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DISCUSSIONFeral_Heartbeat/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 04:17 PM
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My ex definitely started to treat me worse and value me less when he realized I loved him and probaly wasn't going anywhere. And eventually, I did leave. He wanted to reinforce the story in hishead, not work on himself. This is all subconscious. Women do the same thing. Its human nature. We do the same thing with, say, money. Look at all the lottery winners who lose all the money in 5 years and wish they had never won it! We have to work on our inner story or we will subconsciously sabotage ours…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:54 PM
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Yeah I'm not surprised. I've seen that attitude. Some people just want to be butthurt. I'm quite small, 5,1. I have dated guys of all heights. After some stuff happened to me I preferred shorter for a while because I didn't like the feeling you describe. But the guy I'm seeing now is someone I've known for 15 years, and trust implicitly, and when our friendship changed, I didn't have the nervousness i usually do with tall guys now, I found it exciting. But I didn't need to build trust, it was al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:39 PM
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Unless their ambition is tied into a caring field like nursing (I'm just staring my prereqs and it still takes a LOT OF WORK), but I'm noticing the stereotypes in media now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:28 PM
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I would be floored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:26 PM
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Haven't seen the movie. The guy I'm seeing, we both worked on his birthday. I went to his house after to drop off his presents, but we went out that weekend, when we both had time. It's not that hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:25 PM
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I haven't seen the movie. But the funny thing is. Nathan is the name of my first bf. And the name always seems to be attracted to lvms. Nate and Kevins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 02:23 PM
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Have you seen the portraits of Henry VIII? Most men probably see that conveniently leave out that he was the freaking king of England.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:22 PM
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My ex used "fuckboy" as his most frequent insult towards other men. Took me a looonnng time to realize it was from jealousy, that he didn't actually dispise that behavior, he just despised that he COULDN'T do it. He was also constantly making comments about how he was short and he bet I wished he was taller. I was actually really attracted to him, but that slowly died. It was the bitterness that killed it. The INSECURITY was unattractive, far more unattractive than being short. Being tall is nic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:19 PM
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That just tells you the size of their penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 10:34 PM
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Welp. Maybe I'm still giving them a "better" motive, even when that isn't a very good one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:25 AM
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Well even before I started working again, he said he was intimidated by "all the cool interesting things you do all the time." I have a lot of hobbies. I paint, I used to read runes once a month at a local mystical shop (precovid), I have been published in anthologies, recently took up archery, although that was after the scote. I do shit. He liked the girl on disability who didn't drive. I told him when we met that I hadn't originally been this person and I wasn't going to stay in this place. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:36 AM
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THIS IS IT. My ex actively talked me out of persuring a better job, because "I know how bad your anxiety is, and I don't want you to get into a position you can't handle." I want to be in the medical field but was working retail part time. Actually at that point I wasn't working at all cuz of covid, and he kept talked me out of going back to my job. 2 weeks after I dumped him, I went back to my retail job. 3 months after I dumped him, I was interviewing for caregiver positions in nursing homes. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:25 AM
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UGH BUT MEN AGE LIKE FINE WIIIIIINNNNNEEE DON'T GET UGLY BUT DON'T TRY TO BE PRETTY!!!! ::cough cough:: Sorry for the all caps, I am mad at this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:19 AM
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I mean, it’s that whole stupid “be more than this but less than me” thinking, and with as little as men are bringing to the table They want to feel like they are impressing you. But ..... most of them aren't impressive. Like, at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:17 AM
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He can’t accept the fact that the only failure of this woman is actually having him as a boyfriend 😂😂😂😂😂 It's been 4 months, and with this post, his behavior has to be horrible. This queen gonna drop him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:14 AM
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He's a narcissist!! Only a Narcissist would apply a word like that to dog, but in an angry negative way. He even texted all their mutual friends to get their opinion!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 01:13 AM
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Women do that all the time, even amoung people who are better than this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:47 AM
