things or feminine things is totally valid. Pre-assigned societal roles given to literal children and then giving each gender only half a toolbox of skills to succeed in life, that’s oppressive and fucked up. That’s what “gender roles are harmful” means. The “roles” part of the term refers to the pre-established traits we push onto kids and the harsh/limiting expectations we put on adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:30 AM
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Look up division of domestic labor stats, you’d be shocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:22 AM
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Those are two drastically different lifestyles that aren’t in competition with eachother. They both fulfill a niche if you will, with a completely different “target audience”.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 05:03 AM
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No I watch what women do and it also aligns with what I said above, for the majority at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 04:08 AM
10

See, you’re agreeing with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 08:12 PM
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I think you’re missing the overall point of my comments. Men have the privilege of not depending on their partner when they take on the physical hardship of having kids. They aren’t asked or expected to put their careers on hold to make a family.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 07:05 PM
3

College and university is essentially the same thing. You finish high school and then apply to get into college/university. The public ones tend to be easier to get into, but they cost less. The private ones are way more selective and more expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 06:48 PM
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And that’s why we say men need to raise their standards. Y’all aren’t checking for compatibility, so we clearly have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 06:46 PM
37

Well yeah. Do you get along with every person you work with? No, you likely are fine with most, have one or two you actually enjoying talking to, and maybe 1-2 that get on your nerves. That’s true for humans in general. You don’t get along with most humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 06:41 PM
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I want someone who shares my lifestyle, ambitions + values. this doesn’t have to be someone with a college degree, tho it often is If I were a woman wanting a family + kids, I’d know that my career/income/health insurance would be taking a hit for about 1.5 years per kid. These women reasonably choose a partner they know can support them during this time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 06:24 PM
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Replace feminist with civil rights advocate and you see how stupid this post is.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 05:19 PM
5

Do you know how often men on here are mad at women for not participating in casual sex? Not fucking them? All of it is dumb external judgment
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 01:06 PM
1

Women are shamed for both having sex and not having it. Thank the sexist gender norms where men have to have sex to gain value and women lose value having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 12:34 PM
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You’re confusing casual dating with relationships. Yes you might have a season of first dates, where you’re on the apps and going out with different people once maybe twice. That stops when you find the person you actually like.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:51 AM
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Only if she had large boobs to begin with. Small ones stay perky.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:49 AM
18

Well stop that. A bad relationship is a waste of time and energy. What’s worse is potentially missing out on the right relationship because you’re wasting time in a crappy one.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:46 AM
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Monogamy only requires the consent and participation of the people inside the relationship. People meet, they fall in love, some get married, pop out a few babies, others travel with their spouse or get a dog. All of that has happened and continues to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:32 AM
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Yeah but if you wanna have a LTR, you’d most likely you’d have to choose. Paradox of choice doesn’t have to result in anxiety, just hesitation. That’s not how relationships work dude. People aren’t out here comparing options A, B and C. They go on a date with A, they’re incompatible. So they go out with B, there’s no chemistry. A few more letters and they meet G who’s a great fit and really funny and they fall in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:16 AM
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And look at the angry responses I'm getting. the tamest comment section I’ve seen on PPD 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:12 AM
14

Women age faster than men. No, men definitely age the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 04:11 AM
1

you have weird fantasies
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 02:08 AM
1

Last time I checked
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 11:39 PM
3

I’m well over 30, when do you think all that’s gonna kick in?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 11:07 PM
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No, they don’t. But go ahead and mansplain women’s preferences to me!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 11:00 PM
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…doesn’t have palpable power. Then it’s a great thing “power” isn’t something modern women are looking for in a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:59 PM
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As a base interest, yes. You make a girl laugh, she will be remembering you and thinking about you hours from then. If we’re talking active interest in dating, most are going to need a bit more compatibility information on top of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:52 PM
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For you, totally. For myself and lots of women the physical attraction part comes after the other stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:38 PM
2

That’s incorrect though. Because lots of people started out platonic and then found attraction for eachother. Like 90% of the couples I know met that way. You’re not a woman, so I totally get that this is something you can’t really comprehend, but damn a personality will have us thinking a potato of a man is the most attractive thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:35 PM
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Responsive means responding to interactive factors. There has to be an intentional stimuli that your system then responds to. Please do your research before you call other people confused 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:34 PM
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You must be in your 20s. By the time the biological clock starts ticking loudly, (almost) all women march in the same direction. Oh sweetie 🤣💀
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:31 PM
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Key word: includes. It’s multiple attraction factors, some external, some internal. Including some that are interactive. That’s not primary attraction is physical.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:30 PM
2

Oh really? You were just speaking so confidently about how women perceive men and what sorts of things factor into their internal decisions, I just assumed. My bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:25 PM
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Nope, not even true.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:23 PM
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The casual assumption that you were speaking logically and I wasn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:22 PM
1

Okay, so that’s your personal opinion as a woman in today’s society?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:21 PM
2

I was also speaking logically. But love the casual sexism 👌🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:17 PM
0

Depends on the person, but generally it’s a combination of cute smile, kind heart, makes her laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:15 PM
1

Yeah that’s just not true lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:15 PM
-1

That’s not power that she’s attracted to then. It’s the kindness.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:10 PM
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makes up a quote 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 10:09 PM
-1

For the love of god, go google what this term means that’s so clearly confusing you. It is not my job as a woman to educate you. I’ve given you the fishing rod, go fish.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 09:59 PM
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The strong don’t need to be kind to survive by definition. They do. Literally from a biological standpoint you do. That also doesn’t mean power is synonymous for free will.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 09:53 PM
-2

doubles down on his unawareness of how women work
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 09:51 PM
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You’re just equating “power” with “free-will”.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 09:43 PM
-12

tells me he doesn’t understand responsive attraction 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 09:42 PM
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No, woman’s primary reason for being attracted to men isn’t power. Kindness is not weakness. Have a great day ✌🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 09:31 PM
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Can you read? Watching porn =\= porn brain rot
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 08:13 PM
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No, it’s a very real problem in society. But clearly you disagree, so let’s leave it at that ✌🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 07:55 PM
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So please go in-depth of how my imagination of a porn scene is different than watching porn. wtf? How does this relate to my comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 07:54 PM
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That’s not actually true. There’s an affordable housing shortage. Businesses make more money building high end luxury condos and using those expensive and empty units as a tax write-off each year. Very few developers are investing in affordable housing because of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 07:42 PM
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So that’s the buying market, but how’s the rental market? Can’t speak for the UK, but in the US rent prices have increased drastically across the board, thanks to private equity inflating comparable real estate values.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 07:27 PM
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Okay, so right away your clear ambitions and goals is a positive in your favor. Yeah you’re facing a bit of that underdog hustle right now, but you’re moving forward with intention and that’s a quality most people, women included, admire.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 06:53 PM
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Income stagnation + inflation. Followed closely by private equity investments in the real estate and rental markets.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 06:45 PM
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Well what are your goals romance/relationship/ life wise?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 06:44 PM
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Men are predisposed to satisfy women Male violence against women stats would beg to differ. . .
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 06:35 PM
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Did you read the article? Because she’s not arguing we should hate men. She’s grappling with how to move forward and trust men in the wake of the MeToo movement, Harvey Weinstein and other news stories of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 06:27 PM
3

I don’t think OP understands what slavery is 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 06:18 PM
2

Even when it’s light and done well you can see it on the skin. Like an evened skin tone, redness only in the cheeks. Glossier lips. Dewey skin. I’ve noticed a lot of men have no clue what makeup actually looks like and then they’re shocked when they see someone out of makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 04:03 PM
2

and only 13% have used one within the last year.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 01:43 PM
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It is very obvious when makeup is applied. Watch some more makeup tutorials and you’ll learn the signs too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 11:43 AM
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None of that is true 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/25 11:38 AM
4

Well none of it is unconditional.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 11:26 PM
8

None of this is true, nor backed up by statistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 11:12 PM
0

It’s truly not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 11:02 PM
1

Money is a finite resource. It’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 08:52 PM
4

It is when you forget to turn off your misogynist goggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 08:37 PM
1

Do you ever get tired of the misogyny?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 08:33 PM
3

Yeah that’s not what this post is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 08:33 PM
2

Why are you assuming I make less than you? You’re not even capable of writing a coherent Reddit comment, and you think you get paid more? 💀🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 08:27 PM
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However, they get mad when the avarage man makes more than the average woman. LOL I’m not the one who misunderstood the post hon 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 08:21 PM
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if so many people hold a personal stance immediately contradictory to what they preach societally, its conflicting and hypocritical No, I read it correctly the first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 08:16 PM
2

Dude men do all of that shit every single day on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 08:05 PM
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But they’re not preaching it societally? Social norms are inherited not chosen. Your personal preferences are chosen.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 08:03 PM
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when was the last time you heard a woman being told that she should find a husband instead of going to college? Literally my entire life 🤣💀
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:56 PM
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Pointing out behavior isn’t shitting on women. The manner in which y’all do it on posts like this, is shitting on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:52 PM
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Gender roles dont exist anymore. Great, then why are y’all bitching about being providers?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:49 PM
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Preety much in most developed countries leave amount is standardised Not in the US lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:48 PM
3

Why would I? This isn’t my post nor my argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:42 PM
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Because the women that want men to be the providers won’t be working full time to make that equal amount.. you get that right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:39 PM
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Well what other reason would these men have to talk to us? They clearly don’t give a shit about our actual thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:35 PM
4

It’s about equal pay dude. It’s that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:29 PM
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If women outearn men, there will be no "provider men" But no one’s arguing for women to “outearn” men. They literally just want equal pay, legally. Explain how that’s contradictory.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:28 PM
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No shit we live in a society. How is that related to our previous comments?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:27 PM
0

women wanting their partners to spend money AND not make more than them is everything but logical.. That’s not what the post says.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:25 PM
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No, that’s a you issue. One is about equal rights on a legal basis. The other is personal preference for your own lifestyle and family. Mostly everyone is able to hold both these ideas at the same time..
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:23 PM
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I hate this subs need to validate women for no reason this isn’t a bad thing. That’s funny, I hate this subs need to shit on women for having normal human opinions. Guess we’re both suffering here :)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:21 PM
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Which is?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:12 PM
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Will you stop making this about some political issue instead of focusing or straight up ignoring the post? Just trying to understand OPs contradictory post here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:12 PM
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No. Because someone can advocate for equal pay regardless of gender, and also want to be a stay at home mother in her personal life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:11 PM
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They rather date a guy who’s already successful and established(hence dating men 1-4 years older then themselves) and benefit off that than make their own success. Speak for yourself, hon.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 07:03 PM
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Are you conflating personal relationship preferences with complaints about the sociopolitical gender wage gap?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 06:44 PM
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Teachers aren’t setting the curriculum.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 06:39 PM
2

Or just don’t ask women questions when you already have the “correct answers” in your head 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 06:27 PM
2

So why do you get to say “incorrect” and disqualify others comments based on your own perception and we don’t? I’m starting to wonder if this cognitive dissonance is a “male behavior” you’re exhibiting 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 06:16 PM
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It’s "did they even read my question properly and answer it". Except you left out half your qualifications in your og post and added them later in edits. So it wasn’t people “not reading your question” it was you not writing it well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 06:14 PM
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So here’s where I pull a you and say “incorrect” because from my observed experience that’s not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 06:09 PM
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This feels like homework assigned by a teacher who hates his job and just wants to fail the whole class lol 🤣💯
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 06:05 PM
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Do you not know men that do the same thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 06:04 PM
2

meaning as a whole the "industry" has a female power bias. It doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 06:03 PM
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Women are over represented in the department of education, and so with their systemic power Women are more likely to be teachers or school administrators, but district admin, board of educators and dept of education are more likely to be men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 05:54 PM
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Violence is a male behavior for example. It’s a male symptom. The root of it is emotions, which women are also emotional creatures- lots of who also act out aggressively and violently when not regulating their emotions. But that’s not biological, is sociological based on how we were raised by society to behave “appropriately” for our gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 05:43 PM
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I wasn’t suggesting that diagnosis doesn’t play a strong part overall. I was just referencing the studies I’ve read on the subject that led me to say “women are more prone to depression”.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 05:41 PM
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I mean I don’t agree that your examples are exclusive to male behaviors. I did my best to come up with examples for women, but clearly it’s not what you’re looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 05:40 PM
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I don’t think those are gendered traits tho? Like immaturity, irresponsibility, dishonesty, intelligence- none of that is inherently gendered or exclusive to one over the other. Both men and women display those behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 05:33 PM
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There’s a hormonal component to depression that research suggests we’re more prone to the disorder. Like a lot of us experience PMDD, even if it’s misdiagnosed as just usual period blues.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 05:32 PM
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Do you have specific examples of these “points of moral inferiority” you’re looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 05:29 PM
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Women are more prone to depression. edit hormonally, like PMDD/PPD. The “sisterhood” you reference can be commonly used to force conformity and ostracize abnormality. In the realm of dating I think women that desire kids can easily pressure themselves into settling for the first okay guy rather than waiting for a genuine partner. Women are also more likely to stay in an abusive or toxic relationship, empathy is one hell of a double edged sword. Can’t think of a fifth one. (I’m sure they exist bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 05:25 PM
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Why do you think so low of men?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 02:56 PM
2

That’s fair ✌🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 02:05 PM
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Yeah men aren’t cavemen who are slave to their sex drive. Pretty sure most people evolved beyond that centuries ago?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 02:01 PM
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Only 41% of women have ever used a dating app, and only 13% have used one within the last year. The few that do reasonably like dating apps specifically for the visual information and shallow aesthetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 11:07 AM
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No. They don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 01:56 AM
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is to take care of the way you look/present yourself. No. Part of being a good partner is giving your partner the space to practice self-care for them. No part of it should be “presenting yourself” to the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 11:16 PM
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That still doesn’t explain anything here..
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 11:09 PM
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Somehow that source leaves me more confused. Is falling for sociopaths a common occurrence in your mind?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 11:03 PM
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what?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 10:59 PM
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Good thing most people don’t think of fellow humans as purely aesthetic objects for their own viewing pleasure.?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 10:31 PM
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Single people have existed in every version of civilization, unlike the nuclear family which is a very 21st century idea. You can still be a part of a community, without being coupled up. Humans are made for social connection and communal living.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 09:56 PM
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It’s responsive vs spontaneous desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 09:45 PM
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The difference is consciousness.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 08:27 PM
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This isn't grounded in reality nor representative of healthy relationship dynamics. The premise that women are inherently emotionally incapable is laughable. The idea that we must choose between independence and being "feminine" is also false. Emotional regulation is a human skill, not a gendered one. All adults experience emotions and develop strategies to manage them. Many women are extraordinarily emotionally stable while many men struggle with emotional regulation. These are individual diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 08:03 PM
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Control their emotions and think rationally and logically No they’re not. They’re just not emotionally aware enough to recognize when their feelings are leading the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 07:50 PM
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Would I be wrong if I felt no empathy and said honestly after considering her point that I don't find it a compelling reason for the way you acted. You don’t get to validate or invalidate someone else’s emotions. You can express how you felt by their reaction. It’s immature to pretend you can deny what someone else is feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 07:49 PM
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We’re not talking about relationships between two people though. Your post and your comments are clearing arguing that women are emotional and men aren’t. I have several world examples that clearly show how male emotions affects the world all around us, thereby disputing your argument that women are more emotional.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 07:18 PM
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Ftr I’m autistic too, I care deeply about money and my career. Not saying that to judge, just to put it into perspective that this is an “individual person” thing and not a “neurodivergent thing”.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 07:17 PM
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No one wants to convince you to change your ways. If that’s a future you want for yourself, say that shit now and start working towards it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 07:06 PM
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lots of millenials living with their parents. Just because someone is living with their parents, doesn’t mean they want to or are happily doing so. Most people are saving up with the goal to move out, buy a house of their own, move in with their partner etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 07:01 PM
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No, you are not "unempathetic", Women's emotional expectations are just unreasonable Let’s start with his post title?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 06:47 PM
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No, I chose to point out the flaw in your argument. You seem to think that men and women handle emotions differently, they don’t. Both examples you gave are the same. The last half of your comment describes a particularly toxic individual, but that’s not gendered, there are men and women that act like that because they don’t have the stress tolerance, emotional intelligence to regulate their emotions like an adult. That’s a maturity issue, not a gendered one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 06:47 PM
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Women are more emotional on average obviously. No, they’re not. Men are as emotional as women, they just lack the emotional intelligence and communication skills to identify it. Men will get angry and rage out, start wars, kill people, violent competition, aggressive ego- all of those are men being emotional and not responsibly handling their excess emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 06:43 PM
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And so do I :) Then why are you complaining about women vetting for their priorities? If your goal is to find people you’re aligned with you’d encourage women to do this, as it saves everyone wasted time and energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 06:40 PM
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What about different people want different things is hard for you to understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 06:37 PM
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because a lot of women expect a man to be earning a certain amount of money before they go on a first date with them. Because those women care about relationship compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 06:34 PM
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…which are usually women 🤣💀
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 06:32 PM
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Apparently not, if this is a recurrent issue you’re experiencing?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 06:30 PM
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Because why would I go on a date if our ambitions are incompatible?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 06:26 PM
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my lack of a career and earning potential holds me back. And like why? Lifestyle incompatibility? Different priorities? Contrasting ambitions? Shared values are the basis of any relationship. If those aren’t aligned, there’s no potential for a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 06:19 PM
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Should men have... friends? I vote yes 🙋🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 06:16 PM
5

