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Oh, I was happy to do it. I love being home with the kids and I love supporting my husband’s career. I just thought it meant being cherished and desired at the same time.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 12:20 AM
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No, but I also got pregnant pretty immediately after we married, and we married quick. He said he wasn’t attracted to pregnancy so I always chalked it up to that.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 11:47 PM
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I’m sorry but I don’t get this. Are you really saying people should accept long term sexless marriages and/or their partners’ infidelity because “sex isn’t the most important thing”
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 11:24 PM
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He stopped about 7 months ago, and says he doesn’t have an interest in it anymore, and we have good and frequent sex now but it’s just not great sex because I would have to feel sexy and carnally “wanted” for it to be great for me, and that’s not possible because my body does not look sexy.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/24 10:28 PM
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This is the correct answer. I only had eyes for my husband, adored and desired him, bore him 2 babies in 2 years, cooked him gourmet meals on the reg, woke him up with head as often as possible, paid attention to his fantasies and dressed up, read RPW & Laura Doyle & treated him with so much respect, everything - Only to find a history of regular porn consumption stretching back years I’d known nothing about. I pointed out that he hadn’t seen, or shown interest in seeing me naked in the year sin…
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/23 02:06 PM
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I radically changed my style. I secured my husband with a slightly edgy mostly black style, one visible tattoo, and only after becoming a housewife did a deep dive on RPW and everything else because I wanted to be perfect for him. I totally shifted to soft pink florals and dresses etc, long hair, bows in my hair, my tattoo looked totally bad and out of place lol. Only after a few years did I rediscover some of my old clothing and he revealed it’s what he had preferred all along LMAO. The one thi…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/23 01:13 PM
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Aw, best of luck you girl 💗 Older men are where it’s at. I can’t imagine dating someone my own age anymore 🫣
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 03:37 AM
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Ok? You’re taking this post as a brag? edit: also yes, i only newly have money, that’s literally the point of the post lmao
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 03:35 AM
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Theoretically because he would never demand something he didn’t want for me too, because he loves me and wants me to happy just like I do for him. I am a one-man woman though, so I don’t have flings.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 03:12 AM
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Best of luck to you, luv!! 😍
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 02:35 AM
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Oh I just saw these other questions! Gosh, I nearly lost hope more than once. I nearly settled for some “solid choices”. But I really really diligently applied myself to the task of exposing myself to a wide net of bachelors, and when I found my husband I went after him hard and with all my heart. I did not stand by and settle for the dregs of online dating or randos at my state school college. I angled and studied and worked and got myself into the rooms where the men I wanted were!! I’m not po…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 02:34 AM
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I 100% am a follower and he is a leader. I consider myself submissive, but his decisions always revolve around pleasing me. He’s not a selfish leader!
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 02:20 AM
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Um, no…obviously one bathroom was closest and most accessible to where we were gathering in the living room? the person happened to be entering the bathroom she had just emerged from, and it was about to be clear what she had done in there, lol. It’s not like our friend’s Airbnb (where we were at the time) has infinite bathrooms for each individual guest
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 02:04 AM
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Lmao these are great. Our personal assistants hire and manage staff except we interview important ones like nannies first. We have 2 cats and they mostly know where to stay. Umm, my husband doesn’t know I did this AMA. Also, he might find it unnerving to talk about “snagging a guy” in the calculated way I am here. There’s no “allowing” in our dynamic, though. Our relationship isn’t nearly as transactional or businesslike as people here imagine.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 01:59 AM
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Thank you :) I have never slept with other men, but I’m a one-man kind of girl. I don’t really have an interest. We’ve talked about though and if I wanted to, I could under the same conditions he can.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 12:57 AM
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He was very wealthy compared to me when we got together, but it increased to such a high level after marriage. I didn’t know it was going to increase. I should maybe add that into the post - choosing someone on the way up makes a big difference. My husband is not calculated like I imagine old money types are, he kind of boasted about how he would sustain me and preferred me not to work so I would be available for him. There was no more real discussion after that. Finally a question I adore! I lo…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 12:54 AM
