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Have you considered that some women who are NOT straight may be replying too? Not all women who wear makeup are heterosexual. Women who wear makeup that are not heterosexual are not wearing it for the "male gaze." Everything a woman does to make herself feel elegant, beautiful, put together does not mean it is done for men's pleasure. What you are saying is so sexist and condescending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 02:31 AM
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Now you are saying "I" when all through your reply was "you." You certainly created a dichotomy of high achieving and no/minimal makeup vs. low achieving and makeup. You said the time putting on makeup is of less to a woman's life than the other stuff you mentioned. You are backtracking. I read what you wrote at face value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 09:54 PM
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Exactly. There is nothing to be shamed about for having a feminine hobby. Our hobbies are valuable, worthwhile, and serve a purpose. They are no less valid than a man's hobby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 09:12 PM
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There really is. My perception of FDS is forever changed because of this post and the replies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 09:09 PM
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There are plenty of high-achieving, makeup wearing women who do all that you have mentioned and more. Yes, they even spend time contouring. I am not one to contour, but I know these women. They own law firms, chair civic organizations in my community, teach at universities, report the local news, have their own medical practices, etc. Women can do both. It is not either be without makeup and accomplished OR wear makeup and be mediocre in life. The notion of brains vs. beauty is so sexist and ins…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 08:55 PM
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Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! The entire post and tone of the replies is incredibly sexist. To call it not an art or hobby because it performs femininity is so devaluing. To act as if women cannot bui…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 08:47 PM
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Not that you are saying it, but to completely dismiss makeup as a hobby and being art is incredibly devaluing and sexist. I am appalled that no one called that line out on this forum. Also, whether you do something because men like it or you do NOT do things because men like it, this is still centering your behavior around what men think. Lastly, just because something is "performative" does not inherently mean it is a problem. I am a black woman. Getting braids, cooking soul food, dances, liste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:41 PM
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Thank you! 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:04 PM
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We can do both. Making yourself look good for yourself is empowering. I am not in agreement with this post and most of these replies at all. I am gonna exit this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:26 PM
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I hate the "you don't really know a person until you live with them" rationale. People seem to not understand that you will never know someone through and through. You will continue to learn about them along the way. Living together does not often reveal dealbreakers that you would not be able to find out if you were not living together. Most people living together who break up do not break up over household pet peeves. It is usually something that would came to light if they observe enough whil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:56 AM
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An associate of mine found it ridiculous that I would refuse walk and coffee dates. When I explained to her how we went from dinner dates to now walking dates, she seemed to get a bit more, but still thought it was unreasonable. She said she prefers coffee/walk dates so she can leave quickly if she does not like the guy. I told her you can leave during a dinner; go to the bathroom and not come back. She said that would be mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:32 AM
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who in the world even asks this on a first date or in a relationship at all???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:33 PM
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I feel for this girl because she truly believes he loves her. I am sure he has done a lot to show it too. Women are not taught to have a timeline for dating and marriage. We are encouraged to get and keep a man at any cost. I will not bash this woman. Now is the time for her to decide to stay with him without marriage or to leave. I say leave and be true to yourself in valuing marriage. If she does stay, she needs to realize she will never get what she wants from him, not just marriage, but like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:57 PM
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This is how I roll. I need talk of marriage within 6 month and a proposal WITH a date and deposit by 1-year ish timeframe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:51 PM
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I am a very pragmatic girl....or at least I thought I was. My timeline of 1-year ish for a proposal with a date and deposit set seemed very pragmatic to me. lol As well as being wined and dined, having a lovely ring, and a lovely wedding. lol To me, that is pragmatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:48 PM
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The importance of having a timeline if you want marriage. That relationship would have ended in the first 6-12 months because he was likely not talking marriage to her, which is when she should have left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:03 PM
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<3 this reply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 08:38 PM
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My entire outlook on dating and relationship changed when I realized this and "men know almost immediately if they want you as wife." It COMPLETELY changed how I interact with men. Also, it relieved so much anxiety for me because now I know how to navigate and vet markedly better than before. I am glad that I got the message at a time when I could receive and accept, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:33 AM
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Not a lie told. ​ As I mentioned in another post, men have an ULTRA HIGH tolerance for sex. Meaning they will do whatever needs to be done to get sex and keep sex that is easy and dependable. Do you not believe me? Consider forever girlfriends, baby mamas, and even some wives. They will do anything to get and keep sex until they find their wife. This is why withholding sex until you feel absolutely comfortable (aka he meets your standards) and vetting is important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 04:30 AM
