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I'm really tempted to contact a female therapist now because of this discussion. In regards to this being an unusual problem I don't really know because it's just not something I see in the real world or at least people that I talk with. Guys that I'm friends/acquaintances with have normal dating lives and seemingly not many hangups around sex and dating. Some are married some have gone through a few girlfriends, etc. Most of the shame and insecurity I see is shared on online boards/social media…
/r/ExRedPill01/01/22 01:07 PM
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That's good to hear. I'm dealing with shame around sexuality and dating so the idea of opening up to a female therapist about shame around dating women feels really threatening. I'm almost expecting a really cold reaction or maybe a dismissive "this isn't going to work out" kind of response. Lots of hangups around this.
/r/ExRedPill01/01/22 11:36 AM
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Yes, I'm familiar with that therapy. Did you feel self-conscious when sharing this dating stuff with a female therapist? I'm only looking for a male therapist atm because I don't think I'd be able to share all of this dating insecurity stuff with a woman it feels very intense.
/r/ExRedPill01/01/22 12:54 AM
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I've been putting off therapy for more than a decade. If you're willing, could you share how you've found the therapist you did and what kind of therapy you received? Thank you.
/r/ExRedPill01/01/22 12:11 AM
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Can you conclusively prove that women are more sensitive to insults and thus defend the notion that they should be treated as special? Sounds a bit like you're saying "men are different (less sensitive to insults) so they can take it but women should be granted special kind of care". Interesting. What's your stance on men who are abused in domestic relationships? No double standard because only men can abuse (biological difference)?
/r/MensRights24/01/18 04:08 AM
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I don't think it's right to have a double standard, regardless of the reasons. Men shouldn't be seen as emotional punching bags just because people think it won't affect them. Maybe the male suicide rate ties in with this somehow...
/r/MensRights24/01/18 03:43 AM
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Ok... So damned if you do, damned if you don't, the way I see it. A dead end. Good to know. Now to wait and see how fucked up everything actually becomes. Hopefully I'll be too old to face any real consequences.
/r/MensRights19/01/18 10:02 PM
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At this point there is no other option but to push for equality though. What is the alternative, stop pushing for equality and let feminism completely annihilate anything decent? Run men off the face of the Earth? Revert society to pre-first wave feminism and go back to hardcore gender roles? That ain't happening in a million years. It's a dead end.
/r/MensRights19/01/18 09:45 PM
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I'm still not following the logical conclusion of this argument that the OP is presenting. Women are over-privileged currently = let's just stop trying to fight for equality because it's futile?
/r/MensRights19/01/18 06:55 PM
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I'm genuinely curious. I've only skimmed his manifesto and what I got from it that the gender disparity in the tech field is because of a natural disposition of men to be in said field while women simply do not have the same drive. I didn't see him advocating that women should be kept out of this field. Was there something between the lines that I missed there?
/r/ExRedPill19/01/18 01:34 AM
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Who the **** is gonna hunt and protect the village if there's a shortage of men? You can't just lose 90% of your hunters and expect them to support every remaining female. They can get them pregnant but who cares if they die anyways due to malnutrition.
/r/MensRights17/01/18 11:53 PM
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How am I lying? If a female murders someone, do you think the law gives a shit whether she can produce a kid or not?
/r/MensRights17/01/18 11:48 PM
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No, having babies does not insure women against facing jail time or any other consequences for committing a crime. There is pro-female bias but you take this argument so far that it becomes laughable. I'm trying to imagine a woman standing over a dead person with a bloody knife in her hand, the police show up and she puts her hands up and says "Hey I can have babies, no jail time for me, right?".
/r/MensRights17/01/18 11:32 PM
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I'm 99.999999% sure he's a red-piller. He speaks like one and makes all the arguments of the red pill community. The fact he wants to abandon attempts at equality and just play his cards is a dead giveaway.
/r/MensRights17/01/18 11:27 PM
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I feel like you're overplaying the "women make babies therefore they're deemed superior" point. Like, there is pro-female bias but you're making it sound like just having a vagina actually makes people think someone is a worthwhile person regardless of how shitty their personality/actions might be.
/r/MensRights17/01/18 11:16 PM
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So, damned if you do damned if you don't? There's no winning this game, is there...
/r/MensRights17/01/18 10:37 PM
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It seems like it's too easy to just say testosterone and leave it at that. Why are not all men aggressive alpha guys? Why are so many of them into typically feminine interests like blogging, writing and music? Why aren't all men just clones of each other all aggressively clashing horns? I dunno, I don't feel like an aggressive would be criminal just because I'm male.