I think I replied to another comment of yours with similar sentiments, but essentially emotional volatility is toxic and a red flag, regardless of gender. Being a human with emotions is normal. Letting those emotions chronically consume and overwhelm situations is unhealthy and an issue to be fixed in therapy. I don’t see anything gendered about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 06:05 PM
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But do men who do that expecting you to empathize with them? Or are they just angry and venting Those are the same thing hon.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 05:55 PM
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All humans are emotional. I wouldn’t date a chronically insecure person, man or woman, because I’m an adult and have better uses of my time. But every normal person has moments of insecurity, or anxiety, or sadness, that’s healthy and normal. But being an adult is having the emotional maturity to recognize your emotions and communicate your needs. Emotional volatility is a toxic trait that’s unattractive in anyone, but it’s not exclusive to one gender over the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 05:54 PM
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Throwing a tantrum about a minor inconvenience because hormones are high? Have you never seen an angry man?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 05:47 PM
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Just reverse the gender and then give your opinions. A lot of the things yall fight hard to defend yall wouldn’t even consider yourself doing for a man. What does that even mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 05:46 PM
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Or the third option, OP uses this priority as a filter for compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 05:33 PM
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Men are just as emotional as women. Many men just lack the emotional intelligence and communication skills to effectively communicate their emotions. That’s what happens when we raise girls and boys differently and provide either group with only half of the toolbox.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 05:26 PM
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my inability to get sexually satisfied is much more important than yours" lol. As a single person you’re not in any social contract with anyone else. There’s no agreed expectation of sharing love, care, time, energy, or intimacy. Inside a relationship you are in a social contract, with your partner. You give those resources and you get those resources back. That’s why an uneven exchange within a relationship is a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:39 PM
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It’s not a good one hon. The comparison makes no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:22 PM
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If sex is so important after all, then lonely single men are suffering without it - OP probably
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:19 PM
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Can't people just masturbate? Some people do. Others prioritize sexual intimacy within a relationship. Different strokes for different folks.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:16 PM
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Different people have different preferences. Some women have extremely high libidos. Some men have very low libidos. You need compatibility within a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:12 PM
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While I agree this is shallow behavior generally used on shallow dating apps, I don’t know if the specific data points you chose are comparable. a 185cm guy // while being 155cm 60kg girl // while they are 120kg
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 03:37 PM
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I did. It still breaks down to a civil rights movement rooted in inequality and sociopolitical progress being equated to a niche internet dating movement…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 03:06 PM
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That's a big difference. One of these has contributed to systemic, political and economic progress on a historic scale. The other is a dating advice niche.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 02:48 PM
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One is a century old civil rights movement that led social and political progress towards a more equitable and ethical society. The other is an internet niche for dating advice. How on earth are these two even comparable?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 01:59 PM
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prefer =\= demand so don’t date women who are unconfident and neurotic
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 11:35 AM
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That’s exactly what I’m talking about. How can they justifiably take women as clients and charge them money if they don’t have the diverse network of men to deliver on their promises?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 11:33 AM
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Because if their network of connections only sources women you’d have to build an entire new network to try and source enough men to curate a selection for female clients.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 05:03 AM
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I’m not a matchmaker so I have only a vague idea of the process or steps involved, but what I do know is that it’s highly dependent on your network of contacts. So if their network just doesn’t feature that wide variety of men they need to justifiably charge those women for their services, it would be unethical in my opinion for them to accept them as clients and make promises they can’t deliver.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 04:07 AM
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Think of it like a barber shop or a suit tailor, like yeah you can walk in there as a woman and ask that the same service performed on men be done on you, but you can’t walk in and expect them to style a 50s bouffant or make a ballgown. Different techniques and skillsets.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 03:37 AM
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I mean they have the right to refuse service, at least in my country. I don’t care to force business to offer bespoke services to everybody. That’s not how capitalism works, you niche down and find your clientele. You don’t want to serve women? Great, someone else will and will care a lot more about providing that service and serving that clientele.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 03:10 AM
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Most people prefer confident and nice. Those aren’t mutually exclusive, just fyi.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 12:54 AM
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when i see boss babe feminists in their 30s with a promiscuous past and a social media addiction ask about where the good men are i usually think: not looking for you. Do you not believe in personal preference? Or do you judge all genders for their professional success?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 12:18 AM
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They were always taken seriously No, they definitely weren’t. After me too people were canceled without investigation or fair trail which led to the statment of believe all women which led to not believing anyone. Social “cancelling” isn’t a thing, especially not for sex related crimes. Also most companies just did surface level policy changes just to adhere to the bs since there were already policy for this. Companies historically would cover their asses, men would let their fellow men get away…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 12:15 AM
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Well myself and other women aren’t sexually harassed in the workplace anymore. Our complaints to hr are taken seriously and no one’s trying to withhold our promotion for a blow job. All positive improvements on society! Also, college campuses are safer for female students. Schools take sexual harassment claims seriously. Other good things brought to us by believing women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:56 PM
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It was not most women and that's why me too was a disaster and ended up being just another controversial movement. It was most women. That’s why MeToo had a lasting and important impact on society and women’s safety in public and professional spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 10:25 PM
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You say that as if that wasn’t the agreed upon status quo before.. It was within that system that women experienced all sorts of harassment, anger and violence thus causing feminists to stand up and protect women’s safety in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 10:18 PM
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because media and feminism online instead of giving solutions just bitched and moaned Why is it feminism’s responsibility to find you a suitable replacement for harassment?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 10:02 PM
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Men buy cars to impress other men. Women wear makeup to impress other women. These are lifestyle hobbies they enjoy participating in. For a relationship you just need financial compatibility. Not even comparing net worth or wealth, but looking at what sort of spender you are, how much do you save/invest, what things do you feel are frivolous vs. necessary to spend money on. Those will vary person to person but without question will make or break a relationship if those values aren’t aligned.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 08:59 PM
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I think we should pay more attention to what’s coming up on someone else’s feed, especially as the apps algorithms get more and more personalized by our individual engagement. But I don’t think it makes sense to hold someone else to things said in spaces they don’t frequent or in media they don’t consume.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 08:52 PM
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The delusional fantasy you’re describing has everything to do with a persons maturity and emotional intelligence and almost nothing to do with the specific hobbies they happen to enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 08:50 PM
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They form a fantasy of a relationship in their head that doesn’t mesh with reality and really isn’t healthy That’s an issue whether you’re a nerd or a normie tho. You’re describing a very general toxic thing that average people do and then crediting it to only nerdy guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 08:32 PM
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I love comic books, anime, video games, and Funko Pops just as much as I love designer bags, day drinking, and booking a spontaneous flight. Some people can’t comprehend that some of those are more alike than they are different, and it’s wild. Like a love for aesthetic design. Fun social interactions. A sense of adventure. Those all can be found and shared in nerdy hobbies as well as more mainstream ones- and are often enjoyed by the same people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 07:45 PM
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men consistently value character more than women do. Not according to men on this sub. Y’all will fuck anything apparently. Women are the ones checking for personality, hobbies, passions, family values, political interests, and y’all say we’re crazy for doing that. If good men were truly what women wanted, they’d be pursued They are, look around at any happily married coupled. 8/10 times she pursued him and they ended up married. Why? Because most women screen for a wider variety of traits than …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 07:28 PM
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This is widely inaccurate. Introverted couples quite commonly have a partner that is their best friend. (In an ideal world you both have additional friends on top of that). But I’ve noticed nerdy folks are way more likely to share interests and hobbies with their SO than non-nerds.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 07:21 PM
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“Whoever invites you out for the date” is for any and all dates, not just first dates dude. The concept applies to repeat interactions and consecutive dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 02:20 PM
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Just because a woman isn’t interested in you, doesn’t mean she thinks she’s above you. This is so accurate. Idk why men so often conflate the two, but they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 02:00 PM
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That’s a fair point. I personally don’t observe that behavior to the extent that you describe, but my perspective is obviously different than yours. From my viewpoint it’s usually men who are holding other men to such heightened standards of toughness and masculinity. But again, that’s just my observed perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 01:48 PM
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I think you’re confusing two separate things. You can advocate against antiquated gender roles as pre-assigned by society and also prefer traditional roles within your relationship. One is advocating for freedom of choice and the other is using that individual choice. For the record I’m all about non-traditional roles in my relationships, but as a feminist I also advocate for individual choice and respect that some men want a housewife and some women want to be that housewife. As long as that is…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 01:42 PM
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Some women, like some men, like traditional gender roles. How is this news to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 01:24 PM
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Who’s attacking?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 12:59 PM
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I’m literally describing something that’s a regular occurrence online as a woman. wtf is your problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 12:03 PM
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It’s not about what he posted. It’s about the women responding about his “gooning” habits. Almost always followed by the private dms asking them to explain their thoughts more expansively.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:39 AM
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Dude it’s a very common thing especially amongst askwomen subs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:34 AM
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Can we retire this stupid term already? Be an adult and just say masturbation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 03:34 AM
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Those are the same thing tho. Like in your head they’re not the same thought but the information you’re asking for/looking to find out is the same regardless of your true intention.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 08:47 PM
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No. It’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 08:05 PM
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Which is why I dislike the whole “what do you bring to the table?” argument. Why? It’s good to know what you’re looking for in a relationship. A big part of that is recognizing the life you’re building for yourself and how someone else would fit into that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 07:58 PM
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The good reasons to have a relationship still hold true in 2025. I just think the bad reasons are thankfully no longer a problem. So yes we may see less relationships/marriages but the quality of those will be far greater than previous generations. (which is a net positive in my opinion)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 07:54 PM
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Those aren’t non-western exclusive things. Most men I see with those issues are western/American men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 05:13 PM
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Back to my previous comment: You: every liberal western country rapidly dwindling and eventually extinct. me: That’s not how extinction works.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 04:35 PM
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Dude, stop and think for like a moment about you’re suggesting in your above comment.. That’s because the majority of the population is from east and south Asia. You dumped reproductive rate onto those countries without realizing the balance has been shifted elsewhere. Now on the other side of the scale every liberal western country rapidly dwindling and eventually extinct. If there are humans left on this earth, then humans are not fucking extinct. 🤦🏼‍♀️💀
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 02:48 PM
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every liberal western country rapidly dwindling and eventually extinct. That’s not how extinction works.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 12:20 PM
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It’s truly not. Also, I thought conservatives had the monopoly on tobacco..?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 01:49 AM
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No we don’t. I fight for your right as a woman to live however the fuck you choose. Want to stay at home, wear dresses and have 8 kids? Hell yeah, let’s march for that. You’d rather skip the kids and take over corporate America? Hell yeah, let’s march for that. It’s called women’s choice for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 12:29 AM
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Opinions like this are why you don’t get laid hon.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 11:13 PM
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Unlike women men, women are capable of voting on principle and not solely for things that grant them personal power and privilege. Don’t worry hon! Fixed it for you 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 11:11 PM
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Abolishing gender roles doesn’t take away women’s choice to wear dresses and stay at home. It just makes those things a personal choice and not a social requirement.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 11:10 PM
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It’s been a proposed bill on and off for like the past two decades at least. Every. Single. Time. Conservatives crash it because they don’t think women belong in the military. It’s fucking sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 11:04 PM
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The most recent legislation on the topic was in 2021. wtf are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:55 PM
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Our world is overpopulated as is. We literally don’t have the resources to maintain this growth at our current pace.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:53 PM
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Tell that to the conservatives who killed the gender neutral draft bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:51 PM
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This post is clearly a troll but all the dudes agreeing with it is wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:51 PM
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Yeah the issue here is you seem to think you have two functional synapses and therefore deserve a vote…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:49 PM
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Childlessness by choice should be punished, actually. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:49 PM
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I’m not ignoring anything. Non-lethal physical abuse is still a male-dominated category.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:48 PM
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Compared to the men on this sub we’re geniuses 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:47 PM
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Sounds like he’s better than you. That’s not the conclusion to draw from that 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:46 PM
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as I suggest, at least 20% of men and 70% of women wouldn't qualify for voting. What the actual fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:45 PM
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The case has never been made why it's okay for the demographic immune to the draft to constitute Democrats have tried adding women to the draft. We are absolutely fine with it, but you know who wasn’t? Conservative old men that said it was “too woke”.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:44 PM
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offended? No. Concerned for your mental state? absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:39 PM
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The last woman in the draft piece of legislation was pushed by the democrats. And conservatives did vote it down because it was “too woke”.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:33 PM
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Y’all are conflating social infighting with actual abuse. Those are two entirely different things. I’m not arguing that there’s not infighting amongst women. I am arguing that women aren’t dying and getting physically beaten because another woman doesn’t like her outfit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:25 PM
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Historically women could and did vote more conservatively/right wing than men in some countries. Historically conservatives were against big government and were dead-set against restricting women’s rights. Things change.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:18 PM
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Most women will tell you that women are worse than men when it comes to abuse. No they won’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:05 PM
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What in the actual fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 10:04 PM
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Botox already exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 08:50 PM
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No it’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 07:15 PM
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And our world is overpopulated in general, so?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 06:13 PM
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You don't compare alcohol to pornography. It can leave you depressed for a month like a drug addiction once you quit. Against your will. what are you trying to say?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 06:08 PM
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I’m sorry, you think BBW is a term women came up with? It’s a porn term sir. Created by men to describe their niche sexual fetish.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 04:11 PM
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What you’re describing is a natural consequence of their actions. They will limit their dating ability. It doesn’t affect you at all, so why exactly are you commenting about it here? And why do you pretend that the obesity epidemic is a gendered issue?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 03:53 PM
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You’re shifting the goalposts. No one’s arguing that all forms of coercion can or will disappear entirely—but there’s a huge difference between coercion to maintain basic social order (like laws against theft) and coercion that exists to uphold male access to women. The latter isn’t a neutral or necessary feature of civilization—it’s a patriarchal relic designed to preserve power structures, not promote social cohesion. Framing women’s autonomy as a societal threat because some men feel left out…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 03:36 PM
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You’re still assuming that men are owed romantic or sexual fulfillment by society, which is exactly the patriarchal mindset we’re trying to move away from. Any model of society that requires coercion or control to function, is not a sustainable or ethical society. We should be building a world rooted in equity and mutual respect, not one designed to soothe the discomfort of those who feel entitled to what others aren’t obligated to give.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 03:13 PM
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I don't want to return to the 1800s or enslave women Yeah, those aren’t available options for you, or any random dudes on this sub who keep threatening patriarchal submission as if we’ll suddenly start behaving like you want us to.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 02:44 PM
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Terrible sales pitch for patriarchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 02:34 PM
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Full support for men nurturing more community for themselves. Women have a victim narrative they can bond over. But dumbing women’s communal bond down to this is such a male-centered take, it’s hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 02:22 PM
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Except the wage gap affects middle aged women even when they’re not married or have no kids. The perception bias that surely every woman around a certain age will soon become pregnant is why women get passed over for promotions, mentorship opportunities at work, and yeah get paid less statistically. So I agree, treat people like adults. Don’t assume because she has a vagina that she’ll succumb to cave men urges and throw away a career she’s devoted her life to. But see people like you don’t like…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 03:21 AM
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What the actual fuck dude? Condolences to your wife…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 02:46 AM
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Maybe they’re on their periods?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 02:08 AM
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Nah, a lot of us are very direct and efficient with our communication and choices. The downvotes are fucking hilarious. Be a man, leave a comment. Don’t play games 😘
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 02:05 AM
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So my not giving you entrance inside my physical body is your reasonable excuse to be a misogynist and vehemently hate all women?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:25 AM
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And like I said in my first comment, watching porn is not the equivalent of brain rot. Just like having an occasional drink doesn’t make you an alcoholic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:13 AM
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Having a drink on occasion doesn’t make you an alcoholic ✌🏻 it’s your dependency to the vice and the negative impact it has on the rest of your life that is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:09 AM
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No it’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:05 AM
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I remember that violence causes far more problems than it solves.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 12:32 AM
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whereas all women exhibit red pilling behaviour. Meaning they don’t fuck you?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 12:29 AM
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They didn’t assume your sexual status. They just used the literal definition of “misogynist” to question your meaning. Which is way weirder now knowing you have a wife. Like wtf dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 12:27 AM
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Red pill warns people when others are being assholes and tells you to avoid said assholes. If that’s true, why the fuck are y’all still trying to date women?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 11:56 PM
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How do you get it up if you’re not attracted to her?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 08:06 PM
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OP’s equating orgasm for orgasm. By that standard if he finished, she cared about his pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:21 PM
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Explain the “she doesn’t care about his pleasure” part of the title.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:18 PM
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No you see everything a man doesn’t like is our fault /s Including letting him fuck you apparently 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 07:03 PM
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If someone didn’t care about whether or not you actually found them attractive during sex His deception isn’t her apathy. wtf?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:59 PM
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But to knowingly go after some desperate guy off a dating app who likely isn’t attracted to you is just asking for a bad experience. Explain how this is the woman “not caring about his pleasure”.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:56 PM
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Because it’s apples and oranges. Him finding her attractive is equivalent to her finding him attractive. Him getting an orgasm is the equivalent of her getting an orgasm. Also, you chose to sleep with someone. That’s your choice, nothings being done to you in that situation and nothing’s being kept from you in that situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:48 PM
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This: if a woman doesn’t care about whether her partner finds her attractive or actually respects her and tries to fuck some desperate dude off a dating app has nothing to do with his “pleasure”.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:44 PM
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Your title has nothing to do with the rest of your post?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:41 PM
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Your title seems oddly worded? It seems like your post is about men’s pain and women’s emotional regulation (or lack thereof in this case). If our goal is to refocus our attention onto the pain and abuse that men suffer then focusing the title on “female pain” feels counterproductive? Maybe I’m misunderstanding your overall post tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 06:31 PM
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logic 🤣💀
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:34 AM
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No we had our active social lives. We had FaceTime and social bubbles and coordinated outdoor picnics with social distancing and dogs. But y’all had no hope of social interaction, did you? Your only potential to meet someone via cold approaches was cruelly ripped away from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:33 AM
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Yeah and the trend I’m pointing out is the “male loneliness epidemic” y’all are constantly complaining about. There’s no such trend for women so your attempted argument truly holds no weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:30 AM
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Posts like this are why y’all can’t get laid. Just FYI
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:29 AM
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Or are women stronger minded because we’re not bitching about a female loneliness epidemic? I think gendered generalizations are fucking stupid, mainly because you can easily swing the logic both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:27 AM
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By your own logic men are lonelier than women. So by your own logic men had a harder time during lockdown than women. It’s okay hon, speak your truth 💕
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:25 AM
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being weaker minded than most lonely men have become. what does this mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:23 AM
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By your logic, low value men felt incredibly screwed by the lockdowns. Their only potential for human interaction was wiped out because they didn’t have those built in social circles. So logically men were the ones having the emotional reaction to lockdown.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:19 AM
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While Some men did care more about the economic impact, the social effects also hit many men hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:17 AM
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Dude lots of women hated the lockdowns for economic reasons and lots of men wanted the lockdowns for health + safety reasons. None of this is gendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:16 AM
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That wasn’t a gendered thing..
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:15 AM
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Yeah that’s the point I’m making dude 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:33 AM
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Yeah but if you NEED it to get over the line every time That implies getting to orgasm every time. My reply outlined the difference between sensory stimulations of masturbation vs sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:12 AM
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That’s not entirely true. Porn adds sensory stimulation to solo masturbation. That sort of sensory stimulation that naturally is a part of sex with another person. Like anything it’s about moderation and quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 02:00 AM
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Sure, but you’re demonizing men’s desires as if they’re inherently twisted. They’re not. Sexual desire can be a healthy and normal thing, for anyone of any gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:58 AM
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To be fair most women’s issue isn’t the masturbation. It’s the unrealistic types of porn and how that fantasy/assumed-reality affects men irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:52 AM
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Watching porn =\= porn brain rot Just like having a drink on occasion doesn’t make you an alcoholic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:37 AM
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Huh, I’ve noticed that of men on PPD. Generally women here are complaining about casual sex because it’s lacking that necessary emotional connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 09:16 PM
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they’re really complaining about lack of companionship, support, and plans for future/family. Sex is just the placeholder word. Find a new placeholder word. Seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 09:15 PM
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Not above commenter but there’s nothing wrong with wanting sex. But getting mad at people for not giving you sex is crazy. As is thinking a casual sexual encounter will cure your emotional loneliness. Also, “trying to fulfill a natural human need” = being horny. That’s the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 09:00 PM
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That doesn’t track with data we have for age gap relationships. But sure, nice cope.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 08:38 PM
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Sure. Just be up front about that. If all you care about is a woman’s “prime” then any potential woman deserves to know it will be a short term relationship for the duration of her “prime”.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 08:33 PM
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Saying it’s “manufactured” implies it was intentionally designed or created in the first place. I think you need to separate the natural chain of events that led us here and then can make the argument this gender war right now is manufactured by social media and rage marketing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 08:30 PM
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and they’ll stay in their prime for longer. They’ll stay in their prime for same length of time as any woman. It’s your perception of her that changes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 08:23 PM
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There is no reason to assume an older man in an AGR cannot get women his own age. You’re conflating two things tho. We’re not talking about a dude happening to find someone he really likes and they’re younger. We’re talking about men who specifically target much younger women because they’re more malleable and “less annoying”, to quote OP. That pattern of behavior is the concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:54 PM
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soothing wtf?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:19 PM
3

