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| 1 | Men say they just want a normal, decent partner and resent women for wanting ‘perfect’; Women are terrified of being chosen merely for being decent and acceptableOf course, if the 10 % is different set for anyone, 100 % can theoretically have a success. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/26 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Why so many men suddenly became undesirable?Probably the ways their parents met are now considered unacceptable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 06:49 PM |
| 1 | Why do you not use dating apps as much as us men?And I swipe on women because they do not give info so I would be curious to ask, does not mean I want her LTR immediately either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Men, stop whining about women not wanting to passionately f*ck youThis is why I do not really think it is weird to cold approach "all" women, availability is the first hurdle and then they can filter if the desire will build up or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/25 11:54 AM |
| 1 | Men, stop whining about women not wanting to passionately f*ck youHard to prove the claim correct or incorrect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/25 11:53 AM |
| 1 | I think there is something that needs to be said about how many men approach dating: the “be as appealing to as many women as possible” approachThe kinds of advice which are based on being yourself are not valid if they could be applied to let's say genuinely evil people (slippery slope). Where it fits is that if the advice tells you that what you do in a way is not wrong, but since you have no success, there is another part of you that needs change (not objective improvement). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/25 10:02 AM |
| 1 | I have a weakly held view that many red-pillers underestimate the success of the average man because they overuse dating apps, and there are tractable ways of improving their luck.Yes, but would they date the average man on app? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 09:24 AM |
| 1 | There is no good Bluepill Dating Manual.It's social thing, like job finding or economics, when it makes also the opposite side non-fixed. Economy for example is one of the less exact sciences as for the outcomes. But people kind of can tell who "succeeded". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/25 06:00 AM |
| 1 | The real reason behind the male loneliness epidemic is that there are more happily single women than menSolution is to get to like them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 07:33 AM |
| 1 | Why raising men’s standards could change dating for everyoneMore supply would lower the price. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/25 10:24 AM |
| 1 | Why raising men’s standards could change dating for everyoneThe issue is the positive feedback instead of negative one. Men who get into relationship will be assumed to be more attractive regardless of how it works out , they will not get eliminated from the dating market. The "rich" ones will get richer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/25 10:14 AM |
| 1 | Why is it some men both simultaneously look down on women but also seem to want their approval for everything like we are their mommy?Do you think it fits with the fact that a man with company of woman is seen as more attractive (This of course creates the snowball effect) ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/24 06:02 PM |
| -2 | Why is it some men both simultaneously look down on women but also seem to want their approval for everything like we are their mommy?This IMO falls in the same box as "should we compare ourselves to who have it worse (do we have the need to improve) or the ones who have it better (do we have resources to get better)" - generally what I see in internet discussion of comparing our country with others. Here the question is "Am I actually good enough and should I like myself for that, or am i delusional?" Think this goes in all sorts of dating advice, and I feel like most of it is so generic it could be applied to chain smoker gu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/24 06:01 PM |
| 1 | Men need to learn hobbies, and converse and attract women with them instead of focusing so much on their looks, status and resourcesI think the advice makes sense from the perspective of how did someone find a woman, but so far I have not seen someone share a particular success with someone picking up a hobby and finding someone through it only after they started trying. Maybe there are cases, but so far the most positive stuff on reddit I have seen was they being genuinely interested into the hobby more than at the beginning. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/24 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Men need to learn hobbies, and converse and attract women with them instead of focusing so much on their looks, status and resourcesWith one (retroactively) failed date, I think I have found astruggle with hobbies I am mildly, but not passionately, into: either she might be intimidated that I am doing something she is not into, or I she is actually passionate and I am doing it just a little so I am as pretending. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/24 07:32 PM |
| 2 | “The bar is on the floor” for the men women consider their dating pool, which is always men above themThis is the same the frustration I have seen on bumble with the message that got guy unmatched almost instantly. They are the ones who got right swiped on (high value) yet cannot talk to woman normally (low bar). And the ones who would not have attempted that are not even given a chance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/24 10:29 AM |
| 2 | “The bar is on the floor” for the men women consider their dating pool, which is always men above themIsn't this the balance catch? On the other hand, woman wants to be seen as valuable and to be chosen specifically, on the other hand the man should not be seen a loser who could not imagine life without her. Listening to love songs etc, basically if the woman does not want to feel the attraction she can shut the arguments down, as well as the other way, appreciate it if she feels the man is good for her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/24 10:02 AM |