/r/ExRedPill17/01/18 09:04 PM
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I think some very good points are raised in this article. Fortunately I was never raised with the typical "romantic Hollywood" kind of expectations so I can't relate too much with that however the part where you mention women being gatekeepers has definitely bothered me. I've read about this concepts in several other places, the idea that women hold all the power in relationships and romance and that it's basically us poor saps getting picked by the all powerful women. I still suffer from a kind…
/r/MensRights17/01/18 08:40 PM
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Well done. Very well done.
/r/MensRights17/01/18 08:31 PM
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Fuck chivalry and to hell with my dad or any other person who still tries to prop up this relic of the past.
/r/MensRights17/01/18 08:28 PM
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I want out of the system that says I have to do X Y and Z or not be a considered a real man. You can use shame to make anyone do anything. I wasn't born on this Earth to slave for someone else's shitty ideas. If this means the end of society and humanity then fuck it. Not all species were meant to survive and make it. There is no rule that says humans have to "make it".
/r/MensRights17/01/18 08:15 PM
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Traditional male roles equate to suicide in the name of the greater good and protecting women. It's not a good deal for men, I'm not surprised there's so much backlash against traditionalism.
/r/MensRights17/01/18 07:22 PM
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I still have zero idea why Peterson gets treated like a god in these discussions. When it comes to men's rights he's the last person I'm thinking of.
/r/MensRights17/01/18 07:07 PM
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There is no way one can argue against the fact that men have always had the shittier deal evolutionary speaking. Giving birth doesn't even come close to being considered cannon fodder and completely worthless just because you were born a certain gender. The first to die in war, if you don't give your life up for a woman then you might as well not bother living because everyone will make your life hell. Give me the risk of giving birth over being male any day of the week. Women have always and fo…
/r/MensRights17/01/18 07:01 PM
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It's beyond ****ed up that women stood up for their rights last century and got them but men need women to do the same because they won't be taken seriously. Think about it. Men need WOMEN to get their rights. They're not enough on their own. Sometimes, my mind can't comprehend how ****ing primitive humans still are. I love to think that humans are above other animals and are special and are destined for great things but being on this sub-reddit and becoming aware of how society treats half of i…
/r/MensRights10/01/18 10:08 PM
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This is amazing advice. This is the kind of thing I was looking for. Thank you.
/r/MensRights08/01/18 05:19 PM
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Abortion is an issue of bodily autonomy, and has nothing to the quality of life of the parents/child post birth. Woman are the ones who incubate the fetus for 10 months, and therefore (should) get the final say if the pregnancy is terminated or not. If you are a man, by consenting to sex you are basically signing a contract that your allowing a woman and her body to use your DNA how she sees fit. Obviously, birth control and sterilization significantly reduce the chance of pregnancy, but with fe…
/r/MensRights07/01/18 02:59 PM
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Is Germany infamous for its feminist policies?
/r/MensRights07/01/18 02:15 PM
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LMAO
/r/MensRights07/01/18 02:13 PM
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Makes me wanna crack out some Kant/Locke/Hume and just go full Enlightenment.
/r/MensRights07/01/18 02:10 PM
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But isn't something like gender much more "real" in a sense compared to social class? One seems to be purely societal (money, class, etc.) while the other would be true even if we aren't in a society (someone being male or female). For example living in a jungle, there might not be a sharply defined class but gender would still remain the same.
/r/MensRights07/01/18 01:58 PM
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Gotta be honest, not a huge fan of Peterson. I'm not a SJW or some hardcore lefty but when it comes to men's rights I'm not sure he's the first person I would go to for advice. He gives me this vibe like everything should be centered on the woman, the Great Mother or whatever it's called while men are simply in service to the feminine and their role and job is to make sacrifices and compromises for females. Also, his focus on religion and Christianity is really strange and also a kind of turn-of…
/r/MensRights07/01/18 01:52 PM
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Erm, reading about male circumcision and how they lose a lot of nerve endings and develop other complications later in life, I'm not so sure it's in a man's best interest to tamper with what he's got naturally.
/r/MensRights07/01/18 11:59 AM
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How's the red pill taste?
/r/MensRights07/01/18 11:58 AM
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Don't men who are circumcised basically lose most of their nerve cells down there and have a bunch of other problems later in life? I'm pretty sure it's not in their best interest to be circumcised.