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And while I want those men caught and jailed (OBVISIOUSLY), I always pity the poor wife, who has to live with the guilt that she didn't see it, the disgust that he touched her, and the pity and and whispers from other people. Those poor women. I always think of the BTK killer specifically, because I was around 17 when he was being tried, and he had a whole family and went to church every week, everyone was shocked ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:30 AM
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He was. APPARENTLY, the conviction has been overturned recently. Because fuck justice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:13 AM
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Key word is uterus. Its pretty easy to figure out who has rights and who doesn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:13 AM
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He said he was interested in japanese culture. But he also called himself a skeptic and subtly negged my beliefs, and if I was going to japan, I'd like to go to the Buddhist, Shinto, and Daoist temples ... so if he was sort of ragging on European animist beliefs, I can't understand how Asian ones would be different..... i just got the feeling the part of the "culture" he liked was the stereotype of asian women being all dainty and submissive. And I felt no need to clarify or argue with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 03:11 PM
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He was 31 and still lived with his momma when we broke up, despite making plenty of money. And I am still fighting with people on the dating subreddits that "doesn't live with parents" is a reasonable boundary in your 30s. Roommates I will consider on a case-by-case basis but I still consider it a red flag that he isn't ready to start a real life, UNLESS he is the homeowner and renting out rooms. But every "I take care of my mom" situation I've seen has been a lie, the mom has been fine and the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 05:38 PM
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That's understandable. But let me give you a warning. I thought my introverted ex didn't like people, so he wouldn't cheat on me. It was comforting at first and made me feel emotionally safe. I'm bubbly and outgoing. My social battery will die after a while but I am fun until then. Men like my ex are drawn to that engery and light. But it turns out he wanted me to procure the girls he wasn't confident enough to get himself so we could have threesomes. 🤢 it became a BIG thing between us. He even …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 04:15 PM
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I understand the impulse. I grew up so poor I didn't know when my next meal was coming. I CANNOT watse food. But I also have two spoiled dogs I love. They get to clean the plate and the yogurt cups and everything too gross for me, unless it's really gone bad. Bing bang boom, not a watse. I made my babies happy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:57 PM
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Ewwww. Those are the parts I save to take home to my dogs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:54 PM
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Yeah I hate Family Guy now. I like Simpsons. Even with it having other messages (Marge definitely settled), Homer loved his family, Peter is a narcissistic ass. It seems like in the late 90s a lot of media just got worse and worse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:42 PM
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That is only allowed for 4 year olds, and dads of 4 year olds. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:38 PM
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My last ex was so introverted he would never leave the fucking house except for work, and to grab food and bring it home (before the Pandemic). I had to BEG him to do ANYTHING. Gimme a fucking extrovert! If he's gonna break my heart, he can introduce me to other people first. Maybe he'll even introduce me to his eventual replacement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:37 PM
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I'm not fluent in anything but English, so I've called myself a "language groupie" before, as it seems to get across my level of interest. I started with fictional languages as a teen, from Lord of the Rings. Now I'm big into history and I have taken classes in Old Norse and have some background in Latin. I'd like to learn Greek. As a pagan I want to read the original sources in their original language! I can pick words apart and I can read a little of Old Norse/Old Icelandic, but I only pick up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:26 PM
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Had an ex who said he was basically intimidated by "all the cool things you are doing all the time". I'm like. "What do you want me to do, stop having hobbies?" He could have joined me for some. But all he wanted to do was watch tv and sleep. OMG he slept all the time. Really? I love languages. What's ths story for the polyglot?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 02:18 PM
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She deserves someone who loves her and isn't an asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 08:52 AM
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Not just A woman. A beautiful supermodel who makes as much money as him, but is always put together and ready to clean his house and have sex on demand (but only the way he wants it and not complain if he's too fast/can't get it up/won't go down) who is only devoted to him and won't have sex with other men, BUT also won't demand a label.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 09:18 PM
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RARELY MENTIONED???? they say this all the time?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 09:14 PM
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Yes, that exactly. And in my case a lot of my shit comes from trauma that I am NOT unpacking with a man. Noway, no how. It's still difficult with some of the women, it's hard to find someone you click with, and this last year and a half, I've had like 3 therapists quit and I just gave up trying to get to know a new one. It's been a rough year for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 09:10 PM
