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Fight to make 50/50 so that it is harder on her and you’ll find it easier on you.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 08:10 PM
1

Never miss ex. Miss the dog more.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 08:19 PM
3

My mom left my father when I was 4 years old and didn’t allow him any contact with me or my siblings. She married my stepfather when I was 8 years old and she said to call him dad. I did and so did my siblings. At 18 I left for the Army and didn’t return for a couple of years. In my time away I learned my stepfather was no father. He did nothing for me or my siblings than put a roof over our heads. I appreciate he did that. But there was no mentoring or anything quality. I learned more from othe…
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 09:45 PM
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It is quickly changing though. The In Loco Parentis concept in Canada is spreading to the USA. This is making more stepfathers pay for the stepchildren in divorce either directly as child support or indirectly by making the maintenance to ex spouse indirectly include the cost of rearing the stepchildren. Think of it as a deep pockets type rule. Mostly in New York, New Jersey, and California it’s popping up.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 09:32 PM
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The regret I have for not divorcing earlier haunts me. I stayed, had a daughter, ended up divorcing anyway and the stresses are way worse as a result. Yes I have a daughter that I love. I would have had a child or children with someone else if I divorced earlier. I don’t have it in me now to love again and marry. He has that second chance being young. Share my story with him if you wish.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 08:51 PM
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It made the divorce easier for me. I have never missed my ex wife one bit. She is dead to me, but is not actually dead.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 02:40 PM
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I think you will lose half your stocks and pay about $8k between maintenance and child support. You will likely also have to continue paying house note until kids are age of majority.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 07:19 PM
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Get 50% shared custody and be the better parent. It will work out
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 07:13 PM
2

While I’d love to share it wouldn’t be appropriate. Let’s just say she has needed to be bailed out of situations and her career/coworkers look at her as a liability.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 09:43 PM
2

Similar scenario with that too. I think ultimately my ex is hurting her relationship with our teenage daughter over this nonsense. I have never canceled on my daughter but my ex has. I’ve had to be the one to pick up the slack. My daughter called her mom out on that when I really couldn’t pick up the slack because I had something I couldn’t cancel. My ex called screaming that I have our daughter brainwashed on my side.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 01:10 PM
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Our divorce decree was specifically spelled out for any expense over $100 with a receipt or bill. Her lawyer initially said $50 but I thought that would be too nickel and dime-ing. I wish I had made it even higher than $100 in hindsight since for a teen girl $100 can be spent quickly. I guess she just didn’t want to be ever giving me money because it proved I was a responsible parent. So it turned out I didn’t have to pay her back for an equivalent amount later. Yet here I am still reimbursing h…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 01:04 PM
2

This happened to me with my ex wife. She told me about certain bills and sent me receipts and I paid my half no questions asked. But the first time I put up money first and looked to be reimbursed by her she went apeshit about it.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 10:32 AM
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I'm 5 years post divorce. I dislike when people say sorry about the divorce. I want them to say congratulations. I am in such a great space now and my future options are limitless. Seeing what my ex has become since divorce I am glad I didn't have to experience that first hand
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 06:29 AM
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Sorry to say but you will find with that mindset you are going to lose big time in the divorce. She will get half of all assets, maintenance, and child support. You will likely also have to pay the house note until kids are age of maturity or finish college, whichever is later. Then you will sell the house and give her half of the proceeds.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 02:41 PM
2

With my ex wife we had a 50/50 of all expenses but I cover family health for the kids while she has individual for herself. I also cover the kids cell phone bills. No child support order since I have her the house without asking to be bought out of my equity. I paid my 50% of expenses without question as it’s also stipulated that if I don’t contribute my 50% of expenses she can go to family court for child support. So I made sure I paid her back by check or I paid half of transaction online and …
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/26 07:52 PM
2

I went into it fully knowing if I didn’t do the 50% of expenses, keep family health, and pay cell cell phones that I could be taken to family court for child support. But I knew I wasn’t going to be a deadbeat.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 08:45 PM
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I decided to give my ex wife the house instead of having her buy me out of house and in exchange I didn't have a child support order. I agreed to pay 50% of all kids expenses and I carry family health insurance and pay for kids cell phones since I earn slightly more than her. Both my and her lawyer agreed me giving the house and not getting equity bought out was equivalent to child support being paid until kids aged out.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/26 05:39 PM
1

what is the arrangement now? you just have them on weekends? you want to change to every other weekend or every other week? why not 50/50 custody?
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 11:41 PM
2

being a military spouse is tough. have you sought help from the military unit's family support group?
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 06:31 AM
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i didn't. But for guys that I know that did only did it once because they did not get a Father's Day gift in return.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 09:30 PM
4

The likelihood of a second marriage is so low I don’t think I have to worry about. But if I did find the one that I would get married again for I’d be very invested as a husband should be.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 07:19 PM
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It’s been 5 years since divorce. I had to deal with my ex wife this past week with something with my daughter. I didn’t recognize her as a person that I used to know and love. I’m glad I wasn’t around her to see these changes first hand. I’m lucky to be divorced and content living the single life. When I get asked randomly my relationship status I say I’m divorced and for some reason people say sorry. I tell them they need to say congratulations based on the outcome of it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 12:04 AM
2