It’s as many as OP has offered in this post about women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 07:12 PM
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Dude write in paragraphs if you want people to respond to your shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:56 PM
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That sounds like a very specific and intentional journey you’ve made. Very happy for you 💕 I come from a very religious background where most girls are raised to get married straight of our high school and then are pushed straight into having kids and not getting any development of their own job skills or career. Sadly this often leads to young moms and wives being stuck in incredibly unhealthy situations with financial abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:35 PM
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Where’s the lie in that? To yourself. You want a bang maid you can control not a partner, likely because you can’t level up to women your own age. Your ego is wrapped up in having someone dumber than you around, because it makes you feel more manly, which is pathetic. And all of that is the truth behind the lies you tell yourself. It’s insecurity hon.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:18 PM
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Girl you were 19 and got with a 44 year old? Please tell me you waited to get married and have kids at least..
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:14 PM
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Lying about the real reason they want younger more impressionable, less experienced and more controllable women. Also lying about who they are and why they can’t get women their own age. You can’t con a woman your age into thinking you’re more successful, intelligent or rich than you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 06:09 PM
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So you can recognize this: women will quite clearly lie to you in order to aid their position and to counter that you have to have an almost inherent natural mistrust of women and their motives. . . and yet you can’t understand why women don’t trust older men for essentially doing the same behavior towards young inexperienced women?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:57 PM
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I’ve noticed this in my experience. Obviously not every man or woman falls into this, but I think it’s something that was really taught to our grandparents and parents that they’re unintentionally or intentionally passed down to us. Women would have to marry very young so they were essentially instructed to marry based on potential. They then spent a lot of their time maintaining their youthful appearance, personality, charm in efforts to preserve who their husbands married. Admittedly I’ve hear…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:44 PM
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Liberal women also generally date conservative men No, they really don’t. Check the data hon.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:24 PM
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The trick is not thinking highly of any gender over the other. People are just people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 05:13 PM
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most conservative women, sure!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 04:49 PM
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some women generally like dominant, powerful men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:51 PM
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Humor, wit, kindness, self-assurance, intelligence, curiosity, passion, drive, humility, empathy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:23 PM
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It do. 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 11:59 AM
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It doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 11:56 AM
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That just sounds like anxiety dude. Not an intentional “dating hack” or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 11:53 AM
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No. Not in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 11:42 AM
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No sweetie. Pointing that your argument was a dumb one is not the same as hating all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 11:32 AM
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I mean women are fending for themselves as much as men if they’re both single in modern society.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:44 AM
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It does, because you’re assuming a 1.4 fertility rate is negative for Sweden. It’s less than it used to be, but that’s not inherently a negative. Our world is overpopulated and we’re running out of resources to share. Experts agree that a subtle decrease in population density is not a critical issue especially as the average lifespan has been growing thanks to medical advancements.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:38 AM
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Your safety is as important as mine. Both of us have bodily autonomy and should not be physically violated.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:12 AM
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They both come from a place of lack of “care” therefore they are dual and equal. One person left their kids lunch at home. The other put their baby in the washing machine and turned it on. They both come from a place of “lack of care” therefore are dual and equal 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:10 AM
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Sorry. And noting their existence isn’t letting it get to you. It’s just recognizing the world for what it is. So in cases like this comment thread when well meaning guys go “that’s bullshit this doesn’t happen” I can go “no yeah, it definitely does” and then said well meaning man can go “oh shoot, I should pay more attention and call out that shit”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:06 AM
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I read the whole damn post. FFS write better next time and you won’t make dumb mistakes like incorrectly claiming women haven’t gain any power in the last 2 decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:04 AM
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Not your fucking babe. Be nicer to men or they’ll let you get beat up, isn’t the winning argument you seem to think it is. ironically these conversations with men like you genuinely arguing that things are equivalent are the main reason myself and women like me don’t give men the time of day. I will not associate with someone who thinks their safety is more deserving than mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:03 AM
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Dude I’m from a military family. People I love dearly have sacrificed their lives for all of us. They deserve our respect. Random dudes on Reddit using their deaths as attempted “gotchas” deserve nothing but judgement, shame, and ridicule.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:01 AM
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It does because you specifically stated: However I constantly hear that the dating troubles men have are due to the empowerment of women. But women are not more “empowered” now than they were in the 90s or the 00’s. Women are more successful and accomplished and thus don’t need to marry and rely on men as much as they did in past decades. See how that works?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:59 AM
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Read these comments, you’d be shocked all the men who disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:54 AM
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No hon, not abusing women is not a fair trade off for women being nicer to you. See how fucked up that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:54 AM
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Chivalry points for them, absolutely. Not for you random dude who’s never risked his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:53 AM
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Gee that’s great that you can afford to ignore large groups of people agreeing that you don’t deserve basic rights and legal safety. Oh wait it’s not your safety they’re threatening, that’s right…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:52 AM
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But women are not more “empowered” now than they were in the 90s or the 00’s. Collectively we are. Those glass ceilings women broke through for basically every job/industry is development that happened in the past 2 decades and has paved the way for countless other women to follow and effectively succeed. Because of this women are more likely to succeed in their career field and be monetarily more compensated fairly when they get there, then they were in 2000s. also sexual harassment is thankful…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:50 AM
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No they’re not. One is asking no action from anyone. To provide the bare minimum of security you just can’t go around punching people, essentially. The other is asking for specific emotional time, energy and effort for perfect strangers of actions done to them. That’s unreasonable to expect/demand/require that from strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:46 AM
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Half the dudes in this comment section, for example. Also any other post on this fucking sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:42 AM
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If women are entitled to feeling safe, then men are entitled to feeling loved (cared for, seen) Why? Those aren’t equivalent. Women are entitled to be safe and thus men are entitled to be safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:40 AM
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Yeah you can’t use firefighters and cops as “chivalry points” as evidence for all men who’ve never risked their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:38 AM
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Dudes say it in this sub all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:36 AM
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Aw darn, delusional man on Reddit wont take me seriously? That’s so shocking and unexpected considering how highly he respects women in general and how likely he is to believe a person with a vagina /s
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 11:55 PM
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We’ve had conversations before I think where we’ve discussed your more conservative leaning values, right? So a more traditional heteronormative man is reasonably what you’re attracted to. Because that’s likely the sort of relationship you want for yourself and your life, which is totally valid. But it makes total sense that TRP works for you and the men you like, because it is specifically focused on that demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 11:17 PM
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It does if you ignore like half the studies on the subject? Which you know isn’t a scientific way of concluding hypotheses.. but it sure is the PPD way!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 11:14 PM
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They really don’t. Maybe it works for the type of woman you are and the type of man you’re attracted to. But a majority of women are uninterested and misrepresented by their universal declarations mansplaining what women want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 11:10 PM
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if I ignore entire swaths of data and only focus on specific groups that agree with my preconceived version of reality, my personal belief system is totally factual 🤣💀
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 10:54 PM
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What a weird twisted metaphor. You don’t live in a pink dress, or any article of clothing. Hopefully you change on a daily basis. But given the weird hypothetical you’ve created. Your visual observation tells you she is currently wearing a pink dress. That’s it. It doesn’t tell you she chose to wear the pink dress. Nor that she prefers to wear pink or feels comfortable in dresses. That visual observation is limited because you have no context for what else exists in her wardrobe at home. All you…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 09:55 PM
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None of that is based in fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:33 PM
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You’re assigning an opinion to women that’s a universal truth regardless of gender. Start participating in good faith here or stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:25 PM
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I would assume it will tell women which traits men in general value more No, just like TRP for men it assigns traits that traditional and conservative people value more.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:24 PM
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Yes but you’re listing things that are base level. Like not brushing teeth is the equivalent of eating raw pizza dough. It’s not a preference, it’s just bare societal norms for peer to peer interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:23 PM
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TRP
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:21 PM
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Where as women have less variation in attraction both collectively and individually* And that’s not accurate dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:21 PM
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Would you say most men don’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:19 PM
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I disagree with that. I think it works to get a very specific type of guy/gal, it’s very traditional and conservative and works for those people as long as they’re trying to attract that type of person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:12 PM
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I disagree with your title but mostly agree with your post. But conflating “putting your best foot forward” and “giving 100% to your relationship” makes very little sense. They’re different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 07:11 PM
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Let me use a metaphor to explain this better. You’re saying men are attracted to all letters of the alphabet, A-Z. We both are saying that women are attracted to less letters of the alphabet, maybe 5-6 tops. What I am saying is that my attraction may be to letters A-G and another woman might be R-W.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 06:59 PM
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Sure, have a penis, preferably a face, maybe all their limbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 06:41 PM
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their comparison is men’s attraction which is varied enough to include all women without exception. Having a larger group of things you’re attracted to is more uniform and monolithic than women having more specific preferences that vary person to person. I think you’re conflating two separate concepts here.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 06:41 PM
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The sexist notion is that men gain value from fucking and women lose value from fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 06:25 PM
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but their attraction to men is not nearly as varied. That’s not accurate nor even statistically provable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 06:23 PM
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Is it the actually the “majority of men” or is it the specific type of men you prefer?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 06:10 PM
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Yes and I have spent majority of my life with women observing their actions, through all phases of life. At all points of horniness and desperation and romance and fairytale delusions. Your observations of a woman’s actions is through a very minimal window.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:57 PM
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Men interact with women romantically much more than women do. Maybe that’s the confusion here.. women interacting with other women is much closer to actual romantic friendship akin to romance with men than men are with each other. Like there’s no sexual feelings or exchanging of bodily fluids. But the intimate and honest conversations and bonds absolutely give a very clear understanding of who a woman is and what she wants. I’m not phrasing this the best way as I’m just putting these thoughts to…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:55 PM
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Your perspective is so shielded from the actual thoughts and inner workings of women. I’m not sharing my sole perspective. I’m speaking for the large diverse variety of women that exist in this world, lots of whom I’ve been blessed with meeting, and speaking to and learning from. Your observational experience of women from afar does not trump that. Actual conversations with women about what they want and what they care about, what their biggest fucking annoyances are, and yeah the shallow shit t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:52 PM
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The problem isn’t the pizza. It’s the assumptions being made about what women want, by people that are not women. Yeah we agree that the actual gross/dangerous “food poisoning” bits are bad so let’s leave that stuff out. But the focus Red Pill gives to specific toppings and ingredients is a generic suggestion at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:15 PM
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The fact that you think women didn’t want these jobs and didn’t fight to keep these jobs says everything about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 04:05 PM
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No, but clearly you don’t wish to engage in good faith ✌🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 04:04 PM
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I don’t think it is, otherwise we’d never have evolved further than actual animals.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:12 PM
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We are hurting for men in the trades Is that because less Gen Z are joining trades than previous generations, or are the same amount joining trades and there’s just way more need as population and infrastructure has grown significantly over the decades?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 02:19 AM
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Ouch.. I think they really triggered you. Why’s that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 01:45 AM
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Yeah last time I checked my countries not big on immigration 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 01:42 AM
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I already replied a much longer and in depth response to you in another comment so I’ll just add one thought I forgot to mention there already. A lot of UK manufacturing was targeted during the Blitz, so where do you think yall got a lot of your uniforms, ammunition, machinery, medical supplies? Yeah US manufacturing… thank you American women!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 01:40 AM
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Can’t speak for the UK, can only speak for the US but while 50 million men registered for the draft, around 40% of those registered were deemed unfit for service and rejected aka “not able bodied”. 10 million of those were forcibly inducted into the military. But the majority had already volunteered for service, so troops totaled about 16 million. Then beyond military service, about 6 million men served the Red Cross and then another 3.5 million worked as federal civilian employees during the wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 01:37 AM
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No, you misquoted data about 1 branch of the military in a war that included 5 distinct branches. You basically understood none of it, and used data that doesn’t support the argument you’re making. All of which I clearly explained in my previous reply. Nice side step tho! ✌🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 01:26 AM
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like the government not having enough money to pay your pension. Wait how old are you that you actually believe that’s a thing that will happen? Basically ever millennial and Gen Z knows that shit was never been in the cards for us LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 01:24 AM
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Pretty sure older animals aren’t as fast and speedy as the younger ones, so the old geezers can’t pin a woman down to do anything. Most animal pairings I know of actually do some form of a male mating dance to try and lure the female to come procreate with them. This often results in male on male violence. So obviously old animals aren’t winning that..
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 01:22 AM
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Why on earth do so many of y’all conflate “women+men not dating” to “all men suddenly disappear and society collapses”?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 01:19 AM
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Shitty toxic people do shitty toxic things. That’s not gender exclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 01:17 AM
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I said it happened some in WW1, I specifically stated it super happened in WW2 and exemplified that with my delightful Rosie the Riveter reference because she’s very much a part of the cultural representative history of that time period. That data for WW1 you cited only counts one branch of the military. At the time we had the army, the national guard, the navy and the Air Force. Guess which was the biggest given the cross-Atlantic transportation the entire war hinged on? We also had the Red Cro…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 01:08 AM
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Right, you’re European, that makes sense. See America with biggest military force has on several occasions shipped out literally every single able bodied man to go die elsewhere. Leaving a ginormous country of, at the time, machinery, production, manufacturing, agriculture, oil drilling, etc, that women had to take over and keep running during those periods. You’ve probably seen the “Rosie the riveter” posters or like costumes around Halloween, that’s from when this happened during WW2 but it al…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:48 AM
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No woman will ever do any of these jobs or diy any of this admits he’s never met a woman 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:44 AM
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Yeah none of those jobs are the “tough and dangerous” infrastructure jobs you mentioned previously. Nice side step tho!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:42 AM
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That’s wildly incorrect. But maybe you’re from a different country with its own history.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:39 AM
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What remaining men? Every able bodied man was shipped to war. And who was home manufacturing war planes, ammunitions, handling agriculture and transportation? Yeah- women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:39 AM