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Good to know that my instinct of disliking the majority of Male therapists I've met is correct. Women are just more caring than men. Men are power-seeking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 08:52 PM
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This all sound like my nlm ex, only it was an open relationship too. I was 18 and he was 30 when we met. Yes I was stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 12:35 PM
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Just to add, a very small detail in a whole post that is completely wrong on all levels. I've dated older men, and WITHOUT FAIL, my sex drive was much higher than his, every time. 3x a day? LMAO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 10:39 AM
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Ewwwwww. That's nasty!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 09:09 AM
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Thing is, I was okay with FANTASIES. I told him THOUGHTS are okay but it would never, ever happen. He was the very first person I had been with since a major trauma, and he KNEW this. He KNEW it. He didn't realize how special it was that I could be with him, and not only not have panic attacks, but ENJOY it. Sex to me is sacred. Its union. I wasn't willing to cheapen it. Even though I have in the past. And I do sort of feel as if I'll never outrun that. I've had two threesomes but they were awkw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:24 PM
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Sister was smart enough to not be involved in this toxic family, which reinforced the "I don't want to abandon her" thing. Never met her. Heard a lot of bad things about her, but in retrospect, I wonder if they are true. I'm sure my abusive parents say a lot of crap about how awful I am for not being involved in that dynamic. FIL out of the picture. Couple of instances where ex was slamming cupboards and shit while irritated, it was very triggering to my PTSD. He always tried to pass off respons…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:06 PM
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Yup he's an ex for a lot of good reasons!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 05:03 AM
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Oh there's more!! Because of course there is. A major factor in our breakup was him wanting me to do group sex and threesomes and etc. Yeah no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:54 AM
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He also spun that he was saving up to buy a house. Really, he was worried about "abandoning" his mother. They had a really weird creepy relationship. She coddled him and turned him into her replacement husband/emotional support/eternal baby. It was super bizarre. She also HATED me. I felt like the other woman. And in a way I was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:41 PM
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I almost ended up moving in with that scote last year! Ended up leaving his ass. He still lives with his mommy, despite making WAY more money than me. I'm kind of ashamed to say that it was hard to break up with him. I really loved him. I'm not sure why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:15 PM
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I want love. More than sex, even, i want to be held. I hate that i either have to be breaking down in ugly sobs, or having sex with someone, to have a long cuddle session. I want touch. I want to feel safe in someone's arms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 08:08 PM
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Because they get off on the violation of someone they know. That they are getting away with it. My father was one of these. He's disgusting. I no longer talk to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 06:27 PM
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Yup my ex got obsessed with threesomes near the end. I was never enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 09:14 AM
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Honestly, in my experience, the "betas" are MORE dangerous, because they think they are good guys and so do most other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 08:23 PM
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That really won't work for detoxing from bad men, especially if the dick is good. My issue is I love sex and have a high sex drive, and I'm not attracted to many people. When I find one attractive AND the sex is fantastic....... you see the problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 07:58 PM
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Eh .... better. Healing is a process. My brother and I had to cut our parents off completely, and for a while we lived together to support each other through trying to get our lives together. He was bad off too for a long time. It's a long and complicated story but we were both messed up. He's going alright now. It took me a long time to learn to drive, but now I have my own car, own my trailor (yes, trailor, but it's nice and its my home), and I work in a dementia care nursing home. It's a diff…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:31 AM
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As someone who grew up in an emotionally neglectful home (homeschool isolated Mormon, too), that's exactly what all my crazy sex days in my early 20s was. I wanted Intimacy and didn't know how to get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:17 AM
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HOLY CRAP THAT LAST ONE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:31 PM