/r/MensRights07/01/18 11:47 AM
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I have to admit I haven't experienced this in my own life. Guys at my work definitely like to mention a woman's looks and they tend to be open about it oftentimes. Not vulgar or crass but simply open that they find her attractive. My female colleagues either don't say anything or just laugh. It's never been an issue where a male colleague had to be taken to the side and told to stop it. Also, we wear headsets at work because it's retail and helps with communication and the women have on more tha…
/r/MensRights07/01/18 11:11 AM
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I was reading in the book "What are men good for" that the "women are more social and talkative" was a myth. Men and women have different preferences for communication and socialising but it's not true that women out-socialise men. On average, men like to be part of a big group. A big company with hundreds of employees or maybe a football or rugby team or something of the sort. Women on average prefer more one on one communication where they're just sitting down having a chat in private over bei…
/r/MensRights07/01/18 10:29 AM
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Fair enough, I wasn't judging men who need to emote in a different way I was just very surprised to find out that men expressed their emotions in this way. I've always thought that men can just talk about their issues and vent it out and that was enough because that's what's worked for me but I'm finding out that I'm the minority. What I'm gathering from this thread is that society is not structured to accommodate most men's preferred way of releasing stress and emotions and that's part of the r…
/r/MensRights05/01/18 09:38 PM
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Oh fair enough then. I'm not really too much into the MGTOW movement so I don't know all it's ins and outs but it's just the impression that I've gotten sometimes. Maybe I'm confusing them with Red Pillers and traditionalists. I was on the Red Pill forum yesterday and some of the stuff they discuss over there is borderline insane, like I can't believe some humans can think and behave that way. It's almost on the same level as Holocaust deniers, lizard people tinfoil conspiracies and flat Earther…
/r/MensRights05/01/18 09:31 PM
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What you've said on this thread explains quite a few things in my life. Mainly why I've always been slightly apprehensive with sharing anything that's more than surface level with other men. Also why I tend to be on FB groups where it's like 80% women.
/r/MensRights05/01/18 01:56 AM
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I joined this reddit today but I'm already kind of turned off. It seems like a big percentage of the members here are MGTOW/Red Pill folk and although they support men's issues their "solutions" aren't much better than the third wave feminists. Men turning their back on women and becoming bitter and angry is not my vision of a way forward. You can't just throw all women under the bus when it's only a few causing this mayhem.
/r/MensRights05/01/18 01:44 AM
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Nothing wrong with that.
/r/MensRights04/01/18 08:41 PM
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You're probably the 1 in a million who actually sees this. The people advocating for "bring back traditional masculinity" don't see how much suffering they'd go through if that ever happened. That's like those people saying "we should go back to the caveman days, life was so simple back then", yea and you'd probably die in less than a year and live to 25 tops. I don't think the way forward is to regress back to previous generations, centuries ago.
/r/MensRights04/01/18 08:39 PM
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Don't know why you're being downvoted, you've hit the nail on the head.
/r/MensRights04/01/18 08:35 PM
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I guess that makes me a woman then. Talking and journaling has always been my go to antidote to feelings of depression and hopelessness.
/r/MensRights04/01/18 08:22 PM
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The general tone of the book and how the author constantly was referring to some childhood event as to why we're nice guys was just off putting. Maybe if I worked with a psycho-dynamic therapist 1 on 1 and he was really really good, my opinion would change. I don't think learning this over a book or a book written by someone like Glover would really help.
/r/ExRedPill08/11/17 01:11 PM
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Yea same actually. My goal is comfortable living, not being the next bigshot billionaire. I don't know once you get caught up in an idea it's hard to let go. TRP and these other people tell me it's all about competition so I just go along with that idea.
/r/ExRedPill01/11/17 04:18 PM
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Well first, I have no choice, what am I supposed to do, just opt out? Second, it's not so much the competition that's meaningless but rather the life defined by the competition, at least it feels that way. Everything is a contest so it's a constant struggle for who can rise to the top, there's no real friendships and cooperation it's all about dog eat dog.
/r/ExRedPill01/11/17 03:44 PM
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I think you've described it very well. I hate the idea of losing or being "outcompeted" and when the stakes are really high (girlfriend, job, women etc.) it makes me feel extremely bad and upset, like I've lost at life if that makes any sense. I don't care about losing some meaningless little game (computer games, random sports I don't care about, etc.) but when it's about life it gets really serious and I take it seriously. I also have problems with the idea of competition in general because it…
/r/ExRedPill01/11/17 03:15 PM
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Fair enough, that's a good point about being born in an English speaking country. I'm not originally American but I'm in a Western country atm so it's almost the same thing. It's hard to describe why I'm upset by it, I guess that's why they call it depression.
/r/ExRedPill01/11/17 12:52 PM
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I absolutely despise that book. I've read it a few times and I just think the advice is misguided and it's got this Freudian psychodynamic feel to it. Definitely not my style. I'd much rather find a proper therapist in real life and have a talk with them than read that book again.