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Health at that level doesn’t require temperance in terms of impulse control the same way it does for a stressed out person who has to resist temptation at the grocery store, budget for healthy food, cook it after a long day of work, resist the ice cream while tired and bored and stressed in front of Netflix. Exercising temperance isn’t really necessary if you can dine at the best restaurants and have a private chef and personal trainer managing all of the steps for you. Believe me, no one eating…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 12:43 AM
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No!! It never came up, he was impulsive and in love, we got married basically on a whim and he didn’t talk to anyone about it. His lawyer and support team gave him so much shit, yes. We joke about it now.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 12:40 AM
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Somewhat offensive that you use the word “loyal”. Loyalty can absolutely be present in polyamorous dynamics in that each partner puts their partner’s needs and wishes above those of all others. Many monogamous relationships are not “loyal” in that sense, even if the partners don’t have sex with anyone else. But yes, everyone prefers different things. Btw, polyamory does not only exist among the wealthy. It’s rampant in the Bay Area/Burning Man tech scene among people of all income levels. It’s n…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 12:36 AM
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I mean, monogamous men hide things from their wives ALL the time. It’s not like that risk only exists among poly couples lmao. Short of him choosing someone dangerous (which he’s really not into) or straight up falling in love with someone, there isn’t much he would have to hide from me. We have open device policies and we spend the vast majority of our time together. I’m less worried about my husband than I would be about a man I’m truly expecting to remain 100% monogamous in word and deed for …
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 12:31 AM
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You absolutely need to go focus on school and/or work and get into as prestigious a school or company you can.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 08:38 PM
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Thank you for the feedback. I’m not intending to be toxic or to imply that there’s a high net worth man for every woman. Obviously that’s not the case or being high net worth would mean nothing lol. IF you are serious about angling to marry rich from a poor background, these are just angles I believe are most likely to pay off. If you want a solid enough earner you can stay in your hometown and find a small business owner or something.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 08:14 PM
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Can’t argue with that. My husband actually has a thing for waitresses or any simple, sweet type of woman.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 06:26 PM
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Nope. I’m sure we’re outliers. We actually got legally married at the courthouse in SF somewhat on a whim, no prenup, then had a destination wedding a year later in France. No one knew we were married for a while. We definitely didn’t do the back and forth with lawyers. Again, new money vs. old money lol.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 04:06 PM
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Every man is different but mine was on a superficial level very susceptible to “the coquette”. He could have any number of accomplished and powerful women but he loved any hint of innocence, naïveté, softness, dependence. That remains in our dynamic today, the “childlike” joy from the Fascinating Womanhood book make a huge difference. I notice a lot of men in our circle who are divorced or unhappy with their wives have very Type A, high strung, controlling wives who put them down. It’s not for e…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 02:59 PM
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Other questions: I got my work clothes and whatnot at department stores. Tried to look put together, it mostly wasn’t an issue because youth and attractiveness can really go a long way to overcome poor fashion sense lol. I never figured out the bags & shoes thing. I’m still kind of hopeless with fashion, but I know a lot of wives like me who are more sporty or into handmade/thrifted/clothes from offbeat little shops in exotic locations. I hope to figure this part out eventually but as I’ve said …
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 02:23 PM
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No experience with Toastmasters but sounds great. I haven’t formally studied etiquette or anything like that. 1) I mentioned in another comment that my family was low income but not uncultured and that education was very prized. So I am and have been very well-read and I think that shows. Read a ton and keep up on the news! 2) The company you keep uplevels you or brings you down in terms of speech habits. Nothing I could have done to practice etiquette or speech helped like getting good internsh…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 02:11 PM
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1) Polyamory is very common in the tech scene so I was familiar and comfortable with it before being with my husband. It wasn’t some huge tradeoff for me personally. But I totally understand it would be a huge no for many women and that’s totally achievable. 2) He would stop and he has when I’ve asked him to. If I closed the marriage for life I believe he would be fine too. It’s not a huge part of his life, it’s a roughly once a year thing he’s never been that obsessed with, we pick the girl tog…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 01:58 PM