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Funny thing? I broke off all my past relationships. Sometimes I still loved him. One of them he did the "i am just gonna mentally check out for years and make her break up with me'. But, yeah, I CHOOSE to be single. I don't WANT to be single. I want a partner. I want a great HUSBAND. but ..... I am not willing to settle for just anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:29 AM
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Or th "one penis rule", meaning the woman can sleep with other women, but no dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 12:23 AM
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Fanfic is fictional characters too, and based on relationships and intimacy between the characters. There is no comparison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:12 AM
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Oh, wow, that is DISGUSTING. I am so sorry you went through that, and SO GLAD that he is your ex!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:21 AM
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Wow I wonder if that was a factor in the divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:49 AM
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Grossest thing about it was he was constantly saying how similar to her I was. Which to me was a very negative comparison to begin with. I felt like he was trying to turn me into her, and then getting angry at me for it. Whole situation was messed up. I feel sorry for him but am glad I left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:16 AM
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HOLY FUCK. I thought it was weird that my ex momma's boy slept in her bed til he was around "only" 6 or so and his older sister was 8 (they both slept in bed with her, his dad slept in the basement ..... ). Older sister was apparently wise enough to eventually stop talking to them, and apparently that's why he "has to" stay with her so she won't be "abandoned" again ..... growing up and becoming a functional adult should be the sign you did WELL as a parent, not abandonment. SIGH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 10:22 PM
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WOOOOWWWZA. I am so glad he is an ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:55 PM
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Honestly, that was the GOOD thing about my first relationship opening up. I realized that other men not only were better in bed, but lots of men WANT to cuddle and hold my hand and caress me and treat me like a person!!! It was shocking. Bf sure screwed himself LMAO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:02 PM
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Jesus I just had flashbacks to my ex. I told him repeatedly that I felt like I was dating both of them, and he would say things like "it's hard to balance both of your feelings " and I'm like...... you realize dude, I've been in an open relationship before and the things you say sound like we are in a polyamorous relationship????? She would kiss him on the mouth in front of me as a way to lay claim. It was freaky. He still lives with her. He'll be 32 next month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:36 PM
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Oh, I already won then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:19 PM
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First ex was the emotionally distant manipulator, second was the fake woke, most recent was the "sensitive" (with hella mommy issues, still lived with her when I left him. She hates me lol) Looks like I still have a gym dude bro to date! What do I win when I collect them all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:34 PM
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I thought it was an autocorrect mistake of bootycalls, is he really serious?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:34 PM
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You mean you TALKED to men you weren't attached to??? You WHORE!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 10:15 PM
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Can you imagine the opposite? A woman making a video saying she got knocked up to control her man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 10:29 PM
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Because even someone who looked like David Duchovny would have a hard time making it happen. And I still think he's attractive (physically).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 10:23 PM
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This Is like my 4th reddit account that I have had because I felt that the personal details were piling up too much , but I dont like switch between them because that's too muchwork, you know? I just abandon them and start over ,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 06:18 PM
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Don't automatically assume that women come from a genuine place tho. My most recent experience of being screwed over was by a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:31 AM
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Ah, so my problem on the internet is the same as In real life: excessive honesty and an assumption that most people come from the same genuine place I do. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:12 AM
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Jesus, how the FUCK do you keep that all straight??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 02:09 AM
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Ohhhh noooo I am so sorry! Dating is so scary as a woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:52 PM
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Holy fuck that second one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:48 PM
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"You're not like the other girls" is such a weird compliment to me. Thanks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 07:57 PM
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He didn't want to be a single dad, he wanted to baby trap a woman he didn't deserve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:11 PM