/r/ExRedPill01/11/17 12:49 PM
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Yea it's definitely become a lens to my worldview, I see these "truths" everywhere I go and confirmation bias simply cements these beliefs even more because my mind is already primed to look for the evidence and finds it even if it's not really there. It fabricates it sometimes. Regarding your last point it's not just the TRP guys I've heard with this worldview there was a relationships therapist on some website who specialised in coaching men and he had some articles close to what I was describ…
/r/ExRedPill31/10/17 01:13 PM
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The only thing that's remotely helped me is mindfulness and any method that utilizes Eastern philosophy wisdom (ACT and mindfulness based therapy).
/r/ExRedPill31/10/17 12:52 PM
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I'm envious of my friends. They don't know anything about Red Pill, hardcore dating advice or any sort of pickup lifestyle. They're happier than me, have great relationships with women and don't suffer from depressive lapses or worry about how cruel and cold this world is. They're "normies" but they're emotionally healthy people. Give me normie any day of the week over some Red Pilled truther.
/r/ExRedPill30/10/17 07:02 PM
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I don't personally buy into the alpha/beta distinction because I don't think it makes sense to classify behaviour in this way. I also think the vast majority of their beliefs are wack so they don't interest me. To be completely honest I haven't been on TRP forums or the reddit in a long time. This was more of a personal type rant rather than one related to TRP or anything to do with them. It's just my victim mindset speaking, that's all. It comes and it goes, some days I feel great others the wh…
/r/ExRedPill03/10/17 12:24 AM
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Well it's not so much what I think but it's just the facts of the situation. They live longer, society caters to their needs over men's, in dating and relationships they're pretty much the most desired and sought after and everyone wants them, their life is considered more precious over a male's, etc. It's like being born with a stacked deck in poker terms.
/r/ExRedPill13/09/17 06:40 PM
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No I don't really feel that way. It's more to do with feeling worthless and inferior to my female counterparts. It's just that they seem to enjoy a lot privileges in life simply for being born with a vagina which I find a bitter pill to swallow.
/r/ExRedPill12/09/17 10:28 PM
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I can relate to so much of this. I personally can't really read or analyse scientific studies so I kind of hope another meta-study or some scientist comes along and helps me to understand what the limitations and holes in said study are. I guess I didn't pay enough attention in biology class. In the case of evo psych, I read something about men being crap at reading emotions and women being amazing at organizing and language and my brain just shuts down and I can't think of a single argument aga…
/r/ExRedPill24/08/17 12:43 AM
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I know I have low-self esteem I can feel that in my body. I'm not sure where or why I acquired these inferiority beliefs around women although I think it started around the time I was at a dating age. The whole "women are the selectors and men hope they get picked" really messed me up, made me feel like crap around women like they were the overlords and masters of dating and I was some little hopeless male just hoping to get picked so I don't die out or something.
/r/ExRedPill24/08/17 12:28 AM
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I think legitimate evo psych practitioners don't ever use terms like "hardwired" "determined", etc which suggest a biological determinism. I was reading about how evo psych tends to be really twisted out of hand by journalists who don't know the first thing about it. I don't know if the whole field is bunk but it seems like it's seriously being mis-interpreted when it gets filtered down to the newspaper/general media level.
/r/ExRedPill24/08/17 12:06 AM
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That was very enlightening to read. I honestly wasn't expecting this kind of response from a woman, I thought it was very hard to feel inferior as a woman in the current social climate in most Western countries. I actually have a few books which put evo psych and biology into massive perspective. It doesn't help that every time something new gets published regarding evolution, journalists in the media talk about it like it's immutable law and everything is genetically determined. Apparently not …
/r/ExRedPill20/08/17 02:08 PM
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:)
/r/ExRedPill20/08/17 01:55 PM
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Yes however this is 50% of the population we're talking about here, not just African Americans, Koreans, poor people, or some smaller group. I've seen so much evidence that shows that humans have a female bias that it just disgusts me at my core. It's disgust at myself more than anything for having such low value. I fully realize that I need to work through inner issues with a therapist or some kind of safe person by the way, I'm not claiming that feeling like a victim is the right reaction here…
/r/ExRedPill19/08/17 05:31 PM
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1 to 2 decades would actually be amazing. I'm not asking for some miracle overnight transformation of these issues but the more awareness there is out there of this and other men's issues the more people will question it, question themselves and hopefully facilitate some kind of change no matter how small it is. Making women just as disposable by giving men the ability to have children? That would be interesting. Lots of feminist backlash would occur IMO. It would be intruding on their "base of …
/r/MensRights20/05/17 12:10 PM
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The first one seems very traditional and old school. I don't think we're ever gonna go back to that since it gives more privilege to men and that would cause nothing short of mass riots and total chaos especially in today's climate. The second one seems unrealistic as you said, because SOMEONE has to do the crap jobs however I do think there might be a glimmer of hope in the form of AI and technology in the near or maybe not so near future. If machine and AI are doing the mining, oil rigging, po…
/r/MensRights20/05/17 11:10 AM
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