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Have you ever been a woman working on a construction site? Cuz I have, the sexual harassment was truly terrible and that was the least of the concerns. The biggest concern was when I was on hr 8 of my tampon and had to change it or risk infection, and there were no toilets on the compound because dudes just pissed in the open. Women are absolutely capable of doing those jobs. A lot of us do those exact skills in safer settings that are actually set-up for women to exist. If no dudes showed up, g…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:37 AM
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Those undesirable men usually do the most undesirable jobs which also happen to be the most dangerous jobs Yeah, I’m gonna need to see a source on that cuz I don’t think that’s accurate. Every blue collar dude I know that does those intense jobs has a wife and kids. They make bank so it makes sense they can afford a happy wife and nice family.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:28 AM
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Just a slow, constant and irreversible degradation of your quality of life Yeah see your hand is definitely on your dick as you write that. Just go watch porn hon.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:22 AM
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No, above commenter was making the good ol “if all men disappear tomorrow the world will stop argument”. As if women haven’t ever been responsible for maintaining societal infrastructure in times of chaotic need.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:21 AM
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Do y’all forget every world war where women had to step up and maintain society? Women have survived without men. Men have never had to survive without women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:17 AM
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Oh this is you threatening sexual slavery again, isn’t it? Man, you really love those doomsday sexual fantasies hon.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:16 AM
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All the lonely single childless 30+ women will care. Hon if they’re single and childless by 30, that’s an intentional choice 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 12:11 AM
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at the cost of male taxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 06:38 PM
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If this, “communication and compromise between the genders” wasn’t the status quo then the majority of people would not be coupled up, but they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 06:00 PM
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The current laws and government policies create various incentives manipulating dating. They don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 05:49 PM
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Sociopolitical problems come from the combined influence of 1. social structures, 2. power dynamics, and 3. political systems. As there are no political systems or governmental structures manipulating dating, it’s not a sociopolitical problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 05:42 PM
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The best approach is communication and compromise between the genders. So the status quo.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 05:25 PM
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We are literally being outbreed by people that don’t even take care of their children. That’s a sociopolitical problem, not a dating one.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 05:24 PM
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watch who they fuck You don’t tho. You have no way of knowing who women fuck. You just listen to men when they say they fuck and make assumptions from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 05:22 PM
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Collective responsibility is quite literally directly opposed to liberalism, which prioritizes individualism No, it emphasizes our collective responsibility to guarantee equal rights and individual freedoms. “Community advocacy” has nothing to do with liberalism. That’s the “rule of law and government as trustee” part. Liberalism relies on a community advocating for the government that protects the rights of its people. I think you’re confusing conservative isolationism with liberalism.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 04:47 PM
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There is nothing liberal about modern feminism either. It’s literally equal rights and equitable opportunities, dude. Also collective responsibility and community advocacy, which are the essential ideas of “classic liberal values”.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 04:32 PM
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Yay, another post explaining women’s brains to women! what could go wrong? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 04:19 PM
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if you are basing a relationship after that youre basically compatible with anyone. Completely incorrect. Are you the type of person to invest your tax return in a mutual fund? Or do you buy a ticket to Ibiza? When you “buy quality” does that mean spending a month comparing the qualities of different mattresses before investing in the best top quality one for your bedroom? Or does it mean spending money on another designer watch? Spending habits are absolutely a compatibility thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 03:15 AM
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That’s not what OP is implying tho. They specifically state that these women afford their own lifestyle. This is just about compatibility of activities and preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 03:06 AM
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No, you weren’t speaking generally. You said: im sure your girlfriends are not having these men only cover their side. If they are dealing with people that can provide it im sure they expect them to cover the whole thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:55 AM
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I didn’t masturbate till I was 19 and in college because I was raised thinking sexual thoughts were a masculine impurity and didn’t yet realize the therapeutic benefit of orgasms. It’s not really that I felt shame? More that it just didn’t occur to me to do something about those feelings when I had them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:45 AM
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Typically those type of women ask that because they want the man to overtake the responsibility of paying for that womans lifestyle. No. That’s not typical dude. Why would a fully independent woman used to her own luxuries want to sacrifice that independence by suddenly relying on a guy to pay the bill?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:44 AM
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They 100% cover their own shit dude. You have this idea in your head that’s very off base. Women that are invested in their lives and curate their own experiences are doing just that. Whether a man’s there to tag along or not, they’ve got the budget and are enjoying the fruits of their labor. Finances aren’t generally shared until y’all start paying rent together. And even then it’s more often one account for each of us individually and a joint account we put a portion of our monthly income in f…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:42 AM
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Why? If y’all aren’t compatible what purpose would dating hold?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:39 AM
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Not above commenter but it’s incredibly common in my social circles. My girlfriends and I travel at least once a year, some of them love fancy award winning restaurants and fancier resorts. This is just the way they live their lives and enjoy spending their money. If they’re going to be in a relationship with someone they’re obviously looking for someone compatible that enjoys similar things they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:22 AM
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Oh 100%. I just laugh every time a guy friend complains about their girlfriend spending so much time getting ready or how expensive their Christmas list is. I’m like dude, it’s written all over her appearance. Being a baddie takes work and resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:07 AM
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Where’s she asking him to fund her lifestyle? She just chooses to go to a certain level of restaurants herself, so it’s fair if that’s her preference. I’m a McDonald’s type of gal, but I get why other people have other priorities and would use those priorities to narrow things down and save time and energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 02:06 AM
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I mean is she paying for those trips and restaurants currently? If so she’s just looking for someone with a compatible lifestyle as her.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 01:58 AM
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(that is healthy 19-21 BMI) whoop there it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 01:54 AM
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Some guys have no clue how expensive a woman is. They’ll say they love a “natural girl” and then approach only Kim K. look-alikes. Get pissed when she spends so much money on makeup, hair, clothes during the relationship. Like dude you saw the coach bag on her arm, you know she’s not a natural blonde, that’s easily $600 a month to maintain. Use your eyes and do the math.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 01:52 AM
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What type of foam did you get? Some foam disintegrates if you try and paint it. If that happens just grab some glue, like Elmer’s/kids glue, mix 1-1 with water and throw in a bit of paint for color, that should work as a primer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 09:12 PM
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Don’t use gravel. That will only end terribly. Find a textured spray like you’d use for walls. If you need bigger pieces to fill in the gaps use bits of foam.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 08:29 PM
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I’d argue anyone under 25 doesn’t really need to be getting married in general. Like if you want to then do you, nothing’s stopping you. But I come from a religious background and lord the number of young couples that hurried into marriage because they were horny “loved eachother” that then divorced 2-3 years later is astounding. Let yourself grow, figure out who you are outside of highschool and see what sort of life you actually want to live. Marriage is reversible but kids aren’t and it truly…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 02:08 PM
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that she would not want to bring up with most men or with their friends, families, coworkers, etc. Who the fuck is sharing their sexual fantasies with their families + coworkers?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 03:52 AM
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Dude please do not ruin her life with kids so young.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/25 02:48 AM
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I’m a young woman and I think age gaps are gross and hella creepy. You getting along with a 19 yr old at 40 years old is not the flex you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 11:27 PM
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No that’s not- I mean the social media trend was literally asking you personally what you’d choose. That doesn’t count as advocating. Like the coke vs Pepsi challenge is not advocating for Coke or Pepsi. That’s the point I was making. The way you phrased it was silly, because there is no advocating for the bears.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:39 PM
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Show me where I claimed I don’t need men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:38 PM
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No one’s advocating to choose the bear. That’s not how that social media trend even worked 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:12 PM
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That is exactly what I want. Why do you hear “independent woman” and react so aggressively? Do you also view independent men in the same critical manner? They have a job and are doing their part to contribute to society, do you ridicule them for not holding eight different jobs at once, all of contrasting skill and ability? Do you question their contribution to society and their right to hold a life for themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 09:11 PM
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Look feminism is indeed toxic Redpill self-improvement advice is mostly good. 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:49 PM
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It’s succeeding at explaining it without making the male audience feel like they’re born oppressors. But the same exact guidelines for feminism were used for civil rights, and yet I as a white woman aren’t personally offended when the wrongdoings of my ancestors are rightfully criticized. I can discuss the long-lasting impacts of racism on my country and how POC are affected. At what point is it not about how the message is shared but at the self-insertion of the listener to assume it’s all abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:42 PM
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But I’m not selling anything. I literally just want to live my life as an independent woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:39 PM
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Every single advance made in women’s rights has been because of the ongoing good will of good men. Lacking that, there would be none. Fuck that. Every single movement in women’s rights came from the incessant hard work and advocacy of women that came before us. Men getting too lazy to stop them is not a virtuous victory for men to claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:37 PM
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And the point is not what feminism is, it’s what feminism is perceived to be. I actually agree with that. But I wholeheartedly disagree that the issue is on feminism to dumb itself down and waste time speaking to an audience that inherently disagrees with their values. People that hate feminism will hate feminism regardless of what feminists say. That ignorant bigotry is the problem here. Let’s solve that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:34 PM
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instead of vying for viral attention with divisive rhetoric about tertiary issues. Feminism is sticking to its roots. But you only see the feminism as portrayed in the intentionally divisive rage bait because that’s all y’all pay attention to.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:33 PM
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I do that already. I don’t get why people like OP feel comfortable saying feminism as a whole needs to go because of that tho. Like to me that would like complaining about POC people talking about civil rights and how I don’t think they should do that anymore. Like that’s fucked, right? Like I can criticize an individual person for being an asshole but what right do I have to try and deride the whole movement or silence all discussions about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:15 PM
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The feminist fight is the fight to get men to do what women want. Yeah that’s not what feminism is. deep down, women need men as much as men need women. Yeah people need people, that’s how community works. I don’t agree that men need women or women need men, this whole gender divide is part of the whole issue. And without men agreeing with feminism, it wouldn’t have even taken ground. That’s a bullshit take, I’m just gonna leave it on the floor where it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:13 PM
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Sometimes it is a singular woman venting her experience. If it’s a personal account in an open forum, then at some level she’s entitled to her insane opinions the same way incel dudes are entitled to theirs. When we’re platforming voices I agree and do hold the feminist community to those standards. I just don’t think some of y’all venture into those more official spaces enough to actually see any of that. So many have decided they’re against it that they’d rather criticize than learn more.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:11 PM
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I don’t get why you WOULDN’T want to correct peoples miscomprehensions though. If I could flip a switch and fix their miscomprehension I would. But in my experience those who loudly hate feminism don’t respect women enough to listen to me try and educate them. You have to give a damn about the person to hear what they’re saying. I don’t get why their prejudice and bigotry is on us to fix? Like how are we supposed to get through to these groups of men who genuinely think I deserve less rights. Yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:09 PM
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What special rights are those? Also who’s asking for “payback”?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:07 PM
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Yeah and that hate speech should be criticized for just that. Bigotry should be called out. I just don’t believe in throwing the baby out with the bath water.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:06 PM
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Feminism stopped being about equal rights in the 1970s That may be your experience, but it’s not mine. My whole life experience, the 27 years I’ve been here, has shown me how much feminism still has to go, how advocacy is more powerful when we band together. Yeah a lot of shit has improved since my grandmothers were little girls, but there’s still so much of that old culture rooted in our daily lives. I’m Gen Z and even I remember choosing to be a feminist in high school because I was sick of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 08:04 PM
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Yeah and how sexist is that? Why should women have to rebrand a decades long successful advocacy movement because a minority of men have decided to hate it because it’s associated with women? Why is their lack of comprehension, whether intentional or just lazy, a problem we need to fix and why does the solution to that problem involve us sacrificing our historic advocacy movement to do so?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 07:37 PM
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it’s women who radicalized. That’s a funny way to phrase earning equal rights and enjoying the freedom to pursue their own life goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 07:32 PM
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I simply don’t think a lot of women understand how damaging the feminist rhetoric from the left is to young men, especially the socially isolated ones who have no positive experiences with women in real life, or the extent to which this is a factor in the manosphere pipeline. I get what you’re saying, and I do empathize with the overall sentiment, truly. But feminist rhetoric serves a specific purpose. (disclaimer that hateful speech is fucked from any group) but talking about the actual honest …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 07:25 PM
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I’m saying there are consequences to shortsightedness. I’d agree but I’d label men’s reactions as the “short sided” part.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:20 PM
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What societal duties do they have? Things like going to work, paying your rent, calling 911 if your neighbors house is on fire- these are all societal duties that we all do and we all benefit from.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:19 PM
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So to be clear you asked me to perform a google search, for you? How lazy can you be?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:18 PM
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Literally asking me to do the emotional labor of explaining a concept you can look up You literally asked me for the definition. Do you not remember that?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:09 PM
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I’m sorry, are you trying to argue that women need to fuck men for the survival of society? 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:05 PM
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Did your mother never give you a hug when you were sad? Or a coworker give you a pat on the back for a good job? You ever give advice when someone’s working through a rough spot? Congrats, you’ve participated in emotional labor.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:03 PM
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Personal sacrifices =\= centering your partner. It means equal compromise. This is also the major difference between a parent/kid relationship and a partnership of two romantic equals. In an adult relationship both of us are our own individual person capable of putting on our own shoes. Children literally can’t do that, so it’s not an even comparison. You have to center children, because for a large part of life they are weaker, needier and unfinished. In a relationship it can be deeply unhealth…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 10:00 PM
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Labor that is emotional in nature, not physical. Referring to often unseen and unacknowledged effort involved in managing both one’s own emotions and those of a partner to maintain harmony and satisfaction. This can include initiating conflict resolution, providing support, emotional regulation, maintaining familial relationships, prioritizing traditions, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 09:54 PM
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Hygeine and domestic duties aren’t emotional labor.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 09:44 PM
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The issue is as a society we’ve not given men the proper tools and training to do the emotional labor that is being asked of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:06 PM
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I guess the difference is centering external factors vs internal ones. You can’t center a relationship because it’s two whole humans trying to fit into one pairing. When you try to center your partner that much you’re sacrificing too much of yourself and then the relationship is just a reflection of them. Or if you don’t have a relationship, then it’s focusing your energy on that lack, which negative thinking like that is deeply unhelpful, but also it’s judging yourself against external factors …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 07:12 PM
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Your relationship, or lack of one, should not be the center of your life. That’s not a healthy balance and will not provide personal fulfillment and long term satisfaction. Decentering women/men just means focus on other parts of your life rather than obsessing over your lack of relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 07:04 PM
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We have a society that says young women aren’t mature enough for age gap relationships That’s not the issue with age gap relationships. It’s about the power imbalance when one partner has is empowered by financial security, career advancement and resources and the other doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 06:59 PM
