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| 2 | Divorce + Support = Financial RuinAlso, contact the firm she works with and see about how they feel about employees having affairs. If the affair partner was her boss, you might could have some leverage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/24 10:06 PM |
| 4 | Divorce + Support = Financial RuinGet another lawyer. If you have the financial wherewithal, hire a private detective company that can back track and get all the information on her cheating partner. I am unfamiliar with the laws in Germany, but in some US states, you can sue for alienation of affection. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/24 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Need some direction, I know a lawyer is advantageous but two mediations seems ridiculous to pay for!Hourly Rate: The average hourly rate for divorce lawyers varies significantly depending on your location, attorney’s experience, and the complexity of your case. According to the search results: National average hourly rate: $270-$312 (2023) Regional variations: High-population states (e.g., New York, California): $397-$384 per hour Smaller states (e.g., West Virginia, Maine): $258-$254 per hour | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/24 01:44 AM |
| 3 | How Much To Pay ?Where do you? In US? What state, near what large city? Hourly Rate: The average hourly rate for divorce lawyers varies significantly depending on your location, attorney’s experience, and the complexity of your case. According to the search results: National average hourly rate: $270-$312 (2023) Regional variations: High-population states (e.g., New York, California): $397-$384 per hour Smaller states (e.g., West Virginia, Maine): $258-$254 per hour | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/11/24 01:21 AM |
| 5 | Another restless night almost 10 months after divorce. Longing for a woman I shouldn’t even want. Does it ever end?Got to move on. That train has passed. Look to the future. Take care of your son. I always advise hitting the gym. Find other activities to take your mind off what has gone on. I felt depressed and such a failure, but time does heal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/11/24 12:45 PM |
| -7 | Nice Or Not ?Have you tried to work on your marriage? I have you tried talking to her about this? Is she having an affair? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/11/24 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Going Through Divorce Still Living Together Looking for Advice on CopingMan, that's tough. Staying together for financial reasons? Sleeping in different rooms? Do you want to try counseling? Would she go? She may have someone else already lined up. Might be helpful to snoop around and get evidence, if you can. Is she a stay at home mom, financially dependent upon you? Each state has different laws. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/11/24 06:54 PM |
| 5 | Struggling with adult daughter, similar to relationship with ex-wifeDon't let yourself be disrespected by anyone. Explain to your daughter (by text or email if you fear emotional backlash) your feelings. Don't let the love of your grandchild, which is great, to be overloaded with negative feelings from her. I would predict she will need something from you in the future, money, babysitting etc. Let it be on your terms, not hers. Obviously got so much of this from her mother. I am a big believer in therapy. Believe in yourself and move forward. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/24 06:15 PM |
| 0 | Think I'm getting laid tonight for the first time since the divorceUse your hans lightly all over her body. Kiss her on the neck. Nibble her ear. Praise her for her looks. Touch her legs. If she likes it, give her oral. Gently stroke her clit. Take your time. You might masturbate earlier in the day so you don’t finish too early with her. Make sure she finishes. Talk to her and find out what she likes at where. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/24 03:14 AM |
| 2 | What should I doSounds like she has moved on. May have another person on the line. Have you consulted an attorney? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/11/24 02:38 PM |
| 2 | Need some adviceThis is the best your lawyer could do? What a negative situation. I would try a different lawyer and see if current situation could be changed | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/24 03:56 AM |
| 3 | Moved on in 10 days after 10 years.Go to a lawyer as soon as possible. In your state, if you want, could sue for alienation of affection. Definitely get some personal therapy. Hit the gym, find another place to live. Separate your finances as soon as possible. Get as much evidence as you can to help in child support/custody. If you have the finances, get a PI. It is over, deal with it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/24 02:30 AM |
| 1 | How bad will it be financially for me?Depends upon your location and the laws of your state. Firmly recommend a lawyer on your behalf. Mediation can work, but if one side or the other remembers a hurt or slight, can get nasty. Paying alimony to a woman who then shacks up with a boytoy not recommended for your mental health | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/24 06:31 PM |