Almost $300,000 for attorney fees with mediation, that's crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/26 11:37 AM
3

My ex had two ectopic pregnancies in two years each resulting in a fallopian tube being removed. So she couldn’t have children. We ended up adopting eventually. We were married 24 years. Divorced 5 years now. I dislike being asked why my ex and I didn’t have children together. I was just asked not too long ago after talking about my daughter’s adoption.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 10:30 PM
2

I agree. I was going based on the wording of OP
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 06:37 PM
2

Part 2 response: I’d more fight the half pension. At this stage, with only 12 years of service you are at 24% or 30% of your 20 year pension. That is all she should get of your pension. Also make it be half of your TSP value on date of divorce. Not the future value of it and pay her off now if you can. Once divorce get a 18 month tour to a tax free combat zone and make bank.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 02:39 PM
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I hate to break it to you, but with your base pay, BAH, and BAS you are making like $100k a year. So to make the math easier let’s say you make $24k more than her a year, so $96k net. Half of that $24k is $12k, divide that by 12 months and it’s a $1k a month. Right on the money. Fight back a little but take the deal. She could probably squeeze out a couple hundred dollars more out of you with precise math.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 02:35 PM
1

Even with mediation, if a family court issue with support or visitation arises you can take her to family court and vice versa.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 01:21 PM
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Will be 5 years out end of April. Based on what has gone on with ex since divorce I am lucky to be out of it. I enjoy my solitude and trying to date has made me skeptical of getting into another relationship that puts my faith in someone. I’m upset for my daughter ultimately having to deal with divorced parents.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/26 12:30 AM
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I would have volunteered not attend knowing my ex was attending.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 09:32 PM
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Bank of America Customized Cash Rewards Card. Had the same card while married but closed that card to get a new account so ex didn’t have any potential authorized user access. I did that with everything to protect myself Not getting the same cash back amount from when I was married since I am spending a lot less being divorced
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/26 04:48 PM
1

Is this only for you or is she going to follow this rule too?
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 10:12 PM
1

The kids will keep score when they are older. The consistent parent will win. At least that is what happened with my daughter. Only 1 kid. But I also split with my ex when my daughter was a little older.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/26 04:40 PM
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I made it part of divorce that she can change her name back to her maiden name. I guess having that in there prevents any cost to doing the name change. While I preferred she didn’t keep my last name, she did. Likely to have the same last name as our daughter but then she said she would go back to her maiden name when or if our daughter gets married and takes spouses last name. What had me irritated is that she sought election in a political office locally and there was my last name in ads every…
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/26 02:01 PM
3

That’s why I’m pretty much staying single. I enjoy my solitude, time with my daughter, and time with friends on my schedule too much.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 04:27 PM
3

I get flack from women while dating that I’m a 50/50 father. They ask me to cancel with my kid. Not happening. Make it make sense.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 03:44 PM
2

is your ex on your car loan?
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 07:38 PM
1

By my ex wife and I have careers and made essentially the same amount of money, there was no alimony, I kept my retirement and she kept hers
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 05:50 PM
2

I could have written this myself with exception of #4. My ex wife I treated like an equal and she got into a career just like I did with support from me. I probably did more housework than her and I would take my daughter on weekends as a toddler to do errands while she slept in.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 05:03 PM
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I didn’t view my divorce after 24 years as a crash out, I saw it as an opportunity to be happy. I’m alone but not lonely. I did mostly all of the compromising in the marriage, letting my ex wife get her way with things. I didn’t mind compromising at the time, but after the betrayal it made me feel she never appreciated the sacrifices I made.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 04:19 PM
2

I hope the being rebuffed was what you said it was with no affairs and all. Way too many, myself included, found the lack of interest in any connection was actually an indication of cheating in some way. Whether emotional or physical.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/26 07:43 PM
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I wasn’t happy with a work colleague my ex wife said was a friend. This friend divorced her husband when her child was a toddler, came to find out she was cheating but spun it around how he wasn’t being a supportive father. She was sleeping with many different men at work, whether the men were married or not and did it to have something over them. This friend spoke about her sister getting married to a guy 20 years older than her but then she got pregnant by a man 10 years younger than her. So t…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/26 03:43 PM
3

Early in my marriage I remember my ex wife asking if I’d stay with her if her health became an issue. If I would be there for her through thick and thin. I said yes. In hindsight she was being hypocritical because she had no intention to reciprocate that care. Looking back there were hoards of double standards. This emotional inconsistency and self centered behavior really hurt me. It even went as far as asking if I’d ever cheat or hurt her, I said no. She ended up cheating. I didn’t hesitate to…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/26 03:32 PM
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The fact that the divorce has been more of a win for me than my ex wife is great.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/26 05:38 PM
3

The relief of getting away from your ex makes all that you mentioned not that big of a deal. That is how it’s been for me.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/26 02:59 PM
2

My ex wife fell for a guy on social media that love bombed her. I was real with her about life after over 25 years together. She threw away the marriage for a fantasy relationship that the guy ultimately backed out of to stay with his wife. She tried saying we grew apart but then tried to get me to reconcile and reconsider divorce (I asked for divorce). I said no and stuck to my pride that I was a good person.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/26 06:20 PM
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