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Dating experience is not the issue with age gap relationships dude. It’s about the power imbalance of one person being established and the other being solely dependent on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 06:57 PM
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By the age of 20-25 (At least in the west), women will have had a lot of experience. Relationships, ONS, FWBs and what not. Not necessarily. Some women sure. an 18-19 year old woman is at a similar stage to a 25-30 year man. No. What sort of immature men are you hanging out with? A high school senior/college freshman is not generally in the same life stage as a grown man pushing 30. Please stop advising men to be creeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 05:28 PM
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as it’s a physical act. For you. You have a literal light switch. Very clear to see and feel when it’s on or off. Women don’t have that. For us it’s intuitive and a mixture of emotional, physiological and sensory factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 02:11 PM
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You do realize that Reddit rounds out the hour once you hit the 60 minutes since posting. Like there’s 60 minutes in an hour. Idk what your problem is, but seriously go talk to a therapist about this weird “gotcha” thing you’re trying to do. Trust issues this extreme are insane my dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 02:01 PM
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I couldn’t imagine having to be led into a relationship, you know? I’m really trying to understand how that works. Not above commenter but do experience responsive desire. No one’s leading me into a relationship. Every relationship I’ve had I initiated. I’m arguably the more dominant one in relationships. If your only reason to talk to fellow humans is sexual attraction, then I guess I get where you’re coming from. But that’s not how I live my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 01:58 PM
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I wasn’t lying. But I believe that the “newest” comments even 40 minutes later would be different, because duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 01:50 PM
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Personally no, those minimum interactions would not be enough for me to feel attracted to someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:49 PM
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Oh yeah when there’s an established connection then the responsive desire is already built in and the spontaneous desire happens so easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:48 PM
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I just check and you are lying out of your arse. Hold up you’re telling me the comments I saw under “newest” 7 hours ago weren’t the same comments you saw under “newest” 3 hours ago? 😱 Blasphemy!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:47 PM
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... so you don’t need to take condoms AFTER the egg was released. And somehow magically avoid sex the five days before the eggs released? Because sperm can live in a woman’s body for up to five days. Sadly most women don’t have that clairvoyance. Because condoms, pullout, fertile phase tracking is enough options. Combine all 3 and you are set. Not for women with irregular periods. Also you can get pregnant from precum so please stop relying on the pullout method, immediately If there WAS a marke…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:45 PM
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For me, genuine attraction involves multiple dimensions beyond just visual appeal. This isn’t ‘contrived’ or ‘taught by society’ - it’s simply how my attraction naturally works. When I talk about being attracted to someone’s way of thinking or communication style, it’s not about hearing specific lines or meeting a checklist. It’s about connecting with their mind and personality in a way that makes them uniquely appealing to me. Physical attributes alone might catch my eye, but they rarely create…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:43 PM
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It’s interesting how men in these comments seem to think of their version of attraction as the more sensible one. To me it sounds wildly ineffective. It also seems shallow and insincere. If your initial attraction to me is just on my physical appearance then I’m easily replaceable with any other person of similar appearance. That short of shallow connection is utterly uninteresting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:39 PM
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It’s responsive desire vs spontaneous desire. That’s the difference you’re observing in these comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 05:42 AM
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Because visuals are literally just face value. There’s no interactive component involved. It says nothing about how you and I get along. Read up on spontaneous vs responsive desire. You’d likely learn a lot. Also, the whole “man give” “women receive” thing is dumb and sexist. As the woman I am giving you access to inside my body. There’s nothing passive about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 05:34 AM
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Cuz I experience responsive desire. It’s the talking to someone, laughing with them, vibing with their personality that makes me attracted to them. Shallow visuals don’t get the motor going.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 05:27 AM
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What did I misread? None of that’s financial abuse. That’s just literally how health insurance works when only one spouse is employed. That’s regardless of either’s gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 05:25 AM
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the breadwinner of the household using their position of financial power to dictate their partner’s choice in health care That’s how employer health insurance works dude. The employee has the policy and shares it with family members. Are you not from the US?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 05:23 AM
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Just checked and saw like two comments amidst the recent 30, majority of which are calling her an asshole. You’re cherry picking.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 05:15 AM
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Just checked and saw like two comments amidst the recent 30, majority of which are calling her an asshole. You’re cherry picking.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 05:15 AM
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I read it as “being attracted to” as in active sexual attraction to someone. I also recognize pretty people the same way I notice a nice outfit or a cool car- but I’m not sexually attracted to any of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 05:12 AM
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They likely would. For the first 8 hours of that post OP gave no reason for her partner wanting to change pharmacies other than the MAGA ties. Then once they finally disclosed the prescription shortages people called her out on the sneaky writing and the fucked up behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 05:08 AM
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I mean sure, but class condom demonstrations on actual penises are illegal in my country 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:15 AM
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Rarely. But I don’t experience spontaneous desire. I need to interact with someone before I can feel that attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:05 AM
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In my country too. They put the condom on the banana. No description into those 5 key points tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 04:00 AM
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It does. If the medical insurance is under her name then she’s the only one that can change their pharmacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:48 AM
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If it’s too tight it breaks. If it’s too big it leaks. If you didn’t leave room at the tip, the pressure from the exuding semen will break it. Condoms have a shelf life and do expire. And oil based lubricants will break down latex condoms. You’d wager most condom users know all five?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:47 AM
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Because the top comments were posted hours before the disclosed the shady shit 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:46 AM
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The post is 12 hrs old. She only disclosed the prescription shortage what 3 hours ago deep in the comment threads? Of course the top comments aren’t responding to the added context she left out of the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:03 AM
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<image> Read the comments after she confessed about the prescription shortage. No one’s on her side after she disclosed that. Most people call her out for writing a skewed narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 02:55 AM
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Has anyone seen that yellowjackets + survivors commercial? Such a weird collab.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:30 AM
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that’s not how that works.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:28 AM
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Fair. My question is why aren’t we looking at the side effects of birth control for men and if they’re still less prevalent than the same effects resulting from pregnancy. Right now we’re protecting men and accepting the painful side effects women go through.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 08:05 PM
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Except birth control for women carries those exact same side effects, yet the powers that be decided women’s pain is a fine consequence and brought countless female birth control methods to market.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:54 PM
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It is how that works. In 2016, a phase II trial of a hormonal male birth control injection was stopped after men reported experiencing side effects like mood swings, acne, depression source
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:37 PM
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I guess you have the standard sized penis condom companies design their products for. Congratulations on being average.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:32 PM
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It doesn’t. Women's hormonal changes primarily affect the absorption, retention, and metabolization of a particular drug. Absorption, retention, metabolization are all a part of the drugs mechanism. They do in fact change the mechanism of action.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:31 PM
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If it’s too tight it breaks. If it’s too big it leaks. If you didn’t leave room at the tip, the pressure from the exuding semen will break it. Also condoms have a shelf life and do expire. And oil based lubricants will break down latex condoms. These are just some of the ways you can break your condom and win a baby!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:29 PM
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Because you expect women to use birth control and are restricting her rights to abortion when the condom fails!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:26 PM
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No 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:22 PM
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The mechanism of action refers to how a medication interacts with the body to produce its therapeutic effects. It describes the specific biochemical processes in the drug's action source Medication mechanisms of action can be influenced by hormones, as hormonal fluctuations and interactions can alter drug metabolism, absorption, and efficacy. source
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:21 PM
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Not an insult. Just a fact. Idk why you think testosterone is this magic formula that can’t be contained or something? But even in higher concentrations as in male biology it’s totally susceptible to pharmacological remedies.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 07:15 PM
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Yeah, those same side effects exist for women. We just call it PPDD and suck it up because our anti-depressants work less effectively when on our period because like everything else it was designed for the male default.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:50 PM
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Men. Also male feminists. Do you know how terrified dudes are of getting a girl pregnant?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:48 PM
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I hate to break it to you, but your testosterone is not that strong 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:48 PM
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Otherwise it would've been solved by now. It’s been solved. That’s the easy part. Men complained about the side effects, you know nausea, mood swings, acne (those same side effects we women have been dealing with for decades) and they cut the trials. The hormonal and chemical part is not the issue here. It was in fact way simpler to solve than with female BC.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:20 PM
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The menstrual cycle, driven by fluctuating hormones like estrogen, progesterone, follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH), and luteinizing hormone (LH), prepares the body for potential pregnancy, with ovulation marking the release of an egg and the fertile window source Hormonal birth control methods, like the pill, disrupt the natural menstrual cycle by preventing ovulation and thickening cervical mucus, thus preventing pregnancy source Thinking female reproduction exists outside of the hormonal cycl…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:15 PM
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They do. Ironically the biggest critiques I've seen of it comes from women and Feminists, who claim men would just 'never go for it' pr 'never use it because they're 'irresponsible'. Or make claims like 'men don't want it' while doing everything they can to prevent it happening. Dude the last few male BC drug trials were shut down by men. You’re making up shit for no reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:07 PM
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BBT tracking only detects the release of an egg from the ovary, tracking the 24 hour window the egg sits in the uterus before expulsion. Sperm however can live inside the body for up to 5 days. So no BBT would not work, as a birth control method, for a woman with irregular periods. Cervical mucus observation also doesn’t work for someone with irregular periods because that’s an irregular constant. Instead of trouble shooting how to solve for these insane changing conditions, why don’t we just ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 06:04 PM
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That assumes having regular periods. Which about 30% of women don’t. Fertility tracking isn’t a solution for a lot of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:45 PM
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Personally, I’d love for my partner to be able to take daily BC so I didn’t have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:40 PM
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Their mood swings were way more severe to the point of spiraling into depression. Yeah, PMDD. Face that shit every month. What’s great is how my depression meds were designed for a man’s base hormones and they working less effectively when I’m on my fucking period.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:39 PM
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Do you actually believe the complexity of the hormonal cycle is the sole thing that matters for birth control medication? Okay I’m calling bullshit. You’ve never read up on female fertility, our reproductive systems or menstrual cycle. If you did, you’d know what a moronic question that is. That’s like asking if I think gasoline is the sole thing that matters for a car to drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:35 PM
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It clearly is not, or it would already exist. The reason it doesn’t exist is because the human drug trials got shut down after men reported side effects like nausea, headaches, acne, mood swings - you know the side effects women on birth control deal with daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:31 PM
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That makes no sense dude. If men’s hormones stay consistent the entire time then finding that recipe for birth control is literally easier. For women there’s 4 different hormonal stages all that have to be averaged together to create on pill to take every single day. Respectfully you don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about hon.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:28 PM
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Have you ever read up on hormonal cycles for men and women? Do you understand the four phases of a woman’s menstrual cycle and the biological processes hormones conduct during each?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:25 PM
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the mechanism of action for a particular drug is nearly identical for both men and women. That’s actually pretty untrue. Women’s biochemistry is constantly cycling due to the hormonal changes of our menstrual cycle. But most medications were developed for the male default where the body stays pretty average over time. Because of that things like adhd meds, anti-depressants, cold medications, don’t work as effectively when a woman’s on her period. So about half the month we get prescriptions that…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:21 PM
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The side effects were significantly more severe. They weren’t. It was the same side effects average women experience regularly on birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:19 PM
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You’re missing the point. Male birth control is the easier pharmaceutical issue to solve. Female birth control is insanely complex because of cycling hormones, that’s why women bounce around between 3-4 types most of their life trying to outweigh which side effects are more bearable to live with on daily basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:15 PM
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It’s easier to formulate birth control for men’s biology than it is for women’s. There are more side effects and dangers for the overall health of women messing with their menstrual cycles. The only reason male birth control hasn’t happened is because men couldn’t stand the “side effects”. You know nausea, mood swings, acne, the same side effects we’ve been dealing with for decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 05:07 PM
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Show me where I’ve commented being against condoms? Condoms are great. Condoms and birth control, even better. Condoms won’t work if we aren’t educating young men on how to properly and responsibly use them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 04:52 PM
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Women are not fertile 100% of the time. A woman's fertility is decided by the relative concentrations of sex hormones depending on the phase of her cycle. That’s exactly the reason male birth control should be the standard. Right now women on birth control suffer the symptoms 24/7 for something that’s only an issue maybe 7 days of the month.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 04:50 PM
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There actually were a couple of R+D funded male birth control projects, but they got shut down for “inhumane” side effects. Things like mood swings, nausea, headaches, acne - you know the same side effects female birth control has been giving us for decades now…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 04:48 PM
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Dude. Unless you’re using an actual speculum to hold open the full depth of the vaginal canal, there is friction and tension, even when fully lubricated. That tight feeling you feel against your penis? That’s tension. The back and forth produces friction. When fully lubricated and wet, those laws of physics still apply. Now increase that tension with a condom that’s slightly too tight, and what do you get? Breakage and a baby! Also just a PSA for anyone reading this, oil-based lubricants break d…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 04:45 PM
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Idk where you’ve gotten this impression of me, but I’m pro-birth control. I’m just also pro-condoms. They both serve useful functions and are best used together for maximum efficiency.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 04:39 PM
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Like the way they're designed, they can hold about a liter of water. Yes they can hold about a liter of water. But that water balloon cannot be then inserted into a smaller tunnel repeatedly and stand up to the heat and friction from that without tearing apart. It’s basic physics dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 04:37 PM
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No, I’m in the US and there’s a shocking number of men who don’t use logic when it comes to condom usage. Too tight caused friction leading to tearing. Too loose leads to leakage. You need it to fit your length and your width, and leave enough space at the tip for the cum to actually collect and not break the condom. Cheap condoms are cheap, they will break and you will be paying for a more expensive Plan B pill or an even more expensive infant.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 04:35 PM
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Size and fit are the same thing. They’re not. Size as advertised by condom manufacturers generally denotes length and approximate thickness. But fit is how it actually conforms to your penis. If it’s too loose at the base fluid leaks out. If it’s too tight at the tip you risk breaking when there’s no room for fluid to fill. Some dudes are longer and skinny others are wider and stout. Some are wider at the base and others, like uncircumcised, need more room at the tip.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 04:32 PM
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Condoms only work if you have the right size, the right fit, put them on correctly and use enough lubrication to avoid friction tears. Majority of people do not use condoms correctly. I’m all for condoms, but we need to educate people on how to actually use them. Edit: Also your choice of lubrication can break apart your condom, so make sure the materials of both play well together! Edit #2: Condoms expire! Check the best by date and throw them out if you don’t remember when you bought them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 04:17 PM
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Yeah for better or worse Reddit allows a large variety of conversations. But Instagram is just shallow and surface level content, which I personally rate much lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 11:58 PM
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Eh Reddit rates higher than Instagram in my book, but tinder is definitely bottom of the barrel.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 11:21 PM