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Prideful means she knew her worth and had boundaries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:05 PM
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My last relationship started as a Fwb. Never. Again. We had different definitions of when the "real relationship" part started, even tho I flat out ASKED him to be my boyfriend (also never again) so there would be no gray area. He claims not to remember this conversation. He's either lying or I wasn't important enough to make an impression. Spent 2 and a half years with this guy. Wasted it. Never, ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:04 PM
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Oh, gross. He wasn't even listening to you and was just fantasizing about you. That's what that is about. NASTY. Glad that you never went back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:20 PM
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Also, not the same situation AT ALL, but you just convinced me to trust my gut and unmatch with a guy on a dating app who creeps me out. There's something cold and almost psychopathic in his eyes, and it sets off alarm bells but I was trying to give him a chance and wondering if it was my past trauma clouding my perceptions. You convinced me to just unmatch and trust myself. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:45 AM
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GOOD FUCK why didn't he tell your husband that? I mean, I don't want a man who doesn't have a job, i just got off a 13 hour shift at a dementia care nursing home, he better fucking work. It's the freaking principle tho. Yeah, seriously, women only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 12:39 AM
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And this is why I WILL NOT talk to a male therapist. No. Not now, not ever. Not opening up those wounds, fuck you, go to hell, nope nope nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:40 PM
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Ouch I don't need to be personally attacked this early in the morning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:57 AM
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Where is the men getting hurt insta?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 11:54 AM
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I DON'T EVEN NEED TO READ THE WHOLE POST, TO KNOW I SPENT 2 AND A HALF YEARS WITH THIS GUY. DO NOT DATE THESE MEN DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:11 AM
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Well I am so glad that she has you to look out for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 10:37 PM
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Oh, no. As a woman with a high sex drive, that DOES NOT help me. That just gets me revved up. But I can have lots of orgasms and prefer to have them with a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 09:36 PM
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I'm a newbie but I would think a hug would be okay. You have to give them some hope and I think if you didn't hug them, then they would think you're repulsed by them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 09:32 PM
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Ugh dude I have never been the ice queen. I am the abused kid who was starved for love and affection that men just love. Only, not really love. Just love to prey on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 08:53 PM
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That's a fantastic idea. I don't know what I'm doing this year, and its not till August and I'm definitely single and most likely will still be. I was going to work but now I'm asking for 2 days off and I'm going to plan SOMETHING for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 07:10 PM
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Heh. Ironically, it was a platonic male roomate who is EMOTIONALLY STABLE who taught me that, and these last two years I learned that living with an unstable female friend can be just as destructive as a bad boyfriend. I'm glad she finally moved out. Learning to set boundaries is hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:37 AM
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Me, too. One of our last arguments, when I once AGAIN tried to explain how it made me feel. This argument had been a circular cycle we went through over and over. I said I wanted a man who could claim me and make me his. He said he wanted to claim me AND share me. I wanted to fucking puke. I didn't mean just sexually. 2 days later we broke up. I saw him a month later to get my key and to trade all the stuff we had left at each other's houses. Hilarious thing was he had rewritten the breakup in h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:35 PM
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Bisexual woman who hates anal sex, here. I am almost ready to give up on men entirely, but It sucks because I actually prefer (sorry for the vulgarity) a good dick when the guy knows how to use it. Only been with women a couple of times and it wasn't very fulfilling in the same way heterosexual sex is. This kind of crap is why I will probably not tell another man I am bisexual, if I ever find one I like/trust enough to date again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:29 PM
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My problem is that it seems like, currently, my sex drive and porn watching is linked. When I am depressed its easier to not watch. When I feel good about myself, and it's starting to come back, and I especially don't to want go sleep with someone and get attached (and I will), then, porn. I am trying to break a lot of bad habits and I'm finding that some of my bad habits have bad coping mechanisms attached to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 07:45 PM
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Yeah men who makes "jokes" like that don't realize how they nuke their own chances with women. I've steered clear of men I was formerly friendly with, for horrible stories and jokes that made them off terribly. And their version, which is probably cleaned up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:47 PM