| 3 | Governor calledYou are not alone. Many guys later in life have gone through divorce. Keep working on yourself and try not to dwell on the past. Many people play the what if I had only done... Wasted enterprise. Hit the gym. Get into a sport. Read more, listen to podcast, travel, focus on work. Move onward and upward. Lucky you don't have kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/11/24 07:14 PM |
| 9 | Never Have to Walk Through That Back Door Ever Again.Good luck. You will have moments of feeling up or down, like what could you have done differently. Take care of yourself and focus on the future. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/24 08:34 PM |
| 2 | Ex not respecting house boundariesMan, that sucks. So sorry you are in this pickle. Suggest going back to a lawyer to get legal advice about the matter. Selling the place is best answer as soon as possible. Kids will have issues no matter what, but best you move on. Getting an apartment with enough space tough. Don't let her tears prevent you from doing what you need to do. She is probably still with the other man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/24 07:55 PM |
| 2 | I need affectionBig believer in therapy. Good you are done drinking; breaks you down, hurts relationships. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/24 02:24 AM |
| 5 | You are enough. You were ALWAYS enough.Hang in there and keep on keepin' on | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/11/24 01:49 AM |
| 3 | Anybody else try to protect their ex-wife’s reputation by not telling your side of the story? I feel like I can’t just throw her under the bus.Don't say anything at all. If anyone ask, just say you had differences you couldn't work out and leave it at that. People will want to pry, but just smile and move on. Good karma, dealing with kids is tough. Bad things said about ex will come back and bite you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/24 08:52 PM |
| 3 | 4 years post divorce now Ex wants to change financial aspects of a divorce decree that SHE WROTE.Maybe she is jealous of your new life. Maybe child likes you better. Maybe she worried once child moves out, goes to college she will be left behind with out nothing. Have you tried talking with her? Have you remarried? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/24 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Pretrial Conference StrategyAlot depends upon your circumstances. Do you have a suitable place for the child? If you have a good lawyer (worth their weight in gold), suggest following their advice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/24 12:33 PM |
| 6 | Does ghosting your separated wife really work to bring her back?It’s sounds like your marriage is over and she wants to be friendly for the kids sake. She nay have some one else. I am a big believer in therapy, for yourself and couples. If it is over, better to be on friendly terms. Ghosting will only make the situation worse. Others have made excellent comments | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/24 11:25 AM |
| 1 | Advice NeededBig believer of therapy. Don't let depression bottle you up. Medication can help. You have to make time for yourself. Turn over pet care to your spouse. Be sure to lawyer up. If you have the money, hire other people to take care of house maintenance. You might not be in the house that much longer anyway. If you move, some places won't allow you to keep that many pets. Might be time to make a tough decision and look to rehome them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/24 12:19 AM |
| 4 | Letting her stay at the house (CA)Go to a lawyer immediately. Each state/nation has different laws in regard to separation or divorce. Your spouses opinion not always the best for you. Also depends alot on your financial situation. Some couples must sell the house in order to have enough money to move on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/11/24 11:42 PM |
| 3 | Money branched ex wifeKids can learn to adapt. It is hard, but you can and overcome in time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/10/24 01:16 AM |
| 8 | The hardest partjust got to hang in there and take it one step at a time. Work out. Read. Watch movies, anything to keep your mind off being alone. It does get better over time. Big believer in therapy | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/10/24 05:04 PM |
| 5 | Positive stories?Much happier with second wife and child with her. The kids in first marriage hard to leave, but ok now | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/10/24 01:29 AM |
| -9 | Wife and I Separating and Divorceindividual counseling and couples. Have you tried spicing it up in bedroom with oral sex or toys? | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/24 05:43 PM |
| 9 | Ex wife keeps bringing new boyfriend to my houseShes rubbing it in | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/24 03:59 PM |
| 2 | Wants divorce but to think on it for 6 monthsGet out | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/24 03:27 PM |
| 9 | Wife originally told me she wanted a divorce because she is not “feeling” it anymore now she is saying she wants space and wants to hold off on the divorceShe’s cheating. The other guy a player, led her on. Now he’s not willing to commit. She’s not giving up house, income etc. Get tested for STD. If you can afford a pi. Put air tags in her car and track her movements. Talk to her family. Check her Facebook account etc. If she’s willing to go to therapy maybe work out. Consult with an attorney. Hope for the best, plan for the worst. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 12:30 AM |
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