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Well if you’re the type of person to frequent both Instagram and tinder… you’re definitely a type.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 11:17 PM
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You’re just describing how humans work. That’s in no way a gendered experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 09:53 PM
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an increasing lack of compatibility That’s my point. So what? People don’t deserve empathy or equal rights because it’s strategically advantageous to you. Empathy for your personal benefit isn’t actually empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:50 PM
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I don’t agree. We recognize basic civil rights and inhumane treatment, those are the bare minimums we apply to everyone regardless of if they’re free, incarcerated, man or woman. Your argument against that is fucked up. Empathy isn’t something you choose when to exercise it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:32 PM
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I asked earlier in the replies and he didn’t clarify or correct those statements, rather choosing to focus on why cheating’s justified in that case.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:26 PM
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The fact that empathy is a question and not a certain, is your issue dude. Empathy isn’t a tool or a strategy. It’s just someone’s base ethics than recognizes other people are human beings and you want what’s best for them as a fellow human being. I’m not saying you lack empathy, cuz I don’t know you, but by your own admission empathy is a choice you have to make- and that shit’s not normal. Most people can’t turn that on and off at will. If someone does turn it on and off, then they’re likely p…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:20 PM
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the girlfriend/wife complains about the same thing over and over again, she gets ignored That’s a direct quote from OP. I think that’s what you’re asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:18 PM
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The dudes in this comment section are making OP’s point for them. If someone complains about the same thing multiple times and you do nothing, that ignoring their communications is what caused the breakup. You caused it by ignoring your partners concerns as a habitual pattern of behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:17 PM
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If an issue has been an issue for that long, and you’ve done nothing- the breakup is the next step. You’re choosing to ignore a repeated issue is what caused the breakup.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:15 PM
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It’s not, because OP mentions how the girlfriend/wife complains about the same thing over and over again, she gets ignored In your example no one’s vocalizing the issues. If you don’t communicate the problem, they have no responsibility to fix it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:05 PM
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Did you not read the post dude? That’s literally what we’re talking about. Dudes saying they’ve been “blindsided” after repeatedly ignoring complaints and ongoing issues throughout the relationship. That’s the point OP is making. That your inability to listen and care is the very reason you were dumped.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:03 PM
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If you’re the type of person to cheat, then your ethical morals were questionable long before anything occurred. Also a great example of how not communicating your issue directly relates to the end of your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 08:00 PM
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Cheating doesn't come out of nowhere either. Agreed. Usually it's the result of a frigid wife/dead bedroom situation. lol no. If you’re the type of person to cheat, then your ethical morals were questionable long before anything occurred. Also a great example of how not communicating your issue directly relates to the end of your relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:55 PM
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That totally depends on how you prioritize the issue within your life/relationship. What’s high priority for me may be low priority for you. What matters is that within the relationship, even if I think of “x complaint” as low priority, if you my partner are bringing it to my attention as your high priority, then guess what? It becomes my high priority too. If they clearly are deprioritizing anything that’s important to you then they’re a jackass and you should walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:51 PM
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Explain how that fits into your original comment tho. If someone was blindsided then someone didn’t communicate. Because I agree at a certain point you’ve got to cut ties and walk away, but that ex-partner who didn’t listen is going to complain about “being blindsided” and you’re over here defending them saying it’s her fault for not communicating better.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:46 PM
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So if I bring up time and time again your inability to do the dirty dishes, when can I say I appropriately communicated the issue? What if you, my partner, repeatedly ignored my comments, complaints and attempts to start conversations. At what point is the failure to communicate on you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:41 PM
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If someone was blindsided then someone didn’t communicate listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:38 PM
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If a man has the poor habit of not listening, and is unwilling and unable to change That’s not a “poor habit”. That’s a choice they’re making about what matters in their relationship and what doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:35 PM
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How does that remove the responsibility to communicate clearly? It doesn’t. Clear communication is key in any relationship. But complaints are verbal communication. It’s bringing up what’s bothering you at the time that event is occurring. And repeated complaints about the same thing is an open communication about those issues. The partner isn’t communicating if they’re not listening.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:31 PM
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Also, complaints = open communication. It’s not just passive aggressive clues if someone’s repeatedly verbalized how something you’re doing is bothering them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:29 PM
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It’s not meaningless shit if they’re bringing it up multiple times. That’s the point OP is making. As an active partner you shouldn’t need a formally presented TED talk to grasp that “hey I’m doing something that is repeatedly causing tension in my relationship, maybe I should listen when my partner complains about it and ask to learn more about their perspective” When you actually care about something you communicate clearly, define the issue and set a date to have it addressed. No, that’s what…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:27 PM
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I mean the girlfriend/wife complains about the same thing over and over again They did. You literally quoted them in your first comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:21 PM
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Who’s to say she didn’t bring it up before?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 07:13 PM
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Yeah this one is actually true. No break up “comes out of now where”. You just ignored their complaints or didn’t place value on their discontentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 06:57 PM
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Most women throughout history did not choose their husband. Historically women were traded from father to husband like cattle for business deals. That’s what the origin of marriage and being a wife is. A legal transfer of property.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 06:53 PM
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Have you studied history at all? To know what society was like longer before serfdoms, kingdoms and patriarchal society? We haven’t always been like this. Women weren’t secondary to men, in fact many ancient cultures empowered women to their highest ranks.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 05:00 PM
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Historical systems caused nature, hon. Are you in highschool? Genuinely asking because that’s the only reason I can find for your limited understanding of how the world works.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:47 PM
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No. You don’t seem to understand her comment. She’s referring to historic systems that we inherited.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:40 PM
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When above commenter said “women don’t need men” they were referring to romantic/legal partnership.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:37 PM
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Their comment was very clear hon, what are you not understanding? You seem very young and maybe not well-read on the slow and recent evolution of women’s rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:30 PM
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I have no idea what you’re trying to say. If you clarify your point I’d be happy to respond.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:28 PM
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That’s not what I said. I specifically stated that as a woman I no longer need a man as a partner to survive in modern day society. The same is true for men. I think you’re misunderstanding what people are meaning here.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:27 PM
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still look for power dynamics statistically What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:23 PM
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They’re not moving the goalposts. It’s a fact that to survive in modern society no man needs a woman and no woman needs a man. That’s great evolution because any partnership we choose to enter into is one of intentional choice and mutual fulfillment.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:17 PM
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In which historical time are we talking? The literal only one that’s led to this contemporary point. This want for a power dynamic is innate within a woman. Society cannot change an innate desire. It truly isn’t. I was raised by feminist badass women. I follow in their footsteps and have zero desire to sacrifice my power to any man.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:15 PM
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How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:08 PM
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However women created this as they specifically asked for this. You’re using modern dating techniques to validate your claim that women created the patriarchy? To be clear, both men + women perpetuate the patriarchy, but it’s an inherited system of power from a time when only men were legal individuals in the eyes of the law/society. That’s historical fact. Swap “create” for “perpetuate” and you have a more correct statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 04:08 PM
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How is that backtracking?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:50 PM
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Do you know any women? Even those blessed with children are still their own individual person with their own hobbies, interests and passions. I have nothing but respect for women with kids. I just see them as their own person, not just as the role they provide for others.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:46 PM
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If kids are the only thing fulfilling your life, what a sad life. Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:18 PM
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Wow. Just wow. Have you ever met a child before? Because I have, and I love kids. But they’re absolutely exhausting and all-consuming, and it is 100% reasonable why anybody would rather not go into parenting.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:16 PM
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Why is mandatory service for women too far?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:13 PM
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Idk what you mean Yeah that’s my entire point 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:10 PM
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I don’t assume that just happens. But I do know that any relationship where that’s not a given isn’t worth wasting your time and energy on. Your life is much better spent on pursuits within your control that actually add impactful meaning and satisfaction to your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:09 PM
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Respectfully no, I’m not available for free labor to try and satisfy misogynists on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:04 PM
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Sorry my "deafening silence" of a few hours meant I was out living my life rather than glued to Reddit waiting for your reply. I stand by my original point - feminism has contributed positively to society over decades. Criticizing problematic behaviors within any movement is healthy; completely dismissing a movement that secured fundamental rights for women is not. Your need to label me "hysterical" and question my intelligence rather than engage with my actual points speaks volumes. I'm well aw…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 03:02 PM
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So let’s call out the toxic bullshit behavior. Rather than throwing out the baby with the bath water, you know? You can ignore feminism all you want, but the civil rights movement has greatly impacted society as a whole so you’ll never be able to disregard feminism fully. Unless you actually want to go back to a time when women had no agency or voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 07:44 PM
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No. Because feminism has been around for decades now and has actually contributed positively to society and helped the world evolve. Red pill’s done none of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 07:23 PM
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Helping the homeless =\= writing a 400 pg manual The effort and energy required are not even close to equivalent.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 06:48 PM
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Men who say shit like “men are more moral than women” are not moral.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 06:40 PM
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It truly isn’t. It’s definitely more mainstream than it was a few years ago, but it’s still pretty a niche/internet centric topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 06:39 PM
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No dog is a monolith either but we still have dog care manuals and generally accepted strategies for raising a dog. Wow.. I can’t even make this shit up. Y’all astound me sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 06:31 PM
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wow, shocking
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 06:27 PM
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Yeah a 400 page dating manual is not the successful flex you think it is. Mainly, why would successful daters have spent time writing 400+ pages rather than enjoying their normal and satisfying life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 06:26 PM
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Women aren’t a monolith. That’s the reason Red Pill ideology never went mainstream. It’s why even a blue pill guidebook won’t cover everything. The same amount of diversity and individuality that exists in men, the same exists in women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 06:15 PM
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The reasons the current system is failing have literally nothing to do with women’s rights and dating dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 06:13 PM
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in every single instance of mankind the woman could just run away wtf? Have you never opened a history book?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 05:53 PM
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behave in way that inspires empathy. Modern women do not, toward below average men. That’s not how empathy works dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 05:34 PM
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did men just hate their daughters? Dude they literally traded their daughters like cattle. They were property. Didn’t matter if the husband would rape, abuse or torment her after the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 05:33 PM
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for simply stating dating preferences. Yes. Exactly. Misogynistic remarks get called out for being misogynistic. If you can’t take the criticism then stop sharing your personal shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 05:13 PM
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You’re not. Are you perhaps loudly expressing your negative views about random women loudly? Because that sort of bigotry is rightfully called out as shallow or misogynistic. It’s the comments dude, not the not dating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 05:09 PM
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So don’t date those women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 05:04 PM
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Again with this? Empathy isn’t a dating hack dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 05:03 PM
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So men harming women is women’s fault? Here I thought men, like any adults, had basic agency and free choice. Maybe they are less evolved than women..
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 02:47 PM
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and while young girls are doing that young boys are developing technical skills. What “technical skills” are young boys developing exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 12:21 PM
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you’re a woman and CONSTANTLY being approached. Yeah that’s not happening hon. This idea that every woman is constantly approached is baseless and wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 12:20 PM
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Because men wanted power and thought women were too dumb to do anything. That’s literally why they happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 02:05 AM
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Feminists advocate for equal rights and equitable treatment. Women, men, non-binary folks, all can be feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 02:03 AM
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In a sexual harassment way, yes. In a flirtatious way, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 11:57 PM
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I’ve been sexually harassed. I’ve also been in social settings where small talk and networking were a given activity, but that would involve men + women and you approach whomever and join the conversation. Like I said, this idea you have of men just approaching women for flirtatious conversations doesn’t happen. It starts social/platonic and then becomes flirtatious after you know eachother.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 11:08 PM
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If you go to a bar or meetup you probably get some approaches or men just initiating talk with you if youre a woman. No, you just go to those places to have a fun time and make social small talk. Those group conversations let you see the vibe and humor of everyone, you’re also growing your social circle. If anything sparks from their then you exchange numbers, but this idea that a woman walks into a bar and has dudes approaching her is baseless and silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:57 PM
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I don't understand how someone who initiated multiple relationships would say that it's mostly up to chance. Every relationship I've initiated was the result of great concentrated effort on my part. If I continued "mindlessly wandering" as you phrased it I would still be single, so I don't think it's correct to tell men it's up to chance. Because it is up to chance. You go through your life, enjoying friends, community, family, hobbies, career. One person I met through social gatherings. Two I m…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:53 PM
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I think you lose the argument when you use the term “gaslighting”. That incorrectly casts intentional deception where there likely is none. Different people have different perspectives and notice different things based on their own experience. The term “gaslighting” which has been popularized by the manosphere is intentionally antagonistic and designed to create an “us vs them” mentality, which creates failure long before either party even meets. If you want to reach across the divide we need em…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:43 PM
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We have to do a ton of work on selves you need decent to good social skills. I agree with that, but is that self-development not already a normal part of your own life? Maybe that’s where this divide is because any woman I know sees things like growing social skills, honing emotional intelligence, practicing your style and presentation- all of those are just a part of our regular lives. So as above when I say “enjoying your own life” those are all already included. Because no one’s enjoys my own…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:37 PM
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Why? What purpose do they serve?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:31 PM
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This is a very female perspective, because you are the passive ones during courting process. Actually no, I’ve been the initiator of every relationship I’ve had. In cities there should be tens of thousands of single young people that you can date. Yes. But let’s look at that tens of thousands. Half are your desired gender, a quarter of those have a compatible lifestyle/life goals as you, how many of those do you think are single at the same time? What are the odds of you finding those specific o…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:31 PM
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But in the societal gender role sense pressures should exist to conform. So you’re arguing that gender roles should exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:25 PM
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Maybe not 95% out of your control. But a majority percentage, yes. Finding someone that’s compatible, that wants the same things you want, that’s in your geographic area, that speaks a shared language - that’s statistically difficult. It genuinely comes down to luck and chance. Now once you’ve found someone you like, who likes you- the building a relationship part is much more in your control. But for the first part you’re just mindlessly wandering through until you bump into someone that sparks…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:19 PM