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Absolutely agree! If that silliness happened today, none of it would have been ignored. In fact, I sometimes daydream about running into those few women and standing up to them when they "tease" or say something sarcastic towards me. Women like that typically hardly ever have pushback. People let them talk to them without any challenge, which is why they keep it up. I do believe the day will come, and I am ready.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:38 AM
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Completely agree! ​ It is not insecure to need to hear "I love you." Online responses to this particular problem almost always go against common sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:28 AM
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I think women underestimate the high tolerance men have to get sex and to keep dependable, easy sex coming. Men will do anything, including fake a relationship (like I outlined in the above comment), to keep getting sex and whatever else from a woman while never or hardly ever saying he loves her as he keeps looking for "the one." Women excuse it because of the stereotype that "men have hard a time expressing emotions." It is a slick ploy to waste a woman's time and keep getting benefits from a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:24 AM
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I completely understood and understand what FDS meant by actions speak louder than words. My post has nothing to do with FDS statement on that. Instead, it is based on real life experiences of women I know. Women who thought their boyfriend/fiancé loved them because the men went out of their way for her and her family, proposed with no date set, had babies and was a doting father to the baby, gave the woman money, bought expensive gifts, took vacations together, folded her into his family and fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:22 AM
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I wish I knew this 4 years ago because it is very true. Once I got established in my career, I switched up my style and took better care of how I looked. I noticed some women would treat me funny. Some women would be trying to become my BFF as soon as possible while others showed more haterish attitudes. It was so odd to me that I did not know how to handle it. Because I never experienced it before, I really thought I was being paranoid and had no idea on how to best handle it. I thought I was b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 03:04 AM
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Even moreso, they would feel insulted if the woman asked or did halfies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 07:31 PM
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Another example of "they know what they are doing."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:01 PM
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Yup yup yup!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:55 PM
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I had a friend who lived like this. It was cute and fun for a time. But our friendship ended mainly because I lost respect for her. Over time, she engaged in riskier and riskier behaviors. She had sex with 5 or 6 different guys in a matter of 5-6 weeks. Starting smoking weed a lot, which likely escalated to other drugs. Admitted to smoking weed some stranger gave her at a concert. Then her sexual practices become far more promiscuous. This person never finished school and has always lived at hom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:27 AM
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Putting my neck on the line simply to be right about something when I can lose valued friendships is not worth it. While I am glad that I have this community for support, I need real life friends. lol This community is not going to be there in person to help me move, take me out for drinks when I have a bad day, listen to my deep personal problems, etc. No sense in driving people away because I know I am right and want others to know I am right. I cannot and will not try to save everyone. Only t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:42 AM
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I do not know. I imagine she is paying some of the bills given how her fiance is with money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:38 AM
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I had a friend whose boyfriend would refer to his house as "our house." This was 5 years ago when they were in year 3 of their relationships. I would think "is your name on the deed? If not, then it is not 'our house.' It is his an he is bullshitting you." Now, they are in year 8 with 1 baby and a 1+ year engagement living in his house. Waiting to get married because of covid and "we want all our family to be there." ​ It is of no benefit to a woman to make major life decisions without being mar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:55 PM
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I usually go the questioning route I feel the urge. I say the "urge" because I have found that many times women take offense to it and want to cut me off. So I only mention my opinion if there seems to be openess to a difference of opinion. So I would ask "are you sure you want to go on a walking date? are you trying to end up on Dateline?" or "he said what? who does he think he is? did you remind him that men are like buses and that his breath stink? hahahaha"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 08:38 PM
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3 months! I would have had a very explicit conversation about marriage and his intentions rather than waiting until I am ready to discuss it aka I was too scared to bring it up out of fear of losing him. I lost him any ways! So, I should have brought it up earlier, which would not have allowed my feelings to deepen. Also, at that time point, I still had the upper-hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 11:10 PM
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Women project their ways onto men. Women think "well, when I share my emotional troubles, it means I am trusting this person. It means I am trying to connect and develop emotional intimacy with this person" and believe men have the same intention behind it when they do it. Men are not women. They do not see it that way. They use it to gain sympathy, empathy, and nurturing from women. Sometimes they do it just to be talking, meaning revealing this has no real significance to them. Simply talking …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 06:09 AM
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Good for you! Bravo on not giving into that urge! If he wanted to, he would. I had a similar experience a few years back. I met this man while I was at an event. We chatted the whole night. He even showed me pictures of his friends (they were from my hometown). Conversation was great as was the chemistry. I was anticipating that he would he ask to exchange numbers, but he did not. Even in those non-FDS days, I did not ask for his number (never asked a man out or asked to exchanged numbers becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:24 AM
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Yep. And in my experience, men who are worried about their woman cheating are often the ones who are cheating. Projection 100%!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 10:02 PM
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Go to 38:00 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YmbrAWDft0s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 02:56 PM