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That poor woman!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 01:21 AM
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I'm trying to quit. Longest I've gone is about 3 months. Yeah, women can be addicted to porn too. I'm not proud of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:51 AM
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No, that would require me to want to be your friend. After this tantrum, I don't want to be around you at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 07:18 PM
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Yup this whole thing is the truth. Holding onto every scrap of affection and getting attached is so hard. I am still learning to build the walls up. I will be alone but safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 02:49 AM
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Didn't the latest mass shooter literally shoot up sex workers? The asian massage parlor guy, he was a customer (I don't know if it's TRUE but someone on Facebook said they did the happy endings, and well I don't do news because its depressing) and blamed them for "tempting" him. If it's true, it means that it doesn't fucking work ANYWAY, because violent men are VIOLENT, point blank PERIOD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:04 AM
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I really don't want to be a single mom. I have seen my friends struggle and I'd rather not. I'd rather not have children. Some women can handle being a single mom, I know my mental health couldn't. If I don't get a good partner, I just won't have children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:57 PM
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I know. And its something I am still working on. Thanks for the support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:16 AM
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I worry I will never have children though. I have time to find love, I can find love at any age, but my uterus isn't going to last forever. I'd rather never have children than have them with the wrong man. But the is still something that worries me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:50 AM
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I thought I had done this, the finding my worth in myself part, not the second part yet. Well, i fell down again recently and learned another hard lesson. I still have a long way to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 05:41 PM
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I .... I feel so SEEN. WOW. I'm glad I'm not the only one. But sad too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:39 AM
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I just got a "hi dear can we make friends" on facebook from some dude in saudi arabia I don't know, and blocking with no explanation felt so good!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:39 PM
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The less wordy way of putting it, absolutely. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:24 PM
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I know, its just frustrating, because the rest of the world won't often see it that way. When a white supremacist is Christian people don't condemn all Christians, but when you're from a smaller religion or just one that is not considered "mainstream", guess what people like to focus on? Anything sensational. Sigh. Also, the fact that he's wearing fucking horns? HORNS? biggest sign he is a larper that doesn't know wtf he is talking about. No Norse (Viking is technically a job, not a people) helm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:07 AM
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Oh, it gets worse. He's tattooed with sacred symbols from my religion. The pagan blogosphere is NOT HAPPY right now. And, apparently, there's been reports that he ends QAnon meetings by saying "Praise Jesus", which if true. ..... he calls himself a shaman, says praise jesus, and is defaming sacred pagan symbols. Soooooooo what does he believe, exactly?! Is he a Christian larper or is he one of those "throw everything together" types. Either why I am PISSED that a symbol I've worn for 20 years is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:46 AM
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I've seen a lot of quotes by her that were interesting but I've never read her books.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 04:42 AM
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Thanks. It's amazing how much its damaged my selfestem. I've only had 3 relationships but I feel like I am too old and ruined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:05 PM
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I was 18 and in an 8/9 year relationship with a man who was 30 when we met. He told me he wasn't attracted to women his own age, I asked what that meant for us, and he said he didn't know, but we would cross that bridge when we came to it. I was foolish. I thought our love was strong enough. I thought, "men start with physical attraction but he must like something about me". I was wrong. The last 4 years or so we were a completely dead bedroom. I was too old and ugly for him at 23, I think was w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:32 AM
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Wow so they just said women are prostitutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:20 AM
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Gods, the amount of yeast infections I got with my first ex. Wasn't till a later boyfriend I realized that having frequent sex doesn't AUTOMATICALLY cause yeast infections. Isn't that sad?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:18 AM
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They can have it. I'll live over here with my dogs, they are more loyal than any human I've met. And way less disgusting, even though they shit outside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:16 AM
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HOLY SHIT are you serious??!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:14 AM