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What are you not understanding? Believing in freedom of choice, to not have those options limited by your gender is just that. Lots of women advocate for that and also choose a more traditional life for their personal relationship. One is about erasing limitations imparted on others. The other is a personal choice made for you and your partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:16 PM
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I think right middle ground is to just focus on enjoying your own life and leave a window open for romantic opportunities as they pass by. Focusing 100% on something that’s 95% out of your control is a recipe for madness.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:13 PM
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I’m not trying to be condescending, I’m just southern. I read your post and I responded to it. Then you added a few more claims in your previous comment, so I responded to those. I don’t agree with your interpretation of things. I think you’re ironically calling gaslighting on one group while completely ignoring the gaslighting going on across the aisle. If we’re advocating for information and awareness here, let’s paint the full picture. Otherwise, what are we doing here?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:07 PM
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Not at all. A traditional relationship sounds like living hell to me, personally. But my personal preference doesn’t change the fact that others should have the freedom of choice to live whatever life they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:05 PM
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That’s literally what getting rid of default gender roles is. Freedom of choice. If you want to stay home and raise your kids, hell yeah. If you want to focus on your career, hell yeah. The point is we’re no longer limited by our gender to what doors are open for any of us. A traditional relationship sounds like hell to me, but my personal preference doesn’t change the fact that I think other women should have the freedom of choice to live the life they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:04 PM
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Do think women date a range of men of moral character? Yes. Generally you’re compatible with someone of a similar moral character as yourself. Also, do you think that perhaps boys and men are partly motivated to listen to the manosphere because they aren't gaslit when they speak about their observations of women's behavior? Sweetie, the manosphere is gaslighting you. Their whole schtick is to make boys feel worse about themselves and sell you stuff you don’t need while they covet a large number …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 10:01 PM
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Some women do. Some don’t. That’s what freedom of choice means.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 09:54 PM
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Well the types of people that go on reality tv shows like that tend to be immature, toxic, and shallow. So yes you can extrapolate that behavior to describe ordinary people who are themselves similarly immature, toxic and shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 09:53 PM
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I mean I don’t observe this. But if that’s a pattern you’ve noticed, that sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 08:26 PM
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Look at representation in government. Y’all have way more heads in the room making decisions and setting legislation. Your voice is being heard as the default already.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:25 PM
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I don’t understand what point you’re trying to make. Feminist subs having “feminist” in the name?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:23 PM
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It's literally in the name too What?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:21 PM
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Feminist =\= Woman The people advocating to change antiquated gender roles are not inherently the same people actively seeking traditional gender roles in their personal life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 01:17 PM
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And by “the right mind” you mean racist facists, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 08:13 PM
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Lots of grown men vote for liberal policies. wtf are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 07:47 PM
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but when you go out of your way to sympathize with a group which believes in and perpetuates acts of violence So Trump pardoning those Jan 6ers pissed you off too? Or Elon’s modern defense of Nazi supremacy..
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 07:33 PM
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Relationship compatibility isn’t about someone being a good person or not. Please tell me that’s not your only requirement for a relationship?…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 07:10 PM
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Yes they do. Education reform, mental health reform, investing in infrastructure to benefit third spaces- all of that offers direct solutions those problems. Also, I’m sorry reproductive rights are human rights, if you have sex with women and don’t intend to make a baby, then those rights are absolutely for you as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:59 PM
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You’re conflating compatibility with matching. Those are entirely different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:57 PM
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that most men (in your opinion) vote democrat because they want to be liked or they want to have access to sex. I don’t think that’s a widely shared opinion. I also don’t think that’s what those comments were saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:53 PM
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his politics is not aligned with mine, ergo he is bad. his lifestyle isnt in aligning with me, Both of those are compatibility issues. Not even judgmental preferences. What point are you trying to make here?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:52 PM
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No totally. But there’s also clearly at least a quarter of conservatives who had no idea what they were voting for, out of stupidity or ignorance or tradition? Still bad, but clearly they didn’t believe in the shit they voted for or elections like Pennsylvania wouldn’t have flipped.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:48 PM
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Are they disparaging men? Or just not starting every talking point with, dear men this is for you? Because most talking points already include men..
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:46 PM
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At least conservatives actually believe what they profess That’s giving some of them wayyy to much credit
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:44 PM
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politics does not equal a person’s virtue It does when your politics are whether or not certain groups of people get the same rights as you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:39 PM
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if we have more cisgendered white men bringing attention to the issues, maybe it will change the mind of the average right wing supporter. It won’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:30 PM
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Liberal women often increasingly critical of men who voted democrat in the recent U.S. presidential election? Yeah that’s not happening? Basically every liberal woman I know strictly dates libs/progressives. It’s literally the easiest compatibility question. (unless I’m misunderstanding OPs question here)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 06:04 PM
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Your perception is biased by your perspective, as is mine. To loop back to a previous point; you’re a man, of course you’d ignore women bashing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:58 PM
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No, because female bashing isn’t addressed. It’s tolerated and supported on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:55 PM
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You’re a woman. Of course you ignore male bashing And you’re a man, of course you’d ignore women bashing. See how your logic goes both ways?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:54 PM
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That might be your observed experience, it’s not mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:52 PM
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Totally agree, outside of this sub. Inside of this sub is a magical demented place where normal logic doesn’t seem to grace too often
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:09 PM
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I mean they’re not wrong that the whole single mother’s thing gets blamed on women, specifically on this sub, but that’s the irony. Some dudes here are so anti-woman that they genuinely don’t stop to think about the fathers that aren’t showing up for their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:59 PM
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Nope, y’all bash women all the time. But it’s never this “oh the trolls at it again” vibe. It’s taken as fact and popular opinion here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 02:04 PM
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But it is. It takes two to make a baby and romantic relationships aren’t necessary to be an active parent for your kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 01:57 PM
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Majority of dysfunctional people coming from single mother household is taken at face value. To be fair, this statistic also makes men look bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 01:51 PM
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It really is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 01:46 PM
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No, that’s a family. Your family is whatever you want it to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 11:37 AM
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Warm approach, so 2nd one I guess. Community gatherings, social events, group hangs where I get to know someone and their vibe. If we mesh I’ll ask them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 11:01 PM
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But it’s not a binary outcome, now is it? Some people have relationships. Some people don’t. Some people have one great big loving relationship, and then they grow up and move on. You’re trying to pretend you’re logical for looking at something like it’s black and white, that’s moronic. Contrary to PPD opinion the only two options aren’t vaginal canal stitched up virgin and used up hag.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 10:09 PM
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Yeah, you’ve clearly never seen those graphs in your life. Do yourself a favor, go walk around outside and notice all the average normal looking dudes with rings on their fingers. It might be therapeutic for you!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:29 PM
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There are countless studies on the subject Yet you don’t list a single one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:16 PM
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Who says they wanted to get married? You and your all knowing bullshit?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:12 PM
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Only 41% women report having ever used a dating app at any point in the past, and only 13% have used one within the last year. source
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 09:06 PM
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Yes, so what’s the issue there?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 08:52 PM
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As unsubstantiated as an unsuccessful man commenting on what’s inside a woman’s head?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 07:02 PM
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This: But almost all women do want to get married Directly contradicts this: we’re barreling towards a society where a majority don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 07:01 PM
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only a tiny minority of women spend a whole decade So you’ve spoken to that majority of women to expertly validate that statement? Or is your self-report only applicable to the minority you’ve had contact with..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 06:15 PM
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is that mutually exclusive with long-term relationships somehow? No, but relationships take time, effort and energy that many young people don’t want to sacrifice from their career/education/other life ambitions. because let’s be honest, most single women are not exactly celibate, especially not in their 20s. “Let’s be honest” that’s your wild assumption. It’s not based in fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 05:45 PM
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I have a cousin who was 21 and had a baby, it almost killed her. What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:30 PM
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First no, it depends on your genes. Second, not if you push them back to back like most religious families do. You can start at 28 and have four babies before you’re even 32. I mean that sounds like hell to me personally, but I’ve seen religious families do it. Even more if twins are genetically predisposed, which weirdly is a an odd statistical thing within deeply rooted religious communities.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:28 PM
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It’s not impossible to have over three kids within a religious framework without fertility aids. Lots of people do it. That’s not why they marry young.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:21 PM
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1. Investing their youth and time towards a guy that is a realistic LTR option 2. Women are actively spending their youth on more desirable men for the hopes of commitment from them which often fail. Are those the only two ways for a woman to spend her youth? Cuz here I thought education, career development, entrepreneurship, philanthropy, travel, investment, you know the same things men spend their youth on were also options.. no?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 04:16 PM
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Again, your lack of standards or preferences isn’t a positive attribute. If men were more aware of what you’re looking for and who may actually be compatible, they’d have a higher success rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:47 PM
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Yeah it’s raw data showing how the entire function of a platform relied on 30% of its users, that based on other stats, weren’t even actively using the app. Bumble is a business. Of course they had to make a change. They weren’t making money with their previous business model. Dating apps make money off of men. That’s a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:45 PM
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Women do. But being attractive isn’t enough of a qualifier to go on a date. Why would I want to spend more one on one time with someone, getting to know them, hanging out with them if I’m not interested in their personality?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:43 PM
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Yeah, back to my previous comment: we’re not just going off shallow visuals, we’re looking at personality, how they carry themselves and interact with people, getting their vibe of what they’re into by how they dress.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:36 PM
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Most women are not on dating apps. So who is on dating apps? Well the minority that highly values visual characteristics in their dating decision making, because that’s how apps are setup to function. Bumble, while comparatively better than other apps, still only had a 3:1 man to woman ratio. That’s 30% of the app’s users. source Please note that none of that specifies the usage or participation rates of users, it just quantifies who had a profile during that time. According to data, while only …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:33 PM
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Yeah because y’all judge on surface level shallow attributes with little intelligent thought about if yall would be a good fit or compatible. Leading with lust isn’t the positive attribute you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:13 PM
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It’s about 10% of men they deem worthy of approaching. See this where y’all get confused. My 10% is an entirely different group than another woman’s 10%. Because we’re not just going off shallow visuals, we’re looking at personality, how they carry themselves and interact with people, getting their vibe of what they’re into by how they dress. I’m not going to approach someone who’s super fitness focused because I don’t give a shit about that stuff. Nerdy academic with a book? Hell yeah. So yes, …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 03:00 PM
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Women initiate when they’re interested. Just not at the frequency men want us to, apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:56 PM
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Because most women don’t use dating apps 👏🏻👏🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:23 PM
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Because most women don’t use dating apps 👏🏻👏🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 02:23 PM
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The passiveness has to be managed Why? Everyone’s entitled to free will and living out the natural consequences of their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:39 PM
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No. It’s just a reflection on whose complaints you recognize and whose you ignore.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:35 PM
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Have you looked at dating app demographics? Majority of women aren’t on dating apps. It’s nonsensical to attribute the behaviors of a minority of women universally on all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:34 PM
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If men acted this pathetically, they'd be laughed off every app—and we both know it. apparently not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:23 PM
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You’re not complaining about the women who are complaining. Your post just generalizes all women. You’re incorrect. Women approach when they’re interested in a person. Generally those approaches are successful, often leading to actual dates, love and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:21 PM
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Sex as the penetrator is basically always amazing. Sex as the penetrated can be awesome or deeply invasive and uncomfortable. Women enjoy good sex. Women don’t enjoy bad sex. Men do enjoy bad sex. That’s the only difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:04 PM
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Women do approach first when they’re interested in someone. When they’re not they’re focused on living their life, enjoying their time/hobbies/friends/family. As with anything on the internet the lonely losers are the loudest with too much time on their hands. Like I guess I agree it’s “self-sabotage” because they’re intentionally choosing their own lifestyle. But being single isn’t the total loss y’all think it is 🙈
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:02 PM
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How would the knowledge of Reddit and technology have existed if not for our ancestors pissing and shitting in order to survive? Do you see how dumb that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:48 AM
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The evidence is our speaking right now. No. Because communication, technology, and Reddit did not come from reproduction. By your logic we should still be un-evolved cave men. So why aren’t we?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 01:37 AM
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No. Anything you’ve chosen for yourself inherently holds far more meaning that something passively passed onto you. Especially if your birth family are pieces of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:26 AM
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I’m reading your comments exactly as you’ve written them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:23 AM
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Yes, respective. belonging or relating separately to each of two or more people or things. Source
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:22 AM
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You say shit like this: Children are the purpose of marriage, it’s like having a fork with no food
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:18 AM
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Some people should not reproduce.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:13 AM
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Government funded artificial wombs. Or a fully robot society. Or nature wins and it’s an animals paradise. Lots of options really.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 12:02 AM
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They just want a man to pay their bills No, that would only require a sugar daddy. No woman is willingly splitting their space with a man just for monetary gain.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:56 PM
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No. The only reason we do exist is reproduction. That’s not our only reason to exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:54 PM
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To be fair, I too would love to have kids if I just had to pose with them in pretty holiday photos.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:41 PM
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They’re a family and a couple. Things can be two things hon.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:40 PM
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No, it’s how life works. You get to make it whatever the fuck you want. Find people you love, support people you care about, invest time and energy into a family. All of it could totally be yours too
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:38 PM
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a group of persons united by the ties of marriage, blood, or adoption, constituting a single household and interacting with each other in their respective social positions Source
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:33 PM
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No. A family is whatever you want it to be. Have you never heard the term “found family”? I’m guessing no, because your entire post here screams heteronormative societal default..
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:32 PM
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Maybe because kids are exhausting? And limiting? I love kids and I still think both of those things are absolutely true.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:31 PM