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I went into detail about weight in another comment! Unfortunately I was very thin but extremely unhealthy when I met my husband. I had the most degenerate diet but was so stressed with school and walked around my city because I had no car hahaha. That was my secret. I do think a lot of what I do now would have been achievable then if I had understood how to prioritize it. Check the other comment for details but short version is changing your relationship with food so you’re coming to truly love …
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 01:53 PM
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Congratulations on your bf! I do struggle with this. My husband is at an age now (50s) where he gets less attention from women so what I’m dealing with now is him missing it, feeling old, and going out of his way to get attention more lol. He knows I need him to show me with his words and actions that he’s hot for me above anyone else, he has to make me feel beautiful daily, and he does that. I go out of my way to make sure I look hot all the time, at home or out and about, so there’s no clear m…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 01:46 PM
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Yes - I know because he never sees the same girl more than once or twice and we have a high degree of openness between us. Like I’m not saying he sees the same girl for a year, I’m saying once a year he sees one girl for one night. I ask him to tell me about what happened and express joy for him if he liked the girl and they had a good time, so he has no motivation to conceal anything from me. He tends to forget their names shortly after. He works from home and we spend a TON of time together so…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 01:31 PM
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Lol he has a brother who is completely broke and an addict. My husband is self-made.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 01:26 PM
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Any school with name recognition honestly. The Ivies, Stanford, Cambridge, the UCs, etc
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 04:39 AM
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Yes. Ive had extremely jealous periods. Intense and successful men tend to come with some huge downsides and this can be one. While I was pregnant I felt like he had his eyes on every woman but me :( That was hard but we had a year of counseling and moved through. And any time I’ve asked him not to see other women because I need him, he’s listened. A lot of his women are paid sugar babies as well so I struggle with them being younger/fitter/hotter/whatever. I don’t mean to make it sound like the…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 04:38 AM
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I’m not worried. His first marriage was at age 19. He was a nobody then and so was she. It lasted a year and was annulled. His second marriage was in his 30s and produced 2 kids. Now he is older, mostly retired, and leading a totally different lifestyle. We’re compatible and he dotes on me, we spend all our time together, and he shows me how much he loves me in every imaginable way. We’re pragmatic as well and aren’t afraid to look at incompatibilities that pop up. I’m not concerned. I do not ha…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 04:33 AM
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Most definitely. Many end up feeling like single parents. In my opinion, it’s worth it. But it may not be for everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 02:28 AM
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I’m lucky in that my husband works remotely or else travels and takes us with. Making time together though requires conscious prioritization. Having one partner not working though means everything on the home front is cared for and the stay at home partner doesn’t have to decompress from work, there aren’t two schedules to juggle etc - I can work around his availability 100%.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 01:59 AM
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It’s not infidelity if I know and support, also it’s pretty common in our social group. Not for everyone though! My husband would absolutely not require it and would be monogamous if I desired it. As it stands though, I’m sure it sweetens the “deal”.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 01:57 AM
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I had a single mom household, mom made probably $30k, eventually remarried and stepdad’s income was more like $60k. Grandparents were much better off though so it’s not like I came from a truly uncultured background. My family was well-read and not trashy and prized education, just low income. Went to a good state school for undergrad, won’t share my area of study to remain anonymous :) I had an internship in the Bay, where I met my husband at a work event. We dated 1 year before marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 12:22 AM
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Unfortunately a lot of these new money guys, my husband included, do not practice temperance overall. I have had to dial my husband way back. Some wives are pretty competitive and others aren’t. I agree, it’s really the ones with something to prove who are competitive. The highest level wives are secure and don’t brag.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 12:12 AM
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As mentioned - I went older :) My husband was twice divorced with kids. And he has occasionally (with my permission) had casual flings outside our marriage. Pros and cons.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 12:05 AM
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So I would recommend meditation retreats, health retreats, or any kind of self-improvement event. You’ll have to sift through all the super flaky woo woo guys, but IME like I said, all rich people end up focusing on spirituality and health and flocking to these types of events. Do your research and see which kinds draw celebrities. I would love to be more specific but don’t want to reveal too much about myself.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/23 11:17 PM
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