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I know SEVERAL women in these type of relationships. They have all been with their man for at least 7 years. One woman has 2 kids and has been engaged for 4 years. Another has a child with him and has been engaged for over a year. Another does not live with him, but they also do not have sex or spend the night at each other's home. The kicker is that they are better than single women because they have a man. I had a conversation with one of them about relationships. I said that I have a timeline…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 01:56 PM
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The main reason I would hear when I would challenge the notion of polyamorous being empowering while polygamist/sisterwives lifestyle is not was that women can take on additional partners in polyamory whereas that is prohibited in polyamory. That never made sense because in most heterosexual polyamory relationships are a man with 2 women. We need a cultural movement to discourage women from gaslighting themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:42 AM
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Great discussion! I think y'all (cannot remember who said what) made a good point in identifying how there is a call to support sex workers even though they actively enable men to cheat on their wives and girlfriends. Also, the women who have the loudest voices in sex worker discussions are women who opted into the industry rather than not having many other viable choices. It really bothers me that women who are forced into it by having few choices never get the attention they need. If we really…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:39 AM
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Yes, I know. They are celibate unless she is lying to me. Even if she is, 8 years with no proposal is a not a good sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:54 AM
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Relationship or not, I never stopped taking myself out to dinner and happy hours (pre-covid). Mostly cause I did not have to accommodate anyone else's needs. ​ Also, this helps prevents the "OMG! Look at what goal I accomplished since I broke up with that loser" behavior. So many women put a pause on their goals, ambitions,---their life when they get with a man and end up having to rebuild it after a breakup. Whereas, men keep up the same hobbies and life they were living while they were single.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:37 AM
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You can also choose to not discuss relationships with them. You can tell them that you have different standards and values, and that it is best to keep relationships as topic to avoid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:40 AM
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You got to let people live their own lives. While your intentions may be good, people do not want unsolicited advice, especially about relationships. The friendship is often irreparable or at best, distant after that. You can have your standards and they can have theirs. Ex: I have a friend who has been with her man for 8 years. They do not live together, have sex, or sleep over at each other's house. While they do not have sex or live together, she definitely does a lot of wife duties. She thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:22 AM
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This is very much me. I am Southern and was raised with very traditional values. However, I did not follow the advice of my parents because my friends were always with a man. I also did not date much because of self-esteem and confidence issues so I did not have a lot of experience. But seeing how my friends were "having fun," having interesting stories, dating around, and always had a man, I thought they knew better. What I did not realize is how their attitudes and approach towards men, dating…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:25 PM
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My parents did not have an expensive weddings. Why? Because they were young, broke, and their families were too poor to pay for a wedding. Please believe my dad got my mom a very nice wedding ring though! Not only would I not stand for a man not buying me an expensive ring or having a nice wedding, my parents would be pissed! I have zero intentions of having an extravagant wedding, but I will not be having a backyard or justice of the peace wedding either. Many times over I have seen men spend $…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:11 PM
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THANK YOU! I am reading the comments and am thinking "these people are crazy too!" Telling someone to not kink shame this is straight up gaslighting. Does he actually have to commit the crime he is trying to emulate for this to be a warning sign of a dangerous man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:44 AM
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Thank you! MY first thought was "wife shit." I do not even do this in LTR because I have other things to do with my time like wash my hair or nap on my couch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:38 AM
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What!!! Even in a relationship, I will not stay over or be at a man's house if he is working on work because why??? That is not quality time. It is simply me trying to entertain myself at someone else's home. My time could spent better at my home. I cannot imagine a man offering this to me as date suggestion. I doubt I would even respond because it is so dumb. hahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:17 AM
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I was the same way until my late 20s/early 30s because of what you said. People would call me "harsh," "ice queen," and tell me "you have ice in your veins." So I made an effort to be "nicer." It DOES NOT work. All it did was give me baggage, which I did not have before. I am bringing ice queen back and never letting her go. She protected me from a lot of pain, hurt, and dumb situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:38 AM
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Always always always trust your gut! In most cases, it will NOT lead you astray. I am glad you did! He could have worsened whatever issues you wanted to address in therapy. The times that I did not trust my gut are the ones I struggle to forgive myself over because it had such a traumatic impact on me. One of the biggest ones is this...I was an intern in a congressional office. Around a year later after being an intern, I end up meeting up with one of the staffers and his friends also in politic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 05:30 AM
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My mom said something really insightful recently. I was talking to her about several friends who are in years long relationships, like 5+ years. I said they are wasting their time, but that I could be wrong and they eventually they marry these long-term boyfriends. She said even if they marry the guys, it is still a waste of time because they could have had children, grown together financially, bought a house together, etc...basically spent the majority of that reaping the benefits of marriage i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 02:28 PM
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