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No. It’s a family because it’s you plus them, plus your immediate family and their immediate family. Any nieces, nephews, aunts or uncles. It’s two families joined together making a new family that previously didn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:26 PM
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Monogamy is nice. Hooking up is incredibly unsatisfying. Also, you can be a family without kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:20 PM
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I thought that guy literally had a chromosomal mutation?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:08 PM
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I mean, define “ugly”. Like disfigured? then yeah that’s tough. Not classically meeting standard societal beauty standards, more doable with a nice personality and sense of style.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 10:39 PM
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No. The mind. The thinking and feeling part of you. The part that has opinions on vanilla vs chocolate ice cream. That prefers watching one sport over another.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 09:18 PM
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No. The logistics of building a life together means finding compromises. But love doesn’t require sacrifice.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 09:17 PM
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I don’t mean “soul” in the spiritual sense. I just mean the person/identity that’s inside the body. You could call that a soul, or a mind, or spirit, or a person, whatever you want. But that thing that makes you, you. And that makes a brain dead patient not alive anymore. We’re not just bodies is my only point.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 08:39 PM
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No, humans are souls. Not just bodies. That’s part of the problem here. Guess who is more likely to love someone just for their body and nothing else? Men of course. Yeah, that’s the problem. Lust =\= Love
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:58 PM
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6 figures, 6 feet, 6 pack etc. have always been women’s mantra. No. wtf?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:39 PM
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That’s not loving the person tho. That’s just loving what they do for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:30 PM
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It does when you account for marriage rates amongst lesbians are higher than gay men. Also when you consider average life span of either gender. Try actually taking a step back and look at the data from an unbiased perspective, you’d be amazed at what you’ll see!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 06:16 PM
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Yeah- all of that once again is feminists uncovering their experience and creating support that they needed. Majority of feminists have been women, historically, so yeah that’s the focus of their advocacy. Stop bitching against and start fighting against the patriarchy, or advocating for men’s issues. Stop wasting time in this fight right here and go put in the actual work dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 06:11 PM
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You’re putting a biased reading on the data. Women initiating divorce means filing the paperwork, saying “call it, it’s dead, let’s leave”. You’re implying some evil or unhappiness or deceit on women that data just doesn’t support, at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 06:01 PM
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It was feminists who erased the fact half the domestic abuse victims are women and who to this day fight to hide that fact. It was feminists who erased the fact men are half the rape victims and who to this day fight to erase that fact. No. No one “erased” anything because that implies something was once common knowledge and now isn’t. A more accurate metaphor is feminists uncovered those issues as women experienced them, from their own personal experience. Now it’s your turn to uncover yours. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 05:55 PM
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Men love their significant other for who they are the role they fulfill
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 05:51 PM
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Relationships shouldn’t sacrifice anyone’s happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 05:50 PM
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I asked a clarifying question about above commenters sources and how it relates to OP topic. Then you brought up an unrelated fact having nothing to do with any of it. You assumed I was arguing a stance I wasn’t. You’re welcome to go argue elsewhere about how women are awful, I’m just wholeheartedly uninterested in having this conversation with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 05:48 PM
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Have you never held a conversation with a married man, either online or irl, and realized that they don’t actually care for the person that is their wife? Commonly these men like having a wife, they like having sex with a woman, they like having a mother to their kids, but the actual person they’ve chosen “to love and to hold” is essentially interchangeable. Not saying that’s an overwhelming occurrence, just that I’ve had more than 20 of those conversations where clearly the man did not love the…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 05:44 PM
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that men in society are essentially emotionally illiterate, because men are emotionally neglected and subject to emotional abuse essentially from the moment they are born. I absolutely agree with this. I also heavily advocate against antiquated gender roles and often discuss the negative effects of our patriarchal society on everyone, like you’ve outlined in your comment. The issue is when men aren’t on board with that progressive movement too. At some point it’s not healthy to blame someone who…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 05:35 PM
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You're right; the "something special for birthday" is absent. Will add later. what?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:52 PM
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I’d imagine you’re not questioning why men say “men love women more” like I am. Our observance of patterns is limited by our unique participation in this group.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:50 PM
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I’m arguing it’s not a gendered thing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:45 PM
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Because men, especially on here, frequently assume lusting after women is loving women. They argue that men love women more and when you talk it out with them that thought stems from the fact that they crave women more, as in sex with women more.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:45 PM
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"This masterpost contains counter-evidence basically to every of your points." And I’m saying it doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 04:43 PM
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I did and I fail to see how it’s relevant to this conversation. Divorce happens in unhappy marriages. Studies, data, anecdotal evidence all proves that quite thoroughly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:58 PM
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I’m sorry, what does divorce statistics have to do with “loving deeper”?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:53 PM
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Women have collectively decided that short men are undesirable No, collectively we haven’t. But y’all tend to ignore any women’s opinion that doesn’t fit your preconceived narrative of how the world works.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:50 PM
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I think they’re conflating love with lust.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:26 PM
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You’re right you totally can. But simply commenting on someone’s post, isn’t that. And that’s about all most people do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 03:14 PM
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True. But sex can't be the only emotional connection you have with others and be healthy and you can have tender sexual connections with multiple people and still be healthy. Yeah, actually totally agree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 02:02 PM
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No, you can comment on more posts with social media. That’s not actual social interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:48 PM
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Sex that is cold and objectifying is bad. Sex that is a tender physical connection between two people is good. That’s not rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:21 PM
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Stop doing what you don’t want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:18 PM
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Generally it's up to men to approach, show interest etc. It’s not. Men just choose to approach whenever they see someone who might be a good fit. Women generally wait until they find someone they know could be a good fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:13 PM
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They call us lost girls. The generations of women who went undiagnosed or misdiagnosed because the data they used to diagnose autism up till 2021 was based on one sample group of prepubescent boys. It’s not that girls were better at masking, they just didn’t have a choice but to learn to survive without accommodations.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:12 PM
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Were you born female and autistic it would not be a problem Nope, it totally still is a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:10 PM
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It doesn’t apply to any gender. But above commenter is trying to make it so, that’s the sexist part.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:37 AM
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Not when one eye look takes an hour and half hon. Tell me you’ve never perfected a cut crease 🤣 Color theory, shading and sculpting, mixing formulas, and that’s all before the actual brush to face painting of it all. Just admit you’re sexist hon
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:33 AM
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No, the point is that it’s sexist bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:27 AM
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Well I work from home so currently none, but back when I worked in the office I’d be called sick if I didn’t put on concealer. That’s patriarchal shit. That’s not what I’m talking about when I describe my hobbies. Colorful eyeshadow, five step lips, hair, outfits that have been described as “man-repellant”, that shit’s for fun. You know what’s funny though? Men are never demanded to defend their hobbies, they’re just entitled to them. That’s also patriarchal bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:18 AM
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You’re right, it doesn’t always carry over. But it can. How else do you explain people who’ve had no success in dating gaining success in dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:19 AM
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It’s not. For one thing the fashion I wear isn’t particularly attractive for men, or so I’ve been told. Have you never heard the term “pre-shower makeup”?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 11:23 PM
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Finding someone you connect with, that wants the same things you want, that has a compatible lifestyle- that shit’s hard to find for anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 10:16 PM
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a man who's never had a girlfriend can never truly be confident around women. You absolutely can. Your confidence just needs to based in something else, like you said in the first part of your comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 09:09 PM
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a fish cannot tell a fisherman how to catch fish. Simple. Well fish can’t speak, and women can. So glad I cleared that up for ya
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 08:59 PM
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Happiness isn't going to be given to man for simply existing. Happiness is absolutely something you find for yourself as an individual. women still dress up, workout, spends tremendously on fashion and make up 🤔 how is any of that being yourself? Because I enjoy aesthetic things and dressing up. Those are just some of my hobbies. They add happiness to my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 08:45 PM
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The standoffish-ness is a learned trait. Trying to compete in male dominated corporations. Trying to avoid sexual harassment. Trying to mind my business and walk from point a to point b without being propositioned for my number. When I like someone I take the lead. But most of the time I have no interest in picking up any additional attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 06:33 PM
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No I truly cannot comprehend what the fuck you’re trying to say here. The first half feels anti-trans and then the second half feels pro-trans, it’s all over the place dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:13 PM
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Okay, but you know we can take the eggs of two women and create a baby without male sperm, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 06:12 PM
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This is why radical trans people can actually commit erasure against other trans identities. What?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:58 PM
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The draft is male only. We’ve made legislation to make it gender neutral, you know who opposed it? Conservative men. Men are murdered, by whom?? Women gain child custody majority of the time because the men don’t ask for it. Check the data. Also suicide rates are an awful consequence of a patriarchal society where boys are raised without the tools and knowledge to socialize and navigate their emotions. That’s literally what we mean when we say we need to get rid of gender roles. Because they fuc…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:57 PM
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It’s truly not. Kids can learn characteristics modeled by adults and incorporate them into their own phrasing, movement, mannerism. But it’s not genetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:54 PM
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Yet both benefited from it, clearly. Women’s right to work, equal pay. Ability to have a bank account in their name and be the breadwinners of their households.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:52 PM
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men cannot choose to be a parent or not after conception. That’s not true. Lots of states actually allow financial abortion of parental rights upon birth of the child. If you actually want to understand this whole thing check out the book “Invisible Women”. It’s eye opening and shows the inherent need for equal representation and support for women across the fields of medicine, science, public safety, industry etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:04 PM
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Those are valid points, but I don’t think that’s an empathy issue. That’s just different opinions in how to best legislate to solve problems. (But also I didn’t see much of any feminist support for amber heard, but maybe that’s just my perspective.)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 04:41 PM
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imo they don't really extend empathy to men either. Okay fair. Can I ask what you think extending empathy actually looks like? Like from an outside perspective how do you measure empathy of other people if it’s not actions and it’s just feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 04:32 PM
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I was countering that point. He seems to think that empathy is something you do for some selfish transaction. It’s not. Helping, donating, volunteering, assisting, advising, advocating- all of those require time, energy and effort. But empathy is literally the bare minimum you can give to another human. So the fact that OP is struggling with that, is quite telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 04:25 PM
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I think most people do. I just think some people think empathy requires specific actions to fix someone’s problem, and it doesn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 04:20 PM
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They’re not the equivalent. But they’re the most measurable behavior because interpersonal social skills can’t be outwardly measured.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 02:30 PM
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Those aren’t examples of feminist legislation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 02:09 PM
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My mother was a General Manager for a carpet manufacturer in the 1950s. My older sister was an area manager and race team manager for a well known car parts supplier in the 1970s. Both examples of amazing feminist women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 02:05 PM
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Did you miss the part where multiple ex girlfriends broke up with OP after starting therapy for their issues and he’s somehow ignoring the toxic common denominator in all of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 11:49 AM
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the local feminist were calling me a "male human piece of shit" Yeah that’s not a thing bro. But if that fantasy gives you comfort, then you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 11:47 AM
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Why being empathetic to those who hate you just for existing? That’s literally what women do towards men every single day. It’s called being the bigger person. They go low, you go high
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 11:46 AM
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to deserve empathy. Empathy isn’t something you earn. It’s not transactional.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 11:39 AM
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What if I'm saying that it is? Then that’s not empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 11:35 AM
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women who would dare ask for more Yeah. Fuck our equal rights, we should be fine with the table scraps. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:40 AM
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You’re putting a lot of projection on feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:35 AM
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People can be empathetic and also recognize how somethings aren’t entitled. Those aren’t mutually exclusive thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:31 AM
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What benefits does he get from helping women? Empathy bro. It’s not transactional, it’s just human.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:04 AM
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pass on their genetic personality traits that lead to desiring to take a more traditional role to their children. That’s not a genetic trait.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 04:25 AM
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This is why I can’t take anything feminists say seriously. Quotes a very niche and specific writing of one person’s views. THE ONUS IS ALWAYS PUT ON MEN TO DO BETTER FOR WOMEN’S BENEFIT I don’t think you’re reading feminist literature correctly Lesbianism is not the rosie colored happy tale feminists would like it to be. No one’s saying it is. Just that a lesbian couple is equal to a straight couple. They both go through shit. Some people are toxic. Some of them work out, others don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 04:24 AM
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I also can acknowledge that it was probably my fault I was ghosted. It’s the part where OP admits it might be “his fault” which makes me wonder what the real story is here..
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:56 AM
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since those women don't know how to communicate what? In the previous example neither party reached out to the other. Explain to me how you’re twisting it to make it only a communication problem on the woman’s end?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:54 AM
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For sure. But if you didn’t text them either, it’s not ghosting. If you sent a “hey how’s it going” and you get nothing in response? That’s ghosting. Neither of you reaching back out is not ghosting, it’s just a mutual and consenting end to the interaction. But again, boys on here tend to disagree quite angrily about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:35 AM
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But dudes on PPD have a habit of labeling non-ghosting situations as “ghosting”. Like if you’re in a dating app and the light conversation fades out, that’s not ghosting. Multiple boys here will loudly argue that it is tho. Or if you’ve been on one or two dates and then both of you forget about eachother? Some boys here also call that ghosting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:32 AM
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Explain what you mean by ghosting in this specific situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:20 AM
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Yes, because that is literally how a spectrum works.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:14 AM
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Can we ‘draw lines’ between these three categories? If not, why not? No, because then it’s not a spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:09 AM
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What’s the other ‘end’ of the spectrum? It was in my previous comment, on one end you have man on the other you have woman, and in the middle is the androgynous grey area. Or if you prefer a circle spectrum divided into thirds that would work too.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 02:59 AM
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They’re definitely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 12:01 AM
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Okay I’m done entertaining your delusion. Check the data if you actually care about fact and reality ✌🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 10:58 PM
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until you need to draw a line Why do you need to “draw a line”? Say Furries. Identifying as a ‘cat’ a reasonable gender? No because “species” aren’t on the gender spectrum that runs from man/woman/androgynous. The primary issue isn’t gender roles Gender roles is a huge issue, and that’s not even considering trans people. Being raised to perform a certain role by society was fucked up and limiting. I have a vagina but that shouldn’t exclude me from fields I’m very skilled in.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 10:43 PM
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