| 1 | For the men who have tried the common dating advice of joing hobby groups, expanding your social circle, taking a class, join a co-ed sports league, join a book club, etc... how long did it take until it actually bore fruit?I think it has to do with the hobbies, if they are interesting enough it's easy to talk. Or work. You need more "skills" to help yourself from bad situation, be it looks or appearing boring on paper. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/24 09:56 AM |
| 1 | The real pill that explains modern dating in the WestI do not think the investment is always the full reason, but I think the majority feeling "men have lowered their standards" is true in this regard. That is why also slutty women can afford that, they will still have someone to hook up with them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/11/24 11:55 AM |
| 1 | Most of the men who have low standards have them low because they aren't desirable enough to have them high.It would be better for most people in the dating scene in general but not for the ones who would be willing to "sacrifice". Aka prisoner dilemma. So it makes sense but not from individual point of view, unless someone is having unlimited options (but how many of these access reddit) ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/24 09:02 AM |
| 1 | The best thing any man can do is to stop chasing women.Chased women are running away Need to stop them before they reach another man I suppose | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 08:59 AM |
| 1 | Women hate sluts more than men doAnd the common denominator in all your past relationships was you As well as your current partner in hers? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 08:36 AM |
| 1 | Most of the advice here just tells men to NOT be proactive in finding a girlfriendThe advice is conflicting both ways, it is simply the global nature of internet and splitting the advice into opinion of men/women is still not enough to be sufficient for "your" specific situation . Like generally the social culture is different, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/24 11:52 AM |
| 1 | Most of the advice here just tells men to NOT be proactive in finding a girlfriendBecause all the potential grilfriends you will compete about? /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/24 11:45 AM |
| 1 | Inexperienced men should lie about their lack of sexual historyI think if the question pops up early then you have nothing from the date, so better lie. And that it might hint on shallowness. If it occurs later, after you got to know each other more, it starts depending more if you wanna risk it either way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/24 11:29 AM |
| 1 | Most of the advice here just tells men to NOT be proactive in finding a girlfriendWhat is confusing is he usage of the cake idiom, I have seen it more in the plus-plus decisions. But it is easy to understand your argument otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/24 11:07 AM |
| 1 | Most of the advice here just tells men to NOT be proactive in finding a girlfriendThat is a general issue with doing hard decisions so life is easier. For lucky people everything happens, or they gain skills they had no say in not doing them because they were uncomfortable (think child upbringing). Most new hobbies are apparently hard the first time, it is necessary to get the motivation for doing things to reach your goals. It is unfair but I think there are ways to start doing things for women and also like the process (and hopefully shift the perspective). Because for some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/24 11:03 AM |
| 1 | Most of the advice here just tells men to NOT be proactive in finding a girlfriendRP opinion they are doing this to eliminate you from the dating pool /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/24 10:57 AM |
| 1 | Just met a championJust like women saying they have boyfriend as general rejection | /r/seduction | 19/07/24 08:16 AM |
| 1 | Just met a championGay as in happy /s | /r/seduction | 19/07/24 08:15 AM |
| 1 | Vogue dating columnist casually admits that women have it hard in dating because they need to compete for a minority of menWith Stacey does it mean like I go out with her mom? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/24 02:53 PM |
| 1 | Vogue dating columnist casually admits that women have it hard in dating because they need to compete for a minority of menI think once in relationship it is easier to work on those issues because you have to only focus on what the other party wants, no need to "tick all boxes". Just like job search, sorry for the comparison. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/24 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Vogue dating columnist casually admits that women have it hard in dating because they need to compete for a minority of menI feel like people manage it all the time if they have different hobbies than meeting people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/24 02:47 PM |
| 2 | Vogue dating columnist casually admits that women have it hard in dating because they need to compete for a minority of menBasically just like the current state of world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/24 02:37 PM |
| 1 | Vogue dating columnist casually admits that women have it hard in dating because they need to compete for a minority of menI mean that is blissful ignorance, which is kind of controversial in general (smarter people are sadder etc). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/24 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Vogue dating columnist casually admits that women have it hard in dating because they need to compete for a minority of menIsn't this also a jab on men? Like the rest is not really worth much, wouldn't give then what they want? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/24 02:32 PM |
| 2 | "You're not competing with other men, but her peace of mind" actually you are competing with her situationshipsAn advantage of dating apps is that they usually resolve this for you beforehand. Which still of course explains why it is used by people for hookups even if they could find some relationship naturally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 07:24 PM |
| 1 | "You're not competing with other men, but her peace of mind" actually you are competing with her situationshipsThere is the issue I eventually fear the most, having to market myself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/24 06:46 PM |
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