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WOW I did not know that was a term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:45 PM
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They never wait for a woman for her work or career. Look at r/relationships or r/AskMen. Guys expect women to wait, but they will never reciprocate. Not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:48 PM
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Even if work was crazy, the "will you wait for me" line is ridiculous. You aren't going off to Europe to fight the fucking Nazis. He either lets you go completely, makes time for you in his schedule, OR, he still "dates" you but accepts that that you may find a man who actually wants to lock you down (assuming you want to let him). Those are the options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:41 PM
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I do have a jar of honey in my kitchen I have difficulty opening. Not sure I want to fuck a guy and deal with man drama for jar opening abilities, tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:47 PM
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I thought they didn't want women who were golddiggers? Therefore, a woman buying her own things is a good thing, right? Geez.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:41 PM
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Also guarantee this guy didn't develop anything remotely interesting about himself. These types are boring drunks, who have nothing to talk about. No hobbies. I paint and write and garden I guarantee I have things to talk about - I have actually had exs say they felt intimidated by all the different things I am doing all the time. Sorry I'm not boring???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:18 PM
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Lmao why? He just wanted an ego stroke. Good on you for cutting that off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:03 PM
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"But only with a 26 year old. But she has to love me for ME. No golddiggers!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:00 PM
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I have dogs instead of cats. More loyal, they get me to excercise, and they warn me if a creep is lurking around my house. They would literally attack someone to protect me. Be accurate with your insults. I'm going to be the crazy dog witch of the woods.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 09:32 PM
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Even if he DOES fall in love with you from that, YOU are now sexually bonded to someone you may not have wanted to be if you had been thinking straight without oxytocin. This happened to me. First year, was actually really good. I'll admit that for MY personal journey, I probably needed this. I needed to believe a man could care about me, about my pleasure (the sex was FANTASTIC) and that I wasn't entirely sexually broken. So I refuse to 100 percent talk badly about him. HOWEVER, as soon as we t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 08:18 PM
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This is a narcissist thing. Having this issue with my female roommate, amoung many others. The reason it's so very, very noticable in men, is that narcissistic traits and behaviors are REWARDED in men far more than it is in women. Society EXPECTS men to act at least a little bit narcissistic, even the ones that aren't the fullblown narcs are often strangely entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 05:38 AM
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I'm white woman of a minority religion and I have had this happen. I have literally had a man say to my face "I've never had me a Pagan woman before." I was so shocked and speechless, I didn't say anything. I wish I had said something like "and you won't." Or anything. At all. I just stared. There is a stereotype about Pagan and Wiccan women being sluts, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:24 AM
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They have done studies (in classes of universities) and iirc when men thought the conversation was "balanced" the women were only speaking 12-15 percent of the time. 20 percent of the time, they thought the women were "dominating" the conversation. Twenty. Fucking. Percent. To be fair, I don't know what the class discussion was about, and maybe they just didn't like what the women were SAYING. But I'm being FAR more fair than they were.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:16 AM
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That is not your fault! If he's a scary pos and your adrenaline is up and you have to say don't hit me, there is a reason! And he's calling you names! That is not a parnter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:55 PM
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But it's HARMLESS!!!! /s no seriously, how is she? And did the dom/abuser pay for her hospital bills? Fuck I hate everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:47 PM
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I am soo sorry. I see you and support you. I don't have any family either, although in my case my brother is more of a victim than I am. Our father fucked us up really badly. But we cut him out completely and have also made it our goal to better than all our other family members. "Don't be dad" is something we used to say to each other, because even if it was small, seemingly harmless, with OUR father was probably the WRONG thing. I see you and celebrate the work you did to get free, internet st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:35 PM
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Yes, that is exactly what bothers me too. They have been taught their whole lives that their only value is their bodies, of course it seems "empowering" if that is what you think your worth comes from. It's a horrific thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:26 PM
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